WEBVTT - Cleanup on Aisle 5 with Serena Pitt 0:00:01.440 --> 0:00:04.960 I Suck At Dating with Dengler and Jared Haven and 0:00:05.080 --> 0:00:11.119 I heard radio podcast. Hey, welcome to an all new 0:00:11.160 --> 0:00:14.280 episode of Help I Suck At Dating. Jared Haven here, 0:00:14.320 --> 0:00:17.400 obviously joined by Dean Angler. We have a very special 0:00:17.440 --> 0:00:20.280 guest co host this week. You know her from Bachelor 0:00:20.360 --> 0:00:24.240 in Paradise where she's with the one and only grocery 0:00:24.320 --> 0:00:27.720 store Joe. In fact, her zoom is called the Grocer. 0:00:28.160 --> 0:00:30.520 It is Serena Pitt Serena. How the hell are you? 0:00:31.560 --> 0:00:34.199 I'm good, Jared, how's it going. I'm on Joe's like 0:00:34.280 --> 0:00:37.360 computer with all his podcasting set up, and yeah, he 0:00:37.440 --> 0:00:40.879 named his account to grocer. You just gotta lean into it. 0:00:41.200 --> 0:00:43.800 I wish Dean's was Deanie Babies just lean right into it, 0:00:43.800 --> 0:00:48.040 and might would be Mr Ashley. I. I love how 0:00:48.080 --> 0:00:50.920 our guest co host this week has a far superior 0:00:51.000 --> 0:00:54.920 podcasting set up to probably both of us. I know 0:00:55.080 --> 0:00:58.720 what's going on. We got chords on your headphones, Jared, Yeah, 0:00:58.760 --> 0:01:01.600 what a loser? All right, this is not about my 0:01:01.720 --> 0:01:04.800 podcast equipment from two thousand and nine. All right, listen, 0:01:04.800 --> 0:01:06.840 I just opened up a business. I'm trying to sell bagels. 0:01:06.840 --> 0:01:10.440 I'm saving money here. Uh, Serena. It's a little awkward 0:01:10.440 --> 0:01:12.880 because we're a dating podcast and you're sitting right next 0:01:12.920 --> 0:01:15.240 to your significant other, but we're going to talk about 0:01:15.280 --> 0:01:17.000 them a little bit. We're gonna talk about your relationship 0:01:17.040 --> 0:01:18.679 a little bit, because you know, this is what we 0:01:18.680 --> 0:01:20.720 do on a dating podcast. So first of all, how 0:01:20.760 --> 0:01:24.720 are you? How is Chicago? Uh? And uh, how's your 0:01:24.720 --> 0:01:30.319 mental state? I'm good, I'm good. Life's pretty crazy right now. Um, 0:01:30.480 --> 0:01:34.920 Chicago is good. We're actually not there anymore. Um, we 0:01:35.160 --> 0:01:38.120 just kind of sort of Joe moved to New York 0:01:38.520 --> 0:01:41.360 is kind of the narrative right now, because I'm still 0:01:41.440 --> 0:01:44.800 waiting on a visa, so I'm here right now, but 0:01:44.920 --> 0:01:48.320 like technically don't live here officially, but hopefully when that 0:01:48.400 --> 0:01:51.720 comes through this week is the plan, then all ship 0:01:51.760 --> 0:01:54.360 all my stuff out and like officially move here. But yeah, 0:01:54.360 --> 0:01:57.080 we're in Chelsea, New York. The place is a disaster 0:01:57.200 --> 0:01:59.280 right now, other than this like one corner that I'm 0:01:59.320 --> 0:02:03.520 filming in just because moving is stressful, but it's been good. 0:02:03.600 --> 0:02:06.240 My mental state's good. Joe and I are excited kinda 0:02:06.360 --> 0:02:09.440 to take the next step. Wait, Chelsea, New York, that's 0:02:09.480 --> 0:02:12.720 a pretty good area, right that's kind of that's like 0:02:12.800 --> 0:02:17.720 Hutson Yards sort of right. Yeah, so we didn't really um, like, 0:02:17.760 --> 0:02:20.400 we originally were looking at Williamsburg in Brooklyn just because 0:02:20.400 --> 0:02:22.880 we really love that area. And then we did do 0:02:22.919 --> 0:02:25.000 a day looking at Upper West and one of the 0:02:25.000 --> 0:02:27.200 apartments we saw was in Chelsea, which is actually where 0:02:27.200 --> 0:02:30.480 our realtor lives, who's like a friend of ours. UM, 0:02:30.560 --> 0:02:32.800 And we just loved the area. I mean, there's just 0:02:32.840 --> 0:02:35.799 so many really good restaurants. Were like right below Hudson Yards, 0:02:35.840 --> 