1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:03,880 Speaker 1: My sister is sabotaging my marriage and my pregnancy. Should 2 00:00:03,920 --> 00:00:06,080 Speaker 1: she be at the birth? This is okop home with 3 00:00:06,120 --> 00:00:09,600 Speaker 1: the craziest stories on Earth. This comes from throwaway pink 4 00:00:09,760 --> 00:00:13,079 Speaker 1: boats and they say okay. So the key players in 5 00:00:13,119 --> 00:00:16,959 Speaker 1: the story are me female twenty seven, my husband Kareem forty, 6 00:00:17,160 --> 00:00:21,079 Speaker 1: and my little sister Tasha thirteen, and my mom fifty eight. 7 00:00:22,480 --> 00:00:25,079 Speaker 1: For context, my mom and dad had Tasha as a 8 00:00:25,160 --> 00:00:28,200 Speaker 1: last resort to fix their failing marriage. Best way to 9 00:00:28,200 --> 00:00:31,120 Speaker 1: save a marriage. Yes, they say, I'm nearly nine months 10 00:00:31,160 --> 00:00:33,839 Speaker 1: pregnant like legit, three weeks out and my husband is 11 00:00:33,880 --> 00:00:36,720 Speaker 1: a second generation immigrant. We weren't trying, but we were 12 00:00:36,720 --> 00:00:39,400 Speaker 1: excited when we found out about the first baby. We 13 00:00:39,400 --> 00:00:42,080 Speaker 1: were waiting until we were out of the first trimester 14 00:00:42,240 --> 00:00:44,519 Speaker 1: and told everyone after that because like sometimes you can 15 00:00:44,600 --> 00:00:47,560 Speaker 1: have like a miscarriage and stuff. Kareem's family are super 16 00:00:47,600 --> 00:00:49,760 Speaker 1: excited and can't wait to bring the baby to their 17 00:00:49,800 --> 00:00:52,760 Speaker 1: home country. My mom was happy when we told her, 18 00:00:52,880 --> 00:00:55,680 Speaker 1: but made some grumbling remarks about being young to be 19 00:00:55,720 --> 00:00:58,880 Speaker 1: a grandma. I presume she was joking. My dad we 20 00:00:58,960 --> 00:01:01,760 Speaker 1: told separately. He gets on great with my husband and 21 00:01:01,840 --> 00:01:04,800 Speaker 1: he said he would help Kareem and I with anything 22 00:01:04,920 --> 00:01:10,039 Speaker 1: baby related. At first, Tasha so Tasha is the thirteen 23 00:01:10,120 --> 00:01:13,480 Speaker 1: year old. Thirteen year old little sister was excited about 24 00:01:13,480 --> 00:01:16,640 Speaker 1: talking about how she's the youngest auntie and it was cute. 25 00:01:16,800 --> 00:01:17,520 Speaker 2: She has spoiled. 26 00:01:17,520 --> 00:01:18,920 Speaker 1: I don't want to call her a brat, but she 27 00:01:18,920 --> 00:01:21,800 Speaker 1: can get an attitude when things don't happen how she wants. 28 00:01:22,080 --> 00:01:24,959 Speaker 1: But then once we told everyone we were having a girl, 29 00:01:25,440 --> 00:01:27,640 Speaker 1: she went quiet. We didn't do a big announcement, just 30 00:01:27,680 --> 00:01:30,280 Speaker 1: told people when we saw them. We both have busy 31 00:01:30,360 --> 00:01:33,399 Speaker 1: jobs and I kept working until recently. Luckily I can 32 00:01:33,440 --> 00:01:36,920 Speaker 1: work remotely if needed. My dad was excited to be 33 00:01:36,959 --> 00:01:39,400 Speaker 1: a girl granddad. In some ways, I've been closer with 34 00:01:39,520 --> 00:01:42,319 Speaker 1: him after the divorce. My mom put all her effort 35 00:01:42,360 --> 00:01:44,959 Speaker 1: into Tasha and making sure she was okay as she 36 00:01:45,040 --> 00:01:47,440 Speaker 1: was the youngest. She's a bit of a golden child 37 00:01:47,480 --> 00:01:51,320 Speaker 1: for my mom. Kareem's family got him a T shirt 38 00:01:51,320 --> 00:01:53,360 Speaker 1: that has a joke about being a girl dad on it. 39 00:01:53,760 --> 00:01:56,480 Speaker 1: I've always said he gives off girl dad energy, so 40 00:01:56,640 --> 00:01:59,680 Speaker 1: it's funny. When I got big around the five months mark, 41 00:01:59,840 --> 00:02:04,400 Speaker 1: I was really ill. I had hypermesis revidarum and was 42 00:02:04,440 --> 00:02:07,240 Speaker 1: admitted to a hospital. Riley, what is that sounds like 43 00:02:07,280 --> 00:02:12,839 Speaker 1: a Harry Potter spell. It is intractable vomiting during pregnancy. 44 00:02:13,480 --> 00:02:16,200 Speaker 1: That sounds rough, mading to weight loss. 45 00:02:16,639 --> 00:02:18,000 Speaker 2: Don't like that. Don't like that. 46 00:02:18,200 --> 00:02:20,200 Speaker 1: I have a heart condition, so there was always worry 47 00:02:20,240 --> 00:02:24,000 Speaker 1: about side effects during the pregnancy. Tasha refused to visit 48 00:02:24,040 --> 00:02:27,080 Speaker 1: me in hospital, meaning my mom didn't come either. But 49 00:02:27,160 --> 00:02:29,240 Speaker 1: I understood why a thirteen year old girl might not 50 00:02:29,280 --> 00:02:32,280 Speaker 1: want to come to a hospital. However, she's become so 51 00:02:32,480 --> 00:02:36,919 Speaker 1: standoffish and rude to myself and my husband, scoffing when 52 00:02:36,960 --> 00:02:40,720 Speaker 1: we talk about baby girl, joking how emotional I was, saying, 53 00:02:40,760 --> 00:02:43,400 Speaker 1: more trouble than it's worth my heart. She said we 54 00:02:43,520 --> 00:02:47,000 Speaker 1: stole her favorite name when we announced it, as adly, 55 00:02:47,480 --> 00:02:50,520 Speaker 1: she's never said that name before. She also joked about 56 00:02:50,560 --> 00:02:53,400 Speaker 1: how fat I had gotten. Kareem had enough and told 57 00:02:53,440 --> 00:02:55,880 Speaker 1: her to grow up. But my mom defended Tasha, saying 58 00:02:55,919 --> 00:02:58,760 Speaker 1: she's probably just a bit jealous about no longer being 59 00:02:58,800 --> 00:03:00,959 Speaker 1: the youngest in the family anymore, and it sounds a 60 00:03:00,960 --> 00:03:05,959 Speaker 1: little bratty. Tasha, Yes, yeah, yeah, very spoiled, very spoiled. 61 00:03:07,160 --> 00:03:09,600 Speaker 1: Not no, not at all. I mean you're definitely seeing 62 00:03:09,639 --> 00:03:12,640 Speaker 1: like young youngest sibling jealousy. I tried to talk and 63 00:03:12,680 --> 00:03:15,320 Speaker 1: ask her what's wrong, but she got an attitude again 64 00:03:15,320 --> 00:03:18,960 Speaker 1: and told me I made everything about the baby and myself. 65 00:03:19,360 --> 00:03:21,280 Speaker 2: No, you're making this about yourself. 66 00:03:21,680 --> 00:03:25,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, how dare you make it about you and 67 00:03:25,200 --> 00:03:27,079 Speaker 1: your baby that you're about to. 68 00:03:27,000 --> 00:03:29,280 Speaker 2: Have, like in like a literal, like like a week 69 00:03:29,360 --> 00:03:32,160 Speaker 2: or two. Yeah, this time is for her, like let 70 00:03:32,160 --> 00:03:34,280 Speaker 2: her have this moment. Yeah, she's about the pop. She 71 00:03:34,360 --> 00:03:35,520 Speaker 2: needs to be like comfortable. 72 00:03:35,560 --> 00:03:38,840 Speaker 1: We were discussing my birthing plan on a family FaceTime. 