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Speaker 1: From Hollywood. See you, thank you for listening to us.

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Speaker 1: Ryan Pecana with Ryan Secret, I'm a good morning, thanks

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Speaker 1: for holding How you doing, Mr Good? How are you riding?

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Speaker 1: Good morning? Good morning? So you're being tell me what's happening?

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Speaker 1: Says here? You're being charged more for a bacherette party?

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Speaker 1: Are your h No, I'm not in charge. I'm having

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Speaker 1: to pay more than the wedding party. So an old

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Speaker 1: friend of mine, UM from college, she is getting married,

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Speaker 1: and she invited me along to the bachorette because you know,

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Speaker 1: we're good friends. I'm just not a part of the

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Speaker 1: wedding party. Um. And recently I found out that I'm

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Speaker 1: actually paying more than the wedding party for like a

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Speaker 1: few things, like there's just some activities and um with

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Speaker 1: our stay, I'm just having to pay a little bit more.

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Speaker 1: And I don't know if I go to the maid

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Speaker 1: of honor who planned, or if I go to my

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Speaker 1: friend the bride just because you know, I don't. I'm

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Speaker 1: not used to have you know, I'm not used to

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Speaker 1: people who aren't a part of the wedding party, you know,

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Speaker 1: having to pay more or new thing or let me

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Speaker 1: ask a couple of naive questions because I have never

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Speaker 1: planned a wedding. Yeah, is the issue here that the

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Speaker 1: wedding party has a certain amount of things they've got

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Speaker 1: to pay for themselves, and that Emma is expected to

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Speaker 1: pay for the party. In theory, Yeah, if you're in

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Speaker 1: the wedding party, you end up spending more because you

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Speaker 1: have to get your hair and makeup done. Probably everyone

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Speaker 1: splits it equally. I've never heard of where someone would

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Speaker 1: have to spend more money Emma, And like that is

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Speaker 1: can you split it with all the other guests? I mean,

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Speaker 1: it's really I don't know because I don't the price.

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Speaker 1: I guess like all these bride maids, like they all

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Speaker 1: have a certain price and I have a different prict.

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Speaker 1: That's so weird that I don't Yeah, you need to

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Speaker 1: take it up with the maid of honor. Leave the

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Speaker 1: bride out of it because you don't want to stress

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Speaker 1: her out. But talk to the maid of honor and

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Speaker 1: be like why weddings are like, it's like it just

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Speaker 1: needs to be get together loved ones and friends, get married, celebrate.

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Speaker 1: Don't even get me started. I planned a whole bachelorette

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Speaker 1: that we didn't even have. This is the point, guys,

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Speaker 1: you haven't been listening to me for twenty years. I

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Speaker 1: am I'm Ryan. It's like you're in my ear sometimes

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Speaker 1: I'm like an earworm. Yes, all right, And I think

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Speaker 1: Disney's advice is good. Don't burden the bride, but burden

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Speaker 1: the bride's maide. Okay, good luck, thank you. I'm always

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Speaker 1: flattered that we get calls about things to work out

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Speaker 1: in weddings because there's not a lot of wedding experience here.

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Speaker 1: But there's so many weddings happening right now because none

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Speaker 1: of them happened for two years. So I feel like

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Speaker 1: there's just your issues. It just boils down to relationships.

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Speaker 1: Everything boils down to relationships. Also, my my through line

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Speaker 1: here on on a lot of these concerns that we

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Speaker 1: get is that we're dealing with layers of complications for

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Speaker 1: something you is supposed to be completely celebratory and easy.

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Speaker 1: I know you're right, but there is so much drama around.

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Speaker 1: I'd like to walk away from that, I know, and

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Speaker 1: I like to avoid it. Like when I was planning

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Speaker 1: my friend's Batchel route that did not happen because she

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Speaker 1: got covid um. I just chose to pay for certain

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Speaker 1: things because I didn't want to upset the guests. I

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Speaker 1: was just like, you know what, I'm going to handle

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Speaker 1: you guys. Just pay for the tip, you know, like,

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Speaker 1: because I felt bad that people were spending money. It's weird.

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Speaker 1: It's a weird feeling. Yeah, well, we won't get into

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Speaker 1: that in time soon Tony and I. Right now, you

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Speaker 1: could or maybe she will. I don't know. I can't

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Speaker 1: speak for you, you know what. But with the fun thing,

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Speaker 1: why I keep saying that you're in my ear is

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Speaker 1: because if you would have asked me five years ago,

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Speaker 1: did keep what you're getting old circus of a wedding.

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Speaker 1: Now I'm like, whatever, whatever is important to just the

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Speaker 1: two of us, and that's love and simplicity. We were

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Speaker 1: just talking about some of the complications that many people

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Speaker 1: It's a celebration of love, true, but the bachelorette party

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Speaker 1: is just like you know, well you were planning when

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Speaker 1: they got canceled because someone got cold. But the wedding happened. Yes,

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Speaker 1: the wedding happened. They never happened, never happened. But we're

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Speaker 1: still considering Ibe Cobo, maybe Puerto Rico, like now we

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Speaker 1: it's gonna fizzle. I don't so weekend in six months,

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Speaker 1: Well that's what it's supposed it's gonna be a girl's

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Speaker 1: weekend regardless. Well, no, you had blow up dolls and

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Speaker 1: of my friends now husband at my house. That's why

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Speaker 1: your hands, yea and put a different face. No, I

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Speaker 1: think it ruins it. There's a steam issue around the neck.

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Speaker 1: It's not attractive. Now, what happened with the wedding. So

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Speaker 1: the wedding happened um last weekend, and it was so beautiful.

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Speaker 1: Everything was great. So as we're dancing on the dance floor,

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Speaker 1: everything's cuting, everyone's done with dinner, and like the dancing

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Speaker 1: has begun. I'm noticing that my friend who's the bride,

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Speaker 1: is holding her wedding dress like in a bunched ball,

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Speaker 1: like almost like she didn't bustle it. You know what

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Speaker 1: bustling address means. Right, Well, I was a man of

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Speaker 1: honor my sister's wedding, So no, okay, So when you

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Speaker 1: get married for the ceremony, usually have your long you know,

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Speaker 1: train of the dress or trail or whatever. And so

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Speaker 1: when you're ready to dance and do all that, you

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Speaker 1: have these buttons at the seamstress already like positioned for you.

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Speaker 1: You know, you button it up to then it just

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Speaker 1: bunches all the fabric up, so therefore it doesn't drag. However,

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Speaker 1: so even though it was bustled, it's still dragged like

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Speaker 1: You're gonna regret all these pictures like you're gonna And

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Speaker 1: go see if we can find some hair ties. So

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Speaker 1: I went backstage in the bridal suite and we're looking

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Speaker 1: know what, I can't take it, cut it and I go,

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Speaker 1: what just cut my dress's time? Are you sure? And

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Speaker 1: I'm like here you go. So the wedding planners like,

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Speaker 1: I have scissors, and so she goes and grabs the

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Speaker 1: can't do it, you do it and she hands them

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Speaker 1: to me and I'm like, Kalina, are you sure the

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Speaker 1: enjoys a wedding. And we had the best night of

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Speaker 1: all lives, telling you reference and what a what a

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Speaker 1: great friend do you are? And you came with the

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Speaker 1: solution of shears well, I was. I was really worried

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Speaker 1: and be like, really mad at me or regret the

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Speaker 1: dress is even cooler now. Yeah. She was just like,

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Speaker 1: I don't care. I'm not going to wear it against

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Speaker 1: I'm just cut it. So we had it was so funny.

