1 00:00:02,640 --> 00:00:04,760 Speaker 1: Good afternoons. We've behead Are you gonna be a going 2 00:00:04,800 --> 00:00:06,119 Speaker 1: to wake up for this podcast? 3 00:00:06,240 --> 00:00:06,640 Speaker 2: I hope? 4 00:00:06,720 --> 00:00:08,720 Speaker 3: So I have you been so tired? 5 00:00:09,520 --> 00:00:11,440 Speaker 2: I don't know. You said something about the moon, So 6 00:00:11,480 --> 00:00:13,600 Speaker 2: I'm just going to blame on the moon, full moon 7 00:00:13,760 --> 00:00:14,880 Speaker 2: sucking my energy out. 8 00:00:15,240 --> 00:00:16,640 Speaker 1: I love Chip and I were supposed to have a 9 00:00:16,680 --> 00:00:19,560 Speaker 1: meeting yesterday and he I'm sorry today, and he texted 10 00:00:19,560 --> 00:00:21,439 Speaker 1: me yesterday and was like, Okay, I'll see you on 11 00:00:21,480 --> 00:00:24,560 Speaker 1: the meeting of whatever time. And I thought, wait, huh. 12 00:00:24,640 --> 00:00:26,520 Speaker 1: I thought for a second, I had gotten my days wrong, 13 00:00:26,840 --> 00:00:28,880 Speaker 1: but you had gotten a days wrong. And we were 14 00:00:28,880 --> 00:00:30,920 Speaker 1: talking about you missed a doctor's appointment too. You were 15 00:00:30,960 --> 00:00:33,640 Speaker 1: just off and you go, oh, just mark your retrograde. 16 00:00:33,680 --> 00:00:35,400 Speaker 1: And I didn't have the heart to tell you it's over. 17 00:00:38,760 --> 00:00:40,280 Speaker 2: So the retrograde's retrograde. 18 00:00:40,640 --> 00:00:41,519 Speaker 3: Yeah, it's just no. 19 00:00:41,640 --> 00:00:44,880 Speaker 1: I think you're just chipping like I was. There's really 20 00:00:44,880 --> 00:00:46,800 Speaker 1: nothing you can blame right now. I did give you 21 00:00:46,840 --> 00:00:48,680 Speaker 1: the moon. There's a full moon this week. 22 00:00:48,920 --> 00:00:52,159 Speaker 2: So I feel like because yesterday it start my day 23 00:00:52,240 --> 00:00:55,160 Speaker 2: started with missing a doctor's pointment in the morning, and 24 00:00:55,200 --> 00:00:59,200 Speaker 2: it's it's always an indicator, like, yeah, those days are 25 00:00:59,240 --> 00:01:03,160 Speaker 2: like you should just crawl right back into f everything, 26 00:01:03,280 --> 00:01:06,880 Speaker 2: because it's when your day starts off shitty, it's just 27 00:01:06,959 --> 00:01:10,280 Speaker 2: gonna it's a domino effect. At least that's my experience generally. 28 00:01:10,880 --> 00:01:11,119 Speaker 3: Yeah. 29 00:01:11,120 --> 00:01:14,880 Speaker 1: Well, especially if it starts with being late or forgetting 30 00:01:14,920 --> 00:01:17,200 Speaker 1: an appointment like something like that kind of seems like 31 00:01:17,240 --> 00:01:19,400 Speaker 1: it just throws everything off For some reason. 32 00:01:19,400 --> 00:01:21,920 Speaker 2: I didn't call to be like I'm running late. I 33 00:01:21,920 --> 00:01:25,480 Speaker 2: thought I would just show up late. Yeah, well we're 34 00:01:25,480 --> 00:01:27,559 Speaker 2: gonna have to reschedule for July. 35 00:01:29,120 --> 00:01:29,919 Speaker 3: I was like, what. 36 00:01:31,680 --> 00:01:35,520 Speaker 2: I ended up getting in today? So I got a 37 00:01:35,520 --> 00:01:36,240 Speaker 2: good bill of health? 38 00:01:36,920 --> 00:01:38,600 Speaker 1: Well good, Well, I hope you can wake up. He's 39 00:01:38,600 --> 00:01:39,760 Speaker 1: been yawning since we got on this. 40 00:01:41,520 --> 00:01:42,160 Speaker 3: We shall see. 41 00:01:42,200 --> 00:01:44,679 Speaker 2: The weather's weird, so the clouds just rolled in. My 42 00:01:44,760 --> 00:01:46,720 Speaker 2: body is like, oh, it's sleepy. 43 00:01:46,360 --> 00:01:48,800 Speaker 3: Time, nap time. But it's not. It's not. 44 00:01:49,600 --> 00:01:51,760 Speaker 1: I like our topic today. I think it's kind of fun. 45 00:01:51,840 --> 00:01:54,680 Speaker 1: But I was telling you I talked to Lauren Sissler, 46 00:01:54,720 --> 00:01:58,160 Speaker 1: who's a sideline reporter for ESPN. She does college football, 47 00:01:58,200 --> 00:02:00,760 Speaker 1: So you know, I'm always gonna be so excited to 48 00:02:00,800 --> 00:02:03,000 Speaker 1: talk to people like that. It was combining like both 49 00:02:03,040 --> 00:02:05,880 Speaker 1: of the best of both worlds to me because we 50 00:02:06,040 --> 00:02:08,799 Speaker 1: were talked about she wrote a book called Shatterproof, How 51 00:02:08,840 --> 00:02:11,920 Speaker 1: I overcame the shame of losing my parents to opioid addiction. 52 00:02:12,240 --> 00:02:15,359 Speaker 1: She lost both her parents in one day. Could you imagine? 53 00:02:15,400 --> 00:02:19,880 Speaker 1: I mean wild, wild, and so heartbreaking and devastating, obviously 54 00:02:19,960 --> 00:02:22,560 Speaker 1: very traumatic, and so we were talking about that experience 55 00:02:22,960 --> 00:02:24,240 Speaker 1: and then at the end we got to talk about 56 00:02:24,240 --> 00:02:27,000 Speaker 1: college football a little bit. So it was kind of 57 00:02:27,000 --> 00:02:28,400 Speaker 1: my dream come true conversation. 58 00:02:30,280 --> 00:02:32,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm like, I don't know if I'll to that one. 59 00:02:32,800 --> 00:02:34,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, you're like a sportsball what. 60 00:02:36,240 --> 00:02:38,880 Speaker 1: Anyway, Lauren has a really cool story because now, you know, 61 00:02:38,960 --> 00:02:41,000 Speaker 1: I love people who are turning their pain into purpose. 62 00:02:41,040 --> 00:02:44,000 Speaker 1: And the fact that she's been able to find the 63 00:02:44,080 --> 00:02:48,840 Speaker 1: resilience and even just find her voice about this heart 64 00:02:48,880 --> 00:02:51,000 Speaker 1: of a topic. You know, it was so traumatic in 65 00:02:51,040 --> 00:02:53,919 Speaker 1: her life, and she's now doing public speaking, she's written 66 00:02:53,960 --> 00:02:56,720 Speaker 1: this book, and she's really trying to help other people 67 00:02:57,520 --> 00:03:00,480 Speaker 1: find tell and love their stories. And that was so 68 00:03:00,600 --> 00:03:03,840 Speaker 1: inspiring to me because I do find when I look 69 00:03:03,880 --> 00:03:07,120 Speaker 1: back at my life when traumatic things have happened, it 70 00:03:07,160 --> 00:03:09,240 Speaker 1: does shut you down a lot, and I think you 71 00:03:09,280 --> 00:03:11,680 Speaker 1: can often go into kind of like this freeze mode, 72 00:03:12,480 --> 00:03:16,040 Speaker 1: I start stop being able to speak even about the 73 00:03:16,120 --> 00:03:18,519 Speaker 1: topic for a while, and there just feels like there's 74 00:03:18,560 --> 00:03:22,400 Speaker 1: just like this heaviness to it. And it's maybe sometimes 75 00:03:22,480 --> 00:03:24,120 Speaker 1: I think, a human nature thing to kind of just 76 00:03:24,160 --> 00:03:26,680 Speaker 1: want to forget that happen, push it away, you know, 77 00:03:27,760 --> 00:03:29,760 Speaker 1: cover it up. And you and I were talking and 78 00:03:29,800 --> 00:03:33,600 Speaker 1: we're thinking about those moments in our lives now, and 79 00:03:33,639 --> 00:03:35,520 Speaker 1: I think this is probably because we've both done a 80 00:03:35,560 --> 00:03:39,200 Speaker 1: lot of work and like the more you grow out 81 00:03:39,280 --> 00:03:42,280 Speaker 1: of it or time passes and things get better again 82 00:03:42,280 --> 00:03:44,320 Speaker 1: in your life, the easier it is to look back 83 00:03:44,320 --> 00:03:46,680 Speaker 1: at those traumatic events and go, wow, I would never 84 00:03:46,720 --> 00:03:49,320 Speaker 1: be able to be where I am now without that, 85 00:03:49,400 --> 00:03:51,760 Speaker 1: and so you can almost have like a gratitude for it. 86 00:03:52,040 --> 00:03:53,960 Speaker 1: So it does shift a little bit. I know, you said, 87 00:03:54,000 --> 00:03:55,600 Speaker 1: that's happened a lot in your life, right. 