1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:03,120 Speaker 1: Welcome to How to Money. I'm Joel and I am Matt, 2 00:00:03,320 --> 00:00:06,840 Speaker 1: and today we're discussing planning a wedding without going broke. 3 00:00:26,320 --> 00:00:30,400 Speaker 1: Today we are talking about weddings, everything from venues and 4 00:00:30,920 --> 00:00:32,760 Speaker 1: the number of guests that are gonna be at your 5 00:00:32,760 --> 00:00:35,960 Speaker 1: wedding all the way down to things like flowers. And you, 6 00:00:36,040 --> 00:00:38,000 Speaker 1: my friend, have been to more weddings than anybody else. 7 00:00:38,040 --> 00:00:40,760 Speaker 1: I know. I know weddings, that's for sure, being a 8 00:00:40,760 --> 00:00:43,440 Speaker 1: wedding photographer. But how long have you and Emily been 9 00:00:43,440 --> 00:00:45,440 Speaker 1: married now? Man? Yeah, so we've been married just over 10 00:00:45,479 --> 00:00:48,480 Speaker 1: eight years. And you guys double digits right, Yeah, Oh, dude, 11 00:00:48,600 --> 00:00:51,240 Speaker 1: more than double digits. We're hitting twelve this year. Twelve 12 00:00:51,320 --> 00:00:54,720 Speaker 1: years man, that's that's amazing. Yeah, that's pretty crazy, right, congrats, 13 00:00:54,920 --> 00:00:57,959 Speaker 1: what's up? Yeah, if only we knew some of what 14 00:00:58,040 --> 00:01:01,640 Speaker 1: we know now about wedding and ways to save money. 15 00:01:01,680 --> 00:01:05,000 Speaker 1: We definitely did our wedding on a budget. But there's 16 00:01:05,040 --> 00:01:07,280 Speaker 1: certainly some of these tips here that we didn't take 17 00:01:07,319 --> 00:01:10,280 Speaker 1: advantage of back when I was a youngster. But yeah, 18 00:01:10,319 --> 00:01:13,080 Speaker 1: we're looking forward to sharing these with our listeners today. Well, 19 00:01:13,160 --> 00:01:15,319 Speaker 1: one quick money saving tip, Matt, before we get straight 20 00:01:15,360 --> 00:01:17,480 Speaker 1: into the weddings. I wanted to let people know that 21 00:01:17,840 --> 00:01:20,759 Speaker 1: the Sift app that we mentioned in our lesser known 22 00:01:20,800 --> 00:01:24,240 Speaker 1: credit card benefits episode, just saving another ten bucks. I 23 00:01:24,240 --> 00:01:26,880 Speaker 1: love how this app working in the background. It's just 24 00:01:26,959 --> 00:01:28,840 Speaker 1: kind of lurking trying to save you some money. And 25 00:01:28,920 --> 00:01:32,360 Speaker 1: so I have a particular card that has price protection 26 00:01:32,480 --> 00:01:34,400 Speaker 1: on it, and I know a lot of credit card 27 00:01:34,440 --> 00:01:37,360 Speaker 1: issuers have recently dropped price protection. So you might have 28 00:01:37,360 --> 00:01:39,759 Speaker 1: had a card that used to have price protection, and 29 00:01:39,920 --> 00:01:41,640 Speaker 1: you know what, as of the first of the year 30 00:01:41,800 --> 00:01:44,600 Speaker 1: or last summer, it might not have that anymore. So 31 00:01:44,800 --> 00:01:46,920 Speaker 1: you'll want to double check and see which credit cards 32 00:01:46,959 --> 00:01:49,440 Speaker 1: you have in your wallet actually have price protection. Which 33 00:01:49,440 --> 00:01:53,080 Speaker 1: one is that, by the way, the City Costco card. Yep, 34 00:01:53,200 --> 00:01:55,160 Speaker 1: that's the one I use. So I still can't get 35 00:01:55,160 --> 00:01:57,720 Speaker 1: on board with joining Costco. Man, it's just so far away. 36 00:01:57,720 --> 00:01:59,280 Speaker 1: All right, we're gonna have to do a whole episode. 37 00:01:59,640 --> 00:02:01,280 Speaker 1: I think about Big Box. Do you want to do it, 38 00:02:01,360 --> 00:02:03,200 Speaker 1: Let's do it. Let's do it soon, all right. But 39 00:02:03,360 --> 00:02:05,480 Speaker 1: to anybody that doesn't have the Sift app, will with 40 00:02:05,560 --> 00:02:07,680 Speaker 1: a link to it in the show notes. It's really 41 00:02:07,800 --> 00:02:10,320 Speaker 1: nice how it just works in the background, and it's 42 00:02:10,360 --> 00:02:13,119 Speaker 1: something that I would have never thought to even look 43 00:02:13,120 --> 00:02:14,880 Speaker 1: at it. There. It was these gutter guards that I 44 00:02:14,880 --> 00:02:17,880 Speaker 1: bought from Costco, and I saved an additional ten bucks 45 00:02:17,919 --> 00:02:20,839 Speaker 1: just because Sift was looking for me. I never would 46 00:02:20,840 --> 00:02:23,560 Speaker 1: have looked for myself. So yeah, just an awesome money 47 00:02:23,560 --> 00:02:26,160 Speaker 1: saving win right there. Okay, so you're talking about gutter guards, 48 00:02:26,200 --> 00:02:27,840 Speaker 1: like the things that go on top of your gutter 49 00:02:27,919 --> 00:02:30,560 Speaker 1: to keep the leaf the leaves out right exactly. Okay, 50 00:02:30,919 --> 00:02:32,240 Speaker 1: I don't want to be cleaning the leaves out all 51 00:02:32,240 --> 00:02:34,040 Speaker 1: the time. No, that's fine. It took me you said 52 00:02:34,080 --> 00:02:37,320 Speaker 1: gutter guards, and I was like, what is he talking about? Context? 53 00:02:37,360 --> 00:02:40,040 Speaker 1: I need some context. That's all. Sorry about that. I'll 54 00:02:40,040 --> 00:02:41,840 Speaker 1: go ahead and introduce our beer for today. Man. It 55 00:02:41,919 --> 00:02:44,240 Speaker 1: is called Juice Back and it is a double dry 56 00:02:44,280 --> 00:02:47,239 Speaker 1: hot pale ale and this is out of Texas from 57 00:02:47,440 --> 00:02:51,399 Speaker 1: TUPS Brewery. This is another beer from Jake and Jake, 58 00:02:51,480 --> 00:02:53,040 Speaker 1: we want to thank you so much for sending us 59 00:02:53,080 --> 00:02:55,200 Speaker 1: a couple of delicious beers that we're having back to back. 60 00:02:55,400 --> 00:02:57,440 Speaker 1: We had that first one on Monday's episode, and yeah, 61 00:02:57,520 --> 00:02:59,360 Speaker 1: looking forward to this one today and we'll let you 62 00:02:59,400 --> 00:03:01,240 Speaker 1: know what we think about this spear at the end 63 00:03:01,280 --> 00:03:03,400 Speaker 1: of the episode. But for now, on to the topic 64 00:03:03,400 --> 00:03:08,160 Speaker 1: at hand. Weddings are expensive and weddings are super personal. 65 00:03:08,440 --> 00:03:11,360 Speaker 1: Nobody wants to be told how to do their wedding. Yeah, 66 00:03:11,360 --> 00:03:13,639 Speaker 1: sort of like that episode we just did on teaching 67 00:03:13,680 --> 00:03:17,720 Speaker 1: your children about money. Nobody wants us telling them how 68 00:03:17,760 --> 00:03:20,320 Speaker 1: to raise their kids, but hopefully we did cover some 69 00:03:20,360 --> 00:03:22,800 Speaker 1: tips that were helpful. We're gonna step in again, and 70 00:03:22,840 --> 00:03:25,280 Speaker 1: it's weddings this time, because no one wants to be 71 00:03:25,280 --> 00:03:27,919 Speaker 1: told how to wedding either, right uh. And and some 72 00:03:28,040 --> 00:03:30,560 Speaker 1: girls and and some boys too have dreamed about their 73 00:03:30,600 --> 00:03:32,720 Speaker 1: weddings since they were little kids, and it can be 74 00:03:32,800 --> 00:03:35,360 Speaker 1: hard to kind of part with those years of dreams 75 00:03:35,800 --> 00:03:38,600 Speaker 1: that you've had growing up into a reality that includes 76 00:03:38,640 --> 00:03:41,680 Speaker 1: a strict budget. But just like everything in life, you know, Matt, 77 00:03:41,720 --> 00:03:43,840 Speaker 1: I think we think there is a sweet spot. And 78 00:03:43,920 --> 00:03:47,280 Speaker 1: studies reveal the same thing that the happiest couples don't 79 00:03:47,320 --> 00:03:50,120 Speaker 1: spend more than on their wedding. And that's at the 80 00:03:50,160 --> 00:03:52,120 Speaker 1: same time where the average price of a wedding costs 81 00:03:52,160 --> 00:03:54,360 Speaker 1: over thirty thou dollars. So it just sounds like the 82 00:03:54,360 --> 00:03:58,160 Speaker 1: happiest couple is just like getting a discount exactly. They're 83 00:03:58,160 --> 00:03:59,800 Speaker 1: a little bit frugal, right, Yeah, they want to live 84 00:03:59,800 --> 00:04:02,880 Speaker 1: like a little differently off of anything. You're pretty happy, right, 85 00:04:03,200 --> 00:04:05,240 Speaker 1: And it's almost like the same studies to talk about 86 00:04:05,520 --> 00:04:08,240 Speaker 1: what average income in the United States equates to happiness, 87 00:04:08,520 --> 00:04:11,640 Speaker 1: and typically most studies say that it's right around seventy 88 00:04:11,640 --> 00:04:14,040 Speaker 1: thou dollars and if you earn much more than that 89 00:04:14,040 --> 00:04:17,160 Speaker 1: that it doesn't really make you appreciably more happy. Well, 90 00:04:17,200 --> 00:04:19,360 Speaker 1: the same thing when it comes to weddings, actually spending 91 00:04:19,360 --> 00:04:22,760 Speaker 1: more than on your wedding will in all likelihood make 92 00:04:22,839 --> 00:04:24,840 Speaker 1: you less happy if you put too much pressure on 93 00:04:24,880 --> 00:04:27,280 Speaker 1: the day and spend too much money on this one 94 00:04:27,320 --> 00:04:30,360 Speaker 1: special day trying to blow it out. Sadly, the chances 95 00:04:30,400 --> 00:04:32,880 Speaker 1: of divorce go up in tandem with how much more 96 00:04:33,000 --> 00:04:36,719 Speaker 1: you spend over that amount. So luckily for us today, Jill, 97 00:04:36,880 --> 00:04:38,680 Speaker 1: I have a good amount of experience when it comes 98 00:04:38,720 --> 00:04:41,600 Speaker 1: to weddings. I've shot weddings for over ten years now, 99 00:04:41,920 --> 00:04:44,760 Speaker 1: over three d weddings. Can you believe that that's incredible? Dude, 100 00:04:44,839 --> 00:04:48,960 Speaker 1: that's a lot um and everything from like smaller backyard 101 00:04:49,040 --> 00:04:52,800 Speaker 1: brunch weddings too, like super high end weddings that costs 102 00:04:52,839 --> 00:04:55,359 Speaker 1: like two to three thousand dollars. You ever shot one 103 00:04:55,400 --> 00:04:57,039 Speaker 1: on like a yacht? No, I've never shot a wedding 104 00:04:57,040 --> 00:04:58,720 Speaker 1: on a yacht, but I have a shot before on 105 00:04:58,760 --> 00:05:01,680 Speaker 1: acadam Ran. They had a happy hour at sunset on 106 00:05:01,720 --> 00:05:04,440 Speaker 1: a giant catamar Ran. That's pretty cool, too, pretty dope, right, 107 00:05:05,560 --> 00:05:08,400 Speaker 1: But honestly, I love weddings. Like people talk about how 108 00:05:08,440 --> 00:05:10,600 Speaker 1: it's something that like, oh, you get tired of them. 109 00:05:10,680 --> 00:05:12,120 Speaker 1: I don't really get tired of him. I think they're 110 00:05:12,160 --> 00:05:14,640 Speaker 1: a ton of fun and honestly, the ones I enjoyed 111 00:05:14,680 --> 00:05:16,840 Speaker 1: the most though as a photographer are the weddings where 112 00:05:16,839 --> 00:05:18,520 Speaker 1: they tend to be relaxed and you know they're having 113 00:05:18,560 --> 00:05:22,119 Speaker 1: a good time. And that's honestly when they're not overspending 114 00:05:22,560 --> 00:05:25,359 Speaker 1: and instead they're focusing on putting their money towards the 115 00:05:25,400 --> 00:05:27,400 Speaker 1: things that matter to them, to the things that they 116 00:05:27,480 --> 00:05:30,400 Speaker 1: actually value, because deep down, I think they truly know 117 00:05:30,480 --> 00:05:33,240 Speaker 1: that there money is being well spent. They thought it 118 00:05:33,320 --> 00:05:35,599 Speaker 1: through and they know that, Okay, this is awesome, this 119 00:05:35,680 --> 00:05:39,000 Speaker 1: is awesome, this is awesome, and they're not getting sucked 120 00:05:39,000 --> 00:05:42,200 Speaker 1: into the overspending and feeling like that they have to 121 00:05:42,240 --> 00:05:45,560 Speaker 1: do things just because somebody mentioned it in some wedding magazine. Yeah, 122 00:05:45,560 --> 00:05:47,560 Speaker 1: so if you've listened to our show for very long, 123 00:05:47,640 --> 00:05:49,719 Speaker 1: you know probably that we're not going to recommend getting 124 00:05:49,720 --> 00:05:52,800 Speaker 1: married on a yacht or necessarily even a catamar ran. Right, 125 00:05:52,800 --> 00:05:55,120 Speaker 1: but I don't know. Happy our on academ ran sounds 126 00:05:55,120 --> 00:05:57,240 Speaker 1: awesome and does that does sound pretty nice? If you 127 00:05:57,240 --> 00:06:00,000 Speaker 1: were there, you would have liked it, I'm sure, I'm sure. 128 00:06:00,400 --> 00:06:02,279 Speaker 1: And we're also going to recommend that you don't completely 129 00:06:02,360 --> 00:06:05,160 Speaker 1: cheap out, because if you go that route, you could 130 00:06:05,200 --> 00:06:08,240 Speaker 1: have major regrets. Because a wedding is a really special day, right. 131 00:06:08,240 --> 00:06:10,919 Speaker 1: It is a fun party. It's a chance to celebrate 132 00:06:11,240 --> 00:06:13,720 Speaker 1: one of the most meaningful events you'll ever celebrate in 133 00:06:13,760 --> 00:06:15,760 Speaker 1: your entire life. And so you don't want to look 134 00:06:15,760 --> 00:06:18,760 Speaker 1: back and have regrets that you didn't spend enough. So 135 00:06:18,960 --> 00:06:21,680 Speaker 1: finding that balance is key, and we'll dive into the 136 00:06:21,760 --> 00:06:24,440 Speaker 1: specific ways that you can save some money on your 137 00:06:24,440 --> 00:06:36,960 Speaker 1: wedding without having regrets right after the break all right, soul, 138 00:06:36,960 --> 00:06:38,719 Speaker 1: The first thing that we need to focus on if 139 00:06:38,839 --> 00:06:41,400 Speaker 1: you are planning a wedding is to consider what is 140 00:06:41,480 --> 00:06:44,400 Speaker 1: most important to you. You know, before you even start 141 00:06:44,560 --> 00:06:46,719 Speaker 1: planning a wedding, you want to consider what it is 142 00:06:46,839 --> 00:06:48,920 Speaker 1: that is most important to you and your fiance. You 143 00:06:48,960 --> 00:06:51,359 Speaker 1: need to ask yourself, how do I want to experience 144 00:06:51,400 --> 00:06:53,000 Speaker 1: this day, or like, what do I want my guests 145 00:06:53,040 --> 00:06:56,279 Speaker 1: to experience? Those are sort of the big why questions 146 00:06:56,320 --> 00:06:58,400 Speaker 1: that once you answer those, the rest of the money 147 00:06:58,480 --> 00:07:00,840 Speaker 1: questions that pop up inevitably when it comes to planning 148 00:07:00,839 --> 00:07:03,320 Speaker 1: a wedding will become much much easier. I say this 149 00:07:03,360 --> 00:07:05,400 Speaker 1: to my couples all the time. If there are aspects 150 00:07:05,400 --> 00:07:07,440 Speaker 1: and parts of a wedding that you just don't care 151 00:07:07,480 --> 00:07:10,280 Speaker 1: about and that are not meaningful to you, just skip 152 00:07:10,360 --> 00:07:13,400 Speaker 1: those right. So, if you don't like cake, well there's 153 00:07:13,400 --> 00:07:15,520 Speaker 1: no reason for you to have a wedding cake. Instead, 154 00:07:15,720 --> 00:07:18,920 Speaker 1: maybe food trucks are or what you're all about. Let's 155 00:07:19,080 --> 00:07:21,320 Speaker 1: say that you're not into big bands or like that 156 00:07:21,400 --> 00:07:24,200 Speaker 1: kind of music. Well, maybe instead you're really into karaoke, 157 00:07:24,400 --> 00:07:28,040 Speaker 1: and instead you can have some awesome karaoke at your reception. Like, 158 00:07:28,120 --> 00:07:30,600 Speaker 1: the idea is to make sure that it's reflective of 159 00:07:30,680 --> 00:07:34,080 Speaker 1: you and your personality as a couple. You would infuse 160 00:07:34,200 --> 00:07:36,480 Speaker 1: as much of that into the wedding as possible, and 161 00:07:36,520 --> 00:07:39,240 Speaker 1: again hopefully that will direct your decisions when it comes 162 00:07:39,280 --> 00:07:42,080 Speaker 1: to making purchases for your wedding. Yes, So of course 163 00:07:42,160 --> 00:07:44,600 Speaker 1: the cheapest way to get married would be to a lope. 164 00:07:44,640 --> 00:07:47,080 Speaker 1: Just get married at the courthouse, fly to Vegas right, 165 00:07:47,200 --> 00:07:49,480 Speaker 1: and go to one of the wedding chapels on the strip. 166 00:07:49,640 --> 00:07:52,760 Speaker 1: We're talking about sixty bucks, maybe many hundreds of dollars 167 00:07:52,840 --> 00:07:55,640 Speaker 1: if you're buying a flight, right, that's that's pretty inexpensive. 