WEBVTT - What an easily offended world needs to hear 0:00:00.120 --> 0:00:04.800 We try to in an ultimately an offended world, an 0:00:04.800 --> 0:00:09.200 easily offended world. We tried not to offend, but there's 0:00:09.240 --> 0:00:12.799 a limit to what we could say that inhibits us 0:00:13.080 --> 0:00:15.640 to get to the truth. And sometimes, Aaron, you need 0:00:15.720 --> 0:00:18.599 to hear the truth, dude, suck it up, stay in school. 0:00:29.840 --> 0:00:33.960 What's up, guys, Welcome to the podcast. This is episode ten. 0:00:34.560 --> 0:00:37.360 Seems like we just me and you just did episode 0:00:37.360 --> 0:00:40.839 one hundred. This is Bernie Calcote, my guest today, and 0:00:40.960 --> 0:00:43.519 he's been guessed many times, many times. We were just 0:00:43.640 --> 0:00:46.280 talking before we started recording. We're talking about how this 0:00:46.280 --> 0:00:49.920 this podcast is really built where it's completely off the cuff, 0:00:50.680 --> 0:00:57.120 no preparation, no question preparation, no notes, and so we're 0:00:57.480 --> 0:01:01.480 left to answer on the spot, which is tough, yeah, 0:01:01.560 --> 0:01:04.280 because you you have to just think of your answer 0:01:04.360 --> 0:01:06.600 right now, and you can't let you can't sit there 0:01:06.640 --> 0:01:08.800 and research it or think about it or look at notes. 0:01:09.280 --> 0:01:12.920 And so that leads to me. Sometimes I'll just be 0:01:13.360 --> 0:01:17.080 midway through the day of a podcast and several hours 0:01:17.160 --> 0:01:20.119 later after our record and I'll go, oh, I should 0:01:20.120 --> 0:01:22.839 have said that. That would have been great, That would 0:01:22.840 --> 0:01:27.000 have been a way better answer than that was stupid. 0:01:28.600 --> 0:01:31.240 So that brings up the format of what this podcast is. 0:01:31.640 --> 0:01:35.640 This podcast we answer your questions you email Granger Smith 0:01:35.760 --> 0:01:40.000 podcast at gmail dot com. It could be about any subject, 0:01:40.440 --> 0:01:42.800 doesn't matter what it is. We're going to walk through 0:01:42.880 --> 0:01:47.039 it as if we are sitting around a campfire, or 0:01:47.120 --> 0:01:50.000 sitting in a pickup truck, or sitting in a deer stand, 0:01:50.040 --> 0:01:54.240 you name it, sitting at a cafe having coffee, and 0:01:54.520 --> 0:01:56.720 we're going to answer the question that you have on 0:01:56.760 --> 0:02:00.120 your mind as if not as therapist or psychic I 0:02:00.240 --> 0:02:06.160 trist or preachers or priest, but as your friends wanting 0:02:06.200 --> 0:02:08.600 to give you the best advice from an open heart 0:02:09.560 --> 0:02:12.799 that we can give you. That's the format of this podcast. 0:02:12.840 --> 0:02:15.800 We're not always right, but we're going to tell it 0:02:15.840 --> 0:02:19.560 to you as if Bernie here a buddy, you're in 0:02:19.600 --> 0:02:22.280 the group, you're one of the wolf Pack, diamond Dogs. 0:02:22.840 --> 0:02:25.200 We're gonna bring it to you straight. We ain't gonna 0:02:25.200 --> 0:02:29.040 sugarcoat it. Yeah, we may be wrong, but we're not 0:02:29.080 --> 0:02:31.880 gonna be indecisive. Yeah, we're not gonna let too much 0:02:31.880 --> 0:02:33.960 space go by because it's a podcast and it sounds 0:02:33.960 --> 0:02:37.000 weird to be quiet. So the first one, the subject 0:02:37.040 --> 0:02:39.680 line is advice. It says, Hey Granger, I'm sixteen years old. 0:02:40.440 --> 0:02:42.560 I have a full time job as a farmer. I've 0:02:42.560 --> 0:02:46.640 got an amazing girlfriend. I live in Mexico, and I 0:02:46.680 --> 0:02:48.840 want to get married in around a year and a half. 0:02:49.080 --> 0:02:51.120 I want to make more money than just my salary. 0:02:51.680 --> 0:02:55.440 What advice would you give me? Parentheses? Getting married is expensive. 