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Speaker 1: This is from Visha in Oxford. Visha says, five years ago,

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Speaker 1: I had twins and my husband left me in the hospital.

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Speaker 1: He got a dui that night, and his excuse was

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Speaker 1: that he wasn't ready for twins. I wasn't ready for

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Speaker 1: any more than he was. But I've been raising the

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Speaker 1: girls by myself for the past five years. He gave

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Speaker 1: me money the whole time, but he loved us from afar.

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Speaker 1: He wants to come home all of a sudden, and

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Speaker 1: I'm struggling with that. Should I go ahead and divorce

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Speaker 1: him or do we work on this marriage for our children?

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Speaker 1: Do I owe them that?

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Speaker 2: Wow? Wow? Well they don't know who he is, so

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Speaker 2: this ain't for them. You have to think about yourself

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Speaker 2: in this one right here. It's been five years. You know,

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Speaker 2: they can know they have a father, and they should.

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Speaker 2: But as the woman, the wife, the mother, how do

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Speaker 2: you feel about this guy disappearing and just showing back up?

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Speaker 2: So what went wrong in his life? Well he done

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Speaker 2: came back. Now let me go and do this here.

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Speaker 2: So I don't know. It's it's really how you feel.

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Speaker 2: Don't do it for the children. Don't do it for

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Speaker 2: the children because they never had him and all he

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Speaker 2: got to do is play an active role in the

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Speaker 2: children's life. The question is do you want him to

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Speaker 2: play an active role in your life?

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Speaker 1: He left her while she was in the hospital.

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Speaker 3: Yes, I had twins. I had twins. I remember the

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Speaker 3: night and how was it? I wanted to drive off, didn't.

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Speaker 1: But yeah, wow this guy, mm, yeah, we do have

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Speaker 1: time for another one. This is from Ason, Toronto. He says,

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Speaker 1: I gave my girlfriend some money to get her h

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Speaker 1: VAC fixed, and she spent it on getting her son's

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Speaker 1: windows tenant. Every time his car pulls up at the house,

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Speaker 1: I want to bust his windows. I think her son

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Speaker 1: should give me the money back because he's grown enough

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Speaker 1: to get his own windows tenant? Is my problem with

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Speaker 1: the son or with my girlfriend?

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Speaker 2: Problem is with the son. I mean, I'm.

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Speaker 3: Excuse me, your problems with your girlfriend?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what your problem is because she deceptively asks

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Speaker 2: for the money.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, she knew.

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Speaker 2: She was gonna get his money to this boy get

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Speaker 2: his windows tenant. How is getting your windows tenant more

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Speaker 2: important than me getting this? He Nadia. Yeah, I'd have

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Speaker 2: told my daddy to give me some money for some tint.

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Speaker 2: He just told me to squint when I tried just squint.

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Speaker 1: So what should he say to her? What should Ace

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Speaker 1: say to his girlfriend?

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Speaker 2: Hey, look, you you told me what you wanted to

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Speaker 2: do with the money. That's so unfair. Now you gave

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Speaker 2: this money to this boy for some window tent. See

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Speaker 2: now you you the trust factor of helping you is you.

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Speaker 2: You you messing it up. See what a man can't feel,

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Speaker 2: just like a woman can't feel, is that you're not

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Speaker 2: appreciating what he does and you're taking it for granted.

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Speaker 2: That right There ain't no man going for that because

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Speaker 2: women ain't.

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Speaker 3: Gonna go for it.

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Speaker 1: And she still needs her h fact fixed.

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Speaker 2: Well you just finished it up in the here and

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Speaker 2: be hot. Now go out there in that car. Have

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Speaker 2: him rolled him to the windows down? Y'all?

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Speaker 1: Around there? That was the priority. Yeah. And this son,

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Speaker 1: he says, has grown enough to get his own windows tenants.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 2: All all, you can open the refrigerator, pull a chair up,

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Speaker 2: and watch a TV from the kitchen.

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Speaker 1: Stay cool. Yeah, wow, that's a tough one right there. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but you're, like you said, Steve, the problem is with

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Speaker 1: the girlfriend. You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show