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Speaker 1: Call from Tartal.

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Speaker 2: Hello is this Gek?

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Speaker 3: Yes? Who is this?

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Speaker 2: Call me Sarah?

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Speaker 3: Sarah? What's going on?

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Speaker 4: So?

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Speaker 2: I'm kind of going through it. So I live in

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Speaker 2: a situation where I'm still with my parents and I'm

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Speaker 2: like twenty six and a couple of months ago this

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Speaker 2: guy was really into he cheated on me with a coworker,

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Speaker 2: and I did not take that very well because it

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Speaker 2: was my first time dealing with something like that. And

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Speaker 2: then on top of that, like, I live in a

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Speaker 2: very stressful situation with my parents and sometimes they put

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Speaker 2: me kind of liked to be their therapist, like they're

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Speaker 2: like to what you are? To random stry on that

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Speaker 2: to my parents, So I know things about them I

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Speaker 2: should not know. And I think I've finally gotten to

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Speaker 2: the point where I'm gonna try biting the bullet and

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Speaker 2: moving out with one of my best friends. But that's

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Speaker 2: kind of what I'm going through right now, and it's

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Speaker 2: really scary.

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Speaker 3: You do you have a job? I do?

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Speaker 2: I work for two?

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Speaker 3: Okay? Uh? Well what's stadiu in?

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Speaker 2: Uh? North Carolina?

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Speaker 3: North Carolina? Okay? Have you never? Have you lived with

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Speaker 3: your parents your entire life?

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Speaker 2: Yes? In fact, I just got my bachelor's degree not

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Speaker 2: that long ago.

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Speaker 3: Oh cool.

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Speaker 2: Marketing, okay, business an marketing kind of kind of stick.

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Speaker 3: Okay, So uh, I guess, well, okay, tell me this.

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Speaker 3: What would you like to get out of this phone call?

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Speaker 2: I kind of want some.

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Speaker 5: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I kind of just want like advice because this is

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Speaker 2: a very scary step and I don't know what I'm doing,

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Speaker 2: and I just want to know, like if it's crazy

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Speaker 2: to want more out of life, because living with my parents,

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Speaker 2: they always find a way to make it seem like, oh,

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Speaker 2: you can't make it without me, you can't do anything

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Speaker 2: without me, and it's like I think I can, and

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Speaker 2: it's it's very disheartening to feel that way that much.

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Speaker 2: I guess hostility from the parental unit when I thought

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Speaker 2: they were supposed to be there for me, to support

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Speaker 2: me and be there, and it feels like their love

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Speaker 2: is conditional.

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Speaker 3: M No, that all that all makes perfect sense. You

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Speaker 3: You are wondering if it's okay to want more out

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Speaker 3: of your life?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? What what was funny is just the fact that

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Speaker 2: I've been getting super into your podcasts like this whole time,

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Speaker 2: and I've made calls before, but in situations where I

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Speaker 2: felt like if you picked up I would probably just

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Speaker 2: end up sobbing because I wasn't like in a better headspace.

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Speaker 2: And now I am kind of in that headspace and

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Speaker 2: I was not expecting your answer at all.

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Speaker 3: What was it? Sorry? Go ahead.

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Speaker 2: And it's just funny because it's like a weird cosmic

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Speaker 2: sign because this this past week, I went to like

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Speaker 2: a bar and this I told this girl, this random stranger,

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Speaker 2: you know, the white girl wasted if you will, And

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Speaker 2: she was not totally gone, but she was like, dude,

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Speaker 2: that sucks, like if you want to room out, like

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Speaker 2: be out. And then I had like a conversation like

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Speaker 2: one of my friends who lives all the way like

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Speaker 2: a couple of states away, she called me out of

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Speaker 2: the blue, which is kind of random for her. And

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Speaker 2: then so now it's weird, like because I'm taking it

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Speaker 2: as a cosmic sign in the right direction, I guess.

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Speaker 3: I think that's great. I don't think you need a

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Speaker 3: cosmic sign. I don't think you need a cosmic sign

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Speaker 3: for it to let you know that it's okay to

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Speaker 3: want more out of your life. I don't think you

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Speaker 3: need Uh, I don't think you need Mofa to uppere

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Speaker 3: as a constellation to tell you that it's okay to

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Speaker 3: move out of your parents' house. I think it's okay

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Speaker 3: if you in your own it is it does spell

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Speaker 3: out sex, and it is funny. But I think that you.

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Speaker 3: I think that you of your own volition, with your

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Speaker 3: own what these what what is it? What do they

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Speaker 3: say in the fucking Bill of Rights or whatever? The fuck?

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Speaker 3: It's like, we hold these truths to unalienable rights maybe

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Speaker 3: you have the unalienable rights as an American to make

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Speaker 3: do not need a cosmic sign to make those decisions.

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Speaker 3: And I'm sorry that you've you've been in a weird

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Speaker 3: You're like, you're like that TV show with that girl

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Speaker 3: and you've been Uh. I guess like it sounds like

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Speaker 3: brainwashed by your parents. Yeah, to believe that you are whatever,

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Speaker 3: not worthy or not you know, or ungrateful or whatever

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Speaker 3: the fuck are. Your parents have brainwashed you into thinking

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Speaker 3: that you should. Your parents have brainwashed you to the

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Speaker 3: point where you're wondering to me on the phone right

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Speaker 3: now if it's okay to want more for your life

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Speaker 3: and that's crazy, and that that that's fucked up. That uh,

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Speaker 3: that that's where you've been for the past twenty six years.

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Speaker 3: But I'm glad that you're taking this step to deciphe again.

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Speaker 3: Don't need a cosmic sign. You don't need my face

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Speaker 3: to appear in a furnace to tell you that it's

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Speaker 3: okay to move out of your out of your parents' house.

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Speaker 3: You can just decide that you want more out of

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Speaker 3: your life than that you're going to do it. So

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Speaker 3: I no, I mean, I guess to answer your question, No,

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Speaker 3: it's not crazy to want more up for your life.

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Speaker 3: It's a little it's crazy to brainwash your child into

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Speaker 3: thinking that they shouldn't want more out of your life.

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Speaker 3: I think that's crazy.

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Speaker 2: I think what else is weird is like, I've had

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Speaker 2: not the best luck with finding good guys. And I

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Speaker 2: remember watching this TikTok where they said, oh, if you

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Speaker 2: want to self esteem, check see the guys you've dated.

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Speaker 2: And it's like, oh ouch. And it was really funny

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Speaker 2: because you just look around and you see all this

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Speaker 2: stuff happening and you're like, oh my god, I'm closer

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Speaker 2: to thirty than I am twenty, and it's like I'm

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Speaker 2: still living at home with my parents. Granted, there's nothing

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Speaker 2: wrong with that so long as your helmets. Your parents

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Speaker 2: are a loving situation that actually want to see you

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Speaker 2: do better. But it just feels like they want to

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Speaker 2: keep me here until I just whither away, and like

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Speaker 2: that's not going to help me know how to live life,

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Speaker 2: Like the only way to live life is to live life.

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Speaker 2: And I don't know if they have some sort of

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Speaker 2: this one guy I was dating who was very bad

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Speaker 2: for me and my parents. Specifically, my dad didn't like it,

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Speaker 2: so he would like he beat me one day, and

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Speaker 2: that was kind of a lot to handle. Your dad, Like, well,

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Speaker 2: he's my stepdad, but like he was he's I was

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Speaker 2: like in community college. I think I was in my

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Speaker 2: early like nineteen, and like I weighed one dwenty pounds

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Speaker 3: What's your name again? Call me Sarah for private Sarah, Sarah.

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Speaker 3: I'm so sorry. You gotta lead, You gotta get out

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Speaker 3: of that house, like immediately, Yeah.

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Speaker 2: It's hard being a single person, and like with this

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Speaker 2: single forget it.

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Speaker 3: I mean, just do me, do me? Just can can

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Speaker 3: I interrupt you for a second? Forget about Like if

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Speaker 3: I if I were you, for real, I would just

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Speaker 3: forget about. Can I get Can I get on some

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Speaker 3: ship for a second with with with you real quick?

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Speaker 3: Is that cool?

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Speaker 2: But but by all means stand on your podium, all.

