1 00:00:00,240 --> 00:00:02,440 Speaker 1: Buggle up, hold on tight, we got it for you. Here. 2 00:00:02,440 --> 00:00:06,240 Speaker 1: It is the Strawberry Latta subject. I wish I didn't 3 00:00:06,320 --> 00:00:10,559 Speaker 1: trust her so much. Here Stephen Shirley. I am a 4 00:00:10,600 --> 00:00:13,159 Speaker 1: twenty six year old man with two children and a 5 00:00:13,360 --> 00:00:17,239 Speaker 1: wonderful wife of four years. My wife recently graduated from 6 00:00:17,239 --> 00:00:21,639 Speaker 1: medical school and she's studying for her certification exam, so 7 00:00:21,720 --> 00:00:24,840 Speaker 1: she is not working right now. She is at home 8 00:00:24,880 --> 00:00:28,400 Speaker 1: studying most days, or she's on campus with her study group. 9 00:00:28,880 --> 00:00:30,800 Speaker 1: I had no problem with all of the free time 10 00:00:30,880 --> 00:00:33,760 Speaker 1: my wife had, nor did I ever question her loyalty 11 00:00:33,880 --> 00:00:38,640 Speaker 1: in our marriage until recently. I was using her phone 12 00:00:38,680 --> 00:00:41,160 Speaker 1: one day not too long ago, and a text from 13 00:00:41,440 --> 00:00:45,360 Speaker 1: Jarvis popped up and the message was, yes, I'll come 14 00:00:45,360 --> 00:00:49,839 Speaker 1: by tomorrow for lunch. I asked my wife who Jarvis is, 15 00:00:49,880 --> 00:00:52,120 Speaker 1: and she told me that he's one of her study 16 00:00:52,200 --> 00:00:55,280 Speaker 1: partners and she's asked him to drop by on his 17 00:00:55,400 --> 00:00:58,000 Speaker 1: lunch break the next day to pick up some notes. 18 00:00:58,720 --> 00:01:02,080 Speaker 1: I would be at work, so this bothered me, but 19 00:01:02,360 --> 00:01:06,240 Speaker 1: I trust her and she assured me that it was nothing. 20 00:01:06,800 --> 00:01:09,760 Speaker 1: But now I have a real problem with Jarvis because 21 00:01:09,760 --> 00:01:12,000 Speaker 1: of what happened over the weekend when my wife and 22 00:01:12,040 --> 00:01:16,920 Speaker 1: I were having sex. Right when it got good, my 23 00:01:16,959 --> 00:01:20,680 Speaker 1: wife asked me to stop and she was crying. I 24 00:01:20,760 --> 00:01:24,000 Speaker 1: asked her what was wrong, and she told me that 25 00:01:24,000 --> 00:01:27,440 Speaker 1: while we were having sex, she could not stop thinking 26 00:01:27,520 --> 00:01:32,720 Speaker 1: about Jarvis and it scared her. I asked her if 27 00:01:32,760 --> 00:01:34,600 Speaker 1: she had ever cheated on me with a guy, and 28 00:01:34,720 --> 00:01:38,160 Speaker 1: she swore that she'd never cheat, but she wanted to 29 00:01:38,240 --> 00:01:41,120 Speaker 1: let me know that she was thinking of him in 30 00:01:41,120 --> 00:01:45,240 Speaker 1: a sexual way and it made her feel bad. I 31 00:01:45,400 --> 00:01:49,280 Speaker 1: suggested that maybe they should stop studying together, but she 32 00:01:49,360 --> 00:01:52,360 Speaker 1: said Jarvis is the smartest person in their class, so 33 00:01:52,520 --> 00:01:55,120 Speaker 1: she needs him. I pray that she has not had 34 00:01:55,160 --> 00:01:58,400 Speaker 1: sex with Jarvis in my house in our bed. Steve, 35 00:01:58,480 --> 00:02:01,040 Speaker 1: what do you think is going on? Am I crazy? 36 00:02:01,160 --> 00:02:06,160 Speaker 1: Or should I trust my wife? Give it to me straight. Well, 37 00:02:06,320 --> 00:02:10,120 Speaker 1: you should trust your wife until you don't until there's 38 00:02:10,120 --> 00:02:13,000 Speaker 1: a reason for you not to trust her. And if 39 00:02:13,040 --> 00:02:16,119 Speaker 1: ever there was a reason, I think this is it. 40 00:02:17,960 --> 00:02:19,960 Speaker 1: This man is coming by the house when you're at 41 00:02:19,960 --> 00:02:24,360 Speaker 1: work and it's just the two of them there. I 42 00:02:24,440 --> 00:02:28,720 Speaker 1: don't know. I know a lot of relationships, especially married ones, 43 00:02:28,840 --> 00:02:32,440 Speaker 1: if the wife is alone at home, the husband doesn't 44 00:02:32,480 --> 00:02:35,000 Speaker 1: want another man in the house. When he's not there. 