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Speaker 1: Hi, everyone, This is Ashlyn Harris and welcome to Wide Open.

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Speaker 1: I had such a great time connecting and talking to

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Speaker 1: Nicki and Brie Garcia, formerly known as the Bellatwins. These

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Speaker 1: are two really, really red rad women, and they show

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Speaker 1: over again in such a real and authentic way, and

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Speaker 1: they're so grounded. They're great moms, they're great people. I

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Speaker 1: always get geeked out because I grew up watching wrestling,

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Speaker 1: and just to see two badass women paving the way

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Speaker 1: and trailblazing for just strength and power and showing what's

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Speaker 1: possible in the ring was something I've always gravitated towards.

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Speaker 1: And honestly, I'm envy because I wanted to be a

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Speaker 1: professional wrestler and I ended up being a professional soccer player.

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Speaker 2: So I get to live my life through them.

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Speaker 1: I grew up in Florida, so everything in Florida is wrestling,

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Speaker 1: and I had an older brother and my dad and

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Speaker 1: with the Undertaker and hul Cogan and all of these legends.

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Speaker 2: Stone called Steve Austin, and.

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Speaker 1: I just remember me and my brother just always pretending

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Speaker 1: we're professional wrestlers. And what I loved so much about

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Speaker 1: Niki and Bree is I didn't get the opportunity to

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Speaker 1: and you know, during that time, it was like wrestling

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Speaker 1: Immortal Kombat, and I like kind of sat in the

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Speaker 1: middle of it. So it was it's such nostalgia. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's nostalgia for my youth. If I had, oh my gosh,

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Speaker 1: my wrestling name. Oh god, my first soccer team was

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Speaker 1: called the Lightning, So there would be something, you know, yeah,

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Speaker 1: there would be something in that type of world with Lightning.

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Speaker 1: Not to mention I am obsessed with the you know,

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Speaker 1: I grew up watching Gladiators, Hello, So there would be

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Speaker 1: you know, there would be you know, Malibu and China

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Speaker 1: name with Briton Nikki, we really dive into who they are,

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Speaker 1: not just what they do, and how they continued to

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Speaker 1: reinvent themselves over and over and over. Their entrepreneurs, their moms.

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Speaker 1: They have insane creativity, and they're incredibly intelligent business women.

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Speaker 1: They've started a wine company, they've had, you know, all

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Speaker 1: these different types of genres that they've tapped into over

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Speaker 1: the years, and I think that's really setting the bar

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Speaker 1: for a lot of women who have come up in

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Speaker 1: the industry, whether it's entertainment or sports, that your career

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Speaker 1: doesn't die when you're you know, when you stop playing

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Speaker 1: or stop wrestling or stop acting. There's so much more

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Speaker 1: to what we do, you know, than how we show

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Speaker 1: up for our work. And I think they're really a

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Speaker 1: testament to that. They've reinvented themselves over and over. Yes, reinvention, reinvention, reinvention,

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Speaker 1: and they're showing like.

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Speaker 2: Their podcast is incredible. They they're everywhere.

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Speaker 1: These women are absolutely everywhere, and they've really transcended their

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Speaker 1: I love that about them and I'm trying to do

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Speaker 1: the same thing. So it's a great it's a great

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Speaker 1: reminder that we're so much more than what we do.

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Speaker 1: All right, everyone, let's get into the show. Here's Nicki

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Speaker 1: and Brie Garcia.

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Speaker 2: Welcome back to Wide Open.

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Speaker 1: I'm Ashland Harris, and today I get to sit down

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Speaker 1: with two women who need little introduction, Nicki and Brie Garcia.

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Speaker 1: You probably know them as the Belatwins from their legendary

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Speaker 1: run in the WWE, but their story goes way beyond

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Speaker 1: the ring. They've become entrepreneurs, podcasters, winemakers, mothers, cultural forces

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Speaker 1: who continue to redefine what it looks like to build

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Speaker 1: a career and a life on their own terms. I've

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Speaker 1: had the chance to meet with them a few times

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Speaker 1: in different events, and every time what stood out to

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Speaker 1: when you think about the wild ride they've been on,

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Speaker 1: it's pretty incredible.

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Speaker 2: Today we're going to talk about the.

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Speaker 1: Transitions they've made, the risks they've taken, and the balance

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Speaker 1: of being both business women, moms and still chasing their passions.

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Speaker 1: Welcome to the show, ladies so excited? Yes, Well, if

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Speaker 1: you didn't know, it's Libra season and your girl is

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Speaker 1: actually turning forty next week.

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Speaker 3: Show Way Happy, My Happy, birthday season, honestly, and when

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Speaker 3: welcome to the club.

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Speaker 1: That's soays I heard, it's better. Yeah, I heard it's better.

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Speaker 1: On the other side, tell me everything. What do I

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Speaker 4: Okay, So one thing I noticed when I got into

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Speaker 4: my forties, I didn't but I feel like you're kind

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Speaker 5: But I just didn't care at all.

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Speaker 4: It was like I was just free of like caring

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Speaker 4: about nothing, and so it was like, nof's given, I

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Speaker 4: say what I want, nothing bugs me, and so I

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Speaker 4: don't know that's what my forties have done for me.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Well, and I also feel like it's been we've all

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Speaker 3: talked about this midlife crisis, and when I've realized being

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Speaker 3: in my forties, I'm like, no, it's not a midlife crisis.

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Speaker 3: You just get to a point in your life when

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Speaker 3: you get into your forties and you go, I'm going

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Speaker 3: to do this thing I want. I don't care about

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Speaker 3: what people say, like Bresa's So when people were like

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Speaker 3: buying ferraris or like divorcing and wanting to like just

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Speaker 3: be with other people, it was because we realized we

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Speaker 3: have half our life left.

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Speaker 5: And do what we want. They were gonna be birthday.

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Speaker 1: That's our terms now, Yes, I love Yeah, it's sus

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Speaker 1: So what are you gonna do for your birthday? I

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Speaker 1: don't know. Sophia has some tricks up or sleeve, and like,

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Speaker 1: if you know anything about me, I hate surprises. I

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Speaker 1: center of attention. So kind of my worst nightmare. I'm like,

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Speaker 1: can we just go to like Majorca?

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Speaker 2: I don't know alone?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I really love a sexy vak, but it seems

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Speaker 1: that's not gonna happen.

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Speaker 5: So County can't big.

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Speaker 2: You can't always get what you want.

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Speaker 4: Now, But you and I, you and I did a

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Speaker 4: solo like como trip like.

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Speaker 3: Oh that was actually magical for forty.

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Speaker 2: Three, so we didn't I could do that.

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Speaker 5: It was incredible.

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Speaker 1: So I do want to peel back the layers a

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Speaker 1: little bit because I like, how fucking cool is it

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Speaker 1: that you two are sisters and twins and like you've

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Speaker 6: Yeah, it's why, like how how like how did you

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Speaker 1: And I not like because that's such a longloaded question,

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Speaker 1: but did you always knew did you always know your

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Speaker 4: Well, you know what's interesting is Nicky and I. I mean,

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Speaker 4: I will say we've been blessed. We were born with

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Speaker 4: the best friend. We never had to experience the first

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Speaker 4: young age, we always had each other's back, like we're

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Speaker 5: It's wild. We've met twins that hate each other.

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Speaker 4: But and I we instantly were like, Okay, my weaknesses

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Speaker 3: Totally and I what was neat too. And I've realized

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Speaker 3: this specialvity over the years. But growing up, Breen and

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Speaker 3: And I don't know if it's because you know, growing up,

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Speaker 3: the truth and all that like happened at such a

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Speaker 3: do you say, Brien, it's kind of over the years happened.

