Speaker 1: Who do I want to become. It's not about the goal,
Speaker 1: It's about the growth you're willing to undertake in order
Speaker 1: to achieve the goal. Success is quiet mornings, late nights,
Speaker 1: and one hundred almosts before one yes. Success is choosing
Speaker 1: discipline on the day's motivation doesn't show up. Success is
Speaker 1: doing the work when no one's watching and no one's clapping.
Speaker 1: Success is walking away from what drains you so you
Speaker 1: can protect what grows you. The number one health and
Speaker 1: wellness podcast, Jay Set Jay set.
Speaker 2: Set.
Speaker 1: I was stuck, confused, and unsuccessful until I did this.
Speaker 1: What if I told you that one year from today
Speaker 1: you could wake up as a completely different person and
Speaker 1: the only thing standing in the way is the way
Speaker 1: you're thinking about this year. Most people never change their lives,
Speaker 1: not because they're lazy, not because they're untalented, but because
Speaker 1: they don't understand this one truth. Your life doesn't change
Speaker 1: in a year. Your life changes in the tiny decisions
Speaker 1: you repeat for a year. We waste entire years waiting
Speaker 1: for motivation, waiting for clarity, waiting for timing, waiting for confidence,
Speaker 1: and while we wait, the year quietly disappears. Here's an
Speaker 1: uncomfortable statistic ninety two percent of people never follow through
Speaker 1: on their New year goals, not because they don't want
Speaker 1: to change, but because they're using hope as a strategy
Speaker 1: instead of a system. But here's the inspiring part. One
Speaker 1: year is long enough to transform almost anything about your life,
Speaker 1: your body, your relationships, your career, your self worth, your habits,
Speaker 1: your emotional health, if you understand the science of real change.
Speaker 1: In this episode, I'm going to give you a twelve
Speaker 1: month blueprint that has helped millions of people transform their lives,
Speaker 1: a framework backed by psychology research and real human stories.
Speaker 1: And I promise you this, By the end of these
Speaker 1: thirty minutes, you will no longer fear the future. You
Speaker 1: will feel prepared to shape it. So let's begin. Before
Speaker 1: we talk about how to change your life, we need
Speaker 1: to talk about why most people don't. It's not a
Speaker 1: lack of intelligence. It's not a lack of discipline, it's
Speaker 1: not a lack of opportunity. It's a lack of a system.
Speaker 1: Let me tell you a story. A friends one told me, Jay,
Speaker 1: I keep trying to change and nothing sticks. Sound familiar.
Speaker 1: He'd buy new planners, he'd download new apps, he'd watch
Speaker 1: motivational speeches, and every year he ended up exactly where
Speaker 1: he started, exhausted and confused us. He wasn't failing. His
Speaker 1: strategy was failing in moments of temptation only three to
Speaker 1: five minutes. Motivation spikes and crashes. But systems, routines, environments, structures,
Speaker 1: they keep going long after motivation dies. So here's the
Speaker 1: first truth. Your life won't change when you try harder.
Speaker 1: It will change when you redesign the system you live inside.
Speaker 1: Let's build that system together. If you want a new year,
Speaker 1: you need a new default. Most people try to change
Speaker 1: their life using motivation. Science shows your environment drives forty
Speaker 1: five percent of your daily behavior, almost half your life.
Speaker 1: Let me give you a real example. I once worked
Speaker 1: with someone who could never stick to a morning routine.
Speaker 1: She tried alarms, apps, planners. Nothing worked. Then we changed
Speaker 1: our environment. We re arranged her nightstand. We moved her
Speaker 1: phone to another room. We put her journal where her
Speaker 1: phone used to be. We laid out her gym clothes
Speaker 1: the night before, right next to her bed. We simplified
Speaker 1: her kitchen counter. Suddenly her identity matched her environment. She
Speaker 1: didn't become a disciplined person, she became a supported person.
Speaker 1: Here's what I want you to do. Here are some
Speaker 1: actionable steps for this year. Number one, redesign your morning
Speaker 1: and night anchors. These two thirty minute windows shape your
Speaker 1: entire day. If you understand this one thing, you can
Speaker 1: build discipline. Make the things you need easy to find,
Speaker 1: and make the things you don't want hard to find.
Speaker 1: You want to work out in the morning, make sure
Speaker 1: your gym clothes are easy to find. You don't want
Speaker 1: to have a midnight stack. Make sure those chips are
Speaker 1: hard to find. This leads us to number two. Remove
Speaker 1: friction from good habits. Make good habits easier than bad ones.
Speaker 1: So many of us make good habits hard to do.
