Speaker 1: How many of you know that you're the fixer in
Speaker 1: your friend group. Just take a moment reflect on your
Speaker 1: friend group, not without judging them, reflect an introspect and
Speaker 1: think about it. Do all your friends come to you
Speaker 1: for advice? Do all your friends come to you with
Speaker 1: their problems? Are you the agony? Aren't? Are you the
Speaker 1: person that they go to to solve all their issues?
Speaker 1: There's nothing wrong with this, but you may be playing
Speaker 1: the classic role of a fixer, not just in your
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Speaker 1: you are going to love today's episode because it's all
Speaker 1: about the three role types that we play in a
Speaker 1: relationship and what kind of relationships they lead to. Now,
Speaker 1: whether you're in a relationship, whether you just broke up,
Speaker 1: whether you just started dating someone, or whether you're single
Speaker 1: and you're just thinking back to the past, this episode
Speaker 1: is going to help you understand where things go wrong.
Speaker 1: This episode is going to help you understand and select
Speaker 1: your role type in a relationship and what that means.
Speaker 1: So I'm going to ask you if you questions that
Speaker 1: I want you to think about that is going to
Speaker 1: help you decipher which role is the role you play.
Speaker 1: So for each of these questions, I want you to
Speaker 1: give yourself a score out of ten. The first question
Speaker 1: is do you find yourself to constantly be trying to solve, nurture, help,
Speaker 1: or make the other person better? Are you involved in
Speaker 1: trying to improve, grow and make the other person better?
Speaker 1: And are you trying to make it happen for them,
Speaker 1: trying to carry them sometimes? Give that a score out
Speaker 1: of ten. The next question is how many of you
Speaker 1: in a relationship feel that you rely on your partner
Speaker 1: a lot. You go to them with your problems, you
Speaker 1: go to them with your complaints. You go to them
Speaker 1: with all your issues and you expect them to be
Speaker 1: able to find solutions for them. And you have to
Speaker 1: be really honest with yourself as you answer these questions again,
Speaker 1: zero to ten. Zero means I never do that, Ten
Speaker 1: means I do that quite a lot. Where are you?
Speaker 1: And the third and final question I want you to
Speaker 1: reflect on is do I support my partner? Do I
Speaker 1: value their dreams? Do I respect their time in space
Speaker 1: and how they like to spend their time in space?
Speaker 1: Or do I always want them to change it? Do
Speaker 1: I truly understand and acknowledge and recognize who they are
Speaker 1: and what they're doing, or do I truly want them
Speaker 1: to change inside? So where are you? Do you truly support?
Speaker 1: Are you at a ten? Or are you at a
Speaker 1: five because you're like I kind of do, but I
Speaker 1: wish they'd do stuff differently? Or are you at zero?
Speaker 1: So answer those all honestly, take a moment to reflect,
Speaker 1: don't give yourself the easy way out. And now you'll
Speaker 1: have three numbers all out of ten. So you either
Speaker 1: have ten, ten, ten, zero, zero, zero, or any number
Speaker 1: in between zero to ten for each answer the first
Speaker 1: type or role that question. One alludes to is being
Speaker 1: the fixer in relationships. This is the parent mentality. We
Speaker 1: play the role of a parent. We're constantly trying to parent.
Speaker 1: Mother and father are partners. We're trying to take care
Speaker 1: of their every needs. We're sensitive to everything they do,
Speaker 1: and we really feel that we can fix them and
Speaker 1: we can take care of them, and we have to
Speaker 1: nurture them, and that's our responsibility. That their happiness is
Speaker 1: our job, their happiness is our priority. If you rated
Speaker 1: yourself as high, it means you have a high fixer
Speaker 1: in you. This mentality can be useful, but it can
Speaker 1: also go overboard. You start to parent mummy or daddy
Speaker 1: your partner, which forces them into behaving like a child.
Speaker 1: The second type is fragile. How many of you are
Speaker 1: constantly dependent on, a reliant on your partner. Now, fragile
Speaker 1: doesn't mean that you are fragile. Remember, you are not
Speaker 1: a fixer. You're not fragile. It's you're conditioning. It's the experiences,
Speaker 1: the baggage that you've packed and gathered. Right, If you
Speaker 1: dirty clothes, it doesn't mean you're dirty, It means you
Speaker 1: have dirty clothes. If your clothes don't fit anymore, it's
Speaker 1: your clothes that don't fit anymore. So recognize that you
Speaker 1: are not the fixer or you are not fragile, but
Speaker 1: it is the experience you're going under. This is the
Speaker 1: child mentality. You run to your partner for everything. You
Speaker 1: want them to fix you, You want them to figure
Speaker 1: it all out, and often you can drain and overwhelm them.
