Speaker 1: From Hollywood. See you. Thank you for listening to us
Speaker 1: on air with Ryan Seacrest. Would you not want to know?
Speaker 1: I'm just listening to lyrics. Would you not want to know?
Speaker 1: I don't know. Would I not want to know? But
Speaker 1: let it still go on? Oh? I would want to know?
Speaker 1: All of it's so painful. What's the problem with relationships?
Speaker 1: The pain? Yeah? That's sometimes I don't get into him.
Speaker 1: I know you're always waiting for the shoe to drop?
Speaker 1: Are you like that too? I am like that? Yeah, really,
Speaker 1: which is a real problem. Can you ask your therapist
Speaker 1: tiny about that for me? Yeah? Yeah, yeah, I can
Speaker 1: help you, actually, because I've talked to her about it
Speaker 1: at NAZA. Why is that they were always waiting for something?
Speaker 1: Everybody can be like that, even if you're children that
Speaker 1: you can constantly be waiting for the shoe to drop.
Speaker 1: But that's not the way to live your life. I'm
Speaker 1: not living my life like that. I'm not waiting for
Speaker 1: the shoot drop. Well, yeah, they should not live like that.
Speaker 1: You're not waiting for Robbie to you like that through
Speaker 1: more heartbreak than you have. Yes, I think that when
Speaker 1: you are hurt time and time again, you know that
Speaker 1: of relationships that you're just hurt, and so you kind
Speaker 1: of live in this pattern space of like waiting for
Speaker 1: that hurt to happen, and you don't get into them
Speaker 1: because you know how bad the pain is, so you
Speaker 1: push them off that way. So it's not necessarily that
Speaker 1: you think Robbie is gonna hurt you. You just think
Speaker 1: the hurt is going to happen. Now somehow it's the
Speaker 1: worst way to live. I'm much better. I'm much much
Speaker 1: better now. But like when I first started therapy, that
Speaker 1: was like one of my big things. You feel it,
Speaker 1: like what guid do. I know it's gonna sound cliche
Speaker 1: and everybody says it, but being says it. But being present,
Speaker 1: being like living in the day to day, in the
Speaker 1: moment of the relationship. And also, um, I have a
Speaker 1: little bit of that mental like I was a little
Speaker 1: bit in that headspace of nothing good lasts forever, like
Speaker 1: everything good cup must come to an end. So dark,
Speaker 1: I know, and I had to really get myself out
Speaker 1: of it. But you don't portray that like to us
Speaker 1: or like you what we see like on Instagram you
Speaker 1: seem so happy. Well I am happy, I am super happy,
Speaker 1: But you don't you didn't say that, just now, Well
Speaker 1: you can be both things. They can coexist. What happiness
Speaker 1: and unhappiness? No happiness and like fear fear. Yeah, it's
Speaker 1: a lot of fluctuates, like a lot of fluidity. It's
Speaker 1: a lot of fluidity, and it's all rooted in fear
Speaker 1: and like not living in faith, it's all rooted in pain.
Speaker 1: Like I guess, yeah, I guess I can separate, like
Speaker 1: because as a parent, like I'm happy with my kids
Speaker 1: have I'm happy for that. I'm also like scared that
Speaker 1: they can get hurt or like, yeah they're scared, you know,
Speaker 1: like I'm scared when they leave the door the house
Speaker 1: every day. That's a different scare. Do you ever think
Speaker 1: because you have kids? Are you have friends of mine
Speaker 1: that have kids say to me, just remember when you
Speaker 1: have kids that you still have a relationship, because otherwise,
Speaker 1: you know, the kids become obviously such a focal point
Speaker 1: that you lose the connection with your partner. Date nights something,
Speaker 1: they say to me, a lot weekends away, all of
Speaker 1: that is so important to you. Say come over. They say, hey, right,
Speaker 1: we gotta still date. You know when you have kids.
Speaker 1: Michael and I were counting down the days until they're
Speaker 1: out of the house. Are you kidding me? You know
Speaker 1: about the tow too two rule? Right? I remind me again.
Speaker 1: You told it to I know, and I forgot it
Speaker 1: to two dates a month, two dates a month, a
Speaker 1: weekend away two months, and a week away every two
Speaker 1: every two years. Two we do we overcompensate for that.
Speaker 1: You guys are good. No wonder she's talking about not
Speaker 1: understanding what we're talking about. Daniell was like, we date
Speaker 1: like often? Is he romantic? Like? How? I mean, I
Speaker 1: just feel like I'm always I don't. Yeah, like I
Speaker 1: feel romance, that's what you're asking. Yeah, yeah, I'm good.
Speaker 1: All right, Well that was fun. I was gonna give
Speaker 1: you guys a suggestion to do, but maybe i'll do
Speaker 1: a little bit later. Homework. It's fun. It's fun homework.
