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Speaker 1: Hey everybody. Uh, this is Easton. I am the engineer

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Speaker 1: here on scrubbing in. I want to wish you a

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Speaker 1: very happy holiday season, a very happy and safe new year,

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Speaker 1: and we're gonna do something a little different this week.

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Speaker 1: I'm the only one here. I'm alone in the studio.

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Speaker 1: I'm trapped would be the wrong word, but I am

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Speaker 1: alone in here. Um. But you know, I was sitting

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Speaker 1: thinking it would be kind of fun to relive, uh,

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Speaker 1: my favorite episode. Uh, and that's the Hawaii episode where

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Speaker 1: even if that episode was absolute trash, like unlistenable, that

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Speaker 1: something that I appreciated very very much. Um. But that

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Speaker 1: So I was thinking we could take another look at

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Speaker 1: it again. Uh here going into the new year. UM,

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Speaker 1: I do want to thank you guys so much for

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Speaker 1: listening to the podcast and all your undying support, uh

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Speaker 1: We're looking forward so much to the live shows in

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Speaker 1: the new year. That's February one in San Francisco, in

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Speaker 1: February in Los Angeles, and uh we uh we just

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Speaker 1: we appreciate guys so much. Keep in touch with us

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Speaker 1: all year long. On on Instagram, it's at scrubbing in pod.

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Speaker 1: Join our Facebook group if you haven't yet. And also

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Speaker 1: I want to invite you all to a very special

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Speaker 1: awards show that's happening on New Year's Day. That's a

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Speaker 1: three pm Pacific time, so uh six pm Eastern on

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Speaker 1: New Year's Day on my Instagram. That's at Eastern Allen

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Speaker 1: on Instagram, Uh my Instagram Live. I'll be doing the

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Speaker 1: East Awards. It's an award show of everything that I

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Speaker 1: check that out. That's going down New Year's Day, three

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Speaker 1: pm Pacific my Instagram Live. But for right now, let's uh,

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Speaker 1: let's take a trip to the islands and our favorite

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Speaker 1: episode of Scrubbing In from nineteen Scrubbing In with Sca

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Speaker 1: Award winning podcast Wow Eastern. That was special. That was

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Speaker 1: so good. I would also like to say that Easton

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Speaker 1: and his lovely wife Allison decorated our little table where

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Speaker 1: we're doing our podcasts. There's chocolate Macadamion. It wasn't chocolate Macadamians.

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Speaker 1: it all, yeah, truly, because we're in Oah or ger Muda.

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Speaker 1: Did you see that Tom I was singing, you know, uh, Bahama,

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Speaker 1: Becca's latest obsession. Okay, So I found out we were

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Speaker 1: get two of them on and three I'll switch back off.

423
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Speaker 1: And you can't figure out how why would they won't

424
00:24:39,040 --> 00:24:42,760
Speaker 1: stay on right? And what I was saying is that's

425
00:24:42,760 --> 00:24:46,480
Speaker 1: a lot of work. And so I came to imagine

426
00:24:46,480 --> 00:24:48,200
Speaker 1: a whole wall of switches, and on the top is

427
00:24:48,200 --> 00:24:49,639
Speaker 1: a big switch, and on the other side there's a

428
00:24:49,680 --> 00:24:51,920
Speaker 1: big switch. And on the left, the big switch says fear,

429
00:24:52,480 --> 00:24:55,320
Speaker 1: and the right one says bliss, and you can switch

430
00:24:55,359 --> 00:24:56,800
Speaker 1: all the other ones all you want, and they're gonna

431
00:24:56,840 --> 00:24:58,199
Speaker 1: come on and off and on and off. And if

432
00:24:58,200 --> 00:25:00,160
Speaker 1: you can just switch the Bliss switch and stay are,

433
00:25:00,160 --> 00:25:01,600
Speaker 1: the rest of the switches will stay on for a

434
00:25:01,600 --> 00:25:03,199
Speaker 1: while and you don't have to make the plan. It's

435
00:25:03,240 --> 00:25:06,560
Speaker 1: like a a macro look like zoom out. Don't try

436
00:25:06,600 --> 00:25:08,800
Speaker 1: to fix any of it, don't make any plan, and

437
00:25:08,880 --> 00:25:11,800
Speaker 1: just be find what it is that makes you happy

438
00:25:11,880 --> 00:25:14,600
Speaker 1: and go there. Every time you're not, find the sentence

439
00:25:14,640 --> 00:25:17,840
Speaker 1: you say over and over again that sabotages you. For me,

440
00:25:17,880 --> 00:25:19,760
Speaker 1: it was like I'm never gonna work again. I can't

441
00:25:19,800 --> 00:25:21,480
Speaker 1: you know, there's not enough for this, there's not enough

442
00:25:21,520 --> 00:25:24,040
Speaker 1: for that. I'm not good enough. Or it's like I

443
00:25:24,040 --> 00:25:25,439
Speaker 1: can never get a man, I can never get the

444
00:25:25,480 --> 00:25:27,840
Speaker 1: right boyfriend. They never hang out. Even more specific because

445
00:25:27,840 --> 00:25:30,280
Speaker 1: we don't go that big. We go into specifics and

446
00:25:30,359 --> 00:25:33,560
Speaker 1: find that trigger sentence and then write a sentence that's

447
00:25:33,600 --> 00:25:36,000
Speaker 1: not even true for you that you're going to replace.

448
00:25:36,040 --> 00:25:39,000
Speaker 1: So for me, any time a thought came up, I said,

449
00:25:39,480 --> 00:25:42,159
Speaker 1: I have plenty of money for everything I want. So

450
00:25:42,240 --> 00:25:44,520
Speaker 1: every time it's like somebody calls and says, you know

451
00:25:44,920 --> 00:25:47,760
Speaker 1: you gotta buy this three thing, but your credit on

452
00:25:47,800 --> 00:25:49,560
Speaker 1: this is doing and you can't do this. And I'd say,

453
00:25:49,840 --> 00:25:52,199
Speaker 1: I have plenty of money for everything I want, and

454
00:25:52,240 --> 00:25:56,159
Speaker 1: I'm lying to myself, I thought, but that became and

455
00:25:56,400 --> 00:25:58,040
Speaker 1: oh there's any You have to have an action. So

456
00:25:58,119 --> 00:26:01,280
Speaker 1: you say that and then go move yourself physically to

457
00:26:01,359 --> 00:26:04,439
Speaker 1: something that brings you joy. For me to help, man,

458
00:26:04,480 --> 00:26:06,520
Speaker 1: I'm not going to be I'm going from like almost

459
00:26:06,520 --> 00:26:10,040
Speaker 1: cool to complete nerd. But for me, I grow a

460
00:26:10,080 --> 00:26:13,080
Speaker 1: big vegetable garden and I have chickens and I like

461
00:26:13,200 --> 00:26:15,440
Speaker 1: to build stuff. So for me, when I'm in my head,

462
00:26:15,480 --> 00:26:18,240
Speaker 1: if I go get some wood and build something, or

463
00:26:18,280 --> 00:26:20,919
Speaker 1: I dig dirt or move something around, or I hang

464
00:26:21,000 --> 00:26:23,600
Speaker 1: out with my chickens, I feel better. And I decided

465
00:26:24,080 --> 00:26:25,920
Speaker 1: I'm not playing with any of the rest of the stuff.

466
00:26:25,960 --> 00:26:28,520
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do that, and you figure it out, and

467
00:26:28,560 --> 00:26:31,120
Speaker 1: you know, I could go deeper. But two weeks later,

468
00:26:32,040 --> 00:26:34,000
Speaker 1: I have plenty of money for everything I want and

469
00:26:34,040 --> 00:26:36,240
Speaker 1: I'm living a really really happy life and all that's

470
00:26:36,280 --> 00:26:39,040
Speaker 1: really really good. So what my wife has taught me

471
00:26:39,320 --> 00:26:42,000
Speaker 1: is that the things you want, the more you want it,

472
00:26:42,119 --> 00:26:44,040
Speaker 1: the more you want it, the further way it goes,

473
00:26:44,119 --> 00:26:46,040
Speaker 1: it's like mercury. You try to grab it and pushes

474
00:26:46,119 --> 00:26:48,040
Speaker 1: away right and as soon as you don't want it,

475
00:26:48,080 --> 00:26:50,200
Speaker 1: and you're like, I got everything I need and everything

476
00:26:50,240 --> 00:26:53,600
Speaker 1: I want, then everything comes they wanted, it wants to

477
00:26:53,600 --> 00:26:56,439
Speaker 1: come to you. And literally, what I feel like I've been,

478
00:26:56,560 --> 00:26:58,800
Speaker 1: I've been like in this hamster wheel of like just

479
00:26:58,840 --> 00:27:01,479
Speaker 1: like going through like I'm going on the flipping through

480
00:27:01,480 --> 00:27:03,960
Speaker 1: the dating apps, asking every person that I meet to

481
00:27:04,000 --> 00:27:06,560
Speaker 1: set me up with somebody, like truly, it's like literally

482
00:27:07,520 --> 00:27:13,080
Speaker 1: and then I said, nothing about you was broken. There's

483
00:27:13,240 --> 00:27:16,199
Speaker 1: nothing lacking in you that you need to change to

484
00:27:16,320 --> 00:27:19,240
Speaker 1: make that fictitious dude come and stay that the guy

485
00:27:19,240 --> 00:27:21,360
Speaker 1: who goest to you. Maybe I shouldn't have talked about work.

486
00:27:21,359 --> 00:27:23,320
Speaker 1: Maybe I should have stayed out past ten o'clock because

487
00:27:23,320 --> 00:27:25,040
Speaker 1: I gotta get up at four. But that doesn't work

488
00:27:25,040 --> 00:27:27,520
Speaker 1: for relationships. So I can make these compromises because there

489
00:27:27,600 --> 00:27:30,600
Speaker 1: must be something I'm doing to create this ghosting. And

490
00:27:30,760 --> 00:27:33,040
Speaker 1: I kind of was trying to tell you to have

491
00:27:33,040 --> 00:27:39,480
Speaker 1: the swagger of that's all BS, and everything about you

492
00:27:39,600 --> 00:27:43,199
Speaker 1: is empowered and gorgeous and healthy and working and in

493
00:27:43,320 --> 00:27:47,840
Speaker 1: this great job with all this stuff and he's lucky

494
00:27:47,880 --> 00:27:50,000
Speaker 1: if he gets a chance to go out with you

495
00:27:50,040 --> 00:27:52,240
Speaker 1: and then ghost you. And if he ghost you, he's

496
00:27:52,280 --> 00:27:55,640
Speaker 1: the loser, making room for whoever gets to be whoever

497
00:27:55,880 --> 00:27:58,520
Speaker 1: gets to be that dude that maybe you get the

498
00:27:58,520 --> 00:28:02,080
Speaker 1: ghost if you're not feeling joy. I mean, it's just

499
00:28:02,160 --> 00:28:06,639
Speaker 1: so good. Like Antonia was just grinning, her eyes were wide.