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Speaker 3: It just made us different and stand out in that way.

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Speaker 3: And we all superpower. Yeah, and we were entertainers like

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Speaker 5: We we loved oh yeah.

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Speaker 4: We would dress up as the Spice Girls and my

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Speaker 4: we want to perform for everyone, and my parents are

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Speaker 5: But we're performers at a young age.

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Speaker 4: So we're athletes, but we're also performers, which is why

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Speaker 4: WW was perfect.

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Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, Okay, I have to share this story

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Speaker 1: because it's so good and I don't know if I've

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Speaker 1: ever shared this anywhere ever. So it's funny that you

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Speaker 1: both choose. You chose wrestling, and I mean, I'm from Florida,

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Speaker 1: like it was a way of life. Oh like yeah,

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Speaker 1: oh yeah, hello, that's all we watched every Halloween. I

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Speaker 1: was the Undertaker or I was like Hogan huol Cogan,

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Speaker 1: Oh dang stone Cold, what is it? Steve Austin, I mean,

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Speaker 1: you name it, and then mortal Combat. So we would

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Speaker 1: always put them together, right like King of the Mountain,

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Speaker 1: King of the Hill. But when we couldn't be outside,

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Speaker 1: that was like what we played.

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Speaker 2: Like if you could stay on the bed and you could.

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Speaker 1: Throw all your cirians and your cousin's off and your

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Speaker 5: Oh yeah.

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Speaker 1: And I remember he was my teammate at the time,

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Speaker 1: Craig mcletty. I had him and he like was bullying

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Speaker 1: me a little bit and like being an asshole, and

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Speaker 1: he was like thick, so like I had his shoulders

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Speaker 1: at the This was a really fuck around and find

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Speaker 2: It was on his bed and.

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Speaker 1: I was fucking throwing everyone off, and I was like

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Speaker 1: Nine to one one had.

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Speaker 2: To be called. Blood was everywhere.

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Speaker 1: So pretty much what I'm saying is.

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Speaker 2: You should have been a wrestler, should have been arrestling.

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Speaker 5: Hey, it's never too late.

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Speaker 1: I mean I still am in my thirties, you know

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Speaker 1: what exactly Hey, well, and this is what I love

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Speaker 1: is because you guys were literally doing the Royal Rumble

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Speaker 1: and you just in order to win sometimes you gotta

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Speaker 1: do some ugly moves to get people off.

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Speaker 5: And that's just not.

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Speaker 2: You know what, I am a competitor.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and really was a rich moment for my buddy

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Speaker 1: Craig that probably will never live that day down.

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Speaker 3: So grateful for that. But yeah, yeah we really did crazy,

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Speaker 1: So we just are like, we're going for this. We

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Speaker 5: Go be a wrestler? And I fell in lave when

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Speaker 2: A little bit, like how do you take it?

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Speaker 1: Like you have to be so, I mean, like I'm

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Speaker 2: It's hilarious, hilarious. How did you were?

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Speaker 1: You were like, well, thank god I was a spice

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Speaker 5: Like what, well, no, we first kept promos on them.

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Speaker 3: And that's when we walked off. They go go get

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Speaker 1: Oh, wait, are perfect, You're but your identity was born

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Speaker 5: Yes, the guitar, we were definitely.

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Speaker 2: I mean that chick would destroy me.

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Speaker 5: Oh she's so crazy strong.

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Speaker 2: Her ever, No, no, thank you.

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Speaker 1: But you've both been you've both been in the spotlight

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Speaker 1: Because you you know, I know you're back a little

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Speaker 4: I see myself now in that world.

440
00:23:00,200 --> 00:23:07,000
Speaker 1: Well, because no one has really recreated themselves successfully as

441
00:23:07,080 --> 00:23:10,159
Speaker 1: much as you both, and that's like that is a

442
00:23:10,280 --> 00:23:13,040
Speaker 1: special thing to do because what I have noticed more

443
00:23:13,080 --> 00:23:18,200
Speaker 1: than anyone is when you become an athlete, you live

444
00:23:18,280 --> 00:23:21,040
Speaker 1: in that identity and you don't know what it's like

445
00:23:21,119 --> 00:23:24,479
Speaker 1: outside of it, and you get really fucking blurred vision

446
00:23:24,520 --> 00:23:28,000
Speaker 1: and you get jaded and truthfully, and I say this

447
00:23:28,119 --> 00:23:31,920
Speaker 1: with the utmost respect, like, we didn't cure cancer.

448
00:23:32,040 --> 00:23:33,480
Speaker 2: We were performers.

449
00:23:33,880 --> 00:23:37,879
Speaker 1: Our job was to perform for the people, to bring

450
00:23:37,920 --> 00:23:41,399
Speaker 1: them joy, to bring them a moment of happiness, which

451
00:23:41,760 --> 00:23:43,360
Speaker 1: Jesus Christ is so.

452
00:23:43,480 --> 00:23:44,920
Speaker 2: Vital more than ever right now.

453
00:23:45,520 --> 00:23:47,639
Speaker 1: But I will say that like walking away from the

454
00:23:47,760 --> 00:23:52,040
Speaker 1: WWE in this Bela brand was such.

455
00:23:51,760 --> 00:23:52,840
Speaker 2: A huge move.

456
00:23:53,640 --> 00:23:57,120
Speaker 1: What gave you that courage to step into this new

457
00:23:57,240 --> 00:23:58,959
Speaker 1: era of the Garcia twins.

458
00:23:59,160 --> 00:24:03,080
Speaker 5: Yeah. So, you know, it's funny because.

459
00:24:04,119 --> 00:24:07,440
Speaker 3: When we've talked about growth before the past two decades,

460
00:24:07,520 --> 00:24:11,640
Speaker 3: I've realized I've had a tremendous amount of growth and

461
00:24:12,359 --> 00:24:16,000
Speaker 3: it's uncomfortable and you get to see the results and

462
00:24:16,040 --> 00:24:19,880
Speaker 3: you put in the work and you get those results.

463
00:24:19,880 --> 00:24:23,320
Speaker 3: And the one thing that I've realized they always the

464
00:24:23,400 --> 00:24:26,720
Speaker 3: fans started to call me fearless snicky. What I realized

465
00:24:26,840 --> 00:24:32,000
Speaker 3: is over time I finally started to walk as fearless snicky.

466
00:24:32,040 --> 00:24:36,280
Speaker 3: It was more than a character, and when that time came,

467
00:24:36,560 --> 00:24:38,960
Speaker 3: it was like you make those decisions, but you stop

468
00:24:39,000 --> 00:24:41,159
Speaker 3: and you go away. I think God he put this

469
00:24:41,240 --> 00:24:43,960
Speaker 3: in my path and I could either make a stand

470
00:24:44,000 --> 00:24:47,480
Speaker 3: for myself and for women and for my worth, knowing

471
00:24:47,520 --> 00:24:49,760
Speaker 3: that tomorrow I'm going to still see the sun rise.

472
00:24:50,520 --> 00:24:53,680
Speaker 3: The career might look different, but the things that truly

473
00:24:53,760 --> 00:24:58,879
Speaker 3: matter my son, my sister, my surroundings, my family, my

474
00:24:59,000 --> 00:25:01,360
Speaker 3: faith that's going to I'll be there and as long

475
00:25:01,400 --> 00:25:03,760
Speaker 3: as I know God has me, then like, I know

476
00:25:03,840 --> 00:25:04,399
Speaker 3: things are.

477
00:25:04,240 --> 00:25:04,879
Speaker 2: Going to be okay.

