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Speaker 2: from the sponsors that keep this show running. My best

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Speaker 2: friend planned her birthday at a spicy club and got

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Speaker 2: mad when I refused.

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Speaker 3: Because we're all fam at the club.

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Speaker 2: I am twenty eight and engaged to a great man

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Speaker 2: the same age as me. We've been dating since we

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Speaker 2: were sixteen and got engaged at twenty four, four years ago.

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Speaker 3: Oh almost a decade, not at all, it's only oh oh,

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Speaker 3: I know, I thought you were talking about the four years.

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Speaker 3: I was like, huh, math has entered the chant.

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Speaker 2: I see, they've been together for sixteen. I have a

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Speaker 2: best friend, Angela, who's also twenty eight. She's a woman

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Speaker 2: as well as me.

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Speaker 3: I'm Sophia, I'm Riley, I'm sleepy, and we're here to give.

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Speaker 2: Good of ice, goofy and sleepily. But if you have

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Speaker 2: comments and op sys Anteona has barely grown out of

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Speaker 2: the high school mentality. She still acts like she did

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Speaker 2: back then, clubbing every weekend. She was clubbing every weekend

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Speaker 2: in high school.

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Speaker 3: Y'ah, girl, you weren't hooking.

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Speaker 2: Up every weekend in high school?

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Speaker 4: Yeah yeah, sorry, you went to a Catholic private school.

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Speaker 5: He did all girls I did.

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Speaker 2: I wasn't clubbing every weekend, always out with friends new

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Speaker 2: and old. She never had a boyfriend or girlfriend. She

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Speaker 2: only has had situationships, so she doesn't know how commitment works. Dang,

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Speaker 2: do you even like your friend?

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Speaker 3: Yes, it is. I got for a night, fine guy,

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Speaker 3: and we do it. That's commitment.

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Speaker 4: Samba samba saba sama fama sounds like Spanish, Tony, I.

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Speaker 2: Don't judge her for that, since she seems fine with

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Speaker 2: her life and I'm happy that my friends are being themselves.

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Speaker 2: You do judge her. You said she has no idea

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Speaker 2: what commitment is. That's judgment, and I get to be

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Speaker 2: myself despite having different interests. Lately, I had my suspicions

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Speaker 2: that Angela believes that she still comes before my fiance

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Speaker 2: just because we were each other's number one priority in

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Speaker 2: high school? What does she mean by I think she

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Speaker 2: means that she's first in Op's life. I tried to

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Speaker 2: slip in multiple times without being confrontational, that my fiance

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Speaker 2: and I are going to be a family soon, and

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Speaker 2: how he's my priority and so on, just to get

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Speaker 2: the message across without having some uncomfortable conversation.

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Speaker 3: Oh great, good luck doing that with a high schooler.

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Speaker 2: She didn't seem to get it, though.

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Speaker 3: She's like, I don't understand why.

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Speaker 2: I did understand.

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Speaker 5: What's marriage?

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Speaker 2: And something dramatic ended up happening.

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Speaker 3: Oh, no drama.

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Speaker 2: Angela's birthday was two days ago and she planned on

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Speaker 2: having a celebration tomorrow night. The place she picked was

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Speaker 2: a male spicycleb I texted her and told her I

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Speaker 2: wouldn't feel comfortable to attend because spicy clubs cross my

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Speaker 2: and my fiance's boundaries. It's not because we don't trust

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Speaker 2: each other, but we just don't feel comfortable with that

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Speaker 3: Wow, he's so insecure.

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Speaker 2: Anybody who knows about this boundary has told us it's

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Speaker 2: a normal boundary.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he's so insecure.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you should dump him. That's it. It's Angela or

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Speaker 2: bust he not trusts you.

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Speaker 4: Like, yeah, it's Angela, or you're or what I don't know,

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Speaker 4: I'm sleeping.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what I freaking thought. Break up, Like we're

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Speaker 2: gonna go wrap. Angela said that I would be stupid

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Speaker 2: to imply that I'll skip her birthday skip it. I

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Speaker 2: said that we could hang out the two of us someday,

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Speaker 2: someday in the future I don't know when, and go

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Speaker 2: for drinks. But I just don't feel comfortable attending a

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Speaker 2: specic club, she said. But I'm your best friend. You're

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Speaker 2: not gonna skip your best friend's birthday? Are you to

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Speaker 3: Just look at the ceiling the whole time?

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Speaker 2: What if we put you on in blinders, little horse blinders? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I could only look at her.

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Speaker 3: Oh, don't put it. Yeah that's good. I would say,

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Speaker 3: not a blindfold, because that might give off the wrong end.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, like the horse.

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Speaker 5: It's like me when I go to a scary movie,

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Speaker 5: I'm just gonna look down. I should always look at

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Speaker 3: No, if you look down, there's a possibility of a

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Speaker 5: So I always look at my feet because guess what,

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Speaker 5: guess what's down there?

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Speaker 3: Your feet?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: In reality, don't go pee. You don't have to go,

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Speaker 2: I said, sadly, I'll skip it, but I insisted on

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Speaker 2: an alternative for another day. She got disappointed and said

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Speaker 2: she didn't expect me to ever put a man's knees

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Speaker 2: over our friendship. I reminded her, he's my fianceet.

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Speaker 5: She's like, what is that? You keep saying that word?

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Speaker 2: What is a fiance? I don't speak French.

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Speaker 3: All I know is hook up.

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Speaker 2: She argued that him being a fiance of mine doesn't

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Speaker 2: mean he deserves special treatment over her. I told her

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Speaker 2: that's exactly what that means. And I reminded her that

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Speaker 2: she's not equal to my fiance anymore in such situations,

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Speaker 2: because he's the person and I'm gonna marry and have

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Speaker 2: a family with and he's my number one priority. And

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Speaker 2: she's like, but I was your day one.

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Speaker 3: Damn that's true. That is your day one.

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Speaker 2: And now that day has come to an end. I

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Speaker 2: probably shouldn't have said that, because she claims I'm the

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Speaker 2: a hole and I replaced her when I used to

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Speaker 2: have her as my number one tough. I apologize for

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Speaker 2: that phrasing and try to explain what I meant, but

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Speaker 2: she wasn't having it and said I should go correct

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Speaker 2: and might Beyonce And she doesn't need my fake apology. Man,

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Speaker 2: I didn't mean to hurt her feelings. I just felt

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Speaker 2: like she was pushing me and had a one sided

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Speaker 2: competition with my fiance, and I said that, am I

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Speaker 2: the a hole? And we've got an update? But what

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Speaker 2: do you think?

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Speaker 3: It is your favorite dogs last day on earth? All right? Uh?

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Speaker 2: Huh?

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Speaker 3: Think from this perspective, Yeah, aren't you gonna take it

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Speaker 3: out to walk? Take it out for a nice steak, chocolate,

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Speaker 3: give us some chocolate. Yeah, wouldn't you do that one

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Speaker 3: last time?

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Speaker 2: If it was her last on earth? Maybe we can talk.

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Speaker 3: Well, this is dog, but after this day, yeah, after

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Speaker 3: we were to this party, this will be her last

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Speaker 3: day being your day one. I don't know, because you

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Speaker 3: have to transition your priorities to.

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Speaker 5: My dog doesn't talk back to me.

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Speaker 2: So, yeah, your dog is pretty nice personally. I think

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Speaker 2: it's pretty obvious you should go. No, you shouldn't go.

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Speaker 5: That's what you should do, Opie. You should invite your fiance.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, you say, I will only go if my

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Speaker 2: fiance goes. I will give Angela. It is hard when

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Speaker 2: you're single and you have like friends that you've been

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Speaker 2: friends with all your life, and then you kind of

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Speaker 2: drop down. That is hard, and you're at you have

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Speaker 2: different priorities and you still see them as the most

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Speaker 2: you know. It's like when you're best friend, like your

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Speaker 2: best friend, you are not your best friend's best friend.

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Speaker 2: That's that's how that feels. And that's tough, but just

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Speaker 2: how life goes. And maybe we can have another talk

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Speaker 2: and she can figure that out.

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Speaker 3: Update.

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Speaker 2: So I come here with an update, and the problem

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Speaker 2: is totally behind us now.

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Speaker 3: Oh okay, oh wow, because you've dropped her.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she's behind us now. We don't talk to her.

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Speaker 2: She was the one to call me and apologized for

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Speaker 3: Oh. I was not seeing that coming.

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Speaker 2: You know what I believed. She said that she's scared

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Speaker 2: she's gonna lose me because we've been friends for almost

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Speaker 2: two decades and she doesn't want our friendship to stop

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Speaker 2: existing all And there you go, that's what she was

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Speaker 2: worried about. Go to the strip club she's like, that's

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Speaker 2: all I want. I told her there's no way that

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Speaker 2: will happen, but as I respect her life choices and

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Speaker 2: I never intervene, she asked to respect my choices as well.

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Speaker 2: I listened to some comments who said I'm judgmental of

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Speaker 2: her lifestyle, and I've decided to ask her if she

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Speaker 2: ever felt that way about me.

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Speaker 4: Ooh.

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Speaker 2: She said, she never felt like I'm judging her, and

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Speaker 2: I'm more accepting of her lifestyle than some of her

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Speaker 3: It means you're doing something wrong.

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Speaker 2: Then they're like, we also do this, but it's just

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Speaker 3: I could see that.

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Speaker 2: She said, I'm not obligated to agree with her lifestyle,

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Speaker 2: and it's her fault. She can't realize how different choices

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Speaker 2: changing her priorities growing up. Well, but now she's realizing,

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Speaker 3: Her problem, Okay, all right, she's realizing.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I told her, it's nobody's fault the ear and as

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Speaker 2: long as she doesn't harm anyone directly, she can't apologize

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Speaker 2: for making different choices about her own life. The bottom

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Speaker 2: line is that she said she'll try to be more

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Speaker 2: understanding of how priorities shift in people's lives, and she

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Speaker 2: admitted that she was shady a few times just to

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Speaker 2: better to her that my fiance being my prior already

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Speaker 2: does not mean I love my friends any less. It

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Speaker 2: just means that since I'm going to share my life

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Speaker 2: with that person, sometimes their comfort will come first when

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Speaker 2: it's about boundaries anyway, I explained in detail what I meant,

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Speaker 2: and that boundaries don't mean I no longer love or

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Speaker 2: respect her, but just like I respect, she's chosen that

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Speaker 2: life for herself. She has to choose, or maybe she

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Speaker 2: has to realize that this is also the life I chose.

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Speaker 2: As long as I don't actively go out of my

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Speaker 2: way to either insult or ghost her just to back

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Speaker 2: my fiance, she has nothing to worry about.

