WEBVTT - My WHAT Phase?? 0:00:01.920 --> 0:00:05.359 Wind Down with Janet Kramer and iHeartRadio Podcast. 0:00:07.640 --> 0:00:13.440 Okay, hello ladies, welcome back, my girls. Say a little 0:00:13.440 --> 0:00:16.480 bit of a hangover from last week, full of emotional 0:00:16.560 --> 0:00:19.880 hangover I had after the share. I will say though, 0:00:20.000 --> 0:00:24.479 I had so many people reach out and it felt 0:00:24.760 --> 0:00:27.360 so nice, like just refreshing. 0:00:27.880 --> 0:00:28.840 Yeah, it was. 0:00:30.360 --> 0:00:33.800 Learn things I had no idea about, which infuriates me 0:00:33.840 --> 0:00:37.040 a bit of course, Yeah, because I'm like, why is 0:00:38.000 --> 0:00:41.879 why is a again flow chat and Instagram telling me 0:00:42.280 --> 0:00:43.920 what it is as it like, and why am I 0:00:44.000 --> 0:00:45.400 just learning what PMDD is? 0:00:45.440 --> 0:00:47.280 I know I didn't know about it until. 0:00:47.080 --> 0:00:49.120 Yeah, because that's what Blow had told me. I had 0:00:49.440 --> 0:00:51.360 and then people are like, oh, look into PMDD. I'm like, 0:00:51.600 --> 0:00:53.720 what actually is this? Why am I just learning this 0:00:53.760 --> 0:00:54.720 at forty two years old? 0:00:55.560 --> 0:00:56.920 Where is our awareness? 0:00:57.120 --> 0:01:00.680 I just think until with a lot of things, until 0:01:00.760 --> 0:01:03.520 you have actual symptoms of something and go down the 0:01:03.600 --> 0:01:06.240 rabbit hole, you know, people don't really talk about it 0:01:06.280 --> 0:01:09.440 a lot. I also think it's not super common, correct 0:01:09.440 --> 0:01:10.000 me if I'm wrong. 0:01:10.080 --> 0:01:10.560 Maybe it is. 0:01:10.600 --> 0:01:13.920 I think it's one and thirty okay, so ish, Yeah. 0:01:13.680 --> 0:01:15.240 I mean I had just learned about it from a 0:01:15.280 --> 0:01:20.400 friend who's a teenage daughter has it, so it's it's rough. 0:01:20.640 --> 0:01:22.560 I think it's hard though, because I think, like I 0:01:22.800 --> 0:01:25.320 totally hear what you're saying about symptoms, but I still 0:01:25.360 --> 0:01:29.560 think it's enough people have it that it should be 0:01:29.560 --> 0:01:31.640 spoken about. Sure, do you know what I mean, like 0:01:31.640 --> 0:01:33.319 like floating around and we should know it, Yeah, like 0:01:33.360 --> 0:01:37.039 different levels of Like growing up, all I knew PMS 0:01:37.200 --> 0:01:39.640 was was you'd have cramps and you might be a 0:01:39.680 --> 0:01:45.240 little sensitive in your breast area and you could be 0:01:45.560 --> 0:01:47.640 a little bit more emotional. That's really all I knew 0:01:47.680 --> 0:01:51.200 about PMS. And I never really people in school would 0:01:51.200 --> 0:01:52.640 be like, well just take a mite all, you know, 0:01:52.680 --> 0:01:55.280 like back in the day, Like I never really got cramps, 0:01:55.360 --> 0:01:58.400 Like I never really had any PMS symptoms. So that's 0:01:58.440 --> 0:02:00.440 where I'm like, but there should be some sort of 0:02:00.480 --> 0:02:05.280 like spectrum chart, right of like this is symptoms that 0:02:05.400 --> 0:02:07.240 people can feel. And I think that's the piece that 0:02:07.280 --> 0:02:09.760 like bugs me that It's like I don't feel like 0:02:09.760 --> 0:02:13.520 we should have to be googling symptoms to see that 0:02:13.560 --> 0:02:16.920 there's something that is actually that sure. It's like my 0:02:17.120 --> 0:02:20.320 kind of like part with that because it is so 0:02:20.440 --> 0:02:23.040 many people and they were like BMDDPMD, like I'm just like, 0:02:23.120 --> 0:02:26.440 so it's way more common like what I knew to be, 0:02:26.560 --> 0:02:28.240 you know, and