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Speaker 3: I'm doing good. I'm doing really good good.

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Speaker 1: I'm Tiffany. I wish forget to introduce ourselves.

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Speaker 3: Right, I mean, I know who you are.

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Speaker 1: Whatever, but people might be new, they might be like, well,

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Speaker 3: Hey guys, I'm Mandra and.

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Speaker 4: So I officially declared next Tuesday work from home Tuesday

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Speaker 2: we got to communicate with respect, and I'm the one

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Speaker 2: who I'm like, timpany look at yourself in the mirror,

440
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Speaker 2: look at yourself. So no, but I just thought it

441
00:20:20,480 --> 00:20:23,399
Speaker 2: was really beautiful. So I can't wait to watch the

442
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Speaker 2: second one.

443
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Speaker 1: I love that.

444
00:20:26,080 --> 00:20:28,119
Speaker 2: Like even like the story of how they met was

445
00:20:28,160 --> 00:20:32,479
Speaker 2: pretty amazing and how Will was just really clear that

446
00:20:32,520 --> 00:20:34,840
Speaker 2: he wanted to get married and he wanted to have

447
00:20:34,880 --> 00:20:38,760
Speaker 2: a family, and I was talking to like, so Superman.

448
00:20:38,800 --> 00:20:41,760
Speaker 2: This weekend was that we were at my parents' house

449
00:20:41,800 --> 00:20:45,400
Speaker 2: and what started off as like, oh, can you help

450
00:20:45,480 --> 00:20:47,760
Speaker 2: me do this one favorite the basement became like almost

451
00:20:47,800 --> 00:20:51,520
Speaker 2: a remodel. Have we've been there every We've been there

452
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Speaker 2: at their house more than our house. And so he

453
00:20:54,280 --> 00:20:56,760
Speaker 2: was just redoing like the plumbing in their in their

454
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Speaker 2: master back because there was like a little bit of

455
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Speaker 2: a leak. My mom wanted a new fixtion because one

456
00:21:00,680 --> 00:21:03,280
Speaker 2: of the little like the hot handle on the sink

457
00:21:03,400 --> 00:21:07,560
Speaker 2: wasn't turning. I mean just everything toilet was running. I mean,

458
00:21:07,680 --> 00:21:11,840
Speaker 2: my mom has gotten her her money's worth, child, and

459
00:21:11,920 --> 00:21:15,240
Speaker 2: so and even when I brought Supergirl, like we brought

460
00:21:15,240 --> 00:21:18,320
Speaker 2: Supergirl on Saturday, she gave her a Supergirl because meanwhile,

461
00:21:18,359 --> 00:21:21,200
Speaker 2: Supergirl is because she's the only child, and like, she's

462
00:21:21,240 --> 00:21:23,359
Speaker 2: got three adults in her life that like, so she

463
00:21:23,520 --> 00:21:25,560
Speaker 2: doesn't she's not used to like doing as much stuff

464
00:21:25,560 --> 00:21:27,160
Speaker 2: as she ought to, quite honestly, because I was always

465
00:21:27,200 --> 00:21:29,399
Speaker 2: getting on them about she needs to were yours. But

466
00:21:29,400 --> 00:21:30,840
Speaker 2: as soon as she walked to my mother's house, my

467
00:21:30,840 --> 00:21:32,320
Speaker 2: mother was like, here's a rag. I'm gonna need you

468
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Speaker 2: to write down. She looks so shocked, like, wait, I

469
00:21:36,400 --> 00:21:39,080
Speaker 2: don't I don't understand. I'm like, that's called a rag

470
00:21:39,359 --> 00:21:43,640
Speaker 2: and we're cleaning. But then my mom ended up giving

471
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Speaker 2: her like a little bit of money just to be

472
00:21:44,880 --> 00:21:46,159
Speaker 2: like she's I want her to come back. I'm like,

473
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Speaker 2: tell clean, mommy. But it was just really like awesome.