Speaker 1: So for those of you the fixer, you can almost
Speaker 1: be overpowering and upset when the person isn't fixed. And
Speaker 1: if you're the fragile one, you get upset when that
Speaker 1: partner can't fix your problems and can't solve everything for you.
Speaker 1: Where were you on a scale of one to ten.
Speaker 1: So again you left two numbers and you're able to
Speaker 1: see where you are in each scale. And the third
Speaker 1: one is this supporter the partner mentality. You're not a parent,
Speaker 1: you're not a child, you're a partner. We're trying to
Speaker 1: take responsibility. We're trying to develop patients. We're trying to
Speaker 1: help the other person grow, but we're not trying to micromanage.
Speaker 1: We're not being a mother or father a parent. Again,
Speaker 1: so these are the three key roles that we've played
Speaker 1: in relationships. And I want you to think back to
Speaker 1: any of your past relationships for a moment and reflect
Speaker 1: on which roles have you played. How many of you
Speaker 1: have played the fixer? My hand is high up in
Speaker 1: the sky. I have played the fixer. How many of
Speaker 1: you have played the fragile? My hand is high up
Speaker 1: in the sky. I have played the fragile? And how
Speaker 1: many of you have played the supporter? Both my hands
Speaker 1: are raised. I'm so happy to finally be there, to
Speaker 1: stop trying to be a child and stop trying to
Speaker 1: be a parent and starting to be a partner, starting
Speaker 1: to be a supporter. Now, let's talk about that journey,
Speaker 1: because a lot of the times, the reason why we
Speaker 1: end up as fixers of fragile is because of our parenting,
Speaker 1: the style that we received, our previous experiences in relationships.
Speaker 1: How many of you know that you're the fixer in
Speaker 1: your friend group? Just take a moment reflect on your
Speaker 1: friend group, not without judging them, reflect an introspect and
Speaker 1: think about it. Do all your friends come to you
Speaker 1: for advice? Do all your friends come to you with
Speaker 1: their problems? Are you the agony aunt? To you? The
Speaker 1: person that they go to to solve all their issues?
Speaker 1: There's nothing wrong with this, but you may be playing
Speaker 1: the classic role of a fixer, not just in your
Speaker 1: romantic relationships, but in your friendships and your family. How
Speaker 1: many of you were the ones that kept the peace
Speaker 1: in your family so that no one else argued. Sometimes
Speaker 1: you even silenced your own voice and opinion because you
Speaker 1: thought it would disturb the peace. Think about this for
Speaker 1: a moment. How many of us feel, Oh, yeah, I
Speaker 1: was the peacekeeper in my family. We see that as
Speaker 1: a positive, but actually what we were doing is trying
Speaker 1: to fix something without listening to our own voice, without
Speaker 1: listening to how we truly felt about it, without honoring
Speaker 1: our own emotions and our own thoughts and our own ideas.
Speaker 1: How many of you feel that when you're with someone,
Speaker 1: you're constantly trying to be like, Oh, I wish they
Speaker 1: had a better job, you know, I wish they just
Speaker 1: dressed a bit better. You can't see trying to fix
Speaker 1: the other person. And the problem with this is if
Speaker 1: someone doesn't want to be fixed, you obviously push them away.
Speaker 1: And if someone does want to be fixed, you are
Speaker 1: increasing that child mentality, which means consistent dependence. And the
Speaker 1: interesting thing about fixes. All of us who've experienced it.
Speaker 1: Me included is that there's only so long we want
Speaker 1: to be fixes for. At first, we get our significance
Speaker 1: in a relationship from being a fixer. We get our enjoyment,
Speaker 1: We get our confidence in a relationship from being a fixer.
Speaker 1: We think, oh, yeah, this person needs me, this person
Speaker 1: needs me, and I'm here for them, and that's how
Speaker 1: I get my significance in the relationship. And slowly that
Speaker 1: significance starts to fade away. That confidence, it starts to diminish.
Speaker 1: We get drained by our own mindset. We get overwhelmed
Speaker 1: by our own mindset. The fixer is good so long
Speaker 1: as the fixer thinks that they're not a fixer. But
Speaker 1: most of us realize we're just trying to fix something
Speaker 1: that we don't have the right to fix, or we
Speaker 1: don't even have the ability to fix, and it might
Speaker 1: not even be broken. It's that person's journey, it's that
Speaker 1: person's growth. When we start detaching from that, we start
Speaker 1: realizing that person is on their journey. Happiness for themselves
Speaker 1: is their job. Fulfillment is their journey. I can support
Speaker 1: and facilitate, I can guide, I can introduce, but I
Speaker 1: don't have to be the person, and a lot of
Speaker 1: us struggle. I'll give you an example. I used to
Speaker 1: be the fixer even when I met Rather in the beginning,
Speaker 1: and Rather you would often go to her mother or
Speaker 1: her sister for advice and inside before she'd come to me.