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Speaker 3: Okay, all right, girls are snow still friends.

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Speaker 2: Girls are girl and her party is today, and she

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Speaker 2: decided that we should go have drinks with all the

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Speaker 2: other girls earlier and later. Whoever wants to follow to

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Speaker 2: the Spase Club can go. But she made the plans

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Speaker 2: that way so I could also be included in her

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Speaker 2: birthday celebrations somehow.

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Speaker 3: Oh right, lovely, How do we mature this fast?

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Speaker 2: This is? It was very quick and and I love

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Speaker 2: to say, see that type of growth?

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Speaker 3: What but immediately, what do you need in order to

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Speaker 3: And then the baby comes. After the wedding, Happy, happy,

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Speaker 3: But Opie stands at the door of the Spicy Club

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Speaker 5: Like escort you?

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Speaker 2: Why do these people take it personally? She also never

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Speaker 2: and it's so well okay, all right, Oh oh, it's

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Speaker 3: Whenever we're on Reddit. The only thing Sophia and I

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Speaker 3: What do you think you have a sunburn? You have

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Speaker 3: All right, we're thinking some things. This is what I

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Speaker 2: Time you thought of girl with skirt and crop.

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Speaker 3: I'm thinking. Mean girls.

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Speaker 3: That's it.

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Speaker 2: She doesn't even look mean.

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Speaker 5: You know what that does? Look like the girl with

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Speaker 2: You're right there, we go, okay, now we got it.

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Speaker 3: All right, she's got it. That's what she looks like.

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Speaker 3: Use your words carefully, people, when you explain ideas. My

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Speaker 4: Oh no, there's a cest of something, of some sort

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Speaker 5: There's a cest in this story.

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Speaker 3: I'm a forty year old woman and my best friend,

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Speaker 3: let's call her Tila Tweela. I don't know a Tweela

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Speaker 3: Tweela Tweetla Twela tweet tweet tweet thirty nine years old

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Speaker 3: She's a lovely, beautiful and funny woman, and I have

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Speaker 3: She has a non official husband named Kai forty four

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Speaker 2: Wow, but they've known each other for forty four he's

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Speaker 2: forty four mail. Yeah, because they're related.

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Speaker 3: We don't know that.

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Speaker 5: How old was Tweela? She's thirty.

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Speaker 3: She saw forty nine, thirty nine, thirty nine yep, okright,

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Speaker 3: So it happens that we got wasted at our house

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Speaker 5: Oh no, all right, sah, you close your ears everyone.

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Speaker 3: Oh no, I was actually her older brother, by a

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Speaker 3: Night fifteen. If you want to see own stories, you

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Speaker 3: know where to go. I'm Riley, I'm Sophia.

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Speaker 5: I'm shocked and sleepy, and.

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Speaker 3: We're gonna read this story. Goofily. If you have anything

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Speaker 3: you'd like to add, add them now. They're brother and sisters.

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Speaker 3: Their parents are related.

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Speaker 2: I genuinely that would be the immediate end to a friendship.

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Speaker 3: And I left the house while she called me confused.

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Speaker 2: What do you mean she's confused? Like this woman has issues?

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Speaker 2: She has issues, all right?

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Speaker 5: Cue up the Sweet Home Alabama.

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Speaker 3: Oh brother, I haven't spoken to her since. And my

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Speaker 3: so as not to humiliate her and prevent her from

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, I'm telling everyone.

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Speaker 3: Am I wrong to reject her just because of that secret?

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Speaker 3: And edits?

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Speaker 5: Uh?

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Speaker 2: No, no, I'm sorry. No, I'm not being friends with

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Speaker 4: Sometimes there's a little little white lies. That's fine, like

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Speaker 4: little lies to just like all right, cool, Yeah, that's

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Ooh baby, dude, Like, why'd you ever tell any

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Speaker 3: Yeah? Why do you cut it?

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Speaker 2: You cut off your family or they cut you off?

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Speaker 5: Man?

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Speaker 2: Oh man, Wow.

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Speaker 3: This is horrible.

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Speaker 5: You ask Tweela, Hey, what's your favorite show? Game of Throats?

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Speaker 3: Edit? It's not a harmful relationship as far as I know.

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Speaker 2: It's harming me to know about and if.

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Speaker 3: It turns out to be like that or I find

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Speaker 3: I will probably update. I do not know if she

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Speaker 3: I came to ask, I would prefer to be left alone.

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Speaker 3: I texted Hi to Tweela to talk to her, and

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Speaker 3: we'll Askkurre to meet her and Ki to talk at

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Speaker 3: In that time. We haven't edit.

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Speaker 2: I'm literally never talking to these people ever again.

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Speaker 3: They're my friends forty years.

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Speaker 2: I don't care.

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Speaker 4: This is where I stare at them. I'm like, it

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Speaker 4: was a sick joke, right, This was just a sick joke.

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Speaker 4: This was like we were being just really funny. This

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Speaker 4: you the benefit of the doubt that you're gonna pull

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Speaker 4: It was just a prank, bro, that's it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you have a chance here, you have a chance

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Speaker 2: to take back what you said and.

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Speaker 3: To clarify Full Brother.

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Speaker 2: Full Metal Alchemist.

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Speaker 5: Full Metal Incest.

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Speaker 3: This is happening as we speak. Yeah, what what kind

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Speaker 3: forty four years ago.

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Speaker 2: Oh man, oh man, so gross, so gross.

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Speaker 3: Hello today, I was chatting with him since nine in

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Speaker 3: When we got together, I explained what happened on my

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Speaker 3: When I showed them this post for them to see,

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Speaker 2: Why do you think that you can convince them? Otherwise?

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Speaker 3: Kai felt strange reading so many people questioning him, calling

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Speaker 3: But he didn't get defensive or aggressive. He just signed

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Speaker 2: No, No, you don't get to just I don't gonna go. Ah,

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Speaker 2: these people, they don't get my love.

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Speaker 5: No, he's it's a family matter.

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Speaker 2: They don't understand, they don't understand where we're coming from.

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Speaker 3: Number one, What.

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Speaker 2: Is that? Number one?

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Speaker 5: Why is that number one? Number one? Is you're right?

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Speaker 5: This is bad.

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Speaker 3: The vasectomy thing was because when he was seventeen years old,

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Speaker 2: Genuinely, don't give one flying hoot about whether or not

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Speaker 5: Why is that number one?

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Speaker 2: Well, they're like, oh, well, we can't have genetic copy

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Speaker 5: Don't care.

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Speaker 2: It's not fine. It's not fine.

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Speaker 3: Two Filey said they never did anything spicy related before

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Speaker 3: They were prayer annoyed about their parents doing something against them,

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry that makes it sound like they were interested

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Speaker 3: Three Guy mentions that the theme of the hero complex

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Speaker 3: Soides reading all that about him probably having power over

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Speaker 3: Twila grooming and manipulation, he was thinking of seeking therapy

444
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Speaker 3: for both of them. Imagine being that therapist.

445
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Speaker 2: Yeah, like, huh hi, I just feel like, I, you know,

446
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Speaker 2: I don't know I needed to go to therapy because

447
00:20:54,240 --> 00:20:55,880
Speaker 2: a lot of people on redd it said it wasn't

448
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Speaker 2: okay that I'm dating my sister sister.

449
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Speaker 5: Do we get a family therapy or relationship therapists?

450
00:21:01,960 --> 00:21:04,080
Speaker 2: And I wasn't sure. I wasn't sure what would be

451
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Speaker 2: the best.

452
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Speaker 5: Which is the best one?

453
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Speaker 3: In post keon, can you look up how you can

454
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Speaker 3: prosecute someone for this?

455
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Speaker 5: I don't know what country they're in.

456
00:21:11,680 --> 00:21:15,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, because they're not speak English States.

457
00:21:15,760 --> 00:21:17,840
Speaker 5: I think it's different. I need to know the country

458
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Speaker 5: United Okates.

459
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Speaker 3: Okay, that's what I want to know.

460
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Speaker 2: What's not in the United States?

461
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Speaker 5: Fortunately, why am I googling this?

462
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Speaker 3: Thank you? While I said it wasn't really necessary, that

463
00:21:28,960 --> 00:21:32,080
Speaker 3: they've been fine for years and it doesn't matter, but

464
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Speaker 3: he says it will be for the best. Number four,

465
00:21:35,119 --> 00:21:37,280
Speaker 3: Twili said she is flatter her to see how I

466
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Speaker 3: talk about her, and that she would love to continue

467
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Speaker 3: the friendship with me until the end. No, but if

468
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Speaker 3: I wanted to end the friendship, they would both understand

469
00:21:45,640 --> 00:21:48,000
Speaker 3: and not bother me anymore. I told them that things

470
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Speaker 3: were clearer now and at least the shock had subsidized,

471
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Speaker 3: and that I didn't feel so dizzy. We ended up

472
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Speaker 3: staying as friends again, although Twyla said she will make

473
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Speaker 3: sure I don't feel uncomfortable around that.

474
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Speaker 4: Ay, you know, funny thing, I'm gonna be uncomfortable the

475
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Speaker 4: rest of my life.

476
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Speaker 2: Why is it you stayed friends with them? I don't

477
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Speaker 2: even have any other words.

478
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Speaker 4: All right, I look this up just because you wanted

479
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Speaker 4: me too, And I'm kind of just like, why am

480
00:22:15,320 --> 00:22:19,159
Speaker 4: I doing things? In the US, genetic copy pasting is

481
00:22:19,200 --> 00:22:22,600
Speaker 4: primarily regulated by individual state laws rather than federal law.

482
00:22:22,960 --> 00:22:26,359
Speaker 4: Every state has laws prohibiting close relatives from marrying Additionally,

483
00:22:26,400 --> 00:22:29,480
Speaker 4: all but two states, New Jersey and Rhode Island, criminalize

484
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Speaker 4: spicy relations between close blood relatives, regardless of whether the

485
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Speaker 4: relationship is consensual. So, Rhode Island and New Jersey, what

486
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Speaker 4: are you all doing?

487
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Speaker 3: Interesting? I guess they're in the confounds of if it's underage,

488
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Speaker 3: they do something, but not out of age.

489
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Speaker 5: It's the state exceptions. Here are the state exceptions. Oh,

490
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Speaker 5: there are fine three.

491
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Speaker 4: New Jersey does not criminalize consensual spicy genetic copy pasting

492
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Speaker 4: between adults eighteen and older, though its strictly prohibits incestuous marriage.

