Speaker 1: First Date follow Up Howard by the Advocates Injury Attorneys
Speaker 1: online at Adjocuslaw dot com.
Speaker 2: Bailey is on the phone today for a first date
Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a dude named Sean.
Speaker 2: So in a few minutes so we'll call him and
Speaker 2: see if hotels why he's ghosting her and maybe get
Speaker 2: her another date. But first, Bailey, how long has it
Speaker 2: been since you heard from Sean?
Speaker 3: Hi? Yeah, it's been two weeks.
Speaker 4: Okay, okay, a long time.
Speaker 5: Have you tried to talk to them?
Speaker 6: No?
Speaker 3: I mean he's only at the end of the day
Speaker 3: when he kissed my cheek, he said, I'll call you,
Speaker 3: and you know, I really like menu follow up and
Speaker 3: keep your word. So I was really trying to give
Speaker 3: him that chance. In the first week, I wasn't worried
Speaker 3: because people get busy with work. But now it's been
Speaker 3: two weeks, so I do feel like he's forgotten about
Speaker 3: me or something.
Speaker 5: I get that.
Speaker 7: How is the date?
Speaker 5: Why don't you tell us about that and how you
Speaker 5: met him?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Okay, Well I matched with him on Hinge and he
Speaker 3: actually reached out because he saw that I went to
Speaker 3: high school was one of his college buddies, So I
Speaker 3: thought that that was kind of like a quirky little connection.
Speaker 3: And and and he's not like my usual type because
Speaker 3: he's not like a ten out of ten or anything.
Speaker 3: But he has a really sweet face, okay, and he
Speaker 3: was funny and the messages, you know, so I gave
Speaker 3: him a chance. I was like, you know, obviously not
Speaker 3: working what I'm doing, so I'm gonna I'm gonna try this.
Speaker 3: But the date was it was actually really lovely. It
Speaker 3: was it was three hours long on a on a Thursday.
Speaker 3: So I thought that everything was like really good signs.
Speaker 3: But he he asked me out to you know, Stay restaurant.
Speaker 3: It was so good.
Speaker 7: It was so good.
Speaker 3: It was like fancy. So we like the dressed up
Speaker 3: and we made it real cute and he was a
Speaker 3: total gentleman, Like as soon as I got out of
Speaker 3: my car, he was like there, he opened doors for me.
Speaker 3: It was it was, it was, It was perfect. And
Speaker 3: I'm actually surprised by how much I liked him because
Speaker 3: because yeah, like I said, he's not in my normal type,
Speaker 3: Like I haven't felt this kind of potential in such
Speaker 3: a long time. Because he's patient and he's kind I
Speaker 3: guess I'm just I'm just like scared that maybe he
Speaker 3: thinks I'm high maintenance for something.
Speaker 4: Is there a reason that he would think that.
Speaker 3: Well, like when the steak came out, like I ordered
Speaker 3: rare because I know how to order steak obviously, and
Speaker 3: it came back, it came back in medium rare, and normally,
Speaker 3: like I wouldn't have made such a big deal about it,
Speaker 3: but like it's it's a fancy stake like restaurant. They
Speaker 3: should like know the difference between those things. So so
Speaker 3: I apologize, and you know, I explained how you know,
Speaker 3: stake is supposed to be rare, and I told I
Speaker 3: told Tom that too, and he he just he was
Speaker 3: again a gentleman, so he waited until my new steak
Speaker 3: came out, so I'm sure his must have been kind
Speaker 3: of cold by the time we ate, And I tried
Speaker 3: to tell him to you know, eat his, but he,
Speaker 3: you know insisted. But like, I don't know, I probably
Speaker 3: should have just eaten it. I kind of feel dumb.
Speaker 3: I should have eaten a maybroom rele It's like it's
Speaker 3: not the end of the world. It's not like they
Speaker 3: smother didn't catch up or something.
Speaker 7: But it's a good steak.
Speaker 3: It's it's how it should be eaten. And yeah, I
Speaker 3: don't know. I mean because he ordered his medium, but
Speaker 3: I wasn't judging, you know, like I really hope he wasn't.
Speaker 3: He didn't think I was judging, even though he did
Speaker 3: it wrong. But it's fine. Okay, how did you ask Bailey?
Speaker 1: I think maybe it's not high maintenance, like to you know,
Speaker 1: get your meal right. Everybody wants that, especially if you're
Speaker 1: spending a lot of money at a restaurant. But if
Speaker 1: you're just like, excuse me, Gasson, can you fix my stake?
Speaker 1: I could see that that was a problem. Or were
Speaker 1: you nice about it?
Speaker 3: No? No, no, I I think I'm always nice. Yeah.
Speaker 3: I just politely said this wasn't you know what I ordered?
Speaker 3: And I asked for a new one with a smile,
Speaker 3: you know.
Speaker 4: Okay, So you weren't rude to the weight staff or anything.
Speaker 7: Oh no, absolutely not.