500
00:28:06,720 --> 00:28:09,600
Speaker 1: It was like a new light head into it. Literally

501
00:28:09,640 --> 00:28:11,959
Speaker 1: was like a new light. She was like, did you

502
00:28:12,040 --> 00:28:15,960
Speaker 1: hear this? My new hashtag as I quit quit, Like

503
00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:19,000
Speaker 1: I'm done, I'm done, Like no more, like do not

504
00:28:19,119 --> 00:28:21,000
Speaker 1: ask me if I've gone on any dates, do not

505
00:28:21,080 --> 00:28:23,000
Speaker 1: ask me if you if if you can set me

506
00:28:23,080 --> 00:28:26,560
Speaker 1: up with a friend, like I am I'm done, Like

507
00:28:26,600 --> 00:28:31,120
Speaker 1: I'm taking a beat and like really just being me. Well,

508
00:28:31,160 --> 00:28:33,639
Speaker 1: people when they see the new hashtag, they'll have to

509
00:28:33,680 --> 00:28:36,080
Speaker 1: listen to this podcast to understand so they don't think

510
00:28:36,119 --> 00:28:38,880
Speaker 1: you're like quitting every Yeah, I'm not called. It's a

511
00:28:39,000 --> 00:28:42,040
Speaker 1: natural thing to let other people define who we are, right,

512
00:28:42,160 --> 00:28:44,360
Speaker 1: That's what we do all the time. It's like if

513
00:28:44,400 --> 00:28:46,800
Speaker 1: somebody tweets something awesome about like on Temptation one, and

514
00:28:46,800 --> 00:28:49,440
Speaker 1: when the show came out, there was a progression of

515
00:28:49,480 --> 00:28:52,640
Speaker 1: the of Twitter for me because I did the show

516
00:28:52,640 --> 00:28:55,560
Speaker 1: back in um two thousand one. I think it was

517
00:28:55,680 --> 00:28:58,720
Speaker 1: right and it was huge. And then eight years later

518
00:28:58,720 --> 00:29:01,640
Speaker 1: and now I'm hosting it again. And so the tweets

519
00:29:01,640 --> 00:29:05,040
Speaker 1: I'm getting in the beginning are what is this ridiculous,

520
00:29:05,080 --> 00:29:07,600
Speaker 1: trashy show? And who is this? This is a quote?

521
00:29:07,720 --> 00:29:13,000
Speaker 1: This Walmart knockoff of Chris Harrison. He's stealing Chris Harrison's act. Now,

522
00:29:13,040 --> 00:29:15,240
Speaker 1: what I could have done is because I wanted something,

523
00:29:15,280 --> 00:29:16,960
Speaker 1: I could have said that's not true. I was there

524
00:29:17,000 --> 00:29:22,000
Speaker 1: before him and he still But instead I'm like, listen,

525
00:29:22,000 --> 00:29:24,080
Speaker 1: if there's an act of steal, I'm stealing Chris's because

526
00:29:24,080 --> 00:29:27,080
Speaker 1: he's awesome, right, because I don't care. That's not going

527
00:29:27,120 --> 00:29:29,920
Speaker 1: to define me. My definition of me is my wife

528
00:29:29,920 --> 00:29:31,800
Speaker 1: and kids and my chicken on my garden. I don't

529
00:29:32,200 --> 00:29:35,520
Speaker 1: I quit totally quickit right, And so, by the way,

530
00:29:35,560 --> 00:29:37,240
Speaker 1: that's much better than the switches. I'm gonna go with

531
00:29:37,240 --> 00:29:40,480
Speaker 1: the eye quick um. But then as it went on,

532
00:29:40,680 --> 00:29:42,880
Speaker 1: the more I sort of stood in that the whole

533
00:29:43,080 --> 00:29:46,920
Speaker 1: language changed to wow, this show is really about emotional intelligence,

534
00:29:46,960 --> 00:29:50,200
Speaker 1: and and Walburt, you know, you know, they thought they

535
00:29:50,240 --> 00:29:52,000
Speaker 1: were going to go home together, but Walbart should hold

536
00:29:52,000 --> 00:29:54,120
Speaker 1: my beer and you know you like so it became

537
00:29:54,160 --> 00:29:56,960
Speaker 1: a whole different trip, none of which I created. I

538
00:29:57,040 --> 00:30:00,360
Speaker 1: just surrendered and let it happen. It's like so good,

539
00:30:00,480 --> 00:30:03,680
Speaker 1: Like truly, I'll probably be like talking about you in

540
00:30:03,720 --> 00:30:07,720
Speaker 1: six months from now. Oh yeah, she does. She's like,

541
00:30:08,000 --> 00:30:10,200
Speaker 1: thank you. But my hope is that you're so busy

542
00:30:10,240 --> 00:30:11,960
Speaker 1: with all this new love and stuff and your life

543
00:30:12,000 --> 00:30:13,520
Speaker 1: is so huge that you don't have time to remember

544
00:30:13,560 --> 00:30:15,600
Speaker 1: who I was. And you told me a Chris Harrison knockoff.

545
00:30:15,640 --> 00:30:18,440
Speaker 1: It's all good, n chance because literally Chelsea Handler told

546
00:30:18,440 --> 00:30:21,960
Speaker 1: me something like my second week on the job. She's

547
00:30:21,960 --> 00:30:23,920
Speaker 1: so smart. I still talk about it till this day.

548
00:30:24,040 --> 00:30:26,600
Speaker 1: So like you just I have the same kind of

549
00:30:26,640 --> 00:30:29,560
Speaker 1: like EUPK moment with you, so like we will touch

550
00:30:29,560 --> 00:30:32,360
Speaker 1: base and years to hear that, because I really I

551
00:30:32,400 --> 00:30:34,000
Speaker 1: really had a great time hanging out with you guys.

552
00:30:34,040 --> 00:30:35,960
Speaker 1: And and even though we were hanging out of the bar,

553
00:30:36,000 --> 00:30:37,640
Speaker 1: I literally said like we're gonna go deep. Are we

554
00:30:37,680 --> 00:30:39,520
Speaker 1: cool with this? Because I'm good with it if you're good,

555
00:30:39,960 --> 00:30:42,440
Speaker 1: and um, you know, I was like over there doing

556
00:30:42,440 --> 00:30:46,120
Speaker 1: shots of Coco Puffs vodka and they're having a heart

557
00:30:46,200 --> 00:30:48,000
Speaker 1: to heart. I was like, I need to get in

558
00:30:48,040 --> 00:30:50,160
Speaker 1: on what's going on here. It was a little bit

559
00:30:50,160 --> 00:30:53,400
Speaker 1: of that drunk I love you man moment. We might

560
00:30:53,400 --> 00:30:56,280
Speaker 1: have chest bumped after it was over. I don't know.

561
00:30:56,960 --> 00:30:59,160
Speaker 1: There were high fives. We did high fives. I remember

562
00:30:59,160 --> 00:31:07,880
Speaker 1: that the n that didn't happen, I would have remember that. Um,

563
00:31:07,880 --> 00:31:10,560
Speaker 1: sorry to switch gears, but there's something which important for

564
00:31:10,600 --> 00:31:13,880
Speaker 1: me to talk about. Talk about the Temptation Island. So

565
00:31:14,240 --> 00:31:20,000
Speaker 1: that goes obsessed, Okay, I'm flattered by that. I the

566
00:31:20,080 --> 00:31:23,760
Speaker 1: only reality show I have watched was The Bachelor, and

567
00:31:23,800 --> 00:31:25,800
Speaker 1: even before I was on The Bachelor, I didn't watch

568
00:31:25,840 --> 00:31:27,840
Speaker 1: The Bachelor, so that was kind of a recent It

569
00:31:27,880 --> 00:31:31,320
Speaker 1: wasn't really like you. It wasn't your Yeah, I just

570
00:31:31,360 --> 00:31:33,960
Speaker 1: never you know. All my friends were like super into it,

571
00:31:34,000 --> 00:31:38,000
Speaker 1: but I never. I never caught onto it. So when

572
00:31:38,040 --> 00:31:40,400
Speaker 1: I heard we were coming here, I was like, I'm

573
00:31:40,400 --> 00:31:41,880
Speaker 1: gonna watch the show and see what it's about. I

574
00:31:41,880 --> 00:31:43,760
Speaker 1: thought i'd watch a couple of episodes to get the

575
00:31:43,800 --> 00:31:47,960
Speaker 1: concept so I can talk about I had the most

576
00:31:48,080 --> 00:31:52,080
Speaker 1: worthless but successful day of my life when I watched

577
00:31:52,200 --> 00:31:57,000
Speaker 1: all eleven episodes. Had a lot of emotions watching the

578
00:31:57,040 --> 00:32:02,520
Speaker 1: whole Yeah, understand. So the new the new cast has

579
00:32:02,600 --> 00:32:04,880
Speaker 1: arrived on the island, y'all are about to start filming.

580
00:32:05,040 --> 00:32:09,960
Speaker 1: You've started filming, do you wonder, like in your head

581
00:32:10,000 --> 00:32:12,360
Speaker 1: when you're meeting these people, like, what are you doing?

582
00:32:13,160 --> 00:32:16,080
Speaker 1: What have you committed to? You know, that's a good question,

583
00:32:16,320 --> 00:32:21,200
Speaker 1: and I'll answer by saying, the way I like to

584
00:32:21,200 --> 00:32:23,880
Speaker 1: approach this is and all the shows that I've done

585
00:32:23,880 --> 00:32:25,200
Speaker 1: in my life that I've had edged to them, and

586
00:32:25,200 --> 00:32:27,360
Speaker 1: there's been a few, but the way I like to

587
00:32:27,360 --> 00:32:29,280
Speaker 1: approach it is like, if you were going to ask

588
00:32:29,280 --> 00:32:31,920
Speaker 1: me what I do this, I'd be like Hilton, then, no,

589
00:32:32,600 --> 00:32:35,480
Speaker 1: this is the stupidest idea. Who in the right mind

590
00:32:35,600 --> 00:32:39,120
Speaker 1: will do this? But as the host of it for

591
00:32:39,200 --> 00:32:42,400
Speaker 1: these young couples who are in a rut and having trouble,

592
00:32:42,440 --> 00:32:45,800
Speaker 1: who are choosing to do this? If I'm not buying

593
00:32:45,800 --> 00:32:50,080
Speaker 1: what I'm selling, it's just fake. Now, after the show

594
00:32:50,120 --> 00:32:52,080
Speaker 1: airs and air, all the smoke clears, I can see

595
00:32:52,080 --> 00:32:54,320
Speaker 1: it for what it is sometimes and kind of laugh

596
00:32:54,400 --> 00:32:56,600
Speaker 1: at the drama and it's TV and all that. But

597
00:32:56,640 --> 00:32:58,840
Speaker 1: I even say to them on camera sometimes they cut

598
00:32:58,840 --> 00:33:00,160
Speaker 1: it out of the show. We're off camera. I did

599
00:33:00,160 --> 00:33:01,480
Speaker 1: it back in two thousand one, I do it now.

600
00:33:01,520 --> 00:33:03,720
Speaker 1: I say, look, I would say to them sometimes, why

601
00:33:03,760 --> 00:33:06,000
Speaker 1: do you think you're here? And they'll say something like,

602
00:33:06,040 --> 00:33:08,160
Speaker 1: we have problems with our relationship that we really feel

603
00:33:08,200 --> 00:33:09,360
Speaker 1: like we need to work out and then maybe this

604
00:33:09,360 --> 00:33:10,680
Speaker 1: will be good. And I'll say, well, that may be

605
00:33:10,760 --> 00:33:12,840
Speaker 1: the reason, but probably the reason you're here is because

606
00:33:12,840 --> 00:33:15,200
Speaker 1: you have problems with your relationship and this is gonna

607
00:33:15,200 --> 00:33:18,200
Speaker 1: make your Twitter go crazy, your Instagram is gonna get verified,

608
00:33:18,240 --> 00:33:21,200
Speaker 1: and you might start this business right and you're gonna

609
00:33:21,200 --> 00:33:23,520
Speaker 1: be really famous. So I think that's probably why you're here.