73 00:03:39,400 --> 00:03:44,400 Speaker 1: Typical self absorbed mother talking about a friendly flan. It's 74 00:03:44,400 --> 00:03:46,800 Speaker 1: probably what Tasha is saying and I and how I 75 00:03:46,800 --> 00:03:48,480 Speaker 1: have planned to have a sea section to reduce the 76 00:03:48,480 --> 00:03:51,040 Speaker 1: stress of my heart. I'm a bit nervous, but I've 77 00:03:51,040 --> 00:03:53,560 Speaker 1: had surgery before. I was trying to get my dad 78 00:03:53,600 --> 00:03:56,400 Speaker 1: to calm cream down and ask if he'd be in 79 00:03:57,080 --> 00:03:59,080 Speaker 1: and asked if he'd be in the waiting room. He 80 00:03:59,160 --> 00:04:01,920 Speaker 1: was really happy if he could bring his good friend. 81 00:04:02,400 --> 00:04:05,520 Speaker 1: We all know she's his girlfriend, but they won't admit it. 82 00:04:06,360 --> 00:04:08,760 Speaker 1: I like that little like drama on the side, little 83 00:04:09,000 --> 00:04:11,720 Speaker 1: side story, little side story. I got a call from 84 00:04:11,720 --> 00:04:14,240 Speaker 1: my mom and Tasha, who were really angry. I hadn't 85 00:04:14,240 --> 00:04:16,480 Speaker 1: invited them to the birth or told them I had 86 00:04:16,480 --> 00:04:20,040 Speaker 1: planned a see section. I told them Tasha had complained 87 00:04:20,080 --> 00:04:23,000 Speaker 1: about me only speaking about the baby, and my mom 88 00:04:23,120 --> 00:04:26,680 Speaker 1: told me not to be so flippant. Tasha was rolling 89 00:04:26,720 --> 00:04:29,880 Speaker 1: her eyes when mom asked about the surgery. And I 90 00:04:29,960 --> 00:04:33,680 Speaker 1: know she's thirteen, but something about it seems so calculated 91 00:04:33,720 --> 00:04:35,920 Speaker 1: from her. I don't know, right, do you think it's calculator 92 00:04:35,960 --> 00:04:37,080 Speaker 1: or do you think she's been thirteen? 93 00:04:37,320 --> 00:04:39,320 Speaker 2: I think she's being thirteen. I think she's being thirteen 94 00:04:39,400 --> 00:04:40,240 Speaker 2: feeling thirteen. 95 00:04:40,560 --> 00:04:44,520 Speaker 1: I mean, like middle schoolers can be cruel, for sure. 96 00:04:44,640 --> 00:04:47,480 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, but it's saying calculated to a thirteen year 97 00:04:47,480 --> 00:04:48,520 Speaker 1: old seems like a bit much. 98 00:04:48,640 --> 00:04:51,880 Speaker 3: Yeah, But also we don't see the full thing. And 99 00:04:52,440 --> 00:04:54,680 Speaker 3: in these moments, you gotta trust your gut. 100 00:04:55,120 --> 00:04:57,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, Like I mean, definitely, you don't need to have 101 00:04:57,120 --> 00:05:00,000 Speaker 1: her around you, especially if she's not a good vibe. 102 00:05:00,040 --> 00:05:02,720 Speaker 1: I bore the pregnancy, you know, like that, like the 103 00:05:02,880 --> 00:05:06,839 Speaker 1: the the birth should be about like you your baby 104 00:05:06,839 --> 00:05:07,800 Speaker 1: and you know your husband. 105 00:05:07,839 --> 00:05:08,960 Speaker 2: You're like immediate feeling. 106 00:05:09,200 --> 00:05:12,320 Speaker 1: You don't need to be playing like familial politics at 107 00:05:12,320 --> 00:05:12,880 Speaker 1: that point, you know. 108 00:05:12,960 --> 00:05:16,159 Speaker 3: Yeah, But like low KEI and A, I have thoughts 109 00:05:16,200 --> 00:05:19,080 Speaker 3: on this. I need a little bit more content keep going. 110 00:05:19,240 --> 00:05:21,240 Speaker 1: My mom asked to be there, and I said she 111 00:05:21,320 --> 00:05:23,440 Speaker 1: could be in the waiting room if she would be 112 00:05:23,560 --> 00:05:26,520 Speaker 1: nice to dad. Tasha started talking about how long it 113 00:05:26,520 --> 00:05:29,720 Speaker 1: would take, but I informed her she was only invited 114 00:05:29,760 --> 00:05:33,960 Speaker 1: to visit after Adley had been born, so basically Tasha 115 00:05:34,080 --> 00:05:36,960 Speaker 1: is kind of banned from the birth. Now her and 116 00:05:37,040 --> 00:05:39,600 Speaker 1: mom are blowing up, saying, I'm cruel for letting a 117 00:05:39,680 --> 00:05:43,400 Speaker 1: random friend of dad's visit but not letting my little 118 00:05:43,440 --> 00:05:46,840 Speaker 1: sister be there for her niece's birth. I'm sad, as 119 00:05:46,880 --> 00:05:49,640 Speaker 1: I hope the pregnancy would bring my mom and I closer. 120 00:05:49,920 --> 00:05:52,839 Speaker 1: But alas and edit, I just remembered something else that happened. 121 00:05:52,880 --> 00:05:56,640 Speaker 1: Tasha walked into our garden one afternoon without any notice 122 00:05:56,680 --> 00:05:59,400 Speaker 1: to tell us and saw us making out on the 123 00:05:59,440 --> 00:06:02,200 Speaker 1: swing chair. Nothing is scandalous, but my hormones have been 124 00:06:02,240 --> 00:06:04,960 Speaker 1: all over the place. She made a comment, no, wonder 125 00:06:05,000 --> 00:06:08,440 Speaker 1: you're pregnant. It's all that you do. He's also been 126 00:06:08,440 --> 00:06:10,400 Speaker 1: perfectly nice to Cream throughout the pregnancy. 127 00:06:10,480 --> 00:06:10,960 Speaker 2: It's just me. 128 00:06:11,120 --> 00:06:13,719 Speaker 1: She has an attitude death and there is a thick, 129 00:06:14,120 --> 00:06:16,360 Speaker 1: juicy edit from the next day. 130 00:06:16,760 --> 00:06:18,680 Speaker 2: But what do we think so far? 131 00:06:18,839 --> 00:06:21,880 Speaker 3: I don't think there's a problem, Like, no one should 132 00:06:21,920 --> 00:06:23,520 Speaker 3: be there while you're giving birth. It should just be 133 00:06:23,680 --> 00:06:28,600 Speaker 3: like you and the father. I feel like, how many 134 00:06:28,640 --> 00:06:30,360 Speaker 3: people were there at your birth, Sam. 135 00:06:31,120 --> 00:06:31,600 Speaker 2: I don't know. 136 00:06:32,000 --> 00:06:34,400 Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure I was at my sisters, but I 137 00:06:34,400 --> 00:06:36,800 Speaker 1: don't know if I was in the actual room. Yeah, 138 00:06:36,880 --> 00:06:39,359 Speaker 1: like being around, but it sounds like they're just in 139 00:06:39,400 --> 00:06:40,599 Speaker 1: the waiting room outside. 140 00:06:41,600 --> 00:06:42,320 Speaker 2: Oh they're not. 141 00:06:42,520 --> 00:06:44,640 Speaker 1: They're not like in the delivery room. 142 00:06:44,720 --> 00:06:51,039 Speaker 2: Yeah. I feel like, Ope, you need to like set the. 143 00:06:50,880 --> 00:06:53,880 Speaker 3: Mood whenever Tasher comes because you're gonna have a newborn 144 00:06:53,920 --> 00:06:55,520 Speaker 3: and you, I feel like you have more power of 145 00:06:55,560 --> 00:07:00,080 Speaker 3: setting the mood and getting rid of like the teenage angstiness. 146 00:07:00,000 --> 00:07:02,120 Speaker 1: While she's in the waiting room, not while she's in 147 00:07:02,160 --> 00:07:03,640 Speaker 1: the writing room, but whenever she comes to visit. 