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Speaker 1: Okay, guys, the High and Mighty Tour is about to begin.

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Speaker 1: I'm coming to Washington, d c Norfolk, Virginia, Atlantic City,

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Speaker 1: which I just added, Madison, Wisconsin, Milwaukee, Wisconsin, Detroit, Michigan, Cleveland, Columbus,

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Speaker 1: and Cincinnati, Ohio, Denver, Colorado, Portland, Maine, Providence, Rhode Island, Springfield, Massachusetts, Chicago,

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Speaker 1: of course, Indianapolis, Indiana, Louisville, Kentucky, Albuquerque, Masa, Arizona, Kansas City, Missouri,

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Speaker 1: Saint Louis, Missouri, Minneapolis, Minnesota, Nashville, Tennessee, Charlotte, North Carolina, Durham,

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Speaker 1: North Carolina. May sixth, I'm doing Netflix as a Joke Festival.

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Speaker 1: I will be in Los Angeles, that is a new announcement, Saratoga, California, Monterey, California, Modesto, California,

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Speaker 1: and port Chester, New York, Boston, Massachusetts, Portland, Oregon.

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Speaker 2: And Seattle, Washington.

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Speaker 1: I will be touring from February through June.

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Speaker 2: Go to Chelsea Handler dot com for tickets.

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Speaker 1: If you want to come see me perform, I will

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Speaker 1: be on the High and Mighty Tour.

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Speaker 2: Hi Catherine, Hi, Chelsea. Hi, It's me Chelsea hand Job

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Speaker 2: coming to you. Live from Whistler. Looks like it's finally

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Speaker 2: snowy there. When was the last time you gave a

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Speaker 2: hand job? Catherine? Have you given an adult hand job?

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Speaker 2: I'm actually like three days ago?

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Speaker 3: Oh wow, Yeah, doesn't it all start with a hand job?

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Speaker 1: I'm it's start but a handjob three days ago? Catherine

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Speaker 1: in a marriage?

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Speaker 3: I mean seriously, I am on a doctor requested pelvic

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Speaker 3: rest after some female stuff. So it was like hand

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Speaker 3: job or nothing. I mean, like, you know, it could progress,

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Speaker 3: but pelvic rest.

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Speaker 2: What happened?

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Speaker 3: Well, we'll get into it off the We'll get it

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Speaker 3: into I think it should be on the podcast.

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Speaker 2: Why would you want to talk about that offline? You know,

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Speaker 2: my doctor? I'm just like any triosa stuff.

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Speaker 3: Okay, doctor's chill out for a second with the intercourse,

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Speaker 3: which Brad is very not happy with.

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Speaker 2: But okay, let me just think about that. Why when

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Speaker 2: you have to be.

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Speaker 1: On pelvic rest, are you delivering hand jobs? Why isn't

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Speaker 1: Brad just going down on you?

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Speaker 2: That's actually a very good question.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, can you come back in the room please. I

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Speaker 1: don't understand this. Why is she being punished for being

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Speaker 1: on pelvic breast? That's her first punishment, and now the

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Speaker 1: second one is the hand job.

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Speaker 4: She's not being punished.

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Speaker 2: I offered you know, did you Yeah? And she's like, now,

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Speaker 2: I'd rather give you a hand job. I believe in reciprocity.

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Speaker 4: So you know, we're.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, he's very good.

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Speaker 1: I just want to make sure that you offer.

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Speaker 2: I'm thinking I get out.

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Speaker 4: Here, give them my hand job.

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Speaker 2: We're good, get over here. What are we talking about?

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Speaker 3: I want to know, Chelsea, have you seen Michael Rappaport

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Speaker 3: on the Traders and the clips that are going around

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Speaker 1: You know what I've actually you know, let me tell

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Speaker 1: you something very interesting. I got this phone service, Noble Mobile.

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Speaker 2: Right, this is like the ethical phone.

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Speaker 1: My friend Andrew Yang started this company, and they basically

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Speaker 1: reward you for not being on your phone. And since

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Speaker 1: I got this service, I am not on my phone

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Speaker 1: It said my average screen time the other day was

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Speaker 1: forty nine minutes, and that's including texting and emailing.

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Speaker 1: I mean it was a Saturday, so it wasn't a

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Speaker 1: So your phone bill is like fifty dollars a month,

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Speaker 1: you've unlimited, like international, all that stuff, and then they

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Speaker 2: So the less you're on your phone, the more money

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Speaker 2: you get back. It's nice to have incentives like that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, of course, of course, especially I want a phone

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Speaker 2: That's nice. Well, let me tell you. Michael Rappaport is

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Speaker 2: going viral because of how he eats. Oh, I can

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Speaker 2: only is it disgusting? It's it's bad, Chelsea. He picks

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Speaker 3: His mouth and scoops. That is how he eats. There

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Speaker 3: are multiple shots of this from him on the Traders.

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Speaker 2: What is the Trader? Oh, it's a reality show.

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Speaker 3: It's the one with Alan Cumming and money exchanges on

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Speaker 2: And but why is he Why is Michael Rappaport on it?

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Speaker 2: He is a contestant on the Traders? But is he

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Speaker 1: Nobody puts their plate up to their mouth. I mean,

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Speaker 1: I've seen some fucked up eating. I'm Jewish, so I

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Speaker 2: It's disgusting. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Yes, well, we have a much more elegant guest today.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she's very elegant because she's British.

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Speaker 1: She's so whe you know, from the Star Wars universe,

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Speaker 1: the Terminator franchise, and Game of Thrones, Amelia Clark is here.

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Speaker 2: We have her live in action in studio.

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Speaker 1: Hi tuity, fresh and fruity, so excited to talk to you.

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Speaker 4: You too, You're somewhat beautiful and snowy.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: I'm in Whistler, Canada. This is where I live in

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Speaker 1: the ground and skis at all times.

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Speaker 4: Yes, yes, I've seen you nude skiing down slopes and

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Speaker 2: Thank you, thank you for that shout out.

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Speaker 1: I want to first say that the person we're speaking

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Speaker 1: with today her full name is Amelia Isabelle Euphemia Rose

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Speaker 1: Clark MBA, which is a standing for Member of the

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Speaker 1: Most Excellent Order of the British Empire.

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Speaker 2: I mean, are you even allowed to be talking to me?

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Speaker 4: It's quite a title. I know. That is so funny.

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Speaker 4: My parents didn't know what to call me, so they

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Speaker 4: called me everything. That's how that goes.

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Speaker 1: All of those names kind of like, uh, I mean,

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Speaker 2: Absolutely? Absolutely? Okay.

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Speaker 1: Where am I getting you from today? Where in the

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Speaker 1: world are you, Amelia?

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Speaker 4: I am in a hotel room in New York?

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Speaker 2: Oh? Okay, how's that going.

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Speaker 4: It's good. Today's day one. We'll see how it goes.

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Speaker 1: Oh good, today's day one of your press tour. Yes,

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Speaker 1: you're promoting before we're gonna first talk about the show

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Speaker 1: you're here to promote, which is called Ponies. I saw

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Speaker 1: a bunch of episodes already, you did, I did I

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Speaker 1: did you know who? One of my other favorite people

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Speaker 1: is Hailey Lou Richardson, so yes, of course. And Susanna Fogel,

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Speaker 1: who directs this whole project, is another friend of mine.

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Speaker 4: Oh my god. Okay, then you love us. This is happiness,

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Speaker 4: this is a warm.

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Speaker 1: Room, absolutely absolutely welcome. Yes, yes, I'm a fan of

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Speaker 1: all of the things. So tell me about what it

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Speaker 4: I mean, heaven. She's literally my sister. She's my ady,

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Speaker 2: She's very unique.

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Speaker 4: I listened to her episode with you guys. She's just

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Speaker 4: the most beautiful, pure spirit, Like she is such a pure,

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Speaker 1: And did you get her book? Her book of poetry?

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Speaker 4: Yes, yes, yes I felt that on my little Instagram.

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Speaker 1: You speak the Queen's English. So that's actually that's a

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Speaker 4: Okay, double language, double English.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so you did you have to learn Russian.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, a real pain in the ass, especially for me.

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Speaker 1: You say this is the hardest you've ever worked with

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Speaker 1: all of the movies that you've done. That's saying a

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Speaker 4: No, I was riding the horses. When I was riding

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Speaker 4: I'm just gonna let this like ride up. It just

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Speaker 4: it was. It was super intense, but sometimes very fun.

439
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Speaker 1: And I know you were talking publicly. This is something

440
00:20:01,160 --> 00:20:02,960
Speaker 1: that if you're okay to talk about, I would love to.

441
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Speaker 1: I know you talked publicly about being having some two

442
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Speaker 1: brain aneurysms while you were filming Game of Thrones?

443
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Speaker 2: How yes, how are you doing? How was that recovery?

444
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Speaker 2: Can you talk about it?

445
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Speaker 4: I mean, so, the recovery was non existent because I

446
00:20:18,320 --> 00:20:21,640
Speaker 4: didn't have time. So I shot Season one of Game

447
00:20:21,680 --> 00:20:26,520
Speaker 4: of Thrones first, like you know, paying or whatever a

448
00:20:26,640 --> 00:20:30,040
Speaker 4: job money doing the thing that I loved, and then

449
00:20:30,440 --> 00:20:33,280
Speaker 4: we finished. We wrapped that Christmas, and in February of

450
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Speaker 4: the next year, I have my first brain hemmrhy j.

451
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Speaker 4: I was in the gym. It was obviously a massive shock,

452
00:20:37,359 --> 00:20:40,879
Speaker 4: rushed a hospital. They saved my life. I then was

453
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Speaker 4: in hospital for three weeks and they couldn't tell HBO

454
00:20:45,720 --> 00:20:48,240
Speaker 4: for two weeks until they knew I wasn't going to die,

455
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Speaker 4: that this had happened. And I got to the hospital

456
00:20:51,720 --> 00:20:54,080
Speaker 4: and in my lucid moments, was like trying to pull

457
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Speaker 4: out the wires to be like I got to get

458
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Speaker 4: to work. What are you doing? Yeah? I can't, And

459
00:20:59,000 --> 00:21:04,399
Speaker 4: so they saved my life. Incredible, the incredible NHS and

460
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Speaker 4: then I had like six weeks maybe, and then I

461
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Speaker 4: was on the press tool for my first ever press

462
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Speaker 4: tool with morphine. Oh whoa, Yeah, it was super It

463
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Speaker 4: was super super intense. But having Game of Thrones and

464
00:21:20,320 --> 00:21:22,440
Speaker 4: having the job was the thing that got me through.

465
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Speaker 4: And then the second time it happened, that just sucked.

466
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Speaker 4: That was just super annoying because I spoke to David

467
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Speaker 4: and Dan and they were like again, like how did that?

468
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Speaker 4: And the second one was a procedure that went wrong,

469
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Speaker 4: and so that resulted in a much bigger bleed and

470
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Speaker 4: they had to then do like I had this big scar,

471
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Speaker 4: they had to like crack my head open.

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Speaker 2: Oh and that's god.

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Speaker 1: I mean, how does one get a brain aneurysm? This

474
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Speaker 1: is just the luck of the draw.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so how do you eate a brain mridge? I

476
00:21:51,640 --> 00:21:57,280
Speaker 4: was born with a weakness in my arteries. That's hereditary.