168 00:07:55,800 --> 00:07:57,760 Speaker 1: But in all likelihood, for most people, that's not going 169 00:07:57,800 --> 00:08:01,000 Speaker 1: to meet the requirement of having party with friends and 170 00:08:01,040 --> 00:08:03,280 Speaker 1: family that they care about, of bringing in people that 171 00:08:03,280 --> 00:08:06,040 Speaker 1: they haven't seen in years, and just making it a 172 00:08:06,080 --> 00:08:09,200 Speaker 1: grand old time. So while eloping might work for some people, 173 00:08:09,360 --> 00:08:11,320 Speaker 1: and more power to you if if that is the 174 00:08:11,360 --> 00:08:13,200 Speaker 1: kind of wedding that you want, you're gonna say a 175 00:08:13,200 --> 00:08:16,000 Speaker 1: lot of money. But this episode is geared towards people 176 00:08:16,000 --> 00:08:18,800 Speaker 1: trying to throw a wedding with with a guest list, 177 00:08:19,000 --> 00:08:20,680 Speaker 1: and so Matt, let's get to the main ways that 178 00:08:20,720 --> 00:08:22,880 Speaker 1: you can save while doing that, all right, man, Let's 179 00:08:22,880 --> 00:08:25,960 Speaker 1: talk first about location. So where you get married will 180 00:08:26,000 --> 00:08:29,360 Speaker 1: likely have the largest impact on your overall budget, not 181 00:08:29,440 --> 00:08:32,360 Speaker 1: only because of the actual cost of the venue, but 182 00:08:32,520 --> 00:08:35,400 Speaker 1: there's the secondary costs associated with it. As well. We 183 00:08:35,559 --> 00:08:38,640 Speaker 1: didn't an entire episode on secondary costs and and why 184 00:08:38,679 --> 00:08:41,160 Speaker 1: things end up costing more than you think. Well, on 185 00:08:41,200 --> 00:08:43,760 Speaker 1: that note, it's tougher to have an affordable wedding at 186 00:08:43,840 --> 00:08:46,840 Speaker 1: a really, really fancy venue, right Like, if you're getting 187 00:08:46,840 --> 00:08:49,280 Speaker 1: married in Atlanta at the Swan House, it's the super 188 00:08:49,360 --> 00:08:53,400 Speaker 1: high end, historical fancy place, sounds like it. It's where 189 00:08:53,400 --> 00:08:58,400 Speaker 1: a president snows mansion was in the Hunger Games. That house, 190 00:08:59,360 --> 00:09:02,319 Speaker 1: it is extremely expensive, and they've probably got a smaller 191 00:09:02,360 --> 00:09:05,199 Speaker 1: list of caterers that you can go with, right and exactly, 192 00:09:05,200 --> 00:09:08,240 Speaker 1: everything just gets more expensive based on that initial decision. Yes, 193 00:09:08,360 --> 00:09:11,920 Speaker 1: it's tough to have an affordable wedding at the Swan House. However, 194 00:09:11,960 --> 00:09:13,960 Speaker 1: on the opposite end of spectrum, if you're gonna get married, 195 00:09:13,960 --> 00:09:16,520 Speaker 1: say out a brewery, it's becoming more and more popular 196 00:09:16,559 --> 00:09:19,600 Speaker 1: to get married out a brewery. They're affordable, there's great 197 00:09:19,679 --> 00:09:22,440 Speaker 1: beer there obviously, but that would also allow you to 198 00:09:22,480 --> 00:09:25,880 Speaker 1: not include certain vendors that might be a lot more expensive. 199 00:09:26,640 --> 00:09:29,840 Speaker 1: Speaking of breweries and alcohol, Matt, it's worth asking a 200 00:09:29,880 --> 00:09:32,960 Speaker 1: potential venue that you're looking at getting married in to 201 00:09:33,000 --> 00:09:35,559 Speaker 1: see if they allow you to bring your own booze, 202 00:09:35,640 --> 00:09:38,920 Speaker 1: because there's a huge markup when it comes to beer, 203 00:09:39,000 --> 00:09:42,280 Speaker 1: wine and spirits from a food vendor for a wedding, 204 00:09:42,520 --> 00:09:44,440 Speaker 1: and so if you can bring your own in and 205 00:09:44,480 --> 00:09:46,760 Speaker 1: have your buddy manning the keg, I mean, that can 206 00:09:46,800 --> 00:09:48,760 Speaker 1: be a major savings for you. I know, my wife 207 00:09:48,760 --> 00:09:50,920 Speaker 1: and I we got a couple of pony kegs of 208 00:09:51,000 --> 00:09:53,400 Speaker 1: some cheap beer that was before I was like madly 209 00:09:53,440 --> 00:09:55,800 Speaker 1: into craft beer and uh, and we saved a lot 210 00:09:55,800 --> 00:09:58,360 Speaker 1: of money by bringing our own beer in and also 211 00:09:58,440 --> 00:10:00,880 Speaker 1: having two buck chuck, Like that's literally the only things 212 00:10:00,920 --> 00:10:03,160 Speaker 1: that people could drink besides water at our wedding, and 213 00:10:03,200 --> 00:10:04,760 Speaker 1: we saved a lot of money doing it that way. 214 00:10:05,000 --> 00:10:07,400 Speaker 1: Another tip, when you are bringing in your own alcohol, 215 00:10:07,400 --> 00:10:08,880 Speaker 1: you want to make sure that you buy it from 216 00:10:09,000 --> 00:10:12,440 Speaker 1: someplace that will allow you to return unopened bottles, because 217 00:10:12,480 --> 00:10:14,920 Speaker 1: obviously you want to have enough on hand for the party, 218 00:10:15,160 --> 00:10:16,520 Speaker 1: but at the same time, you don't want to get 219 00:10:16,520 --> 00:10:19,880 Speaker 1: stuck with a bunch of unopened cases of bourbon if 220 00:10:19,880 --> 00:10:22,079 Speaker 1: that's what you happen to have on hand. The same 221 00:10:22,120 --> 00:10:24,120 Speaker 1: thing with keg's. Obviously you can't return to keg So 222 00:10:24,200 --> 00:10:26,560 Speaker 1: keep that in mind as well, because well you're just 223 00:10:26,559 --> 00:10:29,560 Speaker 1: gonna have to drink it before it goes bad. That's 224 00:10:29,600 --> 00:10:32,760 Speaker 1: the wedding after party right there. Right. Another important thing 225 00:10:32,800 --> 00:10:34,520 Speaker 1: when it comes to location, Matt is that a lot 226 00:10:34,600 --> 00:10:37,960 Speaker 1: of venues will offer better rates during less popular seasons. 227 00:10:38,280 --> 00:10:42,720 Speaker 1: So for instance, January and February, those are not popular 228 00:10:42,760 --> 00:10:44,959 Speaker 1: months to get married in, right, and you know that 229 00:10:45,000 --> 00:10:48,360 Speaker 1: because you have very few requests for your services during 230 00:10:48,400 --> 00:10:52,199 Speaker 1: those months. So considering getting married then, or also on 231 00:10:52,320 --> 00:10:54,880 Speaker 1: alternative days of the week. So everyone gets married on 232 00:10:54,880 --> 00:10:57,120 Speaker 1: a Saturday pretty much, so if you're willing to get 233 00:10:57,160 --> 00:10:59,720 Speaker 1: married on a Sunday instead of a Saturday, well you 234 00:10:59,720 --> 00:11:02,640 Speaker 1: could probably save some substantial money on your venue if 235 00:11:02,640 --> 00:11:06,239 Speaker 1: you do that too. Also, if you get married outdoors, 236 00:11:06,360 --> 00:11:08,559 Speaker 1: say just out in nature in the park or maybe 237 00:11:08,640 --> 00:11:11,920 Speaker 1: at a private residence at a house, that can be 238 00:11:12,080 --> 00:11:14,800 Speaker 1: a more affordable way to book a venue, but it's 239 00:11:14,840 --> 00:11:16,680 Speaker 1: not always the case. You know, you need to take 240 00:11:16,720 --> 00:11:19,680 Speaker 1: weather into account. If you're willing to risk it, then sure, 241 00:11:19,840 --> 00:11:21,200 Speaker 1: you know you can save a ton of money. But 242 00:11:21,240 --> 00:11:23,400 Speaker 1: if you're looking at getting a tint, maybe you need 243 00:11:23,440 --> 00:11:25,640 Speaker 1: to bring in the dance floor. If the backyards are 244 00:11:25,640 --> 00:11:28,840 Speaker 1: not perfectly even, you can easily fork out several thousand 245 00:11:28,840 --> 00:11:31,439 Speaker 1: dollars to kind of get a backyard up to snuff. 246 00:11:31,640 --> 00:11:33,920 Speaker 1: But I love the idea of just kind of alpening 247 00:11:33,960 --> 00:11:35,760 Speaker 1: and being out in nature. I've done that a couple 248 00:11:35,760 --> 00:11:37,520 Speaker 1: of times, and do that's just like the best because 249 00:11:37,559 --> 00:11:39,640 Speaker 1: I love hiking and being out in nature, and I 250 00:11:39,679 --> 00:11:42,760 Speaker 1: love taking pictures, and I also love making a living, 251 00:11:43,080 --> 00:11:44,760 Speaker 1: and so when I can combine all three of those 252 00:11:44,800 --> 00:11:48,440 Speaker 1: things together, that's the best. Yeah, And the pictures when 253 00:11:48,440 --> 00:11:51,559 Speaker 1: you're out in nature are amazing through the best, right. 254 00:11:51,600 --> 00:11:53,920 Speaker 1: I mean, Emily and I we got married at the 255 00:11:53,960 --> 00:11:56,760 Speaker 1: Memphis Zoo because so she's from Memphis and we decided 256 00:11:56,800 --> 00:11:58,320 Speaker 1: to get married at the zoo there, and so we 257 00:11:58,360 --> 00:12:01,280 Speaker 1: get this kind of mix of indoor and outdoor shots, 258 00:12:01,640 --> 00:12:04,439 Speaker 1: photos of us in front of like the lions and 259 00:12:04,480 --> 00:12:06,880 Speaker 1: the flamingos and stuff like that. So just kind of 260 00:12:07,280 --> 00:12:10,640 Speaker 1: really fun memories to think back at those pictures. At 261 00:12:10,640 --> 00:12:12,280 Speaker 1: the same time, if we had to choose something else, 262 00:12:12,320 --> 00:12:14,720 Speaker 1: I think we probably totally would have gotten married somewhere 263 00:12:14,720 --> 00:12:17,720 Speaker 1: in nature, just with some kind of crazy cliff overlooks 264 00:12:17,800 --> 00:12:19,720 Speaker 1: or something, I don't know, something interesting like that. Yeah, 265 00:12:19,760 --> 00:12:22,440 Speaker 1: those pictures are super popular these days. You just get 266 00:12:22,480 --> 00:12:25,319 Speaker 1: like a hundred dollar permit and boom, you're shooting in 267 00:12:25,400 --> 00:12:28,080 Speaker 1: Yosemite and you're getting married at the same time. That 268 00:12:28,120 --> 00:12:30,560 Speaker 1: sounds awesome. Well, you mentioned Tennessee as well, and that's 269 00:12:30,600 --> 00:12:33,400 Speaker 1: something else to consider, is that geographically, you know, on average, 270 00:12:33,400 --> 00:12:35,760 Speaker 1: it's more expensive to have a wedding in some cities 