WEBVTT - EP. 439: Why You Need A Medium Ugly Man (Ft. Rosy) 0:00:00.280 --> 0:00:02.760 Welcome to decisions Decisions. I don't think you should say 0:00:02.800 --> 0:00:06.040 decision decisions. It sounded like you was talking to Kirsten. 0:00:06.440 --> 0:00:09.400 You definitely say to welcome, welcome to the new podcast. 0:00:10.360 --> 0:00:14.000 Oh wait, you want to say together decisions decisions. 0:00:14.080 --> 0:00:19.840 Hey guys, welcome to another episode of De c z 0:00:20.040 --> 0:00:23.720 Yols de c z Yons. I'm your gamedy b aka 0:00:23.840 --> 0:00:25.560 Peg Decigon aka Peg and Marco a ka. 0:00:25.720 --> 0:00:29.120 That's beach aka for Core pups. Hey, y'all, I'm easy. 0:00:29.240 --> 0:00:31.200 We got a guest in the building. We don't want 0:00:31.240 --> 0:00:35.479 you to say less, but yeah, you gotta say more today. 0:00:35.479 --> 0:00:36.800 We always do, We always will. 0:00:36.880 --> 0:00:41.960 We have one half of the say Less podcast with Kasin. 0:00:41.800 --> 0:00:45.479 Rosie tried to bring tried, We did we did? You 0:00:45.520 --> 0:00:45.760 know what? 0:00:45.800 --> 0:00:47.880 When I found out like he had to spend the 0:00:47.920 --> 0:00:49.839 day with Mellow, I was like, okay, I would have 0:00:49.880 --> 0:00:51.760 done that too. I don't want to be I don't 0:00:51.760 --> 0:00:54.120 want to be with you vicious. So we do not 0:00:54.160 --> 0:00:57.000 have casts here today. You can bring, y'all sense he 0:00:57.120 --> 0:00:58.640 a whole fall book, I'm. 0:00:58.480 --> 0:01:01.360 Your whole falls. Recent when I was in this conversation 0:01:01.360 --> 0:01:04.600 about podcast where there was a host that someone didn't 0:01:04.600 --> 0:01:08.240 know and this the girl Melissa Ndez what's the name 0:01:09.000 --> 0:01:10.480 that was on the joke, but the podcast. 0:01:10.240 --> 0:01:16.560 First spord no no, no here Marissa, Manda Marissa. 0:01:16.680 --> 0:01:18.560 I was like, there's Marissa. There was Sophie on Call 0:01:18.600 --> 0:01:21.360 Her Daddy. There was kaz On Flagrant. Like a lot 0:01:21.400 --> 0:01:24.640 of people don't realize shows where there's another host that 0:01:24.680 --> 0:01:28.280 you never seen, right or that just left. There's a 0:01:28.280 --> 0:01:30.120 lot of there's a lot of so I mean never seen, 0:01:30.240 --> 0:01:32.240 like like you may be picked up on the pod 0:01:32.280 --> 0:01:35.240 and don't even know the I don't know the original. 0:01:36.200 --> 0:01:38.400 But they brought in some girl. We need a girl 0:01:38.520 --> 0:01:40.840 on a fucking man pod. I hate a man's playing 0:01:40.840 --> 0:01:41.520 a podcast. 0:01:41.640 --> 0:01:43.560 There's some woman that could get off of the week. 0:01:43.680 --> 0:01:47.280 We call them the hay Fellow Podcast, not the hay Fella. Hey, fellas, 0:01:47.480 --> 0:01:50.720 how much state you stand on a first date? Hey fellas, Hey, 0:01:50.760 --> 0:01:54.360 hey fellas. I'm like, y'all get no, zero, zero. 0:01:56.120 --> 0:01:59.280 All of it. I think men women are in a drought. 0:01:59.320 --> 0:02:03.840 You could be a bitch and a drought niggas. You know, 0:02:04.080 --> 0:02:06.760 let's be very clear. Looking at like the t. 0:02:06.960 --> 0:02:12.040 App all the women that swear they at standards. Oh bitches, 0:02:12.800 --> 0:02:16.280 you bitches are giving it up for anybody, and I 0:02:16.320 --> 0:02:18.720 actually maybe will play the reactionary clip that I want 0:02:18.720 --> 0:02:19.920 to play because I want. 0:02:19.720 --> 0:02:21.239 To read you god damn bitches later. 