477
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Speaker 4: That Like if I were have a baby, I be

478
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Speaker 4: like get that baby in an MRI machine immediately so

479
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Speaker 4: I can see if Yeah.

480
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Speaker 1: And do you have an avenue for a preventative, like

481
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Speaker 1: like is this is something like that you can help

482
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Speaker 1: do certain things to prevent.

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Speaker 4: I mean, don't take drugs, don't do stuff that's going

484
00:22:14,160 --> 00:22:17,480
Speaker 4: to raise your blood pressure, but essentially don't work too hard,

485
00:22:17,640 --> 00:22:20,840
Speaker 4: I know, right, which is the same thing. Honestly, there's nothing.

486
00:22:21,119 --> 00:22:23,440
Speaker 4: There's there's like, I'm in a very good spot. I

487
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Speaker 4: get my brain scanned every year. I'm I'm in the

488
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Speaker 4: like not point not onet percent of people who survive

489
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Speaker 4: what I've had without any real repercussions.

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Speaker 2: Oh, I'm so glad to hear that. I'm so glad

491
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Speaker 2: to hear that.

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Speaker 1: When you were talking about that publicly a couple of

493
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Speaker 1: years ago, I was like, wait what, Yeah, oh my god,

494
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Speaker 1: I'm working through that. And I mean, honestly, actors put

495
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Speaker 1: up with more shit than anybody else, Like actors work

496
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Speaker 1: through sickness, and I mean I know from my I'm

497
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Speaker 1: not an actor, I'm a comedian, but I worked through

498
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Speaker 1: every We act like we're saving lives, like I work

499
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Speaker 1: through any sort of anything.

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Speaker 2: I know.

501
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Speaker 4: It was such a shock because it was the first

502
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Speaker 4: time I'd ever ever ever had anyone on any set

503
00:23:03,160 --> 00:23:06,120
Speaker 4: be like, you're not well, do you need to come

504
00:23:06,119 --> 00:23:09,600
Speaker 4: in You don't have to work today? Yeah, brain images,

505
00:23:09,640 --> 00:23:12,200
Speaker 4: broken roads, broken hips. I did a whole job without

506
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Speaker 4: realizing I've broken my hip. The show must go on.

507
00:23:15,440 --> 00:23:17,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's apparently the show must go on.

508
00:23:17,160 --> 00:23:19,439
Speaker 1: So what is an ideal day off like for you,

509
00:23:20,359 --> 00:23:22,520
Speaker 1: like Dale had your druthers and you have nothing to

510
00:23:22,560 --> 00:23:23,840
Speaker 1: do and nothing scheduled.

511
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Speaker 2: What would it look like?

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Speaker 4: Okay, so it would look like seeing friends. It would

513
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Speaker 4: look like going for a very lovely dinner. It would

514
00:23:31,040 --> 00:23:34,960
Speaker 4: look like get the papers, read my books, go for walks,

515
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Speaker 4: go out.

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Speaker 2: Are you a big book reader? Theater?

517
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Speaker 4: I'm a massive reader. Yeah.

518
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Speaker 2: What's the last book that you've read that you loved.

519
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Speaker 4: That I loved? I went, I did the whole of

520
00:23:44,560 --> 00:23:48,040
Speaker 4: the book a prize list. I'm a nerd, and my

521
00:23:48,080 --> 00:23:51,120
Speaker 4: favorite one on that was this book called Sea Scrapper

522
00:23:51,119 --> 00:23:54,000
Speaker 4: by Benjamin Wood. It's only itty bitdy, it's tiny, and

523
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Speaker 4: it's incredible.

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Speaker 2: Oh thank you.

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Speaker 1: We like recommendation, book recommendations for our audience their readers. Now,

526
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Speaker 1: I like that you have a life hack. You talk

527
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Speaker 1: about flipping nervousness into confidence. I feel like this is

528
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Speaker 1: something I can relate to. So can you speak a

529
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Speaker 1: little bit about that, Because it's not being fearless, it's

530
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Speaker 1: facing its face. It's facing fear right.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, exactly, it's kind of realizing that that same energy

532
00:24:18,840 --> 00:24:25,720
Speaker 4: that you're experiencing is excitement in disguise. So like, you

533
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Speaker 4: know those nerves. I'm sure you don't. You're too good

534
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Speaker 4: to get nerves before going on stage, to get nerves

535
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Speaker 4: before like doing your work. But I definitely still get them.

536
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Speaker 4: Or even just like I don't know, you're going to

537
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Speaker 4: a dinner and you know one person and you're like, fuck,

538
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Speaker 4: this is I'm out of my comfort zone. It's the

539
00:24:43,080 --> 00:24:47,240
Speaker 4: same like energy frequency as excitement. You've just got adrenaline.

540
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Speaker 4: You've just got like excess adrenaline, which is all that

541
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Speaker 4: is is your body telling you that you're a ready

542
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Speaker 4: and prepared for anything and that you care kind of

543
00:24:55,760 --> 00:24:59,200
Speaker 4: and that you care. Yeah, although sometimes me thinking that

544
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Speaker 4: I care can turned into like that that ends up

545
00:25:01,480 --> 00:25:02,840
Speaker 4: being the thing of like carrying too much.

546
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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I know, well I had myself. My therapist

547
00:25:05,320 --> 00:25:06,719
Speaker 1: put it to me one way. He's like, you know,

548
00:25:07,119 --> 00:25:09,040
Speaker 1: if you're nervous, that means you care. And I was like, oh,

549
00:25:09,080 --> 00:25:11,000
Speaker 1: I had never thought about that. I was always in

550
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Speaker 1: my younger years, was always trying to fast forward the

551
00:25:14,400 --> 00:25:15,920
Speaker 1: like if I had the fear, it was like no, no,

552
00:25:16,040 --> 00:25:19,320
Speaker 1: I'm okay, Like you know, to just try and kind

553
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Speaker 1: of put a shield around it and be like I'm

554
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Speaker 1: just going to power through this instead of I think

555
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Speaker 1: it's really important now as I'm older to acknowledge the

556
00:25:27,840 --> 00:25:30,840
Speaker 1: fear and embrace it, because it just it means you care.

557
00:25:30,960 --> 00:25:34,359
Speaker 1: And it's not fear, Like nervousness isn't fear. It's excitement.

558
00:25:34,600 --> 00:25:36,880
Speaker 1: It doesn't mean like you're going to fail. It means

559
00:25:36,920 --> 00:25:38,720
Speaker 1: you're excited to get out there and that you care

560
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Speaker 1: about what you're about to do.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, absolutely, absolutely no. I think it's Yeah, how do

562
00:25:44,119 --> 00:25:46,480
Speaker 4: you channel your energy? How do some of us? Someone

563
00:25:46,560 --> 00:25:49,000
Speaker 4: once said, how do you get your butterflies flying? In formation?

564
00:25:49,359 --> 00:25:52,200
Speaker 2: Yeah? What do you remember the most nervous you've ever been?

565
00:25:54,000 --> 00:25:56,760
Speaker 4: It's always before I sing. I remember I did it.

566
00:25:57,119 --> 00:26:03,480
Speaker 4: I sung at Carnegie Hall for Richard that place leaving

567
00:26:03,680 --> 00:26:06,680
Speaker 4: do of HBO, and he asked me to sing a song.

568
00:26:06,720 --> 00:26:12,240
Speaker 2: And I was like, what, like, oh, like all these

569
00:26:12,640 --> 00:26:13,919
Speaker 2: oh yeah people, you.

570
00:26:16,880 --> 00:26:17,960
Speaker 4: Your famous people?

571
00:26:18,040 --> 00:26:18,720
Speaker 2: What the fuck?

572
00:26:19,680 --> 00:26:21,560
Speaker 4: But anytime I have to sing, like I did this

573
00:26:21,640 --> 00:26:24,640
Speaker 4: movie that's gonna come out maybe at some point this year,

574
00:26:24,840 --> 00:26:28,040
Speaker 4: and I was a singer in that, And anytime I

575
00:26:28,080 --> 00:26:32,120
Speaker 4: have to sing publicly, it's fear like I'm gonna throw up,

576
00:26:32,560 --> 00:26:35,120
Speaker 4: like I'm gonna like I'm I'm in the wings being

577
00:26:35,160 --> 00:26:37,199
Speaker 4: like I'm just gonna go. I'm just gonna I'm just

578
00:26:37,240 --> 00:26:40,000
Speaker 4: gonna I'm gonna leave. Yeah, and you'll fin and it'll

579
00:26:40,040 --> 00:26:42,879
Speaker 4: be fine because you'll have missed this terrible car crash

580
00:26:42,920 --> 00:26:43,640
Speaker 4: that's about to happen.

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Speaker 1: I like that. I like that. It's good to know.

582
00:26:45,680 --> 00:26:47,960
Speaker 1: It's good to know. I mean, I could imagine. Yeah,

583
00:26:48,040 --> 00:26:50,080
Speaker 1: you whatever your main gig is, you're like, Okay, I'm

584
00:26:50,080 --> 00:26:54,480
Speaker 1: good with this, but any side hustle you're like, oh god.

585
00:26:54,440 --> 00:26:55,879
Speaker 4: I haven't got my ten thousand hours.

586
00:26:56,040 --> 00:26:59,760
Speaker 1: You're not so secretive about other actors that you're obsessed with,

587
00:26:59,800 --> 00:27:02,160
Speaker 1: Like who is your Who are you crushing on now?

588
00:27:02,320 --> 00:27:03,480
Speaker 2: Man? Woman? Actor?

589
00:27:03,680 --> 00:27:03,760
Speaker 4: Like?

590
00:27:03,800 --> 00:27:05,720
Speaker 2: Who are you into right now?

591
00:27:06,160 --> 00:27:11,000
Speaker 4: Who am I into? Halelu motherfucking Richardson?

592
00:27:11,600 --> 00:27:12,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, totally.

593
00:27:13,240 --> 00:27:16,040
Speaker 4: Who do I love right now? I mean Jesse Bucky Forever.

594
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Speaker 4: She's my number one, Yeah, my number one movie.

595
00:27:18,800 --> 00:27:20,359
Speaker 2: That was one of my favorite books too. Did you

596
00:27:20,400 --> 00:27:21,080
Speaker 2: read Hamnet?

597
00:27:21,320 --> 00:27:24,160
Speaker 4: I did, Yes, that was a beautiful, beautiful book.

598
00:27:24,200 --> 00:27:26,720
Speaker 2: And she's so fun to watch win, you know.

599
00:27:26,840 --> 00:27:32,480
Speaker 4: Yes, And then also I do have to say the

600
00:27:32,720 --> 00:27:38,119
Speaker 4: joy of saying. Gwyneth paltrowgan, yeah, I haven't. I'm like,

601
00:27:38,320 --> 00:27:40,440
Speaker 4: Gwinny's back, I know, I know.

602
00:27:40,760 --> 00:27:42,040
Speaker 1: And you know what's so funny, I was like, what

603
00:27:42,200 --> 00:27:44,919
Speaker 1: if you know what? You have been talking about vaginas.