474
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Speaker 2: And I see all that to say that. Somebody hit

475
00:21:53,680 --> 00:21:56,080
Speaker 2: me behind the scenes and said, dang girl, because I

476
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Speaker 2: think I like he fixed their sink, and I was

477
00:21:58,040 --> 00:22:00,320
Speaker 2: I put it on ig Stories and he was entering

478
00:22:00,359 --> 00:22:02,560
Speaker 2: to the door song he did it, We did it,

479
00:22:02,640 --> 00:22:05,720
Speaker 2: We did it, Lauren Semos and she was like, danger, hey,

480
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Speaker 2: you get do all that.

481
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Speaker 1: I can't even get a text back.

482
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Speaker 2: And I just thought, like I don't get him to

483
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Speaker 2: do all of that, that there are men out there

484
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Speaker 2: who are already in that space.

485
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Speaker 1: And I think that that's what I like about Red

486
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Speaker 1: Table Talks is.

487
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Speaker 2: That it shows that you know, sometimes it's like, you know,

488
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Speaker 2: you have to be open to the fact that sometimes

489
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Speaker 2: the person that you're wanting, that you're looking for might

490
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Speaker 2: not look exactly like what the picture you have in

491
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Speaker 2: your mind, and so you want to be really clear

492
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Speaker 2: about what you desire in a person. I knew I

493
00:22:35,880 --> 00:22:38,720
Speaker 2: wanted somebody who was intrinsically kind. I like literally wrote

494
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Speaker 2: these things down I wanted somebody who was generous, you know,

495
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Speaker 2: I wanted somebody who was considerate. And like I told myself,

496
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Speaker 2: if he is a five foot five Asian man, Okay,

497
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Speaker 2: not to have anything wrong with Asian man, but I'm

498
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Speaker 2: not naturally attracted to Asia man.

499
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Speaker 1: But I told myself I was going to be open

500
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Speaker 1: to that much.

501
00:22:55,840 --> 00:22:59,600
Speaker 2: The whoever I love might not look like, you know,

502
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Speaker 2: like like what I had in my mind, but would

503
00:23:02,080 --> 00:23:04,520
Speaker 2: feel like what I needed in my life. And you know,

504
00:23:04,600 --> 00:23:07,360
Speaker 2: Superman happens to be chocolate. So I was like, oh,

505
00:23:07,520 --> 00:23:09,760
Speaker 2: thank you Jesus. But you know, if he was it,

506
00:23:10,000 --> 00:23:12,800
Speaker 2: but he had all of those characteristics, you know, I

507
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Speaker 2: likely would still love him.

508
00:23:14,680 --> 00:23:15,520
Speaker 1: Not likely I would.

509
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Speaker 2: And so I mean, red Table Talks just shows you

510
00:23:18,320 --> 00:23:21,240
Speaker 2: that there are men out there who are already predisposed

511
00:23:21,280 --> 00:23:24,400
Speaker 2: to wanting more, and not everybody is playing. Not everybody

512
00:23:24,480 --> 00:23:26,680
Speaker 2: is like you know, tricking out here in these streets.

513
00:23:26,680 --> 00:23:29,879
Speaker 2: And so ladies, there's hope. I mean, not that Superman

514
00:23:29,960 --> 00:23:32,439
Speaker 2: is perfect, because he's not. But like I fell on

515
00:23:32,480 --> 00:23:36,639
Speaker 2: the toilet the other day. I was like, sir, you

516
00:23:36,640 --> 00:23:39,639
Speaker 2: know when you leave the toilet set up, I was like,

517
00:23:39,760 --> 00:23:41,320
Speaker 2: it was like the first time that happened. I'm realized.

518
00:23:41,320 --> 00:23:44,320
Speaker 2: I'm surprised that you know that hasn't happened more. But like,

519
00:23:44,359 --> 00:23:45,679
Speaker 2: you know, middles of the night you go to the bathroom.

520
00:23:45,680 --> 00:23:48,160
Speaker 2: I literally was like, I'm sitting, I'm sitting in town.

521
00:23:48,280 --> 00:23:52,119
Speaker 4: I would have woken him up by pouring a bucket

522
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Speaker 4: of toilet water on his face.

523
00:23:54,000 --> 00:23:56,719
Speaker 2: Now, I was so because now I'm like, now I've

524
00:23:56,720 --> 00:23:58,600
Speaker 2: got to wash because what am I gonna go to

525
00:23:58,640 --> 00:23:59,320
Speaker 2: bed with the WebBook?

