Speaker 1: If there's only one place to turn when you need
Speaker 1: life advice. And no, it's not doctor Phil. All he's
Speaker 1: going to do is sit there and say what were
Speaker 1: you thinking? Over and over again. And it's not your
Speaker 1: favorite influencer who has a very loose understanding of what
Speaker 1: manifesting means.
Speaker 2: And it's not even.
Speaker 1: Oprah because she's just going to tell you to take
Speaker 1: ozimpic like, oh no, it's the Jubil Show. And of
Speaker 1: course it's almost Valentine's Day and one of our listeners
Speaker 1: is in a messy situation made the wise decision of
Speaker 1: asking if they can come on this show and ask
Speaker 1: are incredibly knowledgable and messy listeners how they can fix
Speaker 1: their life. And they're on the phone right now. Her
Speaker 1: name is Bailey. Bailey, what's up?
Speaker 2: How are you?
Speaker 3: Hey?
Speaker 4: Guys? I'm good?
Speaker 2: How are you good? What's your issue? What do you
Speaker 2: need help with?
Speaker 5: Oh?
Speaker 4: I definitely need some help. So here's my situation. Full disclosure.
Speaker 4: I screwed up. First. I cheated on my boyfriend.
Speaker 2: Okay, like how long ago? Okay?
Speaker 6: A year ago?
Speaker 2: Okay. I was wondering if it was just like just
Speaker 2: happened before he called Ago and I don't know what
Speaker 2: to do.
Speaker 4: No, No, like a year ago, I cheated on him.
Speaker 4: It was just one time. It was this guy at
Speaker 4: the gym. It you know, didn't mean anything. It was
Speaker 4: so stupid of me. My boyfriend found out and he
Speaker 4: made me feel so awful for months, which well deserved
Speaker 4: of course.
Speaker 2: So you guys are still together, then we are.
Speaker 4: We're still together.
Speaker 2: It's sort of impressive because it takes a lot to
Speaker 2: come back from that.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it does. It took it took a lot for
Speaker 4: me to gain his trust back. But we've been doing
Speaker 4: really well, so I know he has a lot of
Speaker 4: plans for us for Valentine's Day, which is coming up.
Speaker 4: And Okay, so here's the thing though. Last weekend I
Speaker 4: went out with my girlfriends and we were at the
Speaker 4: bar and ran into Oh no, no, that'd be so
Speaker 4: much worse.
Speaker 2: Okay, so it's not that, Oh.
Speaker 4: Way, maybe it is. Anyway, So last weekend went out
Speaker 4: with my girls. We were at the bar, and we
Speaker 4: actually ran into one of his friends at the bar. Okay,
Speaker 4: now I know this guy really well. Of course we
Speaker 4: all hang out. So we all hung out. We were
Speaker 4: all drinking and after a handful of drinks. My boyfriend's
Speaker 4: friend let it slip that apparently my boyfriend also cheated
Speaker 4: on me.
Speaker 3: Oh who really, like around the same time or recently.
Speaker 4: More recently, but that's from what I've gathered, it was
Speaker 4: about six months ago.
Speaker 1: Okay, dude, this is your You just found this out
Speaker 1: that he cheated on you as well.
Speaker 4: Just found this out last weekend.
Speaker 2: So he never told us.
Speaker 4: Uh no, my boyfriend never told me. I never saw
Speaker 4: any signs. I was completely oblivious until his friend and
Speaker 4: he just let it slip. It was just like, you know,
Speaker 4: I'm so glad that you guys are doing so well. Now,
Speaker 4: you're such a cute come and like, how funny is
Speaker 4: it that you both cheated on each trouble?
Speaker 5: Wait?
Speaker 2: Wait both we both did?
Speaker 5: Huh.
Speaker 3: As a friend, you're probably like logically like, okay, they
Speaker 3: canceled each other out.
Speaker 6: Yeah, the friend knows too much and they're like, it's
Speaker 6: just so greaty you guys together after all this turmoil
Speaker 6: was one time.
Speaker 3: For him.