478
00:25:04,920 --> 00:25:07,200
Speaker 3: And I feel like for Bree and I, we just

479
00:25:07,320 --> 00:25:09,479
Speaker 3: knew in that moment we had to stick to what

480
00:25:09,520 --> 00:25:12,240
Speaker 3: we believed in. And when we made that choice, I

481
00:25:12,240 --> 00:25:15,040
Speaker 3: started to be like, wait, I'm truly now living as

482
00:25:15,320 --> 00:25:20,000
Speaker 3: fearless Nicky. I'm finally fearless in my decisions beyond the ring,

483
00:25:20,440 --> 00:25:23,720
Speaker 3: and I'm finally I've recognized my worth and I know

484
00:25:23,840 --> 00:25:26,760
Speaker 3: that if something goes away, then it wasn't meant for

485
00:25:26,800 --> 00:25:29,680
Speaker 3: me now and maybe it'll come back, which it has,

486
00:25:30,040 --> 00:25:32,040
Speaker 3: because it was kind of like taking my stand of

487
00:25:32,040 --> 00:25:34,960
Speaker 3: like knowing what was right and I love that, yeah,

488
00:25:35,000 --> 00:25:37,480
Speaker 3: and standing for that and so that.

489
00:25:37,480 --> 00:25:42,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's actually that's a great It's such a powerful answer,

490
00:25:42,640 --> 00:25:46,760
Speaker 1: and it's it's so beautifully said. And I like when

491
00:25:46,800 --> 00:25:49,679
Speaker 1: I think about that, you know, when I think about

492
00:25:49,960 --> 00:25:53,040
Speaker 1: like even when I knew it was time to step away,

493
00:25:54,320 --> 00:25:58,080
Speaker 1: it's one thing knowing in, one thing doing right. You

494
00:25:58,280 --> 00:26:06,919
Speaker 1: two have done podcasting companies, wine companies, beauty companies, clothing companies.

495
00:26:07,800 --> 00:26:11,679
Speaker 1: I mean you meet reality shows like you have checked

496
00:26:11,760 --> 00:26:15,520
Speaker 1: so many boxes. My real question is when did you

497
00:26:15,880 --> 00:26:19,320
Speaker 1: When did you really realize like a wee can be

498
00:26:19,560 --> 00:26:22,040
Speaker 1: something so much bigger than just wrestling.

499
00:26:23,200 --> 00:26:24,159
Speaker 5: Ah, I love that.

500
00:26:24,640 --> 00:26:27,879
Speaker 4: I think it was honestly the reality show Total Divas,

501
00:26:28,000 --> 00:26:30,119
Speaker 4: you know what it was. It was like when we

502
00:26:30,240 --> 00:26:33,840
Speaker 4: filmed the pilot. I'll never forget all of us girls

503
00:26:33,880 --> 00:26:36,200
Speaker 4: being like, do you think the world's really going to

504
00:26:36,280 --> 00:26:40,919
Speaker 4: care about like female wrestling and let alone us female wrestlers.

505
00:26:41,320 --> 00:26:42,160
Speaker 5: And I think when the.

506
00:26:42,119 --> 00:26:45,800
Speaker 4: Show went like it was just a huge hit, it

507
00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:49,000
Speaker 4: was almost like whoa people care? And then you all

508
00:26:49,040 --> 00:26:51,920
Speaker 4: of a sudden realized your platform and then people are

509
00:26:52,000 --> 00:26:55,359
Speaker 4: listening and like people were getting invested, and I just

510
00:26:55,400 --> 00:26:59,760
Speaker 4: remember thinking like wow, like NICKI and I knew like

511
00:26:59,800 --> 00:27:02,880
Speaker 4: all sudden, like we're something more than just in the ring,

512
00:27:03,040 --> 00:27:05,720
Speaker 4: people started to care who we were outside of the ring,

513
00:27:05,840 --> 00:27:08,600
Speaker 4: and that's when we finally we knew, like, okay, we

514
00:27:08,640 --> 00:27:11,480
Speaker 4: can instead of dropping, you know, drop kicks from the

515
00:27:11,480 --> 00:27:13,720
Speaker 4: top rope, our whole lives, like we can do something

516
00:27:13,760 --> 00:27:14,560
Speaker 4: more than just that.

517
00:27:15,400 --> 00:27:19,840
Speaker 3: Right, we totally found our power and who we were

518
00:27:20,560 --> 00:27:23,560
Speaker 3: and and our worth because I feel like for so long,

519
00:27:23,640 --> 00:27:29,560
Speaker 3: and we've talked about this, it's like everyone makes you

520
00:27:29,600 --> 00:27:32,600
Speaker 3: believe like you're gonna be nothing without us. You better listen,

521
00:27:32,720 --> 00:27:34,959
Speaker 3: you better you know, follow the rules and do all

522
00:27:34,960 --> 00:27:37,439
Speaker 3: the things, and you start to believe that, like I

523
00:27:37,520 --> 00:27:40,080
Speaker 3: need them, I need them, And the reality show really

524
00:27:40,080 --> 00:27:42,960
Speaker 3: started to make us believe like, wait, people are interested

525
00:27:42,960 --> 00:27:46,119
Speaker 3: in us and who we are, our lives, the barriers

526
00:27:46,160 --> 00:27:49,879
Speaker 3: we've broken, our journey of you know, how tough childhood

527
00:27:49,960 --> 00:27:52,520
Speaker 3: could be, or you know, our ups and down showing

528
00:27:52,560 --> 00:27:56,480
Speaker 3: the ugly People appreciated that the bicker between sisters and

529
00:27:56,560 --> 00:27:59,639
Speaker 3: how siblings are we were very real and wrong. People

530
00:27:59,640 --> 00:28:02,000
Speaker 3: got it catch that, and I was like, see, no

531
00:28:02,080 --> 00:28:06,400
Speaker 3: more can they tell me that I'm you know, can

532
00:28:06,400 --> 00:28:09,320
Speaker 3: be replaced because my journey, my life, who I am,

533
00:28:09,400 --> 00:28:12,280
Speaker 3: I can't be replaced in this exactly people are now

534
00:28:12,320 --> 00:28:14,719
Speaker 3: attached to it, and now our worth is gone beyond

535
00:28:14,760 --> 00:28:17,840
Speaker 3: the ring and the turning point.

536
00:28:18,080 --> 00:28:21,480
Speaker 4: Well and I, NICKI and I are really big into affirmations,

537
00:28:21,720 --> 00:28:27,119
Speaker 4: and we're all told whether you're an athlete and an actor,

538
00:28:27,440 --> 00:28:29,920
Speaker 4: anyone who has a face on television, you're always told

539
00:28:29,920 --> 00:28:32,879
Speaker 4: you're replaceable. But her and I our affirmation was we

540
00:28:32,960 --> 00:28:36,879
Speaker 4: are not replaceable, and we always told each other that

541
00:28:37,040 --> 00:28:39,920
Speaker 4: and to this day we still feel we are not replaceable.

542
00:28:39,960 --> 00:28:42,840
Speaker 1: We are not That's it right.

543
00:28:44,080 --> 00:28:47,480
Speaker 3: You can fire me, but I'm not replacing at all,

544
00:28:47,520 --> 00:28:49,880
Speaker 3: that's for sure. I'm just meant to be somewhere else.

545
00:28:50,160 --> 00:28:53,880
Speaker 1: But knowing you're worth and running with it and not

546
00:28:54,160 --> 00:28:57,160
Speaker 1: running away from it because it's scary, and you know,

547
00:28:57,280 --> 00:29:00,440
Speaker 1: taking a chance on yourself, like betting on yourself is

548
00:29:00,480 --> 00:29:03,400
Speaker 1: the most beautiful gift you can give, sure, and I

549
00:29:03,480 --> 00:29:06,240
Speaker 1: don't think enough women do it. In between wine, beauty,

550
00:29:06,440 --> 00:29:11,000
Speaker 1: business media like y'all really have built an empire. Here

551
00:29:11,080 --> 00:29:15,320
Speaker 1: is where I'm curious, the business work life and the

552
00:29:15,360 --> 00:29:16,200
Speaker 1: family life.