148 00:07:03,640 --> 00:07:05,320 Speaker 3: Because if she's in the writing room, that doesn't affect 149 00:07:05,320 --> 00:07:07,479 Speaker 3: you whatsoever. But whenever she comes to visit your baby, 150 00:07:08,040 --> 00:07:08,880 Speaker 3: that's when it becomes. 151 00:07:08,920 --> 00:07:11,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, but do you want like an angsty like anything 152 00:07:11,880 --> 00:07:13,520 Speaker 1: is Like in the waiting room, she can. 153 00:07:13,400 --> 00:07:14,120 Speaker 2: Cause a ruckus. 154 00:07:14,240 --> 00:07:16,240 Speaker 1: She could be like, no, I want to see the 155 00:07:16,280 --> 00:07:18,120 Speaker 1: baby now, or this is taking so much time, and 156 00:07:18,120 --> 00:07:18,960 Speaker 1: then she can pull your. 157 00:07:18,840 --> 00:07:20,240 Speaker 2: Mother away, you know. 158 00:07:20,840 --> 00:07:23,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, so she's like, all right, she can come after 159 00:07:23,560 --> 00:07:25,640 Speaker 1: the baby still have her. Yeah that makes sense, Like 160 00:07:26,680 --> 00:07:29,920 Speaker 1: that makes sense, especially because she's had a history of 161 00:07:29,960 --> 00:07:32,000 Speaker 1: being kind of a little Yeah. 162 00:07:32,280 --> 00:07:34,520 Speaker 3: Yeah, but I'm just saying op could have it, has 163 00:07:34,560 --> 00:07:36,400 Speaker 3: an opportunity now to set the mood. 164 00:07:37,120 --> 00:07:38,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, And I don't know, what do you think? Do 165 00:07:38,680 --> 00:07:40,720 Speaker 1: you think you would have someone like Tasha in your 166 00:07:40,760 --> 00:07:42,720 Speaker 1: waiting room or would you banish her? 167 00:07:43,720 --> 00:07:44,160 Speaker 2: What do you do? 168 00:07:44,440 --> 00:07:48,160 Speaker 1: As the comments and I'm curious, so at it the 169 00:07:48,200 --> 00:07:51,880 Speaker 1: next day. As some people can't seem to understand, I'll reiterate, 170 00:07:52,240 --> 00:07:56,560 Speaker 1: I've tried connecting to Tasha. I've tried communicating and comforting her. 171 00:07:56,800 --> 00:08:00,240 Speaker 1: I've tried getting her excited about being an auntie. She's 172 00:08:00,280 --> 00:08:02,280 Speaker 1: made cruel comments about my weight. I used to have 173 00:08:02,320 --> 00:08:05,600 Speaker 1: a beating disorder, how I'm a tention seeker to get pregnant. 174 00:08:05,840 --> 00:08:09,920 Speaker 1: She's literally slammed a door in me, causing me to 175 00:08:09,960 --> 00:08:13,520 Speaker 1: hurt myself. She's been all over my husband but ignoring 176 00:08:13,520 --> 00:08:16,240 Speaker 1: me to my face. She's made a comment about me 177 00:08:16,360 --> 00:08:20,040 Speaker 1: not keeping my leg shut This isn't about her being confused. 178 00:08:20,160 --> 00:08:23,280 Speaker 1: She knows what childbirth and pregnancy is. She also banned 179 00:08:23,280 --> 00:08:25,600 Speaker 1: our mom from visiting me when I rushed to the 180 00:08:25,640 --> 00:08:28,680 Speaker 1: hospital and had complained about me talking about the baby, 181 00:08:28,800 --> 00:08:31,520 Speaker 1: so I didn't include her in conversations about the birth. 182 00:08:32,120 --> 00:08:34,240 Speaker 1: She's not angry because I'm trying to keep her away 183 00:08:34,280 --> 00:08:37,040 Speaker 1: from the baby. She's angry because I'm pregnant and she 184 00:08:37,120 --> 00:08:38,840 Speaker 1: will no longer be the youngest girl. 185 00:08:38,960 --> 00:08:39,160 Speaker 3: Ah. 186 00:08:39,559 --> 00:08:41,800 Speaker 1: I'd like to add the family dynamic was pretty good 187 00:08:41,880 --> 00:08:44,440 Speaker 1: until I got pregnant. She was my mom's favorite, but 188 00:08:44,600 --> 00:08:46,239 Speaker 1: dad doesn't do favorites. 189 00:08:46,840 --> 00:08:49,120 Speaker 2: That makes a lot more since. 190 00:08:50,200 --> 00:08:51,560 Speaker 1: I mean, what do you even do with a kid 191 00:08:51,600 --> 00:08:53,760 Speaker 1: like that? I feel like it needs to come from 192 00:08:53,800 --> 00:08:55,680 Speaker 1: the mom, but it doesn't seem the mom is going 193 00:08:55,760 --> 00:08:58,839 Speaker 1: to do anything. Yeah, because the mom is like the 194 00:08:58,880 --> 00:08:59,880 Speaker 1: one who's parenting her. 195 00:09:00,440 --> 00:09:00,680 Speaker 2: Yeah. 196 00:09:00,679 --> 00:09:04,760 Speaker 3: This reminds me of rug Rats whenever the little brother 197 00:09:04,840 --> 00:09:06,760 Speaker 3: was introduced to the family. The first movie, the first 198 00:09:06,800 --> 00:09:07,439 Speaker 3: Rugrats movie. 199 00:09:07,520 --> 00:09:09,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, I didn't watch it. You watch the rug Rats movies? Yeah? 200 00:09:09,720 --> 00:09:11,880 Speaker 2: I watched the Simpsons movie. Whatever, the rug Rats the 201 00:09:11,920 --> 00:09:13,960 Speaker 2: rug Rats this is? Does it go off? Well? 202 00:09:14,000 --> 00:09:17,920 Speaker 3: Liked Tommy, his brother Dial is in the picture, so 203 00:09:17,960 --> 00:09:21,760 Speaker 3: Tommy has spends the whole movie figuring out what it's 204 00:09:21,800 --> 00:09:24,000 Speaker 3: like to not be the only child, to be an 205 00:09:24,000 --> 00:09:27,360 Speaker 3: older brother. So I feel like this is very similar. 206 00:09:27,480 --> 00:09:29,160 Speaker 3: Like it's just a phase. It's a phase. 207 00:09:29,320 --> 00:09:32,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, you have to be a rock. Well, she's a wave. 208 00:09:32,640 --> 00:09:35,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, because I mean she is a child and you 209 00:09:35,040 --> 00:09:36,880 Speaker 1: are an adult. So like you need you need to 210 00:09:36,920 --> 00:09:38,800 Speaker 1: be you need to be more more, more mature one. 211 00:09:38,840 --> 00:09:40,120 Speaker 2: She's literally a teenager. 212 00:09:40,160 --> 00:09:41,720 Speaker 1: So but I don't think that means you have to 213 00:09:41,760 --> 00:09:46,520 Speaker 1: have her at no. At the birth update two days 214 00:09:46,559 --> 00:09:48,880 Speaker 1: from the og post, I want to address the comment 215 00:09:48,920 --> 00:09:51,240 Speaker 1: saying of a bad sister, I hate Tasha. I need 216 00:09:51,280 --> 00:09:54,200 Speaker 1: to reassure and comfort her and show her sympathy. We 217 00:09:54,280 --> 00:09:57,280 Speaker 1: had a normal relationship until I announced my baby was 218 00:09:57,320 --> 00:10:00,920 Speaker 1: a girl. Then she got an attitude change only with me. 219 00:10:01,600 --> 00:10:04,679 Speaker 1: She's blocked my number and runs away from me when 220 00:10:04,679 --> 00:10:07,559 Speaker 1: I try to talk to her. Oh, she complains, saying, 221 00:10:07,600 --> 00:10:09,360 Speaker 1: all I do is talk about the baby. So I 222 00:10:09,400 --> 00:10:11,439 Speaker 1: thought I wouldn't go into detail about the birth if 223 00:10:11,440 --> 00:10:14,280 Speaker 1: she wasn't interested, and tried to encourage us to spend 224 00:10:14,360 --> 00:10:17,440 Speaker 1: time together before the birth, I got nothing in return. 