0:02:56.080 --> 0:02:57.799 If you ever go to Mexico, it would be an 0:02:57.800 --> 0:02:59.760 honor to show you around the beautiful mountains that we 0:02:59.760 --> 0:03:06.880 have here in Mexico Duringo Nueva idiall thanks. This comes 0:03:06.919 --> 0:03:12.679 from Victors. Yeah, so Victor. The first thing I would 0:03:12.720 --> 0:03:16.280 say is an advice is I think seventeen and a 0:03:16.320 --> 0:03:19.720 half years old is too young to get married. He's sixteen, 0:03:20.240 --> 0:03:21.799 he's got a great girlfriend. He wants to wait a 0:03:21.880 --> 0:03:24.200 year now. First of all, he's sixteen. Got a full 0:03:24.200 --> 0:03:29.400 time job? Is that a thing like these days? I 0:03:29.400 --> 0:03:31.720 guess if you're like homeschool and then you just work, 0:03:31.760 --> 0:03:35.640 and maybe it's a different like family. Yeah, you're you're saying, 0:03:35.720 --> 0:03:38.480 because because where is school in the equation? That's what 0:03:38.560 --> 0:03:43.640 you're saying. Yeah, yeah, full time job? Maybe he either 0:03:43.680 --> 0:03:47.400 we're wrong and he didn't mean full time job. He 0:03:47.520 --> 0:03:51.600 meant he's got he works as max hours as he 0:03:51.640 --> 0:03:55.880 can with school, or we're wrong, he's not in school 0:03:55.880 --> 0:04:01.080 at all, and he's got an amazing girl for and congratulations. 0:04:01.320 --> 0:04:06.000 And he says getting married is expensive relatively speaking. That 0:04:06.080 --> 0:04:09.440 depends on what your ceremony is. It depends on how 0:04:09.480 --> 0:04:11.720 you I mean, you could have a cheap wedding at 0:04:11.720 --> 0:04:15.840 the courthouse or a cheap wedding in your backyard. Yeah, 0:04:15.880 --> 0:04:19.240 what's this what's his name? Victor? All right, Victor, get 0:04:19.240 --> 0:04:22.479 in here, buddy, we're gonna talk about this. Dude. Love 0:04:22.520 --> 0:04:26.600 your girl. That's awesome. You got this great girl. Bro, 0:04:26.760 --> 0:04:30.720 you're sixteen, and so enjoy grizz has said this to 0:04:30.760 --> 0:04:35.400 you a lot. Enjoy being sixteen. Don't be in such 0:04:35.400 --> 0:04:40.080 a hurry to kind of like grow up and work 0:04:40.160 --> 0:04:43.320 and get married. And if if you found this girl, 0:04:43.720 --> 0:04:50.120 I think that that's great. I think there's some development 0:04:50.200 --> 0:04:52.400 maybe that still needs to happen and like go through 0:04:52.440 --> 0:04:55.240 some things. I know. This is kind of like, uh, 0:04:56.120 --> 0:04:58.880 you know, goes against what we've said before about like 0:04:59.000 --> 0:05:01.599 don't date for seven years. Yeah, you know, like once 0:05:01.640 --> 0:05:03.760 you realize that they're the one, But when they're sixteen, 0:05:03.920 --> 0:05:06.760 it's almost like well, you need to go through some 0:05:06.800 --> 0:05:10.000 things together. And like you know, but I mean, other 0:05:10.040 --> 0:05:13.520 people have gotten married seventeen eighteen and they've been fine. 0:05:13.560 --> 0:05:16.880 So stupid question. But are we dealing with something cultural here? 0:05:17.279 --> 0:05:20.600 Maybe maybe yeah, I don't think so. The world has 0:05:20.600 --> 0:05:27.839 gone so the world is so similar now, but maybe yeah. Though, 0:05:28.480 --> 0:05:32.680 But seventeen seventeen and a half still seems still seems 0:05:33.160 --> 0:05:37.720 really young, Victor. And and you're gonna have the rest 0:05:37.800 --> 0:05:39.760 of your life. Look at your parents and your grandparents. 0:05:39.800 --> 0:05:42.279 You're gonna have the rest of your life to be 0:05:42.400 --> 0:05:46.160 married and to play the role of a husband. But 0:05:46.279 --> 0:05:49.440 you only have right now to be sixteen and seventeen 0:05:49.440 --> 0:05:53.960 and eighteen and nineteen. You only have this short, tiny 0:05:54.200 --> 0:05:57.719 window of life where you are a teenager and you 0:05:57.760 --> 0:06:00.559 could make mistakes and it's okay because you could recover 0:06:00.640 --> 0:06:05.159 from a mistake. When you're married, mistakes they hit a 0:06:05.200 --> 0:06:11.240 lot deeper and they have a deeper, farther reaching consequence 0:06:11.520 --> 0:06:14.039 on a mistake that you make when you're married. And 0:06:14.080 --> 0:06:16.640 I'm talking about as a mistake like you make a 0:06:16.640 --> 0:06:21.280 bad investment, or you buy a new trunk that's actually 0:06:21.320 --> 0:06:25.479 a lemon and it breaks down and you shouldn't have 0:06:25.560 --> 0:06:28.240 paid that much for a truck. Okay, stupid mistake as 0:06:28.240 --> 0:06:31.400 a teenager, but at least you didn't bring her into this. 0:06:31.480 --> 0:06:34.760 Now it's not her problem. So that's what I'm talking about. 