0:02:21.600 --> 0:02:24.519 But I guess we'll start with a quick catchup weds 0:02:24.600 --> 0:02:27.840 or whatever. ROSI there because we're going to see Chris Brown, right, 0:02:28.320 --> 0:02:32.080 and we have ball poses ready in case we're able. 0:02:31.840 --> 0:02:34.360 To get our Yeah, I wanted j C. Penny, Are 0:02:34.400 --> 0:02:39.639 you booked the meat and greet? No, as long as 0:02:39.639 --> 0:02:43.040 we get backstage, bitch, I'm taking my That was That 0:02:43.080 --> 0:02:44.320 was a little That was cooo. 0:02:44.639 --> 0:02:47.280 That was cute. I love it. It was a girl 0:02:47.280 --> 0:02:51.200 who brought her. He's holding her like, I love it. 0:02:51.760 --> 0:02:54.000 She's a cooking as I just want to know now. 0:02:54.040 --> 0:02:56.360 The only way that's the problem is if she's actually 0:02:56.400 --> 0:02:59.680 still wear her baby daddy, because like, girl, wrong a lot. 0:03:00.560 --> 0:03:05.720 Is she still with him? Chris than usher cherries? Wait? 0:03:05.760 --> 0:03:09.280 Oh wait, wait, wait wait wait, Chris Brown is worse 0:03:09.320 --> 0:03:11.560 than a bitch. If I'm not a nigga and I'm 0:03:11.560 --> 0:03:13.920 holding my sonogram and my booty pushed up on Chris 0:03:13.919 --> 0:03:16.960 Brown holding the belly his baby, oh yeah yeah, let 0:03:17.000 --> 0:03:20.280 me just suck on them cherries. That's not worthing cherries 0:03:21.160 --> 0:03:24.040 cherries in front of mine. Look at that. Look at 0:03:24.040 --> 0:03:29.520 that I'm sure is dangling that ship. So it's right, 0:03:29.680 --> 0:03:34.680 that's a seconal. But that was just for pretty great. 0:03:34.840 --> 0:03:37.560 But that baby gonna be saying that's that's why Chris 0:03:37.560 --> 0:03:40.880 Brown my daddy and when if the baby come out 0:03:40.920 --> 0:03:44.560 light that's well. 0:03:44.600 --> 0:03:47.160 I wanted to start with a ketch up and check 0:03:47.200 --> 0:03:52.160 in with y'all and yo, uh your relationship statuses, you're 0:03:52.240 --> 0:03:56.920 any stories have on relationships. I mean there's a lot 0:03:56.960 --> 0:03:59.640 of different status. Well, status is because it's multiple people. 0:04:00.680 --> 0:04:05.320 Huh Us, I'm like, oh, yes, Rosie, can we keep 0:04:05.320 --> 0:04:06.360 our friendly conversation? 0:04:09.920 --> 0:04:11.440 Nah? A relationship status is? 0:04:11.600 --> 0:04:15.600 I am finally in one after a long, rough four years. 0:04:16.440 --> 0:04:20.720 The single life wasn't bad, but it started getting a 0:04:20.720 --> 0:04:21.720 little cringey for me. 0:04:22.040 --> 0:04:26.200 What about it? Like the dating bol is? Yeah? Yeah, 0:04:26.240 --> 0:04:29.080 what part of the single dum? I actually just talked 0:04:29.120 --> 0:04:31.560 about this with my boyfriend this morning. I said, the 0:04:31.600 --> 0:04:33.800 last two years of being single, I did right, But 0:04:34.520 --> 0:04:37.120 the first did write you son? Yeah, it's called good. 0:04:37.360 --> 0:04:39.440 In the four years, what was the best part of 0:04:39.440 --> 0:04:41.760 the single the beginning, when you first cut off or 0:04:41.760 --> 0:04:43.440 when it's getting close, like what is it. 0:04:43.520 --> 0:04:47.120 I would say that mid weird after like after you're 0:04:47.120 --> 0:04:49.440 getting over the heartbreak, but it's like you're starting to 0:04:49.520 --> 0:04:51.800 like love yourself more and go outside more, and not 0:04:51.880 --> 0:04:54.120 just to get drunk and forget about shit, Like you're 0:04:54.200 --> 0:04:57.200 actually like finding true friendships and doing shit you like 0:04:57.240 --> 0:05:00.240 to do. That's not just like drinking and partying. Try 0:05:00.240 --> 0:05:03.279 to get over forget somebody. That was my favorite part. 0:05:03.480 --> 0:05:07.880 Then we got towards like third quarter, not third Then 0:05:07.920 --> 0:05:10.400 we hit third quarter and you hit a rough patch 0:05:10.400 --> 0:05:14.160 where it's like the scores is tied going out there again, 0:05:14.200 --> 0:05:18.360 and it's just like, Bro, it's not outside is not 0:05:18.800 --> 0:05:19.760 what it used to be. 0:05:19.920 --> 0:05:24.040 Our options are not the best. Okay, wait, does that 0:05:24.200 --> 0:05:25.200 have to do with aging? 