Speaker 1: The thought, let's come back in a minute and start
Speaker 1: paying these bills today. Fun air with Ryan Secrets so
Speaker 1: your morning act details on a secret sales schedule the
Speaker 1: Target has with different items on sale depending on the
Speaker 1: day of the week. I mean, you have to think
Speaker 1: Target is a playground for opportunity of getting things done
Speaker 1: all at once, especially if you have kids. Right, you
Speaker 1: can get in there. What don't they have? I needed, uh,
Speaker 1: slippers and a vaporizer and you can get your groceries
Speaker 1: and you can have a delivered ba cut out of coffee,
Speaker 1: a banana, slippers and a vaporize ye and a scooter
Speaker 1: if you need her, a helmet or some weights. I
Speaker 1: mean when I was a kid, we didn't have places
Speaker 1: that every you got to go to different places. Candle pillow,
Speaker 1: you walk in there and close bathing suit. Yeah, it's
Speaker 1: really someone that loves efficiency. Target Efficient her favorite place
Speaker 1: to go Target Target Target because everything's there and they
Speaker 1: can get a shirt, all right, or toys they really
Speaker 1: care to. I don't know when I was a kid,
Speaker 1: I wanted a nice shirt. Uh, Ruby is coming from
Speaker 1: the back room here, Ruby, are you engaged? It happening?
Speaker 1: Oh my god, Ryan, the pressure of the are you engaged? Well?
Speaker 1: What's going on with this dude? He doesn't he hear
Speaker 1: about this all the time on the air, And wouldn't
Speaker 1: you think that would help him move along? He has
Speaker 1: heard and he just laughs and he's like, don't worry,
Speaker 1: coming soon. But I'm like, okay, so not engaged. Mom.
Speaker 1: If you're listening, we'll be still not in with this
Speaker 1: guy conscience of a saint. Eight years. I'm at three
Speaker 1: and I'm like, I know the ringwatch can technically work
Speaker 1: for both of you at this point. Do you think
Speaker 1: it's time right now? Yeah? And do you think that
Speaker 1: that's on his mind? Yeah, it's getting married. We're talking
Speaker 1: about correct, I'll like skip the engagement just elope. No, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: So you're telling me that is the year. If he
Speaker 1: waits another year, you're out. Yeah, year eighteen eight years
Speaker 1: and you have the patience of the same See y'all.
Speaker 1: You all were giving me craft for ultimatums and now
Speaker 1: look at you. The fifth Avatar will be released and
Speaker 1: wait for the fifth one. Oh no, wait, no, it's no,
Speaker 1: it's a third one. It's the second one. The second
Speaker 1: one is out now, yes, but the third Okay, I
Speaker 1: was I was talking about what she was saying a
Speaker 1: longer time from now project Okay, So Ruby, what is
Speaker 1: it you're planning? Uh? Well, I was trying to plan
Speaker 1: my threint Daniella, my sister was actually yes, So it's
Speaker 1: kind of like, you know, paying homage to the King Seneta,
Speaker 1: which is like a tradition. Um, I didn't get to
Speaker 1: have a keen, sanea. So it was kind of gonna
Speaker 1: be my time to you know, is it trentonieta common?
Speaker 1: It's not as common, but my set had one. Yeah,
Speaker 1: so it was it was it was just fun and
Speaker 1: it was like, I want one, I need one, but wait,
Speaker 1: your sister had one. And then your sister says she's
Speaker 1: gone planning for you. Yes, and now we're what like
Speaker 1: a week away, and she she was She kept telling
Speaker 1: me like, we're gonna lock it in, we're gonna get
Speaker 1: this venue, We're going to do this, We're gonna and
Speaker 1: now it's she dropped the ball. She did people peas. Honestly,
Speaker 1: you really can't really on anybody but yourself, not even
Speaker 1: your family, because they disappoint. They really do. Balls dropped everywhere,
Speaker 1: you know what. I was talking to friend this the
Speaker 1: other day about this too. No follow through friends? Where
Speaker 1: is to follow through? People follow through? Want something done,
Speaker 1: you gotta do it yourself. This is why I don't
Speaker 1: stay at anybody's house. I hate staying I just because
Speaker 1: I don't I don't know, but it makes me uncomfortable.
Speaker 1: Would stay your house though your guest and people disappoint you?
Speaker 1: Put a robot a little mints. When you leave you,
Speaker 1: I'll give you a bill. So why why did you
Speaker 1: not have AA? So my parents gave me the option.
Speaker 1: They're like, you can have a kinsieta or you can
Speaker 1: take a trip, like maybe go to Mexico. And I
Speaker 1: didn't get either. They kind of played her. I didn't
Speaker 1: get the engage marring now little child for sure. So ruby,
Speaker 1: can't you be candid with your sister and say, hey,
Speaker 1: what is going on? It's a week out, it's too
Speaker 1: we actually haven't really talked about it. She got back
Speaker 1: from Columbia and she was like so happy because she
Speaker 1: got back from vacation, and she's just like, hey, like
Speaker 1: hasn't really mentioned it? And I'm just like please, I'm
Speaker 1: just like, how can we like have a conversation and
Speaker 1: how can I express that I'm frustrated, But I'm also
Speaker 1: not trying to be like a drength done yet a zilla.
Speaker 1: You know, here's the thing, something you don't want to know.
Speaker 1: I think this is good because she's gonna feel bad.
Speaker 1: She's probably already feeling bad, and you're gonna be engaged soon.
Speaker 1: You're gonna need her to like do all the wedding
Speaker 1: stuff yea, so maybe don't. I don't wreck the boat.
Speaker 1: I don't think I would trust her with wedding stuff.
Speaker 1: I don't think so. And you know what, you can't
Speaker 1: rely on family. That's what this tells you. Friends, family,
Speaker 1: No followed through. Man, I just got I's still walking
Speaker 1: around with a ring in his pocket. No follow This
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Speaker 1: I was gonna start the same day on air with
Speaker 1: Ryan Seacrest show, Michael, are you around Achaea? From the
Speaker 1: back room, I am, how's your dating going? Not good?