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Speaker 1: I put the pictures online if you guys saw them.

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Speaker 1: But are you familiar with bustling, bustling but bustling, Yes,

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Speaker 1: I didn't know that. I just knew that my role

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Speaker 1: And I think if it would be weird for you

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Speaker 1: would just be weird if you were doing it. I

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Speaker 1: don't know, but I'm gonna pack sisters to all weddings

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Speaker 1: that go on air with Ryan Secrets. Let's get Ben, Ben.

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Speaker 1: I hear you're going on a first date that is

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Speaker 1: correct and nonetheless on an airplane. Ryan, can you explain that? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: each other. Yeah. I thought that this was a cool

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Speaker 1: hear me out. It's happening next week. We're flying back

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Speaker 1: the plane. It's each other, right, right, And but like,

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Speaker 1: what if we hate each other, then we're absolutely trapped

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Speaker 1: You're not going to realize that you hate each other

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Speaker 1: So it's so good, it's so clever and cute and creative,

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Speaker 1: Sitting close to somebody an airplane and torquing your neck,

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Speaker 1: you can smell people's breath. I guess not if you're

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Speaker 1: I I like it. I like the creativity in it.

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Speaker 1: I think that coming out of it, no one's going

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Speaker 1: to be that upset if it doesn't work. What do

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Speaker 1: you think? I think it's a really bad idea to

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Speaker 1: extend your trip to stay one more day so you

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Speaker 1: don't have to do that. You, guys, you clearly have

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Speaker 1: not been on a bad first date. Twenty minutes feels

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Speaker 1: like a lifetime on a bad day, if you're stuck

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Speaker 1: don't you think it's such a creative idea that it

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Speaker 1: can't be bad, can't be bad. I don't think it's

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Speaker 1: bad for a second day, but a first day, Oh my,

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Speaker 1: I went, I will never forget. Oh, it's so beautiful.

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Speaker 1: I went to Sugarfish with this guy on a first date.

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Speaker 1: And thankfully they try and rush you out of their

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Speaker 1: fast like they made you fast twenty five minutes door

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Speaker 1: see it at the sushi bar. No, we had a table.

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Speaker 1: I said, please, don't bring me another drink. I gotta go. Well,

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Speaker 1: you have bad luck. Ben is more creative than going

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Speaker 1: needs to be addressed. And my guess is he knows

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Speaker 1: it's coming. I think. So my guess is he knows

425
00:23:17,600 --> 00:23:19,639
Speaker 1: it's coming. First of all, I just going back for

426
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Speaker 1: a second, you would think you got there at forty

427
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Speaker 1: four years, Like I'm like thinking, you know, twenty you think, Okay,

428
00:23:27,760 --> 00:23:29,760
Speaker 1: we're good. Now it's come back to that for the

429
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Speaker 1: next couple of shows. But yeah, let's definitely come back,

430
00:23:33,320 --> 00:23:35,359
Speaker 1: come back to that for tomorrow and this week. But

431
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Speaker 1: you you said that he two years. I mean, you

432
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Speaker 1: gave him two years of accommodations and two years of

433
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Speaker 1: it sounds like great helpful love and calmness and a

434
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Speaker 1: place to be around family. So that's great. So you

435
00:23:48,800 --> 00:23:51,520
Speaker 1: did that. I mean, that's a long time. And now

436
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Speaker 1: I think if it were me, I think the conversation

437
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Speaker 1: is something like this. And I often loads saying these

438
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Speaker 1: thoughts on the air because I know people are going

439
00:24:00,960 --> 00:24:03,320
Speaker 1: to cringe or judge what I'm going to say because

440
00:24:04,280 --> 00:24:06,400
Speaker 1: I don't know what I'm gonna say. But I think

441
00:24:06,400 --> 00:24:10,719
Speaker 1: I would say, dad, Um, I love you. I'm so

442
00:24:10,760 --> 00:24:13,720
Speaker 1: happy we have been able to have this time together.

443
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Speaker 1: But I need to talk to you about the next

444
00:24:16,600 --> 00:24:19,639
Speaker 1: phase of everything. You know, it was whatever whatever you

445
00:24:19,680 --> 00:24:21,280
Speaker 1: want to say about the two years, but now we

446
00:24:21,280 --> 00:24:24,280
Speaker 1: should focus on the next phase. And I think what's

447
00:24:24,320 --> 00:24:27,000
Speaker 1: healthy for everybody here and for both of us is

448
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Speaker 1: and then however you want to say, you know that

449
00:24:29,520 --> 00:24:34,080
Speaker 1: next step, and and what I'm seeing is like he's

450
00:24:34,080 --> 00:24:37,439
Speaker 1: there's a complacency here, right, He's settled into the comfort

451
00:24:37,480 --> 00:24:38,679
Speaker 1: of it, and he probably doesn't want to have to

452
00:24:38,680 --> 00:24:41,600
Speaker 1: face going out and doing this, but you have to

453
00:24:41,600 --> 00:24:44,520
Speaker 1: be probably doesn't want to be alone, but you have

454
00:24:44,600 --> 00:24:48,480
Speaker 1: to address what's healthy for you, your family, and for him,

455
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Speaker 1: and that is this next phase and this next step.

456
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Speaker 1: And Dad, what does that look like to you? Let

457
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Speaker 1: him talk to you about it, and here's how it

458
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Speaker 1: looks to me. Here's how it looks to me. And

459
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Speaker 1: maybe you're on the same page, or maybe he needs

460
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Speaker 1: to hear here's how it looks to you, and you

461
00:25:02,119 --> 00:25:03,760
Speaker 1: hear how it looks to him. But get to a

462
00:25:03,800 --> 00:25:06,080
Speaker 1: place where you're aligned, and get to a place where

463
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Speaker 1: you can make a plan. And I think you've got

464
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Speaker 1: to install a timeline. I agree, because the timeline is

465
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Speaker 1: definitely the thing that I mean, now that it's actually

466
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Speaker 1: come I haven't really I haven't really sat down with

467
00:25:17,960 --> 00:25:19,760
Speaker 1: him and hit the time, I'm like, we've talked in

468
00:25:19,920 --> 00:25:23,640
Speaker 1: generals about his plans, but nothing concrete or a timeline.

469
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Speaker 1: So I think that's excellent advice as far as getting

470
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Speaker 1: a timeline with him. My guidance would definitely think he's

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Speaker 1: comfortable with with the family, and you know, in the

472
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Speaker 1: I think it's it's a little bit, you know, like

473
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Speaker 1: you said, forty five years he's afraid to be alone

474
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Speaker 1: and Dad, Hey, it's not like we're going anywhere. We're here.

475
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Speaker 1: If you need us, you know, come over for dinner

476
00:25:41,640 --> 00:25:43,199
Speaker 1: or call me. I'm here for you. I love you.

477
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Speaker 1: But I need to do it's healthy, I know, for

478
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Speaker 1: for me, my family, and I think for us. So

479
00:25:47,560 --> 00:25:50,000
Speaker 1: let's look at how this looks. Let's put a deadline

480
00:25:50,040 --> 00:25:52,200
Speaker 1: on it, and let's do this in a loving way.

