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Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for using a safe to

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Speaker 1: stop my bar friend from stealing from me?

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Speaker 2: You know, I think there's the obvious question, why is

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Speaker 2: your own boyfriend stealing from you?

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Speaker 1: Because hebe well, we're in a relationship together. What's mine

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Speaker 1: is yours, and what's yours is mine?

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Speaker 2: When when you have the only fans, Babe, I earn

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Speaker 2: I get a.

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Speaker 1: Commission, I get a commission because your body parts belong

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Speaker 1: to me. Babe, dude, not only is your body an

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Speaker 1: object of my mind, but everything you own is also mine.

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Speaker 1: Your money is mine, Like, I just don't understand what

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Speaker 1: that's so hard to understand. You know, there's this amazing

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Speaker 1: philosopher that's taught me a lot. Have you ever heard

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Speaker 1: of Andrew Tate. It's kind of like Socrates, but Socrates

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Speaker 1: for titties, you know, soccer titties. So soccer tint soccer

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Speaker 1: soccer Tate tint to de taint all right, I, twenty

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Speaker 1: one female, and my boyfriend, twenty three male, have been

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Speaker 1: living together for two years. There has always been a

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Speaker 1: bit of a money struggle, as I used to make

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Speaker 1: more than him and may and have usually been picking

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Speaker 1: up the slack inner household However, I have started a

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Speaker 1: new job and am earning a lot less than before,

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Speaker 1: so I started to be more cautious about the amount

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Speaker 1: of time spending. During our relationship, I would usually buy

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Speaker 1: all of his toiletries and most household products. I told

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Speaker 1: him I would not be doing this anymore, as I

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Speaker 1: need to cut down on my own spending and he

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Speaker 1: also works, so he's capable of buying things on his own.

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Speaker 1: Most reasonable thing in the universe. Come on, pay up, dude.

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Speaker 1: I thought we had agreed to do this, but as

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Speaker 1: time has gone I've noticed all of my expensive skincare

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Speaker 1: and even my own deodorant being used up really quickly.

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Speaker 1: At least man has a good skincare routine. Yeah, exactly,

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Speaker 1: his skin is flawless, Solis, trying to look pretty for you, babe.

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Speaker 1: I asked him multiple times to please not use my stuff,

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Speaker 1: and even bought him his own skincare stuff so he

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Speaker 1: could have his own things. No. Wow, Oh, he's way

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Speaker 1: too a commodator to accommodating. The thing that set me

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Speaker 1: off was that I had bought myself a two hundred

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Speaker 1: and twenty dollars face wash that is only supposed to

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Speaker 1: be used sparingly, I have horrible ezma? Is that an exzema?

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Speaker 1: I have horrible exzema that I have prescriptions for, and

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Speaker 1: the products I buy are specifically for my exzema. I

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Speaker 1: hadn't used it in a while, and when I picked

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Speaker 1: at the bottle it was empty. Why he laughed and

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Speaker 1: said he would replace it and then refuse when he

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Speaker 1: learned the price. Bro why, just like ask why? But

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Speaker 1: they've already had the conversation where they've already had and

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Speaker 1: she bought him his own supplies, so he literally has

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Speaker 1: no excuse whatsoever. Hey, if this ain't a rev flag,

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Speaker 1: I don't know what is. Man. I took inventory of

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Speaker 1: everything else I owned and found out he had used

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Speaker 1: up to eight hundred dollars worth of product in around

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Speaker 1: three months. Oh my god, damn dude, I hope his

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Speaker 1: skin be bro he better looking like a snack. Bruh,

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Speaker 1: Where is this all going out? I know he isn't

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Speaker 1: naive because I tell him the price of everything I

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Speaker 1: get and tell him not to use them, so he

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Speaker 1: knows what he's doing. He's trying to get that good

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Speaker 1: good on his skin. I ended up buying a safe

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Speaker 1: that I put under the sink and I put everything

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Speaker 1: I had left inside and hid the key so when

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Speaker 1: I go to shower and get ready, I can use

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Speaker 1: my own things and not worry about not affording to

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Speaker 1: keep my skin in check. Dude, break up with him?

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Speaker 1: This is like you, this is so bad. You should

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Speaker 1: not have to get a safe.

