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Speaker 2: Bethany is on the phone today for a first day
Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Jeremy.
Speaker 2: So in a second we'll call him and see if
Speaker 2: he'll tell us why he's a ghostinger and maybe get
Speaker 2: her another date. But first, Bethany, how long has it
Speaker 2: been since you heard from Jeremy? Uh?
Speaker 3: It's been a few weeks. I haven't heard a nation
Speaker 3: from him. And it's weird because I thought the deal
Speaker 3: went really well.
Speaker 2: What y'all do.
Speaker 3: We went and got dinner, sort of like a happy
Speaker 3: hour type thing. We got like a couple of different
Speaker 3: plates and stuff. We shared both of them, and I
Speaker 3: really liked him, Like we have a lot in common.
Speaker 3: Both just recently moved here, were both originally from the
Speaker 3: small towns, and we're both really like career motivated and
Speaker 3: excited about our job and things like that. So I
Speaker 3: don't know, I thought it was a really good match.
Speaker 1: Did you feel like he liked you?
Speaker 3: I thought he did. He did.
Speaker 2: I know.
Speaker 1: It's a weird question because when you get so caught
Speaker 1: up in liking somebody you're not really paying attention to
Speaker 1: if like, wait a minute, Yeah that's true.
Speaker 3: Yeah I thought he liked me, but I haven't heard
Speaker 3: from him, so I'm not sure.
Speaker 1: Okay, well I made that a very terrible narrative. I'm
Speaker 1: not saying that he doesn't like him. Maybe something happened.
Speaker 1: Did you guys kiss it all? Did you hug How
Speaker 1: did the date end?
Speaker 3: We didn't kiss it all, just like hugged in second night,
Speaker 3: but the vibe was really positive, like we had a
Speaker 3: really good time. We were talking a lot, to the
Speaker 3: point where I thought we were going to have a
Speaker 3: second date. So yeah, I don't I don't really know
Speaker 3: what happened.
Speaker 2: Is there anything you can think of that might be
Speaker 2: a reason that he's ghosting you?
Speaker 3: I don't know. The only thing I can think of
Speaker 3: is that, like, I feel like I definitely.
Speaker 1: Ate more food than him.
Speaker 3: We shared some plates, and I feel like, now I'm
Speaker 3: kind of worried that I just like ate a lot
Speaker 3: more of the food.
Speaker 2: Is that actually a thing?
Speaker 1: What do you mean?
Speaker 2: Like, do you guys actually like not like that? I
Speaker 2: don't know what happened.
Speaker 1: It's definitely a thing where girls feel self conscious about
Speaker 1: it and they didn't feel self conscious about.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I hear them feel self conscious, but I didn't
Speaker 2: know if to, Like, I don't know if I know
Speaker 2: any guys that would want to go somebody after they
Speaker 2: went on a date with him and they ate a bunch,
Speaker 2: Like I find I actually think it's cool because it's like, oh,
Speaker 2: you're relaxed enough to just eat a bunch.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know.
Speaker 2: I would get annoyed, like if it's go to a
Speaker 2: really nice steakhouse or something and then somebody's self conscious
Speaker 2: about eating lots, so then they order a salad because
Speaker 2: it sounds like fifty bucks anyway, So it's like, just
Speaker 2: go ahead and spend the money on a steak and
Speaker 2: enjoy yourself.
Speaker 1: Yeah, So hopefully that's not it, because that would be ridiculous.
Speaker 3: Yeah, So like you just like walked me to my
Speaker 3: car and we said good night and we hugged this
Speaker 3: sort of I don't know. There is an implication that
Speaker 3: he was going to call a text or something, and
Speaker 3: I didn't hear anything.
Speaker 1: Did you reach out to him?
Speaker 3: I did reach out to him. I texted him once
Speaker 3: and I didn't get a response. I didn't want to
Speaker 3: text him too much because I didn't want to like, yeah,
Speaker 3: I don't want him or anything. And I really I
Speaker 3: just thought you was gonna text me or call me,
Speaker 3: so all right.
Speaker 2: And you literally have no idea why he's ghosting.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, it's just like, I guess the only
Speaker 3: thing I can thinkive is the food thing. I don't know.
Speaker 3: Maybe I was eating too loud or I was like
Speaker 3: being too messy or.
Speaker 2: All right, Okay, well we'll see if we can figure it out.
Speaker 2: For you'll play a song come Back, and then call
Speaker 2: him and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting
Speaker 2: you and maybe gets you another date if you still
Speaker 2: want one.
