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Speaker 1: Hello.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I can hear you.

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Speaker 1: Hey, what's up. What's your name?

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Speaker 2: My name is Dylan Dylan.

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Speaker 1: Have we ever talked before? Dylan?

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Speaker 2: No, we haven't, not at all.

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Speaker 1: What's up, man?

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Speaker 2: How you doing A few times? Well?

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Speaker 1: You doing?

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Speaker 2: Yeh? I'm looking for meaning, looking for meaning in life.

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Speaker 2: I kind of want to not find myself waking up

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Speaker 2: at the end of my life and looking back and

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Speaker 2: realizing that I didn't live it along the way.

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Speaker 1: I just kind of waited, Yeah, yeah, I would be

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Speaker 1: happy to talk about that. How old are you?

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Speaker 2: Thirty five?

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Speaker 1: Okay, what do you do? You do you think you've

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Speaker 1: been well? I guess that would start with, like, as,

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Speaker 1: what in the first thirty five years of your life

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Speaker 1: have you been doing or or valuing?

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Speaker 2: You know? Yeah, well flash summary of thirty five years deck.

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Speaker 2: I was raised hyper religious and a pseudo kind of

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Speaker 2: cult like branch of Christianity. I came to like the

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Speaker 2: Westboro Baptistricts. Got out of that. Whoa, yeah, you can.

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Speaker 1: Keep keep keep keep going. No no, no, top, I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: sit back and shut up keep going.

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Speaker 2: So eighteen ran Off joined the army, went to Iraq,

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Speaker 2: fell in love with dow in my unit. We were

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Speaker 2: together during our deployment, talked under the stars in the

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Speaker 2: desert and thought that it was going to be forever

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Speaker 2: and if we could get through war, then we could

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Speaker 2: the rest. And didn't it turn out to be what

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Speaker 2: I thought. We were just young, and you know, she

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Speaker 2: wanted to go in and see what other options life has.

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Speaker 2: And I don't blame her for that, you know, Like

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Speaker 2: I said, we were both kids, but I took it

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Speaker 2: hard for the first fifteen years after that, and I

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Speaker 2: haven't had a relationship since working Can I can?

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Speaker 1: I can?

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Speaker 2: I can?

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Speaker 1: I stop you for I want to hear the rest

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Speaker 1: of your life story, but you say okay. To sum

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Speaker 1: it up, Yeah, you met this lady in your unit,

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Speaker 1: and you guys really fell in love with each other

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Speaker 1: and things didn't work out. She tried to pursue other options,

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Speaker 1: which I and you guys met when you were eighteen, Right,

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Speaker 1: that's what you say? Uh? You kind of alluded to

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Speaker 1: saying that it hit you pretty hard for the for

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Speaker 1: fifteen years after that. Tell me more about that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, Well, but basically my entire twenties in the

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Speaker 2: last I guess, like nineteen in the twenty and in

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Speaker 2: my entire twenties. I just was in a deep depression,

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Speaker 2: you know, working dead end jobs, and I ended up

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Speaker 2: in factory in the back room for six years, just

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Speaker 2: pay the bills and then going home and watching YouTube.

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Speaker 2: And I finally woke up when I had a very

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Speaker 2: close friend to past and I kind of got faced

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Speaker 2: with a decision where I was like, well, I could

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Speaker 2: so I chose to try. But now I'm there. Now

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Speaker 2: that's where I'm at. I met this place where I'm like,

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Speaker 2: it's like I'm paralyzed, existential paralyzed, pterialism.

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I don't know why I'm not trying, why I'm not

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Speaker 2: doing this thing.

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Speaker 3: I want to.

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Speaker 1: Let me let me, let me ask you to clarify

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Speaker 1: something you said. You woke up one day and then

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Speaker 1: decided you wanted to You said you had a friend

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Speaker 1: pass away and that was kind of like catalyst for you,

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Speaker 1: as you say, trying. How long ago was this.

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Speaker 2: In July twenty one? Yeah, Well, the only real friends

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Speaker 2: person I talked to about everything. We're just friends friends, friends, yeah,

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Speaker 2: not romantic. Yeah, but it was the surprise that happened fast.

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Speaker 1: When you said you were just working back a little bit,

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Speaker 1: you said that there's this thing with this girl hit

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Speaker 1: you hard for fifteen years. When you say you were

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Speaker 1: in a depression, are you not saying you were in

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Speaker 1: a depression? I was thinking about that relationship for fifteen years.

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Speaker 1: Would you were you?

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Speaker 2: I think it was it was a mix of things.

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Speaker 2: I ended up losing my state that I had in

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Speaker 3: I think it was.

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Speaker 2: Caused by a lot of different things, but one big

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Speaker 2: thing was definitely Yeah, I felt pretty worthless and not

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Speaker 2: worthy of people's time. I guess after that relationship so apart,

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Speaker 2: I didn't deal with it very healthily for those for

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Speaker 1: And you say you lost, you say you lost your faith,

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Speaker 2: Right, Yeah. I got exposed to more things in the world,

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Speaker 2: kids playing with a soccer ball in particular, and just

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Speaker 2: you know, I mean, I don't know, it's well, I mean, I.

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Speaker 1: Mean, yeah, you said, you said you grew up in

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Speaker 1: the Westboro Baptist Church, right.

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Speaker 2: You know, kind of a branch of uh what'd call

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Speaker 2: the first Baptist Northern Baptist Church that idolized the west

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Speaker 2: Bureo Baptistrict's not actually part of the west Boro baptistricts.

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Speaker 2: But we looked at them guys as like heroes on

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Speaker 1: But but you you know, yeah, you're going up in

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Speaker 1: you're they're fucked up.

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Speaker 2: Right exactly, that they're evil in some way. And then

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Speaker 2: they were just people when I.

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Speaker 1: Got right right.

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Speaker 2: Now?

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Speaker 1: Yea, you you said in twenty twenty one, you woke

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Speaker 2: I guess it. It meant like, I looks for a

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Speaker 2: and you know, it paid better and had more opportunities

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Speaker 2: as a career path. I thought that that was trying more.

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Speaker 2: I was hoping to maybe try writing. I don't know,

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Speaker 1: So when you said, when you say that you're you're

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Speaker 1: it was unlived. There's a power, there's a powerful uh

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Speaker 1: desires what But so you cut like to audit yourself

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Speaker 1: So what what?

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Speaker 2: What?

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Speaker 1: When you are thinking about these things, have you like

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Speaker 2: Yeah? I guess that's yeah, I mean, I've I mean

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Speaker 2: that's literally I guess. The question the existential crisis part

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Speaker 2: How do I create self? Value or work, you know,

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Speaker 2: that's been like my stumbling block because I do die

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Speaker 2: your validation from other people that I don't get it.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, no no at a certain point, God,

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Speaker 1: it's so hard to like fucking mentally get there. But

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Speaker 1: I'm also having the some epiphanies of like, you truly

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Speaker 2: You know.

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Speaker 1: You have to kind of build, you have to really

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Speaker 1: build like a solid foundation of like deciding that your

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Speaker 1: your having a good life? Uh? But again like I, uh, well,

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Speaker 1: what makes what would make you have a good life?

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Speaker 1: Like what do you what do you want? My dog?

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Speaker 2: I think connection with some people would be good, But

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Speaker 2: it feels like this herculean task, you know, because now

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Speaker 2: I'm got so much life baggage, you know, how do

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Speaker 2: just like you just bring so much more to it.

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Speaker 2: When we were on the playground as kid, you had nothing.

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Speaker 2: He just walked up and said, I want to be friends. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: and now we're friend cool.

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Speaker 1: You know, Oh man, you know, I totally feel where

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Speaker 1: you're coming from. Dude, I really do, I really feel

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Speaker 1: where you're coming from. And uh, I'm I can off.

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Speaker 1: I'm I'm gonna off for a thought to you, Why

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Speaker 3: Why?

