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Speaker 1: It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if

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Speaker 1: you need advice on relationships, on sex, on work, on dating,

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Speaker 1: let's get it. Buckle up, hold on tight, We got

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Speaker 1: it for you. Here. It is the Strawberry Letter subject

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Speaker 1: my first major dating mistake with brothers, dear uncle Steve

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Speaker 1: and Aunt Shirley. I am a young female that graduated

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Speaker 1: from high school two years ago. Yeah, and I am

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Speaker 1: in a sticky situation. You see. After graduation, I met

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Speaker 1: a guy on an online app and we texted back

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Speaker 1: and forth and decided to spend some time together. We

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Speaker 1: He is a really great person, but he was not

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Speaker 1: the one for me, so we ended our fling. We

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Speaker 1: stayed in touch for a while through text messages, but

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Speaker 1: that was about it. Last November, I met a new

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Speaker 1: So things were great until we went to a New

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Speaker 1: Year's Eve party and the guy from my past was

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Speaker 1: at the party. As if it were not awkward enough

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Speaker 1: seeing him I've found out that this guy and my

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Speaker 1: boyfriend our brothers. We allowed my boyfriend to introduce us,

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Speaker 1: and neither one of us gave away our big secret.

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Speaker 1: I may be overthinking this, but I do not want

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Speaker 1: this guy to drive a wedge in my relationship by

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Speaker 1: used to mess with his brother. Do you think that

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Speaker 1: he knows already and likes me so much that he's

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Speaker 1: not saying anything. I don't want my past to ruin

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Speaker 1: our future. I really value your advice, so please help me. Well.

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Speaker 1: So far, he hasn't told his brother, right, So what

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Speaker 1: makes you think he's gonna tell him at all? I mean,

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Speaker 1: I do think you're overthinking this a bit. If you're

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Speaker 1: truly in a committed relationship, like you say, it might

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Speaker 1: not matter to him. He hasn't mentioned it to you.

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Speaker 1: You haven't said that in the letter that he's mentioned

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Speaker 1: it at all. So I think you're a young lady.

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Speaker 1: I think you need to know and you'll learn in

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Speaker 1: life that stuff is going to happen. Steph happens in

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Speaker 1: life that you have absolutely no control over, and I

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Speaker 1: think that's just what happened here. You met his brother first.

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Speaker 1: You guys were both very young. You've matured now, you've

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Speaker 1: moved on as people do. You said in your letter

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Speaker 1: he was not the one for you, so you guys

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Speaker 1: ended it. So to you, I just say, stop feeling guilty,

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Speaker 1: stop feeling some kind of way when you're with your

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Speaker 1: new man. All of that. I mean, life goes on.

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Speaker 1: Let this go live your life. Stop worrying about the past.

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Speaker 1: If it comes up, you can say that was a

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Speaker 1: long time ago. It's over. You know, it's just over.

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Speaker 1: Sorry I didn't say anything, but it's over. It didn't

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Speaker 1: mean anything to me. We're together now, Steve. Well, that

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Speaker 1: came from your aunt Shairy. Yes, that's a real nice, hopeful,

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Speaker 1: optimistic response. Let you feel better about yourself and all

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Speaker 1: that now. Because you are a young female. I want

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Speaker 1: to try to do the same thing for you. But

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Speaker 1: you in a sticky situation. This guy that you ended

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Speaker 1: So we ended it. But you stayed in touch for

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Speaker 1: a while through text message. Well we all know what

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Speaker 1: was on new text message, what they was doing. You

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Speaker 1: know they were sexty. They were on show. Miss you

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Speaker 1: mane that time you and all that time. Last November

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Speaker 1: I met a new guy. He and I in a

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Speaker 1: committed relationships. Things great to the New Year's Eve party.

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Speaker 1: The guy from your past at the party. Awkward enough

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Speaker 1: you find out this guy and your boyfriend are brothers.

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Speaker 1: We allowed my boyfriend to introduce us, and neither one

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Speaker 1: You said it was he was this great guy. He

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Speaker 1: See that asked where we how wild was it? Exactly

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Speaker 1: You can take that out your mind. That ain't how

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Speaker 1: me so much that he not saying anything? What? Hey, O, No,

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Speaker 1: so please help me. Here's two things you got going

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Speaker 1: the other hand, he may not want to hurt his

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Speaker 1: he's gonna be looking up beside his brother's head. The

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Speaker 1: best thing for you to do is shut your damn mouth. Now,

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Speaker 1: this is taking a page from the men's playbook. Why

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Speaker 1: would you bring up an issue that ain't an issue?

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Speaker 1: Why would you tell the truth? Who when say nothing

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Speaker 1: at all? Sounds much better. I'm gonna repeat that. Why

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Speaker 1: would you tell the truth? When saying nothing at all

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Speaker 1: sounds so much better. Shut your damn don't say nothing

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Speaker 1: other dude, and then if it come out, just say

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Speaker 1: I didn't know until I saw him at the New

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Speaker 1: Year's Eve party and I was too embarrassed. I felt horrible.

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Speaker 1: That's all you can do. And then throw yourself at

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Speaker 1: the mercy of the court. When we come back, Jay

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Speaker 1: and I will do reenact me all right. We'll have

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Speaker 1: when we come back at twenty three after the hour.

