1 00:00:03,000 --> 00:00:05,280 Speaker 1: All right, So I wanted to start this podcast off 2 00:00:05,280 --> 00:00:08,680 Speaker 1: by addressing some things that were brought to my attention 3 00:00:08,680 --> 00:00:11,080 Speaker 1: and to Bacca's attention and pretty much to the whole 4 00:00:11,119 --> 00:00:15,680 Speaker 1: Bachelor Happy Our family about a recent podcast we did. Now, 5 00:00:16,280 --> 00:00:19,799 Speaker 1: I know that when you have a public platform, you're 6 00:00:20,000 --> 00:00:22,160 Speaker 1: going to say some things and do some things that 7 00:00:22,480 --> 00:00:27,120 Speaker 1: aren't always well received by everybody. And I know also 8 00:00:27,200 --> 00:00:29,640 Speaker 1: that not everyone's going to agree with everything you say 9 00:00:29,760 --> 00:00:34,520 Speaker 1: or do. And I know also that you can't live 10 00:00:34,560 --> 00:00:38,400 Speaker 1: your life by trying to please every single person or 11 00:00:38,479 --> 00:00:41,600 Speaker 1: try to appease them when they have an issue with you. 12 00:00:42,080 --> 00:00:45,639 Speaker 1: It's just life. And I know sometimes that I do 13 00:00:45,720 --> 00:00:49,680 Speaker 1: things or Becca does things or whatever that may upset you. 14 00:00:49,840 --> 00:00:53,400 Speaker 1: But one thing that we never want to do is 15 00:00:53,600 --> 00:00:58,640 Speaker 1: offend you. And when we do Bachelor Happy Hour, every 16 00:00:58,680 --> 00:01:01,560 Speaker 1: time we start our podcast, we end our podcast, or 17 00:01:01,600 --> 00:01:04,440 Speaker 1: maybe somewhere in between. We are always telling you guys 18 00:01:04,520 --> 00:01:06,680 Speaker 1: to reach out to us, to like what we do, 19 00:01:06,880 --> 00:01:10,360 Speaker 1: to comment, to talk to us. Let's create this open community. 20 00:01:10,920 --> 00:01:15,440 Speaker 1: And that shouldn't change if we do something that you 21 00:01:15,440 --> 00:01:18,520 Speaker 1: guys don't approve of. This is when you are supposed 22 00:01:18,520 --> 00:01:20,440 Speaker 1: to reach out to us and say something and this 23 00:01:20,480 --> 00:01:24,760 Speaker 1: is when we're supposed to listen. And the response that 24 00:01:24,800 --> 00:01:29,520 Speaker 1: we received in doing this podcast with Claudia it was overwhelming. 25 00:01:30,200 --> 00:01:32,800 Speaker 1: And I think that there are a lot of things 26 00:01:32,840 --> 00:01:35,960 Speaker 1: that have been thrown around and a lot of assumptions 27 00:01:36,000 --> 00:01:38,800 Speaker 1: that have been made, and I think that the best 28 00:01:38,880 --> 00:01:42,000 Speaker 1: place to clear everything up is to take it where 29 00:01:42,000 --> 00:01:44,560 Speaker 1: you heard it from, right, Let's just go back to 30 00:01:44,640 --> 00:01:48,880 Speaker 1: the source. So it's hard for me to address everything. 31 00:01:48,960 --> 00:01:51,880 Speaker 1: It's hard for me to have seen all of your comments. 32 00:01:51,960 --> 00:01:53,680 Speaker 1: So I'm just going to try to do the best 33 00:01:53,680 --> 00:01:55,080 Speaker 1: that I can, and I just ask you guys to 34 00:01:55,120 --> 00:02:01,680 Speaker 1: bear with me. So I am no stranger to Claudia. 35 00:02:01,800 --> 00:02:03,760 Speaker 1: I think that if you've been following me, you known 36 00:02:03,800 --> 00:02:07,120 Speaker 1: that I have been a guest on The Morning Toast, 37 00:02:07,160 --> 00:02:09,000 Speaker 1: I was a guest on The Morning Breath when it 38 00:02:09,080 --> 00:02:11,960 Speaker 1: was that, and I've actually hosted that show with them 39 00:02:12,000 --> 00:02:16,440 Speaker 1: as well. I've spent time with them outside of the 40 00:02:16,480 --> 00:02:19,239 Speaker 1: public as well. And so when you know someone and 41 00:02:19,320 --> 00:02:22,160 Speaker 1: you have a personal relationship with them, then you are 42 00:02:22,919 --> 00:02:26,320 Speaker 1: a little bit more understanding because it's not as black 43 00:02:26,320 --> 00:02:29,640 Speaker 1: and white as it may be to a consumer or 44 00:02:29,639 --> 00:02:32,880 Speaker 1: a viewer who doesn't have any type of relationship with them. 45 00:02:33,280 --> 00:02:37,760 Speaker 1: So I'm prefacing that to say that I am aware 46 00:02:38,320 --> 00:02:42,520 Speaker 1: that there were problematic tweets from Claudia back when she 47 00:02:42,680 --> 00:02:44,520 Speaker 1: was a teenager, and I think it was in like 48 00:02:44,560 --> 00:02:50,560 Speaker 1: twenty fourteen, fifteen around that time. And I am also 49 00:02:50,639 --> 00:02:54,600 Speaker 1: aware that those tweets became public, and I think it 50 00:02:54,639 --> 00:02:58,360 Speaker 1: was in twenty eighteen. And when those tweets became public, 51 00:03:00,000 --> 00:03:05,919 Speaker 1: Claudia immediately took to social media and she was crying, 52 00:03:06,280 --> 00:03:10,880 Speaker 1: and she apologized and she was held accountable. And if 53 00:03:10,919 --> 00:03:15,359 Speaker 1: you follow me, I also talk about accountability culture versus 54 00:03:16,400 --> 00:03:20,160 Speaker 1: the cancel culture of completely annihilating people, because I am 55 00:03:20,520 --> 00:03:23,320 Speaker 1: I do believe people make mistakes, but I also believe 56 00:03:23,360 --> 00:03:26,000 Speaker 1: in holding people accountable for those mistakes that they make. 57 00:03:26,680 --> 00:03:29,000 Speaker 1: You know, which is what you guys did when you 58 00:03:29,040 --> 00:03:32,240 Speaker 1: reach out to us and you commented about what you 59 00:03:32,320 --> 00:03:36,040 Speaker 1: felt that we did was problematic, and I always appreciate that. 60 00:03:36,360 --> 00:03:41,480 Speaker 1: I'm always receptive of constructive criticism. So anyways, she was 61 00:03:41,680 --> 00:03:45,040 Speaker 1: held accountable for that. She lost her show from AOL. 62 00:03:45,160 --> 00:03:49,440 Speaker 1: They completely canceled her, and she and her entire business 63 00:03:49,480 --> 00:03:52,520 Speaker 1: had to completely start over with a brand new show 64 00:03:52,640 --> 00:03:54,720 Speaker 1: a brand new network. They did it on their own 65 00:03:55,000 --> 00:03:58,880 Speaker 1: and since then, I have seen Claudia, from what I've 66 00:03:58,880 --> 00:04:03,640 Speaker 1: seen publicly and personally, completely own up to the mistakes 67 00:04:03,640 --> 00:04:07,960 Speaker 1: that she made, completely disassociate herself with those tweets and 68 00:04:08,040 --> 00:04:10,880 Speaker 1: say that that is not her. And I've also seen 69 00:04:10,920 --> 00:04:14,640 Speaker 1: her had conversations with her personally. In fact, a lot 70 00:04:14,680 --> 00:04:17,640 Speaker 1: of you have said, well, why did you not publicly 71 00:04:17,640 --> 00:04:21,920 Speaker 1: say something? Well, in the same way that I privately 72 00:04:22,000 --> 00:04:24,839 Speaker 1: went to other people in the past before, when I've 73 00:04:25,080 --> 00:04:28,040 Speaker 1: said when I've called them out, I privately went to 74 00:04:28,080 --> 00:04:34,320 Speaker 1: Claudia as well, and she immediately publicly apologized. So I'm 75 00:04:34,360 --> 00:04:37,159 Speaker 1: not excusing what she did. What I'm saying is is 76 00:04:37,200 --> 00:04:42,800 Speaker 1: that she was held accountable for her actions, which were deplorable. 77 00:04:43,040 --> 00:04:45,560 Speaker 1: In my opinion, don't stand by it, don't agree with it, 78 00:04:45,640 --> 00:04:49,719 Speaker 1: think it's absolutely disgusting. Another thing that I've seen you 79 00:04:49,720 --> 00:04:53,040 Speaker 1: guys say is you talked about her mom. Well, that's 80 00:04:53,040 --> 00:04:55,560 Speaker 1: a subject I'm not going to touch because I can 81 00:04:55,600 --> 00:04:59,120 Speaker 1: only imagine what it's like to have a mother who 82 00:04:59,279 --> 00:05:05,000 Speaker 1: stands for such disgraceful things. And there's really no other 83 00:05:05,000 --> 00:05:07,960 Speaker 1: way to put it. I mean, the things that their 84 00:05:08,040 --> 00:05:12,400 Speaker 1: mom is representative of, the things that she puts out there. 85 00:05:12,400 --> 00:05:15,880 Speaker 1: The things that she writes about, does presentations about, is 86 00:05:15,960 --> 00:05:19,920 Speaker 1: nothing that myself, backup, or Bachelor Happy Hour in general 87 00:05:20,200 --> 00:05:25,200 Speaker 1: stand for by any means. It is my understanding that 88 00:05:25,920 --> 00:05:30,320 Speaker 1: Claudia has disassociated herself publicly from her mother's actions and 89 00:05:30,360 --> 00:05:33,080 Speaker 1: has said that she doesn't stand by them She's told 90 00:05:33,120 --> 00:05:35,560 Speaker 1: I've seen that in public, and I've seen that privately. 91 00:05:36,640 --> 00:05:39,920 Speaker 1: As far as people saying she should completely call her 92 00:05:39,920 --> 00:05:42,599 Speaker 1: mother out, I don't get in a family business, and 93 00:05:42,680 --> 00:05:44,440 Speaker 1: I don't think that we should either. I'm not going 94 00:05:44,520 --> 00:05:46,560 Speaker 1: to sit here and tell somebody what they should tell 95 00:05:46,600 --> 00:05:49,640 Speaker 1: their own mother to do. What's important to me is 96 00:05:49,680 --> 00:05:52,480 Speaker 1: that you don't stand by what her mother does. You 97 00:05:52,520 --> 00:05:55,279 Speaker 1: are not a representative of that. As far as their 98 00:05:55,279 --> 00:05:58,440 Speaker 1: family business, I wouldn't get into yours. I'm not going 99 00:05:58,440 --> 00:06:02,240 Speaker 1: to get into theirs now. The other thing I will 100 00:06:02,279 --> 00:06:06,359 Speaker 1: address is that there have been I don't personally listen 101 00:06:06,400 --> 00:06:08,640 Speaker 1: to the Morning Toast. I don't listen to every episode. 102 00:06:08,680 --> 00:06:12,360 Speaker 1: I catch an episode randomly here and there, So I 103 00:06:12,400 --> 00:06:17,200 Speaker 1: am not the Claudia Jackie Police. I have not seen 104 00:06:17,440 --> 00:06:20,320 Speaker 1: all the things that you know has been brought to 105 00:06:20,400 --> 00:06:24,880 Speaker 1: my attention. I haven't read them. I'm I'm not aware 106 00:06:24,920 --> 00:06:26,600 Speaker 1: of all those things. There's no way that I can 107 00:06:26,720 --> 00:06:30,880 Speaker 1: be accountable for every single person's actions, but I will 108 00:06:30,960 --> 00:06:34,000 Speaker 1: say there have been things that have been brought to 109 00:06:34,040 --> 00:06:37,400 Speaker 1: my attention where although I know their brand can be 110 00:06:37,480 --> 00:06:40,200 Speaker 1: crass and that's what people like from them, there's some 111 00:06:40,240 --> 00:06:42,240 Speaker 1: things that pointed out to me that I feel are 112 00:06:42,279 --> 00:06:46,440 Speaker 1: offensive and insensitive. I was not aware of them, not 113 00:06:46,520 --> 00:06:50,880 Speaker 1: in full detail like this. Some one viewer or listener 114 00:06:51,120 --> 00:06:54,000 Speaker 1: was nice enough to provide me a laundry list of things, 115 00:06:54,000 --> 00:06:56,160 Speaker 1: and I have to say that I found them offensive, 116 00:06:56,200 --> 00:06:58,840 Speaker 1: I found them ignorant, and I found them insensitive and 117 00:06:58,880 --> 00:07:01,760 Speaker 1: I don't agree with it. You've also heard me say 118 00:07:01,800 --> 00:07:05,279 Speaker 1: on this podcast that if somebody is willing to listen, 119 00:07:06,160 --> 00:07:09,720 Speaker 1: then I'm willing to help them grow. And I think 120 00:07:09,760 --> 00:07:12,000 Speaker 1: that as friends, that is what you're supposed to do. 121 00:07:12,440 --> 00:07:15,840 Speaker 1: I think a true friend calls somebody out when that 122 00:07:15,960 --> 00:07:19,400 Speaker 1: friend out when they do something, and sees if they 123 00:07:19,440 --> 00:07:22,440 Speaker 1: have it in their heart to be open enough to change. 124 00:07:23,080 --> 00:07:25,360 Speaker 1: And so that is what I have done, not just 125 00:07:25,480 --> 00:07:28,680 Speaker 1: in a friendship or a relationship with Claudia, with other 126 00:07:28,720 --> 00:07:30,960 Speaker 1: friends that I've had that have maybe said something that's 127 00:07:30,960 --> 00:07:35,000 Speaker 1: offensive to me, that's ignorant or insensitive, not just to me, 128 00:07:35,120 --> 00:07:39,160 Speaker 1: but to another race, to another culture. And so I 129 00:07:39,240 --> 00:07:41,960 Speaker 1: feel like I've done that in my friendship, but there 130 00:07:41,960 --> 00:07:43,840 Speaker 1: were some things I will admit that I was not 131 00:07:43,920 --> 00:07:47,320 Speaker 1: aware of. And so all that to say, when it 132 00:07:47,360 --> 00:07:49,880 Speaker 1: comes to our community that we have with Bachelor Happy 133 00:07:49,880 --> 00:07:52,600 Speaker 1: Hour and it comes to our listeners, we don't want 134 00:07:52,600 --> 00:07:55,880 Speaker 1: to offend you by any means, and I deeply apologize 135 00:07:56,240 --> 00:07:59,600 Speaker 1: if you feel not if you feel period you were 136 00:07:59,640 --> 00:08:01,600 Speaker 1: a fend. You do feel offended. So I'm not taking 137 00:08:01,640 --> 00:08:04,000 Speaker 1: that away from you. I apologize that we offended you. 138 00:08:04,400 --> 00:08:07,280 Speaker 1: I truly do. And I want it also to be 139 00:08:07,400 --> 00:08:15,560 Speaker 1: known that we don't stand by any racist, insensitive, offensive remarks, 140 00:08:15,760 --> 00:08:22,960 Speaker 1: actions or people. And I don't want this thought and 141 00:08:23,040 --> 00:08:27,360 Speaker 1: this stigma to perpetuate and to continue to be affiliated 142 00:08:27,360 --> 00:08:30,480 Speaker 1: with Bachelor Happy Hour. That is not what we're about. 143 00:08:30,560 --> 00:08:32,840 Speaker 1: That's not what we stand for. And I also don't 144 00:08:32,880 --> 00:08:35,000 Speaker 1: want people to think just because I'm black and I'm 145 00:08:35,040 --> 00:08:37,000 Speaker 1: a woman, that those are the only rights that I 146 00:08:37,120 --> 00:08:43,120 Speaker 1: stand for. I stand for equality and I stand against injustice, 147 00:08:43,440 --> 00:08:49,960 Speaker 1: and that goes for anybody, any race, any ethnicity, any culture, 148 00:08:50,400 --> 00:08:53,720 Speaker 1: anybody that has been wronged. I am on your side, 149 00:08:54,520 --> 00:08:57,000 Speaker 1: and so I just felt like it was necessary for 150 00:08:57,640 --> 00:09:01,559 Speaker 1: me to address that on half of Bachelor Happy Hour. 151 00:09:01,960 --> 00:09:04,640 Speaker 1: And this is also very representative of Becca as well. 152 00:09:05,240 --> 00:09:09,120 Speaker 1: And I really just want to I really want to 153 00:09:09,120 --> 00:09:12,560 Speaker 1: create a space where we are open, we can be 154 00:09:12,600 --> 00:09:16,439 Speaker 1: honest with each other, and where we hold each other accountable. 