526
00:24:03,160 --> 00:24:03,240
Speaker 4: Now?

527
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Speaker 1: I gotta take a full shower at one am. That's

528
00:24:05,000 --> 00:24:07,760
Speaker 1: what we're doing. So other than that, though, he's great. No,

529
00:24:07,840 --> 00:24:11,919
Speaker 1: but so yeah, Red Table Talks that is my brown boost.

530
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Speaker 2: If you watch it, tweet us at it's the BA

531
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Speaker 2: podcast on Twitter, right it is.

532
00:24:17,440 --> 00:24:19,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, so tell me like your favorite parts.

533
00:24:19,240 --> 00:24:20,920
Speaker 2: And I haven't watched part two, but you can tweet

534
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Speaker 2: the those two because I'm sure i'll watch it by

535
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Speaker 2: the time the years it's on Facebook.

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Speaker 5: Yeah cool, yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 1: Exactly, Okay, any any other questions.

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Speaker 3: Oh a real question? Okay, cool? Yeah? Oh I always

539
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Speaker 3: do that. I X out my tab as I'm aimlessly

540
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Speaker 3: clicking things.

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Speaker 2: Well, while we were for Mandy to open her tab.

542
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Speaker 2: If you've got questions. You can email us at Brown

543
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Speaker 2: Ambition podcast at gmail dot com.

544
00:24:58,640 --> 00:25:00,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, because we love your questions. Or you can go to.

545
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Speaker 3: You know what, where can you go? You really good?

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Speaker 1: I did.

547
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Speaker 2: I was so happy with myself and then then just

548
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Speaker 2: like quickly, I don't know, my memory is really terrible,

549
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Speaker 2: Like I'll have it, and then what will happen is

550
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Speaker 2: I will I'll get nervous about it, and then I'm like,

551
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Speaker 2: I don't know it?

552
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Speaker 3: You know what? What's our website?

553
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Speaker 1: Ran a bison podcast?

554
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Speaker 3: Yes?

555
00:25:27,960 --> 00:25:32,440
Speaker 2: Oh yes, so you can help ask us anything and yeah,

556
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Speaker 2: we'd love your question.

557
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Speaker 1: Whatever.

558
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Speaker 2: Girl, I'm still shaky sometimes too, But anyone, what's the

559
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Speaker 2: next question?

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Speaker 3: Thank you?

561
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Speaker 4: I found the question like five minutes ago.

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Speaker 3: Thank you for the cover.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, we have a really we have a we have

564
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Speaker 4: a good question speaking of Christ for help. So this

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Speaker 4: comes from anonymous, Oh clever a dot anonymous. So this listener,

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Speaker 4: I think this is this is a good question. I

567
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Speaker 4: think everyone can relate to this, she said. He Mandy

568
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Speaker 4: and Tiffany. I'm absolutely ashamed to be asking this, but

569
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Speaker 4: after listening to your podcast for so long, I feel

570
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Speaker 4: like this is a safe space it is to ask this.

571
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Speaker 4: Anonymous question that I'm sure many of your readers can

572
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Speaker 4: relate to. What advice can you give to those of

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Speaker 4: us who have a long time, who have a long

574
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Speaker 4: time to go before achieving our financial and personal goals,

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Speaker 4: Like I'm talking years to get out of debt, build savings,

576
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Speaker 4: et cetera. Meanwhile, I feel like everyone is glowing up,

577
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Speaker 4: buying houses, getting married and so on. It makes me

578
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Speaker 4: so disgusted that I give up hope and just keep digging,

579
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Speaker 4: going deeper into debt. I think it would be helpful

580
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Speaker 4: to know how you ladies coped when you were in

581
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Speaker 4: your struggle phases. Sincerely, Anonymous.

582
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Speaker 2: Hey, I mean, well, I remember when Facebook kind of

583
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Speaker 2: like when I got on Facebook for the first time

584
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Speaker 2: and I was like, everyone's.

585
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Speaker 1: Taking vacations every week.