0:02:38.240 like West Chelsea, it's like two blocks up is like 0:02:38.280 --> 0:02:41.359 the big mall with the vessel and all that, um, 0:02:41.440 --> 0:02:43.239 and then it's like a ten minute walk down to 0:02:43.280 --> 0:02:45.560 the meatpacking district. So it's a really good spot. We 0:02:45.600 --> 0:02:50.560 like it. What made you guys choose New York Neutral territory? Yeah, 0:02:50.680 --> 0:02:54.600 neutral territory. Um, Like, I love Toronto, all my friends 0:02:54.600 --> 0:02:58.120 and family are there. Staying with him for Chicago, so 0:02:58.600 --> 0:03:01.400 we did do the backend for and then it just 0:03:01.440 --> 0:03:03.839 became a lot like traveling back and forth, Like even 0:03:03.880 --> 0:03:06.799 if we definitely talked about getting a place in each city, 0:03:06.840 --> 0:03:09.919 but even doing that and then flying back constantly just 0:03:10.120 --> 0:03:14.399 it became super draining. UM and Yeah, He's always wanted 0:03:14.440 --> 0:03:16.360 to live in New York. He like loves New York. 0:03:16.440 --> 0:03:19.600 He's a big city dude, so this is like his 0:03:19.680 --> 0:03:21.760 dream come true, which I think is probably like news 0:03:21.840 --> 0:03:26.760 to a lot of people. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm very confused. 0:03:26.760 --> 0:03:30.440 I granted, all right, listen, I've had a kid, started business, boat, 0:03:30.440 --> 0:03:32.440 a house, like a lot going on, so I've been 0:03:32.520 --> 0:03:37.120 keeping up. So you guys moved to New York and 0:03:37.200 --> 0:03:42.640 Joel it was like, oh yeah, oh yeah, Joe is 0:03:42.680 --> 0:03:46.840 like the biggest New York fan. Like I probably had 0:03:46.840 --> 0:03:49.560 a harder time leaving Toronto than he did, not that 0:03:49.600 --> 0:03:52.200 he didn't have. He's like a Chicago boy right like 0:03:52.280 --> 0:03:55.880 through and through. His family's out there, all of that 0:03:55.960 --> 0:03:59.960 good stuff. But yeah, he loves New York. He knee 0:04:00.200 --> 0:04:04.360 like hustle, bustle energy. He's a big city guy. He 0:04:04.440 --> 0:04:07.960 wants to try like every restaurant on every block here. 0:04:08.480 --> 0:04:11.080 He's lived in Chicago his whole life, so like he's 0:04:11.120 --> 0:04:13.320 turning thirty six next week and he's like, I've been 0:04:13.360 --> 0:04:16.080 here for my whole life. He was like so ready 0:04:16.080 --> 0:04:18.159 for a change, Like he was sad to leave his 0:04:18.160 --> 0:04:21.360 family and friends, but like so excited for the move 0:04:21.440 --> 0:04:23.760 and so excited to live in New York. Whereas obviously 0:04:23.839 --> 0:04:26.360 I'm really excited. Like a big portion of that is, yes, 0:04:26.440 --> 0:04:28.480 I love New York and like I see our future 0:04:28.520 --> 0:04:31.039 being good here and I'm really excited to move in 0:04:31.120 --> 0:04:35.160 with him. But like, leaving Toronto was definitely like a challenge, 0:04:35.200 --> 0:04:37.600 but I'm really happy that we did it. But yeah, 0:04:37.640 --> 0:04:39.440 I think a lot of people were like, why are 0:04:39.480 --> 0:04:42.119 you leaving Chicago? Like we did not see this coming. 0:04:42.240 --> 0:04:44.120 I think people probably think that like I pulled him 0:04:44.120 --> 0:04:46.520 out of Chicago. No, I feel like New York is 0:04:46.560 --> 0:04:48.880 a good compromise, and I obviously guys discussed it quite 0:04:48.880 --> 0:04:50.560 a bit and like, who am I to say that? 0:04:50.600 --> 0:04:52.479 But I feel like you guys found the right place 0:04:52.520 --> 0:04:56.640 because it's, uh, it's close enough to both Chicago and Toronto, right, 0:04:56.720 --> 0:04:59.240 and it's like a new place, but it's like New 0:04:59.320 --> 0:05:02.120 York is like I feel like, in my opinion too, 0:05:02.160 --> 0:05:04.440 I've always wanted to live in l a New York 0:05:04.520 --> 0:05:06.360 and like London at some point in my life, right 0:05:06.400 --> 