553
00:29:16,400 --> 00:29:19,720
Speaker 2: How do you both keep it together? Like it's I.

554
00:29:20,160 --> 00:29:22,600
Speaker 1: You know, it didn't work out so well, but I

555
00:29:22,800 --> 00:29:26,160
Speaker 1: was married to my teammate and it was fucking hard

556
00:29:26,200 --> 00:29:29,080
Speaker 1: to do the family life and the business life together.

557
00:29:29,240 --> 00:29:30,960
Speaker 1: And it was like, Okay, we can try to stay

558
00:29:30,960 --> 00:29:34,880
Speaker 1: as buttoned as we can, but sometimes those lines are

559
00:29:35,600 --> 00:29:42,680
Speaker 1: blurry and are hard, and money creeps in, competitiveness creeps in.

560
00:29:42,840 --> 00:29:47,240
Speaker 1: How have you done this for so long and separated

561
00:29:47,880 --> 00:29:50,360
Speaker 1: the two work family life balance?

562
00:29:50,640 --> 00:29:51,000
Speaker 5: Yeah.

563
00:29:51,080 --> 00:29:53,720
Speaker 4: I think the biggest thing is we let go of

564
00:29:53,880 --> 00:29:55,160
Speaker 4: ego a long time ago.

565
00:29:55,600 --> 00:29:57,440
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's been a big thing for you.

566
00:29:57,680 --> 00:30:01,200
Speaker 4: So that part because for Nicki and I, there's gonna

567
00:30:01,200 --> 00:30:03,760
Speaker 4: be times Nicki's doing more than me, and then there's

568
00:30:03,760 --> 00:30:06,080
Speaker 4: gonna be times I'm gonna be doing stuff. And like,

569
00:30:06,160 --> 00:30:08,480
Speaker 4: you know, Nicki went through a hard divorce last year,

570
00:30:09,040 --> 00:30:13,520
Speaker 4: and I never once was like, you know, she needed

571
00:30:13,680 --> 00:30:16,840
Speaker 4: time to herself and figure herself out, and I was like,

572
00:30:16,880 --> 00:30:20,120
Speaker 4: I got everything. I'll do solo episodes on the podcast.

573
00:30:20,400 --> 00:30:23,479
Speaker 4: I hope they're good. I don't know, we'll see. And

574
00:30:23,680 --> 00:30:26,360
Speaker 4: even with the wine brand, I stepped in because Nicki,

575
00:30:26,560 --> 00:30:28,880
Speaker 4: you know, there was stuff and I think if I

576
00:30:28,920 --> 00:30:31,760
Speaker 4: had EGO, I would have been like counting how much

577
00:30:31,800 --> 00:30:35,600
Speaker 4: I was doing compared to her, But instead I wanted

578
00:30:35,640 --> 00:30:38,080
Speaker 4: to help and I think we that's why we've been

579
00:30:38,120 --> 00:30:40,840
Speaker 4: the greatest tag team. It's not only in the ring,

580
00:30:40,880 --> 00:30:42,920
Speaker 4: but I think outside the ring, we've known how to

581
00:30:43,000 --> 00:30:45,760
Speaker 4: show up and be there for each other. And I

582
00:30:45,800 --> 00:30:48,800
Speaker 4: feel like that's made me a better mom, a better wife.

583
00:30:48,920 --> 00:30:50,400
Speaker 5: I feel like she knows.

584
00:30:50,400 --> 00:30:53,320
Speaker 4: There's times I'm like, my husband still travels, and I'm

585
00:30:53,320 --> 00:30:55,840
Speaker 4: like he and I just need a weekend together, and

586
00:30:55,880 --> 00:30:57,960
Speaker 4: she'll get it and be like, let me take over

587
00:30:58,520 --> 00:31:01,640
Speaker 4: at the you know, tasting. So I think just her

588
00:31:01,640 --> 00:31:04,840
Speaker 4: and I being having good communication, it's made us better

589
00:31:04,880 --> 00:31:08,000
Speaker 4: moms and being able to balance personal and business.

590
00:31:08,760 --> 00:31:11,560
Speaker 3: And I think as well as we know each other's

591
00:31:11,560 --> 00:31:15,200
Speaker 3: strengths and weaknesses, and we know each other's personal even

592
00:31:15,200 --> 00:31:19,320
Speaker 3: though we're identical twins, we understand each other's personality traits

593
00:31:19,520 --> 00:31:21,840
Speaker 3: very well. She knows things that make me grumpy. I

594
00:31:21,840 --> 00:31:25,280
Speaker 3: know things that make her grumpy and so, and we've

595
00:31:25,280 --> 00:31:27,240
Speaker 3: had a work on that that didn't just happen. We

596
00:31:27,280 --> 00:31:29,560
Speaker 3: had have a life coach, we had, we had to

597
00:31:29,600 --> 00:31:33,280
Speaker 3: have people help us iron out those things. I also

598
00:31:33,400 --> 00:31:37,480
Speaker 3: working doing family life and work life. We've made sure

599
00:31:37,560 --> 00:31:41,040
Speaker 3: that we do things we're passionate about so it doesn't

600
00:31:41,120 --> 00:31:43,520
Speaker 3: feel like work and we don't carry that into the

601
00:31:43,600 --> 00:31:46,480
Speaker 3: home and then also things that our children can be involved.

602
00:31:46,520 --> 00:31:48,880
Speaker 3: So we knew moving to Napa Valley we get to

603
00:31:48,920 --> 00:31:50,720
Speaker 3: be hands on in our wine brand. But then we

604
00:31:50,760 --> 00:31:54,080
Speaker 3: get to bring the kids out for farming, for harvesting. Yeah,

605
00:31:54,120 --> 00:31:56,520
Speaker 3: my gosh, they get to learn about things. We pop

606
00:31:56,520 --> 00:31:58,800
Speaker 3: them in into the speak easy and they're right there

607
00:31:58,840 --> 00:32:01,840
Speaker 3: with us doing things that times. And so we've made

608
00:32:01,880 --> 00:32:03,680
Speaker 3: sure to do things where we can involve them. And

609
00:32:03,920 --> 00:32:05,760
Speaker 3: I still feel like there are days that I'm trying

610
00:32:05,800 --> 00:32:09,440
Speaker 3: to figure out balance because I'm a big yes person

611
00:32:09,600 --> 00:32:12,080
Speaker 3: and I have to teach myself to say no to

612
00:32:12,160 --> 00:32:15,280
Speaker 3: things or I'm just always thinking ideas or how can

613
00:32:15,320 --> 00:32:18,360
Speaker 3: we do this and can do that? So I'm still

614
00:32:18,360 --> 00:32:22,200
Speaker 3: on that journey of finding the perfect balance. But because

615
00:32:22,240 --> 00:32:23,960
Speaker 3: I love being a mom and I know that's first,

616
00:32:23,960 --> 00:32:26,280
Speaker 3: and I love all the stuff we do, whether it's

617
00:32:26,320 --> 00:32:31,960
Speaker 3: our companies wrestling. At least I'm not drowning in my

618
00:32:32,120 --> 00:32:35,200
Speaker 3: unbalanced if that makes sense. Yeah, So when things don't

619
00:32:35,240 --> 00:32:37,520
Speaker 3: feel balanced, I'm still so happy with everything, and I'm

620
00:32:37,520 --> 00:32:40,640
Speaker 3: doing that. When you're on the lack of sleep, well

621
00:32:41,040 --> 00:32:46,000
Speaker 3: you know it's like it's fine.