610
00:33:24,360 --> 00:33:28,479
Speaker 1: But it doesn't matter because as crazy as this right is,

611
00:33:29,480 --> 00:33:33,000
Speaker 1: I don't know how it happens. It becomes real really quickly,

612
00:33:33,600 --> 00:33:35,840
Speaker 1: and you're gonna find out the answers to those questions

613
00:33:35,880 --> 00:33:38,040
Speaker 1: you said you came here with. But what you don't

614
00:33:38,040 --> 00:33:39,480
Speaker 1: know is all the questions are going to change that

615
00:33:39,520 --> 00:33:42,040
Speaker 1: you didn't even know you needed to ask. So I

616
00:33:42,080 --> 00:33:45,720
Speaker 1: sit back in this is a crazy ride. I would

617
00:33:45,760 --> 00:33:48,080
Speaker 1: hate anybody else to host this because I trust me

618
00:33:48,120 --> 00:33:49,880
Speaker 1: getting you through it, and I'm afraid for somebody, like

619
00:33:49,920 --> 00:33:51,239
Speaker 1: if I were a guy who wringing my hand going

620
00:33:51,320 --> 00:33:53,960
Speaker 1: let's see if we can get them to cheat. It's gross.

621
00:33:54,720 --> 00:33:58,680
Speaker 1: But from my seat, you know, in August, if if

622
00:33:58,680 --> 00:34:00,280
Speaker 1: she picks up my option, it will be all because

623
00:34:00,320 --> 00:34:03,280
Speaker 1: it'll be uh thirty two years of marriage. She could

624
00:34:03,320 --> 00:34:05,160
Speaker 1: kick me out anytime. Right now, it's looking good because

625
00:34:05,160 --> 00:34:07,840
Speaker 1: I brought out a Maui's kind of the man, so

626
00:34:08,040 --> 00:34:12,840
Speaker 1: I think I'm gonna get it. But but from my seat,

627
00:34:12,920 --> 00:34:15,600
Speaker 1: I say exactly that, Look, this isn't Maybe therapy or

628
00:34:15,600 --> 00:34:17,520
Speaker 1: talking to family or talking to one another might be

629
00:34:17,560 --> 00:34:19,759
Speaker 1: a healthier way to do it is, but all right,

630
00:34:19,880 --> 00:34:21,839
Speaker 1: let's do this. And if you do it, I can

631
00:34:21,840 --> 00:34:24,560
Speaker 1: guarantee you, even if you resist it, you're definitely gonna

632
00:34:24,560 --> 00:34:26,399
Speaker 1: get the answers. You're gonna find out how you feel

633
00:34:26,400 --> 00:34:27,960
Speaker 1: about the other person, and then I'm gonna help you

634
00:34:28,000 --> 00:34:32,000
Speaker 1: figure out what decision to make right. So for me,

635
00:34:33,000 --> 00:34:35,920
Speaker 1: my stance has always been I have no judgment. And

636
00:34:35,960 --> 00:34:37,840
Speaker 1: I say this to them. I said, look, I already

637
00:34:37,880 --> 00:34:40,600
Speaker 1: like you, all of you, and I'm here as best

638
00:34:40,640 --> 00:34:42,839
Speaker 1: I can to be an advocate for whatever you think

639
00:34:42,880 --> 00:34:45,000
Speaker 1: you want to get out of this, and that's gonna

640
00:34:45,080 --> 00:34:48,520
Speaker 1: require sometimes tough love, and I'm gonna always be straight

641
00:34:48,520 --> 00:34:49,839
Speaker 1: with you, and there are gonna be times where you're

642
00:34:49,840 --> 00:34:52,920
Speaker 1: really gonna hate me. But my intent is never anything

643
00:34:52,960 --> 00:34:55,080
Speaker 1: but you're better good whatever you want it to be,

644
00:34:55,239 --> 00:34:57,279
Speaker 1: not what I think it should be, what you wanted

645
00:34:57,320 --> 00:34:58,680
Speaker 1: to be. And that's how I go into this. And

646
00:34:58,719 --> 00:35:06,000
Speaker 1: I probably take that even more serious than the contestants do, right,

647
00:35:06,160 --> 00:35:08,120
Speaker 1: because I think they come into it and they get

648
00:35:08,120 --> 00:35:11,840
Speaker 1: sucker punched, and even worse for a second season, because

649
00:35:12,480 --> 00:35:14,360
Speaker 1: first season get sucker punched because oh god, what do

650
00:35:14,440 --> 00:35:17,560
Speaker 1: we sign up for? Second season signed up thinking I

651
00:35:17,640 --> 00:35:20,440
Speaker 1: got this, I've seen it, let's do this, and then

652
00:35:20,480 --> 00:35:23,200
Speaker 1: they're gonna get double sucker punched. Just with saying to

653
00:35:23,280 --> 00:35:27,279
Speaker 1: Tony at dinner, I was like, this season seems even

654
00:35:27,360 --> 00:35:31,200
Speaker 1: more intense because they know what can happen. They think

655
00:35:31,239 --> 00:35:33,280
Speaker 1: they know, well, they think they know, but they've seen

656
00:35:33,440 --> 00:35:37,640
Speaker 1: other you know, they've seen it happen, and they there

657
00:35:37,719 --> 00:35:40,360
Speaker 1: was this confidence when we've got to meet the couples today,

658
00:35:40,400 --> 00:35:41,960
Speaker 1: there was this confidence in a lot of them and

659
00:35:42,040 --> 00:35:44,200
Speaker 1: I you almost look at him like you realize you're

660
00:35:44,200 --> 00:35:47,239
Speaker 1: going to battle tomorrow, right, but you're you're right about that.

661
00:35:47,320 --> 00:35:50,239
Speaker 1: But again, I always I think about this on other

662
00:35:50,239 --> 00:35:52,000
Speaker 1: shows like, why would anybody have gone on moment of

663
00:35:52,040 --> 00:35:54,960
Speaker 1: truth this light detective show? I did, But for some

664
00:35:55,040 --> 00:35:58,680
Speaker 1: people it's jumping off the cliff. I can't do this

665
00:35:58,760 --> 00:36:00,960
Speaker 1: by myself. So if I throw myself an arena that's

666
00:36:00,960 --> 00:36:03,160
Speaker 1: gonna force me to do this in a big you know,

667
00:36:03,680 --> 00:36:08,000
Speaker 1: the rule spectacle whatever, I've already left off the bridge

668
00:36:08,080 --> 00:36:09,960
Speaker 1: and there's no way out, so that it's like they

669
00:36:10,040 --> 00:36:12,759
Speaker 1: have to do that to make it happen. I'm assuming,

670
00:36:13,800 --> 00:36:15,719
Speaker 1: and I always say to them, I don't care why

671
00:36:15,760 --> 00:36:17,200
Speaker 1: you came here. I don't I don't care why you

672
00:36:17,239 --> 00:36:19,080
Speaker 1: think you came here. All I care about is that

673
00:36:19,600 --> 00:36:23,080
Speaker 1: you're here now. And and as crazy as this silly,

674
00:36:23,200 --> 00:36:27,440
Speaker 1: stupid process is, it can't help but become real. So

675
00:36:27,560 --> 00:36:32,080
Speaker 1: whatever front, whatever agenda, whatever posturing you have, melts away,

676
00:36:32,160 --> 00:36:33,879
Speaker 1: usually on the beach at two in the morning while

677
00:36:33,920 --> 00:36:36,239
Speaker 1: you're crying, but it melts away and you get to

678
00:36:36,400 --> 00:36:38,480
Speaker 1: think something that you, as young people, may not have

679
00:36:38,560 --> 00:36:42,120
Speaker 1: even experienced, which is your authentic self self. So why

680
00:36:42,200 --> 00:36:44,640
Speaker 1: you think it's about figuring out if he'll be true

681
00:36:45,200 --> 00:36:48,719
Speaker 1: or if she will stray? The question becomes and I

682
00:36:48,760 --> 00:36:52,440
Speaker 1: say this to them, Well, unfortunately, as you share this

683
00:36:52,480 --> 00:36:54,920
Speaker 1: with me. You can't control what's happening on the other island.

684
00:36:55,160 --> 00:36:58,200
Speaker 1: All you can do is look inward. And so what

685
00:36:58,280 --> 00:37:00,920
Speaker 1: it happens is it's not about our relationship going to

686
00:37:01,000 --> 00:37:03,240
Speaker 1: be better. But you start to remember, wait a minute,

687
00:37:03,280 --> 00:37:08,000
Speaker 1: what is it I maybe my inner young person wants

688
00:37:08,080 --> 00:37:10,279
Speaker 1: what is it I really want? I think I want,

689
00:37:10,320 --> 00:37:11,719
Speaker 1: and I think I want to ring I think on this,

690
00:37:11,760 --> 00:37:14,160
Speaker 1: and then all of a sudden, the person that declared

691
00:37:14,160 --> 00:37:16,400
Speaker 1: that on day one you don't even recognize. You're like,

692
00:37:16,960 --> 00:37:18,880
Speaker 1: that's not even who I am right now. And I

693
00:37:18,920 --> 00:37:23,520
Speaker 1: think the audience really saw the growth of these people

694
00:37:23,600 --> 00:37:26,680
Speaker 1: that at first you're like, oh, Sharry and Javan are

695
00:37:26,719 --> 00:37:28,000
Speaker 1: going to make it a night, and then by the

696
00:37:28,120 --> 00:37:30,400
Speaker 1: end of You're like, wow, that's real real, And now

697
00:37:30,400 --> 00:37:31,680
Speaker 1: I'm not so sure if it is. I don't know,

698
00:37:32,160 --> 00:37:34,759
Speaker 1: but you know what I mean. So I kind of

699
00:37:34,760 --> 00:37:37,080
Speaker 1: trust the process, as crazy as it as it is.

700
00:37:37,360 --> 00:37:39,400
Speaker 1: I can't wait for Tanya to watch the first season

701
00:37:39,480 --> 00:37:43,000
Speaker 1: so we can really go into great deep discussions about

702
00:37:43,040 --> 00:37:45,759
Speaker 1: you haven't seen it? Are we breaking up? Who told

703
00:37:45,800 --> 00:37:48,719
Speaker 1: her everything? So? I don't even know. So when we

704
00:37:48,760 --> 00:37:51,600
Speaker 1: found up, we found up semi recent. We were coming here.

705
00:37:52,160 --> 00:37:55,080
Speaker 1: It's like probably a week ago. Yeah, and I have

706
00:37:55,320 --> 00:37:58,880
Speaker 1: like a very um my schedule gets a little shouldn't

707
00:37:58,880 --> 00:38:01,560
Speaker 1: have eleven hours? I hadn't. I don't have that. And

708
00:38:01,760 --> 00:38:05,160
Speaker 1: I think we discussed this in our stupid earlier So

709
00:38:05,280 --> 00:38:07,719
Speaker 1: I will, I will. I do plan on watching jobs.

710
00:38:07,719 --> 00:38:09,000
Speaker 1: I don't care if you watch or not, but I

711
00:38:09,040 --> 00:38:10,960
Speaker 1: want to because she like literally won't shut up about it.

712
00:38:13,000 --> 00:38:15,000
Speaker 1: And I think she you have a good, like a

713
00:38:15,040 --> 00:38:19,640
Speaker 1: good taste of what I will like as a view.

714
00:38:20,760 --> 00:38:23,720
Speaker 1: Here's the thing. Everybody who worked on this show, everyone

715
00:38:23,800 --> 00:38:26,160
Speaker 1: from the p A to the top of the of

716
00:38:26,200 --> 00:38:28,160
Speaker 1: the whole thing, came in it with the same like

717
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Speaker 1: sort of energy to let's make this great, let's be

718
00:38:31,040 --> 00:38:33,640
Speaker 1: all about it. And I think so while I am

719
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Speaker 1: the face of some of it and I say things

720
00:38:35,400 --> 00:38:37,359
Speaker 1: and you're like, wow, that was cool, that's after they

721
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Speaker 1: edit all the other stuff out. So full team effort.

722
00:38:40,880 --> 00:38:42,799
Speaker 1: But you've got a team of a hundred fifty people

723
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724
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725
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726
00:38:51,880 --> 00:38:54,799
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727
00:38:54,800 --> 00:38:57,960
Speaker 1: coming here, and that kind of ads this like other level.