493
00:23:02,280 --> 00:23:05,800
Speaker 4: Rhode Island does not criminalize consensual genetic copy pasting for

494
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Speaker 4: into an individual sixteen and older, but prohibits marriage. Ohio,

495
00:23:10,680 --> 00:23:14,439
Speaker 4: and it's it's laws specifically to parent, child and similar

496
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Speaker 4: custodial familiar relationships.

497
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Speaker 3: I'stodial, so they don't even care if it's.

498
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Speaker 5: This was on on my bingo car today, Dude, Look up.

499
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Speaker 5: Look up Rhode Island state motto.

500
00:23:26,560 --> 00:23:28,040
Speaker 3: It'll explain motto.

501
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Speaker 5: This is why d meets all in the family.

502
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Speaker 3: This is why we've never met anyone from Rhode Island.

503
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Speaker 3: Do you know anyone from Rhode Island?

504
00:23:35,119 --> 00:23:35,199
Speaker 4: Me?

505
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Speaker 3: Neither what's your state motto?

506
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Speaker 5: The state motto Rhode Island is simply hope.

507
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Speaker 2: I hope they're doing all right.

508
00:23:41,600 --> 00:23:46,080
Speaker 3: Well, then keon ask Carly if she's from New Jersey,

509
00:23:46,200 --> 00:23:50,080
Speaker 3: isn't she Yes, Well, then we're moving on to the

510
00:23:50,119 --> 00:23:51,640
Speaker 3: next door to everybody.

511
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Speaker 2: I was accused of having an affair with my friend

512
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Speaker 2: after I let him stay with me.

513
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Speaker 3: No boys in your house.

514
00:23:59,680 --> 00:24:02,920
Speaker 2: So twenty nine female married with a toddler, have been

515
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Speaker 2: friends with Sam twenty nine male since high school.

516
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Speaker 5: Gosh oh, he's married to a toddler and to Sam

517
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Speaker 5: for codtext.

518
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Speaker 2: It's a small circle of friends, all boys except for me.

519
00:24:14,040 --> 00:24:16,679
Speaker 2: We travel a lot. We have never been physical or

520
00:24:16,680 --> 00:24:20,760
Speaker 2: had feelings for each other. It's just platonic friendship. When

521
00:24:20,800 --> 00:24:23,680
Speaker 2: they got together with their partners, we have traveled only

522
00:24:23,760 --> 00:24:26,320
Speaker 2: with their significant others, and I've been friends with their

523
00:24:26,359 --> 00:24:29,159
Speaker 2: partners and vice versa. I meet up with the girls

524
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Speaker 2: without the boys too. Sam and his wife Roma twenty

525
00:24:32,200 --> 00:24:35,720
Speaker 2: nine female have been together since then, so she became

526
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Speaker 2: part of the same crowd as well. I got married first,

527
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Speaker 2: and my husband and I have a great marriage. We

528
00:24:41,720 --> 00:24:45,080
Speaker 2: are happy. The following year others got married too, so

529
00:24:45,240 --> 00:24:48,359
Speaker 2: the drama unfolded last year. My husband is away for

530
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Speaker 2: work purposes. Sam and Roma have been married for almost

531
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Speaker 2: five years now, and their relationship has always been crappy.

532
00:24:56,440 --> 00:24:58,680
Speaker 2: Don't get me wrong, she's a good friend, but their

533
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Speaker 2: relationship was a mess. And this comes from Next Effort

534
00:25:02,600 --> 00:25:04,200
Speaker 2: sixty one to forty nine. And if you want to

535
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Speaker 2: smit your own stories, go to the r slash Okay, storytime,

536
00:25:06,359 --> 00:25:06,800
Speaker 2: separate it.

537
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Speaker 3: I'm Sophia, I'm Raley.

538
00:25:08,400 --> 00:25:10,600
Speaker 4: I'm grossed out from that last story. Go figure it

539
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Speaker 4: out yourself, and we're.

540
00:25:11,840 --> 00:25:13,440
Speaker 2: Here to give good advice. Goofly, but we don't have

541
00:25:13,480 --> 00:25:15,399
Speaker 2: all the answers. We only know what we'd do, So

542
00:25:15,520 --> 00:25:16,880
Speaker 2: let us know what you would do. In the comments,

543
00:25:17,080 --> 00:25:21,360
Speaker 2: up and Dope says she has anger issues and Sam

544
00:25:21,400 --> 00:25:24,679
Speaker 2: always ignores her tantrums. You must think, how do I

545
00:25:24,760 --> 00:25:27,639
Speaker 2: know this? They fight in front of the whole crowd

546
00:25:27,720 --> 00:25:32,480
Speaker 2: for the silliest and stupidest things, arguing, shouting and whatnot.

547
00:25:32,760 --> 00:25:35,000
Speaker 2: And my friends and I have never poked our nose

548
00:25:35,000 --> 00:25:37,800
Speaker 2: into the relationship because I have a belief that if

549
00:25:37,840 --> 00:25:41,359
Speaker 2: my opinion is not asked, that means it isn't required

550
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Speaker 2: in the first place.

551
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Speaker 3: You know what that means in the bedroom. You know

552
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Speaker 3: that translates into the bedroom.

553
00:25:47,840 --> 00:25:48,320
Speaker 2: No, I don't.

554
00:25:48,600 --> 00:25:50,680
Speaker 3: Whenever they're very hot and heavy in front of people,

555
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Speaker 3: they get it's crazy in there, it gets why.

556
00:25:53,760 --> 00:25:56,400
Speaker 2: No, it's the opposite. They just sit there so weather.

557
00:25:58,080 --> 00:26:00,439
Speaker 2: They're just really polite. One day they got into a

558
00:26:00,560 --> 00:26:03,760
Speaker 2: huge fight over Sam wanting to meet our mutual other

559
00:26:03,840 --> 00:26:06,680
Speaker 2: friend twenty nine mail for a game night. Roma got

560
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Speaker 2: so mad over this and told Sam to move out

561
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Speaker 2: of the house. This isn't the first time she's told

562
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Speaker 2: them to leave.

563
00:26:14,080 --> 00:26:15,840
Speaker 3: I need to see a picture of these people.

564
00:26:16,920 --> 00:26:18,320
Speaker 5: Ah, quick, draw them.

565
00:26:18,280 --> 00:26:20,600
Speaker 3: Draw them, Okay, kind of that Markerberg.

566
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Speaker 2: Sam thought she'd come around when her tantrums were over,

567
00:26:24,400 --> 00:26:27,480
Speaker 2: but every day ended with her belittling him and shouting,

568
00:26:28,160 --> 00:26:30,080
Speaker 2: And on the third or fourth day he got a

569
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Speaker 2: message from Roma saying that she doesn't even what is

570
00:26:32,480 --> 00:26:35,399
Speaker 2: he his faith and a bunch of other crappy things,

571
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Speaker 2: and had packed his stuff when he went home after work.

572
00:26:38,640 --> 00:26:41,760
Speaker 2: He was so heartbroken and maybe it was his last

573
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Speaker 2: straw to work things out. The next day I got

574
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Speaker 2: a call from Sam, upset, who told me what happened

575
00:26:48,000 --> 00:26:49,960
Speaker 2: and asked for my help since he doesn't have a

576
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Speaker 2: place to stay. I had a spare room. I told

577
00:26:53,600 --> 00:26:55,960
Speaker 2: my husband, and we offered the spare room for rent.

578
00:26:56,080 --> 00:26:58,719
Speaker 2: That's very kind of you. He works in shifts and

579
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Speaker 2: so do I, so we rarely see each other, although

580
00:27:01,359 --> 00:27:04,080
Speaker 2: we share a roof. I told Sam to tell Roma

581
00:27:04,119 --> 00:27:05,919
Speaker 2: that he lives at my place, but he was like,

582
00:27:06,280 --> 00:27:09,159
Speaker 2: only if she asks. He was clearly over her and

583
00:27:09,280 --> 00:27:12,159
Speaker 2: didn't want to get back together because after separating, he

584
00:27:12,200 --> 00:27:17,680
Speaker 2: had already tried multiple times to talk and nicely, which

585
00:27:17,760 --> 00:27:20,560
Speaker 2: ended up in more shouting and arguments. He was kind

586
00:27:20,560 --> 00:27:23,000
Speaker 2: of fed up by then. That's fair, and we've got

587
00:27:23,000 --> 00:27:26,720
Speaker 2: an image of them, and there they are. There's Sam

588
00:27:26,800 --> 00:27:28,920
Speaker 2: and Roma. Sam's got a little hat.

589
00:27:29,280 --> 00:27:31,800
Speaker 5: Does he have a little tail too, Yeah.

590
00:27:31,600 --> 00:27:32,280
Speaker 2: It's his tail.

591
00:27:32,560 --> 00:27:33,280
Speaker 3: He likes it.

592
00:27:33,640 --> 00:27:37,400
Speaker 2: After seven or eight months, he filed for divorce. Probably

593
00:27:37,680 --> 00:27:38,400
Speaker 2: the right thing.

594
00:27:38,520 --> 00:27:39,879
Speaker 3: Okay, I gotta change this.

595
00:27:40,000 --> 00:27:42,879
Speaker 2: Didn't like it. Sad, he's not into it.

596
00:27:42,960 --> 00:27:44,399
Speaker 5: Why I said longer when it's sad?

597
00:27:47,240 --> 00:27:50,159
Speaker 2: And Rama found out that he was living here. She

598
00:27:50,320 --> 00:27:52,960
Speaker 2: texted saying thank you for helping him and that she's

599
00:27:53,000 --> 00:27:56,360
Speaker 2: glad I was there for him. So confusing, like they're

600
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Speaker 2: divorcing and she's like, hey, I just wanted to say,

601
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Speaker 2: I really appreciate that you stuck in to our relationship

602
00:28:02,440 --> 00:28:04,359
Speaker 2: to help my husband.

603
00:28:04,880 --> 00:28:06,280
Speaker 5: Yeah, she's like, you did this.

604
00:28:06,800 --> 00:28:10,920
Speaker 3: I'm so confused about this woman. She needs help, brain help,

605
00:28:11,160 --> 00:28:11,720
Speaker 3: head help.

606
00:28:12,320 --> 00:28:15,080
Speaker 2: But after two or three days I got multiple texts

607
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Speaker 2: blaming me for not telling her that was a quick

608
00:28:17,760 --> 00:28:21,080
Speaker 2: switch up, and also implying that we were having an affair.

609
00:28:22,200 --> 00:28:24,159
Speaker 2: But girl, you're not even together. How can it be

610
00:28:24,200 --> 00:28:24,639
Speaker 2: an affair.

611
00:28:24,840 --> 00:28:28,480
Speaker 3: She's married with someone else. He's just there.