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Speaker 3: Right, I'm gonna get on some ship with you for

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Speaker 3: for a second. Sarah, Sarah, this is this is like

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Speaker 3: classic uh no, this is like classic whatever the fuck,

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Speaker 3: but it is true, this thing of like like you

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Speaker 3: gotta kind of love yourself before trying to find people

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Speaker 3: before well before trying to get love and validation in

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Speaker 3: other people. And if if you're in a situation where

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Speaker 3: just like fucked up for twenty six years, my like,

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Speaker 3: you know, obviously everyone wants to find a beautiful, amazing,

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Speaker 3: happy romantic relationship, but in your situation right now, I

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Speaker 3: would like take one hundred percent of my focus on,

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Speaker 3: like you know, getting the fuck out of that house

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Speaker 3: and entering what many of us and entering what is

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Speaker 3: popularly lately referred to as as the Healing Era, because

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Speaker 3: it sounds to me like you haven't taken enough time

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Speaker 3: to even like discover like who you are, what you like,

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Speaker 3: what you think, you know, what gives you confidence, what

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Speaker 3: gives your self esteem, just like within your fucking self,

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Speaker 3: you know. So before we go and find another you know,

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Speaker 3: uh thing, It's like it sounds it sounds like you

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Speaker 3: got to take some time to do that, you know, yeah, Because.

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Speaker 2: I mean I've been dating since like dating age in

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Speaker 2: high school, and I haven't I've been there have been

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Speaker 2: bouts where I've been like single, but then it doesn't

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Speaker 2: it's not hard for me to find someone. But then again,

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Speaker 2: the people who have always found me, who have been

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Speaker 2: false hope, it's like those people are innocence, manipulative, and

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Speaker 2: very predatory. So then it's just like they can smell it,

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Speaker 3: Of count Sarah, what how do you what do you?

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Speaker 3: What do you want out of life?

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Speaker 2: I want to have a good job where I don't

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Speaker 2: have to worry about like finances. I don't want fucking money,

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Speaker 2: because that's too much money I want. I want like sustainable,

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Speaker 2: and I want to have my little house one day.

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Speaker 2: I want to decorate it in stuff other than millennial gray,

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Speaker 2: because God does abysmal. And I just want to have

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Speaker 2: But I don't need a man. It's just more like

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Speaker 2: a want than a need. And I feel like there

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Speaker 2: was a long time where that was a need. And

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Speaker 2: I don't even know what I want to do, but

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Speaker 2: I want a job that's emotionally fulfilling enough and mentally

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Speaker 2: engaging enough, because I kind of lately found out that

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Speaker 2: I have ADHD, which has been really crazy and hasn't

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Speaker 2: explained so much to me, and whenever I confronted my

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Speaker 2: And I was like, I know, I haven't gone to

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Speaker 2: how many times I thought I was stupid and less

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Speaker 2: then because I couldn't put a name to why everything

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Speaker 2: so figuring that out on top of all this stuff

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Speaker 2: It's like I've had an epiphany, right, and I'm just like, bro,

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Speaker 2: why am I still here? Like I need to get

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Speaker 2: I need to get out of here. Hey get out

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Speaker 2: of here man.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, good, we'll go do that. You should get

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Speaker 3: out of there. I I I support getting out of there.

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Speaker 3: I think that's a good a good idea.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And like that's I feel like the story the

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Speaker 2: first step to figure out who I am as a person,

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Speaker 2: because whenever you're with your parents, they want to kind

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Speaker 2: of the especially sort of nasty ones are like, hey,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And it just makes me feel a little bad

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Speaker 3: Wait, I'm not sorry. Hold on this, by the way,

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Speaker 3: is it your brother's house?

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Speaker 4: Then?

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Speaker 6: Well, like.

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Speaker 2: It's one of those things where it's like, hey, if

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Sarah, I mean, look dude, you Sarah, I I okay,

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Speaker 3: I want to tell you right now, if you get

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Speaker 3: I know you said you were something about a cosmic sign.

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Speaker 3: Parents have been telling you that you are not authorized

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Speaker 3: You do not need permission from anyone. You don't need

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Speaker 3: You could go and create your own life if you

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Speaker 3: I like this vibe. You absolutely can create that own

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Speaker 3: life for yourself. Okay. You don't need a cosmic sign,

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Speaker 3: you don't need permission. I am telling you from the

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Speaker 3: bottom of my heart, Sarah, you can go and create

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Speaker 3: your own life. I'm very sorry that you were unlucky

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Speaker 3: enough to have been born into a crazy cycle of

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Speaker 2: I do, I really do, because if it feels genuine

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Speaker 2: whenever you say it like that, Okay, it just makes

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Speaker 2: me Sometimes I feel bad about complaining because like I

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Speaker 3: A ruffle, so so so complaining there's kind of complaining

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Speaker 3: pay attention to what you're complaining about, right, and then

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Speaker 3: use that as a direction for where you want to

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Speaker 2: About, well, like whenever I open up to people like

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Speaker 2: I could have had.

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Speaker 3: It a lot worse, Like okay, weld on, that's well,

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Speaker 3: that's that's not what I asked. What do you what

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Speaker 3: do you? What are you complaining about?

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Speaker 2: Well, I complain about the fact that the house isn't

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Speaker 2: I know that my room is an inner reflection of

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Speaker 2: a cry for help.

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Speaker 3: These are great, These are good complaints. These are good complaints.

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Speaker 3: They're they they they they they signal, they signal good

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Speaker 2: And like my car, like I got to a wreck

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Speaker 3: Sarah, Sarah, Sarah, So Sarah, if you're if you're on,

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Speaker 3: these are good complaints. Where complaining becomes bad is when

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Speaker 3: it just is like something we use to fucking like,

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Speaker 3: you know, like masturbate with you know what I mean,

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Speaker 3: Like we just marinate in our.

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Speaker 2: Own like, oh, feel bad for me?

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Speaker 3: Right py, right, but right right, that's where complaining becomes

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Speaker 3: too much. But if you're upset that your room is clean,

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Speaker 3: if you're upset that your house is unclean, if you're

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Speaker 3: upset that you're living in a hostile environment, I'm telling you,

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Speaker 3: I told you already you have the ability to change

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Speaker 2: Because it's not like I like my credit scores in

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Speaker 2: seven hundreds.

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Speaker 3: Great, I can get out of it. Sarah, do you

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Speaker 3: do you do you have you saved up any money?

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Speaker 3: Do you have savings?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Okay, you don't have to tell me how much, but like,

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry, you already told me. What state do you

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Speaker 3: live in? Again?

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Speaker 2: North Carolina?

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Speaker 3: North Carolina? Okay? Go on, Sarah, Yeah, go on zillow Okay,

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Speaker 3: and you how hold on?

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Speaker 1: Do you.

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Speaker 3: How often do you work? You work forty hours a week.

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Speaker 2: Yes, retail loves to shaft its employees. Shout out corporate America.

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Speaker 3: Okay, you work forty hours a week? Can I can

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Speaker 3: I ask you how much money you make?

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Speaker 1: About?

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Speaker 2: Fifteen an hour?

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Speaker 3: Fifteen dollars an hour, forty hours a week. Umm, Okay,

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Speaker 2: That does get taken out for insurance, right and my

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Speaker 3: Okay, and you've saved up some money, right, like twenty

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Speaker 2: And I don't have a car that's mine or a

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Speaker 2: try to leave, my dad's gonna weaponize the fact that, oh,

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Speaker 2: there too much work that you're driving. Oh do your

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Speaker 2: phone is in my name? I'm a change I'm not

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Speaker 1: And so so.

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Speaker 3: Let me think, Let me think. And you have a.

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Speaker 2: Degree, right, yea, And I was working on my masters.

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Speaker 3: You have a degree in market ye okay, you can.

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Speaker 3: I kind of think you need a new job. Uh

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Speaker 3: have you? Have you tried to apply for marketing job

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Speaker 3: marketing positions, like entry level marketing positions in various I

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Speaker 2: I remember at one point I found out like five

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Speaker 3: With a now unfor Unfortunately, you got to send out

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Speaker 2: Yeah, my friends sent out like she just recently moved,

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Speaker 2: and she's going for like heart stuff, like reading heart sprats.

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Speaker 3: You said you want to get you give me one

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Speaker 3: said by that you said you want to move out

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Speaker 2: Right, this is a different Uh.

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Speaker 3: Friends, sure, okay, but that's okay. But you said you

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And she's pretty gung ho for it, honestly.

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Speaker 3: I think. All right, so you're trying to find you

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Speaker 3: go you want to find? Can I ask you what

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Speaker 3: city you live in? Or is this too personal of information?

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Speaker 1: Mmm?

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Speaker 2: We'll say.

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Speaker 3: Give me, you know what, give me a city close,

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Speaker 3: give me give me the next town of what's the

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Speaker 3: next town over from the city you live in?

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Speaker 2: We'll go with uh, We'll go with Charlotte.

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Speaker 3: Charlotte. Okay, Charlotte's a great town. I'm going to Charlotte.

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Speaker 2: I've never been very soon.

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Speaker 3: I'm going to Charlotte soon. Okay. Let's I'm literally fucking

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Speaker 3: on Zillow right now. All right, we're gonna go two

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Speaker 3: the fuck is rent like? And Charlotte, are you like?

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Speaker 4: Are you?

