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Speaker 1: Oh Shit be back on the air.

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Speaker 3: Welcome back to yet another carefully reckless episode with your girl.

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Speaker 3: Just hilarious. We had Taylor here today, allre you looking.

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Speaker 3: What she's expressing to me is at twenty one weeks,

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Speaker 3: this baby has been giving her the blues already. She said,

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Speaker 3: it felt like he's stretching my stomach. I said, well,

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Speaker 3: the fat that's what pregnancy do. The stomach a't supposed

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Speaker 3: to say.

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Speaker 1: The same size.

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Speaker 4: Tailor, Yeah, but that baby boy trying to grow in there.

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Speaker 4: He bacons yeah, but he got a chill out.

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Speaker 3: So for those who don't know, this is Tailor's first baby,

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Speaker 3: that's our first time being pregnant, y'all. So she she'llin.

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Speaker 3: She ain't know that it was gonna be like this.

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Speaker 3: She know that it was.

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Speaker 1: It was is. I was like, oh, I had no

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Speaker 1: morning sickness and everything else.

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Speaker 3: Huh that second try master that hit that baby was like,

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Speaker 3: watch this, these are my fashions. Yes, I'm going into

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Speaker 3: my third to wait, No, these are my contractions. She

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Speaker 3: having brax and hicks already. She cannot deal with it, y'all.

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Speaker 3: She ain't here, like was this happening to you? I said, girl, yeah,

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Speaker 3: that's why I was sped up the whole time of

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Speaker 3: a breakfast club. I ain't give a fuck about what

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Speaker 3: nobody was going through. I'm telling you the old time

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Speaker 3: people was in the comments like, just don't give a

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Speaker 3: fuck about none of that stuff she talked about, and

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Speaker 3: just with the mess.

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Speaker 1: I sure the hell did not. I did not.

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Speaker 3: I don't care this lord. Man, Molly was in there

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Speaker 3: stretching my stomach out. Remember the first time I felt

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Speaker 3: her kick was at work? Oh yeah, man, I was

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Speaker 3: four months and I had my first contraction at five months,

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Speaker 3: So yeah, you.

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Speaker 1: Are right one time boo. I know.

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Speaker 3: But I told her it's only gonna get worse. So

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Speaker 3: we're gonna jump right into it. She ain't gonna read it,

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Speaker 3: because look I'm gonna read She don't give a damn.

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Speaker 1: She don't.

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Speaker 3: She wouldn't even give a fuck about fixing the mess

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Speaker 3: with me.

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Speaker 1: But she in here, so she gonna fix it with me.

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Speaker 1: So we're gonna jump straight in.

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Speaker 3: We do not have voice memos this week, but we

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Speaker 3: have some written passages, so let's struggle.

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Speaker 1: Hi, Jess, So I have a bit of a situation.

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Speaker 3: I believe my homegirl's son had autism and she is

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Speaker 3: him being young and that's how kids act when they're young. Okay,

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Speaker 3: but baby, I don't know too many kids that act

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Speaker 3: I want what's best for him. But homegirl is just

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Speaker 1: Shake in my head, what should I do?

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Speaker 3: Well, you got to throw your hands up, and you

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Speaker 3: I wouldn't say give up, but try to introduce it

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Speaker 1: Put yourself on her shoes too. That's her child, you

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Speaker 3: A lot of people have that guard up when you're

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Speaker 3: do you have children? You probably don't have children. You

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Speaker 3: didn't tell me whether you did or did not. But

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Speaker 3: I know that can be very insulting. It definitely can

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Speaker 1: But this is serious. This is a very serious matter.

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Speaker 3: And if you have worked with children, you know, and

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Speaker 3: Like I said, it could have been a delivery, you

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Speaker 3: But I don't think you did anything wrong by bringing

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Speaker 3: one day they wake up and they straight you know

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Speaker 1: Every kid is different.

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Speaker 3: She's an educator, no, she she just said that she worked.

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Speaker 3: She just said I have mentioned to her that I

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Speaker 3: she said in the next the next sitting said, but baby,

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Speaker 3: So maybe she does know something, but I think it's

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Speaker 3: about her delivery. But I does she got to tell

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Speaker 3: to be either three or five, or between three and

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Speaker 3: five to be seen at Kennedy Kreeger Kennedy Kreeger is

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Speaker 3: one of those facilities that you do take your children

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Speaker 3: to to be evaluated to see if they have autism

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Speaker 3: don't hold up, hold up, I know this shit getting good.

