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Speaker 1: share a last name. This is It was posted on Reddit, actually,

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Speaker 1: which is where I get. You know, people think that

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Speaker 1: the elevator on the way up, and sometimes it sounds

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Speaker 1: like it that little screen that says captivating gives me

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Speaker 2: And I'm like, this is perfect, It's all I need.

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Speaker 3: This is great.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna get in the Hall of Fame for sure

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Speaker 1: this way and then and then I do the show.

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Speaker 1: But no, it's Reddit is really the secret, It really is,

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Speaker 1: except it can get real weird on there, so I

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Speaker 1: an alien topic on there this morning. There's some conspiracy theories,

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Speaker 1: a recent visit to pick up her daughter from a

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Speaker 1: who confronted her about the name change. And here's the quote,

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Speaker 1: going back to the Reddit post, she told me that

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Speaker 1: her and my ex want to get married, but the

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Speaker 1: changed my last name back. The ex wife wrote about this,

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Speaker 1: so she said that essentially she needs the ex has

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Speaker 2: That's the hold up. That's not the hold up. No, girl,

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Speaker 2: that's not the hold up. That's not why it is.

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Speaker 1: Due is not proposing to you because many people can

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Speaker 2: Yes, and in fact, I think it's pretty common.

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Speaker 1: You know, people get married, they change their last name,

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Speaker 1: they get divorced, They're like, I'm not changing my name again,

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Speaker 2: My kids had the last name. We'll just keep it whatever.

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Speaker 1: You know, some people do change your last name back,

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Speaker 1: but then their kids would have a different last name

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Speaker 1: because oftentimes the father's last name is the one that

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Speaker 1: what it is? Well, it has nothing to do with

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Speaker 1: getting married and not getting married. No, you don't own it.

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Speaker 4: No, absolutely not. Girl, he line to you. If that's

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Speaker 2: I would not bother you.

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Speaker 1: So no, go ahead ahead eight five, five, five nine

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Speaker 1: I mean, if a guy said to you or a girl,

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Speaker 1: I guess in this case, it would be the guy

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Speaker 2: To you, uh, yeah, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I really want you to have my last

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Speaker 4: They have children, correct, right, this couple, You know, I

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Speaker 1: This sounds like some weird possessive this thing and control thing.

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Speaker 1: And I guess if I if I were marrying somebody

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Speaker 1: Like if you want to get married, fine, if you

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Speaker 1: No, you know, it's like people that want you to

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Speaker 2: We're moving forward together, right, yeah, for sure?

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Speaker 1: And then if I'm if I'm the girl and the

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Speaker 1: What would you all agree? Are we all like a

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Speaker 1: if I'm the ex wife, I'm changing the kids' names

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Speaker 1: But she doesn't want to change your name and she's

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Speaker 1: I'm not doing it for you, And what does it

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Speaker 2: Look at it, like you can't take that from me.

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Speaker 1: If he didn't care that the first wife didn't have

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Speaker 1: Which is why I wonder if it's her and not him,

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Speaker 5: I feel like it's it's her, and I feel like

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Speaker 5: that's a huge red flag, Like what if something that

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Speaker 2: She cares about something that does not matter at all? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: What else do we have to what else do we

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm I don't know, I'm out on her. I

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't know her, but I'm out. At one

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Speaker 5: now it's were out. I'm moving on. We're completely out

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Speaker 5: all this marriage talk. Are you're going to have Kiki

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Speaker 2: Well? Oh no, girl? Are you taking his name? Yes?

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Speaker 2: On social media?

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Speaker 4: Name Yeah, no, no, no, I'll change my Facebook. I add

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Speaker 2: But what about what about on like legal documents?

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Speaker 6: we're pump faking a little bit. No, well he knows

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Speaker 6: it now, Tanya. Oh boy, you've been Tana.

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Speaker 2: You know what. That's what it says. I'm sorry, should

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Speaker 2: have read the fanatics. It's Friday. I apologize. I love you.

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Speaker 2: So you've met in this situation, this exact thing. Please.

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Speaker 7: So I got married in nineteen had a kid, and

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Speaker 7: you know whatever. I didn't necessarily want it. But his

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Speaker 7: my last name and I said no, this is before

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Speaker 7: they obviously got married. And I said no. I said,

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Speaker 7: if he didn't want me to have his last name,

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Speaker 7: and then he should have thought about that before he

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Speaker 2: Period.

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Speaker 1: So this woman wanted to be the only one that

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Speaker 2: You've already been married to him. It happened. It's done, right, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: get over it. Yeah exactly. Okay, So what happened and

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Speaker 8: We had a child with it with I had a

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Speaker 8: child with him, and I'm like, I'm not changing my

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Speaker 9: Oh boy, And I kept his last name for like

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Speaker 1: Okay, well it's gonna confusing now, So Tanya, I need

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Speaker 1: bit here to see where everyone's going. We've got three husbands,

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Speaker 1: we've got two wives, we got three lives. No, it does, no,

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Speaker 1: there's no judgment. I'm just I'm just trying to make

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Speaker 2: Your last name.

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Speaker 1: She still married him and then she took the name,

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Speaker 7: If he only wanted one person to have his last name,

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Speaker 3: That before he married me or divorced me.

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Speaker 1: And then the second time and the third right, Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 7: Maybe actually, maybe try to work on your marriage before

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Speaker 2: Somebody, you know what. Maybe, So Tanya, thank you have.

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Speaker 9: A good day, and can you tell.

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Speaker 1: Me maybe don't I love you too? Maybe don't just

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Speaker 1: be out here giving out your last name like it's nothing, right, Jillian, Hey,

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Speaker 1: you're saying to girlfriend Ululu here.

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Speaker 2: I think we all agree on that, right, Oh yeah, definitely. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I mean what would you do in this situation. You'd

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Speaker 1: be like, no, I'm not changing it. If you were

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Speaker 1: the ex, You're not doing anything for this person.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, changing your name is just a total tain and

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Speaker 3: she's not part of your life, so screw it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm not going to do it for you.

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Speaker 1: You know, like if I were going to do it,

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Speaker 1: I would have done it before. I'm not going to

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Speaker 2: It's just a name.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Unfortunately, I think the girlfriend really is like in

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Speaker 3: FLEs that were clearly.

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Speaker 1: In front for her.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I think so too. Thank you, Jillian. Have a

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Speaker 2: good day, you do.

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Speaker 1: If someone texted pay me, it's gonna be like if

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