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Speaker 1: Like? Why? Like why are you holding onto it? Why?

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Speaker 1: Like in your brain you're talking about like I I

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Speaker 1: It's hard to I wanted, you know, the whole I

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Speaker 1: can't release sit here and uh rant about how you

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Speaker 1: should you know, just let it go, because I really

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Speaker 2: But I think it's kind of very interesting.

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Speaker 1: It's a but it's a I just know in my

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Speaker 1: even though like, uh, I think I've done it in

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Speaker 1: in like my life and I think it's a makes sense,

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Speaker 1: but you you just it's a mistake to let it

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Speaker 1: mental forefront image of who you are. It's a real mistake,

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Speaker 1: and it is it is something that you have control

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Speaker 1: control of whether or not you want to let yeah, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: you got to change the story.

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Speaker 2: Well that's so I am to answer some of the

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Speaker 2: questions in the chat. I do go to the VIA

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Speaker 2: center and see it therapist, a real counselor too.

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Speaker 1: Oh oh sorry, do me a favorite? Do me a favorite?

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Speaker 1: Can you not? Can you not look at the chat?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 1: Sure, sure, sorry what we're saying.

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Speaker 2: So I was just gonna say that changing the story

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Speaker 2: I tell myself. I guess I had seen my baggage

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Speaker 2: of something that I thought I had to sit you know,

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Speaker 2: but you think like could literally just set it down

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Speaker 2: scrap it the first thirty five and let's just go

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Speaker 2: from here. No, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I don't I don't know if that's what I'm few.

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Speaker 1: Why do you hold on? Why would? Why the fuck would?

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Speaker 2: I guess that's the whimsical part about it. It's just like,

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Speaker 1: Dylan? Why don't you go instead of making it a cartoon,

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Speaker 2: I think it's, you know, I think it's fear of

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Speaker 1: You know, here's bejecting, Dylan Dylan, Dylan, Dylan, Dylan, Dylan.

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Speaker 1: You want to know something crazy want I'm gonna tell you.

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Speaker 1: So I'm gonna tell you something crazy. I believe this

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Speaker 1: the second you tried, you were successful if you So

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Speaker 1: And when you just sit in your house and you

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Speaker 1: fester with that, you're failing. Is because you're sitting and

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Speaker 1: Not whether or not your try was quote unquote successful

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Speaker 1: but just the fact that you tried, You put yourself

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Speaker 1: to go to. You try. Not so much that any

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Speaker 2: Well, yeah, that feels really I mean I'm really hyped

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Speaker 2: it resonates with me what you're saying, like the trying,

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Speaker 1: Right, So that so there, So all you gotta do

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Speaker 1: push yourself far enough to figure out that that wasn't

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Speaker 1: I just I can't. I you know, I hope, I hope.

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Speaker 1: I hope that this got through to you in some

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Speaker 1: I really hope that you find so you find some

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Speaker 2: It's really cool. I'll pop in the chat after my

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Speaker 1: Dude, please please please do please, dear God, please dear God.

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Speaker 1: If you, if you're if you do do this, which

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Speaker 1: I'd love to hear that you don't know when. Oh well,

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Speaker 1: let me you h we don't know when? When is there.

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Speaker 2: Well, I guess i'd have to just you know, make

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Speaker 1: Okay, what do you have to take time off work?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? I take some time off the work, you know.

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Speaker 1: All right? Do you have any oh you run a

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Speaker 2: Yeah? I do? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: All right, fucking do that ship, dude, God damn, do

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Speaker 2: All Right, I'm going to I'm gonna go to Paris.

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Speaker 2: I don't know for how long. A couple of days.

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Speaker 1: Cool. Yeah, that was terrible.

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Speaker 2: I don't know why I think that it wouldn't be.

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Speaker 1: Mean, if your goal is, if your goal is for

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Speaker 2: I don't know why I think the idea of telling somebody, oh,

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Speaker 1: You know what?

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Speaker 2: You know what?

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Speaker 1: You know what maybe you know what you know what

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Speaker 1: you know what? Maybe that really is all you need.

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Speaker 1: Maybe you do. Maybe I actually take back everything. I

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Speaker 1: I take it back. I actually don't think it's a

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Speaker 1: deal with this. So maybe maybe you do do that.

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00:26:17,080 --> 00:26:19,760
Speaker 1: I don't know. I I take back what I said. Well,

442
00:26:19,800 --> 00:26:23,240
Speaker 1: whatever you do, let me let me send therapy Gecko

443
00:26:24,080 --> 00:26:27,800
Speaker 1: mail at gmail dot com. Send me an email. Uh

444
00:26:28,240 --> 00:26:29,920
Speaker 1: if you if you have an update on this, I'm

445
00:26:30,000 --> 00:26:32,119
Speaker 1: very curious about it. Uh, Dylan, is there anything else

446
00:26:32,119 --> 00:26:33,280
Speaker 1: you want to say to the people of the computer

447
00:26:33,359 --> 00:26:33,760
Speaker 1: before we go?

448
00:26:36,560 --> 00:26:39,480
Speaker 2: Not at all. Just keep trying and and you know,

449
00:26:39,560 --> 00:26:42,200
Speaker 2: tell yourself a better story in your head.

450
00:26:42,280 --> 00:26:43,920
Speaker 1: I like that. I like that. I like I'm gonna

451
00:26:44,280 --> 00:26:46,159
Speaker 1: try to I'm gonna try to take some of the

452
00:26:46,280 --> 00:26:48,639
Speaker 1: fucking advice that I talk about on this plane. This

453
00:26:48,680 --> 00:26:51,960
Speaker 1: is why I I'm sorry to end this on the rap.

454
00:26:52,000 --> 00:26:54,639
Speaker 1: But I tell everything I say to callers on this

455
00:26:54,720 --> 00:26:57,840
Speaker 1: podcast is just me trying to convince myself of things.

456
00:26:58,280 --> 00:27:01,159
Speaker 1: So you know that thanks for that man, you have

457
00:27:01,160 --> 00:27:02,000
Speaker 1: a going Dylan.

458
00:27:03,040 --> 00:27:04,160
Speaker 2: You two get thank you.

459
00:27:07,359 --> 00:27:10,240
Speaker 1: It is funny the idea of him going, and I

460
00:27:10,359 --> 00:27:11,760
Speaker 1: had to look back. I had to be like, well,

461
00:27:11,960 --> 00:27:15,439
Speaker 1: why do I think that's a stupid idea? I still do.

462
00:27:15,680 --> 00:27:17,600
Speaker 1: I still kind of do think it's a stupid idea.

463
00:27:18,200 --> 00:27:22,320
Speaker 1: But again, the core is that he tried, he went

464
00:27:22,359 --> 00:27:25,359
Speaker 1: and did something maybe that could make him Just the

465
00:27:25,480 --> 00:27:30,679
Speaker 1: core I think the idea behind obviously you know, we

466
00:27:30,720 --> 00:27:33,200
Speaker 1: all know that, like and I've had this same conversation

467
00:27:33,240 --> 00:27:35,960
Speaker 1: with people on this podcast with obviously, like a travel

468
00:27:36,400 --> 00:27:40,280
Speaker 1: and going to new places isn't in and of itself,

469
00:27:40,520 --> 00:27:43,840
Speaker 1: is not going to like change make you happy, Like

470
00:27:44,520 --> 00:27:48,160
Speaker 1: I mean, I well, okay, in this case scenario, it's

471
00:27:48,240 --> 00:27:52,560
Speaker 1: just like if he hadn't done it forever and he

472
00:27:54,680 --> 00:27:58,520
Speaker 1: tried something he was uncomfortable with in an effort to

473
00:27:58,560 --> 00:28:00,560
Speaker 1: find more meaning to his life. I think this was

474
00:28:00,600 --> 00:28:03,960
Speaker 1: actually something to that that could be kind of powerful

475
00:28:04,680 --> 00:28:07,920
Speaker 1: about that, And you could achieve that by literally going

476
00:28:07,960 --> 00:28:09,639
Speaker 1: to France for dinner and then coming right home. But

477
00:28:09,680 --> 00:28:13,520
Speaker 1: it is a waste of money. Why would you do that? Hello?

