WEBVTT - Jennifer Love Hewitt 0:00:00.920 --> 0:00:04.840 Hey, guys, welcome to I've never said this before with me, 0:00:05.200 --> 0:00:09.000 Tommy di Dario. I have interviewed many people throughout my career, 0:00:09.039 --> 0:00:11.280 but today's guest is one that I've been wanting to 0:00:11.400 --> 0:00:13.680 chat with for quite some time because I am such 0:00:13.680 --> 0:00:16.320 a fan of her work. Jennifer Love youw It joins 0:00:16.320 --> 0:00:18.599 me today and you know and love her from starring 0:00:18.600 --> 0:00:20.320 in Party of Five, the I Know What You Did, 0:00:20.360 --> 0:00:24.000 last summer films, The Client List, Ghost Whisper, Heartbreakers, which 0:00:24.040 --> 0:00:26.760 is one of my all time favorite movies, and currently 0:00:26.800 --> 0:00:29.280 the TV series Nine to one one. But now she 0:00:29.320 --> 0:00:32.760 has a brand new memoir out titled Inheriting Magic, which 0:00:32.840 --> 0:00:36.199 chronicles her journey through grief and joy and celebrating and 0:00:36.240 --> 0:00:39.800 making everyday magic. What a gift this book is. It 0:00:39.880 --> 0:00:42.080 is a gift because it will reconnect you to that 0:00:42.159 --> 0:00:45.000 beautiful wonder you once had as a kid, that wonder 0:00:45.040 --> 0:00:48.640 that sometimes fades as the chaos and craziness of life unfolds. 0:00:48.760 --> 0:00:50.680 The wonder that we all have inside of us, that 0:00:50.800 --> 0:00:53.479 is just waiting to pour out of our souls. And 0:00:53.560 --> 0:00:57.280 today we are celebrating Jennifer's incredible career. We dive into 0:00:57.320 --> 0:00:59.720 her gorgeous book, and we chat all about her new 0:00:59.760 --> 0:01:02.640 movie in brand, The Holiday Junkie, and we just have 0:01:02.760 --> 0:01:04.560 so much fun. We have a whole section where we 0:01:04.600 --> 0:01:07.240 talk about all sorts of different projects of hers, including 0:01:07.640 --> 0:01:09.800 Let's Go Bang, one of her early albums that I 0:01:09.840 --> 0:01:12.360 was obsessed with. And let me tell you, whoever said 0:01:12.520 --> 0:01:15.720 never meet your heroes, they never met Jennifer Love Hewitt. 0:01:16.360 --> 0:01:18.959 So let's see if today we can get Jennifer to 0:01:18.959 --> 0:01:27.039 say something that she has never said before. Jennifer Love Hewitt, 0:01:27.080 --> 0:01:28.760 how are you, my friend? 0:01:28.400 --> 0:01:30.280 I'm good. 0:01:30.360 --> 0:01:33.399 It is so good to see you looking festive and cheerful. 0:01:33.440 --> 0:01:34.160 It's on brand. 0:01:34.640 --> 0:01:36.120 Thank you so much. You know when I tried and 0:01:36.120 --> 0:01:37.800 give a little a little glitter this. 0:01:37.880 --> 0:01:42.560 Morning, well you look fantastic. I am so excited to 0:01:42.600 --> 0:01:45.040 be talking with you today. So I don't know what 0:01:45.120 --> 0:01:48.120 your team has or hasn't told you, but you have 0:01:48.240 --> 0:01:51.200 been one of my number one interviews throughout my entire career, 0:01:52.480 --> 0:01:54.560 like dead serious, and I'm may youres and hundred and 0:01:54.600 --> 0:01:57.000 hundreds of people, but I'm like, I need to interview 0:01:57.320 --> 0:02:01.880 Jennifer Love Hewett because so nice man. Growing up as 0:02:02.000 --> 0:02:04.920 like a small town kid from New Jersey who was 0:02:04.960 --> 0:02:07.320 figuring out who I was and was going through some 0:02:07.360 --> 0:02:12.120 difficult times. Your art brought me so much joy throughout. 