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Speaker 1: My fiance passed away, and now his sister mother wants

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Speaker 1: half my house.

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Speaker 2: What should I do?

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Speaker 1: This is OKAYOPI where we read the craziest stories on Earth.

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Speaker 1: I'm Sam and John Sophia. What should Opie do?

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Speaker 3: That's your sister mother?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, also is a sister mother.

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Speaker 3: Your sister and your mother. You think it's you think

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Speaker 3: it's your sister, but it's actually your mother.

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Speaker 2: It's your mother. Is it like or a sister in

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Speaker 2: law marries your dad. I think that's that's part of

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Speaker 2: the mystery, all right, that we have to decipher.

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Speaker 1: Let's unfold this mystery. There's only one way to find out.

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Speaker 2: Spell that. So they're away.

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Speaker 1: Nine nine nine seven thirty seven three says my fiance

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Speaker 1: was in a car accident about a week ago. He

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Speaker 1: has a fifty to fifty chance of surviving, though things

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Speaker 1: have started to look up.

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Speaker 2: That's okay, that's good.

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Speaker 1: His sister is also his birth mother, explaining she got

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Speaker 1: pregnant at thirteen and his grandparents adopted him, so legally

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Speaker 1: she is his sister. She has never had any involvement

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Speaker 1: in his life. His adopted parents died three years ago.

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Speaker 3: Oh wow, I'm so sorry.

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Speaker 2: This is a whole. Can it is?

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Speaker 1: My fiance and I have two children together and own

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Speaker 1: a house. We have been together since we were thirteen

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Speaker 1: and are getting married this October. What's with everyone being

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Speaker 1: together since they were thirteen?

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Speaker 2: With everyone?

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Speaker 3: I mean, wait, not for thirteen years they were together?

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Speaker 1: Since they We have been together since we were thirteen,

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Speaker 1: the same age as the sister mother was when they

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Speaker 1: got pregnant.

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Speaker 2: Wow, damn, they were just thirteen was the age?

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Speaker 1: The age Our house is nearly paid off, and I

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Speaker 1: can't afford to pay half of the house equity to

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Speaker 1: her by myself. I have no idea what to do

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Speaker 1: or if she even has a steak in the house.

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Speaker 1: He is twenty three and does not have a will. Okay,

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Speaker 1: So backing up, backing up?

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Speaker 2: Confused?

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Speaker 1: So basically, the fiance is a fifty to fifty chance

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Speaker 1: of dying. Yes, right, The fiance and oh p own

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Speaker 1: a house together, right, which they've been and they've been

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Speaker 1: together since they were thirteen.

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Speaker 2: In the house house I don't know. I don't think.

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Speaker 1: So house is nearly paid off, and basically if he dies,

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Speaker 1: if the fiance dies, then the equity goes to the

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Speaker 1: sister mother and she can't buy the sister mother out

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Speaker 1: of the house if he dies.

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Speaker 3: Wow, my god, that's stressful.

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Speaker 1: He is twenty three and does not have a will,

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Speaker 1: so it would automatically go to the sister mother.

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Speaker 3: Okay.

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Speaker 1: He also has a life insurance policy that she wants

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Speaker 1: half of them. I can't get a lawyer to talk

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Speaker 1: to me without coming in for a six hundred dollars consult.

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Speaker 1: I'm hoping someone can give me some kind of direction

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Speaker 1: so I can stop worrying about my children and me

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Speaker 1: becoming homeless and focus on my fiance.

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Speaker 2: This is in Ohio. Thank you.

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Speaker 1: Please pray or send good thoughts my fiance's way. I

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Speaker 1: will update you on his condition as I find out more.

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Speaker 1: And there is some more some of the commons and

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Speaker 1: a juicy update.

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Speaker 2: What do you think, op, he should do.

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Speaker 3: It first of all, sending good thoughts.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that all ends up, okay, and then it's okay.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I mean this is super super like. I feel

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Speaker 1: like we as lay people, we don't know the law.

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Speaker 1: No law, I don't think we know what we're doing,

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Speaker 1: like like, I mean, we can just speculate.

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Speaker 2: I'll do who does know? Rab the divorce lawyer? I've

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Speaker 2: bamboozled perfect syncopation.

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Speaker 3: The divorce lawyer, he'll settle your divorces.

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Speaker 2: We never got him on yet. It's true than the message.

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Speaker 1: All right, So I met a lawyer at the gym

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Speaker 1: that I've been trying to call. He's been dodging my calls.

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Speaker 1: He said he wanted to be on the podcast, but

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Speaker 1: maybe he doesn't. If you're a lawyer and want to

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Speaker 1: be the divorce lawyer that we call whenever we have

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Speaker 1: a lawyer question, please comments below.

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Speaker 2: That's right, comment lawyer, comment.

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Speaker 3: Lawyer, or well maybe that's maybe too many people will

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Speaker 2: That's okay.

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Speaker 3: We want to comment I'm a lawyer.

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Speaker 2: I'm a lawyer, and a jingle for you. There we go.

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Speaker 3: Right now, we've got the divorce lawyer.

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Speaker 2: Law and order.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so we do have some comments. Commenter, you are

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Speaker 1: not married? Is he on the birth certificate of the children.

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Speaker 1: Generally children have precedents over parents for inheritance, so it

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: The Ohio and to state rules are if a descendant

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Speaker 1: descendants of deceased children, the entire estate goes to the spouse.

