1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:03,240 Speaker 1: Who do I want to become. It's not about the goal, 2 00:00:03,600 --> 00:00:07,480 Speaker 1: It's about the growth you're willing to undertake in order 3 00:00:07,560 --> 00:00:12,600 Speaker 1: to achieve the goal. Success is quiet mornings, late nights, 4 00:00:12,800 --> 00:00:17,680 Speaker 1: and one hundred almosts before one yes. Success is choosing 5 00:00:17,760 --> 00:00:22,680 Speaker 1: discipline on the day's motivation doesn't show up. Success is 6 00:00:22,720 --> 00:00:26,480 Speaker 1: doing the work when no one's watching and no one's clapping. 7 00:00:27,200 --> 00:00:30,640 Speaker 1: Success is walking away from what drains you so you 8 00:00:30,680 --> 00:00:34,000 Speaker 1: can protect what grows you. The number one health and 9 00:00:34,040 --> 00:00:36,800 Speaker 1: wellness podcast, Jay Set Jay set. 10 00:00:38,840 --> 00:00:39,080 Speaker 2: Set. 11 00:00:41,560 --> 00:00:45,920 Speaker 1: I was stuck, confused, and unsuccessful until I did this. 12 00:00:46,680 --> 00:00:49,199 Speaker 1: What if I told you that one year from today 13 00:00:49,400 --> 00:00:53,760 Speaker 1: you could wake up as a completely different person and 14 00:00:53,800 --> 00:00:56,960 Speaker 1: the only thing standing in the way is the way 15 00:00:57,120 --> 00:01:02,400 Speaker 1: you're thinking about this year. Most people never change their lives, 16 00:01:02,880 --> 00:01:06,639 Speaker 1: not because they're lazy, not because they're untalented, but because 17 00:01:06,680 --> 00:01:12,720 Speaker 1: they don't understand this one truth. Your life doesn't change 18 00:01:12,760 --> 00:01:16,839 Speaker 1: in a year. Your life changes in the tiny decisions 19 00:01:16,880 --> 00:01:21,880 Speaker 1: you repeat for a year. We waste entire years waiting 20 00:01:21,920 --> 00:01:27,479 Speaker 1: for motivation, waiting for clarity, waiting for timing, waiting for confidence, 21 00:01:28,040 --> 00:01:32,520 Speaker 1: and while we wait, the year quietly disappears. Here's an 22 00:01:32,600 --> 00:01:37,199 Speaker 1: uncomfortable statistic ninety two percent of people never follow through 23 00:01:37,520 --> 00:01:40,319 Speaker 1: on their New year goals, not because they don't want 24 00:01:40,360 --> 00:01:44,200 Speaker 1: to change, but because they're using hope as a strategy 25 00:01:44,640 --> 00:01:48,920 Speaker 1: instead of a system. But here's the inspiring part. One 26 00:01:49,000 --> 00:01:53,639 Speaker 1: year is long enough to transform almost anything about your life, 27 00:01:54,000 --> 00:01:58,080 Speaker 1: your body, your relationships, your career, your self worth, your habits, 28 00:01:58,280 --> 00:02:03,760 Speaker 1: your emotional health, if you understand the science of real change. 29 00:02:03,800 --> 00:02:06,240 Speaker 1: In this episode, I'm going to give you a twelve 30 00:02:06,280 --> 00:02:10,760 Speaker 1: month blueprint that has helped millions of people transform their lives, 31 00:02:11,120 --> 00:02:15,680 Speaker 1: a framework backed by psychology research and real human stories. 32 00:02:16,160 --> 00:02:18,399 Speaker 1: And I promise you this, By the end of these 33 00:02:18,440 --> 00:02:22,240 Speaker 1: thirty minutes, you will no longer fear the future. You 34 00:02:22,320 --> 00:02:26,680 Speaker 1: will feel prepared to shape it. So let's begin. Before 35 00:02:26,720 --> 00:02:29,440 Speaker 1: we talk about how to change your life, we need 36 00:02:29,480 --> 00:02:33,000 Speaker 1: to talk about why most people don't. It's not a 37 00:02:33,080 --> 00:02:37,079 Speaker 1: lack of intelligence. It's not a lack of discipline, it's 38 00:02:37,200 --> 00:02:41,919 Speaker 1: not a lack of opportunity. It's a lack of a system. 