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Speaker 1: Hey, everyone, what's going on? Happy five Minute Friday. I

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Speaker 1: am so elated that we are on the cusp of

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Speaker 1: a long weekend. The season, the season. The show is

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Speaker 1: going on a season break next week. I figure a

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Speaker 1: lot of people are going to be out of their

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Speaker 1: normal routines, so this was a calculated move on my part.

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Speaker 1: I am looking forward to just taking a little bit

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Speaker 1: of a little bit of a break myself, a little rest,

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Speaker 1: and also have a little fun. I'm heading to London

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Speaker 1: next week. I'm really excited for about four days. Not

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Speaker 1: a super long trip, but enough to have a little adventure,

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Speaker 1: find myself some tea, and have a good time. For

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Speaker 1: today's episode of Five Minute Friday, I want to talk

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Speaker 1: about the power of positive self talk. I know it's

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Speaker 1: a theme that I touch on often here on the show,

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Speaker 1: but I had an experience last weekend on a bike

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Speaker 1: ride that I felt super compelled to bring here to

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Speaker 1: the show. So I went on a bike ride last weekend.

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Speaker 1: I was invited by a couple of friends. I met

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Speaker 1: some of their friends. There was a squad of about

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Speaker 1: maybe six or seven of us. We rode over the

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Speaker 1: George Washington Bridge from Brooklyn and went across to New

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Speaker 1: Jersey and then back into New York and ultimately up

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Speaker 1: to Nyak to a donut shop that a lot of

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Speaker 1: cyclists go to in that area. The ride itself was

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Speaker 1: about seventy plus miles round trip, definitely my longest ride

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Speaker 1: since easily twenty twenty, and I had a really hard time.

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Speaker 1: I had a really hard time because I was the

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Speaker 1: slowest one out of the entire group. So what that

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Speaker 1: meant was after every climb, by the time I got

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Speaker 1: I was really holding them up too much. I think

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Speaker 1: every you know, a few minutes that went by, it

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Speaker 1: was a nice break for them. But in my head

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Speaker 1: time and time again. We took a pretty hilly route.

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Speaker 1: I would say there were about like four or five

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Speaker 1: was like, Okay, you know, I'm just getting warmed up.

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Speaker 1: But the second time, after climbing this hill by myself

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Speaker 1: one hundred percent shit talking myself and feeling really anxious.

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Speaker 1: I was thinking to myself, why did I agree to

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Speaker 1: Am I really this quote unquote bad at this? What

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Speaker 1: do all of these people that I don't really know think?

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Speaker 1: Am I totally ruining this for everyone? Like all of

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Speaker 1: these things? And so, leading into the third climb, where

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Speaker 1: I knew this was going to happen again, I just

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Speaker 1: got to this place where I decided to have some

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Speaker 1: grace and accept the things that I could not change.

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Speaker 1: I was in the middle of a seventy mile loop.

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Speaker 1: I was, in fact doing the best I could with

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Speaker 1: what I had, doing my personal best in this situation,

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Speaker 1: and I accepted on that third climb that my personal

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Speaker 1: best was enough. I stopped being so concerned about what

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Speaker 1: these other individuals might think, and I started focus on

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Speaker 1: finding the fun again, the reason that I was out

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Speaker 1: there in the first place, to let my mind run,

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Speaker 1: to let go, to just be present and enjoy nature.

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Speaker 1: When I got to the top of that third climb,

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Speaker 1: was without hesitation that basically every single person I was

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Speaker 1: with said, you have nothing to apologize for. In fact,

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Speaker 1: they were appreciative of the fact that they themselves had

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Speaker 1: some time to regroup. It was one of those moments

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Speaker 1: of how I speak to myself, but also I cannot

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Speaker 1: a good time. I was making up this story in

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Speaker 1: the reality was that that wasn't it at all. I

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Speaker 1: collective of us. We had a great day out there.

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Speaker 1: We were writing for something like five hours. I swear

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Speaker 1: So my promt for you this week, what's one thing

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Speaker 1: and how can you flip the script? What is one

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Speaker 1: thing that you have been a little hard on yourself

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Speaker 2: Hey, Emily, I'm calling from Upstate New York about how

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Speaker 2: you stay organized. I find that the more demands I

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Speaker 2: and it's hard to keep track of all of my

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Speaker 2: many priorities, both short term and long term goals. How

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Speaker 2: do you stay organized and on top of the many

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Speaker 1: Good question. Organization can be a tough thing, especially when

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Speaker 1: I myself have struggled with trying to stay organized in

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Speaker 1: too many places at once. So the way that I

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Speaker 1: stay the most organized is a twofold approach. Not only

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Speaker 1: do I put everything in my Google calendar, and I

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Speaker 1: have a Google calendar for the different aspects of my life.

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Speaker 1: I have one for everything that has to do with Hurdle,

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Speaker 1: including sponsorships and newsletters and guests and interviews. And then

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Speaker 1: I have my personal Google calendar in which I organize

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Speaker 1: my personal life, my social life, et cetera. At the

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Speaker 1: beginning of every week, on Monday morning, the first thing

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Speaker 1: write down what would make the day great in my

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Speaker 1: best self co journal or link that in the show notes.

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Speaker 1: And then I go through my Google calendar and I

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Speaker 1: write down in my physical journal with you know, like

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Speaker 1: my plans, what I have going on during the week,

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Speaker 1: And this way, not only do I have the opportunity

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Speaker 1: to be reminded of what's upcoming, but then it's like

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Speaker 1: solidified in my brain. It's like, Okay, on Monday morning,

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Speaker 1: I'm reminded that I have this thing on Tuesday, this

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Speaker 1: and organize holistically for what I want to get done

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Speaker 1: and prioritize. So for me, that two calendar approach, both

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Speaker 1: the digital and the physical, that has really worked now

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Speaker 1: when it comes to staying organized with your long term goals.

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Speaker 1: I've talked about this a little bit on the show before.

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Speaker 1: I often do a quarterly audit with myself, kind of

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Speaker 1: a summit where I sit down, I mark out let's

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Speaker 1: say three hours on the weekend, and I sit down

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Speaker 1: and I look at what it is that I want

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Speaker 1: to accomplish for the quarter, what I did accomplish for

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Speaker 1: goals that might be longer term, and asking myself what

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Speaker 1: is within my control that I might want to change

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Speaker 1: or pivot, What am I succeeding at, What could I

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Speaker 1: do a little bit better just being really honest about

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Speaker 1: what's happening, because until you can be honest with yourself

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Speaker 1: about what is, you can't change anything moving forward. I'll

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Speaker 1: say that again. Until you can be honest with yourself

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Speaker 1: about what is, you cannot make any changes moving forward.

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Speaker 1: I also take that time to celebrate myself because, let's

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Speaker 1: be real, whether or not I'm accomplishing my goals, the

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Speaker 1: things that I've set out to do, it's.

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Speaker 2: Hard work and that is something to relation.

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Speaker 1: For sure. I hope that's helpful. Make sure you're following

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Speaker 1: along with me for more tips over on Instagram. It's

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Speaker 1: at Emily Body and of course the show is at

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Speaker 1: Hurdle Podcast. Another Hurdle Conquered. Catch y'all next time