0:05:25.360 --> 0:05:28.320 Do you think that's it's because when you're in your 0:05:28.320 --> 0:05:31.520 thirties your actual expectations changed. 0:05:31.360 --> 0:05:33.200 Or do you really think that there ain't no niggas 0:05:33.240 --> 0:05:34.360 out here? I feel like. 0:05:36.040 --> 0:05:38.159 In the world we live in right now, the oversharing, 0:05:38.200 --> 0:05:43.719 the Internet, the social media, it's made unrealistic expectations. Okay, 0:05:43.800 --> 0:05:46.200 honest with you, Like, bitches do show up and I 0:05:46.240 --> 0:05:48.200 have a lot of male friends, and bitches show up 0:05:48.240 --> 0:05:48.920 with a checklist. 0:05:48.920 --> 0:05:51.000 Bro and which is fine if you have your standards 0:05:51.000 --> 0:05:51.480 of boundaries. 0:05:51.480 --> 0:05:53.640 Cool, But it's like I'm dating someone right now who 0:05:53.720 --> 0:05:56.440 I've known for a while and I didn't ever really 0:05:56.480 --> 0:05:57.200 want to give him a chance. 0:05:57.240 --> 0:05:59.240 And I'm like, you know what, it's actually a really 0:05:59.279 --> 0:05:59.680 good guy. 0:06:00.520 --> 0:06:04.800 Because you wanted them hood, you wanted them fucks, and 0:06:04.880 --> 0:06:05.480 the bitch had. 0:06:08.080 --> 0:06:09.680 I wanted to look like he had a felon here 0:06:09.720 --> 0:06:13.320 two and and we talked about it and now he's 0:06:13.320 --> 0:06:13.920 so nice. 0:06:14.080 --> 0:06:15.640 Look what because you're. 0:06:15.600 --> 0:06:19.480 Laughing because because we also know ed and just over 0:06:19.520 --> 0:06:21.599 there also a producer, he'd be over there. 0:06:22.600 --> 0:06:25.520 I like them to look like some felons. 0:06:27.080 --> 0:06:29.040 I'm not gonna lie. Isn't that a thing? 0:06:29.400 --> 0:06:31.560 Like do you think as a woman, it becomes a 0:06:31.600 --> 0:06:34.039 time where, bitch, you're too old to be going after 0:06:35.040 --> 0:06:38.520 a man who just looks like he's a problem or 0:06:38.640 --> 0:06:44.120 just is like emotionally not there or like when you're ready. 0:06:43.880 --> 0:06:44.520 To settle down. 0:06:45.000 --> 0:06:47.359 Okay, So Mandy shut up because we just had this 0:06:47.440 --> 0:06:50.240 conversation and I was trying to tell her that it 0:06:50.320 --> 0:06:53.680 was just a look that that was had a type 0:06:53.839 --> 0:06:54.720 physically what is it? 0:06:54.720 --> 0:06:59.640 Because we need there we go type beat burn A 0:06:59.720 --> 0:07:06.039 boy dreads dark, You're too far away to be honest. 0:07:06.120 --> 0:07:08.640 He's just a fucking nerd, which I love. By the way, 0:07:09.240 --> 0:07:11.240 everybody gets you a nerd, not mine gets your own. 0:07:11.400 --> 0:07:14.000 So I actually don't think the aesthetic is bad. I 0:07:14.040 --> 0:07:18.440 think it's really like the attachment For example, burna boy is. 0:07:18.640 --> 0:07:20.440 If someone's saying that to me, I'm like, okay, you 0:07:20.520 --> 0:07:23.960 like locks, star skim, maybe like African man height, whatever, 0:07:24.520 --> 0:07:27.360 That's what I'm gonna think there all correct. There's gonna 0:07:27.360 --> 0:07:29.840 be the other part of like, do you like the 0:07:29.920 --> 0:07:34.120 fucking I don't know the scammer vibe? He got the 0:07:34.160 --> 0:07:37.880 motherfucking scamra vibe. Hella chains. My man's not dreaming, he 0:07:37.880 --> 0:07:40.960 hain't scambled, but I'm saying like he got them cousin scammers. 