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Speaker 1: So basically, if there's no kids, estate goes to this spouse. Right,

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Speaker 1: If a descendant is survived by a spouse and one

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Speaker 1: surviving spouse. So basically, if you have kids, if you

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Speaker 1: don't have kids, it both goes to the spouse. Oh,

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Speaker 1: if a descendant is survived by a spouse in one

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Speaker 1: the spouse receives the first twenty thousand from the estate

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Speaker 1: plus one half of the remainder of the estate. The

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Speaker 1: the child's deceased, the child's descendant. So basically, if the

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Speaker 1: then twenty thousand goes to the spouse plus half, and

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Speaker 1: then the other half to the children.

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Speaker 3: So in no circumstance does it ever go to a

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Speaker 2: I don't think so, where's the sister mother law? No,

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Speaker 2: we're going to keep going through the law book.

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Speaker 1: If a descendant is survived by espouse and more than

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Speaker 1: one child of their descendants, the spouse receives the first

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Speaker 1: sixty thousand, So basically our children are two and one.

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Speaker 1: Does this basically mean my children and I can continue

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Speaker 1: to live in our home or is there some kind

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Speaker 1: of legal process that has to take place for half

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Speaker 1: the equity? I really appreciate your help. As the parent

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Speaker 1: half of your house until they turn eighteen, so you're

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Speaker 1: going to be okay. Life insurance is all yours if

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Speaker 1: you're the name beneficiary. After your fiance pulls through, you

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Speaker 1: should probably both get wills done so you can be

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Speaker 1: sure in the future. So there is a juicy update.

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Speaker 1: Oh juicy, but it seems like the sister Mother's coming

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Speaker 1: after regardless of what the law says. But at least

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Speaker 1: we know now that the law is on OP side.

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Speaker 1: Seems like OP will be covered.

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Speaker 2: Seems like it.

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Speaker 3: It seems like it seems like it.

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Speaker 2: But let's get into this juicy update.

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Speaker 3: Juicy update.

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Speaker 1: My post got a decent amount of attention. I thought

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Speaker 1: I would update since I still get really sweet messages

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Speaker 1: my family.

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Speaker 2: My fiance now husband did pull through.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he's backyard setting up attention to camp out with

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Speaker 1: our two and three year old boys. He was in

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Speaker 1: pretty sure he would never wake up. His recovery was slow,

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Speaker 1: and he still goes to physical therapy four times a week,

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Speaker 1: but he's pretty much back to normal now. We couldn't

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Speaker 1: be happier. Although it was a horrible thing to go through,

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Speaker 1: it changed both of us for the better. You don't

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Speaker 1: to be taken away from you. He was appalled by

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Speaker 1: his sister mother's actions when I finally discussed it with him.

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Speaker 1: We recently both made wills and made sure there is

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Speaker 1: or God forbid our children too. We also chose god

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Speaker 2: Wow. I really appreciate all.

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Speaker 1: The sweet, thoughtful messages I was sent. They definitely made

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Speaker 1: me feel better on bad days to know how many

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Speaker 3: That's sweet. That's such a happy ending.

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Speaker 1: There is some stuff from the commentary about the legal stuff.

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Speaker 1: So Toomer says, what did the lawyer you call the

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Speaker 1: next day of your post tell you? How did your

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Speaker 1: problem for him through his recovery? So Opie said, I

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Speaker 1: actually used a lawyer that PM me on Reddit. So

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Speaker 1: private message went whoa. He offered his services free of charge.

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Speaker 2: Is awesome the power of reading I like pro bono.

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, and ironically he only lived one talent over.

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Speaker 1: He was wonderful. He pretty much told me what everyone

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Speaker 1: life insurance, et cetera. He discovered that there was holes

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Speaker 1: sign a do not resuscitate. There was nothing I could do,

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Speaker 1: but thank god my husband did not need it.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god. So, after the sister mother basically wanted

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Speaker 2: the husband to die to get the money. That's horrible. Wow.

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Speaker 4: Not only did was she like actively trying to get

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Speaker 4: it while he's you know, yeah not they weren't sure

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Speaker 4: what was happening with him.

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Speaker 1: But I mean, it's not necessarily like the worst thing

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Speaker 1: to say, like to get a do not or sustate, Like,

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Speaker 1: I know, my mom wants me to pull the plug. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's she Yeah, if my mom is ever in a

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Speaker 2: Just pull the plug please. Oh wait no, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 2: we talked about this with our mom.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but like it's clear.

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Speaker 4: I mean, it seems clear that that's not what like,

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Speaker 4: I mean, the husband wasn't in a place where.

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, years old, twenty three, it is not insane.

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Speaker 1: That's a lot to go. She did try to have

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Speaker 1: us cover her legal costs. She's still threatening us with

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Speaker 1: small claims court, but that is still ongoing, still small

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Speaker 1: claims court. Oh my god, come on, we really don't

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Speaker 1: hear much from her. Ed I forgot to add, we

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Speaker 1: really don't hear much from her because she's currently in

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Speaker 1: jail on possession charges. Oh mo in May and we'll

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Speaker 1: get out in December. Oh my god.

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Speaker 2: That detail. It seems like an absolute piece of work.

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Speaker 1: True, I'm glad I don't have a sister or mother

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Speaker 1: like that, and especially I'm a sister mother like that.

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Speaker 2: Not the double whammy, double whammy. But man, yeah, pretty bad.

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Speaker 2: Yeah that's kind of insane. Yeah, but I think John,

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Speaker 2: you got another story for us. I think I do