1 00:00:02,600 --> 00:00:06,440 Speaker 1: Hey, that folks. It is Saturday, July Fit and welcome 2 00:00:06,480 --> 00:00:10,600 Speaker 1: to your recovery run. That's welcome to a d day. 3 00:00:10,640 --> 00:00:13,840 Speaker 1: This episode is dedicated to trying to recover, but we 4 00:00:13,920 --> 00:00:16,599 Speaker 1: all went through during the week brow we started this 5 00:00:17,920 --> 00:00:21,759 Speaker 1: this last weekend. Weeks are tough and oftentimes as runners, 6 00:00:21,840 --> 00:00:25,800 Speaker 1: literal runners, we often have a recovery run. So explain 7 00:00:25,840 --> 00:00:26,799 Speaker 1: to folks what we're talking about. 8 00:00:26,880 --> 00:00:31,440 Speaker 2: Yes, a recovery run, if you're a runner, is a short, easy, 9 00:00:32,120 --> 00:00:36,080 Speaker 2: low intensity run, and it's usually done after having a 10 00:00:36,200 --> 00:00:40,760 Speaker 2: strenuous workout or several strenuous workouts, so that your muscles 11 00:00:40,760 --> 00:00:43,800 Speaker 2: can recover. It reduces soreness, and it just actually makes 12 00:00:43,840 --> 00:00:48,120 Speaker 2: you feel better, so you deliberately go slower and easier, 13 00:00:48,720 --> 00:00:49,919 Speaker 2: and it's. 14 00:00:50,040 --> 00:00:52,120 Speaker 3: Short, but it has a big impact. 15 00:00:52,360 --> 00:00:55,680 Speaker 1: So the point of us doing a weekend morning run 16 00:00:55,800 --> 00:00:58,160 Speaker 1: is to do all those things you just said to 17 00:00:58,240 --> 00:01:02,840 Speaker 1: be slower, easier, less intense. And I guess the talk 18 00:01:02,880 --> 00:01:06,759 Speaker 1: all week robes was absolutely about Ditty and the Ditty trial, 19 00:01:07,000 --> 00:01:09,399 Speaker 1: but over the past several weeks, so just reading through 20 00:01:09,400 --> 00:01:11,640 Speaker 1: that stuff watching news coverage, I'm pretty sure there's some 21 00:01:11,680 --> 00:01:14,280 Speaker 1: parents who won't even allow their kids to watch some 22 00:01:14,319 --> 00:01:17,120 Speaker 1: news coverage giving some of the subject matter, but that 23 00:01:17,360 --> 00:01:20,720 Speaker 1: has been heavy. You don't have to be covering it. 24 00:01:20,720 --> 00:01:23,600 Speaker 1: It's heavy and people have had heavy conversations around it, 25 00:01:23,600 --> 00:01:25,520 Speaker 1: so it's good they could be. 26 00:01:26,160 --> 00:01:27,880 Speaker 3: It's true if you think about it. 27 00:01:27,920 --> 00:01:31,600 Speaker 2: Every time you read a news article or see something 28 00:01:31,600 --> 00:01:36,160 Speaker 2: about the Didty trial, there's always a warning about explicit material, 29 00:01:36,200 --> 00:01:39,080 Speaker 2: but also a warning for folks who have gone through 30 00:01:39,720 --> 00:01:42,440 Speaker 2: any kind of domestic abuse or any sort of violence. 31 00:01:42,440 --> 00:01:44,959 Speaker 2: They're warning that just reading about it or hearing about 32 00:01:44,959 --> 00:01:48,560 Speaker 2: it can trigger up trigger old feelings or make it 33 00:01:48,600 --> 00:01:51,280 Speaker 2: difficult for people to process pain and problems. 