271 00:12:36,160 --> 00:12:39,720 Speaker 1: and states versus others. So, for instance, on average, a 272 00:12:39,760 --> 00:12:43,040 Speaker 1: wedding in Long Island, New York, it's about sixty dollars 273 00:12:43,120 --> 00:12:45,520 Speaker 1: versus Texas, where these beers were sent to us from, 274 00:12:45,559 --> 00:12:48,160 Speaker 1: it's about thirty thousand dollars, so half as much. So 275 00:12:48,559 --> 00:12:50,000 Speaker 1: you know, if it's a toss up between a couple 276 00:12:50,040 --> 00:12:53,280 Speaker 1: of different states, maybe your home state versus your fiance's 277 00:12:53,320 --> 00:12:55,840 Speaker 1: home state, it's worth, you know, considering what the actual 278 00:12:55,880 --> 00:12:58,040 Speaker 1: costs are in the state or the city that you're 279 00:12:58,080 --> 00:13:00,960 Speaker 1: considering getting married in. All right, now we're gonna tackle matth, 280 00:13:01,000 --> 00:13:03,760 Speaker 1: the all important issue of guest count. And this one 281 00:13:03,760 --> 00:13:06,000 Speaker 1: gets touchy because the future in laws and your own 282 00:13:06,040 --> 00:13:08,560 Speaker 1: parents have their ideas of who they want at this wedding, 283 00:13:08,840 --> 00:13:10,800 Speaker 1: and to a certain extent, depending on your relationship with 284 00:13:10,800 --> 00:13:12,800 Speaker 1: your parents or your in laws, you probably need to 285 00:13:12,800 --> 00:13:15,360 Speaker 1: respect some of their wishes, But it's really important for 286 00:13:15,400 --> 00:13:18,520 Speaker 1: you as the couple to invite the folks that really 287 00:13:18,679 --> 00:13:21,920 Speaker 1: matter to you, and to not just invite folks purely 288 00:13:21,960 --> 00:13:25,760 Speaker 1: out of obligation, especially because that ramps up the cost. Well, yeah, man, 289 00:13:25,800 --> 00:13:29,240 Speaker 1: I mean the guests count directly impacts your catering costs. 290 00:13:29,240 --> 00:13:30,880 Speaker 1: You know, if you can cut back from say a 291 00:13:30,960 --> 00:13:33,320 Speaker 1: hundred and fifty guests, cut that in half down to 292 00:13:33,360 --> 00:13:36,559 Speaker 1: seventy five guests, that could save you five thousand dollars. 293 00:13:36,600 --> 00:13:39,360 Speaker 1: Over five thousand dollars if you're looking at seventy dollars 294 00:13:39,400 --> 00:13:42,440 Speaker 1: ahead for catering, and you know, if food isn't really 295 00:13:42,480 --> 00:13:44,760 Speaker 1: that much of a priority for you. Again, this kind 296 00:13:44,760 --> 00:13:46,920 Speaker 1: of goes back to the initial question, like the big 297 00:13:47,000 --> 00:13:50,120 Speaker 1: overall what are our priorities going to be? If food 298 00:13:50,200 --> 00:13:52,640 Speaker 1: isn't a priority for you, Instead, maybe you can look 299 00:13:52,679 --> 00:13:54,960 Speaker 1: at some local barbecue or let's say there's some awesome 300 00:13:55,000 --> 00:13:57,840 Speaker 1: food trucks in your city, and honestly, those are gonna 301 00:13:57,840 --> 00:14:01,080 Speaker 1: be much much more affordable as well. Yeah, and I 302 00:14:01,080 --> 00:14:03,360 Speaker 1: think when it comes to food, Matt to going with 303 00:14:03,640 --> 00:14:07,480 Speaker 1: a daytime wedding is going to be much more cost effective. 304 00:14:07,480 --> 00:14:10,520 Speaker 1: When you're talking about providing food for however many guests 305 00:14:10,559 --> 00:14:12,880 Speaker 1: you have, Right, the per head cost is just gonna 306 00:14:12,880 --> 00:14:15,760 Speaker 1: go way down if you're providing lunch as opposed to dinner. 307 00:14:16,080 --> 00:14:18,120 Speaker 1: And folks don't have to drink quite as much wine 308 00:14:18,120 --> 00:14:21,600 Speaker 1: at lunch either, you know, exactly. And the expectations honestly 309 00:14:21,640 --> 00:14:24,920 Speaker 1: are just overall lower for a lunch get together than 310 00:14:24,960 --> 00:14:28,440 Speaker 1: they are for a special, fancy sit down dinner wedding. Yeah, man, 311 00:14:28,480 --> 00:14:29,880 Speaker 1: that's so true. That's a good tip. But we should 312 00:14:29,880 --> 00:14:31,760 Speaker 1: have mentioned that in sort of when we're talking about 313 00:14:31,800 --> 00:14:34,680 Speaker 1: the venue. But the venue you choose will also indicate 314 00:14:34,800 --> 00:14:37,160 Speaker 1: sort of the level of fanciness, right, And so you 315 00:14:37,240 --> 00:14:40,520 Speaker 1: choose a brewery, folks are gonna maybe expect the barbecue 316 00:14:40,520 --> 00:14:43,280 Speaker 1: option and maybe a food truck, versus if you've got 317 00:14:43,320 --> 00:14:45,320 Speaker 1: one of the nicest hotels or one of the nicest 318 00:14:45,360 --> 00:14:48,200 Speaker 1: ballrooms in the city. Yeah, that the bar is raised. 319 00:14:48,200 --> 00:14:50,840 Speaker 1: They're they're expecting to pull out the tuxedo that they 320 00:14:50,840 --> 00:14:52,520 Speaker 1: haven't worn in a couple of years. And if you 321 00:14:52,560 --> 00:14:54,160 Speaker 1: even want a scale back even more. You know you 322 00:14:54,200 --> 00:14:57,440 Speaker 1: mentioned eloping, Well you can elope and then throw a 323 00:14:57,520 --> 00:14:59,960 Speaker 1: party after the fact, and even calling it a party 324 00:15:00,120 --> 00:15:02,920 Speaker 1: versus a wedding, you get to save on that wedding markup. 325 00:15:03,200 --> 00:15:06,360 Speaker 1: Just because wedding or a reception is in the name, 326 00:15:06,400 --> 00:15:09,440 Speaker 1: it's automatically kind of gets fancier. And yeah, like you said, 327 00:15:09,440 --> 00:15:12,520 Speaker 1: there's a higher bar of what people expect, and it 328 00:15:12,560 --> 00:15:15,240 Speaker 1: just affects the entire vibe of the wedding day as well. 329 00:15:15,360 --> 00:15:17,400 Speaker 1: So the time of day and certainly where you have 330 00:15:17,480 --> 00:15:19,600 Speaker 1: the wedding has a huge impact on the overall cost. 331 00:15:19,800 --> 00:15:21,840 Speaker 1: All right, Matt, Let's get into the rings. And I 332 00:15:21,880 --> 00:15:24,160 Speaker 1: know that wedding rings kind of have a traditional element 333 00:15:24,200 --> 00:15:27,200 Speaker 1: and not everyone kind of goes with the traditional flare 334 00:15:27,240 --> 00:15:29,600 Speaker 1: these days. So for instance, I'm wearing a rubber ring. 335 00:15:29,840 --> 00:15:32,560 Speaker 1: I got three for ninety nine cents on eBay, different colors. 336 00:15:32,720 --> 00:15:35,920 Speaker 1: Is it because you crossed fit bro? No, trust me, 337 00:15:36,200 --> 00:15:38,320 Speaker 1: If if I crossed it, all the listeners would have 338 00:15:38,320 --> 00:15:41,120 Speaker 1: known that on about twenty episodes so far. Right, anybody 339 00:15:41,160 --> 00:15:43,120 Speaker 1: that crossed its you hear about it pretty quickly. But 340 00:15:43,160 --> 00:15:45,120 Speaker 1: if you don't want to go like the nontraditional route 341 00:15:45,120 --> 00:15:48,800 Speaker 1: like me and have literally a thirty three cent a 342 00:15:48,840 --> 00:15:51,280 Speaker 1: silicone ring, well we think you can find a really 343 00:15:51,320 --> 00:15:54,520 Speaker 1: awesome diamond ring for between two and four thousand dollars, 344 00:15:54,560 --> 00:15:57,440 Speaker 1: and the traditional rule of thumb has always been that 345 00:15:57,480 --> 00:16:00,000 Speaker 1: you should spend three months of your salary on an 346 00:16:00,040 --> 00:16:03,400 Speaker 1: engagement ring. Honestly, to me, Matt, that feels kind of preposterous, 347 00:16:03,520 --> 00:16:06,360 Speaker 1: that that sounds ludicrous. I never would have done that, 348 00:16:06,760 --> 00:16:09,240 Speaker 1: and I'm so glad that I had some people talking 349 00:16:09,280 --> 00:16:11,680 Speaker 1: sense into me that I didn't have to mortgage my 350 00:16:11,720 --> 00:16:15,080 Speaker 1: future to buy a ring for my wife. And now, 351 00:16:15,320 --> 00:16:18,880 Speaker 1: with the advent of lab grown diamonds, which are completely 352 00:16:18,920 --> 00:16:22,000 Speaker 1: indistinguishable from diamonds that you dig up out of the ground, 353 00:16:22,240 --> 00:16:24,720 Speaker 1: you can save a huge amount of money. And light 354 00:16:24,800 --> 00:16:27,960 Speaker 1: box and Brilliant Earth are both great websites to shop 355 00:16:28,000 --> 00:16:30,000 Speaker 1: four But if you're looking for diamonds that were dug 356 00:16:30,000 --> 00:16:32,760 Speaker 1: out of the earth, Rare Carrot is the best comparison 357 00:16:32,760 --> 00:16:35,920 Speaker 1: shopping site for regular diamonds on the internet right now. 358 00:16:36,080 --> 00:16:37,920 Speaker 1: And so we'll post links to all those in our 359 00:16:37,960 --> 00:16:40,800 Speaker 1: show notes. Yeah, what's awesome about lab grown diamonds, man, 360 00:16:40,920 --> 00:16:42,840 Speaker 1: is that you know there's a savings there of at 361 00:16:42,880 --> 00:16:45,840 Speaker 1: least thirty percent in these days because the technology is 362 00:16:45,880 --> 00:16:48,400 Speaker 1: getting better when it comes to growing these diamonds and 363 00:16:48,520 --> 00:16:50,560 Speaker 1: labs because it's I mean it's it's real work. It 364 00:16:50,600 --> 00:16:52,680 Speaker 1: takes work. It's not like they can just like run 365 00:16:52,720 --> 00:16:55,560 Speaker 1: it through a machine real quick. But the technology is 366 00:16:55,560 --> 00:16:57,440 Speaker 1: getting better, and what that means is that the supply 367 00:16:57,600 --> 00:17:00,640 Speaker 1: is increasing, which obviously means it's making it more affordable. 