622
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Speaker 7: This is wide open and I'm your host Ashlyn Harris,

623
00:32:49,160 --> 00:32:50,040
Speaker 7: thanks for listening.

624
00:32:50,160 --> 00:32:51,080
Speaker 2: We'll be right back.

625
00:32:54,680 --> 00:32:58,200
Speaker 1: You say it often though you both are very you know,

626
00:32:58,400 --> 00:33:03,160
Speaker 1: you're mindful, you do the work, you do the affirmations,

627
00:33:04,120 --> 00:33:06,760
Speaker 1: you give yourself grace, Like all of these things are

628
00:33:06,800 --> 00:33:09,320
Speaker 1: so vital and so important. I wish I was a

629
00:33:09,320 --> 00:33:13,280
Speaker 1: lot more gentle on myself as a young professional, because

630
00:33:13,320 --> 00:33:16,360
Speaker 1: no one like that was the thing for me. Like

631
00:33:17,080 --> 00:33:20,720
Speaker 1: I was so fucking hard on myself. Like sometimes I'm like,

632
00:33:20,880 --> 00:33:26,080
Speaker 1: let yourself off the mac dude, Like it's like it's

633
00:33:26,200 --> 00:33:29,280
Speaker 1: not life or death. And you speak about motherhoods so

634
00:33:29,480 --> 00:33:34,960
Speaker 1: beautifully and it changed my perspective on so much. But

635
00:33:35,040 --> 00:33:39,440
Speaker 1: I'm curious, like, as you know, you both are unbelievable moms,

636
00:33:39,560 --> 00:33:44,480
Speaker 1: Like has that changed your perspective on success and ambition?

637
00:33:44,920 --> 00:33:48,920
Speaker 1: And you talk about balance and all of these things.

638
00:33:48,640 --> 00:33:51,200
Speaker 2: Like I would have been as I would have been.

639
00:33:51,320 --> 00:33:54,040
Speaker 1: Such a good player if I could have balanced being

640
00:33:54,080 --> 00:33:58,960
Speaker 1: a mom during my whole entire career. Because my lens

641
00:33:59,120 --> 00:34:02,160
Speaker 1: completely fucking change once I started having kids.

642
00:34:02,640 --> 00:34:04,400
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, oh my gosh, even with me.

643
00:34:05,280 --> 00:34:07,360
Speaker 4: I mean I walked away from the ring because I

644
00:34:07,400 --> 00:34:11,799
Speaker 4: thought to myself, stability for my children, and you know,

645
00:34:11,920 --> 00:34:14,400
Speaker 4: there's some women, they do a great job of bringing

646
00:34:14,400 --> 00:34:16,360
Speaker 4: the kids on the road and handle it all. But

647
00:34:17,000 --> 00:34:19,560
Speaker 4: I realized, I'm not meant that, Like I wasn't made

648
00:34:19,560 --> 00:34:23,080
Speaker 4: that way. I'm more of a homemaker. I'm I like

649
00:34:23,160 --> 00:34:26,120
Speaker 4: my kids to have a scheduled the way I had

650
00:34:26,120 --> 00:34:28,799
Speaker 4: a schedule as a child, like go to school, come home,

651
00:34:28,880 --> 00:34:32,040
Speaker 4: go outside and play. I have chickens, I garden. I

652
00:34:32,080 --> 00:34:35,040
Speaker 4: make them a part of it all. And that's just

653
00:34:35,080 --> 00:34:37,799
Speaker 4: the way that motherhood works for me. And I give

654
00:34:37,840 --> 00:34:41,160
Speaker 4: credit to the women who travel, but when I say travel,

655
00:34:41,160 --> 00:34:43,200
Speaker 4: they bring their kids because I still travel as a mom.

656
00:34:43,280 --> 00:34:46,279
Speaker 4: My husband and I it's been great. We sit down

657
00:34:46,360 --> 00:34:49,320
Speaker 4: and we you know, really go over our schedule. Sometimes

658
00:34:49,480 --> 00:34:51,120
Speaker 4: we both look at each other like, well we ever

659
00:34:51,160 --> 00:34:55,239
Speaker 4: see each other because they like take turns, like you know,

660
00:34:55,320 --> 00:34:58,160
Speaker 4: going out and doing our work. But I think the

661
00:34:58,239 --> 00:35:01,200
Speaker 4: most important thing for one is to figure out the

662
00:35:01,239 --> 00:35:04,200
Speaker 4: mom you want to be and the life that you

663
00:35:04,239 --> 00:35:06,840
Speaker 4: want to give your kids, because there's not a wrong answer,

664
00:35:07,239 --> 00:35:09,960
Speaker 4: it's just figuring out that answer and then doing it.

665
00:35:10,040 --> 00:35:12,880
Speaker 5: Because if you're kind of confused.

666
00:35:12,400 --> 00:35:15,600
Speaker 4: On the way you want to raise your children, I

667
00:35:15,600 --> 00:35:19,080
Speaker 4: think that's when motherhood becomes tough. Like I know exactly

668
00:35:19,080 --> 00:35:21,759
Speaker 4: how I want them to be raised, and we do

669
00:35:21,880 --> 00:35:23,840
Speaker 4: it and there's no confusion.

670
00:35:23,880 --> 00:35:25,799
Speaker 5: It's just like, this is what it is, you know.

671
00:35:26,040 --> 00:35:28,759
Speaker 1: It, and it has to be aligned, you know with

672
00:35:28,920 --> 00:35:31,440
Speaker 1: your partner, Oh for sure. The biggest thing, like if

673
00:35:31,440 --> 00:35:33,279
Speaker 1: you're not on the same page on how you want

674
00:35:33,280 --> 00:35:36,240
Speaker 1: to do this, oh my god's get sticky real quick.

675
00:35:36,400 --> 00:35:39,160
Speaker 5: Oh so sticky. And you know, I was a lot

676
00:35:39,239 --> 00:35:39,600
Speaker 5: like you.

677
00:35:40,600 --> 00:35:44,480
Speaker 3: It fully changed me becoming a mom, Like I just

678
00:35:44,840 --> 00:35:49,680
Speaker 3: became selfless, like I was just such a hustler and

679
00:35:49,760 --> 00:35:53,000
Speaker 3: so focused on the career. And it also changed me

680
00:35:53,080 --> 00:35:56,520
Speaker 3: though as a businesswoman, where I realized I'm going to

681
00:35:56,719 --> 00:36:01,719
Speaker 3: work enough to have great success, but enough to where

682
00:36:01,760 --> 00:36:03,479
Speaker 3: I know we'll have a good life. And I don't

683
00:36:03,480 --> 00:36:06,239
Speaker 3: need more than that. I just need enough to have

684
00:36:06,280 --> 00:36:08,840
Speaker 3: an incredible life. Make sure everything for him in the

685
00:36:08,840 --> 00:36:11,360
Speaker 3: future is great. But I want to take in every moment.

686
00:36:11,440 --> 00:36:13,040
Speaker 3: I don't want to look back and go, oh, I

687
00:36:13,080 --> 00:36:17,200
Speaker 3: miss these big moments with him. I want to be present,

688
00:36:17,640 --> 00:36:20,000
Speaker 3: and that's even in my companies. I want to be present.

