WEBVTT - Is mayonnaise a good reason for ghosting someone?

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<v Speaker 1>First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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<v Speaker 1>online at Advocateslaw dot com.

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<v Speaker 2>Jay is on the phone today for a first date

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<v Speaker 2>follow up and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Dove.

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<v Speaker 2>So in a few minutes we'll call her and see

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<v Speaker 2>if she'll tell us why she's ghosting him. But first

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<v Speaker 2>let's find out about the date.

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<v Speaker 3>Jay. How long has it been since you heard from Dove?

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<v Speaker 4>Almost two weeks now?

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<v Speaker 3>Have you been reaching out to her in that time?

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<v Speaker 4>I did, like once or twice, Like, you know, I'm

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<v Speaker 4>not trying to be too invasive, you know, I know

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<v Speaker 4>the chicks like their space.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, okay, okay, which may be happening right now, we

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<v Speaker 3>don't know. So let's talk about your date, Jay. How

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<v Speaker 3>did that go? Oh?

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<v Speaker 4>I thought it went pretty well.

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<v Speaker 5>We went to a game, had a couple of beers afterwards.

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<v Speaker 4>Like somebody was going well.

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<v Speaker 5>So she I asked she wants to go to a

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<v Speaker 5>bar sports boring nearby and she was down and kicked

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<v Speaker 5>it for a while, and uh, still seems kind of

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<v Speaker 5>crazy about like she kept asking me like if I'm

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<v Speaker 5>going to order anything.

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<v Speaker 4>Else to eat? And uh, I'm a big eater.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know if I made her feel uncomfortable because

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<v Speaker 5>she was like just chowing down and I wasn't. But like,

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<v Speaker 5>you know, one of my my good buddies always tells

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<v Speaker 5>me that I should eat before the day because I'm

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<v Speaker 5>a little bit of a slob.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't know if she was bothered by that.

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<v Speaker 3>What, Like, I don't know, wew sloppy? Do you eat?

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<v Speaker 3>Were you like throwing food all over the restaurant?

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<v Speaker 5>And I only have I only have another person's opinion

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<v Speaker 5>on it, you know who I trust, So I don't know.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, I do kind of score barbecue sauce on

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<v Speaker 5>the shirt, but you know, a couple of drinks then.

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<v Speaker 3>Like on purpose.

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<v Speaker 5>No, No, I'm trying to help her out, like trying

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<v Speaker 5>to pass it over and.

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<v Speaker 6>Okay, so I have a good conversation outside of the

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<v Speaker 6>condiment showers or.

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<v Speaker 4>Uh have my I thought?

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<v Speaker 2>So, okay, did it seem like the barbecue sauce on

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<v Speaker 2>the shirt bothered her?

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<v Speaker 4>No? I mean not that I was aware of.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, we'll see, we can help you out and

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<v Speaker 3>try to figure it out.

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<v Speaker 2>We'll plays song, come back and then call her and

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<v Speaker 2>see what hotell us why she's ghosting you, maybe get

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<v Speaker 2>you another date.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, ah, sick, I'm gonna put my phone probably on mute.

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<v Speaker 4>Washing comes on, so it's gonna be a lot of windows,

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<v Speaker 4>you know.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, yeah, that's probably a good idea.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, we'll play a song, come back, give you

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<v Speaker 2>first day follow up.

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<v Speaker 2>Then little of your first day follow up, and Jay

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<v Speaker 2>is on the phone. He's getting ghosted by a girl

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<v Speaker 2>named Doves On a second. We're gonna call her and

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<v Speaker 2>see if she why she's ghosting him and maybe get

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<v Speaker 2>him another date. But first, Jay, why don't you refresh

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<v Speaker 2>our memory on your date before we call her?

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<v Speaker 4>Yow douv and I went to a game kicked it

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<v Speaker 4>when is sports?

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<v Speaker 1>Far?

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<v Speaker 4>After saw saunor, which apparently is the thing, and uh,

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<v Speaker 4>then she just dipped and kind of ghosted.

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<v Speaker 6>Now I'm trying to see what's good?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, yeah for sure.

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<v Speaker 2>And you think maybe the barbecue sauce on her shirt

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<v Speaker 2>might have been the thing that turned her off?

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<v Speaker 5>Well, I didn't before, but you guys kind of made

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<v Speaker 5>a big deal about it.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, so maybe it's all right, man, we're gonna call

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<v Speaker 2>her ready, all right, Sie, Okay, here we go. Hello, Hi,

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<v Speaker 2>I speak to Dove. Please, Hey Dove, how are you?

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<v Speaker 2>My name is Jebel. I'm calling from a radio show.

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<v Speaker 2>It's called The Jebel Show.

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<v Speaker 3>Hi, Dove, I'm Nina also on the show. Hi, I'm Victoria.

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<v Speaker 3>How are you? Hi?

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<v Speaker 6>I'm okay.

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<v Speaker 3>Hey, do you ever listen to the show.

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<v Speaker 6>I have been passing. I'll be honest. I'm more of

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<v Speaker 6>a Spotify kind of gal.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, that's hey, that's fine. So we do a segment

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<v Speaker 2>that's called the first Date follow Up. It's where you

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<v Speaker 2>go out with someone and you end up ghosting them.

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<v Speaker 2>That person can email us to get you on the

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<v Speaker 2>phone and ask why you're ghosting them. And we got

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<v Speaker 2>an email about you from somebody. Okay, well, can you

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<v Speaker 2>think of anybody that you're currently ghosting?

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<v Speaker 6>I mean, I've gone on a couple of dates. I

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<v Speaker 6>you know, we're all out here trying to make it happen.

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<v Speaker 6>I had gone on a date a couple of weeks ago.

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<v Speaker 6>I did have a good time. Okay, what was his name?