0:07:41.400 --> 0:07:42.560 Every time we go to a wedding, I'd be like 0:07:42.680 --> 0:07:45.280 that nigga really pulling up with this this bigger ass change. 0:07:45.280 --> 0:07:48.240 But here's the thing. There can be like an aesthetic 0:07:48.920 --> 0:07:50.920 and then there can literally be just the way that 0:07:50.960 --> 0:07:52.400 someone looks. What type is that? 0:07:52.520 --> 0:07:56.800 No, my type is that is purely physical. That's physically 0:07:56.800 --> 0:07:59.560 my type. Now I had to lean into like what 0:07:59.640 --> 0:08:02.680 else do I need? And what else am I not 0:08:02.720 --> 0:08:04.800 willing to put up with anymore, you know what I'm saying. 0:08:04.800 --> 0:08:07.200 And it was definitely not those type, Yeah, because they 0:08:07.200 --> 0:08:07.720 don't care. 0:08:08.600 --> 0:08:11.760 Sometimes they spending money on you. They make you fucking 0:08:11.760 --> 0:08:14.120 feel like you're the best woman ever. Like they're just 0:08:14.120 --> 0:08:15.720 like the love Bombers. So it could be. 0:08:15.720 --> 0:08:18.480 Addictive, Yeah, until you get home one day and you're like, 0:08:20.320 --> 0:08:24.320 I don't feel right, it doesn't feel right right, scam likely, 0:08:24.520 --> 0:08:25.640 something doesn't feel right. 0:08:25.920 --> 0:08:30.360 I don't like it. It's like temporary satisfaction, yeah, versus like. 0:08:30.440 --> 0:08:35.080 Long term and I loved and I think therefore I'm 0:08:35.200 --> 0:08:36.600 on the opposite end right now. 0:08:36.600 --> 0:08:40.440 We were just talking about where I'm at and the 0:08:40.520 --> 0:08:42.600 comments from the show don't make this easy. So I 0:08:42.600 --> 0:08:47.280 had therapy today and I was grappling with like, oh 0:08:47.280 --> 0:08:51.480 my god, am I not living life right? And you know, 0:08:51.520 --> 0:08:53.440 there's a right and wrong, there's a good and bad, 0:08:53.800 --> 0:08:56.800 But I'm in this phase right now where I am 0:08:58.080 --> 0:09:04.080 emotionally unavailable, like in a way that I'm like, damn. 0:09:04.200 --> 0:09:06.520 What I'm really doing is when I'm seeing the comments 0:09:06.559 --> 0:09:11.000 of people comment on how I'm moving with my partners 0:09:11.120 --> 0:09:12.920 or not wanting to be called babe, like I mentioned, 0:09:12.920 --> 0:09:15.319 in like a couple months ago, Like, oh yes, but 0:09:16.280 --> 0:09:19.360 the comments are from men mostly, and so as I'm 0:09:19.480 --> 0:09:22.720 having this deep conversation, I'm like, the crazy part about 0:09:22.760 --> 0:09:26.720 it is, even though I'm emotionally unavailable for partnership right now, 0:09:27.160 --> 0:09:30.680 I am really fulfilled in my dating life, Like with 0:09:30.800 --> 0:09:33.560 the guys that I am dating, who are And mind you, 0:09:33.760 --> 0:09:37.080 that's another thing y'all gotta realize too. When women say 0:09:37.080 --> 0:09:40.280 they're dating, they're not fucking every single guy that is 0:09:40.360 --> 0:09:41.720 in their life and that they're dating. 0:09:41.920 --> 0:09:45.839 So like, right now, I have, you know, guys. 0:09:45.559 --> 0:09:47.640 That I talk to on the phone, that I FaceTime, 0:09:47.640 --> 0:09:49.880 that I spend time with them. I'm a job and 0:09:49.880 --> 0:09:52.920 they're filling in all of these different pockets. But I 0:09:52.920 --> 0:09:55.920 don't feel lonely. I don't feel empty all the ways 0:09:55.920 --> 0:09:59.680 I used to have, like casual sex and have so 0:09:59.720 --> 0:10:03.440 many men in my acalation don't feel good no more, bro, 0:10:03.520 --> 0:10:06.920 But I'm having right now casual sex and it's I'm fulfilled. 