39 00:02:42,200 --> 00:02:45,440 Speaker 1: Let me tell you a story. A friends one told me, Jay, 40 00:02:45,680 --> 00:02:49,760 Speaker 1: I keep trying to change and nothing sticks. Sound familiar. 41 00:02:50,200 --> 00:02:53,320 Speaker 1: He'd buy new planners, he'd download new apps, he'd watch 42 00:02:53,400 --> 00:02:57,639 Speaker 1: motivational speeches, and every year he ended up exactly where 43 00:02:57,680 --> 00:03:02,640 Speaker 1: he started, exhausted and confused us. He wasn't failing. His 44 00:03:02,800 --> 00:03:06,800 Speaker 1: strategy was failing in moments of temptation only three to 45 00:03:06,919 --> 00:03:15,400 Speaker 1: five minutes. Motivation spikes and crashes. But systems, routines, environments, structures, 46 00:03:15,960 --> 00:03:20,320 Speaker 1: they keep going long after motivation dies. So here's the 47 00:03:20,360 --> 00:03:24,520 Speaker 1: first truth. Your life won't change when you try harder. 48 00:03:25,280 --> 00:03:29,720 Speaker 1: It will change when you redesign the system you live inside. 49 00:03:30,400 --> 00:03:33,760 Speaker 1: Let's build that system together. If you want a new year, 50 00:03:34,200 --> 00:03:38,040 Speaker 1: you need a new default. Most people try to change 51 00:03:38,040 --> 00:03:43,560 Speaker 1: their life using motivation. Science shows your environment drives forty 52 00:03:43,720 --> 00:03:47,720 Speaker 1: five percent of your daily behavior, almost half your life. 53 00:03:48,320 --> 00:03:50,640 Speaker 1: Let me give you a real example. I once worked 54 00:03:50,640 --> 00:03:53,680 Speaker 1: with someone who could never stick to a morning routine. 55 00:03:54,200 --> 00:03:58,800 Speaker 1: She tried alarms, apps, planners. Nothing worked. Then we changed 56 00:03:58,800 --> 00:04:01,960 Speaker 1: our environment. We re arranged her nightstand. We moved her 57 00:04:02,000 --> 00:04:05,280 Speaker 1: phone to another room. We put her journal where her 58 00:04:05,280 --> 00:04:08,280 Speaker 1: phone used to be. We laid out her gym clothes 59 00:04:08,320 --> 00:04:12,040 Speaker 1: the night before, right next to her bed. We simplified 60 00:04:12,080 --> 00:04:18,200 Speaker 1: her kitchen counter. Suddenly her identity matched her environment. She 61 00:04:18,240 --> 00:04:23,520 Speaker 1: didn't become a disciplined person, she became a supported person. 62 00:04:24,240 --> 00:04:25,840 Speaker 1: Here's what I want you to do. Here are some 63 00:04:25,920 --> 00:04:30,320 Speaker 1: actionable steps for this year. Number one, redesign your morning 64 00:04:30,520 --> 00:04:35,520 Speaker 1: and night anchors. These two thirty minute windows shape your 65 00:04:35,720 --> 00:04:40,080 Speaker 1: entire day. If you understand this one thing, you can 66 00:04:40,120 --> 00:04:44,560 Speaker 1: build discipline. Make the things you need easy to find, 67 00:04:45,320 --> 00:04:48,560 Speaker 1: and make the things you don't want hard to find. 68 00:04:49,200 --> 00:04:51,280 Speaker 1: You want to work out in the morning, make sure 69 00:04:51,279 --> 00:04:53,800 Speaker 1: your gym clothes are easy to find. You don't want 70 00:04:53,800 --> 00:04:57,000 Speaker 1: to have a midnight stack. Make sure those chips are 71 00:04:57,040 --> 00:05:00,719 Speaker 1: hard to find. This leads us to number two. Remove 72 00:05:00,880 --> 00:05:06,720 Speaker 1: friction from good habits. Make good habits easier than bad ones. 73 00:05:07,160 --> 00:05:10,080 Speaker 1: So many of us make good habits hard to do. 74 00:05:10,560 --> 00:05:13,599 Speaker 1: We make it hard to stay healthy because our snack 75 00:05:13,680 --> 00:05:16,840 Speaker 1: drawers are full of bad snacks. We make it harder 76 00:05:16,880 --> 00:05:19,719 Speaker 1: to work out because we subscribe to a gym that's 77 00:05:19,800 --> 00:05:24,320 Speaker 1: thirty minutes away. We make it harder to be focused 78 00:05:24,360 --> 00:05:27,039 Speaker 1: on our work because our desk is full of clutter. 