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Speaker 1: You've got to Wait.

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Speaker 2: Fred Show is.

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Speaker 1: A lot of money show.

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Speaker 3: Oh.

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Speaker 4: Someone sextually that they heard Waiting for a Start of

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Speaker 4: only one of the greatest songs ever recorded.

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Speaker 2: But that's my encouragement for you this week. Pick an

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Speaker 2: playlist and listen to the songs, and you might even

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Speaker 2: like it. You like sixties, you might like motow. I

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Speaker 2: feel like if you like Metes, then you would like

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Speaker 2: Jackson five.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, I like it a lot.

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Speaker 4: I don't know. I just like the Lord just made

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Speaker 4: me cough. I don't know if that was like, don't

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Speaker 4: even try this. Don't play this game making comparisons between generations.

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Speaker 4: You're going to offend somebody or make them angry because

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Speaker 4: everyone thinks that the music they grew up with is

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Speaker 4: the best music and everything else sucks.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, let me think about it.

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Speaker 4: Don't you feel like you have the most attachment to

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Speaker 4: the song from your childhood?

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Speaker 5: Oh?

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Speaker 2: Yes, early two thousands. I feel like that's my wheel house, college,

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Speaker 2: high school. Yeah, it is The Fred Show. Good morning,

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Speaker 2: Thanks for having us.

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Speaker 4: On the radio on the iHeart app live and anytime

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Speaker 4: search for the Fred Show on demand. How do you

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Speaker 4: guys choose who gets to sleep on which side of

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Speaker 4: the bed? Like, what happens if you get into a

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Speaker 2: How does one negotiate that?

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Speaker 4: Like, because I mean, if you were to say to me,

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Speaker 2: The rest of your life. I mean, eventually, I think

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Speaker 2: I would get used to it, But I mean that

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Speaker 2: would be a that's a big ask, that's a big

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Speaker 2: Now you only switch side to the bed you on me?

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Speaker 2: Just just think my whole life, right if you look

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Speaker 2: at the bed, I'm on the left side of the bed,

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Speaker 2: basically my.

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Speaker 1: Whole life left side. Okay, if you're.

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Speaker 2: Staring at the bed, I'm on the left side of

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Speaker 2: the bed. I don't know.

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Speaker 4: In this case, Yeah, but that's not why. I mean,

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Speaker 4: I guess this is where I've always slept, like always,

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Speaker 4: And I guess that's why I do the hotel too,

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Speaker 4: I guess for the most part.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, a hotel. So what do you do?

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Speaker 4: What do you do if you meet somebody like did

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Speaker 4: all of you just it just worked? Where the person

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Speaker 4: who you're with slept on the other side of the

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah. For me, it's like where is the dog?

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Speaker 1: And then I'll readjust myself, so I don't really have

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Speaker 1: a side of the beau. She it's her bed right,

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Speaker 1: to be honest. And then he is.

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Speaker 6: He goes bed later than me, so then he tries

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Speaker 2: I see. Yeah, so you just sleep wherever there's room.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, because I'm a sucker. Most people would move their dog.

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Speaker 2: Sometimes it's the left side, sometimes it's the right side.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes, yeah, I know. Don't trust me.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I think I moved the dog. I moved

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Speaker 1: I think I know. No, Yeah, they're so comfy looking.

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Speaker 2: Can I think I would? I think I would? I think,

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Speaker 4: I say that, But then when I'm at home and

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Speaker 4: and the cats too, and I'm allergic to cats.

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Speaker 2: But moves the main coon like that. He's just a

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Speaker 4: He does ever he was like, he'll and then he'll

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Speaker 2: So this is not really a deed debate. That's not

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Speaker 7: No, I made Hobby goo wherever the door is because

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Speaker 7: we've moved twice now, so like wherever the door is.

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Speaker 1: If there's danger, you're going first. Yeah, so you need

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Speaker 1: to maybe by the door. That's how I think.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Right, so I'm not sure. I'm pretty sure if

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Speaker 4: The several feet maybe two or three feet, you know,

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Speaker 4: much difference in the killing spree it was gonna happen.

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Speaker 1: He died a hero because he was by the door,

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Speaker 2: What I'm saying. Well, I don't know that he would

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Speaker 6: You, Wow, plays to go.

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Speaker 2: But you just said he would.

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Speaker 1: Die a hero but I wouldn't because he would.

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Speaker 2: But if he's dead, then he can't be a hero

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Speaker 2: to you, And I guess I guess he could. I

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Speaker 2: do know. Hey, Chloe, how you doing?

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Speaker 1: I'm younger?

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Speaker 8: How are you?

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Speaker 2: Whoe?

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Speaker 4: How did this work? How did this work? When you

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Speaker 9: Yeah, I mean, we compromise in a lot of ways.

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Speaker 10: But I was just like, I just feel.

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Speaker 1: This is where you need to change, and he.

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Speaker 9: Was just like I I guess I will.

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Speaker 11: And I was like, okay, sounds.

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Speaker 8: Great, so you know it. I gave him a choice

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Speaker 8: and he made his choice.

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Speaker 9: But I mean, the main reason why we sleep where

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Speaker 9: we sleep now is because I'm like, listen, you need

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Speaker 9: to be closer to the door, because, like Heaven forbid,

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Speaker 9: I need to hear you first. So really that's one

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Speaker 1: But like it was very simple.

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Speaker 9: I was just like listen, I'm not changing in this regard,

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Speaker 2: Said, I guess I will, because I'm gonna say.

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Speaker 1: Then it was done.

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Speaker 2: Chloe. You say you gave him a choice, but you

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Speaker 2: infected not it was this other place.

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Speaker 9: Exactly, like you either sleep here next to me on

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Speaker 2: Oh well, like I said, is a choice. Yeah, Now

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Speaker 2: what if he had chosen? Oh, I, so I don't

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Speaker 4: Then you're saying I can sleep in a different room

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Speaker 4: same side of the bed. That's that wouldn't have done overwhell.

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Speaker 8: I'm not gonna lie.

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Speaker 9: If he ever came to me and was like, I

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Speaker 4: I would with it too, honestly, Like sometimes we sleep

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Speaker 4: So I maybe in those nights, I sleep in a

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Speaker 2: And you're like, ah, you know, I don't want to

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Speaker 2: to deal with this. So okay, wait a minute. Maybe

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Speaker 2: that's a whole different conversation. How many of you would

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Speaker 2: that with the option of going back. No interesting, Chloe.

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Speaker 2: Look at you, Chloe, you're just changing the changing the

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Speaker 2: a good day, Thank you for calling you. That's a

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Speaker 2: different conversation. Like, and each person gets.

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Speaker 4: An equal sized room in their own bathroom in this dynamic.

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Speaker 4: I mean, I'm not saying someone has to sleep in

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Speaker 2: Like, let's just say hypothetically, like, no one's sacrificing anything.

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Speaker 2: The beds are equally comfortable. But let's say, like maybe

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Speaker 2: like I like it very cold where I'm sleeping. I

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Speaker 2: like it very cold. Some people don't like it that cold.

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Speaker 1: Well, we agree.

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Speaker 4: Those people would be wrong. I totally agree with them,

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Speaker 4: but wrong people are out there. People are wrong. A

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Speaker 4: lot of people I see him every day, they call,

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Speaker 4: appear to you know, they say stupid things, They text

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Speaker 4: him like you you're wrong, and that's very sad.

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Speaker 1: For you, right right, I feel bad if I didn't

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Speaker 4: You disagree, and that's a horrible place to the horrible

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Speaker 4: place to be in life. But but yeah, I mean, like,

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Speaker 4: let's say so instead of arguing about that, we're living

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Speaker 4: your life sort of dissatisfied because you know your partner

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Speaker 4: needs at seventy and you want it sixty six.

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Speaker 2: Or whatever it is, or or or warmer.

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Speaker 4: Then you just two separate sleeping environments and you can

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Speaker 4: all right, now I'm gonna go to sleep, and then

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Speaker 4: we don't have these problems.

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Speaker 2: Then. No, No, there's never a time where you don't

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Speaker 2: want him to wait, wait, but he's not in the

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Speaker 12: Right, But I want him there. I would prefer that

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Speaker 12: he'd be there for sure. Now I do like having

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Speaker 12: separate like dressing rooms, so like I have a glamor

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Speaker 12: room and there is the guest room where he can go,

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Speaker 12: you know. But I think as long as we have

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Speaker 12: that like where my things aren't being touched all the

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Speaker 12: time and they can you know, jury and so it

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Speaker 12: could just be but I think you should sleep in

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Speaker 12: the bed together.

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Speaker 4: Okay, so he can sleep in the bed with you,

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Speaker 4: but don't get anywhere near your jewelry. Yeah, well I've

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Speaker 4: heard that about exam. Yeah, and your wings took its

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Speaker 4: weird when he shows up with the.

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Speaker 13: Fact that he would be.

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Speaker 4: Trying to wear rings is something Hey, Brian, Hey Brian,

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Speaker 4: So you sleep between your partner and the door, and

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Speaker 4: that's because you're going to save the day if anything happens.

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Speaker 14: Okay, not because I want to leave first in case

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Speaker 14: of an emergency, but if there's an intruder, I feel

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Speaker 14: like whoever it is is going to have to go

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Speaker 14: through me before they get to my spouse.

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Speaker 4: I see. And so you're ready save the day right there.

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Speaker 4: I'm like, I'm protecting you, and that's what I say

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Speaker 2: So I don't understand the logic.

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Speaker 14: The logic is that the husband always dies first.

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Speaker 2: Bread.

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Speaker 4: I'm just saying the logic doesn't make sense, Like he's

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Speaker 2: Logic, that's not going to happen. Like I'm not I'm

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Speaker 1: You would push me? What if you see it.

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Speaker 6: Hate you, not it will just hit me, and I

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Speaker 15: Yes, it's kind of funny how it started. I recently

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Speaker 10: Kind of my things things.

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Speaker 15: But like we don't do it every night. If there

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Speaker 15: So it actually works out really nicely for us. And

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Speaker 2: There you go, thank you, Bailey. See it works. Let's

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Speaker 2: say the great thank you. This is what I'm going

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Speaker 13: So we're really rearranging our entire like sleep placement over

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Speaker 2: This is what I'm saying.

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Speaker 4: It's not I'm sorry, but like, if you're standing over

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Speaker 1: Yep, what are you really going to do?

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Speaker 2: Exactly?

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Speaker 16: Thank you?

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Speaker 2: This is one time somebody things are dumb. Everyone thinks

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Speaker 1: Like if someone walks in your roope, what are you

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Speaker 2: That's right, you're actually okay, well let me let me

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Speaker 2: I'm getting the strap now.

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Speaker 7: You sleep, every night, just the small possibility that someone

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Speaker 2: But if they break it and stand over the bed,

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Speaker 2: like they've got both of us right, if they want

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Speaker 4: What is me walking closer to the road actually accomplishing

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Speaker 13: Are you open to like, are you open to maybe

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Speaker 1: Are you what do you mean?

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Speaker 2: I'm listening?

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Speaker 13: Okay, okay, because I I know sometimes like if I

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Speaker 13: I'm closed off from that, but no, listen. So like

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Speaker 13: I said, you could push me out of the way,

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Speaker 13: You definitely could soften the blow for sure.

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Speaker 1: And the puddle thing. I think it's just like a

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Speaker 1: nice sign of chivalry. But if my date is deaf.

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Speaker 13: In one year, I'm totally fine with him switching sides.

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Speaker 2: I'm fine to be on the side where yes, I

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Speaker 2: don't have to listen, it's fine, but I'm saving your life.

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Speaker 13: Like also, like if I'm standing behind you, you can't even

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Speaker 4: I'm definitely two hundred and forty pounds into you at

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Speaker 2: But then tapples you over.

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Speaker 13: But you get crushed by the car and.

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Speaker 2: You get crushed by me.

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Speaker 3: Oh baby, if the exact trajectory sends you into her,

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Speaker 2: Next to.

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Speaker 1: The car, drive sideways.

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Speaker 2: If a car's going behind.

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Speaker 3: You, it's gonna hit you, and you're gonna go four wheel.

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Speaker 2: Jason, I'm not that a car is ten feet wide.

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Speaker 1: Ain't a whiteboard.

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry, you guys are not right about this. If

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Speaker 2: That's just the bottom.

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Speaker 1: It's not even a chance that you might be able

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Speaker 13: Slight chancetop the car.

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Speaker 4: I think what I'm saying to you is whatever makes

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Speaker 2: It's ridiculus.

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Speaker 4: The same the same way to being close to the

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Speaker 4: I'm sorry, I'm not going to save your life. If

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Speaker 2: Hits us and we're walking next to each other, I'm sorry, Hey, Melissa.

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Speaker 1: Him Melissa, Yeah, good morning.

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Speaker 9: Hi.

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Speaker 2: So you are a very courteous person. You would just

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Speaker 2: you're moving in with someone, you're gonna just to them.

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Speaker 10: But if they're moving in, you rule your house.

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Speaker 4: Which I okay, interesting Melissa, So it would depends then

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Speaker 1: Okay, But if you guys are buying a house.

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Speaker 10: Together, and you guys have already lived together, then going

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Speaker 7: I see.

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Speaker 4: So if we move into a news space together, then

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Speaker 4: if you come to my house and you get to

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Speaker 2: Okay, perfect, thank you, Melissa. Problem solved. Yeah, you guys

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Speaker 2: are you guys are silly.

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Speaker 1: You're not gonna stop the right. That is so crazy.

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Speaker 1: That is crazy.

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Speaker 12: You're not even gonna put your hand out to try

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Speaker 2: This is what I'm talking about. Like, listen to yourself

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Speaker 4: anytime eight five five five one three five. I have

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Speaker 4: no idea who made this this list, and if these people,

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Speaker 2: So I want, like the real list.

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Speaker 4: I'll tell you what was on theirs, but I want

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Speaker 2: Eight five five five three five. But this this article

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Speaker 4: Fifteen things that men are required by law to know

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Speaker 2: So now do you want to hear what they think?

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Speaker 2: This is?

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Speaker 2: These are the things that men, all men it must

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Speaker 4: Should I tell you the list to see what you

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Speaker 2: Now, which is which is I often? Come round? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: I am, It's all that's rightness.

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Speaker 1: It might be a dumb reason, but it's the reason, right.

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Speaker 12: was just like, man, I love you, bro, I want

448
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Speaker 12: to like lex man.

449
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Speaker 2: This is off of you, man, yes, right now, Okay.

450
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Speaker 2: The dumbest reason you cried lately?

451
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Speaker 7: Oh well, Hobby decided that he didn't want to put

452
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Speaker 7: like a larger amount of pasta on my plate.

453
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Speaker 1: And I got really offended because.

454
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Speaker 7: I was like, I'm hungry and he like didn't give

455
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Speaker 7: me as much as he gave himself.

456
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Speaker 1: I won't eat it all, but I want the same

457
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Speaker 1: amount as he wants. Does that make sense?

458
00:18:41,640 --> 00:18:43,440
Speaker 2: Was there some left over or did he just take?

459
00:18:43,560 --> 00:18:45,680
Speaker 1: Oh no, we had a lot left over three days,

460
00:18:45,920 --> 00:18:46,920
Speaker 1: so you were like, get me more?

461
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Speaker 2: He said, no, Well, things I know, but he was.

462
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Speaker 7: Just confused because you're not going to eat all this,

463
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Speaker 7: which is true. He does eat more than I do,

464
00:18:51,920 --> 00:18:53,320
Speaker 7: but I wanted to match his plate.

465
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Speaker 2: So you start crying.

466
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Speaker 1: I was very offunded.

467
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Speaker 2: I don't I don't know if I'm worthy of I

468
00:18:59,200 --> 00:19:02,639
Speaker 2: don't know if I'm of the right of having that in.

469
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Speaker 1: My home, Like, no, I don't want that in my home.

470
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Speaker 2: I'm not.

471
00:19:07,560 --> 00:19:10,399
Speaker 4: I'm not saying that you're wrong to express your emotion

472
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Speaker 4: however you want.

473
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Speaker 2: I know.

474
00:19:12,800 --> 00:19:16,080
Speaker 13: Oh no, it's just the literal, Like you're so literal

475
00:19:16,200 --> 00:19:18,560
Speaker 13: and I am pragmatic. I just I don't know if

476
00:19:18,560 --> 00:19:20,920
Speaker 13: we're gonna ever see eye to eye on the emotions

477
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Speaker 13: thing in fairness.

478
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Speaker 4: Though in all fairness, we can cut the bs for

479
00:19:27,400 --> 00:19:30,080
Speaker 4: one second, like I love you. But if a woman

480
00:19:30,200 --> 00:19:35,400
Speaker 4: is crying because I didn't put one extra thing of pasta,

481
00:19:35,520 --> 00:19:39,000
Speaker 4: like that's not I know, that's not really defensive, Like

482
00:19:39,720 --> 00:19:42,600
Speaker 4: we're not talking about logic, but you're admitting what I'm saying,

483
00:19:42,600 --> 00:19:45,359
Speaker 4: Like that's that's not what we're you going. Oh no,

484
00:19:45,560 --> 00:19:47,639
Speaker 4: Like that's a ridiculous reason to cry. There's nothing I

485
00:19:47,640 --> 00:19:49,800
Speaker 4: can do about that, because I could. You're crying, and

486
00:19:49,840 --> 00:19:51,640
Speaker 4: I go one more scoop. Here you go, and you're

487
00:19:51,640 --> 00:19:54,200
Speaker 4: still crying. Like problem solved. Why are we crying? Well,

488
00:19:54,200 --> 00:19:56,119
Speaker 4: he forgot to make the garlic bread. He forgot to

489
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Speaker 4: make it.

490
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Speaker 2: To cry about that, But like my whole thing about

491
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Speaker 2: logic versus reason or whatever, that's that's not that's that's

492
00:20:05,560 --> 00:20:06,760
Speaker 2: there is nothing to do with that.

493
00:20:06,920 --> 00:20:08,320
Speaker 1: But was it a certain time of the month.

494
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Speaker 13: Did she have a hard day taking care of the baby?

495
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Speaker 2: Like?

496
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Speaker 13: That's what I'm saying, is like there's lay layers to

497
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Speaker 13: the ish.

498
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Speaker 1: I know, this is my every day at home.

499
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Speaker 12: Guys, I don't want to see the I wouldn't want

500
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Speaker 12: this in my house either.

501
00:20:22,440 --> 00:20:29,399
Speaker 1: Here every day. I don't know, man, like I know

502
00:20:30,200 --> 00:20:31,720
Speaker 1: the dog, I don't know either.

503
00:20:32,800 --> 00:20:33,679
Speaker 2: But here's the problem.

504
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Speaker 4: The problem is like if I see a woman crying,

505
00:20:35,600 --> 00:20:37,760
Speaker 4: or anybody really, but if I see a woman crying, like,

506
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Speaker 4: I'm going to do everything I can to fix it.

507
00:20:40,200 --> 00:20:42,159
Speaker 4: But like, if it's something like that where it's that

508
00:20:42,280 --> 00:20:43,040
Speaker 4: easy to fix it.