604
00:27:44,960 --> 00:27:47,600
Speaker 1: You have been selling us vagina goodies. You have been

605
00:27:47,640 --> 00:27:50,119
Speaker 1: interviewing people about sex. It's about time we got to

606
00:27:50,119 --> 00:27:52,919
Speaker 1: see you have sex. We need to see you more

607
00:27:53,040 --> 00:27:55,360
Speaker 1: having more sex. In my opinion, she needs to keep

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Speaker 1: her clothes off on camera. Agree, or the benefit of

609
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Speaker 1: the rest of us, because she she took a big

610
00:28:00,680 --> 00:28:02,960
Speaker 1: break and now she's back and she needs to fully

611
00:28:03,200 --> 00:28:04,640
Speaker 1: just release.

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00:28:04,720 --> 00:28:07,760
Speaker 4: Yes and I see you have sex with young men.

613
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Speaker 2: On camera, all of us. Please message received.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So we're going to take a break and we're

615
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Speaker 1: going to be right back with Amelia Clark.

616
00:28:17,480 --> 00:28:24,560
Speaker 2: And we're back with Amelia Clark. Okay.

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Speaker 1: So now we're going to segue into the part of

618
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Speaker 1: the show where we take some callers. They call in

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Speaker 1: for life advice and then we just give it to

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Speaker 1: them straight.

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Speaker 4: I'm god amazing.

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Speaker 2: All right.

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Speaker 3: Our first question comes from Eduardo. The subject line is Chelsea,

624
00:28:36,960 --> 00:28:39,840
Speaker 3: please tell me why my boyfriend's mattress has no sheets.

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Speaker 3: Dear Chelsea, I'm writing because I think I'm starting to

626
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Speaker 3: lose my patience and maybe myself in my relationship. I've

627
00:28:46,880 --> 00:28:48,800
Speaker 3: been dating someone for a little over a year. We

628
00:28:48,840 --> 00:28:51,160
Speaker 3: don't live together, but whenever I go stay at his place,

629
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Speaker 3: it somehow turns into a cleaning weekend. I end up

630
00:28:54,200 --> 00:28:57,760
Speaker 3: washing his dishes, throwing away leftovers he's forgotten in the fridge,

631
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Speaker 3: kitchen or table, tidy his bed, and trying to make

632
00:29:01,600 --> 00:29:05,120
Speaker 3: the place feel halfway livable. Meanwhile, he just doesn't seem

633
00:29:05,120 --> 00:29:07,560
Speaker 3: to care. It's not like I'm obsessed with cleaning.

634
00:29:07,600 --> 00:29:08,200
Speaker 2: I'm really not.

635
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Speaker 3: But for example, when he buys vegetables, he just puts

636
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Speaker 3: them in the fridge with actual dirt still on them.

637
00:29:13,440 --> 00:29:15,440
Speaker 3: He buys too much food, it goes bad, and he

638
00:29:15,480 --> 00:29:18,040
Speaker 3: doesn't even bother to throw it out. It's like living

639
00:29:18,120 --> 00:29:21,440
Speaker 3: in a low budget science experiment. We've already talked about

640
00:29:21,440 --> 00:29:24,520
Speaker 3: this more than once, but nothing changes. It's reached the

641
00:29:24,560 --> 00:29:26,680
Speaker 3: point where every time he invites me over on my

642
00:29:26,760 --> 00:29:29,240
Speaker 3: day off, I feel this mix of discomfort and low

643
00:29:29,280 --> 00:29:31,720
Speaker 3: key anger, like I'm going to visit my boyfriend, but

644
00:29:31,760 --> 00:29:34,640
Speaker 3: I'll be doing chores. I've even caught myself telling him

645
00:29:34,720 --> 00:29:36,800
Speaker 3: the kitchen must be clean or I won't cook like

646
00:29:36,840 --> 00:29:39,320
Speaker 3: I'm his mother, and that makes me feel kind of awful.

647
00:29:40,000 --> 00:29:42,400
Speaker 3: Last week, I noticed his sheets were really dirty, so

648
00:29:42,440 --> 00:29:44,080
Speaker 3: I took them off and put them in the washer

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00:29:44,120 --> 00:29:47,360
Speaker 3: before I left. Six days later, when I came back

650
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Speaker 3: to spend my weekend off with him, the mattress was

651
00:29:50,160 --> 00:29:53,040
Speaker 3: still bare. He had been sleeping on a blanket I'd

652
00:29:53,120 --> 00:29:55,440
Speaker 3: left on the bed, just waiting for the sheets.

653
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Speaker 2: To dry for six days.

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Speaker 3: As soon as I saw the bed, I felt tired

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00:29:59,160 --> 00:30:02,239
Speaker 3: already and on just wanted to go back home. The

656
00:30:02,280 --> 00:30:04,040
Speaker 3: real problem is that when I try to talk about

657
00:30:04,080 --> 00:30:06,240
Speaker 3: how I feel about the mess, he tends to dismiss

658
00:30:06,280 --> 00:30:08,120
Speaker 3: it or make a joke. I want to be with

659
00:30:08,160 --> 00:30:10,440
Speaker 3: someone I can grow with, not someone I have to parent.

660
00:30:10,880 --> 00:30:13,520
Speaker 3: So Chelsea, what do you think? Am I overreacting? Or

661
00:30:13,600 --> 00:30:15,520
Speaker 3: is this the Universe's way of telling me it's time

662
00:30:15,520 --> 00:30:18,200
Speaker 3: to clean up more than just his kitchen With love

663
00:30:18,240 --> 00:30:20,960
Speaker 3: and a pair of dish gloves from Buenos airis Eduardo?

664
00:30:21,480 --> 00:30:25,520
Speaker 2: Okay, EDWARDO, it's a wrap on this. First of all, there.

665
00:30:26,680 --> 00:30:29,560
Speaker 1: Is nothing grosser than when men do not know how

666
00:30:29,640 --> 00:30:32,680
Speaker 1: to be hygienic in their own place. I had a

667
00:30:32,680 --> 00:30:35,920
Speaker 1: girlfriend that was dealing with this. She was my girlfriend

668
00:30:35,960 --> 00:30:38,760
Speaker 1: was dealing with a guy she had a long distance relationship.

669
00:30:38,480 --> 00:30:40,360
Speaker 2: And she went to his house. It was the same situation.

670
00:30:40,440 --> 00:30:42,120
Speaker 1: She said she was so grossed out by the way

671
00:30:42,240 --> 00:30:44,800
Speaker 1: he lived and how unkempt he was, Like how he

672
00:30:44,840 --> 00:30:47,000
Speaker 1: would you know, like the kitchen and the sheets. It's

673
00:30:47,040 --> 00:30:50,120
Speaker 1: a real sign of someone's personality when they can't figure

674
00:30:50,120 --> 00:30:52,600
Speaker 1: out how to adult and grow up, you know what

675
00:30:52,640 --> 00:30:54,640
Speaker 1: I mean. Like, it's a real sign of like and

676
00:30:54,680 --> 00:30:57,840
Speaker 1: then bringing it to their attention that should be one

677
00:30:57,840 --> 00:31:01,200
Speaker 1: and done conversation, Like if they're interested in maintaining this relationship,

678
00:31:01,240 --> 00:31:03,800
Speaker 1: and that's important to you. The hygiene of their house

679
00:31:04,000 --> 00:31:06,760
Speaker 1: where you're spending time not taking sheets out of a

680
00:31:06,920 --> 00:31:10,440
Speaker 1: dryer or a washer for six days is disgusting because

681
00:31:10,560 --> 00:31:15,640
Speaker 1: the mattress as an adult is disgusting. So like, it's

682
00:31:15,680 --> 00:31:18,000
Speaker 1: not going to change if you're you have to decide

683
00:31:18,000 --> 00:31:19,040
Speaker 1: if this is a deal breaker.

684
00:31:19,080 --> 00:31:21,080
Speaker 2: It would be for me. It would totally be a

685
00:31:21,120 --> 00:31:21,920
Speaker 2: deal breaker for me.

686
00:31:22,320 --> 00:31:24,719
Speaker 1: I mean, I've never been with someone gross like that,

687
00:31:24,960 --> 00:31:26,800
Speaker 1: but I mean, men are men could be gross, but

688
00:31:26,840 --> 00:31:27,520
Speaker 1: this is a gay man.

689
00:31:27,560 --> 00:31:28,120
Speaker 2: It sounds like.

690
00:31:30,680 --> 00:31:32,440
Speaker 3: I was shocked to see Eduardo at the end of this.

691
00:31:32,480 --> 00:31:34,320
Speaker 3: I'm like, you would expect this from a straight yet not.

692
00:31:34,440 --> 00:31:36,760
Speaker 1: Expect this from like a hetero man, not a gay man.

693
00:31:36,960 --> 00:31:39,920
Speaker 1: So yeah, but there's exceptions to all rules. But I mean,

694
00:31:39,960 --> 00:31:41,840
Speaker 1: I don't know, Amelia, what do you think would you

695
00:31:41,880 --> 00:31:43,120
Speaker 1: be down to party with.

696
00:31:45,160 --> 00:31:45,520
Speaker 5: Kidding?

697
00:31:45,720 --> 00:31:49,160
Speaker 4: No, absolutely categorical not the dumb sheets on the bed.

698
00:31:49,480 --> 00:31:51,840
Speaker 4: If you don't know how to take care of yourself,

699
00:31:51,880 --> 00:31:53,160
Speaker 4: how on earth are you going to take.

700
00:31:53,080 --> 00:31:53,440
Speaker 2: Care of me?

701
00:31:53,760 --> 00:31:57,280
Speaker 1: Like right, there you go, there we go, period, end

702
00:31:57,320 --> 00:32:02,600
Speaker 1: of story. But also grows also buying vegetables and then

703
00:32:02,640 --> 00:32:04,479
Speaker 1: not rinsing them off in the sink, like even I

704
00:32:04,560 --> 00:32:05,120
Speaker 1: know about that?

705
00:32:05,280 --> 00:32:07,760
Speaker 2: Like that that is so ridiculous. All of it is

706
00:32:07,840 --> 00:32:08,720
Speaker 2: just kind of an ick.

707
00:32:09,680 --> 00:32:12,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, nobody. Also, it just speaks to like a bigger

708
00:32:12,680 --> 00:32:15,800
Speaker 4: thing of this man clearly doesn't think much of himself

709
00:32:15,880 --> 00:32:19,320
Speaker 4: and isn't like right, he doesn't sound like he knows

710
00:32:19,680 --> 00:32:22,440
Speaker 4: what's up with him. So how would how would earth

711
00:32:22,480 --> 00:32:26,440
Speaker 4: could you trust your happiness and yourself and your romance?

712
00:32:26,880 --> 00:32:27,480
Speaker 2: What like this?

713
00:32:27,720 --> 00:32:30,960
Speaker 4: You're like, yeah, having sexual relations on a mattress with

714
00:32:31,160 --> 00:32:34,080
Speaker 4: no shoe. Yeah, yeah, exactly, all of it and that

715
00:32:34,160 --> 00:32:37,760
Speaker 4: it's making me really deeply uncomfortable. Gorgeous man needs to

716
00:32:37,760 --> 00:32:39,480
Speaker 4: get out of this like yesterday.