612
00:28:28,920 --> 00:28:31,119
Speaker 2: I told her very nicely that she could have just

613
00:28:31,200 --> 00:28:34,400
Speaker 2: asked me or talked about them having problems. I would

614
00:28:34,440 --> 00:28:37,120
Speaker 2: have known and would not hide that fact.

615
00:28:37,359 --> 00:28:41,320
Speaker 3: Another point, Kaylen van Kamper says, all over a game

616
00:28:41,440 --> 00:28:44,440
Speaker 3: night with a mutual friend who was a guy.

617
00:28:44,720 --> 00:28:48,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, they divorced over it does seem like they had

618
00:28:48,080 --> 00:28:52,520
Speaker 2: a lot more problems, but uh yeah overall game night.

619
00:28:52,560 --> 00:28:56,360
Speaker 5: Listen game night, game nights get serious. Probably was Elastra.

620
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Speaker 3: Also, if you guys have not seen the movie Game nine,

621
00:29:00,160 --> 00:29:02,800
Speaker 3: I was about to say, it's really good. Have you

622
00:29:02,840 --> 00:29:03,160
Speaker 3: seen it?

623
00:29:03,200 --> 00:29:04,120
Speaker 2: I've seen clips.

624
00:29:04,280 --> 00:29:05,160
Speaker 3: Oh my god, it is.

625
00:29:05,440 --> 00:29:08,200
Speaker 5: It is really good for someone who loves a game night,

626
00:29:08,560 --> 00:29:08,800
Speaker 5: and you.

627
00:29:08,800 --> 00:29:10,680
Speaker 3: Should watch it with your partner, like, that's how good

628
00:29:10,720 --> 00:29:11,360
Speaker 3: it is.

629
00:29:11,000 --> 00:29:14,760
Speaker 2: It's technically both my boyfriend and I saw clips because

630
00:29:15,240 --> 00:29:18,200
Speaker 2: Dakota's girlfriend apparently plays it every year at their Christmas party.

631
00:29:18,480 --> 00:29:20,560
Speaker 5: Great movie, that's not a Christmas movie.

632
00:29:21,160 --> 00:29:23,960
Speaker 3: It should be. It is very it's togetherness.

633
00:29:24,160 --> 00:29:26,480
Speaker 2: But she's saying that I ruined their marriage by not

634
00:29:26,640 --> 00:29:29,760
Speaker 2: telling her that he is living at my place? Am

635
00:29:29,840 --> 00:29:33,600
Speaker 2: I the a hole? And we've got comments? Is OPI

636
00:29:33,680 --> 00:29:34,240
Speaker 2: the a hole?

637
00:29:34,520 --> 00:29:36,320
Speaker 3: If you see a dog and it has a broken

638
00:29:36,400 --> 00:29:38,000
Speaker 3: leg and you take it in and take care of it,

639
00:29:38,120 --> 00:29:38,880
Speaker 3: or you the a hole?

640
00:29:39,080 --> 00:29:41,280
Speaker 5: It's not your dog and it's.

641
00:29:41,200 --> 00:29:41,680
Speaker 3: Not your dog.

642
00:29:41,840 --> 00:29:44,440
Speaker 2: I also don't know how op could have ruined your

643
00:29:44,480 --> 00:29:47,000
Speaker 2: marriage when you guys were already separated.

644
00:29:47,480 --> 00:29:49,160
Speaker 5: Yeah, the Opie, you didn't do anything.

645
00:29:49,400 --> 00:29:51,560
Speaker 3: No, you're just helping a friend. You chose a side.

646
00:29:51,600 --> 00:29:54,120
Speaker 3: You weren't Rama's friend at first, so it doesn't matter.

647
00:29:54,320 --> 00:29:57,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, common wand says not the a hole. Just curious,

648
00:29:57,720 --> 00:29:59,840
Speaker 2: did other people in the friend group know he was

649
00:30:00,200 --> 00:30:03,360
Speaker 2: at your place? It doesn't matter. I'm just wondering why

650
00:30:03,400 --> 00:30:06,640
Speaker 2: she was only mad at you, and Opie says yes,

651
00:30:07,040 --> 00:30:10,080
Speaker 2: everyone knew. Coming too, says kind of hard to ask

652
00:30:10,160 --> 00:30:12,880
Speaker 2: where he is when he's got her blocked on everything.

653
00:30:13,320 --> 00:30:16,160
Speaker 2: Opie says, uh No, I think I have mentioned that

654
00:30:16,200 --> 00:30:19,960
Speaker 2: they were talking before filing for divorce, which happened much later.

655
00:30:20,320 --> 00:30:23,720
Speaker 2: He blocked her long after filing for divorce. If someone

656
00:30:23,800 --> 00:30:26,960
Speaker 2: is interested, I think I'll ask. She messaged me saying

657
00:30:27,000 --> 00:30:28,760
Speaker 2: that all this time she thought he was living at

658
00:30:28,760 --> 00:30:31,600
Speaker 2: his parents' house, and I'm to blame for not telling

659
00:30:31,600 --> 00:30:32,280
Speaker 2: her you're.

660
00:30:32,160 --> 00:30:35,520
Speaker 3: Not You're not. He should say that. Yeah, if he

661
00:30:35,520 --> 00:30:36,680
Speaker 3: should communicate that.

662
00:30:37,320 --> 00:30:39,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, if he was interested in fixing the relationship, he

663
00:30:39,680 --> 00:30:43,160
Speaker 2: would have communicated that. But clearly they were already over it.

664
00:30:43,520 --> 00:30:44,920
Speaker 2: On both sides, they.

665
00:30:44,880 --> 00:30:48,000
Speaker 3: Were over it. The guy that confuses me about cheaters,

666
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Speaker 3: partner cheats with another woman and you attack the other woman.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, this happens. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: I have brought this up a couple of times, where like,

669
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Speaker 4: they never it's usually the person that they're cheating with,

670
00:30:58,680 --> 00:30:59,960
Speaker 4: and never the person who cheated.

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00:31:00,600 --> 00:31:01,880
Speaker 5: There's like, where's that.

672
00:31:01,880 --> 00:31:06,080
Speaker 3: Logic Unless the person that cheated, like the other woman,

673
00:31:06,200 --> 00:31:08,680
Speaker 3: is bloating about it, being prideful about it, then you

674
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Speaker 3: attack her.

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Speaker 5: I mean, I mean, I think both I just.

676
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Speaker 3: Assume they don't know, but they But this has nothing

677
00:31:14,960 --> 00:31:17,560
Speaker 3: to do with it. I did confuse Why this woman

678
00:31:17,640 --> 00:31:19,520
Speaker 3: is coming after Op for no reason?

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00:31:19,640 --> 00:31:23,240
Speaker 5: No, because she's been tired of yelling at him all

680
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Speaker 5: this time.

681
00:31:23,600 --> 00:31:26,640
Speaker 2: She's like newtarted, She's like, this is boring, Let's switch

682
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Speaker 2: it up.

683
00:31:27,080 --> 00:31:29,720
Speaker 5: This is fun, this is new, this is exciting.

684
00:31:29,800 --> 00:31:33,360
Speaker 2: And we've got an update. Sam and Roma are divorced.

685
00:31:33,840 --> 00:31:35,320
Speaker 3: Thank goodness.

686
00:31:35,440 --> 00:31:38,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's all your faultwing and that's all you did that, Op.

687
00:31:39,400 --> 00:31:42,960
Speaker 2: At the end of the day, you did that. So

688
00:31:43,160 --> 00:31:45,320
Speaker 2: the friend circle met and I found out that Roma

689
00:31:45,360 --> 00:31:48,760
Speaker 2: texted venting out to one of my other friends, basically

690
00:31:48,800 --> 00:31:51,160
Speaker 2: saying that I was the reason for their divorce and

691
00:31:51,200 --> 00:31:55,560
Speaker 2: she will not forgive me and cursing me, spitting lies

692
00:31:55,640 --> 00:31:59,680
Speaker 2: about me. It was disgusting and wrong. I'm pissed because

693
00:31:59,680 --> 00:32:02,280
Speaker 2: she's not confronting me. She doesn't have the guts to

694
00:32:02,280 --> 00:32:05,360
Speaker 2: say anything to my face. Do I confront her for

695
00:32:05,440 --> 00:32:08,360
Speaker 2: defaming me without any proof. I need to tell her

696
00:32:08,480 --> 00:32:10,680
Speaker 2: face to face that she needs therapy and just not

697
00:32:10,880 --> 00:32:13,280
Speaker 2: drag my name in the mud. To let everything go

698
00:32:13,360 --> 00:32:16,600
Speaker 2: and move on. I just need to say something to her.

699
00:32:16,920 --> 00:32:19,040
Speaker 2: Is it wrong for me to want to clear my name?

700
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Speaker 3: You can? You can try.

701
00:32:21,440 --> 00:32:24,040
Speaker 2: I don't. Yeah, it's not gonna do anything, dude. I

702
00:32:24,040 --> 00:32:26,080
Speaker 2: don't know if you'll get through to Roma, but you

703
00:32:26,080 --> 00:32:27,680
Speaker 2: could probably get through to your other friends.

704
00:32:27,960 --> 00:32:29,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, people that don't actually care.

705
00:32:29,960 --> 00:32:35,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, but that's the end of that story. Good luck. Also, yeah,

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Speaker 2: on take Yeah.

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Speaker 3: You hear something about a friend, say you hear something

708
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Speaker 3: about me? Would you come to me and ask about it?

709
00:32:42,360 --> 00:32:43,440
Speaker 3: Or would you just listen to what?

710
00:32:43,480 --> 00:32:44,360
Speaker 2: Did I hear that?

711
00:32:44,440 --> 00:32:46,840
Speaker 3: I said something mean to Savannah? You'd probably come to

712
00:32:46,880 --> 00:32:48,400
Speaker 3: you and be like, why did you say that?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'd be like, hey, it's probably not the best frado.

714
00:32:50,680 --> 00:32:52,840
Speaker 3: See. But some people they just hear that and they

715
00:32:52,960 --> 00:32:56,000
Speaker 3: just like, oh, okay, and they don't follow up, follow

716
00:32:56,040 --> 00:32:58,240
Speaker 3: up with the other person that that's their friend if

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00:32:58,280 --> 00:33:00,520
Speaker 3: they're not your friend, it makes sense, but it's like, oh,

718
00:33:00,560 --> 00:33:02,680
Speaker 3: I'll just take that person's opinion and not say anything

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Speaker 3: about it.

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Speaker 2: It'say, what let's fact check people.

721
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Speaker 3: Let's fact checked, guys. We got another story coming up.

