WEBVTT - Teaser: Dean & Kristina

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<v Speaker 1>I Suck at Dating with Dean Angler. Can I heart

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<v Speaker 1>radio podcast? Okay? Joining us now? It's probably the most

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<v Speaker 1>questionable person we can have on this podcast. Christina Shulman

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<v Speaker 1>from Bachelor in Paradise. Hey, Chris, Hi, how are you.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm good? Sorry, slightly caught off guard. Uh yeah, um,

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<v Speaker 1>so thanks for taking the call from us. I know

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<v Speaker 1>we've talked about this briefly. Um. The name of this

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<v Speaker 1>podcast is help I Suck at Dating? And since you

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<v Speaker 1>and I have dated each other, I would love to

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<v Speaker 1>tell you. I would love for you to tell me

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<v Speaker 1>why and what I do that's so sucky at dating? Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>this is a bad question. The let's just endless? Um okay, Well,

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<v Speaker 1>well can we start with communication? Are we serious about it? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>It gets get serious. Let's I mean, we gotta get

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<v Speaker 1>to the bottom of it. Well yeah, okay. So what

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<v Speaker 1>I've noticed with you is, I'm sure the rest of

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<v Speaker 1>America has too, that you have the swall up and

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<v Speaker 1>you're always joking and you're smiling. But as soon as

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<v Speaker 1>sell and get past our walls, like you have a

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<v Speaker 1>lot to say, you have a lot going on, and

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<v Speaker 1>between you and me, I think I've noticed that early

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<v Speaker 1>on fairly early on, especially in Paradise, when you're like

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<v Speaker 1>constantly talking feeling. I think you didn't have any other

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<v Speaker 1>choice except to talk them. And I mean you're better

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<v Speaker 1>communication now because I think you're a little bit open,

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<v Speaker 1>more open to me and to everyone else. But I

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<v Speaker 1>think that was a huge thing. But don't you think

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<v Speaker 1>it's more fun to have a dating relationship where all

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<v Speaker 1>you do is laugh and smile the whole time instead

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<v Speaker 1>of talking about feelings? Well, of course, but I mean

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<v Speaker 1>you can have all all of those things, but how

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<v Speaker 1>does the relationship get stronger deeper without talking feeling. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>it's supposed to be all fine and uh, flirting and

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<v Speaker 1>lasting in the beginning, but eventually I think it has

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<v Speaker 1>to move into some kind of Yeah, I agree, I

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<v Speaker 1>think that makes sense. Okay, so what else you said?

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<v Speaker 1>That was just the first thing. And also, I mean

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<v Speaker 1>we weren't Paradise, and I think there wasn't really much

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<v Speaker 1>time for all exploitation and last year. But maybe it's

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<v Speaker 1>just me putting pressure on. No, I mean, don't the

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<v Speaker 1>podcast doesn't help Christina sucks at dating. It's help I

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<v Speaker 1>suck at dating. Okay, that's fry. I gotta shift my faults. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>don't don't put the blame on yourself here. Let's okay.

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<v Speaker 1>So what about besides communication? What else is there why

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<v Speaker 1>you started dating? Yeah? From your experience, because I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, we've talked about this and it's hard because

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<v Speaker 1>obviously we've had a lot of private conversations and we've

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<v Speaker 1>talked quite a bit. So, UM, it's like this, this

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<v Speaker 1>is really weird for me to just completely tell, like

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<v Speaker 1>constantly tell you how terrible you're out dating, because like

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<v Speaker 1>I was that person interested in dating you and now

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<v Speaker 1>telling you how bad you are. It's kind of weird.

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<v Speaker 1>But another thing I guess, um, do you tend to

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<v Speaker 1>like sugarcoat things and I say exactly how you feel?

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<v Speaker 1>You try to find a run about way, but sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>it's best to just say it right. They might hurt.

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<v Speaker 1>And I've told you this multiple times, but it's going

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<v Speaker 1>to stay in a moment. It's better than finding out later.

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<v Speaker 1>Um No, I agree. I think that that's definitely the

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<v Speaker 1>thing that I struggle the most with, um, well, maybe

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<v Speaker 1>not the most with, but the communication. And honestly that

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<v Speaker 1>that hurts someone, right, It's just it's important to be honest.

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<v Speaker 1>But when the honesty hurts someone. That makes it a a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit harder. I would say, I mean, I agree,

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<v Speaker 1>but I just still I think better because at least

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<v Speaker 1>you're being honest. All right, Christina? Next question for you?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh gosh, am I a good kisser? Uh? Yes, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that's all. Well, well what I thought we were talking

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<v Speaker 1>about all this? But no, you're a good kiss there.