0:05:08.080 just to like see if you like it, just do 0:05:08.120 --> 0:05:09.360 it for a year. That way you can look back 0:05:09.400 --> 0:05:10.960 and be like, yeah, we lived in this place for 0:05:11.000 --> 0:05:14.039 however long, it was a great experience whatever it is. Um, 0:05:14.080 --> 0:05:16.000 So I'm super happy for you guys. It sounds like 0:05:16.240 --> 0:05:19.280 you obviously are doing great. You said his birthday is 0:05:19.279 --> 0:05:21.279 coming up next week. What what do you have plan 0:05:21.400 --> 0:05:26.200 for him? Yes, his birthday is on Tuesday. Um. I 0:05:26.279 --> 0:05:28.200 just told him last night that I got uspressos at 0:05:28.240 --> 0:05:35.039 don Angie's a yet. Um. And then I ordered him 0:05:35.279 --> 0:05:38.840 like a really beautiful coffee machine from DeLonge and it 0:05:39.000 --> 0:05:42.120 got here before I did, but I ordered it specifically 0:05:42.200 --> 0:05:44.680 off Amazon so that it wouldn't come in any branded 0:05:44.720 --> 0:05:46.560 box thing. Well, little did I know, it like still 0:05:46.560 --> 0:05:48.279 comes from the same warehouse. And he's like, did you 0:05:48.320 --> 0:05:51.400 get me a coffee machine for my birthday? Because one 0:05:51.440 --> 0:05:54.680 just showed up at our apartment. So and then yeah, 0:05:54.720 --> 0:05:56.599 my parents come in the next day for a few days. 0:05:56.640 --> 0:06:00.240 So it's been busy. Nice thirty six man, that's he's 0:06:00.240 --> 0:06:04.240 getting up there. Yeah, don't tell him that. Well, I 0:06:04.240 --> 0:06:07.960 think you would probably gonna get there one day, alright. Well, 0:06:08.040 --> 0:06:10.960 I I only asked because I'm turning thirty one on Sunday. 0:06:11.120 --> 0:06:13.360 This is the following Sunday, So Joe and I are 0:06:13.360 --> 0:06:16.920 both aries babies. There you go, I wish Caylin had 0:06:16.920 --> 0:06:18.440 got me like a fancy coffee maker. I don't know 0:06:18.440 --> 0:06:20.479 what she's going to do for me yet. But do 0:06:20.480 --> 0:06:22.280 you find it difficult to shop for him? Because Caylin 0:06:22.320 --> 0:06:24.040 always says that I'm the hardest person to shop for. 0:06:24.920 --> 0:06:29.479 He's impossible to shop for so hard. I mean he 0:06:29.640 --> 0:06:31.760 literally got the coffee machine and was like, this is 0:06:31.760 --> 0:06:34.680 way better than your Christmas gift. Like you're improving, so 0:06:34.839 --> 0:06:38.479 good job your Christmas gift. I got him a bunch 0:06:38.520 --> 0:06:40.760 of stuff. No, Christmas was good too, but like this 0:06:40.839 --> 0:06:42.160 is definitely a better gift. But I got him like 0:06:42.200 --> 0:06:45.000 a there a gun, which she's addicted to. And then 0:06:46.040 --> 0:06:49.040 like pillow slides. I think on him like a Kashmir scarf. 0:06:49.120 --> 0:06:54.200 He is so bougie, like he just loves like high end, 0:06:54.880 --> 0:06:59.400 expensive bougie guest out of my wheelhouse. Oh he is 0:06:59.400 --> 0:07:02.600 a boogie but one hundred percent through and throw so 0:07:02.720 --> 0:07:05.440 like and that's not me, so like shopping for that 0:07:05.480 --> 0:07:07.880 stuff is like so in in my comfort zone. And 0:07:07.920 --> 0:07:11.960 then he's picky, Like he's really picky. He's worse than me, 0:07:12.120 --> 0:07:14.480 like you would think that. I feel like the sterrative 0:07:14.560 --> 0:07:16.520 is the girl in the relationship. I'm like, so much 0:07:16.520 --> 0:07:19.040 easier shop for I feel like than him. M yeah, 0:07:19.080 --> 0:07:20.680 I was gonna say it sounds like your flip flop 0:07:20.680 --> 0:07:23.040 of Kaitlin and I because she's very picky and very 0:07:23.480 --> 0:07:25.440 I wouldn't call Kaylin bougie, but she's like likes the 0:07:25.480 --> 0:07:27.120 high end stuff, you know, and I could care less 0:07:27.120 --> 0:07:29.240 about all that kind of stuff. So it's basically I 0:07:29.320 --> 0:07:32.640 just foregone buying her clothing and jewelry