689
00:36:20,040 --> 00:36:23,440
Speaker 3: But like, being present is so big for me, and

690
00:36:23,480 --> 00:36:26,520
Speaker 3: it's funny the goals I used to have before him

691
00:36:27,080 --> 00:36:31,240
Speaker 3: even of like certain like numbers that I wanted, whether

692
00:36:31,280 --> 00:36:33,320
Speaker 3: it was our companies or myself to get to. And

693
00:36:33,440 --> 00:36:35,719
Speaker 3: it's crazy how much that's changed because now I'm like,

694
00:36:36,320 --> 00:36:38,040
Speaker 3: this is all we need for this or that, and

695
00:36:38,080 --> 00:36:40,040
Speaker 3: then I get all this amazing time to go get

696
00:36:40,080 --> 00:36:43,239
Speaker 3: pumpkins and carve them or whatever it might be, go to.

697
00:36:43,200 --> 00:36:47,759
Speaker 5: A fall festival. You realize that's like the real wealth.

698
00:36:47,680 --> 00:36:53,160
Speaker 1: And absolutely for sure that Yeah, I completely agree. And

699
00:36:53,520 --> 00:36:56,040
Speaker 1: you know, I know we were talking about this earlier

700
00:36:56,200 --> 00:36:59,560
Speaker 1: with the landscape of the world and how we want

701
00:36:59,600 --> 00:37:04,040
Speaker 1: to raise these beautiful children and all of us have boys, yeah,

702
00:37:04,080 --> 00:37:07,920
Speaker 1: and we have I'm not going to say it lightly

703
00:37:07,960 --> 00:37:11,680
Speaker 1: a huge obligation to raise these children in this current

704
00:37:11,760 --> 00:37:15,719
Speaker 1: landscape and environment on how they choose to show up,

705
00:37:16,160 --> 00:37:20,279
Speaker 1: especially how they choose to treat women. And you two

706
00:37:20,840 --> 00:37:25,000
Speaker 1: or us three, we're powerful women who run and play

707
00:37:25,239 --> 00:37:27,920
Speaker 1: in a male dominated world in male.

708
00:37:27,680 --> 00:37:33,960
Speaker 6: Spaces, Like how do you raise your boys? Like how

709
00:37:34,400 --> 00:37:38,759
Speaker 6: how do you like what are the greatest lessons you're

710
00:37:38,840 --> 00:37:42,520
Speaker 6: teaching them right now? Because it is so important and

711
00:37:42,560 --> 00:37:45,399
Speaker 6: I think we need to make sure we're holding ourselves

712
00:37:45,440 --> 00:37:50,120
Speaker 6: accountable as we give these young boys the tools to navigate.

713
00:37:49,680 --> 00:37:51,000
Speaker 2: This world for sure.

714
00:37:51,160 --> 00:37:54,440
Speaker 4: I mean the biggest thing is compassion. I think you

715
00:37:54,440 --> 00:37:58,920
Speaker 4: can teach compassion, everyone's born with it, but to still

716
00:37:58,960 --> 00:38:01,840
Speaker 4: instill it and our children is a huge thing to me.

717
00:38:01,880 --> 00:38:06,879
Speaker 4: And also manners respect even Buddy, and I always tell

718
00:38:06,920 --> 00:38:10,000
Speaker 4: him like ladies first, because I think being a gentleman

719
00:38:10,120 --> 00:38:11,120
Speaker 4: goes a long way.

720
00:38:11,480 --> 00:38:11,680
Speaker 5: Now.

721
00:38:11,719 --> 00:38:14,880
Speaker 4: Granted, I'll open doors up for men, and I don't

722
00:38:14,920 --> 00:38:18,120
Speaker 4: care like I don't need to always go in first,

723
00:38:18,160 --> 00:38:22,040
Speaker 4: but it's the it's teaching like our boys to be gentlemen.

724
00:38:22,200 --> 00:38:26,160
Speaker 4: To me, yes, like it's gentleness. I want them to

725
00:38:26,200 --> 00:38:30,920
Speaker 4: be gentle man like. So I'm really big with Buddy

726
00:38:31,000 --> 00:38:32,480
Speaker 4: especially My son is wild.

727
00:38:32,840 --> 00:38:35,680
Speaker 1: He is all of these boys out here.

728
00:38:35,920 --> 00:38:36,680
Speaker 5: Oh my gosh.

729
00:38:36,680 --> 00:38:39,439
Speaker 4: So I'm like, you know, the gentle part, I think

730
00:38:39,560 --> 00:38:42,400
Speaker 4: is very important to teach our boys to be gentle.

731
00:38:42,239 --> 00:38:47,800
Speaker 3: Yes, and I always instill kindness. I tell Mateo, we

732
00:38:48,080 --> 00:38:51,840
Speaker 3: constantly are using that word kindness. I'm saying how kind

733
00:38:51,880 --> 00:38:54,319
Speaker 3: he is when he does certain things. I'm like, that

734
00:38:54,440 --> 00:38:57,879
Speaker 3: was so kind, or when someone does something for him.

735
00:38:57,920 --> 00:39:00,879
Speaker 3: I always make sure to point that out. And I'm

736
00:39:00,960 --> 00:39:04,520
Speaker 3: going to raise him where he will be very respectful

737
00:39:04,880 --> 00:39:08,520
Speaker 3: with women, like he and what is so great?

738
00:39:08,560 --> 00:39:10,560
Speaker 5: This was really cute. He said this a little bit ago.

739
00:39:11,520 --> 00:39:14,320
Speaker 3: He asked me if I could be a Lego master

740
00:39:14,920 --> 00:39:17,640
Speaker 3: and I was like, you know, baby, mommy's just not

741
00:39:17,760 --> 00:39:20,400
Speaker 3: the greatest at building legos, but that's something new and

742
00:39:20,440 --> 00:39:22,399
Speaker 3: your daddy do. And I bet you and daddy both

743
00:39:22,400 --> 00:39:24,880
Speaker 3: can be Lego masters. I'm like, what do you think

744
00:39:25,080 --> 00:39:28,920
Speaker 3: mommy can be? Then, and he goes, Mommy, you know

745
00:39:29,600 --> 00:39:32,120
Speaker 3: you work really hard. You're a hard worker, that's what

746
00:39:32,280 --> 00:39:34,960
Speaker 3: you are. And like my heart, I was like, oh

747
00:39:34,960 --> 00:39:35,839
Speaker 3: my gosh.

748
00:39:35,840 --> 00:39:37,160
Speaker 2: You know that.

749
00:39:37,719 --> 00:39:40,680
Speaker 3: And it's just what I've realized too with these boys

750
00:39:40,719 --> 00:39:44,120
Speaker 3: because they have badass powerful moms yes watching us, so

751
00:39:44,760 --> 00:39:48,760
Speaker 3: they're already going to have an appreciation for women because

752
00:39:48,760 --> 00:39:51,799
Speaker 3: of how we are, which is amazing. You realize they

753
00:39:51,840 --> 00:39:55,560
Speaker 3: watch more than us talking to them, and so it's

754
00:39:55,560 --> 00:39:59,640
Speaker 3: always I'm always mindful about being that leader in the

755
00:39:59,680 --> 00:40:02,840
Speaker 3: home and what he sees for sure, and how I

756
00:40:02,880 --> 00:40:06,520
Speaker 3: am with others in my interaction. But I am going

757
00:40:06,880 --> 00:40:09,960
Speaker 3: to make sure, like I always joke, and it's funny

758
00:40:09,960 --> 00:40:12,799
Speaker 3: because people on social media like go after me because

759
00:40:12,800 --> 00:40:16,640
Speaker 3: I always a'm like, yeah, I'm raising feminist gentlemen and

760
00:40:17,160 --> 00:40:20,000
Speaker 3: people get so mad with that word feminist, and I'm like, no,

761
00:40:20,239 --> 00:40:22,440
Speaker 3: the thing is is my son is going to respect

762
00:40:22,440 --> 00:40:24,920
Speaker 3: and appreciate women and their hard work and know that

763
00:40:24,960 --> 00:40:27,080
Speaker 3: he's an equal with them. He's not better because he's

764
00:40:27,120 --> 00:40:30,520
Speaker 3: a man, but he could be a gentleman. But he's

765
00:40:30,560 --> 00:40:34,040
Speaker 3: just going to appreciate people for what they do. That's

766
00:40:33,480 --> 00:40:36,480
Speaker 3: It's going to be nothing with what they look like,

767
00:40:36,680 --> 00:40:37,279
Speaker 3: who they are.