509
00:20:43,040 --> 00:20:43,240
Speaker 5: And that.

510
00:20:45,160 --> 00:20:47,800
Speaker 4: Inadverten is not intentional and whatever, it's like, I don't

511
00:20:47,800 --> 00:20:48,960
Speaker 4: know what to do with that. And if I were,

512
00:20:49,040 --> 00:20:50,640
Speaker 4: if I were doing that all the time, I would

513
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Speaker 4: just be like I don't know what to do with this,

514
00:20:52,440 --> 00:20:58,560
Speaker 4: like like pedalize, like cry like expressive emotions if I

515
00:20:58,600 --> 00:21:00,520
Speaker 4: screw something up so that I know that I can

516
00:21:00,560 --> 00:21:02,280
Speaker 4: fix it. But like if you cry about a lot

517
00:21:02,280 --> 00:21:04,879
Speaker 4: of stuff, then I don't know what you're really crying

518
00:21:04,920 --> 00:21:06,399
Speaker 4: about and what you know what I mean, like, I

519
00:21:06,440 --> 00:21:08,439
Speaker 4: don't know what I'm supposed to prioritize here an this

520
00:21:08,520 --> 00:21:11,440
Speaker 4: coop of pasta or like you know, I don't know,

521
00:21:11,840 --> 00:21:15,200
Speaker 4: not forgetting our anniversary something way worse. I guess that's

522
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Speaker 4: what I'm saying. It would be very confusing to me.

523
00:21:17,359 --> 00:21:19,399
Speaker 4: I'm not criticizing it. I would just be like is

524
00:21:19,440 --> 00:21:20,960
Speaker 4: this are you being hormonal?

525
00:21:21,080 --> 00:21:23,399
Speaker 2: Or are you being this? Or did I really upset you?

526
00:21:23,440 --> 00:21:26,760
Speaker 2: Which one is it? I don't know what do I do.

527
00:21:27,480 --> 00:21:32,040
Speaker 2: I can't ask questions, so I can't ask questions. I

528
00:21:32,040 --> 00:21:33,040
Speaker 2: can't be frustrated.

529
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Speaker 1: That's exactly right.

530
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Speaker 12: What does he do in that situation? Like what does

531
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Speaker 12: he do?

532
00:21:40,440 --> 00:21:43,000
Speaker 1: Well? First? The first things? First he'll say what's wrong,

533
00:21:43,160 --> 00:21:43,880
Speaker 1: like that's where we started.

534
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Speaker 7: I would just say a questions where I would start, yes,

535
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Speaker 7: and then.

536
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Speaker 1: That does leave the door open for communication.

537
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Speaker 7: So yes, it's it was a hard day with the

538
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Speaker 7: baby or this happened, you know earlier today, I got

539
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Speaker 7: this email and I'm so upset, and yes, emails take

540
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Speaker 7: me sad sometimes, so like.

541
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Speaker 1: I know the time, so I'm just like, you know,

542
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Speaker 1: I want to just vent.

543
00:22:02,600 --> 00:22:05,159
Speaker 7: But then, you know, when I'm not logical, I have

544
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Speaker 7: to hear about how it doesn't make sense to him

545
00:22:07,200 --> 00:22:09,240
Speaker 7: and he can't really wrap his head around it.

546
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Speaker 1: And then I think there's a circle of that.

547
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Speaker 2: No, but here's the thing.

548
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Speaker 4: Here's what I appreciate about that scenario is that if

549
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Speaker 4: I don't give you enough pasta and you start crying,

550
00:22:18,440 --> 00:22:21,080
Speaker 4: but then you tell me that it's because of something else,

551
00:22:21,600 --> 00:22:24,280
Speaker 4: I can live with that, because I I this, men

552
00:22:24,320 --> 00:22:27,119
Speaker 4: are no different like I will go if something happens

553
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Speaker 4: here that that upsets me or somewhere else. I will

554
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Speaker 4: probably go into my day with an attitude, and I

555
00:22:32,680 --> 00:22:35,119
Speaker 4: find myself having to check myself. And then if I

556
00:22:35,160 --> 00:22:37,560
Speaker 4: do show somebody some attitude I didn't mean to, I

557
00:22:37,680 --> 00:22:39,400
Speaker 4: try and go back and tell the hey, my bad,

558
00:22:39,400 --> 00:22:41,400
Speaker 4: I'm you know, that wasn't done you that was I mean,

559
00:22:41,520 --> 00:22:44,840
Speaker 4: so at least there's some communication. But do you always

560
00:22:44,880 --> 00:22:47,119
Speaker 4: do that or do you sometimes cry? And then like,

561
00:22:47,240 --> 00:22:50,000
Speaker 4: don't tell him why, and then he thinks it's about him.

562
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Speaker 1: I'm sure that's happening, because that's the frustrating.

563
00:22:52,880 --> 00:22:55,040
Speaker 4: Part is what I think you're I think you're emoting

564
00:22:55,080 --> 00:22:57,520
Speaker 4: about me, and I don't know how to fix it

565
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Speaker 4: because I didn't necessarily do it.

566
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Speaker 13: Yeah, think that's another big issue between men and women. Traditionally,

567
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Speaker 13: if you're in that sort of relationship is you guys

568
00:23:05,600 --> 00:23:07,920
Speaker 13: always want to fix it, and sometimes we don't.

569
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Speaker 1: Want you to fix it. We just want to talk

570
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Speaker 1: and be heard.

571
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Speaker 13: So like my boyfriend goes into like fix it mode

572
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Speaker 13: and we're rushing around and we're doing things, and I

573
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Speaker 13: don't want you to fix it.

574
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Speaker 1: I just want you to hear me.

575
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Speaker 13: And I think that that's like the fundamental difference.

576
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Speaker 1: So if you ask, like do you want me to

577
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Speaker 1: help you solve or do you want someone to listen?

578
00:23:24,119 --> 00:23:24,960
Speaker 1: That's always really hard.

579
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Speaker 4: I guess just those differentiating factors will be helpful for

580
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Speaker 4: us to know on the other side, like, hey, is

581
00:23:30,760 --> 00:23:33,320
Speaker 4: this about me? Is this about something else? I did

582
00:23:33,359 --> 00:23:35,000
Speaker 4: this thing that made you cry? But are you really

583
00:23:35,000 --> 00:23:36,320
Speaker 4: crying about me? And do you want me to do

584
00:23:36,359 --> 00:23:38,760
Speaker 4: anything about it? Because if I don't ask questions and

585
00:23:38,800 --> 00:23:41,760
Speaker 4: I don't do anything about it. Then I'm insensitive. But

586
00:23:41,800 --> 00:23:43,760
Speaker 4: I so it's a very difficult.

587
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Speaker 2: Spot, it is.

588
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Speaker 1: I mean we've only.

589
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Speaker 2: Gone through number one. Okay, number two we also like

590
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Speaker 2: to vent.

591
00:23:50,000 --> 00:23:54,440
Speaker 4: Okay, fine, number three. We have fears you might see

592
00:23:54,440 --> 00:23:58,000
Speaker 4: as irrational. Okay, but I don't think that's a gender thing.

593
00:23:58,119 --> 00:24:01,400
Speaker 4: I have fears that people think are irrational. So yeah, okay,

594
00:24:01,560 --> 00:24:04,440
Speaker 4: we love it when you call us. These are fifteen

595
00:24:04,440 --> 00:24:06,640
Speaker 4: things that men are required by law to know about women.

596
00:24:06,680 --> 00:24:07,680
Speaker 2: See, I don't think that's true.

597
00:24:07,760 --> 00:24:12,320
Speaker 1: Don't ever call me. Oh no, I always call you.

598
00:24:12,400 --> 00:24:16,119
Speaker 6: Okay, there's okay, Well, you're fine.

599
00:24:17,920 --> 00:24:20,199
Speaker 2: We prefer that you let us know if you're not

600
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Speaker 2: into us. I mean the again, that'd be nice to

601
00:24:24,720 --> 00:24:29,640
Speaker 2: know in any circumstance. I don't know yet. You might

602
00:24:29,640 --> 00:24:33,720
Speaker 2: cry in vent, but but you want me to call

603
00:24:33,760 --> 00:24:36,720
Speaker 2: you and tell you, would you prefer.

604
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Speaker 1: I'm not into you.

605
00:24:38,440 --> 00:24:42,199
Speaker 4: We don't require grand gestures, but they're nice. See now,

606
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Speaker 4: that's another one. I've dated people who do want the

607
00:24:45,760 --> 00:24:48,440
Speaker 4: grand gesture. I've dated people who don't. I've dated people

608
00:24:48,440 --> 00:24:50,199
Speaker 4: who want to be doted on. I've dated people who

609
00:24:50,280 --> 00:24:52,959
Speaker 4: don't like it's case by case. I don't know if

610
00:24:52,960 --> 00:24:56,120
Speaker 4: these are all universal. We don't define a relationship by

611
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Speaker 4: the size.

612
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Speaker 1: Of a ring, No, don't. It's not universal.

613
00:25:05,119 --> 00:25:06,360
Speaker 2: I'm wondering at this time.

614
00:25:06,720 --> 00:25:09,359
Speaker 4: So it says we, But then I'm saying, you know,

615
00:25:09,560 --> 00:25:13,120
Speaker 4: I don't represent you guys at all. We love babies,

616
00:25:13,119 --> 00:25:15,240
Speaker 4: but that doesn't mean that we want to rush into things.

617
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Speaker 1: I mean, okay, not women like love are obsessed with

618
00:25:20,520 --> 00:25:21,240
Speaker 1: babies like that.

619
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Speaker 2: So I don't know.

620
00:25:22,600 --> 00:25:22,840
Speaker 1: True.

621
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Speaker 4: Yeah, I guess I don't assume that every woman wants

622
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Speaker 4: a baby. But when I go out, when I'm on

623
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Speaker 4: my second day with you and you say, so, where's

624
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Speaker 4: this headed because I want to have a kid like

625
00:25:31,760 --> 00:25:34,080
Speaker 4: that typically indicates to me that you would like to

626
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Speaker 4: have a baby. Because you just said that, we aren't

627
00:25:38,720 --> 00:25:41,560
Speaker 4: comparing you to our exes, Yeah you are, that's sure life,

628
00:25:42,240 --> 00:25:44,360
Speaker 4: And I think that happens all the time. I think

629
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Speaker 4: people compared the people they're with the their exes all

630
00:25:47,280 --> 00:25:51,960
Speaker 4: the time. But except that's that's a that's a confirmation

631
00:25:52,720 --> 00:25:55,399
Speaker 4: because you would just deny it. So some one says that,

632
00:25:55,440 --> 00:25:56,639
Speaker 4: I'm like, well, you would just deny it if it

633
00:25:56,680 --> 00:26:04,600
Speaker 4: weren't true. We tend to overanalyze. I'll admit, okay, we

634
00:26:04,720 --> 00:26:10,240
Speaker 4: prefer direct communication. I do like that, yeah, okay.

635
00:26:10,320 --> 00:26:14,000
Speaker 2: Okay, but okay, but then the direct communication means that

636
00:26:14,040 --> 00:26:16,400
Speaker 2: I'm asking questions about things that I've just been told

637
00:26:16,440 --> 00:26:18,119
Speaker 2: by you guys not to ask questions about.

638
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Speaker 4: So I'm trying to communicate. But now I'm annoying because

639
00:26:21,280 --> 00:26:23,520
Speaker 4: I'm asking why you're crying. But I just gave you

640
00:26:23,600 --> 00:26:25,280
Speaker 4: more posita polina, let'stop crying.

641
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Speaker 1: That's why I don't mess with y'all.

642
00:26:29,400 --> 00:26:31,520
Speaker 2: Thank you for at least thank you for it, Maggiet.

643
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Speaker 4: It could be a little confusing because these are contra

644
00:26:35,600 --> 00:26:37,160
Speaker 4: even this list contradicts itself.

645
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Speaker 2: So we appreciate courtesy.

646
00:26:39,440 --> 00:26:44,600
Speaker 4: Okay, we still want to feel feminine, beautiful and safe. Yes, okay,

647
00:26:44,880 --> 00:26:49,080
Speaker 4: we hold you in high regard. Not always. No, I

648
00:26:49,119 --> 00:26:51,360
Speaker 4: don't think so, I mean like anybody else. I don't

649
00:26:51,400 --> 00:26:55,520
Speaker 4: think everyone's out, you know. I think that's that's situational

650
00:26:55,680 --> 00:26:58,280
Speaker 4: and we can still tire our shoes and do any

651
00:26:58,359 --> 00:27:03,520
Speaker 4: number of other complex things. I don't know who is

652
00:27:03,640 --> 00:27:06,000
Speaker 4: if you're if you're someone questioning that, then your misogynists,

653
00:27:06,000 --> 00:27:09,320
Speaker 4: your terrible human being. Of course, women can do many, many, many, things.

654
00:27:09,320 --> 00:27:11,840
Speaker 4: You do it every day, so I don't I don't know.

655
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Speaker 1: Oh that was for me, like I tie my shoes.

656
00:27:14,960 --> 00:27:17,440
Speaker 4: No, I'm I'm Paulina, just welcome to the show. I'm

657
00:27:17,480 --> 00:27:20,240
Speaker 4: reading you a list of We've been talking about the

658
00:27:20,240 --> 00:27:20,640
Speaker 4: same thing.

659
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Speaker 2: But last time.

660
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Speaker 1: But I didn't know this is this is.

661
00:27:24,200 --> 00:27:28,400
Speaker 4: The same perspective as the other. I don't like it either,

662
00:27:28,440 --> 00:27:33,919
Speaker 4: But I mean says we can still tie our shoes

663
00:27:33,920 --> 00:27:36,240
Speaker 4: and do any number of other complex, herculean things.

664
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Speaker 13: I said complex, Like I'm concerned is that complex to do?

665
00:27:39,880 --> 00:27:42,080
Speaker 4: I mean, you guys can create life and extract it

666
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Speaker 4: from your body.

667
00:27:42,800 --> 00:27:46,480
Speaker 2: And I don't know why anyone's not impressed by that. Yeah,

668
00:27:46,840 --> 00:27:48,800
Speaker 2: maybe not in that moment. You can't tie your shoes.

669
00:27:48,840 --> 00:27:51,160
Speaker 2: But I don't understand this list. I don't get it.

670
00:27:52,359 --> 00:27:55,680
Speaker 4: Somebody said, how many tampons will you use? You man

671
00:27:55,720 --> 00:27:56,240
Speaker 4: needs to know that?

672
00:27:56,440 --> 00:27:57,199
Speaker 1: Oh he doesn't.

673
00:27:57,520 --> 00:27:59,560
Speaker 2: Come on, No, I don't know why I wouldn't need to.

674
00:27:59,600 --> 00:28:01,280
Speaker 1: I mean, I to grown folks business.

675
00:28:02,760 --> 00:28:04,640
Speaker 13: I would like, I'll tell you what flavor I want

676
00:28:04,680 --> 00:28:05,879
Speaker 13: if I need to send you to get some.

677
00:28:06,200 --> 00:28:11,720
Speaker 1: But no, I'm kidding. You don't need to know how many.

678
00:28:11,960 --> 00:28:14,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know individual. I think it's nice if

679
00:28:14,280 --> 00:28:17,560
Speaker 2: a guy has some perspective on that, but like, I don't.

680
00:28:17,600 --> 00:28:18,880
Speaker 2: I don't know why I need to know the ins

681
00:28:18,880 --> 00:28:21,280
Speaker 2: and outside because I don't know what that offers to

682
00:28:21,320 --> 00:28:24,359
Speaker 2: you at all. But at least you can still tell

683
00:28:24,400 --> 00:28:26,000
Speaker 2: your shoes some days.

684
00:28:26,040 --> 00:28:27,879
Speaker 1: That's a good thing, you know, not every day.

685
00:28:28,280 --> 00:28:30,480
Speaker 2: I don't know. I know about this list, right?

686
00:28:30,600 --> 00:28:30,639
Speaker 16: No?

687
00:28:30,920 --> 00:28:31,200
Speaker 2: Wow?

688
00:28:33,800 --> 00:28:36,040
Speaker 1: I mean the list is just is just I would.

689
00:28:35,840 --> 00:28:38,400
Speaker 2: Jason, Okay, well, then give me one. Okay, I'm gonna

690
00:28:38,400 --> 00:28:40,280
Speaker 2: push the button. But you guys, each give me one

691
00:28:40,280 --> 00:28:43,280
Speaker 2: that wasn't on the list that you really want to know, Like, like,

692
00:28:43,400 --> 00:28:46,640
Speaker 2: what is something that a man needs to know about

693
00:28:46,680 --> 00:28:50,760
Speaker 2: you by law that wasn't on this list? So you

694
00:28:50,800 --> 00:28:52,440
Speaker 2: can't come up with anything else. But you don't like

695
00:28:52,480 --> 00:28:53,719
Speaker 2: this list, I don't list at all.

696
00:28:53,840 --> 00:28:55,960
Speaker 12: Don't you say that I'm a princess and I deserve

697
00:28:56,000 --> 00:28:59,600
Speaker 12: whatever I want? I want Queen, Yes, and I should

698
00:28:59,600 --> 00:29:00,880
Speaker 12: be treated such at all time.

699
00:29:02,320 --> 00:29:02,560
Speaker 2: Wow?

700
00:29:02,640 --> 00:29:04,400
Speaker 1: And if I'm crying is something you did?

701
00:29:06,440 --> 00:29:06,760
Speaker 2: Thank you?

702
00:29:06,840 --> 00:29:14,800
Speaker 14: Friend? Show more Fresh Show next.

703
00:29:12,360 --> 00:29:14,040
Speaker 2: The Fresh Show is on.

704
00:29:17,080 --> 00:29:19,320
Speaker 4: I mean, I'm gonna sound like a like a jerk,

705
00:29:19,560 --> 00:29:21,520
Speaker 4: but I feel like the people who get super hype

706
00:29:21,640 --> 00:29:24,760
Speaker 4: about the high school reunion are the people who peaked

707
00:29:24,760 --> 00:29:25,360
Speaker 4: in high school?

708
00:29:26,880 --> 00:29:28,480
Speaker 2: Because like, I don't know, I don't get it. I'm

709
00:29:28,520 --> 00:29:30,760
Speaker 2: not really hyped about anything that happened twenty five years ago.

710
00:29:30,920 --> 00:29:31,880
Speaker 1: I miss it so much.

711
00:29:32,280 --> 00:29:34,720
Speaker 2: High school, Yes, I see, I don't it's not going

712
00:29:35,000 --> 00:29:37,640
Speaker 2: so much better. I left that place that got better, better, better,

713
00:29:37,720 --> 00:29:41,520
Speaker 2: better better? Really did you peak in he you didn't

714
00:29:41,560 --> 00:29:43,280
Speaker 2: look at you. You're here on this show.

715
00:29:43,480 --> 00:29:46,440
Speaker 4: You got all these businesses, and you've got three towels

716
00:29:46,440 --> 00:29:47,120
Speaker 4: for the business.