Speaker 5: Didn't tell the medium is just not the way to
Speaker 5: order it.
Speaker 7: Oh no, that was to Sean.
Speaker 5: That was Sean.
Speaker 4: Any other things that you can think of that might
Speaker 4: be a reason he might.
Speaker 3: Not call you back, honestly, No, I mean, like the
Speaker 3: conversation stalled a few times that I you know, I
Speaker 3: just I can talk.
Speaker 5: So that was fine, Okay, pretty normal, especially on a
Speaker 5: first eight.
Speaker 4: Yeah, we'll see if we can figure it out.
Speaker 2: For you'll play a song come back, and then call
Speaker 2: him and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting
Speaker 2: you and maybe get you another date.
Speaker 3: Okay, thank you so much.
Speaker 2: Yep, play song, come back, and get your first day
Speaker 2: follow up next. Right in the middle of your first
Speaker 2: day follow up if you're just joining us, Bailey is
Speaker 2: on the phone and she's getting ghosted by a guy
Speaker 2: named Sean. So we're about to call him and see
Speaker 2: if he'll tell us why he's ghostinger and maybe get
Speaker 2: her another date. But before we do that, Bailey, why
Speaker 2: don't you catch us up on your situation.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so I met Sean on Hinge. We had a
Speaker 3: lovely three hour date. He told me he'd call me
Speaker 3: at the end, and I have not heard from him since.
Speaker 4: And you think it might be because of your steak.
Speaker 3: Yes, I think it might be because I ordered my
Speaker 3: steak prayer and I got it back a medium Mariyer,
Speaker 3: and I just wanted a new one.
Speaker 4: But did you didn't freak out about it though?
Speaker 7: I did not.
Speaker 3: I did not freak out. I was perfectly calm and collection.
Speaker 5: But you did mention that Sean ordered his medium and
Speaker 5: that wasn't right.
Speaker 1: That was true?
Speaker 4: That all right?
Speaker 5: Man?
Speaker 4: Were you ready for us to call him?
Speaker 7: Yes?
Speaker 3: Please?
Speaker 4: Okay, here we go. Hell, Hi, man, I speak to
Speaker 4: Sean please.
Speaker 6: Yeah, Sean?
Speaker 4: Hey man, how are you? My name is Jewbell. I'm
Speaker 4: calling from a radio show. It's called the Jewbil Show.
Speaker 5: Hi, Sean, I'm Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria.
Speaker 7: Hey. Yeah, what's up?
Speaker 4: Not much? Have you ever listened to the show before?
Speaker 7: Yeah, a little bit? Actually what we What is it about? Though?
Speaker 2: Well, we do a segment on the show called the
Speaker 2: First Dight follow Up where if you go out on
Speaker 2: a date with somebody and then ended up ghosting them,
Speaker 2: that person can email us to get you on the
Speaker 2: phone and ask why you're ghosting them.
Speaker 7: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, so somebody emailed us about you.
Speaker 7: Oh yeah, I have a feeling. I know where this
Speaker 7: is going.
Speaker 4: Okay, Okay, who do you think it is?
Speaker 7: Is it Bailey?
Speaker 4: Yes? It is Bailey. Do you want to tell us
Speaker 4: why your ghost and?
Speaker 7: Bailey? Yeah?
Speaker 6: You know, yeah, I'm gonna get I'll get into it.
Speaker 6: I'm a little disappointed. I had to ghost. See, Like,
Speaker 6: in my mind, I thought that she was gonna be great.
Speaker 6: I thought the date was gonna be great. You know,
Speaker 6: we had like some mutual friends in common. But when
Speaker 6: we got there, she she started nippicking and everything, and
Speaker 6: I thought it was a little cute at first, and
Speaker 6: then it got to be a little too much, you know.
Speaker 5: Like, what was she what was she nitpicking a man
Speaker 5: like everything?
Speaker 6: But okay, so we sit down and the first thing
Speaker 6: she did was like refold the skins, and you know,
Speaker 6: that's one of the things that I was like, Oh,
Speaker 6: that's kind of cute. That's the skill and maybe like
Speaker 6: a little neurotypins.
Speaker 7: Yeah, dude, refolded the napkins.
Speaker 5: That is a skill.
Speaker 6: Though it's a skill, I get it, but it's also like,
Speaker 6: you're about to use that napkin.
Speaker 7: I was like, you're a little quirky. That's cool.
Speaker 6: I like quirkiness. And then it started to get a
Speaker 6: little weird because she kept asking the server to turn
Speaker 6: the piano off like down. First, it was like, hey,
Speaker 6: excuse me, the music's a little loud, can you turn down?
Speaker 6: And the server was like, it was a piano, it's
Speaker 6: a piano.
Speaker 7: It's not possible.
Speaker 6: Honestly, in my mind, it wasn't even that loud, but
Speaker 6: I was like, clerk whatever. And ten minutes later she
Speaker 6: asked the same question, like can you turn the piano
Speaker 6: down a little? And the same server and he looks
Speaker 6: at me like what's going on here? And Alter, it's
Speaker 6: the same thing. It's a piano. We can't turn it down.