79 00:05:27,800 --> 00:05:32,520 Speaker 1: Number three, upgrade your identity. Don't ask what goal do 80 00:05:32,600 --> 00:05:34,560 Speaker 1: I want? We all go what gold do I want? 81 00:05:35,279 --> 00:05:37,719 Speaker 1: Here's what I want you to ask instead, who do 82 00:05:37,800 --> 00:05:41,120 Speaker 1: I want to become? It's not about the goal, it's 83 00:05:41,160 --> 00:05:45,000 Speaker 1: about the growth you're willing to undertake in order to 84 00:05:45,080 --> 00:05:50,200 Speaker 1: achieve the goal. Success is quiet mornings, late nights, and 85 00:05:50,279 --> 00:05:55,680 Speaker 1: one hundred almost before one yes. Success is choosing discipline 86 00:05:56,080 --> 00:06:00,279 Speaker 1: on the day's motivation doesn't show up. Success is doing 87 00:06:00,360 --> 00:06:03,760 Speaker 1: the work when no one's watching and no one's clapping. 88 00:06:04,520 --> 00:06:07,960 Speaker 1: Success is walking away from what drains you so you 89 00:06:08,000 --> 00:06:12,120 Speaker 1: can protect what grows you. Success is being patient with 90 00:06:12,160 --> 00:06:16,520 Speaker 1: the process even when the results are late. Success is 91 00:06:16,600 --> 00:06:21,279 Speaker 1: becoming the person your future requires, not the person your 92 00:06:21,360 --> 00:06:27,080 Speaker 1: past expects. Here's the second truth. A year equals four 93 00:06:27,160 --> 00:06:30,840 Speaker 1: seasons of learning. A year is long enough to learn 94 00:06:30,880 --> 00:06:35,359 Speaker 1: a skill that can reroot your entire life, not a hobby. 95 00:06:35,800 --> 00:06:41,920 Speaker 1: A skill skills change identity. Skills build confidence, skills increase opportunity. 96 00:06:42,240 --> 00:06:48,040 Speaker 1: Skills compound statistic show learning a new skill reduces anxiety 97 00:06:48,200 --> 00:06:52,640 Speaker 1: and depression by up to thirty four percent. Add out 98 00:06:52,680 --> 00:06:57,440 Speaker 1: to engage in continuous learning reports significantly higher life satisfaction. 99 00:06:58,120 --> 00:07:00,919 Speaker 1: Let me tell you a story. Once told me she 100 00:07:01,080 --> 00:07:04,920 Speaker 1: felt stuck in her job and stuck in her identity. 101 00:07:05,720 --> 00:07:10,200 Speaker 1: We made one shift. She committed to learning public speaking 102 00:07:10,760 --> 00:07:14,080 Speaker 1: twenty minutes a day, just twenty minutes. One year later, 103 00:07:14,440 --> 00:07:19,040 Speaker 1: she was leading meetings, pitching ideas confidently, and interviewing for 104 00:07:19,120 --> 00:07:22,840 Speaker 1: a promotion. The skill didn't just change your career, it 105 00:07:23,000 --> 00:07:27,760 Speaker 1: changed herself perception. So here are practical choices that you 106 00:07:27,840 --> 00:07:31,640 Speaker 1: can make this year. Pick one of these and master it. 107 00:07:31,880 --> 00:07:39,640 Speaker 1: Public speaking, emotional regulation, networking, mindfulness, creative writing, financial literacy, 108 00:07:39,760 --> 00:07:46,400 Speaker 1: communication skill. One skill can create ten opportunities. I think 109 00:07:46,400 --> 00:07:49,080 Speaker 1: about all the skills I invest in every single year 110 00:07:49,480 --> 00:07:52,760 Speaker 1: and how they've transformed my life. If you want to 111 00:07:52,840 --> 00:07:56,679 Speaker 1: change your life in a year, learning one skill could 112 00:07:56,680 --> 00:08:01,600 Speaker 1: help you accelerate and transform your tradress in ways nothing 113 00:08:01,640 --> 00:08:05,200 Speaker 1: else could. Here's what I recommend do what I call 114 00:08:05,360 --> 00:08:11,920 Speaker 1: immersion weekends. 