WEBVTT - EP 203: “I said THEY” feat Rob from IHU

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<v Speaker 1>Guess what decision We're about to make a horrible decisions.

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<v Speaker 1>What's up? What's up? Welcome to another episode of Hory Blade.

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<v Speaker 1>This is Hewns. I don't know why I'd be doing that,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's horrible decisions because I'll be trying to do

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<v Speaker 1>the looe. I don't know what accident is, but whatever. Uh,

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<v Speaker 1>this is your girl, Mandy V A k A. Debt bitch,

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<v Speaker 1>A k A. You know that's it. That's it. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>dropping Pitt the Stallion bitch. And I told you before

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<v Speaker 1>I'm dropping it again. So I'm just debt bitch. What's up?

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<v Speaker 1>You're dropping your strap? Where is it? It's in the closet.

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<v Speaker 1>It's in the closet. I am retiring the strap. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not b ship what it is. I'm tiring it. Which

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<v Speaker 1>athlete came back to play a sport that was gone?

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<v Speaker 1>This is what we're gonna do. I don't know that man.

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<v Speaker 1>Michael Jordan's okay, well maybe you ain't know, Michael Jordan.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't know if he went. You know too, he left,

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<v Speaker 1>took a break, went and play baseball, then came back

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<v Speaker 1>to basketball. So right now I'm playing baseball, bitch. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>a bitch is playing baseball, but I may not return

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<v Speaker 1>to basketball, you know what I mean. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. Man is old enough to wear like

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<v Speaker 1>right when he hits fifty, he'd be like you, you know, saying, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I only got three more years. So see you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll be playing baseball for three years then kind of

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<v Speaker 1>the rise. I'm wheezy. If you've never heard this show,

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<v Speaker 1>Peg is here, She's still here. It's it's it's she's

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<v Speaker 1>wearing a mask. Um, but we have somebody with us

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<v Speaker 1>from a very special podcast called Inner ho Uprising. I

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<v Speaker 1>remember when we first started our show. Um, we had

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<v Speaker 1>heard about it because there wasn't really another black sex

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<v Speaker 1>pod in New York right now, not at that time. No,

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<v Speaker 1>So definitely are O g s. I love in her

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<v Speaker 1>ho Uprising because I really feel like it's a tightened

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<v Speaker 1>up horrible decisions. What are the tightened up horrible decisions?

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<v Speaker 1>Even the way that they started, they put what we'll

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<v Speaker 1>be talking about. I didn't say all that because I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>but what I will say, can you what is the

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<v Speaker 1>tighter now? When you listen to next week? Okay, Well,

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<v Speaker 1>Rob doesn't do it like Sammy like looking at in

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<v Speaker 1>her Ho Uprising, where we are telling you about my pronouncer,

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<v Speaker 1>she Her, and we are back for It's like a

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<v Speaker 1>good newscasterree hole. You know what I'm saying a newscaster.

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<v Speaker 1>We'll be starting the show dumb, but I like, speak

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<v Speaker 1>for yourself. You'll be startling, start dumb. We ain't dumb, bitch,

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<v Speaker 1>This is an education. I didn't say weird dumb? Are

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<v Speaker 1>you saying we'll show be done? It ain't dune. Welcome

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<v Speaker 1>to horrible you know what I mean? We say horrible

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<v Speaker 1>decisions that introduce our sales in that see, let me

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<v Speaker 1>try to do it. You and she Her, I'm a

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<v Speaker 1>she her, Yeah, that's it? What what what we gotta say?

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<v Speaker 1>You know what? She eat coachy? Sometimes I do. We

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<v Speaker 1>both suck dick? Is that how we need to introduce? Hey, guys,

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<v Speaker 1>we suck dick in like pussy. What's up? I kind

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<v Speaker 1>of like that. That's pretty fun. Okay, So let's introduce

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<v Speaker 1>Rob So. Rob is one of the hosts on Inner

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<v Speaker 1>Ho Uprising. Rob, I haven't met you before, and I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't I know? Sam like kind of rotates co host.

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<v Speaker 1>Can you tell us about Inner Ho Uprising? How you

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<v Speaker 1>got your started on their So in Uprising, it's a

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<v Speaker 1>podcast about sex leven dating from the perspective of four

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<v Speaker 1>black queer feminists. Um, we are, yes, we're all very gay.

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<v Speaker 1>We're all very open, like, uh, A couple of them

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<v Speaker 1>are non monogamous. I am monogamous. Um that doesn't sound

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<v Speaker 1>like fun. I mean I'm I mean I'm single, So

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<v Speaker 1>I just the choosing date one person at a time.

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<v Speaker 1>Um capacity. Yeah, you know, my brain is a little smooth,

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<v Speaker 1>it's tired, so I don't want to get too crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, we're more we're educational, but we're fun. And

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<v Speaker 1>the way we got started. Sam had the podcast initially

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<v Speaker 1>with another host, and when that host left, she kind

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<v Speaker 1>of did um like a kind of like competition between

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<v Speaker 1>from people who wanted the spot, and she ended up

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<v Speaker 1>choosing me, Rebecca and Akua so we could all be

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<v Speaker 1>host and it works out better so we can all

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<v Speaker 1>be Yeah, I mean we're out here. We're all like

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<v Speaker 1>pretty big. It's like Hunger Games. Though people did y'all

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<v Speaker 1>beat up? I have no idea. I was just one

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<v Speaker 1>of many niggas, but I was the one of the

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<v Speaker 1>niggas made it, you know, like on top and we're

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<v Speaker 1>all like super busy. So like Sam, her life is podcasting,

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<v Speaker 1>My life is like a billion different things. So it

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<v Speaker 1>works out that I'm not like glue to podcasting because

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<v Speaker 1>we're all we're all doing it at different You could

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<v Speaker 1>just be the put your input in when needed. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like a hole once a week. Damn I got

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<v Speaker 1>a lot at all. I meant it's like h O

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<v Speaker 1>E s T though like a host. I'm but I'm

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<v Speaker 1>just a hole. Let me say my co ho you

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<v Speaker 1>feel me? So Rob tell us, I want to know

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<v Speaker 1>um whoever wrote me from? In her if I think

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<v Speaker 1>it may have been Sam, she was like Rob's day

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<v Speaker 1>them and I wanted to know your sexual orientation and

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<v Speaker 1>how Yeah, well what is it? Okay, so I'll be

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<v Speaker 1>saying DEMI paint so first with the say them. That's

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<v Speaker 1>my gender identity, right, So I'm a non bindary person

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<v Speaker 1>a gender. I don't identify as a woman as a

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<v Speaker 1>man um, but that's separate, of course, with my sexual orientation.

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<v Speaker 1>I call that gender fluid. I mean, of course, with anything,

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<v Speaker 1>the language is kind of what you make it. Like,

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<v Speaker 1>gender in general is a binary spectrum usually, so you're

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<v Speaker 1>gender nonconforming yes, which which means you don't conform. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>I finished not conforming a big word because I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>if you, I mean, there's nothing wrong with it, right,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I'm not smash the anything kind of person because

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like, you know, if you if that's who

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<v Speaker 1>you are, but who you are, be happy than you are.

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<v Speaker 1>I just wasn't like that was not a gender. What's

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<v Speaker 1>a gender? Mis means no gender like a sexual anything

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<v Speaker 1>that prefixes like no, non, So I just don't prescribe

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<v Speaker 1>to any specific gender. Okay, I'm confused this book over here.

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<v Speaker 1>I ain't even gonna hold you because a sexual I

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<v Speaker 1>getting you choose not to have sex, but a gender

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, but it's not necessarily a choice. If you're

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<v Speaker 1>a sexual, like that's who you are, right, like how

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<v Speaker 1>you are bisexual pantsex people, It's like, is a choice? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>like a sexual is like, actually, you know what we're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna I think this would be cool to skip into

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<v Speaker 1>the whole facts. I brought a glossary up, and I

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<v Speaker 1>think it'd be good if we break it down together

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<v Speaker 1>with with the help of Rob because I I don't

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<v Speaker 1>say choice because to me it I agree, it's not

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think you necessarily like if you're a sexual,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't feel it to up you know what I'm say, right,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't write but a gender. I didn't. I never

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<v Speaker 1>chose not to be a woman or a man. I

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<v Speaker 1>have a pussy, but a pussy is not what makes

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<v Speaker 1>you a woman. So I never like it wasn't like

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, okay, cool, you know I don't want

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<v Speaker 1>to be a man. I don't want to be a woman.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to prescribe to these roles. I just

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<v Speaker 1>never did see. And to me, when I when I

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<v Speaker 1>think of all of this, I break it down to uh,

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<v Speaker 1>male and female, but man and woman. To me, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>a pussy does mean woman because when we have the

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<v Speaker 1>conversation man, no, no, no, no, I'm saying female and

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<v Speaker 1>male is yes to me, those are genders that you

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<v Speaker 1>don't have to identify with or that you do because

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<v Speaker 1>of your your organs. But one moment, I'm talking about

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<v Speaker 1>what she said, I don't identify like, having a pussy

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't make you a woman. Right. But even when oh day, sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>even when we speak to uh trans women that the

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<v Speaker 1>argument is that they identify as women despite you know

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<v Speaker 1>you said the office to what you met and male,

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<v Speaker 1>right right, sexual like that's described by your sexual organs

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<v Speaker 1>or genital When you said a woman you feel like

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<v Speaker 1>a woman, you don't like saying that you need to

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<v Speaker 1>have a pussy to be a woman. No, okay, that

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<v Speaker 1>would be saying that the women we've interviewed Jamie Parris

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<v Speaker 1>hope disguise on women, which isn't true. Okay, right right,

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<v Speaker 1>it makes sense. I'm gonna listen. I don't know. I

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<v Speaker 1>guess this this conversation, and I know that we've been

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<v Speaker 1>having this conversation um for now four years. I just

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<v Speaker 1>I just do still want to make it very clear

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<v Speaker 1>that we're both not experts. But I'm still trying to

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<v Speaker 1>understand and learn my way around the words and identification

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<v Speaker 1>and what we can say we are in regards to nonscience.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. Go ahead, read what you have on

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<v Speaker 1>your list. I'm trying to figure it out, and again

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<v Speaker 1>without being disrespectful either, but I I too still don't understand,

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<v Speaker 1>So explain it to me more. I think you can't

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<v Speaker 1>described initially, Rob when you said you didn't prescribe to

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<v Speaker 1>any gender when I was younger, I'd call that androgyny

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<v Speaker 1>when I felt like I couldn't understand like people I

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<v Speaker 1>was meeting, like I ain't giving me a girl, I

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<v Speaker 1>ain't give me dude, Like what is this? What on this? Like?

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I mean anymore? Because now you have

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<v Speaker 1>gender nonconforming so people can understand, And I think, What's

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<v Speaker 1>it's funny because it's made it more difficult for i'd say, everyone, right,

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<v Speaker 1>including you, making sure that we're being respectful of people's pronouns,

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<v Speaker 1>who they are, what gender they'd like to be referred

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<v Speaker 1>to as, etcetera, if any And for these people that

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<v Speaker 1>fall into this box, it's a lot more comfortable, right

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<v Speaker 1>because Androgynis may not be how you felt you were,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying, like, and so now it's

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<v Speaker 1>like they're more comfortable, they're happy because they're finding their place,

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<v Speaker 1>there's different terms, whatever. But for the rest of everyone

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<v Speaker 1>else is like, well, I don't get it, And I

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<v Speaker 1>think that's what makes it so frustrating. It's super frustrating

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<v Speaker 1>because yeah, I think a lot of people, even when

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<v Speaker 1>I was just corrected, please correct me every time I

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<v Speaker 1>do something wrong, because the same way if someone sucks

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<v Speaker 1>up your name, you want them to know your name

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<v Speaker 1>the right way. Don't just name me whatever you want

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<v Speaker 1>me to, whatever you want to name me. But again, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>it is frustrating for those of us that do want

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<v Speaker 1>to be respectful but still don't have quite the understanding

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<v Speaker 1>of of what it means. Essentially, So you do have

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<v Speaker 1>a list. This is our This is actually just sexual orientation.

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<v Speaker 1>So I thought we could walk through this because when

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<v Speaker 1>I was listening to Inner Uprising, someone on your show

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<v Speaker 1>is demisexual, and I was like, let me look this

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<v Speaker 1>up because I've been saying pant okay, So hetero people

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<v Speaker 1>that are romantically and physically attracted to members of the

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<v Speaker 1>opposite sex, homosexual, which, females that attracted to other females, lesbian,

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<v Speaker 1>and they're talking to the men, gay, bisexual, which don't

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<v Speaker 1>just go over because there's people that may just be

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<v Speaker 1>listening to us for the first time. Make sure you

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<v Speaker 1>read those two. I feel like we all really know

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<v Speaker 1>the rest. I want to dig into a little more.

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<v Speaker 1>Bisexual people that are romantically and physically attracted to members

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<v Speaker 1>of both sexes, which is why pay and sexual is interesting.