45 00:02:37,000 --> 00:02:39,560 Speaker 1: There is such a thing as being too honest as well. 46 00:02:39,639 --> 00:02:42,720 Speaker 1: I don't even understand why she told you this. And 47 00:02:43,120 --> 00:02:47,040 Speaker 1: when she told you, oh mg, I mean, the timing 48 00:02:47,080 --> 00:02:50,000 Speaker 1: couldn't have been worse, you said, just when it got good, 49 00:02:50,040 --> 00:02:52,480 Speaker 1: she broke it down to you. At first, I thought 50 00:02:52,480 --> 00:02:55,000 Speaker 1: it was maybe a fantasy, you know, just in her head. 51 00:02:55,080 --> 00:02:57,239 Speaker 1: She was thinking about Jarvis, but she thought all in 52 00:02:57,320 --> 00:03:01,239 Speaker 1: her feelings. Started crying and stuff. This is pretty serious 53 00:03:01,320 --> 00:03:04,760 Speaker 1: right here. I'm sorry, but I think you really have 54 00:03:04,960 --> 00:03:08,200 Speaker 1: cause for concern here. I just do. If she hasn't 55 00:03:08,240 --> 00:03:12,120 Speaker 1: done it already, she's definitely thinking about it, and she's 56 00:03:12,120 --> 00:03:15,359 Speaker 1: probably considered it. She spends a lot of time with him, 57 00:03:15,720 --> 00:03:21,400 Speaker 1: and he was responding to a text she made to him. 58 00:03:21,480 --> 00:03:23,680 Speaker 1: She asked him to come over on his lunch break. 59 00:03:23,720 --> 00:03:27,519 Speaker 1: He was responding saying, yes, I'll come by tomorrow for lunch. 60 00:03:27,960 --> 00:03:31,400 Speaker 1: So there's something going on and you definitely need to 61 00:03:31,440 --> 00:03:38,280 Speaker 1: get to the bottom of it. Steve, Good, this is crazy. 62 00:03:39,920 --> 00:03:44,360 Speaker 1: Let's get down to the bottom. And it's damn though. Yeah, Steve, 63 00:03:44,400 --> 00:03:52,440 Speaker 1: what you think he would straight? Steve? What you think though, 64 00:03:53,920 --> 00:03:57,480 Speaker 1: is I'm crazy? Well, I trust my wife, give it 65 00:03:57,520 --> 00:04:01,800 Speaker 1: to me straight. All right, his name, ain't it in 66 00:04:01,920 --> 00:04:06,520 Speaker 1: no way rusty or nothing like that name rusty. Figure. 67 00:04:06,560 --> 00:04:09,720 Speaker 1: I'm trying to figure. You're twenty six year old man. 68 00:04:09,760 --> 00:04:12,080 Speaker 1: You got two beautiful kids, wife for four years. Your 69 00:04:12,080 --> 00:04:16,680 Speaker 1: wife graduated from medical school and she's studying for her 70 00:04:16,800 --> 00:04:26,039 Speaker 1: certification exam. See certification exam. Let's keep that in mind. 71 00:04:26,120 --> 00:04:29,839 Speaker 1: Might have to come back and use that. So she 72 00:04:29,920 --> 00:04:34,039 Speaker 1: ain't working right now. She had the house. Most of 73 00:04:34,080 --> 00:04:39,280 Speaker 1: the time, she had the house, and most days so 74 00:04:39,440 --> 00:04:42,279 Speaker 1: she on campus with her group. I ain't he ain't 75 00:04:42,279 --> 00:04:44,200 Speaker 1: got no problem my wife, you know, got a lot 76 00:04:44,279 --> 00:04:46,719 Speaker 1: free time. You know I ain't never questioned a lorgy 77 00:04:46,720 --> 00:04:50,080 Speaker 1: and image foe madge. You know, four years, got two kids. 78 00:04:50,120 --> 00:04:53,440 Speaker 1: You know what she's gonna do. Then I was using 79 00:04:53,480 --> 00:04:58,320 Speaker 1: her phone and got a tech from Jobs. Say that 80 00:04:58,480 --> 00:05:02,640 Speaker 1: name again, I got a technic. Yeah, Jarvis is a 81 00:05:02,720 --> 00:05:04,800 Speaker 1: real play ass name to meet dogs. I don't know 82 00:05:04,839 --> 00:05:06,600 Speaker 1: what your name, and I'm gonna just call you rusted 83 00:05:07,000 --> 00:05:11,200 Speaker 1: rusted Jarvis. Sound like a real player ass name. Jobs propped. 