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One decision can change your confidence forever, and 150 00:10:32,040 --> 00:10:37,240 Speaker 1: one decision can rewrite your entire story. All it takes 151 00:10:37,720 --> 00:10:44,520 Speaker 1: is one decision. Truth number three. Fix the relationships that matter, 152 00:10:45,240 --> 00:10:49,840 Speaker 1: because connection equals quality of life. The Harvard Study of 153 00:10:49,880 --> 00:10:53,400 Speaker 1: Adult Development, conducted by Robert Waldinger, who I've had the 154 00:10:53,600 --> 00:10:57,400 Speaker 1: honor of interviewing on on purpose twice. This is the 155 00:10:57,559 --> 00:11:01,600 Speaker 1: longest happiness study ever done, found the quality of your 156 00:11:01,640 --> 00:11:07,440 Speaker 1: relationships is the strongest predictor of your future wellbeing. Your 157 00:11:07,520 --> 00:11:13,200 Speaker 1: life doesn't change alone. Your life changes through better conversations, 158 00:11:13,480 --> 00:11:17,439 Speaker 1: better boundaries, and deeper connections. So here's what I want 159 00:11:17,480 --> 00:11:22,040 Speaker 1: you to do in twenty twenty six. Repair one relationship 160 00:11:22,080 --> 00:11:28,679 Speaker 1: this year that matters. Release one draining connection that has expired. 161 00:11:29,840 --> 00:11:36,040 Speaker 1: Deepen one meaningful bond for more support, schedule one weekly 162 00:11:36,120 --> 00:11:41,400 Speaker 1: connection ritual. Here's the harsh truth. Loneliness is not the 163 00:11:41,440 --> 00:11:46,400 Speaker 1: absence of people. It's the absence of understanding. Loneliness is 164 00:11:46,440 --> 00:11:50,559 Speaker 1: not the absence of company, it's being surrounded and still 165 00:11:50,600 --> 00:11:55,800 Speaker 1: feeling unseen. Loneliness is not the absence of conversation. It's 166 00:11:55,880 --> 00:12:00,000 Speaker 1: talking without ever being heard. Loneliness is not the absence 167 00:12:00,240 --> 00:12:03,640 Speaker 1: of relationships, it's the absence of someone you can be 168 00:12:03,720 --> 00:12:08,760 Speaker 1: honest with. Loneliness is not the absence of someone, it's 169 00:12:08,800 --> 00:12:15,120 Speaker 1: the absence of safety. Ask yourself, which relationship is worth 170 00:12:15,280 --> 00:12:19,520 Speaker 1: improving or which ones do you need to distance from? 171 00:12:20,120 --> 00:12:25,000 Speaker 1: Which relationship would have the greatest positive benefit in your 172 00:12:25,080 --> 00:12:29,240 Speaker 1: life if you invested in it more. Here are four 173 00:12:29,320 --> 00:12:33,319 Speaker 1: questions that will change your relationships. Who do you need 174 00:12:33,360 --> 00:12:36,800 Speaker 1: to call more, Who do you need to talk to less? 175 00:12:37,800 --> 00:12:40,720 Speaker 1: Who do you want to spend time with? Who do 176 00:12:40,760 --> 00:12:44,760 Speaker 1: you need to distance from? If you focused on transforming 177 00:12:44,800 --> 00:12:49,720 Speaker 1: your relationships this year, it will transform your life. You 178 00:12:49,760 --> 00:12:53,520 Speaker 1: know what truly holds you back. Relationships that drain you, 179 00:12:54,520 --> 00:12:58,679 Speaker 1: people who misunderstand you no matter how clearly you speak, 180 00:12:59,360 --> 00:13:04,400 