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<v Speaker 1>So pan sexual is attracted to people regardless of gender, right,

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<v Speaker 1>So bisexual is strictly male female, when you're putting that

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<v Speaker 1>blanket term over it. A sexual are people who may

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<v Speaker 1>not be interested in sex, but they feel emotionally close

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<v Speaker 1>to other people, i e. Being able to have relationships

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<v Speaker 1>with others. I've mentioned a few friends I've had that

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<v Speaker 1>haven't had sex with partners, but they're like living together. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>now this one I thought was cool. I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>if you've heard of a rob gray a sexuality. If

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<v Speaker 1>you heard of that, not really, So this is the

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<v Speaker 1>spectrum between a sexuality and sexuality individuals who identify with

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<v Speaker 1>gray A sexuality A gray A basically referred to as

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<v Speaker 1>the umbrella of everything else, which is then pan sexuality

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<v Speaker 1>and demosexuality and panoramic demosexuality. Nigga, I know this is

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<v Speaker 1>why it's lgbt Q I A plus. Pan sexuality is

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<v Speaker 1>the sexual attraction regardless of gender, while being uh pano

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<v Speaker 1>romantic is having the ability to feel romantic attraction regardless

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<v Speaker 1>of gender. So pan sexuality I thought was interesting because

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's kind of when people will meet maybe

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<v Speaker 1>actually for men. I've met men that will have sex

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<v Speaker 1>with trans women, but they'll just be like, I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>ready for a relationship with them. So apparently that could

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<v Speaker 1>be a PAN because you're sexually attracted to whoever, but

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<v Speaker 1>romantic I wouldn't use that example though. I know straight

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<v Speaker 1>people who identify as being straight sexually that still have

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<v Speaker 1>sex with trans sexual trans women that they identify a straight,

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<v Speaker 1>and they still identify a straight, So I wouldn't identify

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<v Speaker 1>them as PAN just because they have sex with trans

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<v Speaker 1>women and women fair. I think it's however someone chooses

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<v Speaker 1>to label themselves, but I mean for that. When I

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<v Speaker 1>read pan romantic, I was like, oh, ship, so if

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<v Speaker 1>you like basically, I mean that's like me with with women.

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<v Speaker 1>I will have sex with women, but I wouldn't be

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<v Speaker 1>with one that would be more like bisexual because sexual

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<v Speaker 1>and you have also bi romantic people who can be

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<v Speaker 1>emotionally attracted to the same sex. Right, because I'm by like,

0:13:08.679 --> 0:13:12.040
<v Speaker 1>I pay romantic whatever. Look, I date people, and I

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<v Speaker 1>love people and have sex with people, and I don't

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<v Speaker 1>I don't have any qualms with anybody any gender. I

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<v Speaker 1>fall in love with anybody who I feel like I

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<v Speaker 1>fall in love with. But if you have some you

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<v Speaker 1>have people who date people of the same sex who

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<v Speaker 1>they can have sex with them and have a sexual

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<v Speaker 1>relationship with them. But they don't necessarily feel emotionally connected

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<v Speaker 1>in a romantic way, like they wouldn't date them. They

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<v Speaker 1>don't see a fusion with them. And I guess that's

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<v Speaker 1>why it's like this pan sexuality bisexuality, and then you

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<v Speaker 1>have the viroman Oh so I guess, yeah, that makes sense.

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<v Speaker 1>That's how I would explain it, especially for like, like

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<v Speaker 1>I said, I know men who identify a strait of

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<v Speaker 1>course in the open, but yeah, have experimented or done things.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think even the experimentation, we immediately want to

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<v Speaker 1>put a label onto someone is bisexual or get even

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<v Speaker 1>if they and experimented. So I like this idea that

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<v Speaker 1>people all the girls, if you have sex with a

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<v Speaker 1>bit one time, they're like, now you straight once. For men,

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<v Speaker 1>they'd be like, you know, like I said, I wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to look up because the inner uprising the sexual attraction

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<v Speaker 1>to only people whom with the demisexual person has strong

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<v Speaker 1>emotional tizes. So bitch, I think I'm a Demi Moore

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<v Speaker 1>pain romantic bitch because you know my emo hoo, okay, demisexual.

0:14:29.160 --> 0:14:31.000
<v Speaker 1>I felt like that was like you be crying over niggas,

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<v Speaker 1>and I was like, yeah, it's like you basically like

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<v Speaker 1>the people that you sleep with, Like, but you're not

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<v Speaker 1>that a way because we would just talk about this

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<v Speaker 1>on the patrion, you'll be sucking in bitches the only

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<v Speaker 1>light those are like, they don't count because it's like

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<v Speaker 1>a one night standing. I hate when people be saying, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I thought that person, but it don't count, like you

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<v Speaker 1>hate do that? Hate me bitch, because I like to miscount.

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<v Speaker 1>A lot of people are one. We all starting over,

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<v Speaker 1>So let's break do some icebreggers or rob because I'm

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<v Speaker 1>curious how much of a whole are you? Have you

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<v Speaker 1>ever smashed homies, group of friends, people that you may

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<v Speaker 1>need to avoid. If you entered the party and they

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<v Speaker 1>were all together, yes, really were you proud about it?

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<v Speaker 1>Or were you like, shut the funk up, don't tell anybody. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean I don't care it happened. I mean I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not like, look, I fucked this this check and then

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<v Speaker 1>I sucked her brother, but I didn't know they were related.

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<v Speaker 1>Wait wait, maybe did you go right into us So

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just like, but wait, when did you find out

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<v Speaker 1>they were siblings after I sucked the guy, same mama,

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<v Speaker 1>same daddy. I think one of the parents were the

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<v Speaker 1>same parents, and then I had to choose, and then

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<v Speaker 1>I never chose, and wait, so they were still wanting

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<v Speaker 1>to funk you again even though then we were like romantically,

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<v Speaker 1>I was romantically involved with both of them. You know

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<v Speaker 1>what's cool with robs? Like you're telling me that, Like

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<v Speaker 1>they were like pick one because we're not about to

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<v Speaker 1>both be at the sucking family dinner, like there were

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<v Speaker 1>no family Dinner's ever going to be involved in any

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<v Speaker 1>of those situations. Say that what energy that is? That's

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<v Speaker 1>heavy bisexual energy. Right, wasn't that about to get there? Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>imagine them like actually having family issues Like later, Doneline,

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<v Speaker 1>we're gonna bring it up. You know what I'm saying,

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<v Speaker 1>Like you sup when you first, I'm sure that's happened.

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<v Speaker 1>But oh my goodness, what I fucked brother too, So

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<v Speaker 1>I mean I'm just saying, wait, you never sucked siblings before?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean mine was stepbrothers through marriage. No judgment that

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<v Speaker 1>it doesn't count, thank you. That's what I said. That's

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<v Speaker 1>why you asked, Wait, have I ever I did want

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<v Speaker 1>to twins one time because they both was fine, but no,

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<v Speaker 1>it's only interested they suck each other. Right, Yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>think if you're looking the same room and then it's

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<v Speaker 1>like sexual energy. Like being now because when I when

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<v Speaker 1>I Claremont twins, they'd probably be each other. What maybe

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<v Speaker 1>they eat each other puss. We got mad about the

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<v Speaker 1>Claremont twins. You can't suck me to twin brothers. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I can't because I got a boyfriend. Okay, favorite type

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<v Speaker 1>of porn Hotly, I do not watch porno. Isn't it liberating?

0:17:20.920 --> 0:17:25.679
<v Speaker 1>But I'm watching my own ship now, thoughts, that's like

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<v Speaker 1>auto porn. You see you see how she just did

0:17:28.680 --> 0:17:30.680
<v Speaker 1>like this, But that's how long her videos are. They're

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<v Speaker 1>like jifs. I don't know how should even make them.

0:17:32.600 --> 0:17:34.119
<v Speaker 1>What you mean? Yeah, I got long one. Yeah, but

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<v Speaker 1>when you showed the one the last time, I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>this was a GIF. It was like I showed you

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<v Speaker 1>a clip. Dude, want the whole? I don't. I do not,

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm just saying I said it ap I get

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<v Speaker 1>the lighting right, and I'm like and I always make

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<v Speaker 1>sure like right when I like do my video, I

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<v Speaker 1>give a little both. You know this is directed and

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<v Speaker 1>edited by yours truly, and let's start eating busy now.

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<v Speaker 1>You said not watching porn is liberating. What about it

0:17:59.920 --> 0:18:02.960
<v Speaker 1>is liberating to it, like I'm using the space of

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<v Speaker 1>not watching porn to be more in touch with myself sux,

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<v Speaker 1>because I feel like me concentrating on something else a

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<v Speaker 1>I have to substitute watching somebody else for like my

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<v Speaker 1>own feeling. So I'm that chicken fun I'm that dude

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<v Speaker 1>doing the fucking right like you because you want to

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<v Speaker 1>get into it. I put myself as the director. So

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<v Speaker 1>I watched gay porn. So but I've been watching a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of trans faring lately. I don't know, they're just beautiful.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I've been watching a lot. I think

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<v Speaker 1>I just really like dicks, so I do. I just

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<v Speaker 1>really like fucking dicks, like even trans women. Like when

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<v Speaker 1>I look up t S. I put big dick because

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<v Speaker 1>maybe has some big old dicks. I just like dicks.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't just saying some do something don't because of the hormones.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know what the hormone in. But oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>t s Paris, I love you. Rickaya too pretty on Instagram.

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<v Speaker 1>That's her. She lived in Vegas. Fawn might even subscribe

0:18:57.359 --> 0:18:59.199
<v Speaker 1>to her only fans, but her did go down to

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<v Speaker 1>like her knee bro and she a burst Anyways, when

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<v Speaker 1>I watched, because there's two dicks, I just imagine that

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<v Speaker 1>I'm directing. So I don't imagine that i'm either one

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<v Speaker 1>of the people, but I imagine that I'm telling them

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<v Speaker 1>what to do. That's how I watched. Anybody doesn't know,

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<v Speaker 1>I think I know. So I like to watch, like

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<v Speaker 1>we all know, when I watch cocky cocky, and I

0:19:20.119 --> 0:19:22.720
<v Speaker 1>always think about getting come on, oh you so you

0:19:22.760 --> 0:19:24.919
<v Speaker 1>imagine yourself being the girl, and the second I'm done,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll be like, so disrespectful. It's the so I like

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<v Speaker 1>what she said, so I like how you're taking the liberation.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh sorry, it's they they I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry. Okay, okay, alright,

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<v Speaker 1>um it's the Pink Watch and the pink bands. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, they they're gonna stop doing that ship with babies.

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<v Speaker 1>That's why they don't even do the pink and blue. Bro.

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<v Speaker 1>I'n be honest with you. I do think babies have

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<v Speaker 1>like baby parties, and babies should have made me do

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<v Speaker 1>that with pink and blue. Yeah. Absolutely. When I go

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<v Speaker 1>shopping and someone will show me something pink, I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to you you say it all the time,

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's the girly color blue is more. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>um that some baby shit. We're fucked up, dude, I know.

0:20:07.920 --> 0:20:10.840
<v Speaker 1>I mean society made us a swell okay, all right,

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<v Speaker 1>So it makes you more liberated because now you don't

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<v Speaker 1>have to imagine yourself in any scenario, in any part

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<v Speaker 1>of So what do you think about when you're feeling

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<v Speaker 1>about Sometimes I think about No, I stopped thinking about

0:20:26.760 --> 0:20:28.960
<v Speaker 1>that too because I fucking hate most of the people

0:20:28.960 --> 0:20:30.640
<v Speaker 1>that I've slept with it now, So I don't really

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<v Speaker 1>want to think about giving my energy and ship, especially

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<v Speaker 1>because my brain will like go to the parts of

0:20:36.160 --> 0:20:38.840
<v Speaker 1>the relationship that like our arguments and ship like that

0:20:39.760 --> 0:20:43.320
<v Speaker 1>motherfucker's So I'll think about like a fantasy. And my

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<v Speaker 1>fantasy is I come home for a long day at work.

0:20:46.600 --> 0:20:49.040
<v Speaker 1>Could my job be stuck in sometimes? Right? And I stink?

0:20:49.240 --> 0:20:50.760
<v Speaker 1>I always think when I come up from work. So

0:20:50.760 --> 0:20:54.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I'm so tired, I go to the house firefighter.

0:20:54.119 --> 0:20:57.400
<v Speaker 1>Let's just add yeah, not that just be stinking and ship.