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Speaker 2: I just remember being so shocked at like how much

587
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Speaker 2: the people that like I knew, not like the people

588
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Speaker 2: I knew closely, but like you know, like folks from

589
00:27:01,240 --> 00:27:03,520
Speaker 2: college or high school that I don't necessarily talk to anymore,

590
00:27:03,520 --> 00:27:06,000
Speaker 2: but watching everyone go on vacation and buy nice clothes,

591
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Speaker 2: And I remember being like, but I'm broke.

592
00:27:08,160 --> 00:27:09,800
Speaker 1: How what am I doing wrong?

593
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Speaker 2: I mean now that like I'm I'm more into it

594
00:27:13,280 --> 00:27:15,000
Speaker 2: I realized a lot of people were doing that off

595
00:27:15,040 --> 00:27:17,199
Speaker 2: of credit cards, and so they didn't have what you

596
00:27:17,240 --> 00:27:21,280
Speaker 2: thought they had. But honestly, here's the thing. And I

597
00:27:21,280 --> 00:27:22,720
Speaker 2: had to tell this to my friend the other day

598
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Speaker 2: because he was struggling with like, you know, he's like,

599
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Speaker 2: I've got a very active social life and I want

600
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Speaker 2: to still go to the club and vacations with my

601
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Speaker 2: friends and fancy dinners and blah blah blah. And I said, friend,

602
00:27:35,760 --> 00:27:38,440
Speaker 2: you can either take the big L for a short

603
00:27:38,440 --> 00:27:42,960
Speaker 2: period of time that means staying home, saving budgeting, getting

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Speaker 2: yourself together, another stream of income, all of that for

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00:27:46,000 --> 00:27:48,080
Speaker 2: a short period of time, like really grind during the

606
00:27:48,119 --> 00:27:50,399
Speaker 2: shorter period of time, or you could take a small

607
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Speaker 2: L the rest of your life, meaning like you're always

608
00:27:52,840 --> 00:27:56,560
Speaker 2: on the cusp of struggling forever, you know, because if

609
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Speaker 2: you don't reset, you know, and build from a strong foundation,

610
00:28:01,080 --> 00:28:03,639
Speaker 2: then it's like you're always going to be just that

611
00:28:03,720 --> 00:28:06,320
Speaker 2: close to being broke, just that close to like.

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Speaker 1: You know, check to check.

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Speaker 2: And so it just took me, honestly too, and it

614
00:28:10,920 --> 00:28:12,960
Speaker 2: might take you staying off social media for why I

615
00:28:12,960 --> 00:28:15,119
Speaker 2: know I did, and just I had to focus and

616
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Speaker 2: it took me about maybe like three or four years

617
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Speaker 2: to like get past broke, and then like another two

618
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Speaker 2: years to get to get to a point.

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Speaker 1: Where I wasn't just beyond broke.

620
00:28:23,640 --> 00:28:25,920
Speaker 2: I was like, okay, you're okay, and then another year

621
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Speaker 2: to be better than okay.

622
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Speaker 1: So it took some time.

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Speaker 2: But if I had not taken that l you know,

624
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Speaker 2: and during that period of time, I would still be

625
00:28:34,680 --> 00:28:36,680
Speaker 2: semi struggling, but forever.

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Speaker 1: And I didn't want to be eighty and semi struggling.

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Speaker 1: I was like, well, let me just take a few

628
00:28:40,680 --> 00:28:43,240
Speaker 1: years and for me to be uncomfortable in order for

629
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Speaker 1: me to have the life that I want later. So

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Speaker 1: that's my advice.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and I think as much as you can try

632
00:28:49,160 --> 00:28:52,840
Speaker 4: and well try and first of all, but at social media,

633
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Speaker 4: I would say, take a break from social media if

634
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Speaker 4: you feel like people are posting there, if it's people

635
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Speaker 4: like Okay, listen, Tip and I have been talking about

636
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Speaker 4: our break and home renovations like crazy people for you know,

637
00:29:02,640 --> 00:29:05,440
Speaker 4: a year now, and it may seem like, well, geez,

638
00:29:05,440 --> 00:29:07,280
Speaker 4: they just got a house out of nowhere. They're doing