88 00:03:56,040 --> 00:03:58,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, And I mean even thinking about her story too, 89 00:03:58,200 --> 00:04:00,440 Speaker 2: it's like I'm trying to put myself in her shoes, 90 00:04:00,960 --> 00:04:04,360 Speaker 2: and I don't like the me right now, Like with 91 00:04:04,440 --> 00:04:07,320 Speaker 2: that idea is like I had, you don't recover from that, 92 00:04:08,040 --> 00:04:10,240 Speaker 2: right But I feel like the only way to recover 93 00:04:10,320 --> 00:04:14,480 Speaker 2: it is to acknowledge it and probably keep them alive. 94 00:04:14,560 --> 00:04:18,039 Speaker 2: Through talking about it, because you know, obviously nothing is 95 00:04:18,080 --> 00:04:21,039 Speaker 2: going to bring them back, but hearing that she's not 96 00:04:21,200 --> 00:04:24,600 Speaker 2: alone in that trauma and that loss and sharing that 97 00:04:24,640 --> 00:04:28,440 Speaker 2: with other people is probably the only way, like clear 98 00:04:28,520 --> 00:04:31,920 Speaker 2: way out of the like absolute grief that you would 99 00:04:32,120 --> 00:04:33,040 Speaker 2: find yourself in. 100 00:04:33,440 --> 00:04:35,279 Speaker 3: I think you're absolutely right, And I think. 101 00:04:35,120 --> 00:04:37,240 Speaker 2: It takes a really strong person to be able to 102 00:04:37,400 --> 00:04:40,000 Speaker 2: pick themselves up and do that. I mean, I like, 103 00:04:40,440 --> 00:04:42,320 Speaker 2: because you know, I would say the cynic in me 104 00:04:42,360 --> 00:04:44,920 Speaker 2: would be like, well, now you've made a career off 105 00:04:44,960 --> 00:04:47,159 Speaker 2: of that, but like, I think it's really the only path, 106 00:04:47,360 --> 00:04:50,320 Speaker 2: you know, Yeah, I like sort of own it. Yeah, 107 00:04:50,600 --> 00:04:53,600 Speaker 2: but yeah, I mean it's I think about my humor. 108 00:04:53,680 --> 00:04:56,000 Speaker 2: I think is something that has carried me through most 109 00:04:56,000 --> 00:04:59,120 Speaker 2: of the hard times. And the older I've gotten, the 110 00:04:59,200 --> 00:05:04,159 Speaker 2: more I can recognize my strength. Whereas before humor was 111 00:05:04,200 --> 00:05:08,919 Speaker 2: my armor, and now humor is I use my humor too. 112 00:05:09,720 --> 00:05:12,480 Speaker 2: It's more of my like acknowledgment of something. 113 00:05:12,839 --> 00:05:14,880 Speaker 3: Okay, what do you mean though? 114 00:05:15,160 --> 00:05:18,159 Speaker 2: I understand that when I would like I guess when 115 00:05:18,320 --> 00:05:22,119 Speaker 2: I was younger, like I'll just say, like, I've always 116 00:05:22,120 --> 00:05:25,080 Speaker 2: struggled with my weight, so do that, Like I would 117 00:05:25,120 --> 00:05:28,520 Speaker 2: make like the fat kid jokes about myself, And it 118 00:05:28,600 --> 00:05:31,800 Speaker 2: was really just like a piece of armor because if 119 00:05:31,839 --> 00:05:34,000 Speaker 2: I was saying it first, then no one would hurt 120 00:05:34,080 --> 00:05:37,840 Speaker 2: me by saying it about me. Right, But now it's 121 00:05:38,040 --> 00:05:41,719 Speaker 2: like my body, Like I'm not ashamed of my body anymore. 122 00:05:41,760 --> 00:05:43,400 Speaker 2: Like it is what it is. It's just a vessel 123 00:05:43,440 --> 00:05:46,960 Speaker 2: that I'm in, and it is the way it is 124 00:05:47,000 --> 00:05:49,240 Speaker 2: because of choices that I've made, you know. So it's 125 00:05:49,279 --> 00:05:51,880 Speaker 2: like I can't blame anyone but myself, and right now 126 00:05:51,880 --> 00:05:53,760 Speaker 2: I'm doing the work to change it, and I'm seeing 127 00:05:53,960 --> 00:05:58,320 Speaker 2: I'm seeing that, you know, action actually has positive consequences. 128 00:05:58,800 --> 00:06:01,080 Speaker 2: So now I feel like if I was making that joke, 129 00:06:01,839 --> 00:06:05,760 Speaker 2: it wouldn't necessarily be armor. It would be acknowledgment of 130 00:06:05,839 --> 00:06:09,320 Speaker 2: I am who I am and being okay with it. 131 00:06:09,720 --> 00:06:12,599 Speaker 2: And I have a license to do it because it 132 00:06:12,640 --> 00:06:15,840 Speaker 2: reflects me, you know, it's not just like a fat joke, 133 00:06:16,400 --> 00:06:19,159 Speaker 2: skinny person telling a fat joke. So I think it's 134 00:06:19,160 --> 00:06:23,000 Speaker 2: just a way to like frame how your sort of 135 00:06:23,040 --> 00:06:26,880 Speaker 2: existence and your stories have you gotten you through things? 136 00:06:27,279 --> 00:06:29,839 Speaker 2: And you know, every single thing that's ever happened to 137 00:06:29,880 --> 00:06:32,160 Speaker 2: me or things that I've done, has gotten me exactly 138 00:06:32,240 --> 00:06:33,440 Speaker 2: where I am today, and. 139 00:06:33,440 --> 00:06:38,200 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I think right like I do think as 140 00:06:38,200 --> 00:06:42,160 Speaker 1: a society we maybe haven't done the best job of 141 00:06:42,279 --> 00:06:45,960 Speaker 1: talking about what life actually is. And all of us 142 00:06:46,000 --> 00:06:49,000 Speaker 1: are on an individual journey. I talk about this all 143 00:06:49,040 --> 00:06:51,960 Speaker 1: the time. Everyone's journey is different and everyone is going 144 00:06:52,000 --> 00:06:54,560 Speaker 1: to have hard times, Like there is not one person 145 00:06:55,160 --> 00:06:59,040 Speaker 1: who is it gets off the hook from going through stuff. 146 00:06:59,080 --> 00:07:01,560 Speaker 1: You know, like that is just going to happen, because 147 00:07:01,560 --> 00:07:04,760 Speaker 1: that's why we're all here, is to learn through these hardships. 148 00:07:05,000 --> 00:07:09,440 Speaker 1: Nobody learns through easy times like you just don't. And 149 00:07:09,520 --> 00:07:13,120 Speaker 1: so whatever your path is, there's going to be something 150 00:07:13,800 --> 00:07:17,280 Speaker 1: And I don't know that our society has really talked 151 00:07:17,440 --> 00:07:21,120 Speaker 1: enough about that, so it becomes normalized that times are 152 00:07:21,160 --> 00:07:24,480 Speaker 1: not always going to be good, and what you do 153 00:07:24,840 --> 00:07:28,880 Speaker 1: during the hard times is actually what ends up being 154 00:07:29,400 --> 00:07:31,960 Speaker 1: who you become. It's like who you become, it's where 155 00:07:32,000 --> 00:07:35,040 Speaker 1: you find your strength, that your superpower. And yeah, it 156 00:07:35,040 --> 00:07:37,560 Speaker 1: doesn't always have to be a negative. I am in 157 00:07:37,560 --> 00:07:40,680 Speaker 1: an endeagram four. We've talked about that. I am in 158 00:07:40,680 --> 00:07:43,280 Speaker 1: an astrology. Like I have a lot of water. I 159 00:07:43,320 --> 00:07:46,360 Speaker 1: can get really deep into feels and so I don't 160 00:07:46,360 --> 00:07:49,760 Speaker 1: know that I always find humor in any sort of 161 00:07:49,800 --> 00:07:52,640 Speaker 1: hardship Like that is why I feel really grateful for 162 00:07:52,720 --> 00:07:57,040 Speaker 1: my friends and support system, because I do have a 163 00:07:57,040 --> 00:07:59,520 Speaker 1: lot of people around me who, when I'm going through 164 00:07:59,520 --> 00:08:03,880 Speaker 1: something hard card will kind of not make light of it, 165 00:08:04,080 --> 00:08:07,480 Speaker 1: but almost in a way where there's a joke made 166 00:08:07,520 --> 00:08:11,000 Speaker 1: at some point in the process that actually pulls me 167 00:08:11,120 --> 00:08:12,960 Speaker 1: out of some of the deeper feelings. Like our friend 168 00:08:12,960 --> 00:08:16,280 Speaker 1: Mary is really good at this, you know, like she's 169 00:08:16,400 --> 00:08:19,080 Speaker 1: very grounded in hard moments, and she can listen and 170 00:08:19,200 --> 00:08:21,680 Speaker 1: have a lot of empathy for you, And then there's shit. 171 00:08:21,960 --> 00:08:23,840 Speaker 2: Just don't let people off the hook really easily. 