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<v Speaker 1>I just be like in sewers and ship. Now, I

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<v Speaker 1>just think because I work, and um, so you know,

0:21:02.320 --> 0:21:04.399
<v Speaker 1>my partner opens up the door, right, and they're like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh my god, you're home. You know what, I'm gonna

0:21:06.119 --> 0:21:08.240
<v Speaker 1>run the shower for you. So they run the shower

0:21:08.280 --> 0:21:10.199
<v Speaker 1>for me, right, And I'm so fucking tired sometimes I

0:21:10.200 --> 0:21:12.040
<v Speaker 1>am this tired where I just I just stare at

0:21:12.040 --> 0:21:13.480
<v Speaker 1>the shower and I'm like, funk, I gotta get in

0:21:13.520 --> 0:21:15.680
<v Speaker 1>this ship. So they like get me in the shot

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<v Speaker 1>and they wash me right, and I'm like, wow, I

0:21:18.080 --> 0:21:21.360
<v Speaker 1>don't gotta do anything. Right. They washed me, they drive

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<v Speaker 1>me off, and then they fucking lotioned me because you know,

0:21:23.840 --> 0:21:25.760
<v Speaker 1>I'm black. I'm not trying to be ashy in this bit.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, they lotioned the hole but even get between

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<v Speaker 1>the toes, mad love, right, And then they dragged me

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<v Speaker 1>to the bed. When I dragged me and up, but

0:21:32.920 --> 0:21:35.480
<v Speaker 1>they walked me to the bed. And then they just start,

0:21:35.600 --> 0:21:37.760
<v Speaker 1>you know, just taking care of me, you know, kissing

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<v Speaker 1>me and you know, get eating the coochie and just

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<v Speaker 1>taking care of me. Before I even get to penetration,

0:21:44.280 --> 0:21:49.040
<v Speaker 1>I'm already done because it's just that nice to just like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I can imagine these these wonderful you're a little Damni

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<v Speaker 1>Moore and YouTube Oh absolutely, like I mean, I mean,

0:21:55.840 --> 0:21:57.639
<v Speaker 1>people I don't like because I also like to like

0:21:57.720 --> 0:22:01.360
<v Speaker 1>the people someone else my show that way, Like I

0:22:01.440 --> 0:22:03.720
<v Speaker 1>used to not like the niggas. I was poking like

0:22:04.400 --> 0:22:07.879
<v Speaker 1>it's not but they dick was good. Like it was

0:22:07.920 --> 0:22:10.840
<v Speaker 1>just like but it was people that literally we had

0:22:10.920 --> 0:22:13.760
<v Speaker 1>And that's the thing. Sexual chemistry is something that to

0:22:13.840 --> 0:22:15.879
<v Speaker 1>me is hard to come by. So there would be

0:22:15.920 --> 0:22:18.760
<v Speaker 1>people that we would eat each other up and have

0:22:18.960 --> 0:22:21.040
<v Speaker 1>such good chemistry in the bedroom. And as soon as

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<v Speaker 1>we were done what I don't want to hear you

0:22:24.880 --> 0:22:34.840
<v Speaker 1>talk like we just alright, alright, guys, So I am

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<v Speaker 1>informational educational background on an either activists or just member

0:22:56.400 --> 0:22:59.639
<v Speaker 1>of the community who has made strides in the sex

0:22:59.680 --> 0:23:04.440
<v Speaker 1>revel Lucian or the LGI And Mandy was like, no, bit,

0:23:04.680 --> 0:23:06.720
<v Speaker 1>we are not doing Lori Harvey. No. She was like,

0:23:06.760 --> 0:23:10.400
<v Speaker 1>but it was her birthday, No, bro, Like, I mean

0:23:10.680 --> 0:23:14.480
<v Speaker 1>to me that she's beautiful of course she's being talked about,

0:23:14.720 --> 0:23:18.320
<v Speaker 1>but to me, nothing she's doing is excellence and she

0:23:18.400 --> 0:23:21.200
<v Speaker 1>don't talk. I mean, I think it's all like chalked

0:23:21.280 --> 0:23:23.119
<v Speaker 1>up to how you mix a match up, right, like

0:23:23.119 --> 0:23:25.520
<v Speaker 1>we I think Black China is someone that definitely along

0:23:25.520 --> 0:23:27.959
<v Speaker 1>the line we should talk about her strides, right Like,

0:23:28.040 --> 0:23:32.040
<v Speaker 1>for one, we haven't seen like a stripper or someone

0:23:32.119 --> 0:23:35.240
<v Speaker 1>ne No, I don't think she's doing ship that Black

0:23:35.320 --> 0:23:38.560
<v Speaker 1>China is doing, do you I do? I mean whatever,

0:23:38.600 --> 0:23:40.560
<v Speaker 1>we can go through their accolades, but I mean just

0:23:40.600 --> 0:23:43.080
<v Speaker 1>saying like, I don't think we've seen somebody and Black

0:23:43.119 --> 0:23:45.760
<v Speaker 1>China like Amber Roses mixed. She's light skin like Black

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<v Speaker 1>China and came to funk up. I don't like that either,

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<v Speaker 1>because we sit here on identify as black woman. So

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<v Speaker 1>that just there's a lot of way because she's light skin.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know you could black China's recent picture. We

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<v Speaker 1>know from China light skins too. You've seen in recent pictures.

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<v Speaker 1>Shout out to a guy like talking about Rebel, who

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<v Speaker 1>is one of our patrons who came up with this name,

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<v Speaker 1>such a fire name for a segment. Yeah, so black

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<v Speaker 1>Excellence for this week, we want to pay homage to

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<v Speaker 1>A Bayard Rustin. He was born in nineteen twelve died

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<v Speaker 1>in nineteen eighties seven. Rustin was an LGBTQ and civil

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<v Speaker 1>rights activists, best known for being a key advisor to

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<v Speaker 1>Reverend Martin Luther King, Jr. And y'all know, shout out

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<v Speaker 1>we in January baby, that's who birthday eight is this

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<v Speaker 1>weekend anyway. He organized the nineteen sixty three March on

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<v Speaker 1>Washington and was awarded the Presidential Medal of Freedom, the

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<v Speaker 1>nation's highest civilian honor, in two thousand thirteen, for his

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<v Speaker 1>activism in Governor Gavin Newsome pardon rust Rustin for his

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<v Speaker 1>arrest in nineteen fifty three, when he was found having

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<v Speaker 1>sex with two men in a parked car in Pasadena.

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<v Speaker 1>Rustin served fifty days in l A County jail and

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<v Speaker 1>had to register the sex offender. Jesus right for just

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<v Speaker 1>having sex with two people. Ship we all do that,

0:25:07.160 --> 0:25:09.240
<v Speaker 1>don't we? Which I'm offensive, you know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 1>And pardoning Rustin, Newsome noted how LGBTQ people were unjustly

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<v Speaker 1>punished for their sexuality by US law enforcement at the

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<v Speaker 1>time of Rustin's arrest. Imagine some time you put a

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<v Speaker 1>pussy in your mouth. You knew you were breaking off insane.

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<v Speaker 1>That's insane. You would have had life senses of jail.

0:25:30.640 --> 0:25:32.720
<v Speaker 1>It's like cheating. You know how people like cheating for

0:25:32.800 --> 0:25:38.159
<v Speaker 1>like getting caught. It's there. Wait, they don't know, but no,

0:25:38.640 --> 0:25:40.959
<v Speaker 1>they don't want to get caught. They just know as

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<v Speaker 1>a possibility. Niggas who cheat don't want to get caught.

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<v Speaker 1>To be honest with you, I think there is something

0:25:45.840 --> 0:25:48.159
<v Speaker 1>hot about knowing you can get caught, because knowing that

0:25:48.200 --> 0:25:49.680
<v Speaker 1>you can get caught, but they don't want to get

0:25:49.800 --> 0:25:52.320
<v Speaker 1>But cheating sex can be hotter, like when you're singleing

0:25:52.359 --> 0:25:55.160
<v Speaker 1>you're fucking around. I'm sorry, I just really believe that,

0:25:55.480 --> 0:25:57.200
<v Speaker 1>feeling like you gotta get caught. I think nigga's like

0:25:57.280 --> 0:25:59.440
<v Speaker 1>this ship. I really do, because I just don't see

0:25:59.440 --> 0:26:02.439
<v Speaker 1>why you do it. Like I was talking to a

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<v Speaker 1>homegirl of mine who might be one of the most

0:26:04.840 --> 0:26:07.080
<v Speaker 1>beautiful people. I don't know. I don't know her that well.

0:26:07.160 --> 0:26:08.800
<v Speaker 1>I just know her from like on some Miami ship.

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<v Speaker 1>She's bad as ship, and she just found out her

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<v Speaker 1>man with cheating on her. And I'm not saying that women,

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<v Speaker 1>Yes I am, they weren't as hot as her, and

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, damn dog, just like random ship. He

0:26:18.600 --> 0:26:20.399
<v Speaker 1>just be fucking bitches. He met at the store like

0:26:20.440 --> 0:26:22.560
<v Speaker 1>she found all the ships in the computer, not even

0:26:22.600 --> 0:26:24.480
<v Speaker 1>like some you know. I was out, I met someone,

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<v Speaker 1>we had a connection. He just has the fuck and

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<v Speaker 1>I was like this nigga must really want to get caught.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't see like he must want you to catch them, bitch.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm really also thinking about if it matters at all

0:26:36.680 --> 0:26:38.840
<v Speaker 1>if I think the person looks better or not better

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<v Speaker 1>than me. Not a bitch, you're telling me if you're

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<v Speaker 1>a man cheating on you would ugly, bitch, Mandy, you

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<v Speaker 1>wouldn't be bad because I'd be mad and be like

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<v Speaker 1>you did me like that. Well, we all know that

0:26:50.840 --> 0:26:53.880
<v Speaker 1>everyone has different views of beauty. Okay, Well I'm saying

0:26:53.880 --> 0:26:56.720
<v Speaker 1>if you and me, you better know this is my standard. Naked,

0:26:56.960 --> 0:26:59.679
<v Speaker 1>don't be as trash you're you're how you look at

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<v Speaker 1>this thing, ander the beauty like people, I'm allowed to

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<v Speaker 1>judge my own person stand beauty and everyone like, just

0:27:07.280 --> 0:27:08.800
<v Speaker 1>like you're allowed to judge your man when he do

0:27:08.880 --> 0:27:12.240
<v Speaker 1>dumb ship. I'm allowed my man don't do nothing though, Okay,

0:27:12.440 --> 0:27:15.160
<v Speaker 1>well perfect, sorry man, he got the perfect You can't

0:27:15.160 --> 0:27:21.880
<v Speaker 1>relate rob you ever dated beauty like he's not doing.

0:27:22.000 --> 0:27:24.639
<v Speaker 1>I think this also has to do with ship like, um,

0:27:24.800 --> 0:27:30.320
<v Speaker 1>you know when people say like you dated down after somebody, right,

0:27:30.359 --> 0:27:32.919
<v Speaker 1>Like it could either attribute a job or monetary like

0:27:32.920 --> 0:27:34.560
<v Speaker 1>like look how people treated We just talked about Amber

0:27:34.560 --> 0:27:36.359
<v Speaker 1>when she dated with Cleveland. They were like, well, he

0:27:36.400 --> 0:27:38.920
<v Speaker 1>ain't this or he ain't that, Like he is everything

0:27:38.960 --> 0:27:40.680
<v Speaker 1>to me, honey. So I don't know who was saying

0:27:41.040 --> 0:27:44.440
<v Speaker 1>he's a popping like rapper, he's attractive, Like how did

0:27:44.480 --> 0:27:50.240
<v Speaker 1>she like date? Like what are you wanting to about? Drink?

0:27:50.880 --> 0:27:57.720
<v Speaker 1>I'm just saying, like, I don't know, but see into me.

0:27:58.280 --> 0:28:00.679
<v Speaker 1>I would like a whiz over a jury and I

0:28:00.720 --> 0:28:02.520
<v Speaker 1>heard that he got a third live bit. I would

0:28:02.520 --> 0:28:05.439
<v Speaker 1>like a wizard Drake. But that's what I'm saying. So

0:28:05.560 --> 0:28:08.080
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. So I mean as far as level

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<v Speaker 1>of Kanye, you got Drake, jay Z, Kanye Kanye cute

0:28:12.440 --> 0:28:15.800
<v Speaker 1>to me, not cute. I'm just talking about status, right, Yeah,

0:28:15.920 --> 0:28:18.879
<v Speaker 1>would you agree with that? Who's up there with Like, wait,

0:28:19.119 --> 0:28:23.000
<v Speaker 1>is that the order Drake? It's just just like the group,

0:28:23.080 --> 0:28:27.080
<v Speaker 1>but they all copion. I think it's jay Z then Kanye,

0:28:27.160 --> 0:28:30.400
<v Speaker 1>then Drake Okay, okay, Kanye. I was very concerned about

0:28:30.440 --> 0:28:34.320
<v Speaker 1>the order before whatever we're supposed to do you want

0:28:34.320 --> 0:28:36.800
<v Speaker 1>me to like get as good as I had, Like, wiz,

0:28:36.840 --> 0:28:41.600
<v Speaker 1>ain't it? Like? Who can I after Kanye ship? Maybe

0:28:41.720 --> 0:28:46.040
<v Speaker 1>nas I ain't gonna here when I heard about that one,

0:28:46.040 --> 0:28:51.320
<v Speaker 1>but let's go. Yeah yeah, keep going. So we wanted

0:28:51.360 --> 0:28:59.840
<v Speaker 1>to get into ship awkward all right, Today's horrible just

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<v Speaker 1>vision for this week is love a A Love addicts Anonymous.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if we've ever discussed this, but it

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<v Speaker 1>was interesting to me when I was talking to in

0:29:09.800 --> 0:29:12.560
<v Speaker 1>the Uprising on their Instagram about like what to talk

0:29:12.600 --> 0:29:15.520
<v Speaker 1>to Rob about today, because I had actually looked into

0:29:15.560 --> 0:29:18.480
<v Speaker 1>this before when I broke up with lover Boy, which

0:29:18.520 --> 0:29:22.600
<v Speaker 1>was what two years ago on this podcast, I was like, dude,

0:29:22.600 --> 0:29:24.240
<v Speaker 1>I gotta meet somebody else. I gotta meet somebody else.