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Speaker 3: Are you in the city, or are you go a

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Speaker 2: Oh your girl lives like two three hours away from

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Speaker 3: Oh okay, oh okay, all right, all right, all right,

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Speaker 3: that makes life way better. All right, hold on, hold on,

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Speaker 3: I'd have.

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Speaker 2: To relocate for whatever job, which some some places are

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Speaker 3: Bit, I'm just like, I'm just like, what is what's

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Speaker 3: here's a two bedroom. Here we go, here's a two bedroom.

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Speaker 3: Here we go. Here's this fucking two bedroom for on

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Speaker 3: yeah withouts, you know, looks seven hundred. Can you swing

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Speaker 3: seven hundred dollars a month on U on your on

441
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Speaker 3: your retail job? Is that? Is that? Is that too tight?

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Speaker 2: It's a little tight because I only get paid bi

443
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Speaker 2: weekly and each paycheck is roughly like nine hundred dollars

444
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Speaker 2: if that And that's me rounding up to be generous,

445
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Speaker 2: but that's not realistic at all. But if my friend

446
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Speaker 2: she actually has a job where she has to drive

447
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Speaker 2: about an hour in the opposite direction towards the southern

448
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Speaker 2: half of North Carolina and she would be promoted to

449
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Speaker 2: it in like after this one person retires, she would

450
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Speaker 2: be promoted to like a managerial position and she'd be

451
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Speaker 2: making twenty an hour, which is pretty good. And then

452
00:28:09,440 --> 00:28:14,800
Speaker 2: like there's this position that's a neighboring like a sister position,

453
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Speaker 2: and they want someone who's young, who could potentially last

454
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Speaker 2: there for a while, and it's a state job, which

455
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Speaker 2: also feels like another good sign that like, I should

456
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Speaker 2: really be considering running away with my best friend because she's.

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Speaker 3: Okay, let me tell you this, because we could probably

458
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Speaker 3: sit here in circles and I could play Dave Ramsey

459
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Speaker 3: and we can, you know, figure some shit out. But

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Speaker 3: I think that the I think the main takeaway from

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Speaker 3: this is that, like is the main takeaway is to

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Speaker 3: go back to the question that you originally were talking about,

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Speaker 3: which is yes, the answer is yes, it is okay

464
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Speaker 3: to want more for your life.

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Speaker 2: And I believe I feel happier too, and I like

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Speaker 2: that I'm happy.

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Speaker 3: Yes, that's that's if we can look, we can I

468
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Speaker 3: can sit around and I'm I'm still I'm fucking still curious,

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Speaker 3: and I I feel for you because the fucking it's

470
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Speaker 3: since the job market is insane, rents are insane, everything's insane.

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Speaker 3: America is insane. America is fucking insane. I feel for

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Speaker 3: you on that.

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, and.

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Speaker 2: I can only imagine what it's like because you're all

475
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Speaker 2: the way up in New York where everything is like fi, everything.

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Speaker 3: Is very high in New York. But uh, and so

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Speaker 3: I feel for you on that, but I but look,

478
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Speaker 3: just the answer your question is yes, you can want

479
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Speaker 3: more for your life. And uh, if I were you,

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Speaker 3: I would fucking go crazy ham insane with applying to

481
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Speaker 3: marketing jobs, with going on the internet and looking to

482
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Speaker 3: see how you can get a job outside of retail

483
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Speaker 3: working in marketing something for like you sent them like

484
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Speaker 3: five or stick applications, like when you get off of work.

485
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Speaker 3: I would just go and send in like five fucking

486
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Speaker 3: hundred something crazy like that. No, for real, that's what

487
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Speaker 3: you got to do. It sucks, it's a fucking bummer.

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Speaker 3: It's so annoying. But that's unfortunately, and they.

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Speaker 4: All want you to be like, well, can you tailor

490
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Speaker 4: with it with special keywords? Because we're just gonna have

491
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Speaker 4: an AI read through this shit anyway, Because I don't

492
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Speaker 4: get paid enough to go through these hundreds of applications.

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Speaker 3: It's unfortunately your Unfortunately that's true. Hold on, did you

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Speaker 3: did you go to community college?

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Speaker 2: I went to community college. Then I went to a

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Speaker 2: four year college, so I got my associates. Then I

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Speaker 2: finished my bachelor's because I know it was easier to

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Speaker 2: get into.

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Speaker 3: A four year You're not you're not. You're not in debt,

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Speaker 3: are you?

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Speaker 2: Oh god, no, Fast has paid for all that, Thank god.

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Speaker 3: Oh wonderful. Okay, why don't you Why don't you go

503
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Speaker 3: to your fucking school? They have like alumni Now, wy

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Speaker 3: don't you go to your school and be like, hey,

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Speaker 3: I give you guys a lot, you know, can you

506
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Speaker 3: guys help me get a job? Have you ever done that?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? So I was using they have like a mentor program,

508
00:31:23,600 --> 00:31:25,520
Speaker 2: and I was bugging him. I was like, hey, you know,

509
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Speaker 2: here's the revisions to my resume. Can you help me?

510
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Speaker 2: Send him out? And he did, but like he never

511
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Speaker 2: heard back from anybody, Like, like, there's fuck all and

512
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Speaker 2: shit to do in this small town I live in,

513
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Speaker 2: Like I live outside of a small town. The population

514
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Speaker 2: of the people where my house is located is ninety

515
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Speaker 2: ninety people. There's fuck all and shit to do.

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Speaker 3: Okay, well you might have to move.

517
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Speaker 2: Oh I'm going to move. I don't want to be

518
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Speaker 2: in this county anymore.

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Speaker 3: This place okay, great, okay, great, Well listen, Sarah.

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Speaker 2: I'll see let me take up all your time. I

521
00:32:09,920 --> 00:32:10,840
Speaker 2: know you got other colors.

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Speaker 3: It's all good, okay, But yes, yes, you can, in

523
00:32:15,800 --> 00:32:19,320
Speaker 3: fact desire a better life. It's not a crazy thing.

524
00:32:19,920 --> 00:32:23,720
Speaker 3: And I know it's an insane difficult thing. But just

525
00:32:23,840 --> 00:32:29,520
Speaker 3: keep trying and hopefully something good will come your way.

526
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Speaker 3: Is there anything else you want to say to the

527
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Speaker 3: people of the computer before we go?

528
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Speaker 2: I can kind of sound like Toad from Mario. You

529
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Speaker 2: want to hear it?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, go for it. That sounds a little more like

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Speaker 3: R two D two. All right, take care Sarah, bye. Jack.

532
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Speaker 3: Life is crazy, life is really uh wild? Yeah, I uh,

533
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Speaker 3: I don't. I fucking don't know, man. I think I

534
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Speaker 3: was really I seriously was really thinking. I'm like, if

535
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Speaker 3: I was Sarah, what the fuck would I do to

536
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Speaker 3: get out of that crazy house? You know, it's unfortunate

537
00:33:22,440 --> 00:33:27,240
Speaker 3: that working forty hours a week in retail. Can't you know,

538
00:33:28,680 --> 00:33:34,600
Speaker 3: let this person uh live, you know, live on their own.

539
00:33:36,680 --> 00:33:38,920
Speaker 3: I mean they went to college. I guess all colleges,

540
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Speaker 3: like I went to Temple, and they have like a

541
00:33:41,360 --> 00:33:43,640
Speaker 3: little place where you go and you yell at them

542
00:33:43,680 --> 00:33:45,160
Speaker 3: and you say, hey, give you a bunch of money.

543
00:33:45,160 --> 00:33:46,960
Speaker 3: Can you guys get me a job? And I think

544
00:33:47,000 --> 00:33:49,760
Speaker 3: all colleges have that. Maybe that could work. Maybe it's

545
00:33:49,960 --> 00:33:55,200
Speaker 3: setting out five hundred fucking resumes or whatever. I don't know,

546
00:33:55,720 --> 00:33:59,080
Speaker 3: but I hope something good comes her way. I hope

547
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Speaker 3: she figures it out. Attention listeners of the Therapy Gecko podcast.

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Speaker 3: Do you know that I do a live version of

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Speaker 3: this podcast on stage in person, in front of real people,

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Speaker 3: And that I'm doing this live show in several cities

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Speaker 3: across the United States and Europe this fall, and that

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Speaker 3: tickets are available right now at therapygeckotour dot com or

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Speaker 3: at the link in the episode description. It is all true.

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Speaker 3: I'm currently on my third tour doing Therapy Gecko Live

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Speaker 3: all around the country and it is the most fun, sick,

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Speaker 3: amazing thing ever and you should come out and be

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Speaker 3: a part of it. The shows involve a mix of

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Speaker 3: material and presentations from myself combined with a group Gecko

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Speaker 3: therapy session where members of the audience come on stage

560
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Speaker 3: to share things from their lives in front of a

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Speaker 3: big group of people, just like we do here on

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Speaker 3: the podcast. Whether you're a fan of the podcast or

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Speaker 3: you have no idea what this is and you clicked

564
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Speaker 3: on it by accident, you're gonna have a great time

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Speaker 3: at the live show once again. Tickets are available right

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Speaker 3: now at Therapy Gecko tour dot com or at the

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Speaker 3: link in the episode description. These are really fun shows.