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Speaker 3: But listen to just a couple seconds of a commercial.

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Speaker 3: If you love me, you'll listen.

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Speaker 1: This is more so about you and your friend.

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Speaker 3: If you think about it, the little boy is going

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Speaker 3: to get the help because although she your friend, is

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Speaker 3: she took it the wrong way? Or is she I offended? Parents,

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Speaker 3: That instinct kicks in where it's like, yo, I need

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Speaker 3: I'm pretty sure you're not the only person that bought

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Speaker 3: I had a god sister who my mother told at

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Speaker 3: Come on, this shit is getting contagious over here, tailor

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Speaker 3: move away from here. No, I had a god's sister right,

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Speaker 3: And he was about one or two when he came,

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Speaker 3: you know, when you young can't nobby tell you shit,

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Speaker 3: she came back, like a few years later, she did say, god, mommy,

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Speaker 3: I'm gonna just say he was four. And she did

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Speaker 1: I remember who was telling me.

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Speaker 4: My friend was telling me that she had a friend

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Speaker 3: They called Child Protective Services on her because she refused

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Speaker 3: And that's the thing, like, Yo, you don't even have

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Speaker 3: She said, I remember taking you to the goddamn doctor.

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Speaker 3: And it was only one or two shots that you

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Speaker 3: Even my twelve year old he went to the doctor

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Speaker 3: So she calls me, she's like, you know your doctor

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Speaker 1: I said, well, which shot is it.

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Speaker 1: I don't even know. That don't even make no fucking sense.

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Speaker 3: If this is to protect him from STDs, but if

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Speaker 1: So I declined it. I don't know. I don't know

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Speaker 4: I had to do more research too, and that guy's

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Speaker 1: I know at one point the Technis shot was very.

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Speaker 3: Mandatory because especially in urban areas, because you know, dirty

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Speaker 1: You know what I mean. I get it, got it whatever, cool.

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Speaker 3: But if you ain't never exposed to any of that shit,

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Speaker 3: My daughter did not get those five shots. I don't

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Speaker 3: give a hot goddamn. She's been fine ever since, you

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Speaker 3: know what I mean. We feed her natural fucking foods.

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Speaker 3: Her grandmother, that Mexican woman, she going and she goes

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Speaker 3: to the farmer's market and she gets my baby sweet

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Speaker 1: But like my my.

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Speaker 3: Daughter's grandmother is very particular about her diet and everything

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Speaker 3: And that's why I'm blessed to have Chris's mom with us.

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Speaker 3: But nigga, please, but that's where all of that shit

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Speaker 1: You didn't see many.

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Speaker 3: Health issues arise so early in people's lives. Like people

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Speaker 3: And I feel like it's a lot of what they're doing.

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Speaker 3: They're polluting the food. They putting something in the food,

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Speaker 3: They putting something in all them vitamins that we can

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Speaker 1: I don't even trust over the counter shit no more.

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Speaker 1: You know what I mean. If you love me, you'll

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Speaker 3: Everything they changed in the formula and everything. So the

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Speaker 3: don't know what they Yeah, yeah, a lot of things,

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Speaker 1: Yo. I was just looking at something the other day

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Speaker 1: that said the Junior Bacon cheeseburger, which is a burger

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Speaker 1: on the Wendy's menu, that is the most healthiest burger

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Speaker 3: Supposedly, that is the healthiest burger, and fast food Wendy's,

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Speaker 3: Wendy's Junior Junior Cheeseburger, or some ship.

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Speaker 4: I don't know because I actually ate Wendy's and that

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Speaker 3: But you're pregnant, right, I know. Yeah, don't trust none

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Speaker 3: of that ship. Don't be giving that ship to my baby.

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Speaker 1: On here. I know the list, like burs, I had this,

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Speaker 1: I had the nuggets. Oh, Wendy's nuggets is to die for, honey,

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Speaker 1: love them? What?

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Speaker 3: What?

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Speaker 1: What kind of sauce? Did you have? The barbecue? Absolutely?

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Speaker 1: And you got sick, I.

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Speaker 4: Mean didn't get sick right away, but eventually, yeah.