0:29:24.240 --> 0:29:25.840
<v Speaker 1>I was like swiping like crazy, like I was getting

0:29:25.840 --> 0:29:30.240
<v Speaker 1>carpetson from swiping boat, and I really felt like I

0:29:30.240 --> 0:29:32.600
<v Speaker 1>couldn't just fuck because it wouldn't make me feel good enough,

0:29:32.640 --> 0:29:34.400
<v Speaker 1>Like I have to feel like someone likes me. I

0:29:34.440 --> 0:29:36.600
<v Speaker 1>need to feel loved, Like why do I want that feeling? Again.

0:29:36.640 --> 0:29:40.880
<v Speaker 1>I kept chasing that feeling and started looking into a

0:29:40.920 --> 0:29:44.760
<v Speaker 1>love addict, like meeting and Ship in New York. They

0:29:44.800 --> 0:29:48.160
<v Speaker 1>were I honestly, I knew I went too far. I

0:29:48.200 --> 0:29:49.400
<v Speaker 1>was like, let me just go to a A and

0:29:49.440 --> 0:29:53.480
<v Speaker 1>like just blending, huh, this is a this is in

0:29:53.520 --> 0:29:57.200
<v Speaker 1>New York, this is lover's addict, love addic what what?

0:29:57.200 --> 0:29:59.800
<v Speaker 1>What do you? What's the acrono? Love addicts anonymous and

0:29:59.840 --> 0:30:07.160
<v Speaker 1>I l A. Yeah, you can look up. You could

0:30:07.160 --> 0:30:11.240
<v Speaker 1>look up love addiction, my bad love addiction. It's not anonymous.

0:30:11.320 --> 0:30:15.160
<v Speaker 1>I haven't you have to take because some of these

0:30:15.240 --> 0:30:20.480
<v Speaker 1>questions to me are so regular. For example, some of

0:30:20.520 --> 0:30:23.280
<v Speaker 1>the questions were, was there ever a point that you

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<v Speaker 1>wish you could stop or control your sexual or romantic

0:30:25.920 --> 0:30:28.880
<v Speaker 1>activities for a given period of time? Who the fund

0:30:28.920 --> 0:30:31.360
<v Speaker 1>hasn't felt like that, Like, you know, you gotta stop

0:30:31.360 --> 0:30:33.000
<v Speaker 1>being a whole at some point. Everybody think about that.

0:30:33.240 --> 0:30:35.560
<v Speaker 1>By the way, real quick, y'all. If you're interested in

0:30:35.600 --> 0:30:39.880
<v Speaker 1>looking up it's s l A A sex and love

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<v Speaker 1>addicts anonymous. Want to be grouped in with them? Niggat,

0:30:44.120 --> 0:30:52.440
<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, I have feeling in my exactly that's

0:30:52.440 --> 0:30:57.239
<v Speaker 1>why you're you're grouped in with the sex um. Do

0:30:57.280 --> 0:30:59.960
<v Speaker 1>you feel desperate about your need for sexual attraction or

0:31:00.400 --> 0:31:03.360
<v Speaker 1>future mate? Do you believe that someone can fix you?

0:31:03.640 --> 0:31:06.160
<v Speaker 1>Have you ever felt that you were obligated or needed

0:31:06.200 --> 0:31:08.360
<v Speaker 1>to have sex to feel better? Do you get high

0:31:08.440 --> 0:31:11.120
<v Speaker 1>from sex? And do you crash? That actually is a

0:31:11.160 --> 0:31:13.680
<v Speaker 1>really good one, I thought, because I've met someone who

0:31:13.720 --> 0:31:17.920
<v Speaker 1>was like that, where she told me like, immediately after

0:31:18.000 --> 0:31:20.320
<v Speaker 1>sex she felt bad about herself, but she needed to

0:31:20.360 --> 0:31:25.920
<v Speaker 1>get there to feel good. It sounds like drugs. Um,

0:31:26.200 --> 0:31:30.240
<v Speaker 1>let me see this one. Have you it's not funny.

0:31:30.400 --> 0:31:32.640
<v Speaker 1>Have you had or do you have sex with someone

0:31:33.360 --> 0:31:39.400
<v Speaker 1>who you don't know? Yes? Okay, but what is knowing someone?

0:31:39.440 --> 0:31:42.000
<v Speaker 1>That's what I was thinking. What is knowing? Because if

0:31:42.080 --> 0:31:48.000
<v Speaker 1>we say hi, I'll be like Rob cool one of

0:31:48.120 --> 0:31:52.120
<v Speaker 1>five glancing. No. Seriously, Like, what what does it mean

0:31:52.160 --> 0:31:54.880
<v Speaker 1>to know someone? I guess what it means to not know?

0:31:55.040 --> 0:31:56.680
<v Speaker 1>Could be I met you at the club and I'm

0:31:56.680 --> 0:31:59.719
<v Speaker 1>having sex with you at the club. Just you just

0:32:00.040 --> 0:32:03.520
<v Speaker 1>need to leave. That happened, I mean not to me,

0:32:03.760 --> 0:32:07.120
<v Speaker 1>but it happened not even at the sex club. The

0:32:07.320 --> 0:32:10.680
<v Speaker 1>club you like. It's It's quite possible to meet somebody

0:32:10.680 --> 0:32:13.240
<v Speaker 1>having attraction. I'm gonna have sex with you right there, right,

0:32:13.680 --> 0:32:15.520
<v Speaker 1>that's some makes you don't know. You gotta talk to

0:32:15.880 --> 0:32:18.480
<v Speaker 1>where a New York Hub party. I mean, I said,

0:32:18.920 --> 0:32:22.160
<v Speaker 1>I don't choose that, but it is done. It's done.

0:32:22.320 --> 0:32:25.240
<v Speaker 1>It is. I did eat some pussy after dream in

0:32:25.280 --> 0:32:29.240
<v Speaker 1>Miami one time, but it was at the dinner. We

0:32:29.440 --> 0:32:31.040
<v Speaker 1>left the clube, We went to the dinner and I

0:32:31.200 --> 0:32:34.840
<v Speaker 1>ate a pussy at the dinner where in Miami where

0:32:35.320 --> 0:32:37.920
<v Speaker 1>he and the bathroom? You know her we met. We

0:32:37.920 --> 0:32:40.520
<v Speaker 1>was at the same table to night. That's not knowing

0:32:40.600 --> 0:32:45.840
<v Speaker 1>somebody you were wondering. That's how you don't know her.

0:32:46.320 --> 0:32:48.960
<v Speaker 1>Let's go back, ques, I said, they take it way

0:32:49.000 --> 0:32:50.840
<v Speaker 1>too long in these corny pass Let me go eat

0:32:50.880 --> 0:32:56.280
<v Speaker 1>some pussy when she was killing? What marked this ship

0:32:56.280 --> 0:32:59.920
<v Speaker 1>for the clip? Monigger? No? No, what is the problems?

0:33:00.200 --> 0:33:04.360
<v Speaker 1>You can put it in there? Okay? Does this sexual

0:33:04.520 --> 0:33:08.880
<v Speaker 1>and romantic behavior affect your reputation? Well, hello, welcome to

0:33:08.960 --> 0:33:12.320
<v Speaker 1>the YouTube and the audio. Yes it does. Now we're

0:33:12.320 --> 0:33:15.320
<v Speaker 1>making money on the ship. I mean, isn't really that bad,

0:33:16.680 --> 0:33:19.880
<v Speaker 1>not really alive unless you're in a romantic relationship. This

0:33:19.920 --> 0:33:21.640
<v Speaker 1>one I thought was really good and when it got

0:33:21.640 --> 0:33:24.280
<v Speaker 1>to the juice because a lot of us don't feel

0:33:24.320 --> 0:33:25.959
<v Speaker 1>good unless we're with someone. It took me a long

0:33:26.040 --> 0:33:28.040
<v Speaker 1>time to be good alone. You know, I didn't really

0:33:28.120 --> 0:33:32.760
<v Speaker 1>understand how to feel like. I don't want to use

0:33:32.760 --> 0:33:35.080
<v Speaker 1>the word worthy, because I've always felt good about myself,

0:33:35.080 --> 0:33:37.320
<v Speaker 1>but something always felt like it was missing if I

0:33:37.360 --> 0:33:39.400
<v Speaker 1>was alone. And to get to that point where you

0:33:39.400 --> 0:33:42.360
<v Speaker 1>can be alone, like it takes a lot of fucking

0:33:42.400 --> 0:33:45.840
<v Speaker 1>self searching, I think, like discovery, just like being able

0:33:45.880 --> 0:33:50.760
<v Speaker 1>to take feedback and like criticisms and be like okay, no,

0:33:50.960 --> 0:33:54.080
<v Speaker 1>like I see what's wrong. Like it took it took

0:33:54.080 --> 0:33:56.040
<v Speaker 1>me a while, I'd say years to get to that point.

0:33:56.120 --> 0:33:57.360
<v Speaker 1>And when I moved to New York, it started to

0:33:57.360 --> 0:33:59.440
<v Speaker 1>happen after that breakup and I was like, Okay, fun

0:33:59.480 --> 0:34:01.720
<v Speaker 1>makes getting money, I actually feel this way. And that

0:34:01.840 --> 0:34:04.400
<v Speaker 1>was you know, for the last decade. But I would

0:34:04.440 --> 0:34:07.480
<v Speaker 1>say it, but I didn't necessarily know if I get

0:34:07.520 --> 0:34:13.080
<v Speaker 1>money from them, that's a mood you you feel in

0:34:13.080 --> 0:34:17.520
<v Speaker 1>that order that then I get the money. What is

0:34:17.800 --> 0:34:20.960
<v Speaker 1>what you discussed on Inner Uprising about what, like you know,

0:34:20.960 --> 0:34:24.640
<v Speaker 1>knowing biology and something to do getting into science. I'm

0:34:24.680 --> 0:34:30.120
<v Speaker 1>gonna check out here, it's not that big. So um,

0:34:30.160 --> 0:34:34.520
<v Speaker 1>so we we did a whole episode called love Addiction.

0:34:34.560 --> 0:34:36.359
<v Speaker 1>I don't know the whole episode name, but I'll give

0:34:36.360 --> 0:34:37.480
<v Speaker 1>it to you so you put in the show notes.

0:34:37.760 --> 0:34:41.600
<v Speaker 1>But it was basically about love addiction, the parallels between

0:34:41.640 --> 0:34:46.359
<v Speaker 1>love addiction, sex addiction, and drug addiction, substance abuse, and

0:34:46.600 --> 0:34:49.399
<v Speaker 1>how does that like, what does it look like? Right? Um?

0:34:49.880 --> 0:34:54.600
<v Speaker 1>The most important factor in addiction is to know that

0:34:54.640 --> 0:34:58.120
<v Speaker 1>it's something that affects your life, like, truly affects your life,

0:34:58.120 --> 0:35:00.320
<v Speaker 1>not like just something that kind of you carry around

0:35:00.320 --> 0:35:02.880
<v Speaker 1>like a burden, but something that affects your ability to

0:35:03.000 --> 0:35:05.799
<v Speaker 1>like really function at the highest potential that you were

0:35:05.800 --> 0:35:09.160
<v Speaker 1>functioning prior that you can possibly function like. It takes

0:35:09.160 --> 0:35:11.759
<v Speaker 1>a toll on your social aspects, your physical aspects, your

0:35:11.760 --> 0:35:15.680
<v Speaker 1>mental aspects, spiritual aspects. Like it's if to say that,

0:35:16.040 --> 0:35:19.120
<v Speaker 1>let's say addiction, even if it's not a substance addiction,

0:35:19.120 --> 0:35:23.040
<v Speaker 1>addiction is addiction, right, So if you're addicted to cocaine

0:35:23.400 --> 0:35:25.920
<v Speaker 1>and you're addicted to sex, they don't. It's not like

0:35:25.960 --> 0:35:28.680
<v Speaker 1>one addictions like bigger than the other. One is smaller

0:35:28.680 --> 0:35:32.080
<v Speaker 1>than the other. Like addiction addiction, anything that really hinders

0:35:32.120 --> 0:35:34.800
<v Speaker 1>you and holds you back in that way. But with addiction,

0:35:34.880 --> 0:35:37.680
<v Speaker 1>you know, it's a reward system. You have that reinforcement.