so I'm gonna start tracking it. But 0:02:28.280 --> 0:02:29.920 I think, yeah, I mean I'm looking at it. I'm like, 0:02:30.320 --> 0:02:33.880 it's probably it. But I've had some great combos, Like 0:02:33.880 --> 0:02:36.520 I talked to doctor Amen, I talked to like some 0:02:37.080 --> 0:02:41.000 midi health was another of a consult with them. Someone 0:02:41.000 --> 0:02:42.560 reached out to me. A couple of people actually told 0:02:42.560 --> 0:02:45.880 me about midi health some other hormone stuff about like 0:02:46.080 --> 0:02:49.040 getting on certain things like the week before. So there's 0:02:49.080 --> 0:02:51.959 a lot of a lot of things that were thrown 0:02:52.000 --> 0:02:54.520 at me that I'm going to just kind of talk 0:02:54.800 --> 0:02:57.240 through with people and then see which one helps them. 0:02:57.240 --> 0:03:01.839 Then once I get on a good regimen and see 0:03:01.840 --> 0:03:03.880 what works, and I'll and I'll share. 0:03:04.080 --> 0:03:06.160 Yeah, I think I just appreciate it all the love. Yeah, 0:03:06.160 --> 0:03:06.560 As we. 0:03:06.480 --> 0:03:10.639 Get older, I just think that those the phases of 0:03:10.800 --> 0:03:14.079 the cycle start to be a little bit more obvious 0:03:14.200 --> 0:03:17.000 or like more predominant, like maybe not obviously like people said, 0:03:17.000 --> 0:03:19.320 like when you get closer to perimenopause, that's when like 0:03:19.600 --> 0:03:22.240 it's someone's PMDD gets like way more heightened. 0:03:22.280 --> 0:03:24.880 That's what I'm gonna say. So you could have. So essentially, 0:03:24.919 --> 0:03:26.520 you've probably always had this. 0:03:27.080 --> 0:03:27.920 I don't know. 0:03:27.520 --> 0:03:32.400 I don't you get as you get older and approach, 0:03:32.760 --> 0:03:34.360 because it might get But I. 0:03:34.280 --> 0:03:36.320 Disagree with that too though, because I've never had those 0:03:36.360 --> 0:03:37.920 symptoms before until I was older. 0:03:37.960 --> 0:03:38.600 Yeah, that's what I mean. 0:03:38.640 --> 0:03:41.560 That's what I'm asking. Can you just develop it out 0:03:41.600 --> 0:03:44.600 of nowhere or like yeah, so it's interesting. Yeah, that's 0:03:44.640 --> 0:03:47.000 where I start of our journey. I literally have no clue. Well, 0:03:47.040 --> 0:03:48.440 and I know I'm only saying that, and. 0:03:48.440 --> 0:03:50.000 We should have a clue. 0:03:49.360 --> 0:03:50.560 We should. 0:03:51.000 --> 0:03:54.640 Yeah, I only say that because like even for a while, 0:03:54.680 --> 0:03:56.720 I had to be on pagesterone but only from day 0:03:56.760 --> 0:03:58.320 like sixteen to twenty. 0:03:58.080 --> 0:04:00.240 Eight, and a lot of people do that. And then 0:04:00.760 --> 0:04:01.240 so it was. 0:04:01.160 --> 0:04:03.920 Like to help me support. I'm horrible at our phases, 0:04:03.920 --> 0:04:04.720 but like, yeah. 0:04:04.560 --> 0:04:06.000 It's about the phase. 0:04:05.840 --> 0:04:09.720 The phase, and so yeah, I and I felt so 0:04:09.920 --> 0:04:12.000 much better, like the relief I felt. I'm like, wait, 0:04:12.080 --> 0:04:13.520 I'm a person again, you know. 0:04:13.920 --> 0:04:17.120 By the way, just to your point, I had never 0:04:17.320 --> 0:04:22.240 heard the word luteal phase until I saw Nate, which 0:04:22.279 --> 0:04:22.760 is how long. 0:04:22.920 --> 0:04:25.040 The only time I ever heard about luteal phase was 0:04:25.040 --> 0:04:27.120 from Tanya Rad because she talks about it on her 0:04:27.279 --> 0:04:30.920 on her like it's stories. I'm like, what are our faces? Yeah, 0:04:30.920 --> 0:04:31.440 I didn't even know. 0:04:31.480 --> 0:04:32.120 I can't even tell you. 0:04:32.120 --> 0:04:36.039 The others couldn't fillicular or fully five. 0:04:36.440 --> 0:04:37.039 I don't know. 0:04:37.400 --> 0:04:40.279 So that to your point, yeah, I was like, my 0:04:40.360 --> 0:04:42.039 what face? He's like, you need to take this blood 0:04:42.040 --> 0:04:43.800 work during your lud. I was like, what does that mean? 0:04:44.160 --> 0:04:44.799 I had no idea. 0:04:44.920 --> 0:04:46.839 That's my whole point. 