728
00:38:58,360 --> 00:39:00,759
Speaker 1: And I know that sounds crazy, but when you're watching

729
00:39:00,760 --> 00:39:02,960
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730
00:39:03,000 --> 00:39:05,800
Speaker 1: part of it too, So enjoy it all right, everyone,

731
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Speaker 1: Temptation Island highly recommend catching up on the first season.

732
00:39:09,280 --> 00:39:11,600
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734
00:39:14,680 --> 00:39:16,839
Speaker 1: the fall. Um, thank you so much for me. Thank

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00:39:17,680 --> 00:39:22,960
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736
00:39:23,080 --> 00:39:26,560
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737
00:39:26,719 --> 00:39:28,399
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't feel anything right now. I feel

738
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740
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815
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Speaker 1: But this is gonna be good because our listeners want

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Speaker 1: to know more information, yeah about one thing. Well, hopefully

820
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Speaker 1: they'll get some answers. Maybe they will, maybe they will

821
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Speaker 1: questions for each of you. Yeah, and we're not leaving

832
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Speaker 1: Oh well, I think some of them I would assume

834
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna give a first and last name of the

846
00:45:31,160 --> 00:45:33,520
Speaker 1: people who these questions so you can go to them

847
00:45:33,560 --> 00:45:36,759
Speaker 1: if you have a problem with it. I will. This

848
00:45:37,400 --> 00:45:40,880
Speaker 1: is from Samantha Elizabeth. This first question for you, Beckham,

849
00:45:41,160 --> 00:45:43,560
Speaker 1: if you had to choose between never seeing or talking

850
00:45:43,600 --> 00:45:48,920
Speaker 1: to Tanya again, or being handcuffed to her seven for

851
00:45:48,960 --> 00:45:53,200
Speaker 1: the next ten years. Which one would you choose? Years?

852
00:45:53,320 --> 00:45:55,520
Speaker 1: I feel like it was two years when I saw

853
00:45:55,560 --> 00:46:00,960
Speaker 1: the original comments. I'm hand come to John, handcuffed toy

854
00:46:01,400 --> 00:46:04,799
Speaker 1: or seven you never see her again or you can

855
00:46:04,840 --> 00:46:08,120
Speaker 1: never talk to her again. But she exists. You'll hear

856
00:46:08,120 --> 00:46:10,040
Speaker 1: about things she's doing. You just can never see her

857
00:46:10,120 --> 00:46:16,720
Speaker 1: talk to her. She's probably so upset. This is taking

858
00:46:16,719 --> 00:46:22,000
Speaker 1: me so yeah, I'm like any day before, but like

859
00:46:22,080 --> 00:46:25,640
Speaker 1: that would mean everything I do. She's like there, so

860
00:46:25,760 --> 00:46:27,640
Speaker 1: like me asking her to leave so I could take

861
00:46:27,719 --> 00:46:33,279
Speaker 1: you go to the bathroom. She's she's eyeing me down

862
00:46:33,400 --> 00:46:35,840
Speaker 1: right now. The fact that this is even a debate,

863
00:46:37,120 --> 00:46:39,560
Speaker 1: that is a tough question. He's not saying you have

864
00:46:39,640 --> 00:46:42,319
Speaker 1: to be handcuffed like an inch away from me. They

865
00:46:42,320 --> 00:46:44,920
Speaker 1: could be lengthy handcuffs. Nobody said in the rule that

866
00:46:45,000 --> 00:46:48,040
Speaker 1: ncuffs are pretty standard. One side, well, we could make

867
00:46:48,080 --> 00:46:53,560
Speaker 1: them longer. Canna make the handcuffs long? I mean, I

868
00:46:53,640 --> 00:46:55,560
Speaker 1: think you can like it happen. We have to be

869
00:46:55,600 --> 00:47:00,719
Speaker 1: in the same home. But like, yeah, blocks, I mean,

870
00:47:00,760 --> 00:47:06,200
Speaker 1: it's ten years versus forever trying to influence the answer. Okay,

871
00:47:06,239 --> 00:47:11,920
Speaker 1: I'm choosing ten years, incuff begrudgingly. It's tough. That's a

872
00:47:11,960 --> 00:47:15,040
Speaker 1: big commitment. I would choose handcuffed any day for you.

873
00:47:15,200 --> 00:47:18,080
Speaker 1: You would because but we're very different people. You don't

874
00:47:18,120 --> 00:47:22,040
Speaker 1: need space. She's angry. I mean it would be It

875
00:47:22,040 --> 00:47:23,440
Speaker 1: would be a rough tain years. You have to learn

876
00:47:23,480 --> 00:47:25,359
Speaker 1: a lot about yourselves and read each other in that time.

877
00:47:25,400 --> 00:47:28,000
Speaker 1: But but I guess I'd rather have that than never

878
00:47:28,040 --> 00:47:35,120
Speaker 1: talked to her again. Okay, Okay, Dan, your turn, can't wait.

879
00:47:35,400 --> 00:47:38,480
Speaker 1: Name name a celebrity you have met that you really

880
00:47:38,520 --> 00:47:43,480
Speaker 1: did not like other than Owen Hunt. I love it.

881
00:47:43,600 --> 00:47:47,080
Speaker 1: That was like I didn't know Owen Hunt. You didn't like? Yeah,

882
00:47:47,120 --> 00:47:50,680
Speaker 1: I remember when you met him. We were like, when

883
00:47:50,680 --> 00:47:56,240
Speaker 1: did we meet? Oh, Owen Hunt? I was thinking Owen Wilson. No. Remember.

884
00:47:56,320 --> 00:48:00,000
Speaker 1: At thet this question came up a lot, by the way,

885
00:48:00,280 --> 00:48:03,319
Speaker 1: really was probably the most popular question because you never

886
00:48:03,400 --> 00:48:06,160
Speaker 1: talked bad about anyone. I don't because here's the thing.

887
00:48:06,239 --> 00:48:10,200
Speaker 1: When they come into like meet anybody that I'm around,

888
00:48:10,760 --> 00:48:12,920
Speaker 1: they're on their best behavior, do you know what I mean?

889
00:48:13,000 --> 00:48:17,879
Speaker 1: Like they're gonna be happy, they're gonna be nice and polite. Um,

890
00:48:17,920 --> 00:48:23,799
Speaker 1: But I did have an experience with Busy Phillips on

891
00:48:23,800 --> 00:48:28,000
Speaker 1: a carpet very early on in my career that I

892
00:48:28,040 --> 00:48:33,160
Speaker 1: will never forget. Tell us more. I don't need to

893
00:48:33,200 --> 00:48:38,959
Speaker 1: go into the details, but I was treated very, um,

894
00:48:39,000 --> 00:48:43,320
Speaker 1: not nicely. And you have to understand also that I'm

895
00:48:43,360 --> 00:48:45,480
Speaker 1: maybe it was like a month or two into the

896
00:48:45,480 --> 00:48:48,000
Speaker 1: morning show gigs, so I was really just trying to

897
00:48:48,880 --> 00:48:51,960
Speaker 1: do my best job. I didn't you know what I mean,

898
00:48:51,960 --> 00:48:54,640
Speaker 1: Like I was still pretty green, and granted I probably

899
00:48:55,880 --> 00:48:59,719
Speaker 1: um was overly zealous and excited and like whatever, but

900
00:49:00,000 --> 00:49:03,440
Speaker 1: I will never forget it. And are one of our producers.

901
00:49:03,440 --> 00:49:05,359
Speaker 1: How their monday was there with me also and she

902
00:49:05,440 --> 00:49:08,520
Speaker 1: loved her And I don't know how they had the

903
00:49:08,560 --> 00:49:10,640
Speaker 1: same reaction as I did because I was one to

904
00:49:10,680 --> 00:49:13,839
Speaker 1: actually like have you know, said the words, but yeah,

905
00:49:13,920 --> 00:49:17,239
Speaker 1: so um it's left him not a great taste in

906
00:49:17,280 --> 00:49:23,720
Speaker 1: my mouth. Yeah, but you know, I also have to, um,

907
00:49:23,800 --> 00:49:27,160
Speaker 1: I think everybody is allowed to have like a bad day.

908
00:49:27,200 --> 00:49:34,160
Speaker 1: So it's like I don't judge her, but you know, forgiveness. No.

909
00:49:34,400 --> 00:49:36,120
Speaker 1: I honestly feel like if you met her, get into

910
00:49:36,200 --> 00:49:38,440
Speaker 1: a super pleasant you you would probably have a different

911
00:49:38,480 --> 00:49:41,120
Speaker 1: opinion about totally totally as of now, this is where

912
00:49:41,120 --> 00:49:43,680
Speaker 1: you stand. She sucked and she was rude, do you Yeah,

913
00:49:43,760 --> 00:49:46,080
Speaker 1: I didn't enjoy the experience. And yeah, I wasn't saying

914
00:49:46,080 --> 00:49:47,359
Speaker 1: she might have been having a bad day, she might

915
00:49:47,400 --> 00:49:48,839
Speaker 1: be have a good, good day. I don't know her.

916
00:49:48,880 --> 00:49:51,279
Speaker 1: I've only had one experience and that was it, and

917
00:49:52,000 --> 00:50:00,440
Speaker 1: it wasn't great. Sometimes the first impression is the only impression. Yeah, okay, Becca,

918
00:50:01,120 --> 00:50:03,200
Speaker 1: some of these are hard hitters. I'm gonna build up

919
00:50:03,200 --> 00:50:07,000
Speaker 1: to those. So here's here's uh, here's one. I did

920
00:50:07,040 --> 00:50:09,359
Speaker 1: not enjoy answering that. By the way, I could tell her,

921
00:50:09,400 --> 00:50:12,400
Speaker 1: there's a lot of pain behind your eyes. Pain. Yeah, okay,

922
00:50:12,520 --> 00:50:15,680
Speaker 1: there's a couple of kiss Mary kills in here. Kiss

923
00:50:15,719 --> 00:50:21,520
Speaker 1: Mary kill Dean Anglert Wells, Adams and Ben Higgins. Oh yeah,

924
00:50:22,920 --> 00:50:28,040
Speaker 1: I'm I've done this before. Yeah, this is an easy one. Um,

925
00:50:28,080 --> 00:50:39,640
Speaker 1: I'm going to kill I'm going to kiss Wells. I'm

926
00:50:39,640 --> 00:50:45,880
Speaker 1: gonna marry Ben. I'm gonna kill Dean. Sorry, love you Dean. Yikes?

927
00:50:46,640 --> 00:50:48,120
Speaker 1: Are you telling you have a you have a kiss

928
00:50:48,160 --> 00:50:53,360
Speaker 1: Mary kill as well? Uh? Mr d dr W and

929
00:50:53,480 --> 00:51:05,160
Speaker 1: Mr Tippler. Uh, I'm gonna marry Mr Tippler. What unexpected?

930
00:51:05,480 --> 00:51:12,800
Speaker 1: I'm gonna kiss Mr. It's actually kind of touch. Okay,

931
00:51:12,840 --> 00:51:27,239
Speaker 1: you know what, let me rethink that. I'm surprised some time.

932
00:51:29,640 --> 00:51:36,560
Speaker 1: I know most because a lot of them are sliding

933
00:51:36,600 --> 00:51:41,520
Speaker 1: back into the picture. So I feel as though I

934
00:51:41,560 --> 00:51:44,640
Speaker 1: need to be You need a drink right now? No,

935
00:51:44,880 --> 00:51:55,400
Speaker 1: because I can answer it. Um, I'm going to have this.

936
00:51:55,600 --> 00:52:00,080
Speaker 1: So's actually kind of hard. Okay, I'm going to you.