0:35:37.920 --> 0:35:40.400
<v Speaker 1>So if I do this thing and I feel good,

0:35:40.920 --> 0:35:43.719
<v Speaker 1>If I do this thing again, I'll feel good. And

0:35:43.800 --> 0:35:46.480
<v Speaker 1>you keep doing that until you kind of build those

0:35:46.520 --> 0:35:48.680
<v Speaker 1>connections in your brain, because you know your brain is

0:35:48.680 --> 0:35:52.160
<v Speaker 1>always forming connections, right, and you build those connections that

0:35:52.280 --> 0:35:54.520
<v Speaker 1>become kind of like permanent. So the only way you

0:35:54.560 --> 0:35:57.040
<v Speaker 1>can feel that feelings if you do that thing. So

0:35:57.080 --> 0:35:59.200
<v Speaker 1>the only way I can feel good about myself if

0:35:59.200 --> 0:36:01.360
<v Speaker 1>I if I do that thing, which is have sex

0:36:01.640 --> 0:36:04.160
<v Speaker 1>or start a relationship or just start entertaining some fucking

0:36:04.160 --> 0:36:08.320
<v Speaker 1>piece of ship, like you know, something that involves another person.

0:36:08.480 --> 0:36:10.719
<v Speaker 1>It doesn't necessarily just involve you. I'm gonna be real.

0:36:10.760 --> 0:36:12.280
<v Speaker 1>I'm not trying to be funny. I might be addicted

0:36:12.320 --> 0:36:20.919
<v Speaker 1>to the club dog. And that's why you went Willie's. Dude.

0:36:20.920 --> 0:36:22.840
<v Speaker 1>I moved to him when it was still like it

0:36:22.880 --> 0:36:25.359
<v Speaker 1>was just beach and chilling, like remember she wasn't open

0:36:25.480 --> 0:36:28.279
<v Speaker 1>till the summer when I left. But like, no, when

0:36:28.320 --> 0:36:30.319
<v Speaker 1>I am at my lowest lows, like and I'm just

0:36:30.360 --> 0:36:32.000
<v Speaker 1>thinking of like when the world was open, I'm like,

0:36:32.080 --> 0:36:33.440
<v Speaker 1>I gotta go have a drink. I gotta And it

0:36:33.440 --> 0:36:35.800
<v Speaker 1>wouldn't always be like getting wasted. I just needed to

0:36:35.840 --> 0:36:38.239
<v Speaker 1>be around people like I needed to be around people.

0:36:38.239 --> 0:36:40.040
<v Speaker 1>I needed to have that vibe and not the club

0:36:40.080 --> 0:36:42.279
<v Speaker 1>per se. When I say club, I'm actually far as

0:36:42.280 --> 0:36:44.160
<v Speaker 1>far as and ship I had to do that, I'd

0:36:44.200 --> 0:36:46.520
<v Speaker 1>be like, I'll be all right. And I remember thinking

0:36:46.560 --> 0:36:49.520
<v Speaker 1>like I had a really bad argument and I was like,

0:36:49.520 --> 0:36:51.359
<v Speaker 1>oh my god, I'm gonna be single after to the bar,

0:36:51.600 --> 0:36:53.719
<v Speaker 1>Like what am I gonna do without the bar? Like

0:36:53.840 --> 0:36:56.080
<v Speaker 1>I was really bugging the funk out, dude, And I

0:36:56.120 --> 0:36:58.000
<v Speaker 1>was like, why are you like living in the middle

0:36:58.040 --> 0:37:01.280
<v Speaker 1>of all the bars? Like the part I love being

0:37:01.360 --> 0:37:05.480
<v Speaker 1>around people, like I love seeing people. That's why I

0:37:05.520 --> 0:37:08.359
<v Speaker 1>love New York so much. I love getting energy from people,

0:37:08.400 --> 0:37:11.040
<v Speaker 1>getting inspired by people like That's why I love podcasting,

0:37:11.120 --> 0:37:12.920
<v Speaker 1>you know, like, no matter who would be with you,

0:37:12.960 --> 0:37:14.640
<v Speaker 1>and if it's a guest, like I love sucking that

0:37:14.719 --> 0:37:17.760
<v Speaker 1>up because it's exciting for me, like the social interactions

0:37:17.760 --> 0:37:20.480
<v Speaker 1>and I think it's that only child shit help me

0:37:20.520 --> 0:37:24.839
<v Speaker 1>look at my brain. I mean, I need my alone time.

0:37:24.880 --> 0:37:28.359
<v Speaker 1>That's why even with my nigga now like moving in

0:37:28.400 --> 0:37:31.719
<v Speaker 1>will never be a conversation. I am so content with

0:37:31.800 --> 0:37:36.000
<v Speaker 1>having like my space now, like my own space. No roommate, no,

0:37:36.000 --> 0:37:39.919
<v Speaker 1>none of that, like never ever, ever, ever, ever ever ever. Um,

0:37:39.960 --> 0:37:44.520
<v Speaker 1>it's crazy because I'm hearing like how you're defining addiction,

0:37:45.120 --> 0:37:48.440
<v Speaker 1>and I mean, I will say I feel like maybe

0:37:48.640 --> 0:37:51.600
<v Speaker 1>at some point sex was an addiction, because I think

0:37:51.600 --> 0:37:54.320
<v Speaker 1>that that's when sometimes I'll be like I'm miserable or

0:37:54.360 --> 0:37:56.399
<v Speaker 1>I'm cranky, and even my mama was like, you need

0:37:56.400 --> 0:37:59.520
<v Speaker 1>some dick, like it gets to that. But but rob,

0:37:59.560 --> 0:38:01.600
<v Speaker 1>I feel like we all know we need to get fucked.

0:38:01.600 --> 0:38:05.400
<v Speaker 1>But that's not addiction affect your mood. I mean, then

0:38:07.080 --> 0:38:10.800
<v Speaker 1>you would have to look further into it, right, because

0:38:10.880 --> 0:38:13.880
<v Speaker 1>it might not necessarily just be like the sex, Like

0:38:13.920 --> 0:38:16.040
<v Speaker 1>you might just really have wanted to be like with

0:38:16.120 --> 0:38:18.520
<v Speaker 1>the person, right, But one way to be with the person,

0:38:18.960 --> 0:38:21.799
<v Speaker 1>especially somebody who it's like I don't really have any

0:38:21.800 --> 0:38:23.080
<v Speaker 1>other way to pull them into my house, but to

0:38:23.120 --> 0:38:25.960
<v Speaker 1>say you want to fuck, right, I can't just be like, hey,

0:38:26.000 --> 0:38:27.160
<v Speaker 1>you want to come up and talk they're and be

0:38:27.160 --> 0:38:29.000
<v Speaker 1>like no, not really okay, but you want to have sense?

0:38:29.040 --> 0:38:33.680
<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, this masturbation too, right. I believe it is because,

0:38:33.680 --> 0:38:35.919
<v Speaker 1>like when I was watching a True Life on MTV,

0:38:36.000 --> 0:38:37.560
<v Speaker 1>which by the way, I think that's hands down on

0:38:37.719 --> 0:38:40.279
<v Speaker 1>MTV's best shows they've ever done, and I'm like, don't

0:38:40.280 --> 0:38:42.320
<v Speaker 1>want people shooting up. I was like, just a fucking

0:38:42.320 --> 0:38:45.799
<v Speaker 1>America that she was so good. Anyway, they had a

0:38:45.840 --> 0:38:48.680
<v Speaker 1>man who was like, I had to change my password

0:38:48.680 --> 0:38:51.319
<v Speaker 1>to my computer to my son's name, so or something

0:38:51.360 --> 0:38:53.719
<v Speaker 1>like that. He said, so I wouldn't look at porn.

0:38:53.800 --> 0:38:55.640
<v Speaker 1>He was like, I don't even know his name. I

0:38:55.680 --> 0:38:57.360
<v Speaker 1>don't even think about it anymore. It's like my fingers

0:38:57.360 --> 0:38:59.839
<v Speaker 1>just go. Like he tried everything to stop himself from

0:38:59.840 --> 0:39:02.560
<v Speaker 1>going porn sites because of its sex addiction. So I

0:39:02.600 --> 0:39:05.920
<v Speaker 1>think maybe sex edition is like, yeah, maybe it may

0:39:05.960 --> 0:39:09.040
<v Speaker 1>be all encompassed porn. I mean it's it's sex. Masturbation

0:39:09.040 --> 0:39:12.000
<v Speaker 1>is still sex and pornography. I mean that's more of

0:39:12.040 --> 0:39:14.640
<v Speaker 1>black a material kind of thing. But if you're doing

0:39:14.640 --> 0:39:17.480
<v Speaker 1>it in they masturbating like you dick, this mashmating and porn.

0:39:17.640 --> 0:39:22.240
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. Expert episode about love, but what about that?

0:39:23.080 --> 0:39:25.080
<v Speaker 1>You know? But it's but as far as love goes,

0:39:25.200 --> 0:39:28.200
<v Speaker 1>when dating with a love addiction, do you think that

0:39:28.280 --> 0:39:30.440
<v Speaker 1>you should tell somebody kind of like if I was

0:39:30.480 --> 0:39:32.439
<v Speaker 1>addicted to alcohol or drugs, I think that it would

0:39:32.440 --> 0:39:34.720
<v Speaker 1>be important to let my partner know. Would you suggest

0:39:34.719 --> 0:39:36.920
<v Speaker 1>that people should tell their partners they have a love addiction.

0:39:37.239 --> 0:39:39.600
<v Speaker 1>I would suggest that you go to a therapist first,

0:39:39.680 --> 0:39:43.680
<v Speaker 1>say that, because I wouldn't. I wouldn't say I wouldn't

0:39:43.960 --> 0:39:47.720
<v Speaker 1>self diagnosed myself right with something like that, because it's

0:39:48.640 --> 0:39:52.359
<v Speaker 1>it's very heavy and it deserves actual treatment. So just

0:39:52.400 --> 0:39:54.280
<v Speaker 1>to simply say, I think I have a love addiction

0:39:54.360 --> 0:39:57.040
<v Speaker 1>and I'm just going to sit in this and it

0:39:57.200 --> 0:39:59.319
<v Speaker 1>didn't let all of my partners know that I just

0:39:59.360 --> 0:40:01.120
<v Speaker 1>had to love. But this is just this is just

0:40:01.160 --> 0:40:03.680
<v Speaker 1>the thing that I am. And then that's said. You know,

0:40:03.760 --> 0:40:07.799
<v Speaker 1>that's that's a lot right good explanation. It's very like,

0:40:07.840 --> 0:40:09.439
<v Speaker 1>take me as I am. But that's some rude ship

0:40:09.960 --> 0:40:12.320
<v Speaker 1>because that's that's because you know, it's not like you

0:40:12.360 --> 0:40:14.680
<v Speaker 1>shouldn't treat it like it's not something to be treated. No,

0:40:14.760 --> 0:40:19.120
<v Speaker 1>it's because it's cracking coking. And if it's it's cracking coking,

0:40:19.200 --> 0:40:21.360
<v Speaker 1>might want to you know, don't care of that because

0:40:21.400 --> 0:40:23.919
<v Speaker 1>it's not like it's something that you're not aware of

0:40:24.400 --> 0:40:26.840
<v Speaker 1>because even if you're not aware of it, somebody A

0:40:26.880 --> 0:40:28.560
<v Speaker 1>lot of times, if you have people in your life.

0:40:28.680 --> 0:40:30.480
<v Speaker 1>Not everybody does, but if you have people in your life,

0:40:30.520 --> 0:40:32.839
<v Speaker 1>somebody's gonna make you away of that ship. Like if

0:40:32.880 --> 0:40:35.000
<v Speaker 1>you have a drinking problem, if you have people that

0:40:35.040 --> 0:40:37.560
<v Speaker 1>care about you, somebody's gonna say, hey, motherfucker, you are

0:40:37.560 --> 0:40:39.320
<v Speaker 1>a while for respect right now you might want to

0:40:39.360 --> 0:40:41.480
<v Speaker 1>calm that ship down. Somebody's gonna make you aware. Then

0:40:41.520 --> 0:40:43.600
<v Speaker 1>you do what you want to do with that information,

0:40:43.840 --> 0:40:46.880
<v Speaker 1>whether it's ignore it, whether it's actually give it attention

0:40:46.960 --> 0:40:49.440
<v Speaker 1>and try to do something about it. But to like

0:40:49.960 --> 0:40:52.240
<v Speaker 1>go into relationship and say, hey, I have a love addiction,

0:40:52.760 --> 0:40:55.799
<v Speaker 1>but I want to love you. I'm out. I want

0:40:55.840 --> 0:40:58.680
<v Speaker 1>to know because now that's on me. You're putting that

0:40:58.680 --> 0:41:02.880
<v Speaker 1>burden on me to try to maneuver around it. And

0:41:02.880 --> 0:41:04.759
<v Speaker 1>it's like, is it is it your addiction to just

0:41:04.800 --> 0:41:06.600
<v Speaker 1>wanting to be loved or you actually want to be

0:41:06.880 --> 0:41:09.239
<v Speaker 1>giving me PTSD from niggas that let me know they

0:41:09.239 --> 0:41:11.520
<v Speaker 1>were holes. You know what I'm saying when they'd be like, yo,

0:41:11.680 --> 0:41:13.799
<v Speaker 1>I just got this problem. I just you know, I mean,

0:41:13.840 --> 0:41:15.480
<v Speaker 1>I love you, but I'll be working other business, you'd

0:41:15.520 --> 0:41:17.560
<v Speaker 1>be like, so I do have to put off for that.