639
00:29:07,280 --> 00:29:10,360
Speaker 4: so well and I'm doing so so not well. You know,

640
00:29:10,520 --> 00:29:13,440
Speaker 4: ask people, how did you how did you get to

641
00:29:13,480 --> 00:29:16,000
Speaker 4: a place where you could afford a home? Okay, I

642
00:29:16,040 --> 00:29:19,000
Speaker 4: started saving when I was twenty two years old. I

643
00:29:19,080 --> 00:29:21,240
Speaker 4: was part of a company that got acquired. I made

644
00:29:21,240 --> 00:29:23,760
Speaker 4: money off of that, so I'll be upfront about that.

645
00:29:24,080 --> 00:29:27,560
Speaker 4: I changed jobs until I got you know, equity, and

646
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Speaker 4: equity has been beneficial to me too my.

647
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Speaker 3: Last two jobs.

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Speaker 4: So there's steps that I took to get to a

649
00:29:32,840 --> 00:29:35,080
Speaker 4: place where I could afford a house. So I feel like,

650
00:29:35,160 --> 00:29:39,320
Speaker 4: instead of feeling down about it, like talk to people

651
00:29:39,360 --> 00:29:41,080
Speaker 4: about the steps they took to get to where they are,

652
00:29:41,720 --> 00:29:45,720
Speaker 4: even if it's like offline or whatever. You know, just

653
00:29:45,760 --> 00:29:48,959
Speaker 4: like off the record to hear the story behind what

654
00:29:49,120 --> 00:29:53,640
Speaker 4: seems like a super easy, you know, accomplishment that they

655
00:29:53,680 --> 00:29:57,240
Speaker 4: may just like post about on social media. And be

656
00:29:57,400 --> 00:30:00,640
Speaker 4: clear about your goals and what you want, because that's

657
00:30:00,680 --> 00:30:02,880
Speaker 4: what could be agonizing, Like if you're not sure what

658
00:30:02,960 --> 00:30:05,320
Speaker 4: you want and then you see everyone else doing something

659
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Speaker 4: and you think, is that what I should want? I

660
00:30:06,880 --> 00:30:08,719
Speaker 4: don't have that yet, you know I should want that.

661
00:30:08,800 --> 00:30:10,800
Speaker 4: I want that, nah, And then you start feeling terrible

662
00:30:10,840 --> 00:30:15,400
Speaker 4: about yourself, you know, around for me buying a house

663
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Speaker 4: that I had to I had to really have come

664
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Speaker 4: to Jesus' situation with myself. Do I really want a house?

665
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Speaker 4: And what does that say about me? And how I

666
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Speaker 4: how I used my money that I've worked hard to

667
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Speaker 4: build up, you know, and I had and I and

668
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Speaker 4: I'll tell you point blank, I've struggled with going back

669
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Speaker 4: and forth. You know, is buying a house the right thing?

670
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Speaker 4: Is this the right way to invest my money? I

671
00:30:38,200 --> 00:30:40,120
Speaker 4: don't have it entirely figured it out. Like, talk to

672
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Speaker 4: me in ten years and I'll tell you if it

673
00:30:41,600 --> 00:30:44,120
Speaker 4: was a good idea that I, you know, bought this house.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

675
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Speaker 4: So just all you can do, I think, is talk

676
00:30:48,720 --> 00:30:51,560
Speaker 4: to people and then listen to their self doubt, you know,

677
00:30:51,640 --> 00:30:55,040
Speaker 4: listen to their insecurity, listen to you know, the steps

678
00:30:55,080 --> 00:30:58,200
Speaker 4: they took to accomplish those goals, to maybe learn something

679
00:30:58,240 --> 00:31:01,040
Speaker 4: from them or to take art in the fact that

680
00:31:01,400 --> 00:31:05,560
Speaker 4: not everyone has everything figgled figured out, and then dust

681
00:31:05,600 --> 00:31:08,040
Speaker 4: your hands off and get back to work on accomplishing

682
00:31:08,080 --> 00:31:12,120
Speaker 4: your goals, because, you know, steeping yourself and feelings of