0:10:07.280 --> 0:10:10.360 Like it's fun, it's exciting. It's with guys that I'm 0:10:10.400 --> 0:10:13.679 talking to after we're making plans, after it's great. 0:10:13.760 --> 0:10:16.200 Set. Wait, what's the living life wrong part? Why do 0:10:16.200 --> 0:10:18.680 you feel like it could be a wrong. Well, there's 0:10:18.679 --> 0:10:20.319 a wrong because of fucking patriarchy. 0:10:20.559 --> 0:10:23.920 So when I'm reading the comments, it's a fellas, this 0:10:24.040 --> 0:10:26.280 is the type of this is the type of bitch 0:10:26.280 --> 0:10:29.400 that'll drain you spiritually. Hey, fellas, this is the this 0:10:29.440 --> 0:10:32.400 is the whole ass bitch that this is the There 0:10:32.440 --> 0:10:35.200 was another comment that said, if she was in her twenties, 0:10:35.240 --> 0:10:37.840 I would get her acting like this, but you too 0:10:37.920 --> 0:10:39.960 old to be moving like this. And there's this like 0:10:40.559 --> 0:10:43.440 kind of fight right now where I'm just like, am 0:10:43.440 --> 0:10:47.920 I wrong for feeling liberated for being emotionally unavailable for 0:10:47.960 --> 0:10:51.440 a relationship but still navigating dating? Where also I'm not 0:10:51.559 --> 0:10:54.720 lying to no niggas, Like, I'm very open and honest 0:10:54.760 --> 0:10:58.319 with everyone. I'm not wasting anyone's time there. They can 0:10:58.360 --> 0:11:00.760 be here or they cannot. And I guess the doing 0:11:00.840 --> 0:11:03.640 things wrong has me questioning the stuff that we preach 0:11:03.800 --> 0:11:05.520 because I'm like, the whole Internet. 0:11:05.200 --> 0:11:08.240 Is saying, bitch, you a whole d da da dah bitch. 0:11:08.520 --> 0:11:11.560 But I'm literally living this, bro all in the comments 0:11:11.640 --> 0:11:16.720 on the clip from today clip, you know, it's it's everywhere, 0:11:16.840 --> 0:11:17.439 It's everywhere. 0:11:17.480 --> 0:11:20.560 There's the same thing the babe part of it which 0:11:21.120 --> 0:11:25.080 someone can judge outside in right, when a woman is 0:11:25.120 --> 0:11:27.520 asking to be treated a certain way, we connect those 0:11:27.559 --> 0:11:31.959 two emotional behaviors, whether it be cuddling, intimacy, being taken 0:11:31.960 --> 0:11:36.000 out to eat, even pet names. So I think that 0:11:36.120 --> 0:11:38.400 might be why that might be on the receiving end. Now, 0:11:38.480 --> 0:11:41.120 if you like having casual sex without those things, then 0:11:41.160 --> 0:11:43.120 I can see why you don't appreciate it. I don't 0:11:43.160 --> 0:11:45.760 like pet names at all, and I think all as 0:11:45.840 --> 0:11:48.240 people just speak like that, right right. But to me, 0:11:48.360 --> 0:11:50.680 because I don't like pet names, it's it's crazy because 0:11:50.679 --> 0:11:52.520 when talking about it, I brought it up in therapy too, 0:11:53.040 --> 0:11:56.760 and maybe my expression of not wanting that is I 0:11:56.800 --> 0:11:59.040 said I didn't like it, and he continued, you. 0:11:58.960 --> 0:12:00.520 Don't make it at all. You didn't like I don't 0:12:00.559 --> 0:12:02.800 like none of my niggas. I don't have pet names. 0:12:02.880 --> 0:12:05.600 You never had your boy, I call you baby. He's 0:12:05.600 --> 0:12:09.520 not a boyfriend or an ex or a guys you're dating, No, no, 0:12:09.720 --> 0:12:12.240 guys your date. Don't say babe. No, you used to 0:12:12.280 --> 0:12:14.719 call your babe my ex. We were in a relationship. 0:12:14.760 --> 0:12:17.320 My point, the nigga that I was just fucking Captain 0:12:17.320 --> 0:12:18.880 Hook is not a person that I'm with. 0:12:21.720 --> 0:12:24.160 But no, none of the guys that I like. 0:12:24.720 --> 0:12:27.320 I mean, and I might if they're like depending on 0:12:27.440 --> 0:12:29.320 their role, or if they want to be called a 0:12:29.400 --> 0:12:32.040 name like some niggas like daddy or call me daddy. 