0:02:11.760 --> 0:02:14.360 My life and so much thank you. 0:02:14.639 --> 0:02:16.120 It really did. I started with I note you did 0:02:16.200 --> 0:02:18.200 last summer as a teenager, and my cousins and I 0:02:18.240 --> 0:02:20.080 were we all got into that, and then it's just 0:02:20.120 --> 0:02:22.960 you know, I followed your career ever since, and I 0:02:23.200 --> 0:02:25.440 just think you're one of those rare artists that have 0:02:26.440 --> 0:02:30.960 this beautiful, long career doing art that really connects with 0:02:31.000 --> 0:02:33.120 who you are as a human. And I think that's 0:02:33.120 --> 0:02:35.040 why it resonates with so many people who do follow 0:02:35.080 --> 0:02:38.280 your career. So I'm like just thrilled. I'm sitting here 0:02:38.280 --> 0:02:41.960 thinking now, like Heartbreakers is one of my favorite movies. Know, 0:02:42.040 --> 0:02:43.920 the whole movie from Back to Front. I thought I 0:02:43.960 --> 0:02:46.880 was Paige growing up, like all of it. 0:02:47.760 --> 0:02:50.799 I wanted to be. He was much cooler than me. 0:02:50.800 --> 0:02:53.280 Me too, me too. Well, it is, like I said, 0:02:53.280 --> 0:02:55.240 such a joy, and I'm really excited to have you 0:02:55.280 --> 0:02:58.120 on the show. We have a lot to celebrate today, Yes, 0:02:58.280 --> 0:03:01.000 a lot to talk about today because your new memoir, 0:03:01.320 --> 0:03:06.000 Inheriting Magic is out. Now, are you just pinching yourself? 0:03:06.600 --> 0:03:09.680 Yeah, it's wild. It's like I'm trying to stay present 0:03:09.720 --> 0:03:11.560 in it. But we've been talking about it so much, 0:03:11.560 --> 0:03:13.160 and you know, obviously trying to get it out there 0:03:13.160 --> 0:03:16.200 for people been sort of going by so quickly, and 0:03:16.240 --> 0:03:18.880 then I've been sitting with it for so long that 0:03:18.960 --> 0:03:21.680 it's like and like, is this really happening right now, 0:03:21.720 --> 0:03:25.760 Like it's actually out for people to read and hopefully enjoy, 0:03:25.880 --> 0:03:28.480 And yeah, I'm just I just don't want it to 0:03:28.480 --> 0:03:30.320 go by so fast. I'm trying to hold onto the 0:03:30.360 --> 0:03:31.040 moment a little bit. 0:03:31.520 --> 0:03:34.200 Yeah. Well, it's a beautiful book. I mean I smiled, 0:03:34.440 --> 0:03:37.600 I got emotional in certain parts. I love that you 0:03:37.680 --> 0:03:40.760 open up about your family. But then it's fun. There's recipes, 0:03:40.800 --> 0:03:44.680 there's DIY inspiration, there's prompts to you know, like self 0:03:44.720 --> 0:03:46.840 health prompts to just kind of get your brain thinking 0:03:46.880 --> 0:03:49.320 in a really positive direction. So there's so much goodness 0:03:49.360 --> 0:03:51.320 in this book. Why did you want to write it? 0:03:52.240 --> 0:03:55.440 You know? I think it started off for me as 0:03:55.760 --> 0:03:59.440 eleven years after my mom passing, realizing that I had 0:03:59.440 --> 0:04:02.960 never read said anything about her and her passing. And 0:04:03.000 --> 0:04:05.680 I think it was just because I didn't have the words, 0:04:05.720 --> 0:04:08.360 Like I just sort of needed to maybe grow into 0:04:08.400 --> 0:04:11.560 my grief a little bit and understand kind of what 0:04:11.640 --> 0:04:14.400 was happening and what I was feeling about her. And 0:04:14.600 --> 0:04:17.200 I became a new mom not too long after she 0:04:17.279 --> 0:04:20.919 had passed, and so that's a whirlwin, and I just 0:04:21.040 --> 0:04:24.000 kind of needed time. And so it really started as 0:04:24.040 --> 0:04:26.839 me just sort of writing thought pages about who she 0:04:27.080 --> 0:04:29.080 was and how magical she was to me. And I 0:04:29.120 --> 0:04:32.440 do remember after she passed, like this odd thought kind 0:04:32.440 --> 0:04:34.720 of came up for me, like about three days after 0:04:34.760 --> 0:04:37.320 she passed, where I feared that all the magic I 0:04:37.360 --> 0:04:40.680 had known in my life was gone because I thought 0:04:40.800 --> 0:04:45.200 she was the only soule carrier of that magic. And 0:04:45.240 --> 0:04:47.960 then kind of sitting in our living room with my 0:04:48.040 --> 