478
00:28:13,880 --> 00:28:14,399
Speaker 4: Can you hear me?

479
00:28:14,440 --> 00:28:14,720
Speaker 2: Okay?

480
00:28:15,520 --> 00:28:16,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, Hi? What's your name?

481
00:28:17,000 --> 00:28:17,320
Speaker 4: Mercy?

482
00:28:18,400 --> 00:28:19,520
Speaker 1: Marcie? What's up? Marci?

483
00:28:19,600 --> 00:28:19,760
Speaker 2: What?

484
00:28:19,920 --> 00:28:20,320
Speaker 1: Uh?

485
00:28:20,520 --> 00:28:20,680
Speaker 4: How?

486
00:28:20,760 --> 00:28:24,719
Speaker 1: What? What brings you to want to talk on the

487
00:28:24,720 --> 00:28:26,359
Speaker 1: Therapy iCal podcast today?

488
00:28:27,640 --> 00:28:29,639
Speaker 4: Well, I've actually wanted to talk to you for a

489
00:28:29,680 --> 00:28:38,960
Speaker 4: long time. Cool, a little nervous, but otherwise I'm good. Sorry,

490
00:28:38,960 --> 00:28:40,640
Speaker 4: I was just feeding my cat's got a little out

491
00:28:40,640 --> 00:28:41,600
Speaker 4: of breath because I'm fair.

492
00:28:41,680 --> 00:28:43,800
Speaker 1: No, no, no worries, no worries.

493
00:28:45,640 --> 00:28:48,760
Speaker 4: I actually wanted to talk a little bit about, uh,

494
00:28:49,480 --> 00:28:53,760
Speaker 4: like something positive that's going on in my tumultuous world.

495
00:28:54,600 --> 00:28:56,000
Speaker 1: Cool. Yeah, let me hear it.

496
00:28:56,360 --> 00:29:01,240
Speaker 4: Yeah. So, going through a few, you know, pretty big

497
00:29:01,280 --> 00:29:07,960
Speaker 4: hardships between my husband and I, but he and I

498
00:29:08,000 --> 00:29:12,760
Speaker 4: are like stronger than we've ever been. Ohay, yeah, and

499
00:29:12,800 --> 00:29:15,880
Speaker 4: it feels really great. It was one of those like

500
00:29:16,600 --> 00:29:19,920
Speaker 4: I'm high in the shower thoughts that kind of piqued

501
00:29:19,920 --> 00:29:22,360
Speaker 4: my interest yesterday because we were just we've just been

502
00:29:22,400 --> 00:29:28,280
Speaker 4: going through it and with our families and just catastrophes

503
00:29:28,360 --> 00:29:31,280
Speaker 4: you know, here and there, and we live in Florida,

504
00:29:31,360 --> 00:29:34,200
Speaker 4: so we also deal with you know, so.

505
00:29:34,400 --> 00:29:36,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, did you guys get hit Did you guys get

506
00:29:36,280 --> 00:29:38,520
Speaker 1: hit by by Hurricane big Boy?

507
00:29:40,360 --> 00:29:44,680
Speaker 4: No, thankfully, we've actually made it been really really lucky

508
00:29:44,720 --> 00:29:49,280
Speaker 4: the last couple of years. Our area is kind of

509
00:29:49,320 --> 00:29:52,320
Speaker 4: isolated and off to the side, like we live. I

510
00:29:52,320 --> 00:29:54,480
Speaker 4: don't want to say exactly where, but we live very

511
00:29:54,480 --> 00:30:02,440
Speaker 4: close to Jacksonville, and we just somehow have totally been

512
00:30:02,480 --> 00:30:05,440
Speaker 4: missed by at least two of the hurricanes. And then

513
00:30:05,840 --> 00:30:08,960
Speaker 4: we got like you know, extreme outer bands and a

514
00:30:09,000 --> 00:30:12,520
Speaker 4: lot of like flooding and stuff where we live. But

515
00:30:12,600 --> 00:30:15,280
Speaker 4: other than that, we got really really lucky. It was

516
00:30:15,520 --> 00:30:16,440
Speaker 4: all of them this year.

517
00:30:18,040 --> 00:30:20,040
Speaker 1: How long have you and your husband been together.

518
00:30:21,840 --> 00:30:26,640
Speaker 4: We just celebrated our fifth anniversary in September five.

519
00:30:28,200 --> 00:30:28,480
Speaker 3: Five.

520
00:30:28,640 --> 00:30:32,200
Speaker 1: Yep, that's cool. That's cool. And so you said, you

521
00:30:32,280 --> 00:30:35,640
Speaker 1: said you have been through it tumultuous times, but you're

522
00:30:35,720 --> 00:30:36,960
Speaker 1: stronger than ever.

523
00:30:38,080 --> 00:30:42,360
Speaker 4: Stronger than ever. Like even even when we fight, which

524
00:30:42,480 --> 00:30:48,480
Speaker 4: is very rare, we always come out like learning something

525
00:30:48,520 --> 00:30:52,040
Speaker 4: new about one another, as if we Sometimes I feel

526
00:30:52,080 --> 00:30:53,880
Speaker 4: like we're just meeting each other for the first time

527
00:30:53,960 --> 00:30:56,360
Speaker 4: over and over and over again, and it feels really

528
00:30:56,360 --> 00:30:59,960
Speaker 4: cool because you know, he and I were a pretty homebody.

529
00:31:00,440 --> 00:31:02,280
Speaker 4: You know, we don't do a whole lot, We don't

530
00:31:02,320 --> 00:31:04,440
Speaker 4: have a whole lot of friends outside of our jobs

531
00:31:04,880 --> 00:31:09,400
Speaker 4: because we were kind of we work a lot, and

532
00:31:10,080 --> 00:31:12,600
Speaker 4: we're kind of isolated. We live away from his family,

533
00:31:12,600 --> 00:31:17,200
Speaker 4: which sucks. So on on all sides, we're just going

534
00:31:17,240 --> 00:31:19,920
Speaker 4: through it. But like everything else between him and I

535
00:31:20,080 --> 00:31:22,760
Speaker 4: is just like we just feel like we can take

536
00:31:22,800 --> 00:31:25,680
Speaker 4: on the whole world together and fuck everybody else.

537
00:31:27,040 --> 00:31:30,800
Speaker 1: Uh that's that's uh, that's so beautiful. That's that is

538
00:31:33,360 --> 00:31:39,880
Speaker 1: that's like an incredibly uh valuable one could say rare

539
00:31:40,920 --> 00:31:45,600
Speaker 1: one could say a rare valuable thing to have in

540
00:31:45,640 --> 00:31:48,520
Speaker 1: your life. Uh.

541
00:31:48,640 --> 00:31:52,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, particularly how you know, before we met, in like

542
00:31:53,000 --> 00:31:59,360
Speaker 4: our past relationships, they were pretty bad. And you know,

543
00:31:59,520 --> 00:32:02,160
Speaker 4: when you're we're kind of both kind of empathed, so

544
00:32:03,000 --> 00:32:05,720
Speaker 4: we end up taking a lot on from other people.

545
00:32:06,160 --> 00:32:08,400
Speaker 4: And so in those relationships, we had a lot of

546
00:32:08,440 --> 00:32:11,960
Speaker 4: people that were like taking from us and never giving

547
00:32:12,000 --> 00:32:15,120
Speaker 4: in return. But we're just those type of people who

548
00:32:15,160 --> 00:32:17,239
Speaker 4: are just like, Okay, well if we keep giving, you know,

549
00:32:17,480 --> 00:32:19,120
Speaker 4: maybe the person will give back.