0:06:34.760 --> 0:06:37.160 There's all kinds of you go off and you take 0:06:37.160 --> 0:06:41.800 a crazy job offer that's a risk, that's low money, 0:06:41.839 --> 0:06:44.080 but it has a high potential and it ends up 0:06:44.080 --> 0:06:47.120 being a dud and you lose everything. It's okay as 0:06:47.120 --> 0:06:50.600 an eighteen year old, that's okay to lose everything. If 0:06:50.600 --> 0:06:53.600 you're married, you don't want to lose everything. You have 0:06:53.800 --> 0:06:57.720 more to lose. You're going to experience this for maybe 0:06:57.839 --> 0:07:00.920 sixty years. You're going to be made married and you're 0:07:00.960 --> 0:07:05.160 gonna have responsibility of not only her, but kids and 0:07:05.920 --> 0:07:10.200 god willing grandkids. And you have to tighten up this 0:07:10.320 --> 0:07:14.680 ship when you're doing that. But right now you could 0:07:14.680 --> 0:07:19.720 be a loose cannon. Loosely speaking. Yeah, let's just for 0:07:19.960 --> 0:07:23.520 the fun of it, let's shift the landscape of what 0:07:23.520 --> 0:07:29.000 we're talking about here, or the scene. Victor lives on 0:07:29.160 --> 0:07:33.040 a plot of land that his family has owned for generations. 0:07:33.760 --> 0:07:38.160 His grandmother and grandfather live on the property. They got 0:07:38.160 --> 0:07:41.880 married when they were seventeen. His parents got married when 0:07:41.880 --> 0:07:44.480 they were seventeen. They all work on this farm in 0:07:44.520 --> 0:07:50.480 the mountains together. Their school is kind of like just 0:07:50.880 --> 0:07:54.960 a little bit or it's just different than here. Like 0:07:55.000 --> 0:07:56.840 they go to school and then they go work in 0:07:56.880 --> 0:07:59.400 the afternoons and it's like this apprentice kind of growing, 0:07:59.440 --> 0:08:04.360 which sounds awesome. Actually, but what if that, what if 0:08:04.400 --> 0:08:08.760 that is the context here for Victor? Is the answer 0:08:08.840 --> 0:08:13.720 the same this back to this is a cultural thing. Yeah, 0:08:13.720 --> 0:08:15.600 I guess, I guess this was question. What if the 0:08:15.720 --> 0:08:20.080 culture is is like that, if that's the scene, you're right, 0:08:20.640 --> 0:08:23.160 You're right, and so the answer is not so then 0:08:23.560 --> 0:08:27.080 if that's the situation, then we just go straight to 0:08:27.120 --> 0:08:29.440 his question, I want to make more money than just 0:08:29.520 --> 0:08:31.920 my salary? What advice do you give me? Okay, right, 0:08:33.040 --> 0:08:35.920 like we got way off of his question. Threw something 0:08:35.960 --> 0:08:39.760 at him that, Yeah, hey're like whoa sixteen? Hold on, man, 0:08:39.840 --> 0:08:42.040 I love let me say too. I love the Mexican 0:08:42.040 --> 0:08:47.400 culture so much. I love it. I love I love 0:08:47.600 --> 0:08:50.120 the culture. I love the music, I love the food, 0:08:50.720 --> 0:08:54.000 I love the work ethic. I love the architecture and 0:08:54.040 --> 0:08:58.040 the colors and the I love I love the Mexican culture. 