172 00:08:24,200 --> 00:08:25,800 Speaker 3: No, for sure, it's not like that. 173 00:08:26,000 --> 00:08:28,640 Speaker 2: Good about like making you recognize the part that you 174 00:08:28,680 --> 00:08:31,880 Speaker 2: play in the situation. Sure, Whereas when I know when 175 00:08:31,880 --> 00:08:34,760 Speaker 2: I'm going through a traumatic thing, I want everyone around 176 00:08:34,760 --> 00:08:37,480 Speaker 2: me to be like recognizing that it's happening to me. 177 00:08:38,040 --> 00:08:40,480 Speaker 3: Oh yeah, But I think I think that's important too, 178 00:08:41,080 --> 00:08:41,520 Speaker 3: And I've. 179 00:08:41,440 --> 00:08:43,160 Speaker 2: Learned that from her is to like kind of have 180 00:08:43,200 --> 00:08:44,520 Speaker 2: to look in the mirror and be like, what role 181 00:08:44,520 --> 00:08:45,240 Speaker 2: did I play in this? 182 00:08:45,520 --> 00:08:48,000 Speaker 1: Of course, always all of that, you know, is really 183 00:08:48,000 --> 00:08:50,280 Speaker 1: important to me. I also think it's really important to 184 00:08:50,280 --> 00:08:52,920 Speaker 1: feel the hard feelings, so I never like what you 185 00:08:52,920 --> 00:08:54,760 Speaker 1: were talking about. I think is a great example of 186 00:08:54,760 --> 00:08:58,120 Speaker 1: when people use humor to a detriment when you're trying 187 00:08:58,160 --> 00:09:00,800 Speaker 1: to like mask the feelings or them up or not 188 00:09:00,880 --> 00:09:02,800 Speaker 1: go look at yourself and you're just gonna make jokes 189 00:09:02,800 --> 00:09:05,200 Speaker 1: about it or whatever. I don't think that's productive. 190 00:09:05,240 --> 00:09:06,199 Speaker 2: Oh, I don't think it's healthy. 191 00:09:06,400 --> 00:09:08,959 Speaker 1: But for a person like me who could get stuck 192 00:09:09,000 --> 00:09:11,520 Speaker 1: in the low emotions because I'm very comfortable there, it 193 00:09:11,600 --> 00:09:13,920 Speaker 1: is good to have people who can sometimes make jokes. 194 00:09:13,960 --> 00:09:15,760 Speaker 1: Like I was actually thinking of this example, and it's 195 00:09:15,800 --> 00:09:19,520 Speaker 1: kind of the perfect narrative. But I've talked about this 196 00:09:19,559 --> 00:09:22,240 Speaker 1: before I was engaged. God, this was a decade ago now, 197 00:09:22,280 --> 00:09:24,480 Speaker 1: which is crazy, But I was engaged a long time 198 00:09:24,480 --> 00:09:26,679 Speaker 1: ago when I was thirty and I found out three 199 00:09:26,720 --> 00:09:28,960 Speaker 1: months before my wedding that he had cheated, and so 200 00:09:29,240 --> 00:09:31,640 Speaker 1: I had moved in with him, I'd sold all my stuff. 201 00:09:31,880 --> 00:09:34,400 Speaker 1: We had basically all of our wedding planned. And then 202 00:09:34,400 --> 00:09:36,880 Speaker 1: I found out about that, and I was like, no 203 00:09:36,880 --> 00:09:38,920 Speaker 1: matter what happens, if we can work through this or not, 204 00:09:38,960 --> 00:09:40,840 Speaker 1: Like I can't marry this man in three months, Like 205 00:09:40,880 --> 00:09:43,480 Speaker 1: I got to figure some shit out and that was 206 00:09:43,520 --> 00:09:45,640 Speaker 1: probably one of the darkest times of my life. I mean, 207 00:09:45,800 --> 00:09:48,040 Speaker 1: you knew me kind of then, not as well as 208 00:09:48,040 --> 00:09:52,000 Speaker 1: we do now, but I was very very dark and 209 00:09:52,040 --> 00:09:55,719 Speaker 1: it was very very hard because it also unlocked some 210 00:09:55,920 --> 00:09:58,160 Speaker 1: behavior patterns in me. It was the first time I 211 00:09:58,200 --> 00:10:02,240 Speaker 1: started doing like twelve step work for codependency and things 212 00:10:02,280 --> 00:10:05,079 Speaker 1: that like I had picked up in my childhood, seeing 213 00:10:05,120 --> 00:10:08,560 Speaker 1: how that had manifested in my own behaviors later in 214 00:10:08,600 --> 00:10:10,880 Speaker 1: life and in my relationships. That was the start of 215 00:10:10,880 --> 00:10:13,080 Speaker 1: that journey for me. So to say it was a 216 00:10:13,120 --> 00:10:15,840 Speaker 1: heavy time, it is like, you know, like just to 217 00:10:15,880 --> 00:10:18,480 Speaker 1: say the least, it was a heavy time. There wasn't 218 00:10:18,480 --> 00:10:21,440 Speaker 1: a lot of laughter probably, Like I just was, you know, 219 00:10:21,559 --> 00:10:23,920 Speaker 1: pretty serious all the time. And I remember being at 220 00:10:23,920 --> 00:10:25,880 Speaker 1: one of my friend's houses and it was her now 221 00:10:25,960 --> 00:10:28,960 Speaker 1: ex husband, but we were just you know, in the trenches, 222 00:10:29,200 --> 00:10:32,080 Speaker 1: like I go and I'm crying or whatever I was, 223 00:10:32,840 --> 00:10:37,119 Speaker 1: and she goes, You're never gonna believe what my husband's 224 00:10:37,440 --> 00:10:42,040 Speaker 1: first response was. And my ex, the one that acheated, 225 00:10:42,120 --> 00:10:45,560 Speaker 1: had gotten a tattoo like a couple I don't know, 226 00:10:45,880 --> 00:10:49,320 Speaker 1: months before we had caught everything off, and it looked 227 00:10:49,360 --> 00:10:51,520 Speaker 1: like me it was like this gypsy girl that looked 228 00:10:51,559 --> 00:10:54,320 Speaker 1: like me, and it had a banner on it that 229 00:10:54,440 --> 00:10:56,680 Speaker 1: was like kind of signifying my name. So it was 230 00:10:56,920 --> 00:11:00,240 Speaker 1: very much like a tattoo of me on his arm. 231 00:11:01,160 --> 00:11:04,240 Speaker 1: And and she literally said she told her husband that 232 00:11:04,320 --> 00:11:07,400 Speaker 1: I called the wedding off, And the only thing he 233 00:11:07,559 --> 00:11:10,520 Speaker 1: ever said about the whole situation was shouldn't have got 234 00:11:10,520 --> 00:11:13,120 Speaker 1: that tattoo. 235 00:11:14,760 --> 00:11:17,040 Speaker 3: So we still say that, like to this day. 236 00:11:17,480 --> 00:11:19,080 Speaker 2: I didn't know this. I'm hearing this story. 237 00:11:19,160 --> 00:11:20,120 Speaker 3: Did you not know the story? 238 00:11:20,240 --> 00:11:20,520 Speaker 2: No? 239 00:11:20,800 --> 00:11:23,480 Speaker 1: I literally brought it up to my friends last weekend 240 00:11:23,480 --> 00:11:26,880 Speaker 1: because we had a situation where another friend of ours 241 00:11:26,960 --> 00:11:30,000 Speaker 1: actually just canceled a wedding and they got matching tattoos. 242 00:11:30,040 --> 00:11:33,400 Speaker 1: I'm telling you, don't get tattoos like matching tattoos and 243 00:11:33,480 --> 00:11:35,679 Speaker 1: relationships never seem like a good idea. 244 00:11:35,720 --> 00:11:38,520 Speaker 3: I didn't happen to get one. Oh no, we'll. 245 00:11:38,360 --> 00:11:40,720 Speaker 2: See, And I'm not with that person. 246 00:11:41,400 --> 00:11:43,320 Speaker 3: Shouldn't have got that too. 247 00:11:43,679 --> 00:11:48,160 Speaker 2: Like we started dating in October and we got in 248 00:11:48,200 --> 00:11:49,560 Speaker 2: February for Valentine's Day. 249 00:11:49,960 --> 00:11:55,520 Speaker 1: Well that's I mean, it's the Hallmark movie. I mean 250 00:11:55,559 --> 00:11:56,719 Speaker 1: that's an edgy one man. 251 00:11:58,080 --> 00:11:59,440 Speaker 2: Let's get matching tattoos. 252 00:11:59,720 --> 00:12:01,640 Speaker 3: Well, you you'll get a tattoo at the drop of 253 00:12:01,640 --> 00:12:01,960 Speaker 3: a hat. 254 00:12:02,040 --> 00:12:05,040 Speaker 1: I feel you're like at a party that's giving tattoos 255 00:12:05,040 --> 00:12:07,280 Speaker 1: and you're like, yeah, I'll get one. It's gonna be 256 00:12:07,280 --> 00:12:08,880 Speaker 1: on my body forever, but no big deal. I won't 257 00:12:08,880 --> 00:12:11,720 Speaker 1: put any more thought into it anyway. Do you have 258 00:12:11,760 --> 00:12:14,480 Speaker 1: any funny stories like that or is that just a meeting. 259 00:12:24,080 --> 00:12:25,760 Speaker 2: I think the thing that has given me the most 260 00:12:25,800 --> 00:12:29,800 Speaker 2: sort of resilience and defined me the most is my sexuality. 