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Speaker 3: They're always wild, they're always unpredictable, and I hope to

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Speaker 3: see you guys.

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Speaker 1: There from Hi Hello, no, Hi, hello, good night in

571
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Speaker 1: my time zone. I'm not sure about yours, sir.

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Speaker 5: I don't know.

573
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Speaker 1: I'm not going to say we're the addresses for your privacy?

574
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Speaker 3: Dude? What where do you wear? Uh?

575
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Speaker 1: It says on my phone like something that starts with

576
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Speaker 1: a P, and I'm just not.

577
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Speaker 5: Going to say it for privacy.

578
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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 5: I don't know if it's different on your I.

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Speaker 3: Have no I have no idea what you're saying or

581
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Speaker 3: what you're talking about or any it. Just so go

582
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Speaker 3: ahead say what's in your brand.

583
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Speaker 5: I'm not a computer guy.

584
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Speaker 3: Dude, This is not This is not about computers. This

585
00:35:59,920 --> 00:36:03,120
Speaker 3: is about reading what's in your brain right now and

586
00:36:03,160 --> 00:36:04,400
Speaker 3: expressing it with your mouth.

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00:36:06,200 --> 00:36:11,080
Speaker 1: Okay, So in the phone it says where the phone

588
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Speaker 1: number comes from.

589
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Speaker 5: I'm not gonna reveal that one.

590
00:36:15,640 --> 00:36:22,680
Speaker 6: Well my phone number, Uh sure, it says sports mouth

591
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Speaker 6: are I okay, that's like on resent.

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Speaker 5: Okay, that's that's all. Okay there, does that make sense?

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Speaker 3: Dude? What okay? Okay? All right, no, no, okay, I understand,

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Speaker 3: all right. It took me a second, but I understood.

595
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Speaker 3: I understand. Now what's going on here. You think that

596
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Speaker 3: I use my personal phone number for this podcast, and

597
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Speaker 3: out of the kindness of your heart, you thought that

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Speaker 3: you thought that I used my personal phone number for

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Speaker 3: this podcast and that I am trusting every call and

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Speaker 3: that I am trusting hold on, hold on, let me

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Speaker 3: talk for a second. Okay. You thought that I used

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Speaker 3: my personal phone number for this podcast and that I

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Speaker 3: trust every caller to not put my personal phone number

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Speaker 3: with my location in America out on blast. And so you,

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Speaker 3: out of the kindness of your heart, are saying, I

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Speaker 3: know that your phone number is saying that you live

607
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Speaker 3: in Portsmouth, Rhode Island, but I'm not gonna say it

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Speaker 3: because I don't want to put you on blast and

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Speaker 3: this has caused a fundamental communication error between us. Is

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Speaker 3: this is what's going on? Correct?

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Speaker 5: Okay?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, there, okay. I do not use my personal phone.

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Speaker 3: I have made a Google Voice account with the phone

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Speaker 3: number four four oh one four seven two four three

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Speaker 3: two five. It's blasted all over the place.

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Speaker 1: I'm actually very new to your content.

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Speaker 3: Hold on, where are you right now? Can you where

618
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Speaker 3: are you right now? Because your phone is you're spasing

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Speaker 3: out with your phone.

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Speaker 1: Uh, I'm I'm literally at a very large fan convention.

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Speaker 5: And just like a huge fan.

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Speaker 3: Can you take me off of speakerphone please?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Hello, Okay, don't ever, don't put me on speakerphone again. Okay, sorry, okay,

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Speaker 3: all right, what's your name? Bullshod K, I'm gonna call

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Speaker 3: you Bow. What's going on? Bow?

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Speaker 5: Nothing much.

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Speaker 1: I'm just uh, you know, living life, trying to be

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Speaker 1: a good decent human being, trying to connect to my roots,

630
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Speaker 1: and you know, just starting to get into the college

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Speaker 1: now in the first year.

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Speaker 3: Oh, congrats, congrats. Are you excited? Are you enjoying life?

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Speaker 6: Uh?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, college is a is a new experience for me. Uh,

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Speaker 1: I don't know how, I don't know. I don't really

636
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Speaker 1: know anyone else who.

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Speaker 5: Has had that experience and has been able to guide me.

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Speaker 5: You know, I'm not sure, you know, if you.

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Speaker 1: Can provide advice, but any advice would.

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Speaker 3: Help, you know, advice on navigating college.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's so, you know, it's uh, it's very complex.

642
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Speaker 1: Every time someone gives me that look, you know, and

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Speaker 1: and and I feel and I feel bad and I

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Speaker 1: feel sad, like you know that look that you know

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Speaker 1: what I'm talking about. I'm not sure if you do go.

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Speaker 3: Into some more detail, what look? What is the look?

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Speaker 3: What is the look signal to you?

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Speaker 1: Like, what is this guy doing here?

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Speaker 5: You know?

650
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Speaker 1: But I could be wrong, So I could be wrong,

651
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Speaker 1: Like I've been trying to talk with the with the others,

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Speaker 1: to the other college members. I don't know if that's

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Speaker 1: the right word.

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Speaker 3: You're having trouble socializing, Yeah, okay.

655
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Speaker 1: Every time I talk, they talk over me, they talk

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Speaker 1: and pretend that I didn't start talking, that sort.

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Speaker 5: Of thing, And I kind of feel left out because

658
00:40:21,719 --> 00:40:21,920
Speaker 5: of that.

659
00:40:22,400 --> 00:40:26,200
Speaker 1: But you know, I'm trying my best to be patient

660
00:40:26,480 --> 00:40:30,799
Speaker 1: with people. I'm trying to use really good language social language. Uh,

661
00:40:31,160 --> 00:40:35,080
Speaker 1: not trying to criticize or anyone for making a mistake

662
00:40:36,080 --> 00:40:39,600
Speaker 1: or a simple mistake. Really, I'm just trying to, you know,

663
00:40:40,280 --> 00:40:43,360
Speaker 1: be nice and not just be nice, just to be

664
00:40:43,400 --> 00:40:46,960
Speaker 1: the nice guy. You know, I'd be nice because you know,

665
00:40:47,440 --> 00:40:51,360
Speaker 1: the experience may be new to them as well, that

666
00:40:51,480 --> 00:40:51,960
Speaker 1: sort of thing.

667
00:40:53,120 --> 00:40:54,439
Speaker 5: But I think I've had this.

668
00:40:54,719 --> 00:40:58,720
Speaker 1: I think I've had this problem for since since colar

669
00:40:58,719 --> 00:40:59,200
Speaker 1: has started.

670
00:40:59,280 --> 00:41:00,400
Speaker 5: Really, I think.

671
00:41:01,960 --> 00:41:03,800
Speaker 3: What was your social life like in high school?

672
00:41:05,760 --> 00:41:09,480
Speaker 1: People just knew me as a guy who who who

673
00:41:09,560 --> 00:41:11,640
Speaker 1: made videos on TikTok and YouTube.

674
00:41:12,239 --> 00:41:14,279
Speaker 5: You know, I was at I was a video guy.

675
00:41:14,760 --> 00:41:17,400
Speaker 1: Well you know, I ain't still the video guy, so

676
00:41:18,239 --> 00:41:20,760
Speaker 1: you know, I'm focusing more on school.

677
00:41:22,000 --> 00:41:24,799
Speaker 3: Okay, well did you say you were the video guy? So,

678
00:41:25,680 --> 00:41:28,000
Speaker 3: but I guess I'll ask again, like, what was your

679
00:41:28,000 --> 00:41:30,040
Speaker 3: social life like in high school? Did you have friends?

680
00:41:31,280 --> 00:41:40,480
Speaker 1: Oh? Yeah, just filmmakers, really really really good storytellers, funny comedians,

681
00:41:41,080 --> 00:41:45,360
Speaker 1: you know, very good people. Okay, I'm not from this

682
00:41:45,440 --> 00:41:48,200
Speaker 1: country from the United States.

683
00:41:49,600 --> 00:41:53,959
Speaker 5: I'm from a little island. Well I don't.

684
00:41:54,080 --> 00:41:56,520
Speaker 1: I don't know if the United States classifies it as

685
00:41:56,520 --> 00:41:57,359
Speaker 1: a country or not.

686
00:41:57,400 --> 00:41:59,799
Speaker 5: It's it's really hard to tell. But I'm from Puerto

687
00:41:59,840 --> 00:42:03,920
Speaker 5: ric Go. I kind of grew up I grew.