0:08:58.320 --> 0:08:59.839 So I want to come visit you. I want to 0:08:59.840 --> 0:09:01.760 take you up on your offer and go to Durango 0:09:02.240 --> 0:09:05.040 and you come here to the Yegee farm and you 0:09:05.080 --> 0:09:07.720 spend some time with us, and you seem like a 0:09:07.960 --> 0:09:09.960 really cool kid. And you could work for me. That 0:09:10.000 --> 0:09:11.880 would be amazing. You come work for me, that's the 0:09:11.960 --> 0:09:13.880 answer for some You can come work for me too. 0:09:14.000 --> 0:09:17.520 If you are looking for options, we'll both of us 0:09:17.559 --> 0:09:19.680 and we'll trade, will trade, you know, will come stay 0:09:19.840 --> 0:09:24.600 at your ranch? That would be okay. But that's not 0:09:24.640 --> 0:09:26.280 as none of this is his question. His question is 0:09:26.320 --> 0:09:28.840 he wants to make more money right now in Durango 0:09:28.920 --> 0:09:32.000 as a farmer, as a sixteen year old. What advice 0:09:32.040 --> 0:09:37.120 do you give parentheses? Getting married is expensive, So goal 0:09:37.360 --> 0:09:39.839 make more money so that I can get married because 0:09:39.880 --> 0:09:42.200 it costs money, right tying those together? So doing it 0:09:42.240 --> 0:09:48.960 for his girl, which is admirable, I think, well, okay, 0:09:49.000 --> 0:09:51.880 let's just break this down to he's got a boss. 0:09:51.880 --> 0:09:55.640 I'm sure right if we're talking about practical ways that 0:09:55.679 --> 0:09:57.880 you can make more money, Okay, if I have people 0:09:57.920 --> 0:09:59.280 come to me all the time, I want to make 0:09:59.280 --> 0:10:05.200 more money, right, employees, And it's almost like okay, well, 0:10:05.760 --> 0:10:10.000 you need to find ways to add value to the 0:10:10.080 --> 0:10:12.640 company that you're a part of. So the farm team, 0:10:12.840 --> 0:10:14.280 whatever it is that you're a part of, you have 0:10:14.320 --> 0:10:18.280 to find ways to add value to that. And that 0:10:18.320 --> 0:10:23.920 could be I'm going to take these very specific tasks 0:10:24.720 --> 0:10:29.280 and responsibilities off the plate of my supervisor that person. Ye, 0:10:29.640 --> 0:10:32.480 so then they get more freed up and I'm Therefore, 0:10:32.520 --> 0:10:35.360 if I get pulled out of this company, there's a 0:10:35.400 --> 0:10:37.840 lot more that's at stake. My employer does not want 0:10:37.840 --> 0:10:40.400 to lose me because replacing me is going to be 0:10:40.440 --> 0:10:44.880 really difficult. Make it difficult to be replaced. That's how 0:10:44.920 --> 0:10:49.600 you make more money. Yeah, yeah, that's great. So that's 0:10:49.760 --> 0:10:51.960 that's in the context of staying in your same job 0:10:52.040 --> 0:10:55.720 right now and be someone they can't replace. Be someone 0:10:55.760 --> 0:10:59.840 that knows how to work the generator, that knows how 0:10:59.840 --> 0:11:04.199 to work the truck, that knows how to repair the tractor. 0:11:04.679 --> 0:11:07.760 You're the guy that knows just about everything there on 0:11:07.800 --> 0:11:11.199 the farm. And you want everyone to think, well, I 0:11:11.280 --> 0:11:14.240 mean we got to cut back. Who should we cut back? Well, 0:11:14.400 --> 0:11:17.360 definitely not Victor, because I need him seven different things. 0:11:17.679 --> 0:11:21.080 So there's that. If you don't want to be part 0:11:21.120 --> 0:11:25.240 of the farm doing this then, I mean there's there's 0:11:25.240 --> 0:11:27.439 stuff like Uber. Can you drive Uber when you're sixteen? 0:11:28.640 --> 0:11:31.199 I don't know. Last time I went to Mexico, one 0:11:31.240 --> 0:11:32.719 of the ranch hands that I was working with this 0:11:32.800 --> 0:11:35.480 reason I even thought about it. I said, what do 0:11:35.480 --> 0:11:37.040 you do for extra money? And he said he drives 0:11:37.120 --> 0:11:41.599 Uber And that was in Sonora. So I don't know 0:11:41.640 --> 0:11:44.040 if you could drive at sixteen, But there's there's a 0:11:44.080 --> 0:11:46.199 lot of things that you could do, like you clock 0:11:46.240 --> 0:11:48.960 out from the farm and then you clock in on 0:11:49.000 --> 0:11:53.120 the Uber app and you start that. But basically, it's 0:11:53.160 --> 0:11:55.160 a great question, man, and we wish you the best, 0:11:55.240 --> 0:11:57.640 and we both think that you shouldn't get married right now. 0:12:00.000 --> 0:12:03.000 Your grandma and your great grandma and your mom, everybody 0:12:03.559 --> 0:12:05.480 and your family all lives together and that's kind of 0:12:05.480 --> 0:12:09.040 the thing, and you have that support and that's cultural differences. 