368 00:17:00,680 --> 00:17:03,840 Speaker 1: And so you know, to you as a consumer, that 369 00:17:04,000 --> 00:17:08,040 Speaker 1: is only good news. But also consider going vintage and 370 00:17:08,160 --> 00:17:10,760 Speaker 1: see if there's a family ring or a family stone 371 00:17:11,119 --> 00:17:13,119 Speaker 1: that's actually the kind of ring I have, which means 372 00:17:13,160 --> 00:17:17,480 Speaker 1: obviously that it was free my favorite price tag. But 373 00:17:17,520 --> 00:17:19,720 Speaker 1: then in addition to that, obviously it has much more 374 00:17:19,760 --> 00:17:21,840 Speaker 1: meaning than say a ring that you know, Kate were 375 00:17:21,920 --> 00:17:24,960 Speaker 1: to have purchased, you know, online or somewhere else. I 376 00:17:25,000 --> 00:17:26,920 Speaker 1: see you staring at my thirty three cent ring saying 377 00:17:26,920 --> 00:17:28,800 Speaker 1: it doesn't have any meaning. Man, if it has a 378 00:17:28,840 --> 00:17:30,720 Speaker 1: meaning to you, that's that's all the meaning you need. 379 00:17:31,040 --> 00:17:32,800 Speaker 1: And so how much you spend on a ring, and 380 00:17:32,880 --> 00:17:34,560 Speaker 1: I think this is so important, but keep in mind, right, 381 00:17:34,680 --> 00:17:37,359 Speaker 1: how much Joel, you spend on a ring isn't representative 382 00:17:37,600 --> 00:17:40,120 Speaker 1: how much you love someone. But the type of ring 383 00:17:40,160 --> 00:17:42,040 Speaker 1: you have should be a reflection, you know, of your 384 00:17:42,119 --> 00:17:45,280 Speaker 1: values and of your interest. We have some friends who 385 00:17:45,760 --> 00:17:48,080 Speaker 1: they value local artists and the type of ring that 386 00:17:48,119 --> 00:17:51,120 Speaker 1: they chose doesn't even look like a traditional engagement ring, 387 00:17:51,520 --> 00:17:54,000 Speaker 1: but to them it's super special. It means so much 388 00:17:54,040 --> 00:17:56,800 Speaker 1: to them and it's a unique work of art and 389 00:17:56,800 --> 00:17:59,159 Speaker 1: there's just really no other ring like that. Yeah, you 390 00:17:59,200 --> 00:18:01,040 Speaker 1: were just talking about vin to Drinks, Matt, And that's 391 00:18:01,040 --> 00:18:03,119 Speaker 1: what I went on the hunt for for for Emily. 392 00:18:03,200 --> 00:18:05,920 Speaker 1: For my wife. It was kind of a fun shopping process, 393 00:18:06,320 --> 00:18:08,920 Speaker 1: and when I handed her that ring, I just, I mean, 394 00:18:08,920 --> 00:18:10,480 Speaker 1: I knew that it was the perfect thing for her. 395 00:18:10,560 --> 00:18:12,200 Speaker 1: And also it was one of the kind I feel 396 00:18:12,240 --> 00:18:13,800 Speaker 1: like I kind of hit the trifect though, where I 397 00:18:13,800 --> 00:18:16,960 Speaker 1: saved some money, I gave her something incredibly unique and 398 00:18:17,040 --> 00:18:20,080 Speaker 1: something that was meaningful as well. So just know that 399 00:18:20,080 --> 00:18:22,919 Speaker 1: there are multiple ways to go about ring shopping and 400 00:18:22,960 --> 00:18:25,679 Speaker 1: maybe you know, one of those Cheapo silicone rings is 401 00:18:25,720 --> 00:18:28,360 Speaker 1: completely fine for you, that's great, Or maybe a lab 402 00:18:28,400 --> 00:18:31,000 Speaker 1: grown diamond or a vintage ring. There are all these options. 403 00:18:31,080 --> 00:18:33,199 Speaker 1: Just make sure you're not bound by convention when you're 404 00:18:33,280 --> 00:18:35,720 Speaker 1: choosing what sort of ring to get. Joel, speaking of rings, 405 00:18:35,720 --> 00:18:38,640 Speaker 1: have I already told you the story about Kate's engagement 406 00:18:38,720 --> 00:18:41,199 Speaker 1: ring having to get cut off before the wedding. No, 407 00:18:41,440 --> 00:18:44,000 Speaker 1: that sounds terrible. Oh my gosh. Yeah, it's a long story. 408 00:18:44,040 --> 00:18:45,800 Speaker 1: Well I'll save it for some other time, but remind 409 00:18:45,840 --> 00:18:48,639 Speaker 1: me next time we talk about personal articles insurance. I 410 00:18:48,680 --> 00:18:50,720 Speaker 1: sure will. That's a common thing too for people with 411 00:18:50,760 --> 00:18:53,359 Speaker 1: metal rings. My dad literally just had to get his 412 00:18:53,400 --> 00:18:55,919 Speaker 1: cut off a couple of weeks ago to save his 413 00:18:56,040 --> 00:19:00,000 Speaker 1: finger from falling off. No joke, Oh my gosh. Okay, Well, 414 00:19:00,000 --> 00:19:02,000 Speaker 1: on that note, let's talk now about wedding bands, and 415 00:19:02,040 --> 00:19:03,840 Speaker 1: not the kind that you wear on your finger, but 416 00:19:04,160 --> 00:19:07,160 Speaker 1: a musical wedding band. And so a question you need 417 00:19:07,200 --> 00:19:10,119 Speaker 1: to ask yourself do you even want a full wedding band? 418 00:19:10,320 --> 00:19:13,040 Speaker 1: And if so, then great, that's awesome. But if not, 419 00:19:13,320 --> 00:19:16,000 Speaker 1: that's an average right there of four thousand dollars that 420 00:19:16,040 --> 00:19:19,800 Speaker 1: you can save. Yes, So if you're googling wedding band 421 00:19:19,920 --> 00:19:22,560 Speaker 1: and then your city, you're probably gonna pay too much 422 00:19:22,640 --> 00:19:26,040 Speaker 1: because you're gonna find the bands that specialize at playing 423 00:19:26,200 --> 00:19:28,159 Speaker 1: at weddings. But if you can keep an eye off 424 00:19:28,200 --> 00:19:31,919 Speaker 1: for folks who aren't in traditional wedding bands serving the 425 00:19:31,960 --> 00:19:35,160 Speaker 1: wedding industry, because, like Matt mentioned earlier, everything costs more 426 00:19:35,160 --> 00:19:37,600 Speaker 1: money when it has the world wedding attached. Maybe you 427 00:19:37,600 --> 00:19:40,280 Speaker 1: could scout out events at local breweries and festivals and 428 00:19:40,320 --> 00:19:43,000 Speaker 1: find bands that are in your area that don't cater 429 00:19:43,119 --> 00:19:46,240 Speaker 1: specifically to playing at weddings. And if that's the case, 430 00:19:46,280 --> 00:19:48,760 Speaker 1: if you can find a local band that's pretty solid 431 00:19:49,080 --> 00:19:50,639 Speaker 1: that's willing to play some of the tunes that you 432 00:19:50,680 --> 00:19:52,480 Speaker 1: want played at your wedding, you can save a lot 433 00:19:52,520 --> 00:19:54,560 Speaker 1: of money on a band that way. Yeah. Man, that's 434 00:19:54,560 --> 00:19:56,520 Speaker 1: exactly what what Kate and I did. We got this 435 00:19:56,560 --> 00:19:58,719 Speaker 1: band and they weren't technically a wedding band, but they 436 00:19:58,760 --> 00:20:01,239 Speaker 1: were sort of this jazzy, kind of nice cocktail all 437 00:20:01,240 --> 00:20:03,879 Speaker 1: our like band and we were able to request a 438 00:20:03,880 --> 00:20:06,199 Speaker 1: few songs that we definitely wanted and man, we loved it. 439 00:20:06,240 --> 00:20:07,760 Speaker 1: We were able to get the vibe that we're looking 440 00:20:07,800 --> 00:20:10,320 Speaker 1: for and have the band aspect of it, but without 441 00:20:10,359 --> 00:20:12,920 Speaker 1: paying that big price tag. However, if you're not into 442 00:20:13,000 --> 00:20:15,480 Speaker 1: a full band, you can get a good DJ, and 443 00:20:15,640 --> 00:20:17,679 Speaker 1: they are typically you're going to be more affordable. You 444 00:20:17,680 --> 00:20:20,760 Speaker 1: can spend arounds for them, and you know, you might 445 00:20:20,800 --> 00:20:22,960 Speaker 1: be tempted to have a friend run it kind of 446 00:20:22,960 --> 00:20:25,119 Speaker 1: do the old school iPod thing where they're you know, 447 00:20:25,160 --> 00:20:27,600 Speaker 1: playing music off their phone, and that can throw a 448 00:20:27,600 --> 00:20:30,439 Speaker 1: whole wrenching things, right. Yeah, I would only recommend this 449 00:20:30,520 --> 00:20:33,080 Speaker 1: if they know their way around a sound system and 450 00:20:33,200 --> 00:20:35,640 Speaker 1: if they feel comfortable running the show at the reception, 