0:04:47.040 --> 0:04:50.440 You know about it from a thirty something year old man. 0:04:52.400 --> 0:04:54.279 Meted he does do that for a living. But yes, 0:04:54.360 --> 0:04:56.520 but yeah, we didn't learned. 0:04:56.360 --> 0:04:58.320 About that in school. We just learned about our period coming. 0:04:58.520 --> 0:05:01.680 No, they don't definitely into like anything like that. 0:05:01.880 --> 0:05:04.839 But there should be like some sort of like something 0:05:05.040 --> 0:05:08.520 somehow you're gotting a conversation. I mean, my goodness, gracious, 0:05:08.560 --> 0:05:11.240 but yes, to your point, like Nate like the like same, 0:05:11.440 --> 0:05:13.240 I still don't know And I don't know what I 0:05:13.279 --> 0:05:15.960 should do during those times too, because some people again Tanya, 0:05:16.000 --> 0:05:17.360 I need to just like go back to her page 0:05:17.400 --> 0:05:19.120 because she'll be like this is what she should do 0:05:19.120 --> 0:05:20.839 when you're on your period, when you're not in your period, 0:05:20.839 --> 0:05:22.160 and this is like when you're gonna be happy and 0:05:22.200 --> 0:05:24.640 d D da da da, but like to all the 0:05:24.640 --> 0:05:27.920 points of everything, I think people I always know I'm 0:05:27.960 --> 0:05:30.800 a little bit more sensitive the week before not to 0:05:30.920 --> 0:05:35.880 like this extreme. Since probably the last six to eight months, 0:05:36.120 --> 0:05:37.240 it's gotten like way worse. 0:05:37.800 --> 0:05:38.280 But like. 0:05:39.720 --> 0:05:43.280 I will just say to that. People are like, you 0:05:43.320 --> 0:05:46.320 don't really talk about it because you feel crazy, right, 0:05:46.480 --> 0:05:48.200 So that's the piece of it too. It's like, well, 0:05:48.360 --> 0:05:49.880 why is an Alan there for you? I'm like, because 0:05:49.920 --> 0:05:51.680 I feel crazy. I don't want to feel even more 0:05:51.720 --> 0:05:53.520 crazy to say like, hey, I know I'm crazy. 0:05:53.920 --> 0:05:57.560 Yeah right, well I'm like, here's more crazy. I'll say. 0:05:58.279 --> 0:06:00.159 I've started to get to the point where I like 0:06:00.279 --> 0:06:02.760 let him know because I feel like it helps him 0:06:02.880 --> 0:06:04.800 gauge how to interact with me a little bit. And 0:06:04.839 --> 0:06:07.480 I'm not even like I'm gonna try that next time 0:06:07.600 --> 0:06:11.040 I do. Well, I just you know, It's it's interesting 0:06:11.120 --> 0:06:15.279 because I also hate the rep that I hate the rep. 0:06:15.320 --> 0:06:18.799 The PMS gets like, oh, she's pianos because she's PMS, 0:06:18.839 --> 0:06:21.400 like she can't you know, like don't approach her, or 0:06:21.480 --> 0:06:25.120 she's just crazy or she's just emotional, when really it 0:06:25.160 --> 0:06:27.880 is probably that all those things are still matter to us. 0:06:27.880 --> 0:06:29.680 It just matter maybe a little more heightened or a 0:06:29.720 --> 0:06:32.240 little differently or any as sad or whatever. 0:06:32.440 --> 0:06:34.599 And it's just like we are not educated. The people 0:06:34.600 --> 0:06:38.440 around us are not educated fairly. So it's also like 0:06:38.440 --> 0:06:41.280 our husbands don't understand that. So for us, we know 0:06:41.320 --> 0:06:42.800 we always used to say, oh, we got in a 0:06:42.800 --> 0:06:44.040 fight with their husband, Well, we're not going to tell 0:06:44.040 --> 0:06:45.280 them we were about to start our peers. 