0:12:09.320 --> 0:12:13.120 Tell them you want you need to go on a 0:12:13.120 --> 0:12:16.959 a work trip to Texas and work for your buddy Granger. 0:12:17.320 --> 0:12:19.640 Yeah that's so you can't get married right now, but 0:12:19.720 --> 0:12:23.439 you're going to go on this trip. So yeah, thank you, Victor. 0:12:23.440 --> 0:12:27.680 I appreciate your brother. Here's I just saw your name. 0:12:28.400 --> 0:12:34.840 Where was that? I literally just saw your name here. 0:12:34.880 --> 0:12:37.840 It is right there, Granger slash Bernie. I need some 0:12:37.880 --> 0:12:43.480 advice Hed Granger and guest princees hopefully Bernie. My name 0:12:43.520 --> 0:12:46.240 is Nick. I'm eighteen. I'm about to start college as 0:12:46.240 --> 0:12:49.600 a heavy diesel mechanic. I've had job since I was fifteen, 0:12:50.120 --> 0:12:52.800 and now I have a pretty good job and it 0:12:52.840 --> 0:12:55.920 brings It has brought me plenty of good things, and 0:12:56.000 --> 0:12:58.400 I've always wanted to be I've always wanted to get 0:12:58.400 --> 0:13:02.440 a bass boat. But I buy things that I probably 0:13:02.480 --> 0:13:07.640 don't need, and I but I'm trying to read your writing, brother, 0:13:08.080 --> 0:13:10.920 But I do it anyway and feel like I regret 0:13:11.000 --> 0:13:13.200 it afterwards. So you buy things that you don't need, 0:13:13.240 --> 0:13:17.120 and then you regret it. I look at others and 0:13:17.200 --> 0:13:19.559 what they have at my age, and I always think 0:13:19.600 --> 0:13:22.600 I could do better. I struggle at saving money, and 0:13:22.800 --> 0:13:24.520 I know I need to grow up fast and start 0:13:24.559 --> 0:13:27.319 a life. It just seems like no matter how much 0:13:27.360 --> 0:13:30.640 I have, I feel like I don't have enough. I 0:13:30.640 --> 0:13:35.480 feel like like no matter how much money or materialistic 0:13:35.520 --> 0:13:37.600 things I have, I feel like I fall short. Sometimes 0:13:38.080 --> 0:13:40.520 I struggle at saving money. I struggle at looking at 0:13:40.559 --> 0:13:43.560 everything else that everyone has, and I struggle at looking 0:13:43.559 --> 0:13:46.280 what I have as a blessing. I always look to 0:13:46.320 --> 0:13:49.080 the Lord. That will never change. Lately I can't seem 0:13:49.120 --> 0:13:53.240 to find happiness. Please help, Thank you. This was a 0:13:53.400 --> 0:13:56.400 nick This email got worse and worse as it went on. 0:13:57.360 --> 0:14:00.120 Like it starts off, it's like things are pretty good, 0:14:00.120 --> 0:14:01.880 a good job, and I just wish I had a 0:14:01.920 --> 0:14:04.280 bass boat, and then it ends up the very end 0:14:04.320 --> 0:14:08.480 saying I can't find happiness, or right before that, he said, 0:14:08.640 --> 0:14:10.559 I always look to the Lord and that'll ever change. 0:14:10.600 --> 0:14:13.920 Which I'm gonna challenge that, bro, yep, because if your 0:14:13.960 --> 0:14:17.360 heart is in that place of like there's no contentment 0:14:17.800 --> 0:14:19.640 and you feel like you need that, you need that, 0:14:19.680 --> 0:14:21.480 you're not talking the Lord, because God's gonna be like, 0:14:21.560 --> 0:14:23.720 y'all need that, bro all he needs me. Hey right here, 0:14:23.920 --> 0:14:27.360 right here, don't worry about all that material stuff. Like man, 0:14:27.400 --> 0:14:29.280 I heard of God say the other day that we 0:14:29.960 --> 0:14:32.640 go to Jesus at the beginning, we go to Jesus 0:14:32.920 --> 0:14:35.840 for him to fulfill our needs, and then we later 0:14:35.920 --> 0:14:42.280 find out he's all we need. And that's so true. 0:14:42.320 --> 0:14:45.280 It's like, hey, hey Jesus, everyone's been talking about you. 0:14:45.840 --> 0:14:48.880 I really need you to help fix this all right, 