Speaker 1: We make it hard to stay healthy because our snack
Speaker 1: drawers are full of bad snacks. We make it harder
Speaker 1: to work out because we subscribe to a gym that's
Speaker 1: thirty minutes away. We make it harder to be focused
Speaker 1: on our work because our desk is full of clutter.
Speaker 1: Number three, upgrade your identity. Don't ask what goal do
Speaker 1: I want? We all go what gold do I want?
Speaker 1: Here's what I want you to ask instead, who do
Speaker 1: I want to become? It's not about the goal, it's
Speaker 1: about the growth you're willing to undertake in order to
Speaker 1: achieve the goal. Success is quiet mornings, late nights, and
Speaker 1: one hundred almost before one yes. Success is choosing discipline
Speaker 1: on the day's motivation doesn't show up. Success is doing
Speaker 1: the work when no one's watching and no one's clapping.
Speaker 1: Success is walking away from what drains you so you
Speaker 1: can protect what grows you. Success is being patient with
Speaker 1: the process even when the results are late. Success is
Speaker 1: becoming the person your future requires, not the person your
Speaker 1: past expects. Here's the second truth. A year equals four
Speaker 1: seasons of learning. A year is long enough to learn
Speaker 1: a skill that can reroot your entire life, not a hobby.
Speaker 1: A skill skills change identity. Skills build confidence, skills increase opportunity.
Speaker 1: Skills compound statistic show learning a new skill reduces anxiety
Speaker 1: and depression by up to thirty four percent. Add out
Speaker 1: to engage in continuous learning reports significantly higher life satisfaction.
Speaker 1: Let me tell you a story. Once told me she
Speaker 1: felt stuck in her job and stuck in her identity.
Speaker 1: We made one shift. She committed to learning public speaking
Speaker 1: twenty minutes a day, just twenty minutes. One year later,
Speaker 1: she was leading meetings, pitching ideas confidently, and interviewing for
Speaker 1: a promotion. The skill didn't just change your career, it
Speaker 1: changed herself perception. So here are practical choices that you
Speaker 1: can make this year. Pick one of these and master it.
Speaker 1: Public speaking, emotional regulation, networking, mindfulness, creative writing, financial literacy,
Speaker 1: communication skill. One skill can create ten opportunities. I think
Speaker 1: about all the skills I invest in every single year
Speaker 1: and how they've transformed my life. If you want to
Speaker 1: change your life in a year, learning one skill could
Speaker 1: help you accelerate and transform your tradress in ways nothing
Speaker 1: else could. Here's what I recommend do what I call
Speaker 1: immersion weekends. Spend a whole weekend attending courses, seminars, reading books,
Speaker 1: listening to podcasts about that subject. You will know very
Speaker 1: quickly what you want to invest in and what you
Speaker 1: want to spend more timely. We all want to feel better,
Speaker 1: to have more energy and more focused throughout the day.
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Speaker 1: for you to try it. Cheers. Here's the truth. One
Speaker 1: decision can separate who you were from who you're becoming.
Speaker 1: One decision can end an old chapter and begin a
Speaker 1: better one. One decision can change your confidence forever, and
Speaker 1: one decision can rewrite your entire story. All it takes
Speaker 1: is one decision. Truth number three. Fix the relationships that matter,
Speaker 1: because connection equals quality of life. The Harvard Study of
Speaker 1: Adult Development, conducted by Robert Waldinger, who I've had the
Speaker 1: honor of interviewing on on purpose twice. This is the
Speaker 1: longest happiness study ever done, found the quality of your
Speaker 1: relationships is the strongest predictor of your future wellbeing. Your
Speaker 1: life doesn't change alone. Your life changes through better conversations,
Speaker 1: better boundaries, and deeper connections. So here's what I want
Speaker 1: you to do in twenty twenty six. Repair one relationship
Speaker 1: this year that matters. Release one draining connection that has expired.
Speaker 1: Deepen one meaningful bond for more support, schedule one weekly
Speaker 1: connection ritual. Here's the harsh truth. Loneliness is not the
Speaker 1: absence of people. It's the absence of understanding. Loneliness is
Speaker 1: not the absence of company, it's being surrounded and still
Speaker 1: feeling unseen. Loneliness is not the absence of conversation. It's
Speaker 1: talking without ever being heard. Loneliness is not the absence
Speaker 1: of relationships, it's the absence of someone you can be
Speaker 1: honest with. Loneliness is not the absence of someone, it's
Speaker 1: the absence of safety. Ask yourself, which relationship is worth
Speaker 1: improving or which ones do you need to distance from?