225 00:10:17,559 --> 00:10:20,800 Speaker 1: She physically pushed me and banned my mom from visiting 226 00:10:20,800 --> 00:10:22,839 Speaker 1: me in the hospital when I'm sick. I said dad's 227 00:10:22,840 --> 00:10:25,640 Speaker 1: friend could visit, not stay, as she has given us 228 00:10:25,760 --> 00:10:28,400 Speaker 1: some stuff for the baby. Mom hadn't been involved with 229 00:10:28,440 --> 00:10:30,760 Speaker 1: me or the baby because of Tasha, which is fine, 230 00:10:31,040 --> 00:10:33,559 Speaker 1: but why would they then want to be at the birth. 231 00:10:34,360 --> 00:10:36,600 Speaker 1: I've been trying to reach out and ask her reasons 232 00:10:36,640 --> 00:10:38,880 Speaker 1: for being so horrible to me, calling me names and 233 00:10:38,920 --> 00:10:41,720 Speaker 1: saying things about my baby, but she ignores me and 234 00:10:41,800 --> 00:10:44,560 Speaker 1: won't talk to me, so I don't know what else 235 00:10:44,600 --> 00:10:46,880 Speaker 1: I'm expected to do. I appreciate being a thirteen year 236 00:10:46,880 --> 00:10:48,920 Speaker 1: old girl as hard I was one once, but I 237 00:10:48,960 --> 00:10:51,360 Speaker 1: didn't act like this. It's not my place to have 238 00:10:51,400 --> 00:10:53,840 Speaker 1: to parent Tasha when she has two parents, a mom 239 00:10:53,880 --> 00:10:56,640 Speaker 1: that spoils her, and when I'm about to have my 240 00:10:56,679 --> 00:11:00,079 Speaker 1: own baby. Yike, it does seem like the mom to 241 00:11:00,080 --> 00:11:01,160 Speaker 1: step in, and it's just like, is. 242 00:11:01,120 --> 00:11:02,880 Speaker 2: It, Yeah, she's not doing her job. 243 00:11:02,960 --> 00:11:05,880 Speaker 1: She's not doing her job. Is there anything like op 244 00:11:06,080 --> 00:11:06,760 Speaker 1: can do you think? 245 00:11:07,080 --> 00:11:10,840 Speaker 2: Like? What would you do in oposition? 246 00:11:11,400 --> 00:11:13,960 Speaker 3: Honestly, sounds like she's done a lot already, like try 247 00:11:14,000 --> 00:11:17,600 Speaker 3: to comfort her, talk to her, but she's physically pushing 248 00:11:17,600 --> 00:11:21,160 Speaker 3: her way. I feel like still keep that welcoming, like, hey, 249 00:11:21,160 --> 00:11:22,800 Speaker 3: if you need to talk, let's here. 250 00:11:23,240 --> 00:11:26,480 Speaker 2: But you figure this out on your own. Yeah, when 251 00:11:26,520 --> 00:11:27,320 Speaker 2: you're ready, I'm here. 252 00:11:27,520 --> 00:11:32,200 Speaker 1: Sometimes like trying to bridge the gap actually like pushes 253 00:11:33,120 --> 00:11:34,440 Speaker 1: that person further away. 254 00:11:34,520 --> 00:11:36,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, you gotta they got a one amend. 255 00:11:36,559 --> 00:11:38,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, because they want to. They have to help you 256 00:11:38,240 --> 00:11:40,720 Speaker 1: build that bridge. You can't just build one man bridge. 257 00:11:40,800 --> 00:11:41,320 Speaker 2: What would you do? 258 00:11:41,720 --> 00:11:44,560 Speaker 1: I would probably not have her at the birth for sure, 259 00:11:45,200 --> 00:11:48,840 Speaker 1: and like just like probably at least for this time period, 260 00:11:48,840 --> 00:11:52,360 Speaker 1: make less of an effort to or then maybe not 261 00:11:52,440 --> 00:11:54,680 Speaker 1: less an effort, but force the relationship less. 262 00:11:54,920 --> 00:11:56,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, it does sound a little bit force. 263 00:11:57,040 --> 00:11:59,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, my pregnancy has been hard and risky, and they're 264 00:12:00,120 --> 00:12:02,160 Speaker 1: is still a chance my daughter could be born with 265 00:12:02,200 --> 00:12:03,000 Speaker 1: a heart effect. 266 00:12:03,160 --> 00:12:03,760 Speaker 2: Ah. 267 00:12:03,840 --> 00:12:05,520 Speaker 1: This and all the stress that has been caused by 268 00:12:05,559 --> 00:12:07,880 Speaker 1: my mom and Tasha has meant I've not been able 269 00:12:07,920 --> 00:12:11,360 Speaker 1: to enjoy my pregnancy. Is pregnancy enjoyable? There's the comments? 270 00:12:11,320 --> 00:12:15,040 Speaker 3: I would be for real, my cousin had an enjoyable pregnancy. Okay, 271 00:12:15,040 --> 00:12:17,400 Speaker 3: story time, Okay, storytime, let's get let's get to it. 272 00:12:17,440 --> 00:12:17,880 Speaker 2: At the end. 273 00:12:18,320 --> 00:12:20,280 Speaker 1: I'd hope it would make our mom want to be 274 00:12:20,280 --> 00:12:23,320 Speaker 1: involved with me, but unfortunately Tasha has done everything she 275 00:12:23,440 --> 00:12:26,520 Speaker 1: can to ensure my mom has not been involved or helpful. 276 00:12:26,840 --> 00:12:28,960 Speaker 1: Whilst my husband is patient and plight, he doesn't like 277 00:12:29,000 --> 00:12:31,680 Speaker 1: the way they are treating me and he certainly doesn't 278 00:12:31,720 --> 00:12:34,080 Speaker 1: like the pressure it has put on me. Tasha and 279 00:12:34,160 --> 00:12:37,400 Speaker 1: Mom turned up unannounced to our house today wanting another 280 00:12:37,480 --> 00:12:40,120 Speaker 1: explanation as to why they couldn't be at the hospital. 281 00:12:40,559 --> 00:12:43,400 Speaker 1: I again said, as long as Mom was civil to Dad, 282 00:12:43,480 --> 00:12:45,839 Speaker 1: she could be in the waiting room, but Tasha would 283 00:12:45,840 --> 00:12:48,520 Speaker 1: have to visit after I've rested and made sure the 284 00:12:48,559 --> 00:12:50,400 Speaker 1: baby girl is okay. 285 00:12:50,520 --> 00:12:52,840 Speaker 2: I have a conspiracy theory. What's that? What do you got? 286 00:12:52,840 --> 00:12:53,640 Speaker 2: What do you got? What you got? 287 00:12:55,760 --> 00:12:59,720 Speaker 1: I think I think there's going to be some infighting 288 00:12:59,760 --> 00:13:02,840 Speaker 1: which the mom and the dad. Oh peace, mom and dad. Yeah, 289 00:13:03,040 --> 00:13:04,600 Speaker 1: I feel like we're being set up for them to 290 00:13:04,640 --> 00:13:08,240 Speaker 1: start fighting in the waiting room. I think it's gonna happen, dude, Yeah, 291 00:13:08,280 --> 00:13:09,319 Speaker 1: it's all out brawl. 292 00:13:09,600 --> 00:13:11,559 Speaker 2: The dad's bringing us a new side piece with it, 293 00:13:11,679 --> 00:13:12,400 Speaker 2: Oh yeah. 294 00:13:12,360 --> 00:13:14,880 Speaker 1: Dude, And especially if the mom doesn't know about this 295 00:13:14,960 --> 00:13:17,120 Speaker 1: friend being the side piece, well, not even a side piece, 296 00:13:17,120 --> 00:13:17,800 Speaker 1: main piece. 