0:14:48.880 --> 0:14:51.280 I need you to help fulfill this or help me 0:14:51.320 --> 0:14:53.760 get more of this, or help this person to get well. 0:14:54.920 --> 0:14:56.560 And then the more we develop in our faith, we 0:14:56.640 --> 0:14:59.800 realize Jesus, You're just all I need. Yeah, I feel 0:14:59.800 --> 0:15:04.880 like hyper said I read something recently. Don't pray because 0:15:04.880 --> 0:15:10.360 you want God to meet your needs. Pray because it 0:15:10.400 --> 0:15:14.400 glorifies God to meet our needs. Does that make sense? Yeah? 0:15:14.440 --> 0:15:18.760 It does. Like, Hey, this is so I think the 0:15:18.800 --> 0:15:20.720 point is is like there's a posture here that I 0:15:20.720 --> 0:15:24.760 think is just a little off balance. Yeah. So the 0:15:25.520 --> 0:15:29.440 specific question, though, is how do I well got worse 0:15:29.480 --> 0:15:32.600 and worse? But the problem seems to be the source 0:15:32.680 --> 0:15:36.880 of he two things. One he looks at everyone else 0:15:37.080 --> 0:15:40.480 like they're doing better than him. And two he buys 0:15:40.520 --> 0:15:43.640 things that he doesn't need and then regrets it later. Okay, 0:15:45.080 --> 0:15:47.720 I wonder how long later, Because if you start using Amazon, 0:15:47.840 --> 0:15:49.880 you can always like, you know, you got a little 0:15:49.920 --> 0:15:51.760 window of the time you can just hit refund and 0:15:51.880 --> 0:15:54.440 return that thing. It's like okay, or you can just 0:15:54.440 --> 0:15:58.400 ship it back, you know. But hey, I am encouraged 0:15:58.440 --> 0:16:01.440 by this guy. I mean, he is I can tend 0:16:01.480 --> 0:16:05.040 to have this like negative perception of the next generation. 0:16:05.520 --> 0:16:07.680 But we have a lot of teenagers that write in 0:16:08.080 --> 0:16:11.760 and they're all hard working. Yeah, and they'll do they'll 0:16:11.800 --> 0:16:14.560 do a lot of the stuff that most folks don't 0:16:14.560 --> 0:16:16.280 want to do, and they'll get jobs and they'll work 0:16:16.280 --> 0:16:18.560 full time too. I'm doing this. I'm It's like, man, 0:16:18.600 --> 0:16:21.560 that's that part's encouraging. You just got to use that 0:16:21.840 --> 0:16:27.000 energy towards something else besides trying to you know, fulfill 0:16:27.040 --> 0:16:30.720 your material. Yeah, he says he's about to start college 0:16:31.120 --> 0:16:34.280 to be a heavy diesel mechanic. That's a great job. 0:16:35.040 --> 0:16:39.840 That job is very plentiful to get a job like that. 0:16:39.920 --> 0:16:43.640 They're in high demand. There's so much trucks, so many 0:16:43.680 --> 0:16:46.920 trucks on the road, so many diesel engines on the road, 0:16:47.040 --> 0:16:49.960 or or generators or what you're you're just going to 0:16:50.040 --> 0:16:54.840 be in a high demand position. So you're eighteen, we 0:16:54.880 --> 0:16:56.720 could almost say the same thing as we said to Victor. 0:16:57.640 --> 0:17:00.240 The great thing, man, The great thing, Nick is you 0:17:00.320 --> 0:17:05.040 can't afford to make mistakes. Now, see that, Victor. Here's 0:17:05.080 --> 0:17:10.439 a good example. Nick. He's having financial struggles, but in 0:17:10.480 --> 0:17:14.399 the end he's eighteen, and it's okay. When this is 0:17:14.400 --> 0:17:17.760 when these kind of mistakes. This kind of exploration financially 0:17:18.280 --> 0:17:22.720 is okay. Like I bought this stupid thing that I 0:17:22.760 --> 0:17:26.240 thought was cool, and now I regret spending one hundred 0:17:26.240 --> 0:17:28.280 and thirty four dollars on this and I don't even 0:17:28.320 --> 0:17:33.320 really use it. Okay, cool, learn from that because you 0:17:33.359 --> 0:17:35.760 don't have a wife and kids yet that depend on 0:17:35.800 --> 0:17:39.440 you to make those decisions right. So there's a lot 0:17:39.440 --> 0:17:42.399 of positive here. And it's a good example for Victor 0:17:42.680 --> 0:17:44.920 because Victor was looking at getting married at the same 0:17:44.960 --> 0:17:49.960 age that Nick is now and Nick is struggling, and man, Nick, 0:17:50.000 --> 0:17:57.000 you're struggling rightly. Because I was eighteen. I wasn't an idiot. 