261 00:12:31,000 --> 00:12:32,439 Speaker 2: And you know, it's not like I have to talk 262 00:12:32,480 --> 00:12:34,520 Speaker 2: about it on here, but you know, I grew up 263 00:12:34,520 --> 00:12:37,000 Speaker 2: in a really small town called birds Nest, Virginia. I 264 00:12:37,000 --> 00:12:41,120 Speaker 2: didn't see any examples of gay people around me, although 265 00:12:41,120 --> 00:12:44,640 Speaker 2: there was like a distant cousin of my mom's and 266 00:12:44,679 --> 00:12:48,440 Speaker 2: he was like a very stereotypical gay, you know, like yeah, 267 00:12:49,040 --> 00:12:52,240 Speaker 2: and no one really talked about it, but you know, 268 00:12:52,720 --> 00:12:55,480 Speaker 2: my mom would use words like special friend or whatever, 269 00:12:56,160 --> 00:13:02,320 Speaker 2: and it was just not as oh, it was very 270 00:13:02,360 --> 00:13:04,400 Speaker 2: and he just was very stereotypical. So it was like 271 00:13:04,440 --> 00:13:07,040 Speaker 2: I wanted I didn't want anyone to ever equate me 272 00:13:07,120 --> 00:13:09,600 Speaker 2: to that. So yeah, I worked really hard to not 273 00:13:10,240 --> 00:13:13,120 Speaker 2: match him. But growing up in a really small town 274 00:13:13,160 --> 00:13:15,559 Speaker 2: I had no examples. There was no one on television 275 00:13:15,600 --> 00:13:19,680 Speaker 2: that looked like anyone that I could relate to. Every 276 00:13:19,720 --> 00:13:21,640 Speaker 2: message that I was getting was that it was wrong, 277 00:13:22,320 --> 00:13:24,800 Speaker 2: but it was just something that I had a feeling of, 278 00:13:25,040 --> 00:13:27,880 Speaker 2: you know, and I had to hide it. But I 279 00:13:28,000 --> 00:13:31,160 Speaker 2: was also like, I look back, and like my sister 280 00:13:31,280 --> 00:13:33,920 Speaker 2: used to call me a homo all the time, and like, 281 00:13:34,440 --> 00:13:36,800 Speaker 2: you know, she was like just doing stuff that like 282 00:13:36,840 --> 00:13:40,600 Speaker 2: a big sister would do. And then when I came 283 00:13:40,640 --> 00:13:44,240 Speaker 2: out to her, she didn't believe me. I was I 284 00:13:44,320 --> 00:13:46,319 Speaker 2: was like twenty I was probably around twenty four to 285 00:13:46,360 --> 00:13:48,480 Speaker 2: twenty five, and she was the first person in my 286 00:13:48,480 --> 00:13:51,040 Speaker 2: family that I told and she was like, no, you're not. 287 00:13:51,160 --> 00:13:53,960 Speaker 2: And I was like, literally, you are the person that 288 00:13:54,000 --> 00:13:57,040 Speaker 2: has called me a homo my whole day, and I'm 289 00:13:57,080 --> 00:13:59,160 Speaker 2: telling you that I am, and you're not going to 290 00:13:59,240 --> 00:14:01,160 Speaker 2: believe it. You thought I was kidding. 291 00:14:01,679 --> 00:14:02,000 Speaker 3: Wow. 292 00:14:02,559 --> 00:14:04,719 Speaker 2: I mean, on one hand, that's pretty awesome. It meant 293 00:14:04,720 --> 00:14:06,560 Speaker 2: that I was doing a really good job of hiding 294 00:14:06,600 --> 00:14:08,600 Speaker 2: it because she's the person on earth that has known 295 00:14:08,640 --> 00:14:12,600 Speaker 2: me literally the closest and yeah most so you know, 296 00:14:12,640 --> 00:14:15,040 Speaker 2: there was a little bit of like Orri and her 297 00:14:15,080 --> 00:14:17,960 Speaker 2: not believing it. But then, of course she was incredibly 298 00:14:18,120 --> 00:14:19,560 Speaker 2: accepting and whatever. 299 00:14:19,760 --> 00:14:22,920 Speaker 3: Y'all joke about that now that she didn't believe you. 300 00:14:23,240 --> 00:14:25,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, because before I told her, I told her best 301 00:14:25,720 --> 00:14:28,600 Speaker 2: friend Pam, and Pam was like, tell me something. I 302 00:14:28,640 --> 00:14:31,560 Speaker 2: don't know basically, you know what I mean. Yeah, it's 303 00:14:31,680 --> 00:14:34,400 Speaker 2: like one of those things where it's like, how are 304 00:14:34,480 --> 00:14:35,680 Speaker 2: they not talking about it? 305 00:14:36,440 --> 00:14:39,000 Speaker 1: I mean maybe they were more and it was just 306 00:14:39,160 --> 00:14:41,200 Speaker 1: the fact that you said it out loud was what 307 00:14:41,320 --> 00:14:44,080 Speaker 1: took her off guard. Yeah, because with your uncle, was 308 00:14:44,120 --> 00:14:46,480 Speaker 1: it your uncle you said that, Yeah, y'all just never 309 00:14:46,520 --> 00:14:49,440 Speaker 1: talked about it. Yeah, okay a distant cousin. Yeah, like 310 00:14:49,480 --> 00:14:51,120 Speaker 1: it wasn't ever addressed. 311 00:14:51,720 --> 00:14:52,440 Speaker 3: So the fact that. 312 00:14:52,400 --> 00:14:55,240 Speaker 1: You're now changing the playing field and you're like, no, 313 00:14:55,240 --> 00:14:58,240 Speaker 1: I'm going to say it right right, maybe that was 314 00:14:58,280 --> 00:14:59,560 Speaker 1: what her reaction was. 315 00:14:59,640 --> 00:15:03,080 Speaker 2: I mean, it definitely threw her off. And then, you know, 316 00:15:03,160 --> 00:15:05,640 Speaker 2: my family has always been great about it, and I 317 00:15:05,680 --> 00:15:07,640 Speaker 2: mean it's not something we talk about a lot, but 318 00:15:07,760 --> 00:15:11,280 Speaker 2: like they've always been accepting of me since I've told them, 319 00:15:11,280 --> 00:15:13,560 Speaker 2: and they've met boyfriends of mine and stayed at my 320 00:15:13,680 --> 00:15:17,240 Speaker 2: house when I was living with a boyfriend, and it 321 00:15:17,280 --> 00:15:21,479 Speaker 2: was that doesn't remind me of a funny story I 322 00:15:21,520 --> 00:15:22,720 Speaker 2: when my parents stayed here. 323 00:15:22,800 --> 00:15:25,560 Speaker 1: I love that you just tickled yourself so much about this. 324 00:15:26,000 --> 00:15:28,800 Speaker 1: He's literally just giggling to himself. None of us, me 325 00:15:29,040 --> 00:15:31,800 Speaker 1: or the listeners know why you're laughing. 326 00:15:31,920 --> 00:15:35,040 Speaker 2: When my parents stayed here, it was before I went 327 00:15:35,080 --> 00:15:37,480 Speaker 2: home for Christmas. I think they came here for Thanksgiving 328 00:15:37,520 --> 00:15:40,440 Speaker 2: or so okay, And when I went home for Christmas, 329 00:15:40,120 --> 00:15:43,360 Speaker 2: my aunt was she ran the bank, but my aunt 330 00:15:44,000 --> 00:15:46,360 Speaker 2: ran ran the local bank and I had to go 331 00:15:46,400 --> 00:15:48,600 Speaker 2: into the bank for something and I was chatting with 332 00:15:48,640 --> 00:15:51,680 Speaker 2: her and she said, your mom told me that she 333 00:15:51,720 --> 00:15:54,600 Speaker 2: had a really nice visit and she just a DOORSIERR roommate. 334 00:15:55,160 --> 00:15:57,040 Speaker 3: Oh no, well. 335 00:15:57,160 --> 00:15:59,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, it was really nice having them. And so I 336 00:15:59,040 --> 00:16:02,000 Speaker 2: went home and I was like, mom, you know, damn, well, 337 00:16:02,240 --> 00:16:05,680 Speaker 2: Machi doesn't think that Aaron is my roommate. Yeah, And 338 00:16:05,720 --> 00:16:07,880 Speaker 2: she was like, I mean, well he technically is. And 339 00:16:07,880 --> 00:16:10,000 Speaker 2: I was like, how many people share a bed with 340 00:16:10,040 --> 00:16:15,240 Speaker 2: their roommate. You know, it's looks like a dummy in 341 00:16:15,240 --> 00:16:19,680 Speaker 2: this situation? Is you like just say the words? And 342 00:16:19,720 --> 00:16:21,280 Speaker 2: she's like, well, I don't know what you want me 343 00:16:21,320 --> 00:16:22,840 Speaker 2: to say. And I was like, well, definitely don't call 344 00:16:22,920 --> 00:16:23,560 Speaker 2: in my roommate. 345 00:16:23,960 --> 00:16:27,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean that is kind of like a sitcom episode. 346 00:16:27,320 --> 00:16:30,240 Speaker 1: I feel where the parents are from the South, it's 347 00:16:30,240 --> 00:16:32,320 Speaker 1: a place they don't talk about this, and then that 348 00:16:32,360 --> 00:16:35,160 Speaker 1: would be a scene for sure to the roommate and 349 00:16:35,200 --> 00:16:36,240 Speaker 1: she's like, well, it's not a lot. 350 00:16:36,320 --> 00:16:37,760 Speaker 3: I mean, it's not a lie. 351 00:16:37,760 --> 00:16:41,160 Speaker 2: Right right, I mean, and it's it's truly not a lie. 352 00:16:41,200 --> 00:16:43,280 Speaker 2: But it was funny because like thinking about how it 353 00:16:43,320 --> 00:16:46,360 Speaker 2: plays into like what how does something like that make 354 00:16:46,440 --> 00:16:49,480 Speaker 2: me more resilient? Like it forced me to like talk 355 00:16:49,520 --> 00:16:53,160 Speaker 2: to my mom about that situation so in a humorous 356 00:16:53,200 --> 00:16:57,480 Speaker 2: way like yeah, a roommate, are you kidding? Yeah, there's 357 00:16:57,520 --> 00:16:58,600 Speaker 2: a little funny one for you. 358 00:16:59,200 --> 00:17:01,280 Speaker 1: This is what I was, I guess trying to get 359 00:17:01,280 --> 00:17:03,760 Speaker 1: to with maybe my friends being able to say these things, 360 00:17:04,640 --> 00:17:06,600 Speaker 1: you know, when you get out of the emotional part, 361 00:17:06,720 --> 00:17:08,760 Speaker 1: Like I will go deep into the emotions, i will 362 00:17:08,880 --> 00:17:11,640 Speaker 1: feel them all, I'll go as dark as I need 363 00:17:11,680 --> 00:17:13,880 Speaker 1: to go, and then I do come out of it 364 00:17:13,960 --> 00:17:16,439 Speaker 1: like it's you know eventually or whatever. And these kind 365 00:17:16,480 --> 00:17:19,560 Speaker 1: of things help me kind of have perspective maybe and 366 00:17:19,600 --> 00:17:20,120 Speaker 1: get out of. 367 00:17:20,040 --> 00:17:20,879 Speaker 3: It a little quicker. 