481
00:25:52,240 --> 00:25:54,879
Speaker 1: I really believe that's how And again, I'm sorry if

482
00:25:55,000 --> 00:25:57,240
Speaker 1: people who are good at this are thinking differently, but

483
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Speaker 1: that's what I would do. Okay, I mean that's great.

484
00:26:00,080 --> 00:26:01,679
Speaker 1: That's kind of where I felt I needed to go.

485
00:26:01,720 --> 00:26:05,200
Speaker 1: I just didn't know how to approach it without sounding

486
00:26:05,320 --> 00:26:08,119
Speaker 1: just like mean daughter, get out. No. I start with

487
00:26:08,160 --> 00:26:09,639
Speaker 1: I love you and I'm happy I've been able to

488
00:26:09,680 --> 00:26:11,639
Speaker 1: be here for you. And let's talk about what this

489
00:26:11,680 --> 00:26:14,560
Speaker 1: looks like going forward. Okay for sure? Yeah, I think

490
00:26:14,600 --> 00:26:16,520
Speaker 1: that sounds great. Thank you so much, and love listening

491
00:26:16,520 --> 00:26:18,720
Speaker 1: to you. Guys, thank you so much. We appreciate you

492
00:26:18,760 --> 00:26:21,119
Speaker 1: coming on. Take care. That's a tough one, and now

493
00:26:21,200 --> 00:26:24,720
Speaker 1: we do let's address it later ten years, fifteen years,

494
00:26:24,720 --> 00:26:28,280
Speaker 1: twenty years, my parents at fifty plus years. What can

495
00:26:28,320 --> 00:26:32,399
Speaker 1: you not get past after forty five years? I don't know,

496
00:26:32,440 --> 00:26:37,080
Speaker 1: haven't even started yet. So I'm really on air with

497
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Speaker 1: Ryan Seacrest, Kim, good morning, How you doing? How are you?

498
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Speaker 1: We don't know, We don't know. We actually don't know.

499
00:26:47,160 --> 00:26:49,439
Speaker 1: It's so really we don't know yet. So are your

500
00:26:49,480 --> 00:26:54,920
Speaker 1: sister is getting married? Congratulations? What's the issue? Yeah? So? Uh,

501
00:26:55,600 --> 00:26:57,520
Speaker 1: I don't know what to do about this. So she's

502
00:26:57,560 --> 00:27:01,240
Speaker 1: been moved this guy for like six years. He's nice, fine,

503
00:27:01,560 --> 00:27:05,359
Speaker 1: kind of boring whatever. Um, but they're engaged and also

504
00:27:05,400 --> 00:27:09,600
Speaker 1: getting married next summer. But she told me last night

505
00:27:09,640 --> 00:27:12,960
Speaker 1: that she's not attracted to him and they almost never

506
00:27:13,000 --> 00:27:19,639
Speaker 1: sleep together. Yeah. So she's thirty and lives with our parents. Um,

507
00:27:19,680 --> 00:27:22,400
Speaker 1: and he is also thirty and also lives with his parents.

508
00:27:22,800 --> 00:27:26,040
Speaker 1: Why is she getting married to him? Yeah? I don't understand,

509
00:27:26,320 --> 00:27:31,560
Speaker 1: That's what I'm wondering. And also get this, after they

510
00:27:31,560 --> 00:27:34,600
Speaker 1: get married, they have no plans moving together at all.

511
00:27:35,119 --> 00:27:40,520
Speaker 1: Why are they getting married marriage. No, I don't know,

512
00:27:40,680 --> 00:27:42,800
Speaker 1: and like, yeah, they're just gonna keep me living with

513
00:27:42,840 --> 00:27:48,720
Speaker 1: their parents. Um, so yeah, this is you, this is

514
00:27:48,720 --> 00:27:50,399
Speaker 1: your sister. Can you not say, hey, why are you

515
00:27:50,440 --> 00:27:55,360
Speaker 1: getting married? Yeah? Um, I I've raised concerns for sure.

516
00:27:55,600 --> 00:27:57,440
Speaker 1: Um and she just kind of like blows me off,

517
00:27:57,480 --> 00:28:00,480
Speaker 1: like I don't know what I'm talking about because she's

518
00:28:00,560 --> 00:28:03,240
Speaker 1: she's older than me. Like I'm a younger sister. And

519
00:28:03,680 --> 00:28:06,119
Speaker 1: you got the right idea. I mean, you can't get

520
00:28:06,160 --> 00:28:09,480
Speaker 1: married to someone and not want to be with someone. No,

521
00:28:09,880 --> 00:28:14,679
Speaker 1: this is so end like that and not lived together

522
00:28:14,720 --> 00:28:18,879
Speaker 1: after you get married. I've never wanted something else is

523
00:28:18,880 --> 00:28:20,639
Speaker 1: going on him. I don't understand it, but something's going

524
00:28:20,680 --> 00:28:25,479
Speaker 1: on there. Yeah. Um so I don't know what to do.

525
00:28:25,560 --> 00:28:29,360
Speaker 1: And like my parents are no help at all. It's

526
00:28:29,400 --> 00:28:32,359
Speaker 1: one of them in the CIA, and they need a cover,

527
00:28:33,520 --> 00:28:36,040
Speaker 1: not that I know of. Well we wouldn't know. Well

528
00:28:36,080 --> 00:28:38,440
Speaker 1: we wouldn't know, but I don't. I'm not want to

529
00:28:38,480 --> 00:28:41,200
Speaker 1: throw it out there. Maybe just continue to try to

530
00:28:41,240 --> 00:28:43,880
Speaker 1: talk to her and just be completely honest and transparent

531
00:28:44,000 --> 00:28:48,120
Speaker 1: and you have until next time. Yeah, I don't I

532
00:28:48,120 --> 00:28:50,920
Speaker 1: don't understand. First of all, don't get me started on

533
00:28:50,960 --> 00:28:53,400
Speaker 1: the marriage thing. Second of all, getting married to somebody

534
00:28:53,400 --> 00:28:55,560
Speaker 1: you're not going to be with or attracted to, it's all,

535
00:28:55,760 --> 00:29:00,440
Speaker 1: and then not living together. Yeah, I don't understand of it,

536
00:29:00,760 --> 00:29:03,479
Speaker 1: to be honest, Well, if you don't understand it and

537
00:29:03,560 --> 00:29:05,920
Speaker 1: we don't understand it, how are we gonna understand it?

538
00:29:07,320 --> 00:29:10,400
Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm just trying to stop her, try hard,

539
00:29:10,600 --> 00:29:12,960
Speaker 1: stand in front of her, maybe ask her to maybe

540
00:29:13,000 --> 00:29:15,000
Speaker 1: ask her to explain it to you. Maybe the reason

541
00:29:15,000 --> 00:29:16,960
Speaker 1: why you don't understand is because you're not asking her

542
00:29:17,000 --> 00:29:22,480
Speaker 1: to really explain it. Oh yeah, so obvious. Why didn't

543
00:29:22,480 --> 00:29:25,160
Speaker 1: we think of that? We can? Look, I think you're

544
00:29:25,160 --> 00:29:28,080
Speaker 1: doing everything you can. You're not wrong to try and

545
00:29:28,200 --> 00:29:30,240
Speaker 1: do all the things you can at least have this

546
00:29:30,680 --> 00:29:34,600
Speaker 1: sister of yours think about it. Right, But she's gonna

547
00:29:34,640 --> 00:29:39,719
Speaker 1: do what she's gonna do, and good luck thinks all

548
00:29:39,800 --> 00:29:45,040
Speaker 1: right bye? Why do you what what's going on there? Is?