717
00:29:48,080 --> 00:29:51,480
Speaker 2: You got your you're almost a realtor, spray tam.

718
00:29:51,800 --> 00:29:52,560
Speaker 1: What don't I do?

719
00:29:52,720 --> 00:29:58,720
Speaker 4: Philanthropist, power suit wearing TV on on Lady. So I

720
00:29:58,760 --> 00:30:00,720
Speaker 4: would not say you piked in high You had a

721
00:30:00,840 --> 00:30:02,240
Speaker 4: beautiful daughter and a husband.

722
00:30:02,240 --> 00:30:03,280
Speaker 1: Thank you, thank you.

723
00:30:03,360 --> 00:30:05,280
Speaker 7: I feel like that was just a time was had

724
00:30:05,560 --> 00:30:06,240
Speaker 7: and people say.

725
00:30:06,080 --> 00:30:08,120
Speaker 1: Oh, I went to college it had like way more fun.

726
00:30:07,920 --> 00:30:10,720
Speaker 7: And listen, I didn't have that college experience. It wasn't

727
00:30:10,880 --> 00:30:13,680
Speaker 7: necessarily fun. It just was what it was, if that

728
00:30:13,720 --> 00:30:15,480
Speaker 7: makes any sense. Yeahig school wasn't bad.

729
00:30:15,520 --> 00:30:17,400
Speaker 4: I just I was in no hurry to like go

730
00:30:17,520 --> 00:30:18,920
Speaker 4: stand in a room with a bunch of people that

731
00:30:18,960 --> 00:30:20,440
Speaker 4: I hadn't talked to in a very long time, Like

732
00:30:20,480 --> 00:30:21,520
Speaker 4: what are we going to talk about?

733
00:30:21,680 --> 00:30:22,640
Speaker 2: You know, I don't know.

734
00:30:22,720 --> 00:30:25,000
Speaker 1: It's very awkward. It can be I can see that.

735
00:30:25,240 --> 00:30:27,880
Speaker 4: And people were really offended that I wasn't into the

736
00:30:28,120 --> 00:30:30,120
Speaker 4: I didn't go. I mean, and I don't think they

737
00:30:30,120 --> 00:30:32,240
Speaker 4: were offended because I wasn't there. They were just offended.

738
00:30:32,320 --> 00:30:34,280
Speaker 4: There were people that weren't as excited about it. I mean,

739
00:30:34,280 --> 00:30:36,600
Speaker 4: we had that girl from high school on the show,

740
00:30:37,000 --> 00:30:39,240
Speaker 4: and she was not I haven't spoken with her, said

741
00:30:39,240 --> 00:30:40,120
Speaker 4: I don't she a mad at me.

742
00:30:40,160 --> 00:30:46,720
Speaker 2: I didn't go ever, been left waiting by the phone.

743
00:30:47,520 --> 00:30:50,000
Speaker 2: It's the Fred Show. Hey, my good morning, welcome to

744
00:30:50,040 --> 00:30:54,320
Speaker 2: the show. How are you hey? Good morning? Okay, Hey,

745
00:30:54,360 --> 00:30:55,600
Speaker 2: you sounded distraught.

746
00:30:55,880 --> 00:30:58,400
Speaker 4: I mean people call in here sometimes were waiting and

747
00:30:58,440 --> 00:30:59,560
Speaker 4: they're like all up eating stuff.

748
00:30:59,680 --> 00:31:01,440
Speaker 2: Is like you guy ghosted man. I was so happy

749
00:31:01,440 --> 00:31:03,800
Speaker 2: about but Mike didn't sound that happy. What happened with

750
00:31:03,880 --> 00:31:04,800
Speaker 2: this woman, Becky.

751
00:31:05,320 --> 00:31:06,920
Speaker 4: I want to hear about how you met, about any

752
00:31:07,000 --> 00:31:08,800
Speaker 4: dates you've been on, and then kind of where things

753
00:31:08,800 --> 00:31:09,320
Speaker 4: stand now.

754
00:31:09,800 --> 00:31:13,600
Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean I thought it went well and I.

755
00:31:13,840 --> 00:31:15,440
Speaker 14: Feel like I have a good read on this kind

756
00:31:15,440 --> 00:31:18,600
Speaker 14: of stuff, you know I have, But went on to

757
00:31:18,680 --> 00:31:19,840
Speaker 14: two dates and met at a bar.

758
00:31:20,520 --> 00:31:23,200
Speaker 10: I figured out I went to the same uh college,

759
00:31:23,800 --> 00:31:25,280
Speaker 10: and you know.

760
00:31:25,200 --> 00:31:27,120
Speaker 14: WHI chatted it up, went out, I got some drinks

761
00:31:27,120 --> 00:31:28,240
Speaker 14: in this mes Cow place.

762
00:31:28,400 --> 00:31:32,200
Speaker 1: Then I met her for dinner a couple of nights later, and.

763
00:31:33,640 --> 00:31:34,840
Speaker 2: They even went back to their place.

764
00:31:35,120 --> 00:31:38,200
Speaker 4: Okay, And and then what happened then like TG, But

765
00:31:38,240 --> 00:31:40,400
Speaker 4: what happened then like good stuff, all the good stuff,

766
00:31:40,440 --> 00:31:41,280
Speaker 4: some of the good stuff.

767
00:31:42,560 --> 00:31:47,000
Speaker 2: Would say, all the good stuff. But uh, And I

768
00:31:47,000 --> 00:31:52,440
Speaker 2: feel like I did a pretty decent job, if you do,

769
00:31:54,360 --> 00:31:56,040
Speaker 2: as far as I'm sert, I did a great job.

770
00:31:56,120 --> 00:31:57,280
Speaker 2: It was a great effort for me.

771
00:31:57,840 --> 00:31:57,959
Speaker 5: Uh.

772
00:32:01,360 --> 00:32:02,840
Speaker 2: A couple of like weird moments.

773
00:32:02,880 --> 00:32:04,840
Speaker 1: There's a couple of weird moments where I felt like

774
00:32:04,880 --> 00:32:05,760
Speaker 1: there was a reset.

775
00:32:05,880 --> 00:32:09,120
Speaker 2: But you know, okay, But overall, you meant in the wild.

776
00:32:09,240 --> 00:32:10,520
Speaker 2: So that's a good start.

777
00:32:10,560 --> 00:32:12,280
Speaker 4: So you saw each other in person, you were able

778
00:32:12,320 --> 00:32:15,840
Speaker 4: to gauge chemistry, you have some stuff in common. You

779
00:32:15,880 --> 00:32:18,280
Speaker 4: went on two dates. These are all usually good signs

780
00:32:18,320 --> 00:32:21,320
Speaker 4: you're hooked up. This is all usually good stuff. Except

781
00:32:22,040 --> 00:32:24,240
Speaker 4: you have not heard from this woman, Becky since the

782
00:32:24,320 --> 00:32:24,880
Speaker 4: second date.

783
00:32:25,360 --> 00:32:27,360
Speaker 2: Correct, Okay, and you want to know why? Of course?

784
00:32:27,400 --> 00:32:29,440
Speaker 4: And I would too, So here's what we're gonna do.

785
00:32:29,440 --> 00:32:31,760
Speaker 4: We're gonna call Becky. You'll be on the phone. We're

786
00:32:31,760 --> 00:32:32,760
Speaker 4: gonna ask these questions.

787
00:32:32,800 --> 00:32:33,160
Speaker 2: At some point.

788
00:32:33,200 --> 00:32:35,080
Speaker 4: You're welcome to jump in after we get you some info.

789
00:32:35,280 --> 00:32:36,960
Speaker 4: And the hope, as always is that we can set

790
00:32:37,000 --> 00:32:39,239
Speaker 4: you up on I guess the third date in this

791
00:32:39,280 --> 00:32:40,200
Speaker 4: case and pay for it.

792
00:32:40,240 --> 00:32:43,720
Speaker 2: Sound good, Yeah, yeah, sure, that sounds great.

793
00:32:44,360 --> 00:32:47,160
Speaker 3: Do anything like shut up throughout the whole time you

794
00:32:47,160 --> 00:32:49,200
Speaker 3: guys are chatting or like something.

795
00:32:49,400 --> 00:32:50,840
Speaker 2: Let me just jump in at some point if you

796
00:32:50,880 --> 00:32:52,560
Speaker 2: want to. But we'll get there. We'll get there.

797
00:32:52,600 --> 00:32:55,360
Speaker 4: Okay, Let's play a song and chop and we'll come back.

798
00:32:55,360 --> 00:32:58,560
Speaker 4: All right, Let's see what happens next. Part two, Avoiding

799
00:32:58,600 --> 00:33:01,120
Speaker 4: by the Phone after this song on The Fred Show.

800
00:33:02,840 --> 00:33:05,560
Speaker 4: Good morning, It's the Fred Show. Part two of Waiting

801
00:33:05,560 --> 00:33:09,200
Speaker 4: by the Phone. Hey, Mike, welcome back, Mike. Let's call

802
00:33:09,240 --> 00:33:11,719
Speaker 4: out Becky. You guys you met out, you went on

803
00:33:11,760 --> 00:33:15,080
Speaker 4: two dates. The dates went really really well. You haven't

804
00:33:15,080 --> 00:33:16,800
Speaker 4: heard from her since the second date, and you.

805
00:33:16,720 --> 00:33:17,560
Speaker 2: Want to know why?

806
00:33:18,000 --> 00:33:18,200
Speaker 10: Sure?

807
00:33:18,760 --> 00:33:27,520
Speaker 2: Sure, I mean that's what we're doing, right you called us? Okay,

808
00:33:27,560 --> 00:33:30,080
Speaker 2: all right, Mike, let's just I got to talk to Becky. Now,

809
00:33:30,800 --> 00:33:32,080
Speaker 2: so just good luck.

810
00:33:43,200 --> 00:33:43,600
Speaker 14: Hello.

811
00:33:43,880 --> 00:33:47,880
Speaker 4: Hi is this Becky, Hey, Becky, good morning. My name

812
00:33:47,960 --> 00:33:49,800
Speaker 4: is Fred. I'm calling from the Fred's Show, the Morning

813
00:33:49,960 --> 00:33:51,560
Speaker 4: radio Show. I have to tell you the whole crew

814
00:33:51,600 --> 00:33:53,440
Speaker 4: is here and we are on the radio right now,

815
00:33:53,640 --> 00:33:55,479
Speaker 4: and I would need your permission to continue with the call.

816
00:33:55,520 --> 00:33:59,680
Speaker 2: Can which after for just a second. Oh my god? Yeah, well,

817
00:33:59,680 --> 00:34:00,400
Speaker 2: thank you very much.

818
00:34:00,400 --> 00:34:02,720
Speaker 4: We appreciate that we're call on behalf of a guy

819
00:34:02,760 --> 00:34:05,160
Speaker 4: that we just met, a fascinating young man named Mike.

820
00:34:06,280 --> 00:34:08,120
Speaker 2: I guess you went out with Mike. You met him out?

821
00:34:08,160 --> 00:34:09,759
Speaker 2: He was at the same college a couple of dates.

822
00:34:09,760 --> 00:34:12,399
Speaker 2: You remember this guy? I hope, Oh yeah, I do.

823
00:34:13,760 --> 00:34:15,719
Speaker 4: Okay, Well, he reached out to us and he told

824
00:34:15,800 --> 00:34:17,359
Speaker 4: us that, you know, kind of how you met and

825
00:34:17,600 --> 00:34:19,239
Speaker 4: about going to the same college and a couple of

826
00:34:19,320 --> 00:34:21,360
Speaker 4: dates that he thought went well. But he says he

827
00:34:21,400 --> 00:34:23,560
Speaker 4: hasn't heard from you since the second date, and he

828
00:34:23,600 --> 00:34:26,040
Speaker 4: feels like you're ghosting him. I mean, is that what's

829
00:34:26,040 --> 00:34:28,399
Speaker 4: going on back here? Are you ghosting him? And if so, why?

830
00:34:28,920 --> 00:34:29,720
Speaker 1: Oh?

831
00:34:29,880 --> 00:34:30,319
Speaker 2: I don't know.

832
00:34:31,960 --> 00:34:33,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, And Mike was very nice.

833
00:34:34,080 --> 00:34:36,680
Speaker 17: I just I'm not I don't think I'm really interested

834
00:34:36,719 --> 00:34:37,640
Speaker 17: in seeing him again.

835
00:34:37,760 --> 00:34:38,040
Speaker 2: Okay.

836
00:34:38,040 --> 00:34:39,879
Speaker 4: So he's a nice guy that you went on two

837
00:34:39,960 --> 00:34:42,160
Speaker 4: dates with and you met in the wild, which is

838
00:34:42,160 --> 00:34:44,440
Speaker 4: a big deal. I think that makes a difference because again,

839
00:34:44,920 --> 00:34:46,480
Speaker 4: you know, you kind of got to you saw what

840
00:34:46,520 --> 00:34:48,280
Speaker 4: he looked like, he had a vibe for the chemistry,

841
00:34:48,280 --> 00:34:50,360
Speaker 4: He had a kind of a pre date conversation. So

842
00:34:50,400 --> 00:34:53,280
Speaker 4: I think there's a little more, you know, a higher

843
00:34:53,360 --> 00:34:56,040
Speaker 4: chance of things going well. But why isn't it going

844
00:34:56,080 --> 00:34:58,439
Speaker 4: to work. If he's a nice guy and there's all that,

845
00:34:58,520 --> 00:35:00,520
Speaker 4: then then why don't we want to go out with anymore?

846
00:35:02,719 --> 00:35:06,200
Speaker 13: Okay, you really want me to say yeah.

847
00:35:06,719 --> 00:35:09,759
Speaker 2: We want you to say yeah.

848
00:35:09,920 --> 00:35:10,799
Speaker 1: Okay, Well I was.

849
00:35:10,880 --> 00:35:13,200
Speaker 17: I was very excited to meet him. It is really

850
00:35:13,239 --> 00:35:15,040
Speaker 17: rare to meet somebody in the wild like that. And

851
00:35:15,080 --> 00:35:19,320
Speaker 17: I had a really nice time on our dates. Basically

852
00:35:19,400 --> 00:35:23,320
Speaker 17: on our second date, we went back to my place

853
00:35:24,000 --> 00:35:29,600
Speaker 17: and just some things happened, some things led to see things,

854
00:35:30,120 --> 00:35:33,799
Speaker 17: and well, okay.

855
00:35:33,640 --> 00:35:35,640
Speaker 11: He he.

856
00:35:37,680 --> 00:35:41,000
Speaker 17: Waxed from like eyebrows to the tips of his toes

857
00:35:42,000 --> 00:35:44,600
Speaker 17: like bald as a newborn baby.

858
00:35:44,360 --> 00:35:44,920
Speaker 1: Seal.

859
00:35:46,680 --> 00:35:53,040
Speaker 2: Every everywhere, like every like every.

860
00:35:51,480 --> 00:35:56,720
Speaker 17: Not just hardwood floors, like armpits, arms, fingers, toes.

861
00:35:56,600 --> 00:36:01,440
Speaker 2: Legs, fingers, toes. We're waxing toes.

862
00:36:01,560 --> 00:36:05,120
Speaker 10: Hey you your toes?

863
00:36:05,160 --> 00:36:07,920
Speaker 1: You've never watched your toes? No? Oh my good? And

864
00:36:07,920 --> 00:36:09,200
Speaker 1: it's once we flipped up season.

865
00:36:10,680 --> 00:36:12,799
Speaker 2: I guess I don't know. I got Harry likes to

866
00:36:12,800 --> 00:36:13,840
Speaker 2: go with my hairy toes.

867
00:36:15,120 --> 00:36:15,400
Speaker 5: Wow.

868
00:36:15,560 --> 00:36:18,440
Speaker 4: Okay, So this dude made a concerted effort to make

869
00:36:18,480 --> 00:36:21,000
Speaker 4: sure that like everything was gone, and.

870
00:36:21,200 --> 00:36:22,759
Speaker 2: I mean, you have to make an appointment for that. You

871
00:36:22,880 --> 00:36:23,440
Speaker 2: got to get me.

872
00:36:23,600 --> 00:36:25,440
Speaker 4: You got to contort yourself. I mean, there's a lot

873
00:36:25,440 --> 00:36:27,160
Speaker 4: going on there. I can't even imagine the pain and

874
00:36:27,200 --> 00:36:29,600
Speaker 4: the expense. And I've heard of people maxing, you know,

875
00:36:30,160 --> 00:36:32,760
Speaker 4: certain things, but not everything.

876
00:36:34,120 --> 00:36:36,440
Speaker 2: Let me bring you yeah, yeah, no, go ahead, go ahead,

877
00:36:36,440 --> 00:36:39,600
Speaker 2: no please, Well, you know, I appreciate the certain things,

878
00:36:39,719 --> 00:36:41,200
Speaker 2: right or like a little bit of like.

879
00:36:41,200 --> 00:36:45,279
Speaker 17: Trimming or some sort of uh huh manly effort to

880
00:36:45,360 --> 00:36:48,799
Speaker 17: be tidy. But this was something else I've never I

881
00:36:48,840 --> 00:36:51,120
Speaker 17: it's a lot of my girlfriends.

882
00:36:50,680 --> 00:36:51,040
Speaker 16: Aren't that.

883
00:36:54,040 --> 00:36:56,480
Speaker 4: Right, not that conscious about it? Well, I mean Paulina

884
00:36:56,600 --> 00:36:59,440
Speaker 4: is clearly. But let's bring my kid. I forgot to

885
00:36:59,480 --> 00:37:01,880
Speaker 4: mention them. Mike here, I'm very forgetful. Mike had to

886
00:37:01,920 --> 00:37:04,959
Speaker 4: tell huh, had to tell all.

887
00:37:04,920 --> 00:37:08,239
Speaker 1: Right, well, yeah, for the most part. Sure, yeah, but

888
00:37:08,400 --> 00:37:10,200
Speaker 1: you know, my eyebrows.

889
00:37:09,719 --> 00:37:12,359
Speaker 15: I don't wax my eyebrows, okay, like they just never

890
00:37:12,440 --> 00:37:13,680
Speaker 15: grew in that well.

891
00:37:13,800 --> 00:37:15,799
Speaker 4: Okay, well, and you don't wax the hair on the

892
00:37:15,800 --> 00:37:18,520
Speaker 4: top of your head. It sounds like so, but everything else.

893
00:37:18,760 --> 00:37:20,920
Speaker 14: I mean yeah, yeah, I mean, is that.

894
00:37:20,920 --> 00:37:23,520
Speaker 4: Like a monthly appointment, a weekly thing, like how often

895
00:37:23,560 --> 00:37:25,440
Speaker 4: do you have to attend to that?

896
00:37:25,880 --> 00:37:28,040
Speaker 2: I'm usually every couple of months.

897
00:37:27,800 --> 00:37:30,680
Speaker 4: Huh okay, and you just that's just sort of you

898
00:37:30,719 --> 00:37:33,880
Speaker 4: feel like that's I don't know, you look better, you

899
00:37:33,920 --> 00:37:35,360
Speaker 4: feel better when you do that. I mean, I'm not

900
00:37:35,440 --> 00:37:38,800
Speaker 4: judging it seems aggressive, but I mean.