Speaker 1: conversations that take energy but give none back. Connections that 181 00:13:04,480 --> 00:13:09,160 Speaker 1: make you doubt yourself instead of support yourself. It's not 182 00:13:09,240 --> 00:13:13,360 Speaker 1: your potential that's limited. It's the people who keep pulling 183 00:13:13,360 --> 00:13:18,120 Speaker 1: you backwards while you're trying to push forward. Take an 184 00:13:18,160 --> 00:13:22,240 Speaker 1: inventory of the people in your life this year. You 185 00:13:22,280 --> 00:13:25,280 Speaker 1: don't have to make big changes. You don't have to 186 00:13:25,320 --> 00:13:29,240 Speaker 1: just cut people out, but recognize what would move the 187 00:13:29,280 --> 00:13:33,680 Speaker 1: needle and give it some time and energy. Truth number four. 188 00:13:34,559 --> 00:13:39,600 Speaker 1: Fear becomes bigger the further you stand from it. Fear 189 00:13:39,640 --> 00:13:45,600 Speaker 1: becomes smaller the closer you move toward it. Action reduces anxiety. 190 00:13:46,280 --> 00:13:50,680 Speaker 1: Avoidance amplifies it. Here are some practical steps for this year. 191 00:13:51,320 --> 00:13:54,920 Speaker 1: Create a fear list instead of a to do list. Right, 192 00:13:54,920 --> 00:13:57,040 Speaker 1: we all make to do lists, but I want you 193 00:13:57,080 --> 00:14:00,679 Speaker 1: to make a fear list. Break each fear to five 194 00:14:01,040 --> 00:14:04,520 Speaker 1: micro actions, and then I want you to reward action, 195 00:14:04,720 --> 00:14:08,360 Speaker 1: not outcome. Because here's the mistake we make. You don't 196 00:14:08,400 --> 00:14:12,240 Speaker 1: have to overcome fear before you do something. You have 197 00:14:12,320 --> 00:14:15,440 Speaker 1: to do the thing whilst you're still feeling the fear. 198 00:14:16,000 --> 00:14:18,720 Speaker 1: You don't get over your fear, then start a business. 199 00:14:19,080 --> 00:14:22,840 Speaker 1: You start a business, feel scared, nervous, and anxious and 200 00:14:22,960 --> 00:14:26,760 Speaker 1: still move forward. What the fearless does is it makes 201 00:14:26,800 --> 00:14:30,600 Speaker 1: you face what you're actually struggling with. The reason you 202 00:14:30,680 --> 00:14:33,120 Speaker 1: don't do your to do list is because you're scared. 203 00:14:33,600 --> 00:14:36,440 Speaker 1: The reason you cancel that meeting is because you're scared. 204 00:14:36,800 --> 00:14:40,080 Speaker 1: The reason you don't send your resume is because you're scared. 205 00:14:40,360 --> 00:14:42,560 Speaker 1: The reason you don't ask for a promotion is because 206 00:14:42,560 --> 00:14:46,200 Speaker 1: you're scared. We're so scared of rejection, we're so scared 207 00:14:46,240 --> 00:14:50,080 Speaker 1: of failing, that we don't take action before we can 208 00:14:50,120 --> 00:14:53,920 Speaker 1: remove that feeling. What we don't realize is that life 209 00:14:54,000 --> 00:14:57,560 Speaker 1: is all about doing things, even with the feelings that 210 00:14:57,600 --> 00:15:01,120 Speaker 1: you think are holding you back. Please, please, don't let 211 00:15:01,160 --> 00:15:05,800 Speaker 1: your fears ruin your future. Please don't let your fears 212 00:15:06,160 --> 00:15:10,600 Speaker 1: keep you stuck in places you've already outgrown. Please don't 213 00:15:10,640 --> 00:15:14,440 Speaker 1: let your fears make you walk away from something good 214 00:15:14,800 --> 00:15:19,200 Speaker 1: before you've even tried. Please don't let your fears turn 215 00:15:19,280 --> 00:15:24,080 Speaker 1: temporary uncertainty into a lifetime of regret. And please don't 216 00:15:24,120 --> 00:15:27,560 Speaker 1: let your fears talk you out of the