549
00:29:45,280 --> 00:29:47,480
Speaker 1: I don't Is it a family pressure? Is it a cover?

550
00:29:47,720 --> 00:29:49,960
Speaker 1: What's going on? I don't know? Is that a culture thing? Like?

551
00:29:50,680 --> 00:29:53,480
Speaker 1: My mind is blown. I have no idea. Never once

552
00:29:53,520 --> 00:29:55,720
Speaker 1: heard of someone not being attracted who to who they're

553
00:29:55,720 --> 00:29:57,840
Speaker 1: gonna marry and then not living together after you get married.

554
00:29:57,960 --> 00:30:01,200
Speaker 1: So again I'm knowing, what's the point. I mean, what's

555
00:30:01,240 --> 00:30:04,720
Speaker 1: the point anyway? What's the point? I don't know when

556
00:30:04,760 --> 00:30:09,880
Speaker 1: they're living together with the family. Yeah, gotta be a reason.

557
00:30:09,960 --> 00:30:12,880
Speaker 1: I just feel like, yeah, why instead of trying to

558
00:30:12,920 --> 00:30:14,400
Speaker 1: talk her out of it, why don't we trying to

559
00:30:14,480 --> 00:30:18,600
Speaker 1: understand where she's coming from. No, That's what Kim's assignment was,

560
00:30:18,600 --> 00:30:24,320
Speaker 1: wasn't it. Yeah, hopefully she returns tubs. Bring in Kaylee May,

561
00:30:24,840 --> 00:30:29,800
Speaker 1: creator influencer Kaylee May on TikTok And there she is

562
00:30:29,840 --> 00:30:33,920
Speaker 1: with her dog on our zoom kind of dog do

563
00:30:33,960 --> 00:30:40,120
Speaker 1: you have, Holloa? It's a loud picnics. Oh my god

564
00:30:42,920 --> 00:30:50,040
Speaker 1: name his name is Oliver? Oliver. All right, well listen, Kaylee,

565
00:30:50,080 --> 00:30:51,880
Speaker 1: thank you for joining us. Thank you for coming on.

566
00:30:52,280 --> 00:30:54,280
Speaker 1: She had to make time for us because she's got

567
00:30:54,920 --> 00:30:59,800
Speaker 1: one hundred billion views on TikTok now, and I'm gonna

568
00:30:59,800 --> 00:31:02,840
Speaker 1: I'm you need to hear why because in terms, I

569
00:31:02,880 --> 00:31:06,160
Speaker 1: may need you for our new project coming out of

570
00:31:06,160 --> 00:31:08,560
Speaker 1: this Kayley conversation. I need to learn a little bit more.

571
00:31:08,600 --> 00:31:11,640
Speaker 1: But Kaylee's twenty one TikTok influencer based right here, in

572
00:31:11,680 --> 00:31:16,640
Speaker 1: southern California, known for sharing lifestyle, home decor, and organizational content.

573
00:31:17,240 --> 00:31:21,480
Speaker 1: Now let's focus on the organizational content. You've got millions

574
00:31:21,480 --> 00:31:25,800
Speaker 1: and millions of followers. And what I just watched was

575
00:31:26,280 --> 00:31:30,200
Speaker 1: I think it's your hand refilling water bottles and putting

576
00:31:30,760 --> 00:31:34,719
Speaker 1: different items into the refrigerator. And that is got how

577
00:31:34,720 --> 00:31:40,280
Speaker 1: many views? I got? Views that you? Yeah, I was

578
00:31:40,320 --> 00:31:44,520
Speaker 1: restocking my mini fridge in my bedroom and you quit

579
00:31:44,560 --> 00:31:49,880
Speaker 1: Starbucks to do that for a living, right, Yes? Incredible? Crazy?

580
00:31:50,800 --> 00:31:54,400
Speaker 1: So where were you working at Starbucks? Um? I was

581
00:31:54,440 --> 00:31:57,760
Speaker 1: just a barista in a hospital Starbucks, and that's all

582
00:31:57,760 --> 00:32:00,440
Speaker 1: I did before. And I was able to quit my

583
00:32:00,600 --> 00:32:04,320
Speaker 1: day job to do this whole time. And literally she

584
00:32:04,440 --> 00:32:08,000
Speaker 1: organizes drawers, you'll put a little like cubbies and cabinets

585
00:32:08,040 --> 00:32:10,840
Speaker 1: and and it's so soothing to watch your videos. It's

586
00:32:10,880 --> 00:32:15,600
Speaker 1: like it's satisfying. Thank you. Where did this interest in

587
00:32:15,720 --> 00:32:20,120
Speaker 1: organization come from? Um? Well, I've always been organized. I

588
00:32:20,160 --> 00:32:22,160
Speaker 1: have my step one to think for that. She's like

589
00:32:22,360 --> 00:32:25,840
Speaker 1: always had those containers before it was even trending and

590
00:32:25,920 --> 00:32:29,240
Speaker 1: in quarantine. When it started to like trend on TikTok,

591
00:32:29,360 --> 00:32:31,520
Speaker 1: that kind of like inspired me to start making my

592
00:32:31,600 --> 00:32:34,600
Speaker 1: own content, And did you have any idea that just

593
00:32:34,640 --> 00:32:39,320
Speaker 1: stalking your refrigerator would generate more views than we've ever

594
00:32:39,360 --> 00:32:41,440
Speaker 1: talked to in people in twenty years on this show.

595
00:32:42,400 --> 00:32:46,320
Speaker 1: No never. I started doing it for fun, um and

596
00:32:46,440 --> 00:32:49,600
Speaker 1: it is insane like where it went. But now you're

597
00:32:49,720 --> 00:32:53,440
Speaker 1: covering your costs, your living costs. Yeah. Yeah, Over like

598
00:32:53,520 --> 00:32:55,400
Speaker 1: the past two years, my account has grown. I've been

599
00:32:55,440 --> 00:32:58,040
Speaker 1: able to work with brands and also with Amazon and

600
00:32:58,080 --> 00:33:00,800
Speaker 1: that that is able to let me quit my job.

601
00:33:02,080 --> 00:33:03,640
Speaker 1: But do you do it for other people? Like would

602
00:33:03,640 --> 00:33:07,240
Speaker 1: you come into like, let's say, my home and organize it? Um?

603
00:33:07,280 --> 00:33:11,360
Speaker 1: I haven't done that, but it's not really worth it

604
00:33:11,400 --> 00:33:13,680
Speaker 1: because she's got a hundred million people watching her do it.

605
00:33:14,440 --> 00:33:22,960
Speaker 1: Here's listen to this. This is our organizing. You're cleaning.

606
00:33:23,000 --> 00:33:26,800
Speaker 1: What are you doing? It's a SMR. It's like a

607
00:33:26,800 --> 00:33:29,400
Speaker 1: touch of a SMR. What do you reckon your stop?