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<v Speaker 6>I think uh Jay? And we like went to a

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<v Speaker 6>game and I liked him, and there's another guy, Michael,

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<v Speaker 6>I don't know, maybe Michael or Jay.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe Michael or Jay. You're right the first time, yes,

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<v Speaker 3>J Yeah. Jay wants to know why you're not calling back. U.

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<v Speaker 4>Well did my dad did I forgotten? Mute? Oh?

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<v Speaker 2>Jay is on the phone, actually listening and wants to

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<v Speaker 2>talk to you.

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<v Speaker 6>Wow.

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<v Speaker 3>So anyway, Yeah, he wants to know why you're ghosting in.

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<v Speaker 6>Okay. Well, this is a wild experience and when I

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<v Speaker 6>can truly say I've never had before in my life. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 6>I mean I what what did she say something that

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<v Speaker 6>I totally is?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 6>All right, so yeah, I like thought he was really attractive.

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<v Speaker 6>I'm really into like, you know, the sorry per saying

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<v Speaker 6>this way J, but like the dad good look like

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<v Speaker 6>it's kind of a vibe that I like, and you know,

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<v Speaker 6>we were really vibing. And and then he like started

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<v Speaker 6>eating and he wanted a side of mayo for like

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<v Speaker 6>a dip. But I actually have like a mayo phobia,

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<v Speaker 6>and I just didn't want him to feel bad, which

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<v Speaker 6>which is like why I never said anything. But then

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<v Speaker 6>I kept trying to be cute about it, and twitt

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<v Speaker 6>like twisted that it wasn't a thing anymore, and I

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<v Speaker 6>kept trying to like feed him so that he would

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<v Speaker 6>just skip the Mayo dip. And then you know, even

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<v Speaker 6>at the end of the night, I like I wanted

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<v Speaker 6>to kiss him, but like I could an idea, like

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<v Speaker 6>I deal with like the Mayo in my mind, and

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<v Speaker 6>so honestly, it was like the Mayo thing, and I

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<v Speaker 6>maybe probably should have said something, but like now I don't.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean, that's just it hasn't. I don't know, well, clearly,

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<v Speaker 6>like this is a strange moment.

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<v Speaker 3>You have a like a male phobia, like a legit

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<v Speaker 3>f yeah.

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<v Speaker 7>Like it's like everything about it makes me a free

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<v Speaker 7>but more anything like deeply, deeply viscerally disgusting.

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<v Speaker 6>I think it's like it's a textural thing.

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<v Speaker 7>It's a visual thing. I look at it and like

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<v Speaker 7>the way that it like looks like in a mound

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<v Speaker 7>is like it.

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<v Speaker 6>Was just like, oh my god, Like I'm talking about

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<v Speaker 6>it right now, but if.

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<v Speaker 7>You want to vomit, like I just like it's just

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<v Speaker 7>like I think about it and my entire body tenses

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<v Speaker 7>and then I look to smell the smell of it,

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<v Speaker 7>the idea of what's even in it, Like everything about

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<v Speaker 7>Mayo makes me nauxious and I also, yeah, I guess

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<v Speaker 7>at this point it's become like a fear to even

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<v Speaker 7>be around it because of how it makes me viscerally feel.

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<v Speaker 6>Damn, did not hear that?

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<v Speaker 4>I read something about Mayo like it Actually they said

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<v Speaker 4>it doesn't have dairy, but I think it does.

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<v Speaker 2>What this is like kind of good news?

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<v Speaker 4>I thought it was the fact that I sostuff your shirt.

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<v Speaker 6>No, that wasn't it. Though it was actually one of

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<v Speaker 6>my favorite shirts and now it can't come out.

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<v Speaker 4>But no, that wasn't the reason.

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<v Speaker 5>Damn, dude, Like if you would have broke it down

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<v Speaker 5>for me, I would have stowed up passed that out

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<v Speaker 5>the window.

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<v Speaker 4>Dude, Like, yeah, that would have been nice. I guess. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>never again to the Mayo, well, dub, even though you.

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<v Speaker 5>Just dissed me, Like, I'm gonna be real, there should

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<v Speaker 5>only be one turtle Dove, because you're a hell unique.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow, are you sure the Mao is the reason why

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<v Speaker 3>you were ghosting?

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<v Speaker 6>There's like a little vibe here, like like I was laughing,

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<v Speaker 6>I had a really good time and just like then, yeah,

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<v Speaker 6>the Mayo really put the ick in all of this.

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<v Speaker 6>I couldn't take it. But like you're you're you're a

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<v Speaker 6>unique little dude, buddy.

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<v Speaker 5>No, I respect that it's better that we learned about

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<v Speaker 5>the Mayo thing now than like, you know, down the road.

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<v Speaker 5>Since I put the ick in it, if you go

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<v Speaker 5>out with me again, we could put the young back

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<v Speaker 5>in it.

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<v Speaker 2>Would you like to go out with j again on

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<v Speaker 2>another date? We'll pay for it mayo.

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<v Speaker 6>Okay, okay.

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<v Speaker 7>I would be willing these pickup lines. I don't know

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<v Speaker 7>if I like them or I hate them. I haven't

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<v Speaker 7>decided yet that they are making me smile, So I would.

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<v Speaker 6>Be willing to on the condition that for the moment,

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<v Speaker 6>we just don't include food at all, and we can

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<v Speaker 6>do some like activity or something that's like really cute,

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<v Speaker 6>and we can we can re establish the food stuff

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<v Speaker 6>at a different points on.

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<v Speaker 2>Alignell, congratulations, Jay, you got another.

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<v Speaker 5>Date, so dog like for real, I got hell activities

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<v Speaker 5>that we could bust through that don't involve Mayo.

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<v Speaker 6>Sounds like a great time.

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