0:04:51.839 new husband and our new little girl that first Christmas, 0:04:51.880 --> 0:04:54.680 I was like, I can't I can't not have magic, 0:04:55.160 --> 0:04:58.039 and so I have to find it somehow. And I 0:04:58.080 --> 0:05:00.599 think her little gift to me that Christmas was to say, 0:05:00.800 --> 0:05:03.960 it's in here, and you have it, and you've inherited it, 0:05:04.160 --> 0:05:06.760 and you can take it with you now and make 0:05:06.760 --> 0:05:09.320 it your own and be inspired by it. And so 0:05:09.360 --> 0:05:11.680 it really became I think what got me out of 0:05:11.800 --> 0:05:16.000 that maybe sad dark place that Christmas and allowed me 0:05:16.120 --> 0:05:19.200 to sort of find hope and joy and become a 0:05:19.240 --> 0:05:22.200 magic maker for my family. And it's been just like 0:05:22.240 --> 0:05:25.120 the most beautiful gift from her. 0:05:25.640 --> 0:05:27.520 And in the beginning of the book you so beautifully 0:05:27.600 --> 0:05:29.800 dedicate it to your kids and your husband and your mom, 0:05:29.839 --> 0:05:32.600 of course, and you say that she was the one 0:05:32.640 --> 0:05:35.120 who taught you that magic was even possible. What do 0:05:35.120 --> 0:05:35.720 you mean by that? 0:05:36.320 --> 0:05:39.200 You know, people know magic is cauldrons and spell books 0:05:39.240 --> 0:05:41.640 and wands and Harry Potter, and you know all of 0:05:41.640 --> 0:05:44.200 those things. My mom's magic was different. It was really 0:05:44.640 --> 0:05:47.960 like an intention that she set. If she was throwing 0:05:47.960 --> 0:05:51.280 a dinner party, or making Christmas or going to a 0:05:51.320 --> 0:05:53.960 restaurant with her friends. It was never just simple. She 0:05:54.120 --> 0:05:57.719 was extra in like the best way possible. And that 0:05:57.839 --> 0:06:01.080 extra quality in her just people to her. I mean, 0:06:01.120 --> 0:06:03.240 we would go into a restaurant, even at the height 0:06:03.279 --> 0:06:05.680 of things for me, we would go into a restaurant 0:06:05.680 --> 0:06:07.599 and people would care less about who I was for 0:06:07.640 --> 0:06:09.640 that five minutes. They wanted to know who my mom 0:06:09.720 --> 0:06:11.960 was and why they were so drawn to her. And 0:06:12.120 --> 0:06:16.240 she made everybody that she met feel important and special 0:06:16.279 --> 0:06:19.440 in some way, and that was her magic. And for 0:06:19.480 --> 0:06:23.080 me growing up, I believed I could do anything, that 0:06:23.160 --> 0:06:26.840 anything was possible, and that the world was limitless, and 0:06:26.880 --> 0:06:30.240 that to me is magical for a kid. And because 0:06:30.279 --> 0:06:32.760 of that, I said, here, you know, almost thirty six 0:06:32.839 --> 0:06:35.720 years later, in a job that I love and I 0:06:35.800 --> 0:06:37.760 believed I could do that. I believed I could reach 0:06:37.839 --> 0:06:41.600 for it and get it because she instilled that magic 0:06:41.640 --> 0:06:43.840 in me to kind of do that, and so it 0:06:43.920 --> 0:06:44.719 was very special. 0:06:45.480 --> 0:06:47.599 And what I love about the book too, is it's 0:06:47.600 --> 0:06:50.000 not just about the big moments in life, right like 0:06:50.040 --> 0:06:53.240 the Amazing role You book or whatever the case may be, 0:06:53.320 --> 0:06:56.760 a work accomplishment in any field, it's making the most 0:06:56.800 --> 0:07:00.520 of the little moments and enjoying those for what they are. 0:07:00.560 --> 0:07:03.760 And throughout this book you talk about how you make 0:07:03.839 --> 0:07:08.159 these bestive occasions or seemingly ordinary day extraordinary, right Like 0:07:08.240 --> 0:07:12.400 It's just really a beautiful mindset that I think is 0:07:12.440 --> 0:07:14.480 such an important reminder for everybody right now. And I 0:07:14.480 --> 0:07:16.680 so connect with you on that. Like even something that 0:07:16.680 --> 0:07:18.280 came in to mind for me is during the pandemic, 0:07:18.360 --> 0:07:21.600 my husband and I we got engaged in Paris years ago. 0:07:21.680 --> 0:07:24.640 We've been married for going on nine years, and it 0:07:24.640 --> 0:07:27.000 was such a dark time and when that date rolled around. 