Speaker 1: On her face? Look at her? I just I try
Speaker 1: all these dating apps, and I just think that I
Speaker 1: enjoy them sometimes, especially new ones that come out, But
Speaker 1: I feel like the only way I'm gonna actually meet
Speaker 1: somebody is going out or meeting them through think that
Speaker 1: just takes one. So what are the Taste Buds app?
Speaker 1: So it matches people based on their music taste. So
Speaker 1: you start by picking your favorite artists when you make
Speaker 1: the account, and you can also sink it with like
Speaker 1: your phone music, or you can just pick your favorite
Speaker 1: artist through the app, and it connects with people who
Speaker 1: have similar music taste. So every time that you appear
Speaker 1: on someone's profile or homescreen, it plays a song from
Speaker 1: one of your favorite artists, and so they either like
Speaker 1: it or they don't. UM. And I honestly thought this
Speaker 1: would be the one. I was like, I love music,
Speaker 1: I work in music. UM. But it was honestly the
Speaker 1: worst one. I think. I've been on Why Why. There
Speaker 1: was some interesting people on there, um, and I really
Speaker 1: didn't mount to a lot of people crazy people or
Speaker 1: um what was the vibe? Like BEETHOVENI like actors, you
Speaker 1: don't like beethovenure good, but like they just put on
Speaker 1: like a show that Sorry. So this is a new
Speaker 1: dating app supposed to link based on your music taste,
Speaker 1: and you say it's not great. Yeah, I feel like
Speaker 1: there's not a lot of people on it yet because
Speaker 1: it's so new, so maybe I have to give it,
Speaker 1: you know, another chance. But it imagines you with even
Speaker 1: if you just have one artist, So some artists you
Speaker 1: can have some similar tastes. But then there's ones that
Speaker 1: are like just totally not in and I go on
Speaker 1: their profile and like Beethoven or like that. I don't know. We're,
Speaker 1: you know, asking you to try all these dating apps,
Speaker 1: but I shouldn't should I mean, it's fine because it
Speaker 1: gives me more opportunities I guess to Yeah, all right,
Speaker 1: well the next one. What's the next app you're gonna try? Um?
Speaker 1: I have a list. I'm not sure it's one yet,
Speaker 1: but there's a few news still like on the main
Speaker 1: ones like Hinge and all those right, good, we want
Speaker 1: you to find a relationship. We will not stop until
Speaker 1: you find love. Be guys, I did that grape eating
Speaker 1: thing under the table like everyone sent on TikTok. Oh,
Speaker 1: that's right. So what was that? Okay? So that was
Speaker 1: you had to do it on New Year's Eve and
Speaker 1: it was you had to eat grapes. Twelve grapes were
Speaker 1: red underwear and just manifest love. And that's what me
Speaker 1: and my friends years. So cute, why not insane? Good luck, happy,
Speaker 1: it's gonna be. This is the year Mikayla in the
Speaker 1: back room for love for you. So this is really
Speaker 1: interesting and it's gone viral on TikTok so maybe you
Speaker 1: heard about it. But it is true that maybe we're
Speaker 1: not cleaning ourselves enough in all the spots when we're
Speaker 1: taking a shower and getting ready for work every day.
Speaker 1: So I will tell you that I can get I've
Speaker 1: had in my belly button. It get like red, or
Speaker 1: I must not have been in there cleaning it enough,
Speaker 1: or it gets red after you do go in there
Speaker 1: and clean it out. It does. But I have an
Speaker 1: any do you prefer in any or an audi Um,
Speaker 1: I don't know if there's a preference, but I haven't any.
Speaker 1: I always wanted Anuti because I always felt like Audi
Speaker 1: people were fit. Ye interesting that way. I always thought
Speaker 1: because I had any it was because I was a
Speaker 1: chubby kid. Oh that's funny. I thought about that way,
Speaker 1: and that's part of my issues. You can tell your
Speaker 1: therapist that Tania too. But it's true. There are five
Speaker 1: body parts we are not washing enough. And Dr Jen
Speaker 1: Coddle is on the line with us now. She's got
Speaker 1: over a hundred thousand loyal followers on TikTok and she's
Speaker 1: sharing these health related tips and advice. So five areas, doctor,
Speaker 1: we're not cleaning enough. Huh uh, that's yeah, you're right.
Speaker 1: I don't think we are at least well, we were
Speaker 1: just almost the belly button. What can happen to your
Speaker 1: belly button? Yeah, So this is the thing. A lot
Speaker 1: of people don't actually clean their belly button, like they
Speaker 1: forget about it. And if we don't wash our belly button,
Speaker 1: especially those with any's, like if you have an audie, Okay,
Speaker 1: it's gonna get clean somehow, right, but in any you
Speaker 1: can actually develop infections. Um an odor can come from
Speaker 1: the belly button. Sometimes stones or sort of debris can
Speaker 1: collect and build up in there. Uh, it can be
Speaker 1: really gross and also affect your health. So yeah, the
Speaker 1: belly button is definitely top of my list. Just question quickly,
Speaker 1: any AUDI, like who makes that decision? That's a great question. Well,
Speaker 1: a lot of it has to do with UM, your genetics,
Speaker 1: sort of how you developed UM, any surgical procedures you
Speaker 1: might have had when you are baby, things like that.