155 00:09:16,920 --> 00:09:21,200 Speaker 1: And so I'm not poking my chest out, I'm not 156 00:09:21,400 --> 00:09:26,560 Speaker 1: standing proud. I am saying that we offended you and 157 00:09:26,679 --> 00:09:32,680 Speaker 1: for that we apologize. And up next, you know, let's 158 00:09:32,760 --> 00:09:35,480 Speaker 1: let's try to make this a little bit lighter. Got 159 00:09:35,480 --> 00:09:38,960 Speaker 1: a really exciting guest for you guys on My Girlfriend 160 00:09:39,040 --> 00:09:42,600 Speaker 1: My Home Girl. In the spirit of saying that we 161 00:09:42,640 --> 00:09:44,440 Speaker 1: listen to you guys, one of the things that you 162 00:09:44,520 --> 00:09:47,600 Speaker 1: constantly reach out to us about is dating advice. You 163 00:09:47,679 --> 00:09:52,080 Speaker 1: just ask for relationship advice in general. And so I'm married. Yes, 164 00:09:52,160 --> 00:09:55,760 Speaker 1: I had a blast and definitely had it out of 165 00:09:55,840 --> 00:09:58,160 Speaker 1: my twenties even into my thirties. Yes, I went on 166 00:09:58,280 --> 00:10:00,760 Speaker 1: National TV to date thirty men. Yes, I am married now, 167 00:10:01,160 --> 00:10:04,040 Speaker 1: so I definitely have experience to bring in. But I 168 00:10:04,040 --> 00:10:06,320 Speaker 1: thought it'd be nice to have a different perspective from 169 00:10:06,360 --> 00:10:09,240 Speaker 1: someone who is currently single and who can relate to 170 00:10:09,320 --> 00:10:12,440 Speaker 1: some of you single gals and guys out there who 171 00:10:12,679 --> 00:10:14,760 Speaker 1: may be struggling right now and trying to figure some 172 00:10:14,840 --> 00:10:17,120 Speaker 1: things out with dating. So before we get into this episode, 173 00:10:17,120 --> 00:10:18,760 Speaker 1: I have to let you guys know that there's a 174 00:10:18,840 --> 00:10:23,720 Speaker 1: little little thing called a tornado. I'm from the great 175 00:10:23,760 --> 00:10:26,880 Speaker 1: state of Texas. I live in the Tornado Alley or 176 00:10:26,960 --> 00:10:30,160 Speaker 1: lived there, so I am very familiar with this. But unfortunately, 177 00:10:30,240 --> 00:10:34,040 Speaker 1: Becca is in the middle of a tornado warning happening 178 00:10:34,120 --> 00:10:36,839 Speaker 1: right now in the Midwest, and for safety purposes, Becca 179 00:10:36,880 --> 00:10:39,240 Speaker 1: will not be able to record this episode with me. 180 00:10:39,920 --> 00:10:42,960 Speaker 1: So please send your thoughts, your prayers to not just 181 00:10:43,040 --> 00:10:45,720 Speaker 1: Becca and her family, but everybody who is in this 182 00:10:45,800 --> 00:10:49,760 Speaker 1: affected area right now. Duck and cover. I don't know 183 00:10:49,800 --> 00:10:51,199 Speaker 1: if you guys had to do that, but being in 184 00:10:51,240 --> 00:10:53,319 Speaker 1: the Tornado Alley, I'm not trying to make a joke 185 00:10:53,320 --> 00:10:54,959 Speaker 1: out of this. I'm just truly saying this. If you 186 00:10:55,000 --> 00:10:58,120 Speaker 1: don't know, I'm sure there's like drills for earthquakes, drills 187 00:10:58,120 --> 00:11:01,360 Speaker 1: for hurricanes, but in Nano, Ali you have to duck 188 00:11:01,400 --> 00:11:03,960 Speaker 1: and cover. So you know, if you're in Texas and 189 00:11:04,000 --> 00:11:06,960 Speaker 1: you're actually in the airports, you'll see tornado shelters, and 190 00:11:07,000 --> 00:11:10,040 Speaker 1: you like put your hands over your head. My guest 191 00:11:10,160 --> 00:11:12,199 Speaker 1: is nodding her head like she knows exactly what I'm 192 00:11:12,200 --> 00:11:14,200 Speaker 1: talking about. Who I'm about to introduce it a second, 193 00:11:14,240 --> 00:11:20,040 Speaker 1: because because since Becca couldn't join us today, I didn't 194 00:11:20,080 --> 00:11:23,440 Speaker 1: want to do this episode by myself. I thought, why 195 00:11:23,480 --> 00:11:27,319 Speaker 1: not phone a friend, right, Like, why couldn't I I'm sorry, 196 00:11:27,360 --> 00:11:29,920 Speaker 1: it's that dog in the background. Did my guest dog 197 00:11:30,000 --> 00:11:32,840 Speaker 1: just work in the background? Listen, it's weird to even 198 00:11:32,880 --> 00:11:35,960 Speaker 1: call you a guest because you're my friend. We met 199 00:11:36,000 --> 00:11:40,280 Speaker 1: four lovely years ago on Nick Vile season of The Bachelor, 200 00:11:40,640 --> 00:11:44,040 Speaker 1: and we are so lucky to have Christina Showman step 201 00:11:44,120 --> 00:11:47,719 Speaker 1: in and help me co host this episode today. Christina, 202 00:11:47,880 --> 00:11:52,800 Speaker 1: welcome to the show. Thanks rich Oh, thanks for having me. 203 00:11:52,960 --> 00:11:56,560 Speaker 1: It's that time, I know, right, So it's just weird 204 00:11:56,600 --> 00:11:58,760 Speaker 1: to talk to Christina in this way because we're friends. 205 00:11:58,800 --> 00:12:00,880 Speaker 1: So we talk on the phone, we catch up, we 206 00:12:00,960 --> 00:12:03,640 Speaker 1: got we talk about y'all behind your backs, and now 207 00:12:03,640 --> 00:12:07,920 Speaker 1: we're being able to coord doing this thing. Yeah, i's 208 00:12:08,679 --> 00:12:11,199 Speaker 1: but since we don't have a new episode of the Bachelor, 209 00:12:11,240 --> 00:12:14,240 Speaker 1: Greatest Seasons Ever or The Bachelor, goat whatever you guys 210 00:12:14,240 --> 00:12:16,680 Speaker 1: are calling it. Christina and I decided we would do 211 00:12:16,720 --> 00:12:20,160 Speaker 1: something a little different, something fun, and something new, but 212 00:12:20,280 --> 00:12:23,360 Speaker 1: most importantly, something you guys have been asking for. We 213 00:12:23,480 --> 00:12:25,560 Speaker 1: told you, Beckham, I tell you, we listened to what 214 00:12:25,679 --> 00:12:27,800 Speaker 1: you say. We hear it, we see it. We've had 215 00:12:28,000 --> 00:12:30,480 Speaker 1: some guests on from the show, which was lovely, and 216 00:12:30,559 --> 00:12:32,360 Speaker 1: now we want to answer some of your questions. So 217 00:12:32,400 --> 00:12:35,040 Speaker 1: a lot of you guys have been asking us dating questions. 218 00:12:35,040 --> 00:12:38,880 Speaker 1: You've been writing in and wanting to know all the 219 00:12:38,960 --> 00:12:42,000 Speaker 1: advice that we have when it comes to dating. And 220 00:12:42,080 --> 00:12:44,200 Speaker 1: I know some of you are probably thinking, Okay, Rachel, 221 00:12:44,240 --> 00:12:47,440 Speaker 1: but you haven't dated in like three years. That is true, 222 00:12:47,800 --> 00:12:51,040 Speaker 1: But don't think that I didn't do my fair share 223 00:12:51,040 --> 00:12:53,680 Speaker 1: of dating to get to where I am. Now. There's 224 00:12:53,800 --> 00:12:55,880 Speaker 1: there's I mean, you know I got here. I got 225 00:12:55,880 --> 00:12:58,120 Speaker 1: to the point that you know, most people are dating 226 00:12:58,160 --> 00:13:01,800 Speaker 1: are trying to achieve marriage, and through my twenties, I 227 00:13:01,880 --> 00:13:05,360 Speaker 1: definitely made some mistakes. I also dated thirty plus men 228 00:13:05,559 --> 00:13:09,280 Speaker 1: on National TV. And if the saying is true, nothing's 229 00:13:09,320 --> 00:13:11,880 Speaker 1: new under the sun, and the more things change, the 230 00:13:11,920 --> 00:13:14,200 Speaker 1: more they stay the same, then I definitely think that 231 00:13:14,240 --> 00:13:16,640 Speaker 1: I would know a thing or two about dating, and 232 00:13:16,679 --> 00:13:19,840 Speaker 1: so I'm super excited also to have my girl Christina. Yeah, 233 00:13:19,880 --> 00:13:23,160 Speaker 1: because and I say this proudly, she's single, she's on 234 00:13:23,200 --> 00:13:26,240 Speaker 1: the dating scene. Not a knock towards you by any means. 235 00:13:26,280 --> 00:13:28,520 Speaker 1: So you can help with this advice as well, Like 236 00:13:28,600 --> 00:13:31,600 Speaker 1: you can give a totally different perspective than me, and 237 00:13:31,679 --> 00:13:34,000 Speaker 1: you can tell me if my thoughts are I think 238 00:13:34,040 --> 00:13:38,000 Speaker 1: it might be my favorite segment. I've been looking important well, 239 00:13:38,000 --> 00:13:39,959 Speaker 1: just like from my perspective, I feel like I've been 240 00:13:40,000 --> 00:13:43,000 Speaker 1: looking forward to something like this to do with someone. 241 00:13:43,280 --> 00:13:45,800 Speaker 1: So I think this could be really fun. Yeah, that's right, 242 00:13:45,840 --> 00:13:47,640 Speaker 1: we are. We're gonna have a blast day. So before 243 00:13:47,679 --> 00:13:50,440 Speaker 1: we jump into it, I know how you're doing, but 244 00:13:50,559 --> 00:13:54,000 Speaker 1: let's let all our listeners know, like, how have you been, 245 00:13:54,200 --> 00:13:56,400 Speaker 1: what have you been up to, and of course what's 246 00:13:56,400 --> 00:13:59,199 Speaker 1: your love life looking like these days? I feel like 247 00:13:59,360 --> 00:14:02,480 Speaker 1: everyone wants to know that kind of and I don't 248 00:14:02,520 --> 00:14:06,640 Speaker 1: even know where to start with that. But I've been good. Great, 249 00:14:07,240 --> 00:14:11,840 Speaker 1: Yes they're technically single, but I am. I guess dating 250 00:14:11,960 --> 00:14:13,720 Speaker 1: or trying to date as much as you can in 251 00:14:13,800 --> 00:14:18,160 Speaker 1: this the new normal. But yeah, I've been taking the 252 00:14:18,160 --> 00:14:20,200 Speaker 1: past couple of months just to focus on myself, do 253 00:14:20,360 --> 00:14:25,640 Speaker 1: what I like, and just zero in on that, and yeah, 254 00:14:25,760 --> 00:14:30,480 Speaker 1: exploring other options when it comes to man dating, and yeah, 255 00:14:30,520 --> 00:14:33,160 Speaker 1: I think that's great. Listen, and I want to know 256 00:14:33,200 --> 00:14:38,280 Speaker 1: your perspective too about dating in quarantine, because I think 257 00:14:39,040 --> 00:14:41,800 Speaker 1: that there's a silver lining to that. But again, what 258 00:14:41,960 --> 00:14:44,680 Speaker 1: is Rachel Now It's been three years, but I just 259 00:14:44,720 --> 00:14:47,240 Speaker 1: think that it kind of strips away some of the 260 00:14:47,320 --> 00:14:51,120 Speaker 1: things that you're worried about when you're dating in person 261 00:14:51,560 --> 00:14:54,040 Speaker 1: and you just do have nothing to do but focus 262 00:14:54,080 --> 00:14:56,840 Speaker 1: on one another, to really engage in conversation, and it 263 00:14:56,960 --> 00:14:58,920 Speaker 1: go below the surface, and I think you can tell 264 00:14:59,000 --> 00:15:02,080 Speaker 1: really quickly if someone's into you, if they're not, or 265 00:15:02,120 --> 00:15:04,360 Speaker 1: if they're even worth your time or if they're not. 266 00:15:05,520 --> 00:15:07,760 Speaker 1: So yeah, I'm sure, like we got a bunch of 267 00:15:07,840 --> 00:15:11,400 Speaker 1: questions here, and I'm sure there's gonna be some questions 268 00:15:11,440 --> 00:15:13,680 Speaker 1: that touch on that, but if not, I'll just ask 269 00:15:13,720 --> 00:15:15,520 Speaker 1: you and you answer, because I think it's a very 270 00:15:15,560 --> 00:15:19,480 Speaker 1: relevant topic. Before we get to answering some of your questions. Though. 271 00:15:19,520 --> 00:15:24,800 Speaker 1: With Christina, I wanted to answer a question that Becca 272 00:15:24,840 --> 00:15:28,680 Speaker 1: and I constantly get in our inbox. Okay, for some reason, 273 00:15:28,720 --> 00:15:30,920 Speaker 1: you guys are always asking us what was our worst 274 00:15:31,000 --> 00:15:34,200 Speaker 1: dating experience ever? So to get myself back in the 275 00:15:34,280 --> 00:15:38,480 Speaker 1: mindset of what it's like to date again, the good, oh, 276 00:15:39,200 --> 00:15:43,600 Speaker 1: the bad, in the ugly. Both Christina and I are 277 00:15:43,640 --> 00:15:46,480 Speaker 1: gonna go ahead and share each of our personal dating 278 00:15:46,560 --> 00:15:49,960 Speaker 1: disaster stories. You're not gonna freaking believe my dating story. 279 00:15:50,000 --> 00:15:52,640 Speaker 1: I don't think I've shared this on the podcast, at 280 00:15:52,680 --> 00:15:58,600 Speaker 1: least not on this curio. My worst date ever. Okay, 281 00:15:58,720 --> 00:16:00,520 Speaker 1: I'm trying to go back into let me go back 282 00:16:00,560 --> 00:16:05,160 Speaker 1: into a time. You know that I'm buried deep. But Christina, 283 00:16:05,240 --> 00:16:09,640 Speaker 1: I know I have not told you this. So I 284 00:16:10,880 --> 00:16:13,560 Speaker 1: don't know where I met him. I don't even know 285 00:16:13,600 --> 00:16:17,600 Speaker 1: where I met this guy. Maybe through mutual friends, maybe 286 00:16:17,640 --> 00:16:20,560 Speaker 1: at a party, I'm not quite sure. But he was 287 00:16:20,640 --> 00:16:23,400 Speaker 1: older than me, like seven or eight years older. I 288 00:16:23,440 --> 00:16:26,160 Speaker 1: was fresh out of law school and oh no, I 289 00:16:26,240 --> 00:16:28,760 Speaker 1: was about to go to law school, and so I 290 00:16:28,800 --> 00:16:31,240 Speaker 1: was really in this mindset of I want to date 291 00:16:32,480 --> 00:16:34,960 Speaker 1: older man because I'm going to law school, so I 292 00:16:34,960 --> 00:16:38,040 Speaker 1: feel like I need like an older, mature man. So 293 00:16:38,080 --> 00:16:41,000 Speaker 1: I'm dating Sky hasnt like eight nine years older than me, 294 00:16:41,040 --> 00:16:44,520 Speaker 1: and we're clicking right, and it's just such a great 295 00:16:45,320 --> 00:16:48,760 Speaker 1: fun day. We're having this deep conversation, so of course 296 00:16:48,760 --> 00:16:50,360 Speaker 1: you're like, when a date is good, you want to 297 00:16:50,440 --> 00:16:55,160 Speaker 1: keep the night going. So we go to dinner and 298 00:16:55,200 --> 00:16:57,880 Speaker 1: then from there we go to like a bar kind 299 00:16:57,880 --> 00:17:00,560 Speaker 1: of lounge where we can dance, and it was just 300 00:17:00,640 --> 00:17:05,120 Speaker 1: like like some smooth R and B. I'm pretty sure 301 00:17:05,119 --> 00:17:08,800 Speaker 1: there was a live band playing, and he was very smooth, 302 00:17:08,920 --> 00:17:10,919 Speaker 1: very charming. I'm like, oh my gosh, I get so 303 00:17:11,000 --> 00:17:13,560 Speaker 1: good used to this. This is so great. So he's like, 304 00:17:13,600 --> 00:17:15,359 Speaker 1: you want to keep the night going. I'm like sure, 305 00:17:15,440 --> 00:17:16,920 Speaker 1: like as long as your knights trying to keep the 306 00:17:17,000 --> 00:17:19,440 Speaker 1: night going in your bedroom, Like, let's just keep the 307 00:17:19,520 --> 00:17:21,879 Speaker 1: night going. So then he's like, oh, I want to 308 00:17:21,880 --> 00:17:25,000 Speaker 1: take you to the spot. So I'm like okay. You know, 309 00:17:25,040 --> 00:17:26,960 Speaker 1: he doesn't say the name of it, but I'm like, oh, 310 00:17:26,960 --> 00:17:30,000 Speaker 1: it's an adventure. Fine. So he takes me to the 311 00:17:30,040 --> 00:17:33,560 Speaker 1: spot and it's like really on a really dark street. 312 00:17:34,359 --> 00:17:36,560 Speaker 1: So mind, this is the first day, so I don't 313 00:17:36,560 --> 00:17:40,560 Speaker 1: really know him that well, and I'm like okay, and 314 00:17:40,600 --> 00:17:42,919 Speaker 1: then he's like, oh, here it is, and it's you 315 00:17:42,960 --> 00:17:46,399 Speaker 1: can see some people outside. There's a light, but the 316 00:17:46,440 --> 00:17:50,040 Speaker 1: street isn't well lit and there are no signs. So 317 00:17:50,080 --> 00:17:52,800 Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, like, maybe this is like a secret 318 00:17:52,840 --> 00:17:56,959 Speaker 1: exclusive club. Like he's older, you know, maybe he's teaching 319 00:17:57,119 --> 00:17:59,560 Speaker 1: me some things that I don't know. So we go 320 00:17:59,600 --> 00:18:05,840 Speaker 1: into the club and immediately I knew I had stepped 321 00:18:05,840 --> 00:18:09,879 Speaker 1: into a place where I immediately wanted to turn around 322 00:18:10,040 --> 00:18:17,080 Speaker 1: and run out. Why Christina, it was a swingers club. Like, 323 00:18:17,359 --> 00:18:20,760 Speaker 1: I walk in and I'm like, oh, these people look 324 00:18:20,840 --> 00:18:26,719 Speaker 1: really friendly, those people on super Friendly. What are they 325 00:18:26,760 --> 00:18:31,680 Speaker 1: doing behind those cuds over there? Oh? I was mortified. Now, 326 00:18:31,760 --> 00:18:34,560 Speaker 1: Thank god I didn't say this. I drove, so I 327 00:18:34,760 --> 00:18:37,960 Speaker 1: followed him, so we weren't in the same car, and 328 00:18:38,000 --> 00:18:40,919 Speaker 1: I feel like uber wasn't really around it. Anyways. I 329 00:18:41,240 --> 00:18:43,760 Speaker 1: bounced out of there as quickly as I came and 330 00:18:43,880 --> 00:18:46,320 Speaker 1: never talked to that guy again, but it makes for 331 00:18:46,520 --> 00:18:52,040 Speaker 1: a great story years later, A swingers clubs they never 332 00:18:52,080 --> 00:18:55,280 Speaker 1: heard of such thing. Can you imagine, Like I'm trying 333 00:18:55,320 --> 00:18:56,960 Speaker 1: to be on the Bachelor and they're like, oh, we 334 00:18:57,240 --> 00:19:00,040 Speaker 1: did a background check that you used to freak with 335 00:19:00,160 --> 00:19:04,639 Speaker 1: swingers clubs. Oh my god, top back, Christie. Oh I can't, 336 00:19:04,720 --> 00:19:08,080 Speaker 1: I can't. I'm just wondering, like, what what did you 337 00:19:08,119 --> 00:19:10,880 Speaker 1: give him for him? To feel comfortable to take swingers. 