608
00:33:29,520 --> 00:33:33,440
Speaker 1: Your your your cabinets or your your spices? Waer. I

609
00:33:33,480 --> 00:33:36,040
Speaker 1: think that was like a Saint Clean video that sounded

610
00:33:36,080 --> 00:33:39,320
Speaker 1: like it. So this is what this is the point? Tubs.

611
00:33:39,800 --> 00:33:41,640
Speaker 1: If does your hand look I don't even know if

612
00:33:41,640 --> 00:33:43,560
Speaker 1: it's her hand in this video, it's gone a million people.

613
00:33:43,760 --> 00:33:46,600
Speaker 1: Did your hand? Let me see your hand? That would

614
00:33:46,600 --> 00:33:49,080
Speaker 1: pass my hand? Well, now I'm looking at this hand

615
00:33:49,080 --> 00:33:52,440
Speaker 1: because I want to get your beautiful thank you. Wait,

616
00:33:52,520 --> 00:33:55,760
Speaker 1: whose hand are we talking about? Yours? Ryan? No, I

617
00:33:56,080 --> 00:33:58,840
Speaker 1: my hand is very nice. You should see my feet.

618
00:33:59,320 --> 00:34:01,760
Speaker 1: You do have nice be Now what about this, since

619
00:34:01,760 --> 00:34:04,400
Speaker 1: you're doing the hands thing, what if I stocked my

620
00:34:04,440 --> 00:34:08,480
Speaker 1: fridge with my feet. I don't know about that one.

621
00:34:09,000 --> 00:34:12,319
Speaker 1: Well that's the point until you try, right, But what

622
00:34:12,320 --> 00:34:14,200
Speaker 1: if that became the new thing. I can pick stuff

623
00:34:14,239 --> 00:34:19,960
Speaker 1: up with my toes. We're onto something. We're here just

624
00:34:20,040 --> 00:34:22,680
Speaker 1: to say we appreciate what it is you're doing. We

625
00:34:22,719 --> 00:34:27,000
Speaker 1: also are advocates of organization. Again, we think that's good

626
00:34:27,000 --> 00:34:29,080
Speaker 1: for the mind actually, to keep things physically in the

627
00:34:29,160 --> 00:34:32,880
Speaker 1: right place so you find like mentally it's good for you. Yes, sprinkle.

628
00:34:33,000 --> 00:34:36,160
Speaker 1: Now I have to ask you, is there any place

629
00:34:36,200 --> 00:34:38,920
Speaker 1: in your apartment or house that is messy? Like you

630
00:34:38,960 --> 00:34:41,080
Speaker 1: know how like Monica on Friends is like super claim

631
00:34:41,120 --> 00:34:43,120
Speaker 1: and that she has that di like closet where she

632
00:34:43,160 --> 00:34:45,279
Speaker 1: stuffs everything, Like what's your Do you have a junk

633
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Speaker 1: drawer like you have to? Yes? Um, I have almost

634
00:34:48,680 --> 00:34:51,440
Speaker 1: like a junk closet where I keep all of the

635
00:34:51,640 --> 00:34:54,280
Speaker 1: like excess, like the restocked stuff, like if it doesn't

636
00:34:54,280 --> 00:34:57,120
Speaker 1: all fit to container, that's kind of where all goes

637
00:34:57,160 --> 00:35:00,360
Speaker 1: like in the normal packages. Um. People ask about that

638
00:35:00,400 --> 00:35:02,759
Speaker 1: all the time. They're like, can I see Like I

639
00:35:02,800 --> 00:35:09,040
Speaker 1: just know that you have so Kmie May you can

640
00:35:09,080 --> 00:35:11,880
Speaker 1: see her on TikTok. She was working in the Starbucks

641
00:35:11,880 --> 00:35:13,880
Speaker 1: in the hospital. So you know what, this is great,

642
00:35:13,960 --> 00:35:16,960
Speaker 1: but I can do better. Just stock in my fridge

643
00:35:17,360 --> 00:35:19,719
Speaker 1: and cleaning things up on TikTok and it's working. So

644
00:35:20,160 --> 00:35:24,480
Speaker 1: to the youth listening, now use your feet. I'm just

645
00:35:24,520 --> 00:35:27,280
Speaker 1: giving you an idea. Use your feet and see what happens.

646
00:35:27,520 --> 00:35:31,000
Speaker 1: It's nice to meet you. Continued success. Thank you so much,

647
00:35:31,040 --> 00:35:34,960
Speaker 1: so great to meet you too. Okay, bye bye, Oliver.

648
00:35:36,320 --> 00:35:41,920
Speaker 1: Treat do you a treat your hands? I'm telling you

649
00:35:42,000 --> 00:35:45,640
Speaker 1: right now, where is David in the social department. He

650
00:35:45,680 --> 00:35:47,600
Speaker 1: could get his camera, he could use tubs hand, we

651
00:35:47,600 --> 00:35:50,160
Speaker 1: can stock some fridges. No, I'm telling you should use

652
00:35:50,200 --> 00:35:53,680
Speaker 1: my boyfriend's hands. They're very nice, Like they're you use

653
00:35:53,719 --> 00:36:01,160
Speaker 1: your boyfriend's hands. I want to use his. I got

654
00:36:01,239 --> 00:36:04,279
Speaker 1: him a hand modeling gig with a Charcutrie company. I'm

655
00:36:04,320 --> 00:36:08,600
Speaker 1: sorry what. I'm sure he's thrilled. He's a lawyer, by

656
00:36:08,640 --> 00:36:10,279
Speaker 1: the way, guy went to law school, past the bar,

657
00:36:10,320 --> 00:36:12,520
Speaker 1: and he's got a chacouterie gig. No, it's fun for

658
00:36:12,600 --> 00:36:17,359
Speaker 1: they think he thinks it's like fun and funny. Anyway, Tumes,

659
00:36:17,440 --> 00:36:20,520
Speaker 1: let's talk after Kristin, h how you doing this morning?

660
00:36:21,560 --> 00:36:25,399
Speaker 1: I'm saying, okay, how about you doing well? So you're

661
00:36:25,440 --> 00:36:27,520
Speaker 1: not going to your father's wedding? And says on my

662
00:36:27,560 --> 00:36:31,520
Speaker 1: call screen, what's going on? Okay, So I haven't really

663
00:36:31,600 --> 00:36:34,000
Speaker 1: like decided yet, I just like I don't want to

664
00:36:34,040 --> 00:36:38,000
Speaker 1: go to his wedding. He's marrying the woman he cheated

665
00:36:38,040 --> 00:36:41,240
Speaker 1: on my mom with, and when I was in high school,

666
00:36:41,320 --> 00:36:43,520
Speaker 1: my mom found a bunch of texts that he had

667
00:36:43,560 --> 00:36:46,480
Speaker 1: been sending to her and it just completely blew up

668
00:36:46,520 --> 00:36:50,320
Speaker 1: my family and it was so horrible. We're still dealing

669
00:36:50,320 --> 00:36:53,600
Speaker 1: with a lot of the fallout and now he's marrying

670
00:36:53,640 --> 00:36:58,480
Speaker 1: this woman. Never went away. It's there's still tension. There's

671
00:36:58,480 --> 00:37:03,480
Speaker 1: still trouble, definitely. And does he I don't know if

672
00:37:03,480 --> 00:37:05,800
Speaker 1: you speak or if he writes, or how you correspond,