717
00:32:39,720 --> 00:32:42,040
Speaker 1: Also, you should only have to have one conversation about

718
00:32:42,040 --> 00:32:44,760
Speaker 1: a serious topic in your relationship. In my humble opinion,

719
00:32:45,080 --> 00:32:47,560
Speaker 1: you should have one serious conversation about something that's important

720
00:32:47,560 --> 00:32:49,840
Speaker 1: to you. And if that person isn't receptive and makes

721
00:32:49,920 --> 00:32:52,200
Speaker 1: changes knowing how important it is to you, then then

722
00:32:52,200 --> 00:32:54,360
Speaker 1: it's a moot point. There's no point to discuss it

723
00:32:54,440 --> 00:32:56,360
Speaker 1: over and over at infinitum.

724
00:32:56,760 --> 00:32:58,760
Speaker 2: And that's and that's the end of that story. What

725
00:32:58,760 --> 00:32:59,959
Speaker 2: do we what's next? Catherine?

726
00:33:01,000 --> 00:33:04,800
Speaker 3: Okay, Well, our first caller today is Jared, and Jared says,

727
00:33:05,840 --> 00:33:08,360
Speaker 3: ten years ago, I moved my queer black ass from

728
00:33:08,400 --> 00:33:10,640
Speaker 3: the East Coast to San Diego to get sober.

729
00:33:11,080 --> 00:33:12,240
Speaker 2: Then two years ago I.

730
00:33:12,200 --> 00:33:14,160
Speaker 3: Moved to La to be in a more creative and

731
00:33:14,200 --> 00:33:17,520
Speaker 3: cosmopolitan scene. I had a remote job, but that ended

732
00:33:17,560 --> 00:33:19,680
Speaker 3: a little over a year ago. I spent the last

733
00:33:19,760 --> 00:33:22,720
Speaker 3: year taking every possible action to earn an income, but

734
00:33:22,760 --> 00:33:25,360
Speaker 3: I cannot get hired to save my life. It's almost comical.

735
00:33:25,360 --> 00:33:25,960
Speaker 2: At this point.

736
00:33:26,360 --> 00:33:29,000
Speaker 3: I got snubbed for a job begging groceries a trader Joe's.

737
00:33:29,080 --> 00:33:31,480
Speaker 3: My car is busted and not eligible to drive uber.

738
00:33:31,720 --> 00:33:33,960
Speaker 3: I'm one hundred percent pro sex work, but I don't

739
00:33:33,960 --> 00:33:36,000
Speaker 3: think my forty three year old stock would command a

740
00:33:36,040 --> 00:33:39,080
Speaker 3: livable wage. My retirement is gone. That old bourbon and

741
00:33:39,120 --> 00:33:41,960
Speaker 3: cocaine habit wasn't exactly four roh one k friendly, and

742
00:33:42,000 --> 00:33:44,120
Speaker 3: there's no secret family money. And I'm in a program

743
00:33:44,160 --> 00:33:44,560
Speaker 3: to help.

744
00:33:44,400 --> 00:33:45,240
Speaker 2: Me earn effectively.

745
00:33:45,920 --> 00:33:48,880
Speaker 3: Throughout all this, losing the job, losing my dog, the

746
00:33:48,920 --> 00:33:51,800
Speaker 3: space away from boring dust jobs, I've seen my little

747
00:33:51,840 --> 00:33:54,800
Speaker 3: creative queen come out of herschell. I can't believe all

748
00:33:54,840 --> 00:33:57,520
Speaker 3: the talent and joy I suppressed for so many years,

749
00:33:57,880 --> 00:34:01,240
Speaker 3: especially writing and performing. To say it, Chelsea, but I

750
00:34:01,280 --> 00:34:03,320
Speaker 3: want to learn to be a comedy writer and maybe

751
00:34:03,320 --> 00:34:05,760
Speaker 3: do stand up. I know I can't just start doing

752
00:34:05,840 --> 00:34:08,080
Speaker 3: open mics and expect to pay rent. And even though

753
00:34:08,120 --> 00:34:10,879
Speaker 3: I'm still applying to big boy office jobs, I don't

754
00:34:10,880 --> 00:34:13,719
Speaker 3: want to stifle my creativity again. Now Here, I am

755
00:34:13,880 --> 00:34:16,480
Speaker 3: mid forties, broke, embarrassed that I want to start over

756
00:34:16,520 --> 00:34:19,120
Speaker 3: as a comedian while my peers are buying vacation homes,

757
00:34:19,400 --> 00:34:22,600
Speaker 3: living off alimony, and sending kids to college. So Chelsea,

758
00:34:22,760 --> 00:34:25,200
Speaker 3: how do I balance getting out of financial and emotional

759
00:34:25,200 --> 00:34:27,800
Speaker 3: survival mode while also trying to enter a new industry.

760
00:34:28,280 --> 00:34:29,520
Speaker 2: I didn't move to La to be.

761
00:34:29,520 --> 00:34:32,440
Speaker 3: In quote unquote Hollywood yuck, but I did move to

762
00:34:32,480 --> 00:34:34,759
Speaker 3: be more of myself. I've always been told I have

763
00:34:34,760 --> 00:34:37,520
Speaker 3: a special talent and energy, and that I should get

764
00:34:37,560 --> 00:34:39,799
Speaker 3: hired just to be myself. I just don't know what

765
00:34:39,880 --> 00:34:41,759
Speaker 3: to do in order to get the ball rolling and

766
00:34:41,800 --> 00:34:44,239
Speaker 3: not end up evicted or in another soulless job in

767
00:34:44,280 --> 00:34:44,840
Speaker 3: the process.

768
00:34:45,200 --> 00:34:47,279
Speaker 2: Am I too old to start over? Chelsea? What do

769
00:34:47,320 --> 00:34:47,799
Speaker 2: I need to.

770
00:34:47,760 --> 00:34:50,000
Speaker 3: Do to be strong and confident to make a living

771
00:34:50,080 --> 00:34:54,040
Speaker 3: spreading light and making others feel better? Sincerely, Jared, Hi,

772
00:34:54,160 --> 00:34:55,840
Speaker 3: Jared think Chelsea.

773
00:34:56,160 --> 00:34:57,160
Speaker 2: Hi, Hi Jared.

774
00:34:57,160 --> 00:34:59,560
Speaker 1: This is our special guest, Amelia Clarke is here today.

775
00:35:00,080 --> 00:35:01,120
Speaker 4: Hi.

776
00:35:01,440 --> 00:35:02,439
Speaker 5: Great to see you all.

777
00:35:02,719 --> 00:35:04,920
Speaker 2: Oh, great to see you well.

778
00:35:05,000 --> 00:35:07,120
Speaker 1: I mean, first of all, a couple things like this

779
00:35:07,280 --> 00:35:10,040
Speaker 1: is happy that you are. Your letter says a lot

780
00:35:10,040 --> 00:35:12,440
Speaker 1: of things. It says like you're in a transitional period

781
00:35:12,480 --> 00:35:15,879
Speaker 1: in your life. You're also like you're broke and you're

782
00:35:16,040 --> 00:35:19,440
Speaker 1: out of work. But while that could be, you're like

783
00:35:19,560 --> 00:35:22,360
Speaker 1: the lowest point for many people, you're also discovering that

784
00:35:22,400 --> 00:35:24,719
Speaker 1: you have some other like creative outlets that you want

785
00:35:24,719 --> 00:35:26,560
Speaker 1: to explore, and I think that's a great thing.

786
00:35:26,600 --> 00:35:28,319
Speaker 2: I think you need to focus on getting a job.

787
00:35:28,360 --> 00:35:29,799
Speaker 1: We need to get you a job so you have

788
00:35:30,160 --> 00:35:32,239
Speaker 1: money coming in so you can pay your rent, and

789
00:35:32,280 --> 00:35:35,160
Speaker 1: then comedies at nighttime, so don't they don't have to

790
00:35:35,200 --> 00:35:37,319
Speaker 1: preclude each other like you can't. You can do both

791
00:35:37,360 --> 00:35:39,319
Speaker 1: of those things, you know what I mean. You need

792
00:35:39,360 --> 00:35:42,040
Speaker 1: to be financially stable. That's the most that's the main

793
00:35:42,080 --> 00:35:44,080
Speaker 1: priority I think for you right now. So we need

794
00:35:44,080 --> 00:35:47,160
Speaker 1: to get you a job, and then once you're like

795
00:35:47,239 --> 00:35:49,319
Speaker 1: situated in that, then you could spend your time going

796
00:35:49,320 --> 00:35:51,520
Speaker 1: to open mics and exploring all of this stand up.

797
00:35:51,680 --> 00:35:54,000
Speaker 1: You know, stand up's not going anywhere, so and I

798
00:35:54,000 --> 00:35:57,239
Speaker 1: wouldn't worry about what age you are, Like people rediscover

799
00:35:57,320 --> 00:36:00,000
Speaker 1: themselves throughout their entire lives. There's no age, don't you

800
00:36:00,120 --> 00:36:02,719
Speaker 1: you agree, Amelia, There's no expiration.

801
00:36:02,320 --> 00:36:04,720
Speaker 2: Date of when you can become something or start anew.

802
00:36:04,800 --> 00:36:08,080
Speaker 1: I think the most important thing is to recognize that

803
00:36:08,160 --> 00:36:11,040
Speaker 1: you do have that desire and Okay, now you're going

804
00:36:11,120 --> 00:36:15,280
Speaker 1: to make a plan forward. Like the job, it's for sustainability,

805
00:36:15,320 --> 00:36:17,920
Speaker 1: and like your support it's not to give you everything

806
00:36:17,920 --> 00:36:19,560
Speaker 1: in life, because you're going to go look for that

807
00:36:19,920 --> 00:36:21,400
Speaker 1: with comedy and other places.

808
00:36:21,440 --> 00:36:23,320
Speaker 2: So I think that makes it easier.

809
00:36:22,920 --> 00:36:27,200
Speaker 1: Probably to kind of look for more a broader spectrum

810
00:36:27,239 --> 00:36:29,240
Speaker 1: of jobs than maybe you were looking for initially.

811
00:36:29,840 --> 00:36:33,680
Speaker 5: That's awesome. Yeah, keeping an open mind for sure, comedies

812
00:36:33,719 --> 00:36:37,279
Speaker 5: at night, that's a great reminder all the nighttime. It's

813
00:36:37,320 --> 00:36:37,719
Speaker 5: hard for me.

814
00:36:37,840 --> 00:36:40,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, nobody's doing comedy in the morning, so don't worry

815
00:36:40,320 --> 00:36:42,080
Speaker 1: about that. You're not missing out during the day.

816
00:36:42,760 --> 00:36:43,160
Speaker 2: Perfect.

817
00:36:43,800 --> 00:36:46,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, and Jared, I know when I was in a

818
00:36:46,440 --> 00:36:50,440
Speaker 3: similar situation, like before I got into podcasting, I was

819
00:36:50,480 --> 00:36:52,560
Speaker 3: sort of like, Okay, I'm going for these marketing gigs.

820
00:36:52,560 --> 00:36:54,319
Speaker 3: It's like quote unquote what I know how to do,

821
00:36:54,520 --> 00:36:56,840
Speaker 3: even though I was already like doing podcasting on the side.