901
00:37:39,120 --> 00:37:41,759
Speaker 7: Hey, I mean yeah, there's an element of like, you know,

902
00:37:41,840 --> 00:37:43,680
Speaker 7: i'd got you know, look a little bit better.

903
00:37:43,719 --> 00:37:46,640
Speaker 3: But there's also I have this weird, you know, kind

904
00:37:46,640 --> 00:37:50,080
Speaker 3: of unique theory about it, where like too much like

905
00:37:50,120 --> 00:37:51,279
Speaker 3: hair on your body, like.

906
00:37:51,480 --> 00:37:55,400
Speaker 1: You know, it attracts like germs, like you get sick easier.

907
00:37:55,760 --> 00:37:58,680
Speaker 4: What I don't know about that. We'll have to look

908
00:37:58,719 --> 00:37:59,759
Speaker 4: into that scientifically.

909
00:37:59,800 --> 00:38:02,560
Speaker 1: But no, your hair has a purpose on your body.

910
00:38:02,640 --> 00:38:05,120
Speaker 4: Actually, yeah, you're right, it's supposed to be. Yeah, most

911
00:38:05,120 --> 00:38:07,360
Speaker 4: doctors would tell you that what the hair is supposed

912
00:38:07,400 --> 00:38:09,480
Speaker 4: to be there and that we have decided as a

913
00:38:09,520 --> 00:38:12,680
Speaker 4: convention to remove it in some cases. But so Becky,

914
00:38:12,760 --> 00:38:15,279
Speaker 4: for you, this was what it was, just like it

915
00:38:15,360 --> 00:38:16,440
Speaker 4: was just a little off putting.

916
00:38:16,520 --> 00:38:16,959
Speaker 2: Are you looking?

917
00:38:16,960 --> 00:38:19,200
Speaker 4: You're looking for someone like you're into Some people are

918
00:38:19,200 --> 00:38:21,239
Speaker 4: into the hair. They're into like you know, Matt that

919
00:38:21,320 --> 00:38:23,239
Speaker 4: they think that that's mask youline. I don't know if

920
00:38:23,239 --> 00:38:25,120
Speaker 4: that's right or wrong, but that's just is that kind

921
00:38:25,120 --> 00:38:26,239
Speaker 4: of what where you're at.

922
00:38:27,800 --> 00:38:30,040
Speaker 17: Yeah, I'm embarrassed because I don't I don't want to

923
00:38:30,120 --> 00:38:30,960
Speaker 17: hurt his feelings.

924
00:38:31,000 --> 00:38:33,719
Speaker 1: But yeah, it was a lot. It was.

925
00:38:34,520 --> 00:38:36,799
Speaker 8: It made me self conscious that like am I going

926
00:38:36,880 --> 00:38:37,920
Speaker 8: to be am?

927
00:38:38,000 --> 00:38:39,399
Speaker 10: I not smooth enough for you?

928
00:38:39,480 --> 00:38:43,399
Speaker 17: I made an effort, but oh my god, him, you.

929
00:38:43,320 --> 00:38:45,400
Speaker 4: Know, he knows the person and y'all could just you know,

930
00:38:45,480 --> 00:38:46,800
Speaker 4: baved in wax and whatever.

931
00:38:48,200 --> 00:38:50,920
Speaker 1: God, Yeah, he's.

932
00:38:50,719 --> 00:38:53,160
Speaker 12: Torn because I feel like we're giving him a hard time,

933
00:38:53,320 --> 00:38:54,399
Speaker 12: like we what's wrong?

934
00:38:54,480 --> 00:38:55,400
Speaker 1: What you want to be clean?

935
00:38:55,560 --> 00:38:58,680
Speaker 12: He wanted to be smooth, you know, like you think

936
00:38:58,680 --> 00:38:59,720
Speaker 12: that should be a deal breaker.

937
00:39:00,320 --> 00:39:04,960
Speaker 1: It was so it was so smooth, it was like infantile.

938
00:39:05,080 --> 00:39:07,440
Speaker 17: It was like it was like if you've ever like

939
00:39:07,560 --> 00:39:10,800
Speaker 17: overexfoliated your skin, and it's like off puttingly smooth.

940
00:39:11,600 --> 00:39:12,280
Speaker 1: We maybe.

941
00:39:13,760 --> 00:39:15,120
Speaker 14: I got a guy that's good.

942
00:39:15,320 --> 00:39:17,319
Speaker 7: I'm gonna I'm not going to offer up the guy

943
00:39:17,360 --> 00:39:18,719
Speaker 7: that's not going to do a great job.

944
00:39:18,800 --> 00:39:19,359
Speaker 10: But he does.

945
00:39:20,040 --> 00:39:22,000
Speaker 4: Does he knew that it was date night, and so

946
00:39:22,160 --> 00:39:24,719
Speaker 4: maybe he just went to the guy, you know, in

947
00:39:24,760 --> 00:39:26,560
Speaker 4: anticipation of the date night.

948
00:39:26,719 --> 00:39:28,080
Speaker 1: All right, but.

949
00:39:30,520 --> 00:39:33,799
Speaker 4: I'm not convinced that Big Tim came home head to.

950
00:39:33,840 --> 00:39:36,960
Speaker 1: Toe vig Tim came home and Jason was his guy.

951
00:39:38,640 --> 00:39:38,839
Speaker 3: Yeah.

952
00:39:39,880 --> 00:39:43,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, Apparently Jason's voluntary to be the guy and she

953
00:39:44,000 --> 00:39:45,799
Speaker 4: runs off the institutions school.

954
00:39:48,400 --> 00:39:48,799
Speaker 2: To do this.

955
00:39:50,120 --> 00:39:52,759
Speaker 4: Okay, Look, that's his choice. He feels good about it,

956
00:39:52,800 --> 00:39:55,239
Speaker 4: that's what he wants to do. Becky, you're saying that

957
00:39:55,280 --> 00:39:57,239
Speaker 4: you weren't attracted to it. You thought it was I

958
00:39:57,280 --> 00:39:59,440
Speaker 4: don't know, it was abnormal for you.

959
00:39:59,440 --> 00:40:01,160
Speaker 2: You went in with exactly.

960
00:40:01,320 --> 00:40:03,560
Speaker 15: I've never met a straight man do that in my.

961
00:40:03,480 --> 00:40:04,360
Speaker 1: Life, and so.

962
00:40:05,840 --> 00:40:07,480
Speaker 2: It's it's a pass for me.

963
00:40:07,840 --> 00:40:11,400
Speaker 17: But I know that somebody is gonna appreciate all of

964
00:40:11,440 --> 00:40:11,960
Speaker 17: that uffart.

965
00:40:12,239 --> 00:40:16,080
Speaker 4: Okay, all right, Hey, Mike, look you do you you

966
00:40:16,120 --> 00:40:21,879
Speaker 4: know they call you smooth on the streets.

967
00:40:22,640 --> 00:40:24,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, swim.

968
00:40:25,760 --> 00:40:27,120
Speaker 2: Dude his his time.

969
00:40:27,520 --> 00:40:30,520
Speaker 4: He saved some seconds minutes off the time. The guy

970
00:40:30,520 --> 00:40:34,880
Speaker 4: can swim so fast like lightning. All right, look, I

971
00:40:34,880 --> 00:40:37,000
Speaker 4: don't know, Mike, she's not into it. It can't make

972
00:40:37,000 --> 00:40:39,560
Speaker 4: her be into it. I'm sure someone will appreciate this,

973
00:40:39,640 --> 00:40:41,719
Speaker 4: and and I wish you both the best of luck.

974
00:40:41,880 --> 00:40:44,240
Speaker 4: I don't even have to, I assume, just to be sure.

975
00:40:44,280 --> 00:40:46,000
Speaker 4: No second date, Becky.

976
00:40:45,840 --> 00:40:50,239
Speaker 1: Or third I mean, would you ever consider not being

977
00:40:50,320 --> 00:40:52,080
Speaker 1: so hair with me?

978
00:40:53,080 --> 00:40:54,839
Speaker 2: So now all of a sudden, you'll grow your Wait

979
00:40:54,840 --> 00:40:58,960
Speaker 2: a minute, you're so Wait a minute, now you're Mike.

980
00:40:59,000 --> 00:41:00,440
Speaker 2: I'll just grow it out right.

981
00:41:00,480 --> 00:41:02,400
Speaker 1: What about the appointment with the guy you love? The

982
00:41:02,440 --> 00:41:03,720
Speaker 1: guy he's.

983
00:41:03,600 --> 00:41:05,080
Speaker 2: Gonna go out of business, he'll do.

984
00:41:06,320 --> 00:41:10,040
Speaker 1: Hey, man, if the guy thought Becky, he would understand.

985
00:41:10,239 --> 00:41:12,520
Speaker 2: Oh okay, you know what, I don't know. I'm gonna

986
00:41:12,560 --> 00:41:14,120
Speaker 2: let you two work this out, because this is I

987
00:41:14,120 --> 00:41:15,759
Speaker 2: don't know if you If you'll want to talk, then

988
00:41:15,800 --> 00:41:18,239
Speaker 2: you'll talk. But we did our part here, and if

989
00:41:18,239 --> 00:41:19,759
Speaker 2: you decide to go out, let me know. I send

990
00:41:19,760 --> 00:41:22,120
Speaker 2: you some Chili's gift cards or something I don't know,

991
00:41:22,680 --> 00:41:26,040
Speaker 2: or maybe European wax I don't know. I know, but

992
00:41:26,680 --> 00:41:28,400
Speaker 2: they're not a sponsor, but they should be now, I

993
00:41:28,400 --> 00:41:32,520
Speaker 2: guess guys. Thank you, best of luck to both of you.

994
00:41:35,239 --> 00:41:36,160
Speaker 2: It is the Fred Show.

995
00:41:36,200 --> 00:41:38,000
Speaker 4: Good morning, Thanks for having us on the radio, on

996
00:41:38,040 --> 00:41:40,480
Speaker 4: the iHeart app live and anytime search for The Fred

997
00:41:40,520 --> 00:41:42,520
Speaker 4: Show on demand. So how would you feel about this?

998
00:41:42,800 --> 00:41:45,880
Speaker 4: Eight five five five nine one one three five. A

999
00:41:45,920 --> 00:41:49,680
Speaker 4: groom to be recently shared his dilemma on Reddit, which

1000
00:41:49,719 --> 00:41:51,799
Speaker 4: is where I get a lot of these. I must

1001
00:41:51,800 --> 00:41:54,040
Speaker 4: I must give credit where credit is due. I don't

1002
00:41:54,040 --> 00:41:55,960
Speaker 4: know it. I know some a holes, but I don't

1003
00:41:55,960 --> 00:41:58,680
Speaker 4: know enough to be able to do I know some

1004
00:41:58,719 --> 00:42:00,880
Speaker 4: immoral people, but I don't know enough to do morality

1005
00:42:00,880 --> 00:42:03,920
Speaker 4: Monday on a Tuesday every week unless I did a

1006
00:42:03,920 --> 00:42:04,560
Speaker 4: lot of research.

1007
00:42:05,200 --> 00:42:06,680
Speaker 2: So I don't know why I could do it.

1008
00:42:06,760 --> 00:42:08,640
Speaker 1: Just all your friends every week?

1009
00:42:08,680 --> 00:42:11,279
Speaker 2: You just yes, which one of you just wanted to

1010
00:42:11,320 --> 00:42:12,840
Speaker 2: be immoral? Evans?

1011
00:42:13,239 --> 00:42:15,959
Speaker 4: And yeah, So this happened to somebody though it didn't really,

1012
00:42:17,000 --> 00:42:19,880
Speaker 4: So here's this is the gist of it. A dude's

1013
00:42:19,880 --> 00:42:25,480
Speaker 4: fiance plans to wear her late husband's wedding ring on

1014
00:42:25,520 --> 00:42:30,239
Speaker 4: a chain around her neck during the wedding ceremony to

1015
00:42:30,320 --> 00:42:35,319
Speaker 4: the new guy. So her husband is dead, Okay, and

1016
00:42:35,400 --> 00:42:37,040
Speaker 4: she's going to she wants.

1017
00:42:36,760 --> 00:42:38,720
Speaker 2: To wear the wedding ring.

1018
00:42:38,960 --> 00:42:42,960
Speaker 4: I guess his wedding ring that from when they were

1019
00:42:42,960 --> 00:42:46,280
Speaker 4: married before he died around her neck when she marries

1020
00:42:46,440 --> 00:42:50,080
Speaker 4: another guy, the next guy Okay, She says it's a

1021
00:42:50,160 --> 00:42:53,200
Speaker 4: quiet tribute to the guy she once loved, who passed

1022
00:42:53,239 --> 00:42:55,600
Speaker 4: away in a tragic car actualent five years ago. She

1023
00:42:55,719 --> 00:42:58,479
Speaker 4: believes the law shaped who she is today and wants

1024
00:42:58,520 --> 00:43:00,880
Speaker 4: to carry that part of her past into the nude chapter.

1025
00:43:00,920 --> 00:43:02,839
Speaker 2: But I fiance is not feeling great about him.

1026
00:43:03,000 --> 00:43:05,319
Speaker 4: He says it makes him feel like he's sharing the

1027
00:43:05,320 --> 00:43:07,600
Speaker 4: most important day of his life with someone who isn't there,

1028
00:43:08,440 --> 00:43:12,719
Speaker 4: and and like he's somehow second place. And people on

1029
00:43:12,880 --> 00:43:16,279
Speaker 4: the forum are torn. Some stood with the groom, saying

1030
00:43:16,280 --> 00:43:18,400
Speaker 4: the wedding should be about the new relationship, not the

1031
00:43:18,440 --> 00:43:21,960
Speaker 4: old one. Other suggested a compromise, like a symbolic gesture

1032
00:43:22,160 --> 00:43:25,839
Speaker 4: instead of wearing the ring. I would if I'm being

1033
00:43:25,960 --> 00:43:28,759
Speaker 4: one hundred percent transparent, if I'm keeping it on on

1034
00:43:28,800 --> 00:43:31,239
Speaker 4: the reel, one hundred percent on the one, if I'm

1035
00:43:31,239 --> 00:43:35,120
Speaker 4: being one hundred with you, okay, please, I'm gonna be

1036
00:43:35,160 --> 00:43:36,880
Speaker 4: one hundred with you, as opposed to the ninety nine.

1037
00:43:36,920 --> 00:43:39,080
Speaker 2: I usually am, I'm gonna be one hundred. I wouldn't

1038
00:43:39,160 --> 00:43:41,480
Speaker 2: like you. I wouldn't like him. I wouldn't like it.

1039
00:43:42,560 --> 00:43:43,440
Speaker 2: You wouldn't either.

1040
00:43:43,640 --> 00:43:44,279
Speaker 1: No, I would not.

1041
00:43:44,440 --> 00:43:47,360
Speaker 2: Okay, good because you're like, yeah, I know, I know, Fred,

1042
00:43:47,480 --> 00:43:51,920
Speaker 2: I know Fred, you weak, little weak little nugget.

1043
00:43:52,080 --> 00:43:52,120
Speaker 16: No.

1044
00:43:53,080 --> 00:43:56,480
Speaker 4: Can you imagine if Hobby in Vegas at the wedding

1045
00:43:56,760 --> 00:43:59,160
Speaker 4: had a ring around his neck of a that hecame

1046
00:43:59,200 --> 00:44:00,719
Speaker 4: to another woman was dead?

1047
00:44:01,080 --> 00:44:05,720
Speaker 1: See, okay, I have compassion, You would not. No, I'd upset.

1048
00:44:05,920 --> 00:44:09,160
Speaker 1: I'd be bothered for sure. But like, it's sad if

1049
00:44:09,200 --> 00:44:12,000
Speaker 1: that person tragically died. I mean that's awful.

1050
00:44:12,200 --> 00:44:15,000
Speaker 2: Nobody's saying that's that sad or awful? But like, yeah,

1051
00:44:15,320 --> 00:44:18,920
Speaker 2: why are we I mean you're marrying me now? Like

1052
00:44:19,000 --> 00:44:20,680
Speaker 2: can this day be about us?

1053
00:44:20,680 --> 00:44:21,040
Speaker 1: Correct?

1054
00:44:21,200 --> 00:44:24,320
Speaker 4: Why are we still reflecting on this person? I'm sorry

1055
00:44:24,400 --> 00:44:26,759
Speaker 4: this person died. I'm sorry this person is not in

1056
00:44:26,800 --> 00:44:29,080
Speaker 4: your life anymore. But the feeling that it would give

1057
00:44:29,120 --> 00:44:32,879
Speaker 4: me is And it's pretty clear. If that dude weren't dead,

1058
00:44:32,880 --> 00:44:35,279
Speaker 4: I wouldn't be standing here. You never would have chosen me.

1059
00:44:35,400 --> 00:44:38,920
Speaker 4: This wouldn't even obviously, this wouldn't even be happy, true, yes,

1060
00:44:39,640 --> 00:44:41,240
Speaker 4: I know that would I don't think to be reminded

1061
00:44:41,280 --> 00:44:41,520
Speaker 4: of that.

1062
00:44:41,560 --> 00:44:41,840
Speaker 2: I don't know.

1063
00:44:41,880 --> 00:44:43,520
Speaker 4: I don't need to be reminded of the person that

1064
00:44:43,640 --> 00:44:45,960
Speaker 4: I'm marrying now and committing to the rest of my

1065
00:44:46,000 --> 00:44:48,440
Speaker 4: life with. Would probably rather be with someone else if

1066
00:44:48,480 --> 00:44:49,040
Speaker 4: they weren't dead.

1067
00:44:49,200 --> 00:44:51,160
Speaker 13: Yeah, it takes a special kind of person to be

1068
00:44:51,239 --> 00:44:53,120
Speaker 13: with a widow. I don't think everyone can do it.

1069
00:44:53,320 --> 00:44:56,120
Speaker 13: But I'm in a similar situation. Actually, one of the

1070
00:44:56,160 --> 00:44:59,520
Speaker 13: bachelorettes I have coming up, her previous boyfriend passed away

1071
00:44:59,560 --> 00:45:02,640
Speaker 13: and it was tragic, and his mom wants to pay

1072
00:45:02,680 --> 00:45:03,640
Speaker 13: for something.

1073
00:45:03,400 --> 00:45:05,640
Speaker 1: On her bachelorette for a new guy.

1074
00:45:05,719 --> 00:45:07,640
Speaker 13: She's getting married to a new guy, and her mom,

1075
00:45:08,360 --> 00:45:10,760
Speaker 13: her former boyfriend's mom, wants to pay for something for us.

1076
00:45:10,600 --> 00:45:12,200
Speaker 1: Like a table or a night when we go out.

1077
00:45:12,719 --> 00:45:14,960
Speaker 13: Yeah, and but some of my friends, which I don't

1078
00:45:14,960 --> 00:45:16,600
Speaker 13: think it was their place to say or like no,

1079
00:45:16,760 --> 00:45:20,040
Speaker 13: completely unacceptable, like that's you shouldn't be doing that, Like

1080
00:45:20,360 --> 00:45:22,719
Speaker 13: your fiance is going to be upset, and I, I

1081
00:45:22,760 --> 00:45:24,320
Speaker 13: don't know, I thought that that was kind of wild.