because every I mean, 0:07:32.680 --> 0:07:34.640 she would appreciate it, sure, but I don't think that 0:07:35.280 --> 0:07:37.200 she would ever really wear anything. Like I got her 0:07:37.240 --> 0:07:39.440 rent and stimpy shirt and she's worn it like maybe once, 0:07:39.560 --> 0:07:45.120 maybe twice, I guess, and I just lives in the 0:07:45.120 --> 0:07:47.760 bottom of the closet. I'm like, I spent twenty five 0:07:47.760 --> 0:07:50.560 dollars on this thing, You're not gonna wear it? Come on, Um, 0:07:51.520 --> 0:07:52.840 that's funny that you guys is the the episode because I 0:07:52.840 --> 0:07:55.080 would have guessed the otherwise. I find that I'm Ashley 0:07:55.080 --> 0:07:56.800 tells me I'm the easiest person to shop for, and 0:07:56.800 --> 0:07:59.120 I couldn't agree more. She got me a Superman and 0:07:59.160 --> 0:08:02.200 Batman post or for Christmas, and I was losing my mother. 0:08:04.120 --> 0:08:08.360 Oh yeah, anything to do with Boston Sports Brady or 0:08:08.640 --> 0:08:13.080 like Superman. I'm in You're set well. Joe posted a 0:08:13.080 --> 0:08:14.680 photo a few weeks ago. I think it was a 0:08:14.760 --> 0:08:18.239 Jack Nicholson photo of him like smoking a cigarette or something, 0:08:18.720 --> 0:08:21.000 and he called me and was like, Okay, so I 0:08:21.040 --> 0:08:23.360 want you to get this for me, but not for 0:08:23.400 --> 0:08:26.480 my birthday because all like it won't be a surprise, 0:08:26.640 --> 0:08:28.920 So like, just remember and then for Christmas get it 0:08:29.000 --> 0:08:31.040 for me so that I'll have forgotten that I told 0:08:31.040 --> 0:08:36.040 you to t Is that his Twitter profile picture. Probably 0:08:36.720 --> 0:08:39.280 every time I see this picture of Jack Nicholson, I'm like, 0:08:39.280 --> 0:08:41.600 who is this. I'm like, oh, yeah, that's right. Joe, 0:08:41.679 --> 0:08:43.559 Like every time I see I'm like, who is this? 0:08:44.040 --> 0:08:47.160 Who do I follow? Tell him that because I'm like, 0:08:47.360 --> 0:08:49.520 you're my fiance and I see your teeths pop up 0:08:49.520 --> 0:08:53.240 and I don't even know who they are, but here. Okay. 0:08:53.280 --> 0:08:55.360 So here's my issue with gifts, uh, And this is 0:08:55.400 --> 0:09:00.199 why Kylen absolutely hates getting me gifts is because um, 0:09:00.280 --> 0:09:03.760 we have already so much stuff, and Kylin especially receives 0:09:03.800 --> 0:09:06.400 a lot of like gifting from brands. I'm sure certain 0:09:06.440 --> 0:09:08.920 that you do too, and so our house is just 0:09:09.000 --> 0:09:12.839 always cluttered with like boxes, empty boxes and like crap 0:09:12.880 --> 0:09:14.800 that we don't really use very much, but it's nice 0:09:14.800 --> 0:09:17.440 to have. And so I always tell her, I'm like, 0:09:17.520 --> 0:09:20.839 I don't want anything, because, ay, we already have weight, 0:09:20.960 --> 0:09:23.120 Like we have a hundred thirty percent capacity of stuff 0:09:23.120 --> 0:09:25.520 in our house right now. Um, and be like, if 0:09:25.559 --> 0:09:27.240 I really wanted it that bad, I would just go 0:09:27.240 --> 0:09:28.920 out on my own and buy it for myself. And 0:09:28.960 --> 0:09:31.560 so like, there's nothing you could get me that I 0:09:31.559 --> 0:09:33.720 don't already have that I actually want, you know what 0:09:33.760 --> 0:09:37.680 I mean. So she she hates it because she never 0:09:37.720 --> 0:09:39.760 knows what to get me. And so what we've resorted 0:09:39.800 --> 0:09:42.320 to doing, or what we're like in the process of 0:09:42.360 --> 0:09:45.680 resorting to doing now, is instead of getting like a 0:09:45.760 --> 0:09:48.280 object for that person, well, like like you're doing like 0:09:48.280 --> 0:09:51.440 take them to dinner or go on a trip somewhere 0:09:52.080 --> 0:09:53.520 or like you know, like those types of things that 0:09:53.520 --> 0:09:56.160 you don't necessarily collect. But it's more like an experience, 0:09:56.200 --> 