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Speaker 1: All right, guys, time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And

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Speaker 1: if you need advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting,

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Speaker 1: just like we're gonna read this one right here, right now,

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Speaker 1: to be yours. You never know. Let me put my

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Speaker 1: sexy on, buckle up, and hold on tight. Here. It

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Speaker 1: is the one and only the Strawberry Letter. That's another thing,

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Speaker 1: another meeting, another meeting. Yes, all right, here we go.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, nephew. I want my boss so bad? Is

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Speaker 1: the subject? Just Stephen Shirley. I am a female in

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Speaker 1: my mid twenties and I started a new job a

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Speaker 1: few months ago. While I love it, I'm planning to

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Speaker 1: put in my notice because I found a better saying job.

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Speaker 1: My work environment is very challenging for me because the

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Speaker 1: entire time I'm at work, I'm fantasizing about my boss.

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Speaker 1: When I'm at home, I'm always thinking about him. When

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Speaker 1: I get dressed for work daily, I dress to get

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Speaker 1: his attention. My boss is almost as old as my father,

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Speaker 1: but I am so attracted to him that the age

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Speaker 1: doesn't bother me. He's very sweet and loves his job

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Speaker 1: and all of his employees. I feel like we have

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Speaker 1: a meaningful We have meaningful We have had meaningful conversations

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Speaker 1: alone and occasionally flirt with each other. While I'm with him,

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Speaker 1: my mind sometimes drifts off, and I can't help but

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Speaker 1: imagine us in various sexual positions all over the office.

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Speaker 1: You missed the line back up where you say while

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Speaker 1: I'm with him, you say wis win? Oh okay that

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Speaker 1: when I'm with him, my mind sometimes drifts off, and

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Speaker 1: I can't help imagine us in various sexual positions all

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Speaker 1: over the office, at my house, outside, any and everywhere.

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Speaker 1: He's made it clear that our company's policy prohibits coworkers

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Speaker 1: told me that so I would know he wants me,

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Speaker 1: but he can't have me because he might get fired.

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Speaker 1: I can't wait to see his reaction when I tell

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Speaker 1: The way he responds will tell me if I should

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Speaker 1: pursue him once I'm working somewhere else. I hope that

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Speaker 1: have left a really good job over nothing. I'm thinking

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Speaker 1: I should test the waters before I resign. But how

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Speaker 1: do I do that? Do I come out and tell

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Speaker 1: him that I'm head over heels for him? Or do

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Speaker 1: see what he does. He has told me that a

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Speaker 1: man will let a woman know if he wants her

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Speaker 1: through his actions. But if I'm the only one that

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Speaker 1: The first thing I'm gonna say to you is you

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Speaker 1: paying attention to what's really going on here? This man,

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Speaker 1: your boss, who you say is several years older than you,

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Speaker 1: has given you no indication whatsoever that he's interested in you.

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Speaker 1: And I'm sure as a man he's noticed you, but

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Speaker 1: he hasn't acted on that. In fact, he's done just

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Speaker 1: the opposite. He's told you, in his cool old school way,

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Speaker 1: her know by his actions. He hasn't done that. He

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Speaker 1: also said it's against couplany policy, and you know this

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Speaker 1: as well, to date each other, to hook up. He's

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Speaker 1: not trying to lose his job. He's not trying to

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Speaker 1: You say you like working there. If you quit, you

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Speaker 1: and the facts don't say that. The facts say that

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Speaker 1: he's completely not interested, and you got to deal with that.

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Speaker 1: Maybe you need to go on to this other job,

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Speaker 1: because I don't see any good coming out of this

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Speaker 1: if you stay here. Steve, Wow, little girl, Oh bye, ma, lady,

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Speaker 1: you all by yourself. I can't believe that you've gone

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Speaker 1: the way out and everything is based on your fantasies.

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Speaker 1: You've completed a whole scenario. How long have you been

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Speaker 1: a better paying job. Okay, cool, go do that. But

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Speaker 1: now here comes the rest of it. It's been very

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Speaker 1: you're fantasizing about your boss. We're gonna get into this

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Speaker 1: you have meaningful conversations alone and occasionally flirt with each other.

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Speaker 1: He's made it clear that our company policy previous co

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Speaker 1: workers in relationships from hooking up. But guess what you

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Speaker 1: came away with that. I'm pretty sure he told me that,

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Speaker 1: so I know he wants me right, it's company policy. Yes,

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Speaker 1: hang on, Steve, hang on. We'll have part two of

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Speaker 1: your response coming up at twenty three minutes after the

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Speaker 1: We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening

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Speaker 1: Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right, come on, Steve, let's

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Speaker 1: recap today's Strawberry Letters. Subject it is I want my

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Speaker 1: boss so bad? Little girl, Little girl, Let me just

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Speaker 1: get this out the way. This entire letter has been

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Speaker 1: played out and written in your head. You've been up

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Speaker 1: in your little brain just dancing around in your mid twenties,

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Speaker 1: and you've created all of these scenarios. Now. I don't

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Speaker 1: doubt that you're attracted to this man. I know you

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Speaker 1: fantasizing about this man. I don't know if this man

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Speaker 1: I have nothing in this letter that says he shares

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Speaker 1: me know where your head is at. In this whole letter,

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Speaker 1: you said after you fantasize about having these very sexual

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Speaker 1: These company policies were not written so you know, so

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Speaker 1: you would know that your boss wants you. These company

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Speaker 1: policies were created to prevent in work relationships that were hamper,

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Speaker 1: or profitable. This is why these were created, nan, she said,

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Speaker 1: But he can't have me because he might get five.

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Speaker 1: So let me tell you something about this man right him. Well,

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Speaker 1: first of all, let me finish the letter. I can't

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Speaker 1: I'm working somewhere else. I hope he feels the same

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Speaker 1: would have left a really good job for nothing. So really,

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Speaker 1: this man It ain't the really that you found a

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Speaker 1: So you could pursue this man because you said because

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Speaker 1: if I would have left it, really, if he doesn't

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Speaker 1: a really good job over nothing. I'm thinking I should

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Speaker 1: do that? We're not gonna tell you that. Do I

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Speaker 1: Or do I play it cool and brush up against

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Speaker 1: him and see what he does at work? You fitling,

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Speaker 1: this man. Wait, you fit little girl? Or your breasts?

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Speaker 1: Are you gonna run your breast across his chest? Which

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Speaker 1: one you're gonna do? And then? And it would let

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Speaker 1: What if I'm the only one who wants to have sex?

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Speaker 1: Because he was trying to help you understand something. A

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Speaker 1: shown you no actions. He tried. He could be giving

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Speaker 1: you a little lesson, little girl. How should I proceed him? All? Right,

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Speaker 1: here go to facts. All this is built on your fantasies.

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Speaker 1: Number two, you're in your head all by yourself. Number three,

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Speaker 1: haven't thought about it. This man is in a relationship.

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Speaker 1: You didn't mention any of that. You've totally nord what

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Speaker 1: this old player's business fault. This man has someone, this dude,

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Speaker 1: they walk around with all this swag and all this

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Speaker 1: You know how many times I've been here. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I just can't imagine. No, I don't get into it now.

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Speaker 1: explain something to you. Girl. Ain't no telling what's going

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Speaker 1: see all this. I know what this is. Your boss

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Speaker 1: forty six minutes after the hour, we'll of Sports Talk

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Speaker 1: with Junior. Right after this, you're listening to The Dame

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Speaker 1: Harvey Morning Show