338 00:19:12,200 --> 00:19:14,879 Speaker 1: These are the right questions, These are what I should 339 00:19:14,920 --> 00:19:18,239 Speaker 1: have been asking. Whatever I said, I thought the day 340 00:19:18,359 --> 00:19:20,120 Speaker 1: was going one way and he thought it was going 341 00:19:20,280 --> 00:19:22,920 Speaker 1: another way. Yeah, so um, I nipped that in the 342 00:19:22,960 --> 00:19:26,040 Speaker 1: bud real quick. I have so many follow up questions, 343 00:19:26,080 --> 00:19:28,600 Speaker 1: like when did you did you all stay to? Should 344 00:19:28,640 --> 00:19:32,960 Speaker 1: you explain why you bounce? Did you like ghosted him? 345 00:19:32,960 --> 00:19:38,920 Speaker 1: Did you ironically I'm ghosted him? Ironically? He never heard 346 00:19:39,000 --> 00:19:43,040 Speaker 1: from Rights again, and I'm sure he just stayed at 347 00:19:43,040 --> 00:19:45,040 Speaker 1: the club, right Like, I'm sure he just stayed and 348 00:19:45,320 --> 00:19:49,639 Speaker 1: joined somebody else's group or found somebody for himself. Yeah. 349 00:19:50,440 --> 00:19:53,760 Speaker 1: Probably never. I never saw him again. I'm going to 350 00:19:53,800 --> 00:19:56,840 Speaker 1: have follow up questions probably after this, because there's got 351 00:19:56,840 --> 00:20:00,359 Speaker 1: to be more to the story. Um yeah, I cannot 352 00:20:00,359 --> 00:20:03,639 Speaker 1: follow up to that, but I do remember. It was 353 00:20:03,680 --> 00:20:05,760 Speaker 1: probably like a year and a half ago. It's my 354 00:20:05,840 --> 00:20:08,399 Speaker 1: first move to California. It's in a couple of months 355 00:20:08,840 --> 00:20:11,719 Speaker 1: and I meet the Sky and we just click and 356 00:20:11,720 --> 00:20:13,040 Speaker 1: he wants to take me out on a date. So 357 00:20:13,119 --> 00:20:16,760 Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, I'll go like, um, oh, oh, what 358 00:20:16,960 --> 00:20:19,479 Speaker 1: is it? Roden my horizons? I don't know, just like 359 00:20:19,480 --> 00:20:23,000 Speaker 1: over to dating now. So we're going a date. It 360 00:20:23,000 --> 00:20:26,400 Speaker 1: goes fairly well. I'm thinking, like, you know, maybe i'll 361 00:20:26,400 --> 00:20:28,920 Speaker 1: see him again, but if he doesn't like reach out again, 362 00:20:28,960 --> 00:20:32,760 Speaker 1: I'm totally fine with that too. Well, he decides to 363 00:20:32,800 --> 00:20:34,960 Speaker 1: ask me on another date, and I was like, okay, fine. 364 00:20:35,119 --> 00:20:37,360 Speaker 1: It was kind of on the spot, so I was like, okay, fine, 365 00:20:37,359 --> 00:20:42,120 Speaker 1: I'll go. And then he follows up and I'm okay, 366 00:20:42,119 --> 00:20:45,800 Speaker 1: I'm busy. Follows up again. Hey, I'm busy. Get the hint. 367 00:20:47,080 --> 00:20:50,720 Speaker 1: He decides to Anyway, then we'll go to a couple 368 00:20:50,760 --> 00:20:53,199 Speaker 1: of same events. We keep bumping into each other and 369 00:20:53,240 --> 00:20:55,840 Speaker 1: I was like, ah, damn, I guess I gotta go 370 00:20:55,880 --> 00:20:57,720 Speaker 1: on this date with him. So we're in the have 371 00:20:57,720 --> 00:21:01,640 Speaker 1: scheduling a date, and we go. I'm in LA. Traffic 372 00:21:01,760 --> 00:21:05,600 Speaker 1: is crazy. I'm just learning all about it. Anyway, I 373 00:21:05,600 --> 00:21:07,399 Speaker 1: show up to a date a little bit late, but 374 00:21:07,560 --> 00:21:10,400 Speaker 1: I told him like, hey, I'm running late. We sit down. 375 00:21:10,520 --> 00:21:13,560 Speaker 1: It's like a restaurant here in LA where you have 376 00:21:13,720 --> 00:21:16,920 Speaker 1: probably like a three or a five course meal. It's sushi, okay, 377 00:21:16,960 --> 00:21:19,920 Speaker 1: so fancy Okay, well okay, I don't know if I 378 00:21:19,920 --> 00:21:22,639 Speaker 1: should say fancy, but it's a sugar fish, so you 379 00:21:22,640 --> 00:21:25,399 Speaker 1: can choose your menu. Um, and I think we had 380 00:21:25,440 --> 00:21:28,320 Speaker 1: like five five rolls come out, and I was like, 381 00:21:28,359 --> 00:21:32,840 Speaker 1: oh damn, this might take a while. So I sit down. 382 00:21:32,880 --> 00:21:35,200 Speaker 1: I'm like flustered because I've just been in a rush 383 00:21:35,240 --> 00:21:39,080 Speaker 1: and I hate being late. So he goes like riches 384 00:21:39,119 --> 00:21:41,080 Speaker 1: over grass my hand. I'm sitting kind of like this, 385 00:21:41,800 --> 00:21:44,159 Speaker 1: and I like cringe. I'm like, don't touch me, just 386 00:21:44,200 --> 00:21:47,600 Speaker 1: because of like over Also, I know who you're talking about, 387 00:21:49,680 --> 00:21:53,119 Speaker 1: do you? Why not? I'm thinking somebody else? We go ahead. 388 00:21:53,160 --> 00:21:57,840 Speaker 1: I think I would be if I've never told him 389 00:21:57,840 --> 00:22:01,520 Speaker 1: about this, but if he is listening, I'll be mortifying. 390 00:22:01,680 --> 00:22:04,439 Speaker 1: Long story short, it's this meal is probably supposed to 391 00:22:04,440 --> 00:22:06,320 Speaker 1: take easily an hour and a half. I think I 392 00:22:06,400 --> 00:22:10,240 Speaker 1: was out of there in maybe forty minutes because he 393 00:22:11,000 --> 00:22:13,040 Speaker 1: was trying to make a conversation. Then he tried to 394 00:22:13,080 --> 00:22:15,040 Speaker 1: say he was like, your eyelash is real. I was like, 395 00:22:15,359 --> 00:22:18,639 Speaker 1: I gotta go, I I gotta At that point, I'm like, 396 00:22:18,920 --> 00:22:21,960 Speaker 1: ask me about the weather, asked me about anything. Are 397 00:22:22,000 --> 00:22:26,320 Speaker 1: your eyelashes real? No? No, that's the third fourth day question. 398 00:22:26,359 --> 00:22:29,040 Speaker 1: Don't get all into itet with me like that, right, 399 00:22:29,400 --> 00:22:31,920 Speaker 1: And then so I decided to like, okay, time to go. Hey, 400 00:22:31,960 --> 00:22:33,760 Speaker 1: I have stuff to do. He decides to walk me out, 401 00:22:33,760 --> 00:22:35,600 Speaker 1: and I'm like, okay, that's the gentleman thing to do. 402 00:22:36,000 --> 00:22:38,560 Speaker 1: My car is like this way. He's trying to like 403 00:22:38,760 --> 00:22:42,240 Speaker 1: body like push me and nudge me towards this sound 404 00:22:42,440 --> 00:22:44,080 Speaker 1: and where you can throw in coins. I was like, 405 00:22:44,119 --> 00:22:45,960 Speaker 1: I'm not about it. I'm like, my car is that way. 406 00:22:46,200 --> 00:22:48,800 Speaker 1: Thank you for dinner, I'm out. And then I just 407 00:22:49,720 --> 00:22:53,920 Speaker 1: if you see uncomfortable. Unfortunately, I've seen him multiple times 408 00:22:53,960 --> 00:22:59,200 Speaker 1: since then. Well you know what, you try, it just 409 00:22:59,200 --> 00:23:03,440 Speaker 1: didn't work. I hear dating in la is really tough anyway, 410 00:23:04,000 --> 00:23:07,600 Speaker 1: So I'm sure unfortunately, that probably won't be the last 411 00:23:07,640 --> 00:23:11,080 Speaker 1: of your stories. Well, I'm gonna set me back a 412 00:23:11,080 --> 00:23:13,560 Speaker 1: little bit, just because I don't like to go on 413 00:23:13,720 --> 00:23:16,240 Speaker 1: first dates to begin with, Like you, I like to 414 00:23:16,280 --> 00:23:20,240 Speaker 1: meet people through mutual friends and maybe already know them 415 00:23:20,280 --> 00:23:25,359 Speaker 1: from being in uh group settings, but their first like, hey, 416 00:23:25,600 --> 00:23:27,879 Speaker 1: we're meeting for the first time. We talked just a 417 00:23:28,000 --> 00:23:31,400 Speaker 1: tad bid here and there. It's just awkward for me. See, 418 00:23:31,480 --> 00:23:37,399 Speaker 1: I love it, excuse me, loved past tense. I loved 419 00:23:37,520 --> 00:23:39,960 Speaker 1: I was a serial dater. I loved it. Tell me 420 00:23:40,000 --> 00:23:41,880 Speaker 1: who you are, where you've been, where you come from, 421 00:23:41,960 --> 00:23:44,320 Speaker 1: Let me fill your energy, let me get this free meal, 422 00:23:44,720 --> 00:23:51,160 Speaker 1: let me go like, yeah, you know me. It's so, 423 00:23:51,320 --> 00:23:53,840 Speaker 1: it's so. I mean, it's true. It's true, especially when 424 00:23:53,840 --> 00:23:55,600 Speaker 1: I was in law school and I had those you know, 425 00:23:55,680 --> 00:23:58,080 Speaker 1: law school loans. Listen, you want to take you want 426 00:23:58,080 --> 00:24:00,920 Speaker 1: to take me out? Right? I'm gay, No, it is, 427 00:24:00,960 --> 00:24:04,000 Speaker 1: there's just I just love. You're either serial date or 428 00:24:04,040 --> 00:24:06,360 Speaker 1: you're not. I loved it. I loved meeting people, love 429 00:24:06,440 --> 00:24:08,840 Speaker 1: them and leave them, you know, two date max, and 430 00:24:09,200 --> 00:24:13,600 Speaker 1: then I'm done. Yeah. I used to think, like I 431 00:24:13,640 --> 00:24:15,760 Speaker 1: will start doing like I would do two dates just 432 00:24:15,800 --> 00:24:18,800 Speaker 1: because I know me, and in the beginning I would 433 00:24:18,840 --> 00:24:21,000 Speaker 1: be shy. I would be like the listener and just 434 00:24:21,600 --> 00:24:24,480 Speaker 1: not putting my best foot forward on first dates just 435 00:24:24,520 --> 00:24:26,800 Speaker 1: because again I don't think they get to know me 436 00:24:26,880 --> 00:24:29,160 Speaker 1: for me, because I'm just a quiet and sitting there. 437 00:24:29,160 --> 00:24:31,720 Speaker 1: So that's why I used to give guys two dates 438 00:24:31,840 --> 00:24:36,080 Speaker 1: because maybe they're shy or they're talking because they're nervous. 439 00:24:36,119 --> 00:24:38,480 Speaker 1: So and it just did not work though way, So 440 00:24:38,600 --> 00:24:40,560 Speaker 1: now let me think of something else. So you have 441 00:24:40,600 --> 00:24:43,600 Speaker 1: a two date rule. I used to now it's one 442 00:24:43,640 --> 00:24:46,639 Speaker 1: and out. I'm like, what about a kissing rule? I 443 00:24:46,800 --> 00:24:49,680 Speaker 1: because because I actually have a like a three time 444 00:24:49,800 --> 00:24:53,320 Speaker 1: kissing rule, because I feel like the first time you 445 00:24:53,400 --> 00:24:55,840 Speaker 1: might be And this really applied on The Bachelor as 446 00:24:56,119 --> 00:24:59,040 Speaker 1: on the Bachelorette. You know, like the first time you're like, oh, 447 00:24:59,080 --> 00:25:01,520 Speaker 1: they might be a little nerves this. The second time 448 00:25:01,560 --> 00:25:03,439 Speaker 1: you're like, oh it's a little awkward. There's a camera 449 00:25:03,520 --> 00:25:06,480 Speaker 1: person and a sound guy right here. But like, if 450 00:25:06,520 --> 00:25:10,400 Speaker 1: I can't rehabilitate you by the third kiss, you're done. 451 00:25:11,119 --> 00:25:15,120 Speaker 1: No one time, one time Christie. It's just you either 452 00:25:15,200 --> 00:25:17,760 Speaker 1: feel the chemistry or you don't. They're either a good kid. 453 00:25:17,800 --> 00:25:21,960 Speaker 1: It doesn't it can't be a peck like no, Like 454 00:25:22,000 --> 00:25:24,919 Speaker 1: it has to be like a little bit maybe not 455 00:25:24,960 --> 00:25:27,840 Speaker 1: the first day either. Look, it has to be like 456 00:25:28,200 --> 00:25:32,679 Speaker 1: longer than a peg, but not like a full on makeout. 457 00:25:33,119 --> 00:25:34,800 Speaker 1: You can be you can kiss well with it, you 458 00:25:34,840 --> 00:25:37,000 Speaker 1: can tell, But I I like to, you know, like 459 00:25:37,760 --> 00:25:40,760 Speaker 1: I had to rehabilitate some people, and then there's just 460 00:25:40,800 --> 00:25:44,920 Speaker 1: some people. There's just there's a there's a whole you 461 00:25:44,960 --> 00:25:47,520 Speaker 1: need to go find another bad kisser with you. I 462 00:25:48,040 --> 00:25:50,800 Speaker 1: think that Look, um, yeah, I'm the person too. I'm like, 463 00:25:51,520 --> 00:25:53,480 Speaker 1: this just doesn't work for me. But it's like you're 464 00:25:53,520 --> 00:26:00,520 Speaker 1: open to like learning, Okay, sure, exactly exactly three times? 465 00:26:00,600 --> 00:26:04,720 Speaker 1: Three times, ladies okay or somewhere in between. Christine's this one, 466 00:26:04,720 --> 00:26:07,560 Speaker 1: I say three, so two two times? They can't get 467 00:26:07,680 --> 00:26:10,840 Speaker 1: cut it after that let them go. Um oh so 468 00:26:11,000 --> 00:26:13,840 Speaker 1: if you re mind say that if it's terrible the 469 00:26:13,880 --> 00:26:16,240 Speaker 1: first time, but they have an awesome personality and make 470 00:26:16,320 --> 00:26:19,639 Speaker 1: sense of humor, a thing that would play into me 471 00:26:19,800 --> 00:26:22,240 Speaker 1: being enjoying the kids the second time better, just because 472 00:26:22,880 --> 00:26:31,720 Speaker 1: maybe I'm more attracted to them them, that's what you're thinking. Okay, 473 00:26:31,800 --> 00:26:33,960 Speaker 1: Christina and I we could keep going with that is 474 00:26:34,000 --> 00:26:35,919 Speaker 1: a blast from the past. And now I feel like 475 00:26:36,600 --> 00:26:40,560 Speaker 1: I'd like, you know, like, what's the what's the I'd 476 00:26:40,600 --> 00:26:44,440 Speaker 1: like dusted off the I can't think of the saying 477 00:26:44,480 --> 00:26:47,120 Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Anyways, I feel like I'm 478 00:26:47,160 --> 00:26:49,520 Speaker 1: back in the game now, like my you're like my 479 00:26:49,680 --> 00:26:53,280 Speaker 1: dating hat is on having to relive that terrible moment 480 00:26:53,760 --> 00:26:56,840 Speaker 1: where I mean, geez, it just really could have gone 481 00:26:56,840 --> 00:27:00,760 Speaker 1: the wrong way. Um, and you talk talking about this 482 00:27:00,760 --> 00:27:03,600 Speaker 1: this guy who you just dumped at a sugarfish he's 483 00:27:03,640 --> 00:27:07,440 Speaker 1: probably still sitting there somewhere. So we feel like now 484 00:27:07,440 --> 00:27:10,240 Speaker 1: we're ready to give some advice to you. Guys. I'm 485 00:27:10,280 --> 00:27:14,280 Speaker 1: sure you have your own terrible stories as well, but listen, 486 00:27:14,600 --> 00:27:17,360 Speaker 1: if you can go from the swingers club to the 487 00:27:17,400 --> 00:27:24,320 Speaker 1: married club like I did, there's home for you to Okay, 488 00:27:24,320 --> 00:27:27,040 Speaker 1: So here's the first question. This is from a listener. 489 00:27:27,720 --> 00:27:31,040 Speaker 1: During quarantine, I found it impossible to meet someone news, 490 00:27:31,080 --> 00:27:34,399 Speaker 1: so I've gone back with an old fleeing that I 491 00:27:34,440 --> 00:27:36,640 Speaker 1: know I have no future with, but I enjoy the company. 492 00:27:37,080 --> 00:27:41,480 Speaker 1: Is this a mistake, Christina? What do you think? I 493 00:27:41,560 --> 00:27:44,720 Speaker 1: think it is. I've been in those exact same shoes, 494 00:27:44,920 --> 00:27:47,640 Speaker 1: and I was just with him because out of boredom. 