0:17:57.800 --> 0:18:02.000 I was idiot eighteen year old. I always think of 0:18:02.200 --> 0:18:06.000 this in my teenage years. I think in terms of 0:18:06.200 --> 0:18:08.919 I had blinders like a like a horse, Like I 0:18:08.960 --> 0:18:11.879 had those horse blinders where all I saw was just 0:18:11.920 --> 0:18:14.520 the next step ahead of me. I didn't see anything 0:18:14.640 --> 0:18:17.320 to the right or left or up or down, and 0:18:17.400 --> 0:18:20.040 I didn't see the world going on around me. I 0:18:20.119 --> 0:18:24.760 was hard headed, hard to learn, hard to improve because 0:18:24.760 --> 0:18:27.320 I had these blinders on. And I think I think 0:18:27.359 --> 0:18:31.080 that's actually part of the brain development, Like there's yeah, 0:18:31.160 --> 0:18:33.440 there's yeah, there's doctors that will say, yeah, your brain's 0:18:33.480 --> 0:18:37.040 not fully developed. Yeah, those frontal lobes are not connected yet. Yeah. 0:18:37.280 --> 0:18:39.879 Scares the crap out of me for my kids growing up. 0:18:40.119 --> 0:18:43.200 Like right, So that's when I want to relate to spec, 0:18:43.240 --> 0:18:45.240 to Victor and just say, look Victory, look at Nick. 0:18:45.520 --> 0:18:47.800 You know, here's the question right here. Man making some 0:18:48.040 --> 0:18:50.679 making some mistakes that are okay. These these are not 0:18:50.760 --> 0:18:54.120 devastating things, and you're asking the right questions. Like Bernie said, 0:18:54.160 --> 0:18:57.080 you're learning. Just like Bernie said, I don't think you're 0:18:57.160 --> 0:18:59.720 leaning into the Lord like you say that you are. 0:19:00.200 --> 0:19:02.680 I always look to the Lord, and that'll never change. 0:19:03.280 --> 0:19:05.320 I don't see the fruits of that in your question. 0:19:05.920 --> 0:19:08.960 I don't see I don't see very much evidence of 0:19:09.119 --> 0:19:13.160 a of giving your life to a savior the way 0:19:13.160 --> 0:19:16.920 that you think you might be. Right did I at eighteen? No, 0:19:17.480 --> 0:19:19.480 So dude, you're not in You're not in a different 0:19:19.520 --> 0:19:21.800 boat than I ever was in. But I just want 0:19:21.800 --> 0:19:24.360 to point that out that you can't add that sentence 0:19:24.480 --> 0:19:26.800 unless you can have some fruits of that and go, 0:19:27.440 --> 0:19:29.639 I've given, I give. I look to the Lord like 0:19:29.640 --> 0:19:32.200 you said, I look to the Lord. And here's evidence 0:19:32.240 --> 0:19:35.240 of looking to him, here's the evidence of it. Here's 0:19:35.920 --> 0:19:39.240 what's what's the evidence peace, hope and joy M hmcause 0:19:39.320 --> 0:19:42.200 that's you should immediately be able to say, I see evidence, 0:19:42.240 --> 0:19:46.960 maybe not fully fulfilled, but I see evidence slivers maybe 0:19:47.320 --> 0:19:50.720 of peace, hope and joy in my life. But the 0:19:50.760 --> 0:19:54.800 next thing you said was I can't find happiness. Yeah, 0:19:54.840 --> 0:19:57.960 and let me just tell you that, no matter how 0:19:58.080 --> 0:20:00.919 much money you do end up making as a diesel 0:20:00.920 --> 0:20:05.280 mechanic or the CEO of some big company, like material 0:20:05.400 --> 0:20:08.560 things are never going to fill you the way that 0:20:08.600 --> 0:20:16.000 you're thinking it will boom, and it's just not going 0:20:16.080 --> 0:20:18.280 to do it. So don't you know, there's a ton 0:20:18.320 --> 0:20:20.880 of people in history, me included probably Grange or two 0:20:20.920 --> 0:20:23.840 that have you know, we've chased that and thought that 0:20:23.880 --> 0:20:26.000 it could do it. It can't. Don't do it. If 0:20:26.040 --> 0:20:30.200 any advice you listen to, just don't chase that materialistic Hey, 0:20:30.240 --> 0:20:32.080 if I just had more money, I could buy this 0:20:32.119 --> 0:20:33.480 