84 00:05:11,480 --> 00:05:16,440 Speaker 1: The message was yes, I come back for lunch more. Now, 85 00:05:18,400 --> 00:05:22,520 Speaker 1: if you saw the text from Jovis, then you had 86 00:05:22,640 --> 00:05:27,400 Speaker 1: to see a text from your wife asking Jarvis. But 87 00:05:27,680 --> 00:05:31,160 Speaker 1: that wasn't the case. So all you saw was text 88 00:05:31,160 --> 00:05:33,680 Speaker 1: from Jarvis and say y'all be there. The more so 89 00:05:33,839 --> 00:05:37,360 Speaker 1: they mean they talk. I asked my wife who the 90 00:05:37,400 --> 00:05:40,520 Speaker 1: hell Jovis is? And see that your mistake. See you 91 00:05:40,640 --> 00:05:43,240 Speaker 1: asked her who Jarvis was? You should asked her who 92 00:05:43,320 --> 00:05:50,000 Speaker 1: the hell is jobs? Who the hell is jobs? And 93 00:05:50,200 --> 00:05:54,520 Speaker 1: why Jarvis talking about coming over here? Question? Because see, 94 00:05:55,279 --> 00:05:58,680 Speaker 1: we ain't doing studying at my house. Though, That what 95 00:05:58,800 --> 00:06:04,679 Speaker 1: they got, Liebrard, that's where they got the odds cafeteria phone. 96 00:06:07,000 --> 00:06:09,120 Speaker 1: She told me one of her study partners and she 97 00:06:09,240 --> 00:06:11,600 Speaker 1: asked him to drop by on his lunch break the 98 00:06:11,680 --> 00:06:14,640 Speaker 1: next day to pick up some notes at my house. 99 00:06:16,240 --> 00:06:18,520 Speaker 1: Now I'm at work. Wow, Well, all I can tell 100 00:06:18,560 --> 00:06:21,160 Speaker 1: you is I just got started. Twenty six year old dude, 101 00:06:21,200 --> 00:06:23,520 Speaker 1: but married four years, got two kids, you know, wife, 102 00:06:23,640 --> 00:06:28,480 Speaker 1: lovely graduating medical school, studying the son, you know, certification exams, 103 00:06:28,600 --> 00:06:31,040 Speaker 1: working on it right now. She ain't working. She at 104 00:06:31,120 --> 00:06:33,760 Speaker 1: home study in most days on campus with a study group, 105 00:06:34,320 --> 00:06:36,279 Speaker 1: and no problem with the free time my wife had. 106 00:06:36,920 --> 00:06:39,640 Speaker 1: I ain't never a question of loyalty. Using the phone 107 00:06:39,680 --> 00:06:43,160 Speaker 1: one day and got teching your damn jobs jobs name 108 00:06:43,240 --> 00:06:45,720 Speaker 1: propped up missing was yes, I come back for lunch 109 00:06:45,800 --> 00:06:47,880 Speaker 1: to the mall. Now, I asked my wife, I said, 110 00:06:48,200 --> 00:06:52,400 Speaker 1: you know who is Jarvis? When I suggested that he 111 00:06:52,480 --> 00:06:56,360 Speaker 1: should have said who the hell is? She told me 112 00:06:56,480 --> 00:06:58,400 Speaker 1: one of the study partners, and she asked him to 113 00:06:58,480 --> 00:07:00,920 Speaker 1: drop down his lunch break the next day, pick up 114 00:07:01,000 --> 00:07:03,400 Speaker 1: some notes and me time I was talking on him break, 115 00:07:04,080 --> 00:07:06,920 Speaker 1: Who do that? Who got? Could come by your house? 