0:07:27.040 --> 0:07:29.600 I just turned our living room into a Parisian cafe. 0:07:30.040 --> 0:07:34.000 I love that you know that that's what it's about. 0:07:34.400 --> 0:07:37.000 That really is what it's about. And I do think that. 0:07:37.040 --> 0:07:38.840 I think that's my biggest hope for the book is 0:07:38.880 --> 0:07:41.920 that people will because I've talked to people who are like, 0:07:42.160 --> 0:07:44.000 I am not a magical person, Like I just don't 0:07:44.000 --> 0:07:45.800 get it, and I'm like, but you can be a 0:07:45.840 --> 0:07:49.520 magical person because it really is just an intention that 0:07:49.600 --> 0:07:52.280 you said. It's like you taking that moment and going 0:07:52.640 --> 0:07:54.320 in all the darkness of the world today, I'm going 0:07:54.360 --> 0:07:57.880 to create light for me and my loved one. And 0:07:57.960 --> 0:08:01.040 that is so tangible, and it's more tangible than we 0:08:01.120 --> 0:08:03.840 think that it is. And it doesn't have to be expensive. 0:08:04.320 --> 0:08:07.640 It doesn't have to be months planned. You can literally 0:08:07.680 --> 0:08:09.400 wake up on a Thursday and go, you know what, 0:08:09.800 --> 0:08:12.000 dinner is going to be weird tonight, Like we're going 0:08:12.040 --> 0:08:14.400 to make it weird, or we're going to make it special, 0:08:14.480 --> 0:08:17.520 or we're going to put Christmas lights up in June 0:08:17.640 --> 0:08:19.720 for no reason. You know, We're going to do whatever 0:08:19.760 --> 0:08:22.280 it is that we need to do to create magic 0:08:22.360 --> 0:08:24.880 in the space that we have on this planet. For 0:08:24.960 --> 0:08:28.360 the short amount of time that we're here, and it 0:08:28.480 --> 0:08:30.800 makes it so fun life. I'm so proud of you 0:08:30.840 --> 0:08:32.240 for doing that. I think that's amazing. 0:08:32.600 --> 0:08:34.720 Yeah, yeah, I think you have to enjoy those little 0:08:34.720 --> 0:08:36.520 moments in life. And I think this it's so cool 0:08:36.520 --> 0:08:38.640 about this book. It's going to really encourage people to 0:08:38.679 --> 0:08:41.880 do that. It's also cool because I feel like a 0:08:41.920 --> 0:08:44.640 lot of people have a difficult time opening up about grief. 0:08:44.840 --> 0:08:47.839 You know, it's like a very it's an odd topic 0:08:47.920 --> 0:08:49.600 to talk about because you never know how it will 0:08:49.600 --> 0:08:51.400 make someone else feel. You don't know how it's going 0:08:51.480 --> 0:08:54.040 to make you feel. And I feel like there's kind 0:08:54.080 --> 0:08:57.280 of a stigma around talking about grief still when in reality, 0:08:57.679 --> 0:08:59.839 we all go through it, we all experience it, so 0:09:00.440 --> 0:09:03.080 there shouldn't be And you talk about grieving your mom 0:09:03.080 --> 0:09:05.760 in the book as well, So what's your relationship today 0:09:05.960 --> 0:09:06.840 like with grief? 