688
00:42:03,760 --> 00:42:09,120
Speaker 1: Up there for eleven years, spoke the language, and eleven

689
00:42:09,440 --> 00:42:12,360
Speaker 1: when I was eleven. I think I left in twenty seventeen,

690
00:42:12,480 --> 00:42:17,839
Speaker 1: twenty eighteen. So I got here, you know, and when

691
00:42:17,880 --> 00:42:23,160
Speaker 1: I got here, my mother she took me and my sister.

692
00:42:24,040 --> 00:42:27,160
Speaker 1: We left our dog, we left our we left dad.

693
00:42:27,360 --> 00:42:30,279
Speaker 1: Dad had to go tend to a property, you know,

694
00:42:30,440 --> 00:42:35,799
Speaker 1: because we have to sell it. And I wasn't able

695
00:42:35,840 --> 00:42:38,399
Speaker 1: to see my dad for two years. It was kind

696
00:42:38,400 --> 00:42:40,720
Speaker 1: of hard socializing in that setting.

697
00:42:40,760 --> 00:42:41,319
Speaker 5: Pot you know.

698
00:42:41,719 --> 00:42:45,520
Speaker 1: Eventually I got used to it. People in here like

699
00:42:45,640 --> 00:42:48,920
Speaker 1: to make means a lot. They're more exposed to the

700
00:42:49,000 --> 00:42:53,560
Speaker 1: online world. In Puerto Rico, it was a luxury, you know.

701
00:42:54,640 --> 00:42:57,600
Speaker 1: It was a luxury type of thing on most schools.

702
00:42:57,600 --> 00:42:59,759
Speaker 1: If you didn't have a computer, most likely you would

703
00:42:59,800 --> 00:43:02,920
Speaker 1: have it in the school. And it was like what

704
00:43:03,400 --> 00:43:08,360
Speaker 1: Windows XP something like that, like a really old Windows.

705
00:43:08,920 --> 00:43:11,120
Speaker 1: So yeah, like when I came here, I wasn't really

706
00:43:11,120 --> 00:43:15,760
Speaker 1: exposed to all that Fortnite stuff, and that was happening

707
00:43:15,800 --> 00:43:21,560
Speaker 1: back in twenty seventeen, and everybody would just call me

708
00:43:21,600 --> 00:43:25,320
Speaker 1: a dumbass. That's that's that's how I learned the word dumbass.

709
00:43:25,760 --> 00:43:29,280
Speaker 1: I learned it in the United States anyway.

710
00:43:30,560 --> 00:43:32,640
Speaker 5: Do you need to know Mark there?

711
00:43:33,760 --> 00:43:35,719
Speaker 3: Do you want to talk about Hey, I'm here.

712
00:43:36,120 --> 00:43:42,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, So, you know, it became the behavior of

713
00:43:43,719 --> 00:43:46,440
Speaker 1: is very different here. The culture is very different here.

714
00:43:46,640 --> 00:43:52,759
Speaker 1: You guys are very uh commercial and uh, well, you

715
00:43:53,040 --> 00:43:54,040
Speaker 1: guys are way.

716
00:43:53,880 --> 00:43:54,600
Speaker 5: Smarter than me.

717
00:43:54,840 --> 00:43:59,200
Speaker 1: Like, oh my god, I met like, uh, how did

718
00:43:59,239 --> 00:44:03,880
Speaker 1: I say it? I met a guy who went to

719
00:44:03,960 --> 00:44:08,480
Speaker 1: Harvard and he came to like one of our h

720
00:44:09,040 --> 00:44:11,920
Speaker 1: one of our schools, and bro, I shook that guy's

721
00:44:11,920 --> 00:44:15,160
Speaker 1: hands and it, you know, it just felt powerful, you know.

722
00:44:15,600 --> 00:44:22,120
Speaker 1: But there is greatness. Okay, Yes, there is greatness in

723
00:44:22,120 --> 00:44:24,520
Speaker 1: the United States. There's a lot of things that we

724
00:44:24,560 --> 00:44:27,480
Speaker 1: don't have on Puerto Rico. I'm grateful to be in

725
00:44:27,520 --> 00:44:34,000
Speaker 1: this country. It's offered me opportunities that I would never

726
00:44:34,480 --> 00:44:35,320
Speaker 1: have had.

727
00:44:36,040 --> 00:44:36,920
Speaker 5: In Puerto Rico.

728
00:44:37,280 --> 00:44:41,319
Speaker 1: I was probably gonna be the guy that does you

729
00:44:41,320 --> 00:44:45,120
Speaker 1: know the patio, you know, because my dad and his

730
00:44:45,239 --> 00:44:48,879
Speaker 1: dad and their dad, you know, they were all very

731
00:44:48,920 --> 00:44:52,600
Speaker 1: hard working. Then my great grandfather he left New York

732
00:44:53,200 --> 00:45:00,000
Speaker 1: in nineteen Wait, no, my grandfather actually he was born

733
00:45:00,080 --> 00:45:03,560
Speaker 1: learned somewhere in the nineteen twenties, left school in the

734
00:45:03,680 --> 00:45:09,400
Speaker 1: nineteen thirties, went to New York, became a window cleaner.

735
00:45:10,200 --> 00:45:11,160
Speaker 5: Then he left New.

736
00:45:11,160 --> 00:45:13,560
Speaker 1: York because the Great Depression was still.

737
00:45:13,360 --> 00:45:15,840
Speaker 5: Around or something.

738
00:45:15,880 --> 00:45:19,440
Speaker 1: I don't know, economic, money problems, language barriers, it could

739
00:45:19,480 --> 00:45:20,560
Speaker 1: be any of those things.

740
00:45:20,600 --> 00:45:23,239
Speaker 5: My parents weren't very specific.

741
00:45:24,080 --> 00:45:28,960
Speaker 1: They went, he went back to Puerto Rico, got married

742
00:45:28,960 --> 00:45:36,399
Speaker 1: in his forties. Made my dad dad, you know, grew

743
00:45:36,480 --> 00:45:39,840
Speaker 1: up in the hoods of Puerto Rico.

744
00:45:40,360 --> 00:45:42,920
Speaker 5: You know, Juana Matto, Juana Matto.

745
00:45:43,680 --> 00:45:44,839
Speaker 3: What's what's janamato?

746
00:45:46,680 --> 00:45:49,480
Speaker 1: Juana Matto means one kills.

747
00:45:49,440 --> 00:45:52,040
Speaker 5: So that's that's that's what it means.

748
00:45:52,080 --> 00:45:55,360
Speaker 1: It's uh uh if you look it up, Juana Matto,

749
00:45:55,560 --> 00:45:59,719
Speaker 1: when Juan kills that, that's that's where he grew up.

750
00:46:00,120 --> 00:46:02,200
Speaker 3: He grew up in this.

751
00:46:04,280 --> 00:46:05,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, this is my dad, This is my father.

752
00:46:06,760 --> 00:46:09,680
Speaker 3: Your dad grew up in uh a pretty tough Puerto

753
00:46:09,800 --> 00:46:10,920
Speaker 3: Rican hood.

754
00:46:12,600 --> 00:46:14,040
Speaker 5: Yes, yes he did.

755
00:46:14,600 --> 00:46:17,480
Speaker 3: And why where they certainly did not have Fortnite?

756
00:46:19,400 --> 00:46:23,400
Speaker 1: Uh yeah, like they we really didn't have Nintendo or

757
00:46:23,440 --> 00:46:25,800
Speaker 1: anything like that, that sort of thing. Like I wouldn't

758
00:46:25,840 --> 00:46:29,920
Speaker 1: hear about Nintendo until I got on a computer at

759
00:46:29,960 --> 00:46:35,640
Speaker 1: school and you know, h looked at YouTube one day

760
00:46:35,680 --> 00:46:38,000
Speaker 1: and say, whoa, what's that what's what's that guy with

761
00:46:38,080 --> 00:46:38,919
Speaker 1: the mustache?

762
00:46:39,680 --> 00:46:44,040
Speaker 3: You know? How how old are you right now? May?

763
00:46:44,640 --> 00:46:44,839
Speaker 1: Yeah?

764
00:46:44,880 --> 00:46:47,000
Speaker 5: Oh I'm I'm eighteen, sir.

765
00:46:47,719 --> 00:46:50,040
Speaker 3: And how old were you when you when you came

766
00:46:50,360 --> 00:46:51,880
Speaker 3: to America?

767
00:46:52,960 --> 00:46:53,440
Speaker 5: Eleven?

768
00:46:53,520 --> 00:46:53,719
Speaker 1: Sir?

769
00:46:55,200 --> 00:46:56,800
Speaker 5: Do you need me to fast forward?

770
00:46:57,640 --> 00:47:01,279
Speaker 3: I didn't know you were going. I uh, uh do

771
00:47:01,360 --> 00:47:06,120
Speaker 3: I need you to fast forward? No?