Speaker 1: So usually by the time we're thinking about our belly buttons,
Speaker 1: we can't really affect whether it's in your AUDI. So
Speaker 1: we're kind of don't because if I could go back
Speaker 1: and make a request, I thought I wanted an AUDI
Speaker 1: because I always thought I saw audis as fit people. Interesting. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I have a lot of interesting things to tell you,
Speaker 1: all right, listen next, top of the ears. I just
Speaker 1: noticed that a hair grow on the top of my ear.
Speaker 1: Oh congratulations, Yeah, you know our ear. So we spend
Speaker 1: a lot of time thinking about the inside of the
Speaker 1: ear appropriately, so ear waxing, que tips and stuff like that.
Speaker 1: People really are tuned into. But UM as a family doctor,
Speaker 1: what I noticed is like the top of the ear
Speaker 1: that will crease above the top of the ear or
Speaker 1: the ear lobe or like the back of the ear,
Speaker 1: and even that crease set the ear, like when the
Speaker 1: ear comes around. Um. I always say, now, this is
Speaker 1: gonna sound gross, but I always say, take two fingers,
Speaker 1: you know, kind of swish it around on the area
Speaker 1: and smell it. If it's gross, you probably haven't watched
Speaker 1: it recently. I know it's kind of grass, but but
Speaker 1: it's a good test, right, all right, Dr Jan Here
Speaker 1: the top five areas people don't wash enough, and I
Speaker 1: rushed through showers sometimes. Another one, you say, is under
Speaker 1: your fingernails. Yeah, yeah, so under our fingernails. And I
Speaker 1: think hand washing in general has become topab list for
Speaker 1: a lot of us because of COVID and CLUE and
Speaker 1: all that kind of stuff, which is great, but we
Speaker 1: forget about the fingernails. So get underneath those fingernails super important.
Speaker 1: Right on the top five things, we're watch our legs. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: So this is the thing. I don't know if you
Speaker 1: guys knew about this or heard about this, but a
Speaker 1: few years ago there was all this debate online about
Speaker 1: should you wash your legs or not. The idea is
Speaker 1: that there are some people who get in the shower,
Speaker 1: like shampoo their hair whatever, washed with soap, maybe with
Speaker 1: their hands are washed out, but they don't specifically like
Speaker 1: wash their legs. And then there's another camp of people
Speaker 1: that like literally do have a washcloth and wash leg
Speaker 1: Now maybe it's a doctor and me, what are the
Speaker 1: hygiene fanatics, But i'mlike team washed legs, like deliberately just
Speaker 1: to make sure they're clean, get the the knees and
Speaker 1: all that kind of stuff. Um, but yeah, that's something
Speaker 1: that not everyone actually does all the time. Okay, you're
Speaker 1: listening to this, I want to share this. And in
Speaker 1: between our toes, we don't clean them enough. Yeah yeah,
Speaker 1: the toes of course, because you can get fungal infections
Speaker 1: and stuff like that. Like the idea is just don't
Speaker 1: forget these little parts that we take for granted, you know.
Speaker 1: And even the bottom of the feet, right, um, that's
Speaker 1: an important part. Back of the neck. Um. I did
Speaker 1: another video where I mentioned some of the other parts,
Speaker 1: the back of the neck, the bottom of the feet,
Speaker 1: even our bottom, Like some people don't actually wash their bottom,
Speaker 1: they just let soap runs down it. I feel like,
Speaker 1: all right, well, Dr Jan, thank you so much for
Speaker 1: coming on and continued success. No problem, Thank you, You're welcome.
Speaker 1: Thank you. I mean I don't wash. What do you
Speaker 1: do in there? I get in real quick. I washed
Speaker 1: my armpits and like get out. You know, if there's
Speaker 1: other we're gonna send you diagram. Yeah. I just feel
Speaker 1: like the soapy water just like runs itself down and
Speaker 1: then I'm gonna shake my legs and I shave things
Speaker 1: and time to time so that washes those Wow. Everything.
Speaker 1: Kutcher don't even have soap, so what Okay, Well we
Speaker 1: should talk to him about it doesn't sound right to me.
Speaker 1: And how do you know what? I think that there
Speaker 1: was a story about it, hold on, let me go
Speaker 1: and everything. Yeah, everything in their mouths Ashton Kutcher sarcastic. Yeah,
Speaker 1: they're being sarcastic because there was like this rumor that
Speaker 1: they didn't bade their kids every day, and then they
Speaker 1: were joking. They were joking about that, and then then
Speaker 1: they posted a video informations for their as for their
Speaker 1: own showering habits, Kunis and Kutcher Bull said on Armchair
Speaker 1: Expert podcasts that they refrain from using soap on their
Speaker 1: entire bodies every day. Thank you, I washed what Are
Speaker 1: they being sarcastic? You guys, came from his own mouth.
Speaker 1: I washed my art and my you know what daily
Speaker 1: and nothing else ever. Same same Dax there, shower without
Speaker 1: soap together back Shephard Christen, everybody, come on, oh my god.
Speaker 1: All right, sarcasm comes from one's own mouth, f y.
Speaker 1: I I don't think their wings sarcastic. It's just confert
Speaker 1: normal conversation like this. All right, well wash other things.