34 00:01:51,280 --> 00:01:52,080 Speaker 3: So yeah, just. 35 00:01:52,280 --> 00:01:56,160 Speaker 2: Seeing it, hearing it, reading it, and living it it 36 00:01:56,680 --> 00:01:59,520 Speaker 2: does take a toll on you, not just mentally, but 37 00:01:59,560 --> 00:02:01,200 Speaker 2: I think this sometimes as well. 38 00:02:01,400 --> 00:02:04,520 Speaker 1: So we have been sharing with you all some of 39 00:02:04,560 --> 00:02:08,000 Speaker 1: the things we do in these high intensity weeks. How 40 00:02:08,000 --> 00:02:09,880 Speaker 1: do we try to take a beat, how do we 41 00:02:09,960 --> 00:02:12,600 Speaker 1: try to recover? How do we try I guess to 42 00:02:12,680 --> 00:02:16,280 Speaker 1: just slow life down a little bit? And first row, 43 00:02:16,400 --> 00:02:19,120 Speaker 1: I guess we have didn't it. First of all, we 44 00:02:19,200 --> 00:02:21,160 Speaker 1: haven't been great at it this week. No, I think 45 00:02:21,280 --> 00:02:23,320 Speaker 1: we have fallen off and failed a little bit, and 46 00:02:23,360 --> 00:02:26,240 Speaker 1: we prioritized work and there was a lot of it. 47 00:02:26,760 --> 00:02:29,440 Speaker 1: But we haven't. We haven't done a great job. 48 00:02:29,960 --> 00:02:30,960 Speaker 3: Yeah, full disclosure. 49 00:02:31,000 --> 00:02:33,400 Speaker 2: So we had plans and I think sometimes this is 50 00:02:33,560 --> 00:02:35,960 Speaker 2: maybe what we will do from here on out. But 51 00:02:36,040 --> 00:02:40,440 Speaker 2: when you schedule and plan relaxing time, it actually works. 52 00:02:40,840 --> 00:02:43,960 Speaker 2: We tried to do that this week, but unfortunately, because 53 00:02:44,000 --> 00:02:47,919 Speaker 2: of the constant headlines with dinit trial, we didn't do 54 00:02:47,960 --> 00:02:48,880 Speaker 2: what we set out to do. 55 00:02:48,960 --> 00:02:51,600 Speaker 1: Will you say that we canceled our relaxation. 56 00:02:51,760 --> 00:02:52,120 Speaker 3: We did. 57 00:02:52,320 --> 00:02:55,760 Speaker 2: We canceled. We canceled our recovery runs this week. It 58 00:02:55,840 --> 00:02:58,400 Speaker 2: was so frustrating, but we ended up having to do it, 59 00:02:58,639 --> 00:03:00,800 Speaker 2: or we chose to do it. We chose to do it. 60 00:03:00,840 --> 00:03:03,760 Speaker 2: I guess we could have chosen are choosing. Listen, this 61 00:03:03,800 --> 00:03:05,800 Speaker 2: is why I need a recovery run. I just said, choosen. 62 00:03:05,919 --> 00:03:07,040 Speaker 1: You need recovery sleep? 63 00:03:07,240 --> 00:03:09,960 Speaker 3: I need I do need sleep. That's the first thing 64 00:03:09,960 --> 00:03:12,000 Speaker 3: that we're gonna do. But we had tried to. 65 00:03:12,639 --> 00:03:14,560 Speaker 2: We picked out a movie, we picked out a time, 66 00:03:14,600 --> 00:03:16,800 Speaker 2: we picked out a theater, and then at the last 67 00:03:16,840 --> 00:03:18,200 Speaker 2: minute we said, we have. 68 00:03:18,120 --> 00:03:20,320 Speaker 1: Too much work to do. And now as you said that, 69 00:03:20,639 --> 00:03:27,040 Speaker 1: I actually remember two thirty Alamo draft House Downtown movie playing. 70 00:03:27,160 --> 00:03:27,839 Speaker 1: We had it set. 71 00:03:28,000 --> 00:03:29,360 Speaker 3: Yes, twenty eight years later. 72 00:03:29,520 --> 00:03:32,520 Speaker 2: We've been so excited about seeing this movie, and we 73 00:03:32,600 --> 00:03:34,680 Speaker 2: really wanted to see it in theaters because it's a 74 00:03:34,760 --> 00:03:37,040 Speaker 2: zombie movie, and of course those are always much better 75 00:03:37,080 --> 00:03:39,440 Speaker 2: on a bigger screen. So we canceled that, and then 76 00:03:39,440 --> 00:03:41,280 Speaker 2: we thought, you know what, let's punt you and I. 77 00:03:41,480 --> 00:03:43,440 Speaker 2: All of our daughters happened to be out of town 78 00:03:43,480 --> 00:03:45,440 Speaker 2: at the first part of this week, and so we thought, 79 00:03:45,520 --> 00:03:47,160 Speaker 2: let's take advantage. 