495 00:27:48,200 --> 00:27:51,639 Speaker 1: But now just be open. You're closing yourself off to 496 00:27:52,160 --> 00:27:58,240 Speaker 1: new potentials the Worster time, right. I mean, you're using him, 497 00:27:58,320 --> 00:28:00,119 Speaker 1: That's just what I'm gonna say. You're using him for 498 00:28:00,200 --> 00:28:03,760 Speaker 1: whatever reason it may be for the company, for the 499 00:28:03,840 --> 00:28:09,000 Speaker 1: physical part, whatever. I get it. It's hard. Quarantine is hard. 500 00:28:09,680 --> 00:28:11,960 Speaker 1: No intimacy, a lot of them, you know, if you're 501 00:28:11,960 --> 00:28:16,639 Speaker 1: not living with someone, no intimacy, no social interaction or 502 00:28:16,680 --> 00:28:19,000 Speaker 1: human interaction. It's I mean, assuming that you're doing things 503 00:28:19,040 --> 00:28:20,920 Speaker 1: in a responsible way, and it can be really hard. 504 00:28:20,920 --> 00:28:23,640 Speaker 1: So I can understand the temptation to want to go 505 00:28:23,760 --> 00:28:28,879 Speaker 1: back to that old thing. But if you know that 506 00:28:28,920 --> 00:28:31,720 Speaker 1: you don't have a future, you're really you really are 507 00:28:31,880 --> 00:28:35,240 Speaker 1: using this guy, and you're wasting each other's time. Because 508 00:28:35,280 --> 00:28:37,439 Speaker 1: if this guy is really into you but you know 509 00:28:37,520 --> 00:28:40,160 Speaker 1: there's no future, is that fair to them? And also 510 00:28:40,320 --> 00:28:42,560 Speaker 1: is it fair to you? You're cutting yourself off from 511 00:28:42,560 --> 00:28:46,000 Speaker 1: so many other people just because we're in quarantine. I'm 512 00:28:46,040 --> 00:28:49,400 Speaker 1: pretty sure you can still swipe right or left. I'm 513 00:28:49,440 --> 00:28:52,040 Speaker 1: sure you can click on a zoom meeting, and I'm 514 00:28:52,080 --> 00:28:54,280 Speaker 1: sure that you know there are other ways to virtually 515 00:28:54,320 --> 00:28:56,360 Speaker 1: connect with people. You know, you can slide in the 516 00:28:56,520 --> 00:28:59,640 Speaker 1: DMS whatever. So I just like one thing I feel 517 00:28:59,680 --> 00:29:02,880 Speaker 1: like I did in my twenties with dating has wasted 518 00:29:02,920 --> 00:29:05,680 Speaker 1: my time on people and when I knew I was, 519 00:29:06,440 --> 00:29:10,239 Speaker 1: and that's not beneficial for any party. But I do 520 00:29:10,400 --> 00:29:14,120 Speaker 1: understand the temptation. Okay, yeah, don't work. You're done here 521 00:29:14,200 --> 00:29:16,960 Speaker 1: is this tund You're focus on yourself? I mean, there's 522 00:29:17,000 --> 00:29:22,880 Speaker 1: nothing there, don't lan don't do it? Yeah, okay, number two. 523 00:29:22,960 --> 00:29:27,880 Speaker 1: Question number two Opinions on dating older man Okay, Flip's 524 00:29:27,920 --> 00:29:31,040 Speaker 1: hair back. I'm twenty four years old and dating a 525 00:29:31,160 --> 00:29:33,760 Speaker 1: thirty six year old. It feels right to me, but 526 00:29:33,880 --> 00:29:42,600 Speaker 1: I'm scared of my family's reaction. Why why, I mean, 527 00:29:43,360 --> 00:29:45,880 Speaker 1: is that not your first soccer Sya, I'm like thirty six, 528 00:29:46,040 --> 00:29:50,120 Speaker 1: twenty four. To me, this sounds very compatible. It's not 529 00:29:50,240 --> 00:29:52,880 Speaker 1: like you said, he's seventy six in your twenty four. 530 00:29:53,080 --> 00:29:55,480 Speaker 1: That's something to be a little scared of, but more 531 00:29:55,640 --> 00:30:00,640 Speaker 1: his family than yours. I don't see a problem with 532 00:30:00,720 --> 00:30:03,200 Speaker 1: dating somebody twelve years older than you. I think that 533 00:30:03,840 --> 00:30:06,640 Speaker 1: it depends what age you are, right, Like if she 534 00:30:06,800 --> 00:30:09,720 Speaker 1: was sixteen and he was twenty eight, then we have 535 00:30:09,800 --> 00:30:13,520 Speaker 1: an issue here, right, you know, like twenty four thirty six. 536 00:30:14,240 --> 00:30:16,400 Speaker 1: I don't know why your family would have such a 537 00:30:16,480 --> 00:30:19,760 Speaker 1: huge reaction, you know, I mean possible, I mean, it's 538 00:30:19,800 --> 00:30:24,320 Speaker 1: possible whenever I still lived in Kentucky. I think I 539 00:30:24,360 --> 00:30:26,800 Speaker 1: said that funny. When I still lived in Kentucky. It's 540 00:30:26,800 --> 00:30:30,600 Speaker 1: the considered the stubwa of the southernstead state, Midwest, or 541 00:30:30,640 --> 00:30:33,360 Speaker 1: whatever you want to call it. Whenever I got on 542 00:30:33,440 --> 00:30:36,120 Speaker 1: a Bachelor I was twenty four. Nick was thirty six, 543 00:30:36,880 --> 00:30:40,560 Speaker 1: So it's yes, So it was a little weird, I 544 00:30:40,600 --> 00:30:43,920 Speaker 1: think for my parents to be like, like, are you sure? 545 00:30:44,040 --> 00:30:46,479 Speaker 1: Are you ready? And I always consider myself a little bit. 546 00:30:47,160 --> 00:30:49,560 Speaker 1: I hung out with the older crowd that just more 547 00:30:49,600 --> 00:30:52,360 Speaker 1: mature for my age, and being in the South, it's 548 00:30:52,400 --> 00:30:55,520 Speaker 1: like everyone already gets together in their early to mid 549 00:30:55,520 --> 00:30:58,640 Speaker 1: twenties and then families by late twenties. So I think 550 00:30:58,680 --> 00:31:01,400 Speaker 1: there's absolutely nothing wrong with dating somebody older than you. 551 00:31:01,760 --> 00:31:05,720 Speaker 1: I mean I can easily count five of my friends 552 00:31:05,760 --> 00:31:09,720 Speaker 1: that are currently and older relationships, So nothing nothing wrong 553 00:31:09,760 --> 00:31:12,520 Speaker 1: with that. So wait, did your family have a reaction 554 00:31:12,560 --> 00:31:14,480 Speaker 1: because Nick was twelve years older than you were? Because 555 00:31:14,480 --> 00:31:17,360 Speaker 1: you went on National TV to find a boy? Which 556 00:31:17,400 --> 00:31:23,800 Speaker 1: one was it? Fiance? Easy? Yeah, to whold different things, 557 00:31:23,840 --> 00:31:27,240 Speaker 1: but probably both. I mean my siblings are in there 558 00:31:27,400 --> 00:31:30,640 Speaker 1: would mid thirties at the time, so it's like I 559 00:31:30,680 --> 00:31:34,240 Speaker 1: can see why they would be hesitant. I mean whenever 560 00:31:34,520 --> 00:31:37,120 Speaker 1: starting to date date Nick, I still lived in my 561 00:31:37,760 --> 00:31:41,000 Speaker 1: college apartment that I got in college. I mean I 562 00:31:41,040 --> 00:31:42,840 Speaker 1: was better off. I was already starting off with my 563 00:31:42,880 --> 00:31:45,440 Speaker 1: career and all of these things, and I thought genuinely 564 00:31:45,480 --> 00:31:47,960 Speaker 1: I was ready for like that, that's next step. I'm 565 00:31:48,000 --> 00:31:51,080 Speaker 1: engagement in marriage but then it's like I moved to California. 566 00:31:51,080 --> 00:31:54,600 Speaker 1: I was like, there's so much more to just see today, 567 00:31:54,640 --> 00:31:57,240 Speaker 1: to get to know. And yeah, it depends where you 568 00:31:57,280 --> 00:31:59,640 Speaker 1: are in life. I bet the thirty six year olds 569 00:31:59,640 --> 00:32:03,520 Speaker 1: in la I seem a lot younger then thirty six 570 00:32:03,640 --> 00:32:07,400 Speaker 1: year old in Kentucky. Here's my advice to you. I 571 00:32:07,400 --> 00:32:09,880 Speaker 1: would say, don't lead with the age first. You know, 572 00:32:09,920 --> 00:32:12,040 Speaker 1: if this is a great guy and you see some 573 00:32:12,800 --> 00:32:16,280 Speaker 1: future with him, then lead with all why he's so 574 00:32:16,400 --> 00:32:18,840 Speaker 1: great to you, you know, like, let's exclude age, talk 575 00:32:18,880 --> 00:32:21,760 Speaker 1: about why you guys are compatible, why you know you 576 00:32:21,840 --> 00:32:24,000 Speaker 1: see a future with him, how he treats you and 577 00:32:24,040 --> 00:32:27,240 Speaker 1: respects you, and then you slide the age in there, 578 00:32:27,520 --> 00:32:29,600 Speaker 1: you know, just like talking oh yeah, you know, you know, 579 00:32:29,680 --> 00:32:31,960 Speaker 1: like he's thirty six, and but you know he's he's 580 00:32:31,960 --> 00:32:34,440 Speaker 1: got a great job. Whatever, however you do it, however 581 00:32:34,520 --> 00:32:36,560 Speaker 1: you do it. I don't think that that's that big 582 00:32:36,600 --> 00:32:38,320 Speaker 1: of a deal. I think that's the least of your 583 00:32:38,360 --> 00:32:41,920 Speaker 1: concerns in twelve years with at that with that age, 584 00:32:42,000 --> 00:32:44,320 Speaker 1: at that age, isn't that big of a deal. And 585 00:32:44,440 --> 00:32:47,840 Speaker 1: I think your parents will support you. They see like 586 00:32:47,960 --> 00:32:50,440 Speaker 1: their relationship and that you two are good for each other, 587 00:32:50,520 --> 00:32:54,680 Speaker 1: so exactly, don't worry exactly, Yeah girl, he or she, 588 00:32:55,320 --> 00:32:58,200 Speaker 1: I don't think this is what you do, um, but 589 00:32:58,240 --> 00:33:00,200 Speaker 1: if it is a he writing in that question and 590 00:33:00,280 --> 00:33:06,000 Speaker 1: shout out to the cougar who's got herself be younger man. Okay, 591 00:33:07,480 --> 00:33:11,720 Speaker 1: next question, I've been having the worst luck with dating. 592 00:33:12,000 --> 00:33:13,760 Speaker 1: How do I keep my head up when I'm not 593 00:33:13,840 --> 00:33:18,480 Speaker 1: meeting anyone? Christina, I'll let you answer this one. Have 594 00:33:18,600 --> 00:33:21,440 Speaker 1: been in those shoes too, and that's for longer a 595 00:33:21,480 --> 00:33:24,320 Speaker 1: period of time. I think, just focus on yourself. I 596 00:33:24,400 --> 00:33:26,560 Speaker 1: know I keep going back to that, but that's the 597 00:33:26,600 --> 00:33:29,560 Speaker 1: best thing you can do. The more you know your likes, dislikes, 598 00:33:29,640 --> 00:33:33,760 Speaker 1: your hobbies and interest you will find somebody along with 599 00:33:33,800 --> 00:33:38,520 Speaker 1: those two. So don't just pick and choose because you're bored. Yeah, 600 00:33:38,520 --> 00:33:42,080 Speaker 1: I mean it's pretty simple. I'd say, don't get discouraged 601 00:33:42,960 --> 00:33:46,400 Speaker 1: like and I think I think you're giving great advice too, 602 00:33:46,520 --> 00:33:50,040 Speaker 1: because one thing about quarantine, even though it can be 603 00:33:50,160 --> 00:33:52,280 Speaker 1: really hard and you can get bored and it can 604 00:33:52,280 --> 00:33:54,800 Speaker 1: be frustrating, is that we do have this time to 605 00:33:54,880 --> 00:33:57,200 Speaker 1: focus on ourselves and what it is we really want 606 00:33:57,240 --> 00:34:00,000 Speaker 1: in life. I will say that That's what was beautiful 607 00:34:00,280 --> 00:34:03,479 Speaker 1: about The Bachelor is that you are in that bubble 608 00:34:03,600 --> 00:34:07,640 Speaker 1: and you are stripped from TV and internet and music 609 00:34:07,800 --> 00:34:11,480 Speaker 1: and just all communication your phone communication from the outside world. 610 00:34:11,880 --> 00:34:14,279 Speaker 1: So even though you're around people, you are quarantine with 611 00:34:14,280 --> 00:34:16,480 Speaker 1: these people. And I know you can agree, Christina, you 612 00:34:16,520 --> 00:34:19,120 Speaker 1: do learn so much about yourself and what you want 613 00:34:19,160 --> 00:34:22,520 Speaker 1: for yourself coming out of it, and so I feel 614 00:34:22,560 --> 00:34:26,239 Speaker 1: like if you have that first, then you'll attract what 615 00:34:26,320 --> 00:34:30,040 Speaker 1: you need as well. You know, And don't worry about 616 00:34:30,239 --> 00:34:33,719 Speaker 1: so focusing so much on meeting someone. I think, I think, 617 00:34:33,760 --> 00:34:35,319 Speaker 1: I know. I used to be in that state too, 618 00:34:35,320 --> 00:34:38,600 Speaker 1: where I was so focused on meeting someone and afraid 619 00:34:38,680 --> 00:34:42,000 Speaker 1: to end a toxic relationship because I was fearful at 620 00:34:42,040 --> 00:34:44,920 Speaker 1: starting over And how will I meet somebody again when 621 00:34:44,960 --> 00:34:47,600 Speaker 1: I put so many years and so much time into this. 622 00:34:48,160 --> 00:34:51,360 Speaker 1: Don't worry about that. When it comes, it will come 623 00:34:51,400 --> 00:34:54,239 Speaker 1: to you. It will be ready for you. You just 624 00:34:54,440 --> 00:34:58,360 Speaker 1: have to be open to see it. Love yourself first, 625 00:34:58,400 --> 00:35:01,480 Speaker 1: and everyone else will love you too. It's so simple, 626 00:35:01,480 --> 00:35:06,799 Speaker 1: but it's so true. It's so true. Okay, I just 627 00:35:07,000 --> 00:35:10,200 Speaker 1: I just saw a sneak being to the next question. Okay, ready, 628 00:35:10,320 --> 00:35:13,600 Speaker 1: are you ready for this. I'm in love with two 629 00:35:13,640 --> 00:35:18,120 Speaker 1: amazing guys. Uh is this a former bachelorette bachelor? Like, 630 00:35:18,200 --> 00:35:23,440 Speaker 1: what's what's happening? And that was your question. I'm in 631 00:35:23,560 --> 00:35:26,960 Speaker 1: love with two amazing guys. I dated Guy One until 632 00:35:27,000 --> 00:35:29,399 Speaker 1: he had to go overseas, which is when I met 633 00:35:29,400 --> 00:35:33,400 Speaker 1: my current boyfriend, Guy Too. Recently, Guy one returned and 634 00:35:33,440 --> 00:35:35,719 Speaker 1: reached out to me. Although I am in a relationship 635 00:35:35,760 --> 00:35:39,520 Speaker 1: with Guy Too, who is also amazing, I can't seem 636 00:35:39,560 --> 00:35:42,319 Speaker 1: to get Guy one out of my head. Guy one 637 00:35:42,440 --> 00:35:45,360 Speaker 1: is my fantasy and Guy Too is my reality. What 638 00:35:45,480 --> 00:35:48,480 Speaker 1: do I do? First of all, I just want to say, 639 00:35:48,560 --> 00:35:53,000 Speaker 1: you make a fantastic bachelorette. Okay, you get you, you 640 00:35:53,080 --> 00:35:57,200 Speaker 1: fall along easily, you fantasize, you have that struggle between 641 00:35:57,239 --> 00:36:02,520 Speaker 1: reality and fantasy. Signed this woman, fire and center up. 642 00:36:04,200 --> 00:36:10,240 Speaker 1: But we're like, yeah, perfect, Okay. I can only speak 643 00:36:10,239 --> 00:36:14,719 Speaker 1: from experience on this. I'm like, as I like, get serious. 644 00:36:14,840 --> 00:36:19,200 Speaker 1: So I think a lot of times when and I'll 645 00:36:19,200 --> 00:36:21,759 Speaker 1: speak from bachelor bachelorette, A lot of times you see 646 00:36:21,800 --> 00:36:24,680 Speaker 1: relationships that don't work because people get caught up in 647 00:36:24,680 --> 00:36:28,160 Speaker 1: the fantasy of the relationship rather than focusing on what 648 00:36:28,360 --> 00:36:31,560 Speaker 1: makes sense. In the real world, and it's easy to 649 00:36:31,600 --> 00:36:34,000 Speaker 1: fall in love with a lot of people when all 650 00:36:34,040 --> 00:36:36,960 Speaker 1: you are fantasizing and focused on that. But that's what 651 00:36:37,000 --> 00:36:39,520 Speaker 1: it is. It's a fantasy, it's not real life. So 652 00:36:39,600 --> 00:36:42,480 Speaker 1: you have to strip yourself from that and objectively look 653 00:36:42,560 --> 00:36:45,480 Speaker 1: at the relationships and say who makes sense for me? 654 00:36:45,840 --> 00:36:48,359 Speaker 1: Who can I see a future with, Who meshes with 655 00:36:48,400 --> 00:36:51,640 Speaker 1: my life, my family, my friends, Who has the same 656 00:36:51,719 --> 00:36:54,319 Speaker 1: morals and values as me? And that's when you make 657 00:36:54,360 --> 00:36:56,440 Speaker 1: the decision that you want. I don't fault you for 658 00:36:56,680 --> 00:36:59,560 Speaker 1: falling for two guys, there's absolutely nothing wrong with it, 659 00:37:00,040 --> 00:37:03,000 Speaker 1: but you can't. It's not fair to them, or are 660 00:37:03,040 --> 00:37:04,919 Speaker 1: you in the long run to date both of them. 661 00:37:05,000 --> 00:37:06,759 Speaker 1: So at the end of the day, you have to 662 00:37:06,800 --> 00:37:10,560 Speaker 1: ask yourself those questions. And it sounds like you've already 663 00:37:10,600 --> 00:37:13,719 Speaker 1: answered it by deeming one guy a fantasy and one 664 00:37:13,800 --> 00:37:17,080 Speaker 1: guy a reality. I think you know what you need 665 00:37:17,120 --> 00:37:20,640 Speaker 1: to do here. It's a tough one. I mean, just 666 00:37:21,680 --> 00:37:24,160 Speaker 1: did anything go wrong with the guy that left to 667 00:37:24,200 --> 00:37:26,880 Speaker 1: go overseas If they had a wonderful relationship, maybe they 668 00:37:26,880 --> 00:37:31,120 Speaker 1: could have worked through while he was gone, Or she 669 00:37:31,200 --> 00:37:32,920 Speaker 1: might be also in a different place now than she 670 00:37:33,160 --> 00:37:35,799 Speaker 1: was whether it was a couple of years ago or 671 00:37:36,800 --> 00:37:40,000 Speaker 1: a couple of months. It's very tough, but center yourself 672 00:37:40,040 --> 00:37:42,600 Speaker 1: and figure it out. What is that you want to send? Yeah, 673 00:37:42,680 --> 00:37:46,080 Speaker 1: it's morals would compliment your life. And you bring up 674 00:37:46,120 --> 00:37:48,920 Speaker 1: a good point too, Why did he go overseas he left? You? 675 00:37:49,400 --> 00:37:52,839 Speaker 1: Can we just pause there? Well, maybe maybe it was 676 00:37:52,960 --> 00:37:56,839 Speaker 1: for what is it their army or whatnot, So maybe 677 00:37:56,840 --> 00:37:59,520 Speaker 1: he didn't have a choice. Maybe, Tony, maybe it was 678 00:37:59,520 --> 00:38:04,160 Speaker 1: worked fully understand but people do long distance relationships and 679 00:38:04,239 --> 00:38:06,879 Speaker 1: y'all chose to separate. So at that point he had 680 00:38:07,000 --> 00:38:09,880 Speaker 1: he was taking a risk that you're an amazing person 681 00:38:09,960 --> 00:38:13,000 Speaker 1: and you might meet another person who recognizes that, which 682 00:38:13,000 --> 00:38:17,840 Speaker 1: you Yeah, and so this guy guy too, he hasn't 683 00:38:17,880 --> 00:38:20,239 Speaker 1: left you. He seems appreciate. I mean, let's just let 684 00:38:20,239 --> 00:38:22,080 Speaker 1: me just put it here. It's a great problem to have. 685 00:38:22,400 --> 00:38:25,040 Speaker 1: It sounds like it's two amazing men who are both 686 00:38:25,160 --> 00:38:28,680 Speaker 1: into you. I mean, you can't lose here at the 687 00:38:28,760 --> 00:38:30,560 Speaker 1: end of the day. Yes, somebody will be hurt, and 688 00:38:31,640 --> 00:38:34,439 Speaker 1: that's always tough, especially when you care about people, But 689 00:38:35,600 --> 00:38:42,200 Speaker 1: you girl are gonna come out thriving. Sounds like one 690 00:38:42,400 --> 00:38:45,560 Speaker 1: apparently the other one will always come back. And if 691 00:38:45,600 --> 00:38:48,600 Speaker 1: it doesn't work with one, set that amazing guy up 692 00:38:48,640 --> 00:38:52,439 Speaker 1: with one of your single friends or somebody else you know, like, 693 00:38:52,920 --> 00:38:55,399 Speaker 1: let him win too if he's a good one. Good 694 00:38:55,400 --> 00:38:57,080 Speaker 1: guys are hard to find. Good women are hard to 695 00:38:57,080 --> 00:39:00,279 Speaker 1: find too, Good people are hard to find. A just 696 00:39:01,600 --> 00:39:07,840 Speaker 1: play it all out there? Very true? Um? Okay, next question, 697 00:39:08,080 --> 00:39:11,000 Speaker 1: I am thirty eight years old and divorced. When do 698 00:39:11,040 --> 00:39:14,320 Speaker 1: you think it is appropriate to tell that to someone 699 00:39:14,440 --> 00:39:19,440 Speaker 1: I'm dating? I definitely am I paying it on this, Christina? 