1 00:00:07,480 --> 00:00:11,600 Speaker 1: Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. Thanks for 2 00:00:11,720 --> 00:00:14,840 Speaker 1: joining us. Hi, Susan, so excited to be back. 3 00:00:15,160 --> 00:00:17,200 Speaker 2: How are you doing? Are you great? 4 00:00:17,280 --> 00:00:19,400 Speaker 3: I had a great trip to New York City the 5 00:00:19,480 --> 00:00:21,880 Speaker 3: last couple of days. I'm back. I'm ready to go. 6 00:00:22,000 --> 00:00:25,480 Speaker 3: And hey, you people out there, if you're not following us, 7 00:00:25,560 --> 00:00:28,960 Speaker 3: you're missing a lot. I'm just saying, you know, just 8 00:00:29,120 --> 00:00:32,599 Speaker 3: follow the Bachelor Happy Hour and find us on Golden 9 00:00:32,600 --> 00:00:34,199 Speaker 3: Hour and you won't miss it. 10 00:00:35,080 --> 00:00:38,519 Speaker 1: You know, it's so important that you guys follow us 11 00:00:38,560 --> 00:00:41,159 Speaker 1: because you don't want to miss an episode. 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I mean, she's 32 00:01:43,800 --> 00:01:45,480 Speaker 3: plus ten. I kid. 33 00:01:45,959 --> 00:01:47,200 Speaker 4: I love you, guys, Thank you. 34 00:01:47,680 --> 00:01:50,040 Speaker 1: I'm so glad you're here. Tell us what's going on 35 00:01:50,080 --> 00:01:53,080 Speaker 1: with you? Besides, blondes do have more fun and you 36 00:01:53,120 --> 00:01:55,880 Speaker 1: are absolutely gorgeous. Tell us what's going on in your life? 37 00:01:55,960 --> 00:01:57,880 Speaker 1: Give us an update and crazy. 38 00:01:57,960 --> 00:01:59,600 Speaker 5: I mean, I'm sure, as you guys know it, coming 39 00:01:59,640 --> 00:02:01,920 Speaker 5: off the show show and getting back into life is 40 00:02:01,960 --> 00:02:05,000 Speaker 5: an adjustment, to say the least. I feel like now I'm, 41 00:02:05,320 --> 00:02:07,000 Speaker 5: you know, kind of out of it enough that I'm 42 00:02:07,040 --> 00:02:10,120 Speaker 5: back into the day to day so I'm still working 43 00:02:10,160 --> 00:02:12,919 Speaker 5: my job, so I am, you know, pretty busy nine 44 00:02:12,919 --> 00:02:15,880 Speaker 5: to six during the week and then trying to date, 45 00:02:15,919 --> 00:02:17,040 Speaker 5: which I'm sure we'll get to. 46 00:02:17,800 --> 00:02:18,000 Speaker 1: Oh. 47 00:02:18,080 --> 00:02:19,200 Speaker 3: I can't wait to hear this. 48 00:02:19,919 --> 00:02:23,040 Speaker 1: So so, Lexi, you talked on Joey season about your 49 00:02:23,080 --> 00:02:26,720 Speaker 1: health issues with Endometrio says can you and by the way. 50 00:02:26,720 --> 00:02:29,480 Speaker 1: That was incredibly brave of you to do that. So 51 00:02:29,680 --> 00:02:32,520 Speaker 1: kudos to you. And you know it's an ongoing journey 52 00:02:32,520 --> 00:02:35,640 Speaker 1: for you. So could you kind of share your updates 53 00:02:35,680 --> 00:02:35,880 Speaker 1: on that. 54 00:02:36,240 --> 00:02:37,240 Speaker 4: Yeah, definitely can. 55 00:02:37,240 --> 00:02:40,080 Speaker 5: I appreciate you guys asking so, yeah, and know is 56 00:02:40,120 --> 00:02:42,239 Speaker 5: you know, it's a disease that is so unpredictable and 57 00:02:42,720 --> 00:02:45,560 Speaker 5: it progressively gets worse over time. I was actually in 58 00:02:45,560 --> 00:02:48,000 Speaker 5: New York a couple of weeks ago and I saw 59 00:02:48,120 --> 00:02:51,359 Speaker 5: my surgeon and I'm at the point it's tough, right. 60 00:02:51,360 --> 00:02:52,640 Speaker 4: So I'm at the point where they want to do 61 00:02:52,680 --> 00:02:53,480 Speaker 4: another surgery. 62 00:02:53,560 --> 00:02:55,240 Speaker 5: So they want to go in and they want to 63 00:02:55,600 --> 00:02:58,000 Speaker 5: take out all that tissue that shouldn't be there. But 64 00:02:58,600 --> 00:03:01,000 Speaker 5: I just turned thirty one years old, and so my 65 00:03:01,160 --> 00:03:04,799 Speaker 5: doctor said the ideal scenario is I would have one 66 00:03:04,800 --> 00:03:08,120 Speaker 5: more surgery right before I want to conceive. And so 67 00:03:08,600 --> 00:03:10,680 Speaker 5: that's a pretty hard thing to hear when you're saying, 68 00:03:10,880 --> 00:03:13,840 Speaker 5: right like, I'm like, well, how do I time that up? 69 00:03:13,880 --> 00:03:17,399 Speaker 5: Like I'm not even dating someone, let alone havings about 70 00:03:17,440 --> 00:03:20,440 Speaker 5: having a child. So I'm kind of in this waiting 71 00:03:20,480 --> 00:03:22,880 Speaker 5: game right now, where like the pain has gotten worse, 72 00:03:23,639 --> 00:03:26,240 Speaker 5: but I can't I'm not really a candidate for surgery. 73 00:03:26,240 --> 00:03:28,560 Speaker 5: Given my age, they don't want you to have too 74 00:03:28,639 --> 00:03:31,440 Speaker 5: many surgeries because it creates like a lot of scar tissue. 75 00:03:31,639 --> 00:03:33,560 Speaker 4: So it's been kind of tough. 76 00:03:33,680 --> 00:03:34,880 Speaker 2: So wait, I'm a little confused. 77 00:03:34,960 --> 00:03:37,120 Speaker 1: Like, see, you're saying they would go in and take 78 00:03:37,240 --> 00:03:40,880 Speaker 1: out the tissue and then expect an immediate try to 79 00:03:40,880 --> 00:03:43,520 Speaker 1: get you immediately to conceive before the tissue has a 80 00:03:43,600 --> 00:03:44,360 Speaker 1: chance to regrow. 81 00:03:44,480 --> 00:03:44,920 Speaker 2: Is that it. 82 00:03:44,960 --> 00:03:47,520 Speaker 5: Actually because when they go in, they clean you up, 83 00:03:47,560 --> 00:03:51,000 Speaker 5: so you're like in your optimal state, like all of that, 84 00:03:51,200 --> 00:03:53,800 Speaker 5: and then because the tissue grows back immediately. 85 00:03:53,480 --> 00:03:54,840 Speaker 3: It's so ready to conceive. 86 00:03:55,080 --> 00:03:55,320 Speaker 2: Yeah. 87 00:03:55,400 --> 00:03:57,960 Speaker 4: Yeah, so that was a hard conversation. 88 00:03:58,000 --> 00:03:59,840 Speaker 3: Let's see, is it painful? 89 00:04:00,520 --> 00:04:00,880 Speaker 4: It is? 90 00:04:01,080 --> 00:04:03,440 Speaker 5: Yeah, and it's it's like it's the type of endo. 91 00:04:03,600 --> 00:04:05,440 Speaker 5: Is the type of disease where it hits you at 92 00:04:05,440 --> 00:04:08,600 Speaker 5: any point, right, And that's also tough during dating because 93 00:04:08,960 --> 00:04:11,120 Speaker 5: I can be getting ready for a date, feeling fine 94 00:04:11,160 --> 00:04:13,080 Speaker 5: and then just get hit with a flare where like 95 00:04:13,120 --> 00:04:16,760 Speaker 5: I'm dehabilitated in cramps, and like, how do you explain 96 00:04:16,800 --> 00:04:19,280 Speaker 5: that to someone you just met? You know, So, like 97 00:04:19,400 --> 00:04:20,760 Speaker 5: it's it's tough for sure. 98 00:04:20,839 --> 00:04:23,320 Speaker 1: Can you explain do you when you're on a date, 99 00:04:23,720 --> 00:04:25,880 Speaker 1: do you tell I mean, we saw you do it 100 00:04:25,920 --> 00:04:26,799 Speaker 1: on National TV. 101 00:04:27,200 --> 00:04:29,240 Speaker 3: Not the first date, no, but. 102 00:04:29,279 --> 00:04:32,000 Speaker 1: Typically I mean, how is that received? Like, because a 103 00:04:32,000 --> 00:04:36,000 Speaker 1: lot of people just don't know much about endometriosis, you don't, and. 104 00:04:36,160 --> 00:04:37,119 Speaker 4: It's a fine line. 105 00:04:37,200 --> 00:04:39,240 Speaker 5: I think I do try to disclose it now more 106 00:04:39,279 --> 00:04:41,400 Speaker 5: early on because it's a part of my life and 107 00:04:41,440 --> 00:04:44,000 Speaker 5: I want you with someone that's like no worries, like 108 00:04:44,040 --> 00:04:47,520 Speaker 5: we'll figure it out together. But I don't want to 109 00:04:47,560 --> 00:04:49,600 Speaker 5: do it on the first date because I have trauma 110 00:04:49,640 --> 00:04:53,200 Speaker 5: from my past where it was it was you know, 111 00:04:53,400 --> 00:04:55,359 Speaker 5: my AX had an issue with that, and so he 112 00:04:55,400 --> 00:04:58,280 Speaker 5: saw it as like a negative to me as a person. 