368 00:17:21,359 --> 00:17:23,840 Speaker 1: But they are the things sometimes that I look back 369 00:17:23,920 --> 00:17:25,760 Speaker 1: and can laugh almost about. 370 00:17:26,280 --> 00:17:27,159 Speaker 3: It's kind of crazy. 371 00:17:27,200 --> 00:17:29,320 Speaker 1: Like a lot of breakups, I think this is a 372 00:17:29,359 --> 00:17:31,320 Speaker 1: common thing where you look back and you're like, oh 373 00:17:31,359 --> 00:17:34,720 Speaker 1: my god, why was I losing my shit over that guy? 374 00:17:34,880 --> 00:17:36,320 Speaker 1: Like he's a loser? 375 00:17:36,480 --> 00:17:39,359 Speaker 3: What was I doing? Like the fact that. 376 00:17:39,280 --> 00:17:43,120 Speaker 1: I was so upset that that relationship ended. I can 377 00:17:43,240 --> 00:17:45,919 Speaker 1: look back at many relationships now and go what was 378 00:17:46,000 --> 00:17:50,680 Speaker 1: I thinking? And just appreciate the fact though that they 379 00:17:50,760 --> 00:17:53,960 Speaker 1: were these pieces of my journey, and I know there's 380 00:17:54,000 --> 00:17:55,879 Speaker 1: no way that I could have the kind of relationship 381 00:17:55,880 --> 00:17:58,359 Speaker 1: that I have now if I hadn't gone to such 382 00:17:58,440 --> 00:18:02,719 Speaker 1: low places those relationships, or they hadn't been so explosive 383 00:18:02,840 --> 00:18:06,320 Speaker 1: or toxic or whatever you want to call them dysfunctional. 384 00:18:06,720 --> 00:18:08,840 Speaker 1: I had to meet all of those parts of myself 385 00:18:08,880 --> 00:18:11,199 Speaker 1: before I could meet this version of myself, you know, 386 00:18:11,320 --> 00:18:14,959 Speaker 1: the one that was like not going to tolerate certain things, 387 00:18:14,960 --> 00:18:17,760 Speaker 1: that could set better boundaries, who could find her voice? 388 00:18:18,000 --> 00:18:20,480 Speaker 1: And so they all serve their purpose and like also, 389 00:18:20,600 --> 00:18:21,320 Speaker 1: you don't. 390 00:18:21,160 --> 00:18:24,080 Speaker 2: Know what you're not going to tolerate until you're forced 391 00:18:24,080 --> 00:18:26,639 Speaker 2: to either tolerate it or not, you know, right, Actually, 392 00:18:26,720 --> 00:18:31,119 Speaker 2: when you're younger in relationships, like, I always wonder about 393 00:18:31,119 --> 00:18:34,359 Speaker 2: these people that marry their high school sweetheart and have 394 00:18:34,600 --> 00:18:37,440 Speaker 2: like a perfect little life. I'm like, how how did 395 00:18:37,440 --> 00:18:38,200 Speaker 2: they get it right? 396 00:18:38,880 --> 00:18:41,840 Speaker 1: Because it's not about getting it right though, that was 397 00:18:41,960 --> 00:18:44,439 Speaker 1: just there, That's what their soul signed up for. That 398 00:18:44,600 --> 00:18:49,359 Speaker 1: was the journey, like that had an amazing boyfriend for them. 399 00:18:49,520 --> 00:18:51,240 Speaker 2: I feel bad for them because I feel like you 400 00:18:51,280 --> 00:18:53,760 Speaker 2: shouldn't something that like they missed out on. 401 00:18:54,320 --> 00:18:57,520 Speaker 1: I see what you're saying. But if they if that 402 00:18:58,080 --> 00:19:00,480 Speaker 1: was true for them, then they wouldn't have lived out 403 00:19:00,480 --> 00:19:03,080 Speaker 1: that journey Like that was what they wanted, That's what 404 00:19:03,119 --> 00:19:06,119 Speaker 1: their soul wanted. That is what works for them. They're 405 00:19:06,240 --> 00:19:09,439 Speaker 1: happy in that you might not have been. And like, like, 406 00:19:09,480 --> 00:19:11,800 Speaker 1: I had the most amazing high school boyfriend and we 407 00:19:11,920 --> 00:19:14,200 Speaker 1: dated through college and after too, So I dated him 408 00:19:14,200 --> 00:19:16,399 Speaker 1: for nine years. So obviously everyone thought we were going 409 00:19:16,480 --> 00:19:20,560 Speaker 1: to get married, but I had so much stuff that 410 00:19:20,640 --> 00:19:22,800 Speaker 1: I needed to work through. Like I can look back 411 00:19:22,840 --> 00:19:25,000 Speaker 1: at it now and say that, but at the time, 412 00:19:25,000 --> 00:19:27,280 Speaker 1: I was like, oh, we just grew apart and we 413 00:19:27,840 --> 00:19:30,159 Speaker 1: grew in different directions and we did. Obviously we were 414 00:19:30,280 --> 00:19:32,960 Speaker 1: kids when we started dating. But also he was an 415 00:19:33,000 --> 00:19:35,240 Speaker 1: amazing boyfriend. And so when I look at it now, 416 00:19:35,280 --> 00:19:37,920 Speaker 1: I'm like, what was happening with me that I wouldn't 417 00:19:38,040 --> 00:19:39,919 Speaker 1: just like I couldn't appreciate that. 418 00:19:40,880 --> 00:19:43,160 Speaker 3: Yeah, but what you said is so true. 419 00:19:43,200 --> 00:19:46,160 Speaker 1: I didn't realize how good I had it necessarily because 420 00:19:46,160 --> 00:19:48,760 Speaker 1: I didn't have the bad yet, right right? 421 00:19:48,840 --> 00:19:50,879 Speaker 2: Yeah? 422 00:19:50,960 --> 00:19:54,560 Speaker 1: Yes, And also like again, I would never change any 423 00:19:54,600 --> 00:19:56,679 Speaker 1: of my journey at this point. Well, I told you 424 00:19:56,720 --> 00:19:59,120 Speaker 1: there's the one piece that I still am struggling. 425 00:19:58,760 --> 00:20:01,000 Speaker 3: To work through. But but yeah, but I. 426 00:20:00,920 --> 00:20:03,120 Speaker 1: Think it's a journey, and it's like I know it's 427 00:20:03,160 --> 00:20:06,560 Speaker 1: all been here one for what I believe now in 428 00:20:06,560 --> 00:20:09,159 Speaker 1: like these karmaic circumstances that I had signed up for 429 00:20:09,200 --> 00:20:12,600 Speaker 1: this before I even came here, and the specific people 430 00:20:12,600 --> 00:20:16,680 Speaker 1: who have led to my biggest what idem crash and burns, 431 00:20:17,400 --> 00:20:19,560 Speaker 1: were just doing their job in my life to help 432 00:20:19,560 --> 00:20:21,840 Speaker 1: my soul evolve, you know, and that always helps me 433 00:20:21,880 --> 00:20:25,920 Speaker 1: have a way more peaceful mentality about it. And also 434 00:20:26,080 --> 00:20:29,640 Speaker 1: like I can look back at certain situations, like when 435 00:20:29,680 --> 00:20:31,600 Speaker 1: I talk about when I was on reality TV, I 436 00:20:31,640 --> 00:20:34,640 Speaker 1: was in a dysfunctional relationship. I had a bad work 437 00:20:34,680 --> 00:20:37,520 Speaker 1: situation happening with one of my clients that was also 438 00:20:37,640 --> 00:20:41,119 Speaker 1: very dysfunctional and then that stuff happened on TV, and 439 00:20:41,160 --> 00:20:44,199 Speaker 1: so my nervous system was like massively overloaded. Oh and 440 00:20:44,240 --> 00:20:47,240 Speaker 1: we went into COVID, so it was like and there 441 00:20:47,280 --> 00:20:50,320 Speaker 1: was this big, massive, you know, global pandemic, and so 442 00:20:50,480 --> 00:20:52,959 Speaker 1: my nervous somewhere I lost all my work. So my 443 00:20:53,000 --> 00:20:57,959 Speaker 1: nervous system was like so overloaded that any additional thing 444 00:20:58,160 --> 00:21:02,560 Speaker 1: just took me out. And the public humiliation piece of 445 00:21:02,640 --> 00:21:07,960 Speaker 1: like being misrepresented and talked about in ways