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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at Advocateslaw dot com. Kellen is on the phone

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Speaker 1: today for a first day follow up and he's not

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Speaker 1: getting a call back from a date he went on

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Speaker 1: with a girl named Jen that he really likes. So

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Speaker 1: we're going to see if we can find out why

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Speaker 1: she's ghosting him in a second, but first let's hear

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Speaker 1: about the date. Callen, what's up. How long has it

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Speaker 1: been since you heard from Jen.

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Speaker 2: It's been a couple of weeks, almost a month now,

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Speaker 2: But okay, Yeah, so I texted her and just now

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Speaker 2: respond back, and I just I don't know, I thought

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Speaker 2: we kind of hit it off.

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Speaker 3: So why don't we go backwards? Why don't you tell

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Speaker 3: us about, you know, how you guys met and what happened.

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Speaker 2: Well, we we kind of met on Christian mingle, and uh,

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Speaker 2: you know, we chat it back and forth and whatnot,

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Speaker 2: and and I kind out what church she went to,

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Speaker 2: and I showed up. I showed up to surprise her,

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Speaker 2: and I thought she thought it was cute. And we

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Speaker 2: went to coffee afterwards, and you know, we talked and

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Speaker 2: and just kind of I think we kind of hit

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Speaker 2: it off, and so we plan another you know, date,

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Speaker 2: because she had our church. There was like a dance

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Speaker 2: sort of event type of thing going on for couples,

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Speaker 2: and I made reservations at the sushi place that was

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Speaker 2: next door to the church, and and so we did that.

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Speaker 2: And yeah, I thought it was a nice, cool little

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Speaker 2: thing that we did.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's cool.

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Speaker 3: It does seem nice. So were you So you guys

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Speaker 3: were really getting along. Was there any like touchiness or

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Speaker 3: any sparks flying?

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Speaker 2: I just really I really dig her, like she's so

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Speaker 2: dedicated to her church, in her community and her kindness.

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Speaker 2: She is beautiful. I don't know, she just like nobody

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Speaker 2: like I've ever dated before. You know, it's uh uh

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Speaker 2: she makes me want to be better.

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Speaker 1: Why do you think she's ghosting?

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Speaker 2: Well, I guess I hit a little jealous. And so

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Speaker 2: we were at the dance and uh it was one

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Speaker 2: of her friends, male friends, that asked her to dance

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Speaker 2: with her, and I agreed. But I just I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I I think I was I think I was too

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Speaker 2: butt hurt about it. And if she saw that, and

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Speaker 2: I don't know, I don't know why I do that.

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Speaker 2: I mean, we won't been on to date, So it's like,

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Speaker 2: I don't know it just I guess it's just keep

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Speaker 3: I mean, you're also you're on a date with her,

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Speaker 3: so you kind of would hope that your date would

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Speaker 3: dance with you. But but you know, friends dance together too.

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Speaker 3: Were you like outwardly angry or was it just.

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Speaker 2: I was? I don't know, I guess I was. I

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Speaker 2: guess I was poudy, you know, I was.

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Speaker 1: Just okay, So you didn't try to like fight the

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Speaker 1: guy or all right, well man, we'll see if we

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Speaker 1: can figure it out. Then we'll play a song come Back,

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Speaker 1: and then call her and see if she'll tell us

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Speaker 1: why she's ghosting you and hopefully get you another date.

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Speaker 2: Okay, awesome, I appreciate that.

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Speaker 1: All right, man, So we'll pla us on come Back,

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Speaker 1: get your first day follow up next. Right in the

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Speaker 1: middle of our first day follow up, if you're just

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Speaker 1: joining us, Kellen is on the phone and he's getting

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Speaker 1: ghosted by a woman named Jim that he really likes.

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Speaker 1: So we're about to call her and see if she'll

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Speaker 1: tell us why she's ghosting him. But first, Kellen, why

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Speaker 1: don't you catch everybody up on your situation.

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Speaker 2: Well, we met on Christian Mingle. I went to our church.

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Speaker 2: We we hit it off, and we went to a

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Speaker 2: dance social there at her church and she was dancing

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Speaker 2: with another guy, and that was a little jealous, you know.

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Speaker 2: And then and then so I thought to text her again.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, see if we can't get a third date,

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Speaker 2: you know, And just no response. Two days later, no response.

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Speaker 2: I tried it again again, no response. I'm like, maybe

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Speaker 1: You weren't angry jealous, right, you're poudy jealous?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I was just yeah, a baby. Yeah, I was crying.

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Speaker 3: Self awareness.

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Speaker 1: That's cool, all right, man, for you Ready for us

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Speaker 1: to call her?

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Speaker 2: I am let's let's hear this all right?

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Speaker 1: Here we go, Hello him, I speak to gen please?

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Speaker 2: Yes?

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Speaker 4: Is she?

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Speaker 2: Hey?

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Speaker 1: Jen? How are you? My name is Jubel and I'm

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Speaker 1: calling from a radio show. It's called The Jebel Show.

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Speaker 3: Hi Jen, the whole show is here. My name is Nina.