451 00:20:35,640 --> 00:20:38,399 Speaker 1: because honestly, everything kind of falls to the DJ or 452 00:20:38,440 --> 00:20:40,679 Speaker 1: the band because there's a microphone and people are going 453 00:20:40,720 --> 00:20:43,879 Speaker 1: to listen to over has the microphone. Um, so that 454 00:20:44,000 --> 00:20:46,439 Speaker 1: might be one area that if you're really focused on 455 00:20:46,520 --> 00:20:49,720 Speaker 1: having just an awesome party. If that's the case, then 456 00:20:49,760 --> 00:20:51,719 Speaker 1: you definitely want to either spend that money on that 457 00:20:51,840 --> 00:20:54,359 Speaker 1: DJ or the band. Yeah, your friend might know how 458 00:20:54,400 --> 00:20:56,959 Speaker 1: to pull up the right playlist from Spotify, but are 459 00:20:57,000 --> 00:20:59,760 Speaker 1: they a decent m C. And a decent MC goes 460 00:21:00,000 --> 00:21:02,480 Speaker 1: a long way in getting people out on the dance 461 00:21:02,480 --> 00:21:04,840 Speaker 1: floor and just making sure things go smoothly. All right, 462 00:21:04,880 --> 00:21:09,840 Speaker 1: Jielso next we're gonna talk about photography. It me, but 463 00:21:09,920 --> 00:21:12,960 Speaker 1: for it we'll give our thoughts on wedding photography, flowers 464 00:21:13,000 --> 00:21:23,720 Speaker 1: and some other things right after the break all right, Matt, 465 00:21:23,720 --> 00:21:25,400 Speaker 1: So I know you're gonna say that we should pay 466 00:21:25,400 --> 00:21:28,600 Speaker 1: our wedding photographers twenty grand of pop right at the 467 00:21:28,600 --> 00:21:31,960 Speaker 1: typical going rate. That's like the starting price, right, twenty 468 00:21:32,040 --> 00:21:34,320 Speaker 1: k I mean, obviously I'm biased, right, this is what 469 00:21:34,400 --> 00:21:37,760 Speaker 1: I do. But honestly, man, other professionals that I've talked 470 00:21:37,760 --> 00:21:41,000 Speaker 1: to in other wedding planners, they all say to wedding 471 00:21:41,000 --> 00:21:43,040 Speaker 1: photography may not be something you want to cut corners on. 472 00:21:43,600 --> 00:21:46,440 Speaker 1: I will say, the only real wedding horror stories I've 473 00:21:46,480 --> 00:21:48,960 Speaker 1: heard from people are from people who did skimp on 474 00:21:49,000 --> 00:21:52,280 Speaker 1: a wedding photographer. That's what I'm saying, man. And I'm 475 00:21:52,320 --> 00:21:54,520 Speaker 1: not trying to get people to pay you more money 476 00:21:54,520 --> 00:21:56,640 Speaker 1: for weddings. That's definitely not what I'm going for, thank 477 00:21:56,640 --> 00:21:59,920 Speaker 1: you very much. But people that don't have good pictures 478 00:22:00,160 --> 00:22:03,160 Speaker 1: or sometimes any pictures to show from their wedding after 479 00:22:03,200 --> 00:22:06,439 Speaker 1: the fact, that's devastating. Man. Like, we're talking about this 480 00:22:06,600 --> 00:22:09,280 Speaker 1: all important day and ways that you can save money 481 00:22:09,320 --> 00:22:11,119 Speaker 1: on it. And I think that there are ways that 482 00:22:11,160 --> 00:22:13,320 Speaker 1: you can save money on photography, and we'll talk about that, 483 00:22:13,640 --> 00:22:16,480 Speaker 1: but ultimately going as cheap as possible in this one area, 484 00:22:16,840 --> 00:22:19,040 Speaker 1: you know what you're gonna regret more than that extra 485 00:22:19,200 --> 00:22:21,840 Speaker 1: thousand or two thousand dollars you spent on a wedding photographer. 486 00:22:21,880 --> 00:22:24,800 Speaker 1: You're gonna regret not having any pictures or having really crummy, 487 00:22:24,840 --> 00:22:27,239 Speaker 1: grainy pictures, because those are pictures that you're gonna want 488 00:22:27,280 --> 00:22:29,760 Speaker 1: to look back on for years and years and decades 489 00:22:29,800 --> 00:22:32,440 Speaker 1: to come. Yeah. Man, there are ways, though, to save 490 00:22:32,560 --> 00:22:36,119 Speaker 1: on wedding photography. Oftentimes I'm contacted by a couple that 491 00:22:36,200 --> 00:22:38,080 Speaker 1: may not have it in their budget to spend as 492 00:22:38,160 --> 00:22:39,960 Speaker 1: much on wedding photography, and they asked me, like, how 493 00:22:40,000 --> 00:22:42,359 Speaker 1: can I still get good photos? And I try to 494 00:22:42,400 --> 00:22:44,440 Speaker 1: point them in the direction of new and up and 495 00:22:44,440 --> 00:22:47,359 Speaker 1: coming photographers because the fact is they haven't established their 496 00:22:47,359 --> 00:22:50,639 Speaker 1: business yet. They might have a fantastic eye and really 497 00:22:50,680 --> 00:22:52,639 Speaker 1: are going to be amazing in a couple of years, 498 00:22:52,840 --> 00:22:55,720 Speaker 1: but they just haven't established themselves. And a couple that's 499 00:22:55,720 --> 00:22:58,119 Speaker 1: looking to get married can lock in those early rates, 500 00:22:58,600 --> 00:23:01,439 Speaker 1: and as that photograph for gets the experience, they're going 501 00:23:01,480 --> 00:23:04,000 Speaker 1: to continue to raise their rates. Man. That's exactly what 502 00:23:04,040 --> 00:23:05,840 Speaker 1: we did. We had a lot of folks that locked 503 00:23:05,920 --> 00:23:08,000 Speaker 1: us in when we first started, and man, we were 504 00:23:08,080 --> 00:23:10,760 Speaker 1: raising our rates three or four times a year. And 505 00:23:10,880 --> 00:23:12,960 Speaker 1: there are some weddings where we're shooting a year later 506 00:23:13,200 --> 00:23:15,800 Speaker 1: and a couple of had booked us super early, and 507 00:23:15,840 --> 00:23:17,760 Speaker 1: you know what, they were getting a heck of a 508 00:23:17,800 --> 00:23:20,280 Speaker 1: deal because we were charging more than double what we're 509 00:23:20,359 --> 00:23:22,520 Speaker 1: charging at the time when they booked. So catch them 510 00:23:22,520 --> 00:23:24,160 Speaker 1: on the ground floor, that's what you're saying. Yeah, yeah, 511 00:23:24,160 --> 00:23:26,840 Speaker 1: buying low and sell high. Right. It's hard to know 512 00:23:26,960 --> 00:23:29,280 Speaker 1: exactly what the trajectory is going to be for a 513 00:23:29,280 --> 00:23:31,680 Speaker 1: photographer in their career, but look at the work, meet 514 00:23:31,720 --> 00:23:33,720 Speaker 1: with them. If you connect on a personal level and 515 00:23:33,720 --> 00:23:35,399 Speaker 1: if you like the images, you just gotta go with 516 00:23:35,400 --> 00:23:39,240 Speaker 1: your gut. Another main consideration for folks is flowers, and 517 00:23:39,320 --> 00:23:42,840 Speaker 1: it's definitely worth considering a local flower shop to kind 518 00:23:42,840 --> 00:23:45,440 Speaker 1: of help d i y your flower situation at your wedding. 519 00:23:45,600 --> 00:23:48,440 Speaker 1: You can also consider going to Trader Joe's or Kroger 520 00:23:48,600 --> 00:23:51,119 Speaker 1: even and loading up on some flowers from the flower 521 00:23:51,160 --> 00:23:54,199 Speaker 1: section and creating your own flower arrangements. One thing that 522 00:23:54,240 --> 00:23:56,200 Speaker 1: Emily and I did when we got married was we 523 00:23:56,320 --> 00:23:59,679 Speaker 1: created paper flowers crafty. Yes, so it's kind of crafty. 524 00:23:59,720 --> 00:24:02,920 Speaker 1: It was unique, it was different, and it was cheap, 525 00:24:03,280 --> 00:24:05,280 Speaker 1: and so that was kind of a nice fun way 526 00:24:05,359 --> 00:24:08,000 Speaker 1: to do our center pieces. It created the effect we 527 00:24:08,000 --> 00:24:09,600 Speaker 1: were going for, and you know, we saved a lot 528 00:24:09,640 --> 00:24:11,040 Speaker 1: of money in the process. You know, what, do you 529 00:24:11,080 --> 00:24:12,880 Speaker 1: guys still have those around. I remember when we first 530 00:24:12,920 --> 00:24:14,720 Speaker 1: met you guys, y'all had some of those around your house. 531 00:24:14,840 --> 00:24:17,200 Speaker 1: You use them to decorate your place? Yeah, no, they're 532 00:24:17,200 --> 00:24:20,880 Speaker 1: all gone out. Our kids probably ate them smashed up. 533 00:24:21,680 --> 00:24:23,240 Speaker 1: But but yeah, I think for a while it was 534 00:24:23,280 --> 00:24:25,159 Speaker 1: kind of fun to decorate with some of our wedding stuff. 