937
00:52:02,360 --> 00:52:05,080
Speaker 1: Who is off you? There's one who you know is

938
00:52:05,200 --> 00:52:11,200
Speaker 1: off the table? No? Who w Yeah? I thought that

939
00:52:11,239 --> 00:52:16,600
Speaker 1: would be an instant kill. Instant kill, however, okay, yeah,

940
00:52:16,640 --> 00:52:19,600
Speaker 1: you're probably right. I should that should be an instant kill. Okay,

941
00:52:19,920 --> 00:52:24,759
Speaker 1: we'll do that, and then um we'll kiss d and

942
00:52:24,840 --> 00:52:29,000
Speaker 1: Mary Tippler. I did not think Tippler was marriage material,

943
00:52:29,120 --> 00:52:33,920
Speaker 1: but here we are. I didn't think he was either,

944
00:52:34,000 --> 00:52:41,439
Speaker 1: but here we are. Sons, sons things. Okay, Becca, are

945
00:52:41,520 --> 00:52:53,640
Speaker 1: you currently in love? Yes? I was so cute. I

946
00:52:53,640 --> 00:52:55,360
Speaker 1: feel like mine's in the same pain. Do would you

947
00:52:55,360 --> 00:53:00,960
Speaker 1: like to ask me? It's kind of okay in all seriousness,

948
00:53:01,360 --> 00:53:04,640
Speaker 1: if Ryan Seacrest secretly asked you on a date and

949
00:53:04,719 --> 00:53:07,400
Speaker 1: no one would know, would you go on that date.

950
00:53:08,840 --> 00:53:12,640
Speaker 1: It's so hard to answer that because it would never

951
00:53:12,760 --> 00:53:14,200
Speaker 1: happen in a millent, do you know what I mean? Like,

952
00:53:14,239 --> 00:53:19,040
Speaker 1: it's hard to like play that out because a if

953
00:53:19,080 --> 00:53:20,879
Speaker 1: some if he ever did ask me on a date

954
00:53:21,680 --> 00:53:23,480
Speaker 1: and we went, I would tell like it would not

955
00:53:23,520 --> 00:53:24,920
Speaker 1: be like a secret, you know what I mean? Like,

956
00:53:24,920 --> 00:53:27,319
Speaker 1: it would just be like the funniest thing ever. So

957
00:53:27,360 --> 00:53:31,600
Speaker 1: I'd probably say yes, all right. But even if you

958
00:53:31,719 --> 00:53:39,520
Speaker 1: like send over like contracts to sign so dumb, No,

959
00:53:39,600 --> 00:53:40,960
Speaker 1: There's no way I could keep it here and I'd

960
00:53:40,960 --> 00:53:44,000
Speaker 1: be like, oh my gosh, that'd be like, um, like

961
00:53:44,080 --> 00:53:48,000
Speaker 1: tubs asking me on on a date. It's great content? Yeah, yeah,

962
00:53:48,000 --> 00:53:51,240
Speaker 1: I mean it is. It is good content. Yeah, um

963
00:53:51,280 --> 00:53:53,560
Speaker 1: all right. Cool. At some point we're gonna get to

964
00:53:53,560 --> 00:53:55,080
Speaker 1: a question. You guys are't gonna wein, and I'm just

965
00:53:55,120 --> 00:54:00,960
Speaker 1: warning you, okay, um beccat this This question is from

966
00:54:01,120 --> 00:54:04,640
Speaker 1: Brooke Russell from our Facebook group. You were a virgin

967
00:54:04,680 --> 00:54:07,520
Speaker 1: when you started The Bachelor. What is the current number

968
00:54:07,520 --> 00:54:10,839
Speaker 1: of people you have slept with? Or are you still

969
00:54:10,880 --> 00:54:16,480
Speaker 1: a virching? Can I have answered this? Can I have

970
00:54:16,600 --> 00:54:19,640
Speaker 1: answered this question? What does that mean? Like? I can

971
00:54:19,680 --> 00:54:22,640
Speaker 1: answer one part of it? Not the other depends on

972
00:54:22,680 --> 00:54:28,000
Speaker 1: the part. What was the second part of the question. Well, okay,

973
00:54:28,040 --> 00:54:30,520
Speaker 1: technically the question is what's the current number of people

974
00:54:30,520 --> 00:54:33,640
Speaker 1: you've slept with? I guess I added these. I was

975
00:54:33,640 --> 00:54:35,839
Speaker 1: trying to give you an how but I feel bad.

976
00:54:35,880 --> 00:54:38,839
Speaker 1: I bet I have to be the host here. You

977
00:54:38,840 --> 00:54:41,080
Speaker 1: have to if you have to either answer the number

978
00:54:41,239 --> 00:54:49,560
Speaker 1: or you have to take a shot. All right, it's

979
00:54:49,560 --> 00:54:52,279
Speaker 1: not that many. It's just there's a reason why I

980
00:54:52,280 --> 00:54:59,080
Speaker 1: don't want to oh that, I know it's the same

981
00:54:59,120 --> 00:55:02,560
Speaker 1: person in mind. That was really hefty. I appreciated that

982
00:55:02,600 --> 00:55:06,879
Speaker 1: poor though. The first shot of the night, who did that?

983
00:55:07,040 --> 00:55:17,080
Speaker 1: Brooke Russell? Brooke Russell, I'm coming for you. I like

984
00:55:17,719 --> 00:55:21,520
Speaker 1: unintentionally shared my number ones. Yeah, that's one of my

985
00:55:21,600 --> 00:55:25,040
Speaker 1: favorite moments from the morning show of all time, of

986
00:55:25,120 --> 00:55:27,920
Speaker 1: all time. I know we've mentioned this podcast before, but

987
00:55:29,120 --> 00:55:32,840
Speaker 1: it was so I want my my husband to be

988
00:55:33,160 --> 00:55:36,200
Speaker 1: going like my double digits or whatever. No, it was

989
00:55:36,239 --> 00:55:39,600
Speaker 1: like some some study that said, like before the age

990
00:55:39,640 --> 00:55:42,960
Speaker 1: of thirty, I can't remember something Ryan read and he

991
00:55:43,040 --> 00:55:46,600
Speaker 1: was like, it's it's uh the numbers, I remembers ten

992
00:55:46,719 --> 00:55:49,279
Speaker 1: or something, and he's like, Tanya, is that accurate? And

993
00:55:49,280 --> 00:55:51,920
Speaker 1: I was like, well kind of, and I was like, well,

994
00:55:51,960 --> 00:55:55,200
Speaker 1: I'm not at ten. I can't remember exactly how it happened,

995
00:55:57,040 --> 00:55:59,400
Speaker 1: it was something like that. It was and You're like, well,

996
00:55:59,400 --> 00:56:00,880
Speaker 1: I'm not there. And then he's like, well, is the

997
00:56:01,000 --> 00:56:03,799
Speaker 1: number higher than nine? And you're like, yeah, no. I

998
00:56:03,840 --> 00:56:06,479
Speaker 1: was like no, it's it's it's not higher than what

999
00:56:06,560 --> 00:56:10,319
Speaker 1: was it? It was nine? Was like, but it's higher

1000
00:56:10,360 --> 00:56:18,439
Speaker 1: than eight. Wow. So good. Like she's just not good

1001
00:56:18,480 --> 00:56:21,880
Speaker 1: at secrets, which is so refreshing. It wasn't even like

1002
00:56:21,920 --> 00:56:23,440
Speaker 1: I was trying to keep it a secret, but like

1003
00:56:23,480 --> 00:56:25,400
Speaker 1: the fact that what came out of my mouth was

1004
00:56:25,440 --> 00:56:28,000
Speaker 1: just like me giving my number without giving it. I

1005
00:56:28,040 --> 00:56:32,759
Speaker 1: was just like, cool, Okay, Tanya, here's your question. So

1006
00:56:33,520 --> 00:56:37,560
Speaker 1: some means I'm I'm uncomfortable asking it, but I have

1007
00:56:37,719 --> 00:56:40,600
Speaker 1: to do it. I feel like Mark came up with

1008
00:56:40,640 --> 00:56:45,120
Speaker 1: these just because he knew he wouldn't have to. Mark's

1009
00:56:45,120 --> 00:56:50,840
Speaker 1: like laughing listening. Okay, uh, names someone you have thought

1010
00:56:50,840 --> 00:57:00,720
Speaker 1: about while practicing self love and that can mean that's

1011
00:57:01,040 --> 00:57:03,840
Speaker 1: so good Mark had do right now, that is a

1012
00:57:04,000 --> 00:57:08,040
Speaker 1: dad question. Practicing self love means masturbating, right, Yeah, Okay,

1013
00:57:08,080 --> 00:57:09,640
Speaker 1: Well I was gonna say it's like self love, like

1014
00:57:09,920 --> 00:57:15,759
Speaker 1: I listen to like Oprah likes you as your coworker

1015
00:57:15,840 --> 00:57:18,120
Speaker 1: who is under the purview of our HR department. I

1016
00:57:18,160 --> 00:57:23,640
Speaker 1: just wanted to say that definition is quite vague. Um,

1017
00:57:23,840 --> 00:57:27,720
Speaker 1: let's see, maybe you can answer both Oprah for like

1018
00:57:27,880 --> 00:57:32,440
Speaker 1: inward self love Oprah Davon Franklin like when I'm you know,

1019
00:57:33,680 --> 00:57:45,600
Speaker 1: doing that type of like just enriching my mind. Um,

1020
00:57:44,760 --> 00:57:49,840
Speaker 1: and if you're enriching your body, enriching my body? Who

1021
00:57:49,920 --> 00:57:55,120
Speaker 1: have I thought about I'm trying to think recently. It

1022
00:57:55,240 --> 00:57:57,560
Speaker 1: has to be a reason or just like ever whatever

1023
00:57:57,600 --> 00:58:00,600
Speaker 1: you want. Oh, I could go wherever, I could even

1024
00:58:00,600 --> 00:58:05,959
Speaker 1: go to like doct W. Okay, he's getting a lot

1025
00:58:05,960 --> 00:58:12,720
Speaker 1: of screen time tonight, air time whatever. Okay, back dated,

1026
00:58:13,280 --> 00:58:18,200
Speaker 1: that makes sense. Let's do this one. Pick one a

1027
00:58:18,280 --> 00:58:21,200
Speaker 1: life where you were never on the Bachelor, or when

1028
00:58:21,240 --> 00:58:24,120
Speaker 1: where you never had this podcast with Tanya. This is

1029
00:58:24,120 --> 00:58:28,920
Speaker 1: from Natalie Vossburg. It's tough because I want to have

1030
00:58:28,960 --> 00:58:31,720
Speaker 1: this podcast with Tania without having been on the Bachelor.

1031
00:58:32,080 --> 00:58:34,600
Speaker 1: Is this a hypothetical world where I just ended up

1032
00:58:34,640 --> 00:58:37,520
Speaker 1: on a podcast with Tania? Yeah, okay, I guess I

1033
00:58:37,640 --> 00:58:40,560
Speaker 1: take that right. You were that you were never on

1034
00:58:40,600 --> 00:58:45,320
Speaker 1: the Bachelor, or yeah, okay, I think because good answer.

1035
00:58:45,880 --> 00:58:48,040
Speaker 1: I felt like I ever needed to redeem myself from

1036
00:58:48,040 --> 00:58:58,120
Speaker 1: the okay, Tanya, Um, what is your grossest habit? Grossest?

1037
00:59:00,120 --> 00:59:02,840
Speaker 1: I mean it's not a habit of plucking my bikini

1038
00:59:02,880 --> 00:59:06,080
Speaker 1: line was pretty gross. I don't feel like that's gross.