0:06:48.400 --> 0:06:50.800 Yeah, we would ownership of our craziness. 0:06:51.640 --> 0:06:53.760 So now it's like you realize, it's like, man, this 0:06:53.880 --> 0:06:55.960 is like a real thing. This isn't just you know, 0:06:56.120 --> 0:06:58.839 like there's reasons for it and there's causes for it, 0:06:59.000 --> 0:07:01.640 versus just oh no, she was about to start her period, 0:07:01.760 --> 0:07:02.000 you know. 0:07:02.160 --> 0:07:04.039 Yeah, but it is I think a good cop. And 0:07:04.120 --> 0:07:05.720 I did end up saying to him, I was like, 0:07:07.000 --> 0:07:11.280 I know, we're working, I said, I know. I was like, 0:07:11.320 --> 0:07:13.920 here's my partner. I was like, I was overly emotional 0:07:13.960 --> 0:07:16.920 about something. That is like end to have ownership of that, 0:07:16.920 --> 0:07:18.800 because it's like, yeah, I could be bummed about a 0:07:18.800 --> 0:07:22.080 certain situation, but I was a little bit too much emotionally. 0:07:22.640 --> 0:07:25.200 Yeah, But it's. 0:07:25.040 --> 0:07:26.760 Also hard to because when you don't feel it, when 0:07:26.760 --> 0:07:28.400 you feel so it feels so out. 0:07:28.200 --> 0:07:29.640 Of body that it's so hard. 0:07:29.760 --> 0:07:31.680 Those situations are so much more heightened. 0:07:31.760 --> 0:07:34.760 Yeah, Like the situation is dire and there might be 0:07:34.840 --> 0:07:38.160 something that upset you or whatever, but man, the way 0:07:38.200 --> 0:07:40.560 that we react to it can be so much bigger. 0:07:40.640 --> 0:07:43.080 Yeah, I did hard up. I had a little bit 0:07:43.160 --> 0:07:45.040 this is probably a few months ago. I don't know 0:07:45.080 --> 0:07:48.280 what is time anymore really in my brain, but I 0:07:48.320 --> 0:07:50.040 had a little bit of like a meltdown. 0:07:51.120 --> 0:07:52.960 And then I said a present. 0:07:53.040 --> 0:07:55.240 I was like, and if I don't get my period soon, 0:07:55.280 --> 0:07:57.200 I'm going to burn our old, our whole life to 0:07:57.200 --> 0:07:58.920 the ground. And he was like, there it is, okay, 0:07:58.920 --> 0:08:01.200 there it is, you know, like is like and he 0:08:01.240 --> 0:08:03.160 can tell. And then he also said, and I hope 0:08:03.160 --> 0:08:05.200 this comes across in the way it was meant, but 0:08:05.200 --> 0:08:08.119 he was like, I can always tell when it starts 0:08:08.120 --> 0:08:09.880 to like level out for you, because two or three 0:08:09.920 --> 0:08:13.600 days into your period you are just so sweet. And 0:08:13.840 --> 0:08:17.120 I hate that too because he doesn't mean it. I mean, 0:08:17.280 --> 0:08:20.000 he really means it complimentary, but I think it it 0:08:20.240 --> 0:08:22.240 sucks too when it's your own body and you can't 0:08:22.280 --> 0:08:24.880 regulate it. Yeah, you feel so helpless, Like I'm like, well, 0:08:24.920 --> 0:08:27.360 I but I want to always be that sweet person. 0:08:27.600 --> 0:08:29.120 I don't want to just be that sweet person two 0:08:29.200 --> 0:08:31.000 days after this, Like that sucks. 0:08:31.080 --> 0:08:33.160 I'm going to try so now that when I'm tracking 0:08:33.160 --> 0:08:35.440 and doing all the things, I'm going to put that 0:08:35.559 --> 0:08:37.720 into like our check in for that week before, to 0:08:37.760 --> 0:08:39.760 be like, hey, this is the week before. I'm probably 0:08:39.800 --> 0:08:41.200 so I'm like, I need a little bit more maybe 0:08:41.200 --> 0:08:43.400 more love this week. Or if I feel like I'm 0:08:43.400 --> 0:08:46.680 stomping around the house because I'm annoyed about something left out, 0:08:46.920 --> 0:08:49.520 like I just don't take it personal or just like 0:08:49.559 --> 0:08:50.120 give me a hug. 0:08:50.200 --> 0:08:52.360 I just think it's like understanding. Like I think it's 0:08:52.400 --> 0:08:54.720 okay for them to acknowledge. Okay, she's going to start 0:08:54.720 --> 0:08:56.360 her period. I'm just not going to take this so 0:08:56.520 --> 0:08:59.840 personally like that's okay, that's fine for everyone to acknowledge. 