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Speaker 2: Hey, it's Angie, your favorite fake redhead host here, and

723
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Speaker 2: we're going to get back to the stories. But here's

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Speaker 6: My two best friends plan their wedding on the same day.

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Speaker 2: The decision was hard. Ooh, who do you like better?

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Speaker 6: So I'm a bridesmaid for two weddings. One is local Dallas, Texas,

728
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Speaker 6: and the other is Destination in Miami, Florida. They both

729
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Speaker 6: are on the same day. To simplify things, I am

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Speaker 6: calling the girls Dallas and Miami. Dallas is a childhood friend.

731
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Speaker 6: We were also college roommates for a year. We don't

732
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Speaker 6: see each other as often, but when we do it's

733
00:33:46,520 --> 00:33:47,440
Speaker 6: just like old times.

734
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Speaker 2: I love those friendships me too. I have a lot

735
00:33:49,520 --> 00:33:52,320
Speaker 2: of those friendships same, so many memories.

736
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Speaker 6: Dallas is also one of the nicest people in my life. Oh,

737
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Speaker 6: Miami is a college friend. Different friend group than Dallas.

738
00:34:00,040 --> 00:34:03,880
Speaker 6: Grew closer after college. Miami actually plans my birthday every year.

739
00:34:04,320 --> 00:34:07,840
Speaker 6: Our friend group is six girls and we are so close.

740
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Speaker 6: Like all girl friend groups, there is drama, but we

741
00:34:12,000 --> 00:34:14,640
Speaker 6: always remain best friends. We all hang out at the

742
00:34:14,680 --> 00:34:18,280
Speaker 6: same time. Oh, we all sorry, we all hang out

743
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Speaker 6: all the time.

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00:34:19,320 --> 00:34:20,719
Speaker 2: This is at the same time.

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Speaker 3: This is beautiful because I would think a girl from

746
00:34:23,640 --> 00:34:26,160
Speaker 3: Miami would act this way. Yeah, and I do think

747
00:34:26,160 --> 00:34:30,319
Speaker 3: a girl from Dallas would also act what way? Miami girl?

748
00:34:30,440 --> 00:34:33,320
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, it's your birthday, birthday time party, party party.

749
00:34:33,400 --> 00:34:33,600
Speaker 2: Yeah.

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00:34:33,680 --> 00:34:36,520
Speaker 3: Dallas is like, all right, what's going on.

751
00:34:36,960 --> 00:34:42,680
Speaker 2: I'm steady, I'm steady and I'm nice. You're stereotyping. Yeah, okay, good,

752
00:34:42,840 --> 00:34:45,920
Speaker 2: I get to I want to.

753
00:34:45,440 --> 00:34:46,880
Speaker 3: I want to.

754
00:34:47,440 --> 00:34:48,400
Speaker 2: It's my culture.

755
00:34:49,000 --> 00:34:51,920
Speaker 6: By the way, this comes from Kevin Malone's Chili.

756
00:34:52,360 --> 00:34:57,840
Speaker 2: And if you my child, and if you want.

757
00:34:57,680 --> 00:34:59,520
Speaker 6: To submit to your own stories, go to the our Sledge.

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Speaker 6: Okay story, reread it.

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00:35:00,719 --> 00:35:03,200
Speaker 3: I'm Savanah, I'm Riley, and.

760
00:35:03,120 --> 00:35:05,600
Speaker 2: We're here to talk about some stuff. Maybe give some advice.

761
00:35:05,640 --> 00:35:06,000
Speaker 2: I don't know.

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00:35:06,040 --> 00:35:08,000
Speaker 6: We only know a little bit. Maybe you know a

763
00:35:08,040 --> 00:35:09,680
Speaker 6: lot more, so you should tell us what you know.

764
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Speaker 6: In the comments.

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Speaker 2: Of love, Yeah, it's from the office. This like amazing chili.

766
00:35:19,360 --> 00:35:21,600
Speaker 2: And he's so excited and then he drops it all

767
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Speaker 2: and he's just trying to scoop it into the.

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Speaker 6: All of my girlfriends from college are also bridesmaids for Miami.

769
00:35:30,960 --> 00:35:33,640
Speaker 6: My husband is friends with their boyfriends and husbands, so

770
00:35:33,719 --> 00:35:35,720
Speaker 6: he prefers this wedding by a mile.

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00:35:36,480 --> 00:35:37,200
Speaker 2: Well, there you go.

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00:35:38,239 --> 00:35:41,360
Speaker 6: Miami told me her wedding date first at a group dinner,

773
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Speaker 6: but did not put a deposit. I informed Dallas the

774
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Speaker 6: next day, who then tells me she was planning for

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Speaker 6: the same day.

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Speaker 2: Ooh, the coincidence there, crazy. Yeah, the two of your

777
00:35:53,360 --> 00:35:56,120
Speaker 2: best friends are of all, you have three hundred and

778
00:35:56,160 --> 00:35:58,920
Speaker 2: sixty five days of a year. And also just like

779
00:35:59,040 --> 00:36:02,720
Speaker 2: it could have been a year but it was same

780
00:36:02,800 --> 00:36:07,840
Speaker 2: your same day. That's crazy, yeah, I And it's just

781
00:36:07,880 --> 00:36:10,400
Speaker 2: the fact that these are two separate friend groups. Yeah.

782
00:36:11,000 --> 00:36:13,160
Speaker 2: I don't know. I feel like if Miami really wants

783
00:36:13,160 --> 00:36:14,439
Speaker 2: you there, she changed the day.

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Speaker 6: There isn't much overlap in the weddings as far as

785
00:36:17,360 --> 00:36:21,560
Speaker 6: mutual friends. However, me and another girl are bridesmaids for both.

786
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Speaker 2: Okay, well, then one of you gets one wedding the

787
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Speaker 2: other gets the other wedding, but no wedding more fun though, Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I feel like the Miami one would be really fun

789
00:36:34,520 --> 00:36:36,799
Speaker 3: and the Dallas one would be pretty chill and a

790
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Speaker 3: great time.

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Speaker 2: I've never been to Texas, so I've been to Texas

792
00:36:40,360 --> 00:36:42,320
Speaker 2: or Florida.

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00:36:42,480 --> 00:36:45,120
Speaker 3: You guys, remember my brown parents I were yesterday? What

794
00:36:45,640 --> 00:36:47,120
Speaker 3: my brown pants I wore yesterday?

795
00:36:47,560 --> 00:36:50,960
Speaker 2: To remember my brown parents? I heard parents as well.

796
00:36:51,239 --> 00:36:51,960
Speaker 3: Just pants.

797
00:36:51,800 --> 00:36:55,440
Speaker 6: It's like, nomber, do you remember when I had brown parents?

798
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Speaker 2: I really don't.

799
00:36:57,960 --> 00:37:00,000
Speaker 3: But you guys, remember my brown pants I wore yesterday.

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00:37:00,120 --> 00:37:01,640
Speaker 2: I didn't remember you wearing pants.

801
00:37:01,840 --> 00:37:03,799
Speaker 6: I knew you weren't in your underwear, but I don't

802
00:37:03,800 --> 00:37:07,400
Speaker 6: remember the pantsy war from Texas.

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00:37:07,760 --> 00:37:09,480
Speaker 2: Did you watch them today because they might be on

804
00:37:09,520 --> 00:37:09,960
Speaker 2: the couch.

805
00:37:10,160 --> 00:37:13,040
Speaker 3: I did not well, and I folded all my laundry.

806
00:37:13,360 --> 00:37:15,200
Speaker 2: Wow, when you went down there, that was quick. Yeah,

807
00:37:15,200 --> 00:37:16,080
Speaker 2: I know, crazy.

808
00:37:16,120 --> 00:37:18,200
Speaker 3: No, he didn't go down there and check. No.

809
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Speaker 6: After hearing this, Dallas tried to pick the week before

810
00:37:22,200 --> 00:37:25,879
Speaker 6: Miami's wedding, but it ended up getting booked no, so

811
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Speaker 6: her only option was the same day as Miami. According

812
00:37:29,040 --> 00:37:32,600
Speaker 6: to her, that's not true. Dallas then put the deposit first.

813
00:37:32,920 --> 00:37:35,560
Speaker 6: She then informed me and my other friends since we're

814
00:37:35,640 --> 00:37:39,720
Speaker 6: invited to both weddings as bridesmaids. My other friend tells

815
00:37:39,800 --> 00:37:43,240
Speaker 6: her immediately she's going to Miami's wedding because their childhood friends.

816
00:37:43,600 --> 00:37:45,960
Speaker 6: So after that, Dallas is hoping I go to her

817
00:37:45,960 --> 00:37:48,920
Speaker 6: wedding because my other friend already picked Miami's wedding. Also,

818
00:37:49,000 --> 00:37:52,160
Speaker 6: since Dallas and I are childhood friends. I tell her

819
00:37:52,200 --> 00:37:54,160
Speaker 6: over the phone that it was not easy, but I

820
00:37:54,280 --> 00:37:56,000
Speaker 6: have to go to Miami's wedding.

821
00:37:55,800 --> 00:38:00,279
Speaker 2: Because she asked first. Honestly, that is the best way

822
00:38:00,280 --> 00:38:01,960
Speaker 2: to do it. Of like, you know what, I'm not

823
00:38:02,040 --> 00:38:05,640
Speaker 2: picking who I like more. It's just simply she asked first,

824
00:38:05,640 --> 00:38:10,319
Speaker 2: and I said, yes, that's so tough. Though. Also if

825
00:38:10,360 --> 00:38:11,960
Speaker 2: I was Dallas, I would just move it to a

826
00:38:11,960 --> 00:38:13,960
Speaker 2: different week. I can't do it the week before, I

827
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Speaker 2: do it the week after. I do it in two weeks,

828
00:38:16,440 --> 00:38:19,840
Speaker 2: you know. Yeah, I'd be like, I don't know, I

829
00:38:19,840 --> 00:38:22,879
Speaker 2: don't know. Guys, don't make me choose, Like I would

830
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Speaker 2: hate that if I asked you first and you had

831
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Speaker 2: another friend who asked you after I did. I feel

832
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Speaker 2: like the easiest way to do it is just like

833
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Speaker 2: whoever asked you first.

834
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Speaker 6: Yeah, but then you also think about like connections, like

835
00:38:35,560 --> 00:38:38,399
Speaker 6: if you were if you were getting married, and then

836
00:38:38,480 --> 00:38:42,359
Speaker 6: like my best friend from like you know, school, Yeah

837
00:38:42,440 --> 00:38:43,200
Speaker 6: it's getting married.