700 00:39:19,480 --> 00:39:23,399 Speaker 1: What do you think? I just think. I mean, that's 701 00:39:23,400 --> 00:39:29,640 Speaker 1: a tough one. Just um, how are you drinking wine? No? 702 00:39:29,920 --> 00:39:35,920 Speaker 1: Datter now? Normally? Now? Normally I do drink wine. Um, 703 00:39:35,960 --> 00:39:39,800 Speaker 1: and I probably will have to Chris water, Hi, drink first. 704 00:39:40,800 --> 00:39:42,680 Speaker 1: I'm just finding myself time here. If you have an 705 00:39:42,719 --> 00:39:45,640 Speaker 1: opinion on this, I think, I mean, if you're dating, 706 00:39:45,680 --> 00:39:48,279 Speaker 1: I think there won't be a time. But it's not 707 00:39:48,320 --> 00:39:51,120 Speaker 1: necessary to say the first date. If a guy's interested 708 00:39:51,239 --> 00:39:53,360 Speaker 1: in you, he'll keep asking you on a date a 709 00:39:53,480 --> 00:39:56,319 Speaker 1: date after data. If you tell him and he likes you. 710 00:39:57,680 --> 00:39:59,959 Speaker 1: I don't think that's going to matter too much at all. 711 00:40:00,880 --> 00:40:02,799 Speaker 1: I don't think. I don't think it should Well, maybe 712 00:40:03,480 --> 00:40:05,680 Speaker 1: that's my perspective first only, I don't think if it 713 00:40:05,719 --> 00:40:09,839 Speaker 1: should matter if you really are into someone and want 714 00:40:09,840 --> 00:40:11,440 Speaker 1: to see a future with them, when you have a 715 00:40:11,440 --> 00:40:14,920 Speaker 1: future with them, Yeah, if you're right, Christina, if they 716 00:40:15,000 --> 00:40:17,360 Speaker 1: like you, they like you. So you're thirty eight and 717 00:40:17,520 --> 00:40:20,440 Speaker 1: you're divorced, big whoop. I don't think that those are 718 00:40:20,480 --> 00:40:25,080 Speaker 1: dealbreakers out of all. Like I think there was a 719 00:40:25,120 --> 00:40:28,720 Speaker 1: time where it was like taboo. Maybe, but these days, 720 00:40:29,120 --> 00:40:32,359 Speaker 1: you're thirty eight years young, I might ask, Okay, I'm 721 00:40:32,480 --> 00:40:36,680 Speaker 1: right there with you, I'm right around that age, and yes, 722 00:40:37,040 --> 00:40:41,840 Speaker 1: and divorced. Okay, so what Like, you fell in love, 723 00:40:42,160 --> 00:40:44,600 Speaker 1: you got married, you were committed to someone, and for 724 00:40:44,680 --> 00:40:47,680 Speaker 1: one reason or another it didn't work out. That shouldn't 725 00:40:47,680 --> 00:40:50,319 Speaker 1: be a stain on your record. That shouldn't be a 726 00:40:50,400 --> 00:40:53,399 Speaker 1: knock against you. And I think that maybe you don't 727 00:40:53,400 --> 00:40:56,920 Speaker 1: get into the full details as to why the divorce happened. 728 00:40:58,000 --> 00:41:00,520 Speaker 1: Maybe that could be a bit heavy for a first day. 729 00:41:01,239 --> 00:41:03,560 Speaker 1: But you saying that you're thirty eight, thirty eight and 730 00:41:03,560 --> 00:41:05,840 Speaker 1: proud of bet you don't look thirty eight. Bet you 731 00:41:05,840 --> 00:41:08,040 Speaker 1: don't look at it all. And then and then you 732 00:41:08,080 --> 00:41:10,520 Speaker 1: give them the opportunity to say that thirty eight, Oh 733 00:41:10,560 --> 00:41:14,720 Speaker 1: my gosh, you don't look a day over twenty eight 734 00:41:14,960 --> 00:41:19,320 Speaker 1: on a point right, yut it over that. But no, honestly, 735 00:41:19,400 --> 00:41:22,000 Speaker 1: I think that I think that there's something beautiful about 736 00:41:22,040 --> 00:41:24,960 Speaker 1: being forthcoming. But I think that there's also a balance 737 00:41:25,000 --> 00:41:27,560 Speaker 1: to not be too heavy. Say you got divorced and 738 00:41:27,600 --> 00:41:29,480 Speaker 1: it didn't work out, and leave it there, and if 739 00:41:29,520 --> 00:41:32,279 Speaker 1: the relationship continues, then you can get into the nitty 740 00:41:32,320 --> 00:41:36,319 Speaker 1: gritty of why that divorce happened, and just divorce happened 741 00:41:36,360 --> 00:41:43,239 Speaker 1: and move on. Next, next crush, next crush. You would 742 00:41:43,239 --> 00:41:46,160 Speaker 1: think I was drinking wine, right, okay, and I know 743 00:41:46,200 --> 00:41:48,360 Speaker 1: you were. You were looking for an excuse. You were like, 744 00:41:48,360 --> 00:41:49,960 Speaker 1: wait a second, is that a glass of wine? Let 745 00:41:49,960 --> 00:41:57,080 Speaker 1: me join because you know you're by your wine's drinking buddy. Yeah, 746 00:41:57,280 --> 00:42:00,719 Speaker 1: now this is this? Really is water? Wow? Here? So much? 747 00:42:00,920 --> 00:42:04,319 Speaker 1: Go ahead? Um okay, next question. Have either of you 748 00:42:04,440 --> 00:42:07,680 Speaker 1: ever used dating apps? And do you have advice for 749 00:42:07,719 --> 00:42:10,879 Speaker 1: people who are I will tell you right now, I've 750 00:42:10,920 --> 00:42:13,520 Speaker 1: never used dating app. I went straight from meeting people 751 00:42:14,000 --> 00:42:17,919 Speaker 1: the old fashioned way to meeting them on reality TV, 752 00:42:18,960 --> 00:42:22,320 Speaker 1: which is me, which is me in real life. There's 753 00:42:22,480 --> 00:42:25,080 Speaker 1: no in between you know what I mean, like, yeah, 754 00:42:25,280 --> 00:42:29,640 Speaker 1: I'm here or here hey we I well, yeah it worked, 755 00:42:29,719 --> 00:42:32,560 Speaker 1: it worked for me, so i'll you you you're the 756 00:42:32,719 --> 00:42:36,359 Speaker 1: expert on dating apps. What's that if it doesn't work 757 00:42:36,360 --> 00:42:40,840 Speaker 1: on dating apps? Going to reality TV? Or am I not? 758 00:42:40,960 --> 00:42:44,279 Speaker 1: In my case? Um? No, So I've signed up on 759 00:42:44,440 --> 00:42:47,080 Speaker 1: dating apps, but I've never like really used it, not 760 00:42:47,120 --> 00:42:50,080 Speaker 1: even like a swipe. I take my friend's phone for them. No, 761 00:42:50,160 --> 00:42:53,040 Speaker 1: I'm not. Um, my name might be on one, but 762 00:42:53,239 --> 00:42:56,080 Speaker 1: I'm never on it, So don't try to match with you. 763 00:42:57,040 --> 00:42:59,800 Speaker 1: And I thought that you did dating apps for some reason, 764 00:43:00,520 --> 00:43:05,240 Speaker 1: so I find out you can get on it anyway. 765 00:43:05,360 --> 00:43:07,839 Speaker 1: I wait, what's that secret dating app? It's not really 766 00:43:07,880 --> 00:43:12,440 Speaker 1: a secret anymore because everybody ya riya? Were you? Ya? No? 767 00:43:12,600 --> 00:43:14,640 Speaker 1: I tried to stign up for it and they're not 768 00:43:14,680 --> 00:43:17,239 Speaker 1: accepting me. So I'm like, cool, guys, But I think 769 00:43:17,280 --> 00:43:19,879 Speaker 1: it was I think it's honest, it's I think it's 770 00:43:19,920 --> 00:43:24,560 Speaker 1: lost its bizzazz. I really don't care. I feel like 771 00:43:24,600 --> 00:43:28,480 Speaker 1: my Instagram works with mine. There you gotta you want 772 00:43:28,480 --> 00:43:33,640 Speaker 1: to hit up Christ of those dams, so you would 773 00:43:33,680 --> 00:43:36,200 Speaker 1: you right answer? So would you say that that's a 774 00:43:36,200 --> 00:43:39,120 Speaker 1: good way then to meet people because shout out to 775 00:43:39,200 --> 00:43:44,080 Speaker 1: Vanessa Grimaldi who just announced her engagement. She looks, Okay, 776 00:43:44,120 --> 00:43:46,000 Speaker 1: I'm gonna take a little bit of a detour, you guys, 777 00:43:46,880 --> 00:43:50,680 Speaker 1: So shout out of Vanessa. She just got engaged. So 778 00:43:50,800 --> 00:43:57,080 Speaker 1: happy for her. And I literally, maybe five hours before 779 00:43:57,120 --> 00:44:00,200 Speaker 1: she posted it, I was watching her stories and it 780 00:44:00,239 --> 00:44:03,560 Speaker 1: wasn't her engagement stories, and I was like, gosh, Vanessa 781 00:44:03,719 --> 00:44:08,480 Speaker 1: just seems so happy over the moon. The happiness was 782 00:44:08,600 --> 00:44:11,440 Speaker 1: jumping through the phone that I couldn't pass through her 783 00:44:11,480 --> 00:44:15,000 Speaker 1: story without writing her, Like I was so compelled by 784 00:44:15,000 --> 00:44:17,920 Speaker 1: it that I wrote her and I said, your happiness 785 00:44:18,000 --> 00:44:20,560 Speaker 1: is contagious, like you just seem so happy. I'm very 786 00:44:20,600 --> 00:44:23,160 Speaker 1: happy for you. And in four hours later she posted 787 00:44:23,200 --> 00:44:25,920 Speaker 1: she was engaged. I said, Vanessa, am I a witch? 788 00:44:26,719 --> 00:44:29,680 Speaker 1: I said, Did I know that this was gonna harun? 789 00:44:30,360 --> 00:44:33,279 Speaker 1: She was like, hello, all things magic. So I hope 790 00:44:33,320 --> 00:44:35,480 Speaker 1: that you are, and if you are, I love that 791 00:44:35,480 --> 00:44:38,960 Speaker 1: any more. No, seriously, but I okay, coming back to 792 00:44:39,040 --> 00:44:40,680 Speaker 1: what I was saying. The reason I said that it 793 00:44:40,719 --> 00:44:43,480 Speaker 1: took that detour with Vanessa and we want to congratulate her, 794 00:44:43,480 --> 00:44:45,280 Speaker 1: and we were so happy for her here on Bachelor 795 00:44:45,280 --> 00:44:49,760 Speaker 1: Happy hour is because I believe her now fiance slid 796 00:44:49,800 --> 00:44:52,720 Speaker 1: in her DMS. Yeah, and that is how they met. 797 00:44:53,200 --> 00:44:56,480 Speaker 1: So Christina, please it sounds like this is this is 798 00:44:56,520 --> 00:45:00,160 Speaker 1: the way you do it. Well, I think it's way 799 00:45:00,200 --> 00:45:02,520 Speaker 1: to kind of filter out too, because like when you 800 00:45:02,520 --> 00:45:05,160 Speaker 1: get messages, have a couple of conversations back and forth 801 00:45:05,200 --> 00:45:07,319 Speaker 1: and it's like not vibing, and it's not like I 802 00:45:07,320 --> 00:45:10,279 Speaker 1: have to keep talking to them, but if there is 803 00:45:10,520 --> 00:45:13,520 Speaker 1: and it's nice, I'll continue on and then it goes 804 00:45:13,520 --> 00:45:16,120 Speaker 1: to the phone number. But I will say I don't 805 00:45:16,120 --> 00:45:20,520 Speaker 1: think there's anything against dating apps at all. I think 806 00:45:20,560 --> 00:45:24,640 Speaker 1: it can really work also, like just in higher quantity. 807 00:45:24,680 --> 00:45:28,560 Speaker 1: But I do personally still believe in traditional like friends 808 00:45:28,640 --> 00:45:32,840 Speaker 1: introducing friends, and especially I think in my circle majority 809 00:45:32,840 --> 00:45:38,160 Speaker 1: of them are in already like relationships that are going 810 00:45:38,200 --> 00:45:40,920 Speaker 1: to go to engagements in marriages, so I trust that 811 00:45:41,360 --> 00:45:44,400 Speaker 1: they will set me up with somebody who is also ready. Yeah. 812 00:45:44,560 --> 00:45:46,960 Speaker 1: I think the ideal way is to be introduced through 813 00:45:47,000 --> 00:45:49,560 Speaker 1: friends you know, or meet it like a friends party someone. 814 00:45:49,719 --> 00:45:53,160 Speaker 1: That's definitely the ideal way. Brian was a frequent dating 815 00:45:53,160 --> 00:45:56,879 Speaker 1: app user prior to me because he worked all day 816 00:45:57,400 --> 00:46:00,480 Speaker 1: so he was always at work and just a clients. 817 00:46:00,480 --> 00:46:02,279 Speaker 1: So the best way for him to meet someone was 818 00:46:02,360 --> 00:46:06,440 Speaker 1: through a dating half. Um. Yeah. Like frequently someone's like 819 00:46:06,480 --> 00:46:09,839 Speaker 1: really and he's like, oh yeah. And there's a fake 820 00:46:09,960 --> 00:46:13,040 Speaker 1: user out there now who pretends to be Brian all 821 00:46:13,040 --> 00:46:15,799 Speaker 1: the time. Because people always write us about it, I 822 00:46:15,920 --> 00:46:19,560 Speaker 1: have to ask you this, Christina, Oh dear, who is 823 00:46:19,600 --> 00:46:27,279 Speaker 1: the most exciting person to slide into your DMS? Huh huh? 824 00:46:29,040 --> 00:46:34,480 Speaker 1: I know. No, there have been some good ones, there's 825 00:46:34,560 --> 00:46:36,880 Speaker 1: real Yeah, there's been a couple, but it's just like 826 00:46:37,040 --> 00:46:43,000 Speaker 1: it tested out you, Um, no names, no names? Okay, 827 00:46:43,120 --> 00:46:47,360 Speaker 1: did they if they had one hand in their pocket? 828 00:46:48,680 --> 00:46:53,240 Speaker 1: Would the other one be dribbling a ball, throwing throwing 829 00:46:53,280 --> 00:47:01,560 Speaker 1: a ball or singing a song? Um or acting? There's 830 00:47:02,600 --> 00:47:10,160 Speaker 1: tells on herself or thank you or um? Yeah, I 831 00:47:10,160 --> 00:47:16,080 Speaker 1: mean all of them solved. Chris Data's d ams are popping. 832 00:47:16,480 --> 00:47:22,719 Speaker 1: You heard it here. First we'll have another conversation because yeah, 833 00:47:22,719 --> 00:47:24,799 Speaker 1: I only know a couple of people, and I got 834 00:47:24,840 --> 00:47:27,880 Speaker 1: to know more. Okay, they'll just make me nervous a 835 00:47:27,920 --> 00:47:30,440 Speaker 1: little bit, like if I am looking for something more stable. 836 00:47:30,640 --> 00:47:35,640 Speaker 1: It's sometimes at leastes are not known to have the 837 00:47:35,640 --> 00:47:40,720 Speaker 1: best reputation, So they're not. That was definitely a twenties 838 00:47:40,800 --> 00:47:43,840 Speaker 1: period for me, and they're not. I remember I specifically 839 00:47:43,920 --> 00:47:47,200 Speaker 1: said on the Bachelorette, do not give me any athletes, 840 00:47:47,320 --> 00:47:50,399 Speaker 1: and they gave me Kenny, a wrestler, and I was like, okay, 841 00:47:50,400 --> 00:47:52,800 Speaker 1: I can take a wrestler. Yeah, I didn't want Yeah, 842 00:47:52,840 --> 00:47:56,360 Speaker 1: I didn't any any of the others. Um, okay, so 843 00:47:56,440 --> 00:47:59,400 Speaker 1: you heard it there. For whoever had that question, try 844 00:47:59,480 --> 00:48:02,120 Speaker 1: the DM as well. It seems to work. Our girl 845 00:48:02,239 --> 00:48:05,799 Speaker 1: Vanessa just got engaged. And I feel like there's somebody else. Um, 846 00:48:06,040 --> 00:48:10,280 Speaker 1: dich Nick, Jonas and Preanca didn't didn't somebody s somebody's 847 00:48:10,400 --> 00:48:14,040 Speaker 1: dmc guys, this is the way to go. Okay, I 848 00:48:14,080 --> 00:48:16,839 Speaker 1: can't guarantee you your dms will be as popping as Christina's, 849 00:48:16,880 --> 00:48:21,160 Speaker 1: but they still might pop. They're not. I cannot wait 850 00:48:21,239 --> 00:48:25,960 Speaker 1: for this conversation. Okay, how do you navigate first dates 851 00:48:26,120 --> 00:48:31,239 Speaker 1: while social distancing? This is a very relevant question. How 852 00:48:31,280 --> 00:48:34,680 Speaker 1: do you I do a hike? I mean, hikes are 853 00:48:34,719 --> 00:48:38,759 Speaker 1: super easy. Oh that's so wait is that? I'm sorry? 854 00:48:39,400 --> 00:48:41,480 Speaker 1: Did the other day you post a picture of a 855 00:48:41,520 --> 00:48:44,600 Speaker 1: shadow of a man on a hike? That's just a friend. 856 00:48:45,080 --> 00:48:48,400 Speaker 1: Everyone that's a friend. Did Yeah, I did. Yes. I 857 00:48:48,480 --> 00:48:51,680 Speaker 1: was like not to ask, like what kind of friend 858 00:48:51,719 --> 00:48:56,640 Speaker 1: is Rachel? She's over because I need to ask you that. 859 00:48:56,760 --> 00:48:58,799 Speaker 1: I mean to dmu when I saw that, Okay, so 860 00:48:58,840 --> 00:49:01,600 Speaker 1: I do what I was like, fact what I was 861 00:49:01,719 --> 00:49:07,319 Speaker 1: getting into before. So it's like, I mean, I felt 862 00:49:07,320 --> 00:49:09,360 Speaker 1: like it was an attractive shadow. I don't know, it 863 00:49:09,440 --> 00:49:12,880 Speaker 1: looked looked attractive. I think there's so many people also, 864 00:49:12,960 --> 00:49:16,080 Speaker 1: like I think I probably never meet anyone. It's just 865 00:49:16,120 --> 00:49:18,479 Speaker 1: I like to date in private. It's not everyone. I'm Danny. 