113 00:04:58,720 --> 00:05:01,679 Speaker 5: And so like joe gave me the confidence to feel 114 00:05:01,720 --> 00:05:05,120 Speaker 5: like I can have those conversations, but it doesn't care 115 00:05:05,279 --> 00:05:05,560 Speaker 5: for me. 116 00:05:06,640 --> 00:05:10,120 Speaker 1: Are you are you committed to having your own children? 117 00:05:10,279 --> 00:05:12,599 Speaker 1: Would you adopt? How do you feel about that? Because 118 00:05:13,080 --> 00:05:16,039 Speaker 1: you did? I read somewhere or someone tell me that 119 00:05:16,360 --> 00:05:17,640 Speaker 1: you have frozen your eggs. 120 00:05:17,960 --> 00:05:20,839 Speaker 4: I did. I froze them like eight days before I 121 00:05:20,839 --> 00:05:22,679 Speaker 4: walked through the limo to meet Joey, which. 122 00:05:22,520 --> 00:05:24,800 Speaker 3: Is what's so sweet. 123 00:05:25,040 --> 00:05:27,000 Speaker 4: I was like, it was sweet, but I was so 124 00:05:27,320 --> 00:05:29,800 Speaker 4: like you're on so many hormones during that, Like, I 125 00:05:29,880 --> 00:05:32,560 Speaker 4: was not myself, I feel like, but that's okay, I mean, 126 00:05:32,680 --> 00:05:33,440 Speaker 4: it all worked out. 127 00:05:33,520 --> 00:05:36,640 Speaker 1: But wait, can we use that excuse Susan Eggs? So 128 00:05:36,680 --> 00:05:38,040 Speaker 1: we weren't ourselves on the show. 129 00:05:38,520 --> 00:05:43,960 Speaker 3: She was absolutely fabulous, So I mean, yea and more 130 00:05:44,040 --> 00:05:47,479 Speaker 3: class than and more strength. We really admire you. 131 00:05:47,839 --> 00:05:48,279 Speaker 4: Thank you. 132 00:05:48,440 --> 00:05:50,840 Speaker 5: So yeah, I have my eggs and you know they're 133 00:05:50,839 --> 00:05:54,039 Speaker 5: frozen right now down the street, and so that is reassuring. 134 00:05:54,560 --> 00:05:57,200 Speaker 5: But I am to answer your question one hundred percent 135 00:05:57,200 --> 00:05:59,800 Speaker 5: open to adoption. I'd love to have one of my 136 00:06:00,360 --> 00:06:02,120 Speaker 5: Like I've always wanted to be a mom. I feel 137 00:06:02,120 --> 00:06:05,760 Speaker 5: a calling towards that, and but adoption is something with 138 00:06:05,800 --> 00:06:08,279 Speaker 5: the right person, I would absolutely love to adopt. 139 00:06:08,839 --> 00:06:09,440 Speaker 3: I love it. 140 00:06:09,560 --> 00:06:09,880 Speaker 4: I love it. 141 00:06:10,320 --> 00:06:16,240 Speaker 3: So I have a question. Do you believe in Soulmates? 142 00:06:16,480 --> 00:06:17,520 Speaker 2: Did you lose that? 143 00:06:17,800 --> 00:06:20,480 Speaker 3: I mean, did you believe in it prior to the show? 144 00:06:20,600 --> 00:06:22,919 Speaker 3: And do you feel any differently now? 145 00:06:24,040 --> 00:06:24,400 Speaker 2: Yeah? 146 00:06:24,480 --> 00:06:26,160 Speaker 5: I think you know, if you had asked me that 147 00:06:26,160 --> 00:06:28,520 Speaker 5: at twenty six, I would have been like, yes, one 148 00:06:28,600 --> 00:06:31,520 Speaker 5: hundred percent. Like you know, but it's so funny as 149 00:06:31,520 --> 00:06:33,520 Speaker 5: you date and you get older while you're dating, like 150 00:06:34,000 --> 00:06:35,880 Speaker 5: you realize you can have multiple soulmates. 151 00:06:35,920 --> 00:06:38,039 Speaker 4: You realize you can fall in love multiple times. 152 00:06:38,279 --> 00:06:40,520 Speaker 5: And I always say that to my friends that are 153 00:06:40,520 --> 00:06:43,039 Speaker 5: going through a hard time because your first love, Like 154 00:06:43,160 --> 00:06:46,400 Speaker 5: it's so meaningful and powerful. But I look back to 155 00:06:46,440 --> 00:06:47,919 Speaker 5: the person I thought I was going to marry, the 156 00:06:47,920 --> 00:06:49,640 Speaker 5: person that I broke up with before I went on 157 00:06:49,680 --> 00:06:52,360 Speaker 5: the show, and I'm so grateful that we did not right, 158 00:06:52,440 --> 00:06:54,600 Speaker 5: and you see all those things afterwards. 159 00:06:54,880 --> 00:06:57,800 Speaker 3: It takes time, Yes, it takes time to realize that. 160 00:06:58,040 --> 00:07:00,640 Speaker 1: Yeah, Lexi, how long were you with your pat your 161 00:07:00,680 --> 00:07:02,839 Speaker 1: ex that you broke up with. 162 00:07:03,080 --> 00:07:04,920 Speaker 5: Yeah, about two and a half three years, so it 163 00:07:04,960 --> 00:07:08,039 Speaker 5: was substantial. We were talking about marriage, engagement, you know, 164 00:07:08,200 --> 00:07:10,560 Speaker 5: the house, the whole thing. I live in Atlanta. People 165 00:07:10,640 --> 00:07:12,120 Speaker 5: here are married at twenty two. 166 00:07:12,320 --> 00:07:13,560 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, you know. 167 00:07:14,080 --> 00:07:14,480 Speaker 4: I'm me. 168 00:07:14,760 --> 00:07:16,760 Speaker 5: I was like, Okay, when is it going to happen? 169 00:07:16,880 --> 00:07:19,480 Speaker 5: And everything happens for a reason. I'm so grateful it 170 00:07:19,480 --> 00:07:21,840 Speaker 5: didn't work out, But it does make you reevaluate how 171 00:07:21,880 --> 00:07:22,880 Speaker 5: you think about soulmates. 172 00:07:22,920 --> 00:07:24,920 Speaker 4: At least me. I'm sure you guys feel the same, right. 173 00:07:25,120 --> 00:07:28,400 Speaker 3: I still believe in soulmates, and I believe there's more 174 00:07:28,440 --> 00:07:29,240 Speaker 3: than one out there. 175 00:07:29,320 --> 00:07:32,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think for me, it's I agree with Susan, 176 00:07:32,360 --> 00:07:34,960 Speaker 1: I agree with you, Lexi. I feel like you know, 177 00:07:35,080 --> 00:07:37,360 Speaker 1: I would love to find my partner, my next partner, 178 00:07:37,400 --> 00:07:39,560 Speaker 1: but I'm not going to try to replace my husband. 179 00:07:39,760 --> 00:07:42,040 Speaker 1: It would just be someone different. But yeah, I think 180 00:07:42,040 --> 00:07:43,880 Speaker 1: you're gonna have more than one soulmate. I just have 181 00:07:43,920 --> 00:07:46,200 Speaker 1: to one of the quick questions about your ex, because 182 00:07:46,240 --> 00:07:48,240 Speaker 1: we talk about this a lot on the show. Would 183 00:07:48,320 --> 00:07:51,559 Speaker 1: you ever consider dating him again? 184 00:07:52,040 --> 00:07:52,760 Speaker 4: Absolutely not? 185 00:07:53,240 --> 00:07:53,320 Speaker 2: No. 186 00:07:53,440 --> 00:07:56,200 Speaker 4: Oh wow, okay, never in a million worlds. 187 00:07:56,280 --> 00:07:59,680 Speaker 5: I think I was very disrespected in that relationship towards 188 00:07:59,720 --> 00:08:03,600 Speaker 5: my and I wish the confidence I have now. And 189 00:08:03,640 --> 00:08:05,720 Speaker 5: you know, it's funny, like I my whole life have 190 00:08:05,760 --> 00:08:07,920 Speaker 5: always kind of been in the background. I never saw 191 00:08:08,000 --> 00:08:11,400 Speaker 5: myself as like this confident person. But watching the show back, 192 00:08:11,440 --> 00:08:14,400 Speaker 5: I saw this person I didn't even know existed in me, 193 00:08:14,480 --> 00:08:16,640 Speaker 5: and I was like, why would I tolerate that? 194 00:08:16,840 --> 00:08:20,200 Speaker 4: And so I don't regret anything. Everything happens for a reason, 195 00:08:20,320 --> 00:08:20,760 Speaker 4: you learn. 196 00:08:21,760 --> 00:08:25,400 Speaker 1: So that's a great segue into my next question, which is, 197 00:08:26,040 --> 00:08:30,040 Speaker 1: given your experience with your ex and given your experience 198 00:08:30,200 --> 00:08:32,560 Speaker 1: with Joey and just what you learned from the show, 199 00:08:33,000 --> 00:08:36,040 Speaker 1: tell me what you're looking for now? How is are 200 00:08:36,080 --> 00:08:38,760 Speaker 1: your expectations different? And what are you looking for now 201 00:08:38,800 --> 00:08:39,760 Speaker 1: that you were before? 