Speaker 1: That's the bottom line here air with Ryan Seacrets. Big Papa.
Speaker 1: What do you call Robbie? Not big Papa? No, Zaddy Zaddy? No,
Speaker 1: I don't calm daddy. Sometimes it called daddy. What do
Speaker 1: you call your husband? Michael Ssony? I call him babe.
Speaker 1: But then when we were on the kids, it's daddy.
Speaker 1: But now you don't call daddy just by himself. No, no,
Speaker 1: that's not big Papa. No, I think it's funny. No not,
Speaker 1: I can should I really like you to call him daddy?
Speaker 1: Which is the two of you? Oh? I was sorry.
Speaker 1: I was saying big Papa. Are you would think that's funny?
Speaker 1: Big Papa? Yeah? I think he would him home and
Speaker 1: saying hey, big Papa probably would be like what happened
Speaker 1: to you. I appreciate the song. Ye, daddy, daddy, Jared,
Speaker 1: Good morning, How are you? I'm good? How are you?
Speaker 1: I'm doing well. What does your fiance call you, big papa? Daddy? Uh?
Speaker 1: She just really calls me baby about it. Baby seems
Speaker 1: to me like the most common babe. What do you
Speaker 1: use ryan, babe? Baby? Baby? Yeah, unless I'm around my
Speaker 1: parents use babe. Actually, honey, sweet parents, I'll probably say sweetie.
Speaker 1: I know it's a little grandma ish, but it seems
Speaker 1: a little more appropriate than baby time. I hear sweetie,
Speaker 1: as if something sweetie like that, nothing like tell you
Speaker 1: put you in your place. I can't say honey. It
Speaker 1: feels weird. It's tough for me contrived to meney a
Speaker 1: lot of these with all my kids and Jared. So,
Speaker 1: your fiance wants to get married in the same place
Speaker 1: where she and her ex plan to get married. Oh
Speaker 1: my yes, Um. So my fiance and I've been together
Speaker 1: for three years. She is wonderful. I will say that
Speaker 1: she is super sweet. My family loves her. Um. I
Speaker 1: really do want to spend the rest of my life
Speaker 1: with her. Her former fiance UM passed away, and she
Speaker 1: wants to get married in the same place that they
Speaker 1: had originally picked out. And then it gets a little
Speaker 1: bit more weird because she wants to use the same dress.
Speaker 1: She kept the dress She's got a lot of time
Speaker 1: to find and it is, it's a gorgeous dress. Um.
Speaker 1: I just I don't know, I feel a little weird
Speaker 1: about the whole thing. I feel a little bit like
Speaker 1: I'm a placeholder. Um. I don't know if I'm overreacting though,
Speaker 1: It just it feels off that she's really, um, I
Speaker 1: guess stuck on this one thing. I want to be respectful,
Speaker 1: But at the same time, I'm like, he's a different
Speaker 1: chapter and that chapter is closed, you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: This new what advice do you have? This is so
Speaker 1: heavy because he passed away, So you want to be
Speaker 1: sensitive to that. Is she is there an attachment to
Speaker 1: this venue, to this place? Like why is she? Yeah,
Speaker 1: why is she so hung up on the location? Why
Speaker 1: does it have to be there? So she says that
Speaker 1: she has spent a lot of time and it is,
Speaker 1: it's it's a great location. She spent a lot of
Speaker 1: time trying to find one that would be um in
Speaker 1: their budget at the time, which is pretty similar to
Speaker 1: our budget now, um, and that it was just something
Speaker 1: I think that she spent so much time in. But
Speaker 1: I do personally feel like there is a little bit
Speaker 1: of some unresolved attachment there there you're gonna have to
Speaker 1: work through there. I mean, you know, I mean, I say,
Speaker 1: he said this is heavy, and this is you know,
Speaker 1: there's death involved here. Then there it is Jared that
Speaker 1: you said it right there. You you have reservation with this,
Speaker 1: like you want to be sensitive to what she's gone through.
Speaker 1: But the fact that you have an issue with this,
Speaker 1: like this is for life with you, you know, like
Speaker 1: you're marrying her, you love her, but you have a
Speaker 1: little bit of an issue that there is some sort
Speaker 1: of But it might not even have to do with
Speaker 1: with this guy, honestly, because I think I have some
Speaker 1: friends that have had their weddings planned since they were
Speaker 1: fifteen years old. They knew exactly where they wanted to
Speaker 1: get married. They knew what kind of dress they wanted,
Speaker 1: what colors they wanted, and that's what they choked like.