1082
00:45:24,560 --> 00:45:29,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, it's kind of interesting, Like I'm gonna pay

1083
00:45:29,440 --> 00:45:31,200
Speaker 2: for you guys to go ahead and get hammered.

1084
00:45:31,000 --> 00:45:34,319
Speaker 1: Yeah, for the wedding, the betchelor, the wedding. Yeah.

1085
00:45:34,360 --> 00:45:36,400
Speaker 13: But she, like I guess, feels like this is the

1086
00:45:36,440 --> 00:45:38,880
Speaker 13: closest she's going to get to, Like I don't know,

1087
00:45:38,880 --> 00:45:40,120
Speaker 13: her son getting married, I don't know.

1088
00:45:40,160 --> 00:45:42,440
Speaker 1: She's like happy for her. She still talks to her.

1089
00:45:42,520 --> 00:45:46,160
Speaker 1: So it is. But it is interesting, that's nice, it's something.

1090
00:45:46,120 --> 00:45:50,799
Speaker 4: It isn't even marrying a widow, like, uh, it's not

1091
00:45:50,840 --> 00:45:53,200
Speaker 4: even it's even so much that it's it's okay, I'm

1092
00:45:53,200 --> 00:45:56,120
Speaker 4: marrying a widow. So I'm already aware that you were

1093
00:45:56,160 --> 00:45:58,560
Speaker 4: fully in love with another guy. I actually just happened

1094
00:45:58,560 --> 00:46:01,600
Speaker 4: to a family member of mine, and I've never discussed

1095
00:46:01,600 --> 00:46:03,680
Speaker 4: it with her. I've discussed it with her family though,

1096
00:46:03,680 --> 00:46:07,520
Speaker 4: And this dude, sadly, we're on a business trip. The

1097
00:46:07,640 --> 00:46:10,200
Speaker 4: company had private jets. There were two private jets. Everybody

1098
00:46:10,200 --> 00:46:11,879
Speaker 4: piled in one or the other. There was no rhyme

1099
00:46:11,960 --> 00:46:15,080
Speaker 4: or reason one made it the other one didn't, and

1100
00:46:15,160 --> 00:46:18,000
Speaker 4: so there was I don't know the inside of their relationship,

1101
00:46:18,000 --> 00:46:20,600
Speaker 4: but from what I understand, they were relatively newly married,

1102
00:46:20,640 --> 00:46:23,520
Speaker 4: like everything was fine, you know, and then he's gone, right,

1103
00:46:23,560 --> 00:46:25,359
Speaker 4: So she moved on married another guy, had kids with him,

1104
00:46:25,360 --> 00:46:27,680
Speaker 4: everything's great, and I wonder, like I wonder, does that

1105
00:46:27,719 --> 00:46:29,640
Speaker 4: guy ever lay up at night and be like, man,

1106
00:46:30,560 --> 00:46:33,000
Speaker 4: you know, if that dude hadn't tragically died, like I

1107
00:46:33,239 --> 00:46:34,960
Speaker 4: wouldn't even be here, I wouldn't have my kids, I

1108
00:46:34,960 --> 00:46:36,880
Speaker 4: wouldn't have any of this. Like maybe I wouldn't had

1109
00:46:36,920 --> 00:46:40,759
Speaker 4: it with somebody else. But like that, I'm admitting that's

1110
00:46:40,760 --> 00:46:42,719
Speaker 4: an insecurity. But that would get to me, I think.

1111
00:46:42,840 --> 00:46:45,839
Speaker 4: But but it's that that's life. But now I got it.

1112
00:46:45,880 --> 00:46:48,399
Speaker 4: Now you've got to have like something tangible with you

1113
00:46:48,480 --> 00:46:52,000
Speaker 4: at the wedding to me sure resemble him.

1114
00:46:52,440 --> 00:46:55,880
Speaker 6: Like, guys, we're moving on like right at the wedding.

1115
00:46:55,960 --> 00:46:58,719
Speaker 7: Probably not see if Hobby did that, we wouldn't beat

1116
00:46:58,719 --> 00:47:00,760
Speaker 7: the little white wedding chapel. I think would be honestly

1117
00:47:00,760 --> 00:47:03,040
Speaker 7: in therapy to work through that because it's like, why

1118
00:47:03,040 --> 00:47:05,000
Speaker 7: would you want to include that on your special day?

1119
00:47:04,680 --> 00:47:05,680
Speaker 1: Are you really.

1120
00:47:05,480 --> 00:47:07,200
Speaker 2: Ready to do this? If we're still reflecting on.

1121
00:47:07,160 --> 00:47:11,920
Speaker 13: The best have anything from their previous you know, marriage

1122
00:47:12,040 --> 00:47:13,920
Speaker 13: or like a photo or anything.

1123
00:47:13,719 --> 00:47:16,080
Speaker 1: I mean, and how it exists, Like we could put

1124
00:47:16,080 --> 00:47:16,520
Speaker 1: them away.

1125
00:47:16,640 --> 00:47:18,120
Speaker 7: I'm not saying I don't want them, you know, like

1126
00:47:18,160 --> 00:47:20,160
Speaker 7: plastered on the living room wall when you walk in.

1127
00:47:20,239 --> 00:47:23,160
Speaker 7: Probably not, but I would still understand that this happened.

1128
00:47:23,160 --> 00:47:25,200
Speaker 7: Like you said, it's a part of his history, right,

1129
00:47:25,239 --> 00:47:26,839
Speaker 7: I mean she didn't do anything to me. I mean

1130
00:47:27,000 --> 00:47:29,479
Speaker 7: she passed away, right, Theoretically, in this theory, we're doing

1131
00:47:29,800 --> 00:47:32,080
Speaker 7: like she passed away, and I don't want him to

1132
00:47:32,120 --> 00:47:34,920
Speaker 7: forget her. But on our special day, probably not.

1133
00:47:35,040 --> 00:47:37,600
Speaker 1: This is today is about us because you're loving a

1134
00:47:37,680 --> 00:47:38,560
Speaker 1: not complete person.

1135
00:47:38,600 --> 00:47:40,160
Speaker 13: I feel like at that point, like a part of

1136
00:47:40,160 --> 00:47:40,720
Speaker 13: their heart.

1137
00:47:40,560 --> 00:47:42,680
Speaker 1: Will always be with the spouse that they thought they

1138
00:47:42,719 --> 00:47:43,880
Speaker 1: were going to spend the rest of their life with.

1139
00:47:43,960 --> 00:47:44,879
Speaker 1: And that's totally fair.

1140
00:47:45,000 --> 00:47:46,759
Speaker 7: But like you know, on our special day, at least

1141
00:47:46,760 --> 00:47:48,440
Speaker 7: you know it's my wedding too, right, because it's a

1142
00:47:48,480 --> 00:47:56,239
Speaker 7: two people event, it's you know, multiple.

1143
00:47:58,239 --> 00:48:01,360
Speaker 1: It could be correct, but my mind.

1144
00:48:02,920 --> 00:48:03,600
Speaker 2: Into here me.

1145
00:48:03,520 --> 00:48:04,319
Speaker 1: Two of us, right.

1146
00:48:04,360 --> 00:48:06,280
Speaker 13: That's why I'm saying I don't think everyone can.

1147
00:48:06,160 --> 00:48:10,040
Speaker 1: Handle that situation. I really don't think that just my opinion.

1148
00:48:10,080 --> 00:48:11,879
Speaker 4: I mean, what, Jason, you're over here with this look

1149
00:48:11,880 --> 00:48:14,120
Speaker 4: on your face of disgust, like honestly, like okay, so

1150
00:48:14,239 --> 00:48:17,560
Speaker 4: so Mike the mechanic wants to marry you, and he's like, hey,

1151
00:48:17,560 --> 00:48:19,279
Speaker 4: but this dude I hooked up with on grinder a

1152
00:48:19,280 --> 00:48:21,200
Speaker 4: while ago, like I need I need to make sure

1153
00:48:21,200 --> 00:48:22,640
Speaker 4: that I he left his chain.

1154
00:48:22,560 --> 00:48:23,040
Speaker 2: In my house.

1155
00:48:23,040 --> 00:48:26,400
Speaker 1: It's a little different, but for multiple years.

1156
00:48:27,840 --> 00:48:30,560
Speaker 4: Okay, But honestly, though, do you want a person who

1157
00:48:30,600 --> 00:48:36,200
Speaker 4: is who is essentially you're replacing them? I mean, okay, okay,

1158
00:48:36,320 --> 00:48:39,440
Speaker 4: imagine this, imagine imagine.

1159
00:48:40,600 --> 00:48:43,720
Speaker 2: Okay, you're my beloved co worker. Right, you're my beloved

1160
00:48:43,760 --> 00:48:45,000
Speaker 2: co worker. God forbidden.

1161
00:48:45,000 --> 00:48:48,719
Speaker 4: I hate this example, but God forbid you decide. I'm

1162
00:48:48,760 --> 00:48:51,120
Speaker 4: going to I'm I'm going to move on. I'm going

1163
00:48:51,160 --> 00:48:54,520
Speaker 4: to go and be Britney Spears's manager. And everyone's happy,

1164
00:48:54,560 --> 00:48:55,480
Speaker 4: well sort of happy for you.

1165
00:48:56,080 --> 00:48:57,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, like it's.

1166
00:48:57,320 --> 00:48:59,680
Speaker 4: A little late in the game for that, but you know, still, okay,

1167
00:48:59,680 --> 00:49:01,040
Speaker 4: so you can to be Britney Speace's manager.

1168
00:49:01,080 --> 00:49:02,120
Speaker 2: We're also happy for you.

1169
00:49:02,160 --> 00:49:05,040
Speaker 4: We're clapping or whatever, and you know, it's it's wonderful.

1170
00:49:05,080 --> 00:49:10,800
Speaker 2: It's a wonderful, like you know, here's to the goodfellow. Whatever.

1171
00:49:10,880 --> 00:49:12,839
Speaker 4: Okay, so then we have to replace you. Sadly, it's

1172
00:49:12,840 --> 00:49:15,799
Speaker 4: just terrible. But we have a picture of you right

1173
00:49:15,800 --> 00:49:18,440
Speaker 4: there in your chair that stares at the new person

1174
00:49:18,560 --> 00:49:21,400
Speaker 4: every single day, and it says, we miss so we

1175
00:49:21,440 --> 00:49:24,200
Speaker 4: miss you so much, Jason Brown, you know, to the

1176
00:49:24,280 --> 00:49:27,640
Speaker 4: greatest person to ever sit in this chair, Jason Brown,

1177
00:49:28,200 --> 00:49:29,920
Speaker 4: you know, and the new person has to sit there

1178
00:49:29,920 --> 00:49:31,040
Speaker 4: and stare at that all morning.

1179
00:49:31,239 --> 00:49:34,280
Speaker 2: I mean, it might be true, but what I'm saying

1180
00:49:34,440 --> 00:49:37,319
Speaker 2: is nobody wants that daily reminder that like there was

1181
00:49:37,360 --> 00:49:38,600
Speaker 2: somebody greater than me here.

1182
00:49:39,600 --> 00:49:42,600
Speaker 3: That's completely it is not it is not at all.

1183
00:49:42,680 --> 00:49:48,000
Speaker 3: It is completely different. Someone I'm in love with has away.

1184
00:49:48,520 --> 00:49:53,000
Speaker 3: I didn't die, but you're not here anymore.

1185
00:49:56,400 --> 00:49:58,040
Speaker 2: Even crazier people.

1186
00:50:00,640 --> 00:50:05,680
Speaker 3: I've somehow found them, But that's so different. There's nothing

1187
00:50:05,840 --> 00:50:08,880
Speaker 3: like I can't even imagine the pain of losing a spouse.

1188
00:50:09,200 --> 00:50:11,279
Speaker 3: So I look at I as I have not been

1189
00:50:11,320 --> 00:50:15,440
Speaker 3: through that. There, I cannot say one single thing about

1190
00:50:15,480 --> 00:50:21,320
Speaker 3: how you deal with it. That pain is like I can.

1191
00:50:20,719 --> 00:50:24,720
Speaker 3: That's to even think about how that makes you feel.

1192
00:50:24,719 --> 00:50:27,879
Speaker 3: Like you can feel all you want, but I would

1193
00:50:28,120 --> 00:50:29,840
Speaker 3: have to be fine with It's not like it's competition.

1194
00:50:29,920 --> 00:50:33,320
Speaker 2: He's gone, yeah, but don't don't my feelings about this matter.

1195
00:50:33,440 --> 00:50:35,799
Speaker 2: I'm marrying you now. It's about me now, It's not

1196
00:50:35,840 --> 00:50:38,000
Speaker 2: about that person. I'm so sorry for what happened, but

1197
00:50:38,200 --> 00:50:40,759
Speaker 2: I feel like if we're honoring your ex husband at

1198
00:50:40,800 --> 00:50:43,480
Speaker 2: your new wedding, I mean, listen to that sentence that

1199
00:50:43,600 --> 00:50:44,200
Speaker 2: doesn't say.

1200
00:50:44,160 --> 00:50:46,160
Speaker 3: Anything about the grief and how she deals with it.

1201
00:50:46,160 --> 00:50:49,719
Speaker 3: I'm sorry, absolutely my opinion. You didn't, you know, go

1202
00:50:49,800 --> 00:50:51,880
Speaker 3: through that. She did, So whatever she needs to do

1203
00:50:51,920 --> 00:50:53,759
Speaker 3: to feel better, that's what she gets to do.

1204
00:50:54,640 --> 00:50:58,479
Speaker 2: Yeah, your wedding. At your wedding, you're going to honor

1205
00:50:58,520 --> 00:51:04,319
Speaker 2: another chase if someone died that they were married to.

1206
00:51:04,960 --> 00:51:05,799
Speaker 2: Who am I to say?

1207
00:51:05,920 --> 00:51:09,520
Speaker 3: You don't get too honestly the new husband.

1208
00:51:10,239 --> 00:51:15,520
Speaker 12: Goodness, Oh, because I was trying to figure out whose

1209
00:51:15,520 --> 00:51:17,000
Speaker 12: side I'm on today, and I.

1210
00:51:16,920 --> 00:51:17,600
Speaker 1: Think I want today.

1211
00:51:17,640 --> 00:51:19,560
Speaker 12: I want to be on I want to be on

1212
00:51:19,560 --> 00:51:23,640
Speaker 12: the right side today.

1213
00:51:23,760 --> 00:51:26,320
Speaker 2: Welcome. It's nice over here because.

1214
00:51:26,040 --> 00:51:29,520
Speaker 12: Friend, the person is dead, so like literally, they're never

1215
00:51:29,560 --> 00:51:31,640
Speaker 12: going to be your competition, competing with the ghost.

1216
00:51:31,719 --> 00:51:31,919
Speaker 10: Never.

1217
00:51:32,840 --> 00:51:35,160
Speaker 2: I didn't think that's true. I don't think that's true.

1218
00:51:35,239 --> 00:51:37,359
Speaker 4: I think if a person is still honoring their ex

1219
00:51:37,440 --> 00:51:39,759
Speaker 4: husband at the wedding to the new person, you are

1220
00:51:39,840 --> 00:51:42,200
Speaker 4: constantly being compared to honoring.

1221
00:51:42,320 --> 00:51:47,080
Speaker 12: First of all, it's just I'm wearing a symbol of

1222
00:51:47,239 --> 00:51:49,000
Speaker 12: somebody I love that has passed on.

1223
00:51:49,320 --> 00:51:51,640
Speaker 13: Yes, I mean, fred you would have to walk away,

1224
00:51:51,719 --> 00:51:53,200
Speaker 13: like if it bothered.

1225
00:51:52,960 --> 00:51:55,160
Speaker 1: You, then you would have to say, listen, this is

1226
00:51:55,200 --> 00:51:56,279
Speaker 1: not for me. I can't handle that.

1227
00:51:56,320 --> 00:52:00,359
Speaker 2: She's not wearing his change, She's wearing his wedding ring neck.

1228
00:52:00,600 --> 00:52:05,800
Speaker 2: Oh my god, what do you want me to do? Yes, no,

1229
00:52:05,920 --> 00:52:08,000
Speaker 2: she can keep it. I don't melt it down. I'm

1230
00:52:08,000 --> 00:52:10,319
Speaker 2: not trying to. I'm not trying to destroy the human being.

1231
00:52:10,360 --> 00:52:17,640
Speaker 2: I mean, I'm we're moving on, We're moving out to Cleveland. Hey, Roberta, Roberta,

1232
00:52:17,640 --> 00:52:19,640
Speaker 2: how you doing? What does you want to say? This

1233
00:52:19,680 --> 00:52:21,080
Speaker 2: is nuts? You guys are crazy.

1234
00:52:22,040 --> 00:52:23,000
Speaker 15: I agree with you.

1235
00:52:23,040 --> 00:52:24,399
Speaker 8: Know why did he why is he?

1236
00:52:24,520 --> 00:52:24,600
Speaker 9: Like?

1237
00:52:25,200 --> 00:52:28,319
Speaker 8: Why is the comparing himself to a ghost? Feels like

1238
00:52:28,360 --> 00:52:31,440
Speaker 8: he's in competition with him, Like knew with Vidymans who

1239
00:52:31,880 --> 00:52:34,080
Speaker 8: he knew that she was a widow, and he knew

1240
00:52:34,120 --> 00:52:35,440
Speaker 8: that she loved that she loved him.

1241
00:52:35,600 --> 00:52:45,399
Speaker 2: But I mean, Bud, what, Roberta, are you Mary? Are

1242
00:52:45,400 --> 00:52:45,840
Speaker 2: you married?

1243
00:52:46,840 --> 00:52:47,000
Speaker 16: Yes?

1244
00:52:47,360 --> 00:52:50,360
Speaker 4: I would you have been okay with your husband honoring

1245
00:52:50,400 --> 00:52:53,440
Speaker 4: another woman who he was previously married to at his

1246
00:52:53,560 --> 00:52:56,360
Speaker 4: wedding to you? Come on, Roberta, come on, there's a

1247
00:52:56,360 --> 00:52:58,160
Speaker 4: time and a place to this stuff. I'm not saying

1248
00:52:58,160 --> 00:53:01,160
Speaker 4: we raised his memory. I'm not and that it wasn't there.

1249
00:53:01,280 --> 00:53:02,800
Speaker 4: It's not a fun time in your life.

1250
00:53:03,160 --> 00:53:06,080
Speaker 2: But I mean, so you tell me when I take

1251
00:53:06,080 --> 00:53:07,160
Speaker 2: your clothes off at the end of the night, I

1252
00:53:07,160 --> 00:53:10,080
Speaker 2: gotta look at the wedding ring of the dude from before.