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Speaker 1: You know that's crazy.

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Speaker 4: I think I was telling me to not go to

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Speaker 1: Oh you cray fries? Well, I love? What about McDonald's fries?

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Speaker 1: I loved what crazy? Are not good? I know.

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Speaker 4: I originally was trying to get McDonald fries, but each

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Speaker 4: McDonald I went to the line was too long or

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Speaker 4: one that's not even under construction.

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Speaker 1: And then I just sall for Wendy's.

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Speaker 3: And oh no, and you just end up getting the nuggets.

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Speaker 3: You didn't even get fries, right, you did? Did you

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Speaker 3: like the fries there? Yeah? No, ain't nothing like McDonald's

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Speaker 3: fries with ice cream cone. Oh my god, the ice

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Speaker 3: cream cone with the fries, because it's something about the

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Speaker 3: sweet and salty. And that's not a crazy craven by

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Speaker 3: oreo what but no, no, don't, don't. Don't even put

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Speaker 3: don't put your baby through that.

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Speaker 1: Don't put yourself. Five guys.

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Speaker 3: I feel like their burgers would be great if they

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Speaker 3: seasoned them. I feel like they're never seasoned. No, I

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Speaker 3: don't like five guys. I don't.

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Speaker 1: I can't stand it. I just love.

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Speaker 4: I'm gonna try to stay it from all greasy stuff, though.

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Speaker 1: You're trying to.

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Speaker 3: Okay, all greasy stuff. Okay, Jesus, the bagel.

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Speaker 4: Eat that kind's greasy.

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Speaker 1: The bagel if.

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Speaker 3: You get an extra butter on it tailor Yeah, and

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Speaker 3: I'd be saying you you can pull some goddamn all

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Speaker 3: of or you god damn bagel. That bagel will be

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Speaker 3: like you can grease your whole body with the fucking

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Speaker 3: bagels that you eat tailor.

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Speaker 1: Don't do that. It's good though.

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Speaker 3: I tell you one thing, that baby gonna slide right

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Speaker 1: But I ain't gonna lie. Ain't nothing like a greasy

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Speaker 3: Plain ones or which ones cinnamons, simmon reasons, hoppos man,

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Speaker 3: we're supposed to be fixing somebodys and my bad.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, tell your friend again, tell your friend, but you

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Speaker 3: You can't be walking up to your friend like girl

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Speaker 4: God, like nice, I don't know how he say it

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Speaker 3: I'm gonna tell her how to say it. I'm gonna

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Speaker 3: You gotta sit there with your friend first, right and

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Speaker 3: and maybe my delivery came off very unsettling, you know,

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry. But I do strongly urge you to get

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Speaker 3: you know, And there's nothing wrong with you accepting it.

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Speaker 3: It's nothing wrong with him. That don't mean something's wrong

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Speaker 3: know what I mean. Like you got to position it

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Speaker 3: You know, you gotta disarm because she's gonna have that

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Speaker 1: But you gotta have it.

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Speaker 3: You know, you said you love her son like he's yours,

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Speaker 3: You feel me, so treat that as such, but take

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Speaker 3: if you do have kids, that's even better, you know,

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Speaker 3: because then you can come to her from one mom

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Speaker 3: It may not even be anything, but say if it is,

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Speaker 3: and you know your pride, because you're battling with your pride,

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Speaker 3: You are his superhero, you his mother. He's gonna count

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Speaker 3: what I mean. I'm just somebody that observed it. But

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Speaker 3: I love your son. You don't trust that I love your.

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Speaker 1: Son, you know what I mean?

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Speaker 3: Like kind of reverse psychology that you know a little

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Speaker 3: bit but because but it's the truth though. But sometimes

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Speaker 3: that's how you got to communicate, you know, That's how

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Speaker 3: you got to get your your your shit across. So

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Speaker 3: just like that, we've come to the end of another

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Speaker 3: Catholic reckless episode with your girl just hilarious.

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Speaker 1: And what I'll be doing, I'll be fixing mess.

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Speaker 3: Tyte is right here about to have my baby say thank

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Speaker 3: you Taylor thing.

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Speaker 4: Oh Lord, here she go. I was talking to the people.

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Speaker 4: Now say say you welcome, You're welcome.

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Speaker 3: Okay, catch us next week. Peace Can't Fully Reckless is

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