683
00:31:12,360 --> 00:31:16,040
Speaker 4: negativity or in scarcity or feeling like you're never going

684
00:31:16,080 --> 00:31:18,360
Speaker 4: to accomplish your goals, that that definitely won't get you

685
00:31:18,400 --> 00:31:20,920
Speaker 4: to your goals. You know, that's the sure fire away

686
00:31:20,960 --> 00:31:25,680
Speaker 4: not to accomplish your goals, but think about the actionable

687
00:31:25,720 --> 00:31:29,560
Speaker 4: things you can do to get there, and you know,

688
00:31:29,600 --> 00:31:32,520
Speaker 4: if there's any drastic changes you could make to to

689
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Speaker 4: put yourself on the track that you want to that

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00:31:35,120 --> 00:31:35,840
Speaker 4: you want to be on.

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Speaker 1: And then too finding like like finding like your squad,

692
00:31:39,840 --> 00:31:42,960
Speaker 1: because like having a group of peers who too, who

693
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Speaker 1: also was kind of like in the same space, like

694
00:31:45,720 --> 00:31:48,040
Speaker 1: wanting to do more, you know, still.

695
00:31:47,760 --> 00:31:50,160
Speaker 2: Struggling a little bit, and so I have like a

696
00:31:50,240 --> 00:31:52,120
Speaker 2: squad of people that we kind of grew up together.

697
00:31:52,160 --> 00:31:54,600
Speaker 2: And it was random. Some people I met at coffee shops,

698
00:31:54,640 --> 00:31:57,440
Speaker 2: some people I met at networking events, some people small

699
00:31:57,440 --> 00:32:02,320
Speaker 2: business association. Just so so as I started to build

700
00:32:02,320 --> 00:32:03,920
Speaker 2: like those people and it didn't mean that we all

701
00:32:03,920 --> 00:32:06,600
Speaker 2: collectively hung out together, but like, you know, my friend

702
00:32:06,640 --> 00:32:09,080
Speaker 2: Cabral or my friend Mark, they're not necessarily friends, but

703
00:32:09,360 --> 00:32:12,040
Speaker 2: these are folks that when I was building, so were they.

704
00:32:12,640 --> 00:32:16,280
Speaker 2: So it normalized the process of like I don't have it.

705
00:32:16,320 --> 00:32:18,680
Speaker 2: I remember, like like maybe a couple years ago when

706
00:32:18,680 --> 00:32:21,080
Speaker 2: I was really struggling and I was like, oh, Mark, man,

707
00:32:21,160 --> 00:32:23,400
Speaker 2: I'm you know, I didn't I didn't you know, like

708
00:32:23,440 --> 00:32:24,280
Speaker 2: I'm laid on my bills.

709
00:32:24,360 --> 00:32:26,120
Speaker 1: He was like ooh, I thought I was the only one.

710
00:32:26,160 --> 00:32:29,080
Speaker 2: And we both started laughing, and it normalized the process

711
00:32:29,200 --> 00:32:33,120
Speaker 2: for us, like, Okay, laid on your bills happened, You

712
00:32:33,160 --> 00:32:36,080
Speaker 2: didn't kill anybody, And so now marked us very well.

713
00:32:36,080 --> 00:32:38,360
Speaker 1: He's got like five or six laundromats.

714
00:32:37,840 --> 00:32:41,560
Speaker 2: And Charlotte, North Carolina. He had an investment property in

715
00:32:41,600 --> 00:32:44,240
Speaker 2: Newark that he sold recently, and so like we laugh

716
00:32:44,280 --> 00:32:47,320
Speaker 2: about those times. So finding like people in your position

717
00:32:47,360 --> 00:32:49,920
Speaker 2: that are also growing and building is going to help too,

718
00:32:49,960 --> 00:32:52,960
Speaker 2: because it will normalize that this part of the of

719
00:32:53,000 --> 00:32:56,520
Speaker 2: the journey is is okay, and there's nothing wrong with it.

720
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Speaker 1: It's just this is part of the journey.