0:41:18.800 --> 0:41:21.640
<v Speaker 1>But you know that's I really like what you said,

0:41:21.719 --> 0:41:26.680
<v Speaker 1>because we have there's a fine line between being proud

0:41:26.680 --> 0:41:27.920
<v Speaker 1>of who you are and being like, this is who

0:41:27.920 --> 0:41:30.000
<v Speaker 1>I am taking or leave it, but also needing to

0:41:30.080 --> 0:41:32.080
<v Speaker 1>understand that some of the things that you have that

0:41:32.200 --> 0:41:35.680
<v Speaker 1>encompass your who you are are little, especially when they

0:41:35.680 --> 0:41:39.040
<v Speaker 1>could be a burden on somebody else. Yeah. I like that,

0:41:39.360 --> 0:41:43.080
<v Speaker 1>I mean, especially considering that I definitely think I went

0:41:43.120 --> 0:41:45.359
<v Speaker 1>through love addiction phase. Do you think or anyone think

0:41:45.360 --> 0:41:47.239
<v Speaker 1>they've ever been through a like I know you said,

0:41:47.280 --> 0:41:50.240
<v Speaker 1>even through a sex addiction phase maybe yeah, where I thought, yeah,

0:41:50.360 --> 0:41:52.640
<v Speaker 1>like I mean, but again it just affected my mood,

0:41:52.800 --> 0:41:54.640
<v Speaker 1>like if I want to dick, but I was still

0:41:54.719 --> 0:41:57.520
<v Speaker 1>very picky on who I was getting dick from. So

0:41:57.640 --> 0:41:59.640
<v Speaker 1>it's it was not don't like a crackheads picky about

0:41:59.640 --> 0:42:01.319
<v Speaker 1>who they and see that's what I'm saying. We had

0:42:01.360 --> 0:42:03.400
<v Speaker 1>a sex at it came h He did come on

0:42:03.440 --> 0:42:05.919
<v Speaker 1>the show and he shared how he just needed sex

0:42:05.960 --> 0:42:07.640
<v Speaker 1>from and he didn't care who he got sex from.

0:42:08.719 --> 0:42:12.440
<v Speaker 1>This so like, I don't like and hearing her explain,

0:42:12.680 --> 0:42:18.000
<v Speaker 1>hearing they explain it. I don't believe that I had

0:42:18.000 --> 0:42:20.640
<v Speaker 1>the addiction. It did just affect like my mood, and

0:42:21.440 --> 0:42:23.919
<v Speaker 1>I guess I was still able to like go about

0:42:23.960 --> 0:42:25.799
<v Speaker 1>my day as normal. I would just be in a

0:42:25.960 --> 0:42:29.759
<v Speaker 1>funk if I felt like I needed to release and masturbation.

0:42:30.120 --> 0:42:33.080
<v Speaker 1>Masturbating never did it. So even when you mentioned, um,

0:42:33.360 --> 0:42:36.160
<v Speaker 1>just maybe having a person to lay with, to cuddle with,

0:42:36.320 --> 0:42:39.359
<v Speaker 1>just to be in the company of another person in

0:42:39.400 --> 0:42:42.480
<v Speaker 1>that kind of close like space. Yeah, because even my

0:42:42.520 --> 0:42:44.440
<v Speaker 1>friends hated, Like I'd be trying to cuddle with all

0:42:44.440 --> 0:42:46.480
<v Speaker 1>my friends. They'd be like, bitch, give me my space,

0:42:46.800 --> 0:42:48.560
<v Speaker 1>like the ones I don't fuck. They'd be like, I

0:42:48.560 --> 0:42:51.759
<v Speaker 1>don't want to cuddle with you. I love cuddling. I'd

0:42:51.800 --> 0:42:55.040
<v Speaker 1>be like, come here and we'll be laid up like

0:42:55.120 --> 0:42:57.719
<v Speaker 1>time for Netflix and little with my friends kind of

0:42:57.760 --> 0:43:01.319
<v Speaker 1>associate that closeness with I lay on Vinnie, but like

0:43:01.360 --> 0:43:03.560
<v Speaker 1>it's a very minimal like maybe a leg, Oh no,

0:43:03.719 --> 0:43:07.160
<v Speaker 1>my leg is over my friends, Like I love cuddling

0:43:07.160 --> 0:43:08.960
<v Speaker 1>with my friends. When you were talking about spooning with

0:43:09.040 --> 0:43:11.359
<v Speaker 1>friends that you don't fu, Yeah, that I don't fun.

0:43:11.600 --> 0:43:15.279
<v Speaker 1>That's so crazy to me. Yeah, if I that is,

0:43:15.560 --> 0:43:18.760
<v Speaker 1>I mean I've done that, but you did you feel

0:43:18.800 --> 0:43:21.839
<v Speaker 1>something though I feel I feel I felt. I just

0:43:22.040 --> 0:43:24.720
<v Speaker 1>I didn't like it. I was like, you're thinking about

0:43:25.400 --> 0:43:27.719
<v Speaker 1>I don't want you to they know if I want

0:43:27.719 --> 0:43:30.880
<v Speaker 1>to suck. But I think it also comes from and

0:43:30.920 --> 0:43:33.480
<v Speaker 1>I shared on this show. For many years, I was

0:43:33.560 --> 0:43:37.359
<v Speaker 1>having sex without the intimacy. So for many years I

0:43:37.400 --> 0:43:40.239
<v Speaker 1>just didn't get I wasn't kissing niggas, I wasn't really

0:43:40.280 --> 0:43:43.640
<v Speaker 1>cuddling after. I was leaving after or they were leaving after.

0:43:44.000 --> 0:43:46.839
<v Speaker 1>So I think it just became you know that I

0:43:46.880 --> 0:43:48.960
<v Speaker 1>really love my friends, and I put my friends in

0:43:49.040 --> 0:43:52.960
<v Speaker 1>the highest seem almost about family, and so yeah, in

0:43:53.080 --> 0:43:55.919
<v Speaker 1>terms of love, like I love them, so you're gonna

0:43:55.960 --> 0:43:58.000
<v Speaker 1>give me these cuddles, bit you're gonna give me these

0:43:59.000 --> 0:44:02.279
<v Speaker 1>I had this. I found this cool article. It was

0:44:02.320 --> 0:44:04.279
<v Speaker 1>for Vanilla Ship, but I wanted to put it in here.

0:44:04.880 --> 0:44:08.680
<v Speaker 1>Sexual and emotional anorexia, y'all ever heard this? No? You

0:44:08.719 --> 0:44:13.960
<v Speaker 1>know what, if we're to compare it to attachment theory,

0:44:14.040 --> 0:44:16.960
<v Speaker 1>it's the avoidance style rather than the anxious one. It's

0:44:16.960 --> 0:44:20.280
<v Speaker 1>a type of disorder that people have running from sex

0:44:20.360 --> 0:44:24.719
<v Speaker 1>and or relationships rather than run towards them. Um So,

0:44:24.800 --> 0:44:28.560
<v Speaker 1>sexual and emotional intorexia can manifest as the usage of

0:44:28.600 --> 0:44:32.680
<v Speaker 1>porn instead of real partners, the fear and avoidance of sex,

0:44:32.760 --> 0:44:36.200
<v Speaker 1>the fear of intimacy, vulnerability, shame around your own sexual

0:44:36.280 --> 0:44:40.000
<v Speaker 1>drive and preferences, the harsh judgment of other people's sex drive,

0:44:40.400 --> 0:44:44.040
<v Speaker 1>always waiting for quote unquote the one the perfect person,

0:44:44.440 --> 0:44:48.840
<v Speaker 1>and compartmentalizing people into sex or relationship categories. And I

0:44:48.880 --> 0:44:50.759
<v Speaker 1>thought this was interesting because they say the root a

0:44:50.760 --> 0:44:54.800
<v Speaker 1>lot of this ship is from love of addiction sounds

0:44:54.840 --> 0:45:00.440
<v Speaker 1>more like self sabotage. I mean for sure, it's like

0:45:00.480 --> 0:45:04.000
<v Speaker 1>the world is so wild, and how we find words

0:45:04.400 --> 0:45:08.440
<v Speaker 1>for everything, everything, and then we find multiple words. It

0:45:08.640 --> 0:45:11.480
<v Speaker 1>was the Netflix show where curse words came from. That

0:45:11.600 --> 0:45:14.719
<v Speaker 1>was it was funny. It was funny, but yeah, like

0:45:15.160 --> 0:45:18.440
<v Speaker 1>literally because to me, this doesn't I think the antorexia

0:45:18.480 --> 0:45:20.680
<v Speaker 1>threw me off if sucking threw me off too. But

0:45:20.800 --> 0:45:25.120
<v Speaker 1>this is from sex love addicts anonymous. So they basically

0:45:25.160 --> 0:45:28.600
<v Speaker 1>say this is a characteristic of sexual and emotional antorexia

0:45:28.680 --> 0:45:31.799
<v Speaker 1>as outlined by them, this is where it comes from.

0:45:31.840 --> 0:45:35.920
<v Speaker 1>Having few healthy boundaries. We become sexually repulsed and or

0:45:35.960 --> 0:45:40.160
<v Speaker 1>emotionally threatened by people without even knowing them fearing emotional

0:45:40.200 --> 0:45:44.200
<v Speaker 1>and sexual nurturing. Um, we over idealize love and sex

0:45:44.280 --> 0:45:48.920
<v Speaker 1>so conversely that we confuse love and sex with physical

0:45:49.600 --> 0:45:53.120
<v Speaker 1>and sexual shame, like we're confused about what it means

0:45:53.200 --> 0:45:55.359
<v Speaker 1>or the need to be rescued things like that, and

0:45:55.400 --> 0:45:58.600
<v Speaker 1>we are deeply anxious and insecure, but may cover those

0:45:58.600 --> 0:46:01.600
<v Speaker 1>feelings of stress and guilt and envy with the persona

0:46:01.640 --> 0:46:05.640
<v Speaker 1>of independence and self sufficiency, which is the funk niggas

0:46:05.640 --> 0:46:09.160
<v Speaker 1>get money ship. We can be feeling like, okay, you

0:46:09.160 --> 0:46:11.600
<v Speaker 1>know what, like maybe I haven't found someone, isn't me whatever,

0:46:11.719 --> 0:46:14.200
<v Speaker 1>you know what, funk niggas like I'm doing this, Like

0:46:14.320 --> 0:46:17.359
<v Speaker 1>I think that is a great one because under all

0:46:17.400 --> 0:46:19.560
<v Speaker 1>of that, it may not be Like I don't think

0:46:19.560 --> 0:46:21.120
<v Speaker 1>I'm at that place now. I think you are in

0:46:21.120 --> 0:46:23.319
<v Speaker 1>the place now right like when you're starting to grow

0:46:23.320 --> 0:46:25.040
<v Speaker 1>and getting to know yourself. But at one point in

0:46:25.040 --> 0:46:29.520
<v Speaker 1>my life absolutely I was like overly independent because it

0:46:29.560 --> 0:46:33.000
<v Speaker 1>made me feel better. Like saying that, well, not only that,

0:46:33.080 --> 0:46:36.520
<v Speaker 1>I think I've said it too. Um, the funk niggas

0:46:36.520 --> 0:46:38.759
<v Speaker 1>get money, not not foot niggas and make them give

0:46:38.760 --> 0:46:41.080
<v Speaker 1>you money. But the funk niggas get money. Mantra to me,

0:46:41.200 --> 0:46:45.120
<v Speaker 1>comes from when you don't feel like you're in a

0:46:45.160 --> 0:46:47.239
<v Speaker 1>place where you're happy. So to me, that's where I

0:46:47.280 --> 0:46:51.600
<v Speaker 1>feel like for the past decade, um, I was focusing

0:46:51.760 --> 0:46:56.080
<v Speaker 1>on my financial state, getting an education, and being happy

0:46:56.120 --> 0:46:58.400
<v Speaker 1>with who I was as a person, and so a

0:46:58.400 --> 0:47:00.279
<v Speaker 1>part of it was, yeah, I'm still gonna get this nut,

0:47:00.400 --> 0:47:02.680
<v Speaker 1>but I'm not at a place where I really want

0:47:02.719 --> 0:47:05.040
<v Speaker 1>to be a partner to somebody or I want to

0:47:05.040 --> 0:47:07.239
<v Speaker 1>be in a relationship, but I still need a nut

0:47:07.280 --> 0:47:10.359
<v Speaker 1>because which I like sex and that you know, I'll

0:47:10.360 --> 0:47:13.200
<v Speaker 1>be cranky if I don't have it. So I think

0:47:13.280 --> 0:47:16.840
<v Speaker 1>that comes from, you know, get your ship, but also

0:47:17.000 --> 0:47:19.440
<v Speaker 1>really get your ship and get your ship together. More

0:47:19.480 --> 0:47:25.279
<v Speaker 1>than anything. I don't know that the podcast it we're

0:47:25.320 --> 0:47:28.120
<v Speaker 1>just trying to sound smart because apparently we sound dumb.