Speaker 4: From what it sounds like, I mean, I didn't ask
Speaker 4: any questions because it sounded like he thought I already knew.
Speaker 2: Okay, so what do you need help with?
Speaker 4: So now I'm just trying to figure out, like what
Speaker 4: do I do? He has got all these plans for
Speaker 4: Valentine's Day. I don't want to ruin that. But you know,
Speaker 4: do I end the relationship? Do I just let it slide?
Speaker 4: Because we're kind of even now, Like, well, how do
Speaker 4: I handle this? Do I talk to him about it?
Speaker 4: I don't know what to do?
Speaker 2: Okay?
Speaker 1: Well, call up eight eight eight three four three one
Speaker 1: oh six one eight eight eight three four three one
Speaker 1: oh six one. Text in four to one oh six one.
Speaker 1: What do you think Bailey should do? We'll talk to
Speaker 1: Bailey more right after this and you can give her
Speaker 1: your advice next. Bailey sounds hot if she wants to
Speaker 1: cheat on her boyfriend again, so she's in the lead.
Speaker 2: Tell her to hit me up.
Speaker 1: What text message we just got in at four one
Speaker 1: oh six one because one of our listeners, Bailey is
Speaker 1: on the phone and she needs advice on how to
Speaker 1: handle a difficult situation. And Bailey, you said you'll take
Speaker 1: some phone calls from our listeners to give.
Speaker 2: You some advice.
Speaker 4: Yeah. Absolutely, okay, And.
Speaker 1: If you didn't hear the first part, Bailey cheated on
Speaker 1: her boyfriend about a year ago, and then she was
Speaker 1: just out with some friends and she ran into one
Speaker 1: of his friends, and that person shared with her that
Speaker 1: her boyfriend has also cheated about six months ago, and
Speaker 1: Bailey had no idea, So she just learned this, and
Speaker 1: she wonders. She's wondering what she should do. Should she
Speaker 1: break it off? Should she tell him? What should she do?
Speaker 1: Because he's got big bounce day plans and of course
Speaker 1: Valentine's Day is coming up.
Speaker 2: Hey Jesselyn, Hi, good morning. What do you think Bailey
Speaker 2: should do?
Speaker 4: Honestly?
Speaker 5: I think they should come together as adults and you know,
Speaker 5: have a discussion her tell him, you know that she
Speaker 5: found out that something may have happened, have a discussion
Speaker 5: as to why they were both unfaithful in the first place.
Speaker 5: I mean kind of at a point in our lives
Speaker 5: where we need to make some you know, big kid
Speaker 5: decisions and we don't want to base a relationship off of,
Speaker 5: you know, unfaithfulness and you know, not being true to
Speaker 5: each other.
Speaker 2: Totally.
Speaker 3: That's great advice, tessela In. Actually, Bailey, can I ask
Speaker 3: you one question?
Speaker 2: How do you feel? Though?
Speaker 3: Like, how do you like? What's your gut telling you?
Speaker 3: Are you sad? Are you mad? Do you feel like
Speaker 3: you guys are even like, how do you feel? Do
Speaker 3: you feel betrayed?
Speaker 4: I'm absolutely crushed. Yeah, heartbroken. You know, I thought that
Speaker 4: we had moved past this, and I didn't. I didn't
Speaker 4: expect him to do something like this and never tell me,
Speaker 4: especially after how hard I worked to earn his trust back.
Speaker 1: Sure, yeah, because did you tell him when you cheeted
Speaker 1: on him? Or did he just find out?
Speaker 4: He found out, but he found out right after it happened,
Speaker 4: and honestly I would have told him.
Speaker 1: Okay, somebody texted in at four one o six one
Speaker 1: and said, go your separate ways.
Speaker 6: I think what's crazy about this too, is that he
Speaker 6: made you feel like crap for months, but she in
Speaker 6: cheater jail, you know, because you know someone is unfaithful
Speaker 6: in a relationship and then the other.
Speaker 2: Person rides the high road for four months.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's also not cool if you're gonna choose to
Speaker 1: trust them to take somebody back after they cheated, and
Speaker 1: you also have to choose to trust them right and
Speaker 1: not like use it against them as he did he
Speaker 1: use it against you.