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Speaker 4: I had to cut a friend early in my twenties

722
00:33:01,480 --> 00:33:04,560
Speaker 4: who was she had money when none of us did,

723
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Speaker 4: and we would go out and she would want to

724
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Speaker 4: pay for everything, but then like low key, make you

725
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Speaker 4: feel bad for not wanting to pay for everything. And

726
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Speaker 4: it was a really toxic friendship and it was almost

727
00:33:15,200 --> 00:33:17,080
Speaker 4: like we were the friends that she kept around to

728
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Speaker 4: make herself feel better about where she.

729
00:33:18,720 --> 00:33:19,640
Speaker 3: Was at financially.

730
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Speaker 4: Okay, And as soon as I recognize that I was like, Ann,

731
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Speaker 4: I'm done. I mean it took me like a few

732
00:33:24,880 --> 00:33:28,040
Speaker 4: years of this toxic friendship, but I cut that friend out.

733
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Speaker 4: And you know, if there's people in your life who

734
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Speaker 4: who aren't you know, making who aren't supporting you or

735
00:33:34,960 --> 00:33:36,960
Speaker 4: like being your cheerleader or your champion, you feel like

736
00:33:36,960 --> 00:33:40,160
Speaker 4: you can't open up to them, just cut them, cut

737
00:33:40,200 --> 00:33:40,960
Speaker 4: them out of your life.

738
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Speaker 2: And well, cut them out of your life, said, cut them,

739
00:33:43,840 --> 00:33:45,120
Speaker 2: like take that night, Cirl.

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Speaker 3: I mean it might come to that, but hopefully not.

741
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Speaker 4: No, that's awesome though, but I mean, yeah, we both,

742
00:33:54,840 --> 00:33:56,360
Speaker 4: I mean we want us to go down our list

743
00:33:56,400 --> 00:33:56,920
Speaker 4: of struggles.

744
00:33:56,920 --> 00:33:58,320
Speaker 3: There's a long list of struggles.

745
00:33:58,400 --> 00:34:01,920
Speaker 4: Yeah, but we're right there with you. And thank you

746
00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:06,320
Speaker 4: for listening to this podcast. And yeah, hopefully you get

747
00:34:06,320 --> 00:34:08,920
Speaker 4: support beyond this show, but actually talking to people in

748
00:34:08,960 --> 00:34:11,040
Speaker 4: your network or your family or your friends so that

749
00:34:11,080 --> 00:34:13,440
Speaker 4: you don't feel so alone, because you're definitely not.

750
00:34:13,920 --> 00:34:16,960
Speaker 1: You're definitely not. The truth is not to shade the

751
00:34:16,960 --> 00:34:19,560
Speaker 1: folks who are who are posting all this soff.

752
00:34:19,560 --> 00:34:22,440
Speaker 2: Honestly, more people are struggling than you know. And I'm

753
00:34:22,440 --> 00:34:24,399
Speaker 2: not saying that in a judgmental way and anything else,

754
00:34:24,440 --> 00:34:26,920
Speaker 2: but like just because someone is on vacation or they

755
00:34:26,960 --> 00:34:29,840
Speaker 2: bought a car, or they've got you know, like dope

756
00:34:29,840 --> 00:34:32,360
Speaker 2: clothes or whatever, that does not mean that they're excluded

757
00:34:32,360 --> 00:34:38,319
Speaker 2: from the financial struggle. So outward expression of wealth and

758
00:34:38,400 --> 00:34:40,920
Speaker 2: money has nothing to do with what people really have.

759
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Speaker 2: I mean, I've seen people that are like, You're like,

760
00:34:43,080 --> 00:34:46,560
Speaker 2: you have money, but you look but you look homeless.

761
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Speaker 3: You know.

762
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Speaker 2: I've seen people who look like they have money and

763
00:34:49,800 --> 00:34:51,560
Speaker 2: they actually do have money. And then I've seen people

764
00:34:51,600 --> 00:34:54,880
Speaker 2: who look like wealth and are totally broke. So there's

765
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Speaker 2: no way to tell basically like what people have. And

766
00:34:57,960 --> 00:35:00,600
Speaker 2: you know, so a lot of people it might be

767
00:35:01,040 --> 00:35:04,600
Speaker 2: stunting for the gram, you know, their Facebook, Facebook what

768
00:35:04,719 --> 00:35:06,480
Speaker 2: is this? So they have a Facebook fortune, you know,

769
00:35:06,920 --> 00:35:09,680
Speaker 2: and that's not necessarily true. So just know that, like,

770
00:35:10,239 --> 00:35:11,800
Speaker 2: you know, not all things are real. It's like, you know,

771
00:35:11,840 --> 00:35:14,439
Speaker 2: the beautiful models on the in the magazine that yes,

772
00:35:14,520 --> 00:35:15,160
Speaker 2: these women.