80 00:03:46,720 --> 00:03:48,640 Speaker 1: Of that because we were going to have all of 81 00:03:48,680 --> 00:03:50,480 Speaker 1: them for a long. 82 00:03:50,280 --> 00:03:52,560 Speaker 2: Time, because that's where we're currently with all of them 83 00:03:52,600 --> 00:03:55,320 Speaker 2: right now. Actually we've escaped from them for a quick 84 00:03:55,400 --> 00:03:58,560 Speaker 2: moment to record this. But we decided, then let's go 85 00:03:58,600 --> 00:04:02,400 Speaker 2: to dinner. Let's go have a wonderful steak. Sit down, 86 00:04:02,480 --> 00:04:05,000 Speaker 2: We'll have a glass of red wine and a steak, 87 00:04:05,040 --> 00:04:08,000 Speaker 2: and we'll just the two of us enjoy. We were 88 00:04:08,080 --> 00:04:12,200 Speaker 2: so exhausted at the end of the day, we said, nah, 89 00:04:12,720 --> 00:04:13,600 Speaker 2: let's just go to bed. 90 00:04:13,960 --> 00:04:15,720 Speaker 3: You actually said let's just go to bed. 91 00:04:16,160 --> 00:04:19,039 Speaker 1: This is embarrassing. Really, we always we preach this, We 92 00:04:19,080 --> 00:04:22,440 Speaker 1: tell folks this, and look we do for ourselves. We 93 00:04:22,800 --> 00:04:25,520 Speaker 1: do practice this. But I'm thinking about this week and 94 00:04:25,600 --> 00:04:27,560 Speaker 1: I know the Ditty trial and everything that was happening 95 00:04:27,640 --> 00:04:30,400 Speaker 1: coming at us this week was a lot. We had 96 00:04:30,440 --> 00:04:33,520 Speaker 1: a lot to do, but it it did. We we 97 00:04:33,600 --> 00:04:36,560 Speaker 1: failed a little bit this week. We have to find 98 00:04:36,760 --> 00:04:39,760 Speaker 1: time together. You and I have to find time to 99 00:04:39,800 --> 00:04:42,760 Speaker 1: just be the two of us. And even with our 100 00:04:43,560 --> 00:04:47,200 Speaker 1: all the kids gone, we had no kid responsibility, and 101 00:04:47,279 --> 00:04:52,400 Speaker 1: we still ended up working by choice fourteen to fifteen 102 00:04:52,440 --> 00:04:54,240 Speaker 1: hours on a Friday. 103 00:04:54,560 --> 00:04:57,440 Speaker 3: That was tough. That was That was a tough day. 104 00:04:57,640 --> 00:05:00,359 Speaker 2: And then the rest of this week has been this same, 105 00:05:00,839 --> 00:05:04,719 Speaker 2: even while we were traveling with our daughters midweek. And 106 00:05:04,760 --> 00:05:08,000 Speaker 2: this is something we have left the city, which is helpful, 107 00:05:08,080 --> 00:05:11,040 Speaker 2: and we are somewhere beautiful with our kids. But when 108 00:05:11,040 --> 00:05:13,120 Speaker 2: you're somewhere beautiful with your kids, it's still a lot 109 00:05:13,120 --> 00:05:16,520 Speaker 2: of work. And when you travel, you know, travel delays, 110 00:05:17,160 --> 00:05:20,920 Speaker 2: the stress of getting on a plane and all of that. 111 00:05:21,000 --> 00:05:23,600 Speaker 2: But then to have the Diddy trail verdict, it actually 112 00:05:23,600 --> 00:05:27,160 Speaker 2: came down while we were traveling, so it ended up 113 00:05:27,200 --> 00:05:30,560 Speaker 2: just being an exceptionally stressful days. 114 00:05:30,640 --> 00:05:33,440 Speaker 1: Were stressed out. Okay, this is a terrible recovery run 115 00:05:33,480 --> 00:05:34,440 Speaker 1: episode because all. 116 00:05:35,320 --> 00:05:38,200 Speaker 2: About I will say something we did do in the 117 00:05:38,279 --> 00:05:43,320 Speaker 2: last seven days. We drove out to a wooded path 118 00:05:43,360 --> 00:05:47,600 Speaker 2: a rail trail. We're actually this is something we did 119 00:05:47,600 --> 00:05:49,880 Speaker 2: for ourselves. We are training for We haven't said this yet. 120 00:05:49,880 --> 00:05:53,400 Speaker 2: We were training for the Stockholm Marathon half marathon. And 121 