Speaker 3: Okay, so I'm giddy.
Speaker 2: All right, we'll play a song come Back, get your
Speaker 2: first day follow up next, right in the middle of
Speaker 2: your first date follow up if you're just joining us. So,
Speaker 2: Bethany is on the phone and she's getting ghosted by
Speaker 2: a guy named Jeremy. So in a second we're gonna
Speaker 2: call him and see if he'll tell us why he's
Speaker 2: ghosting her and maybe get her another date if she
Speaker 2: still wants one. But before we do that, Bethany, why
Speaker 2: don't you catch everybody up on your situation?
Speaker 3: Yeah? So, basically I went on a date with this
Speaker 3: guy a week or so ago. We had a great time,
Speaker 3: got drinks, dinner. I thought it went really well. We
Speaker 3: have a lot in common. I was really into him.
Speaker 3: He walked me in my car, we said good night,
Speaker 3: and I just like didn't hear from him at all.
Speaker 3: And I texted him and he just didn't respond. So
Speaker 3: now I'm just not sure what's going on, and I
Speaker 3: would really like to know.
Speaker 1: Okay, make sure it's not because you ate a lot.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, and I would like to know it's not
Speaker 3: because I ate a lot.
Speaker 2: All right, we're about to call him right now. Are
Speaker 2: you ready?
Speaker 3: Yep?
Speaker 2: Okay, here we go. Hey, is this Jeremy? Yeah, Jeremy
Speaker 2: was the man.
Speaker 4: How are you?
Speaker 2: My name is Jewbel and host a radio show. It's
Speaker 2: called The Jewbill Show.
Speaker 1: Hi, Jeremy, I'm Nina. Also on the show. Hi, I'm Victoria.
Speaker 2: How are you?
Speaker 3: Oh?
Speaker 2: Huh sweet? Do you listen to the show?
Speaker 5: Ever?
Speaker 4: I mean, I'm familiar.
Speaker 2: Okay, I don't know if you're familiar or not with
Speaker 2: a segment we do. It's called the first date follow up.
Speaker 2: That's where if you go on a date with somebody
Speaker 2: and then you ghost them, that person can ask us
Speaker 2: to get you on the phone and ask why you're
Speaker 2: ghosting them. And we got an email about you from somebody.
Speaker 1: Oh, okay, can you think.
Speaker 2: Of anybody that you're ghosting currently?
Speaker 5: Uh?
Speaker 3: Probably not.
Speaker 1: Have you gone on any dates recently?
Speaker 2: This is from Bethany?
Speaker 3: I take it.
Speaker 2: Yes, Bethany emailed us and then we talked to her
Speaker 2: about your day a little bit, and she said, it's
Speaker 2: been like a few weeks and you haven't talked to her.
Speaker 2: So she's wondering if you would mind telling us why
Speaker 2: you're a ghostinger.
Speaker 1: Well, I mean I had.
Speaker 4: A great time with her. We I really liked it
Speaker 4: because we went out, we had food, and she's nice
Speaker 4: to talk to. But I got really excited, and so
Speaker 4: I was starting to show my bros, you know, like
Speaker 4: pictures from the night, and I was telling.
Speaker 2: Her about her, and you know, one of.
Speaker 4: Them, my guy h Rob. Actually he said, wait a minute, no,
Speaker 4: I know who this is.
Speaker 3: I know Bethany.
Speaker 4: Actually I went out with her for a while A
Speaker 4: few weeks ago. I actually went out with her and
Speaker 4: we ended up we slept together, and every day afterward
Speaker 4: she kept just trying to get a hold of me.
Speaker 4: It was like this constant hey, what's.
Speaker 3: Up, and I couldn't.
Speaker 4: I couldn't like get her, I couldn't drop a hint
Speaker 4: that she would understand. So I eventually text her on
Speaker 4: like I don't know, like a third or fourth day,
Speaker 4: just to say that, hey, we're not a good match.
Speaker 4: And then then she stopped bugging me. So I was like, oh,
Speaker 4: I do not want to get into that, you know,
Speaker 4: I do. I don't want to wade into any of that.
Speaker 1: Well it sounds like, yeah, I'm not sure what waiting
Speaker 1: into that means. But because to me, he finally nipped
Speaker 1: it in the boat by telling her what was what.