Speaker 1: They were just adamant about that being there, wedding colors
Speaker 1: and their bridesmaid dresses and they just knew. So maybe
Speaker 1: she's the same way doesn't have to do with the guy,
Speaker 1: just has to do with her vision when she was
Speaker 1: a little girl. Okay, Um, I mean I could I
Speaker 1: can certainly phrase it that way and just kind of
Speaker 1: be like, hey, like how long you know did you
Speaker 1: have this place picked out? Um? She is an l
Speaker 1: a local, so I mean, you know, it's entirely possible that, yeah,
Speaker 1: she did kind of grow up seeing that spot and
Speaker 1: being like hey, one day like that could be Well, listen,
Speaker 1: I think this is all good advice. That's so good
Speaker 1: that would just talk it out here and he didn't
Speaker 1: talk it out with her, talk it out with her
Speaker 1: a little bit, uncover some of the layers here, all right, brother,
Speaker 1: and good luck in congratulations shared. Thank you so much everyone,
Speaker 1: And and Jared, one more final thought from you know
Speaker 1: the wedding planner here, Um, it's not about the wedding,
Speaker 1: it's about the marriage, So just keep the priorities in No. No,
Speaker 1: but I said it. I'm an overthinker by nature. How
Speaker 1: many times do I say, guys, it's not about the wedding,
Speaker 1: it's about the marriage. So there you go. Jared, thank
Speaker 1: you very much for calling a good luck said that
Speaker 1: luck dawned on me. Now, have her call you, Big Papa,
Speaker 1: and it's gonna all be okay. On Air with Ryan Seacrest,
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Speaker 1: getting us. Partly sunny today, did you say sunny? Yes?
Speaker 1: I did. Partly sunny today hides in the low sixties.
Speaker 1: The rain returns late Friday night and could go on
Speaker 1: for quite a long time. You know, every time I
Speaker 1: see that video of the sinkhole freaks me out. Like
Speaker 1: a road just dropping out from underneath you. Vehicle falling
Speaker 1: into a sinkhole, you know what I mean, makes those
Speaker 1: streets look like the crust of a pie. Yeah, it's
Speaker 1: like that. There's an episode of Grades Anatomy where that
Speaker 1: actually happens and it looks like that. There's also an
Speaker 1: episode of the News where that did just happen. So
Speaker 1: it and to see the first responders and the rescue
Speaker 1: teams go in and rescue people. Did you see the
Speaker 1: woman being pulled up by the by the rope on
Speaker 1: the news by the cable on the news rescue we
Speaker 1: went down underground when a car fell and brought her.
Speaker 1: I was incredible to see. Was in Chatsworth at sinkhole
Speaker 1: near one. That's the thing. I mean, you don't think
Speaker 1: about the road dropping outcome underneath you when you're sitting
Speaker 1: in your vehicle, and then you see how fragile the
Speaker 1: streets can be with all of this over saturation. Just
Speaker 1: one more thing to freak us all out, all right,
Speaker 1: So cissany this is saying people are still doing in
Speaker 1: the wild with me. My friends are still saying I'm
Speaker 1: still saying it too, Happy New Year. My whole thing
Speaker 1: is like, I think it needs to be done already,
Speaker 1: Like when when do we stop saying Happy New Year? Second?
Speaker 1: Look remember that January second? I thought after like this
Speaker 1: the first week that was my thing, Like this past
Speaker 1: Sunday done? Well, the day was New Year's Sunday. No,
Speaker 1: it was Saturday. New Year's Eve was Saturday. New Year's
Speaker 1: Day was Sunday, right, so I would take it one
Speaker 1: week out. They want to start the next consecutive week.
Speaker 1: We're in the new year. Well, so yesterday I had
Speaker 1: you know, I usually have Wednesdays. I have, like you know,
Speaker 1: I have my record label meetings. Yes, and I'm sorry
Speaker 1: I couldn't make them. It's okay, So I meet with
Speaker 1: I meet with different record labels every week, and I
Speaker 1: haven't seen some of them since the New Year. So
Speaker 1: to them there was like they were saying Happy New Year,
Speaker 1: and that was the argument. They're saying, like, well, if
Speaker 1: I haven't seen you, then you can still say Happy
Speaker 1: New Year. But you guys got into this debate in
Speaker 1: the middle of the music meetings. Yeah, I guess DJ
Speaker 1: trouble Xel this is his debate. Well, he's a real instigator,
Speaker 1: he really is. So he's saying, if you haven't seen them,
Speaker 1: then you can say Happy New Year. I was like,
Speaker 1: what if you haven't seen somebody in this March, then
Speaker 1: can you still say Happy New Year? And like, then
Speaker 1: you can't. He's wrong. I mean, it's all wrong. It
Speaker 1: is the second week. I mean, that's just the unwritten rule.
Speaker 1: I think it's done. It's like, you can't say Happy
Speaker 1: New Year anymore. I don't care if I haven't seen you.
Speaker 1: I am with you on that Wednesday, January eleven, happy
Speaker 1: it is. It is the new year. I've already given
Speaker 1: up on all of our new eating plans. The one
Speaker 1: thing that I do um, I do not fight about
Speaker 1: what's the right word, but I do believe is true,
Speaker 1: is that the whole wearing white thing. I can wear
Speaker 1: white to two things that I believe in. I can
Speaker 1: wear white any time of the year. And I can
Speaker 1: have red wine with fish. So leave me alone, have
Speaker 1: red wine with fish. Some people think that white wine
Speaker 1: should go with chicken and fish, but I like red
Speaker 1: wine with chicken or fish, and so I don't want
Speaker 1: to play the game of white pants and white and
Speaker 1: red wine with fish and chicken and Happy New Year.
Speaker 1: So well, let's settle this these important things. I guess
Speaker 1: you would be the expert when it comes to Happy
Speaker 1: New Year, so I'll take your advice on that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean the fact that I count from ten. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you're like Mr new Year, Mr new Years. I like it.