0:09:00.120 --> 0:09:01.120 Ladies, let's be honest. 0:09:01.160 --> 0:09:04.040 I mean we're I won't put you here because you're 0:09:04.080 --> 0:09:05.920 just like a year or two behind, and I just 0:09:06.040 --> 0:09:08.160 feel like you should. It's not fair to say we're 0:09:08.200 --> 0:09:11.880 mid forties as a collective, but I'm mid forties and 0:09:12.160 --> 0:09:14.839 it's not going to get any better for us in 0:09:14.880 --> 0:09:18.480 the hormone regulation period of life, in the way that 0:09:18.960 --> 0:09:21.240 our bodies are going to go through even bigger changes 0:09:21.600 --> 0:09:24.520 as we get older, and so the communication with them 0:09:24.559 --> 0:09:27.440 is going to be very, very important. Like I've watched, oh, 0:09:27.480 --> 0:09:30.320 I've watched watched quite a few women talk about menopause 0:09:30.360 --> 0:09:33.080 and just what it's done to their sex drive and 0:09:33.120 --> 0:09:35.320 like all of those things. And if we're not talking 0:09:35.360 --> 0:09:38.320 about it, I wouldn't want him to take personal those 0:09:38.320 --> 0:09:40.800 things either. That doesn't so I think it's good to 0:09:40.960 --> 0:09:44.280 just open conversations. Yeah, absolutely, but I'm excited. 0:09:44.320 --> 0:09:47.679 I'm like, Oh, it's frustrating because I'm I want to 0:09:47.679 --> 0:09:50.320 know the fix now, but I have to like wait. 0:09:50.360 --> 0:09:52.520 And that's the part where I'm like, oh god, about 0:09:52.520 --> 0:09:55.400 three weeks until the wheels spin off again. 0:09:55.720 --> 0:09:57.440 But I'm like, but we're all in loss with you. 0:09:57.720 --> 0:09:59.599 And it's kind of wild though, like to just like 0:09:59.679 --> 0:10:02.200 see you a week later, you know, and like do 0:10:02.200 --> 0:10:04.000 you feel like you just feel like you're on the 0:10:04.000 --> 0:10:04.719 other side of it? 0:10:04.960 --> 0:10:06.760 Yes, And no, I think I'm just like discouraged because 0:10:06.760 --> 0:10:09.360 I'm like I have to like wait and figure out 0:10:09.400 --> 0:10:12.040 and like test and try, you know, give Google blood 0:10:12.040 --> 0:10:13.760 work and you know, so it's kind of still that 0:10:13.880 --> 0:10:18.120 like you don't feel like you have you know the 0:10:18.160 --> 0:10:20.920 answers yet? Yeah, but there's something and we're getting there. 0:10:20.920 --> 0:10:23.959 So I'm just trying to like stay positive. But hope 0:10:24.000 --> 0:10:27.000 we'll do that to you. Hope we'll keep you floating. Yeah, 0:10:27.040 --> 0:10:28.559 for sure. But I also know, like that's why the 0:10:28.600 --> 0:10:31.160 whole point is like so glad that like we are 0:10:31.200 --> 0:10:32.720 talking about it because I think it needs to be 0:10:32.720 --> 0:10:35.560 talked about and that nobody is alone in this because 0:10:35.559 --> 0:10:39.319 so many people, so many people reached out like people 0:10:40.559 --> 0:10:43.280 here too, like you know, like Gretchen ROSSI was texting 0:10:43.320 --> 0:10:45.400 me like, you know, just these a's so many people 0:10:45.440 --> 0:10:47.440 that have reached out and just been like I had 0:10:47.480 --> 0:10:50.680 a very you know, director friend. She reached out like 0:10:50.720 --> 0:10:52.440 the exact same thing happened to me at forty two, 0:10:52.600 --> 0:10:54.520 like was never bad until X whatll you know? And 0:10:54.559 --> 0:10:57.640 so it's just like it's just nice to know, and 0:10:57.679 --> 0:11:13.000 that makes me feel a little less crazy. 