0:09:07.080 --> 0:09:13.920 For you, it's a it's a good one, oddly, I 0:09:14.320 --> 0:09:17.880 really I think writing this book, doing the movie and 0:09:17.960 --> 0:09:19.760 her honor and sort of. I mean, I've definitely had 0:09:19.800 --> 0:09:22.400 good days in this press process and not so good 0:09:22.440 --> 0:09:24.920 moments where like I have to remind myself at the 0:09:25.000 --> 0:09:26.440 end of the day because I've talked about it so 0:09:26.559 --> 0:09:29.280 much that like, that's my mom that we're talking about, 0:09:29.360 --> 0:09:31.200 you know, And so it's like definitely hit me a 0:09:31.200 --> 0:09:34.480 few times in the last week for sure that I've 0:09:34.559 --> 0:09:36.840 just been like, why is she not here for this? 0:09:36.920 --> 0:09:40.520 I've been so frustrated, you know, or really sad that 0:09:40.559 --> 0:09:42.200 she's not here to see all this. But then I 0:09:42.240 --> 0:09:45.080 remind myself that she's watching. You know, she's probably gonna 0:09:45.080 --> 0:09:47.600 have like the biggest watch party ever in Heaven's Barnes 0:09:47.640 --> 0:09:49.520 and Noble. It's going to be selling out of that book, 0:09:49.760 --> 0:09:52.400 you know, in two seconds. So you know, she would 0:09:52.440 --> 0:09:53.760 be love. I mean, like I said, she was extra, 0:09:53.800 --> 0:09:56.160 she'd be loving all of this about her and sort 0:09:56.160 --> 0:09:58.760 of in her honors. So that kind of brings me joy. 0:09:58.800 --> 0:10:01.199 But yeah, grief is something I mean, I think the 0:10:01.240 --> 0:10:03.240 biggest thing that I learned about grief, and I tell 0:10:03.240 --> 0:10:05.400 this to people all the time, whether they've been through 0:10:05.440 --> 0:10:06.920 it yet or they're going to go through it at 0:10:06.960 --> 0:10:10.680 some point, is that it's not an event. It is 0:10:10.679 --> 0:10:13.240 a life after that like it is. It is just 0:10:13.280 --> 0:10:16.240 a thing that comes up any time it feels like 0:10:16.320 --> 0:10:19.520 it when it wants to however it wants to, and 0:10:19.640 --> 0:10:21.839 you can't prepare for it, but you have to let 0:10:21.840 --> 0:10:24.440 it wash over you or wash in you, and then 0:10:24.480 --> 0:10:26.760 you have to let it back out again and like 0:10:26.840 --> 0:10:29.959 move forward. And so it is, you know. I think 0:10:30.040 --> 0:10:32.360 I thought, like in the early days of her passing, 0:10:32.360 --> 0:10:34.000 that it was going to be this moment in time 0:10:34.480 --> 0:10:36.360 and then I would be healed and that would be it. 0:10:36.840 --> 0:10:39.720 And you know, next June will be thirteen years and 0:10:39.760 --> 0:10:42.959 I'm still in it. So I think that my relationship 0:10:42.960 --> 0:10:45.360 with it now is that it is a it's a 0:10:45.360 --> 0:10:48.880 weird friend that I have that comes to visit me sometimes, 0:10:49.559 --> 0:10:52.200 and I'm oddly happy to see it when it does, 0:10:52.320 --> 0:10:54.439 because it's a new level of letting go of something 0:10:54.720 --> 0:10:57.600 or feeling closer to her, maybe in that moment that 0:10:57.640 --> 0:11:00.800 I hadn't taken time to feel close to her that day. 0:11:01.240 --> 0:11:03.520 And then I wish it well and pack its bags 0:11:03.520 --> 0:11:06.960 pretty quickly and say see your next visit. You know. 0:11:07.360 --> 0:11:09.679 So it's a it's a healthy relationship with it now, 0:11:09.679 --> 0:11:11.719 I would say, but definitely different than it was in 0:11:11.800 --> 0:11:12.240 the beginning. 0:11:12.520 --> 0:11:14.800 And I think you're so right to acknowledge it and 0:11:15.559 --> 0:11:18.120 in a weird way honor it, but then allow yourself 0:11:18.160 --> 0:11:20.200 to say, okay, we're good now, see you next time. 0:11:20.240 --> 0:11:21.000 I think that's right. 0:11:21.200 --> 0:11:22.839 Thanks for visiting, right right? 