202 00:08:40,280 --> 00:08:42,160 Speaker 5: They're so different it's funny, and I don't want to 203 00:08:42,200 --> 00:08:43,719 Speaker 5: be that person because I'm only thirty one. 204 00:08:43,760 --> 00:08:44,280 Speaker 4: I've not you know. 205 00:08:44,320 --> 00:08:46,320 Speaker 5: Sometimes I talk to my friends who are like twenty six, 206 00:08:46,360 --> 00:08:49,440 Speaker 5: and I act like this elder. I'm not, but has 207 00:08:49,640 --> 00:08:51,480 Speaker 5: changed I used to be. I have to be with 208 00:08:51,559 --> 00:08:53,920 Speaker 5: this tall. I've had this whole hyper fixation on tall. 209 00:08:54,200 --> 00:08:56,200 Speaker 5: I don't care they could be five four. I want 210 00:08:56,240 --> 00:08:59,120 Speaker 5: someone who has a good soul, who is smart and 211 00:08:59,200 --> 00:09:03,800 Speaker 5: driven and very empathetic and has the same long term 212 00:09:03,800 --> 00:09:06,440 Speaker 5: goals as me in terms of like having a family 213 00:09:06,640 --> 00:09:10,120 Speaker 5: and you know, building something together. And I don't care 214 00:09:10,200 --> 00:09:11,480 Speaker 5: really about the physical anymore. 215 00:09:11,480 --> 00:09:15,040 Speaker 3: It's about them being emotionally ready to. 216 00:09:15,720 --> 00:09:19,400 Speaker 5: Them being emotionally ready, having a maturity to them, and 217 00:09:20,160 --> 00:09:22,840 Speaker 5: I think physical can grow. I've also learned that as 218 00:09:22,840 --> 00:09:25,080 Speaker 5: I've dated, I've gone on dates with people that I 219 00:09:25,120 --> 00:09:27,400 Speaker 5: was not excited about looking at their pictures, and then 220 00:09:27,640 --> 00:09:29,160 Speaker 5: I got to talk to them and I was so 221 00:09:29,200 --> 00:09:29,959 Speaker 5: attracted to them. 222 00:09:30,360 --> 00:09:33,199 Speaker 3: Nice. How is the dating going right now? 223 00:09:33,240 --> 00:09:33,320 Speaker 2: Like? 224 00:09:33,360 --> 00:09:34,079 Speaker 3: What's going on? 225 00:09:34,679 --> 00:09:36,320 Speaker 4: It's tough out there. 226 00:09:37,320 --> 00:09:37,880 Speaker 3: I gave up. 227 00:09:40,040 --> 00:09:43,959 Speaker 1: But you know, I look at you, Alexi, you are 228 00:09:44,160 --> 00:09:47,720 Speaker 1: absolutely truly I'm not just saying this, you are absolutely 229 00:09:47,920 --> 00:09:53,200 Speaker 1: stunningly beautiful. Do you think that maybe men are intimidated 230 00:09:53,280 --> 00:09:54,040 Speaker 1: by your beauty? 231 00:09:54,720 --> 00:09:55,839 Speaker 2: Have you ever thought about that? 232 00:09:56,679 --> 00:09:58,960 Speaker 1: Like they look at you and they go, oh, she 233 00:09:59,000 --> 00:10:00,800 Speaker 1: wouldn't talk to me going to try? 234 00:10:01,360 --> 00:10:03,200 Speaker 2: I think maybe you need to make the first move. 235 00:10:03,520 --> 00:10:05,960 Speaker 5: I think my intimidation for me is like in my 236 00:10:06,040 --> 00:10:08,839 Speaker 5: career because I've poured myself into my work, probably to 237 00:10:08,880 --> 00:10:10,640 Speaker 5: a bit of an extreme, and I'm a bit of 238 00:10:10,640 --> 00:10:12,680 Speaker 5: a workaholic, and I go on dates with people and 239 00:10:12,679 --> 00:10:14,080 Speaker 5: they're like, oh my gosh, I look up to you 240 00:10:14,120 --> 00:10:17,120 Speaker 5: so much, like you're you're so driven, And I don't 241 00:10:17,160 --> 00:10:18,520 Speaker 5: really want to hear that. I want to be like, 242 00:10:18,600 --> 00:10:21,200 Speaker 5: I'm also driven, you know, like I think a lot 243 00:10:21,200 --> 00:10:23,480 Speaker 5: of the times so like I've been alone now for 244 00:10:23,520 --> 00:10:26,160 Speaker 5: a while, I'm thirty one, I'm extremely comfortable in my 245 00:10:26,200 --> 00:10:29,160 Speaker 5: own life. I'm financially stable, Like I don't need you, 246 00:10:29,800 --> 00:10:30,679 Speaker 5: so like what are. 247 00:10:30,679 --> 00:10:34,480 Speaker 3: You want you? There's a different yeah. 248 00:10:34,240 --> 00:10:37,760 Speaker 1: And I love hearing that because so many women, younger women, 249 00:10:38,840 --> 00:10:42,240 Speaker 1: they say I just need the guy to complete me. No, no, no, friends. 250 00:10:42,600 --> 00:10:43,199 Speaker 2: You need to be. 251 00:10:43,160 --> 00:10:47,880 Speaker 1: Complete by yourself and then let the right person compliment you. 252 00:10:48,000 --> 00:10:50,520 Speaker 2: That is just brilliant. Like, so you're so right, I mean, 253 00:10:52,200 --> 00:10:52,480 Speaker 2: do you. 254 00:10:52,480 --> 00:10:55,439 Speaker 3: Have conversations not on the first few dates of course, 255 00:10:55,480 --> 00:10:57,360 Speaker 3: about having children what you want? 256 00:10:58,080 --> 00:10:59,640 Speaker 4: Yes, I'm pretty open about it. 257 00:10:59,679 --> 00:11:02,520 Speaker 3: I mean, yeah, I don't see why you shouldn't be. 258 00:11:02,840 --> 00:11:04,880 Speaker 5: Why not like and that's the other thing. Now, I 259 00:11:05,520 --> 00:11:07,960 Speaker 5: used to hold things back or give people a chance, 260 00:11:08,120 --> 00:11:10,240 Speaker 5: Not that I don't not give people chances, but if 261 00:11:10,280 --> 00:11:11,880 Speaker 5: I see red flags, I kind of just keep it 262 00:11:11,920 --> 00:11:16,760 Speaker 5: moving now and I'd rather say yeah, I do, yeah, right, 263 00:11:16,880 --> 00:11:18,920 Speaker 5: like I do want kids to I mean, I'm not 264 00:11:18,960 --> 00:11:19,280 Speaker 5: trying to. 265 00:11:19,360 --> 00:11:22,160 Speaker 3: Till sixty years for me to figure that out. 266 00:11:22,400 --> 00:11:24,880 Speaker 1: Susan, We're going to discuss this at a later date. 267 00:11:25,000 --> 00:11:27,679 Speaker 1: Susan sees red flags and you know, let me give 268 00:11:27,720 --> 00:11:29,160 Speaker 1: them a couple of years and see if I can 269 00:11:29,240 --> 00:11:31,079 Speaker 1: change those right flags, toy. 270 00:11:32,080 --> 00:11:33,960 Speaker 4: Would you guys agree that they never go away? 271 00:11:34,320 --> 00:11:38,240 Speaker 3: Never? Never ever ever either mine? 272 00:11:38,120 --> 00:11:38,320 Speaker 2: Yeah. 273 00:11:38,559 --> 00:11:43,120 Speaker 1: Once a red flag is there, it's it's red, it's crimson, 274 00:11:43,559 --> 00:11:46,000 Speaker 1: and call it any color you want, but it's not white. 275 00:11:46,600 --> 00:11:50,200 Speaker 3: We are who we are, We believe and feel the 276 00:11:50,240 --> 00:11:54,360 Speaker 3: way we do nobody can change that, right. Do you 277 00:11:54,400 --> 00:11:57,120 Speaker 3: think they'll stick to your guns? You are, so I'm 278 00:11:57,160 --> 00:11:58,760 Speaker 3: even more proud of that than I was. 279 00:11:59,280 --> 00:12:01,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm very Yeah, I agree. 280 00:12:01,360 --> 00:12:04,040 Speaker 1: I want to know Lexi because you do seem so 281 00:12:04,200 --> 00:12:09,600 Speaker 1: confident now, and I think I'm asking you, do you 282 00:12:09,720 --> 00:12:13,240 Speaker 1: think men out there want women at your age? Because 283 00:12:13,400 --> 00:12:15,880 Speaker 1: at my age, you know, we're talking about dust. But 284 00:12:15,920 --> 00:12:19,920 Speaker 1: at your age, do you think that men want a 285 00:12:20,000 --> 00:12:22,760 Speaker 1: woman who is dependent on them? What's going on in 286 00:12:22,800 --> 00:12:25,400 Speaker 1: your age range? Do they want that dependency and you're 287 00:12:25,400 --> 00:12:27,920 Speaker 1: too independent because you seem independent? 