0:11:13.040 --> 0:11:16.079 It's also worth noting like forty two or forty three 0:11:16.120 --> 0:11:18.040 is when it happened for me too. So I'd love 0:11:18.080 --> 0:11:20.880 to know like the average age, because maybe it isn't 0:11:20.920 --> 0:11:23.199 just this ten year sentence we're all in. Maybe there 0:11:23.240 --> 0:11:26.600 is something too, like that actual age, like can I 0:11:26.640 --> 0:11:29.520 found a spraying around that time, do some research on it, 0:11:29.559 --> 0:11:31.640 because I actually saying, okay, into like forty two. 0:11:31.800 --> 0:11:34.280 It's literally what every every woman I spoke to said, 0:11:34.280 --> 0:11:34.720 forty two. 0:11:35.040 --> 0:11:35.920 Yeah that's weird. 0:11:36.120 --> 0:11:36.280 Yeah. 0:11:36.360 --> 0:11:39.800 Now, then I started to get discouraged because I'm like 0:11:39.840 --> 0:11:41.640 a couple of years in and going like, so does 0:11:41.679 --> 0:11:43.280 it just this is the new normal? 0:11:43.320 --> 0:11:45.200 That doesn't feel that that's where we get to do 0:11:45.280 --> 0:11:47.280 all the like checks and balances, whether it's prozac the 0:11:47.320 --> 0:11:50.400 week of the week before, or it's progesteron, or it's estrogen, 0:11:50.480 --> 0:11:52.320 or it's this, or it's that, or it's the you know, 0:11:52.360 --> 0:11:54.040 like there's a couple of things that like I'm gonna 0:11:54.040 --> 0:11:56.240 try first, got to get the blood work, you know, 0:11:56.640 --> 0:11:58.240 at the right time. I just wasn't taking it at 0:11:58.240 --> 0:12:00.520 the right time, which also annoys me, you know what 0:12:00.559 --> 0:12:02.840 I mean on those things too, because I'm like, why 0:12:02.840 --> 0:12:04.800 didn't he tell me during that phase if we're trying 0:12:04.800 --> 0:12:06.800 to figure out hormones, why weren't we then doing it 0:12:07.360 --> 0:12:09.040 the time that I was supposed to be taking the 0:12:09.040 --> 0:12:12.319 blood work. You have to be at like day ninety 0:12:12.400 --> 0:12:14.320 or whatever, the day when you when you do your 0:12:14.320 --> 0:12:14.719 blood work. 0:12:14.760 --> 0:12:18.240 I did well that's I did know that much, but I. 0:12:20.120 --> 0:12:21.800 Know, but it's fine. Like, I love you guys. I 0:12:21.840 --> 0:12:24.600 just appreciate all of you guys. Uh. Do we want 0:12:24.600 --> 0:12:28.839 to bring up the other side of things? It came 0:12:28.920 --> 0:12:31.880 up in my little Q and A thing today. 0:12:32.080 --> 0:12:33.800 Yeah, I mean, listen, this is what I'll say. 0:12:34.800 --> 0:12:38.520 I do you want me to say what the thing like? 0:12:39.160 --> 0:12:41.280 Why it was deleted? Or someone said why why was 0:12:41.320 --> 0:12:41.839 it taken down? 0:12:42.320 --> 0:12:45.080 Well, well, I think that plays into it a little 0:12:45.080 --> 0:12:47.760 bit because I actually said not to take it down. 0:12:49.080 --> 0:12:50.960 Do we want to just back up, Hannah? Do you 0:12:50.960 --> 0:12:51.760 want to context it? 0:12:52.720 --> 0:12:53.080 Okay? 0:12:53.160 --> 0:12:57.199 Yes, So basically, when our social clips get made, I 0:12:57.240 --> 0:13:01.960 pick the clips and we have our social person create them. 0:13:02.200 --> 0:13:04.680 And so for this conversation, I wanted to use this 0:13:04.720 --> 0:13:07.880 clip because I thought everybody is talking about this trial, 0:13:08.720 --> 0:13:12.720 and regardless of how people feel, KB, I felt like 0:13:12.840 --> 0:13:16.720 you very much, coming as a mother, you were reacting 0:13:16.720 --> 0:13:20.040 to the facts of this case, and so I knew 0:13:20.040 --> 0:13:21.480 there would be a little bit pushback. 