116 00:07:07,279 --> 00:07:09,960 Speaker 1: Pick up a damn note. You could text that note. 117 00:07:10,600 --> 00:07:14,520 Speaker 1: You can email that note. You can snapchat that note, 118 00:07:15,240 --> 00:07:19,520 Speaker 1: You can DM that damn note. You can Facebook that note. 119 00:07:20,200 --> 00:07:25,080 Speaker 1: You can group meeting on a computer Skype. Damn damn note. 120 00:07:25,720 --> 00:07:29,160 Speaker 1: You ain't got to bring your monka asked by my house? 121 00:07:32,800 --> 00:07:35,200 Speaker 1: See number one. That's rude number one and your wife 122 00:07:35,280 --> 00:07:37,360 Speaker 1: and broke it. You don't have no man in no 123 00:07:37,440 --> 00:07:40,160 Speaker 1: another man house while he had work or nowhere else. 124 00:07:40,840 --> 00:07:43,840 Speaker 1: You don't have another man in a man house, no 125 00:07:44,040 --> 00:07:46,400 Speaker 1: more than I can have another woman in my house. 126 00:07:47,240 --> 00:07:50,280 Speaker 1: Can no women over here doing services? And Madre ain't 127 00:07:50,360 --> 00:07:54,480 Speaker 1: hill part It's crazy. So this bothered you, but I 128 00:07:54,600 --> 00:07:57,200 Speaker 1: trust and she had chewed me that nothing that it 129 00:07:57,360 --> 00:07:59,880 Speaker 1: was nothing. But now I got a real problem with y'all. 130 00:08:00,000 --> 00:08:02,040 Speaker 1: It's because it would have over weekend. Man, My wife 131 00:08:02,120 --> 00:08:05,760 Speaker 1: was having sex y'all in that job you let me go? Yeah? 132 00:08:05,920 --> 00:08:11,120 Speaker 1: You got two kids? Yes? Yeah? Right? Right when it 133 00:08:11,320 --> 00:08:14,840 Speaker 1: got good, my wife asked me to stop, and she 134 00:08:15,120 --> 00:08:21,680 Speaker 1: was crying, what baby's wrong? Baby? I asked her what 135 00:08:21,840 --> 00:08:24,480 Speaker 1: was wrong? She told me to why we was having sex. 136 00:08:24,800 --> 00:08:29,120 Speaker 1: She couldn't stop thinking about Jovis and it scared her. All. 137 00:08:29,360 --> 00:08:33,400 Speaker 1: We often to be scared, Na, Na, j too, it 138 00:08:33,559 --> 00:08:36,480 Speaker 1: scared you. I'm scared you feel to be most scared. 139 00:08:36,600 --> 00:08:39,640 Speaker 1: Javis asked him to get tight. I asked if she 140 00:08:39,760 --> 00:08:42,120 Speaker 1: had ever cheated on me with the guy. She swore 141 00:08:42,240 --> 00:08:45,079 Speaker 1: she never cheatd but she wanted to let me know 142 00:08:45,200 --> 00:08:47,680 Speaker 1: that she was thinking of him in a sexual way 143 00:08:47,960 --> 00:08:52,760 Speaker 1: and it made her feel bad. I suggested that maybe 144 00:08:52,840 --> 00:09:00,440 Speaker 1: they should stop study that you suggested, dog, see at 145 00:09:00,480 --> 00:09:04,760 Speaker 1: your words? Ain't who is Javis? See all? That then 146 00:09:04,920 --> 00:09:08,319 Speaker 1: changed to who the f is? Jobs? Too nice? And 147 00:09:08,520 --> 00:09:11,720 Speaker 1: then this right here. I suggested that maybe they should 148 00:09:11,800 --> 00:09:15,839 Speaker 1: stop studying together, but she said, Javis is the smartest 149 00:09:15,920 --> 00:09:18,199 Speaker 1: person in their class, so she never Hey, let me 150 00:09:18,280 --> 00:09:22,679 Speaker 1: tell you something, Javis, ain't that damn smart. See Jovis, 151 00:09:22,800 --> 00:09:25,240 Speaker 1: mister mess rod javisf you can get hit as well, 152 00:09:25,679 --> 00:09:30,160 Speaker 1: being so damned smart. She needs him, You need him 153 00:09:30,280 --> 00:09:33,199 Speaker 1: so much that you're thinking about him sexually. Where we 154 00:09:33,360 --> 00:09:36,520 Speaker 1: having sex? You don't stop me? And now you cry 155 00:09:38,720 --> 00:09:45,800 Speaker 1: hell far holve ho love. I pray that she has 156 00:09:45,880 --> 00:09:49,520 Speaker 1: not had sex with Javis in my house, in our bed, 157 00:09:49,880 --> 00:09:53,160 Speaker 1: women on the thump. I don't give a damn where 158 00:09:53,240 --> 00:09:56,280 Speaker 1: she didn't have sex. I don't give a damn if 159 00:09:56,320 --> 00:09:58,400 Speaker 1: it's on the steps. I don't give a damn if 160 00:09:58,440 --> 00:10:01,440 Speaker 1: it's on the welcome matt at to go into the house. 