0:09:57.920 I guess. And that's kind of the train that we've 0:09:57.920 --> 0:10:02.160 been on lately, solely because of the insane amount of 0:10:02.200 --> 0:10:04.680 clutter in our house and we just can't put anything 0:10:04.679 --> 0:10:06.960 else anywhere else, you know, And I'm sure in New York, 0:10:07.000 --> 0:10:08.840 Like you guys probably have a smaller apartment too, so 0:10:08.920 --> 0:10:10.960 it's going to be very clutter there as well, I 0:10:10.960 --> 0:10:14.600 would imagine. Well, my birthday was in October, and yeah, 0:10:14.640 --> 0:10:16.960 I was getting it was like right when Paradise pended, 0:10:17.000 --> 0:10:18.960 so like I was getting so many things in the 0:10:18.960 --> 0:10:22.120 mail and which is great, but like then it's like 0:10:22.200 --> 0:10:23.920 I don't want to add on top of that, I'm 0:10:23.920 --> 0:10:26.640 already trying to organize what I have. So I literally 0:10:26.679 --> 0:10:28.679 told all my family because they were like, we want 0:10:28.679 --> 0:10:30.400 to get you something, and I was like, I don't 0:10:30.440 --> 0:10:33.640 need things, like just get me like playing gift cards 0:10:33.640 --> 0:10:36.000 like air Canada United. Just get me like a gift 0:10:36.320 --> 0:10:38.360 an airline because I was traveling back and forth so 0:10:38.400 --> 0:10:40.280 much to Chicago. Still, I was like, this is something 0:10:40.280 --> 0:10:43.760 that I will use and it's not going to take 0:10:43.840 --> 0:10:46.240 up any space. Yeah, that's a good idea of the 0:10:46.360 --> 0:10:49.199 gift cards for the airlines. That's nice. And then I 0:10:49.640 --> 0:10:52.520 always say, like I don't know, I hate I hate 0:10:52.520 --> 0:10:55.240 the concept of giving gifts. I want like I would 0:10:55.520 --> 0:10:58.000 rather received gifts on like a random day in a 0:10:58.160 --> 0:11:00.360 random month for no reason at all than to like 0:11:00.640 --> 0:11:03.440 receive a gift on Christmas or birthday or Easter or 0:11:03.440 --> 0:11:04.719 something like that, you know what I mean, like an 0:11:04.720 --> 0:11:08.880 awkward interaction. I find giving on like specific holidays is 0:11:08.960 --> 0:11:12.080 a very uncomfortable interact for both parties because you're opening 0:11:12.080 --> 0:11:14.400 it being like, hopefully I don't have to pretend that 0:11:14.440 --> 0:11:16.800 I like this, and they're giving it to being like 0:11:17.160 --> 0:11:19.640 hopefully they like this I've had. And also it's like 0:11:19.640 --> 0:11:22.160 we'll fall on fights with cousins about gifts because like 0:11:22.400 --> 0:11:24.400 I'll get them something and they're like, why did you 0:11:24.440 --> 0:11:26.400 get me something? I didn't get you anything for Christmas? 0:11:26.440 --> 0:11:27.800 And I'm like, I don't need anything. I wanted to 0:11:27.840 --> 0:11:29.000 give you something, and they're like, well, I feel like 0:11:29.040 --> 0:11:30.760 it told right now, and I'm like, we'll just take 0:11:30.760 --> 0:11:32.240 the damn gift, and like I don't want the gift. 0:11:32.280 --> 0:11:33.800 I'm like, well, I bought it, I'm not gonna return it. 0:11:33.840 --> 0:11:35.520 Just take the gift. You don't have to get me anything. 0:11:35.559 --> 0:11:36.920 They're like, well, now I'm gonna get you something next 0:11:36.920 --> 0:11:38.040 week and I'm like, well, I'm not going to accept 0:11:38.080 --> 0:11:39.599 it if you get me something in return, because I 0:11:39.640 --> 0:11:41.160 already gifted you something you didn't think of me in 0:11:41.160 --> 0:11:42.880 the first place, which is totally fine. You don't have to, 0:11:42.960 --> 0:11:44.800 but just take the gift. And then it turns into 0:11:44.840 --> 0:11:47.480 like a fistfight. Dared, take a breath, man, take it 0:11:47.520 --> 0:11:51.200 just like one quick breath. Um. No, you're absolutely right, 0:11:51.200 --> 0:11:53.000 You're absolutely right. And then it's like if you guys 0:11:53.000 --> 0:11:55.240 are exchanging gifts, one gift might be worth like twenty 0:11:55.280 --> 0:11:57.480 bucks and the other one'd be worth like a hunter bucks, 0:11:57.520 --> 0:11:59.720 and then the one that the gift is upset. You 0:11:59.720 --> 0:12:01.400 know what the worst type of person is is the 0:12:01.440 --> 0:12:04.320 person who you are part of a secret santo with 0:12:04.520 --> 0:12:07.280 and it says, don't spend more than and it's the 0:12:07.320 --> 0:12:09.600 person that spends like seventy bucks on a gift and 0:12:09.600 --> 0:12:11.560 you're like, just get the hell out of here, nobody 0:12:11.559 --> 0:12:15.680 wants your gift anymore. No, No, I hate that too, 0:12:26.640 --> 0:12:29.280 serring it besides the birthday and besides the move, what 0:12:29.440 --> 0:12:33.440 else is going on in your guys life? I don't know. 0:12:33.559 --> 0:12:35.960 I mean, I feel like the move has been so 0:12:36.040 --> 0:12:38.400 all consuming because we literally came to New York like 0:12:38.800 --> 0:12:42.120 last month, picked the place, like Joe signed it, and 0:12:42.160 --> 0:12:44.760 like moved in two weeks later. So like it has 0:12:44.880 --> 0:12:47.600 been so consuming of like packing, like I was just 0:12:47.640 --> 0:12:50.560 in l A, which like was terrible timing because I 0:12:50.600 --> 0:12:52.760 had already committed to an event out there, so like 0:12:52.880 --> 0:12:56.320 he had to basically move in here alone. But yeah, 0:12:56.360 --> 0:12:59.240 I mean, now life is just going to be us 0:12:59.280 --> 0:13:02.160 exploring and a city, and like he's got the podcast 0:13:02.160 --> 0:13:05.880 and the sauce brand. I'm doing influencer stuff, So don't 0:13:05.880 --> 0:13:08.679 you have a podcast as well? No, so I filled 0:13:08.720 --> 0:13:12.080 in Tasha left um Happy Hour, and then I filled 0:13:12.120 --> 0:13:15.240 in her spot for Clayton season on Bachelor Happy Hour, 0:13:15.320 --> 0:13:18.720 and then Michelle just jumped on Um, who was like 0:13:18.760 --> 0:13:20.400 it was always the plan of like I leave after 0:13:20.440 --> 0:13:22.680 Clayton season and she's now the new like full time 0:13:22.679 --> 0:13:26.120 host with Becca Nice. Well they're missing out because I mean, 0:13:26.120 --> 0:13:28.600 come on, they got the great host right here. I 0:13:28.720 --> 0:13:31.480 know with the podcast I've ready to Go, which already 0:13:32.000 --> 0:13:35.320 is superior to Dean and mind podcast equipment. I have 0:13:35.480 --> 0:13:37.800 a question. It's like a two part question. One what 0:13:37.920 --> 0:13:43.040 happens if your visa doesn't come back? So so that's 0:13:43.080 --> 0:13:45.600 kind of why we've been like sketchy. I mean, obviously 0:13:45.679 --> 0:13:48.080 I'm disclosing all this on the podcast, but like I 0:13:48.120 --> 0:13:50.360 haven't been posting about it on social media just because 0:13:50.360 --> 0:13:53.520 I feel like I can't give like a holistic explanation 0:13:53.600 --> 0:13:55.839 of like all the scenarios that could go down until 0:13:55.880 --> 0:13:58.760 I have it, but hypothetically of next week it comes through. 0:13:59.240 --> 0:14:02.679 So story I applied. I paid like an expedited fee 0:14:02.720 --> 0:14:05.160 to have it in fifteen days. So I've been working 0:14:05.160 --> 0:14:07.880 on this since November. It's like a crazy like lawn 0:14:07.920 --> 0:14:11.160 process of labor time job. So you apply fifth. I 0:14:11.240 --> 0:14:12.840 knew I was going to get it here within fifteen 0:14:12.880 --> 0:14:15.000 days because I paid like an expedited fee, and they 0:14:15.000 --> 0:14:18.800 came back and had like requested more evidence. So they 0:14:18.800 --> 0:14:21.560 basically said, like, hey, we received your application, like what 0:14:21.600 --> 0:14:23.600 you have looks good, but we need X y Z 0:14:23.760 --> 0:14:26.960 to be submitted to like I don't know, just for 0:14:27.000 --> 0:14:28.600 like a bigger picture of like