Speaker 1: Second date of date. I think there's a time in
Speaker 1: everyone's life. Usually it's somewhere in your twenties where you're
Speaker 1: having a good time, your care free, the possibilities are endless, yes,
Speaker 1: and then all of a sudden it happens your best
Speaker 1: friend gets engaged and you're like, oh, wait a second,
Speaker 1: the party's about to be over. Yeah, oh crap, I
Speaker 1: gotta find somebody. It's like dating musical chairs now, and
Speaker 1: if you don't move quickly, you're going to be left
Speaker 1: with just a spot on the floor, yourself anxiety saying
Speaker 1: you gotta move fast. And that's kind of where one
Speaker 1: of our listeners, Mary Anne, found herself a few months back,
Speaker 1: and she said it changed the way that she thought
Speaker 1: about dating. So, Mary Anne, welcome to the show.
Speaker 2: I appreciate it's in her name.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Mary, Yeah, Marianne. Tell us about your dating life.
Speaker 1: What's going on?
Speaker 3: You know, it's been fine and normal and good. I've
Speaker 3: been trying though, to meet a guy for a while.
Speaker 4: Right, okay, So, and your requirements are different now is
Speaker 4: kind of what Jeff is alluding to.
Speaker 2: You're looking for something.
Speaker 3: More, yeah, yeah, I'm looking for my soulmate now, no pressure, Yeah,
Speaker 3: I mean it was like, gosh, I guess this phase
Speaker 3: of life is here. It's like made this alarm go
Speaker 3: off inside me, you know, like what have I been doing?
Speaker 5: You know?
Speaker 3: Just turn around and I can't be single by myself
Speaker 3: when everybody else is getting married.
Speaker 2: Don't feel peer pressure shining your soulmate.
Speaker 1: But I found pure is a good thing always, So
Speaker 1: it is okay. How have you tried to pursue a soulmate?
Speaker 5: Now?
Speaker 1: What strategy are you using?
Speaker 3: Most recently, I did speed dating.
Speaker 2: Old school in person, like at a bar or something.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, well so this one was interesting because it
Speaker 3: was lego speed dating.
Speaker 1: Actually what does that mean?
Speaker 3: What you do is you meet and there's like place
Speaker 3: with a bunch of tables and then there are lego
Speaker 3: pieces on each table and they start that timer and
Speaker 3: you sit down and then the person across from you,
Speaker 3: you guys are talking, but you create something from the
Speaker 3: lego while you are talking.
Speaker 4: You don't have to have like uncomfortable eye contacts, Like
Speaker 4: there's something else to do.
Speaker 3: Like a big fidget table.
Speaker 1: Distracted, I'd be like I made an airplane. But it
Speaker 1: sounds like you're supposed to build something together, Like it's
Speaker 1: like you're teaming up to write something that. Okay, that's cool.
Speaker 1: It's like a metaphor for your relationship.
Speaker 4: Right, also kind of an any window there. How the
Speaker 4: pieces fit together.
Speaker 1: I don't know if everybody would think that way Brook,
Speaker 1: but it's good to know. How you see speak, how
Speaker 1: many people are fighting like no, we need this piece
Speaker 1: that goes there.
Speaker 2: Well, then you know you're not a good match.
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, So how did it go with the lego building?
Speaker 3: I thought it went fantastically?
Speaker 2: Did you meet someone?
Speaker 6: Well?
Speaker 3: When I sat down across from Steeve, Steve, we decided
Speaker 3: that we would build Harry Potter's wand.
Speaker 1: Yeah, awesome. It was just like one giant stack of legs,
Speaker 1: like oh, okay, and wands come in many shapes and
Speaker 1: sizes of all kinds of wands. It's not just one
Speaker 1: long stick.
Speaker 4: So basically he's like a dorky Harry potterhead like you are,
Speaker 4: which is also another common interest.
Speaker 2: It sounds like one.
Speaker 3: We were like, oh, we totally speak the same language.
Speaker 3: We have the same interests here. It was going better
Speaker 3: than I ever could have hoped, and then I was like, okay,
Speaker 3: we have thirty seconds left. They let you know when
Speaker 3: your time is revving. And I was like, what spell
Speaker 3: should we cast? That's totally just being ridiculous, and well,
Speaker 3: I'm going to cast a love spell on you to
Speaker 3: put your number in my phone so we can go
Speaker 3: on a real tape.
Speaker 2: That rot.
Speaker 4: So they sat down to a big pile of brown legos.
Speaker 2: It sounds like.