550
00:32:19,600 --> 00:32:22,040
Speaker 1: Can you ask, can how old you guys are? I'm

551
00:32:22,040 --> 00:32:25,640
Speaker 1: just curious where you're at in your life journey?

552
00:32:25,760 --> 00:32:34,040
Speaker 4: So I am thirty three cool and he is thirty

553
00:32:34,080 --> 00:32:35,640
Speaker 4: seven cool.

554
00:32:36,880 --> 00:32:42,520
Speaker 1: That's cool. I'm I'm about to turn twenty seven, and

555
00:32:42,600 --> 00:32:44,360
Speaker 1: I keep I don't know why, I'm always thinking. I'm

556
00:32:44,360 --> 00:32:48,280
Speaker 1: always thinking about what my life is going to be

557
00:32:48,440 --> 00:32:51,800
Speaker 1: like in like ten years, and I'm kind of obsessed

558
00:32:51,800 --> 00:32:53,480
Speaker 1: with I'm kind of obsessed with the idea that, like

559
00:32:53,520 --> 00:32:57,400
Speaker 1: I could my life could be like really awesome when

560
00:32:57,440 --> 00:33:00,680
Speaker 1: I'm like thirty seven, like very different, weird. It's cool

561
00:33:00,720 --> 00:33:03,720
Speaker 1: to just imagine like different. They can think about how

562
00:33:03,800 --> 00:33:06,960
Speaker 1: radically different your life was ten years ago and you're like,

563
00:33:06,960 --> 00:33:10,120
Speaker 1: oh shit, my lift you radically different ten years from now.

564
00:33:11,280 --> 00:33:16,880
Speaker 1: I think about it. What is you said you wanted

565
00:33:16,880 --> 00:33:22,680
Speaker 1: to specifically talk about something positive? What was the specific

566
00:33:22,760 --> 00:33:24,560
Speaker 1: positive thing you wanted to you wanted to share?

567
00:33:27,680 --> 00:33:31,640
Speaker 4: Well, I guess that really was the positive thing. It's

568
00:33:31,680 --> 00:33:34,600
Speaker 4: just because we have so many negative things going on,

569
00:33:35,200 --> 00:33:38,000
Speaker 4: it just feels like at least my at least my

570
00:33:38,120 --> 00:33:42,280
Speaker 4: relationship is you know, on a forward path and feels

571
00:33:42,360 --> 00:33:46,560
Speaker 4: like it's it feels like it's genuine, you know, I never,

572
00:33:47,040 --> 00:33:51,960
Speaker 4: I very rarely feel unseen by him and being that

573
00:33:52,840 --> 00:33:54,840
Speaker 4: And I'm going to go with this A tiny tangent.

574
00:33:55,200 --> 00:34:01,440
Speaker 4: He and I both have late diagnosed ADHD, like pretty

575
00:34:01,760 --> 00:34:04,960
Speaker 4: pretty severe for him, and I have like a my

576
00:34:05,120 --> 00:34:07,440
Speaker 4: attention desk that is definitely.

577
00:34:06,960 --> 00:34:08,520
Speaker 2: Like the issue for me.

578
00:34:10,000 --> 00:34:13,720
Speaker 4: But we're both really strong speakers, like him especially he's

579
00:34:13,840 --> 00:34:20,520
Speaker 4: very articulate and he's also bilingual. He's from d R

580
00:34:21,360 --> 00:34:27,600
Speaker 4: and so he's very intelligent person and he's gotten himself

581
00:34:28,400 --> 00:34:31,680
Speaker 4: into conversations with people and made it so that he

582
00:34:31,719 --> 00:34:35,000
Speaker 4: could like enlighten someone. He's very spiritual in that way.

583
00:34:35,200 --> 00:34:36,600
Speaker 2: We're both Buddhists.

584
00:34:36,640 --> 00:34:36,920
Speaker 1: Cool.

585
00:34:38,360 --> 00:34:40,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, so yeah, so.

586
00:34:40,520 --> 00:34:44,200
Speaker 1: It's uh, where'd you had you guys be.

587
00:34:48,239 --> 00:34:48,600
Speaker 4: Tender?

588
00:34:48,640 --> 00:34:51,400
Speaker 2: Actually that's cool.

589
00:34:51,480 --> 00:34:54,439
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's cool. I like that. I would have thought

590
00:34:54,480 --> 00:34:57,680
Speaker 1: there's because there's like, what's the Christian mingle of Buddhism.

591
00:34:58,280 --> 00:35:00,440
Speaker 1: I was thinking maybe it could be something like that,

592
00:35:01,680 --> 00:35:05,000
Speaker 1: it's tender? Do you guys? I have I have a

593
00:35:05,040 --> 00:35:07,279
Speaker 1: few questions. I have a few questions for you, just

594
00:35:07,320 --> 00:35:10,880
Speaker 1: because I'm curious, because you sound like you've found a

595
00:35:10,960 --> 00:35:14,960
Speaker 1: thing that's very special and good. So I have questions

596
00:35:15,000 --> 00:35:17,080
Speaker 1: about it. Where did you do you? Guys? Feel like

597
00:35:18,800 --> 00:35:21,520
Speaker 1: a lot of your because you from the way you

598
00:35:21,560 --> 00:35:23,759
Speaker 1: talk about him, it sounds like you're both very like

599
00:35:24,239 --> 00:35:28,600
Speaker 1: spiritually aligned and like worldview. It sounds like you have

600
00:35:28,640 --> 00:35:32,600
Speaker 1: a lot of like aligned values, is yes, And so

601
00:35:32,760 --> 00:35:36,360
Speaker 1: I'm curious when you two first met, do you feel

602
00:35:36,360 --> 00:35:41,600
Speaker 1: like you came into the relationship both independently possessing those

603
00:35:41,719 --> 00:35:44,040
Speaker 1: values on which you're aligned, or do you feel like

604
00:35:44,640 --> 00:35:49,800
Speaker 1: the the alignment developed over the course of of the relationship.

605
00:35:51,440 --> 00:35:57,839
Speaker 4: So both yes and yes. So the way we met

606
00:35:58,640 --> 00:36:01,560
Speaker 4: regardless of Tender. So we started on the app. Of course,

607
00:36:01,640 --> 00:36:03,840
Speaker 4: you know, talked on the app for a few days

608
00:36:04,120 --> 00:36:06,719
Speaker 4: and it was just, you know, just surface level shit

609
00:36:06,920 --> 00:36:09,239
Speaker 4: like I like Star Wars, you like Star Wars, blah

610
00:36:09,280 --> 00:36:13,400
Speaker 4: blah blah, that kind of bullshit. And then by the

611
00:36:13,680 --> 00:36:16,040
Speaker 4: towards the end of the week, he asked if he

612
00:36:16,080 --> 00:36:20,120
Speaker 4: could call me. And if you know anything about tender,

613
00:36:20,160 --> 00:36:23,759
Speaker 4: that's pretty rare that anyone actually wants to call you.

614
00:36:23,920 --> 00:36:26,239
Speaker 1: It's a it's a it's a good idea because it's

615
00:36:26,360 --> 00:36:30,279
Speaker 1: you can really get gauged so much more about a

616
00:36:30,280 --> 00:36:31,920
Speaker 1: person by talking to them on the phone than you

617
00:36:31,920 --> 00:36:33,240
Speaker 1: can't over the right.

618
00:36:33,080 --> 00:36:37,000
Speaker 4: Next accurate number one number one, making sure they're a

619
00:36:37,040 --> 00:36:41,839
Speaker 4: real person, right and then and then hopefully end up

620
00:36:41,880 --> 00:36:46,520
Speaker 4: not being a serial killer or whatever. But so I

621
00:36:46,560 --> 00:36:49,040
Speaker 4: was like, sure, you know, I get off at five,

622
00:36:49,360 --> 00:36:50,360
Speaker 4: call me at five thirty.