what I'm going to 0:14:28.680 --> 0:14:31.280 be contributing to the economy in the US. So that 0:14:31.360 --> 0:14:33.640 took an extra like five days and me putting together documents, 0:14:33.680 --> 0:14:35.640 sending it off, and now we've reset. So I hear 0:14:35.640 --> 0:14:38.200 by next Wednesday and if they come back and say 0:14:38.200 --> 0:14:42.760 like sorry, like decline you can't be here, um, then 0:14:42.800 --> 0:14:46.080 we'll reassess. But I mean he signed the lease here, 0:14:46.200 --> 0:14:48.360 so like we're in this place for a year. I 0:14:48.400 --> 0:14:50.160 just can then only be in the States for six 0:14:50.200 --> 0:14:52.760 months out of the year, so we'll have to go 0:14:52.800 --> 0:14:55.520 back to doing back and forth. And I still also 0:14:55.600 --> 0:14:58.920 can't work here, so like any appearances or opportunities like that, 0:14:59.000 --> 0:15:02.560 like I'm doing for no money, and any like influencer 0:15:02.600 --> 0:15:04.680 campaigns that have to be shot in Canada, I've got 0:15:04.760 --> 0:15:06.840 I've got a question. I'm sure you guys have talked 0:15:06.840 --> 0:15:10.280 about this too. So you guys, for the for the uninformed, 0:15:10.400 --> 0:15:13.840 you guys got engaged on the last season of bachelorom Paradise. Yeah, 0:15:14.080 --> 0:15:16.280 so you're engaged to get married, why don't you just 0:15:16.320 --> 0:15:20.840 like do the paperwork part of the marriage and then 0:15:20.880 --> 0:15:23.400 just like you know, piggyback onto his citizenship and then 0:15:23.440 --> 0:15:25.200 like do whatever you want to do later on. Yeah, 0:15:25.200 --> 0:15:29.840 why expedite the visa when you can just expedite the marriage. Honestly, 0:15:30.160 --> 0:15:32.280 we did think about it, like it was an option 0:15:32.320 --> 0:15:34.120 on the table of like let's just maybe just go 0:15:34.200 --> 0:15:36.640 to the court and we'll just get married. But I 0:15:36.680 --> 0:15:39.240 was already so deep into the visa process at this point, 0:15:39.280 --> 0:15:41.680 I'm like, let's just ride this out. I would personally 0:15:41.800 --> 0:15:44.280 much rather like not just like get married under the 0:15:44.280 --> 0:15:47.400 table for a visa. I mean, I think my parents 0:15:47.480 --> 0:15:49.640 had a difficult enough time with me getting married to 0:15:49.680 --> 0:15:53.120 a stranger on television. Um, for me to then take 0:15:53.160 --> 0:15:56.480 away the opportunity of like sharing me getting married with 0:15:56.520 --> 0:15:59.400 my family and friends would kind of be a bummer. Um, 0:15:59.440 --> 0:16:03.400 So like we're really fingers crossed. They variable with applying 0:16:03.400 --> 0:16:05.400 for visas, like I'm applying for an O one, which 0:16:05.400 --> 0:16:07.920 is an entertainer's visa, And they could come back and 0:16:07.960 --> 0:16:11.400 say like, yep, like you've been given the visa for 0:16:11.440 --> 0:16:13.880 the three year period, which is the maximum time you 0:16:13.880 --> 0:16:15.920 can receive it for, which in that case is great 0:16:15.920 --> 0:16:18.040 because we're gonna get married in that three years, no problem. 0:16:18.120 --> 0:16:19.840 And then I'll just apply for my green card and 0:16:19.880 --> 0:16:22.440 switch that over. But they could also come back and 0:16:22.480 --> 0:16:25.160 be like, Okay, so you've been approved for one month. 0:16:25.760 --> 0:16:28.400 So like there's just so many variables on the table 0:16:28.520 --> 0:16:31.560 right now. Um, but yeah, we'll find out next week 0:16:31.600 --> 0:16:33.360 and then if it's not the three year, we'll just 0:16:34.200 --> 0:16:37.320 reassess and adjust. I mean, there's not much else to do, 0:16:37.400 --> 0:16:40.280 I guess, and then maybe get married sooner than we expected. 