0:13:21.720 --> 0:13:24.440 Everyone has an opinion. I knew you would get opinions. 0:13:24.080 --> 0:13:26.280 Which I think too, like you were even like in 0:13:26.320 --> 0:13:28.199 the beginning, You're like, I'm going to get you know 0:13:28.240 --> 0:13:30.120 how You're like, I'm about to get a bunch of 0:13:30.480 --> 0:13:32.880 you know, I wonder how you say that of a 0:13:32.880 --> 0:13:33.360 ball of flames. 0:13:33.400 --> 0:13:37.400 Yeah, yeah, yes, You've said that many times during the podcast, 0:13:37.760 --> 0:13:42.680 during that conversation, so I expected you to get some comments. However, 0:13:42.760 --> 0:13:45.040 we ended up taking it down yesterday. We did leave 0:13:45.040 --> 0:13:46.280 it up because we saw those. 0:13:46.720 --> 0:13:49.320 She texted me from the very beginning and she said, hey, 0:13:50.480 --> 0:13:51.920 do you see the cloud. I'm like, it was my 0:13:51.960 --> 0:13:54.560 Wednesday Roman day, so like I'm pretty much like signed 0:13:54.600 --> 0:13:57.320 off and I looked and she's like, let me know 0:13:57.320 --> 0:13:59.079 what you want to do, and I said, eeke. It 0:13:59.200 --> 0:14:02.000 was like literally was our response back, eeke. And I'm like, 0:14:02.080 --> 0:14:03.719 all right, well, let's take it to the to the 0:14:03.800 --> 0:14:05.800 chat because I'm like, I don't ever want something up 0:14:05.800 --> 0:14:10.160 there that's like this represents who I know, like you, 0:14:10.240 --> 0:14:12.080 and it's always it's always hard with clips. But at 0:14:12.080 --> 0:14:14.000 the same time, it's like, no matter how a clip 0:14:14.080 --> 0:14:16.880 is edited, I think people still just have opinions. Yeah, 0:14:16.920 --> 0:14:20.960 like no matter like why, I think because it got traction. 0:14:21.360 --> 0:14:24.200 I think it got thrown into a different algorithm, which 0:14:24.280 --> 0:14:26.640 but I also was like, I'm not reposting online because 0:14:26.680 --> 0:14:29.840 I don't want like more like stuff going. But then 0:14:29.960 --> 0:14:31.440 like at the end of the day, that's when I 0:14:31.480 --> 0:14:33.280 looked again and I was like, this is just like. 0:14:33.320 --> 0:14:35.400 Not well, it just got out of controls. So you 0:14:35.480 --> 0:14:38.280 even said back to you, You're like, don't take it down. 0:14:38.320 --> 0:14:40.320 I said, do not take it down. I said, if 0:14:40.320 --> 0:14:42.160 I'm going to be, if I'm asking God to step 0:14:42.160 --> 0:14:44.120 into arenas, I just have to anchor differently. 0:14:44.720 --> 0:14:45.640 And I knew. 0:14:48.360 --> 0:14:52.000 I actually felt really sturdy yesterday. I felt like, honestly, 0:14:52.040 --> 0:14:52.800 and I don't want to. 0:14:52.760 --> 0:14:55.440 Cry about this because I actually hate that I'm crying 0:14:55.480 --> 0:14:55.840 about it. 0:14:55.840 --> 0:14:59.520 But I mean, guys, it's hard to just you're still human, 0:14:59.640 --> 0:15:01.600 you know, and listen. 0:15:01.840 --> 0:15:02.240 I have. 0:15:03.600 --> 0:15:05.840 I have talked professionally for eight years of my life 0:15:05.880 --> 0:15:07.280 before I was on this podcast. 0:15:07.320 --> 0:15:09.600 So I am used to. 0:15:11.440 --> 0:15:14.640 Radio where it's live, and so being careful with words 0:15:14.800 --> 0:15:18.760 has always been like a thing to me, and I don't. 0:15:19.600 --> 0:15:21.600 I have we don't have. 0:15:21.560 --> 0:15:26.080 The editability that edit ability when you're doing live radio. 