822
00:36:57,440 --> 00:37:00,279
Speaker 3: And finally I was just like, fuck it, I'm going

823
00:37:00,360 --> 00:37:02,000
Speaker 3: to go after the jobs that are like actually in

824
00:37:02,000 --> 00:37:04,160
Speaker 3: the field I want to be in, rather than sort

825
00:37:04,160 --> 00:37:06,719
Speaker 3: of selling myself short going for these other things and

826
00:37:06,800 --> 00:37:08,719
Speaker 3: like it might be an entry level thing, but at

827
00:37:08,760 --> 00:37:11,200
Speaker 3: the same time, like I would set yourself up for

828
00:37:11,280 --> 00:37:14,720
Speaker 3: success and start moving toward even if it's like super

829
00:37:14,760 --> 00:37:17,640
Speaker 3: super entry level or something really part time, like just

830
00:37:17,680 --> 00:37:19,840
Speaker 3: see what's out there in where you want to be.

831
00:37:20,719 --> 00:37:24,000
Speaker 5: Yeah, I've been doing assistant work and actually sober coach

832
00:37:24,080 --> 00:37:27,400
Speaker 5: companion work, which is really fulfilling and I think I'm

833
00:37:27,440 --> 00:37:31,120
Speaker 5: good at it. It's kind of sporadic, but absolutely, you're

834
00:37:31,160 --> 00:37:35,319
Speaker 5: right getting stable. I also feel like this is like

835
00:37:35,400 --> 00:37:38,080
Speaker 5: the exact territory I need to be in to create

836
00:37:38,120 --> 00:37:41,240
Speaker 5: some great, actual real comedy. Like it's funny.

837
00:37:41,840 --> 00:37:44,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, and also sober coaching is also funny.

838
00:37:44,400 --> 00:37:46,000
Speaker 1: The things that you have to do and like, and

839
00:37:46,280 --> 00:37:48,960
Speaker 1: that's actually great, Like that's a nice like little panoply

840
00:37:49,000 --> 00:37:51,080
Speaker 1: of things you have. Like you need a job you

841
00:37:51,120 --> 00:37:53,880
Speaker 1: can do sober coaching. Does that pay sober coaching or

842
00:37:53,920 --> 00:37:56,600
Speaker 1: is that just kind of voluntary? Oh it does really well?

843
00:37:56,680 --> 00:37:58,360
Speaker 4: Yeah? Oh great, oh great?

844
00:37:58,480 --> 00:38:02,640
Speaker 2: Oh family answered your own problem, Amelia.

845
00:38:02,760 --> 00:38:04,440
Speaker 3: Was there anything that you did when you were like

846
00:38:04,600 --> 00:38:07,879
Speaker 3: working in catering or whatever else to sort of make

847
00:38:07,920 --> 00:38:10,759
Speaker 3: sure that you were working on your craft all of

848
00:38:10,800 --> 00:38:13,400
Speaker 3: the time or not letting sort of that creative spark die.

849
00:38:14,520 --> 00:38:17,799
Speaker 4: Yeah. I mean I think, first all, Jared, congratulations on

850
00:38:17,840 --> 00:38:20,239
Speaker 4: the incredible work you've done on yourself. That is more

851
00:38:20,280 --> 00:38:22,120
Speaker 4: than a lot of people. I think that should be

852
00:38:22,120 --> 00:38:27,839
Speaker 4: like remarkable, absolutely brilliant and amazing that you know very

853
00:38:27,880 --> 00:38:30,319
Speaker 4: clearly the kind of creative work that you want to do.

854
00:38:30,400 --> 00:38:32,680
Speaker 4: But I think just because you know that you want

855
00:38:32,719 --> 00:38:35,680
Speaker 4: to do comedy doesn't mean that you can't do all

856
00:38:35,719 --> 00:38:39,160
Speaker 4: the other creative things as well in any ways that

857
00:38:39,200 --> 00:38:41,880
Speaker 4: they might move you, because that's just gonna I know

858
00:38:42,000 --> 00:38:46,200
Speaker 4: that when I was doing nine jobs and then like

859
00:38:46,320 --> 00:38:48,960
Speaker 4: post drama school, pre drama school or whatever, and you're like,

860
00:38:49,360 --> 00:38:52,360
Speaker 4: the goal is this thing, and then everything else around

861
00:38:52,400 --> 00:38:54,719
Speaker 4: it just kind of sucks in comparison because I'm just

862
00:38:54,760 --> 00:38:57,520
Speaker 4: trying to pay my rent. And I think that so

863
00:38:57,960 --> 00:39:02,040
Speaker 4: then if whatever other create avenues, you can explore for

864
00:39:02,080 --> 00:39:06,319
Speaker 4: fun without any pressure, without any like this is what

865
00:39:06,360 --> 00:39:07,640
Speaker 4: I have to do with the rest of my life.

866
00:39:07,640 --> 00:39:11,759
Speaker 4: This is you know, whether you're like something arty or

867
00:39:11,760 --> 00:39:15,640
Speaker 4: something musical or something you know in the kitchen or whatever,

868
00:39:15,640 --> 00:39:19,000
Speaker 4: it is to make sure that your soul is still

869
00:39:19,040 --> 00:39:22,000
Speaker 4: being fulfilled, because I know that when I worked at

870
00:39:22,000 --> 00:39:24,120
Speaker 4: a call center and a bar, I got depressed.

871
00:39:24,560 --> 00:39:25,360
Speaker 2: I got sad.

872
00:39:25,600 --> 00:39:28,560
Speaker 4: I got really really sad, like where you're like, I'm

873
00:39:28,600 --> 00:39:31,319
Speaker 4: doing the job thing, but I get to do none

874
00:39:31,400 --> 00:39:35,240
Speaker 4: of the other stuff, right, I'm not missing out because

875
00:39:35,280 --> 00:39:37,400
Speaker 4: I'm not getting paid to do this other stuff that

876
00:39:37,440 --> 00:39:39,440
Speaker 4: I've decided that's what my career is going to be.

877
00:39:39,920 --> 00:39:42,480
Speaker 4: Then everything else sort of pales into comparison. So I think,

878
00:39:42,960 --> 00:39:45,080
Speaker 4: whatever are the ways you can do to make sure

879
00:39:45,080 --> 00:39:49,680
Speaker 4: that your joy bucket is still being you know, full?

880
00:39:50,000 --> 00:39:53,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, and don't think of anything as like as permanent,

881
00:39:53,360 --> 00:39:54,560
Speaker 1: you know what I mean? You kind of have to

882
00:39:54,600 --> 00:39:57,480
Speaker 1: like we always get this idea of like the final

883
00:39:57,560 --> 00:39:59,439
Speaker 1: like we don't think like I remember when I waited

884
00:39:59,480 --> 00:40:02,120
Speaker 1: tables for like ten years or seven years. I felt

885
00:40:02,120 --> 00:40:05,279
Speaker 1: like ten but like I just wanted my life to

886
00:40:05,320 --> 00:40:07,960
Speaker 1: begin like that. I was like, this isn't my life. Meanwhile,

887
00:40:07,960 --> 00:40:10,040
Speaker 1: that was my life, Like that was my life during

888
00:40:10,080 --> 00:40:12,560
Speaker 1: that time. But I didn't think my life began until

889
00:40:12,600 --> 00:40:15,120
Speaker 1: I started to have some success, and I kind of

890
00:40:15,160 --> 00:40:18,480
Speaker 1: like I didn't miss those moments, but I miss knowing

891
00:40:18,520 --> 00:40:21,400
Speaker 1: that this wasn't forever either, Like I was so impatient

892
00:40:21,680 --> 00:40:24,040
Speaker 1: about getting where I wanted to go that it's really

893
00:40:24,120 --> 00:40:27,640
Speaker 1: important to remember the ride is as important as a destination,

894
00:40:28,120 --> 00:40:30,120
Speaker 1: like what you do to get there, and knowing that

895
00:40:30,160 --> 00:40:33,800
Speaker 1: you're not going to be doing anything forever permanently you

896
00:40:33,880 --> 00:40:35,680
Speaker 1: know what I mean, or a situation you're in is

897
00:40:35,760 --> 00:40:38,839
Speaker 1: never going to be permanent. So to know like you're

898
00:40:38,880 --> 00:40:42,160
Speaker 1: working towards something and while you're working towards that, to

899
00:40:42,320 --> 00:40:44,840
Speaker 1: enjoy all of the things that go with it awesome.

900
00:40:44,960 --> 00:40:48,640
Speaker 4: Yeah. And then also what does success in comedy look like?

901
00:40:48,800 --> 00:40:53,600
Speaker 4: Because you know that fame isn't real, right, it isn't

902
00:40:54,320 --> 00:40:58,480
Speaker 4: understanding Okay, on a day basis, what would success feel

903
00:40:58,560 --> 00:41:01,080
Speaker 4: like being in doing the thing that you love to

904
00:41:01,120 --> 00:41:06,440
Speaker 4: do without having the like in order to yeah, you

905
00:41:06,520 --> 00:41:11,480
Speaker 4: know be because it's just it's not it's not you know,

906
00:41:11,719 --> 00:41:16,080
Speaker 4: always the nicest experience. And exactly is Chelsea was saying

907
00:41:16,120 --> 00:41:18,640
Speaker 4: the bits on the way there. That's the fun, that's

908
00:41:18,719 --> 00:41:21,160
Speaker 4: the good time, that's the like, Chelsea, do you agree

909
00:41:21,160 --> 00:41:21,680
Speaker 4: with me or no?

910
00:41:22,080 --> 00:41:24,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, well I know you You actually have a great

911
00:41:24,320 --> 00:41:27,400
Speaker 1: quote about that, Amelia where you talk about like getting

912
00:41:27,400 --> 00:41:29,600
Speaker 1: what you need out of the work right and your

913
00:41:29,680 --> 00:41:31,200
Speaker 1: you know, your reviews don't matter.

914
00:41:31,280 --> 00:41:34,840
Speaker 2: It's actually like what you what are you getting out of?

915
00:41:34,840 --> 00:41:35,680
Speaker 2: What are you doing?

916
00:41:35,760 --> 00:41:38,399
Speaker 1: Because we always there's like, yeah, we have this kind

917
00:41:38,440 --> 00:41:43,359
Speaker 1: of success system, which means we're noticed, we're famous or successful,

918
00:41:43,680 --> 00:41:45,640
Speaker 1: and that's not the measure of success.

919
00:41:45,680 --> 00:41:47,919
Speaker 2: That's kind of it's illusory.

920
00:41:47,480 --> 00:41:50,680
Speaker 1: And it's not real, like Amelia saying, even though it looks,

921
00:41:50,800 --> 00:41:53,600
Speaker 1: you know, from the outside, it can look like that's

922
00:41:53,600 --> 00:41:56,120
Speaker 1: what you want to attain, but it's really much more

923
00:41:56,760 --> 00:41:58,040
Speaker 1: full bodied than that.

924
00:41:59,040 --> 00:42:01,560
Speaker 5: Yeah, connecting with people, making them laugh, share.