288 00:12:28,280 --> 00:12:29,240 Speaker 4: Yeah, I do think so. 289 00:12:29,320 --> 00:12:32,120 Speaker 5: I've run into that in the dating world, where I 290 00:12:32,160 --> 00:12:34,720 Speaker 5: think guys are like, we'll almost want you to lean 291 00:12:34,760 --> 00:12:37,240 Speaker 5: on them more so they can feel that power of masculinity, 292 00:12:37,360 --> 00:12:38,240 Speaker 5: like where I'm. 293 00:12:38,080 --> 00:12:40,959 Speaker 4: Like, I again, I don't need you, I want you. 294 00:12:40,960 --> 00:12:43,400 Speaker 5: You're in addition to my life and bringing you kind 295 00:12:43,400 --> 00:12:46,319 Speaker 5: of as a's how can you enhance what I already have? 296 00:12:46,880 --> 00:12:49,440 Speaker 4: And so, yeah, I think guys are threatened by that, 297 00:12:49,600 --> 00:12:50,280 Speaker 4: not I want. 298 00:12:50,600 --> 00:12:54,800 Speaker 3: You're absolutely correct, and it's a little bit I dare 299 00:12:54,880 --> 00:12:59,520 Speaker 3: say game as independent as all three of us are, 300 00:13:00,160 --> 00:13:04,000 Speaker 3: whether it's financially, I don't mind being alone. I want 301 00:13:04,400 --> 00:13:05,439 Speaker 3: to share my life with. 302 00:13:05,400 --> 00:13:08,320 Speaker 2: You, Susan, I need you, but you need. 303 00:13:07,960 --> 00:13:11,360 Speaker 3: Them to think you need them at certain times, just 304 00:13:11,400 --> 00:13:14,000 Speaker 3: like you always have to say thank you, oh baby, 305 00:13:14,040 --> 00:13:16,200 Speaker 3: you did that for me, where we don't think anything 306 00:13:16,240 --> 00:13:18,480 Speaker 3: of it. You know, yeah, you took out the trash. Well, 307 00:13:18,559 --> 00:13:21,160 Speaker 3: that's your job, you're supposed to take out. That's your duty, 308 00:13:21,240 --> 00:13:24,120 Speaker 3: my duty, and the dishes or whatever. But when they 309 00:13:24,200 --> 00:13:28,679 Speaker 3: get gratitude for it, that makes them feel I know. 310 00:13:29,000 --> 00:13:30,160 Speaker 3: I learned that the hard way. 311 00:13:30,200 --> 00:13:33,320 Speaker 5: Trust me, I don't accept it right like I think 312 00:13:33,440 --> 00:13:35,640 Speaker 5: I'm so much like like a lot of guys will 313 00:13:36,000 --> 00:13:37,120 Speaker 5: be like, you want me to pick you off or 314 00:13:37,160 --> 00:13:38,680 Speaker 5: call you an uber, and I'm like, what do you mean, 315 00:13:38,720 --> 00:13:39,440 Speaker 5: Like I can get. 316 00:13:39,320 --> 00:13:44,000 Speaker 4: There on my own. You mean, sure, call me an uber? 317 00:13:44,200 --> 00:13:47,480 Speaker 1: Like you know, Lexi, that's when you say, yes, please 318 00:13:47,520 --> 00:13:48,920 Speaker 1: send me your jet. 319 00:13:51,480 --> 00:13:51,840 Speaker 2: Forget. 320 00:13:52,120 --> 00:13:56,200 Speaker 3: What is your favorite thing and least favorite about being single? 321 00:13:57,200 --> 00:13:59,120 Speaker 5: That's a great question. I don't think anyone's asked me that. 322 00:13:59,160 --> 00:14:01,240 Speaker 5: It's always the narrati of is now, like, well when 323 00:14:01,240 --> 00:14:02,160 Speaker 5: are you going to meet someone? 324 00:14:02,760 --> 00:14:03,719 Speaker 3: It's not about that. 325 00:14:04,000 --> 00:14:07,160 Speaker 5: Yeah my favor I guess my least favorite thing is 326 00:14:07,240 --> 00:14:09,600 Speaker 5: life events, So I think, yeah, I have all these 327 00:14:09,640 --> 00:14:14,520 Speaker 5: things like the fourth of July, your birthday, Christmas, Thanksgiving, wedding, yesing, 328 00:14:14,559 --> 00:14:16,440 Speaker 5: Like I want to start building memories. I want to 329 00:14:16,440 --> 00:14:17,840 Speaker 5: be like, oh, last year for the Fourth of July, 330 00:14:17,880 --> 00:14:19,560 Speaker 5: we went to the beach, we saw the fireworks, and 331 00:14:19,640 --> 00:14:22,600 Speaker 5: like building traditions, Like I feel like I go through 332 00:14:22,640 --> 00:14:26,680 Speaker 5: the minutia these you know, these big like big holidays, 333 00:14:26,680 --> 00:14:28,640 Speaker 5: and I'm with all my friends and I love them 334 00:14:28,640 --> 00:14:31,120 Speaker 5: and they're amazing, but sometimes it's like I wish I 335 00:14:31,120 --> 00:14:34,000 Speaker 5: could share that with someone else. So that's probably my 336 00:14:34,080 --> 00:14:36,920 Speaker 5: least favorite thing, and my favorite thing about being single 337 00:14:37,000 --> 00:14:39,080 Speaker 5: is being able to pour a lot of energy into 338 00:14:39,080 --> 00:14:42,360 Speaker 5: myself in a way that you can't necessarily always do 339 00:14:42,360 --> 00:14:44,560 Speaker 5: when you're in a relationships. You can be a little selfish, 340 00:14:44,680 --> 00:14:47,560 Speaker 5: right Like you can and you know, I'm working on 341 00:14:47,600 --> 00:14:50,480 Speaker 5: a side project right now outside of work, and you 342 00:14:50,520 --> 00:14:52,400 Speaker 5: know I can take the trip and go visit a friend. 343 00:14:53,280 --> 00:14:55,880 Speaker 3: I maybe because I do whatever you want. I think 344 00:14:55,920 --> 00:14:59,560 Speaker 3: that's why I'm still single, because I will always do whatever, 345 00:15:01,160 --> 00:15:03,200 Speaker 3: which is why I included. 346 00:15:03,160 --> 00:15:06,040 Speaker 2: Susan, That's why you're still single because you will. 347 00:15:07,640 --> 00:15:10,600 Speaker 5: Yeah, I've heard that before, because I'm like, shoot, okay, 348 00:15:10,720 --> 00:15:12,800 Speaker 5: it is it. It's about being a team, right, and 349 00:15:12,800 --> 00:15:13,800 Speaker 5: I'm super aware of that. 350 00:15:14,280 --> 00:15:17,080 Speaker 1: So let me just explain to you, in my opinion, 351 00:15:17,160 --> 00:15:19,680 Speaker 1: you're right, you can do whatever you want. Now, when 352 00:15:19,720 --> 00:15:22,040 Speaker 1: you get married, then you have to consider your partner 353 00:15:22,120 --> 00:15:23,680 Speaker 1: or not get married. But when you get with someone, 354 00:15:23,720 --> 00:15:26,920 Speaker 1: you have to consider your partner. And then when you 355 00:15:26,960 --> 00:15:31,000 Speaker 1: have children, game over. No more sleep, no more. You know, 356 00:15:31,040 --> 00:15:33,960 Speaker 1: it's it's a whole different you know, a whole different world. 357 00:15:34,080 --> 00:15:37,040 Speaker 1: So you know, I'm glad that you're enjoy while it's 358 00:15:37,080 --> 00:15:40,520 Speaker 1: a mixed bag, right, it's never perfect because when you're 359 00:15:40,600 --> 00:15:43,760 Speaker 1: your age, you want children and you want a partner, 360 00:15:44,200 --> 00:15:46,480 Speaker 1: but you know, once you have them, you have them, 361 00:15:46,520 --> 00:15:48,360 Speaker 1: and so it's it's hard. 362 00:15:48,120 --> 00:15:48,880 Speaker 2: To get that mixed. 363 00:15:49,400 --> 00:15:52,320 Speaker 5: Really, second baby right now, and I go to all 364 00:15:52,320 --> 00:15:54,840 Speaker 5: the baby showers. I'm the fun aunt, so I see 365 00:15:54,840 --> 00:15:57,800 Speaker 5: what it does to a relationship though, to that, like 366 00:15:57,880 --> 00:16:00,360 Speaker 5: my friends who have had the strongest marriages have had 367 00:16:00,960 --> 00:16:03,440 Speaker 5: rough days, right because having a newborn baby is hard, 368 00:16:03,520 --> 00:16:06,200 Speaker 5: so you really have a strong foundation to bring in children. 369 00:16:06,280 --> 00:16:09,280 Speaker 1: And yeah, so how do you, I want to know, Lexia, 370 00:16:09,320 --> 00:16:10,880 Speaker 1: how do you stay so positive? 371 00:16:10,920 --> 00:16:13,200 Speaker 2: Then? Because you are clearly. 372 00:16:13,080 --> 00:16:14,960 Speaker 3: How she's living her best life. 373 00:16:14,960 --> 00:16:15,480 Speaker 2: Look at her. 374 00:16:15,680 --> 00:16:18,920 Speaker 3: She looks in the mirror and feels thankful, grateful, Look 375 00:16:18,960 --> 00:16:19,160 Speaker 3: at me. 376 00:16:19,600 --> 00:16:22,160 Speaker 2: Hey, Susan, you and I do too, but that you know, 377 00:16:22,280 --> 00:16:24,280 Speaker 2: some days we all wake up, Come on, we all 378 00:16:24,360 --> 00:16:24,760 Speaker 2: wake well. 379 00:16:24,760 --> 00:16:27,080 Speaker 3: I'm about to go down the beach this weekend as 380 00:16:27,160 --> 00:16:30,680 Speaker 3: the fifth wheel again. I'm kind of getting used to it. 381 00:16:30,880 --> 00:16:35,800 Speaker 3: I mean, yes, I'm sorry, where's invitation? But I know 382 00:16:35,840 --> 00:16:37,920 Speaker 3: what you're saying, Lexie, you do get used to it. 383 00:16:37,960 --> 00:16:41,640 Speaker 3: You still go and you're not disappointed, but it would 384 00:16:41,680 --> 00:16:42,440 Speaker 3: have been nice. 385 00:16:43,200 --> 00:16:47,200 Speaker 5: Yeah, You're like, I definitely have my days where especially 386 00:16:47,240 --> 00:16:50,080 Speaker 5: like it will hit me like I go behind. And 387 00:16:50,120 --> 00:16:52,360 Speaker 5: I know that's so dumb to say, but like I know, 388 00:16:52,760 --> 00:16:54,800 Speaker 5: I think, oh my gosh, my friends around their second kid. 389 00:16:54,840 --> 00:16:56,280 Speaker 5: Like by the time I have kids, their kids will 390 00:16:56,280 --> 00:16:58,200 Speaker 5: be in middle school. I mean that's so dramatic, but 391 00:16:58,240 --> 00:17:00,720 Speaker 5: like you know, you get in your head and it's natural. 