866 00:49:18,560 --> 00:49:20,960 Speaker 1: I'm going to vote on my social media. That's just weird, 867 00:49:21,360 --> 00:49:23,600 Speaker 1: not even like three four months and so like, give 868 00:49:23,640 --> 00:49:27,319 Speaker 1: it time. I just wanted to smart girl. Okay, yeah, 869 00:49:27,400 --> 00:49:32,120 Speaker 1: that's a great idea. Walks hikes pretty easy, right, I 870 00:49:32,120 --> 00:49:33,960 Speaker 1: think just you get to I mean, you can sit 871 00:49:33,960 --> 00:49:36,560 Speaker 1: down and get a coffee. Honestly a little bit apart, 872 00:49:37,080 --> 00:49:43,040 Speaker 1: but there's nothing wrong with doing something that's physically musn't. 873 00:49:43,719 --> 00:49:46,120 Speaker 1: Hikes is great. Pis is actually a really great Like 874 00:49:46,280 --> 00:49:47,680 Speaker 1: I feel like Brian and I should go on a 875 00:49:47,719 --> 00:49:52,400 Speaker 1: hiking date that's actually really hike sunset to make it 876 00:49:52,440 --> 00:49:54,879 Speaker 1: a little bit more romantic or during the day, it's 877 00:49:54,960 --> 00:50:00,680 Speaker 1: whatever float about. I really liked that idea. That's great advice. Okay, 878 00:50:00,920 --> 00:50:04,440 Speaker 1: during COVID is it okay to kiss on the first day? 879 00:50:05,760 --> 00:50:07,600 Speaker 1: I don't even do that on the regular like the 880 00:50:07,640 --> 00:50:11,759 Speaker 1: first date to be deal with? Not really, I guess 881 00:50:11,800 --> 00:50:17,680 Speaker 1: I'm such a kisser. Um, okay, how long? But then 882 00:50:17,719 --> 00:50:19,759 Speaker 1: how many dates? How many dates do you wait till 883 00:50:19,800 --> 00:50:22,799 Speaker 1: after they get a COVID test? And then how do 884 00:50:22,800 --> 00:50:24,319 Speaker 1: you what? How do you know? Do you do you 885 00:50:24,320 --> 00:50:27,760 Speaker 1: show them the results? It's almost like being intimate with someone. 886 00:50:28,080 --> 00:50:32,120 Speaker 1: You technically don't ask people, um, have you been tested? 887 00:50:32,400 --> 00:50:34,600 Speaker 1: And even if you do ask, you're taking their word 888 00:50:34,640 --> 00:50:36,920 Speaker 1: for it. You know, you don't necessarily say pull out 889 00:50:36,960 --> 00:50:38,839 Speaker 1: the test. Oh my gosh, I'm just realizing this. This 890 00:50:38,880 --> 00:50:41,359 Speaker 1: is this is important you guys. Also goes for being 891 00:50:41,680 --> 00:50:45,439 Speaker 1: intimate with your partner. So what do you do? I think, 892 00:50:45,880 --> 00:50:48,760 Speaker 1: I like, I need to see those papers? Where where's 893 00:50:48,800 --> 00:50:52,160 Speaker 1: your where are your COVID papers? And they can like 894 00:50:52,440 --> 00:50:57,240 Speaker 1: I guess it's like you're supposed to trust them to say, 895 00:50:57,520 --> 00:51:00,719 Speaker 1: tell the truth, but then you're like, show me the papers. Yeah, Like, 896 00:51:00,880 --> 00:51:04,319 Speaker 1: I don't know you it's it's it's the first day 897 00:51:04,680 --> 00:51:08,000 Speaker 1: the second day, right, So this is what I'm telling you, 898 00:51:08,040 --> 00:51:09,799 Speaker 1: like maybe going a couple of days, get to know 899 00:51:09,840 --> 00:51:13,359 Speaker 1: each other. So that was like, uh, yeah, I truse 900 00:51:13,440 --> 00:51:17,479 Speaker 1: this person. So yeah, and then if the problem with it, 901 00:51:17,760 --> 00:51:21,240 Speaker 1: if they yeah, I kiss them. That's still close, Like yeah, 902 00:51:21,280 --> 00:51:26,160 Speaker 1: like forehead, here, my forearm, kiss me on my forearm, 903 00:51:28,760 --> 00:51:30,880 Speaker 1: I feel like. And if the person has a problem 904 00:51:30,920 --> 00:51:32,319 Speaker 1: with it, then you know that that's not the person 905 00:51:32,360 --> 00:51:34,000 Speaker 1: you want to deal with. Okay, So so you got 906 00:51:34,000 --> 00:51:37,000 Speaker 1: a problem with with being responsible with COVID. Okay, you're 907 00:51:37,000 --> 00:51:39,719 Speaker 1: not my type anyway. Thank you, Thank you, you're one 908 00:51:39,719 --> 00:51:44,759 Speaker 1: of those. Next question, is it I think we knows 909 00:51:44,920 --> 00:51:47,560 Speaker 1: it's it's not okay? Yeah? Is it okay? Not? Not? 910 00:51:47,560 --> 00:51:51,640 Speaker 1: Not without dating? So keep your papers in your pocket. Um, 911 00:51:51,960 --> 00:51:53,800 Speaker 1: you can get yours to whip it out on the 912 00:51:53,840 --> 00:51:59,160 Speaker 1: spot and see your favorites. Is it necessary to tell 913 00:51:59,200 --> 00:52:03,000 Speaker 1: a guy that you are a version right away? No? 914 00:52:03,000 --> 00:52:06,319 Speaker 1: None of his business right away. No, look at your 915 00:52:06,440 --> 00:52:14,000 Speaker 1: thing again. I cannot emphasize this enough. It's just get 916 00:52:14,040 --> 00:52:15,560 Speaker 1: to know the person. I feel like I was in 917 00:52:15,560 --> 00:52:18,120 Speaker 1: a position speaking from personal experience, and now like I'm 918 00:52:18,160 --> 00:52:19,799 Speaker 1: coming to a point where I'm realizing like they don't 919 00:52:19,800 --> 00:52:22,200 Speaker 1: have to know everything off the bad like lift some mystery, 920 00:52:22,280 --> 00:52:25,080 Speaker 1: get to know each other and it's sometimes it's you 921 00:52:25,200 --> 00:52:27,560 Speaker 1: in thus three four days and it just not there. 922 00:52:27,560 --> 00:52:29,800 Speaker 1: It doesn't work. The excitement was there in the beginning, 923 00:52:29,960 --> 00:52:31,680 Speaker 1: so you think that's slightly they want, but it's not. 924 00:52:31,880 --> 00:52:36,719 Speaker 1: Just yeah, just get to know them a lot of it, right, 925 00:52:37,880 --> 00:52:40,440 Speaker 1: don't tell all your business, all right, don't tell all 926 00:52:40,480 --> 00:52:42,160 Speaker 1: your business on the first day. You don't need to 927 00:52:42,320 --> 00:52:45,160 Speaker 1: lead with the fact that you're a version. That's that's 928 00:52:45,239 --> 00:52:49,920 Speaker 1: to me, that's something that's very personal because usually people 929 00:52:49,960 --> 00:52:53,560 Speaker 1: are versions for a reason, and it's a personal reason, 930 00:52:53,880 --> 00:52:56,839 Speaker 1: whatever your journey, whether it be religious, whether it be 931 00:52:57,040 --> 00:52:59,959 Speaker 1: you know, for health reasons, whether it just be something 932 00:53:00,160 --> 00:53:02,920 Speaker 1: a personal decision that you have decided to make. So 933 00:53:03,239 --> 00:53:05,919 Speaker 1: I don't think that you need to just give all 934 00:53:05,960 --> 00:53:10,080 Speaker 1: that information away right away. Right. This isn't The Bachelor, 935 00:53:10,480 --> 00:53:15,080 Speaker 1: This isn't like first day, second day, which I still personally, 936 00:53:15,120 --> 00:53:17,759 Speaker 1: if you want me to be honest, don't think that 937 00:53:17,760 --> 00:53:20,080 Speaker 1: that is something that needs to be shared. That shouldn't 938 00:53:20,080 --> 00:53:21,680 Speaker 1: be your story and it shouldn't define you. And that 939 00:53:21,680 --> 00:53:23,920 Speaker 1: hasn't just happened to one person. It's happened to multiple people. 940 00:53:24,160 --> 00:53:26,000 Speaker 1: Why do you want to be defined as the virgin 941 00:53:26,400 --> 00:53:29,879 Speaker 1: or the person who's never been kissed or something like that, 942 00:53:29,960 --> 00:53:32,040 Speaker 1: Like isn't there more to you? Like I just if 943 00:53:32,040 --> 00:53:34,040 Speaker 1: you know that there's going to be a storyline attached 944 00:53:34,080 --> 00:53:36,800 Speaker 1: to you, why would you want to lead with the virgin? 945 00:53:37,120 --> 00:53:39,360 Speaker 1: It's like a hard thing to shake, you know what 946 00:53:39,400 --> 00:53:43,280 Speaker 1: I mean? It's hard? Yeah, Like, keep keep some things 947 00:53:43,320 --> 00:53:48,040 Speaker 1: to yourself. Stop telling everybody everything. You know something sacred. 948 00:53:48,120 --> 00:53:50,279 Speaker 1: Your virginity is sacred there, you know what I mean? 949 00:53:50,320 --> 00:53:52,800 Speaker 1: Like you kept it this long? Whyt's you keep it 950 00:53:52,840 --> 00:53:56,040 Speaker 1: as a secret as well? Not a secret, but just 951 00:53:56,160 --> 00:53:59,719 Speaker 1: not right away? And also like all right when they 952 00:53:59,840 --> 00:54:02,279 Speaker 1: got through the time if there's some involved, and be 953 00:54:02,320 --> 00:54:04,000 Speaker 1: a little bit transparent, like okay, I'm not ready for 954 00:54:04,000 --> 00:54:06,879 Speaker 1: the best for the end if there's move but still 955 00:54:06,880 --> 00:54:10,719 Speaker 1: you don't have to say like exactly why you're not ready? Right? Right? 956 00:54:10,719 --> 00:54:12,640 Speaker 1: And I'm not telling you to not be proud of it. 957 00:54:12,640 --> 00:54:18,200 Speaker 1: It's just like right, you don't have to lead with it. Um, okay, 958 00:54:18,360 --> 00:54:22,880 Speaker 1: expect What are the best questions to ask on a 959 00:54:22,960 --> 00:54:31,520 Speaker 1: first date? Are you a virgin? Wow? No, that's that's 960 00:54:31,560 --> 00:54:34,480 Speaker 1: that's awful. Anybody who says that you on the first 961 00:54:34,520 --> 00:54:37,800 Speaker 1: day just get up and walk out. Don't say another 962 00:54:37,840 --> 00:54:42,000 Speaker 1: word after that. Right, the best questions to ask our 963 00:54:42,080 --> 00:54:47,640 Speaker 1: first day, I think, what's your credit score? Okay, not 964 00:54:47,719 --> 00:54:53,000 Speaker 1: on the first date, I'm good. Where are your papers? 965 00:54:53,320 --> 00:54:58,640 Speaker 1: Where are the papers for the papers? No, I would 966 00:54:58,680 --> 00:55:02,040 Speaker 1: say first day. There's so much you can ask on 967 00:55:02,080 --> 00:55:04,160 Speaker 1: a first date. Because this is why I love them 968 00:55:04,200 --> 00:55:08,080 Speaker 1: so much exactly. I feel like this is more your thing. Yeah, 969 00:55:08,080 --> 00:55:10,360 Speaker 1: like you, there's so much to explore. You don't know 970 00:55:10,440 --> 00:55:12,960 Speaker 1: anything about this person unless you were set up, but 971 00:55:13,040 --> 00:55:14,759 Speaker 1: still you only know what someone else has told you. 972 00:55:15,000 --> 00:55:18,000 Speaker 1: So this person is a blank slate and you get 973 00:55:18,000 --> 00:55:21,239 Speaker 1: to I don't know color in that slate based on 974 00:55:21,280 --> 00:55:23,360 Speaker 1: the questions that you ask and how they answer it. 975 00:55:23,400 --> 00:55:25,279 Speaker 1: That's how I look at it. So I just like, 976 00:55:25,640 --> 00:55:31,200 Speaker 1: it's just so exciting to me today, do you miss No, 977 00:55:31,280 --> 00:55:36,760 Speaker 1: I don't. I happy to not be in the wilderness anymore. 978 00:55:36,960 --> 00:55:39,239 Speaker 1: But that is how I look at it, and I 979 00:55:39,239 --> 00:55:41,960 Speaker 1: think that that's a positive, exciting way to go into it. 980 00:55:42,360 --> 00:55:44,960 Speaker 1: So the first questions I guess or best questions to 981 00:55:45,040 --> 00:55:48,080 Speaker 1: ask are I want to know what makes this person 982 00:55:48,160 --> 00:55:52,279 Speaker 1: tick and you can go like their questions to ask 983 00:55:52,320 --> 00:55:55,160 Speaker 1: it are too deep with that, But I would just say, 984 00:55:55,160 --> 00:55:58,600 Speaker 1: like what do you like to do for fun? Rather 985 00:55:58,640 --> 00:56:01,759 Speaker 1: than where do you work? Because that can be a 986 00:56:01,800 --> 00:56:04,279 Speaker 1: turnoff question because people might think that you're just into 987 00:56:04,320 --> 00:56:06,759 Speaker 1: what type of job they have or their status, Like 988 00:56:06,840 --> 00:56:09,360 Speaker 1: what do you do for five what puts a smile 989 00:56:09,480 --> 00:56:13,040 Speaker 1: on your face? What are your hobbies? Um? I even 990 00:56:13,120 --> 00:56:16,280 Speaker 1: like to ask where you're from, because you know, depending 991 00:56:16,280 --> 00:56:18,960 Speaker 1: on where people are from, there's certain things that you 992 00:56:19,000 --> 00:56:21,359 Speaker 1: can ask about that, Like I try to connect with 993 00:56:21,400 --> 00:56:23,719 Speaker 1: you based on some of the things that you're telling me, 994 00:56:23,760 --> 00:56:28,000 Speaker 1: your interests, where you're from, what you like to do? Um? Yeah, 995 00:56:28,040 --> 00:56:33,040 Speaker 1: to me, those are the best, not like interview style questions. Yeah, 996 00:56:34,360 --> 00:56:36,919 Speaker 1: where do you see yourself in five years? I don't 997 00:56:36,960 --> 00:56:39,719 Speaker 1: know where I see myself tomorrow. Please don't ask me 998 00:56:39,880 --> 00:56:45,120 Speaker 1: that question. To I like to ask questions maybe something 999 00:56:45,120 --> 00:56:49,279 Speaker 1: to do with travel, too, because that kind of sets them. 1000 00:56:49,320 --> 00:56:52,520 Speaker 1: I guess mine to like exciting, something to look forward to, 1001 00:56:52,840 --> 00:56:55,200 Speaker 1: where you want to go do something like uplift thing. 1002 00:56:55,360 --> 00:56:57,960 Speaker 1: If you ask somebody about a job like you mentioned, 1003 00:56:57,960 --> 00:57:01,440 Speaker 1: maybe it's the status, maybe whatever it is. But sometimes 1004 00:57:01,480 --> 00:57:04,080 Speaker 1: if they don't have a good they don't like their job, 1005 00:57:04,400 --> 00:57:06,319 Speaker 1: it puts them in a mindset of like, oh I 1006 00:57:06,360 --> 00:57:08,759 Speaker 1: gotta talk about my job. So that kind of stammers 1007 00:57:08,800 --> 00:57:11,360 Speaker 1: are on a day too. But like get the lighthearted 1008 00:57:11,840 --> 00:57:16,720 Speaker 1: think of uplifting questions more so. I yeah, no, you're 1009 00:57:16,720 --> 00:57:19,240 Speaker 1: absolutely right now, I love to travel one that's too. 1010 00:57:19,320 --> 00:57:21,720 Speaker 1: And then if they're not traveled, then the question like 1011 00:57:21,760 --> 00:57:24,479 Speaker 1: while traveling, would you want to go anywhere? Yeah? Where 1012 00:57:24,520 --> 00:57:27,560 Speaker 1: would you go? Like I I just think that that's 1013 00:57:27,600 --> 00:57:30,200 Speaker 1: actually probably the best question because I think it'll say 1014 00:57:30,200 --> 00:57:32,360 Speaker 1: a lot because then there's a lot of follow up questions, right, 1015 00:57:32,400 --> 00:57:34,760 Speaker 1: I want to ask them there's a lawyer me. You 1016 00:57:34,800 --> 00:57:38,880 Speaker 1: want to ask open ended questions that they can't say 1017 00:57:38,960 --> 00:57:42,120 Speaker 1: yes or no too. It's they have to, you know, 1018 00:57:42,280 --> 00:57:45,400 Speaker 1: elaborate on what it is that you're asking, and then 1019 00:57:45,400 --> 00:57:48,000 Speaker 1: you can fault why that place? You know, what would 1020 00:57:48,000 --> 00:57:51,840 Speaker 1: you do there? But yeah, there's just so much. Sometimes 1021 00:57:51,840 --> 00:57:55,360 Speaker 1: it could read too like samorary ties and like oh 1022 00:57:55,480 --> 00:57:58,920 Speaker 1: my yeah, soul made it. Follow up questions open it? Yeah, 1023 00:57:59,040 --> 00:58:05,200 Speaker 1: absolutely completely. This is a top question. What is a 1024 00:58:05,280 --> 00:58:09,880 Speaker 1: good outfit for a first day? I love it? Oh, 1025 00:58:09,960 --> 00:58:13,920 Speaker 1: I love all means what go ahead? What's a good outfit? 1026 00:58:14,760 --> 00:58:18,400 Speaker 1: I personally like, I guess it depends again, if you're 1027 00:58:18,400 --> 00:58:20,840 Speaker 1: doing dinner, are you doing drinks? Are you going doing coffee? 