1253
00:53:11,320 --> 00:53:15,480
Speaker 8: It's like a tattoo if somebody had a tattoo, do

1254
00:53:15,520 --> 00:53:18,520
Speaker 8: you know what I'm saying? Or a tramp stamp, you know,

1255
00:53:18,600 --> 00:53:20,880
Speaker 8: like it's stat a reminder. But why are you like

1256
00:53:21,480 --> 00:53:22,920
Speaker 8: he knew amp stamp?

1257
00:53:23,640 --> 00:53:26,200
Speaker 2: Who's getting a tramp stamp with him? Berna? What kind

1258
00:53:26,200 --> 00:53:28,359
Speaker 2: of tattoos you got? I'm worried about you?

1259
00:53:29,080 --> 00:53:31,480
Speaker 1: I got a lot. How you doing?

1260
00:53:31,520 --> 00:53:34,960
Speaker 16: Oh? You know that some women get their their sauces

1261
00:53:35,080 --> 00:53:38,480
Speaker 16: names on them, although they shouldn't, but you know it's

1262
00:53:38,680 --> 00:53:41,600
Speaker 16: so it's like that, But like this person is bad,

1263
00:53:41,920 --> 00:53:44,680
Speaker 16: Like why is he trying to like why are you

1264
00:53:44,719 --> 00:53:45,640
Speaker 16: trying to compete with him?

1265
00:53:46,239 --> 00:53:46,399
Speaker 10: Right?

1266
00:53:47,080 --> 00:53:47,239
Speaker 5: Why?

1267
00:53:49,080 --> 00:53:51,640
Speaker 4: I guess it's going to be hard enough to just

1268
00:53:52,040 --> 00:53:55,280
Speaker 4: it came on to original point. The amount of trauma

1269
00:53:55,360 --> 00:53:58,560
Speaker 4: that must you know, that you must endure to process

1270
00:53:58,600 --> 00:54:02,200
Speaker 4: something like that is extreme and there's no one questioning that.

1271
00:54:02,640 --> 00:54:04,719
Speaker 4: But I guess I would wonder if we're doing that,

1272
00:54:04,960 --> 00:54:06,520
Speaker 4: are you really ready for me?

1273
00:54:06,920 --> 00:54:08,920
Speaker 2: I guess would be the question that I would be asked.

1274
00:54:10,040 --> 00:54:13,440
Speaker 8: But do you not think that they had the conversation beforehand,

1275
00:54:13,600 --> 00:54:16,959
Speaker 8: Like I'm sure that he was aware that he meant

1276
00:54:16,960 --> 00:54:19,400
Speaker 8: something really special to her because that was her husband

1277
00:54:19,400 --> 00:54:21,640
Speaker 8: at some point, so he should have had that in

1278
00:54:21,640 --> 00:54:24,279
Speaker 8: the back of his mind before he asked her to

1279
00:54:24,320 --> 00:54:24,839
Speaker 8: marry him.

1280
00:54:25,160 --> 00:54:25,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, but he.

1281
00:54:25,600 --> 00:54:27,560
Speaker 4: Also he's gone to Reddit because he feels a little

1282
00:54:27,560 --> 00:54:31,040
Speaker 4: shocked by this gesture, like he didn't see this case.

1283
00:54:31,040 --> 00:54:32,960
Speaker 8: He's a man, he doesn't know how to communicate.

1284
00:54:35,160 --> 00:54:37,520
Speaker 4: I mean, he wrote very clearly. I read it, so

1285
00:54:38,760 --> 00:54:39,359
Speaker 4: have a good day.

1286
00:54:39,520 --> 00:54:40,120
Speaker 16: You're welcome.

1287
00:54:41,680 --> 00:54:43,600
Speaker 2: I don't think anyone's saying that you don't honor what

1288
00:54:43,960 --> 00:54:45,880
Speaker 2: was I just don't know if that's the time and

1289
00:54:45,920 --> 00:54:49,080
Speaker 2: the place and the way to manifest him, because because

1290
00:54:49,080 --> 00:54:50,759
Speaker 2: I do think you also have to consider how it

1291
00:54:50,800 --> 00:54:53,520
Speaker 2: makes the person you're marrying feel. That person's feelings matter

1292
00:54:53,600 --> 00:54:55,399
Speaker 2: too in this but the grief.

1293
00:54:55,040 --> 00:54:56,880
Speaker 1: That comes with losing a spouse.

1294
00:54:56,920 --> 00:54:59,200
Speaker 12: And then I'm back at this wedding place where I

1295
00:54:59,239 --> 00:55:02,279
Speaker 12: only saw this for my past husband, so it's like

1296
00:55:02,320 --> 00:55:04,680
Speaker 12: it's something that maybe makes her feel safe in that

1297
00:55:04,760 --> 00:55:06,799
Speaker 12: moment to like I'm doing this again. I'm trying to

1298
00:55:06,800 --> 00:55:09,320
Speaker 12: love again without the fear of losing this person again.

1299
00:55:09,680 --> 00:55:11,800
Speaker 12: It's just a little sense of comfort, like a blanky.

1300
00:55:12,200 --> 00:55:14,759
Speaker 12: I cannot bring my blanket like you know, why is your.

1301
00:55:14,800 --> 00:55:17,200
Speaker 2: Dead husband your comfort? I'm your comfort.

1302
00:55:17,360 --> 00:55:19,560
Speaker 1: It takes a special kind of.

1303
00:55:19,520 --> 00:55:22,239
Speaker 13: Person, and it's okay, Like everybody's feelings are valid.

1304
00:55:22,280 --> 00:55:25,080
Speaker 1: If it's not working for you, that's okay, that's okay.

1305
00:55:24,960 --> 00:55:27,479
Speaker 2: Period, okay to want to hide.

1306
00:55:28,560 --> 00:55:30,480
Speaker 4: Hi, Hey, I'm so sad that you were in this

1307
00:55:30,560 --> 00:55:33,440
Speaker 4: situation like this, and I am sorry that you encountered this.

1308
00:55:34,520 --> 00:55:37,960
Speaker 10: Thank you. I would work to one for ten years.

1309
00:55:38,040 --> 00:55:42,080
Speaker 10: We had three boys together, and unfortunately he passed away

1310
00:55:42,800 --> 00:55:45,879
Speaker 10: and about four ish, almost five years later, I met

1311
00:55:45,880 --> 00:55:49,600
Speaker 10: some one else. We were married. My sister off from

1312
00:55:49,600 --> 00:55:53,600
Speaker 10: my previous marriage was my nature of honor. Her husband

1313
00:55:53,719 --> 00:55:57,600
Speaker 10: helped pay for our limo, and we're still very active

1314
00:55:57,800 --> 00:56:01,719
Speaker 10: in each other's life. Were going vacations together with each

1315
00:56:01,719 --> 00:56:05,560
Speaker 10: other's families and everything. So I think it just depends

1316
00:56:05,680 --> 00:56:09,000
Speaker 10: on how mature you take the situation. I'm sure that

1317
00:56:09,080 --> 00:56:12,759
Speaker 10: my husband probably feels a certain way, but because we

1318
00:56:12,880 --> 00:56:16,200
Speaker 10: have children together, he just wanted to give them as

1319
00:56:16,280 --> 00:56:19,040
Speaker 10: much love as he could doing if they had a loss.

1320
00:56:19,640 --> 00:56:21,799
Speaker 10: So I just think that sometimes you have to think

1321
00:56:21,840 --> 00:56:25,400
Speaker 10: about that person's all over with you. And if it

1322
00:56:25,520 --> 00:56:28,080
Speaker 10: was you that passed away, would you want your wife

1323
00:56:28,200 --> 00:56:30,680
Speaker 10: to forget about you and never ever think about you

1324
00:56:30,760 --> 00:56:34,480
Speaker 10: ever again? No, I think that's hard to say if

1325
00:56:34,520 --> 00:56:35,840
Speaker 10: you haven't been in a situation.

1326
00:56:36,160 --> 00:56:38,400
Speaker 2: No to what, I wouldn't, But I also I wouldn't.

1327
00:56:38,520 --> 00:56:40,239
Speaker 2: I guess I can tell you I wouldn't expect to

1328
00:56:40,280 --> 00:56:43,160
Speaker 2: be honored in any way at her wedding to another man.

1329
00:56:43,520 --> 00:56:44,920
Speaker 2: I don't think that's the time and the place.

1330
00:56:45,200 --> 00:56:47,279
Speaker 4: I'm not saying that you shouldn't be friends with your

1331
00:56:47,520 --> 00:56:50,200
Speaker 4: I mean everything that you just said is completely reasonable.

1332
00:56:50,239 --> 00:56:52,080
Speaker 4: You have kids in a family, and you didn't ask

1333
00:56:52,160 --> 00:56:54,759
Speaker 4: for any of this. That's all reasonable. I just don't

1334
00:56:54,760 --> 00:56:57,279
Speaker 4: know why, you know, we have the ice sculpture of

1335
00:56:57,320 --> 00:56:58,760
Speaker 4: the man at the rehearsal.

1336
00:56:58,360 --> 00:56:59,920
Speaker 2: Like I don't know, Like I don't know. We don't

1337
00:57:00,080 --> 00:57:01,640
Speaker 2: don't need to do that, you know what I mean?

1338
00:57:02,120 --> 00:57:04,759
Speaker 10: Yeah, I sculptured my bill a little much, you know.

1339
00:57:05,400 --> 00:57:09,040
Speaker 10: I mean, I guess he wanted to wear the necklace.

1340
00:57:09,160 --> 00:57:11,799
Speaker 10: I mean, maybe not on her neck per se, but

1341
00:57:12,320 --> 00:57:15,120
Speaker 10: maybe into Twain and her garter or something like that.

1342
00:57:15,280 --> 00:57:17,640
Speaker 2: I mean, I don't think we needed any closer to

1343
00:57:17,680 --> 00:57:19,520
Speaker 2: the virgin than time.

1344
00:57:21,720 --> 00:57:23,680
Speaker 4: Just think there's a time and a place. But hey,

1345
00:57:23,840 --> 00:57:25,760
Speaker 4: and thank you for sharing. And I'm sorry that happened

1346
00:57:25,760 --> 00:57:28,680
Speaker 4: to you. And I appreciate your perspective.

1347
00:57:28,520 --> 00:57:31,000
Speaker 10: Your friend, and I hope that everything turns out great

1348
00:57:31,040 --> 00:57:31,320
Speaker 10: for her.

1349
00:57:31,560 --> 00:57:32,240
Speaker 2: Thank you so much.

1350
00:57:32,400 --> 00:57:34,200
Speaker 4: Luckily I don't know this person, because if I did,

1351
00:57:34,200 --> 00:57:38,520
Speaker 4: I wouldn't I would be uninvited to the way. Hey, Kyle,

1352
00:57:39,440 --> 00:57:44,000
Speaker 4: good morning. Hey, turn the radio down, Kyle, please, Okay,

1353
00:57:44,120 --> 00:57:45,600
Speaker 4: there you go. Hey man, what do you want to say?

1354
00:57:45,640 --> 00:57:48,680
Speaker 2: Go ahead, Hey, I'm just saying I agree with you.

1355
00:57:48,760 --> 00:57:51,400
Speaker 8: I mean the guy unfortunately he passed away.

1356
00:57:51,920 --> 00:57:54,000
Speaker 14: But at the same time, like he don't need.

1357
00:57:53,880 --> 00:57:57,440
Speaker 10: To remember that at my wedding because hey, this is

1358
00:57:57,520 --> 00:57:59,680
Speaker 10: my day, Like why do you check my time off

1359
00:57:59,680 --> 00:57:59,840
Speaker 10: of me?

1360
00:57:59,840 --> 00:58:02,520
Speaker 14: And oh, it's not about being a competition or anything.

1361
00:58:02,880 --> 00:58:05,640
Speaker 14: How would you feel if I wore my ex wife's.

1362
00:58:05,280 --> 00:58:07,480
Speaker 10: Scring as she passed away, You're gonna have a whole

1363
00:58:07,520 --> 00:58:08,640
Speaker 10: feet Yeah.

1364
00:58:08,640 --> 00:58:09,960
Speaker 2: I don't think that would go over very well with

1365
00:58:10,040 --> 00:58:11,680
Speaker 2: very many people. But thank you, Kyle. I have a

1366
00:58:11,680 --> 00:58:15,479
Speaker 2: good day. I appreciate you now. But somebody said, here's

1367
00:58:15,480 --> 00:58:15,760
Speaker 2: the thing.

1368
00:58:15,880 --> 00:58:17,880
Speaker 4: Somebody said on here, what do they say, Fred isn't

1369
00:58:17,920 --> 00:58:19,800
Speaker 4: ready to marry a widow because he's not accepting it

1370
00:58:19,880 --> 00:58:21,200
Speaker 4: for fully. First of all, I don't know what you're

1371
00:58:21,240 --> 00:58:24,840
Speaker 4: talking about. That is in his case by case, I'm

1372
00:58:24,840 --> 00:58:26,800
Speaker 4: talking about a particular case where it seems like a

1373
00:58:26,840 --> 00:58:29,560
Speaker 4: woman is not necessarily over her previous marriage. That's what

1374
00:58:29,600 --> 00:58:31,560
Speaker 4: it seems like to me. But I don't think we're

1375
00:58:31,560 --> 00:58:33,840
Speaker 4: considering the other side of this. I think we're only

1376
00:58:33,880 --> 00:58:37,320
Speaker 4: considering the needs of this woman. Okay, because as a

1377
00:58:37,360 --> 00:58:41,320
Speaker 4: guy who has dated people who have lost their previous

1378
00:58:41,320 --> 00:58:46,000
Speaker 4: significant other, I'm accepting of that person's situation, But I

1379
00:58:46,000 --> 00:58:48,360
Speaker 4: think that person needs to be accepting of mine, which

1380
00:58:48,440 --> 00:58:52,240
Speaker 4: is that I'm going to be insecure about this man

1381
00:58:52,240 --> 00:58:55,240
Speaker 4: that you loved and didn't do anything wrong. This isn't

1382
00:58:55,240 --> 00:58:57,800
Speaker 4: a breakup, this isn't a divorce. I mean, you know,

1383
00:58:58,040 --> 00:59:00,520
Speaker 4: everything was fine and then they were gone, and that

1384
00:59:00,640 --> 00:59:04,120
Speaker 4: is awful, right, But like that's going to be difficult

1385
00:59:04,160 --> 00:59:06,920
Speaker 4: for me too. So why why are we why do

1386
00:59:07,000 --> 00:59:08,640
Speaker 4: we have to put that in my face on that day?

1387
00:59:08,680 --> 00:59:10,760
Speaker 4: I guess it'd be the question that I'm asking because

1388
00:59:10,800 --> 00:59:13,200
Speaker 4: as much as I am going to be obviously i'm

1389
00:59:13,200 --> 00:59:17,360
Speaker 4: marrying you, I'm accepting of of of whatever you've been through.

1390
00:59:17,680 --> 00:59:19,760
Speaker 4: I think you also have to accept the fact that, wow,

1391
00:59:19,920 --> 00:59:22,480
Speaker 4: I wouldn't even be here if that hadn't happened. And

1392
00:59:22,920 --> 00:59:27,520
Speaker 4: you know, that's a significant relationship that ended with zero closure.

1393
00:59:27,680 --> 00:59:30,960
Speaker 13: Did they say how long she had been widowed before

1394
00:59:31,720 --> 00:59:33,520
Speaker 13: they started to get married.

1395
00:59:33,680 --> 00:59:35,040
Speaker 4: It didn't say. And by the way, someone says that

1396
00:59:35,080 --> 00:59:37,200
Speaker 4: screams insecurity. Yeah, I said that from the beginning.

1397
00:59:37,280 --> 00:59:38,560
Speaker 2: It does. I'm insecure about it.

1398
00:59:38,800 --> 00:59:39,560
Speaker 1: I'm very honest.

1399
00:59:39,840 --> 00:59:42,280
Speaker 4: I'm telling you. I know, I know it's an unpopular opinion.

1400
00:59:42,320 --> 00:59:43,240
Speaker 4: I'm just telling you what I.

1401
00:59:43,200 --> 00:59:45,400
Speaker 1: Think, and I respect that. I respect that. I mean,

1402
00:59:45,440 --> 00:59:47,640
Speaker 1: I think we should all be able to spare our opinions.

1403
00:59:47,240 --> 00:59:48,640
Speaker 1: And that's okay.

1404
00:59:48,720 --> 00:59:50,040
Speaker 4: I didn't say from the beginning when I told you,

1405
00:59:50,080 --> 00:59:54,840
Speaker 4: I was keeping it on the real it's an unpopular opinion,

1406
00:59:54,880 --> 00:59:56,520
Speaker 4: and you guys can count on me all day. But

1407
00:59:56,560 --> 00:59:57,160
Speaker 4: that's what I think.

1408
00:59:57,360 --> 01:00:00,720
Speaker 1: I have agree with you, and.

1409
01:00:00,920 --> 01:00:04,040
Speaker 2: It would be it would absolutely be an insecurity. Absolutely

1410
01:00:04,080 --> 01:00:04,640
Speaker 2: it would.

1411
01:00:04,400 --> 01:00:05,920
Speaker 13: Be because I don't know if you ever get over

1412
01:00:05,960 --> 01:00:08,960
Speaker 13: that because it wasn't there's no closure, there wasn't a problem.

1413
01:00:09,080 --> 01:00:11,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, So it's like you say, she's not over it.

1414
01:00:11,240 --> 01:00:13,160
Speaker 1: I wonder if you ever do. I mean, who knows.

1415
01:00:13,360 --> 01:00:14,680
Speaker 1: I couldn't speak on it.

1416
01:00:15,680 --> 01:00:20,800
Speaker 2: More fresh show next right here?

1417
01:00:22,840 --> 01:00:26,240
Speaker 4: How do you eat your banana? More importantly, how do

1418
01:00:26,360 --> 01:00:30,520
Speaker 4: you I guess open the banana? Is really debate about this,

1419
01:00:30,840 --> 01:00:32,720
Speaker 4: like you're nod in your head like you've heard this before.

1420
01:00:32,920 --> 01:00:34,960
Speaker 13: Yeah, because there's a way that we're all supposed to

1421
01:00:35,000 --> 01:00:36,280
Speaker 13: be doing it, and there's a way that we all

1422
01:00:36,320 --> 01:00:36,800
Speaker 13: do do it.

1423
01:00:36,840 --> 01:00:38,440
Speaker 2: Well, what is the way that you are supposed to

1424
01:00:38,480 --> 01:00:39,120
Speaker 2: be doing it.

1425
01:00:39,080 --> 01:00:42,480
Speaker 13: At the opposite end, like not the top stem.

1426
01:00:42,520 --> 01:00:45,200
Speaker 2: So there's the antenna side, yeah, and there's the butthole side.

1427
01:00:45,240 --> 01:00:46,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, you're supposed to open it from the butthole.

1428
01:00:47,800 --> 01:00:50,320
Speaker 2: How can that even be? How would you even do that?

1429
01:00:50,840 --> 01:00:52,000
Speaker 1: As the monkey, I don't.