0:11:23.160 --> 0:11:26.880 So important, it truly is, yea, and a part of 0:11:27.080 --> 0:11:28.960 your story that you write about. And I'm not going 0:11:29.040 --> 0:11:30.880 to give too too much away throughout this book, but 0:11:30.920 --> 0:11:33.440 this one part I think is so important for people 0:11:33.480 --> 0:11:36.480 to read and hear. And if there's anything that might 0:11:36.880 --> 0:11:39.120 persuade someone to say, let me pick this up, because 0:11:39.520 --> 0:11:41.720 I really needed to hear that. This was a moment 0:11:41.760 --> 0:11:44.200 that I think is so so critical, at least in 0:11:44.200 --> 0:11:46.880 my perspective. And you talked about how when your mother 0:11:46.960 --> 0:11:49.760 did pass you left and you went away to travel, 0:11:49.800 --> 0:11:51.400 and she wanted you to go, and you had a 0:11:51.400 --> 0:11:54.720 commitment and it was unexpected, right, and you were away 0:11:54.800 --> 0:11:57.040 suddenly and you weren't there, and you were kind of 0:11:57.360 --> 0:11:59.520 beating yourself up for not having the goodbye that you 0:11:59.520 --> 0:12:01.640 thought you should should have until you then realized, well, 0:12:01.640 --> 0:12:03.640 wait a minute, we did actually have our time and 0:12:03.679 --> 0:12:05.959 it was the perfect goodbye that she would want. Can 0:12:06.000 --> 0:12:07.480 you talk to me about that a little bit? 0:12:07.960 --> 0:12:11.480 Yeah, I mean we on that day, my gut was 0:12:11.559 --> 0:12:14.520 like very very much screaming at me, do not go 0:12:14.640 --> 0:12:17.160 on this trip. But my mom couldn't travel at the time, 0:12:17.320 --> 0:12:19.800 and she loved to travel, and I was going to Monica, 0:12:19.840 --> 0:12:21.280 which is a place we had been together, and she 0:12:21.320 --> 0:12:23.000 was like, I need you to do this, you know, 0:12:23.080 --> 0:12:26.720 for me, and so I went and in that day 0:12:27.280 --> 0:12:29.440 we did a lot of things. You know, we talked 0:12:29.440 --> 0:12:32.760 about my now husband and you know, sort of had 0:12:32.800 --> 0:12:36.240 that relationship conversation. There were a lot of things that happened, 0:12:36.280 --> 0:12:38.760 but one of the things we were doing was planning 0:12:38.840 --> 0:12:42.400 her big party for you know, sort of how she 0:12:42.520 --> 0:12:43.800 was going to come out on the other side of 0:12:43.840 --> 0:12:46.720 all of this and celebrate with her friends and you know, 0:12:46.760 --> 0:12:48.760 then travel again and you know, sort of do all 0:12:48.760 --> 0:12:51.320 of those things. And when that didn't happen and I 0:12:51.360 --> 0:12:55.200 didn't get that goodbye, I was very angry and it 0:12:55.400 --> 0:12:58.400 stayed with me for a while until I realized that 0:12:58.760 --> 0:13:01.760 for my mom and I, what we did best was 0:13:02.480 --> 0:13:06.960 magic and joy, and we had that that day in 0:13:07.040 --> 0:13:09.720 sort of the hopefulness of her being okay and what 0:13:09.760 --> 0:13:11.960 that was going to be. And the truth is, I 0:13:12.000 --> 0:13:13.680 don't know that my mom and I would have known 0:13:13.720 --> 0:13:17.800 how to say goodbye, and so I do ultimately feel 0:13:17.840 --> 0:13:20.200 like our goodbye was what it was supposed to be 0:13:20.600 --> 0:13:23.120 and it was supposed to be her letting me go 0:13:23.200 --> 0:13:25.520 from a distance and me letting her go from a distance. 0:13:25.679 --> 0:13:30.040 And I know that it wasn't easy for her, and 0:13:30.080 --> 0:13:32.200 I definitely know that it wasn't easy for me. But 0:13:32.320 --> 0:13:35.600 I feel like our last moment was hopeful and was 0:13:35.679 --> 0:13:39.440 magical and was joyful and I get to keep that 0:13:39.559 --> 0:13:41.240 with me, and that means a lot. 0:13:42.559 --> 0:13:46.840 Wow, to be in a place to have that, you know, mentality, 0:13:46.880 --> 0:13:48.760 And I'm sure you had to work through a place 0:13:48.800 --> 0:13:51.800 to get there, you know, But what a beautiful feeling 0:13:51.840 --> 0:13:54.280 of peace I imagine that is. And I'm getting like 0:13:54.320 --> 0:13:56.160 a little choked up because I think so many people 0:13:56.840 --> 0:13:59.640 need to hear that and need to know that sometimes 0:13:59.679 --> 0:14:01.560 how things unfold or how they're supposed to, you know, 0:14:01.600 --> 0:14:03.960 I don't I don't believe in coincidences. I don't believe 0:14:03.960 --> 0:14:05.800 in accidents. I think the universe takes care of you. 0:14:05.840 --> 0:14:06.960 That's just my mentality. 