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Speaker 1: Hi, I'm Victoria. Hi. Hi, how are you? I'm good?

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Speaker 1: How are you going great? We do a segment on

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Speaker 1: the show it's called the first Date follow Up. That's

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Speaker 1: where if you go out on a date with somebody

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Speaker 1: and then you end up ghosting them. That person can

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Speaker 1: email us to get you on the phone and find

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Speaker 1: out why you're ghosting them. So is there anybody that

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Speaker 1: you can think of that would want us to call

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Speaker 1: you because you're not calling him back?

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Speaker 5: I mean probably, I guess is it?

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Speaker 1: Tell me, yes, it's Kellen. Yeah, he wants to know

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Speaker 5: Like listen, he was a.

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Speaker 4: Great guy, and he was you know, it was a

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Speaker 4: like our values and stuff like matchup after like hearing

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Speaker 2: We're going to work.

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Speaker 3: You know. Did he tell you that he was on Tinder?

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Speaker 1: Are you on tender?

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Speaker 4: No?

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Speaker 5: No, no, no, no no, I'm not on Tinder. Like I'm like,

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Speaker 5: you know, everybody lived your life. I'm just I'm not

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Speaker 5: Like I very specifically, like this is my first online

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Speaker 5: stuff going through Christian Mingle. You know, it's just different.

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Speaker 5: I'm looking for something different and like you know, again,

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Speaker 5: the dates they were great, And I was showing my

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Speaker 5: about like how wonderful it was, and immediately she was like, oh,

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Speaker 5: I've seen him on Tinder and we like you know,

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Speaker 2: Cool.

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Speaker 5: So I guess, like you know, he just what is

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Speaker 5: I just he's different than I guess how he presented.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you met on Christian Mingle, so yeah, Tender and

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Speaker 1: Christian Mingle I think are very different places.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so I just just to be clear, Jen, is

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Speaker 5: Specifically Tender, like you know, like you know, I'm I'm

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Speaker 2: It's just it's different than.

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Speaker 5: I know, like how a lot of people live. And

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Speaker 5: again like that's totally fine, like live your life, but

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Speaker 5: like it just doesn't match up with like the life

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Speaker 5: I'm leading. So like okay, yeah, you know, like I

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Speaker 5: just I'm sure there are a lot of things that

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Speaker 1: Okay, thank you for being honest with us. I don't

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Speaker 1: know if Kellen's a freak like you think he is,

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Speaker 1: but we can find out. Callen, are you a freak?

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Speaker 3: No?

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Speaker 2: No, I'm not that kind of guy anymore. I should

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Speaker 2: have deleted the app, the profile and everything, because the

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Speaker 1: Jen, if you couldn't tell, Kellen's on the phone and

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Speaker 1: he's been listening and wants to talk to you, and

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Speaker 1: he's not a freak anymore.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, listen, I'm sorry, but yes, I should have deleted Kender.

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Speaker 2: I don't know why I still have it up. I

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Speaker 2: I want somebody with the values and Christian. I'm sorry.

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Speaker 2: I will try to prove myself over and over and

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Speaker 1: You're not really on tender. You just didn't close your account.

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Speaker 2: Correct, Yeah, like I I left the tender a long

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Speaker 5: Are you even Christian? Like, you know, I've heard about

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Speaker 5: people like some guys like get onto this Christian mingle

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm a Christian. I just you know, I'm tired

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Speaker 5: They're like, you're tired of hearing because you probably went

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Speaker 5: Like again, we had a good time. I just don't

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Speaker 2: You know, I get it, I understand, but I'm not.

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Speaker 2: I'm still going to try it. I'm still going to

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Speaker 1: And then how are you going to prove to her

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Speaker 1: that you're there for the Christian name and not the mingling.

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Speaker 1: I'm Christian mingle, not just the mingling.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I will go to her church every Sunday.

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Speaker 2: I will prove myself. I swear you're the one.

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Speaker 1: Whoa the one that's kind of a lot jan What

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Speaker 1: Kellen on another date? We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 5: I just don't know. I just again, I don't know

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Speaker 2: And sorry, maybe it's not a no. You know, I

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Speaker 2: I get it, I get while you're you know, I'm

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Speaker 2: just I'm just bumped again. I uh. But I will

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Speaker 2: on a on a second or another date. I really

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Speaker 2: enjoyed your church. It's one of the better ones in town.

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Speaker 2: Would be awkward if I still went there. I don't

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Speaker 1: So okay, weirdest like talking about who gets the Lord

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Speaker 1: and the breakup. I'm sorry, sorry, calm, but it sounds

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Speaker 1: like you're not giving up hope. And Jim, you know

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Speaker 1: But just pursue respectfully. Okay, I'm just gonna say that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and I'll be praying for you.

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Speaker 5: Well, I will be praying for you too, and I

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Speaker 5: hope you have a blessed day.

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Speaker 1: All right, they're off the phone. She like patted him

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Speaker 1: you just have a blessed stay there. I'll be praying

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Speaker 1: for you too. That's the nicest, Like, if you ever yeah.

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Speaker 1: J Wills first follow up