Speaker 4: Oh, absolutely, every chance he got it came up.
Speaker 3: I wonder if it was his way of trying to
Speaker 3: get past it because even though like they stayed together
Speaker 3: and obviously he was making you feel bad about it,
Speaker 3: hoping that would make him feel better about the fact
Speaker 3: that he's stayed. Maybe this was like that last chance
Speaker 3: for him to try to digest what had happened. I'm
Speaker 3: not saying it's okay just but psychologically I could see
Speaker 3: him trying to find comfort in doing that, saying now
Speaker 3: that it's even I can look at you straight in
Speaker 3: the face and not feel as betrayed as I do.
Speaker 2: Well, you also say you're good. Y'all are good now,
Speaker 2: like y'all are on good terms.
Speaker 4: Now, did that only happen about six months ago, like
Speaker 4: after he cheated? You know, I feel like it was
Speaker 4: a very gradual thing that happened, as I you know,
Speaker 4: did gain his trust back, and we've just continuously gotten
Speaker 4: better and better in our relationship.
Speaker 3: Well, then at this point, it is, like Jesslin said,
Speaker 3: really worth having that to have that conversation, And maybe
Speaker 3: you have that conversation on Valentine's Day? I mean, why not?
Speaker 3: Because it is about love and finding a way to
Speaker 3: be together and love each other. I mean, maybe that
Speaker 3: is a good time to do it.
Speaker 2: It's not running Valentine's Day. Who cares?
Speaker 3: It's already got the stress on both sides.
Speaker 1: Somebody texted in at four one of six one and said,
Speaker 1: I was in the same situation and we worked through it.
Speaker 2: Oh, Papa, is really possible? How yeah?
Speaker 6: Is this someone you could see yourself deathbed holding their hand?
Speaker 4: I thought so till I found this out, and now
Speaker 4: I'm just so on the fence.
Speaker 1: Somebody tell else texted in a four one o six
Speaker 1: one Bailey and said, you guys should have an open relationship.
Speaker 1: That's a good Valentine's date. I was thinking we could
Speaker 1: just both see other people we like together.
Speaker 2: You see a couple over there?
Speaker 1: Was that an option, Bailey?
Speaker 4: I don't think that that would work well for us.
Speaker 4: More power to the people that it works for, but
Speaker 4: I don't think that best in our future.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I think a lot of people on the text my
Speaker 1: support are saying that you should at least confront him
Speaker 1: and let him know that you know.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think you should do this, Bailey. I think
Speaker 2: you should.
Speaker 1: Confront him right and give him the opportunity to be
Speaker 1: honest with you. And I think if he lies to you,
Speaker 1: then be out right. You were honest with him when
Speaker 1: you got caught he cheated. He hasn't told you either way. Honestly,
Speaker 1: I think your relationship should be done no matter what,
Speaker 1: because I think trust has been so trampled on at
Speaker 1: this point. But whatever, if you want to stick with it,
Speaker 1: then I think you should confront him about it, but
Speaker 1: give him the opportunity to lie, because if he lies
Speaker 1: about it, then you know you can't trust him at all.
Speaker 1: And you should definitely do it on Valentine's Day over dinner.
Speaker 1: Wait till he gives you the gifts, though. Get the
Speaker 1: gifts first.
Speaker 3: You get all the guilt gifts. Now, those are always
Speaker 3: the best gifts. That's why I got all my gifts from.
Speaker 6: Then stay with them a little bit, give me the lie,
Speaker 6: get the guilt gifts, then dip on Saturday or Sunday.
Speaker 2: What do you think you're gonna do, Bailey.
Speaker 4: I think I'm going to confront him, but I think
Speaker 4: I'm going to wait till after Valentine's Day.
Speaker 2: Yeah, just drag Valentine's exactly.
Speaker 4: Okay, so much effort into the day, and I really
Speaker 4: just don't want to ruin that. Even if the relationship ends,
Speaker 4: I don't want to ruin all the gifts,