Speaker 3: It was smart and clever and cute, right, and it
Speaker 3: was like playing along and and so we did. A
Speaker 3: week later, we went out and we just went to
Speaker 3: a ping pong bar and gooped around and played ping
Speaker 3: pong and drank and kissed and it was his Oh
Speaker 3: well back up, I mean literally it was perfect. I
Speaker 3: felt like I had this strong connection with him and
Speaker 3: we were we're talking about the future and our dreams
Speaker 3: in mind.
Speaker 1: Well, that's what happens when you get a love spell
Speaker 1: cast on it.
Speaker 4: Maybe the spell were off, That's why I call dude,
Speaker 4: that's crazy. Though. It's like you put out into the
Speaker 4: universe that you wanted to meet your soulmate, and it
Speaker 4: felt like this universe was kind of delivery.
Speaker 3: Yeah. Like, I mean, here's the deal. I've been on
Speaker 3: a lot of dates, okay, and I have met a
Speaker 3: wide variety of people, But I honestly feel like Steve
Speaker 3: might be my soulmate.
Speaker 1: Whoa wow, after one date and like a building that's true.
Speaker 1: They warn you about that when you build legos together.
Speaker 2: Why would he not be calling you back?
Speaker 3: I have no idea. It just felt like everything clicks
Speaker 3: so well, and we were laughing and the chemistry was good,
Speaker 3: and I'm not really sure what happened.
Speaker 4: There's no red flags at all, but that's kind of
Speaker 4: a red flag in itself.
Speaker 1: Yeah, there's usually that might be what it is. In fact,
Speaker 1: if I was doing speed dating with the legos, I
Speaker 1: would build a red flag.
Speaker 2: That's actually just to let them know.
Speaker 1: Exactly. Date at your own risks. But we're going to
Speaker 1: call Steve here and we're going to ask him if
Speaker 1: he sees you two his soulmates the same way that
Speaker 1: you guys do. Can we say that for like the
Speaker 1: second question? Maybe we'll last how we doing today, and
Speaker 1: then we'll ask if he's the.
Speaker 2: Red flag of our Yeah, we're.
Speaker 1: Gonna do it with their second d next Brook, do
Speaker 1: you remember the exact moment you first fell in love
Speaker 1: with your husband?
Speaker 3: Oh?
Speaker 2: B gosh, I remember the first time I saw him
Speaker 2: for sure.
Speaker 1: But we just fell in love.
Speaker 2: I mean, it takes time, and I don't think it
Speaker 2: happens in one.
Speaker 4: My husband can tell you the exact moment he knew.
Speaker 2: That he loved me.
Speaker 1: No.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we were on top of a volcano. What true story,
Speaker 2: true story.
Speaker 4: And we were very well prepared. We had just got
Speaker 4: and thought we were going hiking and oh my god, goodness.
Speaker 1: Okay, he was having a heat stroke. He wasn't fall
Speaker 1: in with you.
Speaker 2: It was very cold.
Speaker 1: Actually, I'm just saying that special moment looks different for everyone.
Speaker 1: And for mary Anne, our listener, at moment happened when
Speaker 1: her speed date Steve picked up some legos and built
Speaker 1: her a Harry Potter wand and cast a love spell.
Speaker 1: That's really cute, But after they went out to a bar,
Speaker 1: love spell seems to have worn off a little bit,
Speaker 1: so we're going to try and reactivate it here with
Speaker 1: a second date update.
Speaker 2: How long ago was it that you saw him, Steve.
Speaker 3: It's been a week since I've heard of him from.
Speaker 2: And just nothing. He hasn't texted you back at all.
Speaker 3: No, he just disappeared.
Speaker 1: That wouldn't have happened if your date was on a volcano.
Speaker 2: Maybe he was actually Cinderella, he turned into a pumpkin.
Speaker 1: Oh, Harry Potter, he has the invisibility cloak.
Speaker 2: On is there a lost shoe involved?
Speaker 1: All this talk of magic and eruptions and volcanoes. We
Speaker 1: gott to just call Steve before it gets too steamy
Speaker 1: in here? Are you ready? Mary Anne?
Speaker 7: I am all right.
Speaker 1: Let's do this. I'm down this number right now.
Speaker 5: Hey, Hello, Hey, is it Steve Yes speaks?
Speaker 1: Hey Steve, it's your lucky day. You're on the radio
Speaker 1: right now with Brook and Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 4: Hey, I see Okay, okay, okay, all right, you got
Speaker 4: a second right now?
Speaker 5: Yeah? Well, yeah, what's up?
Speaker 1: We're calling because we got your number from one of
Speaker 1: our listeners named Mary Anne.