future you 217 00:15:27,720 --> 00:15:31,480 Speaker 1: know you deserve. It's fascinating to me how many of 218 00:15:31,560 --> 00:15:36,640 Speaker 1: us set goals and don't meet them, not because the 219 00:15:36,680 --> 00:15:40,280 Speaker 1: goals aren't right, but because we haven't addressed the fear. 220 00:15:41,120 --> 00:15:44,720 Speaker 1: If we don't face our fears, we can't move forward 221 00:15:44,760 --> 00:15:47,760 Speaker 1: toward our goals. So instead of just looking at your 222 00:15:47,760 --> 00:15:50,600 Speaker 1: goals every year and wondering why you're not there yet, 223 00:15:50,840 --> 00:15:53,960 Speaker 1: make this the year you face your fears, address them, 224 00:15:54,360 --> 00:15:58,840 Speaker 1: focus on them, break through them by taking action even 225 00:15:58,880 --> 00:16:02,320 Speaker 1: when they exist. One of my favorite quotes that I've 226 00:16:02,360 --> 00:16:07,280 Speaker 1: ever heard is, if you feel afraid, do it afraid. 227 00:16:08,480 --> 00:16:13,359 Speaker 1: If you feel scared, do it scared. If you feel anxious, 228 00:16:14,160 --> 00:16:19,640 Speaker 1: do it anxious, And if you feel nervous, do it nervous. 229 00:16:20,680 --> 00:16:24,880 Speaker 1: It's better to do the thing even feeling that way, 230 00:16:25,800 --> 00:16:29,040 Speaker 1: than to hope you will get over that feeling so 231 00:16:29,120 --> 00:16:55,240 Speaker 1: you can finally start. Truth number six, the power of service. 232 00:16:56,160 --> 00:17:03,160 Speaker 1: Service isn't just charity. Service is identity, it's meaning. It's medicine. 233 00:17:03,840 --> 00:17:08,800 Speaker 1: Neuroscience shows that helping others activates the brain's reward pathways, 234 00:17:09,200 --> 00:17:13,000 Speaker 1: the same circuits that light up for purpose and joy. 235 00:17:13,560 --> 00:17:16,760 Speaker 1: There's even studies that show that when people are experiencing depression, 236 00:17:17,160 --> 00:17:20,960 Speaker 1: if they help others with depression, theirs goes down. So 237 00:17:21,080 --> 00:17:23,760 Speaker 1: sometimes we also say to ourselves, I'll help when I 238 00:17:23,800 --> 00:17:27,639 Speaker 1: have more, not realizing you'll have more if you help now. 239 00:17:28,200 --> 00:17:32,200 Speaker 1: If you help someone now, you feel great a self esteem. 240 00:17:32,520 --> 00:17:36,000 Speaker 1: You count your blessings. You realize what skills you have. 241 00:17:36,840 --> 00:17:40,119 Speaker 1: I learned about the skills and talents I have because 242 00:17:40,160 --> 00:17:43,400 Speaker 1: I started using things in the service of others, even 243 00:17:43,480 --> 00:17:46,440 Speaker 1: before I knew I had them. Here are some practical 244 00:17:46,440 --> 00:17:49,480 Speaker 1: ways you can do that. You could volunteer one hour 245 00:17:49,520 --> 00:17:53,920 Speaker 1: a week. You could help one person quietly. You could 246 00:17:54,000 --> 00:17:56,800 Speaker 1: use your skills for someone else's benefit of the community. 247 00:17:57,480 --> 00:18:02,000 Speaker 1: Pick one issue you worry about and get involved. If 248 00:18:02,040 --> 00:18:05,720 Speaker 1: you want to change your life, change someone else's day. 249 00:18:06,800 --> 00:18:12,080 Speaker 1: If you want to change your year, change someone else's week. 250 00:18:13,040 --> 00:18:18,879 Speaker 1: If you want to change your month, change someone else's hour. 251 00:18:19,920 --> 00:18:24,760 Speaker 1: You can transform your life by transforming someone else's. So 252 00:18:24,960 --> 00:18:29,600 Speaker 1: here's your year. Redesigned. Break your year into four ninety 253 00:18:29,760 --> 00:18:36,480 Speaker 1: day seasons. Season one Reset, Redesign your environment and your habits. 