00:05:53,560 --> 00:05:57,839 Speaker 2: it's August thirtieth and we are traveling to Sweden to 122 00:05:57,920 --> 00:06:00,840 Speaker 2: go run this half marathon, and so our training has 123 00:06:00,880 --> 00:06:05,720 Speaker 2: begun and we went and just had a beautiful run 124 00:06:05,839 --> 00:06:09,480 Speaker 2: five miles in a wooded path outside of the city. 125 00:06:09,640 --> 00:06:12,120 Speaker 2: And for me and you can speak to it as well, 126 00:06:12,120 --> 00:06:16,360 Speaker 2: but it was that was probably my favorite, my favorite 127 00:06:16,360 --> 00:06:17,240 Speaker 2: thing we did together. 128 00:06:17,360 --> 00:06:21,960 Speaker 1: Highlight of the week. Yes, it's probably that. The other 129 00:06:22,120 --> 00:06:24,640 Speaker 1: thing we're trying to do to recover. We don't know 130 00:06:24,640 --> 00:06:26,280 Speaker 1: if we're going to be able to pull off. But 131 00:06:26,400 --> 00:06:29,159 Speaker 1: on this trip we have the girls with us, and 132 00:06:29,279 --> 00:06:32,280 Speaker 1: on the trip, maybe the next day or so, we 133 00:06:32,279 --> 00:06:35,360 Speaker 1: were hoping to get away from the girls so that 134 00:06:35,560 --> 00:06:37,719 Speaker 1: you and I could go escape and have a nice 135 00:06:38,080 --> 00:06:41,080 Speaker 1: dinner somewhere. This is so I didn't want to adult 136 00:06:41,120 --> 00:06:43,359 Speaker 1: this much. This is supposed to be fun. This is 137 00:06:43,400 --> 00:06:45,880 Speaker 1: too much adulting. We have to ask permission from the 138 00:06:45,960 --> 00:06:51,000 Speaker 1: kids for us to go spend time together. What is happening, Yes. 139 00:06:50,880 --> 00:06:53,880 Speaker 2: It's called parenthood, and as you said, have said, we 140 00:06:53,920 --> 00:06:56,080 Speaker 2: are doing entirely too much parenting. 141 00:06:56,480 --> 00:07:00,000 Speaker 3: But I know so many people listening can absolutely. 142 00:07:00,120 --> 00:07:03,200 Speaker 2: Miserate and understand. We love our kids. They're a lot 143 00:07:03,200 --> 00:07:07,080 Speaker 2: of fun. But I do think it's important to prioritize 144 00:07:07,200 --> 00:07:10,040 Speaker 2: alone time, prioritize romantic time. And I think we also 145 00:07:10,120 --> 00:07:13,760 Speaker 2: have an added issue of working together. And so what 146 00:07:13,880 --> 00:07:15,800 Speaker 2: ends up happening is a lot of times when we 147 00:07:15,840 --> 00:07:19,120 Speaker 2: talk and when we're together, we're working, we're talking about work, 148 00:07:19,160 --> 00:07:22,440 Speaker 2: we're planning the next thing we're doing, and we're not 149 00:07:22,480 --> 00:07:25,600 Speaker 2: actually just enjoying each other and just being with each other. 150 00:07:25,640 --> 00:07:28,400 Speaker 2: And I think that is on our list of things 151 00:07:28,440 --> 00:07:31,160 Speaker 2: to do. Our homework assignment for more recovery is to 152 00:07:31,360 --> 00:07:34,680 Speaker 2: find that time to just be and enjoy. 153 00:07:36,000 --> 00:07:39,360 Speaker 1: Something I have individually that has helped me. That we 154 00:07:40,360 --> 00:07:45,840 Speaker 1: talked about this previously, but you've noticed it keeping our 155 00:07:45,960 --> 00:07:50,040 Speaker 1: home space very tidy. It's one of those things you've 156 00:07:50,080 --> 00:07:52,320 Speaker 1: noticed that everybody's noticed a long time. For me, if 157 00:07:52,320 --> 00:07:56,320 Speaker 1: there's something going wrong internally, if there's something out of 158 00:07:56,360 --> 00:07:59,679 Speaker 1: my control in life, somebody's pissed me off, or's something 159 00:08:00,200 --> 00:08:03,640 Speaker 1: going right, I then go into a mode of controlling 160 00:08:03,680 --> 00:08:06,480 Speaker 1: the controllables, which includes my environment. 