925
00:42:01,440 --> 00:42:05,759
Speaker 1: Writing joys, barn humor, you know, making sure you're like yeah,

926
00:42:05,760 --> 00:42:07,560
Speaker 1: and you seem like you have a very high spirit,

927
00:42:07,640 --> 00:42:10,799
Speaker 1: like you're on a nice high frequency. So like make

928
00:42:10,840 --> 00:42:13,799
Speaker 1: sure you're bringing that, you know, with everything you do,

929
00:42:14,200 --> 00:42:16,000
Speaker 1: and then it kind of all blends together. I know,

930
00:42:16,080 --> 00:42:18,279
Speaker 1: my life blends together, my professional and my private all

931
00:42:18,320 --> 00:42:20,480
Speaker 1: of it's kind of like, yeah, I'll watch together because

932
00:42:20,480 --> 00:42:23,920
Speaker 1: that's the kind of vibe I want to have. Is like, yeah,

933
00:42:24,000 --> 00:42:25,960
Speaker 1: I'm not you know, I don't take it too seriously.

934
00:42:26,520 --> 00:42:29,800
Speaker 1: I'm not precious about my work. I'm like just truthful

935
00:42:29,800 --> 00:42:31,759
Speaker 1: and honest, and I know that's my kind of thing.

936
00:42:31,920 --> 00:42:34,399
Speaker 1: Like I'm gonna say it like it is, and that's

937
00:42:34,400 --> 00:42:36,960
Speaker 1: what people like about me, and I like that about myself.

938
00:42:37,200 --> 00:42:39,719
Speaker 1: So it's like just being very authentic to who you

939
00:42:39,760 --> 00:42:41,960
Speaker 1: are in the process, I think is and Amelia, that's

940
00:42:42,000 --> 00:42:44,200
Speaker 1: something that you know, I could recognize in you too,

941
00:42:44,320 --> 00:42:46,080
Speaker 1: you know, like what you're bringing to all of these

942
00:42:46,120 --> 00:42:49,399
Speaker 1: different roles and especially even in this last show she's

943
00:42:49,800 --> 00:42:51,640
Speaker 1: she's on here to promote a new show called Ponies,

944
00:42:51,640 --> 00:42:54,960
Speaker 1: which is on Peacock. It's just like I can see

945
00:42:55,440 --> 00:42:57,759
Speaker 1: the humanity in you and everything that you do. And

946
00:42:57,800 --> 00:42:59,920
Speaker 1: I would say that that is something to aim for

947
00:43:00,120 --> 00:43:02,799
Speaker 1: as as a creative, to be as authentic as you

948
00:43:02,840 --> 00:43:05,600
Speaker 1: can in every endeavor and that includes the shit you

949
00:43:05,640 --> 00:43:06,200
Speaker 1: don't like to do.

950
00:43:06,239 --> 00:43:11,680
Speaker 2: Also, yeah then yeah, okay, well good luck to you,

951
00:43:11,960 --> 00:43:17,040
Speaker 2: so happy, so much awesome, Thanks Jared, Jared.

952
00:43:18,360 --> 00:43:20,640
Speaker 1: It's so true what you said about fame amilia because

953
00:43:20,640 --> 00:43:22,640
Speaker 1: you know, like as a famous.

954
00:43:22,320 --> 00:43:25,120
Speaker 2: Person, you I know that that's not real.

955
00:43:25,280 --> 00:43:28,960
Speaker 1: But you people that are aspiring to be in it

956
00:43:29,120 --> 00:43:31,560
Speaker 1: in this industry, that's what they think.

957
00:43:31,600 --> 00:43:33,200
Speaker 2: Then that is the success.

958
00:43:33,560 --> 00:43:35,600
Speaker 4: Yes, And it's like the thing I always say is

959
00:43:35,640 --> 00:43:38,640
Speaker 4: it's vapor. It doesn't exist. You can't hold onto it,

960
00:43:38,640 --> 00:43:41,719
Speaker 4: you can't define it, you can't like because whatever fame

961
00:43:41,800 --> 00:43:44,240
Speaker 4: brings you on Monday, it's going to take away on Tuesday.

962
00:43:44,560 --> 00:43:46,719
Speaker 4: You don't you know what I mean? Like you're you're

963
00:43:46,760 --> 00:43:48,400
Speaker 4: the flavor of the months for a second, and then

964
00:43:48,400 --> 00:43:50,600
Speaker 4: you're not or then like you know, you don't do

965
00:43:50,640 --> 00:43:52,640
Speaker 4: a bunch of stuff and people don't recognize you much,

966
00:43:52,640 --> 00:43:54,239
Speaker 4: and then you do, and then you'll suddenly back in

967
00:43:54,280 --> 00:43:56,399
Speaker 4: it and you'll it just all it goes to show

968
00:43:56,480 --> 00:43:59,200
Speaker 4: is like it does, doesn't It's not real. It's not

969
00:43:59,360 --> 00:44:03,120
Speaker 4: like Yeah, these when like young people come up to

970
00:44:03,160 --> 00:44:04,600
Speaker 4: me and you know, they want to be an actor

971
00:44:04,640 --> 00:44:07,040
Speaker 4: or whatever. My first thing is always, can you think

972
00:44:07,080 --> 00:44:09,759
Speaker 4: of anything else that you can do?

973
00:44:10,360 --> 00:44:11,839
Speaker 2: Because pointed it.

974
00:44:13,040 --> 00:44:17,080
Speaker 4: Do that, because if there's anything else you can do,

975
00:44:17,800 --> 00:44:19,600
Speaker 4: it has to be the only thing you can do

976
00:44:20,000 --> 00:44:23,640
Speaker 4: to commit to like levels of failure, the level of like.

977
00:44:23,800 --> 00:44:27,360
Speaker 1: The rejection, the rejection and the failure and the rejection.

978
00:44:27,480 --> 00:44:30,120
Speaker 1: Even when you're successful, you're like wait what You're like,

979
00:44:30,120 --> 00:44:30,920
Speaker 1: how did that happen?

980
00:44:31,440 --> 00:44:33,640
Speaker 4: Exactly? Like this's the same thing, but the goalposts just

981
00:44:33,719 --> 00:44:35,399
Speaker 4: keep moving, they move with you.

982
00:44:35,440 --> 00:44:37,640
Speaker 1: What was it like for you when you realized that

983
00:44:37,800 --> 00:44:40,200
Speaker 1: Game of Thrones when it hit the way it hit

984
00:44:40,320 --> 00:44:42,960
Speaker 1: and you realize how famous all of you guys had become?

985
00:44:43,400 --> 00:44:45,839
Speaker 1: What how did that? Was that a mind fuck at

986
00:44:45,840 --> 00:44:47,560
Speaker 1: all for you? Or how did you handle that?

987
00:44:48,360 --> 00:44:48,600
Speaker 2: Yeah?

988
00:44:48,640 --> 00:44:50,960
Speaker 4: So I had I had a slow build into it

989
00:44:51,040 --> 00:44:54,719
Speaker 4: because I was not blonde, so I was unrecognizable for

990
00:44:54,760 --> 00:44:56,960
Speaker 4: the first like three three foot like for the first

991
00:44:56,960 --> 00:45:00,080
Speaker 4: like three to four seasons, I'd be walking down on

992
00:45:00,120 --> 00:45:01,520
Speaker 4: the street with Kit and people would be like, can

993
00:45:01,560 --> 00:45:03,480
Speaker 4: you take off photo? As in, can I take the

994
00:45:03,520 --> 00:45:06,160
Speaker 4: picture of them with Kit? I'm like, yeah, absolut blooding lately,

995
00:45:06,200 --> 00:45:10,400
Speaker 4: I can you do it? And then stuff something flipped

996
00:45:10,440 --> 00:45:13,080
Speaker 4: and I think I became recognizable for the hair color

997
00:45:13,120 --> 00:45:15,200
Speaker 4: that I had or whatever it was. Anyway, So then

998
00:45:15,239 --> 00:45:19,279
Speaker 4: as that started to progress, I used to just get

999
00:45:19,320 --> 00:45:22,680
Speaker 4: panic attacks, like it really it like sucker punched me

1000
00:45:22,719 --> 00:45:27,240
Speaker 4: in a way that I like people. I like talking

1001
00:45:27,280 --> 00:45:30,319
Speaker 4: to people, I like meeting people, and fame stops that

1002
00:45:30,400 --> 00:45:33,920
Speaker 4: from happening. So I'm bummed hard. I was like, that's

1003
00:45:33,960 --> 00:45:37,360
Speaker 4: that's really annoying. That's really frustrating that Like sometimes I

1004
00:45:37,400 --> 00:45:40,200
Speaker 4: don't know if you find it. I'm a walking conversation stopper,

1005
00:45:40,920 --> 00:45:42,880
Speaker 4: not to a table of people. You know most of them,

1006
00:45:42,960 --> 00:45:45,799
Speaker 4: but not all of them, and they see you and

1007
00:45:45,840 --> 00:45:49,040
Speaker 4: you're like, whether or not they know me, like me

1008
00:45:49,719 --> 00:45:52,399
Speaker 4: seeing the work, whatever, it doesn't seem to matter. It's

1009
00:45:52,800 --> 00:45:57,640
Speaker 4: you're enough of like an oddity for everyone to be like, huh,

1010
00:45:57,680 --> 00:46:00,920
Speaker 4: well this changes things, and they're like, okay, I'll just

1011
00:46:01,360 --> 00:46:03,680
Speaker 4: work on I'll do you want to drink, I'll stay

1012
00:46:03,680 --> 00:46:04,240
Speaker 4: at the ball.

1013
00:46:04,520 --> 00:46:07,239
Speaker 2: You know what I mean? Like, I like that what

1014
00:46:07,280 --> 00:46:07,760
Speaker 2: you're saying.

1015
00:46:07,800 --> 00:46:10,279
Speaker 1: That's it's yeah, we don't talk about that a lot

1016
00:46:10,320 --> 00:46:12,479
Speaker 1: on this podcast. We don't talk about the actual act

1017
00:46:12,520 --> 00:46:15,479
Speaker 1: of being famous and what that is because it's so rare,

1018
00:46:15,640 --> 00:46:17,759
Speaker 1: I guess, and it's probably not that relatable to so

1019
00:46:17,800 --> 00:46:21,000
Speaker 1: many listeners because they're like, sorry, no, but it's insightful.

1020
00:46:21,200 --> 00:46:23,520
Speaker 1: I think it's insightful for people to know, because people do.

1021
00:46:23,920 --> 00:46:26,319
Speaker 1: I'm very regular and like, you know, people come up

1022
00:46:26,360 --> 00:46:28,280
Speaker 1: to me like they know me, and you know, they

1023
00:46:28,400 --> 00:46:29,600
Speaker 1: kind of do it because I'm not acting.

1024
00:46:29,680 --> 00:46:31,279
Speaker 2: I'm just kind of my own personality.

1025
00:46:31,600 --> 00:46:35,319
Speaker 1: But like the awkwardness, Like the things that people say

1026
00:46:35,320 --> 00:46:38,160
Speaker 1: are always like when people go my favorite thing is

1027
00:46:38,480 --> 00:46:40,920
Speaker 1: where do I know you from? As if we're going

1028
00:46:40,960 --> 00:46:42,880
Speaker 1: to sit there and list all of her credits, I'm like,

1029
00:46:42,880 --> 00:46:45,560
Speaker 1: well it could be from this or I'm or they go,

1030
00:46:45,760 --> 00:46:48,279
Speaker 1: I know you, who are you? I'm like, yeah, no,

1031
00:46:48,560 --> 00:46:50,640
Speaker 1: that's not how this is going to go with this conversation.

1032
00:46:51,239 --> 00:46:52,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, but they say make me feel.