Speaker 1: That's how she was raised. She was always around those people,
Speaker 1: and my male ego was hurt by that because my
Speaker 1: male ego wanted to be the fixer, wanted to be
Speaker 1: the person she goes to with all her problems. But
Speaker 1: here's what I realized. When my ex girlfriend's people in
Speaker 1: the past had done that to me, I felt overwhelmed,
Speaker 1: used and drained, and I couldn't keep doing it. But
Speaker 1: my ego wanted it even though I couldn't handle it.
Speaker 1: Our ego is seeking that significance. But significance from being
Speaker 1: a fixer is not sustainable. It's not satisfying, it's not stable,
Speaker 1: it runs out quick. And so I started to realize
Speaker 1: that I should be happy that Rather goes to a
Speaker 1: mother for certain things, she goes to a sister for
Speaker 1: certain things, and then she comes to me for other things.
Speaker 1: When I removed my significance from trying to be everything
Speaker 1: to her and started to realize I could be a
Speaker 1: few things to her, and the few things were my strength.
Speaker 1: It was what I could offer. That significance stops you
Speaker 1: from being a fixer. A fixer believes they can fix
Speaker 1: everything for their partner. Oh I got your career, I'll
Speaker 1: introduce you. Oh you're having struggled with with your personal
Speaker 1: life with your parents, I'll be a therapist. Oh you're
Speaker 1: struggling with your health, I'll be your health and fitness coach.
Speaker 1: Or you're struggling with your diet, I'll be your health coach.
Speaker 1: The fixer wants to be everything for their partner because
Speaker 1: they get their significance from having the answer, and then
Speaker 1: when their partner doesn't change, when their partner struggles with
Speaker 1: that growth, the fixer feels disappointed. The fixer judges themselves.
Speaker 1: The fixer starts to feel unqualified. The fixer starts to
Speaker 1: think it's all their fault, and they feel bitter towards
Speaker 1: their partner because now they have the insecurity that they
Speaker 1: haven't been a good coach, and they take that out
Speaker 1: on their partner for not being a good student. What
Speaker 1: are we experiencing here? The challenges we end up creating
Speaker 1: a partner who becomes a student, a partner who becomes
Speaker 1: a child. How many people want to be treated like
Speaker 1: a child forever and ever and ever. Maybe you're like, yeah, actually,
Speaker 1: j people do, but not in a condescending way, not
Speaker 1: in a way that you feel you're reporting to an authority.
Speaker 1: So I really want you to reflect on where you've
Speaker 1: seen the fixed attendencies. And the first thing we do
Speaker 1: to give up our fixed attendencies or detach from that
Speaker 1: is first saying, Okay, what are the things I can
Speaker 1: support my partner with and what are the things I
Speaker 1: can't support them with? What are the things that I
Speaker 1: have skills in and abilities in where I want to
Speaker 1: support them, not fix them, and what are the things
Speaker 1: that I definitely can't help them with. That's the first thing.
Speaker 1: The second thing is to remove the fixed attendency is
Speaker 1: you want to help your partner get introduced and connected
Speaker 1: to other people they go to for guidance. The fixer
Speaker 1: wants to be the person the supporter wants to facilitate
Speaker 1: by introducing to other people. It's the facilitator that we
Speaker 1: want to become. And thirdly, the supporter mindset instead of
Speaker 1: being the fixer, comes when the fixer finally realizes that
Speaker 1: their partner has their own journey they want to go on.
Speaker 1: That you're not trying to take your partner on your journey.
Speaker 1: Your partner doesn't have to grow the way you grow.