161 00:08:06,760 --> 00:08:09,400 Speaker 2: You pull out the windecks and I start cleaning. I mean, 162 00:08:09,480 --> 00:08:11,560 Speaker 2: he's not kidding. And that's always when I know if 163 00:08:11,600 --> 00:08:13,800 Speaker 2: he's really upset. If we've had a tough conversation and 164 00:08:13,840 --> 00:08:18,120 Speaker 2: he starts just vigorously cleaning, I know he's bad. I'm like, 165 00:08:18,160 --> 00:08:20,520 Speaker 2: oh no, this might take a day for him to recover, 166 00:08:20,600 --> 00:08:22,720 Speaker 2: but his apartment is going to be The apartment is 167 00:08:22,720 --> 00:08:24,160 Speaker 2: going to be spotless. 168 00:08:24,480 --> 00:08:26,960 Speaker 1: Walk in and see that, you go, oh shit, what's wrong? 169 00:08:27,440 --> 00:08:28,720 Speaker 1: Oh no, place looks too nice? 170 00:08:28,760 --> 00:08:29,360 Speaker 3: What happened? 171 00:08:38,800 --> 00:08:43,160 Speaker 2: But it's funny because I actually, I absolutely agree with 172 00:08:43,200 --> 00:08:46,720 Speaker 2: your strategy because I didn't realize I did this as well. 173 00:08:46,960 --> 00:08:49,160 Speaker 2: But I always feel better after I organize. I think 174 00:08:49,160 --> 00:08:52,360 Speaker 2: everybody does. I always feel better after I clean. If 175 00:08:52,440 --> 00:08:55,600 Speaker 2: I look around and see I don't see dust, I 176 00:08:55,640 --> 00:08:58,200 Speaker 2: see everything's put away, I can relax. 177 00:08:58,400 --> 00:09:00,840 Speaker 3: So it's true. I am the same way. Cleaning is healing. 178 00:09:01,000 --> 00:09:04,160 Speaker 1: That's helped me this week. I didn't. It is one 179 00:09:04,160 --> 00:09:06,600 Speaker 1: of those things that does help me recover with a 180 00:09:06,600 --> 00:09:09,040 Speaker 1: little down, things aren't going away. Whatever you want to say. 181 00:09:09,080 --> 00:09:12,920 Speaker 1: Getting a little depressed, I can clean. When you come in, 182 00:09:13,000 --> 00:09:17,120 Speaker 1: you see I have more than two candles. Bit. You 183 00:09:17,200 --> 00:09:19,600 Speaker 1: know this dude is trying to find his way back. 184 00:09:19,720 --> 00:09:22,240 Speaker 2: Yes, you're looking for peace and that makes a lot 185 00:09:22,280 --> 00:09:25,000 Speaker 2: of sense. And as you were a partner, I really 186 00:09:25,000 --> 00:09:27,480 Speaker 2: appreciate it. I don't want to make you upset too often, 187 00:09:27,520 --> 00:09:31,880 Speaker 2: but honestly, it's nice to have that be your outlet. 188 00:09:31,880 --> 00:09:33,560 Speaker 2: There are so many other things that could be far 189 00:09:33,679 --> 00:09:35,880 Speaker 2: worse that you could do if you're angry, to try 190 00:09:35,920 --> 00:09:38,800 Speaker 2: and calm down, and if your go to is cleaning, 191 00:09:39,040 --> 00:09:40,240 Speaker 2: I am all for them. 192 00:09:40,280 --> 00:09:43,559 Speaker 1: People have different little normal What is it that people 193 00:09:43,640 --> 00:09:48,280 Speaker 1: notice about their spouses when they are upset? What's usually 194 00:09:48,280 --> 00:09:50,599 Speaker 1: the sign that they're a little stand authors are a 195 00:09:50,640 --> 00:09:53,200 Speaker 1: little short or a little snappy or a little What 196 00:09:53,320 --> 00:09:54,439 Speaker 1: are the things they noticed? 