838
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Speaker 2: It's like, oh, oh, my part's gonna be so much

839
00:38:47,840 --> 00:38:52,960
Speaker 2: fun though a minute, but hers would be in Italy.

840
00:38:53,360 --> 00:39:01,560
Speaker 2: Mine would be somewhat coolerses cow asses? Why cow asses cool?

841
00:39:01,280 --> 00:39:06,960
Speaker 3: Cool for someone that hasn't never been think about that.

842
00:39:07,000 --> 00:39:10,280
Speaker 2: I know is just like a lot of rich people

843
00:39:10,280 --> 00:39:12,440
Speaker 2: in Tesla's and horses.

844
00:39:12,239 --> 00:39:15,160
Speaker 3: Oh, horses the mountain park.

845
00:39:15,239 --> 00:39:17,560
Speaker 2: If you go a little bit deeper, there's nice hiking trails.

846
00:39:17,600 --> 00:39:19,040
Speaker 2: But you can also go to hiking trails in the

847
00:39:20,160 --> 00:39:22,600
Speaker 2: pronounced Calabazas.

848
00:39:21,960 --> 00:39:25,200
Speaker 6: Because there's no z well no, but it should be

849
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Speaker 6: like two s's Calabasas.

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Speaker 2: I don't know, I just I don't know.

851
00:39:30,760 --> 00:39:34,000
Speaker 6: Just saying Dallas is furious at me to the point

852
00:39:34,000 --> 00:39:35,960
Speaker 6: where she doesn't want to be friends anymore.

853
00:39:36,280 --> 00:39:37,200
Speaker 2: Am I an a hole?

854
00:39:38,360 --> 00:39:38,600
Speaker 3: No?

855
00:39:39,120 --> 00:39:41,799
Speaker 2: That's pretty ridiculous If this is where she draws the

856
00:39:41,800 --> 00:39:45,719
Speaker 2: line because she booked a date after you already had

857
00:39:45,760 --> 00:39:49,000
Speaker 2: a friend who booked that date. That's not really like

858
00:39:49,040 --> 00:39:49,840
Speaker 2: a true friendship.

859
00:39:50,160 --> 00:39:53,879
Speaker 6: It's just it's sad because you would think that one

860
00:39:53,880 --> 00:39:55,239
Speaker 6: would go to one the other one would go to

861
00:39:55,239 --> 00:39:57,120
Speaker 6: the other, but then they're both going to the other one.

862
00:39:57,200 --> 00:39:59,839
Speaker 2: I would feel like left out. Not that they would

863
00:39:59,840 --> 00:40:02,480
Speaker 2: be friends or whatever, but just like I literally if

864
00:40:02,520 --> 00:40:05,120
Speaker 2: you told me, if you were like, I can't, if

865
00:40:05,120 --> 00:40:07,080
Speaker 2: I had said, oh, I was thinking about this date

866
00:40:07,120 --> 00:40:09,200
Speaker 2: and you said I can't do that date like I

867
00:40:09,239 --> 00:40:11,279
Speaker 2: already said yes, and I wanted you to be like

868
00:40:11,320 --> 00:40:14,160
Speaker 2: one of my bridesmaids, I would, you know, be like Okay,

869
00:40:14,200 --> 00:40:17,560
Speaker 2: well I'm gonna figure out another date. Like if I hadn't,

870
00:40:17,680 --> 00:40:19,880
Speaker 2: you know, if I wasn't attached that date or anything,

871
00:40:20,440 --> 00:40:22,160
Speaker 2: I personally would just see if there was another date,

872
00:40:22,480 --> 00:40:25,719
Speaker 2: if it was that important to me, you know. Yeah,

873
00:40:25,840 --> 00:40:26,279
Speaker 2: here we go.

874
00:40:26,520 --> 00:40:28,680
Speaker 6: B Line one says, Dallas booked a date knowing you

875
00:40:28,719 --> 00:40:31,239
Speaker 6: were already committed to another wedding on that weekend, and

876
00:40:31,320 --> 00:40:31,919
Speaker 6: she didn't even.

877
00:40:31,840 --> 00:40:34,520
Speaker 2: Book it, Like she hadn't even booked it yet. That

878
00:40:34,640 --> 00:40:35,240
Speaker 2: was a thing.

879
00:40:35,520 --> 00:40:38,799
Speaker 6: Well, I think she like put a she had, Like

880
00:40:38,880 --> 00:40:41,279
Speaker 6: she put the date in and then they approved it.

881
00:40:41,280 --> 00:40:42,960
Speaker 6: They were like, yeah, we could do that date, yes,

882
00:40:43,040 --> 00:40:46,200
Speaker 6: but I feel like you can also maybe.

883
00:40:46,360 --> 00:40:48,320
Speaker 2: Well she said she could have changed it, but the

884
00:40:48,760 --> 00:40:51,520
Speaker 2: previous weekend was was booked, but like she just didn't

885
00:40:51,520 --> 00:40:52,840
Speaker 2: want to look at any other weekends.

886
00:40:52,960 --> 00:40:56,520
Speaker 6: She says, she put the deposit first. Miami should change

887
00:40:56,560 --> 00:40:59,120
Speaker 6: her wedding date. She can't just call that date without

888
00:40:59,160 --> 00:40:59,720
Speaker 6: a deposit.

889
00:41:00,080 --> 00:41:02,680
Speaker 2: Oh okay, so she did have a deposit.

890
00:41:03,000 --> 00:41:05,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, I knew Dallas would figure a way out of

891
00:41:05,560 --> 00:41:05,879
Speaker 3: this one.

892
00:41:06,000 --> 00:41:09,040
Speaker 2: She's like, well, I have a deposit, So how did

893
00:41:09,080 --> 00:41:10,560
Speaker 2: she know that Miami doesn't.

894
00:41:10,400 --> 00:41:11,280
Speaker 3: Because they're friends.

895
00:41:11,960 --> 00:41:14,240
Speaker 2: No DA for Miami aren't friends.

896
00:41:14,280 --> 00:41:16,719
Speaker 3: Well, they're friends of friends figuring it out.

897
00:41:16,800 --> 00:41:19,200
Speaker 2: Maybe this is confusing, I don't know anymore.

898
00:41:19,480 --> 00:41:23,759
Speaker 6: I understand her frustration two bridesmaids not coming. I said,

899
00:41:23,800 --> 00:41:25,279
Speaker 6: I will make it up to her if I'm still

900
00:41:25,280 --> 00:41:28,279
Speaker 6: invited to anything wedding related, But she is so mad

901
00:41:28,320 --> 00:41:31,360
Speaker 6: at me. Did I do the morally right decision? I

902
00:41:31,400 --> 00:41:34,799
Speaker 6: would have major fomo if I missed Miami's wedding. All

903
00:41:34,840 --> 00:41:37,400
Speaker 6: my friends are there, and she asked me first. But

904
00:41:37,600 --> 00:41:40,480
Speaker 6: Miami wouldn't end the friendship if I chose Dallas.

905
00:41:40,800 --> 00:41:43,120
Speaker 2: Oh, I feel like that that is an indicator of

906
00:41:43,160 --> 00:41:45,200
Speaker 2: which friend you want to keep in your life, like

907
00:41:45,239 --> 00:41:48,160
Speaker 2: the one who doesn't end a friendship over you missing something.

908
00:41:48,680 --> 00:41:53,360
Speaker 6: Yeah, I just don't like this. It's tough for Dallas

909
00:41:53,400 --> 00:41:55,120
Speaker 6: because I hate when my friends fight.

910
00:41:55,320 --> 00:41:58,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's tough because you basically just told us that

911
00:41:58,520 --> 00:42:00,120
Speaker 2: Miami's wedding it's gonna be more fun.

912
00:42:00,239 --> 00:42:02,840
Speaker 6: I mean, yeah, if I had to, I would probably

913
00:42:02,840 --> 00:42:03,840
Speaker 6: also yes Miami.

914
00:42:03,920 --> 00:42:06,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, Miami's wedding is going to be a baller time

915
00:42:06,440 --> 00:42:08,399
Speaker 3: and Dallas's whitey is going to be more laid back,

916
00:42:08,680 --> 00:42:09,959
Speaker 3: family oriented.

917
00:42:10,160 --> 00:42:12,480
Speaker 2: Well, you also have your boyfriend in your ear saying, well,

918
00:42:12,520 --> 00:42:16,279
Speaker 2: I yeah, this little miamis. Yeah, all my friends are

919
00:42:16,280 --> 00:42:18,239
Speaker 2: gonna be there. I think it'd be a fun time. Yeah,

920
00:42:19,320 --> 00:42:19,840
Speaker 2: I guess so.

921
00:42:20,000 --> 00:42:21,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, shut up, boyfriend.

922
00:42:21,960 --> 00:42:24,799
Speaker 6: Yeah yeah, you're not gonna be a bride's maid either way.

923
00:42:24,880 --> 00:42:27,680
Speaker 6: And both they were also both bridesmaids for my own

924
00:42:27,680 --> 00:42:28,600
Speaker 6: wedding last year.

925
00:42:28,800 --> 00:42:34,399
Speaker 2: Oh this husband atchie Mama. Well there's an edit here.

926
00:42:35,040 --> 00:42:38,600
Speaker 1: Hey, it's Dakota, your favorite goofball host here, and we're

927
00:42:38,600 --> 00:42:40,680
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929
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Speaker 6: Dallas supposedly only had two dates available for her wedding

930
00:42:46,640 --> 00:42:49,680
Speaker 6: because of her fiance's busy schedule. One was the week

931
00:42:49,719 --> 00:42:53,160
Speaker 6: before Miami's wedding. The other is the week of Miami's wedding.

932
00:42:53,400 --> 00:42:56,640
Speaker 6: The wedding is Labor Day weekend twenty twenty five. Miami

933
00:42:56,680 --> 00:42:59,080
Speaker 6: picked that date because so many people have to travel

934
00:42:59,160 --> 00:43:01,800
Speaker 6: and they will already have off due to the holiday weekend.

935
00:43:03,600 --> 00:43:07,800
Speaker 2: It's true, good dayang, a good day day. She's got you.

936
00:43:08,520 --> 00:43:13,440
Speaker 2: It's just too good. Okay, But but uh, what's around

937
00:43:13,480 --> 00:43:15,080
Speaker 2: Labor Day? What other holidays we have?

938
00:43:15,560 --> 00:43:16,439
Speaker 3: Memorial Day?

939
00:43:16,640 --> 00:43:19,359
Speaker 6: That's now, that's like now, Yeah, that's in this week

940
00:43:19,480 --> 00:43:21,760
Speaker 6: Labor Day.