0:16:41.000 --> 0:16:43.080 That's that's so crappy that that even has to be 0:16:43.080 --> 0:16:45.760 a thing. But I guess you probably. Okay, so let's 0:16:45.880 --> 0:16:47.720 let's go back to that when you were on the 0:16:47.720 --> 0:16:51.400 Bachelor and you were on Matt's season of The Bachelor, right, yeah, 0:16:51.600 --> 0:16:53.520 and you were living on you were living in Toronto 0:16:53.560 --> 0:16:56.320 when you were cast for that show. Yeah, so you 0:16:56.360 --> 0:16:59.320 already kind of knew that in the best case scenario, 0:16:59.400 --> 0:17:02.600 you'd have to be only with all this anyways. Yeah, 0:17:02.720 --> 0:17:04.960 I mean, I think going on the Bachelor like is 0:17:05.000 --> 0:17:08.159 one thing because like I mean I didn't really like 0:17:08.280 --> 0:17:11.800 picture myself like, oh, like, yeah, I'm gonna be married 0:17:11.880 --> 0:17:15.120 to an American. But then definitely, like as I got 0:17:15.160 --> 0:17:17.960 further into the season and developed feelings for him, I 0:17:18.000 --> 0:17:21.080 was like independently like okay, Like I wouldn't have gone 0:17:21.080 --> 0:17:22.960 on the show to date an American if I wasn't 0:17:23.160 --> 0:17:25.640 willing to make a move for someone I loved. Like, 0:17:26.160 --> 0:17:27.959 but yeah, I remember thinking like, if I end up 0:17:27.960 --> 0:17:29.560 with this guy, like we have to figure ou where 0:17:29.560 --> 0:17:31.399 we're gonna live and if that's not Toronto or if 0:17:31.440 --> 0:17:33.359 it is Toronto, Like either way, there's like a viewsa 0:17:33.480 --> 0:17:37.680 involved for someone. So when you get out of nowhere, 0:17:38.520 --> 0:17:40.440 right right, you kind of have like a boss moment 0:17:40.480 --> 0:17:43.359 too with Bachelor, right you you like worked out near 0:17:43.400 --> 0:17:47.320 the end and you're like, I'm at it here right, yes, yeah, 0:17:47.359 --> 0:17:50.480 I did some of them home after hometowns. Okay, gotcha, 0:17:50.560 --> 0:17:53.560 got you? I was. I just didn't want to misremember 0:17:53.560 --> 0:17:55.000 that yet. You had a moment where you were like, 0:17:55.000 --> 0:17:56.919 you know what, I'm not into this, and that was 0:17:57.000 --> 0:17:59.240 That's awesome. I feel like to go that long and 0:17:59.240 --> 0:18:01.919 then like be like I'm not feeling this. It's it 0:18:01.920 --> 0:18:04.639 doesn't happen often enough, and so when it does. I 0:18:04.640 --> 0:18:09.760 think she takes some pride in that thank you, thank you. Yeah. 0:18:09.920 --> 0:18:13.040 I mean, like I it was a hard moment, so 0:18:13.119 --> 0:18:15.520 like I like I definitely had like friends and family 0:18:15.600 --> 0:18:17.960 being like we're proud of you. I think I feel 0:18:18.000 --> 0:18:19.520 like I was like so deep in it to be 0:18:19.560 --> 0:18:21.600 like okay, but like it also sucked, like it was 0:18:21.640 --> 0:18:24.399 a breakup, like I hurt someone in the process, but 0:18:24.480 --> 0:18:25.919 I mean it all clearly worked out the way I 0:18:25.960 --> 0:18:28.720 was supposed to. Like he's so happy with Rachel, like 0:18:28.800 --> 0:18:31.080 I'm with Joe, so like it always the right decision. 0:18:31.600 --> 0:18:34.280 But yeah, it's definitely hard, I think on the show 0:18:34.400 --> 0:18:37.200 for people to feel like they have the freedom to 0:18:37.240 --> 0:18:40.240 make their own decisions like about their fate. Like, I 0:18:40.240 --> 0:18:42.439 feel like it's so consuming that once you get in it, 0:18:42.480 --> 0:18:44.800 you kind of feel like you're like on this ride 0:18:44.960 --> 0:18:46.879 that you can't get off of until someone gives you 0:18:46.920 --> 0:18:49.680 permission to get off of it. So like I just 0:18:49.680 --> 0:18:52.040 remember being like, I don't have to be here if 0:18:52.080 --> 0:18:54.080 I don't want to be here, Like I don't have 0:18:54.240 --> 0:18:56.359 to fall in love with this person if I'm not 0:18:56.400 --> 0:19:01.680 falling in love with this person. Power Born in Canada, 0:19:01.800 --> 0:19:04.399 engaged in Mexico, and married in the United States. What 0:19:04.480 --> 0:19:07.520