623
00:36:50,440 --> 00:36:50,920
Speaker 2: I should be.

624
00:36:50,840 --> 00:36:55,120
Speaker 4: Getting home around then, and I have twenty nine twenty

625
00:36:55,280 --> 00:36:58,200
Speaker 4: or nine fifty nine whatever on the dot. He was

626
00:36:58,239 --> 00:37:01,160
Speaker 4: calling me, and I was just like trying to get

627
00:37:01,200 --> 00:37:04,080
Speaker 4: into my uh, into my room with all my ship

628
00:37:04,120 --> 00:37:07,320
Speaker 4: in my hands. So I was like, oh, prompt, boy,

629
00:37:08,719 --> 00:37:13,960
Speaker 4: and then we proceeded to have a conversation for seven

630
00:37:14,000 --> 00:37:20,320
Speaker 4: and a half hours. Yeah, we just talked the whole

631
00:37:20,360 --> 00:37:23,279
Speaker 4: time and talked about our lives, talked about our you know,

632
00:37:23,400 --> 00:37:27,560
Speaker 4: things that we liked and things that they disliked. At

633
00:37:27,600 --> 00:37:32,120
Speaker 4: the time, I was very involved with politics. I was

634
00:37:32,400 --> 00:37:37,400
Speaker 4: a sitting chair for the Libertarian Party of Semuel County

635
00:37:38,080 --> 00:37:41,480
Speaker 4: and I was very involved with stuff like that. And

636
00:37:41,560 --> 00:37:46,560
Speaker 4: I was working for real estate company and basically running

637
00:37:46,600 --> 00:37:50,200
Speaker 4: the office on my own and he, unfortunately at the time,

638
00:37:50,320 --> 00:37:56,960
Speaker 4: was in between in between jobs. But but he was

639
00:37:57,000 --> 00:38:02,200
Speaker 4: like on the way to getting a job and we

640
00:38:02,680 --> 00:38:07,000
Speaker 4: just clicked like overnight, and I felt like I knew

641
00:38:07,080 --> 00:38:11,520
Speaker 4: him better than I knew like the last boyfriend I

642
00:38:11,600 --> 00:38:12,919
Speaker 4: had before and.

643
00:38:12,840 --> 00:38:17,480
Speaker 1: Within so I'm really, really, really really uh, that's a

644
00:38:17,520 --> 00:38:23,320
Speaker 1: fascinating fascinating story. I'm really curious about your take on something.

645
00:38:23,560 --> 00:38:26,000
Speaker 1: This is something I really think about a lot in

646
00:38:27,360 --> 00:38:32,279
Speaker 1: you know, my personal life. You know, when I've been

647
00:38:32,520 --> 00:38:37,760
Speaker 1: like dating, and I was actually talking a lot about

648
00:38:37,760 --> 00:38:40,919
Speaker 1: my friends a lot about this with my friend last night.

649
00:38:42,719 --> 00:38:44,320
Speaker 1: You know, do you do you think two people?

650
00:38:44,600 --> 00:38:45,000
Speaker 2: Uh?

651
00:38:45,760 --> 00:38:49,600
Speaker 1: In my head, there's and it doesn't actually one or

652
00:38:49,640 --> 00:38:52,799
Speaker 1: the other, but there's kind of like two schools of

653
00:38:53,040 --> 00:38:57,080
Speaker 1: thought you could say, with relationships, where it's like you

654
00:38:57,160 --> 00:39:02,360
Speaker 1: either kind of pick some one, you catch a wave

655
00:39:02,480 --> 00:39:06,279
Speaker 1: of some kind like your two people meet, they decide

656
00:39:06,760 --> 00:39:09,719
Speaker 1: to make it work, and then kind of gradually over

657
00:39:10,080 --> 00:39:15,000
Speaker 1: time they develop their relationship with each other and they

658
00:39:15,160 --> 00:39:18,080
Speaker 1: their love for each other kind of becomes deeper, versus

659
00:39:18,920 --> 00:39:22,000
Speaker 1: kind of the other school of thought, which is like

660
00:39:23,200 --> 00:39:28,240
Speaker 1: you get lucky or you search really really really hard

661
00:39:28,280 --> 00:39:34,120
Speaker 1: and really really really intentionally until you find that person

662
00:39:34,440 --> 00:39:39,399
Speaker 1: with whom you just kind of immediately feel like you

663
00:39:39,480 --> 00:39:43,080
Speaker 1: click and like you, as you just said, know them

664
00:39:43,719 --> 00:39:46,600
Speaker 1: almost pretty soon, pretty immediately, you feel like you know

665
00:39:46,719 --> 00:39:50,960
Speaker 1: them almost as well as you know somebody that you

666
00:39:51,000 --> 00:39:54,440
Speaker 1: did the whole other dance with for many years, you know,

667
00:39:55,840 --> 00:39:57,880
Speaker 1: And I think it seems like it's kind of on

668
00:39:59,840 --> 00:40:03,520
Speaker 1: the The answer lies somewhere between those two schools of thought.

669
00:40:03,880 --> 00:40:06,680
Speaker 1: But I'm curious about your perspective because the way that

670
00:40:06,800 --> 00:40:09,080
Speaker 1: it sounds like things worked out for you and this

671
00:40:09,200 --> 00:40:11,600
Speaker 1: guy is that you felt it so immediately that you

672
00:40:11,680 --> 00:40:17,239
Speaker 1: had this this seven hour connection with each other.

673
00:40:18,320 --> 00:40:23,640
Speaker 4: Yeah, I wish I knew the actual answer, but I

674
00:40:23,680 --> 00:40:27,480
Speaker 4: definitely think it does. It's somewhere in between. You know,

675
00:40:27,920 --> 00:40:30,759
Speaker 4: it's luck definitely, because I mean, like I said, I

676
00:40:30,760 --> 00:40:33,040
Speaker 4: met him on Tinder, so I'm basically just you know,

677
00:40:33,200 --> 00:40:38,960
Speaker 4: rolling the dice there totally. But you know, I also

678
00:40:39,200 --> 00:40:44,200
Speaker 4: believe that, you know, I'm not like totally four soulmates,

679
00:40:44,200 --> 00:40:47,160
Speaker 4: but I also kind of am and and he is

680
00:40:47,200 --> 00:40:49,360
Speaker 4: just one of those people that I feel like, you know,

681
00:40:49,400 --> 00:40:50,319
Speaker 4: if I hadn't.

682
00:40:50,080 --> 00:40:51,479
Speaker 2: Passed life, he was there.

683
00:40:51,960 --> 00:40:55,200
Speaker 4: You know, I felt like he was in my life,

684
00:40:55,280 --> 00:40:57,239
Speaker 4: my whole life. Like we were just kind of talking

685
00:40:57,320 --> 00:40:59,960
Speaker 4: about that last night, where we both kind of feel like,

686
00:41:00,080 --> 00:41:02,480
Speaker 4: you know, if we had met a long time ago,

687
00:41:02,960 --> 00:41:06,600
Speaker 4: like in our you know, high school years, that we

688
00:41:06,680 --> 00:41:09,319
Speaker 4: would have been like obsessed with one another back then.

689
00:41:10,800 --> 00:41:13,719
Speaker 4: I was like, yeah, probably wouldn't have been fun for

690
00:41:13,760 --> 00:41:16,000
Speaker 4: our friends because we would have never had friends.

