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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. I am a thirty two year old

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Speaker 1: Please help me. Well, I gotta say, first of all,

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Speaker 1: that teaching adults. Ged that that's great. Thank you. As

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Speaker 1: know what if it were the other way? Around where

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Speaker 1: You will not tolerate that in your classroom. If she continues,

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Speaker 1: But it's because she's so aggressive. I think you need

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Speaker 1: And if she doesn't have if she doesn't stop, you're

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Speaker 1: but you gotta start saying something slick. You're gonna have

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Speaker 1: to be with someone that I'm equally yoked with. Okay,

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Speaker 1: ain't got no diploma now tying these chair stems with

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Speaker 1: and take them old ass wedge heels off, and nah,

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Speaker 1: I don't want no damn crocheted scoff. I'll go out

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