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Speaker 1: Right after this you're listening to all right, Steve, Let's

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Speaker 1: recap today's Strawberry Letters. Subject my first major your dating

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Speaker 1: mistake with brothers. This girl met a guy online, dated him,

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Speaker 1: They broke up. They stayed in tel they text each

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Speaker 1: other for a little while. She meets another great guy.

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Speaker 1: They dating. Everything going fine. They go to the New

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Speaker 1: Now she messed up her Boyfred introduced him as his

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Speaker 1: new woman. And his brother, they both kept their secret

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Speaker 1: a secret. They didn't say nothing to each other. Maybe

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Speaker 1: the brother don't want to hurt his brother and ain't

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Speaker 1: may have to tell his brother, because man, I can't

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Speaker 1: knew this. Your only play that I think is if

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Speaker 1: it comes out. I didn't know y'all his brothers until

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Speaker 1: I met y'all at New Year's Eve, and I was human,

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Speaker 1: humiliated and barrassed. I didn't know what to do, and

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Speaker 1: I've been shaking in my boots until this came to like,

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Speaker 1: because I didn't want to lose you. You're the best

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Speaker 1: thing ever happened to me. He gonna leave you, but

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Speaker 1: that you want to Try to say that though, Try

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Speaker 1: to get that in and cry while you say, but

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Speaker 1: his asses go If his brother tell him, it's gonna

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Speaker 1: be messed up. Man. So here we are at this moment.

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Speaker 1: I am gonna play the boyfriend who's having some suspicions

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Speaker 1: because y'all act a little strange around each other. Jay

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Speaker 1: is gonna be the girl trying at all costs to

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Speaker 1: keep me off the subject. No problem, Hey, baby, can't

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Speaker 1: talk to you about something. Yeah, ain't gonna talk about

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Speaker 1: you know. Every time I see you and my brother

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Speaker 1: around each other, y'all, y'all that kind of strange, strange, strange,

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Speaker 1: you know, y'all, y'all seem like you know, y'all, y'all

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Speaker 1: don't really be friendly with each other. You don't be

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Speaker 1: kind of distant. No, your brother cool with me. I

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Speaker 1: like your brother. First. I ain't know you had a brother,

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Speaker 1: y'all know, y'all know, you don't know I had one. Boy.

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Speaker 1: I introduce you at the New Year's Eve part, and

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Speaker 1: I remember back looking at the party. Seemed like y'all

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Speaker 1: was just sort of like, so you look, you look

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Speaker 1: real sick. No, not at all. Wasn't shot, No, not me, No, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: no baby, what I'm telling that, well, baby, because you

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Speaker 1: threw up. Oh well, I was just look sick. You know,

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Speaker 1: I had the bean dip. It was just like selling

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Speaker 1: I can't take being different, baby. You didn't need that.

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Speaker 1: You didn't you didn't need that to have first got

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Speaker 1: to introduce you to my brother. As soon as you

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Speaker 1: and thlew up and you threw that was that bean? Yep,

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Speaker 1: bring the bean dip out right there? Ain't yeah, your

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Speaker 1: brother up the women, hold on, hold on, let me

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Speaker 1: ask you a question. Have you ever met my brother before?

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Speaker 1: I ain't ever seen your brother? Baby, brother, baby, You're

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Speaker 1: in a whole another octave right now? What's that? But

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Speaker 1: what you're crying for? I just asked you that you

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Speaker 1: you know I gotta upset stomping ask your brother? So

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Speaker 1: you keep talking about this epso being deal Damn it's September. Now,

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Speaker 1: what did you keep talking about? This being dip? You head?

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Speaker 1: Not for what you crying? Phone? Just answer the question,

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Speaker 1: have you ever met my brother before? I do? Ba?

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Speaker 1: Baby just came baby, baby, baby, baby baby, Just calm down.

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Speaker 1: Don't worry about that. Look, I probably ain't nothing. You know,

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Speaker 1: I was just asking you know, I ain't look crime

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Speaker 1: all this hell, it ain't nothing. Just forget I said, so, baby,

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Speaker 1: come on, I'm just a little up. I know, I know,

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Speaker 1: I know, I know, I know. You had to be

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Speaker 1: deal baby, look me. Okay, hold on, I'll tell you what,

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Speaker 1: don't worry about. I'm gonna ask my brother righten up

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Speaker 1: on right now, yeah, yeah, yeah, he on the way

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Speaker 1: just gonna ask him because I don't want to. Oh

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Speaker 1: he gonna now you ask me? Ask him. No, I

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Speaker 1: ain't gonna asking nothing for you. No. Listen, my brother,

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Speaker 1: me and my brother we talked about hello, Hello, hello,

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Speaker 1: Oh bathroom so badman. Hold On, I had been sitting there.

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Speaker 1: I kept saying to myself, well when did that bean? No,

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Speaker 1: I got to go. I can't. Oh, oh, have far

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Speaker 1: with your brother. Listen, we gotta wrap this up. Guys.

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Speaker 1: our girl Sheryl Underwood. You're listening to the day Harvey

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