772
00:47:06,239 --> 00:47:07,720
Speaker 5: I'm asking do you need a password?

773
00:47:08,800 --> 00:47:14,640
Speaker 3: I will I guess? Uh, hold on, you're throwing me

774
00:47:14,680 --> 00:47:17,560
Speaker 3: off for a something, so well, so listen. So okay,

775
00:47:17,600 --> 00:47:20,920
Speaker 3: So you you came to America when you were eleven?

776
00:47:21,320 --> 00:47:21,720
Speaker 5: Yes?

777
00:47:21,840 --> 00:47:25,040
Speaker 3: And did you have trouble socializing when you came to America?

778
00:47:26,360 --> 00:47:28,640
Speaker 5: Yeah? People.

779
00:47:30,239 --> 00:47:34,440
Speaker 1: I found people to be very mean, or not intentionally mean,

780
00:47:34,560 --> 00:47:44,080
Speaker 1: but just very uh socially passive aggressive, Like I mean,

781
00:47:44,120 --> 00:47:46,000
Speaker 1: I tried to make a joke, a simple, you know,

782
00:47:46,120 --> 00:47:48,799
Speaker 1: light hearted joke, and the next.

783
00:47:48,600 --> 00:47:51,200
Speaker 5: Minute later it just turned into a sex joke.

784
00:47:51,680 --> 00:47:51,880
Speaker 3: You know.

785
00:47:51,960 --> 00:47:54,800
Speaker 1: I wasn't really that, you know, I wasn't. I didn't

786
00:47:54,840 --> 00:47:59,839
Speaker 1: really have that access to the internet world, uh the same.

787
00:48:00,000 --> 00:48:03,799
Speaker 5: I mean that the people in here had it.

788
00:48:04,920 --> 00:48:09,680
Speaker 1: So I had a tough time understanding the the trends,

789
00:48:09,840 --> 00:48:10,480
Speaker 1: the slang.

790
00:48:10,840 --> 00:48:13,040
Speaker 3: Sure, the bra, you know, the.

791
00:48:13,080 --> 00:48:16,720
Speaker 5: Bra, the b bruh was brah started out.

792
00:48:16,560 --> 00:48:19,880
Speaker 1: In twenty seventeens, like in my opinion, like I'm not

793
00:48:19,920 --> 00:48:23,200
Speaker 1: sure if if it's like older than that. I think

794
00:48:23,200 --> 00:48:24,600
Speaker 1: it appeared in the Beatles song.

795
00:48:24,960 --> 00:48:27,560
Speaker 6: But that's about it, right.

796
00:48:28,640 --> 00:48:30,640
Speaker 3: You came to America when you were when you came

797
00:48:30,680 --> 00:48:33,320
Speaker 3: to America, Uh well, yes, I guess you were eleven

798
00:48:33,360 --> 00:48:37,840
Speaker 3: and twenty seventeen and you came to America and people

799
00:48:37,880 --> 00:48:40,000
Speaker 3: were saying bruh, and You're like, what the fuck is

800
00:48:40,040 --> 00:48:41,920
Speaker 3: going on? And then people are like, you don't know

801
00:48:41,960 --> 00:48:43,520
Speaker 3: brah bruh?

802
00:48:44,239 --> 00:48:46,319
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know bruh. I thought it was, you know,

803
00:48:46,840 --> 00:48:53,560
Speaker 1: the blouse of the woman, and you know what the

804
00:48:53,560 --> 00:48:57,319
Speaker 1: blouse of a woman's you know, like like bra like

805
00:48:57,400 --> 00:48:57,759
Speaker 1: a woman?

806
00:48:57,920 --> 00:49:03,759
Speaker 3: Oh bro oh you thought they were saying bra Yeah, okay.

807
00:49:03,080 --> 00:49:06,319
Speaker 1: Yeah, Like that's that's that's the only conclusion I've ad

808
00:49:06,400 --> 00:49:06,640
Speaker 1: to that.

809
00:49:07,080 --> 00:49:11,000
Speaker 3: And so it was so let's talk about this. You're

810
00:49:11,200 --> 00:49:14,040
Speaker 3: you're the video guy. When did you become the video guy?

811
00:49:16,400 --> 00:49:19,920
Speaker 1: I had this class with a with a teacher from

812
00:49:21,160 --> 00:49:25,480
Speaker 1: Surprisingly he came directly from Africa, such a far away place.

813
00:49:25,520 --> 00:49:30,320
Speaker 1: It's amazing how far people will come to the United States.

814
00:49:30,440 --> 00:49:31,520
Speaker 5: Just for opportunity.

815
00:49:32,080 --> 00:49:32,800
Speaker 1: He's a teacher.

816
00:49:32,840 --> 00:49:35,200
Speaker 5: He was a teacher when.

817
00:49:35,040 --> 00:49:36,240
Speaker 1: He first started class.

818
00:49:36,280 --> 00:49:38,440
Speaker 5: It was like a magical experience. You know. He was

819
00:49:38,440 --> 00:49:41,759
Speaker 5: the guy that said, I when I was.

820
00:49:41,760 --> 00:49:47,959
Speaker 1: A boy, people called me little baby and the whole

821
00:49:48,200 --> 00:49:51,080
Speaker 1: and the whole class guy like laughing and stuff. He

822
00:49:51,120 --> 00:49:55,520
Speaker 1: had that American comedy as well as mixed with you know,

823
00:49:55,680 --> 00:49:58,360
Speaker 1: his comedy that comes from his from his country. I

824
00:49:58,360 --> 00:50:01,320
Speaker 1: don't know which country he's from.

825
00:50:00,000 --> 00:50:05,280
Speaker 3: So he inspired you to become the video guy.

826
00:50:05,640 --> 00:50:08,919
Speaker 1: Yeah, and not just him, many other people too. It's

827
00:50:09,000 --> 00:50:12,240
Speaker 1: like it's like one if you have access to the internet,

828
00:50:12,280 --> 00:50:17,200
Speaker 1: you start to watch all these people you ever heard of, like, uh,

829
00:50:17,560 --> 00:50:19,279
Speaker 1: Stampy Long Nose, I don't know.

830
00:50:19,239 --> 00:50:20,040
Speaker 3: If you were.

831
00:50:20,080 --> 00:50:23,840
Speaker 1: Alive or wait wait no, sir, sorry, I don't know

832
00:50:23,880 --> 00:50:27,080
Speaker 1: if you really know. There's just so many YouTubers out there.

833
00:50:30,000 --> 00:50:33,439
Speaker 3: What I said, I don't know Stampy long those Yeah,

834
00:50:33,520 --> 00:50:34,240
Speaker 3: he's uh.

835
00:50:35,360 --> 00:50:37,800
Speaker 5: You know. I was eleven. I loved Minecraft and stuff.

836
00:50:38,320 --> 00:50:41,319
Speaker 1: Okay, when I first had access to the internet, that's

837
00:50:41,360 --> 00:50:44,879
Speaker 1: where I heard about Minecraft. Then I saw it, saw

838
00:50:44,920 --> 00:50:47,680
Speaker 1: someone playing Minecraft, and I said, oh wow.

839
00:50:47,920 --> 00:50:51,439
Speaker 5: That's a that's really cool. That's and then I.

840
00:50:51,400 --> 00:50:53,840
Speaker 1: Started looking up YouTube videos about it, and I found

841
00:50:53,880 --> 00:50:59,280
Speaker 1: Stampy and you know, people like him, you know, showed

842
00:50:59,280 --> 00:51:03,160
Speaker 1: me how to make good videos just by you know,

843
00:51:03,280 --> 00:51:09,080
Speaker 1: making good videos like he made children's videos. But he

844
00:51:09,160 --> 00:51:11,719
Speaker 1: wasn't always like that, you know, he used to curse.

845
00:51:11,480 --> 00:51:14,239
Speaker 5: A lot in so early days. And then he what

846
00:51:14,320 --> 00:51:16,279
Speaker 5: he became a role model essentially to me.

847
00:51:16,480 --> 00:51:20,440
Speaker 3: So, what what kind of videos do you do you make? Oh?

848
00:51:20,480 --> 00:51:22,920
Speaker 5: I make minecraft videos, gaming videos.

849
00:51:23,719 --> 00:51:27,080
Speaker 1: I want to do life and tech videos.

850
00:51:27,280 --> 00:51:27,600
Speaker 3: Cool.

851
00:51:27,840 --> 00:51:31,880
Speaker 1: I want to document my life and and I want

852
00:51:32,000 --> 00:51:33,760
Speaker 1: to document my life in a way.

853
00:51:33,640 --> 00:51:36,160
Speaker 5: Where I can say where, I can say.