1028 00:58:20,840 --> 00:58:24,680 Speaker 1: But my basic one has been like it's either I'm 1029 00:58:24,680 --> 00:58:29,000 Speaker 1: like literally looking at my clothing rack right now, it's 1030 00:58:29,000 --> 00:58:31,840 Speaker 1: how fancy the restaurant is. If it's like somewhat cute, casual, 1031 00:58:32,160 --> 00:58:35,720 Speaker 1: I will say a black pair of jeans pants I 1032 00:58:35,760 --> 00:58:39,840 Speaker 1: always wear heels like swimming swimming, and maybe look at 1033 00:58:39,840 --> 00:58:43,080 Speaker 1: basic talk cute. If you want to show a little 1034 00:58:43,080 --> 00:58:45,440 Speaker 1: bit of your personality and that you're GIRLI maybe like 1035 00:58:45,520 --> 00:58:48,720 Speaker 1: a blouse that has maybe a small print flowers on it, 1036 00:58:49,120 --> 00:58:53,120 Speaker 1: don't I shouldn't say going like in the past, also 1037 00:58:53,200 --> 00:58:56,840 Speaker 1: personal experience, I've worn very basic tops but they were 1038 00:58:56,840 --> 00:58:58,480 Speaker 1: a little bit lower cut, and I think it's sent 1039 00:58:58,560 --> 00:59:02,320 Speaker 1: the wrong message. Okay, which I'm like, I'm still looking 1040 00:59:02,440 --> 00:59:04,960 Speaker 1: pretty like she cute, but like the one we're top, 1041 00:59:04,960 --> 00:59:07,200 Speaker 1: I think it was just not that I have much 1042 00:59:07,200 --> 00:59:10,520 Speaker 1: to show you guys, but it's still kind of I 1043 00:59:10,640 --> 00:59:15,760 Speaker 1: think pretty their own seed. But anyway, yeah, pretty basic, um, 1044 00:59:15,800 --> 00:59:18,440 Speaker 1: not too much. But it's like you having dinner, but 1045 00:59:18,520 --> 00:59:21,320 Speaker 1: maybe you'll be able to go to a bar afterwards 1046 00:59:21,320 --> 00:59:23,720 Speaker 1: for another drink. Swingers, So it's like you want to 1047 00:59:23,840 --> 00:59:27,040 Speaker 1: dress to almost like be able to do anything very 1048 00:59:27,040 --> 00:59:30,400 Speaker 1: good at guys, you can't go wrong with black chains, right, 1049 00:59:30,440 --> 00:59:36,280 Speaker 1: They're slimming, it's sleek. They go with everything into heels, yeah, 1050 00:59:36,440 --> 00:59:40,000 Speaker 1: and heels on I or I would even like the 1051 00:59:40,080 --> 00:59:44,360 Speaker 1: high lows, like okay, maybe you wear a skirt, not 1052 00:59:44,440 --> 00:59:48,160 Speaker 1: too sure, but then a more a top that isn't 1053 00:59:48,160 --> 00:59:50,160 Speaker 1: low cut, so it's like a high eno like oh 1054 00:59:50,160 --> 00:59:52,840 Speaker 1: I'm showing legs, but then I'm not giving you the 1055 00:59:53,000 --> 00:59:56,400 Speaker 1: chest um. I like. I like the black jeans though, 1056 00:59:56,440 --> 01:00:01,440 Speaker 1: that's a really good staple. Yeah, everybody looks good in 1057 01:00:01,560 --> 01:00:06,000 Speaker 1: black chains. And also maybe a little bit like more 1058 01:00:06,120 --> 01:00:10,040 Speaker 1: natural and not come I'm I know, I'm like stumbling 1059 01:00:10,080 --> 01:00:12,480 Speaker 1: over my words just because I've had the trial and 1060 01:00:12,680 --> 01:00:16,320 Speaker 1: eron many times and going a little bit more natural 1061 01:00:16,440 --> 01:00:18,000 Speaker 1: so that way the next time they see you and 1062 01:00:18,040 --> 01:00:20,040 Speaker 1: you doll up a little bit more, they'll be like, 1063 01:00:20,040 --> 01:00:24,240 Speaker 1: oh wow, like that's smart. I know. First impressions are 1064 01:00:24,560 --> 01:00:27,520 Speaker 1: everything and whatnot, so like make an impression with your 1065 01:00:28,960 --> 01:00:32,440 Speaker 1: personality whatnot draw them in and then sure, why I'm 1066 01:00:32,720 --> 01:00:37,280 Speaker 1: banging on the second ding great advice Christina smoking like 1067 01:00:37,320 --> 01:00:40,720 Speaker 1: a true expert in the beginning of dating. How can 1068 01:00:40,760 --> 01:00:42,360 Speaker 1: you tell if a man wants to be with you 1069 01:00:42,480 --> 01:00:48,040 Speaker 1: long term? What are some of the signs? None? Really sorry, 1070 01:00:48,080 --> 01:00:53,840 Speaker 1: this is like correct you just you. I mean you 1071 01:00:53,880 --> 01:00:57,400 Speaker 1: either feel it or they feeling so guys again, personal experiences. 1072 01:00:57,440 --> 01:00:59,520 Speaker 1: That's why I'm able to give the advice. So hopefully 1073 01:00:59,560 --> 01:01:02,760 Speaker 1: that help. Um, they can be really into you, but 1074 01:01:02,880 --> 01:01:06,600 Speaker 1: they're putting on the front. So just like you think, 1075 01:01:06,600 --> 01:01:08,200 Speaker 1: oh my gosh, yes they weren't to be with me, 1076 01:01:08,240 --> 01:01:11,880 Speaker 1: they're asking all these questions and then afterwards that will 1077 01:01:11,960 --> 01:01:15,320 Speaker 1: even or even during your day, they'll almost like plan 1078 01:01:15,520 --> 01:01:18,120 Speaker 1: into a head like all next time, or let's go hiking, 1079 01:01:18,200 --> 01:01:20,680 Speaker 1: or next time, let's check out this bar, and you're thinking, oh, 1080 01:01:20,720 --> 01:01:22,240 Speaker 1: there weren't to be with me lung term, but they 1081 01:01:22,320 --> 01:01:26,760 Speaker 1: never follow up. So it happens. Just be president in 1082 01:01:26,800 --> 01:01:33,480 Speaker 1: the moment and don't find a don't project into the 1083 01:01:33,480 --> 01:01:35,920 Speaker 1: future like all next time we're doing this, take the 1084 01:01:36,000 --> 01:01:38,520 Speaker 1: moment as it is and enjoy it. And if there's 1085 01:01:38,520 --> 01:01:43,600 Speaker 1: a follow up, you're right, you are so right. You 1086 01:01:43,680 --> 01:01:46,840 Speaker 1: don't know. You don't know, because the men will tell 1087 01:01:46,880 --> 01:01:49,960 Speaker 1: you what you want to hear. Women to women to 1088 01:01:50,160 --> 01:01:52,680 Speaker 1: men lie, women lie. It goes both ways. I don't 1089 01:01:52,720 --> 01:01:57,160 Speaker 1: want to stereotype. Um, it's it's hard to tell if 1090 01:01:57,200 --> 01:02:01,400 Speaker 1: you're dating someone and and you know, if they want 1091 01:02:01,400 --> 01:02:03,880 Speaker 1: to be with you long term, I would say more so, 1092 01:02:04,040 --> 01:02:07,960 Speaker 1: pay attention to what he doesn't do you know that 1093 01:02:08,040 --> 01:02:10,880 Speaker 1: will give you signs that he's just not that into you. 1094 01:02:11,800 --> 01:02:15,080 Speaker 1: It shouldn't be that difficult. You shouldn't be forcing him 1095 01:02:15,120 --> 01:02:18,360 Speaker 1: to spend time with you or to contact you. Men 1096 01:02:18,440 --> 01:02:21,480 Speaker 1: are very simple. If they want to hit you up 1097 01:02:21,520 --> 01:02:25,000 Speaker 1: and contact you, they will. Period. If you're having to 1098 01:02:25,040 --> 01:02:28,640 Speaker 1: ask or you're wandering, they're probably not that into you. Also, 1099 01:02:29,120 --> 01:02:31,400 Speaker 1: if they want to date you privately and they don't 1100 01:02:31,440 --> 01:02:34,680 Speaker 1: want to bring you around their friends, or they just 1101 01:02:34,720 --> 01:02:36,920 Speaker 1: want to give it at home, those are signs that 1102 01:02:36,960 --> 01:02:40,200 Speaker 1: it's not long term. You are for now, you are 1103 01:02:40,280 --> 01:02:43,000 Speaker 1: for a private I think it's more paying attention to 1104 01:02:43,080 --> 01:02:46,840 Speaker 1: what they're not telling you than what they are, because honestly, 1105 01:02:47,000 --> 01:02:49,880 Speaker 1: as women, we try to make excuses and we try 1106 01:02:49,880 --> 01:02:52,280 Speaker 1: to say, oh, he's just busy, Oh he had to work. 1107 01:02:52,360 --> 01:02:55,440 Speaker 1: Oh no, oh he's just not that into you. Period. 1108 01:02:55,520 --> 01:02:58,880 Speaker 1: It's very very simple with men, Stop making excuses for them, 1109 01:02:59,080 --> 01:03:01,760 Speaker 1: stop trying to figure the figure it out. I promise 1110 01:03:01,800 --> 01:03:04,480 Speaker 1: you if you read the writing on the wall, it 1111 01:03:04,560 --> 01:03:08,760 Speaker 1: will tell you exactly what you need to know. Make 1112 01:03:08,760 --> 01:03:11,920 Speaker 1: sure they're consistent with their awards and actions, and usually 1113 01:03:11,960 --> 01:03:16,400 Speaker 1: actions do speak louder than words. That's we all know. 1114 01:03:17,640 --> 01:03:23,720 Speaker 1: I promise exactly. No, no, very very true. Here's another question. 1115 01:03:23,880 --> 01:03:26,200 Speaker 1: If you're just getting to know someone, how do you 1116 01:03:26,240 --> 01:03:35,360 Speaker 1: address an issue best without starting an argument? What's the issue? Well, 1117 01:03:35,360 --> 01:03:38,280 Speaker 1: that's true, okay, so that look communication right like right, 1118 01:03:38,440 --> 01:03:41,640 Speaker 1: like figuring out what the issue is. I would say. 1119 01:03:41,760 --> 01:03:44,520 Speaker 1: What not to do is say I'll tell you what 1120 01:03:44,520 --> 01:03:46,720 Speaker 1: i'd like to do, I need to talk to you, 1121 01:03:47,400 --> 01:03:48,720 Speaker 1: or I got something, you know what I mean? Like 1122 01:03:48,840 --> 01:03:51,960 Speaker 1: you already put the person on edge like they're trying 1123 01:03:51,960 --> 01:03:54,920 Speaker 1: to figure out what they did. It's just a little tense. 1124 01:03:55,640 --> 01:03:58,440 Speaker 1: Just I think the best way to address an issue 1125 01:03:58,720 --> 01:04:01,440 Speaker 1: without starting an argument is just to address it head on. 1126 01:04:02,000 --> 01:04:06,400 Speaker 1: Don't beat around the bush, don't try to catch them 1127 01:04:06,440 --> 01:04:10,680 Speaker 1: in anything. Just address the issue, like, hey, it really 1128 01:04:10,720 --> 01:04:14,200 Speaker 1: bothered me when you know you didn't you didn't write 1129 01:04:14,240 --> 01:04:16,040 Speaker 1: me back the other day or whatever it is, or 1130 01:04:16,040 --> 01:04:18,800 Speaker 1: it really bothered me when you said this, and let 1131 01:04:18,800 --> 01:04:20,840 Speaker 1: me tell you why it bothered me. Be in a 1132 01:04:20,920 --> 01:04:24,240 Speaker 1: calm voice. Don't interrupt the person while they're doing something, 1133 01:04:24,240 --> 01:04:29,440 Speaker 1: while they're busy. But I personally hate when people are 1134 01:04:29,480 --> 01:04:33,840 Speaker 1: like I got to talk to you about something later 1135 01:04:34,520 --> 01:04:37,920 Speaker 1: or you know what I mean, like that type of thing, 1136 01:04:37,920 --> 01:04:39,960 Speaker 1: because then I'm like, well, just tell me what did 1137 01:04:40,000 --> 01:04:42,320 Speaker 1: I do? You know? Don't make me stew don't make 1138 01:04:42,360 --> 01:04:45,720 Speaker 1: me wonder all day. I get to the point. I 1139 01:04:45,760 --> 01:04:50,840 Speaker 1: also would almost suggest whenever there is an issue, focus 1140 01:04:50,880 --> 01:04:55,680 Speaker 1: more on from your perspective, like I feel this way, 1141 01:04:56,080 --> 01:04:58,760 Speaker 1: I perceived it this way, instead of like, oh you 1142 01:04:58,880 --> 01:05:02,200 Speaker 1: did this because and it comes off like aggressive and 1143 01:05:02,480 --> 01:05:05,320 Speaker 1: like it's all on them all the way, on them 1144 01:05:05,320 --> 01:05:07,760 Speaker 1: and whatnot. Just focus on you and because they'll end 1145 01:05:07,800 --> 01:05:10,720 Speaker 1: up respecting you more for sharing your feelings and being vulnerable, 1146 01:05:10,760 --> 01:05:14,880 Speaker 1: if that makes sense. Very good, very good. No name calling, 1147 01:05:14,960 --> 01:05:17,880 Speaker 1: no curse words. People can't hear you when you do 1148 01:05:17,920 --> 01:05:20,600 Speaker 1: those type of things. Also, tone tone is a thing 1149 01:05:20,640 --> 01:05:23,640 Speaker 1: with me, like I have to like take a couple 1150 01:05:23,640 --> 01:05:27,120 Speaker 1: of deep breaths in and out and say, okay, I 1151 01:05:27,160 --> 01:05:30,000 Speaker 1: feel like we do, but I can't help it. I 1152 01:05:30,080 --> 01:05:34,200 Speaker 1: can't help it, like the Russian the like the sarcasm 1153 01:05:34,240 --> 01:05:38,480 Speaker 1: doesn't translate though it's nothing. So here's a hend written 1154 01:05:38,520 --> 01:05:41,760 Speaker 1: node and then they misinterpreted to so listen, we're not 1155 01:05:41,800 --> 01:05:44,920 Speaker 1: perfectly okay, we're just simply telling you what you should do, 1156 01:05:44,960 --> 01:05:48,680 Speaker 1: not what we actually do. Good, right, you know, as 1157 01:05:48,680 --> 01:05:52,400 Speaker 1: they say, not as I do. That's it. Okay, Okay, 1158 01:05:52,440 --> 01:05:56,160 Speaker 1: here's a good one. What are some good what are 1159 01:05:56,200 --> 01:06:00,320 Speaker 1: some go two ways to flirt via text and in person? 1160 01:06:02,480 --> 01:06:08,120 Speaker 1: Her emojis are creative for a reason. Oh, emojis, that's alirty? 1161 01:06:08,400 --> 01:06:14,720 Speaker 1: M h. What about this? Sorry? What about gifts or jifts? 1162 01:06:14,920 --> 01:06:19,520 Speaker 1: What do you call them? Gifts or gifts? Oh? God, 1163 01:06:20,320 --> 01:06:23,240 Speaker 1: I just dated myself. What do you do about them? Gifts? 1164 01:06:24,480 --> 01:06:29,000 Speaker 1: A gift? Just I think gifts jeffs can say a 1165 01:06:29,040 --> 01:06:31,880 Speaker 1: lot about a person in their sense of humor. So yes, 1166 01:06:32,120 --> 01:06:34,920 Speaker 1: if you can use them appropriately, you go for it. 1167 01:06:35,720 --> 01:06:39,760 Speaker 1: See this, it's that's almost like cheap flirting. Like back 1168 01:06:39,760 --> 01:06:44,280 Speaker 1: in the day, you didn't have emojis or right jifts 1169 01:06:44,560 --> 01:06:48,000 Speaker 1: as the kids call them, to flirt with people. It 1170 01:06:48,080 --> 01:06:50,320 Speaker 1: was like you had to be creative with your words, 1171 01:06:50,480 --> 01:06:54,200 Speaker 1: you know, or maybe send a picture a tasteful picture, 1172 01:06:54,320 --> 01:06:58,560 Speaker 1: I might add, Okay, not bad um there, yeah, like 1173 01:06:58,680 --> 01:07:02,479 Speaker 1: it's that's your right that I guess emojis are because 1174 01:07:02,520 --> 01:07:05,200 Speaker 1: I guess that is brandon a communicate that way too. Okay, 1175 01:07:05,200 --> 01:07:09,160 Speaker 1: But what about a person there's no picture, there's no emoji. 1176 01:07:09,400 --> 01:07:17,240 Speaker 1: What do you do? I'm not sure, but I think 1177 01:07:17,280 --> 01:07:19,080 Speaker 1: I'm doing something rights on this, but I don't know 1178 01:07:19,120 --> 01:07:23,120 Speaker 1: exactly what I'm doing. Um, I think what I've noticed 1179 01:07:23,320 --> 01:07:26,520 Speaker 1: that may work. Certain things that you can do yourself, 1180 01:07:26,560 --> 01:07:30,400 Speaker 1: and you know, you can let the other your significant 1181 01:07:30,400 --> 01:07:32,320 Speaker 1: other or something feel like they have to do it 1182 01:07:32,360 --> 01:07:35,160 Speaker 1: for you. But that way they feel needed and valued 1183 01:07:35,200 --> 01:07:37,960 Speaker 1: and like wanting. Like if you left the jacket, you 1184 01:07:37,960 --> 01:07:40,400 Speaker 1: can carry your own jacket, but like leave it on purpose, 1185 01:07:40,560 --> 01:07:42,200 Speaker 1: walk away and be like, oh should my jacket? Will 1186 01:07:42,200 --> 01:07:46,479 Speaker 1: be like I'll get it for you. Christie with the game. Yes, 1187 01:07:46,720 --> 01:07:52,080 Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't know like or else. I'm trying 1188 01:07:52,120 --> 01:07:56,440 Speaker 1: to think, um, are you? Are you? I'm a touchy 1189 01:07:56,480 --> 01:07:59,000 Speaker 1: feeling person, so I feel I like think a simple 1190 01:07:59,040 --> 01:08:02,480 Speaker 1: way to flirt is like a soft caress. So if 1191 01:08:02,520 --> 01:08:06,440 Speaker 1: they laugh, like maybe likes put their hand, put your hand, 1192 01:08:06,520 --> 01:08:09,840 Speaker 1: like laugh and touch their you know, chest or shoulder 1193 01:08:10,080 --> 01:08:13,240 Speaker 1: or maybe their legs very very quickly, but just like 1194 01:08:13,840 --> 01:08:16,400 Speaker 1: very engage. It's like a very engaging thing. It's it's 1195 01:08:16,400 --> 01:08:19,760 Speaker 1: almost a little bit endearing and men love that or like, 1196 01:08:19,800 --> 01:08:22,200 Speaker 1: oh she's into me, Oh she thinks I'm funny, you know, 1197 01:08:22,600 --> 01:08:26,519 Speaker 1: even with the eyes like the slight smile lack of 1198 01:08:26,560 --> 01:08:32,559 Speaker 1: a bit of a smile, wasn't and and laugh not cackle? Okay, 1199 01:08:32,720 --> 01:08:35,120 Speaker 1: like don't don't throw your head back, because that's how 1200 01:08:35,120 --> 01:08:40,400 Speaker 1: I don't. Don't throw your head back and that where 1201 01:08:40,439 --> 01:08:43,960 Speaker 1: we're amongst friends here. Don't I laugh like that all 1202 01:08:43,960 --> 01:08:46,280 Speaker 1: the time. It is not cute, it is not sexy. 1203 01:08:46,400 --> 01:08:48,000 Speaker 1: Don't do that just like a little like a like 1204 01:08:48,040 --> 01:08:52,840 Speaker 1: a coy little something little playful. I do agree. I 1205 01:08:52,880 --> 01:08:55,920 Speaker 1: agree with the touching clear, but I was, I guess 1206 01:08:55,960 --> 01:08:58,680 Speaker 1: hesitant to said now during this time, like how much 1207 01:08:58,720 --> 01:09:01,679 Speaker 1: cheching can be done. But they're arts like the back here, 1208 01:09:01,760 --> 01:09:06,040 Speaker 1: the four arm do one of these, I mean very gently, 1209 01:09:06,120 --> 01:09:10,599 Speaker 1: but you don't want to like it's been anyway. Can 1210 01:09:10,680 --> 01:09:14,439 Speaker 1: I tell you what's not cute? Ladies, listen hear me 1211 01:09:14,479 --> 01:09:17,760 Speaker 1: out on this. Do not smile with your tongue in 1212 01:09:17,800 --> 01:09:24,000 Speaker 1: between your teeth. I'm like like they stick their tongue 1213 01:09:24,040 --> 01:09:27,360 Speaker 1: out and like, you know what I'm saying, just go 1214 01:09:27,479 --> 01:09:30,240 Speaker 1: scroll through Instagram and and look at people like they 1215 01:09:30,320 --> 01:09:32,799 Speaker 1: like stick their tongue out and smile through their teeth. 