773
00:35:14,920 --> 00:35:17,600
Speaker 1: Are beautiful, but you know they're also touched up. So

774
00:35:17,640 --> 00:35:19,880
Speaker 1: everybody does a little touch upon their life for social media.

775
00:35:21,200 --> 00:35:25,400
Speaker 3: Ay Man, that Mayfair filter though, that's my jam.

776
00:35:26,160 --> 00:35:28,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, I like Mayfair. There isn't another one that I

777
00:35:28,560 --> 00:35:28,959
Speaker 1: like too.

778
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Speaker 4: Yeahs all right, Thank you anonymousphere question. And again, you

779
00:35:34,719 --> 00:35:38,839
Speaker 4: guys can go to Brand Ambition podcast dot com ask

780
00:35:38,960 --> 00:35:40,839
Speaker 4: us anything to send us a question, or you can

781
00:35:40,920 --> 00:35:43,719
Speaker 4: hit us up at Brand Ambition Podcast at gmail dot

782
00:35:43,760 --> 00:35:44,760
Speaker 4: com with your question.

783
00:35:46,280 --> 00:35:50,440
Speaker 1: Yes ma'am now just said dot com.

784
00:35:50,600 --> 00:35:55,320
Speaker 4: Oh I know, I said, yes ma'am.

785
00:35:55,719 --> 00:36:02,160
Speaker 1: All right, those are really great questions. So what do

786
00:36:02,239 --> 00:36:03,680
Speaker 1: we usually end with this? That would we end with?

787
00:36:03,760 --> 00:36:05,200
Speaker 4: I think they were supposed to do the boost at

788
00:36:05,239 --> 00:36:07,240
Speaker 4: the end now, but like I forgot.

789
00:36:12,840 --> 00:36:13,800
Speaker 1: No, but this is awesome.

790
00:36:13,840 --> 00:36:16,120
Speaker 2: I honestly just and honestly I love that the feedback

791
00:36:16,160 --> 00:36:17,759
Speaker 2: that we got from the Battle of the Sex, and

792
00:36:17,920 --> 00:36:21,120
Speaker 2: so many people hit me up and said do that again? Honestly,

793
00:36:21,160 --> 00:36:23,600
Speaker 2: so I would love to have, like, you know, to

794
00:36:23,840 --> 00:36:25,880
Speaker 2: to have We'd love to have more people on the

795
00:36:25,880 --> 00:36:28,600
Speaker 2: podcast and more guys to kind of give their point

796
00:36:28,600 --> 00:36:30,160
Speaker 2: of view. And this time we should really have a

797
00:36:30,200 --> 00:36:32,520
Speaker 2: battle because I feel like that was everybody was so nice,

798
00:36:33,000 --> 00:36:34,280
Speaker 2: and we need the gloves to come.

799
00:36:34,160 --> 00:36:39,800
Speaker 3: Off, you know, they all talk like this bedroom voices.

800
00:36:40,960 --> 00:36:42,480
Speaker 1: Oh maybe we should have the Huggies on.

801
00:36:43,440 --> 00:36:45,680
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I don't know who.

802
00:36:47,760 --> 00:36:48,960
Speaker 1: That would be kind of fun though.

803
00:36:49,400 --> 00:36:51,439
Speaker 2: I feel like, you know, Superman already thinks that he's

804
00:36:51,480 --> 00:36:54,440
Speaker 2: part of the podcast, so I feel like if I

805
00:36:54,440 --> 00:36:54,719
Speaker 2: feel like

806
00:36:54,760 --> 00:36:56,320
Speaker 1: That he might be partially open to that