1033
00:46:53,440 --> 00:46:55,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, I know you're famous. Let me take a picture.

1034
00:46:55,239 --> 00:46:57,759
Speaker 1: And I'm like, wait, no, you don't just get because

1035
00:46:57,760 --> 00:46:58,280
Speaker 1: I'm famous.

1036
00:46:58,320 --> 00:46:59,439
Speaker 2: You don't even know who I am.

1037
00:47:00,120 --> 00:47:02,399
Speaker 1: But yeah, it's it's kind of I like to make

1038
00:47:02,400 --> 00:47:04,480
Speaker 1: it the least amount of awkward as I possibly can

1039
00:47:04,560 --> 00:47:09,400
Speaker 1: for people, but people can be incredibly awkward around famous people.

1040
00:47:10,000 --> 00:47:13,319
Speaker 4: Yes, But I suppose the reason for me to say

1041
00:47:13,360 --> 00:47:16,960
Speaker 4: it is that, like we still as a culture is

1042
00:47:17,040 --> 00:47:21,280
Speaker 4: still coveting fame, coveting success, coveting money, coveting all these

1043
00:47:21,880 --> 00:47:24,839
Speaker 4: like how everything looks. And I know this is enough

1044
00:47:24,880 --> 00:47:28,040
Speaker 4: people who've been speaking about this for enough time, But

1045
00:47:28,280 --> 00:47:34,480
Speaker 4: still the truth of it is not the aspirational thing.

1046
00:47:35,320 --> 00:47:37,080
Speaker 3: Yeah you know what I mean, Like, it's not what

1047
00:47:37,120 --> 00:47:38,640
Speaker 3: you think it's going to be before you get it

1048
00:47:38,680 --> 00:47:39,240
Speaker 3: sort of thing.

1049
00:47:39,480 --> 00:47:43,400
Speaker 4: No. Yeah, there's like others, there's loads of other things

1050
00:47:44,239 --> 00:47:45,640
Speaker 4: that are more fun and more important.

1051
00:47:45,760 --> 00:47:46,879
Speaker 2: Yeah. Absolutely.

1052
00:47:47,080 --> 00:47:48,400
Speaker 1: Okay, we're going to take a break and we'll be

1053
00:47:48,440 --> 00:47:49,600
Speaker 1: right back and we're going to wrap it up with

1054
00:47:49,640 --> 00:47:57,680
Speaker 1: our last color and we're back with the very delightful

1055
00:47:57,680 --> 00:48:00,080
Speaker 1: Amelia Clark. What do we have to close out our

1056
00:48:00,120 --> 00:48:01,520
Speaker 1: show our therapy session today?

1057
00:48:01,560 --> 00:48:02,080
Speaker 2: Catherine?

1058
00:48:02,560 --> 00:48:05,960
Speaker 3: Okay, Well, Julia writes, Dear Chelsea, from the ages of

1059
00:48:05,960 --> 00:48:08,520
Speaker 3: twenty five to thirty, I was in a really tumultuous

1060
00:48:08,560 --> 00:48:09,680
Speaker 3: on off relationship.

1061
00:48:09,800 --> 00:48:11,840
Speaker 2: Who was it? Hy Y.

1062
00:48:14,719 --> 00:48:17,359
Speaker 3: That's an extreme understatement, but he's not the reason I'm

1063
00:48:17,360 --> 00:48:19,680
Speaker 3: writing in. When I finally got out of that for good,

1064
00:48:19,719 --> 00:48:22,479
Speaker 3: I settled into being independent and single, Like a fish

1065
00:48:22,520 --> 00:48:25,560
Speaker 3: in water. I did things for myself, went to therapy,

1066
00:48:25,719 --> 00:48:28,040
Speaker 3: made changes in my life all for the better, and

1067
00:48:28,080 --> 00:48:30,000
Speaker 3: I did it all on my own. I was totally

1068
00:48:30,040 --> 00:48:32,839
Speaker 3: fulfilled for four years. A little over a year ago,

1069
00:48:33,000 --> 00:48:35,440
Speaker 3: my job went away thanks to a Republican takeover in

1070
00:48:35,440 --> 00:48:37,719
Speaker 3: my state. I moved across the country so I could

1071
00:48:37,800 --> 00:48:39,959
Speaker 3: keep working in my field and honestly for a fresh

1072
00:48:39,960 --> 00:48:41,000
Speaker 3: start in other ways too.

1073
00:48:41,520 --> 00:48:42,880
Speaker 2: I've settled into my new life.

1074
00:48:42,920 --> 00:48:45,360
Speaker 3: It's definitely been harder without a big network of friends,

1075
00:48:45,360 --> 00:48:47,239
Speaker 3: but I liked my job. I make more money, and

1076
00:48:47,280 --> 00:48:49,240
Speaker 3: I have made friends with a lot of my neighbors.

1077
00:48:49,640 --> 00:48:51,560
Speaker 3: We have a really nice little pot of people helping

1078
00:48:51,600 --> 00:48:54,200
Speaker 3: each other out with dogs, kids, yard work. We have

1079
00:48:54,239 --> 00:48:57,640
Speaker 3: group dinners, all very wholesome and lovely. One of those

1080
00:48:57,680 --> 00:49:00,200
Speaker 3: friends is my next door neighbor. We spent almost every

1081
00:49:00,320 --> 00:49:03,440
Speaker 3: night hanging out together, just chatting in the backyard. Eventually

1082
00:49:03,480 --> 00:49:05,120
Speaker 3: he told me he liked me, and I told him

1083
00:49:05,160 --> 00:49:07,480
Speaker 3: I liked him too. At first, I felt mad at

1084
00:49:07,560 --> 00:49:10,320
Speaker 3: him for ruining our backyard vibes, but when I stopped

1085
00:49:10,360 --> 00:49:13,480
Speaker 3: being thrown off balance, we started dating. It's been five months,

1086
00:49:13,480 --> 00:49:15,319
Speaker 3: and since we're on two sides of a duplex with

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Speaker 3: a door in the middle, it's very much like a

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00:49:17,120 --> 00:49:20,040
Speaker 3: live in relationship. All these things that I thought were

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00:49:20,040 --> 00:49:23,280
Speaker 3: dead and buried for me, my sex drive, being cuddly, cooking,

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00:49:23,320 --> 00:49:25,920
Speaker 3: and watching TV with another person are all back with

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00:49:25,960 --> 00:49:28,600
Speaker 3: a vengeance. All of a sudden, I find myself thinking

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00:49:28,640 --> 00:49:30,960
Speaker 3: about him all the time, buying groceries that will make

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00:49:31,000 --> 00:49:33,600
Speaker 3: him happy, actually wanting to give him head, even doing

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00:49:33,600 --> 00:49:36,480
Speaker 3: his laundry. All my friends and family are thrilled that

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00:49:36,520 --> 00:49:38,560
Speaker 3: I'm in a couple and thriving. A lot of people

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00:49:38,600 --> 00:49:40,800
Speaker 3: had already met him as my neighbor slash bestie, so

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00:49:40,840 --> 00:49:43,200
Speaker 3: they're very happy with the turn of events. We also

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00:49:43,239 --> 00:49:44,960
Speaker 3: have a years with a friendship under our belt, so

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Speaker 3: it really feels like we've got a big head start

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Speaker 3: on the whole intimacy thing. But I can't help but

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00:49:49,200 --> 00:49:51,439
Speaker 3: feel like I'm losing something. It took me a long

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Speaker 3: time to build my self sufficiency and independence. It's something

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00:49:55,160 --> 00:49:57,480
Speaker 3: that I've guarded fiercely for the past five years, and

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00:49:57,520 --> 00:49:59,440
Speaker 3: I feel like it's slipping away and less time than

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00:49:59,480 --> 00:50:01,480
Speaker 3: it takes me to commit to buying a NU lawn chair.

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00:50:01,880 --> 00:50:03,719
Speaker 3: He is nothing like the horrible X, But I don't

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00:50:03,719 --> 00:50:06,560
Speaker 3: want to lose myself in a relationship ever again. Should

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Speaker 3: I just accept that this is going well and making

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Speaker 3: me happy?

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Speaker 2: Or should I be freaking out?

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00:50:11,080 --> 00:50:13,280
Speaker 1: Why are you looking for problems where there are none.

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00:50:13,480 --> 00:50:15,839
Speaker 1: Your relationship that you had with that other guy is over.

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Speaker 1: You're not repeating that same cycle. You've already learned your

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Speaker 1: from your mistakes. I can tell by your letter you're

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Speaker 1: in a good place. This is what we do as women.

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00:50:24,360 --> 00:50:27,560
Speaker 1: We question any sort of happiness that just lands at

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00:50:27,560 --> 00:50:29,719
Speaker 1: our feet and go, do I deserve this? Once the

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00:50:29,760 --> 00:50:32,000
Speaker 1: other shoe gonna drop? Am I gonna lose myself?

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Speaker 4: No?

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Speaker 1: You're not, honey, You're fine, You're good. You have a

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00:50:35,160 --> 00:50:37,879
Speaker 1: good thing going. You have a guy that lives across

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00:50:38,080 --> 00:50:41,240
Speaker 1: the fucking hall from you. This is the best possible

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Speaker 1: case scenario. Just don't move in together and just keep

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Speaker 1: the fucking good way flowing.

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Speaker 2: I love that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, igathering a good time, enjoy yourself.

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00:50:50,239 --> 00:50:51,839
Speaker 2: Guess what you deserve it.

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Speaker 1: You deserve happiness, and you deserve to be in something

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Speaker 1: and a healthy relationship. And that's what you get after

1130
00:50:57,480 --> 00:51:00,239
Speaker 1: being in bad relationships. We get gifted with the like

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00:51:00,280 --> 00:51:02,600
Speaker 1: the gift of wisdom, and then we start having good,

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00:51:02,600 --> 00:51:03,640
Speaker 1: healthy relationships.

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Speaker 2: I just started a new relationship too. I'm totally into it.

1134
00:51:06,680 --> 00:51:08,040
Speaker 2: I'm not questioning a thing about it.

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00:51:08,120 --> 00:51:09,920
Speaker 1: I'm like, this is this guy just dropped in my

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00:51:10,000 --> 00:51:12,960
Speaker 1: lap and it's totally unexpected on every level.

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00:51:13,160 --> 00:51:15,960
Speaker 2: And I'm like, good for me, good for me. I

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00:51:16,040 --> 00:51:16,520
Speaker 2: deserve it.

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00:51:18,000 --> 00:51:18,319
Speaker 1: Thank you?

1140
00:51:18,400 --> 00:51:21,560
Speaker 2: Got yeah right, Amelia, doesn't she deserve it?

1141
00:51:22,160 --> 00:51:25,520
Speaker 4: And you absolutely diserve it. A hundred. He deserve it,

1142
00:51:25,680 --> 00:51:26,720
Speaker 4: So do you, Chelsea.

1143
00:51:28,239 --> 00:51:31,239
Speaker 2: Und We all deserve it.

1144
00:51:31,280 --> 00:51:33,120
Speaker 1: We all deserve it. You should get up. You know

1145
00:51:33,160 --> 00:51:35,560
Speaker 1: what's a good A good practice. I get up and

1146
00:51:35,719 --> 00:51:37,960
Speaker 1: even when i'm if I'm in a great space, I

1147
00:51:38,000 --> 00:51:40,000
Speaker 1: still do it. I get up and I just write down.