297 00:13:17,640 --> 00:13:21,680 Speaker 2: Main piece, main piece piece, new main piece. Hands will 298 00:13:21,679 --> 00:13:23,720 Speaker 2: be thrown. I'm ready for it, dude, I'm ready for 299 00:13:23,720 --> 00:13:26,679 Speaker 2: the drama. I would want to like. I don't know 300 00:13:26,720 --> 00:13:28,640 Speaker 2: if it's a husband or her partner. I wonder what 301 00:13:28,679 --> 00:13:31,240 Speaker 2: her partners are feeling through all those. He says he 302 00:13:31,280 --> 00:13:32,320 Speaker 2: doesn't like it. Kareem. 303 00:13:32,720 --> 00:13:34,760 Speaker 1: It is like, I'm not about this fucking shit, dude. 304 00:13:34,960 --> 00:13:37,280 Speaker 2: Dang but a dad, he's a dad mode. 305 00:13:37,440 --> 00:13:39,760 Speaker 1: Let's get back to reality and see what really happens. 306 00:13:39,960 --> 00:13:42,160 Speaker 2: Dude. I can't wait see John Fryan dad mode. 307 00:13:42,280 --> 00:13:45,840 Speaker 1: No dude, and he's get a crush. I said she 308 00:13:45,920 --> 00:13:48,920 Speaker 1: had moaned all the pregnancy. She says that it's all 309 00:13:48,920 --> 00:13:51,960 Speaker 1: I ever talked about, so surely she has no reason 310 00:13:51,960 --> 00:13:54,600 Speaker 1: to want to be there. She got angry and threw 311 00:13:54,720 --> 00:13:56,920 Speaker 1: a mug at the wall, saying she wanted to be 312 00:13:57,000 --> 00:13:59,800 Speaker 1: there and that's where everyone else would be and she 313 00:14:00,080 --> 00:14:02,200 Speaker 1: shouldn't have to be on her own and board. 314 00:14:02,360 --> 00:14:03,480 Speaker 2: Okay, she's the attention. 315 00:14:03,559 --> 00:14:05,680 Speaker 1: See here, dude throwing a mug at the wall. 316 00:14:05,800 --> 00:14:06,040 Speaker 2: Wow. 317 00:14:06,960 --> 00:14:08,920 Speaker 1: I told her it was not a fun day out. 318 00:14:09,040 --> 00:14:11,839 Speaker 1: I would be having major surgery and people want to 319 00:14:11,880 --> 00:14:15,040 Speaker 1: meet my daughter, She screamed, saying I'm an attention whore 320 00:14:15,080 --> 00:14:18,319 Speaker 1: for not giving birth the normal way and demanded our 321 00:14:18,360 --> 00:14:21,360 Speaker 1: mom that they go home, which is one The mom 322 00:14:21,400 --> 00:14:23,360 Speaker 1: stepped in and said, no, honey, that's not okay to 323 00:14:23,400 --> 00:14:27,400 Speaker 1: say I wish, we wished, but they left quickly as 324 00:14:27,440 --> 00:14:29,600 Speaker 1: they had arrived. I don't know what my mom plans 325 00:14:29,600 --> 00:14:31,280 Speaker 1: on doing, but yeah. 326 00:14:31,120 --> 00:14:35,080 Speaker 3: Dude, the mom really needs to say something here. 327 00:14:35,280 --> 00:14:38,360 Speaker 1: And and just is it like this is how brats 328 00:14:38,360 --> 00:14:40,640 Speaker 1: are born? Yes, absent parents. 329 00:14:41,080 --> 00:14:44,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, I start believing star signs soon. 330 00:14:44,960 --> 00:14:48,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, dude, it's a it's a slip slope buys a 331 00:14:48,840 --> 00:14:54,120 Speaker 1: crystal starts saying merchuies retroch ray that's why I threw 332 00:14:54,160 --> 00:14:56,440 Speaker 1: a cup at the ceiling. 333 00:14:56,880 --> 00:14:59,080 Speaker 2: And then she'll just like blame it all on her 334 00:14:59,120 --> 00:15:00,480 Speaker 2: being a pissys dude. 335 00:15:00,560 --> 00:15:04,040 Speaker 1: It is Piscy season though correct times, I do feel 336 00:15:04,040 --> 00:15:08,480 Speaker 1: like throwing a cup at the wall, but you don't. 337 00:15:08,880 --> 00:15:11,360 Speaker 1: I feel like it, but you don't do it. Though 338 00:15:11,400 --> 00:15:13,240 Speaker 1: I don't know I could. I could be convinced its 339 00:15:13,280 --> 00:15:15,840 Speaker 1: Piscy season. It is Piscy seasons, but like I feel 340 00:15:15,880 --> 00:15:17,160 Speaker 1: like I threw a cup at the wall. It's like 341 00:15:17,160 --> 00:15:21,560 Speaker 1: a Taylor Swift lyric. It must be Taylor swift. 342 00:15:21,560 --> 00:15:24,320 Speaker 2: I threw a cup at the wall. I threw a 343 00:15:24,600 --> 00:15:30,560 Speaker 2: cup at the wall because you show me just one 344 00:15:30,720 --> 00:15:35,800 Speaker 2: of you've got to be on your new albums. M Nope, 345 00:15:36,240 --> 00:15:38,600 Speaker 2: dang so well. 346 00:15:38,640 --> 00:15:41,120 Speaker 1: Those of you have said to not tell anyone when 347 00:15:41,120 --> 00:15:43,600 Speaker 1: I gave birth were right in a way. Woke up 348 00:15:43,640 --> 00:15:47,120 Speaker 1: to cramps and blood tinged water in our bed s. 349 00:15:47,280 --> 00:15:50,680 Speaker 1: Cream rushed me to the hospital, where my ob said 350 00:15:50,720 --> 00:15:53,240 Speaker 1: I was in early labor caused by all the stress, 351 00:15:53,240 --> 00:15:58,080 Speaker 1: most likely a dude. Literally, this thirteen year old may 352 00:15:59,120 --> 00:16:02,400 Speaker 1: cause so much stress us that it jeopardizes the pregnancy. 353 00:16:02,640 --> 00:16:04,680 Speaker 2: That's crazy, and it's not good for the baby because 354 00:16:05,080 --> 00:16:07,320 Speaker 2: the baby I have complications, the baby's going to be stressed. 355 00:16:07,480 --> 00:16:07,840 Speaker 3: Nikes. 356 00:16:08,360 --> 00:16:10,320 Speaker 1: There was too much pressure on my heart and it 357 00:16:10,360 --> 00:16:12,680 Speaker 1: was causing the baby to be in distress. So they 358 00:16:12,680 --> 00:16:15,200 Speaker 1: put me under and gave me an emergency sea section. 359 00:16:15,480 --> 00:16:15,840 Speaker 2: Hmmm. 360 00:16:16,080 --> 00:16:18,960 Speaker 1: I woke up this morning to my husband holding our 361 00:16:19,040 --> 00:16:22,400 Speaker 1: beautiful daughter in his arms. She's perfect, with a healthy 362 00:16:22,400 --> 00:16:24,560 Speaker 1: heart and a good pair of lungs. She's so beautiful 363 00:16:24,560 --> 00:16:26,480 Speaker 1: and I didn't know I could love something so much. 364 00:16:26,800 --> 00:16:29,280 Speaker 1: She's such a good girl, and we spent the morning 365 00:16:29,320 --> 00:16:31,560 Speaker 1: together as a family. We will be inviting my dad 366 00:16:31,600 --> 00:16:34,440 Speaker 1: to the hospital tomorrow. Thank you for your help and wishes, 367 00:16:34,480 --> 00:16:37,520 Speaker 1: and sorry I couldn't respond to many, but it's been 368 00:16:37,640 --> 00:16:42,840 Speaker 1: very chao oh and happy ever after, dude, happy ever after? 369 00:16:42,880 --> 00:16:43,920 Speaker 2: The story ends. 370 00:16:44,720 --> 00:16:48,080 Speaker 1: Not right there, we got another juicy thick update where 371 00:16:48,480 --> 00:16:51,320 Speaker 1: I'm guessing things go awry. 372 00:16:51,640 --> 00:16:53,960 Speaker 2: No, why can't we have nice? Thanks? 373 00:16:54,080 --> 00:16:56,440 Speaker 1: We can't, we can't. So this is five days from 374 00:16:56,440 --> 00:16:59,480 Speaker 1: the original post. After giving birth yesterday, I have to 375 00:16:59,480 --> 00:17:02,680 Speaker 1: stay in for a week as it was an emergency surgery. 