Speaker 1: Your partner will grow the way they grow, and they
Speaker 1: give them space to guide their own journey and make
Speaker 1: their own decisions and choices. Isn't this so helpful? I
Speaker 1: hope all of you are sitting there right now taking
Speaker 1: a screenshot to share this part it along with someone
Speaker 1: who needs it, and also making notes because so many
Speaker 1: of us spend our whole lives being fixers. We all
Speaker 1: know a fixer, maybe a parent. Maybe you've seen your
Speaker 1: mom or dad be a fixer their whole lives and
Speaker 1: he hasn't got them anywhere. Maybe you see it in
Speaker 1: your best friends, so that's the fixer. The second is
Speaker 1: the fragile. So the fragile usually comes from being wounded
Speaker 1: or being carried. So maybe your parents did everything for
Speaker 1: you or them. Maybe you were hurt a lot, and
Speaker 1: now you've been mistreated by your family. So notice how
Speaker 1: can be opposite. Your family may have done everything for you,
Speaker 1: so your fragile or your family did nothing for you
Speaker 1: and that's why you're hurt and wounded and therefore have
Speaker 1: become fragile. Now, the word fragile is really interesting. The
Speaker 1: reason why you use fragile is because fragile doesn't mean
Speaker 1: something not beautiful. Sometimes the most beautiful things can be
Speaker 1: the most fragile. Sometimes the most talented people can be
Speaker 1: the most fragile. How many times if you open a
Speaker 1: box that says fragile, will you find something remarkable inside?
Speaker 1: So notice, fragile doesn't make you not remarkable. Fragile doesn't
Speaker 1: mean make you not amazing. Fragile means you could be
Speaker 1: as incredible and phenomenal as you are, but that you're wounded.
Speaker 1: You're hurt, and instead of trying to build the confidence yourself,
Speaker 1: you're expecting someone else to do it for you. This
Speaker 1: is the person that constantly seeks validation. This is the
Speaker 1: person that constantly seeks assurance, consistently doesn't find any joy
Speaker 1: in their own experience of their own company, but always
Speaker 1: needs the other person to do the work. And often
Speaker 1: this is comforting in the beginning, we feel we found
Speaker 1: the person. When we find a fixer, and the fixer
Speaker 1: that's exactly what we want. They embrace us they take
Speaker 1: care of our every need. They provide everything so we
Speaker 1: don't have to do it ourselves, and then they leave us.
Speaker 1: They leave us because they can't handle it, not realizing
Speaker 1: that was partly their responsibility too. But now we think
Speaker 1: I'm hurt again. Have to find someone else to take
Speaker 1: care of me. I have to find someone else to
Speaker 1: help me survive this. I must discover someone else who
Speaker 1: can do this better than this person. So you end
Speaker 1: up in a constant spiral of looking for someone to
Speaker 1: fix you. You feel broken and you want someone to
Speaker 1: stick the parts of you together, and you keep letting
Speaker 1: someone else stick the parts together, and then when they
Speaker 1: leave you, you keep letting them break your parts apart.
Speaker 1: You never learn to grow yourself. You never learn to
Speaker 1: take responsibility for your own happiness, your own joy, and
Speaker 1: your own success, and you always think it's someone else's
Speaker 1: fault that you haven't got to where you are. This
Speaker 1: is also familiar with the victim mindset. We believe that
Speaker 1: everything bad is happening to us and there's no way out.
Speaker 1: The fragile child mentality puts us in a very weak
Speaker 1: position because it stops us from taking responsibility for our
Speaker 1: own growth. It stops us from taking accountability for our
Speaker 1: own lives. It restricts us from taking charge. It's almost
Speaker 1: like saying, I never learned how to drive because people
Speaker 1: always drove me around, and now that I have to drive,
Speaker 1: I'm scared because I've never done it before. If you've
Speaker 1: always had someone drive your car for your life, the
Speaker 1: metaphorical car of life, then that's exactly how you'll feel
Speaker 1: when someone leaves you. So the antidote to the fragile
Speaker 1: mentality is saying, what are the wounds that I can
Speaker 1: learn to heal? Where have I been broken that I
Speaker 1: can create breakthroughs? Where have I experienced pain that I
Speaker 1: can learn to find my own answers. Let me not
Speaker 1: look for my solace and my healing in a another person.
Speaker 1: Let me find it in my own purpose. Let me
Speaker 1: find it in my own practices and rituals. Let me
Speaker 1: find it in my own passion. Let me not outsource
Speaker 1: my own joy. So the three steps to moving from
Speaker 1: the fragile to the supporter or the fragile to the facilitator.
Speaker 1: The first step is looking back and thinking, what are
Speaker 1: the areas of my life that I'm always seeking validation from?
Speaker 1: Where do they Where? Are those areas? Is my education,
Speaker 1: is my looks? And what am I going to do
Speaker 1: for myself in those areas to build my own confidence?
Speaker 1: Maybe I'm going to work out more, Maybe I'm going
Speaker 1: to eat healthier, Maybe I'm going to study harder. What
Speaker 1: am I going to do for myself to see myself
Speaker 1: that way? We all want everyone else to see us
Speaker 1: as attractive and smart and brilliant. What do I need
Speaker 1: to do to see myself as attractive, smart, and brilliant? Right?