0:12:31.840 --> 0:12:35.000 Or once you're inside of me, I'm okay. Yeah. Do 0:12:35.040 --> 0:12:36.760 you ever get that text from a first day and 0:12:36.760 --> 0:12:41.360 they'd be like, thinking about your baby Gimore, once you're 0:12:41.400 --> 0:12:42.880 in me and we could have had a baby. Now 0:12:42.920 --> 0:12:52.320 I'm here, baby, No, I don't Daddy, were not like them, them, 0:12:52.360 --> 0:12:54.959 those type of things to me are just like, I 0:12:55.000 --> 0:12:56.599 don't like it. I used to be like that, you 0:12:56.640 --> 0:12:59.040 know what I mean. But to me, I safeguard though, 0:12:59.120 --> 0:13:03.160 is that for things? Maybe even therapy is the safeguard. 0:13:06.480 --> 0:13:07.920 I know. I don't want to stay you're too long? 0:13:08.080 --> 0:13:11.720 Yeah, yeah, I agree, I agree, But yeah, I agree, 0:13:11.760 --> 0:13:12.280 I agree. 0:13:12.440 --> 0:13:14.120 For for me, it's just. 0:13:14.120 --> 0:13:17.200 Being in a space of being a woman who's emotionally 0:13:17.320 --> 0:13:22.600 unavailable and how that's perceived publicly when it's just like, bro, 0:13:22.880 --> 0:13:24.040 this feels so powerful. 0:13:24.040 --> 0:13:25.440 I'm in a good space right now. 0:13:25.679 --> 0:13:29.000 Like if y'all remember my breakup, I talked about feeling 0:13:29.040 --> 0:13:31.600 really empty with the niggas in my life. I don't 0:13:31.600 --> 0:13:34.080 feel like I need for anything. I get my good 0:13:34.120 --> 0:13:36.920 morning text, my good night text, my how are you? 0:13:37.160 --> 0:13:37.240 My? 0:13:37.360 --> 0:13:40.480 How is work? My how? I was at Disney World. 0:13:40.280 --> 0:13:44.280 With my family, sitting sitting, you know, my partner's pictures 0:13:44.360 --> 0:13:47.120 or whatever of us, like your partner listen, I sent 0:13:47.240 --> 0:13:48.560 pictures of us last night. 0:13:48.760 --> 0:13:51.320 Babe. It is not good. 0:13:51.600 --> 0:13:57.959 I don't babe, it's giving you a whisper bit. Y'all 0:13:57.960 --> 0:14:06.040 send a nigga update, yo, ma, I'm a babe, but. 0:14:04.760 --> 0:14:08.040 But being emotionally unavailable though we I also think when 0:14:08.040 --> 0:14:12.199 someone's emotionally unavailable, they can't even date. Like I don't 0:14:12.240 --> 0:14:15.839 know what dating looks like because I'm dating different and 0:14:15.880 --> 0:14:20.000 I think I actually don't think anyone dates wrong or right. 0:14:20.040 --> 0:14:21.480 I think we are just dating the wrong people and 0:14:21.520 --> 0:14:24.120 the wrong tiged out. I actually don't think there's any 0:14:24.160 --> 0:14:26.840 wrong way. Genuinely speaking, if you're fucking to get over 0:14:26.840 --> 0:14:29.400 a breakup, I don't even think that's bad as long 0:14:29.440 --> 0:14:31.440 as you fucking niggas that know you healing a little bit, 0:14:31.720 --> 0:14:34.800 like seriously, like whatever thing I'm on it, whatever itches 0:14:34.920 --> 0:14:37.760 needing to be scratched, that shit is really it. Now 0:14:37.800 --> 0:14:40.960 you could be dating someone that is looking for something different, 0:14:41.000 --> 0:14:43.640 And to me, that's when you hit a point as 0:14:43.640 --> 0:14:46.280 an adult. You have to make a decision. Yes, both people, 0:14:46.480 --> 0:14:48.760 man that nigga need to make a decision if you 0:14:48.840 --> 0:14:51.080 want something else, and I'm being honest about what I'm 0:14:51.080 --> 0:14:54.080 providing you and what my capacity is to give you 0:14:54.160 --> 0:14:57.520 right down the things I don't want. Later, that's on 0:14:57.560 --> 0:14:59.520 you to then step out like. 0:14:59.480 --> 0:15:01.960 It's not on me if I'm showing and it's the same, 0:15:02.080 --> 0:15:03.800 it's the same accountability I ask for women. 