535 00:24:25,200 --> 00:24:26,760 Speaker 1: But at this point, man, I don't know where any 536 00:24:26,760 --> 00:24:28,800 Speaker 1: of that stuff is. And so, yeah, a local flower 537 00:24:28,800 --> 00:24:31,359 Speaker 1: shop is is going to be awesome for the personal flowers, 538 00:24:31,359 --> 00:24:34,920 Speaker 1: so like mutineers and bouquet's and even flower arrangements on 539 00:24:34,920 --> 00:24:37,040 Speaker 1: on tables and whatnot. However, you're not going to be 540 00:24:37,080 --> 00:24:40,080 Speaker 1: able to use them though for like large flower installations 541 00:24:40,320 --> 00:24:42,359 Speaker 1: um or you know, like the arches that go across 542 00:24:42,400 --> 00:24:44,280 Speaker 1: at the front of the ceremony site, that that sort 543 00:24:44,280 --> 00:24:45,879 Speaker 1: of thing. If that's the case, you're gonna want to 544 00:24:45,920 --> 00:24:49,600 Speaker 1: find an affordable local florists who specializes in weddings. Matt 545 00:24:49,600 --> 00:24:51,560 Speaker 1: Phillis him on whether you need like a day of 546 00:24:51,920 --> 00:24:55,640 Speaker 1: coordinator person for your wedding too. Yeah, you may not need, 547 00:24:56,160 --> 00:24:58,639 Speaker 1: you know, an actual full wedding planner if it's a 548 00:24:58,680 --> 00:25:00,879 Speaker 1: really small wedding or if it's really simple. You know, 549 00:25:00,880 --> 00:25:03,200 Speaker 1: if you've got say around fifty guests, and the ceremony 550 00:25:03,200 --> 00:25:05,240 Speaker 1: and reception are going to be all on the same location. 551 00:25:06,000 --> 00:25:09,119 Speaker 1: You may not need a full wedding planner, however, I 552 00:25:09,200 --> 00:25:12,040 Speaker 1: think almost all weddings should have a day of coordinator. 553 00:25:12,480 --> 00:25:14,560 Speaker 1: This is the person that's on site making the last 554 00:25:14,600 --> 00:25:17,840 Speaker 1: minute decisions. They're the person that's normally like being loaded 555 00:25:17,880 --> 00:25:20,119 Speaker 1: up with all the stress from the day. It's essentially 556 00:25:20,160 --> 00:25:22,400 Speaker 1: a way to pay somebody for you to be able 557 00:25:22,440 --> 00:25:24,200 Speaker 1: to enjoy your wedding even more so than you'd be 558 00:25:24,240 --> 00:25:25,960 Speaker 1: able to. And if you were the one being asked, 559 00:25:26,000 --> 00:25:27,560 Speaker 1: you know, where do I go? Or how is this 560 00:25:27,600 --> 00:25:30,400 Speaker 1: supposed to be set up? These are a lot of questions, uh, 561 00:25:30,400 --> 00:25:33,600 Speaker 1: and there's just always these last minute things that arise. Yeah, 562 00:25:33,640 --> 00:25:35,440 Speaker 1: you don't want to be working on your wedding day. 563 00:25:35,600 --> 00:25:39,639 Speaker 1: That sucks. So that's definitely something worth outsourcing. And whether 564 00:25:39,680 --> 00:25:41,879 Speaker 1: that means paying for like a big time wedding planner 565 00:25:42,160 --> 00:25:44,480 Speaker 1: or just kind of finding someone that can be the 566 00:25:44,520 --> 00:25:47,000 Speaker 1: point of contact and the decision maker on the day 567 00:25:47,040 --> 00:25:49,800 Speaker 1: of at a more reasonable price point, or even just 568 00:25:49,840 --> 00:25:51,640 Speaker 1: a type a friend that can handle some of those 569 00:25:51,640 --> 00:25:55,240 Speaker 1: basic responsibilities. That's definitely not something you want on your 570 00:25:55,280 --> 00:25:57,720 Speaker 1: plate on your wedding day, and it's almost worth equating 571 00:25:57,760 --> 00:26:01,000 Speaker 1: a full wedding planner to someone that's doing your taxes right. 572 00:26:01,040 --> 00:26:03,280 Speaker 1: Like we've talked before about how you know, the cost 573 00:26:03,320 --> 00:26:05,000 Speaker 1: of a c p A might be worth it because 574 00:26:05,040 --> 00:26:06,880 Speaker 1: the savings that they would be able to bring you 575 00:26:07,200 --> 00:26:10,480 Speaker 1: and your taxes would more than cover their fee. The 576 00:26:10,480 --> 00:26:12,919 Speaker 1: same thing applies for some planners. I mean, they're pros. 577 00:26:13,040 --> 00:26:15,200 Speaker 1: They know are questions to ask, they know how things run, 578 00:26:15,480 --> 00:26:17,240 Speaker 1: and they know how to get the deals, and so 579 00:26:17,359 --> 00:26:19,840 Speaker 1: a good planner is well worth it. Matt. Another way 580 00:26:19,840 --> 00:26:22,560 Speaker 1: that you can plan a wedding without going broke is 581 00:26:22,600 --> 00:26:26,360 Speaker 1: by communicating well with your partner. And this is honestly 582 00:26:26,440 --> 00:26:29,000 Speaker 1: probably the most difficult thing to continue to do along 583 00:26:29,000 --> 00:26:31,680 Speaker 1: the way. You're starting life together and you've each got 584 00:26:31,720 --> 00:26:34,560 Speaker 1: ideas of wedding grandeur in your head, and as you 585 00:26:34,840 --> 00:26:38,679 Speaker 1: move along, you forget to keep those lines of communication open, 586 00:26:39,080 --> 00:26:42,080 Speaker 1: and so more fights kind of pop up sometimes during 587 00:26:42,080 --> 00:26:44,840 Speaker 1: wedding planning. For for couples, if you are the one 588 00:26:44,880 --> 00:26:47,320 Speaker 1: who tends to be more frugal in the relationship, you 589 00:26:47,400 --> 00:26:49,479 Speaker 1: might need to compromise just a little bit, because this 590 00:26:49,640 --> 00:26:51,760 Speaker 1: is a special day, but at the same time, if 591 00:26:51,760 --> 00:26:54,160 Speaker 1: you want to make sure that you're starting off your 592 00:26:54,200 --> 00:26:57,560 Speaker 1: life together on the right financial foot, communicating ahead of 593 00:26:57,560 --> 00:27:00,680 Speaker 1: time before you spend gobs of money on your wedding day, 594 00:27:00,880 --> 00:27:03,560 Speaker 1: it's a really important conversation to have, not just once, 595 00:27:03,640 --> 00:27:06,400 Speaker 1: but continue to have as you plan your wedding out. 596 00:27:06,800 --> 00:27:09,920 Speaker 1: Another thing to consider is to give yourself actually less 597 00:27:10,000 --> 00:27:12,800 Speaker 1: time to plan. That might sound weird, but typically the 598 00:27:12,880 --> 00:27:15,399 Speaker 1: further away you set your wedding date, the longer you 599 00:27:15,480 --> 00:27:18,080 Speaker 1: have to fret about the details, and the easier it 600 00:27:18,200 --> 00:27:20,920 Speaker 1: is to spend more money on your wedding. So if 601 00:27:20,960 --> 00:27:24,840 Speaker 1: you create a shorter window of wedding planning, the likelihood 602 00:27:24,920 --> 00:27:27,280 Speaker 1: is you're gonna spend less money overall too. And one 603 00:27:27,280 --> 00:27:30,040 Speaker 1: more thing we would recommend you to consider buying your 604 00:27:30,119 --> 00:27:34,360 Speaker 1: wedding decor and other items used. You can buy wedding dresses, 605 00:27:34,480 --> 00:27:39,320 Speaker 1: decre backdrops, just all sorts of wedding related things that 606 00:27:39,400 --> 00:27:42,080 Speaker 1: someone else has already paid full price on. So there's 607 00:27:42,080 --> 00:27:45,720 Speaker 1: different sites like wedding recycle dot Com or Bravo bride 608 00:27:46,160 --> 00:27:47,879 Speaker 1: Trades as well. You can buy a lot of wedding 609 00:27:47,920 --> 00:27:51,240 Speaker 1: to core up there, but let somebody else take that hit, right. Yeah, 610 00:27:51,320 --> 00:27:54,040 Speaker 1: it's gotta be like the equivalent of buying a new car, right, Matt, 611 00:27:54,080 --> 00:27:56,320 Speaker 1: where you take that huge hit driving off the lot. 612 00:27:56,440 --> 00:27:59,119 Speaker 1: Same thing with wedding items. Yeah, there's a certain amount 613 00:27:59,119 --> 00:28:02,359 Speaker 1: of depreciation that happens immediately upon use. Yeah. And if 614 00:28:02,359 --> 00:28:05,040 Speaker 1: you don't want to wear a used wedding dress, there 615 00:28:05,040 --> 00:28:08,200 Speaker 1: are so many more affordable ways to get a wedding 616 00:28:08,280 --> 00:28:10,399 Speaker 1: dress these days than there used to be. And the 617 00:28:10,440 --> 00:28:13,440 Speaker 1: same thing with men's apparel. Oftentimes, lots of guys are 618 00:28:13,560 --> 00:28:16,440 Speaker 1: wearing suits these days, so their groomsmen can wear those 619 00:28:16,440 --> 00:28:19,400 Speaker 1: suits again, as opposed to paying a one time kind 620 00:28:19,400 --> 00:28:22,240 Speaker 1: of exorbitant rental feef for a tuxedo. Yeah, and for 621 00:28:22,280 --> 00:28:24,760 Speaker 1: a tuxedo that doesn't fit you well at all. I 622 00:28:24,800 --> 00:28:27,440 Speaker 1: really dislike the tux rentals. I mean, it's a part 623 00:28:27,440 --> 00:28:29,439 Speaker 1: of the industry, but it doesn't have to be. And 624 00:28:29,480 --> 00:28:31,479 Speaker 1: that's what's so good about I think the way that 625 00:28:31,520 --> 00:28:34,560 Speaker 1: we're approaching weddings is that focus on what's important to you. 626 00:28:35,000 --> 00:28:37,879 Speaker 1: If say you're really into fashion, man, maybe splurge and 627 00:28:37,920 --> 00:28:40,240 Speaker 1: get that nicer dress or get that nicer suit, But 628 00:28:40,280 --> 00:28:42,400 Speaker 1: that might mean that you're spending less money on some 629 00:28:42,440 --> 00:28:44,520 Speaker 1: of the other aspects of the wedding that aren't important 630 00:28:44,520 --> 00:28:47,120 Speaker 1: to you, make it your own. Yeah, I think it's important, 631 00:28:47,160 --> 00:28:49,640 Speaker 1: Matt for folks not too cheap out, but also not 632 00:28:49,720 --> 00:28:52,040 Speaker 1: to blow it out either. This is an important day, 633 00:28:52,080 --> 00:28:54,280 Speaker 1: but it's also not a day worth going into dead 634 00:28:54,320 --> 00:28:58,480 Speaker 1: over or completely stressing out yourself and your entire family over. 635 00:28:58,760 --> 00:29:00,480 Speaker 1: That's right, man, you wanna take us back of the beer. 636 00:29:00,880 --> 00:29:04,000 Speaker 1: So today we drank juice pack double dry hopped pale 637 00:29:04,000 --> 00:29:07,400 Speaker 1: Ale by Toughs Brewery. They're out of Texas, and this 638 00:29:07,440 --> 00:29:10,200 Speaker 1: beer had some nice citrus and fruity notes. It was 639 00:29:10,200 --> 00:29:13,840 Speaker 1: pretty much exactly as advertised, kind of tasted like hoppy 640 00:29:13,920 --> 00:29:16,040 Speaker 1: juice pack. Yeah, man, it's been a minute since we've 641 00:29:16,040 --> 00:29:19,200 Speaker 1: had a pale ale on, especially something double dry hopped. Right. 