1430
01:00:51,800 --> 01:00:55,840
Speaker 4: Know, rip ripped the antenna side, like you break it

1431
01:00:55,880 --> 01:00:58,120
Speaker 4: a little bit, you have a little leverage there and

1432
01:00:58,160 --> 01:01:00,680
Speaker 4: then you peel it down and then you you look down.

1433
01:01:00,520 --> 01:01:01,160
Speaker 2: And then you eat it.

1434
01:01:01,200 --> 01:01:03,160
Speaker 1: That's not how they were made, apparently, that is how.

1435
01:01:04,040 --> 01:01:05,800
Speaker 4: There is no other way. There's no other way to

1436
01:01:05,840 --> 01:01:07,840
Speaker 4: eat it, and I don't know monkeys. They can do

1437
01:01:07,880 --> 01:01:09,840
Speaker 4: whatever they want, but like they obviously haven't been todd

1438
01:01:09,840 --> 01:01:11,520
Speaker 4: the proper way order.

1439
01:01:12,320 --> 01:01:13,240
Speaker 2: It's a fresh shew.

1440
01:01:14,040 --> 01:01:17,400
Speaker 4: It's Kiki's cord, Kiki Church, Kiki, take it away please,

1441
01:01:17,680 --> 01:01:20,400
Speaker 4: And I hope this isn't mean wherever it is, you know,

1442
01:01:20,520 --> 01:01:23,560
Speaker 4: and my own means if your opinion is not, don't

1443
01:01:23,600 --> 01:01:24,720
Speaker 4: you share your opinion either?

1444
01:01:24,760 --> 01:01:28,280
Speaker 12: Now I can't. I can't. You know how I get down?

1445
01:01:28,520 --> 01:01:31,560
Speaker 2: All right, write a letter to the boss.

1446
01:01:31,640 --> 01:01:32,680
Speaker 1: I don't care. I say what to say.

1447
01:01:33,000 --> 01:01:33,920
Speaker 2: All right, that's so.

1448
01:01:34,080 --> 01:01:36,320
Speaker 4: Of how I feel too. But sometimes it's just deflating.

1449
01:01:36,400 --> 01:01:39,480
Speaker 4: It's just inflating because I'm like, that's what you heard.

1450
01:01:39,920 --> 01:01:42,560
Speaker 1: Yes, that's what you heard, and that's what I say.

1451
01:01:42,560 --> 01:01:44,200
Speaker 2: All right, take it away, all right, let's.

1452
01:01:44,080 --> 01:01:45,280
Speaker 1: Get into the courtroom.

1453
01:01:45,400 --> 01:01:49,240
Speaker 12: It says, hey, Ki, ky am I wrong for blocking

1454
01:01:49,400 --> 01:01:52,640
Speaker 12: my sister after she embarrassed me at the car dealership.

1455
01:01:53,040 --> 01:01:54,320
Speaker 1: My name is Tony, and.

1456
01:01:54,240 --> 01:01:57,400
Speaker 12: I recently got into a bad car accident that left

1457
01:01:57,400 --> 01:02:00,600
Speaker 12: me without a car for a few months. After recovering

1458
01:02:00,720 --> 01:02:04,120
Speaker 12: and working overtime at my job, I finally saved up

1459
01:02:04,240 --> 01:02:06,960
Speaker 12: enough money for a down payment on a new car.

1460
01:02:07,640 --> 01:02:10,600
Speaker 12: During my time without a car. My sister was nice

1461
01:02:10,720 --> 01:02:13,080
Speaker 12: enough to drive me back and forth to work, so

1462
01:02:13,240 --> 01:02:15,280
Speaker 12: she was relieved when I asked her to take me

1463
01:02:15,320 --> 01:02:18,160
Speaker 12: to the dealership to finally get a new ride. She

1464
01:02:18,280 --> 01:02:20,320
Speaker 12: helped me pick a car, She joined me for the

1465
01:02:20,400 --> 01:02:23,600
Speaker 12: test drive, and she waited with me while we worked

1466
01:02:23,640 --> 01:02:26,600
Speaker 12: out the numbers. It was going so well into the

1467
01:02:26,600 --> 01:02:29,880
Speaker 12: finance guy told me that I needed a co signer.

1468
01:02:31,080 --> 01:02:34,200
Speaker 12: I immediately looked at my sister because I do it for.

1469
01:02:34,200 --> 01:02:35,160
Speaker 1: Her with no question.

1470
01:02:35,800 --> 01:02:39,720
Speaker 12: However, she quickly said no and refused to have any

1471
01:02:39,760 --> 01:02:42,000
Speaker 12: part of the deal. She put me in a really

1472
01:02:42,040 --> 01:02:44,280
Speaker 12: bad spot and left me at the dealership with no

1473
01:02:44,360 --> 01:02:46,840
Speaker 12: car and made me leave the dealership with no car.

1474
01:02:47,200 --> 01:02:49,160
Speaker 12: And I haven't spoken to her since, and I have

1475
01:02:49,280 --> 01:02:52,920
Speaker 12: no plans to am I wrong on this.

1476
01:02:58,520 --> 01:03:00,760
Speaker 2: Time. Textersre do we come.

1477
01:03:02,200 --> 01:03:04,280
Speaker 4: And Kiki, you and I are often aligned on these things,

1478
01:03:04,280 --> 01:03:06,320
Speaker 4: So Judge Kiki would say you.

1479
01:03:06,280 --> 01:03:08,880
Speaker 12: We are the bullies, And unfortunately I don't want to

1480
01:03:08,880 --> 01:03:11,920
Speaker 12: bully you, Tony, but I wouldn't have signed for you either. Bro,

1481
01:03:12,200 --> 01:03:14,800
Speaker 12: I'm sorry. I mean, your sister has done a lot.

1482
01:03:14,880 --> 01:03:17,520
Speaker 12: She's been driving you around since you've had your accident.

1483
01:03:17,680 --> 01:03:19,480
Speaker 12: She's set at the dealership with you. We know how

1484
01:03:19,520 --> 01:03:24,240
Speaker 12: long that can take. And if you need a co signer,

1485
01:03:25,040 --> 01:03:28,840
Speaker 12: what have you done to your credit that maybe you

1486
01:03:28,840 --> 01:03:31,280
Speaker 12: know she doesn't want to put herself in risk or

1487
01:03:31,320 --> 01:03:35,040
Speaker 12: in harm's way of having the same issue. I don't

1488
01:03:35,040 --> 01:03:37,280
Speaker 12: think you can ever get wrong at someone for refusing

1489
01:03:37,320 --> 01:03:38,200
Speaker 12: to be your co signer.

1490
01:03:38,360 --> 01:03:40,040
Speaker 4: There are a lot of variables here, right, I mean,

1491
01:03:40,400 --> 01:03:42,520
Speaker 4: you know, you want to help somebody, especially family, get

1492
01:03:42,560 --> 01:03:45,840
Speaker 4: on their feet, and maybe maybe it's worth it to

1493
01:03:45,920 --> 01:03:48,720
Speaker 4: you to help them get transportation because then that takes

1494
01:03:48,720 --> 01:03:51,320
Speaker 4: the burden off of you as well. But my question

1495
01:03:51,360 --> 01:03:53,439
Speaker 4: would be, is there no autumn will be a lot

1496
01:03:53,440 --> 01:03:56,400
Speaker 4: there that you can buy without a co signer?

1497
01:03:56,480 --> 01:03:56,960
Speaker 2: Like are you in?

1498
01:03:57,280 --> 01:03:59,800
Speaker 4: Because if that's true to your point, right, if there's

1499
01:03:59,880 --> 01:04:02,640
Speaker 4: no automobile on the planet that anyone will sell you

1500
01:04:02,640 --> 01:04:04,400
Speaker 4: without a co signer, then we got to.

1501
01:04:04,400 --> 01:04:06,400
Speaker 2: Work on some other things in our life, right.

1502
01:04:06,720 --> 01:04:09,360
Speaker 4: And I realize people come upon on hard times or whatever,

1503
01:04:09,440 --> 01:04:12,160
Speaker 4: but you're asking me to now attach myself to that

1504
01:04:12,200 --> 01:04:16,720
Speaker 4: situation and that is unfair, right, Like, I mean, if

1505
01:04:16,760 --> 01:04:19,240
Speaker 4: your credit is so bad that and again, maybe this

1506
01:04:19,280 --> 01:04:21,280
Speaker 4: person's trying to buy a car, they can't afford, in

1507
01:04:21,320 --> 01:04:23,600
Speaker 4: which case you don't need me to co sign because

1508
01:04:23,920 --> 01:04:25,240
Speaker 4: you probably shouldn't be buying this.

1509
01:04:25,240 --> 01:04:27,640
Speaker 1: Car, right, Is there any other option?

1510
01:04:27,880 --> 01:04:30,680
Speaker 4: Because when it comes to me attaching myself to your

1511
01:04:31,520 --> 01:04:35,400
Speaker 4: tenuous financial situation, I think that might be too much

1512
01:04:35,440 --> 01:04:36,680
Speaker 4: to ask, even for family.

1513
01:04:36,720 --> 01:04:37,680
Speaker 2: It's not really fair.

1514
01:04:38,000 --> 01:04:39,960
Speaker 12: I agree with you one hundred percent on this one.

1515
01:04:40,040 --> 01:04:42,240
Speaker 12: I mean, and I know how it can feel when

1516
01:04:42,280 --> 01:04:44,520
Speaker 12: you're at a dealership and you pick out the car

1517
01:04:44,800 --> 01:04:46,880
Speaker 12: and you take it on the drive and you start

1518
01:04:46,920 --> 01:04:49,240
Speaker 12: loving everything about it. You got the new car, smell,

1519
01:04:49,400 --> 01:04:52,280
Speaker 12: the seats, feel good, you're excited, and then you go

1520
01:04:52,320 --> 01:04:54,680
Speaker 12: back and work those numbers and they come back like, ooh,

1521
01:04:54,920 --> 01:04:57,040
Speaker 12: we need a co signer. I know you felt away

1522
01:04:57,080 --> 01:04:59,600
Speaker 12: when that happened, but you can't just now think that

1523
01:04:59,600 --> 01:05:02,160
Speaker 12: that's just sister's responsibility to now.

1524
01:05:02,040 --> 01:05:04,200
Speaker 1: Be your co signer. Like she's your sister, she doesn't

1525
01:05:04,280 --> 01:05:04,880
Speaker 1: have to do that.

1526
01:05:05,520 --> 01:05:07,680
Speaker 4: I would love to know what kind of car it was,

1527
01:05:07,720 --> 01:05:10,480
Speaker 4: to like, are you trying to go buy a BMW

1528
01:05:10,640 --> 01:05:13,120
Speaker 4: or something? And because not everybody can most people can't

1529
01:05:13,160 --> 01:05:15,080
Speaker 4: afford you know whatever? You know what I mean, It's like,

1530
01:05:15,720 --> 01:05:18,600
Speaker 4: are you going for a specific thing? Because at this point,

1531
01:05:18,640 --> 01:05:21,600
Speaker 4: it sounds like anything would do, any reliable mode of

1532
01:05:21,600 --> 01:05:24,920
Speaker 4: transportation is what you need right now, right But asking

1533
01:05:24,960 --> 01:05:28,080
Speaker 4: people when it comes to money, you know, it's it's

1534
01:05:28,120 --> 01:05:30,320
Speaker 4: that's not an easy ask because some people have worked

1535
01:05:30,440 --> 01:05:33,600
Speaker 4: very hard to put themselves in a good financial position

1536
01:05:33,920 --> 01:05:36,960
Speaker 4: and they don't necessarily need you to mess.

1537
01:05:36,720 --> 01:05:39,080
Speaker 2: That up for them. And that tends to happen.

1538
01:05:39,120 --> 01:05:41,200
Speaker 1: All the time, all of the time.

1539
01:05:41,560 --> 01:05:43,120
Speaker 4: You guys are the Jerry though, eight five five five

1540
01:05:43,840 --> 01:05:44,240
Speaker 4: three five.

1541
01:05:44,240 --> 01:05:44,959
Speaker 2: What do you guys think?

1542
01:05:46,080 --> 01:05:46,720
Speaker 1: I'm a sucker?

1543
01:05:46,720 --> 01:05:48,520
Speaker 7: So I probably would get pulled into this knowing me,

1544
01:05:48,720 --> 01:05:50,280
Speaker 7: But I also don't know if I'm the one that'll

1545
01:05:50,280 --> 01:05:50,760
Speaker 7: be asked to be.

1546
01:05:51,400 --> 01:05:56,000
Speaker 1: To be honest, your house needs a car. Three I'm

1547
01:05:56,080 --> 01:05:58,960
Speaker 1: a co signer. I'm like, oh no, but I do agree.

1548
01:05:59,000 --> 01:06:00,400
Speaker 1: I just feel like, you know what, I get my

1549
01:06:00,400 --> 01:06:01,680
Speaker 1: stuff together, which will be soon.

1550
01:06:02,200 --> 01:06:05,040
Speaker 7: I'm not cosetting nothing for nobody because I, like you said,

1551
01:06:05,120 --> 01:06:07,840
Speaker 7: work too hard to either repair my credit or just

1552
01:06:07,880 --> 01:06:10,040
Speaker 7: you know, get it up there. Like my mom is

1553
01:06:10,040 --> 01:06:13,440
Speaker 7: such an angel, and she I know she would do it. However,

1554
01:06:13,640 --> 01:06:15,280
Speaker 7: I don't ever want to do it to anybody else

1555
01:06:15,360 --> 01:06:17,400
Speaker 7: just because I feel and I use my mom's an example,

1556
01:06:17,440 --> 01:06:19,080
Speaker 7: because I know she's like the first person that would

1557
01:06:19,080 --> 01:06:20,760
Speaker 7: do what I recall, But I just also want to

1558
01:06:20,760 --> 01:06:22,800
Speaker 7: feel bad because if I'm laid on payments and all that,

1559
01:06:22,840 --> 01:06:25,040
Speaker 7: it affects her, and that's the last thing I want

1560
01:06:25,040 --> 01:06:27,320
Speaker 7: to do is ruin somebody else's future and credit and

1561
01:06:27,360 --> 01:06:29,320
Speaker 7: all of that. Now, I know, like as a mother,

1562
01:06:29,360 --> 01:06:30,960
Speaker 7: if my daughter was to ask me, and I probably

1563
01:06:31,000 --> 01:06:33,040
Speaker 7: will have to co sign like college loans or something.

1564
01:06:33,080 --> 01:06:34,960
Speaker 7: I'm sure you'll see my name on there in eighteen

1565
01:06:35,000 --> 01:06:38,320
Speaker 7: years that I'll do, Like, I'll know if she can't

1566
01:06:38,320 --> 01:06:40,880
Speaker 7: pay it, like Mama's got her, her dad we got her.

1567
01:06:40,920 --> 01:06:43,680
Speaker 7: But that's it, like just my child, that is all,

1568
01:06:44,000 --> 01:06:44,920
Speaker 7: no sibling nothing.

1569
01:06:45,200 --> 01:06:47,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, and so on said, well, what if it's lack

1570
01:06:47,160 --> 01:06:49,400
Speaker 2: of credit history? You know, maybe would be.

1571
01:06:49,680 --> 01:06:53,440
Speaker 4: But then someone else commented, well, how quickly, considering how

1572
01:06:53,520 --> 01:06:56,000
Speaker 4: quick this is a text, Considering how quickly Tony was

1573
01:06:56,040 --> 01:06:59,040
Speaker 4: willing to write her sister off for saying no one

1574
01:06:59,160 --> 01:07:01,800
Speaker 4: time after all that help, you can kind of guess

1575
01:07:01,880 --> 01:07:05,120
Speaker 4: how much responsibility and accountability that this person is willing

1576
01:07:05,160 --> 01:07:05,479
Speaker 4: to take.

1577
01:07:05,560 --> 01:07:08,400
Speaker 2: I would say no as well. That's a good point

1578
01:07:08,880 --> 01:07:09,320
Speaker 2: you can use.

1579
01:07:09,480 --> 01:07:12,240
Speaker 12: She's been driving you around being your uber all this

1580
01:07:12,360 --> 01:07:13,920
Speaker 12: time that you didn't have a car, and then the

1581
01:07:13,960 --> 01:07:16,240
Speaker 12: one time she says no, it's like, oh.

1582
01:07:16,200 --> 01:07:17,400
Speaker 1: Well, I don't. I don't even want to talk to

1583
01:07:17,440 --> 01:07:18,840
Speaker 1: you anymore. Right, that's wild.

1584
01:07:19,000 --> 01:07:20,960
Speaker 4: And then someone else suggested on the text, maybe the

1585
01:07:21,040 --> 01:07:24,360
Speaker 4: ask is for a loan, but this also doesn't sound

1586
01:07:24,400 --> 01:07:25,800
Speaker 4: like a person I would want to loan money to,

1587
01:07:25,880 --> 01:07:26,760
Speaker 4: to be honest.

1588
01:07:26,600 --> 01:07:28,600
Speaker 12: Right, And you know how I feel about family with loans.

1589
01:07:28,600 --> 01:07:30,920
Speaker 4: I rather just give you, Yeah, that's I feel the

1590
01:07:30,920 --> 01:07:33,160
Speaker 4: same way. If the only way that I'm in a

1591
01:07:33,200 --> 01:07:35,640
Speaker 4: position to give a friend or family a loan is

1592
01:07:35,680 --> 01:07:38,400
Speaker 4: if I can see it as as never seen, is

1593
01:07:38,440 --> 01:07:40,320
Speaker 4: if I can accept giving it to you and never

1594
01:07:40,320 --> 01:07:42,480
Speaker 4: getting it back, because I'm not willing to lose a

1595
01:07:42,520 --> 01:07:45,720
Speaker 4: friendship or a family member over money. So if you

1596
01:07:45,760 --> 01:07:47,040
Speaker 4: ask me for money, I need to be in a

1597
01:07:47,040 --> 01:07:48,920
Speaker 4: position to essentially gift it to you.

1598
01:07:49,120 --> 01:07:50,440
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, because people will.

1599
01:07:50,560 --> 01:07:52,680
Speaker 12: People will take a loan and then act completely normal

1600
01:07:52,760 --> 01:07:55,240
Speaker 12: when it's past the payback deadline, like they do keep

1601
01:07:55,240 --> 01:07:57,120
Speaker 12: going on and I'm like, all I can think about

1602
01:07:57,240 --> 01:07:57,800
Speaker 12: is the money.

1603
01:07:57,600 --> 01:07:58,000
Speaker 1: I gave you.

1604
01:07:58,040 --> 01:08:00,120
Speaker 4: And then you get into stuff like you loan somebody

1605
01:08:00,160 --> 01:08:02,280
Speaker 4: money and they're supposed to pay you back, and then

1606
01:08:02,280 --> 01:08:03,880
Speaker 4: all of a sudden they pull up in the BMW

1607
01:08:04,000 --> 01:08:05,800
Speaker 4: and you're like, wait a minute, right, you needn't have

1608
01:08:05,840 --> 01:08:07,960
Speaker 4: any money, and now you got this nice car, but

1609
01:08:08,000 --> 01:08:09,560
Speaker 4: like you still owe me money.