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<v Speaker 1>Give me on a scale one to ten, one to ten, okay, three, two,

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<v Speaker 1>that's pretty generous. Thank you. I'm doing mine. Um okay,

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<v Speaker 1>So say, say I was at a bar animily in Lexington, right,

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<v Speaker 1>and we hadn't known each other, we never met each other.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you think that we still would have um met

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<v Speaker 1>and hit it off like we did? Um? I? From

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<v Speaker 1>my perspective, I don't usually meet people out of bar,

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<v Speaker 1>so I probably wouldn't have giving you a chance. How

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<v Speaker 1>do you normally meet people? I mean, when I go

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<v Speaker 1>out to your bars just to have fun with my friends?

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<v Speaker 1>How do I meet people friends of friends? Well, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>sure eventually we were may have met somehow. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>first of all, you're it's Lexington. It's fairly small, so

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<v Speaker 1>people are running to each other. From next question, I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>this is re cently awkward, So I think we're out

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<v Speaker 1>too a good start. Um, all right, Christina, twenty years

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<v Speaker 1>from now, if someone mentioned my name, would you think

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<v Speaker 1>what a jerk? Or do you think he's a nice guy?

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<v Speaker 1>Those were good times? I will I mean, okay, so

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<v Speaker 1>I will. I think I will always thank you a

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<v Speaker 1>nice guy, because, um, I think you do have a

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<v Speaker 1>great heart and you are kind, maybe not in dating,

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<v Speaker 1>but I think that also comes with maybe like age

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<v Speaker 1>and maturing and still learning about what is it that

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<v Speaker 1>you want? But what is it? I'm older than you,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm considerably more mature than you are. Oh my gosh,

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<v Speaker 1>no that is anyway, twenty years from now, I will

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<v Speaker 1>look back and I'll be like, that was a good guy.

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<v Speaker 1>That was a good lesson. Oh good lesson. I mean

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<v Speaker 1>I've learned a lost from trying to date you. What's what?

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<v Speaker 1>What was the lesson? I'm asking because I mean, obviously,

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<v Speaker 1>like I've I've learned a lot of lessons personally, Um,

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<v Speaker 1>just watching everything back, right, And I know that it's

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<v Speaker 1>not easy for us to like watch ourselves back on

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<v Speaker 1>TV or anything like that, but we're like obviously doing

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<v Speaker 1>it very publicly, and like everyone is able to watch

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<v Speaker 1>us and have their own opinion about it. Um, So

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<v Speaker 1>I know what I've learned, and I'm continuing to work

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<v Speaker 1>on that, and I obviously appreciate you being there to

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<v Speaker 1>help me work on it with me. But like, what, like,

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<v Speaker 1>what do you think you learned? Do you think, well,

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<v Speaker 1>this is your podcast, but what did you learn? Now

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<v Speaker 1>we've talked about that enough staff, No, come on, I'm curious.

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<v Speaker 1>We haven't actually really talked about that. Why did I

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<v Speaker 1>learn what the conversations we've had. I know I probably

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<v Speaker 1>came off aggressive a few times, but I'm learning to

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<v Speaker 1>be a little bit more sensitive, more sensitive. I think

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<v Speaker 1>you are? You are sensitive? You thought though, Yeah, there's

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<v Speaker 1>more fun prove mentally. Um, And I also think I

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<v Speaker 1>need to, like, well, what did I learn to let

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<v Speaker 1>the other person speak a little bit more? How's that

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<v Speaker 1>you think? You think that I get away with trying

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<v Speaker 1>to get my point across when in fact I need

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<v Speaker 1>to hear these two all right? Christina, Well, I'm sorry

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<v Speaker 1>for um kind of blindsiding you with this phone call,

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<v Speaker 1>but I appreciate you taking the time to awkwardly talk

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<v Speaker 1>about our dating foibles. Um, it's only awkward if you

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<v Speaker 1>make well we're I'm making it awkward, so it's sufficiently

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<v Speaker 1>awkward right now, Um, are you what? I'm getting some

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<v Speaker 1>pleasure out of this chalkward? Now, well, I'm glad you're

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<v Speaker 1>enjoying it. That makes one of us. Um all right, well,

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<v Speaker 1>thanks again. Um, I wish you the best and well

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<v Speaker 1>I'll talk to you soon. I mean, obviously good. This

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<v Speaker 1>is going to do great. You're the best, Okay, bye

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<v Speaker 1>bye