854
00:51:36,440 --> 00:51:39,640
Speaker 1: Where I'm like seventy or I don't know, fifty. I

855
00:51:39,680 --> 00:51:41,759
Speaker 1: can talk to my grandchildren and say, hey, this is

856
00:51:41,800 --> 00:51:44,920
Speaker 1: what I did. You know, this is this is what

857
00:51:44,960 --> 00:51:49,200
Speaker 1: grandma looks like, you know, back in twenty twenty four

858
00:51:50,080 --> 00:51:53,600
Speaker 1: his dad. I mean, I have those videos private, but

859
00:51:54,320 --> 00:51:58,000
Speaker 1: one day so those So let's let's.

860
00:51:57,760 --> 00:52:01,600
Speaker 3: Let's get into this. Let's get into your your contemporary

861
00:52:01,640 --> 00:52:04,799
Speaker 3: It's get into your contemporary issue here, which is that

862
00:52:04,880 --> 00:52:08,680
Speaker 3: you're having trouble making friends in college. What do you

863
00:52:08,719 --> 00:52:11,160
Speaker 3: give me quick answers to these questions? What do you

864
00:52:11,200 --> 00:52:12,560
Speaker 3: in what are you in school? What are you in

865
00:52:12,560 --> 00:52:13,080
Speaker 3: school for.

866
00:52:15,040 --> 00:52:20,480
Speaker 1: Oh, I would like to study cybersecurity okay.

867
00:52:20,160 --> 00:52:22,759
Speaker 5: And I'm a minor in law.

868
00:52:23,800 --> 00:52:25,759
Speaker 3: Okay, these are these are.

869
00:52:25,760 --> 00:52:27,520
Speaker 1: Very social things.

870
00:52:28,120 --> 00:52:31,719
Speaker 3: So so so are you you're in gen ads right now?

871
00:52:33,480 --> 00:52:35,359
Speaker 1: Yes, yes, sir, it's my first year.

872
00:52:35,760 --> 00:52:41,680
Speaker 3: Okay. Cool. So look, man, I'm gonna sorry. I'll say

873
00:52:41,680 --> 00:52:51,160
Speaker 3: a few things. One is that I think that uh

874
00:52:50,160 --> 00:52:53,759
Speaker 3: uh oh no, I love, I'm so stupid. What I

875
00:52:54,120 --> 00:52:56,680
Speaker 3: lost my train of thought. Oh, Here's what mainly came

876
00:52:56,800 --> 00:53:00,520
Speaker 3: up to me in regards to your issue, is that

877
00:53:00,680 --> 00:53:05,799
Speaker 3: I think that when you're in college, how are you

878
00:53:05,840 --> 00:53:08,120
Speaker 3: meeting these people who are giving you this look that

879
00:53:08,200 --> 00:53:11,239
Speaker 3: you mentioned, this look that makes you feel unwanted? Where

880
00:53:11,280 --> 00:53:13,080
Speaker 3: are you meeting these people? Are these just people in

881
00:53:13,080 --> 00:53:15,359
Speaker 3: your dorms? Or these people in your genet classes? Where

882
00:53:15,360 --> 00:53:16,040
Speaker 3: are you meeting.

883
00:53:15,800 --> 00:53:18,600
Speaker 1: Them in my classes?

884
00:53:19,040 --> 00:53:23,880
Speaker 3: Okay? And this is just genet classes? Yes see, you

885
00:53:24,040 --> 00:53:28,880
Speaker 3: got to start some kind of club around filmmaking, around

886
00:53:28,880 --> 00:53:32,080
Speaker 3: making videos because look, you're a cool guy man, for real.

887
00:53:32,239 --> 00:53:35,279
Speaker 3: I think you got a great thing going here with

888
00:53:35,760 --> 00:53:39,759
Speaker 3: wanting to make videos. And it's a great niche, it's

889
00:53:39,800 --> 00:53:42,920
Speaker 3: a great hobby, it's a great community. I'm sure that

890
00:53:43,000 --> 00:53:47,120
Speaker 3: you go to a college with lots of other people

891
00:53:47,719 --> 00:53:52,480
Speaker 3: who are into Minecraft, who are into filmmaking, who are

892
00:53:52,480 --> 00:53:56,080
Speaker 3: into video You're not gonna find them magical. You might,

893
00:53:56,200 --> 00:53:58,920
Speaker 3: but you're probably not gonna find them magically and randomly

894
00:53:58,960 --> 00:54:04,240
Speaker 3: in your dorm room and in your classes. I also

895
00:54:04,440 --> 00:54:07,080
Speaker 3: had I really struggled to make friends when I was

896
00:54:08,160 --> 00:54:10,120
Speaker 3: eighteen and when I was in college, I really I

897
00:54:10,120 --> 00:54:15,239
Speaker 3: struggled really hard, and I also kind of felt very

898
00:54:16,360 --> 00:54:19,960
Speaker 3: out of place, and I really was not having a

899
00:54:20,000 --> 00:54:24,520
Speaker 3: good time in my first couple years of college. It's true,

900
00:54:25,480 --> 00:54:29,040
Speaker 3: and my best friends. I have a lot of really

901
00:54:29,080 --> 00:54:33,440
Speaker 3: really great friends and experiences from college. And those friends

902
00:54:33,480 --> 00:54:37,319
Speaker 3: and those experiences did not come from my genet classes

903
00:54:37,880 --> 00:54:41,760
Speaker 3: or from people I met in the dorms. They came

904
00:54:41,920 --> 00:54:47,920
Speaker 3: from the stand up comedy universe, from the film universe,

905
00:54:48,520 --> 00:54:55,360
Speaker 3: and from the video game universes that existed at my

906
00:54:55,560 --> 00:55:00,640
Speaker 3: college at the time, and that I, you know, would

907
00:55:00,680 --> 00:55:02,840
Speaker 3: would run. You know, I used to run a fucking

908
00:55:02,920 --> 00:55:05,799
Speaker 3: comedy club out of my basement in college, and that's

909
00:55:05,840 --> 00:55:11,719
Speaker 3: when college started to become great and fun. So for you,

910
00:55:12,960 --> 00:55:18,799
Speaker 3: I would identify your interests that you've got going on, Minecraft, filmmaking,

911
00:55:19,160 --> 00:55:22,680
Speaker 3: and I would think to myself, Okay, does there exist

912
00:55:23,239 --> 00:55:27,680
Speaker 3: a club or an organization in your college where people

913
00:55:27,719 --> 00:55:30,960
Speaker 3: are hanging out talking about movies, talking about Minecraft? And

914
00:55:31,080 --> 00:55:35,400
Speaker 3: if it doesn't, how can you go and create it

915
00:55:35,880 --> 00:55:40,560
Speaker 3: so that you can create a community of people that

916
00:55:40,640 --> 00:55:44,040
Speaker 3: all have your interests that are gravitating around you. So

917
00:55:44,160 --> 00:55:47,239
Speaker 3: that's that's that's the absolute that's the absolute secret on

918
00:55:47,320 --> 00:55:51,120
Speaker 3: how to accomplish what you're doing, you know, like be.

919
00:55:51,120 --> 00:55:57,080
Speaker 1: A founder of like I don't think there is much

920
00:55:59,160 --> 00:56:02,279
Speaker 1: much of that, and and where I go. Uh, I

921
00:56:02,560 --> 00:56:05,919
Speaker 1: think in the sports though, but I don't play League

922
00:56:05,960 --> 00:56:06,680
Speaker 1: of Legends.

923
00:56:07,680 --> 00:56:11,000
Speaker 3: Okay, I don't. And then then then started then start

924
00:56:11,000 --> 00:56:13,800
Speaker 3: a club man, all right.

925
00:56:14,680 --> 00:56:20,480
Speaker 1: All right, okay, yeah it seems interesting an interesting thought.

926
00:56:20,800 --> 00:56:26,840
Speaker 1: I never thought of it that way before. Yeah, okay,

927
00:56:28,520 --> 00:56:31,040
Speaker 1: well what else, like what else did you do?

928
00:56:31,320 --> 00:56:32,360
Speaker 5: Like, if you don't mind me.