1610
01:08:09,440 --> 01:08:11,120
Speaker 6: At the stakehouse, and then you start to free start

1611
01:08:11,160 --> 01:08:15,480
Speaker 6: to go kills, right, and then you say nice vacation, right, right, vacation.

1612
01:08:15,200 --> 01:08:16,840
Speaker 12: When I loan you money, I want you to eat

1613
01:08:16,920 --> 01:08:18,320
Speaker 12: Ramen noodles out the pad.

1614
01:08:19,040 --> 01:08:19,880
Speaker 1: I get my money back.

1615
01:08:19,960 --> 01:08:22,839
Speaker 2: I don't want to see you. Why are you spending

1616
01:08:22,880 --> 01:08:23,479
Speaker 2: more money?

1617
01:08:23,600 --> 01:08:26,240
Speaker 4: Yes, yeah, I mean, I know it just sounds it

1618
01:08:26,400 --> 01:08:31,760
Speaker 4: sounds harsh, but maybe maybe this also might be a

1619
01:08:31,800 --> 01:08:33,200
Speaker 4: blessing for this person too.

1620
01:08:33,479 --> 01:08:36,400
Speaker 2: Maybe this person should not be buying. Clearly they can't

1621
01:08:36,439 --> 01:08:39,519
Speaker 2: buy the car, so they probably don't need it. It's

1622
01:08:39,680 --> 01:08:41,920
Speaker 2: there's probably something about this that doesn't need to happen

1623
01:08:41,920 --> 01:08:44,880
Speaker 2: that could be even more problematic in the future. Hey Emily,

1624
01:08:44,920 --> 01:08:50,000
Speaker 2: good morning, good morning. Hi Kiki's Carl. What say you so?

1625
01:08:50,560 --> 01:08:51,960
Speaker 9: I mean, first of all, it's like I think he

1626
01:08:52,080 --> 01:08:54,680
Speaker 9: left out a lot of details and probably you know,

1627
01:08:54,920 --> 01:08:57,559
Speaker 9: for the reason of would all be even more against him.

1628
01:08:57,600 --> 01:08:59,400
Speaker 10: But he doesn't owe him anything.

1629
01:09:00,080 --> 01:09:04,080
Speaker 9: Huge ask and to block her immediately is also just

1630
01:09:04,120 --> 01:09:05,160
Speaker 9: an immature response.

1631
01:09:05,240 --> 01:09:07,000
Speaker 1: Why didn't her I don't remember.

1632
01:09:07,040 --> 01:09:09,519
Speaker 9: They'll hear who wrote in, like why didn't they try

1633
01:09:09,560 --> 01:09:11,679
Speaker 9: to have Yeah, why didn't they at least like try

1634
01:09:11,720 --> 01:09:14,400
Speaker 9: to have a conversation like, oh, why do you feel

1635
01:09:14,479 --> 01:09:17,479
Speaker 9: uncomfortable being my co signer? Or like, you know, because

1636
01:09:17,560 --> 01:09:19,960
Speaker 9: maybe that'll also give them an insight into why others

1637
01:09:20,000 --> 01:09:22,040
Speaker 9: wouldn't want to co sign or what he could do

1638
01:09:22,160 --> 01:09:23,479
Speaker 9: to get a co signer.

1639
01:09:24,040 --> 01:09:24,439
Speaker 1: I don't know.

1640
01:09:24,479 --> 01:09:26,759
Speaker 9: It seems like he has unrealistic guess.

1641
01:09:26,760 --> 01:09:29,640
Speaker 4: Actually, well, and Emily, I agree with the texture and

1642
01:09:29,680 --> 01:09:32,320
Speaker 4: with you that that that move in itself says a lot.

1643
01:09:33,000 --> 01:09:35,439
Speaker 2: Oh so I've done all this for you. I won't

1644
01:09:35,479 --> 01:09:38,600
Speaker 2: co sign. I won't attest myself to a loan, you know,

1645
01:09:38,760 --> 01:09:40,840
Speaker 2: for a significant amount of money for you. So you

1646
01:09:41,000 --> 01:09:43,040
Speaker 2: just blocked me. So the second that I don't do

1647
01:09:43,080 --> 01:09:46,000
Speaker 2: what you need me to do, then you eliminate me,

1648
01:09:46,560 --> 01:09:48,599
Speaker 2: even though this comes at risk to me. So you

1649
01:09:48,600 --> 01:09:50,120
Speaker 2: don't actually care about me at all?

1650
01:09:50,400 --> 01:09:52,760
Speaker 1: Right, right, what I can do for you exactly, and.

1651
01:09:52,720 --> 01:09:54,679
Speaker 2: The second I don't do it, then I then I'm out.

1652
01:09:54,880 --> 01:09:55,920
Speaker 2: We all know people like that.

1653
01:09:56,439 --> 01:09:59,320
Speaker 4: The second you're not serving them, then they don't want

1654
01:09:59,360 --> 01:10:00,840
Speaker 4: you in their life any more. The only way it

1655
01:10:00,880 --> 01:10:03,080
Speaker 4: works is if you serve them, and it's like, nuh no,

1656
01:10:03,520 --> 01:10:04,439
Speaker 4: we don't need people like that.

1657
01:10:05,439 --> 01:10:06,439
Speaker 11: He's not thinking about.

1658
01:10:06,280 --> 01:10:07,679
Speaker 1: The liability for his sister.

1659
01:10:07,840 --> 01:10:10,000
Speaker 9: Also, like what if she's trying to you know, like

1660
01:10:10,040 --> 01:10:11,960
Speaker 9: buy a condo or you know, do a big purchase

1661
01:10:12,000 --> 01:10:14,240
Speaker 9: for herself, where Like my advice when I was looking

1662
01:10:14,280 --> 01:10:16,880
Speaker 9: at condos was don't co find anything, you know, don't

1663
01:10:17,040 --> 01:10:18,920
Speaker 9: do like, don't fine for anyone.

1664
01:10:19,479 --> 01:10:21,720
Speaker 1: So like, you know, she could have her home like

1665
01:10:22,040 --> 01:10:24,519
Speaker 1: things she's trying to get in her life that I.

1666
01:10:24,439 --> 01:10:27,000
Speaker 9: Mean obviously, like you guys just said, like it's about him,

1667
01:10:27,160 --> 01:10:29,400
Speaker 9: not her, and that's unfortunate.

1668
01:10:29,560 --> 01:10:31,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, thank you, Emily, have a good day.

1669
01:10:31,880 --> 01:10:32,479
Speaker 1: Yeah you too.

1670
01:10:32,600 --> 01:10:34,280
Speaker 4: And look, I know that not everybody's in a position

1671
01:10:34,320 --> 01:10:36,719
Speaker 4: to have great credit and times are tough and people

1672
01:10:36,720 --> 01:10:38,960
Speaker 4: aren't making enough money to make ends meet. I'm not

1673
01:10:39,040 --> 01:10:41,400
Speaker 4: talking about that, but I am talking about it. It

1674
01:10:41,479 --> 01:10:44,040
Speaker 4: can and does take a lot of sacrifice to put

1675
01:10:44,040 --> 01:10:47,640
Speaker 4: yourself in a good financial situation. Oftentimes even people that

1676
01:10:47,720 --> 01:10:49,760
Speaker 4: don't have a whole lot are able to do it.

1677
01:10:49,840 --> 01:10:52,320
Speaker 4: But they're having to sacrifice, right, So then for me

1678
01:10:52,360 --> 01:10:54,559
Speaker 4: to just willing nearly coast on on somebody who may

1679
01:10:54,560 --> 01:10:57,160
Speaker 4: not have those same values, then that puts all that

1680
01:10:57,240 --> 01:10:57,719
Speaker 4: at risk.

1681
01:10:57,960 --> 01:11:01,080
Speaker 2: Yes, so, so I don't think I have to do

1682
01:11:01,120 --> 01:11:04,360
Speaker 2: that for you, especially if we don't share the same

1683
01:11:04,680 --> 01:11:08,559
Speaker 2: financial literacy values or or financial awareness, the same values

1684
01:11:08,560 --> 01:11:11,879
Speaker 2: in that regard, because not everybody. I feel like it's

1685
01:11:11,920 --> 01:11:14,439
Speaker 2: some people will say, well, you know, if you're in

1686
01:11:14,439 --> 01:11:16,760
Speaker 2: a good financial position, it's because you're rich, or because

1687
01:11:16,800 --> 01:11:18,679
Speaker 2: you have this or that. That's not entirely true.

1688
01:11:18,880 --> 01:11:20,719
Speaker 4: There are people who don't have a ton of money

1689
01:11:20,760 --> 01:11:22,599
Speaker 4: who also don't have a ton of debt because they

1690
01:11:22,640 --> 01:11:25,200
Speaker 4: live within their means right. And again, I'm not talking

1691
01:11:25,240 --> 01:11:28,880
Speaker 4: about extenuating circumstances. I'm not talking about student loans or

1692
01:11:29,439 --> 01:11:31,760
Speaker 4: medical debt or the things that you just simply have

1693
01:11:31,840 --> 01:11:35,600
Speaker 4: to spend on. So I don't necessarily need to go

1694
01:11:35,640 --> 01:11:38,080
Speaker 4: screw it up because of you.

1695
01:11:38,240 --> 01:11:42,559
Speaker 2: And then the second I say no, you block me. Tony.

1696
01:11:42,920 --> 01:11:47,439
Speaker 2: Come on, Hey, Gabby, Hi, Hi, Gabby, good morning. What

1697
01:11:47,520 --> 01:11:47,920
Speaker 2: do you think?

1698
01:11:49,680 --> 01:11:52,639
Speaker 11: Okay? I agree with both of you, guys. I do

1699
01:11:52,880 --> 01:11:56,400
Speaker 11: think that it is valid that Tony asked her sister

1700
01:11:56,520 --> 01:11:59,280
Speaker 11: to be her co signer, But Tony's sister, I'm sure

1701
01:11:59,360 --> 01:12:02,599
Speaker 11: is just like us to like kind of like giving

1702
01:12:02,640 --> 01:12:04,880
Speaker 11: in and doing things that she needs for her, but

1703
01:12:04,960 --> 01:12:07,559
Speaker 11: she also has to set her own boundaries at some point,

1704
01:12:07,640 --> 01:12:07,800
Speaker 11: you know.

1705
01:12:08,320 --> 01:12:08,599
Speaker 2: Yeah.

1706
01:12:09,200 --> 01:12:11,519
Speaker 4: Yeah, and when it comes to money, I don't I

1707
01:12:11,560 --> 01:12:14,200
Speaker 4: don't necessarily have to have to do that for you. No,

1708
01:12:15,160 --> 01:12:17,320
Speaker 4: It's a very serious topic and it could affect me

1709
01:12:17,360 --> 01:12:18,760
Speaker 4: for the rest of my life. It could affect my

1710
01:12:18,800 --> 01:12:21,519
Speaker 4: ability to go get a house, in a car or whatever.

1711
01:12:21,720 --> 01:12:23,200
Speaker 2: And I think you, at some point you have to

1712
01:12:23,240 --> 01:12:25,679
Speaker 2: protect yourself. Yeah.

1713
01:12:25,720 --> 01:12:28,080
Speaker 11: I feel like it shows more about Tony's character that

1714
01:12:28,120 --> 01:12:30,120
Speaker 11: she went right ahead and blocked her sister.

1715
01:12:30,360 --> 01:12:32,600
Speaker 2: Yeah. I agree. Thank you, Gabby, Thanks for listening. Have

1716
01:12:32,600 --> 01:12:36,280
Speaker 2: a good day, you too. Glad you called. Hey Jessica,

1717
01:12:36,400 --> 01:12:38,840
Speaker 2: good morning, welcome, good morning.

1718
01:12:38,840 --> 01:12:41,519
Speaker 4: How are you doing, Hey, Jessica. So Keikey's Court, basically,

1719
01:12:41,720 --> 01:12:44,439
Speaker 4: it's a it's a brother's sister situation, and the sister

1720
01:12:44,680 --> 01:12:46,960
Speaker 4: was I'm trying to get because Tony Tony is the brother.

1721
01:12:47,200 --> 01:12:51,320
Speaker 2: So Tony is being asked to don't don't want to donate.

1722
01:12:52,920 --> 01:12:57,120
Speaker 4: On a car, is asking his Okay, I'm trying to

1723
01:12:57,120 --> 01:12:58,880
Speaker 4: get this right, and the sister says no, and so

1724
01:12:58,960 --> 01:12:59,679
Speaker 4: Tony's pissed.

1725
01:13:00,040 --> 01:13:02,599
Speaker 2: But it's like, wait a minute, you know, is that

1726
01:13:02,720 --> 01:13:04,800
Speaker 2: is that an obligation if you're not able to get

1727
01:13:04,840 --> 01:13:07,960
Speaker 2: something financially and you need someone else to be involved

1728
01:13:07,960 --> 01:13:09,000
Speaker 2: with that, does it have to be me?

1729
01:13:10,400 --> 01:13:12,599
Speaker 10: No, that's not even from top to bottom.

1730
01:13:12,720 --> 01:13:15,400
Speaker 1: He's completely wrong. That's not her obligation.

1731
01:13:15,560 --> 01:13:21,080
Speaker 18: He already from the accident, he's already financially irresponsible, because

1732
01:13:22,000 --> 01:13:24,439
Speaker 18: did you have insurance to even cover some of the

1733
01:13:24,520 --> 01:13:26,200
Speaker 18: money to get you into a new car?

1734
01:13:26,360 --> 01:13:29,439
Speaker 1: Oh, that's a good question. And then on top of that.

1735
01:13:29,360 --> 01:13:31,400
Speaker 18: You have to work all of these hours, work, work,

1736
01:13:31,400 --> 01:13:32,960
Speaker 18: work to have a down tatement.

1737
01:13:32,720 --> 01:13:34,280
Speaker 1: So you don't have anything saved in a bank.

1738
01:13:34,479 --> 01:13:34,760
Speaker 10: Come on?

1739
01:13:35,000 --> 01:13:38,719
Speaker 5: So yeah, yeah, now you want me to attach my name,

1740
01:13:39,120 --> 01:13:42,759
Speaker 5: my resources to you when you already prove it you cannot,

1741
01:13:43,120 --> 01:13:45,920
Speaker 5: you know, you can't take care of your business. Yeah,

1742
01:13:45,960 --> 01:13:49,080
Speaker 5: So again to block her when she's already you know,

1743
01:13:49,160 --> 01:13:51,639
Speaker 5: stepped up and helped him out at a time.

1744
01:13:51,680 --> 01:13:54,440
Speaker 4: But me, so no, And let's also take any consideration.

1745
01:13:54,560 --> 01:13:56,760
Speaker 4: Let's just assume that this is a good obviously, this

1746
01:13:56,800 --> 01:13:57,599
Speaker 4: is a good sibling.

1747
01:13:58,040 --> 01:13:59,479
Speaker 2: Has it been helping this person out?

1748
01:13:59,520 --> 01:14:03,760
Speaker 4: You know a lot of other ways, and so this

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01:14:03,800 --> 01:14:08,280
Speaker 4: person must feel that she he or she cannot do

1750
01:14:08,360 --> 01:14:11,040
Speaker 4: this because you know what I mean, Because it's not

1751
01:14:11,080 --> 01:14:13,800
Speaker 4: like we're talking about a selfish human being who just like.

1752
01:14:13,760 --> 01:14:16,479
Speaker 2: There's contracts here that you don't know. So she obviously

1753
01:14:16,520 --> 01:14:19,160
Speaker 2: is uncomfortable with this notion for some reason, so what

1754
01:14:19,320 --> 01:14:20,280
Speaker 2: don't we know here?

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01:14:21,000 --> 01:14:23,200
Speaker 4: And has offered a lot of other solutions. So I

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01:14:23,400 --> 01:14:25,280
Speaker 4: don't like it. I wouldn't do it either. Thank you

1757
01:14:25,320 --> 01:14:26,400
Speaker 4: so much, have a good day.

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01:14:26,600 --> 01:14:27,639
Speaker 5: Thank you you too.

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01:14:27,800 --> 01:14:32,679
Speaker 2: Glad you called Jessica. Hey, Dahlia, Dalia girl.

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01:14:32,800 --> 01:14:34,920
Speaker 9: All right, I'm sorry.

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01:14:36,200 --> 01:14:41,880
Speaker 2: What do we do with the follow Are you okay? Melp?

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01:14:41,920 --> 01:14:45,559
Speaker 4: Okay? You work at a car dealership, so you know

1763
01:14:45,640 --> 01:14:46,360
Speaker 4: something about this?

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01:14:47,360 --> 01:14:48,639
Speaker 2: Yes, I do a little bit.

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01:14:49,120 --> 01:14:50,000
Speaker 7: I work in the office.

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01:14:50,160 --> 01:14:52,040
Speaker 1: I work a little bit with like people trying to

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01:14:52,040 --> 01:14:52,639
Speaker 1: sell their.

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01:14:52,479 --> 01:14:55,120
Speaker 7: Cars, and a lot of the time they're aren't able

1769
01:14:55,160 --> 01:14:57,280
Speaker 7: to because they're co shiner.

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01:15:00,240 --> 01:15:02,480
Speaker 8: They're the co signer and the person who's.

1771
01:15:02,200 --> 01:15:03,080
Speaker 1: Trying to sell the car.

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01:15:03,760 --> 01:15:06,040
Speaker 9: They never made the payments or something, or they're late,

1773
01:15:06,960 --> 01:15:09,280
Speaker 9: so just messes up what they're whatever.

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01:15:09,000 --> 01:15:09,720
Speaker 1: They own the car.

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01:15:10,200 --> 01:15:13,160
Speaker 4: So basically you're saying this, this could potentially become a

1776
01:15:13,200 --> 01:15:16,720
Speaker 4: big problem for the unassuming co signer who's simply there

1777
01:15:16,800 --> 01:15:17,320
Speaker 4: just to help.

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01:15:17,200 --> 01:15:21,160
Speaker 2: You get the money. Oh yeah, definitely, yeah, I can't

1779
01:15:21,160 --> 01:15:22,920
Speaker 2: be doing this stuff all right, Dallia, back to juggle

1780
01:15:22,960 --> 01:15:23,280
Speaker 2: on your phone.

1781
01:15:23,320 --> 01:15:25,000
Speaker 1: Have a good day.

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01:15:25,400 --> 01:15:26,400
Speaker 2: Bye, glad you yet?

1783
01:15:27,439 --> 01:15:29,640
Speaker 1: Oh no, you? And you know your siblings like you

1784
01:15:29,680 --> 01:15:29,920
Speaker 1: know you.

1785
01:15:30,080 --> 01:15:31,040
Speaker 2: We all love exactly.

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01:15:31,160 --> 01:15:33,360
Speaker 12: And I know I know which sibling is loan money to,

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01:15:33,400 --> 01:15:34,559
Speaker 12: and I know which one absolutely

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01:15:34,680 --> 01:15:37,919
Speaker 2: Not exactly, and I love them both the same, exactly,

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01:15:37,320 --> 01:15:40,400
Speaker 2: but not enough to give money my money.