Speaker 5: Oh okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 1: She's a woman that you met at speed dating and
Speaker 1: went out with once.
Speaker 5: Yeah, wow, ok okay, So she asked you to call
Speaker 5: me yea yeah.
Speaker 2: Are you surprised by that?
Speaker 5: Uh? No, I guess I'm not surprised by that. I'm
Speaker 5: surprised it's happening. I'm not surprised that she would do that.
Speaker 5: I guess.
Speaker 1: Well, you don't have to sound nervous. It's supposed to
Speaker 1: be a good thing. It means that she had a
Speaker 1: really good time with you.
Speaker 2: It had a great time with you.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I gathered that.
Speaker 1: Yeah you did.
Speaker 2: Well, that's good. Did you have a good time?
Speaker 5: Honestly I did. She was very fun to talk to.
Speaker 5: It just started getting a little weird towards the end.
Speaker 2: It sounds like you're in your words like super carefully.
Speaker 5: Well, well I don't, I don't, Just like it's just
Speaker 5: a little too unusual for for me.
Speaker 1: Okay, ual, is this before or after you kissed her?
Speaker 1: Because we heard there was kissing involved at the bar?
Speaker 5: I would say it definitely got the weirdness bike after that.
Speaker 2: Why is this something? She said?
Speaker 5: What? So she was pretty openly talking about the idea
Speaker 5: of soulmate.
Speaker 2: Uh huh?
Speaker 1: Was that too much she said that to you? Yeah,
Speaker 1: but she was just.
Speaker 4: Talking about it as like a big idea, right, like
Speaker 4: not your my soulmate.
Speaker 5: She opened it like that, and then she was like,
Speaker 5: you know, I think you might be one of my homemates.
Speaker 1: Whoa wait and then one of is there only one soulmate?
Speaker 2: No, you can have more.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's the point. It's not soul mates, it's soul.
Speaker 5: Mate, and that's that's exactly what I said, and she
Speaker 5: was like, William, everyone has three soulmates.
Speaker 2: Three.
Speaker 1: I didn't know, Brooke, this is good news for you
Speaker 1: and your marriage.
Speaker 2: No, I can see that though. It's like your best friend,
Speaker 2: your sister.
Speaker 1: No, you want to bring your sister.
Speaker 4: It isn't a sexual thing solely, is just someone who
Speaker 4: you're like connected with in this beyond any other relationship
Speaker 4: type of way.
Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 1: I mean that's that's kind of how we are understanding it.
Speaker 1: But Steve, how were you understanding what mary Anne was
Speaker 1: telling you?
Speaker 5: Oh? I mean what you guys are talking about sounds great,
Speaker 5: that sounds very reasonable. That is not what I was
Speaker 5: presented with to her. It's like a thing where you
Speaker 5: have a past soulmate, a present soulmate, and a future soulmate,
Speaker 5: and these are all romantic.
Speaker 1: You have three.
Speaker 2: God, you got to find three of them in your
Speaker 2: life that you walk you want to make.
Speaker 1: It out with friend. But I don't get it.
Speaker 5: Just a little too absurd to me, this idea of
Speaker 5: like boy friends of past, present and future.
Speaker 7: I have something to say, Hey, Steve, Sorry, that that's
Speaker 7: mary An.
Speaker 1: She's been listening on the other line and clearly wants
Speaker 1: to talk to you. Usually they wait till well past.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 5: Oh wow, were you going to tell me that?
Speaker 1: I think I just did?
Speaker 5: Okay, okay, okay, yes, Hi mary.
Speaker 1: Anne, marian had something to say.
Speaker 6: Hi, Hi Steeve.
Speaker 3: You sounds really confused, And I feel like maybe I.
Speaker 6: Just didn't do a very good job of explaining it,
Speaker 6: you know, because it's like this for everyone.
Speaker 3: It's just the rule of the universe.
Speaker 6: Right, So you have three soulmates?
Speaker 3: Do you have a past soulmate and a present tolmate
Speaker 3: and a future soulmate? Those was a three story fine
Speaker 3: in your life? Right?
Speaker 1: Which soulmate? In which soulmate is? Steve?
Speaker 2: What numbers?
Speaker 3: Okay?
Speaker 5: Right?
Speaker 6: So he I'm pretty sure is my presence soulmate?
Speaker 5: Right?
Speaker 3: My my past my high school boyfriend that was my
Speaker 3: past soulmate.
Speaker 6: Steve I really think has a possibility to be my
Speaker 6: present soul mat.