941
00:43:21,800 --> 00:43:24,239
Speaker 2: Labor Day is September. Memorial Day is May.

942
00:43:24,440 --> 00:43:27,200
Speaker 3: You don't have any other day September seventh. You don't

943
00:43:27,200 --> 00:43:28,839
Speaker 3: have any other holidays.

944
00:43:28,440 --> 00:43:33,920
Speaker 2: Roshana if they're Jewish. You guys got it's birthday.

945
00:43:34,760 --> 00:43:38,520
Speaker 3: It's not a national one yet, Indigenous People's Day. You

946
00:43:38,560 --> 00:43:39,480
Speaker 3: missed my birthday.

947
00:43:40,000 --> 00:43:43,359
Speaker 2: Yeah, it wasn't a national one. That one wasn't national either,

948
00:43:43,520 --> 00:43:47,360
Speaker 2: and was national in my man, Oh my anniversary with

949
00:43:47,440 --> 00:43:50,440
Speaker 2: my boyfriend. You could do on that day. Oh, I

950
00:43:50,480 --> 00:43:55,040
Speaker 2: need that day off. It's a Monday. That'll be nice,

951
00:43:55,040 --> 00:43:58,960
Speaker 2: a long weekend. What are you one year? One year? Yeah? Oh,

952
00:43:59,080 --> 00:44:01,920
Speaker 2: like in September October. Oh, we're in October now. Oh.

953
00:44:02,040 --> 00:44:06,040
Speaker 2: I was like Veterans Day. Okay, that's a websdens.

954
00:44:06,520 --> 00:44:07,800
Speaker 3: You can do Veterans Day.

955
00:44:08,239 --> 00:44:10,920
Speaker 2: All right. Your next possible solution is Thanksgiving.

956
00:44:11,040 --> 00:44:17,839
Speaker 6: Sorry, Thanksgiving wedding, Turkey wedding, Marry the Turkey, Marry the stuffing.

957
00:44:18,760 --> 00:44:21,520
Speaker 6: Miami did not put a deposit because she is between

958
00:44:21,560 --> 00:44:23,080
Speaker 6: two venues on the same day.

959
00:44:23,160 --> 00:44:23,359
Speaker 3: Boo.

960
00:44:24,040 --> 00:44:26,799
Speaker 6: She's putting the deposit Tuesday after their parents agree with

961
00:44:26,840 --> 00:44:29,359
Speaker 6: the venue she chose. She was just waiting for them

962
00:44:29,400 --> 00:44:31,560
Speaker 6: to fly out and check it out. She assured me

963
00:44:31,600 --> 00:44:34,080
Speaker 6: the date would not change. It was just hard to

964
00:44:34,120 --> 00:44:36,960
Speaker 6: decide the venue because they had too great options. Okay,

965
00:44:37,040 --> 00:44:40,720
Speaker 6: so Miami is set on that date. Dallas is like, well,

966
00:44:40,760 --> 00:44:43,279
Speaker 6: we could do it the week before, but I like

967
00:44:43,360 --> 00:44:43,879
Speaker 6: this date better.

968
00:44:44,000 --> 00:44:44,200
Speaker 4: Yeah.

969
00:44:44,239 --> 00:44:47,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, so Dallas find a different date.

970
00:44:47,800 --> 00:44:51,319
Speaker 6: The thing is, Dallas, you don't have to, but just

971
00:44:51,480 --> 00:44:54,400
Speaker 6: know that if you don't, not everyone will be able

972
00:44:54,480 --> 00:44:57,920
Speaker 6: to accommodate. Tod what your two bridesmaids are going to

973
00:44:57,960 --> 00:44:58,600
Speaker 6: go to Miami?

974
00:44:58,680 --> 00:45:00,880
Speaker 2: Yeah like you. Yeah, so I just know that if

975
00:45:00,920 --> 00:45:03,720
Speaker 2: you choose that date, you're gonna lose two people. Yeah,

976
00:45:03,960 --> 00:45:05,880
Speaker 2: which seems really important to you.

977
00:45:06,080 --> 00:45:09,880
Speaker 6: Yeah so oh yes, of course Miami's wedding will be

978
00:45:09,880 --> 00:45:12,080
Speaker 6: more fun. At the end of the day, I truly

979
00:45:12,120 --> 00:45:13,960
Speaker 6: had to make a decision that was fair to both.

980
00:45:14,400 --> 00:45:16,640
Speaker 6: If Dallas told me first, I know in my heart

981
00:45:16,680 --> 00:45:19,000
Speaker 6: I would have picked her wedding. It's only fair.

982
00:45:19,440 --> 00:45:20,280
Speaker 2: At a two.

983
00:45:20,440 --> 00:45:23,600
Speaker 6: Dallas rarely goes to my events due to her being busy.

984
00:45:24,120 --> 00:45:28,000
Speaker 6: I've never been offended. We're adults, we have responsibilities. She

985
00:45:28,120 --> 00:45:30,640
Speaker 6: has very big families. She comes to the big events

986
00:45:30,680 --> 00:45:33,759
Speaker 6: like my wedding and bachelorette party. I always show up

987
00:45:33,760 --> 00:45:36,520
Speaker 6: for her though, I always go to her events. But

988
00:45:36,600 --> 00:45:39,880
Speaker 6: I'm serious, no bad blood in that regard. People just

989
00:45:40,000 --> 00:45:44,000
Speaker 6: asked me to clarify. Dallas will have less bridesmaids, Miami

990
00:45:44,160 --> 00:45:46,800
Speaker 6: will have more bridesmaids. Miami has more close friends.

991
00:45:47,239 --> 00:45:47,880
Speaker 2: Dallas has a.

992
00:45:47,880 --> 00:45:50,360
Speaker 6: Lot more people coming to her wedding because it's local.

993
00:45:50,719 --> 00:45:53,080
Speaker 6: She has more people on her side coming than her

994
00:45:53,120 --> 00:45:56,760
Speaker 6: fiance side because she has a big extended family. Miami

995
00:45:57,160 --> 00:46:00,880
Speaker 6: has less people coming because it's destination. Beyonce's side is

996
00:46:00,920 --> 00:46:04,239
Speaker 6: also very big and local to Florida, so her fiance's

997
00:46:04,239 --> 00:46:06,520
Speaker 6: side will be a lot larger than her side. She

998
00:46:06,600 --> 00:46:08,240
Speaker 6: is moving to Florida after the wedding.

999
00:46:08,520 --> 00:46:12,600
Speaker 2: Oh wow, that's a decision. There is a third edit here.

1000
00:46:12,760 --> 00:46:16,120
Speaker 6: Oh boy, Miami was super appreciative that I'm going to hers.

1001
00:46:16,120 --> 00:46:18,680
Speaker 6: When I told her earlier, I did mention that Dallas

1002
00:46:18,719 --> 00:46:21,680
Speaker 6: was upset and Miami felt bad about everything. She just

1003
00:46:21,719 --> 00:46:24,560
Speaker 6: texted me she wants to call me this afternoon. I

1004
00:46:24,600 --> 00:46:27,279
Speaker 6: think she's going to tell me to go to Dallas.

1005
00:46:27,440 --> 00:46:31,160
Speaker 2: But yeah, I think at the end, you know, like, ultimately,

1006
00:46:31,480 --> 00:46:33,719
Speaker 2: this is your decision. You already made it, Like yeah,

1007
00:46:33,840 --> 00:46:38,320
Speaker 2: Dallas feels bad, but I think Miami maybe thinks, oh, well,

1008
00:46:38,440 --> 00:46:39,960
Speaker 2: I don't want you to feel like you have to

1009
00:46:40,000 --> 00:46:42,600
Speaker 2: come to my wedding, and when the reality of the

1010
00:46:42,640 --> 00:46:46,160
Speaker 2: situation is you just want to go more to this wedding,

1011
00:46:46,520 --> 00:46:48,440
Speaker 2: and so does your partner or your husband.

1012
00:46:48,440 --> 00:46:53,360
Speaker 6: Now yeah, oh, and there's a fourth edit. Miami called

1013
00:46:53,440 --> 00:46:56,719
Speaker 6: and said she heard about the drama. Basically, Dallas is

1014
00:46:56,719 --> 00:46:59,400
Speaker 6: not talking to me, and another friend in Dallas's bridal

1015
00:46:59,400 --> 00:47:02,879
Speaker 6: party is talking to me. Dallas's sister and fiance are

1016
00:47:02,920 --> 00:47:06,279
Speaker 6: also apparently mad at me. Dallas's sister says that since

1017
00:47:06,360 --> 00:47:09,359
Speaker 6: Dallas booked the venue first, Miami should change her date.

1018
00:47:09,640 --> 00:47:12,360
Speaker 6: The sister is basically in her ear, making it worse.

1019
00:47:13,280 --> 00:47:15,839
Speaker 6: Miami feels terrible that people are painting me to.

1020
00:47:15,800 --> 00:47:16,360
Speaker 2: Be a villain.

1021
00:47:16,640 --> 00:47:18,839
Speaker 6: So I said, if Dallas is going to be this mad,

1022
00:47:19,080 --> 00:47:21,560
Speaker 6: so be it. I'm still going to Miami's wedding. It's

1023
00:47:21,600 --> 00:47:24,200
Speaker 6: too late to change after all the bad mouthing. Yeah,

1024
00:47:24,200 --> 00:47:24,600
Speaker 6: that's what.

1025
00:47:24,719 --> 00:47:25,399
Speaker 2: That's the thing.

1026
00:47:25,560 --> 00:47:27,480
Speaker 6: Always go back to this when people don't get their

1027
00:47:27,920 --> 00:47:29,719
Speaker 6: way and then they lash out and.

1028
00:47:29,760 --> 00:47:31,799
Speaker 2: Expect you to be like, oh, you know, now, I'm

1029
00:47:31,800 --> 00:47:34,160
Speaker 2: gonna take your side. Because you're really mean to me. Yeah,

1030
00:47:34,239 --> 00:47:37,600
Speaker 2: now you've really made me want to be there, Like,

1031
00:47:38,239 --> 00:47:41,319
Speaker 2: I don't understand people's point of views when they do that.

1032
00:47:41,520 --> 00:47:44,279
Speaker 2: Me neither. It's like, why would I want to give

1033
00:47:44,320 --> 00:47:47,839
Speaker 2: you what you want when you're hitting me in the shoulder, Like, oh, yeah,

1034
00:47:47,880 --> 00:47:49,839
Speaker 2: I just made the whole wedding party against you. Yeah,

1035
00:47:49,880 --> 00:47:52,720
Speaker 2: but you should come to mind. Yeah, everyone will love.