197 00:09:54,559 --> 00:09:57,160 Speaker 2: Yes, and I think with drawn and a lot. Sometimes 198 00:09:57,200 --> 00:10:00,319 Speaker 2: people just you know, can't get out of bed. Times, 199 00:10:00,320 --> 00:10:03,600 Speaker 2: people start eating, some people start drinking. I mean, there's 200 00:10:03,679 --> 00:10:06,679 Speaker 2: people go to their vices. Whatever makes them feel comfort. Right, 201 00:10:07,280 --> 00:10:11,120 Speaker 2: cleaning is yours. I'll take it. Like I said, there 202 00:10:11,120 --> 00:10:13,560 Speaker 2: are part What do I do when I'm upset? Do 203 00:10:13,640 --> 00:10:14,200 Speaker 2: I withdraw? 204 00:10:14,720 --> 00:10:18,760 Speaker 1: Oh? Your voice gets louder and you cry. There's no 205 00:10:19,640 --> 00:10:21,800 Speaker 1: when there are no signs I need to look. 206 00:10:21,600 --> 00:10:23,120 Speaker 3: For that's true crying. 207 00:10:23,160 --> 00:10:25,520 Speaker 2: But you know what I I So it's a love 208 00:10:25,559 --> 00:10:29,400 Speaker 2: hate relationship because when I do cry, I always feel better, 209 00:10:29,400 --> 00:10:30,160 Speaker 2: there's a huge release. 210 00:10:30,160 --> 00:10:32,360 Speaker 3: But I'm always embarrassed that I'm crying, because. 211 00:10:32,480 --> 00:10:36,880 Speaker 1: Never get that. I never understand you're you're embarrassed that 212 00:10:36,880 --> 00:10:37,319 Speaker 1: you're crying. 213 00:10:37,360 --> 00:10:39,319 Speaker 2: I want to be I want to be more in control, 214 00:10:39,400 --> 00:10:43,480 Speaker 2: and yet you know, my sadness or my anger comes 215 00:10:43,520 --> 00:10:45,920 Speaker 2: in liquid form. What can I say? And it's always 216 00:10:45,920 --> 00:10:47,600 Speaker 2: been like that. I think I've gotten a little bit 217 00:10:47,600 --> 00:10:49,439 Speaker 2: better about crying less. I don't ever want it to 218 00:10:49,480 --> 00:10:51,439 Speaker 2: look like I'm trying to throw myself a pity party. 219 00:10:51,640 --> 00:10:54,280 Speaker 2: But then I'm trying to get attention or I'm trying 220 00:10:54,320 --> 00:10:55,800 Speaker 2: to deflect from what's going on. 221 00:10:56,320 --> 00:10:59,640 Speaker 3: I think, yes, you do you think it. I know 222 00:10:59,640 --> 00:11:02,360 Speaker 3: you're thinking, can get but it's not. It's just an expression. 223 00:11:02,520 --> 00:11:06,480 Speaker 2: It's just a release, basically, and and it does always 224 00:11:06,520 --> 00:11:07,360 Speaker 2: make me feel better. 225 00:11:07,920 --> 00:11:11,000 Speaker 1: There you go, hihen have you grid this week? Remember 226 00:11:11,200 --> 00:11:14,120 Speaker 1: I haven't cried? Hey, that's far the recovery. Sometimes we 227 00:11:14,200 --> 00:11:15,559 Speaker 1: need to get a good cry and maybe we can 228 00:11:15,559 --> 00:11:17,840 Speaker 1: get one in before this episode ends. 229 00:11:18,000 --> 00:11:20,040 Speaker 2: No, I really, I really don't want to do that, 230 00:11:20,120 --> 00:11:22,000 Speaker 2: but I really would like to go to dinner with you, babe. 231 00:11:22,000 --> 00:11:25,480 Speaker 2: So let's try to prioritize that, and hopefully next Saturday 232 00:11:26,480 --> 00:11:29,720 Speaker 2: we will be able to share with our amazing listeners 233 00:11:29,920 --> 00:11:34,200 Speaker 2: some actual recovery tips that we employed or we used 234 00:11:34,240 --> 00:11:36,160 Speaker 2: through the week. So let's make that a priority for 235 00:11:36,240 --> 00:11:36,640 Speaker 2: next week. 236 00:11:37,000 --> 00:11:39,480 Speaker 1: I will, I will give this one. This is something 237 00:11:39,520 --> 00:11:41,960 Speaker 1: we've done, and I we have to remember to do 238 00:11:42,000 --> 00:11:43,400 Speaker 1: it