768
00:40:37,960 --> 00:40:40,920
Speaker 5: It's just going to be how they give things exactly.

769
00:40:41,040 --> 00:40:43,680
Speaker 1: And you and Nikki, I love that you said this

770
00:40:43,800 --> 00:40:48,239
Speaker 1: because we are in the landscape of giving people permission

771
00:40:48,280 --> 00:40:53,719
Speaker 1: to be very cruel and like spiteful and hateful, and

772
00:40:53,800 --> 00:40:58,799
Speaker 1: it's I'm curious, like because I've experienced it and it penetrates,

773
00:40:58,840 --> 00:41:01,239
Speaker 1: Like you can say what you want about me as

774
00:41:01,239 --> 00:41:03,680
Speaker 1: a public like person and the way I move as

775
00:41:03,719 --> 00:41:06,560
Speaker 1: an athlete, and you can be an asshole all you want,

776
00:41:06,960 --> 00:41:09,520
Speaker 1: but you don't know me as a mom, Like you

777
00:41:09,600 --> 00:41:13,440
Speaker 1: don't know how I operate, how I am with my kids,

778
00:41:13,840 --> 00:41:15,640
Speaker 1: Like that's such a sacred space.

779
00:41:15,960 --> 00:41:17,479
Speaker 2: How do you too protect your piece?

780
00:41:17,520 --> 00:41:21,520
Speaker 1: Because people are fucking awful, awful and awful and it's

781
00:41:21,560 --> 00:41:26,200
Speaker 1: like the amount of abuse that I see and I

782
00:41:26,320 --> 00:41:29,600
Speaker 1: read I'm like, whoa, Even if I try not to

783
00:41:29,680 --> 00:41:32,680
Speaker 1: read it, it is always there. So how are you

784
00:41:32,800 --> 00:41:36,319
Speaker 1: too protecting you know, your home and your family and

785
00:41:36,360 --> 00:41:39,240
Speaker 1: your peace. When it comes to the way you're moving

786
00:41:39,280 --> 00:41:41,400
Speaker 1: into life as public figures.

787
00:41:41,280 --> 00:41:42,200
Speaker 5: Yeah, you know.

788
00:41:42,440 --> 00:41:45,160
Speaker 4: My husband, he and I promised each other. We're like,

789
00:41:45,200 --> 00:41:48,759
Speaker 4: there's so much that's out of our control, and We're like,

790
00:41:49,160 --> 00:41:52,680
Speaker 4: but what we can't control is our environment with our family.

791
00:41:52,800 --> 00:41:55,879
Speaker 4: And we always say we have our positive bubble, and

792
00:41:56,080 --> 00:41:59,640
Speaker 4: like we we can. We have the control of how

793
00:41:59,640 --> 00:42:04,160
Speaker 4: our home fills, who steps into our home, what we

794
00:42:04,200 --> 00:42:07,479
Speaker 4: surround our kids with, and that's people, what they watch

795
00:42:07,520 --> 00:42:10,640
Speaker 4: on television, what we you know, do as a family.

796
00:42:10,719 --> 00:42:14,279
Speaker 4: And so I believe like really having that bubble. And

797
00:42:14,320 --> 00:42:16,600
Speaker 4: then when it comes to social media, I mean, I'm

798
00:42:16,600 --> 00:42:19,080
Speaker 4: gonna be forty two, so I'm just like guns ablazing

799
00:42:19,120 --> 00:42:22,120
Speaker 4: with the metal fist caution amazing.

800
00:42:22,840 --> 00:42:24,400
Speaker 5: I like can give two shits.

801
00:42:24,440 --> 00:42:27,120
Speaker 4: It almost makes me like giggle when people like say

802
00:42:27,120 --> 00:42:30,640
Speaker 4: shit about me because I'm like like whatever, it's like funny,

803
00:42:31,080 --> 00:42:33,960
Speaker 4: but like I've been able to really work hard on

804
00:42:34,160 --> 00:42:37,880
Speaker 4: like I don't get bothered by any of that.

805
00:42:38,160 --> 00:42:41,360
Speaker 3: And for me, like what I've realized is I had to,

806
00:42:41,920 --> 00:42:47,480
Speaker 3: like I post Matteo way less because I don't want

807
00:42:47,680 --> 00:42:49,399
Speaker 3: to give people the opportunity. And then I got into

808
00:42:49,440 --> 00:42:51,040
Speaker 3: a place where I really wanted to protect them, and

809
00:42:51,160 --> 00:42:53,360
Speaker 3: especially how public the divorce got.

810
00:42:53,680 --> 00:42:55,759
Speaker 5: Yeah, and just so.

811
00:42:57,520 --> 00:43:01,680
Speaker 3: Many untrue things out there and oh yeah lies and

812
00:43:01,719 --> 00:43:05,439
Speaker 3: all that, like it made the lioness was always there,

813
00:43:05,640 --> 00:43:09,000
Speaker 3: like we're there the moment these babies come into a world, right,

814
00:43:09,640 --> 00:43:12,520
Speaker 3: But it really I grew king of the jungle, like

815
00:43:12,719 --> 00:43:17,040
Speaker 3: I protect my cub And then I started to realize

816
00:43:17,480 --> 00:43:20,600
Speaker 3: so much too, is why do I give people certain moments.

817
00:43:20,640 --> 00:43:22,680
Speaker 3: I did it for a decade on TV, and then

818
00:43:22,800 --> 00:43:26,719
Speaker 3: I'll share these moments with you, but you then a

819
00:43:26,760 --> 00:43:29,920
Speaker 3: second later are such a terrible human being.

820
00:43:30,160 --> 00:43:32,000
Speaker 5: So it really made me protect it.

821
00:43:32,040 --> 00:43:33,920
Speaker 3: And people will still say things like I got a

822
00:43:33,920 --> 00:43:37,439
Speaker 3: little triggered earlier because so because you're never with your son.

823
00:43:37,640 --> 00:43:39,600
Speaker 3: And I've had to correct people so many times, I go,

824
00:43:39,960 --> 00:43:43,319
Speaker 3: let's reword this sentence. I never post my son. There

825
00:43:43,400 --> 00:43:47,920
Speaker 3: is a difference because and my life coaches taught me, okay,

826
00:43:48,040 --> 00:43:51,160
Speaker 3: if that was triggering, why And you know today I

827
00:43:51,200 --> 00:43:53,440
Speaker 3: had to tell myself that was triggering to me because

828
00:43:53,520 --> 00:43:56,200
Speaker 3: I worked so hard as a mom every day that

829
00:43:56,280 --> 00:43:58,799
Speaker 3: no one sees day in and day out.

830
00:43:58,920 --> 00:43:59,920
Speaker 5: They don't know the days.

831
00:44:00,520 --> 00:44:03,680
Speaker 3: And that triggered me because I'm tired and I I've

832
00:44:03,760 --> 00:44:08,040
Speaker 3: had We've had a long maybe week or whatever, and

833
00:44:08,600 --> 00:44:11,160
Speaker 3: I'm not being appreciated. You know, I don't have a

834
00:44:11,280 --> 00:44:14,120
Speaker 3: sure So I was like, Okay, that was my trigger,

835
00:44:14,120 --> 00:44:16,600
Speaker 3: and now I'm good and ill appreciate yourself.