392 00:17:01,360 --> 00:17:02,080 Speaker 4: Yeah it is. 393 00:17:02,080 --> 00:17:04,679 Speaker 1: Is there something you do though, like every day? Like 394 00:17:04,800 --> 00:17:07,120 Speaker 1: I wake up every day and I know Susan does too. 395 00:17:07,119 --> 00:17:10,439 Speaker 1: We just say thank you. We're so grateful to you know, 396 00:17:10,480 --> 00:17:12,200 Speaker 1: wake up and have the energy. Is do you have 397 00:17:12,240 --> 00:17:14,560 Speaker 1: something you do that keeps you positive? 398 00:17:14,880 --> 00:17:17,720 Speaker 5: I feel a sense of hope because I do believe 399 00:17:17,760 --> 00:17:20,440 Speaker 5: after going through a few traumatic relationships that ended, and 400 00:17:20,480 --> 00:17:22,480 Speaker 5: I've been through a lot, like with my health, I've 401 00:17:22,520 --> 00:17:24,680 Speaker 5: been through a lot of seasons for being thirty one, 402 00:17:25,760 --> 00:17:28,920 Speaker 5: there's hope that it will happen when it's supposed to happen. 403 00:17:28,960 --> 00:17:35,840 Speaker 5: I know that's so like lame to say that sentence act, 404 00:17:36,119 --> 00:17:39,440 Speaker 5: but I do feel that he's out there right now, 405 00:17:39,560 --> 00:17:41,879 Speaker 5: and it's we just haven't crossed paths for a reason, 406 00:17:42,040 --> 00:17:43,480 Speaker 5: and we will soon. 407 00:17:43,520 --> 00:17:44,120 Speaker 4: And when it. 408 00:17:44,119 --> 00:17:46,040 Speaker 5: Happens, I feel like it will probably happen quickly for 409 00:17:46,160 --> 00:17:48,679 Speaker 5: me because my life set up to bring someone in 410 00:17:48,720 --> 00:17:50,720 Speaker 5: and I would hopefully meet someone that matches that. 411 00:17:50,800 --> 00:17:53,760 Speaker 2: But I mean, I would you date someone older? 412 00:17:54,240 --> 00:17:55,280 Speaker 4: I would? I would with. 413 00:17:55,320 --> 00:17:57,000 Speaker 2: Children, with someone who has children. 414 00:17:57,680 --> 00:18:00,720 Speaker 4: I've thought about that. I don't I can't answer that. 415 00:18:00,760 --> 00:18:01,480 Speaker 4: I don't know. 416 00:18:01,640 --> 00:18:04,560 Speaker 3: I think I it would depend on the may I 417 00:18:04,560 --> 00:18:05,840 Speaker 3: guess the fil. 418 00:18:06,359 --> 00:18:08,760 Speaker 5: Yeah, I never saw that for myself, so that would 419 00:18:08,800 --> 00:18:11,000 Speaker 5: be something new for the right person. I would as 420 00:18:11,000 --> 00:18:12,800 Speaker 5: long as they would want more children, so that's really 421 00:18:12,840 --> 00:18:16,919 Speaker 5: important to me. But I would date someone older, for sure. 422 00:18:17,480 --> 00:18:18,440 Speaker 5: I've always stated. 423 00:18:18,160 --> 00:18:18,800 Speaker 3: Young me too. 424 00:18:19,440 --> 00:18:24,719 Speaker 1: You've always stated guys younger than you. Okay, Lexi, Lexi, this, 425 00:18:24,880 --> 00:18:26,960 Speaker 1: I think we may have just hit before we move 426 00:18:27,000 --> 00:18:28,840 Speaker 1: on to the next topic. I think we may have 427 00:18:29,000 --> 00:18:33,160 Speaker 1: just hit the jackpot as to why you're not dating 428 00:18:33,400 --> 00:18:37,120 Speaker 1: guys who meet your standard, because guys do not mature 429 00:18:37,200 --> 00:18:38,199 Speaker 1: until they're Oh, I don't know, what do. 430 00:18:38,200 --> 00:18:40,159 Speaker 3: You think since five years behind us? 431 00:18:41,520 --> 00:18:43,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, five to ten. 432 00:18:43,440 --> 00:18:45,320 Speaker 1: I mean that's why I'm saying you might want to 433 00:18:45,320 --> 00:18:47,800 Speaker 1: look at guys a little bit older because you have. 434 00:18:47,880 --> 00:18:51,840 Speaker 3: Your older I'll go younger the same age. 435 00:18:52,560 --> 00:18:55,080 Speaker 4: A lot of times they have a lot of trauma baggage. 436 00:18:55,119 --> 00:18:56,040 Speaker 4: But who doesn't, so. 437 00:18:56,040 --> 00:18:57,919 Speaker 2: Maybe everyone does, I know. 438 00:18:57,960 --> 00:18:59,560 Speaker 5: But if you find someone who's like and I have 439 00:18:59,600 --> 00:19:01,520 Speaker 5: no business dating a twenty six year old, but a 440 00:19:01,520 --> 00:19:04,800 Speaker 5: lot of the times the younger guys like are more multible. 441 00:19:05,000 --> 00:19:05,719 Speaker 4: This is terrible. 442 00:19:05,760 --> 00:19:07,520 Speaker 2: I don't know, it's not terrible. 443 00:19:08,080 --> 00:19:09,959 Speaker 4: I should probably. 444 00:19:10,200 --> 00:19:11,520 Speaker 3: I want to hook her up with Nick. 445 00:19:11,600 --> 00:19:14,640 Speaker 1: I swear you got a jet mass and I got 446 00:19:14,640 --> 00:19:17,840 Speaker 1: married when I was twenty and I trained my husband 447 00:19:18,200 --> 00:19:19,040 Speaker 1: and I'm not doing. 448 00:19:18,920 --> 00:19:20,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's you. 449 00:19:20,720 --> 00:19:23,080 Speaker 3: They don't do that anymore, Kath that's done. 450 00:19:23,280 --> 00:19:26,560 Speaker 2: Really, forget another reason. I'm just saying we. 451 00:19:26,520 --> 00:19:29,640 Speaker 3: Can't compare that but we're going to have some advice 452 00:19:29,720 --> 00:19:33,160 Speaker 3: with Lexi. Lexi, will you join us with this one? 453 00:19:33,600 --> 00:19:36,800 Speaker 1: So we read some questions and then we give some advice, 454 00:19:36,840 --> 00:19:38,719 Speaker 1: and we want you to weigh in on this. Okay, 455 00:19:40,320 --> 00:19:43,800 Speaker 1: all right, here's our first one. This one is from anonymous, 456 00:19:44,320 --> 00:19:49,720 Speaker 1: age thirty two from Cleveland, Ohio. Hi, Golden girls, I'm 457 00:19:49,800 --> 00:19:53,639 Speaker 1: curious if you have ever known anyone to cancel a 458 00:19:53,680 --> 00:19:58,320 Speaker 1: wedding after so much has already been paid for. I 459 00:19:58,320 --> 00:20:01,920 Speaker 1: have just been having this gut reading feeling recently that 460 00:20:02,080 --> 00:20:05,040 Speaker 1: my fiance and I are not meant to be. We 461 00:20:05,119 --> 00:20:07,960 Speaker 1: have been together for five years and I didn't see 462 00:20:07,960 --> 00:20:10,800 Speaker 1: this coming, but as the day is approaching, I am 463 00:20:10,880 --> 00:20:14,520 Speaker 1: realizing for a lot of reasons, like him recently deciding 464 00:20:14,600 --> 00:20:18,159 Speaker 1: he doesn't want to have kids after we previously discussed otherwise, 465 00:20:18,960 --> 00:20:20,680 Speaker 1: that I should not marry this man. 466 00:20:21,000 --> 00:20:22,960 Speaker 2: If you know anyone who has been through. 467 00:20:22,800 --> 00:20:26,639 Speaker 1: This, how did their family, friends, bridal party react. I 468 00:20:26,760 --> 00:20:30,320 Speaker 1: haven't told anyone besides my therapist that I'm thinking about this, 469 00:20:30,680 --> 00:20:33,680 Speaker 1: and we are four months out. I feel so guilty 470 00:20:33,720 --> 00:20:35,919 Speaker 1: because we have all spent a lot of time and 471 00:20:36,000 --> 00:20:38,399 Speaker 1: money on this, but I know if we get married, 472 00:20:38,520 --> 00:20:42,080 Speaker 1: it will end in divorce. Any words of wisdom are appreciated. 473 00:20:42,359 --> 00:20:45,679 Speaker 1: Thank you, besties. Well, Anonymous, what do you think? What 474 00:20:45,720 --> 00:20:46,200 Speaker 1: do you think? 