Speaker 4: Yeah, but that kind of indicates to him that he's
Speaker 4: to get dumped for another dude along the road.
Speaker 1: It's better to have a you know, a small part
Speaker 1: of Marianne than none at all.
Speaker 6: I would agree with that, sure, but look like it's
Speaker 6: not me, Like I'm not making this up, right, This
Speaker 6: is like the law of the universe.
Speaker 1: Okay, Steve, how does that make you feel thinking that
Speaker 1: you could possibly be her present soulmate?
Speaker 5: Well, if I if I'm the present soulmate and then
Speaker 5: suddenly there's a future soulmate, then with that future soulmate,
Speaker 5: then that's your present soulmate, and then I'm your past soulmate.
Speaker 5: So the whole system falls apart really fast.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it should be on a numbering system. Agree, two, three?
Speaker 1: Okay, you'd rather just not click that deep and just like.
Speaker 6: A date, Like I've already had my first soulmate, I
Speaker 6: can't have another person, and I'm fairly important, Like it
Speaker 6: really feels like you will be the second. And then
Speaker 6: if you're lucky, right, like, if everything goes well, then
Speaker 6: I wouldn't even find my future soulmate until after you
Speaker 6: are death.
Speaker 1: Oh oh wow, wow, Okay, let's let's get online. That
Speaker 1: indeed the most romantic sentence that's ever been up about
Speaker 1: this show.
Speaker 3: I mean, wouldn't you want me to find somebody after
Speaker 3: you die?
Speaker 5: What are you talking about? We're not even together yet.
Speaker 5: What are you talking about meeting someone after I die?
Speaker 1: That's a good point. You aren't together yet until we
Speaker 1: send you out and will pay for you, guys to
Speaker 1: make it official as present soulmates to each other. We'll
Speaker 1: pay for it. Maybe soulmate is a little bit strong here.
Speaker 1: We'll send you out on another date and then you
Speaker 1: can figure out if the soulmate thing is real or
Speaker 1: no date. I like that.
Speaker 4: I mean, given that you did have a good time
Speaker 4: with her. She's got some kooky ideas, but she likes you.
Speaker 2: You guys had a great time.
Speaker 3: No, it is not cookie.
Speaker 6: It is the rule of three soulmates.
Speaker 3: Everybody follows this.
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, Well did that convince you to go out
Speaker 1: with her this time? Steve?
Speaker 5: No, I'm sorry. I don't want to find out what
Speaker 5: other rules of life there are that I.
Speaker 4: Didn't know about.
Speaker 2: I will say it does explain the divorce, right.
Speaker 1: People are just going to their future soulmates. That's what's happening.
Speaker 1: Wait a second, wait, Steve, since you said no to
Speaker 1: the date, does that now make Marianne your past soulmate
Speaker 1: or so that means you only have two more to
Speaker 1: go till you find your forever lady?
Speaker 2: And does it mean that Marianne only gets.
Speaker 1: One may or maybe?
Speaker 7: As she said, Yeah, Well when you started talking about this,
Speaker 7: you know, more and more information sort of came to
Speaker 7: me and the energy was just not what I thought
Speaker 7: it was, and.
Speaker 3: I just canceled you in my mind, so.
Speaker 1: Unsubscribed from the soulmates.
Speaker 2: This kind of like these universe rules.
Speaker 3: Freaking Jeffrey in the morning.
Speaker 1: You know, it's funny that girl mentioned that she had
Speaker 1: a past, present, and future soulmate somewhere in the world.
Speaker 2: I got the funny in it.
Speaker 1: Well, yeah, sure, it's just funny because I remember when
Speaker 1: we did a live broadcast from Vegas and I walked
Speaker 1: into one of the hotel rooms and I met all
Speaker 1: three of Jose's soulmates. I remember that was that their name?
Speaker 1: Remember their names?
Speaker 2: I yeah.
Speaker 1: I mean it just goes to show that everybody's got
Speaker 1: a little bit of a different take on what love means,
Speaker 1: and what love.
Speaker 4: Is and how much you have to pay love exactly
Speaker 4: three for one deal on the stripe.
Speaker 1: Okay, but you know, your soul it might be different
Speaker 1: than your forever person, who might be different than the
Speaker 1: one who might be different than the love of your life.
Speaker 1: Oh man, I haven't met any of them.
Speaker 2: It's not the same.
Speaker 1: Love is hard, and we're here to help you with
Speaker 1: that hard love. I don't think we should go with that.
Speaker 5: I do know.
Speaker 1: That going to be the talent duting can be difficult,
Speaker 1: and if you want to get a little help, email
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