376 00:17:03,040 --> 00:17:04,760 Speaker 1: As we had rushed to the hospital, we didn't have 377 00:17:04,800 --> 00:17:07,040 Speaker 1: all the things I will need, so Kareem went home 378 00:17:07,080 --> 00:17:09,040 Speaker 1: to back a bag of things for me. He stopped 379 00:17:09,040 --> 00:17:12,040 Speaker 1: off at my dad's and apparently Tasha was with him. 380 00:17:12,119 --> 00:17:12,560 Speaker 2: Interesting. 381 00:17:12,760 --> 00:17:15,440 Speaker 1: Bream was polite and Dad was asking lots of questions 382 00:17:15,480 --> 00:17:17,800 Speaker 1: about Adley and I. He left the room to get 383 00:17:17,800 --> 00:17:20,520 Speaker 1: the presence he and his girlfriend had gotten for us, 384 00:17:20,920 --> 00:17:25,440 Speaker 1: and Kareem was left with Tasha. Apparently she was all 385 00:17:25,560 --> 00:17:28,760 Speaker 1: over him but not asking any questions about myself or Adley. 386 00:17:29,160 --> 00:17:33,040 Speaker 1: Kareem said she threw herself at him and tried to 387 00:17:33,200 --> 00:17:38,199 Speaker 1: kiss him. Do this girl is like actively trying to 388 00:17:38,280 --> 00:17:41,240 Speaker 1: destroy home? Wrecking Opie's wife. 389 00:17:41,320 --> 00:17:45,159 Speaker 2: She's she's thirteen two. This is yeah. 390 00:17:45,200 --> 00:17:47,800 Speaker 1: I feel like, all right now that I'm like reading 391 00:17:47,840 --> 00:17:50,320 Speaker 1: the rest, remember that moment where it's like we were 392 00:17:50,359 --> 00:17:54,760 Speaker 1: like calculating. I feel like now it feels calculated. Yeah, 393 00:17:54,800 --> 00:17:57,600 Speaker 1: she's still very calculating. Now, yeah, he's calculating. 394 00:17:57,760 --> 00:17:58,080 Speaker 2: Yike. 395 00:18:00,040 --> 00:18:02,400 Speaker 1: But he swerved and got up abruptly, telling my dad 396 00:18:02,440 --> 00:18:04,520 Speaker 1: that they needed to do something with Tasha and she 397 00:18:04,600 --> 00:18:07,400 Speaker 1: was getting out of control. He told me what happened 398 00:18:07,440 --> 00:18:09,920 Speaker 1: as soon as he got back to the hospital. He's 399 00:18:10,040 --> 00:18:12,720 Speaker 1: really worried that people my mother will make him out 400 00:18:12,760 --> 00:18:14,760 Speaker 1: to be a bad person. I think my dad has 401 00:18:14,800 --> 00:18:16,960 Speaker 1: cameras in his house. I'm going to ask him if 402 00:18:16,960 --> 00:18:18,680 Speaker 1: there is any in the hallway. 403 00:18:18,560 --> 00:18:21,320 Speaker 2: Ah, because she could like say something. 404 00:18:21,320 --> 00:18:25,320 Speaker 1: Yeah she I mean I could see her trying to 405 00:18:25,359 --> 00:18:26,240 Speaker 1: get Kareem in trouble. 406 00:18:26,520 --> 00:18:28,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, and there is an edit. 407 00:18:29,440 --> 00:18:32,480 Speaker 1: Tasha has texted me safe to say she's not being 408 00:18:32,560 --> 00:18:35,040 Speaker 1: abused and no, my mother doesn't have any male friends 409 00:18:35,080 --> 00:18:37,080 Speaker 1: in the house. Tasha sent me a text saying she 410 00:18:37,160 --> 00:18:40,000 Speaker 1: was sorry for trying to kiss Kareem, but I've stolen 411 00:18:40,080 --> 00:18:43,960 Speaker 1: everyone's attention and apparently even our mother was asking about 412 00:18:43,960 --> 00:18:48,840 Speaker 1: me yesterday? What about the recent birth. She sometimes literally 413 00:18:48,880 --> 00:18:52,000 Speaker 1: refers to her mother as her mother. She then said, 414 00:18:52,080 --> 00:18:53,840 Speaker 1: I had to make it all about me by having 415 00:18:54,000 --> 00:18:56,960 Speaker 1: adle early, and she wanted someone to pay attention to 416 00:18:57,000 --> 00:18:59,320 Speaker 1: her and felt like Kareem hadn't spent enough time with 417 00:18:59,359 --> 00:19:02,040 Speaker 1: her recently. He's been kind to Toss in the past, 418 00:19:02,240 --> 00:19:04,159 Speaker 1: We've had her at the house and had taken her 419 00:19:04,200 --> 00:19:07,760 Speaker 1: on trips, but he's obviously been busy making sure me 420 00:19:07,960 --> 00:19:10,639 Speaker 1: and the baby have been okay during the pregnancy. Oh 421 00:19:10,720 --> 00:19:13,280 Speaker 1: my god, she is such an attention she literally called 422 00:19:13,359 --> 00:19:17,400 Speaker 1: opie and attention horror. But like looking up here, like 423 00:19:17,480 --> 00:19:19,240 Speaker 1: she is vying for all these. 424 00:19:19,160 --> 00:19:21,200 Speaker 2: That's exactly what I've been thinking this whole time. Yea, 425 00:19:21,280 --> 00:19:22,160 Speaker 2: looking in a mirror? 426 00:19:22,240 --> 00:19:23,879 Speaker 1: Do you not see the paradox? 427 00:19:24,280 --> 00:19:26,240 Speaker 3: Yikes? Do you think it's because we've been staring at it, 428 00:19:26,280 --> 00:19:27,560 Speaker 3: Joe through a mirror this whole time? 429 00:19:28,200 --> 00:19:31,480 Speaker 1: I think it's romantic MI or mirror on the wall. 430 00:19:32,200 --> 00:19:35,840 Speaker 1: Who's the fairest producer of them all? Oh Riley on 431 00:19:35,880 --> 00:19:39,119 Speaker 1: the wall? Who's the first podcasts. 432 00:19:38,520 --> 00:19:38,920 Speaker 2: Of them all? 433 00:19:40,080 --> 00:19:40,240 Speaker 3: Oh? 434 00:19:40,760 --> 00:19:43,919 Speaker 2: Be out, John, I don't see him through a mirror, 435 00:19:44,720 --> 00:19:47,040 Speaker 2: That's true. Anyways, Looking at a mirror. 436 00:19:47,359 --> 00:19:49,960 Speaker 1: Honestly, I feel like I've been blind to her showing 437 00:19:50,040 --> 00:19:52,600 Speaker 1: her crush on Korean. It never crossed my mind. But 438 00:19:52,640 --> 00:19:54,800 Speaker 1: if I look back, I can't remember her saying things 439 00:19:54,920 --> 00:19:58,360 Speaker 1: or doing things that weren't out of love for an uncle. Honestly, 440 00:19:58,400 --> 00:20:00,600 Speaker 1: he feels really bad about it, and it's promise he's 441 00:20:00,640 --> 00:20:02,359 Speaker 1: never done anything to give her that impression, which I 442 00:20:02,359 --> 00:20:05,040 Speaker 1: one hundred percent now. If I thought she had been groomed, 443 00:20:05,080 --> 00:20:07,240 Speaker 1: I'd be out of the hospital bed and in her 444 00:20:07,320 --> 00:20:10,040 Speaker 1: room right now. We've tried putting her in therapy, but 445 00:20:10,119 --> 00:20:13,680 Speaker 1: she refuses, shaying she isn't weak and doesn't need it 446 00:20:13,760 --> 00:20:18,439 Speaker 1: like me. Damn dude, every chance she gets, she's just 447 00:20:19,280 --> 00:20:20,360 Speaker 1: doing a haymaker. 448 00:20:21,240 --> 00:20:24,800 Speaker 2: Ye, dude, this is all. 449 00:20:24,760 --> 00:20:27,879 Speaker 1: Right, Riley super fucked up off obviously, like Tasha is 450 00:20:27,920 --> 00:20:32,080 Speaker 1: like a mean, mean girl, but but she knows how 451 00:20:32,080 --> 00:20:35,280 Speaker 1: to throw some haymakers. She's pulling every trick in the back. 452 00:20:35,320 --> 00:20:38,040 Speaker 3: He's watching reality TV shows in her free time. 453 00:20:38,160 --> 00:20:40,439 Speaker 1: She's watching mean girls and being the meanest of the girls. 