475 00:20:46,480 --> 00:20:48,600 Speaker 5: I know someone that this happened to. I won't say 476 00:20:48,600 --> 00:20:50,840 Speaker 5: who because someone looks as his wife. But it was 477 00:20:50,880 --> 00:20:55,560 Speaker 5: a similar timeline. And was it hard? While it was happening, 478 00:20:55,600 --> 00:20:58,520 Speaker 5: they had already had the bachelorette party, everything was planned, 479 00:20:58,560 --> 00:21:01,800 Speaker 5: everyone's flights were booked. Yes, it was hard. And but 480 00:21:01,880 --> 00:21:03,720 Speaker 5: here's the thing that people in your life who love 481 00:21:03,760 --> 00:21:05,320 Speaker 5: you and support you do not want you to go 482 00:21:05,400 --> 00:21:07,840 Speaker 5: obert on marriage that is going to end in divorce. 483 00:21:07,920 --> 00:21:10,399 Speaker 5: If you're thinking about that before walking down the aisle, 484 00:21:10,800 --> 00:21:13,680 Speaker 5: it's only going to get more challenging. And so yes, 485 00:21:13,720 --> 00:21:16,199 Speaker 5: it might be like a season, a little period of 486 00:21:16,280 --> 00:21:18,359 Speaker 5: really something you don't want to deal. 487 00:21:18,240 --> 00:21:20,560 Speaker 4: With, but I can. I have to say you can't. 488 00:21:20,600 --> 00:21:21,080 Speaker 4: You can't. 489 00:21:21,359 --> 00:21:23,320 Speaker 3: Yeah, it'll hurt like hell. But I think she should 490 00:21:23,680 --> 00:21:26,359 Speaker 3: upfront talk to him and tell him what she's thinking 491 00:21:26,400 --> 00:21:29,720 Speaker 3: and feeling, you know, because sometimes men will say, oh, 492 00:21:30,000 --> 00:21:33,440 Speaker 3: I don't think I want to have kids, yet they 493 00:21:33,480 --> 00:21:36,120 Speaker 3: do or they don't even know they do. Not that 494 00:21:36,119 --> 00:21:38,439 Speaker 3: she should stay and try it and end up in 495 00:21:38,480 --> 00:21:40,440 Speaker 3: a divorce, but you're exactly right. 496 00:21:40,720 --> 00:21:43,920 Speaker 2: The people I think I think people would say, yeah. 497 00:21:43,960 --> 00:21:46,920 Speaker 1: I think people initially would say, oh, you're just having 498 00:21:46,960 --> 00:21:51,360 Speaker 1: cold feet. That's what people would start to say. But 499 00:21:51,359 --> 00:21:53,879 Speaker 1: but the but anonymous, what I hear you saying is 500 00:21:53,920 --> 00:21:57,240 Speaker 1: you're very thoughtful about this. You've you've talked about it 501 00:21:57,240 --> 00:22:02,400 Speaker 1: with your therapist, and and what I'm hearing is he 502 00:22:02,480 --> 00:22:04,200 Speaker 1: has changed his mind about children. 503 00:22:04,520 --> 00:22:08,320 Speaker 2: And you know what, that's just not okay to do it. 504 00:22:08,359 --> 00:22:11,000 Speaker 1: And frankly, that's what engagements are for. You know, it's 505 00:22:11,040 --> 00:22:13,679 Speaker 1: better to break it off now, in my opinion. You know, 506 00:22:13,760 --> 00:22:17,680 Speaker 1: send back the silver, send back the honeymoon money, send 507 00:22:17,680 --> 00:22:20,480 Speaker 1: it all back, and next when you find the right guy, 508 00:22:21,600 --> 00:22:24,399 Speaker 1: go elpe. And you know what, even you've made it, 509 00:22:24,440 --> 00:22:26,600 Speaker 1: even you haven't spent too much money. I think that's 510 00:22:26,640 --> 00:22:28,480 Speaker 1: really sad. But I think she's got to do the 511 00:22:28,560 --> 00:22:28,920 Speaker 1: right thing. 512 00:22:29,240 --> 00:22:31,159 Speaker 3: I think it hurts a lot, and you're going to 513 00:22:31,240 --> 00:22:34,720 Speaker 3: feel guilty, but don't just just be you and be 514 00:22:34,880 --> 00:22:37,400 Speaker 3: true to yourself, because if not, you'll regret this. 515 00:22:38,119 --> 00:22:40,400 Speaker 4: Yeah, and I think it's important to talk to him too, 516 00:22:40,560 --> 00:22:43,960 Speaker 4: Like I do. I understand that you can get these 517 00:22:43,960 --> 00:22:45,840 Speaker 4: thoughts in your head and they can ruminate and they 518 00:22:45,880 --> 00:22:48,840 Speaker 4: can start to spiral, Like I think sitting down having 519 00:22:48,840 --> 00:22:51,120 Speaker 4: a conversation, maybe he feels the same way. 520 00:22:51,359 --> 00:22:56,200 Speaker 3: Like that's what I said, Like she's really considering stopping this. 521 00:22:57,680 --> 00:23:01,840 Speaker 1: Also, she's also very concerned about what her family and friends, and. 522 00:23:03,480 --> 00:23:06,040 Speaker 3: They're her family and friends. They're going to get over it. 523 00:23:06,920 --> 00:23:08,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, and if they don't, you know. 524 00:23:08,560 --> 00:23:11,760 Speaker 5: Not their life. They're not agreement. They're not living with 525 00:23:11,840 --> 00:23:14,400 Speaker 5: him for the next sixty years, like at the end 526 00:23:14,400 --> 00:23:17,480 Speaker 5: of the day, Like they might have thoughts, feelings, emotions, 527 00:23:17,480 --> 00:23:20,119 Speaker 5: but it's not their life. And so she only pender 528 00:23:20,160 --> 00:23:21,000 Speaker 5: her story. 529 00:23:20,680 --> 00:23:23,000 Speaker 2: And Lexi, you're so wise, she is. 530 00:23:23,040 --> 00:23:26,840 Speaker 3: We wish you lots of luck. Anonymous from Cleveland, Okay. 531 00:23:26,920 --> 00:23:29,760 Speaker 3: The next one is from Robin and she's forty eight 532 00:23:29,920 --> 00:23:34,320 Speaker 3: and from Fort Lauderdale, Florida. Hey, ladies, I have been 533 00:23:34,400 --> 00:23:38,000 Speaker 3: running into an issue in the bedroom with my husband. 534 00:23:39,000 --> 00:23:42,359 Speaker 3: We are on very different pages when it comes to sex, 535 00:23:42,800 --> 00:23:46,800 Speaker 3: like how often we want it, how often each one 536 00:23:46,880 --> 00:23:50,000 Speaker 3: wants it. He has a high libido and wants to 537 00:23:50,080 --> 00:23:53,960 Speaker 3: have sex every day, sometimes even two times a day. 538 00:23:54,359 --> 00:23:58,040 Speaker 3: Not only do I not have that sex drive, but 539 00:23:58,160 --> 00:24:01,000 Speaker 3: a few years ago my back got injured in a 540 00:24:01,040 --> 00:24:05,879 Speaker 3: car accident, so having sex that frequently isn't sustainable for me. 541 00:24:06,480 --> 00:24:09,320 Speaker 3: Some days I'm in pain and cannot have sex at all. 542 00:24:09,920 --> 00:24:11,960 Speaker 3: I don't know what to do or how to get 543 00:24:12,000 --> 00:24:15,480 Speaker 3: on the same page about this. We are great partners 544 00:24:15,560 --> 00:24:18,800 Speaker 3: otherwise and have been together for fifteen years, but I 545 00:24:18,880 --> 00:24:21,400 Speaker 3: fear he is going to want to leave me over 546 00:24:21,440 --> 00:24:25,760 Speaker 3: this because we've been fighting about it recently. Let me 547 00:24:25,840 --> 00:24:28,359 Speaker 3: know your thoughts and if you have any advice, thank 548 00:24:28,400 --> 00:24:30,040 Speaker 3: you and love your podcast. 549 00:24:30,440 --> 00:24:32,720 Speaker 2: Oh me, okay, LEXI, what do you say? 550 00:24:34,160 --> 00:24:35,080 Speaker 4: That's a tough one. 551 00:24:35,160 --> 00:24:38,760 Speaker 5: I think as someone who has a lot of pelvic pain, 552 00:24:38,800 --> 00:24:41,560 Speaker 5: I can understand to a degree of you know, maybe 553 00:24:41,560 --> 00:24:43,399 Speaker 5: someone wanting it more and being in pain and not 554 00:24:43,480 --> 00:24:46,199 Speaker 5: being able to necessarily do that all the time. But 555 00:24:46,240 --> 00:24:47,800 Speaker 5: I think with the right person, if you had an 556 00:24:47,840 --> 00:24:50,560 Speaker 5: open line of communication, there's other things that you can 557 00:24:50,600 --> 00:24:54,800 Speaker 5: do by words that maybe you guys can find other 558 00:24:54,960 --> 00:24:59,280 Speaker 5: things that can like spark that romantic by what they're 559 00:24:59,280 --> 00:25:02,760 Speaker 5: looking for in a different way that's not as impactful 560 00:25:02,840 --> 00:25:05,560 Speaker 5: to her physical health and way right. 