Speaker 1: Thank you for that title. You should claim it. That
Speaker 1: should be like in your Instagram bio year trademark that
Speaker 1: Mr new Year. Yeah, like when I think that, yeah,
Speaker 1: you're right. When I think of New Year New Year's Eve,
Speaker 1: I think of you missed the New Year, and then
Speaker 1: when you get here on Monday. Different. No, when I
Speaker 1: think of Christmas, I think of Santa Claus. And when
Speaker 1: I think of New Year's I think of you waiting
Speaker 1: for Easter. The bunny Easter Bunny for St. Patrick's Day.
Speaker 1: I think about the lepric. I think about you again.
Speaker 1: People think about me all the time as a lepricn
Speaker 1: very good you beat me to it. Today is Mary J.
Speaker 1: Blige's birthday. I've been a fan for so many years
Speaker 1: and got to know over the years. So congratulations Mary j.
Speaker 1: Unincredible successful career and so much more to come. Partly
Speaker 1: sunny highs in the low sixties and the rain. Get
Speaker 1: ready to greet it again Friday night. All right, So
Speaker 1: let's talk about relationships. We don't really think about them
Speaker 1: much on this show. It's the only time I talk
Speaker 1: about relationships in my life really is here or on
Speaker 1: Kelly and Ryan. Like I don't like talk about relationships
Speaker 1: or even mine outside of you guys every day. Then, Yeah,
Speaker 1: did you talk about your relationship when you go home?
Speaker 1: I do not. I don't really talk about my relationship
Speaker 1: with Michael, Like, sit down and go let's talk about
Speaker 1: our relationship. We talked about our lives, like our five
Speaker 1: year plan. What are we doing? Are you do a
Speaker 1: long game? Yeah, we're always it sounds like you're frustrated, Yeah,
Speaker 1: because we're we have like a you know, we're thinking
Speaker 1: about our next move. There's a lot going on in
Speaker 1: real estate. Oh, I know, that's for another day. That's
Speaker 1: for another day. Yes, Tanya, first you and now sisting
Speaker 1: what you left and went to Robbie's. Now she's packing
Speaker 1: her bags. Well I'm not not going to Oh. Definitely.
Speaker 1: Speaking of relationships, so you're saying that there are red
Speaker 1: flags that have been identified by those who have looked
Speaker 1: at relationships that are on a track to dumage. Yeah,
Speaker 1: jarring warning signs sort of speak for a doomed love match.
Speaker 1: The thing when you think you see a red flag,
Speaker 1: as you said, you kind of turned the other way.
Speaker 1: You totally justify it. We've all done that. We do
Speaker 1: justify that whatever it is, because it's kind of judgment
Speaker 1: on you for your choice. And that's why your family
Speaker 1: sees it first, your friends see it first, and you
Speaker 1: push it away. You don't want to hear it, and
Speaker 1: you're blind to it. So these are the flags. So, um,
Speaker 1: there's actually a few of them. I just picked the
Speaker 1: top three and I'll go from three to one. So
Speaker 1: number three being clingy ranked third, which was seen by
Speaker 1: participants as covering controlling behavior and being overly jealous. So
Speaker 1: clingy jealousy at the red flag. Be clear, I don't
Speaker 1: think clinging means jealous I don't think clinging means jealous
Speaker 1: necessarily because I'm not the jealous type. But I am
Speaker 1: a little clingy. But I think there's two different things.
Speaker 1: Like I think it's like I like to be with
Speaker 1: my partner a lot, like I like I like him
Speaker 1: to like I like to be with him all the time,
Speaker 1: like I like each other. I mean, yeah, I think
Speaker 1: there's a jeal. I think that you could be jealous though, too, Tanya,
Speaker 1: But I don't. I don't have that. I think if
Speaker 1: somebody was rubbing up on Robbie at an event or something,
Speaker 1: you would be jealous. Well, why is anybody rubbing up
Speaker 1: all there? You go? Okay? Number two? Uh, someone that's
Speaker 1: gross meaning having poor hygiene, smelling bad and actually um,
Speaker 1: well we don't need to get to like and either
Speaker 1: other stuff. But basically if you find them unattractive, that's
Speaker 1: a big red flag when it comes to gross hygiene
Speaker 1: stuff um. And then uh, being in an attentive, uncaring,
Speaker 1: untrusting um that is considered the biggest red flag of
Speaker 1: all for both men and women. Being inattentive, not paying attention,
Speaker 1: not listening, not caring. Yes, yeah, these are all bad.
Speaker 1: Any single one of them would make you think you're
Speaker 1: on the wrong track. If you can't trust your partner
Speaker 1: and it gets to the point where they're not supporting
Speaker 1: you and they're not believing in the things that you
Speaker 1: believe in, or basically kind of just not by your
Speaker 1: side and kind of like holding you up. I think
Speaker 1: that's a red flag. I don't know that Tony and
Speaker 1: I have heard anything since you said someone else quote
Speaker 1: rubbing up on Robbie kind of been in this space.
Speaker 1: I don't think. I don't think you'd like anybody rubbing
Speaker 1: up on Michael either. Hell no, okay, he's rubbing up
Speaker 1: on anybody and rubbing up anybody. Why are you dance?
Speaker 1: I don't know. We're rubbing up on someone the dance.