642 00:29:19,200 --> 00:29:20,440 Speaker 1: I don't know if you've ever had a double dry 643 00:29:20,480 --> 00:29:23,560 Speaker 1: hopped pale ale on the show, but easy drinking for 644 00:29:23,600 --> 00:29:25,400 Speaker 1: me this is it gets me kind of fired up 645 00:29:25,400 --> 00:29:27,760 Speaker 1: and ramped up for some warmer weather here soon. It 646 00:29:27,840 --> 00:29:30,480 Speaker 1: certainly had some of that hot presence in that hot punch, 647 00:29:30,560 --> 00:29:32,920 Speaker 1: but yeah, enough fruit to make it easy drinking. So 648 00:29:33,280 --> 00:29:35,440 Speaker 1: if you know you like pale ales, maybe it's time 649 00:29:35,480 --> 00:29:38,760 Speaker 1: to graduate to some double dry hopped pale ales. Yes, 650 00:29:38,840 --> 00:29:40,760 Speaker 1: So for folks who don't know what dry hopping is, 651 00:29:40,920 --> 00:29:43,800 Speaker 1: usually that means that the brewer adds a secondary round 652 00:29:43,800 --> 00:29:46,240 Speaker 1: of hops later on in the brewing process, and that 653 00:29:46,320 --> 00:29:49,040 Speaker 1: actually kind of creates a little bit more more than 654 00:29:49,040 --> 00:29:51,680 Speaker 1: anything of that aroma that comes off the beer. And 655 00:29:51,720 --> 00:29:54,160 Speaker 1: so yeah, this beer definitely when we opened it and 656 00:29:54,160 --> 00:29:55,640 Speaker 1: when we poured it in the glass, it kind of 657 00:29:55,680 --> 00:29:57,920 Speaker 1: hit us in the nose. And I think that's why 658 00:29:58,040 --> 00:30:01,800 Speaker 1: it truly felt like a pack. Right, Like the beer 659 00:30:01,840 --> 00:30:03,800 Speaker 1: commercials where they've got the brewers with their hands and 660 00:30:03,800 --> 00:30:06,400 Speaker 1: the hops and they're burying their face in it sniffing it, 661 00:30:06,600 --> 00:30:09,560 Speaker 1: that's kind of how this beer drinks. And I love that. Yeah, 662 00:30:09,600 --> 00:30:12,240 Speaker 1: So thanks to our listener Jake in Texas for sending 663 00:30:12,320 --> 00:30:14,880 Speaker 1: us this beer as well. All right, Joel, it is 664 00:30:14,920 --> 00:30:17,400 Speaker 1: time now for our final thoughts. And you know, there 665 00:30:17,440 --> 00:30:20,160 Speaker 1: are so many things that we did not discuss, Like 666 00:30:20,200 --> 00:30:22,480 Speaker 1: there are just lots of ways, lots of small ways 667 00:30:22,520 --> 00:30:24,680 Speaker 1: that really add up where you can save money. But 668 00:30:24,880 --> 00:30:27,200 Speaker 1: we're kind of focusing today on the big things, right, 669 00:30:27,240 --> 00:30:29,680 Speaker 1: just like in our monthly budgets, we tend to focus 670 00:30:29,720 --> 00:30:32,560 Speaker 1: on the big things like housing, transportation, food like those 671 00:30:32,560 --> 00:30:34,920 Speaker 1: are the things that have the largest impact on our budget. 672 00:30:35,280 --> 00:30:37,000 Speaker 1: And when it comes to budgeting for a wedding, there's 673 00:30:37,000 --> 00:30:40,160 Speaker 1: just a few big things that have the largest impact 674 00:30:40,280 --> 00:30:42,320 Speaker 1: on your wedding budgets, and that's what we talked about 675 00:30:42,360 --> 00:30:44,720 Speaker 1: on this episode. But before we get to those sort 676 00:30:44,760 --> 00:30:47,400 Speaker 1: of big ticket items, you need to prioritize with your 677 00:30:47,400 --> 00:30:50,200 Speaker 1: partner and decide what it is that you want your 678 00:30:50,280 --> 00:30:51,719 Speaker 1: day to feel like and what you want it to 679 00:30:51,760 --> 00:30:54,440 Speaker 1: look like. And please keep in mind that you can 680 00:30:54,480 --> 00:30:57,720 Speaker 1: skip tradition. You need to focus on the aspects of 681 00:30:57,800 --> 00:30:59,800 Speaker 1: the wedding that are going to be most important to you. 682 00:31:00,800 --> 00:31:03,880 Speaker 1: One of the biggest line atoms where that wedding budget 683 00:31:03,920 --> 00:31:06,560 Speaker 1: is typically going to go is for the location of 684 00:31:06,560 --> 00:31:08,840 Speaker 1: the wedding. You can make a massive dent in the 685 00:31:08,880 --> 00:31:11,640 Speaker 1: overall cost of your wedding by picking a more affordable 686 00:31:11,640 --> 00:31:15,000 Speaker 1: location and also by having the ceremony and the reception 687 00:31:15,120 --> 00:31:17,400 Speaker 1: in the same event space and don't forget to venue 688 00:31:17,440 --> 00:31:18,920 Speaker 1: that it will allow you to b y O B 689 00:31:19,160 --> 00:31:22,800 Speaker 1: as well, and also man guest counts. Keep in mind 690 00:31:22,880 --> 00:31:25,280 Speaker 1: that every single person you invite to your wedding you're 691 00:31:25,320 --> 00:31:27,560 Speaker 1: gonna have to pay for and if you're looking at 692 00:31:28,040 --> 00:31:32,040 Speaker 1: prices anywhere between fifty and seventy dollars ahead, that really 693 00:31:32,120 --> 00:31:34,720 Speaker 1: adds up. So make sure that every person who you 694 00:31:34,760 --> 00:31:37,640 Speaker 1: are actually inviting to your wedding that you actually want 695 00:31:37,640 --> 00:31:39,719 Speaker 1: them to be there, and that you're not just inviting 696 00:31:39,760 --> 00:31:43,200 Speaker 1: them they're out of obligation. Sorry, and you just didn't 697 00:31:43,200 --> 00:31:46,600 Speaker 1: make the cut. Ultimately, though, your wedding is an incredibly 698 00:31:46,600 --> 00:31:49,160 Speaker 1: special day and you want to make it feel special, 699 00:31:49,280 --> 00:31:52,320 Speaker 1: but it doesn't take necessarily a ton of money in 700 00:31:52,440 --> 00:31:55,120 Speaker 1: order to make that happen. Like we said earlier, don't 701 00:31:55,200 --> 00:31:57,600 Speaker 1: cheap out, but don't blow it out either. You're gonna 702 00:31:57,600 --> 00:32:00,520 Speaker 1: look back on this day with fondness byron membering it 703 00:32:00,600 --> 00:32:03,440 Speaker 1: with your partner and the other people that you enjoyed 704 00:32:03,480 --> 00:32:06,640 Speaker 1: it with. It's not worth going into debt even for 705 00:32:06,680 --> 00:32:09,200 Speaker 1: a day as special as a wedding. And just like 706 00:32:09,280 --> 00:32:12,040 Speaker 1: we do with our finances every single day, we focus 707 00:32:12,160 --> 00:32:14,520 Speaker 1: on the aspects that are important to us, the things 708 00:32:14,560 --> 00:32:16,840 Speaker 1: that we actually care about, and then we find ways 709 00:32:16,880 --> 00:32:19,160 Speaker 1: to cut back on the areas that we don't care about, 710 00:32:19,160 --> 00:32:21,360 Speaker 1: the things that don't matter. In the same way, you 711 00:32:21,400 --> 00:32:22,920 Speaker 1: want your wedding to be a reflection of you and 712 00:32:22,920 --> 00:32:25,320 Speaker 1: your personality as a couple, and so make sure the 713 00:32:25,360 --> 00:32:28,880 Speaker 1: money that you spend reflects that. And before our wrap up, man, 714 00:32:28,920 --> 00:32:30,960 Speaker 1: I want to do a quick thanks to Bree Owens 715 00:32:31,080 --> 00:32:34,840 Speaker 1: of chaincy Charm Atlanta. She helped us out with this 716 00:32:34,920 --> 00:32:37,840 Speaker 1: episode and gave us some great tips. So Brie, thank 717 00:32:37,840 --> 00:32:40,600 Speaker 1: you so much. And as always, you can find show 718 00:32:40,640 --> 00:32:42,960 Speaker 1: notes at how to money dot com. For this episode 719 00:32:42,960 --> 00:32:45,000 Speaker 1: will have links to all those important websites that we 720 00:32:45,040 --> 00:32:47,280 Speaker 1: mentioned during the show. 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