561 00:25:06,240 --> 00:25:08,680 Speaker 3: I mean, when I first hear it, I feel bad, 562 00:25:09,200 --> 00:25:12,800 Speaker 3: But then I also know women like she's forty eight, 563 00:25:12,920 --> 00:25:16,160 Speaker 3: so you kind of the libido goes like this, it's 564 00:25:16,200 --> 00:25:19,119 Speaker 3: going to start and the next ten years are even 565 00:25:19,320 --> 00:25:22,440 Speaker 3: worse when you start losing hormones and starts. 566 00:25:23,160 --> 00:25:25,800 Speaker 1: I don't think that's true for every woman. I don't 567 00:25:25,800 --> 00:25:29,160 Speaker 1: think that's true. I think can women, Yes, some women 568 00:25:29,440 --> 00:25:31,160 Speaker 1: their libido increases over age. 569 00:25:31,320 --> 00:25:34,760 Speaker 2: I think I was that girl. Yeah, I think that 570 00:25:34,760 --> 00:25:37,040 Speaker 2: that this Robin what I'm hearing. 571 00:25:37,600 --> 00:25:40,560 Speaker 1: Maybe part of this is and I think you can 572 00:25:40,760 --> 00:25:43,719 Speaker 1: agree with this, Lexi. If you're in pain and you 573 00:25:43,800 --> 00:25:46,680 Speaker 1: know something, some sexual act is going to cause you pain, 574 00:25:47,080 --> 00:25:49,879 Speaker 1: you're probably not saying, hey, let's go do that because 575 00:25:49,880 --> 00:25:53,600 Speaker 1: you know what's going to ensue. Right, So she's probably 576 00:25:53,680 --> 00:25:56,800 Speaker 1: fearful of the pain, and that decreases her sexual appetite. 577 00:25:56,800 --> 00:26:00,439 Speaker 3: I mean, I get that, but there's other things right 578 00:26:00,520 --> 00:26:05,199 Speaker 3: could play. Yeah, so keep them satisfied, so to speak, 579 00:26:05,240 --> 00:26:08,119 Speaker 3: but in a way that you could enjoy it as well. 580 00:26:08,400 --> 00:26:08,880 Speaker 4: Exactly. 581 00:26:09,080 --> 00:26:09,240 Speaker 2: Yep. 582 00:26:09,600 --> 00:26:13,919 Speaker 1: Do you not think I'm curious again, Lexi, Susan and 583 00:26:13,920 --> 00:26:15,720 Speaker 1: I are, you know, on the other end of the 584 00:26:15,720 --> 00:26:20,399 Speaker 1: spectrum here. But do you think that not having sex 585 00:26:20,680 --> 00:26:23,919 Speaker 1: twice a day, like, can you see that ruining a marriage? 586 00:26:24,520 --> 00:26:26,399 Speaker 3: No, said day is a lot. 587 00:26:26,560 --> 00:26:29,040 Speaker 4: I think, Yeah, I think that you know everyone. 588 00:26:28,920 --> 00:26:31,640 Speaker 2: Well once a day whatever I'm saying, could you see that? 589 00:26:32,720 --> 00:26:35,520 Speaker 5: I think not after fifteen years. I think everyone has 590 00:26:35,560 --> 00:26:38,840 Speaker 5: their expectations of what they need from a physical perspective, 591 00:26:39,000 --> 00:26:42,159 Speaker 5: But there has to be something outside of that physical 592 00:26:42,480 --> 00:26:45,560 Speaker 5: relationship that's keeping you together, right, Like, it's not their 593 00:26:45,560 --> 00:26:48,159 Speaker 5: whole relationship. Isn't writing on this and I hope not? 594 00:26:48,240 --> 00:26:49,959 Speaker 5: And it sounds like it's not because she said they 595 00:26:50,000 --> 00:26:53,080 Speaker 5: have a great marriage. But yeah, I think you know, 596 00:26:53,160 --> 00:26:56,480 Speaker 5: it's all about communication, especially when she steals. 597 00:26:56,160 --> 00:27:00,400 Speaker 3: My words, I love you. You're exactly right. Yeah, that's 598 00:27:00,440 --> 00:27:01,120 Speaker 3: our sea work. 599 00:27:01,240 --> 00:27:02,359 Speaker 2: It is, it is. 600 00:27:02,600 --> 00:27:07,720 Speaker 3: But again, it is so important that you have a conversation, 601 00:27:08,440 --> 00:27:10,040 Speaker 3: let them know how you're feeling. 602 00:27:10,800 --> 00:27:12,080 Speaker 2: I agree with that. 603 00:27:12,119 --> 00:27:14,240 Speaker 1: What I was trying to say is even if you 604 00:27:14,280 --> 00:27:18,240 Speaker 1: can communicate, I'm asking you, as a younger person, even 605 00:27:18,280 --> 00:27:21,879 Speaker 1: if you communicate, if if that, if her husband is 606 00:27:22,640 --> 00:27:25,080 Speaker 1: that's his jam. You know, I want to have sex 607 00:27:25,119 --> 00:27:27,639 Speaker 1: once a day, sometimes twice a day. And that's what 608 00:27:27,880 --> 00:27:30,439 Speaker 1: I hate to say. It has become a deal breaker 609 00:27:30,480 --> 00:27:31,920 Speaker 1: for him. 610 00:27:32,080 --> 00:27:34,040 Speaker 2: Marriages have ended on a lot less. 611 00:27:34,040 --> 00:27:37,800 Speaker 3: But it's not yet. She's worried that it could they've 612 00:27:37,840 --> 00:27:42,040 Speaker 3: been Yeah, she's thinking, overthinking it, she's feeling a little 613 00:27:42,080 --> 00:27:42,760 Speaker 3: bit of guilt. 614 00:27:44,080 --> 00:27:44,920 Speaker 2: She hurts. 615 00:27:47,280 --> 00:27:47,480 Speaker 4: Rob. 616 00:27:48,000 --> 00:27:50,720 Speaker 1: You know, Robin, send your husband to Susan and me 617 00:27:50,800 --> 00:27:52,760 Speaker 1: will take care of him. You just rest your back, 618 00:27:53,080 --> 00:27:54,000 Speaker 1: will take care of him. 619 00:27:54,600 --> 00:27:57,640 Speaker 3: Oh my goodness, Robin. We wish you luck, but talk 620 00:27:57,720 --> 00:28:02,560 Speaker 3: to your man and then discover other things. Yeah, exactly, 621 00:28:03,160 --> 00:28:05,640 Speaker 3: that's even coming from a thirty one year old and 622 00:28:05,800 --> 00:28:08,960 Speaker 3: a seventy one year old and a sixty seven year old. 623 00:28:09,640 --> 00:28:10,800 Speaker 2: Wow, I know. 624 00:28:12,440 --> 00:28:13,199 Speaker 3: I'll meet them now. 625 00:28:15,840 --> 00:28:18,639 Speaker 2: I think we've we've hit the hit the wait, lex. 626 00:28:18,400 --> 00:28:21,919 Speaker 4: What if it were you and they wanted, you know, 627 00:28:22,040 --> 00:28:22,919 Speaker 4: to be physical? 628 00:28:23,119 --> 00:28:25,600 Speaker 3: I mean twice a day every day is ridiculous. Come on, 629 00:28:25,760 --> 00:28:27,640 Speaker 3: that gets old after fifteen years. 630 00:28:27,640 --> 00:28:29,720 Speaker 5: Can be wrong with the right person. Like, I'm a 631 00:28:29,840 --> 00:28:33,159 Speaker 5: very physical touch type of type of gallon. So lot 632 00:28:33,040 --> 00:28:34,160 Speaker 5: o the things you can do. 633 00:28:34,359 --> 00:28:37,200 Speaker 3: But like, what is your love language, Lexie? 634 00:28:37,400 --> 00:28:39,360 Speaker 4: I love languages quality time for sure. 635 00:28:40,480 --> 00:28:42,640 Speaker 5: I love being with the person that I care about, 636 00:28:42,720 --> 00:28:45,800 Speaker 5: doing nothing even like you know, but I feel like 637 00:28:46,040 --> 00:28:47,800 Speaker 5: you know, you could probably I could speak to all 638 00:28:47,800 --> 00:28:49,080 Speaker 5: of them, but quality time is mine. 639 00:28:49,120 --> 00:28:49,840 Speaker 4: What about you, guys? 640 00:28:51,120 --> 00:28:55,080 Speaker 3: Physical touch and well, I think I want all five. 641 00:28:55,160 --> 00:28:57,920 Speaker 2: I want them all, but I want look, I want 642 00:28:57,920 --> 00:28:59,000 Speaker 2: them all, I want them all. 643 00:28:59,200 --> 00:29:02,400 Speaker 1: I have a question, Lexi, before we leave here, do 644 00:29:02,400 --> 00:29:04,680 Speaker 1: you have any questions for us, any advice you want 645 00:29:04,720 --> 00:29:06,760 Speaker 1: from must or do you have any advice for us? 646 00:29:06,400 --> 00:29:08,800 Speaker 3: And totally what do you think? 647 00:29:09,120 --> 00:29:09,360 Speaker 4: God? 648 00:29:09,520 --> 00:29:11,560 Speaker 5: Well, I guess the advice, Like I guess you know 649 00:29:11,720 --> 00:29:14,600 Speaker 5: you said you got married Kathy at twenty. 