WEBVTT - Second Cup: Say 'I love you' more often

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is to say I love you more often. There

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<v Speaker 1>is no point in being stingy with these words with

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<v Speaker 1>the people you love, so why not let them know.

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<v Speaker 1>This episode is first airing around Valentine's Day. We buy

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<v Speaker 1>flowers and cards for our spouses and candy for our kids,

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<v Speaker 1>all of which is great. It's also great to show

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<v Speaker 1>love for people in our lives every other time of year.

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<v Speaker 1>There are lots of ways to show love, and all

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<v Speaker 1>of those have their merit, but honestly, one of the

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<v Speaker 1>simplest ways is just to say it. I begin trying

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<v Speaker 1>to consciously say these words more often with my kids

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<v Speaker 1>a great many years ago, particularly when my eldest was

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<v Speaker 1>starting school. I realized that it was going to be

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<v Speaker 1>quite easy to have the last words they heard from

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<v Speaker 1>me each morning be something like why aren't your shoes

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<v Speaker 1>in the mudroom? What do you mean you don't have

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<v Speaker 1>your homework? You can't wear shorts in January, or something

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<v Speaker 1>like that. So while I still say all those things,

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<v Speaker 1>I then try to end with love you, as in,

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<v Speaker 1>come on, you've got to get out the door to

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<v Speaker 1>the bus right now, love you. I'm not sure if

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<v Speaker 1>they notice or care, but if any of them does

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<v Speaker 1>have a bad day for some reason or another, at

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<v Speaker 1>least their mother's parting words to them were affectionate. You

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<v Speaker 1>might try saying these little words when you part from

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<v Speaker 1>your loved ones too. If you are not known for

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<v Speaker 1>being particularly showy with emotions, you might start with some

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<v Speaker 1>more demonstrative texts. Send these people an emoji heart, then

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<v Speaker 1>you can work up to words. Your spouse and kids

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<v Speaker 1>might be surprised, but they will probably be happy to

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<v Speaker 1>get in I love you thinking about you text on

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<v Speaker 1>their lunch break. I am not sure there's a good

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<v Speaker 1>reason not to say I love you frequently. It's not

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<v Speaker 1>like it means less just because you say it more often.

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<v Speaker 1>It also isn't an invitation to downplay or write off

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<v Speaker 1>bad behavior. You could absolutely tell a kid the school

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<v Speaker 1>principle had to call me today about the incident in class,

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<v Speaker 1>I love you, no matter what you do. I am

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<v Speaker 1>also taking away your iPad until you can show that

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<v Speaker 1>you can be trusted to live up to your obligations

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<v Speaker 1>to your school community, and if you and your spouse

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<v Speaker 1>happen to be in a rough patch. Well, Saying I

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<v Speaker 1>love you frequently is a down payment on your future happiness,

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<v Speaker 1>as in I love you and I trust we are

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<v Speaker 1>going to work this out anyway. If you are not

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<v Speaker 1>particularly effusive, why not use Valentine's Day as an excuse

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<v Speaker 1>to get started. Sure, the candy and hearts are all commercial,

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<v Speaker 1>but it feels a little more normal to talk about

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<v Speaker 1>love on this holiday. Then you can use that newfound

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<v Speaker 1>showiness to keep going. See if you can say those

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<v Speaker 1>little words once a day to the people you love most,

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<v Speaker 1>then see if you can sometimes say them more than once.

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<v Speaker 1>You just might find that you feel more loving. The

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<v Speaker 1>more you talk about loving people, and it tends to

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<v Speaker 1>be reflected, you will feel more loved as well. In

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<v Speaker 1>the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening, and here's

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<v Speaker 1>to making the most of our times. Thanks for listening

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<v Speaker 1>to Before Breakfast. If you've got questions, ideas, or feedback,

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<v Speaker 1>you can reach me at Laura at Laura vandercam dot com.

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