Speaker 1: If you reorganize that, it's the ABS right. Everyone wants
Speaker 1: ABS want to be perceived as attractive. And I don't
Speaker 1: just mean physical. I mean we want to be attractive
Speaker 1: to others. We want to feel brilliant to others, and
Speaker 1: we want to feel smart to others. But how can
Speaker 1: I feel attractive, brilliant and smart to myself? What do
Speaker 1: I need to do? What do I need to learn?
Speaker 1: What are the skills that I need to invest in?
Speaker 1: What do I need to develop that helps me generate
Speaker 1: that confidence and validation within myself rather than waiting for
Speaker 1: everyone else in the world to validate me and assure
Speaker 1: me and set myself up to find another fixer. How
Speaker 1: can I grow So what ends up happening is the
Speaker 1: fragile finds the fixer. The fixer tries to help the
Speaker 1: fragile for a while. The fixer then runs out of
Speaker 1: energy and the fragile feels despondent. All what happens is
Speaker 1: a fixer meets a fixer. When a fixer meets a fixer,
Speaker 1: they both drive each other crazy because they both want
Speaker 1: to improve each other more and more and more. You're
Speaker 1: not working hard enough, you don't make enough money. Oh,
Speaker 1: well you need to improve this. No, well you need
Speaker 1: to improve that. Instead of fixing themselves and growing, they're
Speaker 1: trying to fix the other person. And in the third case,
Speaker 1: when the fragile meets the fragile, they both don't feel
Speaker 1: a sense of home because they're both looking to the other.
Speaker 1: But they're like, wait a minute, you're too anxious for me.
Speaker 1: Because they're insecure by dealing with their own anxiety, in
Speaker 1: their own stress, and their own pressure. When they meet
Speaker 1: someone else who has that same experience, they go, oh,
Speaker 1: I can't deal with this because now I've got two
Speaker 1: of this and we don't even realize that. They usually
Speaker 1: think I'm fine. That person's too anxious. So these are
Speaker 1: the scenarios we find ourselves in, and of course when
Speaker 1: we want to rise to the facilitator or the supporter.
Speaker 1: I've shared with you how to switch, but let's talk
Speaker 1: about that. The supporter realizes that they want to do
Speaker 1: everything they can to help, but it's not their responsibility.
Speaker 1: They want to facilitate and help grow and invest, but
Speaker 1: they don't judge themselves personally with the result. They're there
Speaker 1: for that person, but they're also there for themselves. Their
Speaker 1: purpose is their priority the person, and their purpose is
Speaker 1: their own priority. They prioritize their purpose and they remind
Speaker 1: the person to prioritize theirs. It's full of reminders and
Speaker 1: cues and noticing rather than doing it for the other person.
Speaker 1: Telling your partner, hey, I just want to make sure
Speaker 1: did you get a workout in today. That's different than
Speaker 1: being the person who leads the workouts and stops doing
Speaker 1: your own life. A partner and supporter first is stable
Speaker 1: themselves and then uses that stability to help the other person.
Speaker 1: The difference between the supporter and the fixer is the
Speaker 1: fixer thinks they can solve everything. The supporter acknowledges what
Speaker 1: they can help with and what they can't what they
Speaker 1: can facilitate and what they can't. The fixer obsessives over
Speaker 1: all of their partner's flaws. The sup porter is patient
Speaker 1: as they find their own feet and find their own
Speaker 1: growth as their partner discovers their own path. The supporter
Speaker 1: is what we all want to head towards what we
Speaker 1: want to grow into and understand better. A partner in
Speaker 1: a relationship communicates as an equal. When we take on
Speaker 1: parental communication, our partners talk to us like children. When
Speaker 1: we take on childlike communication, when we act like children,
Speaker 1: our partners become parents. Partners communicate with equality. They communicate
Speaker 1: with responsibility. They communicate as a team, not as a
Speaker 1: coach and a student. They communicate as a team. Your
Speaker 1: partner is always teaching you, but you're always teaching them.
Speaker 1: And when you both understand you're both teaching and learning
Speaker 1: at the same time, that's when you create a partnership.
Speaker 1: I really we hope that this podcast was helpful today.
Speaker 1: I really hope it makes you make sense of some
Speaker 1: of the interactions this week. Trying to elevate your interactions
Speaker 1: to support her and facilitator. Every time you see yourself
Speaker 1: being fragile or the fixer rise to be the supporter
Speaker 1: and the facilitator and notice how your relationship changes. Thank
Speaker 1: you so much for listening on purpose. I hope you'll
Speaker 1: leave a review if this had an impact on you.
Speaker 1: I'm so grateful that we got to spend this time
Speaker 1: together and I can't wait for the next week's episodes.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much.