691
00:41:16,000 --> 00:41:20,480
Speaker 1: Interesting. Interesting. Well, so that's so interesting too because you

692
00:41:20,520 --> 00:41:22,080
Speaker 1: say that you two would have been obsessed with each

693
00:41:22,080 --> 00:41:25,839
Speaker 1: other in high school? Do you think that? I mean,

694
00:41:26,000 --> 00:41:28,640
Speaker 1: and you're both in your thirties and there's a lot

695
00:41:28,640 --> 00:41:36,160
Speaker 1: of change that happens between eighteen to thirty. And because

696
00:41:36,520 --> 00:41:39,080
Speaker 1: there's another like kind of also like in when I'm

697
00:41:39,120 --> 00:41:42,799
Speaker 1: like thinking about the schools of thought of how two

698
00:41:42,920 --> 00:41:45,680
Speaker 1: people come to form a strong relationship, is like, do

699
00:41:45,680 --> 00:41:47,880
Speaker 1: you ever feel like two people? Maybe if two people,

700
00:41:48,680 --> 00:41:51,760
Speaker 1: you kind of have to become not a different person,

701
00:41:51,840 --> 00:41:56,200
Speaker 1: but maybe like like a better version of yourself in

702
00:41:56,320 --> 00:41:59,279
Speaker 1: order to truly be there and the way that you

703
00:41:59,400 --> 00:42:02,479
Speaker 1: need to be there for the person that you're with.

704
00:42:02,880 --> 00:42:04,440
Speaker 1: And it takes a long time to kind of to

705
00:42:05,120 --> 00:42:06,920
Speaker 1: I guess become that version of yourself.

706
00:42:09,239 --> 00:42:10,200
Speaker 2: Uh.

707
00:42:10,440 --> 00:42:14,920
Speaker 4: Yeah, So I think it's important that those two people

708
00:42:15,080 --> 00:42:19,200
Speaker 4: have you know, like common interests for sure, common values.

709
00:42:19,360 --> 00:42:23,400
Speaker 4: I mean, I mean the biggest one for us is,

710
00:42:23,440 --> 00:42:25,880
Speaker 4: you know, we we grew up you know, metal heads.

711
00:42:26,040 --> 00:42:28,880
Speaker 4: You know, I grew up in Las Vegas and he

712
00:42:29,000 --> 00:42:32,040
Speaker 4: grew up in d r and then in Orlando when

713
00:42:32,040 --> 00:42:36,319
Speaker 4: he came to the States, and we both were like

714
00:42:36,920 --> 00:42:41,319
Speaker 4: goths and you know, stupid, but also we had fun.

715
00:42:42,160 --> 00:42:44,359
Speaker 4: But you know, we've gone to metal shows together, We've

716
00:42:44,400 --> 00:42:46,880
Speaker 4: gone to electronics shows together.

717
00:42:47,000 --> 00:42:48,080
Speaker 2: We really love music.

718
00:42:48,960 --> 00:42:53,279
Speaker 4: We both play music. I sing, I love dancing. Like

719
00:42:53,360 --> 00:42:56,960
Speaker 4: we were really into music in general, and that for

720
00:42:57,000 --> 00:43:00,120
Speaker 4: me is huge. That's been a that's been a key

721
00:43:00,120 --> 00:43:02,400
Speaker 4: factor in most of my relationships in general. Like if

722
00:43:02,440 --> 00:43:05,080
Speaker 4: we don't have music at common, then I can't hang

723
00:43:05,120 --> 00:43:05,640
Speaker 4: out with you.

724
00:43:07,280 --> 00:43:07,719
Speaker 3: That much.

725
00:43:07,760 --> 00:43:12,880
Speaker 1: So what's, uh, what's what's next for your guys's uh lives?

726
00:43:12,880 --> 00:43:15,319
Speaker 1: Are you gonna you think getting married? Do you think

727
00:43:15,360 --> 00:43:21,200
Speaker 1: it about going to moving to Portugal? What's uh? What's happening?

728
00:43:21,680 --> 00:43:22,120
Speaker 3: Uh?

729
00:43:22,440 --> 00:43:25,200
Speaker 4: No, So we're we've been trying to have a baby

730
00:43:25,680 --> 00:43:29,359
Speaker 4: for a couple of years. We've unfortunately had a couple

731
00:43:29,440 --> 00:43:33,279
Speaker 4: of failures, but in one kind of recent which is

732
00:43:33,920 --> 00:43:36,520
Speaker 4: one of the tumultuous things that has been going on.

733
00:43:36,640 --> 00:43:41,799
Speaker 4: But that but we are that's okay, We're getting through it,

734
00:43:41,880 --> 00:43:45,960
Speaker 4: and that's that's the next step. We're actually getting ready

735
00:43:46,000 --> 00:43:48,600
Speaker 4: to move in with my family because we're you know,

736
00:43:48,600 --> 00:43:52,879
Speaker 4: we're trying to combine bills and we've got older. My

737
00:43:52,880 --> 00:43:55,759
Speaker 4: my grandmother's getting older, and my mom's getting older and

738
00:43:55,800 --> 00:43:58,560
Speaker 4: everybody just kind of needs to be together. So that's

739
00:43:58,600 --> 00:44:00,960
Speaker 4: also a very is going to happen this month.

740
00:44:01,120 --> 00:44:04,359
Speaker 1: So yeah, are both of are both of you very

741
00:44:04,400 --> 00:44:09,799
Speaker 1: like family oriented, like you're like his his family is

742
00:44:09,840 --> 00:44:13,799
Speaker 1: your family, your family. His family kind of vibes absolutely.

743
00:44:13,840 --> 00:44:16,239
Speaker 4: I love his family, he loves my family. We all

744
00:44:16,280 --> 00:44:20,319
Speaker 4: get along great and and his family so much so

745
00:44:20,480 --> 00:44:23,839
Speaker 4: different from mine, but also not because they're we're all

746
00:44:23,920 --> 00:44:27,120
Speaker 4: just very loving families, which is it's a blessing.

747
00:44:27,760 --> 00:44:29,960
Speaker 1: And how do you feel as though you got you guys?

748
00:44:30,080 --> 00:44:31,200
Speaker 1: Your families are different?

749
00:44:33,320 --> 00:44:38,360
Speaker 4: Well, his his are all Dominican and uh and mine

750
00:44:38,360 --> 00:44:42,200
Speaker 4: are I only live know my like white side of

751
00:44:42,239 --> 00:44:45,920
Speaker 4: my family, my my Irish side, but I'm half Mexican

752
00:44:45,960 --> 00:44:50,080
Speaker 4: as well. But and I grew up in Las Vegas,

753
00:44:50,080 --> 00:44:53,400
Speaker 4: so you know, I grew up with Mexican origin around

754
00:44:53,400 --> 00:44:56,160
Speaker 4: me all the time. But I grew up with my

755
00:44:56,200 --> 00:45:01,480
Speaker 4: Irish family and uh, so it's definitely different dynamic, Like

756
00:45:01,680 --> 00:45:04,279
Speaker 4: you know, when we go to holidays and stuff like that,

757
00:45:04,440 --> 00:45:08,960
Speaker 4: Like his family they do uh karaoke and they dance

758
00:45:09,160 --> 00:45:13,080
Speaker 4: and they make big meals and there's everybody shouting and

759
00:45:13,120 --> 00:45:14,480
Speaker 4: having a wonderful time and.

760
00:45:14,400 --> 00:45:16,640
Speaker 2: Then at my my house, it's a little.

761
00:45:16,480 --> 00:45:20,880
Speaker 4: More calm, you know, it's a little more uh reserved,

762
00:45:21,200 --> 00:45:25,000
Speaker 4: I guess, but it's still loving and like kids are

763
00:45:25,040 --> 00:45:28,080
Speaker 4: running around and you know, we're kind of a white

764
00:45:28,120 --> 00:45:31,120
Speaker 4: trash family too, so it's it all kind of is

765
00:45:31,160 --> 00:45:33,600
Speaker 4: the same for us. It's just love everywhere.