673
00:37:06,040 --> 00:37:09,120
Speaker 1: but does he acknowledge that he understands if it's too

674
00:37:09,200 --> 00:37:12,719
Speaker 1: uncomfortable for you. Well, I was honest with him and

675
00:37:12,760 --> 00:37:15,359
Speaker 1: told him that, you know, I don't want to go,

676
00:37:16,200 --> 00:37:19,560
Speaker 1: and he was not understanding at all and actually told me, well,

677
00:37:19,600 --> 00:37:21,680
Speaker 1: if you don't come to mind, I'm not going to

678
00:37:21,760 --> 00:37:26,040
Speaker 1: come to yours whenever you get married. What. Yeah, I'm like,

679
00:37:26,280 --> 00:37:34,360
Speaker 1: what not? Okay? That's so hard, A terrible thing to

680
00:37:34,440 --> 00:37:39,160
Speaker 1: say to your daughter. Um, I don't I don't know

681
00:37:39,200 --> 00:37:41,080
Speaker 1: that that is. I can't believe he said that, But

682
00:37:41,120 --> 00:37:43,000
Speaker 1: I don't know that that's true when it comes down

683
00:37:43,000 --> 00:37:45,080
Speaker 1: to it, that he would really miss his daughter's wedding.

684
00:37:45,360 --> 00:37:49,719
Speaker 1: But Kristen, I don't Again, I'm gonna say things that

685
00:37:50,000 --> 00:37:55,200
Speaker 1: may not be popular. But if it's me and you

686
00:37:55,239 --> 00:38:01,000
Speaker 1: are having this feeling and you are still dealing with

687
00:38:01,040 --> 00:38:05,120
Speaker 1: the fallout and you're still scarred by it, I think

688
00:38:05,400 --> 00:38:07,919
Speaker 1: it's okay for you to say, you know, you wish

689
00:38:07,960 --> 00:38:09,319
Speaker 1: him the best, but you're not going to be there

690
00:38:09,320 --> 00:38:12,360
Speaker 1: in person. I don't know. I almost think just suck

691
00:38:12,400 --> 00:38:17,399
Speaker 1: it up and go. I don't really look, you don't

692
00:38:17,440 --> 00:38:20,600
Speaker 1: have to stay the whole time, go to do the ceremony,

693
00:38:20,880 --> 00:38:23,759
Speaker 1: have the dinner. Why not wish him well and not

694
00:38:23,920 --> 00:38:25,920
Speaker 1: have to see it in person and open up all

695
00:38:25,960 --> 00:38:29,120
Speaker 1: those wounds because she's taking the high road in this situation.

696
00:38:29,719 --> 00:38:34,800
Speaker 1: You're you're you're being the adult truly just a woman

697
00:38:34,840 --> 00:38:38,320
Speaker 1: though like you guys, she is. She is the absolute worst.

698
00:38:38,480 --> 00:38:43,480
Speaker 1: Like she still hasn't made amends with like with me

699
00:38:43,600 --> 00:38:48,880
Speaker 1: or my mom and your mother be upset if you go, no,

700
00:38:49,040 --> 00:38:52,560
Speaker 1: my mom's an adult, like she's she's moved on and everything.

701
00:38:52,680 --> 00:38:54,960
Speaker 1: But it's just like, I don't know, it's just a

702
00:38:54,960 --> 00:38:58,720
Speaker 1: matter of what you can stomach. I'm I'm I wouldn't

703
00:38:58,719 --> 00:39:00,440
Speaker 1: be of the stomach. I don't think. I don't know

704
00:39:00,440 --> 00:39:03,080
Speaker 1: that I would be the adult here. And I'm saying

705
00:39:03,239 --> 00:39:05,919
Speaker 1: you wish well, you know, we should the best peace

706
00:39:05,960 --> 00:39:09,799
Speaker 1: and happiness, but I can't see it in person. Uh,

707
00:39:10,080 --> 00:39:12,920
Speaker 1: right or wrong? It's who I feel. Yeah, yeah, I

708
00:39:12,960 --> 00:39:14,920
Speaker 1: feel like there was just kind of like he crossed

709
00:39:14,920 --> 00:39:17,040
Speaker 1: the line when he said that he wouldn't like come

710
00:39:17,080 --> 00:39:21,720
Speaker 1: to mind, like what kind of that to be true?

711
00:39:21,960 --> 00:39:23,960
Speaker 1: That's childish and I don't believe that to be true

712
00:39:24,840 --> 00:39:28,360
Speaker 1: if it ends up you know, at that place. But well, Christen,

713
00:39:28,440 --> 00:39:30,799
Speaker 1: two clear choices to make good luck. And I'm sorry

714
00:39:30,840 --> 00:39:35,560
Speaker 1: you going through that? Thanks all right, bye bye? No,

715
00:39:35,640 --> 00:39:38,520
Speaker 1: I wouldn't want to see it. But you don't do this,

716
00:39:38,680 --> 00:39:41,440
Speaker 1: then that's that's where the fork in the road happens

717
00:39:41,440 --> 00:39:43,800
Speaker 1: with your relationship and your dad. It's like at that point,

718
00:39:43,840 --> 00:39:46,600
Speaker 1: it's never going to be the same holidays all that,

719
00:39:46,680 --> 00:39:49,320
Speaker 1: whether she gets married or not, it's always gonna be

720
00:39:49,360 --> 00:39:53,839
Speaker 1: this thing that just covers over them. Yes, she needs

721
00:39:53,880 --> 00:39:56,480
Speaker 1: to be the bigger person. And also the dad sounds

722
00:39:56,480 --> 00:39:59,839
Speaker 1: like a la I mean, who says that to their

723
00:40:00,040 --> 00:40:02,279
Speaker 1: you first all cheating on the mom and then say

724
00:40:02,320 --> 00:40:05,520
Speaker 1: that to your daughter, like, Okay, grow a pair, Ryan

725
00:40:05,600 --> 00:40:08,439
Speaker 1: Seacrest and the Gang. Here's Sarah's on the phone at eight.

726
00:40:09,400 --> 00:40:11,719
Speaker 1: I thought one to two seven, Sarah, good morning, how

727
00:40:11,800 --> 00:40:14,560
Speaker 1: you doing? Hi, good morning, I'm doing well. How are

728
00:40:14,560 --> 00:40:16,719
Speaker 1: you doing? We are doing well. So you and your

729
00:40:16,760 --> 00:40:22,719
Speaker 1: husband are house hunting. Yes, we're so excited, but obviously

730
00:40:23,120 --> 00:40:27,280
Speaker 1: a little stressed with this housing market. Um, my husband

731
00:40:27,280 --> 00:40:29,600
Speaker 1: and I we got married in November, so we're just

732
00:40:29,760 --> 00:40:33,279
Speaker 1: really thrilled to start of their life together and buy

733
00:40:33,320 --> 00:40:37,840
Speaker 1: a house. Which has been exciting, really exciting, but the

734
00:40:38,040 --> 00:40:40,319
Speaker 1: stressful part and where I need you guys to kind

735
00:40:40,320 --> 00:40:43,440
Speaker 1: of chime in for me, is my husband is so

736
00:40:43,560 --> 00:40:49,440
Speaker 1: insistent on a big backyard. Yes, well, we're looking in

737
00:40:49,520 --> 00:40:53,160
Speaker 1: the l A suburbs, and you know, there's really just

738
00:40:53,360 --> 00:40:55,640
Speaker 1: not a ton of house out there with like the

739
00:40:55,680 --> 00:40:58,959
Speaker 1: big backyard that he's looking for. And I don't really

740
00:40:59,160 --> 00:41:01,359
Speaker 1: I don't really need I v R. And I've never

741
00:41:01,400 --> 00:41:05,200
Speaker 1: really lived with one. So even though we're excited to

742
00:41:05,200 --> 00:41:08,239
Speaker 1: go see these houses, we end up fighting about each

743
00:41:08,280 --> 00:41:12,320
Speaker 1: one because it just isn't matching his vision of a house.