929
00:56:32,440 --> 00:56:37,560
Speaker 3: Asking, Well, I was really into Super Smash Bros. Melee,

930
00:56:37,760 --> 00:56:40,880
Speaker 3: and so I showed up every day in the game

931
00:56:41,640 --> 00:56:44,560
Speaker 3: room at the student center and I played a lot

932
00:56:44,560 --> 00:56:49,120
Speaker 3: of Melee and I made some friends doing that. But

933
00:56:49,160 --> 00:56:50,480
Speaker 3: that was That's the main thing I would do if

934
00:56:50,480 --> 00:56:52,840
Speaker 3: I were you, is I would just start the Minecraft

935
00:56:52,840 --> 00:56:57,040
Speaker 3: club or start the filmmaking club, you gottay if you

936
00:56:57,120 --> 00:57:00,520
Speaker 3: want to have. Here's the thing is when I think,

937
00:57:00,840 --> 00:57:02,200
Speaker 3: and I'll just say that, like, when it comes to

938
00:57:02,239 --> 00:57:08,960
Speaker 3: the college experience, if you're if you're like, you know,

939
00:57:10,080 --> 00:57:15,919
Speaker 3: really really really lucky or whatever, conventionally attractive or whatever

940
00:57:15,920 --> 00:57:20,240
Speaker 3: the fuck it is. Some people are lucky enough they

941
00:57:20,280 --> 00:57:23,520
Speaker 3: show up day one of campus and everything's going fucking

942
00:57:23,560 --> 00:57:26,960
Speaker 3: awesome for them, right, Like everything just kind of comes

943
00:57:27,000 --> 00:57:31,080
Speaker 3: to them. Some people get lucky like that. If you're

944
00:57:31,200 --> 00:57:33,720
Speaker 3: one of the many, if not most, people who don't

945
00:57:33,720 --> 00:57:36,840
Speaker 3: get lucky like that, you have to really really take

946
00:57:38,240 --> 00:57:45,080
Speaker 3: strong initiative to have a great experience. It doesn't just

947
00:57:45,120 --> 00:57:47,800
Speaker 3: come to you. You have to take that strong initiative

948
00:57:48,560 --> 00:57:53,320
Speaker 3: by putting yourself out there and by making clubs and whatnot.

949
00:57:54,000 --> 00:57:56,680
Speaker 3: So I think that's what I would do if I

950
00:57:56,720 --> 00:57:58,160
Speaker 3: were you, is to find a way to take that

951
00:57:58,200 --> 00:57:59,000
Speaker 3: strong initiative.

952
00:58:00,600 --> 00:58:07,840
Speaker 1: All right, hold on, excuse me, sorry, Yeah, that's yes,

953
00:58:07,920 --> 00:58:08,720
Speaker 1: I agree with you.

954
00:58:09,360 --> 00:58:11,680
Speaker 5: It's uh, it's a fact that I.

955
00:58:11,680 --> 00:58:15,720
Speaker 1: Don't really put it instant forre be a leader. I mean,

956
00:58:15,760 --> 00:58:20,800
Speaker 1: it's not unfamiliar to me, but you know, it's uh,

957
00:58:23,320 --> 00:58:24,760
Speaker 1: it's just never crossed my mind.

958
00:58:24,880 --> 00:58:25,280
Speaker 5: That's all.

959
00:58:28,120 --> 00:58:30,040
Speaker 3: Well, what's your name? What's your name again?

960
00:58:31,480 --> 00:58:32,280
Speaker 5: Uh?

961
00:58:32,680 --> 00:58:38,560
Speaker 3: B O H E D A K.

962
00:58:38,960 --> 00:58:44,800
Speaker 5: It's also the name of my uh of my channel

963
00:58:44,880 --> 00:58:46,920
Speaker 5: on YouTube.

964
00:58:47,240 --> 00:58:53,040
Speaker 3: Book Yeah, b O s H E D A K.

965
00:58:54,480 --> 00:58:56,040
Speaker 3: Hold on, i'mbout, I'm gonna. I want to look at

966
00:58:56,040 --> 00:58:58,560
Speaker 3: your channel real quick. Spell it. Spell it for me

967
00:58:58,600 --> 00:59:05,680
Speaker 3: one more time. I'm sorry. Uh b oh, uh okay,

968
00:59:06,120 --> 00:59:13,400
Speaker 3: b O s h h. You can give me more

969
00:59:13,480 --> 00:59:18,680
Speaker 3: letters D A K Z A K or uh c

970
00:59:19,840 --> 00:59:24,480
Speaker 3: oh d A K A okay, b deck YouTube dot

971
00:59:24,480 --> 00:59:29,160
Speaker 3: com slash bo shac was a deck or deck?

972
00:59:31,200 --> 00:59:34,560
Speaker 1: Uh D No, no it's not. It's not the private

973
00:59:34,560 --> 00:59:38,440
Speaker 1: parts name. It's A D A K, D A K.

974
00:59:41,600 --> 00:59:46,840
Speaker 3: All right, boshac. Oh that's you there. We are eight

975
00:59:46,920 --> 00:59:51,040
Speaker 3: hundred and uh five subscribers. Oh that's cute. You gotta

976
00:59:51,720 --> 00:59:53,360
Speaker 3: You're gonna be fine. Man. You got a nice little

977
00:59:53,360 --> 00:59:56,280
Speaker 3: YouTube channel going on. This is nice, This is cool.

978
00:59:56,600 --> 00:59:58,200
Speaker 3: I respect it. I like what you're doing.

979
00:59:59,520 --> 00:59:59,840
Speaker 5: Thank you.

980
00:59:59,840 --> 01:00:01,880
Speaker 3: Oh oh, look at this video for it. Look at

981
01:00:01,880 --> 01:00:05,400
Speaker 3: this you have. You had a video, you have one

982
01:00:05,480 --> 01:00:07,960
Speaker 3: vide you have one very viral video on your channel.

983
01:00:09,560 --> 01:00:14,160
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, Mickey Mouse. It's Mickey Mouse in Gary's mod.

984
01:00:15,560 --> 01:00:15,800
Speaker 5: Yes.

985
01:00:16,240 --> 01:00:20,560
Speaker 1: Uh yeah, that's uh, that's still around the same time.

986
01:00:20,600 --> 01:00:23,640
Speaker 1: When I came to the United States, I just let

987
01:00:24,080 --> 01:00:28,200
Speaker 1: I just made that one video and I just watched

988
01:00:28,200 --> 01:00:31,120
Speaker 1: it grow and grow. I told my parents about it.

989
01:00:31,840 --> 01:00:36,560
Speaker 1: I told me to make a sequel. Never go around

990
01:00:36,640 --> 01:00:39,840
Speaker 1: to making one because I don't know, like I'm, I

991
01:00:39,880 --> 01:00:42,520
Speaker 1: don't have a writing team or anything like I mean,

992
01:00:42,560 --> 01:00:42,800
Speaker 1: I do.

993
01:00:43,000 --> 01:00:45,200
Speaker 3: You don't. You don't need you, brother, you brother, I

994
01:00:45,240 --> 01:00:46,960
Speaker 3: don't think you need a writing team to make the

995
01:00:47,000 --> 01:00:52,720
Speaker 3: sequel to Mickey Mouse and Gary's Mud. But keep keep making,

996
01:00:52,880 --> 01:00:55,280
Speaker 3: keep making, keep making your videos, and and try to

997
01:00:55,280 --> 01:00:58,640
Speaker 3: form a club in college. I'm I'm, I'm I really

998
01:00:58,720 --> 01:01:02,480
Speaker 3: like I I really you strongly believe if you uh

999
01:01:03,040 --> 01:01:05,480
Speaker 3: follow that advice and you do it, that you'll have

1000
01:01:05,560 --> 01:01:09,800
Speaker 3: really good results. So do it, and uh let me

1001
01:01:09,840 --> 01:01:11,000
Speaker 3: know if it worked.

1002
01:01:11,720 --> 01:01:13,840
Speaker 5: Okay, thank you very much, sir.

1003
01:01:14,120 --> 01:01:15,120
Speaker 3: Okay, bye bo shit.

1004
01:01:15,080 --> 01:01:17,439
Speaker 5: That bye bye. Have a great nine.

1005
01:01:18,800 --> 01:01:21,640
Speaker 3: I like that guy. He kind of he threw me

1006
01:01:21,720 --> 01:01:25,400
Speaker 3: off at the very beginning, but I actually I ended

1007
01:01:25,440 --> 01:01:29,440
Speaker 3: up liking him. I mean, it's true. I didn't have

1008
01:01:29,480 --> 01:01:32,320
Speaker 3: a I had a pretty horrible uh first, like you know,

1009
01:01:32,320 --> 01:01:35,080
Speaker 3: a couple of years of college whereas I was really miserable,

1010
01:01:35,840 --> 01:01:40,120
Speaker 3: And it wasn't until I really kind of took initiative

1011
01:01:40,160 --> 01:01:43,840
Speaker 3: to grow a community of people that I resonated with

1012
01:01:44,040 --> 01:01:48,960
Speaker 3: that I started having a good time. So I don't know,

1013
01:01:48,960 --> 01:01:52,200
Speaker 3: I know there's a lot of college age folks who

1014
01:01:53,120 --> 01:01:56,240
Speaker 3: listen to this, and I hope, I hope that resonates

1015
01:01:58,280 --> 01:02:02,760
Speaker 3: on the line, calls every night, never big kid goes through.

1016
01:02:02,840 --> 01:02:06,000
Speaker 3: In his eye, he's teaching him about your life, but

1017
01:02:06,240 --> 01:02:08,160
Speaker 3: he's not really an expert.