254 00:18:36,920 --> 00:18:41,639 Speaker 1: Season two Learn master two skills that change your confidence 255 00:18:41,960 --> 00:18:45,840 Speaker 1: and direction. Promise you will make a big difference. Season 256 00:18:45,920 --> 00:18:52,080 Speaker 1: three Connect, Repair, deepen and rebuild relationships. Season four Expand, 257 00:18:52,440 --> 00:18:56,560 Speaker 1: Face fears, take risks, and create something new. You don't 258 00:18:56,560 --> 00:18:59,080 Speaker 1: have to do everything I said in one season a 259 00:18:59,160 --> 00:19:05,280 Speaker 1: years four CSA. You don't see the weather trying to snow, rain, sunshine, 260 00:19:05,640 --> 00:19:08,359 Speaker 1: and everything else all in one day. That's not what 261 00:19:08,440 --> 00:19:13,280 Speaker 1: the climate tries to do. Move in seasons. Remember this, 262 00:19:14,240 --> 00:19:18,120 Speaker 1: A year isn't three hundred and sixty five days, it's 263 00:19:18,160 --> 00:19:23,959 Speaker 1: fifty two chances, twelve chapters, and four seasons. Your life 264 00:19:24,280 --> 00:19:28,000 Speaker 1: can change this year, not because the year is magical, 265 00:19:28,520 --> 00:19:32,320 Speaker 1: but because you are capable. You don't need a perfect plan, 266 00:19:32,920 --> 00:19:37,800 Speaker 1: you don't need certainty, you don't need confidence, you need momentum. 267 00:19:38,080 --> 00:19:41,040 Speaker 1: You need one decision, you need one step, and you 268 00:19:41,200 --> 00:19:46,400 Speaker 1: need to remember this. One year of intention can undo 269 00:19:47,119 --> 00:19:53,119 Speaker 1: ten years of drifting. So choose one thing today, one habit, 270 00:19:53,480 --> 00:19:59,040 Speaker 1: one relationship, one skill, one decision, one fear, one active service, 271 00:19:59,680 --> 00:20:04,320 Speaker 1: and just start. A year from now, you will look 272 00:20:04,359 --> 00:20:09,200 Speaker 1: back and barely recognize the person you used to be 273 00:20:09,200 --> 00:20:13,280 Speaker 1: because your life doesn't change some day, it changes the 274 00:20:13,359 --> 00:20:17,760 Speaker 1: day that you just start. The insight and advice that 275 00:20:17,800 --> 00:20:21,240 Speaker 1: I've shared with you today will truly make a difference. 276 00:20:21,840 --> 00:20:24,399 Speaker 1: I've had the fortune of having incredible years in my 277 00:20:24,480 --> 00:20:27,120 Speaker 1: life where I have changed my life in a year, 278 00:20:27,720 --> 00:20:30,240 Speaker 1: and when you look at it that way, you actually 279 00:20:30,320 --> 00:20:34,119 Speaker 1: give yourself the opportunity to transform. Sometimes we want to 280 00:20:34,160 --> 00:20:36,360 Speaker 1: change our life in a day. We want to change 281 00:20:36,359 --> 00:20:39,760 Speaker 1: our life in a month. Give yourself a year this 282 00:20:39,840 --> 00:20:44,800 Speaker 1: year to really make a difference. See, we think consistency 283 00:20:44,840 --> 00:20:49,879 Speaker 1: looks like this. Real consistency looks like this. Right. If 284 00:20:49,960 --> 00:20:52,560 Speaker 1: you think to yourself, I'm going to work out five 285 00:20:52,640 --> 00:20:54,560 Speaker 1: days a week every week for the rest of the year. 286 00:20:55,520 --> 00:20:57,680 Speaker 1: The one week where you only do three days, you'll 287 00:20:57,680 --> 00:21:00,719 Speaker 1: feel like a failure. So what do you do? You 288 00:21:00,800 --> 00:21:04,359 Speaker 1: recognize five's the average. There'll be some weeks you do seven. 