454 00:20:40,600 --> 00:20:43,960 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's crazy. How good a thirteen year old? 455 00:20:44,800 --> 00:20:45,560 Speaker 3: Do? So? 456 00:20:45,680 --> 00:20:48,400 Speaker 2: Do you like this at thirteen? No? 457 00:20:48,400 --> 00:20:51,920 Speaker 1: No, no, But she did blame everything on me. She 458 00:20:51,960 --> 00:20:53,400 Speaker 1: would stub her toe and say. 459 00:20:53,240 --> 00:20:56,160 Speaker 2: Damn gosh, dude, I can only imagine. 460 00:20:57,280 --> 00:21:00,680 Speaker 1: So update this is six months later. 461 00:21:01,119 --> 00:21:03,560 Speaker 2: Do it in a do it in a you know 462 00:21:03,600 --> 00:21:06,240 Speaker 2: how to do it? Ah, y'all, thank you? How you 463 00:21:06,280 --> 00:21:07,000 Speaker 2: doing right? 464 00:21:07,440 --> 00:21:10,120 Speaker 1: So three months after my last update, I'd recovered from 465 00:21:10,119 --> 00:21:12,560 Speaker 1: surgery and cream, Adley and I have been able to 466 00:21:12,600 --> 00:21:15,400 Speaker 1: go on a trip to the countryside to distress all 467 00:21:16,160 --> 00:21:16,880 Speaker 1: the countryside. 468 00:21:19,119 --> 00:21:22,840 Speaker 2: They're all together, happy, f they were cute. Let's go. 469 00:21:24,119 --> 00:21:27,440 Speaker 1: When I get a random DM on Instagram and when 470 00:21:27,480 --> 00:21:32,040 Speaker 1: I looked, she was following Tasha let's call her Lily. Well, 471 00:21:32,080 --> 00:21:34,560 Speaker 1: Lily tells me that she didn't ask me something because 472 00:21:34,600 --> 00:21:38,199 Speaker 1: Tasha has been telling their friend group something worrying. I 473 00:21:38,240 --> 00:21:40,800 Speaker 1: bet you don't know what I'm going to say. 474 00:21:40,880 --> 00:21:43,520 Speaker 2: Oh God, what is she going to say? Dude, what 475 00:21:44,280 --> 00:21:45,680 Speaker 2: is she going to say? She's about to die? 476 00:21:46,359 --> 00:21:49,800 Speaker 1: Kasha, I've been going around school saying that her and 477 00:21:49,920 --> 00:21:54,640 Speaker 1: my husband were having an affair. I couldn't even respond. 478 00:21:54,720 --> 00:21:58,080 Speaker 1: I was so effing livid. Never mind how weird it 479 00:21:58,240 --> 00:22:01,080 Speaker 1: is for her, It's so so dangerous to be saying that, 480 00:22:01,119 --> 00:22:03,880 Speaker 1: even among her friends. It puts my husband at such risk. 481 00:22:03,960 --> 00:22:06,840 Speaker 1: To be accused of awful things. So that was it. 482 00:22:06,960 --> 00:22:09,720 Speaker 1: I'd had enough. I floored it to my mother's house 483 00:22:09,800 --> 00:22:12,560 Speaker 1: and slammed in to find Tasha. She sat there like 484 00:22:12,600 --> 00:22:17,119 Speaker 1: nothing was happening and just smirked, making my blood boil 485 00:22:17,880 --> 00:22:20,280 Speaker 1: all of it. I lost it a bit and screamed 486 00:22:20,280 --> 00:22:22,480 Speaker 1: at her that she was unhinged and needed to be 487 00:22:22,520 --> 00:22:25,600 Speaker 1: locked up, that it wasn't normal for a fourteen year 488 00:22:25,600 --> 00:22:29,080 Speaker 1: old to want her sister's husband and life. Our mom 489 00:22:29,400 --> 00:22:32,000 Speaker 1: came in, asking what the hell was wrong with me. 490 00:22:32,640 --> 00:22:34,960 Speaker 1: I grabbed both Tasha and my mother by their shirts 491 00:22:35,080 --> 00:22:38,200 Speaker 1: and said she had one week to sort her shit out. 492 00:22:38,320 --> 00:22:42,280 Speaker 1: Where we were going to the police for defamation. Oh, 493 00:22:42,520 --> 00:22:47,720 Speaker 1: scorched earth, that's mama, bear scorched earth. I just wanted 494 00:22:47,760 --> 00:22:50,680 Speaker 1: to go home and snuggle my baby, but I stopped 495 00:22:50,720 --> 00:22:53,080 Speaker 1: at my dad's and filled him in and told him 496 00:22:53,280 --> 00:22:57,679 Speaker 1: what I told Mom and Tasha. He was completely floored. 497 00:22:58,240 --> 00:23:00,600 Speaker 1: Lily was good. She said she didn't think what Tasha 498 00:23:00,680 --> 00:23:03,200 Speaker 1: had been saying was real and thought I needed to know, 499 00:23:03,640 --> 00:23:06,240 Speaker 1: And she said she told the others that Tasha was lying. 500 00:23:06,600 --> 00:23:09,359 Speaker 1: I got some messages from my mom that night about 501 00:23:09,359 --> 00:23:11,480 Speaker 1: me projecting my feelings about not being a good enough 502 00:23:11,480 --> 00:23:16,520 Speaker 1: mother or wife. On DA Tasha Yo, I done breastfeed 503 00:23:16,560 --> 00:23:18,600 Speaker 1: and at that time was still a maternity leave because 504 00:23:18,640 --> 00:23:20,760 Speaker 1: of the c section, but I intended to not be 505 00:23:21,000 --> 00:23:24,040 Speaker 1: off work too long, would be sending her to daycare, 506 00:23:24,320 --> 00:23:27,240 Speaker 1: and she made comments on my weight. I was scared 507 00:23:27,320 --> 00:23:30,520 Speaker 1: of struggling with my eating disorder again postpartum. 508 00:23:30,800 --> 00:23:33,440 Speaker 2: The mom is too terrible during this time. 509 00:23:34,119 --> 00:23:39,120 Speaker 3: You need to be very sensitive sensitive to a mother 510 00:23:39,320 --> 00:23:40,520 Speaker 3: that has just had a child. 511 00:23:41,560 --> 00:23:43,520 Speaker 2: What why Wow? 512 00:23:43,600 --> 00:23:46,800 Speaker 1: I mean, the mom is just playing favorites with Tasha. 513 00:23:46,840 --> 00:23:51,320 Speaker 2: But how terrible is Tasha? Dude? This is horrible. 514 00:23:51,520 --> 00:23:54,199 Speaker 1: Tasha had told her how she had no clue what 515 00:23:54,280 --> 00:23:57,199 Speaker 1: I was on about. She really knew where to hit me. 516 00:23:57,440 --> 00:23:58,040 Speaker 2: I won't lie. 517 00:23:58,560 --> 00:24:01,560 Speaker 1: Cream told me put my phone off and rest, so 518 00:24:01,640 --> 00:24:03,520 Speaker 1: I did. When I woke up, Adley was in the 519 00:24:03,560 --> 00:24:06,720 Speaker 1: bath and Kareem had ordered food in. We consulted with 520 00:24:06,760 --> 00:24:09,080 Speaker 1: our lawyer and made a statement to the police about 521 00:24:09,119 --> 00:24:11,719 Speaker 1: all of the abuse and lives we suffered from Tasha 522 00:24:11,720 --> 00:24:14,920 Speaker 1: and my mom. We were told that they were both 523 00:24:15,040 --> 00:24:18,120 Speaker 1: worn to stop, otherwise we would try to press charges. 