1216 01:09:33,000 --> 01:09:34,519 Speaker 1: I'm not doing a very good job at it. I'm 1217 01:09:34,520 --> 01:09:36,000 Speaker 1: not good at it. And I'm not saying it because 1218 01:09:36,040 --> 01:09:38,360 Speaker 1: I'm not good at it. I just like, I don't 1219 01:09:38,360 --> 01:09:43,160 Speaker 1: think that's cute. I think I don't really think that. 1220 01:09:43,400 --> 01:09:45,200 Speaker 1: I wouldn't really think of a picture right now, and 1221 01:09:45,280 --> 01:09:49,080 Speaker 1: I'm like, I probably did that. It's not cute. It's no, 1222 01:09:49,320 --> 01:09:52,280 Speaker 1: not not like sticking your tongue out and like the 1223 01:09:52,320 --> 01:09:56,080 Speaker 1: pizza and not like the Instagram post. Just like people 1224 01:09:56,160 --> 01:09:58,920 Speaker 1: do that, they do like they stick that they think 1225 01:09:58,960 --> 01:10:02,040 Speaker 1: it's cute. I see it on the Bachelor. I see 1226 01:10:02,040 --> 01:10:06,400 Speaker 1: it on the Bachelorette. I see it's not cute. Right, 1227 01:10:06,520 --> 01:10:11,559 Speaker 1: just smile, just smile blow little yeah teeth or no teeth. 1228 01:10:12,439 --> 01:10:17,400 Speaker 1: That's all. No time, no time hold that learning gosh, 1229 01:10:17,360 --> 01:10:21,160 Speaker 1: I haven't had to flote him so long. I feel like, right, 1230 01:10:21,960 --> 01:10:26,599 Speaker 1: I don't flirt anymore. You flirt with her husband? Can 1231 01:10:26,640 --> 01:10:29,960 Speaker 1: you have her at her husband? Yes? You can? Oh gosh, 1232 01:10:29,960 --> 01:10:33,720 Speaker 1: well that's what I feel bad. I'm like, when this 1233 01:10:33,800 --> 01:10:35,400 Speaker 1: is over, Worth, let me go flirt with Brian. He'll 1234 01:10:35,439 --> 01:10:37,720 Speaker 1: be like, what are you doing, bro, I'm gonna go 1235 01:10:37,800 --> 01:10:44,000 Speaker 1: smile at him with my tongue into bat. Oh you 1236 01:10:44,520 --> 01:10:48,960 Speaker 1: record the reaction, please? Okay? Do you think it's healthy 1237 01:10:49,040 --> 01:10:53,600 Speaker 1: to leave doors open after a breakup? I tend to 1238 01:10:53,720 --> 01:10:56,479 Speaker 1: shut it first to kind of give myself somewhere on 1239 01:10:57,800 --> 01:11:01,720 Speaker 1: the healing time process, and then I'll reopened the door 1240 01:11:01,840 --> 01:11:04,360 Speaker 1: just because, like, I don't want to hold any resentment. 1241 01:11:05,479 --> 01:11:07,960 Speaker 1: Just because things didn't end the way that I anticipated 1242 01:11:08,000 --> 01:11:10,360 Speaker 1: them too doesn't mean that we can be on good terms. 1243 01:11:10,439 --> 01:11:13,839 Speaker 1: But I think it's healthy and in your best interest 1244 01:11:13,920 --> 01:11:16,880 Speaker 1: to close the door first until you stabilize yourself and 1245 01:11:17,160 --> 01:11:20,040 Speaker 1: get to a point where you're okay to reopen it, 1246 01:11:20,160 --> 01:11:23,080 Speaker 1: but don't reopen it with intention to like date again. 1247 01:11:23,160 --> 01:11:26,200 Speaker 1: Just like a friends, do not harbor any that feelings. 1248 01:11:26,280 --> 01:11:29,800 Speaker 1: That's my take a perfect advice. I wouldn't even say 1249 01:11:29,880 --> 01:11:34,120 Speaker 1: anything to it. I will just say from personal experience, 1250 01:11:34,120 --> 01:11:36,000 Speaker 1: like just like telling a story when I got out 1251 01:11:36,000 --> 01:11:40,320 Speaker 1: of like a really long relationship, I would bury my 1252 01:11:40,479 --> 01:11:44,040 Speaker 1: feelings or what I was going through in another relationship, 1253 01:11:44,160 --> 01:11:46,960 Speaker 1: not even in a relationship, just in dating, just to 1254 01:11:47,000 --> 01:11:49,360 Speaker 1: try to feel that void that I lost in a 1255 01:11:49,479 --> 01:11:52,960 Speaker 1: last relationship until it was just too much for me 1256 01:11:53,320 --> 01:11:56,640 Speaker 1: and I was just like losing myself in dating all 1257 01:11:56,680 --> 01:11:59,439 Speaker 1: these people. I wasn't happy because I wasn't dealing with 1258 01:11:59,479 --> 01:12:01,840 Speaker 1: how I ill. So what Christina is saying is so 1259 01:12:02,000 --> 01:12:04,720 Speaker 1: on par You've got to make sure you're okay. You 1260 01:12:04,760 --> 01:12:07,320 Speaker 1: can't be ready for the next person until you're okay yourself, 1261 01:12:08,160 --> 01:12:11,720 Speaker 1: and disguising it by dating other people or partyings. That's 1262 01:12:11,720 --> 01:12:15,640 Speaker 1: what I would do. It's just it's honestly unhealthy for 1263 01:12:15,680 --> 01:12:18,439 Speaker 1: you personally and just unhealthy for the next person that 1264 01:12:19,360 --> 01:12:22,080 Speaker 1: you're trying to be in a relationship with. Last question, 1265 01:12:22,439 --> 01:12:25,960 Speaker 1: and I think this is a good one. How do 1266 01:12:26,000 --> 01:12:30,920 Speaker 1: you put yourself out there more? Oh, it's a question 1267 01:12:30,920 --> 01:12:36,400 Speaker 1: for me. Just eat either one whoever wants to take it. Um. 1268 01:12:36,760 --> 01:12:41,240 Speaker 1: I think what I've I think personally noticed that if 1269 01:12:41,240 --> 01:12:43,639 Speaker 1: you're out going out, whether it's to dinner with your 1270 01:12:43,640 --> 01:12:47,479 Speaker 1: friends or getting drinks, and you're genuinely happy to be 1271 01:12:47,520 --> 01:12:51,040 Speaker 1: in the setting with all your girlfriends and whatnot, or 1272 01:12:51,320 --> 01:12:54,920 Speaker 1: just your friends, somebody who is interested and is also 1273 01:12:55,000 --> 01:12:57,599 Speaker 1: I was kind of looking they'll notice you shine and 1274 01:12:57,640 --> 01:13:01,599 Speaker 1: they'll I think they'll gravitate towards you, so a little 1275 01:13:01,600 --> 01:13:08,080 Speaker 1: bit putting yourself out there like that. But maybe I'm 1276 01:13:08,080 --> 01:13:10,360 Speaker 1: not the right person for this to us this. No, 1277 01:13:10,880 --> 01:13:13,200 Speaker 1: you're the perfect person. I don't think that you should 1278 01:13:13,240 --> 01:13:16,880 Speaker 1: focus on necessarily putting yourself out there. I just think 1279 01:13:16,920 --> 01:13:20,400 Speaker 1: that you should focus on being the best version of yourself, 1280 01:13:21,120 --> 01:13:24,479 Speaker 1: and I truly believe that then you will attract what 1281 01:13:24,640 --> 01:13:27,719 Speaker 1: is necessary for you. I think a lot of times 1282 01:13:27,720 --> 01:13:30,200 Speaker 1: we get caught up in what we don't have and 1283 01:13:30,240 --> 01:13:33,800 Speaker 1: what we want for ourselves, and we look at the 1284 01:13:33,840 --> 01:13:36,360 Speaker 1: things that we want and what we don't have that 1285 01:13:36,400 --> 01:13:39,320 Speaker 1: we want, if that makes sense, and so I think 1286 01:13:39,360 --> 01:13:42,280 Speaker 1: that rather than putting so much focus on that, it's 1287 01:13:42,360 --> 01:13:47,519 Speaker 1: just more important to just be you, like, get yourself right, 1288 01:13:48,080 --> 01:13:51,479 Speaker 1: and eventually those things will come. It's like we want 1289 01:13:51,560 --> 01:13:55,519 Speaker 1: things when we want them. But patience is really really 1290 01:13:55,640 --> 01:13:57,559 Speaker 1: key when it comes to this. I know, for me 1291 01:13:57,600 --> 01:14:01,360 Speaker 1: and for myself, I had a life plan like all 1292 01:14:01,479 --> 01:14:05,439 Speaker 1: Aneagram eights do for themselves, and I was supposed to 1293 01:14:05,479 --> 01:14:08,719 Speaker 1: be I'm thirty five, so according to my life plan, 1294 01:14:08,920 --> 01:14:12,360 Speaker 1: I should already be. I sho already have three kids, 1295 01:14:12,479 --> 01:14:16,000 Speaker 1: or should be pregnant with my third kid, and I'm 1296 01:14:16,000 --> 01:14:20,040 Speaker 1: married without kids right now. But I'm glad that things 1297 01:14:20,120 --> 01:14:23,200 Speaker 1: happen as they should because now I'm with the person 1298 01:14:23,240 --> 01:14:25,120 Speaker 1: that I want to be with, doing what I want 1299 01:14:25,160 --> 01:14:27,799 Speaker 1: to do. Even if I didn't it didn't go according 1300 01:14:27,840 --> 01:14:30,759 Speaker 1: to the life plan that I had originally planned for myself. So, 1301 01:14:31,080 --> 01:14:34,160 Speaker 1: you know, put yourself out there as far as obviously 1302 01:14:34,160 --> 01:14:37,559 Speaker 1: getting yourself right, but then also just you know, if 1303 01:14:37,560 --> 01:14:39,360 Speaker 1: the question is more how do you put yourself out 1304 01:14:39,360 --> 01:14:42,200 Speaker 1: there more? Like, you know, maybe you're an introvert and 1305 01:14:42,240 --> 01:14:46,120 Speaker 1: you want to do things that are more outgoing, focus 1306 01:14:46,120 --> 01:14:48,920 Speaker 1: on the things that you enjoy doing, and start putting 1307 01:14:48,920 --> 01:14:53,439 Speaker 1: yourself in those places with those type of opportunities, if 1308 01:14:53,439 --> 01:14:55,920 Speaker 1: you understand what I'm saying. I'm not sure exactly what 1309 01:14:56,040 --> 01:14:58,200 Speaker 1: the question is pertaining to, so I'm going to answer 1310 01:14:58,240 --> 01:15:02,639 Speaker 1: it both ways. I think it's that helps you. Sorry, 1311 01:15:02,640 --> 01:15:06,160 Speaker 1: I think it's it's perfect. I think can you hear me? Yeah, 1312 01:15:06,240 --> 01:15:08,280 Speaker 1: I can hear you. Sorry, my headphonees died, so I 1313 01:15:08,280 --> 01:15:11,840 Speaker 1: have to hear you from the phone now. But yeah, 1314 01:15:11,920 --> 01:15:14,719 Speaker 1: I mean, if you enjoy cooking, take a cooking class, 1315 01:15:14,720 --> 01:15:18,080 Speaker 1: whether it's with your girlfriends or whatnoledge and then there 1316 01:15:18,120 --> 01:15:21,240 Speaker 1: maybe someone up there taking a sushi class. That's like 1317 01:15:21,320 --> 01:15:24,679 Speaker 1: you know what, Like you can find people if you're 1318 01:15:24,720 --> 01:15:28,240 Speaker 1: doing a yoga class or do things that you enjoy doing, 1319 01:15:28,320 --> 01:15:31,320 Speaker 1: because there's bound to be someone in that same class 1320 01:15:31,400 --> 01:15:33,639 Speaker 1: course that I probably enjoys doing the same thing. So 1321 01:15:34,040 --> 01:15:39,080 Speaker 1: common interests exactly. All right, you guys, I feel like 1322 01:15:39,680 --> 01:15:43,120 Speaker 1: we got through a lot of questions and I hope 1323 01:15:43,160 --> 01:15:46,759 Speaker 1: that I know, Christine and I we took detours quite 1324 01:15:46,760 --> 01:15:49,759 Speaker 1: a bit, but I think, well, I think it's helpful 1325 01:15:49,760 --> 01:15:53,040 Speaker 1: to share personal experience and stories and for you guys 1326 01:15:53,040 --> 01:15:55,800 Speaker 1: to realize when you ask these questions, they're not falling 1327 01:15:55,840 --> 01:15:57,639 Speaker 1: on deaf ears. We understand what it is that you're 1328 01:15:57,640 --> 01:15:59,680 Speaker 1: asking what you're going through. Even though we might not 1329 01:15:59,760 --> 01:16:02,360 Speaker 1: be in that current situation, there was a time that 1330 01:16:02,439 --> 01:16:05,360 Speaker 1: we were, and so I think that it's healthy. You know. 1331 01:16:05,400 --> 01:16:08,080 Speaker 1: I like to think of our bachelor happy our listeners 1332 01:16:08,120 --> 01:16:12,479 Speaker 1: as our girlfriends or you know, boyfriends. And I mean 1333 01:16:12,520 --> 01:16:15,200 Speaker 1: that in a way of like you know, like friend boys, 1334 01:16:16,520 --> 01:16:19,679 Speaker 1: and this is just like a good opportunity. You guys 1335 01:16:19,680 --> 01:16:22,639 Speaker 1: have sent in your questions. You've wanted to know our 1336 01:16:22,680 --> 01:16:25,439 Speaker 1: opinion on it, and so I feel like we're sitting 1337 01:16:25,479 --> 01:16:27,519 Speaker 1: here talking to you. We can't see you, but we 1338 01:16:27,640 --> 01:16:30,840 Speaker 1: know you're out there. And so I hope that this 1339 01:16:31,040 --> 01:16:35,280 Speaker 1: conversation about dating and putting yourself back out there and 1340 01:16:35,320 --> 01:16:38,240 Speaker 1: how to get yourself right for dating has really been helpful, 1341 01:16:38,320 --> 01:16:42,480 Speaker 1: especially during these trying times with quarantine and social distancing. 1342 01:16:43,280 --> 01:16:45,800 Speaker 1: And we also got to do a little gossip and 1343 01:16:45,880 --> 01:16:50,600 Speaker 1: be a little shady too. That's always fun and entertaining. Christina, 1344 01:16:51,200 --> 01:16:53,639 Speaker 1: I hope you enjoyed your time co host. See you've 1345 01:16:53,680 --> 01:16:56,240 Speaker 1: got hosted before, but it's been a while. It has 1346 01:16:56,320 --> 01:16:59,160 Speaker 1: kind of while this is a little different just through 1347 01:16:59,160 --> 01:17:01,439 Speaker 1: the screen, but I really enjoy hanging out with you 1348 01:17:01,640 --> 01:17:05,559 Speaker 1: to begin with. So this is almost nothing different, nothing 1349 01:17:05,680 --> 01:17:09,519 Speaker 1: nothing different. We were we were a little um. We 1350 01:17:09,640 --> 01:17:11,519 Speaker 1: toned it down a pit right like I feel like 1351 01:17:11,560 --> 01:17:14,680 Speaker 1: we we did. We did well um and behaving for 1352 01:17:14,720 --> 01:17:18,160 Speaker 1: the most part. We have some fun conversations. We have 1353 01:17:18,320 --> 01:17:20,679 Speaker 1: someone and and we're about to have some more because 1354 01:17:20,680 --> 01:17:22,240 Speaker 1: you know I'm about to be in LA soon. Back 1355 01:17:22,280 --> 01:17:25,120 Speaker 1: and forth, so more more to come. Don't think I 1356 01:17:25,200 --> 01:17:27,599 Speaker 1: forgot about hitting you up about who's been in your DMS. 1357 01:17:28,040 --> 01:17:30,800 Speaker 1: That's absolutely coming as soon as we get off this 1358 01:17:30,800 --> 01:17:34,200 Speaker 1: call you guys, DM Christina bug her too and ask her, 1359 01:17:34,360 --> 01:17:36,599 Speaker 1: ask her who's in a DM just asked for a hint? 1360 01:17:36,720 --> 01:17:39,400 Speaker 1: Do that? Do that? I challenge you today to do that. 1361 01:17:40,080 --> 01:17:46,800 Speaker 1: Ah you guys to thank you. Thanks for having Ray 1362 01:17:46,880 --> 01:17:49,840 Speaker 1: Rachel Oh, thank you so much for being in here, 1363 01:17:49,880 --> 01:17:53,920 Speaker 1: for stepping in. We always appreciate, appreciate you, and I 1364 01:17:54,000 --> 01:17:56,439 Speaker 1: know our Bachelor Happy our listeners do as well. Thank 1365 01:17:56,439 --> 01:17:59,080 Speaker 1: you guys so much for tuning in today. We love 1366 01:17:59,120 --> 01:18:00,800 Speaker 1: when we can do these up so it's like these 1367 01:18:00,800 --> 01:18:03,080 Speaker 1: and just get you guys involved, feel like you're in 1368 01:18:03,080 --> 01:18:05,240 Speaker 1: the room and we're just having a big old pow wow. 1369 01:18:05,560 --> 01:18:07,559 Speaker 1: So we hope you got some of those answers to 1370 01:18:07,680 --> 01:18:10,519 Speaker 1: the questions that you sent in and we plan on 1371 01:18:10,600 --> 01:18:13,439 Speaker 1: doing this again. So keep writing into us so we 1372 01:18:13,479 --> 01:18:16,040 Speaker 1: can have more moments just like this. 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