0:47:28.680 --> 0:47:32.440
<v Speaker 1>So the beginning, I say dumb with love Bro, I

0:47:32.480 --> 0:47:38.880
<v Speaker 1>mean like we'll be doing dumb sh it's silly words,

0:47:38.920 --> 0:47:47.040
<v Speaker 1>mean things, wheezy, okay, such am all right. I picked

0:47:47.040 --> 0:47:49.440
<v Speaker 1>this whole mail for a future episode where we have

0:47:49.600 --> 0:47:51.440
<v Speaker 1>to do this because it really made me think of

0:47:51.520 --> 0:47:54.880
<v Speaker 1>a rob story. Here we oh ship, So send your

0:47:54.880 --> 0:48:00.279
<v Speaker 1>whole mail to horrible desistence now rit now was me

0:48:00.440 --> 0:48:06.680
<v Speaker 1>just kidding because keeping anonymous? They said him Mandy and wheezy.

0:48:06.760 --> 0:48:08.839
<v Speaker 1>I love y'all. I've been listening for almost three years,

0:48:08.840 --> 0:48:10.799
<v Speaker 1>so when I recently started having the best sex of

0:48:10.840 --> 0:48:15.680
<v Speaker 1>my life, this story I naturally thought of before. Sorry.

0:48:15.719 --> 0:48:18.600
<v Speaker 1>The man's dick is perfect all caps. We've been dating

0:48:18.600 --> 0:48:21.279
<v Speaker 1>for three months months, he brings out aside of me

0:48:21.320 --> 0:48:23.440
<v Speaker 1>that sexually I didn't know I had. Yes, I actually

0:48:23.480 --> 0:48:25.560
<v Speaker 1>had a seizure on the dick. We were fucking in

0:48:25.600 --> 0:48:29.360
<v Speaker 1>the mirror high off mushroom chocolates when I collapse and convulsed.

0:48:29.640 --> 0:48:32.920
<v Speaker 1>When I came, it felt so euphoric, but he was scared.

0:48:33.280 --> 0:48:35.280
<v Speaker 1>Another time that stands out was when I was writing

0:48:35.280 --> 0:48:37.680
<v Speaker 1>and he was using my vibrator on my clip asked

0:48:37.719 --> 0:48:40.160
<v Speaker 1>if he could fit it inside of my pussy with

0:48:40.200 --> 0:48:41.960
<v Speaker 1>his dick. It was a small bullet, so we tried it.

0:48:41.960 --> 0:48:43.640
<v Speaker 1>It was amazing, but it got stuck. I had to

0:48:43.680 --> 0:48:45.480
<v Speaker 1>lay on my back dude keegels until it finally came

0:48:45.520 --> 0:48:49.279
<v Speaker 1>out right. I don't know where this is going. I

0:48:49.320 --> 0:48:51.080
<v Speaker 1>could go on about our sex, but I'm writing to

0:48:51.120 --> 0:48:52.960
<v Speaker 1>you because I don't know what to do about his

0:48:53.040 --> 0:48:55.840
<v Speaker 1>best friend, his best friend is also his roommate, and

0:48:56.000 --> 0:48:59.160
<v Speaker 1>if they haven't fucked already, I know that if they

0:48:59.200 --> 0:49:01.880
<v Speaker 1>did they would be with love it. They both identify

0:49:01.920 --> 0:49:05.640
<v Speaker 1>a straight, but the energy is just there. His friend

0:49:05.719 --> 0:49:08.399
<v Speaker 1>is really hot too, and I've been happily fantasizing about

0:49:08.400 --> 0:49:10.120
<v Speaker 1>an m m F three, So with them, how would

0:49:10.120 --> 0:49:11.799
<v Speaker 1>I go about initiating this. I don't know if I

0:49:11.840 --> 0:49:13.560
<v Speaker 1>should or if I should just leave it in my

0:49:13.600 --> 0:49:16.479
<v Speaker 1>mind as a daydream dream because plot twist, his best

0:49:16.520 --> 0:49:20.000
<v Speaker 1>friend is dating my little sister and she could absolutely

0:49:20.120 --> 0:49:22.759
<v Speaker 1>never find out. Do I leave it alone? Do I

0:49:22.800 --> 0:49:25.279
<v Speaker 1>wait until maybe his friend and my sister break up.

0:49:25.840 --> 0:49:28.080
<v Speaker 1>Do I bring it up to my man. I feel

0:49:28.080 --> 0:49:29.799
<v Speaker 1>like it would be so chaotic, But I also think

0:49:29.800 --> 0:49:32.040
<v Speaker 1>would be so hot to watch my man's best friend

0:49:32.080 --> 0:49:34.600
<v Speaker 1>give him head. Please help me start through this toxic

0:49:34.840 --> 0:49:37.520
<v Speaker 1>the one who dates my sister. That's where that's where

0:49:37.520 --> 0:49:40.759
<v Speaker 1>I lost. It was all good until that ship. And

0:49:40.800 --> 0:49:43.160
<v Speaker 1>I want to tell you something, which one I don't know.

0:49:44.040 --> 0:49:48.799
<v Speaker 1>Thank you so much for your fucking goddamn service to

0:49:48.840 --> 0:49:52.920
<v Speaker 1>this show. This is what I'm talking about, This is

0:49:53.000 --> 0:49:54.560
<v Speaker 1>what you're talking about. This is how we got on

0:49:54.600 --> 0:49:57.160
<v Speaker 1>the Black Effect Network, right, here, you and your man

0:49:57.239 --> 0:49:59.080
<v Speaker 1>and his best friend and suck your sister. This is

0:49:59.120 --> 0:50:04.919
<v Speaker 1>what I'm to Mandy Weezy Springers, thank you anyway, this

0:50:04.960 --> 0:50:08.520
<v Speaker 1>is this is not it Mega, I don't know, maga

0:50:08.719 --> 0:50:12.640
<v Speaker 1>fuck this is her sister's boyfriend who she said, both

0:50:12.640 --> 0:50:15.280
<v Speaker 1>of them identifying straight. So you just think it's okay.

0:50:15.360 --> 0:50:18.399
<v Speaker 1>She was like, energy is there? Let me tell you something.

0:50:18.480 --> 0:50:20.920
<v Speaker 1>Bit the way that man investing you're doing, this is

0:50:20.920 --> 0:50:23.000
<v Speaker 1>what you gotta do. This is how I started getting

0:50:23.040 --> 0:50:26.839
<v Speaker 1>money in the show. She all getting oh god, so much.

0:50:26.880 --> 0:50:29.839
<v Speaker 1>It's so fucked up. But like what does she got

0:50:29.880 --> 0:50:37.040
<v Speaker 1>to lose? What she has, her sisters, what her man

0:50:37.080 --> 0:50:40.680
<v Speaker 1>to lose? All right, let me go from there's there's

0:50:40.719 --> 0:50:43.160
<v Speaker 1>a lot of that's a lot of factors, you know.

0:50:43.160 --> 0:50:45.120
<v Speaker 1>Shout out to you for admitting that ship was toxic,

0:50:45.560 --> 0:50:49.360
<v Speaker 1>was well toxic, saying what it needs to say in

0:50:49.400 --> 0:50:52.080
<v Speaker 1>your head and in our email inbox, and know where

0:50:52.120 --> 0:50:57.359
<v Speaker 1>the fun of that ship. That is good material. And

0:50:57.400 --> 0:50:59.359
<v Speaker 1>that's all I'm asking. A matter of fact, if you've

0:50:59.360 --> 0:51:03.360
<v Speaker 1>got a family, phollow everybody in it, that's that's disgusted.

0:51:05.040 --> 0:51:09.799
<v Speaker 1>You want to know. My email is the Wheezy WC

0:51:09.880 --> 0:51:16.279
<v Speaker 1>aftert gmail dot com. You're not. You should have so

0:51:16.480 --> 0:51:19.920
<v Speaker 1>fun lest somebody explicitly begins to give you some kind

0:51:19.920 --> 0:51:23.000
<v Speaker 1>of consent to do these things. And even then, like,

0:51:23.600 --> 0:51:26.720
<v Speaker 1>I don't know if that's a talk that you, oddly

0:51:26.840 --> 0:51:29.120
<v Speaker 1>enough might have to have with your fucking sister. I

0:51:29.120 --> 0:51:33.680
<v Speaker 1>mean I would never ding. Okay, wait a second, because

0:51:33.719 --> 0:51:36.040
<v Speaker 1>maybe her and her sister are like the Claremont twins,

0:51:36.160 --> 0:51:39.200
<v Speaker 1>So let's talk. So let's figure this out. I think

0:51:39.239 --> 0:51:41.880
<v Speaker 1>the first thing you should do is talk to your sister.

0:51:42.040 --> 0:51:44.640
<v Speaker 1>Ye see if you know, she might be like you,

0:51:45.200 --> 0:51:47.680
<v Speaker 1>I don't give a phone. You know, maybe we don't know.

0:51:47.760 --> 0:51:50.920
<v Speaker 1>So let's if we're, you know, paying homage to the holes.

0:51:50.960 --> 0:51:53.080
<v Speaker 1>They're right into the show. We don't know what type

0:51:53.120 --> 0:51:55.040
<v Speaker 1>of upbringing the gut they might be like the Claremont

0:51:55.120 --> 0:51:58.920
<v Speaker 1>She's like sexcellence right now. So that's an imagination. Jesus Christ.

0:51:59.280 --> 0:52:02.640
<v Speaker 1>So uh, I would say, the first person you need

0:52:02.719 --> 0:52:05.120
<v Speaker 1>to ask is not your boyfriend, is not his best friend,

0:52:05.320 --> 0:52:07.360
<v Speaker 1>But you need to talk about this with your sisters.

0:52:08.320 --> 0:52:12.160
<v Speaker 1>Right then, if the sister be like, actually, yeah, I'll

0:52:12.160 --> 0:52:13.919
<v Speaker 1>give you to go for that because you're my sister

0:52:13.960 --> 0:52:15.560
<v Speaker 1>and I love you. And if this is what's gonna

0:52:15.600 --> 0:52:17.759
<v Speaker 1>make you happy. I want my sister to be happy.

0:52:17.880 --> 0:52:22.480
<v Speaker 1>If you'll get the blessings from your sister, then I

0:52:25.080 --> 0:52:30.440
<v Speaker 1>don't advice obviously, bitch, don't do it but the first

0:52:30.680 --> 0:52:34.120
<v Speaker 1>So if you get the blessing from your sister, then

0:52:34.239 --> 0:52:37.000
<v Speaker 1>I think maybe you need to go ahead. And then

0:52:37.920 --> 0:52:39.760
<v Speaker 1>I'm trying to think it should be the sister's boyfriend.

0:52:40.840 --> 0:52:44.040
<v Speaker 1>You gotta talk to your man and then be like, yo,

0:52:44.160 --> 0:52:47.680
<v Speaker 1>how close are you and Novadius? You know what I mean? Um,

0:52:47.719 --> 0:52:50.160
<v Speaker 1>and just find out if they is close to what

0:52:50.520 --> 0:52:53.919
<v Speaker 1>it might be like Okay, cool, Like I don't want

0:52:53.920 --> 0:52:56.520
<v Speaker 1>to have sex with my roommate, but I don't mind

0:52:56.480 --> 0:52:58.640
<v Speaker 1>that supposed to having sex with you because that doesn't

0:52:58.680 --> 0:53:02.400
<v Speaker 1>make me quick, doesn't There's nothing rob This email was

0:53:02.520 --> 0:53:05.239
<v Speaker 1>dick so good. I had a seizure. Bitch, you need

0:53:05.239 --> 0:53:07.479
<v Speaker 1>to do right. You need to write something. She gave

0:53:07.560 --> 0:53:09.560
<v Speaker 1>us that ship anyway came out of nowhere. This is

0:53:09.600 --> 0:53:13.040
<v Speaker 1>just so fabulous, Like I can't believe how I think

0:53:13.160 --> 0:53:15.719
<v Speaker 1>actually needs to work on her journalist skills because she

0:53:15.760 --> 0:53:19.560
<v Speaker 1>could have had a way better hot topic headline than

0:53:19.880 --> 0:53:23.239
<v Speaker 1>because but either she should have just said I want

0:53:23.239 --> 0:53:27.680
<v Speaker 1>to fuck headline. I want to fuck my boyfriend's roommates,

0:53:27.680 --> 0:53:33.120
<v Speaker 1>sister boyfriend. No, my sister, my sister's boyfriend, boyfriend. It's

0:53:33.160 --> 0:53:36.760
<v Speaker 1>too much, too many characters. They're gonna work out. So really,

0:53:36.800 --> 0:53:39.040
<v Speaker 1>what you did, I'm telling you she won. But see

0:53:39.080 --> 0:53:41.359
<v Speaker 1>where you're going with this, But talking to the sister, No,

0:53:41.560 --> 0:53:45.120
<v Speaker 1>that's sick. You can't do this. But we're out here

0:53:45.200 --> 0:53:49.160
<v Speaker 1>trying to promote healthy communication and the same we don't.