sometimes. I don't know if that's good to bad, 239 00:11:44,080 --> 00:11:46,560 Speaker 1: but I talk to you about this. You and I 240 00:11:46,679 --> 00:11:48,640 Speaker 1: always have to be good for the rest of the 241 00:11:48,760 --> 00:11:51,480 Speaker 1: family unit to be good. Sometimes we get caught up 242 00:11:51,480 --> 00:11:54,440 Speaker 1: in doing this. Okay, Sabine needs this at least needs 243 00:11:54,440 --> 00:11:57,560 Speaker 1: this need to put out this fire behavor. Okay, Savina 244 00:11:57,640 --> 00:11:59,240 Speaker 1: is kind of friends are on the way. We get 245 00:11:59,320 --> 00:12:02,200 Speaker 1: so caught up and doing all of this stuff that 246 00:12:02,320 --> 00:12:06,200 Speaker 1: pulls us there or there. And I always say, as 247 00:12:06,280 --> 00:12:09,720 Speaker 1: long as you and I are good and happy and strong, 248 00:12:10,120 --> 00:12:12,920 Speaker 1: and I think we have made on this particular trip 249 00:12:12,960 --> 00:12:15,400 Speaker 1: and in recent weeks, even when we're walking down the 250 00:12:15,400 --> 00:12:18,559 Speaker 1: street with three girls, I don't like when we separate 251 00:12:18,600 --> 00:12:20,640 Speaker 1: and I'm over here talking to Speen. If you're over 252 00:12:20,679 --> 00:12:23,120 Speaker 1: there I like to keep you and I together and 253 00:12:23,160 --> 00:12:26,320 Speaker 1: then everybody kind of comes together around us. Now, that 254 00:12:26,480 --> 00:12:28,920 Speaker 1: is something that I do appreciate. That is a part 255 00:12:28,960 --> 00:12:31,160 Speaker 1: of we can throw into the recovery run. But I 256 00:12:31,200 --> 00:12:33,520 Speaker 1: think a lot of folks can relate to. And you 257 00:12:33,559 --> 00:12:35,599 Speaker 1: see families walking down the street all the time with 258 00:12:36,280 --> 00:12:39,360 Speaker 1: hell in New York, with tourists. The dad is in 259 00:12:39,400 --> 00:12:41,720 Speaker 1: the front, the mom is in the very back. There 260 00:12:41,760 --> 00:12:43,880 Speaker 1: are three kids and none of them talking to each other. 261 00:12:44,000 --> 00:12:44,760 Speaker 3: It's so true. 262 00:12:44,960 --> 00:12:46,840 Speaker 2: It's I mean, and you see, and it's one of 263 00:12:46,840 --> 00:12:49,000 Speaker 2: those things when you do observe that, and it's so 264 00:12:49,200 --> 00:12:52,400 Speaker 2: easy to fall into that. It's so easy, but it's 265 00:12:52,440 --> 00:12:55,720 Speaker 2: good to remember to remind yourself, Hey, I love what 266 00:12:55,760 --> 00:12:58,320 Speaker 2: you just said. Bit like seriously that I think that 267 00:12:58,480 --> 00:13:00,480 Speaker 2: is so the key and we forget get to prate. 268 00:13:00,520 --> 00:13:05,160 Speaker 2: We always put our kids first, and the unit, the couple, 269 00:13:05,360 --> 00:13:08,480 Speaker 2: the parents last. And my parents didn't do that. They 270 00:13:08,480 --> 00:13:11,200 Speaker 2: were the opposite. And I did have that as a 271 00:13:11,280 --> 00:13:13,640 Speaker 2: model to look to. They always made sure that they 272 00:13:13,679 --> 00:13:16,439 Speaker 2: were good and that they were solid. And my brother 273 00:13:16,480 --> 00:13:20,560 Speaker 2: and I, you know, we looking now back on it, 274 00:13:20,679 --> 00:13:22,760 Speaker 2: I appreciate it, and I'm so happy to have a 275 00:13:22,760 --> 00:13:25,040 Speaker 2: partner who prioritizes that too, because I really do think 276 00:13:25,040 --> 00:13:28,920 Speaker 2: it's something you have to consciously prioritize and talk about, 277 00:13:29,000 --> 00:13:30,200 Speaker 2: because I so agree