that, you know, 446 00:21:08,600 --> 00:21:11,520 Speaker 1: stuff that I didn't ever do. It was crippling to 447 00:21:11,520 --> 00:21:13,639 Speaker 1: me and it's something I still struggle with because I 448 00:21:13,800 --> 00:21:17,719 Speaker 1: still am facing some of the repercussions of that, Like 449 00:21:18,600 --> 00:21:22,040 Speaker 1: being misrepresented publicly is I wouldn't wish it on my 450 00:21:22,080 --> 00:21:25,040 Speaker 1: worst enemy. It's one of the most frustrating experiences I've 451 00:21:25,040 --> 00:21:30,520 Speaker 1: ever had. And yeah, because no matter what I say, 452 00:21:30,840 --> 00:21:33,119 Speaker 1: there's some people who will always believe me to be 453 00:21:33,160 --> 00:21:35,080 Speaker 1: a different person than I am, even though they don't 454 00:21:35,119 --> 00:21:38,720 Speaker 1: know me. And that's, you know, that's a very hard 455 00:21:38,880 --> 00:21:41,679 Speaker 1: thing to go through. But I was thinking about I 456 00:21:41,680 --> 00:21:44,080 Speaker 1: had a conversation I think about a month ago, we 457 00:21:44,119 --> 00:21:46,639 Speaker 1: talked about this with Britney Piper. She was a somatic therapist, 458 00:21:46,680 --> 00:21:48,159 Speaker 1: and that was one of the things she told me 459 00:21:48,240 --> 00:21:52,119 Speaker 1: is that if you're in a situation where you can't 460 00:21:52,359 --> 00:21:56,959 Speaker 1: get your nervous system needs met properly and something traumatic happens, 461 00:21:57,000 --> 00:22:00,800 Speaker 1: it's even more traumatic. Whereas, like in another other scenario, 462 00:22:00,880 --> 00:22:02,800 Speaker 1: you might have been able to work through this in 463 00:22:02,840 --> 00:22:05,600 Speaker 1: a better way. If it happens where your nervous system 464 00:22:05,720 --> 00:22:08,560 Speaker 1: is not able to function properly, it's going to be 465 00:22:08,680 --> 00:22:11,600 Speaker 1: deeply impactful. And that's what I would say about that. 466 00:22:11,760 --> 00:22:13,200 Speaker 3: Now. 467 00:22:21,040 --> 00:22:22,879 Speaker 1: I think what I'm trying to say with all of 468 00:22:22,920 --> 00:22:25,120 Speaker 1: the humor stuff is I think it's important to feel 469 00:22:25,240 --> 00:22:28,280 Speaker 1: the feeling, and I do think it's important to have 470 00:22:28,480 --> 00:22:31,320 Speaker 1: people who love and support you, who can help you 471 00:22:31,400 --> 00:22:34,200 Speaker 1: find the lightness in it too. And one of our 472 00:22:34,240 --> 00:22:37,119 Speaker 1: good friends wrote me the sweetest note when all of 473 00:22:37,160 --> 00:22:40,240 Speaker 1: that was going on, and he literally broke down like 474 00:22:40,480 --> 00:22:43,800 Speaker 1: fifteen qualities about me that he loved. It was so nice. 475 00:22:43,840 --> 00:22:46,960 Speaker 1: It made me cry, obviously, but yeah, it was just 476 00:22:46,960 --> 00:22:48,880 Speaker 1: so sweet, and it showed up in my mail out 477 00:22:48,920 --> 00:22:51,400 Speaker 1: of the blue, and it was just like note after 478 00:22:51,520 --> 00:22:53,520 Speaker 1: note of like all these things that I had brought 479 00:22:53,520 --> 00:22:56,000 Speaker 1: to his life that you know, he was just trying 480 00:22:56,000 --> 00:22:57,720 Speaker 1: to tell me like, you're a great friend. Don't let 481 00:22:57,760 --> 00:23:02,760 Speaker 1: anyone tell you anything different. But the one was your 482 00:23:02,800 --> 00:23:06,359 Speaker 1: effortless ability to wreck homes because like I was accused 483 00:23:06,400 --> 00:23:08,320 Speaker 1: of having an affair I didn't have, and being I 484 00:23:08,400 --> 00:23:11,360 Speaker 1: was called a home wrecker like on Good Morning America 485 00:23:11,520 --> 00:23:15,240 Speaker 1: is wild. But he was like, your effortless ability obviously 486 00:23:15,240 --> 00:23:18,080 Speaker 1: because I didn't do it. So it was like, you 487 00:23:18,080 --> 00:23:20,119 Speaker 1: can just wreck a home without even trying? 488 00:23:20,160 --> 00:23:23,160 Speaker 3: Girl, you you tal Yeah. 489 00:23:23,200 --> 00:23:25,240 Speaker 1: So we still talk about that one too, Like he 490 00:23:25,280 --> 00:23:27,880 Speaker 1: wanted me to dress up as a construction site worker 491 00:23:27,960 --> 00:23:29,600 Speaker 1: that wrecked homes for Halloween. 492 00:23:29,640 --> 00:23:30,440 Speaker 3: I was like, I can't. 493 00:23:31,359 --> 00:23:34,680 Speaker 2: You're like on what's that show where they redo homes? 494 00:23:35,160 --> 00:23:36,639 Speaker 3: Oh, like Homemakeover? 495 00:23:37,160 --> 00:23:39,199 Speaker 2: Yeah, You're just like I can I just be the 496 00:23:39,200 --> 00:23:41,360 Speaker 2: person comes and does demo, right? 497 00:23:41,480 --> 00:23:44,000 Speaker 1: I mean those kind of things that that actually are 498 00:23:44,200 --> 00:23:47,200 Speaker 1: those actually are the things that keep me going when 499 00:23:47,280 --> 00:23:50,040 Speaker 1: things feel like they're just never going to get better, 500 00:23:50,160 --> 00:23:52,359 Speaker 1: or like they get you to the place of Okay, 501 00:23:52,400 --> 00:23:54,560 Speaker 1: this is just a moment. This is a moment in 502 00:23:54,600 --> 00:23:58,800 Speaker 1: my life. This too shall pass. Not to sidestep feelings 503 00:23:58,880 --> 00:24:00,560 Speaker 1: or do any of that. I don't have to worry 504 00:24:00,600 --> 00:24:04,520 Speaker 1: about that, thankfully, so thank God for the people in 505 00:24:04,560 --> 00:24:06,720 Speaker 1: my life who can help lighten the load a little 506 00:24:06,760 --> 00:24:10,560 Speaker 1: bit and just find some humor in some of the 507 00:24:10,680 --> 00:24:11,520 Speaker 1: darkest times. 508 00:24:11,560 --> 00:24:13,040 Speaker 3: And it's stuff that I still hold on to. 509 00:24:13,200 --> 00:24:16,200 Speaker 1: Obviously, this is like many years later, and those those 510 00:24:16,240 --> 00:24:18,800 Speaker 1: statements were the first thing that popped into my mind 511 00:24:18,840 --> 00:24:21,359 Speaker 1: whenever we decided to do this topic. So should we 512 00:24:21,359 --> 00:24:24,720 Speaker 1: tell the listeners what we did? I think, So, Okay, 513 00:24:24,920 --> 00:24:26,800 Speaker 1: you're gonna have to up your energy for this part. 514 00:24:26,960 --> 00:24:30,280 Speaker 3: I will wake up. You should have had a coffee espresso. 515 00:24:30,480 --> 00:24:32,680 Speaker 2: I might have to change my glasses because I can't 516 00:24:32,680 --> 00:24:33,960 Speaker 2: really read my computer with these. 517 00:24:34,320 --> 00:24:39,399 Speaker 1: Okay, oh okay, so he's putting on his readers because 518 00:24:39,440 --> 00:24:41,040 Speaker 1: this is how we are now. 519 00:24:41,200 --> 00:24:42,879 Speaker 2: I can read, but I've got to do this like 520 00:24:43,000 --> 00:24:44,120 Speaker 2: lift my head up thing. 521 00:24:44,200 --> 00:24:46,119 Speaker 1: And it's just that actually makes you look older. I 522 00:24:46,119 --> 00:24:48,400 Speaker 1: think to do that, Like, yeah, yeah, it's like old 523 00:24:48,400 --> 00:24:49,000 Speaker 1: people's stuff. 524 00:24:49,200 --> 00:24:50,760 Speaker 3: Okay. So I told Chip that. 525 00:24:51,040 --> 00:24:53,239 Speaker 1: I was like, wouldn't it be so funny if we 526 00:24:53,359 --> 00:24:57,679 Speaker 1: wrote like movie trailers about our lives with a humorous 527 00:24:57,800 --> 00:25:00,399 Speaker 1: tone to it, but about the hardships of our lives. 528 00:25:01,000 --> 00:25:03,439 Speaker 1: And of course, when I say this to a theater major, 529 00:25:03,640 --> 00:25:06,960 Speaker 1: he's like, yes, but like, this is gonna. 530 00:25:06,760 --> 00:25:07,479 Speaker 3: Take me weeks. 531 00:25:08,320 --> 00:25:09,680 Speaker 2: There is not enough time. 532 00:25:10,240 --> 00:25:11,920 Speaker 1: But I didn't mean it that way, but he wanted 533 00:25:11,920 --> 00:25:13,520 Speaker 1: to go into this in depth. I'm like, what are 534 00:25:13,520 --> 00:25:15,040 Speaker 1: you going to write a novel about this? 535 00:25:15,280 --> 00:25:15,399 Speaker 3: Like? 536 00:25:15,480 --> 00:25:17,320 Speaker 1: And you would have I feel like yours would have 537 00:25:17,359 --> 00:25:18,720 Speaker 1: been pages and pages. 