744
00:41:12,600 --> 00:41:15,120
Speaker 1: So I don't know what to do with this. You know,

745
00:41:15,239 --> 00:41:19,040
Speaker 1: it's already stressful enough, and then we're fighting about, you know,

746
00:41:19,120 --> 00:41:22,160
Speaker 1: the house on top of it. So did he grow

747
00:41:22,239 --> 00:41:25,600
Speaker 1: up with the backyard? Is that where it's coming from?

748
00:41:25,640 --> 00:41:28,799
Speaker 1: I think so he did. And I wonder if it's

749
00:41:28,880 --> 00:41:32,120
Speaker 1: like that's his picture of like a perfect house. But

750
00:41:32,440 --> 00:41:34,920
Speaker 1: he lived in l A long enough to know that

751
00:41:34,920 --> 00:41:38,239
Speaker 1: that's not super common. It's like a guy thing. I

752
00:41:38,280 --> 00:41:41,480
Speaker 1: think it's like I need my land, like this kind

753
00:41:41,520 --> 00:41:44,120
Speaker 1: of forfeit that I get it. So if you can

754
00:41:44,160 --> 00:41:46,200
Speaker 1: get a house that has a like a big backyard,

755
00:41:46,239 --> 00:41:48,560
Speaker 1: then it's almost like this like you've made it type

756
00:41:48,560 --> 00:41:52,279
Speaker 1: of vibe, you know, like well, what is the compromise

757
00:41:52,520 --> 00:41:57,520
Speaker 1: to this? Do you see a path to compromise? You know,

758
00:41:57,800 --> 00:42:00,480
Speaker 1: I want I want to help him him with his

759
00:42:00,640 --> 00:42:04,640
Speaker 1: dream house and my compromise. I'm willing to kind of,

760
00:42:04,800 --> 00:42:07,880
Speaker 1: especially with the housing market as it is, take something

761
00:42:07,960 --> 00:42:11,400
Speaker 1: that's kind of a right now, a newly married couple house.

762
00:42:12,000 --> 00:42:14,839
Speaker 1: But he's not really willing to compromise. So I don't

763
00:42:14,840 --> 00:42:20,560
Speaker 1: know how to start that conversation. You trick him. Here's

764
00:42:20,560 --> 00:42:22,640
Speaker 1: the thing, No, but it's not like what you guys,

765
00:42:22,719 --> 00:42:25,720
Speaker 1: not like a lie or anything. You find a house

766
00:42:25,800 --> 00:42:28,960
Speaker 1: that you love that's got everything right. Maybe it's turn

767
00:42:29,080 --> 00:42:31,239
Speaker 1: key and whatever, but yes, the yard is a little

768
00:42:31,239 --> 00:42:33,160
Speaker 1: bit smaller, but you take him to it and you

769
00:42:33,200 --> 00:42:34,960
Speaker 1: have him fall in love with the house, and then

770
00:42:35,000 --> 00:42:37,280
Speaker 1: maybe just by seeing the house, he's going to compromise

771
00:42:37,320 --> 00:42:39,120
Speaker 1: for the smaller backyard. But he knew you have to.

772
00:42:39,440 --> 00:42:41,719
Speaker 1: You have to physically get him to those houses. It

773
00:42:41,760 --> 00:42:43,520
Speaker 1: can't just be like on Redfin and you're showing him

774
00:42:43,520 --> 00:42:45,319
Speaker 1: in passing. You have to get him. And that's what

775
00:42:45,320 --> 00:42:47,600
Speaker 1: I'm doing with Michael. And I'm telling you he's almost

776
00:42:47,600 --> 00:42:50,560
Speaker 1: budging on some homes that have smaller backyards because he's

777
00:42:50,600 --> 00:42:52,520
Speaker 1: like well, yeah, it has all the bed and draining

778
00:42:52,560 --> 00:42:54,640
Speaker 1: now and this and that whatever, So I think you're

779
00:42:54,640 --> 00:42:57,400
Speaker 1: gonna win this one. I don't see him falling on

780
00:42:57,400 --> 00:43:01,359
Speaker 1: the sword for it. Oh okay, okay, yeah, and we'll

781
00:43:01,400 --> 00:43:06,040
Speaker 1: You're right. We've been trading redfin emails, so my vision

782
00:43:07,400 --> 00:43:09,680
Speaker 1: you get him there, don't even tell them what's happening

783
00:43:09,760 --> 00:43:11,400
Speaker 1: to be, like, Hey, meet me for lunch tomorrow at

784
00:43:11,440 --> 00:43:13,680
Speaker 1: noon at whatever place, and then go have lunch and

785
00:43:13,680 --> 00:43:16,319
Speaker 1: then after lunch you go taken to the house. Thank

786
00:43:16,360 --> 00:43:18,040
Speaker 1: you so much. I love this idea. I'm going to

787
00:43:18,120 --> 00:43:20,960
Speaker 1: do it. Good luck. Just this call makes me think

788
00:43:21,000 --> 00:43:23,040
Speaker 1: I should call into the show it for advice sometimes

789
00:43:23,800 --> 00:43:26,000
Speaker 1: why I don't know. I just listen to you guys

790
00:43:26,040 --> 00:43:28,640
Speaker 1: give advice. Everybody. Y'all were all on the same page

791
00:43:28,640 --> 00:43:32,240
Speaker 1: on that. Thank you very much their good luck and congratulations,

792
00:43:32,280 --> 00:43:34,680
Speaker 1: take care but bye. It's one of the two point seven.

793
00:43:35,120 --> 00:43:38,239
Speaker 1: It is Kiss FM. So if you ever listen to

794
00:43:38,280 --> 00:43:41,480
Speaker 1: the show, maybe you've heard us talk about how Tanya

795
00:43:41,520 --> 00:43:46,280
Speaker 1: loves to initiate a group text thread and I usually

796
00:43:46,719 --> 00:43:51,200
Speaker 1: chime in, but I don't initiate many of them, like

797
00:43:51,360 --> 00:43:53,319
Speaker 1: personal ones. He's like in the wild, not work ones,

798
00:43:53,320 --> 00:43:55,960
Speaker 1: but like in the wild ones. But I did. I

799
00:43:56,000 --> 00:44:00,320
Speaker 1: took it upon myself to initiate one the other day.

800
00:43:59,719 --> 00:44:02,400
Speaker 1: And I think it was because I saw that old

801
00:44:02,440 --> 00:44:05,960
Speaker 1: picture of me from when I first started working, when

802
00:44:05,960 --> 00:44:08,440
Speaker 1: it's like nineteen. Was that what that was? That was

803
00:44:08,480 --> 00:44:13,440
Speaker 1: a headshot for a job card to have? Yeah, I

804
00:44:13,520 --> 00:44:17,560
Speaker 1: used to give out like postcards with your face, Hey

805
00:44:17,800 --> 00:44:20,280
Speaker 1: listen to listen to me them arm morning or afternoon.