with that. 278 00:13:30,480 --> 00:13:33,679 Speaker 1: But I've noticed it when right, okay, you might be 279 00:13:33,760 --> 00:13:36,079 Speaker 1: talking to one of the girls trying to put out 280 00:13:36,080 --> 00:13:37,840 Speaker 1: a fire, and I'm over here son to look at 281 00:13:37,840 --> 00:13:40,800 Speaker 1: to being texts some little boys trying to text. We're 282 00:13:40,840 --> 00:13:43,680 Speaker 1: doing all this stuff. Folks have a little anxiety around 283 00:13:43,679 --> 00:13:46,240 Speaker 1: a table or something or issue when you and I 284 00:13:46,360 --> 00:13:49,760 Speaker 1: are just engaged with each other and laughing and joking 285 00:13:49,800 --> 00:13:53,199 Speaker 1: and having a good time, smiling and holding hands, and 286 00:13:53,240 --> 00:13:55,920 Speaker 1: they just naturally feel and want to be a part 287 00:13:56,040 --> 00:13:59,360 Speaker 1: of that. Yes, and I see it happen, and so 288 00:13:59,559 --> 00:14:02,440 Speaker 1: that you know, I would ask that reminder a long 289 00:14:02,559 --> 00:14:04,839 Speaker 1: or a recovery tip. That is one of them. You've 290 00:14:04,880 --> 00:14:11,240 Speaker 1: got to make the couple the spouses they have to be. 291 00:14:12,440 --> 00:14:15,480 Speaker 2: You have to be mindful and make sure that each 292 00:14:15,520 --> 00:14:17,280 Speaker 2: other is doing all right, you know. And I want 293 00:14:17,280 --> 00:14:18,719 Speaker 2: to thank you because I have seen you do that. 294 00:14:18,800 --> 00:14:21,480 Speaker 2: I have seen you make an effort to come and 295 00:14:21,520 --> 00:14:24,520 Speaker 2: to just hold my hand or to be with me 296 00:14:24,680 --> 00:14:26,960 Speaker 2: when the girls are all there, so we don't feel separate. 297 00:14:27,040 --> 00:14:30,040 Speaker 2: That thank you for that. I do appreciate that. It's 298 00:14:30,360 --> 00:14:33,920 Speaker 2: I've noticed it, and it does make a huge difference. 299 00:14:34,800 --> 00:14:39,840 Speaker 1: There you go. We look at that, and as we've 300 00:14:39,840 --> 00:14:43,320 Speaker 1: been sitting here, the sun has come up, yes, and 301 00:14:43,360 --> 00:14:46,080 Speaker 1: it's starting to get a little warm, and it feels fantastic. 302 00:14:46,200 --> 00:14:47,840 Speaker 1: I don't know if folks could hear. I don't if 303 00:14:47,840 --> 00:14:50,560 Speaker 1: the wind picked up on the mic here at all, 304 00:14:50,600 --> 00:14:51,960 Speaker 1: but we are sitting what do you call this? 305 00:14:52,080 --> 00:14:55,480 Speaker 3: It's a peer, this thing we're in, it's like a 306 00:14:55,520 --> 00:14:56,880 Speaker 3: love seat on a peer. 307 00:14:59,000 --> 00:15:00,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, that's better than the debt. 308 00:15:00,760 --> 00:15:04,080 Speaker 3: I was going to say, oh yes, it's an outdoor 309 00:15:04,160 --> 00:15:07,160 Speaker 3: love seat lounging dabt. 310 00:15:07,520 --> 00:15:10,720 Speaker 1: And nobody else here is up that. The whole piers 311 00:15:10,800 --> 00:15:13,400 Speaker 1: ourselves for the most part. The waves are crashing right 312 00:15:13,400 --> 00:15:14,440 Speaker 1: in front of us. I don't know if you all 313 00:15:14,440 --> 00:15:17,480 Speaker 1: can hear that either, but this is a nice recovery. 314 00:15:17,520 --> 00:15:20,360 Speaker 1: Get some son and get away for the girls and 315 00:15:20,520 --> 00:15:21,600 Speaker 1: come to some work. 316 00:15:24,240 --> 00:15:26,240 Speaker 3: Oh thank you all for listening, and we hope you 317 00:15:26,280 --> 00:15:28,680 Speaker 3: all recover this weekend with us.