Speaker 6: Sorry for your inconvenience. And then she told him about
Speaker 6: how she had them growing up and there was a
Speaker 6: way that they had to it so it wasn't loud,
Speaker 6: or maybe they should throw a blanket over it so
Speaker 6: noise won't come off, Like what.
Speaker 5: Okay, so this is just really loud for her.
Speaker 6: Yeah, it's also like, who done?
Speaker 1: I have never really had anybody ask the piano to
Speaker 1: be turned out before, but you know, I haven't heard either. No, okay,
Speaker 1: so what are you doing while she's asking the server
Speaker 1: to throw a blanket over a piano?
Speaker 6: I'm really embarrassed at this point because, uh, and because
Speaker 6: it's a little.
Speaker 7: Weird, because I've never been in a situation like that.
Speaker 6: You know, we're in their establishment anyway, So I stepped
Speaker 6: in and like changed the subject a little bit, and
Speaker 6: then I realized maybe she doesn't like loud music.
Speaker 7: Like loud music, but this wasn't an e DM concert.
Speaker 6: It was a restaurant with a piano and it's on
Speaker 6: the other side of the building.
Speaker 7: Too, so it wasn't even close to us.
Speaker 5: Did she did she tell you that she was sensitive
Speaker 5: to noises?
Speaker 6: No? No, And she didn't seem bothered by it until
Speaker 6: just like a server came around and then she like
Speaker 6: flips switched and it was a little weird.
Speaker 7: It's weird to me, but too nice.
Speaker 6: Two nice girl, but you know that kind of intensity
Speaker 6: and nippickina, it's a little bit.
Speaker 7: Too much for me.
Speaker 2: So basically thought you was h main, that's your words.
Speaker 2: Now mind all right, Well, thank you for telling us, Sean.
Speaker 2: Now I'll let you know that Bailey is on the
Speaker 2: phone listening and wants to talk to you.
Speaker 7: Oh okay, I.
Speaker 3: Knew it was a really big red flag actually that
Speaker 3: he ordered his stay the medium, Like no real men
Speaker 3: would do that. You think I'm too intense?
Speaker 7: Really is that what you're going with? Hey, you're you're
Speaker 7: you're particular, which is fine, you know.
Speaker 3: Like, yeah, well I actually like men who like women
Speaker 3: who know what they want. So if you want some
Speaker 3: wishy washy chick, maybe you should date someone young twenties
Speaker 3: instead of someone who's established in thirty. Wait what, well,
Speaker 3: he clearly doesn't like a girl who knows what she wants.
Speaker 3: So you know you're not even really a tense like
Speaker 3: I gave you a chance. Dude, have you seen me.
Speaker 6: Ouch one coming after me like totally not cool in
Speaker 6: front of like a live, live audience.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, you just said that I was intense and
Speaker 3: nitpicky and high maintenance.
Speaker 7: You agreed, So you're getting so you're coming at me
Speaker 7: at my look because.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you're also a liar because you said you'd call, Like,
Speaker 3: why don't you just say, hey, you know what, Just
Speaker 3: like you said, I know what I want, I'm going
Speaker 3: to tell you what I want. Why do you lie
Speaker 3: to me? Like that's such a sad moves like it
Speaker 3: makes sense that you have a purse puppy instead of
Speaker 3: a real dog.
Speaker 6: Hey, you can talk whatever you want about me, but
Speaker 6: you can please don't go after midgat my dog.
Speaker 7: That's totally not cool at that point. She's not a dog,
Speaker 7: she's a cat. No, she's literally a freakin' dog.
Speaker 6: Is your weird particularity and preferences clearly don't match with me.
Speaker 7: I don't need to.
Speaker 6: Really defend myself if you're like making yourself look bad,
Speaker 6: And like, what kind of person a restaurant to turn
Speaker 6: down the piano we have a blanket? Really, what kind
Speaker 6: of people have blankets? Bring blankets to restaurants or have
Speaker 6: restaurants that have blankets, They're going.
Speaker 7: To put it over their own piano? Like that doesn't
Speaker 7: make any.
Speaker 3: Kind of person thinks that other people's hearing sensitivity is
Speaker 3: their problem, Like that didn't affect you at all, Like
Speaker 3: you can go to red my ears hurt makes you embarrassed,
Speaker 3: Like that's pathetic, dude.
Speaker 7: You can wear headphones and go eat at Chili's. You
Speaker 7: have to go to a front.
Speaker 3: Chilis is actually louder so no, thank you?
Speaker 2: Okay, Well, hey Sean, would you like another day with Bailey?
Speaker 2: We'll pay for it.
Speaker 7: Sure, Billy, you want to go on again?
Speaker 3: Sounds great?
Speaker 4: I feel like neither of you are serious.
Speaker 7: That's sarcastic, right, exactly, sarcastic.
Speaker 4: You will first day follow up