Speaker 1: So really it was his fault that it got weird
Speaker 1: if you think about it, So you actually would have
Speaker 1: had the power to communicate with her what you wanted
Speaker 1: from her, and especially if you were excited. Doesn't mean
Speaker 1: that you guys have had the same situation.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 1: I feel a little triggered by that excuse. I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: I guess I just I didn't.
Speaker 4: I don't want to even get involved with any of that, Like,
Speaker 4: I'm not gonna I don't want it to get to
Speaker 4: the point where I've got to send out a text
Speaker 4: of like, Hey, don't do this anymore.
Speaker 1: That's just I know, well, why are you dating? Like
Speaker 1: are you dating to be casual or are you dating
Speaker 1: to meet someone? So why are you anticipating telling somebody?
Speaker 1: I don't want to hear from you.
Speaker 4: I mean, like, I just I want to meet people
Speaker 4: and hang out, and I didn't want to keep it
Speaker 4: kind of casual, which is nice, but I just I'm
Speaker 4: not going to be with someone who's gonna be.
Speaker 1: Who wants to talk to you. Are you kidding me?
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, Jeremy, thanks for being honest with us. Will
Speaker 2: you know that Beth and he is actually on the
Speaker 2: phone and wants to talk to you, and she's been listening.
Speaker 3: Hi. Uh Okay, I gotta say, I'm like a little
Speaker 3: bit shocked by what I'm hearing right now, Like I
Speaker 3: do I know, I know exactly what you're talking about.
Speaker 3: I remember Rob obviously. Okay, so he's he was really
Speaker 3: nice at first. We had a really good date. We
Speaker 3: talked about going on a second date, and that's like
Speaker 3: kind of the reason I slipt with him and he
Speaker 3: slept together, and then he just completely goes to me again.
Speaker 3: Just keep having me me And yeah, I texted him
Speaker 3: a few times we had just slept together, but I
Speaker 3: wasn't I didn't text him like crazy. I literally texted
Speaker 3: him a couple of times, and then he messaged back
Speaker 3: saying he didn't want to see me anymore. I yeah,
Speaker 3: I mean I was bummed.
Speaker 5: I mean, look, I.
Speaker 4: Trust I trust Rob's judgment and if if it was
Speaker 4: too much for him, and then it it's gonna be
Speaker 4: too much for me.
Speaker 3: You know, I gotta was not too much. I literally
Speaker 3: texted him like a few times because we had like
Speaker 3: maybe a little passion. But I feel like if you
Speaker 3: put one trust Robb's judgment.
Speaker 4: On this one.
Speaker 1: Jeremy, how many friends do you have? Like how many
Speaker 1: is in your inner circle? And can we have all
Speaker 1: of their names? So Bethany knows not to date any
Speaker 1: single one of them because you guys have interested in
Speaker 1: bro rules.
Speaker 4: Oh just I think you know we're tight. We like
Speaker 4: to make sure that we're all on the same page
Speaker 4: about this kind of stuff.
Speaker 1: Your friends are all on the same page about, like
Speaker 1: how you date.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean aren't yours?
Speaker 1: Yeah, they don't tell me who to see and not well,
Speaker 1: yes they do, yeah, but different, Jeremy, But different.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 4: I think we've worked out a really nice sort of system.
Speaker 4: You know, I got to talk about my date now,
Speaker 4: well when my friend, Hey, don't do that, and I'm like, okay,
Speaker 4: well Rob, I'm going in. I talked about what kind
Speaker 4: of girls to see.
Speaker 3: I trust Rob.
Speaker 4: If he says, hey, that's not that's not a good one,
Speaker 4: then like, that's not a good one, you know. Yeah,
Speaker 4: I mean, look, with us, it's it's dogs before.
Speaker 5: Broads, you know what, Yeah, doogs before broads before.
Speaker 1: Listen, Jeremy, I respect your friends circle, but Bethany, it's
Speaker 1: time to get out. It's time to go.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I am not about this at all.
Speaker 3: I do not like that mentality from a grown man.
Speaker 2: So I'm good. I still have an ash, Jeremy, would
Speaker 2: you like to go on another day with Methany? Will
Speaker 2: pay for it? Dogs before?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 3: No, I got to.
Speaker 5: Listen to the dods all right, you guys?
Speaker 1: Do you guys bark when you see each other? What
Speaker 1: was that was?
Speaker 3: Like?
Speaker 2: It was a bulldog, Bethany. I'm assuming you're cool. You
Speaker 2: don't want another date?
Speaker 3: Yeah? I would like to never see either of them again.
Speaker 1: To be honest, there's rough in these streets. Jubile's first
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