1039
00:59:06,120 --> 00:59:12,040
Speaker 1: Self care, self care. Um, I'd like to uh uh,

1040
00:59:12,360 --> 00:59:15,840
Speaker 1: what's the word, um, angrown hairs. I like to pick

1041
00:59:15,880 --> 00:59:23,480
Speaker 1: up my angrown hairs all over my body? Oh, unnecessary gross?

1042
00:59:23,960 --> 00:59:26,280
Speaker 1: You love and beyond for the question? Yeah, well I

1043
00:59:26,280 --> 00:59:28,200
Speaker 1: get you get them in your bikini line? Where else?

1044
00:59:28,240 --> 00:59:30,200
Speaker 1: I get them on my legs a little bit? What

1045
00:59:30,280 --> 00:59:33,400
Speaker 1: else do you get them? Or? Pretty much? It like

1046
00:59:33,440 --> 00:59:35,360
Speaker 1: I can't see my armpits. I don't. We just want

1047
00:59:35,400 --> 00:59:40,000
Speaker 1: to just let him go, all right, Becka, what number? Well,

1048
00:59:40,480 --> 00:59:44,080
Speaker 1: we're on A we're like a third of the way. Dinky,

1049
00:59:44,600 --> 00:59:52,080
Speaker 1: we're about halfway? Uh, kiss Mary kill Jojo Haley and Robert.

1050
00:59:52,760 --> 01:00:01,080
Speaker 1: Oh interesting three? Interesting three. I'm gonna kiss Joe, Joe,

1051
01:00:01,200 --> 01:00:06,440
Speaker 1: I'm gonna marry I'm gonna kill Robert. That's good, solid choices.

1052
01:00:07,000 --> 01:00:09,439
Speaker 1: Something I love about the kiss Mary Kill, like making

1053
01:00:09,480 --> 01:00:11,840
Speaker 1: it like safer work, is that like, we don't have

1054
01:00:11,880 --> 01:00:14,560
Speaker 1: a problem to saying we're murdering somebody, but we have

1055
01:00:14,600 --> 01:00:17,920
Speaker 1: to kiss them and it doesn't take me laugh. Okay, Tanya,

1056
01:00:19,000 --> 01:00:24,120
Speaker 1: you have a kiss Mary kill as well? Uh? Ryan, Seacres,

1057
01:00:25,440 --> 01:00:30,800
Speaker 1: Mark Monitski and Eastern Allen. I saw this one. I

1058
01:00:30,880 --> 01:00:34,880
Speaker 1: was like, this is so good. I can't kill any

1059
01:00:34,920 --> 01:00:40,280
Speaker 1: of you. Shot shot Okay, So here's what I would do.

1060
01:00:40,400 --> 01:00:43,760
Speaker 1: I would sacrifice myself. This is not you don't get

1061
01:00:43,760 --> 01:00:46,919
Speaker 1: to weasel out of this one. Try to weasel every

1062
01:00:46,920 --> 01:00:49,840
Speaker 1: time we do a kiss Mary kill? Can I kill you?

1063
01:00:49,920 --> 01:00:53,120
Speaker 1: Don't you take a shot? How can I kill any

1064
01:00:53,160 --> 01:00:56,040
Speaker 1: of you? Guys? Kill Ryan? He's not part of this podcast.

1065
01:00:56,120 --> 01:01:00,680
Speaker 1: Can't kill Ryan. It's like my other half. Can kill Mark,

1066
01:01:00,800 --> 01:01:02,920
Speaker 1: can't kill Eastern or kill can't kill Mark? Do you

1067
01:01:02,960 --> 01:01:08,360
Speaker 1: want me to pour it O? I can't sacrifice myself.

1068
01:01:12,040 --> 01:01:14,080
Speaker 1: I can't kill any of them. I can't kill any

1069
01:01:14,120 --> 01:01:16,800
Speaker 1: of you. It's not bad. I can't kill any of you.

1070
01:01:17,240 --> 01:01:22,560
Speaker 1: That makes me happy. Him on the chopping block. I

1071
01:01:22,600 --> 01:01:24,080
Speaker 1: was looking forward to this because I'm like, I'm gonna

1072
01:01:24,120 --> 01:01:26,040
Speaker 1: look her in the eye and watch her say I

1073
01:01:26,040 --> 01:01:31,240
Speaker 1: would kill were reading I would kiss Ryan and add

1074
01:01:31,320 --> 01:01:34,480
Speaker 1: Mary Mark, alright, No, I would never. I would not

1075
01:01:34,560 --> 01:01:37,280
Speaker 1: kill any of you. We were reading these on the

1076
01:01:37,320 --> 01:01:40,160
Speaker 1: plane and I was like, could you aidswer this one?

1077
01:01:40,240 --> 01:01:41,400
Speaker 1: She was like, I might have to take I think

1078
01:01:41,440 --> 01:01:42,800
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to take a shot for that one.

1079
01:01:43,160 --> 01:01:46,720
Speaker 1: I can't. Oh, I love you all so much. I

1080
01:01:46,720 --> 01:01:49,240
Speaker 1: could never kill even in like that to take the

1081
01:01:49,240 --> 01:01:52,520
Speaker 1: full shot. Poured. No, I'm sorry half. I poured half

1082
01:01:52,520 --> 01:01:54,480
Speaker 1: of mine that was in there, and then like a drip. No,

1083
01:01:54,680 --> 01:01:56,960
Speaker 1: you did not, Becca, this was double the amount you

1084
01:01:56,960 --> 01:01:59,960
Speaker 1: took for years. No, it's not. Yes, it is. If

1085
01:02:00,000 --> 01:02:03,040
Speaker 1: you're not going to play play fair, than we don't play.

1086
01:02:03,120 --> 01:02:04,880
Speaker 1: But then I'm gonna start pouring years from now. I mean,

1087
01:02:04,960 --> 01:02:08,840
Speaker 1: it's fine, So take the rest of that. I can't

1088
01:02:08,920 --> 01:02:12,680
Speaker 1: kill any of them. She's still saying she can't killing you.

1089
01:02:15,240 --> 01:02:19,200
Speaker 1: There's still more you just you just wait. Okay, we'll

1090
01:02:19,200 --> 01:02:24,000
Speaker 1: take the rest of them, and then I'll just wait. Wow,

1091
01:02:24,080 --> 01:02:27,560
Speaker 1: she still left them. It's like coconut. You barely can

1092
01:02:27,600 --> 01:02:37,280
Speaker 1: taste them. So foul. She would have killed you, have

1093
01:02:37,480 --> 01:02:44,160
Speaker 1: killed you. Name every former Bachelor contestant you have fooled

1094
01:02:44,160 --> 01:02:52,200
Speaker 1: around with off camera? Oh, what's fooled around with? Anything?

1095
01:02:52,200 --> 01:03:00,040
Speaker 1: More kissing and such kissing, etcetera. I know some of

1096
01:03:00,120 --> 01:03:02,440
Speaker 1: these two, so you better not miss any of them.

1097
01:03:02,480 --> 01:03:05,200
Speaker 1: How many do you know? Off camp? That's not that's all.

1098
01:03:05,200 --> 01:03:07,800
Speaker 1: I'm trying to figure out a few I know, but

1099
01:03:07,880 --> 01:03:12,959
Speaker 1: I'm trying to I'm asking you how many so I remember? Okay, Well,

1100
01:03:13,040 --> 01:03:19,440
Speaker 1: Robert including is three? Yeah, mm hmmm. I'm so tempted

1101
01:03:19,480 --> 01:03:22,600
Speaker 1: to take a shot on this one, but I'm just

1102
01:03:22,600 --> 01:03:31,240
Speaker 1: gonna do it. Um Chase McNairy, yep Ding, Robert Ding

1103
01:03:32,720 --> 01:03:37,000
Speaker 1: and I had a very drunken this is all kis

1104
01:03:37,240 --> 01:03:47,360
Speaker 1: with Dean. My fan picture is coming true. This is

1105
01:03:47,400 --> 01:03:52,480
Speaker 1: so enlightening. All right, let's oh, I will say all

1106
01:03:52,480 --> 01:03:55,480
Speaker 1: of the not that I don't think they're amazing guys,

1107
01:03:55,520 --> 01:03:59,120
Speaker 1: but I was drunk for all of them. But Robert

1108
01:04:00,920 --> 01:04:04,880
Speaker 1: true fact. All right, tell you what is? What is

1109
01:04:04,920 --> 01:04:08,280
Speaker 1: the largest object you've ever had in your rear end?

1110
01:04:20,640 --> 01:04:26,120
Speaker 1: I not coming um what have I had in my

1111
01:04:26,160 --> 01:04:36,400
Speaker 1: rear end? Um? The question maybe one to two options?

1112
01:04:37,120 --> 01:04:44,520
Speaker 1: There are two options? Uh. The comparisons going on in

1113
01:04:44,560 --> 01:05:01,360
Speaker 1: your head right now? Are I um so embarrassed to

1114
01:05:01,480 --> 01:05:06,160
Speaker 1: like even tell it? But I have tried putting um

1115
01:05:06,240 --> 01:05:11,200
Speaker 1: something up there an eggplant an egg plant, Yes, and

1116
01:05:11,280 --> 01:05:15,640
Speaker 1: I think the eggplant got maybe too like half of

1117
01:05:15,720 --> 01:05:20,000
Speaker 1: an inch its way in and I freaked out and

1118
01:05:20,040 --> 01:05:23,640
Speaker 1: started crying because it hurts so bad. So I cannot

1119
01:05:23,720 --> 01:05:32,240
Speaker 1: believe you to take a shot. Hero embarrassed listening to this.

1120
01:05:32,440 --> 01:05:42,560
Speaker 1: I'm kind of embarrassed because my mom listened. Sorry, mom,

1121
01:05:42,960 --> 01:05:46,360
Speaker 1: but it was with a really nice boy. Yeah you trusted.

1122
01:05:46,520 --> 01:05:53,160
Speaker 1: I trusted. Yeah, I don't know why. Alright, Becca, tell

1123
01:05:53,240 --> 01:05:55,720
Speaker 1: us the name of the person you're currently in a

1124
01:05:55,760 --> 01:06:02,520
Speaker 1: relationship with. Here we go. I've been waiting for this

1125
01:06:02,600 --> 01:06:06,480
Speaker 1: moment some time. Bring the shot, and you have to

1126
01:06:06,520 --> 01:06:09,080
Speaker 1: take the whole thing, Okay, but like, oh no, it's

1127
01:06:09,080 --> 01:06:10,600
Speaker 1: going to be equal as to what I just did.

1128
01:06:12,120 --> 01:06:16,000
Speaker 1: That is way more. No, no, it's not much more

1129
01:06:16,040 --> 01:06:21,000
Speaker 1: than I poured. But it's not let me fair is fair? No,

1130
01:06:21,200 --> 01:06:24,520
Speaker 1: it's like what I have comparing. I know I have

1131
01:06:24,640 --> 01:06:29,360
Speaker 1: the visual in mind. We're almost to the end, you guys,

1132
01:06:29,360 --> 01:06:33,240
Speaker 1: So is not the last one like this? Yes? Actually great.