Speaker 1: Which relationship would have the greatest positive benefit in your
Speaker 1: life if you invested in it more. Here are four
Speaker 1: questions that will change your relationships. Who do you need
Speaker 1: to call more, Who do you need to talk to less?
Speaker 1: Who do you want to spend time with? Who do
Speaker 1: you need to distance from? If you focused on transforming
Speaker 1: your relationships this year, it will transform your life. You
Speaker 1: know what truly holds you back. Relationships that drain you,
Speaker 1: people who misunderstand you no matter how clearly you speak,
Speaker 1: conversations that take energy but give none back. Connections that
Speaker 1: make you doubt yourself instead of support yourself. It's not
Speaker 1: your potential that's limited. It's the people who keep pulling
Speaker 1: you backwards while you're trying to push forward. Take an
Speaker 1: inventory of the people in your life this year. You
Speaker 1: don't have to make big changes. You don't have to
Speaker 1: just cut people out, but recognize what would move the
Speaker 1: needle and give it some time and energy. Truth number four.
Speaker 1: Fear becomes bigger the further you stand from it. Fear
Speaker 1: becomes smaller the closer you move toward it. Action reduces anxiety.
Speaker 1: Avoidance amplifies it. Here are some practical steps for this year.
Speaker 1: Create a fear list instead of a to do list. Right,
Speaker 1: we all make to do lists, but I want you
Speaker 1: to make a fear list. Break each fear to five
Speaker 1: micro actions, and then I want you to reward action,
Speaker 1: not outcome. Because here's the mistake we make. You don't
Speaker 1: have to overcome fear before you do something. You have
Speaker 1: to do the thing whilst you're still feeling the fear.
Speaker 1: You don't get over your fear, then start a business.
Speaker 1: You start a business, feel scared, nervous, and anxious and
Speaker 1: still move forward. What the fearless does is it makes
Speaker 1: you face what you're actually struggling with. The reason you
Speaker 1: don't do your to do list is because you're scared.
Speaker 1: The reason you cancel that meeting is because you're scared.
Speaker 1: The reason you don't send your resume is because you're scared.
Speaker 1: The reason you don't ask for a promotion is because
Speaker 1: you're scared. We're so scared of rejection, we're so scared
Speaker 1: of failing, that we don't take action before we can
Speaker 1: remove that feeling. What we don't realize is that life
Speaker 1: is all about doing things, even with the feelings that
Speaker 1: you think are holding you back. Please, please, don't let
Speaker 1: your fears ruin your future. Please don't let your fears
Speaker 1: keep you stuck in places you've already outgrown. Please don't
Speaker 1: let your fears make you walk away from something good
Speaker 1: before you've even tried. Please don't let your fears turn
Speaker 1: temporary uncertainty into a lifetime of regret. And please don't
Speaker 1: let your fears talk you out of the future you
Speaker 1: know you deserve. It's fascinating to me how many of
Speaker 1: us set goals and don't meet them, not because the
Speaker 1: goals aren't right, but because we haven't addressed the fear.
Speaker 1: If we don't face our fears, we can't move forward
Speaker 1: toward our goals. So instead of just looking at your
Speaker 1: goals every year and wondering why you're not there yet,
Speaker 1: make this the year you face your fears, address them,
Speaker 1: focus on them, break through them by taking action even
Speaker 1: when they exist. One of my favorite quotes that I've
Speaker 1: ever heard is, if you feel afraid, do it afraid.
Speaker 1: If you feel scared, do it scared. If you feel anxious,
Speaker 1: do it anxious, And if you feel nervous, do it nervous.
Speaker 1: It's better to do the thing even feeling that way,
Speaker 1: than to hope you will get over that feeling so
Speaker 1: you can finally start. Truth number six, the power of service.
Speaker 1: Service isn't just charity. Service is identity, it's meaning. It's medicine.
Speaker 1: Neuroscience shows that helping others activates the brain's reward pathways,
Speaker 1: the same circuits that light up for purpose and joy.
Speaker 1: There's even studies that show that when people are experiencing depression,
Speaker 1: if they help others with depression, theirs goes down. So
Speaker 1: sometimes we also say to ourselves, I'll help when I
Speaker 1: have more, not realizing you'll have more if you help now.
Speaker 1: If you help someone now, you feel great a self esteem.
Speaker 1: You count your blessings. You realize what skills you have.
Speaker 1: I learned about the skills and talents I have because
Speaker 1: I started using things in the service of others, even
Speaker 1: before I knew I had them. Here are some practical
Speaker 1: ways you can do that. You could volunteer one hour
Speaker 1: a week. You could help one person quietly. You could
Speaker 1: use your skills for someone else's benefit of the community.