1036
00:47:52,600 --> 00:47:55,040
Speaker 3: You there like bunch of backstabbings.

1037
00:47:55,719 --> 00:47:56,440
Speaker 2: Mags didn't.

1038
00:47:56,840 --> 00:47:59,160
Speaker 6: I will update if Dallas and I ever make up.

1039
00:47:59,239 --> 00:48:01,880
Speaker 6: But apparently she's bad mouthing me to everyone.

1040
00:48:02,040 --> 00:48:03,480
Speaker 3: Well, she's from Dallas.

1041
00:48:03,560 --> 00:48:07,359
Speaker 2: What do you think. I don't know enough about people

1042
00:48:07,360 --> 00:48:07,920
Speaker 2: from Dallas.

1043
00:48:07,960 --> 00:48:11,239
Speaker 3: Same the South. They liked a gossip, I believe you.

1044
00:48:11,760 --> 00:48:12,879
Speaker 2: I'll take your word for it.

1045
00:48:13,000 --> 00:48:15,920
Speaker 3: Really you didn't think that. No, they loved the gossip.

1046
00:48:15,920 --> 00:48:17,920
Speaker 3: You know personally. You know what they like to say too.

1047
00:48:18,440 --> 00:48:21,200
Speaker 3: Oh Savannah, she got that pet rat. Bless her heart?

1048
00:48:21,400 --> 00:48:24,279
Speaker 2: Yeah, the bless her heart I've heard. Oh she says

1049
00:48:24,320 --> 00:48:28,240
Speaker 2: to bless her heart. She's always she's always up to something.

1050
00:48:28,600 --> 00:48:30,400
Speaker 3: That's Savannah, bless her heart.

1051
00:48:30,840 --> 00:48:32,400
Speaker 2: That's what they would say. Is that supposed to be

1052
00:48:32,480 --> 00:48:35,400
Speaker 2: bad cat? They insult you, But like in like like

1053
00:48:35,440 --> 00:48:37,480
Speaker 2: a backhanded yeah, thank you for blessing me.

1054
00:48:37,680 --> 00:48:40,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's not like bad, how do I you know,

1055
00:48:41,080 --> 00:48:41,480
Speaker 3: it's like a.

1056
00:48:41,400 --> 00:48:45,200
Speaker 2: Backhanded compliment or not complent, like a backhanded insult thing

1057
00:48:45,960 --> 00:48:46,640
Speaker 2: enduring too.

1058
00:48:46,719 --> 00:48:48,480
Speaker 3: It's weird. It's a weird little.

1059
00:48:48,680 --> 00:48:50,319
Speaker 2: It's like they don't want to be outrat mean because

1060
00:48:50,600 --> 00:48:53,200
Speaker 2: it's like, oh, you did your hair by yourself, bless

1061
00:48:53,239 --> 00:48:56,319
Speaker 2: your heart. Yeah yeah, it looks like you did it.

1062
00:48:56,320 --> 00:48:57,080
Speaker 2: It looks like you did.

1063
00:48:57,880 --> 00:49:00,200
Speaker 3: It's like she just didn't know any better.

1064
00:49:00,440 --> 00:49:03,600
Speaker 6: Saying how I'm lying to her, etc. She's bringing up

1065
00:49:03,640 --> 00:49:06,799
Speaker 6: other bridesmaids of Miami and this drama, saying they are

1066
00:49:06,840 --> 00:49:10,400
Speaker 6: making the decision for me. Not true, true crap show.

1067
00:49:10,920 --> 00:49:13,600
Speaker 6: Dallas and I were both invited to a bachelorette party

1068
00:49:13,640 --> 00:49:16,800
Speaker 6: for a friend. The other friend who chose Miami's wedding

1069
00:49:17,160 --> 00:49:20,120
Speaker 6: Miami will be there as well. Apparently Dallas is not

1070
00:49:20,160 --> 00:49:23,120
Speaker 6: coming anymore and may not even come to that friend's wedding.

1071
00:49:23,160 --> 00:49:27,520
Speaker 2: Oh day, do it. There's a little bit left. Oh boy.

1072
00:49:28,000 --> 00:49:32,000
Speaker 2: Final thoughts. I think you've made the right decision. I

1073
00:49:32,040 --> 00:49:36,040
Speaker 2: think Dallas has shown her true colors and a real

1074
00:49:36,080 --> 00:49:39,839
Speaker 2: friend wouldn't react this way. And I think Miami is

1075
00:49:39,880 --> 00:49:41,719
Speaker 2: cooler and you'll have a better time at her party.

1076
00:49:41,760 --> 00:49:45,399
Speaker 3: Anyway, I get why each friend did what they did.

1077
00:49:45,560 --> 00:49:48,839
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's why I'm gonna be telling people super far

1078
00:49:48,840 --> 00:49:51,760
Speaker 2: in advance. Yeah, well, you have to for a wedding.

1079
00:49:52,040 --> 00:49:54,000
Speaker 6: It can't just be like, you know, a month in

1080
00:49:54,040 --> 00:49:55,799
Speaker 6: advance to be like, oh, by the way, pick up

1081
00:49:55,840 --> 00:49:56,879
Speaker 6: your life and come and do this.

1082
00:49:56,960 --> 00:49:59,600
Speaker 2: I'm gonna be like, hey, does this day work for everyone? Yeah?

1083
00:49:59,640 --> 00:50:02,280
Speaker 2: And well, I mean you can send it a part advice.

1084
00:50:03,680 --> 00:50:06,560
Speaker 2: Do you guys like this day? I'm thinking this day.

1085
00:50:06,880 --> 00:50:08,959
Speaker 3: I'm a little scared to get to that point because

1086
00:50:08,960 --> 00:50:10,600
Speaker 3: Andy's gonna have a lot of opinions.

1087
00:50:10,760 --> 00:50:13,280
Speaker 2: Of course you will, and you're gonna say, yeah, opinions

1088
00:50:13,280 --> 00:50:13,919
Speaker 2: on what the date.

1089
00:50:14,200 --> 00:50:16,600
Speaker 3: I'm just gonna want it within a year. I don't

1090
00:50:16,600 --> 00:50:17,840
Speaker 3: want to wait a year and a half.

1091
00:50:18,040 --> 00:50:19,319
Speaker 2: Yeah, you probably you'll have to.

1092
00:50:19,600 --> 00:50:21,360
Speaker 3: I don't want to wants to take it.

1093
00:50:21,480 --> 00:50:25,520
Speaker 2: Well, just know to engage for the engagements usually take

1094
00:50:25,520 --> 00:50:28,239
Speaker 2: a year to do it too. Yeah, you just have

1095
00:50:28,320 --> 00:50:30,600
Speaker 2: so much to do. Like you you think, oh, I

1096
00:50:30,640 --> 00:50:32,400
Speaker 2: want to do this quicker. I don't want to have

1097
00:50:32,440 --> 00:50:34,399
Speaker 2: a whole year of engagement. But then you're like, oh wait.

1098
00:50:34,440 --> 00:50:36,319
Speaker 2: It's also like I need to cost so much. You

1099
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Speaker 2: have to save up. Yeah, we gotta save up. I

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Speaker 2: need to get a place, and usually just to books

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Speaker 2: something you gotta you know, it's gone with the place,

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00:50:43,840 --> 00:50:46,440
Speaker 2: book all the caterers, yeah, book all the bartenders.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I can do that easy.

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Speaker 3: I got the company.

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00:50:48,640 --> 00:50:51,000
Speaker 2: Guard it's a company.

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Speaker 3: A live stream, I can live stream. I'll do that happily.

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Speaker 2: Donations shut? Should I say I do.

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Speaker 3: Everyone? Put type point? If I should say I do chat?

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00:51:03,760 --> 00:51:11,120
Speaker 2: Do I kiss the bride? Chat? Does anyone object? There is?

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Speaker 2: Edit five two week updates, What did you do? Dallas

1111
00:51:15,800 --> 00:51:20,400
Speaker 2: called me and said we're not friends anymore? Bye bye.

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00:51:20,719 --> 00:51:24,640
Speaker 2: I don't care. She said, I'm fake. She said it's over.

1113
00:51:24,920 --> 00:51:25,840
Speaker 3: Damn. Oh boo hoo.

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00:51:26,160 --> 00:51:31,680
Speaker 2: I'll cry in Miami and cry by the beach. Edit six,

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Speaker 2: four month updates.

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Speaker 6: Oh saw her recently at an event for our mutual friend.

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Speaker 6: We said hi, but then avoided each other. She was

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00:51:40,040 --> 00:51:43,600
Speaker 6: so awkward at the event. However, she was really laughing

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00:51:43,640 --> 00:51:46,200
Speaker 6: and talking to some of my friends. She even asked

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Speaker 6: if they could grab dinner together.

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Speaker 2: Sometimes she is doing that on purpose to some of

1122
00:51:50,480 --> 00:51:53,319
Speaker 2: your No, if it wasn't your mutual friends. It was

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Speaker 2: your just like your personal friends. She's absolutely trying to

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00:51:56,680 --> 00:51:59,480
Speaker 2: take all of your friends and then lie to them.

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Speaker 2: In my humble opinion, yeah, what's your humble? What's your humble?

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00:52:03,040 --> 00:52:04,360
Speaker 2: What's your what's the humble?

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Speaker 6: Give me the four one one on the humble, I

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Speaker 6: would have to say that she's not and as no

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00:52:10,120 --> 00:52:13,719
Speaker 6: friend would act like this because they didn't get one thing,

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Speaker 6: you know, because of course I would feel a little

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00:52:16,680 --> 00:52:19,160
Speaker 6: like I wouldn't say betrayed, but like hurt in a

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Speaker 6: way that I wish you could calme. But like I

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Speaker 6: understand and blah blah blah all this stuff, but like

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Speaker 6: I'm not just going to cut the entire friendship of

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00:52:27,800 --> 00:52:29,720
Speaker 6: whatever this was childhood best friend.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like clearly these friendships didn't mean as much as

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00:52:32,600 --> 00:52:34,839
Speaker 2: you said they did. Yeah, if this is how you're

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00:52:34,840 --> 00:52:36,320
Speaker 2: gonna act, she's just being.

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Speaker 6: Petty and and that's that's on her, that's not on

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Speaker 6: uop true. True, that's her reaction to something that you

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00:52:43,239 --> 00:52:45,960
Speaker 6: thought was a fair choice. So if she doesn't respect that,

1142
00:52:45,960 --> 00:52:48,439
Speaker 6: then she's not a friend and she can go bye

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Speaker 6: bye bye, dallied.

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Speaker 2: But that's the end of that story