1133
01:06:34,000 --> 01:06:36,200
Speaker 1: I just was wondering if there's one. There's one more

1134
01:06:36,320 --> 01:06:39,640
Speaker 1: that might be spicy, But bring it, but I think

1135
01:06:39,640 --> 01:06:44,760
Speaker 1: you'll answer it, hopefully you will. All Right, Becka needs

1136
01:06:44,760 --> 01:06:48,120
Speaker 1: to finish hers before I go down to finish finish

1137
01:06:48,400 --> 01:06:51,760
Speaker 1: before I answer mine. She made me do it. You

1138
01:06:51,840 --> 01:06:55,480
Speaker 1: all witnessed it. Let's put because you put yours down

1139
01:06:55,480 --> 01:07:00,720
Speaker 1: on the table. M h. It is like watching you

1140
01:07:00,760 --> 01:07:06,120
Speaker 1: do that actually hurt for future boyfriends? What parts of

1141
01:07:06,160 --> 01:07:08,880
Speaker 1: your body are most sensitive and drives you crazy when

1142
01:07:08,920 --> 01:07:16,680
Speaker 1: a partner touches it? If markro that, um, I am

1143
01:07:16,840 --> 01:07:23,840
Speaker 1: very sensitive around my neck weirdly, PG answer, well, I

1144
01:07:23,840 --> 01:07:32,919
Speaker 1: mean it's yeah, it's an Uh what is the word arodisiac? No? What? Ye? Yeah,

1145
01:07:33,040 --> 01:07:36,000
Speaker 1: that's for sure. That's Tanya's a rogin is own. However,

1146
01:07:36,240 --> 01:07:38,280
Speaker 1: I have heard I have not experienced this, but I

1147
01:07:38,320 --> 01:07:42,000
Speaker 1: have heard sucking on toes is very erotic. I have

1148
01:07:42,160 --> 01:07:44,720
Speaker 1: not experienced it myself, but I am very down to try,

1149
01:07:44,800 --> 01:07:52,479
Speaker 1: so futured boyfriend toes the impetus right here? I heard?

1150
01:07:52,560 --> 01:07:54,320
Speaker 1: Did you not? Have you not heard this? I just

1151
01:07:54,640 --> 01:07:57,400
Speaker 1: something about the way you say things makes everything like

1152
01:07:57,440 --> 01:08:04,240
Speaker 1: a little bit grosser, you know, like, I don't know,

1153
01:08:06,040 --> 01:08:12,600
Speaker 1: have you ever had your toe cuckled? No? He sucked licked? No, Tanya,

1154
01:08:12,720 --> 01:08:15,400
Speaker 1: I'm telling you. Everybody says it's like the best thing ever. Well,

1155
01:08:15,440 --> 01:08:19,599
Speaker 1: what happened? Let us know what it happens to you. Well,

1156
01:08:19,600 --> 01:08:21,280
Speaker 1: it won't happen for a while because I quit, but

1157
01:08:22,680 --> 01:08:26,240
Speaker 1: I will once it happens. Alright, Becca, have you ever

1158
01:08:26,240 --> 01:08:29,639
Speaker 1: gotten caught engaging in sexual activity? This is from Sharon

1159
01:08:29,680 --> 01:08:35,000
Speaker 1: Williams on the Facebook group. Uh no, no, no, you've

1160
01:08:35,040 --> 01:08:41,479
Speaker 1: never been caught. All right, Good for you. That was

1161
01:08:41,560 --> 01:08:43,680
Speaker 1: like a deep sigh of relief being able to just

1162
01:08:43,720 --> 01:08:47,040
Speaker 1: answer that quick. There's only one more for each of you.

1163
01:08:50,720 --> 01:08:53,280
Speaker 1: Oh wait, sorry, Tanya you have you have one extra.

1164
01:08:54,520 --> 01:08:58,840
Speaker 1: Tanya has one extra. Um, if you had to marry

1165
01:08:58,880 --> 01:09:03,519
Speaker 1: one of your ex is, who would you choose? You

1166
01:09:03,640 --> 01:09:12,280
Speaker 1: have to marry them ex boyfriends? Um, well, I would

1167
01:09:12,360 --> 01:09:14,720
Speaker 1: say one, but he's like married to somebody else, so

1168
01:09:14,760 --> 01:09:16,600
Speaker 1: I feel like that's like, well, I mean this is

1169
01:09:16,880 --> 01:09:22,520
Speaker 1: messed up, right, Yeah, but you have to do it. Yeah,

1170
01:09:22,560 --> 01:09:29,559
Speaker 1: I would say I dated this guy in college. I'm

1171
01:09:29,560 --> 01:09:33,240
Speaker 1: pretty sure he's dating somebody now. But we had a

1172
01:09:33,280 --> 01:09:37,320
Speaker 1: brief romance and it was good and he didn't screw

1173
01:09:37,360 --> 01:09:38,960
Speaker 1: me over or like do you know what I mean? Like,

1174
01:09:38,960 --> 01:09:40,880
Speaker 1: he didn't really cause a lot of trauma to me,

1175
01:09:41,400 --> 01:09:44,519
Speaker 1: so I would open that door again. His name is Tyler,

1176
01:09:44,680 --> 01:09:46,639
Speaker 1: the one that you were like kind of like whatever

1177
01:09:46,680 --> 01:09:49,840
Speaker 1: about Yeah, it was like getting over there. It was

1178
01:09:49,880 --> 01:09:52,160
Speaker 1: a rebound a little bit, a little bit. Yeah, so

1179
01:09:52,200 --> 01:09:55,160
Speaker 1: he never did he didn't. Yeah. Well, like it's like

1180
01:09:55,200 --> 01:09:57,559
Speaker 1: if you go back to like all my boyfriends, they

1181
01:09:57,600 --> 01:10:00,840
Speaker 1: all have created some sort of trauma to so I

1182
01:10:00,880 --> 01:10:02,240
Speaker 1: feel like I want to go to the one that's

1183
01:10:02,680 --> 01:10:04,840
Speaker 1: he's the safest. Yeah, I feel like you do in

1184
01:10:04,880 --> 01:10:14,519
Speaker 1: that one. No, he did, but peacefully songs songs heartbreak. Yeah, Okay,

1185
01:10:14,520 --> 01:10:17,679
Speaker 1: back at last question, And I'm sorry this is similar

1186
01:10:17,680 --> 01:10:20,120
Speaker 1: to an earlier one, but the people want to know.

1187
01:10:20,160 --> 01:10:22,720
Speaker 1: This is from Aubrey g no time here for a

1188
01:10:22,840 --> 01:10:32,840
Speaker 1: year or no Phoebe for a year. The long pause

1189
01:10:32,960 --> 01:10:42,800
Speaker 1: is slightly concerning. I might have to drink. You have

1190
01:10:42,840 --> 01:10:47,760
Speaker 1: to drink happy to poor one for I can't give

1191
01:10:47,840 --> 01:10:54,200
Speaker 1: up Phoebe for a year, and I gain it's fine.

1192
01:10:54,200 --> 01:10:59,360
Speaker 1: I couldn't kill Eastern Mark or Ryan. So there you go.

1193
01:10:59,479 --> 01:11:05,160
Speaker 1: Drink up outer cup. Oh my god, I'm like, I'm

1194
01:11:05,200 --> 01:11:12,280
Speaker 1: not gonna feel well tomorrow. Drink up girl. It was

1195
01:11:12,280 --> 01:11:19,800
Speaker 1: a simple answer. It wasn't I'd give up Phoebe. She's

1196
01:11:19,800 --> 01:11:24,200
Speaker 1: not your dog. Of course you would, and she'll be okay.

1197
01:11:24,240 --> 01:11:29,880
Speaker 1: I think she's gonna Dania will be okay. I actually debatable.

1198
01:11:29,880 --> 01:11:32,160
Speaker 1: I think Phoebe would be more okay than Danya would

1199
01:11:32,160 --> 01:11:37,839
Speaker 1: be true. All right, last one, Tanya, you've had one shot.

1200
01:11:38,160 --> 01:11:42,880
Speaker 1: Do you understand that I don't drink flavored anything. So

1201
01:11:42,960 --> 01:11:45,679
Speaker 1: the fact that we're on the pineapple farm drinking pineapple

1202
01:11:45,720 --> 01:11:50,040
Speaker 1: infused rum and tequila and vodka and now this it's

1203
01:11:50,920 --> 01:11:57,400
Speaker 1: doing something to me and to my brain. And we

1204
01:11:57,479 --> 01:11:58,880
Speaker 1: kind of got the best of both worlds on this

1205
01:11:58,880 --> 01:12:01,040
Speaker 1: one because she did kind of she didn't answer at all.

1206
01:12:03,479 --> 01:12:05,360
Speaker 1: You don't want to know, you don't you don't want

1207
01:12:05,360 --> 01:12:07,800
Speaker 1: to believe what you heard. I don't want to You

1208
01:12:07,840 --> 01:12:10,920
Speaker 1: were in another dimension. It went by a second for you.

1209
01:12:11,840 --> 01:12:19,120
Speaker 1: I'm chose Phoebe drinking h oh, it actually hurts. Not

1210
01:12:19,160 --> 01:12:23,559
Speaker 1: one gave me a shivers. What's the most annoyed you've

1211
01:12:23,560 --> 01:12:27,479
Speaker 1: ever been with? Becca? Oh? Like like last night. I

1212
01:12:27,479 --> 01:12:31,400
Speaker 1: don't think it's hard. That's a not hard to answer. Um,

1213
01:12:31,479 --> 01:12:35,960
Speaker 1: I'm the most annoyed I've ever been at you when

1214
01:12:36,560 --> 01:12:38,800
Speaker 1: remember that time you like stopped talking to me for

1215
01:12:38,840 --> 01:12:41,920
Speaker 1: like a few days. Yeah? But what what what prompted that?

1216
01:12:41,960 --> 01:12:44,760
Speaker 1: I probably didn't text you back or something for like

1217
01:12:44,880 --> 01:12:48,800
Speaker 1: an hour? No, what was that? I literally think it

1218
01:12:48,920 --> 01:12:53,439
Speaker 1: was something like I hadn't responded to your text or something.

1219
01:12:55,920 --> 01:12:59,040
Speaker 1: There was something I do remember. There was like one No,

1220
01:13:00,080 --> 01:13:02,400
Speaker 1: there was something where like I need can was it

1221
01:13:02,840 --> 01:13:05,280
Speaker 1: the check? No? There was something where like I needed

1222
01:13:05,320 --> 01:13:08,360
Speaker 1: an answer from you, and I texted you and like

1223
01:13:08,479 --> 01:13:10,960
Speaker 1: hours went by no response, and I literally kept a

1224
01:13:11,040 --> 01:13:12,439
Speaker 1: question mark question where you know me? And just like

1225
01:13:12,560 --> 01:13:15,200
Speaker 1: rapid fire, and she wasn't texting me back, and yet

1226
01:13:15,280 --> 01:13:17,840
Speaker 1: she was like on Instagram posting stories and stuff, and

1227
01:13:17,840 --> 01:13:20,000
Speaker 1: I was like, are you flipping kidding me? Like I

1228
01:13:20,080 --> 01:13:23,799
Speaker 1: was so pissed, but I can't remember what I needed.

1229
01:13:25,880 --> 01:13:31,240
Speaker 1: It was an answer back. Yeah, the most annoying thing

1230
01:13:31,280 --> 01:13:36,559
Speaker 1: I've ever done. Yeah. I think it's a good sign. Yeah, yeah,

1231
01:13:36,560 --> 01:13:40,160
Speaker 1: I feel pretty good about that. So those are all

1232
01:13:40,200 --> 01:13:44,400
Speaker 1: of our truth or their questions? Those were not bad. Yeah,

1233
01:13:44,400 --> 01:13:46,760
Speaker 1: I'm actually surprised. I mean, you took so you took

1234
01:13:46,800 --> 01:13:51,400
Speaker 1: one shot, took que what were they? What did I

1235
01:13:51,439 --> 01:13:54,880
Speaker 1: take you about? How many people have slept with Tanya

1236
01:13:54,920 --> 01:13:59,479
Speaker 1: and Phoebe and who I'm dating? Yeah, I answered some

1237
01:13:59,600 --> 01:14:03,120
Speaker 1: questions that I like normally would not speak about but

1238
01:14:04,520 --> 01:14:06,360
Speaker 1: it is what it is. I mean I did too.

1239
01:14:06,479 --> 01:14:13,439
Speaker 1: I just said I put a eggplant up my ask um.