836
00:44:16,680 --> 00:44:19,400
Speaker 5: You were such great we've been through.

837
00:44:19,560 --> 00:44:21,520
Speaker 3: You were in a robe and drove Mantoto Sea on

838
00:44:21,560 --> 00:44:24,960
Speaker 3: air balloon Sunday morning. You were pretty much naked, but

839
00:44:25,080 --> 00:44:26,640
Speaker 3: he got to see them land and.

840
00:44:27,080 --> 00:44:30,040
Speaker 2: You know what, I know, it's so good.

841
00:44:30,160 --> 00:44:33,160
Speaker 1: So you know you too. You've done so much and

842
00:44:33,239 --> 00:44:36,920
Speaker 1: you've you know everyone U you know, everyone knows how

843
00:44:36,960 --> 00:44:41,440
Speaker 1: fantastic you've been with your careers and you were trailblazers

844
00:44:41,480 --> 00:44:44,759
Speaker 1: to really open the doors and show what's possible for

845
00:44:44,880 --> 00:44:47,880
Speaker 1: women to do what you do and make a great

846
00:44:47,920 --> 00:44:51,600
Speaker 1: living doing it. For two women who do so much,

847
00:44:51,640 --> 00:44:52,760
Speaker 1: what's next?

848
00:44:53,480 --> 00:44:54,879
Speaker 2: What do we check? What do we check?

849
00:44:54,880 --> 00:44:57,839
Speaker 1: I mean, you've checked almost every box. I know there's

850
00:44:57,840 --> 00:44:58,680
Speaker 1: got to be something.

851
00:44:58,960 --> 00:45:01,120
Speaker 5: Yeah, why where we just talking?

852
00:45:01,360 --> 00:45:01,560
Speaker 1: Yeah?

853
00:45:01,600 --> 00:45:03,560
Speaker 4: We were just talking about something the other day. We

854
00:45:03,600 --> 00:45:05,040
Speaker 4: wanted to put on our vision board.

855
00:45:05,120 --> 00:45:06,280
Speaker 5: What was it?

856
00:45:06,400 --> 00:45:10,239
Speaker 3: Was it owning a winery by fifty Well, now not

857
00:45:10,360 --> 00:45:11,640
Speaker 3: that that's one of them.

858
00:45:12,000 --> 00:45:15,080
Speaker 5: There was something, there's something we wanted.

859
00:45:15,680 --> 00:45:19,640
Speaker 4: I mean, you know, NICKI and I we've like, we've

860
00:45:19,680 --> 00:45:22,160
Speaker 4: always talked about a talk show because we're like, it

861
00:45:22,200 --> 00:45:24,839
Speaker 4: would be super hot. But then sometimes when I look

862
00:45:24,880 --> 00:45:26,920
Speaker 4: at the schedule and we're like, is that.

863
00:45:27,120 --> 00:45:30,160
Speaker 3: When the kids, When the kids leave the home, that's

864
00:45:30,239 --> 00:45:31,560
Speaker 3: when we're empty nesters.

865
00:45:31,600 --> 00:45:34,640
Speaker 5: We could go there too. Yeah, I'm like, that's way

866
00:45:34,680 --> 00:45:35,279
Speaker 5: down the road.

867
00:45:35,360 --> 00:45:35,600
Speaker 1: I know.

868
00:45:35,719 --> 00:45:40,440
Speaker 3: For me, I would love like just getting a taste

869
00:45:40,440 --> 00:45:42,640
Speaker 3: of being in Happy Gilmore too, And like a lot

870
00:45:42,680 --> 00:45:47,759
Speaker 3: of our storylines got cut, but I really enjoyed being

871
00:45:47,840 --> 00:45:50,040
Speaker 3: on set and what I liked about it is my

872
00:45:50,200 --> 00:45:52,879
Speaker 3: character was so different from who I am, and that's

873
00:45:52,920 --> 00:45:54,840
Speaker 3: what I love about wrestling too, when I get to

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Speaker 3: be a bad guy that I was like, I missed

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Speaker 3: that kind of fun play being a character. So I

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Speaker 3: would love to do more movies, but that only keep

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Speaker 3: me on set for like three weeks on and off.

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Speaker 3: I can't go do a movie for three months. I

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Speaker 3: don't know how people do that as parents And oh yep, careers.

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Speaker 5: Do you know what I mean? That's like so right?

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Speaker 5: Oh yes, I didn't even think. Yeah, that was why

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Speaker 5: herd on me.

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Speaker 1: That's why my fortieth birthday is in New York City.

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Speaker 1: The day after my birthday, she goes to Ottawa to

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Speaker 1: shoot a movie. So oh see, so no my Orca

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Speaker 1: for me.

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Speaker 5: Well, well, I'll go to my YORKA.

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Speaker 1: So this this surprise party, better be yet, be good?

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Speaker 5: Better come to you.

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Speaker 1: There better be a beautiful ocean views. Yeah where they

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Speaker 1: better bring sand in?

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Speaker 2: I don't know it. Better feel like my orc.

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Speaker 1: I love that you both, well, thank you both for

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Speaker 1: coming on the show. And I know we we we

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Speaker 1: have so much in common. I've been so grateful for

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Speaker 1: our time that we get to spend. What I love

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Speaker 1: so much is not you know, the jobs that we've

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Speaker 1: done to give us the platforms we have. It's the

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Speaker 1: way we show up for women, the ship, the way

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Speaker 1: we show up to advocate for women, like we really

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Speaker 1: want to change this world and make it better. And

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Speaker 1: I find that such a beautiful gift and what a

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Speaker 1: cool opportunity to leave this place better than we found it,

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Speaker 1: and you two live it. So I've been drawn to

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Speaker 1: you since the moment. We've met, and we've got we

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Speaker 1: got to keep we got to keep fighting like hell

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Speaker 1: and keep living our truth and being as authentic as

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Speaker 1: we can. So NICKI and Bria appreciate you both being

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Speaker 1: on the show.

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Speaker 2: And until the next time.

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Speaker 1: Right kick it together and have a little sippy sippy exactly.

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Speaker 4: I would love you, you guys, and you come to us

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Speaker 4: here in Napa Valley, come to Yes, we'll get a

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Speaker 4: week because massages, wine Taste Dane will do it all.

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Speaker 1: You had me at massage and I know me like

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Speaker 1: I need.

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Speaker 2: I'm that kind of girly now.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, I love it.

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Speaker 3: And anytime you need two bad asses to show up

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Speaker 3: for some extra voices, where we got your back.

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Speaker 1: So done done, We're here in the well.

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Speaker 2: We roll in a deep group. I love that.

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Speaker 5: Yeah you do?

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Speaker 1: All right? Well, thanks everyone for tuning in for another

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Speaker 1: episode of Wide Open with Ashlin Harris, Nikki Brie. You

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Speaker 1: are a dreamboat both of you, and I know we're

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Speaker 1: going to have many more conversations to come. But until

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Speaker 1: next time, We'll see you next week.

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Speaker 5: Yesy bye.

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Speaker 7: Wide Open with Ashland Harris is an iHeart women's sports production.

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Speaker 7: You can find us on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts,

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Speaker 7: or wherever you get your podcasts. Our producers are Carmen Borca, Coreo,

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Speaker 7: Emily Maronov, and Lucy Jones. Production assistants from Malia Aguidello.

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Speaker 7: Our executive producers are Jesse Katz, Jenny Kaplan and Emily Rudder.

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Speaker 7: Our editors are Jenny Kaplan and Emily Rudder and I'm

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Speaker 7: Your Host Ashlyn Harris