766
00:45:35,040 --> 00:45:38,120
Speaker 1: That's uh, that's really that's nice. I'm very I'm uh,

767
00:45:38,440 --> 00:45:42,120
Speaker 1: I'm touched by you, guys, I really am. This is uh,

768
00:45:43,280 --> 00:45:46,520
Speaker 1: that's cool. I think I do think that a good

769
00:45:46,600 --> 00:45:49,600
Speaker 1: life probably has a lot of other people in it.

770
00:45:51,560 --> 00:45:56,400
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, well.

771
00:45:57,120 --> 00:45:57,839
Speaker 1: This is all good.

772
00:45:58,120 --> 00:45:59,560
Speaker 4: We've been talking for a long time.

773
00:46:00,360 --> 00:46:04,759
Speaker 1: They're all good things. I'm trying to think if if

774
00:46:04,800 --> 00:46:06,399
Speaker 1: I have any of the question, is there anything else

775
00:46:06,440 --> 00:46:08,800
Speaker 1: that you wanted to to talk about?

776
00:46:10,600 --> 00:46:12,840
Speaker 4: No, I think we probably should give someone else.

777
00:46:12,719 --> 00:46:13,479
Speaker 3: A chance to talk.

778
00:46:14,680 --> 00:46:15,960
Speaker 1: What's your name is, Mercy?

779
00:46:17,280 --> 00:46:20,400
Speaker 4: Mercy Mercy.

780
00:46:20,719 --> 00:46:24,960
Speaker 1: Uh, I'm very happy for you, uh, Mercy, I'm glad

781
00:46:24,960 --> 00:46:27,960
Speaker 1: that you It's kind of cool. Well, because a lot

782
00:46:27,960 --> 00:46:30,560
Speaker 1: of people, I'm sure. First of all, this is this

783
00:46:30,640 --> 00:46:34,280
Speaker 1: is all this whole phone call has been sponsored by Tinder.

784
00:46:35,360 --> 00:46:38,400
Speaker 1: They paid this caller to call in and talk about

785
00:46:38,440 --> 00:46:43,640
Speaker 1: her experience. No, that's not true at all, but it does.

786
00:46:43,800 --> 00:46:46,360
Speaker 1: This is a good This is an advert to because

787
00:46:46,440 --> 00:46:49,839
Speaker 1: a lot of people are getting fed up with uh

788
00:46:50,960 --> 00:46:56,040
Speaker 1: dating apps. But it's like sometimes sometimes sometimes if you're

789
00:46:56,160 --> 00:46:59,280
Speaker 1: patient enough, I feel like you just you get lucky.

790
00:47:01,200 --> 00:47:05,480
Speaker 4: Yeah. Yeah, I mean it's definitely not what it used

791
00:47:05,520 --> 00:47:08,960
Speaker 4: to be. And and I was. It was my last

792
00:47:08,960 --> 00:47:13,160
Speaker 4: ditch effort at the time. So what can you do?

793
00:47:13,520 --> 00:47:14,160
Speaker 3: It worked out?

794
00:47:15,280 --> 00:47:17,920
Speaker 1: Uh, Mercy is or anything else you want to say before.

795
00:47:17,680 --> 00:47:22,160
Speaker 4: We go, Nope, thank you for your time and I

796
00:47:22,200 --> 00:47:23,920
Speaker 4: really appreciated your conversation.

797
00:47:25,320 --> 00:47:26,919
Speaker 1: Thank you for calling Mercy. I have a good rest

798
00:47:26,960 --> 00:47:27,480
Speaker 1: of the night.

799
00:47:28,239 --> 00:47:28,600
Speaker 2: You too.

800
00:47:28,680 --> 00:47:29,880
Speaker 4: Bye bye.

801
00:47:31,160 --> 00:47:37,759
Speaker 1: Well that was that was nice. See see you guys.

802
00:47:38,080 --> 00:47:41,560
Speaker 1: Well you gotta do. You just gotta keep trying. Maybe hopefully,

803
00:47:41,560 --> 00:47:47,760
Speaker 1: maybe you'll get lucky and you'll meet you'll meet somebody

804
00:47:47,960 --> 00:47:50,960
Speaker 1: who you have a you call them and you guys

805
00:47:51,000 --> 00:47:58,319
Speaker 1: have a seven hour conversation. That's cool. There's hope. I

806
00:47:58,320 --> 00:48:04,920
Speaker 1: feel there's hope out there that fall in love and

807
00:48:05,040 --> 00:48:11,960
Speaker 1: not and to look at stuff and eat food, and

808
00:48:12,600 --> 00:48:15,399
Speaker 1: uh yeah, this is hope. This is hope. But I think,

809
00:48:16,000 --> 00:48:18,839
Speaker 1: oh god, I feel I'm trying to like if I've

810
00:48:18,880 --> 00:48:20,800
Speaker 1: been speaking, I've said this a bunch of times already.

811
00:48:20,840 --> 00:48:26,040
Speaker 1: But if I've been speaking too sincerely for too long,

812
00:48:26,360 --> 00:48:29,600
Speaker 1: I'll really want to think of something stupid to say.

813
00:48:30,560 --> 00:48:33,240
Speaker 1: But I couldn't think of anything that was remotely funny.

814
00:48:33,280 --> 00:48:35,400
Speaker 1: So I just had to put a period at the

815
00:48:35,480 --> 00:48:39,080
Speaker 1: end of my sincerity, which is which is fine, which

816
00:48:39,080 --> 00:48:39,480
Speaker 1: is fine.

817
00:48:41,000 --> 00:48:43,359
Speaker 3: Hello, Hello, how are you doing well?

818
00:48:44,360 --> 00:48:46,680
Speaker 1: Hello? How are you doing sir? What's your name?

819
00:48:48,000 --> 00:48:49,000
Speaker 3: My name is Griffin?

820
00:48:49,960 --> 00:48:51,719
Speaker 1: Griffin? What can I what can I do you for

821
00:48:51,920 --> 00:48:53,000
Speaker 1: this evening? What's going on?

822
00:48:55,040 --> 00:48:55,239
Speaker 2: Well?

823
00:48:55,280 --> 00:49:02,520
Speaker 3: I I was curious if if you were or anyone,

824
00:49:02,600 --> 00:49:06,200
Speaker 3: you know, maybe it has had any sort of like

825
00:49:06,480 --> 00:49:15,000
Speaker 3: uh weird, I guess uncommon uh like health issues.

826
00:49:15,320 --> 00:49:15,560
Speaker 1: Uh.

827
00:49:18,320 --> 00:49:26,480
Speaker 3: That like that that aren't common. I myself have had

828
00:49:26,560 --> 00:49:27,440
Speaker 3: scarlet fever.

829
00:49:29,680 --> 00:49:34,000
Speaker 1: Oh that's like from the eighteen hundreds, right, I didn't

830
00:49:34,000 --> 00:49:35,200
Speaker 1: know that was still a thing.

831
00:49:36,280 --> 00:49:39,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, until the doctor told me that's what I had.

832
00:49:40,560 --> 00:49:44,680
Speaker 1: I have the other the other day, my asshole was bleeding,

833
00:49:44,719 --> 00:49:49,160
Speaker 1: which to me feels like a very twenty twenty four illness.

834
00:49:50,200 --> 00:49:53,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's actually uh yeah, they didn't start doing that

835
00:49:53,280 --> 00:49:54,560
Speaker 3: until I think this year.

836
00:49:54,760 --> 00:49:55,040
Speaker 2: Yeah.

837
00:49:55,560 --> 00:49:58,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's a very gen z thing to have a

838
00:49:58,960 --> 00:50:02,320
Speaker 1: to have a bleed, asshole? How did you get scarlet fever?