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Speaker 2: Imagine, Imagine your friend was like, oh, yeah, I just

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Speaker 2: had to get a safe because why because like, oh,

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Speaker 2: my boyfriend kept sealing my like examus stuff.

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Speaker 1: Like, dude, break up with him.

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Speaker 2: And it's one thing if it was like just like

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Speaker 2: regular like old makeup or whatever, but she literally has

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Speaker 2: a like a skin condition.

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Speaker 1: When he found out, he lost it and said I

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Speaker 1: given her every reason not to trust you. Dude. My god,

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Speaker 1: It's turned into a massive and my friends think I'm

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Speaker 1: and I've even been hospitalized this year due to a

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Speaker 1: huge flare up I had after running out of the products.

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Speaker 1: He's taking it very seriously, and I don't know what

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Speaker 1: else to do, as I've already tried asking, am I

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Speaker 1: the a hole? Just pain? I just am indo. I mean,

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Speaker 1: what story are the friends getting that they think this

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Speaker 1: is okay? Leave the boyfriend and the friends, all of them, leave,

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Speaker 1: all of them? Do they They don't know what they're saying. Oh, John,

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Speaker 1: there is an update. Uh oh wow. I didn't think

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Speaker 1: I was going to get so much of a response.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, guys for shattering my rose tinted glasses. Take

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Speaker 1: those glasses off. That's right. I had a talk with

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Speaker 1: one of my friends who said they had no idea

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Speaker 1: he was taking more than ten dollars products, which explains

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Speaker 1: why they all thought I was being harsh. Unfortunately, unfortunately,

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Speaker 1: we share a friend group, so breaking up was looking

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Speaker 1: really hard until I sat him down for a talk

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Speaker 1: to try to convey why I don't trust him anymore,

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Speaker 1: how important my skincare is. The conversation went on for

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Speaker 1: some time, and I actually thought he may be turning

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Speaker 1: a new leaf until he told me that in our

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Speaker 1: first year of being together as a couple, when I

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Speaker 1: had a few flare ups before finding some good products

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Speaker 1: that worked for me, he had been taking my oral

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Speaker 1: steroids that I was prescribed with, thinking that it would

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Speaker 1: make him buff at the gym. No, why are you

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Speaker 1: just taking someone else's prescription. Dude, Payne, I feel is incomprehendible.

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Speaker 1: The whole year I battled through with insecurities and unbearable

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Speaker 1: pain because I wasn't able to overcome my flare ups. Honestly,

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Speaker 1: that was the thing that snapped me completely. I'm staying

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Speaker 1: at my friend's house for a week and letting him

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Speaker 1: Thanks again to everyone who was so kind and helped

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Speaker 1: me realize how stupid I was being. That's what we'd

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Speaker 1: like to see Snapso be get out of that freaking situation.

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Speaker 1: Jesus run. What a terrible dude.

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Speaker 2: And just like I know we've read a million of

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Speaker 2: these stories, but just shocks me that these people exist.

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Speaker 1: It's like, how can you be and terrible? Yeah? But

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Speaker 1: I mean like like it's also I imagine it's hard

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Speaker 1: too for op where it's like you've lived with this person,

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Speaker 1: you're already in so deep, and then you're like, you're

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Speaker 1: she's probably making so many excuses on his behalf of course, right.

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Speaker 2: But like you always say that, it's like, how did

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Speaker 2: you not see the red flag before two years of

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Speaker 1: I think, like I think red flags kind of creep in, dude.

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Speaker 1: I think I think for some people it can like

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Speaker 1: it's like like I think in some relationships, you start

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Speaker 1: making in every relationship, you're writing compromises, right, yeah, of course, right,

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Speaker 1: And you start making little and little compromises, and at

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Speaker 1: a certain point you like it takes us. It takes

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Speaker 1: like a certain amount of like stepping back, yeah, to

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Speaker 1: realize how much you've compromised. And sometimes you're when you

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Speaker 1: have perspective, you're like, oh shit, like this is not okay.

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Speaker 1: This is way more than I had I ever should

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Speaker 2: It's like you don't see yourself like growing or your

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Speaker 2: hair growing or something. Yeah, but then like in three

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Speaker 2: it's like this is like I can't see it growing

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Speaker 1: But it's just like, yeah, yeah, I think about some

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Speaker 1: red flags, man, some red flags they.

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Speaker 2: Grow well, oph beat them up. Yeah, you're in a

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