1240
01:14:13,520 --> 01:14:15,559
Speaker 1: I'm also like concerned that you guys were like, what

1241
01:14:15,680 --> 01:14:19,200
Speaker 1: was number two? I know what number two was? The

1242
01:14:19,280 --> 01:14:21,360
Speaker 1: enema or whatever? One are those things like the lax

1243
01:14:21,400 --> 01:14:28,720
Speaker 1: that I have a singing finger? No o, No, I

1244
01:14:28,760 --> 01:14:31,280
Speaker 1: had to put a laxative because obviously I have pooping issues,

1245
01:14:31,280 --> 01:14:32,840
Speaker 1: and I had to put a laxative up there ones

1246
01:14:33,080 --> 01:14:37,080
Speaker 1: and that was not enjoyable. See. I assumed it was

1247
01:14:37,200 --> 01:14:41,120
Speaker 1: just fecal matter, because that's not what you've played. It's

1248
01:14:41,120 --> 01:14:43,720
Speaker 1: just it said, what's the largest subject you've ever had

1249
01:14:43,800 --> 01:14:48,680
Speaker 1: in your room? The other thing? The other thing was

1250
01:14:48,880 --> 01:14:56,280
Speaker 1: actually larger than fecal matter, which I don't like saying that. Yeah, okay,

1251
01:14:56,320 --> 01:15:02,600
Speaker 1: don't always guys, above and beyond. That's that's what I do.

1252
01:15:02,680 --> 01:15:06,160
Speaker 1: It's my nickname, all right, Should we answer some emails?

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Speaker 1: Was that game good? Like, as a listener alson, you do?

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Speaker 1: I really do? Okay? I think so? I also think

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Speaker 1: I mean we've you know, everyone's opening up for being

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Speaker 1: honest with ourselves. We all show should be getting into

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Speaker 1: worldwide sensation extend bar. Um super simple, you forget all

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Speaker 1: play and work out on your schedule. You can view

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Speaker 1: from your computer, web enabled TV, tablet, smartphone and roku. Um.

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Speaker 1: I think that especially because we're traveling. We're in Hawaii,

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Speaker 1: having something like this is really great because you're traveling,

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Speaker 1: so it's like just super convenient. Yeah, the the extend

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Speaker 1: bar video, I've actually watched it, and the thing I

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Speaker 1: love the most about is there's a lot of exercises

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Speaker 1: you can do with just a chair. It's crazy. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Oh that's awesome. Um. Well, open fit has changed the

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Speaker 1: way we work out and with our code Becca, you

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Speaker 1: you can lose up to fifteen pounds in thirty days.

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Speaker 1: When you text Becca to thirty thirty thirty, that's three

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Speaker 1: to open Fit, all the workouts and nutrition information totally free. Again.

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Speaker 1: Just text Becca to thirty. You're going to text and

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Speaker 1: the word is Pecca. I can't feel my lips. The

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01:17:15,439 --> 01:17:17,599
Speaker 1: fact that I was able to read sentences right then?

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01:17:23,920 --> 01:17:26,120
Speaker 1: Shall we call Mr d and see what he's up to?

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Speaker 1: There is an update with that that I will give

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01:17:29,920 --> 01:17:32,800
Speaker 1: on our next podcast. Um, because I still need to

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01:17:33,000 --> 01:17:38,120
Speaker 1: dive into some territory. But it's a teaser and I'm

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01:17:38,160 --> 01:17:42,800
Speaker 1: still quitting. Oh, this is so dramatic because now I

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Speaker 1: feel like you're going to go into like a whole

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Speaker 1: extreme because you love extremes. I do. But you know

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Speaker 1: what's funny is when he said the whole like, uh,

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Speaker 1: turn on the like we're constantly turning on, turning on

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01:17:55,800 --> 01:17:58,400
Speaker 1: these lights. I'm not skinny enough, I'm not pretty enough,

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Speaker 1: I'm not far enough in my career. I'm not uh

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Speaker 1: confident enough. I'm not you know, You're constantly flipping some

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01:18:04,439 --> 01:18:06,640
Speaker 1: stuff on and then other things are getting turned off.

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01:18:06,720 --> 01:18:10,160
Speaker 1: It's like this constant battle, and every everybody deals with it.

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01:18:10,320 --> 01:18:12,320
Speaker 1: I'm not making enough money. I am making I'm making

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Speaker 1: good money. I'm not losing I'm losing my friends, Like,

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Speaker 1: do you know what I mean? That's this constant thing.

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Speaker 1: And it's like, if I just make sure that my

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Speaker 1: bliss that I'm just happy as I am, it's gonna

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Speaker 1: come in the way that it's supposed to, in a

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Speaker 1: different way than I would even think that. But it

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Speaker 1: could come. If someone going, I have this amazing guy

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Speaker 1: I want you to meet, would you be interesting going

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Speaker 1: out with him? Right? But it's just saying no. If

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Speaker 1: you're saying, I'm not desperately trying to make this happen

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Speaker 1: on my own exactly, I'm drunk right now. Let's do

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Speaker 1: an email for about this. This is from anonymous uh.

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Speaker 1: I assume it's a she uh twenty three years old.

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Speaker 1: A few months ago, I went through the worst thing

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Speaker 1: I've ever experienced. My boyfriend of almost nine years broke

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Speaker 1: up with me. We've been together since we were fourteen.

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Speaker 1: We grew up down the street from each other, went

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Speaker 1: to high school together. We did long distance for a

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Speaker 1: few years. In college, we ended up moving in together.

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Speaker 1: We've got two cats, graduated college together. I know we

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Speaker 1: were going through something bad, but I hoped it would pass. However,

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Speaker 1: my boyfriend decided it would be best to end things.

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Speaker 1: He's about to start medical school and we're about to

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Speaker 1: sign a new year lease on our apartment, and he

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Speaker 1: felt like he had a choice to make. He told

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Speaker 1: me this is the hardest thing he's ever had to do,

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Speaker 1: and then maybe we can get back together in the future.

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Speaker 1: If I'm being honest with you, the only thing getting

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Speaker 1: me through this is the hope we'll get back together.

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Speaker 1: I'm taking advantage of this time alone. I started counseling.

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to focus on me. I believe him when

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Speaker 1: he says he loves me and that he would love

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Speaker 1: if we worked out one day. But am I being

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01:19:36,760 --> 01:19:41,360
Speaker 1: naive by believing that we'll get back together. I just

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Speaker 1: want to say that I'm very proud of you for

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01:19:44,560 --> 01:19:48,480
Speaker 1: taking this time to focus on yourself, Like getting counseling

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01:19:48,560 --> 01:19:50,800
Speaker 1: is really brave because a lot of people don't even

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Speaker 1: give themselves the option to do that. I feel like,

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01:19:54,160 --> 01:19:57,120
Speaker 1: but I also don't think it's fair to him for

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01:19:57,240 --> 01:19:59,280
Speaker 1: him to break up with you and then say, but

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01:19:59,439 --> 01:20:02,800
Speaker 1: maybe we'll back together, Like he's choosing to end things

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01:20:02,800 --> 01:20:04,800
Speaker 1: because he doesn't want to be with you right now.

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Speaker 1: Whether he does come back around, you have no obligation

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01:20:08,800 --> 01:20:11,840
Speaker 1: to wait for him to do that. Yeah, I mean,

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Speaker 1: I think, uh, you can't live your life and operate

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01:20:16,360 --> 01:20:19,000
Speaker 1: from a place of hoping you're going to get back

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01:20:19,000 --> 01:20:21,719
Speaker 1: together with somebody. It's not a healthy place to be.

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01:20:22,200 --> 01:20:25,000
Speaker 1: I've been there, and it's just like not a good

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01:20:25,000 --> 01:20:27,080
Speaker 1: place to be. So I think that you need to

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01:20:28,400 --> 01:20:32,320
Speaker 1: um be in the mindset that like you're done and

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Speaker 1: if you are meant to be together and you happen

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Speaker 1: to get back together, then that's one thing. But I

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01:20:37,120 --> 01:20:40,240
Speaker 1: think you can't operate from that headspace because it really

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01:20:41,360 --> 01:20:43,479
Speaker 1: it changes the way that you act, It changes the

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01:20:43,520 --> 01:20:45,880
Speaker 1: way that you do things. So I think just like

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Speaker 1: changing your mental state for sure, Yeah, I think it

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01:20:48,439 --> 01:20:50,800
Speaker 1: limits you to really being able to live your life

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01:20:50,880 --> 01:20:53,760
Speaker 1: just hoping and praying because you're closed off to other

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Speaker 1: people and other opportunities. And I just think that I

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Speaker 1: really don't think it's fair that he did that. So

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Speaker 1: if he wanted to be with you, he would be

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Speaker 1: with you. He wouldn't end it with the hope of

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01:21:02,600 --> 01:21:06,000
Speaker 1: you'll be waiting for him when if he's ready. So

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Speaker 1: I think you move on, focus on yourself, be open

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Speaker 1: to the possibility of someone else coming along, but really

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01:21:12,080 --> 01:21:14,360
Speaker 1: focus on being single, because you've been single through some

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01:21:14,479 --> 01:21:17,160
Speaker 1: like really crucial I mean, you've been in a relationship

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01:21:17,479 --> 01:21:21,880
Speaker 1: through some really crucial years of your life. Yeah, I mean,

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Speaker 1: I will be very surprised if he comes, if he says, like,

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Speaker 1: now's the time, let's get back together. I don't think

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01:21:28,680 --> 01:21:30,960
Speaker 1: that's happening. I think he's having a hard time making

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01:21:31,000 --> 01:21:33,639
Speaker 1: that decision. That's a very hard thing to do, and

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01:21:33,680 --> 01:21:36,320
Speaker 1: he's trying to soften it by well, you know, maybe

1379
01:21:36,320 --> 01:21:37,599
Speaker 1: we can get back to you. And I think it's

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01:21:37,600 --> 01:21:39,680
Speaker 1: really unfair of him to do that. I think it

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01:21:39,760 --> 01:21:42,040
Speaker 1: was to make him feel better that it was like

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01:21:42,560 --> 01:21:44,720
Speaker 1: it was like to make him feel better that he

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01:21:44,800 --> 01:21:47,760
Speaker 1: was ending things with you, which was a very selfish thing.

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01:21:47,840 --> 01:21:49,600
Speaker 1: And I don't I don't think that he did it

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01:21:49,640 --> 01:21:51,519
Speaker 1: in a way of like trying to hurt you, but

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Speaker 1: that's ultimately what he did. And I'm really sorry that

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01:21:55,160 --> 01:21:56,920
Speaker 1: you're going through this because nine years with someone is

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01:21:56,960 --> 01:22:02,840
Speaker 1: a very long time. Wow, this has been quite the episode, guys.

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Speaker 1: I can't feel my lip. We've had, we have a

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Speaker 1: we've had a lot this episode to drink and to

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01:22:10,600 --> 01:22:16,800
Speaker 1: talk about. I think the title should be I Quit. Yeah. Well,

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01:22:16,840 --> 01:22:20,400
Speaker 1: one of the questions that something like, um, what if

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01:22:20,439 --> 01:22:24,680
Speaker 1: Gray's Anatomy ends? Will this podcast in? No, that's what

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01:22:24,800 --> 01:22:28,920
Speaker 1: I mean. Yeah, so you think we have two more

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01:22:28,920 --> 01:22:31,840
Speaker 1: seasons locked in? Everybody, but you said the title being

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01:22:31,840 --> 01:22:37,280
Speaker 1: I quit. It's like a little teaser I quit. Shall

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Speaker 1: I can't feel my lips? When mom and mall yeah,

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01:22:42,200 --> 01:22:46,000
Speaker 1: so I go off of the time here right, Yeah, okay,

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Speaker 1: so that's point. Um no, it's twenty two Time of

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Speaker 1: Death six, I think. Yeah,