0:14:07.280 --> 0:14:09.000 Same, yeah, And I. 0:14:08.920 --> 0:14:12.400 Think that that's a really vulnerable part of you that 0:14:12.480 --> 0:14:15.480 you put in this book. That is, if there's any 0:14:15.520 --> 0:14:17.520 reason alone it's to read the book, it's for that. 0:14:18.160 --> 0:14:20.200 Besides all the fun stuff that you talk about as well, 0:14:20.560 --> 0:14:23.040 like the moon water, which, by the way, need to 0:14:23.040 --> 0:14:23.760 do immediately. 0:14:24.360 --> 0:14:28.040 Yes, you do. It's really fun. It's really fun, and 0:14:28.080 --> 0:14:29.760 it will get you to drink water, so it's simply 0:14:29.960 --> 0:14:32.520 for that purpose too. But there really is there, like 0:14:32.560 --> 0:14:35.280 there's a there's I feel like there's scientists and people 0:14:35.280 --> 0:14:37.680 that have come out saying that, like, you can definitely, 0:14:38.400 --> 0:14:41.280 you can definitely like infuse your body with intentions and 0:14:41.320 --> 0:14:43.880 good thoughts by you know, taping a word on your 0:14:43.880 --> 0:14:45.920 water bottle or whatever, and the kids and I just 0:14:45.960 --> 0:14:47.760 kind of took it to a new level adding the moon. 0:14:48.560 --> 0:14:51.960 But yeah, it's really it's really fun. I highly recommend it. 0:14:52.160 --> 0:14:55.240 Those little tips and tricks are so exciting for people 0:14:55.320 --> 0:14:57.280 to live a truly magical life. I love that too. 0:14:57.320 --> 0:14:58.920 We live in New York City and I'm like, Geo, 0:14:59.040 --> 0:15:00.960 we need to go find the moon and put a 0:15:01.000 --> 0:15:03.000 water a Central park or something and make it. 0:15:02.920 --> 0:15:05.560 Out of it. Yes, well, maybe don't leave it out 0:15:05.560 --> 0:15:08.240 overnight in Central Park. Somebody might drink it and then 0:15:08.240 --> 0:15:11.280 you yeah, no, no, let's try to find a balcony maybe. 0:15:11.320 --> 0:15:14.000 Okay, all right, fair enough, please, we'll work on that. 0:15:14.040 --> 0:15:24.400 We'll work on that. The holiday junkie is something that 0:15:24.520 --> 0:15:28.360 you've become synonymous alter ego. Yeah, is it is? And 0:15:28.440 --> 0:15:31.400 I believe you kind of launched that or started that 0:15:31.440 --> 0:15:33.600 concept back in like twenty thirteen, Is that right? 0:15:33.920 --> 0:15:34.680 Yeah? 0:15:34.920 --> 0:15:37.359 So what is the holiday Junkie? 0:15:37.680 --> 0:15:42.000 So technically I have to give credit to Instagram followers 0:15:42.080 --> 0:15:45.360 because they were the ones who initially called me a 0:15:45.440 --> 0:15:48.800 holiday junkie and it sort of stuck with me, and 0:15:49.400 --> 0:15:53.040 it really is. It is a total other mindset besides 0:15:53.440 --> 0:15:59.280 magic they go together, but the holiday junkie is truly 0:15:59.360 --> 0:16:02.280 like who I am? I I like for me and 0:16:02.400 --> 0:16:04.000 I put it in the book. There's a calendar to 0:16:04.040 --> 0:16:06.960 follow the holiday junkie, Like where's the normal people in 0:16:06.960 --> 0:16:09.760 the world? See five holidays? I see like twenty there 0:16:09.760 --> 0:16:13.320 are twenty possibilities to put up stuff, to decorate, to 0:16:13.960 --> 0:16:17.280 go there to like be extra have fun and celebrate 0:16:17.400 --> 0:16:21.080 not only life, but like you know things. And it's 0:16:21.120 --> 0:16:24.680 become this brand. I have a card line with these 0:16:24.720 --> 0:16:27.720 amazing women at twenty twenty one Co and we make 0:16:27.760 --> 0:16:31.960 holiday Junkie cards. It's expanding in