Speaker 1: I guess that's what you do when you dance. I
Speaker 1: don't know. But no, not a stranger. That's how you
Speaker 1: would dance with your significant other. All right, Hey, can
Speaker 1: we go back at the beginning of the show. I
Speaker 1: thought we'd put some pins in things that we need
Speaker 1: to cover, and I'm afraid I don't get to is
Speaker 1: do then we'll yeah, then we'll be done. So, Tony,
Speaker 1: did you keep the pin note? Yeah? Well, so we
Speaker 1: were talking about some deep things, but my pen came
Speaker 1: out of nowhere, you know, like I think sometimes my
Speaker 1: brain just does this where it's just something pops up.
Speaker 1: And I wanted you, guys, I have some homework for you. Guys.
Speaker 1: I think you would really enjoy and have a lot
Speaker 1: of fun with every time you say, I feel like
Speaker 1: you guys will have a lot of fun with me
Speaker 1: because it involves food. But I don't want to have
Speaker 1: my food be homework. My food to be enjoyable. Okay, No,
Speaker 1: So we did this this weekend and I was like,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, I'm gonna bring it to you guys
Speaker 1: because I think you should do your own at home
Speaker 1: and then we can all compare our notes. Comparing notes ament. Okay,
Speaker 1: do you want to hear what it is? You know
Speaker 1: what making food homework is like scheduling intimacy. It doesn't
Speaker 1: work the same, It does work the same. Yeah, scheduling
Speaker 1: intimacy takes the intimacy out of it. I don't think
Speaker 1: I've ever done that. You've never been like tonight, you
Speaker 1: wanna never should we scheduling intimacy is literally like putting
Speaker 1: in your calendar for thirty on a Tuesday. That's and
Speaker 1: that to me takes get out of the intimacy. But
Speaker 1: do you have to do that right because you're so busy?
Speaker 1: So what is made fans before? You know, like sometimes
Speaker 1: you just look at the week and I don't know
Speaker 1: if you've seen some of these days, but like the
Speaker 1: list of things schedule no oh no, no no, no,
Speaker 1: unscheduled time, unscheduled time. But anyway, to me, having a
Speaker 1: homework assignment about the food is the same. You understand
Speaker 1: what I say. Okay, I do, but I think you're
Speaker 1: gonna like this. So what I want you guys to
Speaker 1: do is when you go home or when next time
Speaker 1: you guys go do it this week? So any day
Speaker 1: this week, you have seven days to do it. We
Speaker 1: don't know, we don't it's Wednesday, Okay, I know, but
Speaker 1: we can so Wednesday and Wednesday. Yeah. What I'm saying
Speaker 1: is like I'm not giving you time pressure except for
Speaker 1: seven said soon, you're gonna go to the grocery store
Speaker 1: at some point in the next couple of days. Next
Speaker 1: time you go to the grocery store, get one of
Speaker 1: every kind of apple, and you're gonna go home and
Speaker 1: and put it in a different cup and put the
Speaker 1: little sticky at the bottom, and you're gonna do a
Speaker 1: blind taste test of every apple to see what your
Speaker 1: favorite apple. Truly, that's easy, honey, christ that's what you think.
Speaker 1: That's what you care about? Our favorite apple. I don't
Speaker 1: even like an apple. You don't like a little apple
Speaker 1: nibble for like a snack. Apples have never interested me
Speaker 1: because of this skin. Oh yeah, you peel them, you
Speaker 1: peel them. But so why apples we do this? Can
Speaker 1: we do this with any other thing? Like about grapes
Speaker 1: or nuts? Well, nuts are so easy. It's like you
Speaker 1: put a cashe in your mouth blind you know it's
Speaker 1: a cash you okay? Apples are more like hard to distinguish.
Speaker 1: And what's the reason we're testing our favorite apple? Because
Speaker 1: everybody has like a hot take on what the best
Speaker 1: apple is. And I feel like sometimes everybody's a hot
Speaker 1: take on the best apple? Who like the internet? This
Speaker 1: is not is this? No, this is Tanya. Tanya loves apples,
Speaker 1: So this is she did this because she loves She's
Speaker 1: obsessed with apples. And you love what do you love?
Speaker 1: I love Fuji's and Robbie loves Honey Crisp, and so
Speaker 1: we took all We took five different apples. And guess what.
Speaker 1: Neither one of those two are going to be in
Speaker 1: our house. In your relationship. If you're doing this, you
Speaker 1: actually need some problems with Yeah, we did. There was
Speaker 1: not much else to do. But it was so fun.
Speaker 1: And now we're going to be a cosmic and envy
Speaker 1: apple house. Why don't you have a good argument like
Speaker 1: tasting apples. No, we're gonna give you some things to
Speaker 1: fuel the argument. Mind it. I might try it and
Speaker 1: the kids will have fun doing it, and like the idea? Dim,
Speaker 1: I take you up on it. Fine, I'll play along.
Speaker 1: The only apple I literally look forward to is that
Speaker 1: candy apple wrapped in nuts on a stick. But it
Speaker 1: has to be like pink Lady Honey is the rules
Speaker 1: my favorite apple? You can't have a candied because it's
Speaker 1: a candy apple. You're gonna candy all the different apples
Speaker 1: and then taste it. I'm gonna go schedule some intimate
Speaker 1: something better do this. I think it could be really fun.
Speaker 1: I'll do it, but can you get me all the
Speaker 1: apples and deliver them to my house. Sure. Great. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna go bobbing tonight and I want to bob with me.
Speaker 1: That sounds fun. Bob Air on Air with Ryan Secrets