0:15:03.960 --> 0:15:05.280 If a nigga is literally. 0:15:05.000 --> 0:15:08.280 Telling you you don't want shit, We don't want a relationship, right, 0:15:08.840 --> 0:15:10.520 just stick around expecting something different. 0:15:10.680 --> 0:15:13.080 Bitch, you are wasting your time. And it's crazy because 0:15:13.120 --> 0:15:13.640 one of the. 0:15:13.600 --> 0:15:16.440 Patrons shout out to our patrons, shout out if you 0:15:16.480 --> 0:15:18.280 if you want to join us for bonus content Patreon 0:15:18.280 --> 0:15:19.720 dot com, backslash horrible decisions. 0:15:20.200 --> 0:15:20.440 Bruh. 0:15:20.560 --> 0:15:24.200 Someone said, Damn, Mandy Love wasting niggas time. How am 0:15:24.240 --> 0:15:27.520 I wasting anyone's time when I'm always be honest with 0:15:27.560 --> 0:15:30.360 them about what I'm willing to offer, how I want 0:15:30.400 --> 0:15:32.880 to move, what my boundaries look like. And I told 0:15:32.920 --> 0:15:34.640 you if I'm talking to you I'm letting you know 0:15:34.680 --> 0:15:36.600 I'm talking to two three other niggas and in any 0:15:36.640 --> 0:15:38.200 given moment, all of y'all may be in the same 0:15:38.240 --> 0:15:40.520 room at this point because everybody can pull up. 0:15:40.680 --> 0:15:43.880 Let's all have a good time together. Do you know 0:15:43.920 --> 0:15:47.040 how crazy you sound? Why you sound nuts? 0:15:47.440 --> 0:15:50.080 Because all these men at the same time could be 0:15:50.160 --> 0:15:57.440 like your face, like, all three of y'all might be 0:15:57.520 --> 0:15:59.040 in the same room. 0:15:59.480 --> 0:16:01.400 You just said that, let me ask you. Let me 0:16:02.000 --> 0:16:03.960 let me you have mad that Nigga had you at 0:16:04.000 --> 0:16:07.600 the tables. You let me ask both of y'all a question, right. 0:16:07.640 --> 0:16:10.480 I seen you leave because of that when at a 0:16:10.520 --> 0:16:12.640 club when he's like, oh no, he got me fucked up. 0:16:12.680 --> 0:16:15.080 Oh no, no, no, it's because he didn't get us drinks. 0:16:16.600 --> 0:16:19.960 And I was like, Nigga said, but also, I don't 0:16:20.000 --> 0:16:21.160 really know, but I told you. 0:16:21.200 --> 0:16:22.840 I think he has a kink of pissing me off. 0:16:22.880 --> 0:16:25.840 I think every time we go out with this, he 0:16:25.960 --> 0:16:28.720 pisses me off. And I'd be like that Nigga, I'm 0:16:28.800 --> 0:16:29.480 leaving aye you. 0:16:29.440 --> 0:16:33.160 Guys every time and you and they're like, tell her, 0:16:33.200 --> 0:16:33.880 she's not going nowhere. 0:16:33.920 --> 0:16:35.880 I'm like, literally, she has to come and get me 0:16:35.960 --> 0:16:37.360 or he'll send his friends to come get me. 0:16:37.440 --> 0:16:38.920 And I was like, bro, this is every time he 0:16:38.960 --> 0:16:40.800 loves it. He'd like to talk to the horror high 0:16:40.800 --> 0:16:43.240 for a moment, get Mandy out of my frame. And 0:16:43.280 --> 0:16:46.000 when I say, I'll be yelling at my name, what 0:16:46.040 --> 0:16:49.520 does Mandy do? Oh? She is crazy? I want act 0:16:49.520 --> 0:16:52.040 a little cuckoo bird. I don't. I don't cuss out. 0:16:52.080 --> 0:16:56.560 I just leave. Cuckoo bird is getting mad at given? No, 0:16:56.560 --> 0:17:01.360 maybe that's her king, never real mad anyway? 0:17:01.360 --> 0:17:03.440 Wait do I always just say, oh, I'm leaving and 0:17:03.480 --> 0:17:05.040 he'd be like, no, you're not going in there. 0:17:05.160 --> 0:17:06.680 No, I'm leaving, And so I leave. 