538 00:25:18,920 --> 00:25:21,040 Speaker 3: It would have been so clever and. 539 00:25:21,040 --> 00:25:23,399 Speaker 2: So many edits necessary, oh for sure. 540 00:25:23,600 --> 00:25:25,960 Speaker 1: And that wasn't No, that was too much. So I 541 00:25:26,000 --> 00:25:27,760 Speaker 1: was like, no, I mean, like, put it into chat 542 00:25:27,840 --> 00:25:31,200 Speaker 1: ChiPT you know, my best friend, my therapist. I talked 543 00:25:31,240 --> 00:25:34,240 Speaker 1: to Chat all the time about everything, and I thought 544 00:25:34,240 --> 00:25:36,680 Speaker 1: it would be really funny to see what Chat said 545 00:25:37,040 --> 00:25:39,760 Speaker 1: about writing a movie trailer of our lives. So we 546 00:25:39,840 --> 00:25:42,159 Speaker 1: did it for both of us. And I'm going to 547 00:25:42,240 --> 00:25:44,760 Speaker 1: read yours, I think, and then you should read mine 548 00:25:45,000 --> 00:25:47,720 Speaker 1: and we should do dramatic voices. Do people know about 549 00:25:47,760 --> 00:25:49,400 Speaker 1: your dramatic readings that you used to do? 550 00:25:49,440 --> 00:25:51,680 Speaker 2: I mean, I don't know if we've ever talked about 551 00:25:51,680 --> 00:25:52,120 Speaker 2: it here. 552 00:25:52,160 --> 00:25:54,879 Speaker 1: Sh It used to like with people who would take 553 00:25:54,920 --> 00:25:59,679 Speaker 1: themselves too seriously on Instia. He would this is like 554 00:25:59,720 --> 00:26:02,119 Speaker 1: back the beginning days of being an influencer. 555 00:26:02,119 --> 00:26:02,760 Speaker 3: He would do it to me. 556 00:26:02,880 --> 00:26:05,439 Speaker 1: No, you've done one of mine on the podcast. This 557 00:26:05,600 --> 00:26:08,360 Speaker 1: was years many years ago, but he would do these 558 00:26:08,440 --> 00:26:12,160 Speaker 1: dramatic readings of the captions, which was so funny to us, 559 00:26:12,320 --> 00:26:14,880 Speaker 1: like you would take something because someone was trying to be. 560 00:26:14,840 --> 00:26:16,879 Speaker 3: Really serious and serious. Yeah, but not. 561 00:26:17,040 --> 00:26:19,359 Speaker 1: It wasn't always you weren't doing it about stuff that 562 00:26:19,440 --> 00:26:22,040 Speaker 1: was like heartfelt or them coming from like such a 563 00:26:22,080 --> 00:26:25,639 Speaker 1: vulnerable place. It was when people, including myself, were taking 564 00:26:25,640 --> 00:26:30,119 Speaker 1: ourselves too seriously. So then we would have dramatic readings 565 00:26:30,440 --> 00:26:32,280 Speaker 1: that our group of friends would like be together and 566 00:26:32,280 --> 00:26:34,840 Speaker 1: ship would just read us Instagram captions. 567 00:26:34,880 --> 00:26:37,600 Speaker 2: And then there was one I'm not going to see 568 00:26:37,640 --> 00:26:39,879 Speaker 2: who it is, but there was one person that was like, 569 00:26:40,720 --> 00:26:43,679 Speaker 2: does it a lot? And yeah, I was often reading 570 00:26:43,800 --> 00:26:45,879 Speaker 2: their stuff. I mean there was one I used to 571 00:26:45,960 --> 00:26:48,760 Speaker 2: have one of their captions memorized that I could would 572 00:26:48,800 --> 00:26:49,480 Speaker 2: just recite. 573 00:26:49,560 --> 00:26:51,520 Speaker 3: I don't know how because they would paragraph. 574 00:26:51,800 --> 00:26:53,359 Speaker 2: I know they were so long, but one of them 575 00:26:53,400 --> 00:26:54,840 Speaker 2: I had pretty well memorized. 576 00:26:54,920 --> 00:26:58,560 Speaker 1: It's like a monologue in theater. Okay, well do you 577 00:26:58,560 --> 00:26:59,080 Speaker 1: want to go first? 578 00:26:59,080 --> 00:26:59,199 Speaker 3: There? 579 00:26:59,200 --> 00:27:01,280 Speaker 1: Would you like me to go first? We're gonna read 580 00:27:01,320 --> 00:27:04,479 Speaker 1: them in very dramatic tones. This is if we had 581 00:27:04,520 --> 00:27:06,560 Speaker 1: a movie trailer about our lives. 582 00:27:06,640 --> 00:27:07,640 Speaker 2: You can go first. 583 00:27:07,840 --> 00:27:11,240 Speaker 1: Okay, this is Chips, y'all, and chat said first of all, 584 00:27:11,320 --> 00:27:15,240 Speaker 1: just to set the tone, it says suspenseful, slightly dramatic. 585 00:27:15,359 --> 00:27:19,600 Speaker 1: Music starts maybe at a wind sound or thunderclap for flair, 586 00:27:20,200 --> 00:27:22,560 Speaker 1: which obviously we would with you for sure. You need 587 00:27:22,560 --> 00:27:28,199 Speaker 1: a thunderclub. Yeah, soh okay. Imagine it in a world 588 00:27:28,600 --> 00:27:33,119 Speaker 1: where good hair and commitment issues collide. He was just 589 00:27:33,160 --> 00:27:35,719 Speaker 1: a boy standing in front of the dating pool, wondering 590 00:27:35,760 --> 00:27:39,200 Speaker 1: why everyone was either emotionally unavailable or trying to get 591 00:27:39,200 --> 00:27:42,600 Speaker 1: married on the second date. By day, he was charming, 592 00:27:42,840 --> 00:27:46,480 Speaker 1: quick witted, and always down for spicy margarita. By night, 593 00:27:47,000 --> 00:27:50,119 Speaker 1: he was deep in his feelings, analyzing text messages like 594 00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:53,280 Speaker 1: they were ancient scrolls. They said he was too picky, 595 00:27:53,640 --> 00:27:56,800 Speaker 1: They said he should settle down, but he knew he 596 00:27:56,880 --> 00:28:00,119 Speaker 1: was just waiting for someone who liked memes, deep talks, 597 00:28:00,160 --> 00:28:02,680 Speaker 1: and didn't mind a man who casually cries at Super 598 00:28:02,680 --> 00:28:03,800 Speaker 1: Bowl commercials. 599 00:28:04,960 --> 00:28:06,320 Speaker 2: Veiled it this. 600 00:28:06,320 --> 00:28:10,680 Speaker 1: Fall, get Ready for eye rolls, plot twist and emotional growth, 601 00:28:10,920 --> 00:28:15,160 Speaker 1: served with a side of sarcasm and skincare, starring Chip 602 00:28:15,760 --> 00:28:18,440 Speaker 1: as the main character in his own Damn life. 603 00:28:19,680 --> 00:28:23,359 Speaker 3: It says. The ending is Velvet Edge, the podcast where 604 00:28:23,400 --> 00:28:28,560 Speaker 3: therapy meets group Chat. I was like, okay, Chat, I 605 00:28:28,600 --> 00:28:29,760 Speaker 3: mean that's fired. 606 00:28:30,320 --> 00:28:33,520 Speaker 2: Like the only thing that it got wrong about me 607 00:28:33,680 --> 00:28:36,400 Speaker 2: was the spicy Mark's, Like, I don't drink those. 608 00:28:36,600 --> 00:28:39,280 Speaker 1: You're just a tequila Okay, but it's like a tequila soda. 609 00:28:41,160 --> 00:28:44,560 Speaker 2: I mean it almost close. Yeah, I mean, but everyone 610 00:28:44,560 --> 00:28:46,080 Speaker 2: I'm with is ordering spicy. 611 00:28:45,760 --> 00:28:46,480 Speaker 3: Marks, right. 612 00:28:46,720 --> 00:28:51,120 Speaker 1: The fact that Chat could nail that is so well crazy. 613 00:28:51,400 --> 00:28:52,920 Speaker 2: Well, get ready for. 614 00:28:52,920 --> 00:28:55,880 Speaker 3: Your Oh Jesus, Okay, this one. 615 00:28:55,760 --> 00:29:00,560 Speaker 2: Just says dramatic movie trailer voiceover music playing whatever that 616 00:29:00,600 --> 00:29:07,400 Speaker 2: means okay. In a war where southern charm meets emotional chaos, 617 00:29:07,960 --> 00:29:10,640 Speaker 2: one girl dared to wear her heart on her sleeve 618 00:29:10,800 --> 00:29:14,200 Speaker 2: and sometimes full face of clam to cover the tears. 619 00:29:15,120 --> 00:29:17,720 Speaker 2: From the outside, it looked like she had it all, 620 00:29:17,840 --> 00:29:22,440 Speaker 2: the career, the connections, the contour. But inside she was 621 00:29:22,520 --> 00:29:27,800 Speaker 2: navigating friendship, betrayal, public scandal, spiritual awakenings, and the occasional 622 00:29:27,840 --> 00:29:31,200 Speaker 2: breakdown in the Whole Foods parking lots. They thought she 623 00:29:31,400 --> 00:29:34,440 Speaker 2: was just a makeup artist, but really she was a 624 00:29:34,480 --> 00:29:38,040 Speaker 2: phoenix in false lashes, rising from the ashes of heartbreak. 