161 00:10:02,120 --> 00:10:04,959 Speaker 1: The fact that you think her and Jarvis may have 162 00:10:05,160 --> 00:10:08,520 Speaker 1: had sex, that's a nough. Now in the house, it's 163 00:10:08,600 --> 00:10:11,800 Speaker 1: just gonna it's gonna worse than the ass for Steve. 164 00:10:11,920 --> 00:10:16,959 Speaker 1: What do you think see mention your name in it? 165 00:10:17,640 --> 00:10:22,840 Speaker 1: Take your time. It's time to go see Jarvis. Yeah, 166 00:10:24,679 --> 00:10:26,880 Speaker 1: it's time to go see Javis. And I'm gonna tell 167 00:10:26,880 --> 00:10:29,480 Speaker 1: you why. And I'm serious about this too, because he 168 00:10:29,679 --> 00:10:33,240 Speaker 1: Jarvis needs to get a visit from the man whose 169 00:10:33,320 --> 00:10:37,320 Speaker 1: house he's so comfortable going over. Because I'm gonna tell 170 00:10:37,360 --> 00:10:38,839 Speaker 1: you right now, man, ain't no man fit to be 171 00:10:38,920 --> 00:10:42,800 Speaker 1: comfortable coming to my house. Somebody gonna go Steve now, 172 00:10:43,960 --> 00:10:46,120 Speaker 1: because just just just the way Steve talks, I just 173 00:10:46,440 --> 00:10:51,120 Speaker 1: Steve to do Steve. No, I'm coming. Oh man, it's 174 00:10:51,160 --> 00:10:55,920 Speaker 1: it's it's all day, It's all day. I promise you, man, 175 00:10:56,480 --> 00:10:59,000 Speaker 1: I'm going to see Jarvis. Because he Javis is comfortable 176 00:10:59,080 --> 00:11:00,800 Speaker 1: enough to come over here, then he ought to be 177 00:11:00,880 --> 00:11:04,760 Speaker 1: comfortable enough me coming over there. Javis been over my house? 178 00:11:05,040 --> 00:11:08,480 Speaker 1: Why can't I come over Jarvis? Yeah? Now all is 179 00:11:08,559 --> 00:11:13,040 Speaker 1: you crying because you're thinking about him? Now we've finning 180 00:11:13,080 --> 00:11:17,400 Speaker 1: addressed this at the house too. Wow, why aren't you 181 00:11:17,559 --> 00:11:20,400 Speaker 1: gonna get with Jarvis? Because all this crime while we 182 00:11:20,559 --> 00:11:25,840 Speaker 1: having set thinking about Javis? See that right now, I'm 183 00:11:25,880 --> 00:11:28,480 Speaker 1: not fitting. And now every time I see you crying, 184 00:11:28,640 --> 00:11:32,120 Speaker 1: well what you think about jobs? Again? And I don't 185 00:11:32,240 --> 00:11:35,199 Speaker 1: And I don't know where you had the courage to 186 00:11:35,440 --> 00:11:39,520 Speaker 1: tell me you was thinking about him in a sexual way, 187 00:11:39,720 --> 00:11:42,000 Speaker 1: because dog, you're a little weak ass dude. Man, you're 188 00:11:42,000 --> 00:11:43,520 Speaker 1: gonna have to tighten up a little bit, because dog, 189 00:11:43,920 --> 00:11:47,439 Speaker 1: you can't talk too kind of crazy. If a woman 190 00:11:47,640 --> 00:11:50,439 Speaker 1: is having sexual thoughts about another man, I promise you 191 00:11:50,840 --> 00:11:53,920 Speaker 1: I ain't dated one that to tell me that no no, 192 00:11:54,360 --> 00:11:59,120 Speaker 1: but because I hip up Glass Steve Crazy. All right, look, 193 00:12:00,160 --> 00:12:04,119 Speaker 1: email us or Instagram us your thoughts on saying Strawberry 194 00:12:04,240 --> 00:12:11,320 Speaker 1: Letter at Steve Steve Crazy, Steve Harvey FM. 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