thing and it would make me happy. It's not going 0:20:33.560 --> 0:20:35.840 to happen. Okay. The price tag of what you want 0:20:36.080 --> 0:20:38.680 always goes up relative to what you're making at the time. 0:20:38.840 --> 0:20:41.000 That's right. Always, that's right. So if you think one 0:20:41.080 --> 0:20:43.359 hundred and thirty four dollars. My example earlier is a 0:20:43.400 --> 0:20:46.280 lot right now that's going to be seven hundred and 0:20:46.280 --> 0:20:49.040 thirty four dollars five years down the road, and then 0:20:49.040 --> 0:20:51.560 it's going to be thirteen hundred and forty five dollars 0:20:51.560 --> 0:20:53.199 down the road. And then you're going to look at 0:20:53.200 --> 0:20:56.800 something that's thirteen thousand, and then you're gonna go this 0:20:56.920 --> 0:20:59.080 is crazy. It's thirteen thousand, and then you're going to 0:20:59.119 --> 0:21:02.600 be buying a house, and then it's just ungodly amount 0:21:02.640 --> 0:21:05.560 of money that you're spending here. It doesn't change, it's 0:21:05.600 --> 0:21:08.000 relative to what you make if you don't fix the 0:21:08.040 --> 0:21:10.640 problem that its source. Yep. And one of the problems 0:21:10.640 --> 0:21:15.240 we see here is you're looking to others, and we 0:21:15.320 --> 0:21:19.439 know from human experience that never works. You could, it 0:21:19.440 --> 0:21:21.880 doesn't matter. You could look at me and go, oh, 0:21:21.920 --> 0:21:24.800 he's he's a singer and he has he's had mild 0:21:24.880 --> 0:21:26.880 success in music, so now he could just do whatever 0:21:26.880 --> 0:21:30.000 he wants. You think, I don't look and go Justin 0:21:30.040 --> 0:21:34.359 Timberlake man is crushing it. You think Justin Timberlake doesn't 0:21:34.400 --> 0:21:38.040 go man, Elvis just had it, man, he had guys 0:21:38.080 --> 0:21:40.160 it Never there's never a cap to it. And guess 0:21:40.160 --> 0:21:44.200 what happened to Elvis died because of this, Yeah, he died. 0:21:44.640 --> 0:21:48.840 He died because because material things never fulfilled his happiness 0:21:48.840 --> 0:21:52.800 that he thought they would. So it's a dangerous circle, man, 0:21:52.880 --> 0:21:56.640 it's a dangerous circle. And it's just self discipline. Given 0:21:56.720 --> 0:21:58.520 it to the Lord. Like you said, look to the 0:21:58.520 --> 0:22:01.400 Lord and say, God, I'm one with this. I'm giving 0:22:01.440 --> 0:22:04.600 it to you. And you could give any struggle fill 0:22:04.640 --> 0:22:06.520 in the blank of your struggle, God, I'm giving it 0:22:06.520 --> 0:22:09.560 to you. Yeah. I feel like this what was this 0:22:09.560 --> 0:22:12.400 guy's name again, Nick? Nick? I feel like Nick may 0:22:12.440 --> 0:22:17.479 have this backwards by his like he kind of, you know, 0:22:17.520 --> 0:22:20.360 in a secondary kind of way, slips in. I looked 0:22:20.359 --> 0:22:22.960 at the Lord and everything. I was just talking with 0:22:23.000 --> 0:22:25.040 a buddy of mine who is going through a really 0:22:25.160 --> 0:22:27.920 tough season, and he was saying all of these things, 0:22:28.640 --> 0:22:32.520 and he's like, and I know that these things are 0:22:32.560 --> 0:22:36.600 affecting my walk with God. And then I said, well, 0:22:36.640 --> 0:22:42.800 hold on a second, man, I feel like your walk 0:22:42.840 --> 0:22:46.280 with God right now may actually be affecting those things. 0:22:46.320 --> 0:22:48.680 That's not a secondary thing. You looking to the Lord 0:22:48.760 --> 0:22:52.119 is not a secondary thing. That is what is affecting 0:22:52.200 --> 0:22:56.320 your lack of happiness, that is what is affecting your situation. 0:22:56.720 --> 0:22:59.879 Your lack of looking to God is what is causing 0:23:00.320 --> 0:23:02.840 a lot of these issues, the discontentment and the need. 0:23:03.080 --> 0:23:06.400 I'm trying to feel this. It's like, if we believe 0:23:06.520 --> 0:23:09.320 in our belief system that if you are truly looking 0:23:09.320 --> 0:23:11.680