625 00:29:38,200 --> 00:29:40,600 Speaker 2: Holding a green juice in one hand and a journal 626 00:29:40,640 --> 00:29:45,120 Speaker 2: in the other. This summer get Ready for Tears, Laughter, 627 00:29:45,400 --> 00:29:51,960 Speaker 2: self reinvention, and one very questionable situationship starring Kelly Henderson 628 00:29:52,120 --> 00:29:56,760 Speaker 2: as herself and a rotating cast of exes, Internet trolls, 629 00:29:56,760 --> 00:30:01,320 Speaker 2: and unexpected angels disguised as pilates instructors Coming soon to 630 00:30:01,400 --> 00:30:04,720 Speaker 2: a podcast near you, Vella's Edge. The movie based on 631 00:30:04,800 --> 00:30:05,560 Speaker 2: mostly true. 632 00:30:05,400 --> 00:30:11,680 Speaker 3: Events Mostly true. Wait, what's the line about the false slashes? 633 00:30:12,560 --> 00:30:13,040 Speaker 3: So good? 634 00:30:13,080 --> 00:30:16,920 Speaker 2: How they was a phoenix in false Slashes rising from 635 00:30:17,000 --> 00:30:20,560 Speaker 2: the ashes of heartbreak, holding a green juice in one 636 00:30:20,560 --> 00:30:22,240 Speaker 2: hand and the other. 637 00:30:22,440 --> 00:30:26,400 Speaker 3: I'm crying. It's so good. That's so good. It is 638 00:30:26,760 --> 00:30:28,160 Speaker 3: so meat to a tea. 639 00:30:28,360 --> 00:30:31,120 Speaker 1: And the fact that it combines like all the emotions 640 00:30:31,320 --> 00:30:33,720 Speaker 1: with the glamor in the whole. 641 00:30:33,840 --> 00:30:35,720 Speaker 3: Note right, how does it know this about? 642 00:30:35,840 --> 00:30:39,280 Speaker 2: I mean it's we put everything online. 643 00:30:39,520 --> 00:30:42,680 Speaker 1: I guess, like god, it drinking a green juice like 644 00:30:42,720 --> 00:30:45,280 Speaker 1: crying into my cup, basically like that. 645 00:30:45,440 --> 00:30:46,600 Speaker 3: It could not be more true. 646 00:30:46,920 --> 00:30:47,920 Speaker 2: It's so good. 647 00:30:48,720 --> 00:30:52,080 Speaker 1: The angels that were pilates and shocked disguised. 648 00:30:53,600 --> 00:30:56,160 Speaker 3: Oh my god, that just made me laugh so hard. 649 00:30:57,000 --> 00:30:58,840 Speaker 2: Spend a year and not written something. 650 00:30:59,640 --> 00:31:02,080 Speaker 1: Exact That's why I was like, what are you talking about. 651 00:31:02,120 --> 00:31:04,080 Speaker 1: We're writing this ourselves, We're putting. 652 00:31:03,760 --> 00:31:09,480 Speaker 3: This shit into chat. So good God, that was so good. 653 00:31:10,040 --> 00:31:12,120 Speaker 1: I am like, I'm trying to collect my thoughts because 654 00:31:12,120 --> 00:31:14,800 Speaker 1: it was so perfect. So basically, like moral of the 655 00:31:14,840 --> 00:31:16,880 Speaker 1: story is, if you guys want to laugh about any 656 00:31:16,880 --> 00:31:20,160 Speaker 1: hardships in your life, put them into chat GBT and 657 00:31:20,200 --> 00:31:24,240 Speaker 1: have it ride a movie trailer about it. It'll bring 658 00:31:24,280 --> 00:31:27,560 Speaker 1: it all into perspective of like, it ain't always that serious. 659 00:31:27,720 --> 00:31:30,000 Speaker 2: It's not that serious. 660 00:31:30,040 --> 00:31:31,080 Speaker 3: Oh my god. 661 00:31:31,400 --> 00:31:34,320 Speaker 1: Well, and I said to you before the podcast, I 662 00:31:34,400 --> 00:31:36,360 Speaker 1: never want any of the stuff that we talk about 663 00:31:36,400 --> 00:31:39,080 Speaker 1: on the Friday episodes to dumb down what we talked 664 00:31:39,080 --> 00:31:41,640 Speaker 1: about on the Wednesday episode. And while Lauren and I 665 00:31:41,720 --> 00:31:46,080 Speaker 1: did find I think we found a pretty like lighthearted ending, 666 00:31:46,360 --> 00:31:48,280 Speaker 1: some of that stuff was hard to talk about, you know, 667 00:31:48,280 --> 00:31:50,800 Speaker 1: it's addiction. I've always talked about the fact that I 668 00:31:50,840 --> 00:31:54,480 Speaker 1: come from an alcoholic family background, and so I really 669 00:31:54,520 --> 00:31:57,080 Speaker 1: related to a lot of the stuff. Thankfully, my parents 670 00:31:57,080 --> 00:31:59,680 Speaker 1: are alive and well, and I didn't go through what 671 00:31:59,760 --> 00:32:02,840 Speaker 1: she went through, but I just appreciate her telling the 672 00:32:02,840 --> 00:32:05,080 Speaker 1: story so much, and I never want to dumb down 673 00:32:05,120 --> 00:32:07,680 Speaker 1: that that was such a traumatic experience. 674 00:32:07,800 --> 00:32:09,440 Speaker 3: I actually think she would love this though. 675 00:32:09,640 --> 00:32:12,280 Speaker 1: She yeah, she loves to find We talked about ways 676 00:32:12,320 --> 00:32:15,760 Speaker 1: to find joy, you have to well hers is dancing. 677 00:32:15,920 --> 00:32:18,320 Speaker 1: That's what she dances on the sidelines. And now like 678 00:32:18,520 --> 00:32:21,280 Speaker 1: these videos on TikTok of her have gone viral of 679 00:32:21,320 --> 00:32:24,280 Speaker 1: her doing they call it the sideline shimmy. So I 680 00:32:24,320 --> 00:32:26,800 Speaker 1: really think she would appreciate the movie trailers. Maybe I'll 681 00:32:26,840 --> 00:32:31,680 Speaker 1: text them to her. But anyway, that was really fun. 682 00:32:31,720 --> 00:32:33,960 Speaker 1: I thought, actually we might need to do some more 683 00:32:33,960 --> 00:32:36,760 Speaker 1: of those via chat cheap tea. 684 00:32:36,840 --> 00:32:40,440 Speaker 2: Like, I don't know if I can take chats like snarkiness. 685 00:32:39,720 --> 00:32:42,360 Speaker 1: That I know it's kind of like, well, bitch, I 686 00:32:42,400 --> 00:32:45,360 Speaker 1: know he's all offended. 687 00:32:45,880 --> 00:32:49,080 Speaker 2: Standing by the dating pool. Like what I mean is 688 00:32:49,120 --> 00:32:52,760 Speaker 2: like a such a visual reference to like an actual pool. 689 00:32:53,640 --> 00:32:56,480 Speaker 3: Wait it say, standing standing. 690 00:32:56,600 --> 00:32:59,560 Speaker 2: The dating pool wondering why blah blah blah, and some 691 00:32:59,560 --> 00:33:01,240 Speaker 2: people to get married up for the second date. 692 00:33:01,880 --> 00:33:05,280 Speaker 3: Well, right, but while someone's either emotionally. 693 00:33:06,040 --> 00:33:07,800 Speaker 2: You know what I mean. It's so visual. 694 00:33:08,000 --> 00:33:11,040 Speaker 1: It is, but it's also so what you've talked about 695 00:33:11,120 --> 00:33:13,320 Speaker 1: as far as dating, like that you either find someone 696 00:33:13,480 --> 00:33:16,040 Speaker 1: very emotionally unavailable or someone who wants to get married 697 00:33:16,080 --> 00:33:18,600 Speaker 1: on the second date, Like, could not be more true 698 00:33:18,640 --> 00:33:22,440 Speaker 1: of your story, which is why it's crazy and wild. 699 00:33:23,240 --> 00:33:26,800 Speaker 1: I loved the part about how you were analyzing text 700 00:33:26,800 --> 00:33:32,160 Speaker 1: messages like there were ancient scrolls. 701 00:33:32,920 --> 00:33:36,080 Speaker 3: Oh my god, that was so fun. 702 00:33:36,480 --> 00:33:39,440 Speaker 1: Well, if you guys want to do that, please report 703 00:33:39,520 --> 00:33:42,720 Speaker 1: back to us with how your movie trailer went. And 704 00:33:42,760 --> 00:33:45,440 Speaker 1: if chat Shept nailed you like it just nailed Chip 705 00:33:45,440 --> 00:33:47,120 Speaker 1: And I'm glad we can laugh at ourselves. But I 706 00:33:47,160 --> 00:33:49,040 Speaker 1: think mine is the funniest thing I've ever heard. 707 00:33:49,160 --> 00:33:52,080 Speaker 2: Actually, I mean she's it on YouTube. 708 00:33:52,640 --> 00:33:54,719 Speaker 1: Yeah, I am still wipe and tears. If you do it, 709 00:33:54,760 --> 00:33:57,000 Speaker 1: please email us. I have to know about it. Even 710 00:33:57,000 --> 00:33:59,000 Speaker 1: if you can email us at the edge at velvet 711 00:33:59,160 --> 00:34:01,520 Speaker 1: edge dot com, you can also hit me up on Instagram. 712 00:34:01,600 --> 00:34:03,840 Speaker 1: I am at Velvet's Edge, Chip. 713 00:34:03,920 --> 00:34:07,520 Speaker 2: I'm at Chip Doors. She's Chip d O R S. 714 00:34:08,520 --> 00:34:10,560 Speaker 1: And as you guys go into the weekends and you're 715 00:34:10,640 --> 00:34:13,120 Speaker 1: living on the edge, I hope you always remember. 716 00:34:12,920 --> 00:34:16,160 Speaker 2: To Bye casual. Bye