this new year, coming 0:16:32.040 --> 0:16:34.360 up into sort of some consumer products that they're really 0:16:34.400 --> 0:16:37.320 excited about. It's been clothing, it's been you know it's 0:16:37.400 --> 0:16:40.840 it's a thing, but it's who my friends and family 0:16:41.080 --> 0:16:43.400 know me as and it is a it is a 0:16:43.440 --> 0:16:48.240 title that I wear so proud. And it's just like 0:16:48.560 --> 0:16:52.160 finding all of the little pockets of joy to just 0:16:52.360 --> 0:16:56.680 celebrate and just be happy. And it's I guess it's 0:16:56.720 --> 0:17:00.480 also a mindset and an intention. But yeah, happy to 0:17:00.480 --> 0:17:02.840 be the holiday junkie. And it's a movie that people 0:17:02.840 --> 0:17:04.760 can watch on the fourteenth, which is exciting. 0:17:05.200 --> 0:17:08.080 And you play like a decorator, right I do. 0:17:08.160 --> 0:17:11.640 I play a woman who essentially is hired to decorate 0:17:11.640 --> 0:17:15.320 for Christmas, but also plan a magical itinerary for a family. 0:17:15.680 --> 0:17:18.920 And then I meet a handsome house manager who also 0:17:18.960 --> 0:17:21.080 happens to be my really husband and we fall in 0:17:21.080 --> 0:17:23.359 love at Christmas. And I'm in grief at Christmas because 0:17:23.400 --> 0:17:26.520 I've just lost my mom and he's in grief because 0:17:26.560 --> 0:17:27.520 he was left at the altar. 0:17:27.800 --> 0:17:29.440 Oh what a t ease, right? 0:17:30.000 --> 0:17:33.600 You know? Yes, sign me only sad people at Christmas 0:17:33.600 --> 0:17:35.240 who just happened to kiss. It's awesome. 0:17:35.480 --> 0:17:37.960 Oh I love that. That is so much fun. And 0:17:38.000 --> 0:17:40.320 you know what, I love that you've embraced the holiday junkie. 0:17:40.440 --> 0:17:43.679 And again, it's so on Brandon and theme to your 0:17:43.720 --> 0:17:46.199 book and everything that we're talking about today and enjoying 0:17:46.240 --> 0:17:49.119 all the little moments in life. I mean, why not 0:17:49.560 --> 0:17:52.119 with everything life throws you like, why not lean into that? 0:17:52.640 --> 0:17:55.320 Yes, yeah, I talk about that a lot with my kids. 0:17:55.320 --> 0:17:57.840 We talk a lot about how you know, in our 0:17:57.880 --> 0:18:02.399 house with each other where supportive and we're always kind, 0:18:03.040 --> 0:18:06.520 and we really shore each other up inside our house 0:18:06.600 --> 0:18:08.760 because when you step outside, the world is going to 0:18:08.800 --> 0:18:11.520 do with you what it wants, and that's just the truth. 0:18:11.800 --> 0:18:14.240 And we can't protect each other from that, even though 0:18:14.240 --> 0:18:17.879 we want to. But we can start in our home 0:18:18.240 --> 0:18:22.600 with the intention of magic, the intention of good and 0:18:22.800 --> 0:18:25.240 shoring each other up and supporting each other the best 0:18:25.280 --> 0:18:27.480 that we can so that you know, when we walk out, 0:18:27.480 --> 0:18:29.239 it doesn't hit us quite as hard as it might 0:18:29.320 --> 0:18:31.960 hit others. And so we talk about that a lot 0:18:31.960 --> 0:18:33.399 with our kids, and we try to do that as 0:18:33.480 --> 0:18:37.560 much as we can. Sometimes we don't succeed, but we try. Well, 0:18:38.119 --> 0:18:40.399 you do the best we can, right, we try, We 0:18:40.480 --> 0:18:41.040 really try. 0:18:41.520 --> 0:18:41.639 Well. 0:18:41.640 --> 0:18:44.040 What a beautiful environment to create in your home? And 0:18:44.119 --> 0:18:46.040 I noticed that throughout the book you have so many 0:18:46.080 --> 0:18:49.840 beautiful pictures that you show of your family, and your kids, 0:18:49.880 --> 0:18:52.000 And I do feel like it's probably one of the 0:18:52.040 --> 0:18:55.080 more personal moments in your life and career that you 0:18:55.119 --> 0:18:58.640