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00:51:40,040 --> 00:51:41,640
Speaker 1: I have this little journal in my phone. It's like

1149
00:51:41,680 --> 00:51:43,759
Speaker 1: a gratitude journal, and I just get up and say

1150
00:51:43,760 --> 00:51:45,120
Speaker 1: thank you for this, thank you for this.

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00:51:45,280 --> 00:51:47,200
Speaker 2: I'm grateful for these seven things.

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00:51:47,239 --> 00:51:49,480
Speaker 1: It could be your dog, it can be your health,

1153
00:51:49,560 --> 00:51:51,680
Speaker 1: it can be whatever you're that you're gonna be on

1154
00:51:51,680 --> 00:51:54,720
Speaker 1: this podcast today or whatever it is. Just remind yourself

1155
00:51:54,719 --> 00:51:57,360
Speaker 1: that things are going well, and then that's good, and

1156
00:51:57,360 --> 00:51:59,640
Speaker 1: then that becomes a pattern even when things are shitty.

1157
00:51:59,719 --> 00:52:01,360
Speaker 1: If you can find five or six things to be

1158
00:52:01,400 --> 00:52:04,040
Speaker 1: grateful for every morning, you're kind of reminding yourself that

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00:52:04,080 --> 00:52:08,080
Speaker 1: you're on the right track. So just trust like that,

1160
00:52:08,320 --> 00:52:10,680
Speaker 1: you know the universe has your back. Just trust that

1161
00:52:11,040 --> 00:52:13,279
Speaker 1: because it's yeah true, No one's out to get you.

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00:52:13,360 --> 00:52:13,840
Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 4: The only other thing I'd say to add to it

1164
00:52:16,200 --> 00:52:20,400
Speaker 4: is that if only to just calm your brain to

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00:52:20,600 --> 00:52:23,880
Speaker 4: continue to do one or two of the things that

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00:52:23,960 --> 00:52:27,320
Speaker 4: you did as a single woman for you that doesn't

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00:52:27,600 --> 00:52:31,440
Speaker 4: include this beautiful man who's entered your life right so

1168
00:52:31,560 --> 00:52:35,320
Speaker 4: that you're in a lovely relationship, but you're also able

1169
00:52:35,360 --> 00:52:37,960
Speaker 4: to still go to the movies on your own, go

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00:52:38,000 --> 00:52:40,319
Speaker 4: do your shopping on your own, take a day just

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00:52:40,320 --> 00:52:42,719
Speaker 4: for yourself, be like, hey, babe, I no, I'm I know,

1172
00:52:43,640 --> 00:52:45,399
Speaker 4: you know, I'm right next door. We could hang out,

1173
00:52:45,400 --> 00:52:46,719
Speaker 4: but actually I just want to have a couple of

1174
00:52:46,760 --> 00:52:48,759
Speaker 4: hours to read on my own or whatever it is

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00:52:49,320 --> 00:52:54,440
Speaker 4: that you do and did love about being single, because

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Speaker 4: I think that it can be As someone who's been

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00:52:57,440 --> 00:52:59,840
Speaker 4: single a bunch in my life, I think that it

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00:52:59,880 --> 00:53:02,640
Speaker 4: can can be very hard to give it up because

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00:53:02,640 --> 00:53:06,520
Speaker 4: it feels so like I got myself together, like this

1180
00:53:06,600 --> 00:53:09,480
Speaker 4: is yeah, this is my space, my time, I get

1181
00:53:09,480 --> 00:53:12,520
Speaker 4: to decide all of these wonderful things and so yeah,

1182
00:53:12,560 --> 00:53:15,280
Speaker 4: when then when the guy does come, then you're like, WHOA,

1183
00:53:15,360 --> 00:53:20,120
Speaker 4: hang on, this is you're messing with my ecosystem. But

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00:53:20,200 --> 00:53:24,480
Speaker 4: I completely agree with Chelsea that like, enjoy. If you're

1185
00:53:24,520 --> 00:53:26,600
Speaker 4: having a good time, and if you keep waking up

1186
00:53:26,640 --> 00:53:28,040
Speaker 4: every morning wanting to see him and wanting to have

1187
00:53:28,080 --> 00:53:32,120
Speaker 4: a good time and give him head delightful, then you know,

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00:53:32,800 --> 00:53:36,400
Speaker 4: crack on, have a lovely time. But then give yourself

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00:53:36,600 --> 00:53:39,600
Speaker 4: the hours or the days or the half or minutes

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00:53:39,719 --> 00:53:41,480
Speaker 4: or whatever it is in your week that is just

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00:53:41,560 --> 00:53:45,160
Speaker 4: doing something for you, and then that'll just calm whatever

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00:53:45,400 --> 00:53:48,239
Speaker 4: worries you might have about like losing any sense of

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00:53:48,239 --> 00:53:49,440
Speaker 4: self sufficiency that you have.

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00:53:49,560 --> 00:53:51,879
Speaker 3: And to add to that, don't forget about your girlfriends too,

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00:53:52,000 --> 00:53:54,640
Speaker 3: So like whether that's like a standing date once a.

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00:53:54,600 --> 00:53:56,839
Speaker 2: Week or whatever with your girlfriends or like.

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00:53:56,840 --> 00:53:57,760
Speaker 4: Dates before dates.

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00:53:57,880 --> 00:54:01,160
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, right, both of my mate, but.

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00:54:02,040 --> 00:54:05,279
Speaker 4: Don't want me. Okay, then we're doing good in such

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00:54:05,320 --> 00:54:07,880
Speaker 4: a beautiful position to stop this year this is I

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00:54:07,920 --> 00:54:08,560
Speaker 4: think so too.

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry.

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00:54:09,120 --> 00:54:10,239
Speaker 4: It's a silly reason to call in.

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00:54:12,960 --> 00:54:14,799
Speaker 1: And it's good for our listeners to hear about that.

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00:54:14,920 --> 00:54:16,840
Speaker 1: So I'm glad you called in. But you don't have

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00:54:16,880 --> 00:54:22,200
Speaker 1: any problems anyway. So it was nice to meet you.

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Speaker 4: Lovely to meet you, meet.

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Speaker 2: You, Thank you, You're absolutely welcome.

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Speaker 3: I think like being aware of it is half of

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00:54:30,560 --> 00:54:32,880
Speaker 3: the battle, because so many people do lose themselves and

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00:54:32,960 --> 00:54:36,240
Speaker 3: whatever relationship they're in, right, it's like the runaway Bride

1212
00:54:36,239 --> 00:54:37,960
Speaker 3: thing of like she doesn't know how she likes her eggs,

1213
00:54:37,960 --> 00:54:40,480
Speaker 3: she just likes them. However, whatever guy she's with at

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00:54:40,520 --> 00:54:41,719
Speaker 3: the time, you know, likes that.

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00:54:41,800 --> 00:54:43,600
Speaker 4: I so thought I was the only person who quated

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00:54:43,680 --> 00:54:46,560
Speaker 4: that a nauseum, But I'm so glad you do too.

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00:54:47,120 --> 00:54:51,200
Speaker 4: I'm like, yeah, a lot of times I said that

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00:54:51,239 --> 00:54:51,759
Speaker 4: in my life.

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00:54:52,040 --> 00:54:55,080
Speaker 2: That's exactly okay, everybody.

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00:54:55,200 --> 00:54:59,320
Speaker 1: You can watch Ponies, starring Amelia Clark and Haley lu Richardson.

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00:54:59,600 --> 00:55:02,880
Speaker 1: You can watch Ponies on the Peacock Network Amelia Clark.

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00:55:02,880 --> 00:55:04,560
Speaker 1: I'm so happy I got to talk to you. I

1223
00:55:04,600 --> 00:55:06,719
Speaker 1: just love you so much. I think you're just such

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00:55:06,719 --> 00:55:07,640
Speaker 1: a breath of fresh air.

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00:55:08,040 --> 00:55:11,200
Speaker 4: Thanks, thank you so much. It was so wonderful to me.

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00:55:11,360 --> 00:55:13,200
Speaker 1: You probably, yes, Pop, and I hope to see you

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00:55:13,200 --> 00:55:15,759
Speaker 1: in person at some point and have a wonderful press tour.

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00:55:16,280 --> 00:55:20,200
Speaker 1: Keep your chin up. Yes, I've started talking about yourself

1229
00:55:20,239 --> 00:55:22,680
Speaker 1: for three days. I understand how annoying I could be.

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00:55:22,800 --> 00:55:29,640
Speaker 1: So Yes, stay positive, Okay, take care, Okay, bye, guys.

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Speaker 6: The word of the week is euphonious adjective pleasant in sound,

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00:55:37,960 --> 00:55:43,920
Speaker 6: especially in speech, agreeable to the ear. Euphonious used in

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Speaker 6: a sentence. Euphemia is the most euphonious of Amelia's middle names.

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00:55:50,120 --> 00:55:50,880
Speaker 2: Euphonious.

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Speaker 1: Okay, guys, the High and Mighty Tour is about to begin.

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Speaker 1: I'm in DC February thirteenth. February fourteenth Atlantic city which

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Speaker 1: I just added. Fifteenth is Norfolk, Virginia. February nineteenth, Madison, Wisconsin.

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Speaker 1: February twentieth is Milwaukee, Wisconsin. February twenty first, Detroit, Michigan,

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Speaker 1: February twenty second, Rama, Ontario. That's Canada for those of

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Speaker 1: you who don't speak Canadia. March thirteenth, Cleveland, Ohio. March

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Speaker 1: fourteenth Columbus, Ohio. March fifteenth, Cincinnati, Ohio. And then March

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Speaker 1: twentieth is Denver, Colorado. March twenty seventh, Portland, Maine. March

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Speaker 1: twenty eighth, Providence, Rhode Island. March twenty ninth, Springfield, Massachusetts.

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Speaker 1: April tenth is Chicago. I'll be at the Chicago Theater

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Speaker 1: in April eleventh. Indianapolis, Indiana. April twelfth Louisville, Kentucky. April

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Speaker 1: sixteenth is Albuquerque, New Mexico. April seventeenth is Mesa, Arizona.

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Speaker 1: April twenty third is Kansas City, Missouri. April twenty fourth

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00:56:52,320 --> 00:56:56,799
Speaker 1: is Saint Louis, Missouri. April twenty fifth is Minneapolis, Minnesota.

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Speaker 1: April thirtieth Nashville, Tennessee. May first is Charlotte, North Carolina.

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Speaker 1: May second is Durham, North Carolina. May sixth I'm doing

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Speaker 1: Netflix as a joke festival.

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00:57:06,600 --> 00:57:09,919
Speaker 2: I will be in Los Angeles. That is a new announcement.

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Speaker 1: And May fifteenth Saratoga, California. May sixteenth, Monterey, California. May

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Speaker 1: seventeenth Modesto, California. And then June fourth Portchester, New York.

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Speaker 1: June fifth is Boston, mass And June twelfth is Portland, Oregon.

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Speaker 1: And then Seattle is June thirteenth, So suck on that, everybody.

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Speaker 2: Go to Chelseahandler dot com for tickets. Do you want

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Speaker 2: advice from Chelsea?

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