839
00:50:03,920 --> 00:50:10,120
Speaker 3: So, I mean this is years and years ago, but

840
00:50:10,320 --> 00:50:15,400
Speaker 3: I like through middle and high school. I'm thirty one now,

841
00:50:17,160 --> 00:50:24,000
Speaker 3: but I got strapped throughout like I countless times, like

842
00:50:24,200 --> 00:50:27,720
Speaker 3: over and over and over again. Apparently I was really

843
00:50:28,160 --> 00:50:33,360
Speaker 3: prone to getting it, and I guess one of the

844
00:50:33,440 --> 00:50:40,920
Speaker 3: times it ended up going dormant. So I felt fine

845
00:50:42,440 --> 00:50:47,560
Speaker 3: and I wasn't showing any symptoms of anything, and then

846
00:50:47,600 --> 00:50:52,960
Speaker 3: I started getting like rash all over my body and

847
00:50:53,520 --> 00:51:01,520
Speaker 3: just like feeling miserable and had no idea what it

848
00:51:01,680 --> 00:51:09,040
Speaker 3: was from. Yeah, apparently the whatever the like virus of

849
00:51:09,480 --> 00:51:12,440
Speaker 3: that causes strep throat, I guess had gone dormant and

850
00:51:13,760 --> 00:51:19,440
Speaker 3: turned itself into scarlet fever. Uh. The funny, the funniest

851
00:51:19,440 --> 00:51:23,120
Speaker 3: part is that you brought up assholes. Actually, uh because

852
00:51:23,160 --> 00:51:26,279
Speaker 3: they they they swabbed my throat like they do for

853
00:51:26,360 --> 00:51:29,680
Speaker 3: strep throat, and it came up negative and I was like, well,

854
00:51:32,040 --> 00:51:34,080
Speaker 3: like one of like one of the main places that

855
00:51:34,120 --> 00:51:35,680
Speaker 3: I have this rash, it is like it is on

856
00:51:35,760 --> 00:51:39,600
Speaker 3: my ass, and so they swabbed that and then that's

857
00:51:39,600 --> 00:51:40,800
Speaker 3: when it came up positive.

858
00:51:42,440 --> 00:51:45,839
Speaker 1: So how many you when's the last time somebody had

859
00:51:45,880 --> 00:51:48,239
Speaker 1: scarlet fever in America. Are you like the only guy

860
00:51:48,239 --> 00:51:50,080
Speaker 1: who has it now? Or like, what's the deal with this?

861
00:51:50,200 --> 00:51:53,200
Speaker 3: I have absolutely no idea. I mean I've never even

862
00:51:53,239 --> 00:51:55,319
Speaker 3: looked it up. That's why I was like curious, like,

863
00:51:55,440 --> 00:52:00,840
Speaker 3: you know, I could I I have no idea.

864
00:52:00,960 --> 00:52:04,239
Speaker 1: I thought like, wait, wait, wait, wait you haven't you

865
00:52:04,280 --> 00:52:05,160
Speaker 1: haven't looked it up?

866
00:52:07,160 --> 00:52:08,440
Speaker 3: How many people have had it?

867
00:52:09,719 --> 00:52:11,040
Speaker 1: Or like, have you like looked into it?

868
00:52:13,400 --> 00:52:16,200
Speaker 3: I mean, well I had it years ago. I mean

869
00:52:16,239 --> 00:52:19,000
Speaker 3: I looked into it after that, but it's.

870
00:52:18,400 --> 00:52:21,320
Speaker 1: Been a while. Scarlet fever, Okay, there are a few there.

871
00:52:21,360 --> 00:52:26,160
Speaker 1: Scarlet fever is very Scarlet fever says, according to Google,

872
00:52:26,280 --> 00:52:30,480
Speaker 1: is very rare. There are fewer than twenty thousand US

873
00:52:30,520 --> 00:52:34,200
Speaker 1: cases per year. But it does say that it resolves

874
00:52:34,239 --> 00:52:36,280
Speaker 1: within days two weeks.

875
00:52:37,160 --> 00:52:41,000
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I mean it wasn't. Uh yeah, once they

876
00:52:41,040 --> 00:52:44,000
Speaker 3: gave once they realized I had it, I mean I was.

877
00:52:45,480 --> 00:52:46,600
Speaker 2: I was good after that.

878
00:52:46,760 --> 00:52:49,239
Speaker 1: But I'm going to look it up on Wikipedia see

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Speaker 1: scarlet fever Wikipedia. When did it start? Who invented it?

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Speaker 1: When did it start?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 1: Is this a lady with a weird tone? Oh? This

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Speaker 1: is I'm never you know what? Never look up disease

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Speaker 1: on Wikipedia. You won't like what you Oh wait, okay,

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Speaker 1: hold on, I'm on the Wikipedia page for scarlet fever.

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Speaker 1: On history. Under history it says the dick test. Did

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Speaker 1: you know there's a dick? This is real. If you

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Speaker 1: go to the scarlet fever Wikipedia page and go to history,

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Speaker 1: it's there's a there's a it says the dick test. Okay.

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Speaker 1: The dick test, developed in nineteen twenty four by George

891
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Speaker 1: and Gladdie's Dick, was used to identify those susceptible to

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Speaker 1: scarlet fever. The dick test involved injecting a diluted strain

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Speaker 1: of the streptinoch known to cause scarlet fever, and if

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Speaker 1: no reaction was seen in the skin. Have you have

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Speaker 1: you tried in injecting yourself with a diluted strain of streptinok.

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Speaker 3: Uh No, I can't say that I have. I have

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Speaker 3: not tried that.

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Speaker 1: Now, well, you should try the dick test, dude, I

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Speaker 1: don't know if that's what you're doctor did on Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Well, they brought a bunch of Griffin.

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Speaker 1: Go ahead, Griffin finished. I wanted to finish what you're

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Speaker 1: gonna say.

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Speaker 3: They brought a bunch of like nurses and doctors uh

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Speaker 3: in uh because none of them had ever seen it.

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Speaker 3: And I remember the doctor was like, you might not

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Speaker 3: ever be someone that had this again. And they were

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Speaker 3: all like examining my body. It was a very weird experience.

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Speaker 1: Well, the good news about having an old disease is

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Speaker 1: that they figured out how to cure it by now,

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Speaker 1: and you and you and you were able to get

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Speaker 1: through it all without having to take the Dick test.

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Speaker 3: Correct. I might be sterile because of it, though, That's

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Speaker 3: what they told me.

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Speaker 1: Is there anything else you want to say to the

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Speaker 1: people of the computer before we go?

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Speaker 3: Uh, go to your doctors, get things checked out if

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Speaker 3: you're if you have symptoms of anything. I guess I

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Speaker 3: don't know.

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Speaker 1: See you later, Griffin have on? Did you say his

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Speaker 1: name was Griffin or Griffith? Hello, folks, it's Lyle here.

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Speaker 3: My ex hy to me that his mom was dead.

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Speaker 1: Oh jesus, how long ago is this?

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Speaker 3: I'm like dating this dude for like two years?

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Speaker 1: Right?

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Speaker 2: I plan a trip to Jersey to.

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Speaker 4: Go back home with him to meet his family, And

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Speaker 4: he like.

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Speaker 3: Planned this trip out with me and didn't waited until

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Speaker 3: the very last fucking second to tell me that it

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Speaker 3: was all a lie.

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Speaker 2: We would you do?

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Speaker 1: Whatuld you do when you found out that it was

943
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Speaker 1: a lie?

944
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Speaker 3: Oh my god.

945
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Speaker 4: I shut the fuck down.

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Speaker 1: He gave me a fucking fifteen minute Uber ride.

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Speaker 3: To process that.

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Speaker 2: The first person I was going.

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Speaker 3: To meet with his mom who's actually alive.

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Speaker 1: That's really crazy, that's wild. Goddamn, what'd you What was

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Speaker 1: it like meeting was his mom nice? What was it

952
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Speaker 3: The line take every night, never bed get gostin his

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Speaker 3: eyes is teaching you to how to your life

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Speaker 1: But he's not really an expert.