806
00:44:20,600 --> 00:44:22,759
Speaker 1: So that was so I found it. It was just

807
00:44:22,800 --> 00:44:25,400
Speaker 1: a random shot. I found it and I have bleached

808
00:44:25,400 --> 00:44:28,960
Speaker 1: blonde hair, and it's when I was is nick lash

809
00:44:30,040 --> 00:44:34,400
Speaker 1: degrees adjacent? It's really so anyway, I just threw it

810
00:44:34,440 --> 00:44:36,880
Speaker 1: out there, and then of course Tanya couldn't then she

811
00:44:36,880 --> 00:44:39,360
Speaker 1: couldn't stop texting right then she was just like I

812
00:44:39,440 --> 00:44:41,239
Speaker 1: had a dream about you guys last night, and we

813
00:44:41,280 --> 00:44:49,160
Speaker 1: were like, Okay, aren't you proud I'm mature? And wait,

814
00:44:49,200 --> 00:44:52,480
Speaker 1: can we post this picture so everyone can see? Or

815
00:44:52,560 --> 00:44:55,040
Speaker 1: was this just like I send it to David Alvarez Okay,

816
00:44:55,160 --> 00:44:57,600
Speaker 1: I don't think I have David Alberts is uh, we'll

817
00:44:57,640 --> 00:45:01,560
Speaker 1: send it to Belinda, Okay to send to David it

818
00:45:02,160 --> 00:45:03,840
Speaker 1: you guys figured out I don't figure to send it

819
00:45:03,880 --> 00:45:06,040
Speaker 1: Tomes to put it up there, and then you can

820
00:45:06,120 --> 00:45:10,440
Speaker 1: send it to who. All right, So I've been hearing

821
00:45:10,560 --> 00:45:13,840
Speaker 1: from you, Tanya Sissany that I don't put up social

822
00:45:13,840 --> 00:45:17,800
Speaker 1: content top so I did post another in the kitchen episode.

823
00:45:17,920 --> 00:45:21,319
Speaker 1: I loved this so much, so much that I came

824
00:45:21,360 --> 00:45:24,359
Speaker 1: in and then he pulled the audio from it. So

825
00:45:24,440 --> 00:45:26,800
Speaker 1: I was, you know, before America I had on Sundays.

826
00:45:26,840 --> 00:45:28,520
Speaker 1: I like to cook. I like to go to the

827
00:45:28,560 --> 00:45:30,480
Speaker 1: store in the morning. I like to cook. It's really

828
00:45:30,520 --> 00:45:33,120
Speaker 1: peaceful of you. I like it. Well, I met the

829
00:45:33,120 --> 00:45:35,719
Speaker 1: the guy. I don't eat shell fish, but I met

830
00:45:35,760 --> 00:45:37,640
Speaker 1: the guy at the fish counter. Why did you say

831
00:45:37,640 --> 00:45:39,640
Speaker 1: it was a cheat for you? Is it is shellfish?

832
00:45:40,680 --> 00:45:44,160
Speaker 1: Shell fish? Know, my doctor says don't eat too much shelf. Really,

833
00:45:44,280 --> 00:45:46,480
Speaker 1: I didn't know that it was bad, so I don't

834
00:45:46,880 --> 00:45:48,839
Speaker 1: eat much of it at all. But the guy at

835
00:45:48,880 --> 00:45:51,839
Speaker 1: the fish counter was like, I got these jumbo shrimp here, bro, yeah,

836
00:45:51,840 --> 00:45:54,160
Speaker 1: you got don't love these? And I started thinking to myself,

837
00:45:54,160 --> 00:45:57,799
Speaker 1: what I do. I'm gonna do scampi yum. It looked

838
00:45:57,800 --> 00:46:00,080
Speaker 1: really delicious. But for me, it was the delivery of

839
00:46:00,160 --> 00:46:04,080
Speaker 1: your the way you talked in your Cadence. Let me,

840
00:46:04,120 --> 00:46:06,560
Speaker 1: let me hear, and we're gonna make a very garlicky

841
00:46:06,960 --> 00:46:11,080
Speaker 1: scampy to get excited for time. Showing as a sideist

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Speaker 1: Porcini mushrooms with sun dried tomatoes and olive warl and

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Speaker 1: a dash of white wine as well. Put the music

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Speaker 1: in the background. That's my jam because I put music

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Speaker 1: on to cook. And also I find it terribly uncomfortable

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Speaker 1: to videotape yourself doing something, so I'm trying my deliveries,

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Speaker 1: trying to be more comfortable. It was very good. It's

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Speaker 1: like I would watch your cooking show. Now, I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: add a large shrimp, a little white wine, and a

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Speaker 1: dash tomato paste. That was the secret greeny dash of

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Speaker 1: tomato paste. Guys, show scampy so good. You can hear

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Speaker 1: the sizzle simmering Porcini's sun dried tomatoes, garlic parsley as

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Speaker 1: the side young almost set ready to go. It's time

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Speaker 1: for American Idol to start. That was the first that

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Speaker 1: I had before the show came on. But I have

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Speaker 1: to tell you, I don't know any casting directors are listening,

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Speaker 1: But cook and show just being in the kitchen and

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Speaker 1: make a complicated and feel like, you know a guy

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Speaker 1: that could maybe get that going. He probably are him.

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Speaker 1: But you know, I like the whole process going to

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Speaker 1: the store. I go to the store. I go to

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Speaker 1: the grocer store, and I talked to everybody it works there.

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Speaker 1: Uh And usually if you talk to anybody behind the

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Speaker 1: meats counter or the fish counter and you really get

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Speaker 1: to know them, they put you in the fresh direction. Okay, okay,

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Speaker 1: they let you in on stuff. I'm the opposite. I

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Speaker 1: don't like going to the grocery store. I feel like

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Speaker 1: it's a waste of time. I'd rather just order it. Well,

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Speaker 1: is a weekend, so I kind of look, it's an activity.

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Speaker 1: To me, it's fun. And I go in not knowing

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Speaker 1: what I'm gonna make. That's even scarier. I'm blind. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's like a sport. Oh my gosh, No, that's I

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Speaker 1: wouldn't even know what to buy. But I get so

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Speaker 1: excited when I think of, like the tomato paste secret.

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Speaker 1: It looked really good. Was it yummy? It was so garlic,

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Speaker 1: extra garlic always. But thanks for watching my cooking segment,

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Speaker 1: you know what, You're welcome. It was very good. I

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Speaker 1: can't wait for episode two and I'll keep my delivery

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Speaker 1: like that. I think it's it's a little bit more

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Speaker 1: it's like a little more fun. It's not as mean

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Speaker 1: as like Gordon Ramsay or you know. So I feel

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Speaker 1: like it's like a good balance of like direct but

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Speaker 1: sincere and calming. Well, you're welcome on Air with Ryan Seacrest.

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Speaker 1: That is going to do it for us tomorrow and

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Speaker 1: all new Ryan's roses to care of yourself. Thanks for

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Speaker 1: listening to On Air with Ryan Seacrest. Make sure to

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