0:15:26.240 --> 0:15:29.080 And so for a lot of my formative years, like 0:15:29.160 --> 0:15:32.680 young nineteen twenty to twenty six twenty seven, I was 0:15:32.720 --> 0:15:35.120 doing radio. I've always had to be like the glue 0:15:35.200 --> 0:15:38.960 or the co host or you know, like the comic relief, 0:15:39.000 --> 0:15:43.040 you know, and so I don't feel super qualified to 0:15:43.080 --> 0:15:46.760 talk about some topics, but we were all asked to, 0:15:46.960 --> 0:15:48.000 you know, share an opinion. 0:15:48.120 --> 0:15:48.720 I think what. 0:15:50.480 --> 0:15:52.480 Came up, probably for me in the clip that everyone 0:15:52.560 --> 0:15:58.440 saw is and this was the deep dive for me 0:15:58.560 --> 0:16:05.920 yesterday was when children feel unsafe That triggers me. So 0:16:08.120 --> 0:16:12.320 I am also a wild advocate for women's health, women's 0:16:12.360 --> 0:16:14.800 mental health, for women in general, so much so that 0:16:14.960 --> 0:16:17.160 like I really didn't like the other gender for a 0:16:17.160 --> 0:16:19.960 really long time, and raising his sun has taught me 0:16:20.160 --> 0:16:25.600 to like give them grace differently, And so I think 0:16:25.680 --> 0:16:30.760 that it the unsafety of children of children advocacy trumped 0:16:30.800 --> 0:16:33.120 my advocacy for women. Probably in the clip is what 0:16:33.160 --> 0:16:36.160 people were seeing. I also think because it got traction, 0:16:36.400 --> 0:16:38.880 it probably got dumped in some algorithm where we were 0:16:38.880 --> 0:16:43.360 pulling people that don't listen to the podcast too. I 0:16:43.400 --> 0:16:47.320 got some really outstanding messages, so it was really something. 0:16:47.360 --> 0:16:49.360 But then I also had a woman who's followed me 0:16:49.400 --> 0:16:51.160 for a really long time and she wrote to me 0:16:51.160 --> 0:16:53.960 and said, I can't believe you said this, unfollowed with 0:16:54.040 --> 0:16:56.040 a peace sign, and so I wrote back to her 0:16:56.160 --> 0:16:58.560 really heartfelt, and I said, did you listen to the 0:16:58.560 --> 0:17:01.160 whole episode? Because that's my qualifier, right, Like if people 0:17:01.160 --> 0:17:04.080 are listening to the whole thing and listen, it's a 0:17:04.160 --> 0:17:07.919 lesson to me too in clickbait, right, like how often 0:17:07.960 --> 0:17:10.280 are we all subjected to clickbait? And we're like form 0:17:10.320 --> 0:17:15.000 an opinion pretty quickly. It's doing its job. But I 0:17:15.040 --> 0:17:17.440 wrote back to her and we ended up exchanging voice 0:17:17.440 --> 0:17:19.840 notes last night on Instagram for a while, and she 0:17:21.119 --> 0:17:23.080 is the same age as all three of us, and 0:17:23.560 --> 0:17:26.000 she was like, I'm just really sorry that I said 0:17:26.000 --> 0:17:27.359 it the way I said it. I didn't you know, 0:17:27.400 --> 0:17:28.960 like I'm hearing your heart in this now. And I 0:17:29.000 --> 0:17:32.600 think what's difficult probably is that I have a little 0:17:32.600 --> 0:17:35.200 podcast that's been around for seven years and it's precious 0:17:35.240 --> 0:17:37.320 to me, and people know my whole heart, and here, 0:17:38.320 --> 0:17:42.400 I I think I sometimes assume people just know who 0:17:42.440 --> 0:17:45.119 I am, but like you're learning my character slower on 0:17:45.200 --> 0:17:47.840 here because there's three of us and because it's not mine, right, 0:17:48.440 --> 0:17:52.800 So I do advocate for women, I think, And what 0:17:52.800 --> 0:17:54.600 I wrote two Girls yesterday is like what hurt my 0:17:54.640 --> 0:17:57.480