0:17:06.560 --> 0:17:09.080 And okay, So what's the difference between him putting you 0:17:09.080 --> 0:17:10.359 at the table with a bunch of bitches and you 0:17:10.359 --> 0:17:11.960 putting him in a situation where that he don't want 0:17:11.960 --> 0:17:13.879 to be in with a bunch of other dudes. 0:17:15.720 --> 0:17:17.760 Depending on the niggas? Like, that's what I'm saying, I'm not. 0:17:18.080 --> 0:17:20.520 I'm like, bro, there has been many times. 0:17:20.400 --> 0:17:24.280 Where you you has talked to a nigga with power 0:17:24.320 --> 0:17:27.480 and money, with money right. 0:17:27.440 --> 0:17:32.920 Now, I ain't. You absolutely have been at a table 0:17:33.359 --> 0:17:35.640 or a clerk. Can we can we met that you 0:17:35.680 --> 0:17:37.000 can we met her mic real quickly. 0:17:38.920 --> 0:17:41.520 Both of y'all, both of y'all have been no because 0:17:41.520 --> 0:17:43.200 I'm gonna call you bitches out right now, because y'all 0:17:43.240 --> 0:17:44.280 is not gonna make me sound crazy. 0:17:44.480 --> 0:17:51.800 You have both been to a clurb table restaurants outside before. 0:17:52.240 --> 0:17:55.200 Now where you was? What is outside? Even with a 0:17:55.240 --> 0:17:57.720 nigga that you was fucking? I was a virgin before, 0:17:57.720 --> 0:18:00.200 my man. Now you knew that you shared space with 0:18:00.359 --> 0:18:03.359 another big bro spice up the night me. 0:18:03.640 --> 0:18:07.040 You was at a club and I didn't even And 0:18:07.080 --> 0:18:09.639 this is why my ship, they aren't good for you. 0:18:09.680 --> 0:18:13.840 The bucks should stop with me. Don't worry, Joe, your 0:18:13.880 --> 0:18:17.920 episode won't be like this that hey God like, hold on, Hey, 0:18:17.920 --> 0:18:21.440 what did y'all do that night? Take shots together? Nobody left? 0:18:21.520 --> 0:18:24.080 Y'all had a great time. Wait, we didn't live together. 0:18:24.240 --> 0:18:27.920 My point, So why the do these niggas with mister 0:18:28.000 --> 0:18:28.920 lefskin fuck boy? 0:18:29.200 --> 0:18:30.000 And I went home? 0:18:33.800 --> 0:18:36.719 So my point, if these niggas talk together and be like, 0:18:36.760 --> 0:18:37.560 are you fucking Mandy? 0:18:37.600 --> 0:18:39.840 Are you talking to Mandie? It's up to them. 0:18:39.680 --> 0:18:43.760 Whether the exactly y'all say it was a running it 0:18:43.840 --> 0:18:46.040 was a running. I will tell you I think it 0:18:46.040 --> 0:18:48.320 would be rude, especially because Rosie and I know each other. 0:18:48.600 --> 0:18:52.040 If none of these both of us, none of these niggas. No, 0:18:53.440 --> 0:18:55.120 I'm not doing that. That's what I'm saying. They don't 0:18:55.119 --> 0:18:58.119 know each other. And then what it's it's like being 0:18:58.800 --> 0:19:01.960 uh a powerful rich fuck boy. 0:19:02.080 --> 0:19:04.879 Right now it feels great, it feels empowering, and I 0:19:04.960 --> 0:19:07.479 see my sleep at night. But also it's given like 0:19:07.560 --> 0:19:09.560 every time I'm out now, hunger. 0:19:09.280 --> 0:19:13.000 Games made the best in the night. 0:19:13.560 --> 0:19:15.800 Any of y'all really, let's see who I have not 0:19:15.880 --> 0:19:17.560 I'll take anyone. 0:19:17.480 --> 0:19:21.520 Because it's her roster. Yeah, you know, I've never been 0:19:21.560 --> 0:19:22.439 in the predicament. 0:19:23.080 --> 0:19:25.479 I would say where in the same space I had 0:19:25.520 --> 0:19:28.760 to like really choose, But it's definitely been for the night. Yeah, 0:19:28.880 --> 0:19:29.840 for me, I do. 0:19:29.800 --> 0:19:32.120 Think that might be a love that y'all keep talking 0:19:32.119 --> 0:19:34.040 about how y'all done this. No, No, make it seem like 0:19:34.080 --> 0:19:34.480 I'm crazy. 0:19:34.520 --> 0:19:36.960 I'm not. I would actually like that for me. There's 0:19:37.000 --> 0:19:38.919