650 00:29:15,360 --> 00:29:16,080 Speaker 4: How old you were? 651 00:29:16,960 --> 00:29:19,800 Speaker 3: I was a little older, okay, in my twenties, So. 652 00:29:19,960 --> 00:29:21,800 Speaker 4: In your twenties? Like, what what do you like? 653 00:29:22,680 --> 00:29:25,000 Speaker 5: There's all this pressure, right, I mean, I feel it 654 00:29:25,040 --> 00:29:27,760 Speaker 5: a lie as I'm turning thirty one, Like everyone says 655 00:29:27,760 --> 00:29:29,760 Speaker 5: that thirty five your fertility goes down, and I have 656 00:29:29,880 --> 00:29:30,520 Speaker 5: a you know, you. 657 00:29:30,480 --> 00:29:32,800 Speaker 3: Know my girlfriend just had a baby. She's forty two 658 00:29:32,920 --> 00:29:34,640 Speaker 3: and she gorgeous. 659 00:29:34,840 --> 00:29:36,840 Speaker 5: And then you hear narratives. I hear this all the time. 660 00:29:36,920 --> 00:29:39,560 Speaker 5: Oh you're single and thirty one? What's wrong with you? Oh? 661 00:29:39,680 --> 00:29:39,920 Speaker 3: Yeah? 662 00:29:40,520 --> 00:29:43,760 Speaker 1: So I will tell you, Lexi, my daughter moved back. 663 00:29:43,840 --> 00:29:46,959 Speaker 1: She's as beautiful as you are and very successful, and 664 00:29:47,000 --> 00:29:49,280 Speaker 1: she moved back to Austin. And this is the advice 665 00:29:49,280 --> 00:29:52,400 Speaker 1: I'd give everyone who if you're asking for advice, who's 666 00:29:52,400 --> 00:29:52,920 Speaker 1: your age? 667 00:29:53,240 --> 00:29:55,120 Speaker 2: And you seem to really have adopted it. 668 00:29:56,480 --> 00:30:00,640 Speaker 1: Do the things that you love, whatever those activit, these are, 669 00:30:00,720 --> 00:30:03,880 Speaker 1: whatever brings you joy, Get out and do those things, 670 00:30:04,360 --> 00:30:07,320 Speaker 1: and the right people will come into your life, because 671 00:30:07,640 --> 00:30:09,560 Speaker 1: they're not going to come knock at your front door, right. 672 00:30:09,600 --> 00:30:11,760 Speaker 1: But if you're out doing the things that you love 673 00:30:12,320 --> 00:30:15,840 Speaker 1: and meeting people, you're going to meet that person that 674 00:30:15,880 --> 00:30:17,440 Speaker 1: connects with you and that you connect with. 675 00:30:17,920 --> 00:30:20,320 Speaker 3: And I do believe that to a point, Kathy be 676 00:30:20,640 --> 00:30:24,040 Speaker 3: the times are so different with the dating apps and 677 00:30:24,080 --> 00:30:26,640 Speaker 3: the people with their head down and they think, oh 678 00:30:26,720 --> 00:30:30,320 Speaker 3: that one's next, who's next? And there are multiple dating sites. 679 00:30:30,360 --> 00:30:34,040 Speaker 3: It's not always that easy. Well I was, But the 680 00:30:34,080 --> 00:30:37,240 Speaker 3: most important part of the statement that you just made 681 00:30:37,320 --> 00:30:41,000 Speaker 3: was do the things that you like that make you 682 00:30:41,200 --> 00:30:43,080 Speaker 3: happy and if that happens. 683 00:30:42,640 --> 00:30:46,480 Speaker 5: Great, Yeah, yeah for sure. And just trying to stay 684 00:30:46,480 --> 00:30:49,120 Speaker 5: positive like you guys said, but it's not it needs 685 00:30:49,160 --> 00:30:49,600 Speaker 5: to stop. 686 00:30:49,720 --> 00:30:51,960 Speaker 3: Like I think, Kathy has to keep me positive because 687 00:30:51,960 --> 00:30:52,960 Speaker 3: I bitch all the time. 688 00:30:54,240 --> 00:30:57,200 Speaker 4: Not perfect obviously, I think you said if you got. 689 00:30:57,240 --> 00:30:59,520 Speaker 2: Sorry, wait excuse me, who's not perfect? 690 00:30:59,720 --> 00:31:01,160 Speaker 3: Well, God, don't go there. 691 00:31:01,240 --> 00:31:01,520 Speaker 2: Lex. 692 00:31:04,280 --> 00:31:06,480 Speaker 3: We would love to be in your company again. And 693 00:31:06,520 --> 00:31:08,040 Speaker 3: you're in Atlanta, I. 694 00:31:08,000 --> 00:31:08,560 Speaker 4: Am for now. 695 00:31:08,640 --> 00:31:10,480 Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm trying to figure out what that looks like 696 00:31:10,560 --> 00:31:12,560 Speaker 5: for me because dating in Atlanta is hard. 697 00:31:12,600 --> 00:31:15,560 Speaker 3: But I don't want to move every city every not. 698 00:31:15,520 --> 00:31:17,120 Speaker 4: That everyone tells me, but like, you're not going to 699 00:31:17,200 --> 00:31:18,160 Speaker 4: move to New York and be. 700 00:31:18,120 --> 00:31:20,520 Speaker 2: Come to Austin. There's tons of single guys in Austin. 701 00:31:20,760 --> 00:31:22,520 Speaker 3: Austin's great too. Have you ever been. 702 00:31:23,280 --> 00:31:25,360 Speaker 4: I've been for a work trip. I've never been for fun, 703 00:31:25,360 --> 00:31:27,440 Speaker 4: but it's they had great restaurants, Like it's. 704 00:31:27,320 --> 00:31:31,200 Speaker 3: Yeah, hot, hot, hot, hot, but it's a beautiful, beautiful city. 705 00:31:31,600 --> 00:31:34,719 Speaker 3: And you know what, you have given us such good advice, 706 00:31:34,760 --> 00:31:38,080 Speaker 3: given everybody good advice. I just thank you so much 707 00:31:38,080 --> 00:31:40,240 Speaker 3: from the bottom of my heart. And Kat, maybe we 708 00:31:40,280 --> 00:31:41,960 Speaker 3: could take the show on the road and go down 709 00:31:41,960 --> 00:31:44,640 Speaker 3: to Atlanta and hang and we'll do a puckist from her. 710 00:31:45,240 --> 00:31:46,840 Speaker 1: I love that I have great friends in Atlanta. I'm 711 00:31:46,840 --> 00:31:48,560 Speaker 1: going to see if they can if they've got you, 712 00:31:48,560 --> 00:31:50,240 Speaker 1: if they've got kids, your rage, So I'm gonna see 713 00:31:50,240 --> 00:31:51,160 Speaker 1: if they know anybody's single. 714 00:31:51,200 --> 00:31:52,280 Speaker 2: Let you. I'll get back to you on that. 715 00:31:53,960 --> 00:31:56,200 Speaker 3: You just keep doing you stay beautiful. 716 00:31:56,720 --> 00:31:59,240 Speaker 4: Thank you guys the best. 717 00:31:58,360 --> 00:32:03,000 Speaker 3: That Well, that's it for this episode of Bachelor Happy 718 00:32:03,040 --> 00:32:07,320 Speaker 3: Hour's Golden Hour. Thank our lovely guest, Lexie, and this 719 00:32:07,400 --> 00:32:09,560 Speaker 3: is not the last time we'll be talking to you. 720 00:32:10,120 --> 00:32:10,920 Speaker 3: We adore you. 721 00:32:11,560 --> 00:32:14,400 Speaker 1: Yeah, Alexi, We have loved chatting with you and I 722 00:32:14,440 --> 00:32:17,000 Speaker 1: have to say I loved you on Joey's season. I 723 00:32:17,040 --> 00:32:19,200 Speaker 1: love you even more now and it has nothing to 724 00:32:19,240 --> 00:32:22,040 Speaker 1: do with you being blonde. You are wise beyond your 725 00:32:22,160 --> 00:32:25,320 Speaker 1: years and whatever's wrong with you, guys, figure it out 726 00:32:25,320 --> 00:32:30,160 Speaker 1: because this girl should not be single. But in the meantime, Lexi, 727 00:32:30,240 --> 00:32:32,720 Speaker 1: while you're looking for a guy, the rest of you 728 00:32:32,920 --> 00:32:35,920 Speaker 1: join us on our podcast. Be sure to follow Bachelor 729 00:32:35,960 --> 00:32:38,840 Speaker 1: Happy Hour. We have new episodes coming out all the 730 00:32:38,920 --> 00:32:42,120 Speaker 1: time and if you enjoyed today, you are gonna. 731 00:32:41,840 --> 00:32:42,880 Speaker 2: Love the one sung it up. 732 00:32:43,240 --> 00:32:45,240 Speaker 3: You need to go to her page and check her out. 733 00:32:45,280 --> 00:32:47,480 Speaker 3: Did you post what you look like right now with 734 00:32:47,560 --> 00:32:49,600 Speaker 3: this blonde hair? I mean, I just can't. 735 00:32:51,320 --> 00:32:52,920 Speaker 2: You are one hot mama. 736 00:32:53,320 --> 00:32:56,920 Speaker 3: And ladies and gentlemen submit your questions because you see 737 00:32:56,960 --> 00:32:59,560 Speaker 3: what we do. We dissect them. We give the best 738 00:32:59,600 --> 00:33:02,200 Speaker 3: advice we can. I mean, we're all over the map 739 00:33:02,280 --> 00:33:05,440 Speaker 3: with it. So you can go to bachelornation dot com 740 00:33:05,520 --> 00:33:08,680 Speaker 3: slash Goldenour and hit us up on social media. 741 00:33:09,760 --> 00:33:13,880 Speaker 1: Listen to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour on the iHeartRadio 742 00:33:13,960 --> 00:33:16,400 Speaker 1: app or wherever you listen to podcasts. 743 00:33:16,680 --> 00:33:19,520 Speaker 2: Thanks again and have a great week. See you next time.