289 00:21:04,640 --> 00:21:06,760 Speaker 1: There'll be some weeks you do three. There'll be some 290 00:21:06,800 --> 00:21:08,639 Speaker 1: weeks you do four, and there'll be some weeks you 291 00:21:08,680 --> 00:21:13,280 Speaker 1: do six. When you give yourself that flexibility and adaptability 292 00:21:13,760 --> 00:21:17,080 Speaker 1: to hit the average, not the ideal, every single week, 293 00:21:17,800 --> 00:21:22,840 Speaker 1: you finally give yourself an opportunity to make a huge difference. 294 00:21:23,760 --> 00:21:27,360 Speaker 1: I've seen so many people try to put too much 295 00:21:27,400 --> 00:21:31,240 Speaker 1: pressure on themselves. I've seen so many people who've been 296 00:21:31,280 --> 00:21:35,359 Speaker 1: so harsh to themselves. If you really want this year 297 00:21:36,000 --> 00:21:40,720 Speaker 1: to be the year that everything changes, follow these steps, 298 00:21:41,440 --> 00:21:45,159 Speaker 1: stay accountable, Find someone you can share these goals with, 299 00:21:45,840 --> 00:21:49,439 Speaker 1: and move forward together. Your goal doesn't get you to 300 00:21:49,480 --> 00:21:53,080 Speaker 1: the goal. It's the growth that gets you to the goal. 301 00:21:54,160 --> 00:21:56,200 Speaker 1: How are you willing to grow? Who are you willing 302 00:21:56,240 --> 00:22:00,280 Speaker 1: to become? What are you willing to change? If you'veocus 303 00:22:00,320 --> 00:22:05,240 Speaker 1: on transformation over the destination, you will get there quicker. 304 00:22:06,080 --> 00:22:08,160 Speaker 1: Often we keep looking at the goal and thinking it's 305 00:22:08,160 --> 00:22:10,199 Speaker 1: so far away. It's so hard to get there. I 306 00:22:10,200 --> 00:22:12,879 Speaker 1: don't know when it's going to happen. If we just 307 00:22:12,920 --> 00:22:17,239 Speaker 1: focused on the next step, the next step forward, just 308 00:22:17,280 --> 00:22:20,639 Speaker 1: one step at a time, you'll be at the destination 309 00:22:21,520 --> 00:22:24,919 Speaker 1: in no time. Please know that you can change your 310 00:22:24,960 --> 00:22:28,080 Speaker 1: life in a year by changing the few things that 311 00:22:28,119 --> 00:22:31,640 Speaker 1: I laid out and remember and forever in your corner. 312 00:22:31,960 --> 00:22:34,840 Speaker 1: I'm always rooting for you and I wish you all 313 00:22:35,119 --> 00:22:38,399 Speaker 1: the best. Thank you so much for watching this video. 314 00:22:38,760 --> 00:22:41,960 Speaker 1: I'm so grateful for your support. Twenty twenty six is 315 00:22:42,000 --> 00:22:42,719 Speaker 1: going to be the best here. 316 00:22:42,800 --> 00:22:42,960 Speaker 2: Yeah. 317 00:22:43,000 --> 00:22:45,080 Speaker 1: I want you to subscribe to my channel so you 318 00:22:45,200 --> 00:22:48,560 Speaker 1: never miss a video. Thank you so much for listening 319 00:22:48,600 --> 00:22:51,840 Speaker 1: to this conversation. If you enjoyed it, you'll love my 320 00:22:52,040 --> 00:22:55,880 Speaker 1: chat with Adam Grant on why discomfort is the key 321 00:22:55,920 --> 00:22:59,960 Speaker 1: to growth and the strategies for unlocking your hidden potential. 322 00:23:00,440 --> 00:23:02,520 Speaker 1: If you know you want to be more and achieve 323 00:23:02,560 --> 00:23:05,320 Speaker 1: more this year. Go check it out right now. 324 00:23:05,480 --> 00:23:08,159 Speaker 2: You set a goal today, you achieve it in six months, 325 00:23:08,560 --> 00:23:11,480 Speaker 2: and then by the time it happens, it's almost a relief. 326 00:23:11,600 --> 00:23:13,720 Speaker 2: There's no sense of meaning and purpose. You sort of 327 00:23:13,760 --> 00:23:15,840 Speaker 2: expected it, and you would have been disappointed if it 328 00:23:15,840 --> 00:23:16,480 Speaker 2: didn't happen.