Speaker 1: Pick one issue you worry about and get involved. If
Speaker 1: you want to change your life, change someone else's day.
Speaker 1: If you want to change your year, change someone else's week.
Speaker 1: If you want to change your month, change someone else's hour.
Speaker 1: You can transform your life by transforming someone else's. So
Speaker 1: here's your year. Redesigned. Break your year into four ninety
Speaker 1: day seasons. Season one Reset, Redesign your environment and your habits.
Speaker 1: Season two Learn master two skills that change your confidence
Speaker 1: and direction. Promise you will make a big difference. Season
Speaker 1: three Connect, Repair, deepen and rebuild relationships. Season four Expand,
Speaker 1: Face fears, take risks, and create something new. You don't
Speaker 1: have to do everything I said in one season a
Speaker 1: years four CSA. You don't see the weather trying to snow, rain, sunshine,
Speaker 1: and everything else all in one day. That's not what
Speaker 1: the climate tries to do. Move in seasons. Remember this,
Speaker 1: A year isn't three hundred and sixty five days, it's
Speaker 1: fifty two chances, twelve chapters, and four seasons. Your life
Speaker 1: can change this year, not because the year is magical,
Speaker 1: but because you are capable. You don't need a perfect plan,
Speaker 1: you don't need certainty, you don't need confidence, you need momentum.
Speaker 1: You need one decision, you need one step, and you
Speaker 1: need to remember this. One year of intention can undo
Speaker 1: ten years of drifting. So choose one thing today, one habit,
Speaker 1: one relationship, one skill, one decision, one fear, one active service,
Speaker 1: and just start. A year from now, you will look
Speaker 1: back and barely recognize the person you used to be
Speaker 1: because your life doesn't change some day, it changes the
Speaker 1: day that you just start. The insight and advice that
Speaker 1: I've shared with you today will truly make a difference.
Speaker 1: I've had the fortune of having incredible years in my
Speaker 1: life where I have changed my life in a year,
Speaker 1: and when you look at it that way, you actually
Speaker 1: give yourself the opportunity to transform. Sometimes we want to
Speaker 1: change our life in a day. We want to change
Speaker 1: our life in a month. Give yourself a year this
Speaker 1: year to really make a difference. See, we think consistency
Speaker 1: looks like this. Real consistency looks like this. Right. If
Speaker 1: you think to yourself, I'm going to work out five
Speaker 1: days a week every week for the rest of the year.
Speaker 1: The one week where you only do three days, you'll
Speaker 1: feel like a failure. So what do you do? You
Speaker 1: recognize five's the average. There'll be some weeks you do seven.
Speaker 1: There'll be some weeks you do three. There'll be some
Speaker 1: weeks you do four, and there'll be some weeks you
Speaker 1: do six. When you give yourself that flexibility and adaptability
Speaker 1: to hit the average, not the ideal, every single week,
Speaker 1: you finally give yourself an opportunity to make a huge difference.
Speaker 1: I've seen so many people try to put too much
Speaker 1: pressure on themselves. I've seen so many people who've been
Speaker 1: so harsh to themselves. If you really want this year
Speaker 1: to be the year that everything changes, follow these steps,
Speaker 1: stay accountable, Find someone you can share these goals with,
Speaker 1: and move forward together. Your goal doesn't get you to
Speaker 1: the goal. It's the growth that gets you to the goal.
Speaker 1: How are you willing to grow? Who are you willing
Speaker 1: to become? What are you willing to change? If you'veocus
Speaker 1: on transformation over the destination, you will get there quicker.
Speaker 1: Often we keep looking at the goal and thinking it's
Speaker 1: so far away. It's so hard to get there. I
Speaker 1: don't know when it's going to happen. If we just
Speaker 1: focused on the next step, the next step forward, just
Speaker 1: one step at a time, you'll be at the destination
Speaker 1: in no time. Please know that you can change your
Speaker 1: life in a year by changing the few things that
Speaker 1: I laid out and remember and forever in your corner.
Speaker 1: I'm always rooting for you and I wish you all
Speaker 1: the best. Thank you so much for watching this video.
Speaker 1: I'm so grateful for your support. Twenty twenty six is
Speaker 1: going to be the best here.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
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Speaker 2: You set a goal today, you achieve it in six months,
Speaker 2: and then by the time it happens, it's almost a relief.
Speaker 2: There's no sense of meaning and purpose. You sort of
Speaker 2: expected it, and you would have been disappointed if it
Speaker 2: didn't happen.