524 00:24:18,560 --> 00:24:20,920 Speaker 1: I've tried to avoid them since, although I've heard them 525 00:24:21,000 --> 00:24:25,000 Speaker 1: berating me and my parenting through others. We went to 526 00:24:25,040 --> 00:24:27,600 Speaker 1: Turkey to see Kaream's family for Christmas and it was 527 00:24:27,640 --> 00:24:31,159 Speaker 1: lovely ow and irrelevant comment. At least your sister's friend 528 00:24:31,359 --> 00:24:33,879 Speaker 1: are starting to see the truth, thank you. Yes, I 529 00:24:33,880 --> 00:24:36,680 Speaker 1: think our friends are freaked out by her spiraling behavior. 530 00:24:36,760 --> 00:24:39,600 Speaker 1: We have a text from beforehand stating she tried to 531 00:24:39,680 --> 00:24:43,240 Speaker 1: kiss Kareem because she was jealous. So our lawyer said, 532 00:24:43,600 --> 00:24:49,080 Speaker 1: that is useful. Yikesike, but that is an end wow 533 00:24:49,160 --> 00:24:50,440 Speaker 1: to this story. 534 00:24:50,560 --> 00:24:52,200 Speaker 2: She was very calculated. 535 00:24:52,240 --> 00:24:55,000 Speaker 1: We had more calculated. What a terrible sister that. 536 00:24:55,040 --> 00:24:55,800 Speaker 2: Is so bad? 537 00:24:56,000 --> 00:25:00,240 Speaker 3: She is this psychopathic behavior, I think it could be 538 00:25:00,520 --> 00:25:01,760 Speaker 3: is this in that category? 539 00:25:01,880 --> 00:25:04,439 Speaker 1: I think it could be, you know, like it's it's 540 00:25:05,720 --> 00:25:09,040 Speaker 1: at first, was getting anxious, very jealous, I mean definitely jealous, 541 00:25:09,040 --> 00:25:13,000 Speaker 1: but like to hate at this level seems kind of 542 00:25:13,560 --> 00:25:16,360 Speaker 1: I don't know what else is going on in her 543 00:25:16,400 --> 00:25:19,840 Speaker 1: life for is it really just a kid? Yeah, it 544 00:25:19,880 --> 00:25:23,280 Speaker 1: seemed like everything was normal beforehand. I wonder for anyone 545 00:25:23,280 --> 00:25:25,480 Speaker 1: in the in the comments, like, have you ever ever 546 00:25:25,560 --> 00:25:30,959 Speaker 1: experienced something like this where either a kid, a significant other, uh, 547 00:25:31,320 --> 00:25:34,159 Speaker 1: someone close to you has gotten jealous because of new baby? 548 00:25:34,320 --> 00:25:34,560 Speaker 3: Yeah? 549 00:25:34,720 --> 00:25:35,439 Speaker 2: I would love to hear. 550 00:25:35,600 --> 00:25:37,880 Speaker 1: Like it seems like she was on a mission, Yeah, 551 00:25:37,880 --> 00:25:42,320 Speaker 1: to destroy Op's life. Yeah yeah, ikes, but you know 552 00:25:42,359 --> 00:25:43,440 Speaker 1: what I want to destroy? 553 00:25:43,520 --> 00:25:46,480 Speaker 2: What this next story? I have an okay story time? 554 00:25:46,640 --> 00:25:48,719 Speaker 1: Oh okay, Well maybe before that we can do an 555 00:25:48,720 --> 00:25:52,119 Speaker 1: okay storytime? Riley, Riley, what's your okay storytime? 556 00:25:52,240 --> 00:25:55,240 Speaker 3: So earlier you asked if anyone has had a easy 557 00:25:55,960 --> 00:25:57,520 Speaker 3: pregnancy or easy birthing. 558 00:25:58,080 --> 00:26:01,880 Speaker 2: My cousin did. Apparently I don't. 559 00:26:01,960 --> 00:26:05,680 Speaker 3: I don't really understand every one that has explained pregnancy 560 00:26:05,720 --> 00:26:05,919 Speaker 3: to me. 561 00:26:06,359 --> 00:26:08,879 Speaker 1: Sounds like it's hot, sounds horrible. But like whatever she 562 00:26:08,960 --> 00:26:11,439 Speaker 1: was talking about, she was like craving. It was your 563 00:26:11,480 --> 00:26:12,000 Speaker 1: feet hurt. 564 00:26:12,160 --> 00:26:13,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, but she was like the birth thing was just 565 00:26:13,800 --> 00:26:15,680 Speaker 3: a breeze. She said she got the shot in the back. 566 00:26:16,240 --> 00:26:18,920 Speaker 3: Like the baby was easy to come out. She's twenty 567 00:26:18,920 --> 00:26:23,639 Speaker 3: four as the first kid, and like like she she 568 00:26:23,680 --> 00:26:24,440 Speaker 3: has a picture of this. 569 00:26:24,560 --> 00:26:27,399 Speaker 1: She was gonna sit the way, Well, the birth was easy, 570 00:26:27,440 --> 00:26:28,720 Speaker 1: but with the pregnancy easy too. 571 00:26:28,800 --> 00:26:32,640 Speaker 3: Well, listen about the birth, she like birth the child herself, 572 00:26:32,640 --> 00:26:35,760 Speaker 3: Like she got the baby out of her, like she 573 00:26:35,880 --> 00:26:38,399 Speaker 3: like yanked it like she like yeah, like got it 574 00:26:38,440 --> 00:26:41,679 Speaker 3: out herself and like the pictures of it, and she's like, 575 00:26:41,720 --> 00:26:44,160 Speaker 3: hold it like a fish. 576 00:26:44,760 --> 00:26:45,840 Speaker 2: This one, I don't know. 577 00:26:46,720 --> 00:26:49,640 Speaker 3: I was so scared to like even ask or even 578 00:26:49,680 --> 00:26:52,840 Speaker 3: comprehend what that would look like. But it seemed like 579 00:26:52,840 --> 00:26:54,919 Speaker 3: her pregnancy was pretty simple too. She was like, the 580 00:26:54,920 --> 00:26:56,240 Speaker 3: baby was like six pounds. 581 00:26:56,960 --> 00:27:00,199 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, six pounds, Like you were an eight pound baby, right? 582 00:27:00,280 --> 00:27:00,440 Speaker 2: Yeah? 583 00:27:00,480 --> 00:27:02,760 Speaker 3: Do you know what my brothers were ten they were 584 00:27:02,800 --> 00:27:05,800 Speaker 3: like nine pounds twelve ounces, nine pounds ten ounces, three 585 00:27:05,840 --> 00:27:08,280 Speaker 3: in a row, nine pounds, twelve ounces, nine pounds ten ounces, nine. 586 00:27:08,160 --> 00:27:11,080 Speaker 1: Pounds, eleven ounces. Now the smallest I was eight pounds 587 00:27:11,119 --> 00:27:12,440 Speaker 1: in your mom is a saint. 588 00:27:12,520 --> 00:27:13,400 Speaker 2: It's crazy. 589 00:27:14,720 --> 00:27:18,080 Speaker 1: On the note of easy pregnancy, So there's easy pregnancies, right, okay, 590 00:27:18,119 --> 00:27:21,000 Speaker 1: where it just pops that easy. But apparently, and let 591 00:27:21,000 --> 00:27:22,840 Speaker 1: me know if this is true in the comments, there 592 00:27:22,840 --> 00:27:27,240 Speaker 1: are some pregnancies where the mother will orgasm during childbirth. 593 00:27:27,320 --> 00:27:31,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, I've heard that. Did your mom orgasm? God? There 594 00:27:31,160 --> 00:27:33,480 Speaker 2: have been so many like TV skits in my head 595 00:27:33,480 --> 00:27:35,879 Speaker 2: about this. I heard that's the thing people do. 596 00:27:36,000 --> 00:27:40,639 Speaker 1: Now it's like crazy, they like masturbate through through the 597 00:27:41,520 --> 00:27:42,320 Speaker 1: through the pregnancy. 598 00:27:43,000 --> 00:27:45,720 Speaker 2: That is, so that they would ever done that. Let 599 00:27:45,760 --> 00:27:47,199 Speaker 2: us know in the comments. I don't even want to 600 00:27:47,200 --> 00:27:47,840 Speaker 2: comment on that. 601 00:27:48,000 --> 00:27:50,879 Speaker 3: Yeah wow, But you know what I do want to 602 00:27:50,920 --> 00:27:51,400 Speaker 3: comment on. 603 00:27:52,000 --> 00:27:53,080 Speaker 2: Let's hit this next story.