0:53:49.200 --> 0:53:52.600
<v Speaker 1>We don't know their relationships, thank you right, they might

0:53:52.640 --> 0:53:59.200
<v Speaker 1>even be judging right now. They might be best it

0:54:00.160 --> 0:54:02.000
<v Speaker 1>look we all know. We don't count them the ship.

0:54:02.239 --> 0:54:05.160
<v Speaker 1>They're like, they're like friends, they're like just because their

0:54:05.160 --> 0:54:09.600
<v Speaker 1>parents wanted to fund. I think you just want to

0:54:09.719 --> 0:54:11.920
<v Speaker 1>MMF threesome. I think you want to watch your man

0:54:11.960 --> 0:54:13.719
<v Speaker 1>get his dick sucks sucked dick, And I think that,

0:54:13.800 --> 0:54:15.359
<v Speaker 1>And I think the roommate just happened to be fine

0:54:15.560 --> 0:54:18.040
<v Speaker 1>and they're around each other, so you're seeing it happen.

0:54:18.200 --> 0:54:20.719
<v Speaker 1>But like, no, you're a chipping you're fucking insane. But like,

0:54:20.880 --> 0:54:25.560
<v Speaker 1>I really like this um her name, I'm weak. I

0:54:25.560 --> 0:54:27.560
<v Speaker 1>feel like it's that anonymous that what I'm saying, I'm

0:54:27.560 --> 0:54:29.359
<v Speaker 1>showing you guys, I think this is a black name

0:54:29.680 --> 0:54:31.440
<v Speaker 1>the last name. Can you not do that? Not a

0:54:31.480 --> 0:54:33.640
<v Speaker 1>black name? Bro? No, I'm trying to figure out because

0:54:33.640 --> 0:54:35.080
<v Speaker 1>if this is white people ship, I want her to

0:54:35.080 --> 0:54:38.160
<v Speaker 1>come on the show. Why because I don't want to

0:54:38.160 --> 0:54:41.320
<v Speaker 1>make us like this nuts. You look nuts with everything

0:54:41.360 --> 0:54:43.560
<v Speaker 1>you just said over the last ten minute. You you

0:54:43.640 --> 0:54:46.160
<v Speaker 1>like Renig, but it was after you went like after

0:54:46.200 --> 0:54:49.239
<v Speaker 1>she went love this because like I have this thing

0:54:49.280 --> 0:54:51.360
<v Speaker 1>that goes on in my head, like there's this comedy

0:54:51.560 --> 0:54:53.319
<v Speaker 1>ship and in prom school that you have a straight

0:54:53.400 --> 0:54:55.759
<v Speaker 1>man and crazy man like that you can play like

0:54:55.880 --> 0:54:57.640
<v Speaker 1>right when you're watching someone who's how do you go

0:54:57.719 --> 0:55:02.800
<v Speaker 1>from straight and crazy? Biden? They used the word straight

0:55:02.840 --> 0:55:06.279
<v Speaker 1>as like um on the straight and narrow, like at

0:55:06.320 --> 0:55:09.680
<v Speaker 1>the term right, like like someone's not tripping. We played

0:55:09.680 --> 0:55:11.440
<v Speaker 1>that skin in our short film right. I was like,

0:55:11.480 --> 0:55:13.600
<v Speaker 1>let's have dicks on stage. You're like, no, let's be educational.

0:55:13.640 --> 0:55:16.000
<v Speaker 1>That's a straight man crazy man skin. So you're crazy

0:55:16.040 --> 0:55:18.360
<v Speaker 1>and I'm the clear head. No, I think I do both.

0:55:18.760 --> 0:55:21.799
<v Speaker 1>I just did bo. You don't think so, No, you're

0:55:21.840 --> 0:55:23.680
<v Speaker 1>just crazy? All right? Well fuck your sister's boyfriend that

0:55:23.680 --> 0:55:26.160
<v Speaker 1>lives next day to me I don't know. I think

0:55:26.160 --> 0:55:28.799
<v Speaker 1>that you just need to get M M F threesome going.

0:55:28.920 --> 0:55:33.440
<v Speaker 1>I think that that's the main uh fantasy that she has.

0:55:33.560 --> 0:55:36.799
<v Speaker 1>And so if that is the main fantasy. Again, just

0:55:36.840 --> 0:55:39.200
<v Speaker 1>to wrap this up, I think that you should for

0:55:39.280 --> 0:55:42.120
<v Speaker 1>sure have that conversation with your man to see if

0:55:42.120 --> 0:55:44.640
<v Speaker 1>it is even an option to have with your man,

0:55:44.920 --> 0:55:46.759
<v Speaker 1>because y'all can always find a thing going to join in,

0:55:47.640 --> 0:55:49.120
<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean, definitely, but he might not

0:55:49.160 --> 0:55:51.080
<v Speaker 1>be he might not be comfortable, or he might be comfortable.

0:55:51.120 --> 0:55:52.400
<v Speaker 1>Say I don't want to suth no, dick, and I

0:55:52.440 --> 0:55:57.279
<v Speaker 1>don't want to go different different, And that's going to

0:55:57.360 --> 0:56:00.160
<v Speaker 1>make sure. That's just like do not like for we're

0:56:00.160 --> 0:56:02.080
<v Speaker 1>saying bye m M F threesome. And I feel the

0:56:02.120 --> 0:56:04.160
<v Speaker 1>same way with men, by the way, like forcing the

0:56:04.200 --> 0:56:07.840
<v Speaker 1>women there with it's not funny, pussy like, no, don't

0:56:07.840 --> 0:56:11.560
<v Speaker 1>do that if he's on intimate it's is always key,

0:56:11.680 --> 0:56:16.120
<v Speaker 1>especially in something Look how wrapped up. Oh yeah, I'm

0:56:16.160 --> 0:56:18.200
<v Speaker 1>glad we warned up because I know how I was

0:56:18.239 --> 0:56:20.560
<v Speaker 1>talking to the beginning. I was like, oh, they hate me.

0:56:20.760 --> 0:56:24.200
<v Speaker 1>I was like, look, fuck, don't do that, don't do that.

0:56:24.200 --> 0:56:28.640
<v Speaker 1>Don't But again, the same way Like if somebody came

0:56:28.680 --> 0:56:31.520
<v Speaker 1>in and was calling her Wezzy the whole time, I

0:56:31.560 --> 0:56:33.640
<v Speaker 1>would be like, bro, it ain't Wezzy, it's wheezy. You

0:56:33.640 --> 0:56:38.680
<v Speaker 1>know what we people smell your name, pronoun what you

0:56:38.800 --> 0:56:40.960
<v Speaker 1>kept saying the entire You just have to say you

0:56:41.120 --> 0:56:43.880
<v Speaker 1>if you're getting lost and him, yeah, I don't know,

0:56:44.000 --> 0:56:47.000
<v Speaker 1>I say you. Yeah. But but even them, but you

0:56:47.160 --> 0:56:50.680
<v Speaker 1>is when you're directly speaking to them. If I'm speaking

0:56:50.719 --> 0:56:54.760
<v Speaker 1>to you about them, it's different. I'm just like Robin

0:56:54.960 --> 0:56:57.160
<v Speaker 1>right here, but I know, but but I'm I'm I'm

0:56:57.160 --> 0:56:59.759
<v Speaker 1>speaking to the both of you, and so if I'm

0:56:59.800 --> 0:57:03.120
<v Speaker 1>not directing to just them, then it's just like I

0:57:03.160 --> 0:57:05.480
<v Speaker 1>can't just say you when I'm talking to you, brot

0:57:05.600 --> 0:57:08.080
<v Speaker 1>when I'm speaking like I had a colleague of mine

0:57:08.080 --> 0:57:10.360
<v Speaker 1>at my last job that only wanted to be referred

0:57:10.360 --> 0:57:11.799
<v Speaker 1>to as day them, so I got a little bit

0:57:11.840 --> 0:57:13.640
<v Speaker 1>better at it, but I was sucking up. Oh, I

0:57:13.719 --> 0:57:15.680
<v Speaker 1>sucked up this whole show, and they're gonna read me like, yeah,

0:57:15.680 --> 0:57:18.440
<v Speaker 1>it's supposed to be professional. Y're supposed we experst in

0:57:18.480 --> 0:57:21.200
<v Speaker 1>this hash. She's sucking up really bad. But it's because

0:57:21.240 --> 0:57:24.440
<v Speaker 1>the transition happened while I was working with them. Oh,

0:57:24.800 --> 0:57:26.760
<v Speaker 1>I remember sharing that story. But I do want to

0:57:26.760 --> 0:57:29.280
<v Speaker 1>say to that is why like and we have we've

0:57:29.320 --> 0:57:31.960
<v Speaker 1>done our best with just educating ourselves, but you are

0:57:32.040 --> 0:57:36.080
<v Speaker 1>our first guests that strictly identifies as them they, And

0:57:36.160 --> 0:57:38.240
<v Speaker 1>so I do apologize if I offended you at any

0:57:38.240 --> 0:57:42.200
<v Speaker 1>point if anyone's listening, Uh, definitely, Maybe I just need

0:57:42.200 --> 0:57:43.960
<v Speaker 1>to think before I talk a little bit more and

0:57:44.040 --> 0:57:46.120
<v Speaker 1>slow down, because then I mean, you would have you know,

0:57:46.200 --> 0:57:49.640
<v Speaker 1>it's okay to mess up, like we're human. Um, you

0:57:49.640 --> 0:57:52.080
<v Speaker 1>you you probably mess up more than you even realize.

0:57:52.120 --> 0:57:54.000
<v Speaker 1>Just talking to like people who are says like you

0:57:54.080 --> 0:57:56.320
<v Speaker 1>might say, she might say he were talking about somebody else,

0:57:56.320 --> 0:57:58.400
<v Speaker 1>because you're just you're human. Your brain moves faster than

0:57:58.400 --> 0:58:01.040
<v Speaker 1>your lips through sometimes. But it's a matter of when

0:58:01.040 --> 0:58:03.280
<v Speaker 1>you mess up, when you realize you're just correct and

0:58:03.320 --> 0:58:06.440
<v Speaker 1>just keep going like to make the spectacle of it,

0:58:06.560 --> 0:58:09.120
<v Speaker 1>or I'm so sorry that it's like now you put

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<v Speaker 1>the burden on me to have to comfort you, like no, no, no,

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<v Speaker 1>it's okay. I don't want to because like it's not okay,

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<v Speaker 1>And I also don't want to. I don't want any

0:58:18.520 --> 0:58:21.680
<v Speaker 1>of your burden, Like just like you know, any other

0:58:21.720 --> 0:58:25.200
<v Speaker 1>correction like just they interesting, just keep you never thought

0:58:25.200 --> 0:58:29.600
<v Speaker 1>of that, Like we overapologize to have someone understand how

0:58:29.640 --> 0:58:31.560
<v Speaker 1>sorry we are. But it's like god damn, not even

0:58:31.560 --> 0:58:33.360
<v Speaker 1>making me feel like I don't I don't want that,

0:58:33.640 --> 0:58:36.680
<v Speaker 1>but to me, it is all. It is almost like

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<v Speaker 1>the overapology, and I want you to understand as well,

0:58:39.360 --> 0:58:41.560
<v Speaker 1>coming from someone who doesn't want to offend you or

0:58:41.560 --> 0:58:45.560
<v Speaker 1>feel like we're disrespecting you. Also to maybe not apologize.

0:58:46.040 --> 0:58:47.680
<v Speaker 1>I also don't want to come across like well, I

0:58:47.680 --> 0:58:49.840
<v Speaker 1>don't care how you want to be addressed the same

0:58:49.840 --> 0:58:52.600
<v Speaker 1>way like if someone keeps correcting me on their name. Yeah,

0:58:52.640 --> 0:58:55.320
<v Speaker 1>I don't want to also make you feel like I'm

0:58:55.320 --> 0:58:58.400
<v Speaker 1>dismissive of of you, you know, just the my bad

0:58:58.680 --> 0:59:05.080
<v Speaker 1>they proceeding well, I'm also it's just it can be.

0:59:05.160 --> 0:59:06.520
<v Speaker 1>It can be a lot, because you know how you

0:59:06.560 --> 0:59:08.440
<v Speaker 1>were saying, like oh, you know, it's frustrating because you

0:59:08.440 --> 0:59:12.600
<v Speaker 1>get confirmed. But it's frustrating for me because I have

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<v Speaker 1>to hear a seven even if it's not for you,

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<v Speaker 1>like okay, cool, you guys, you're not my employees, Like

0:59:19.880 --> 0:59:22.120
<v Speaker 1>I don't I can say anything obviously, I'm telling my

0:59:22.120 --> 0:59:25.360
<v Speaker 1>fucking business. But I work with white men almost exclusively,

0:59:25.400 --> 0:59:27.040
<v Speaker 1>and both of my careers I work with white men.

0:59:27.640 --> 0:59:29.120
<v Speaker 1>I'm not coming out to them because suck them. I

0:59:29.120 --> 0:59:31.720
<v Speaker 1>don't feel like it. So I'm she, I'm her, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a woman, and that's just it is what it is,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's something that I just have to go through

0:59:35.320 --> 0:59:36.840
<v Speaker 1>the rest of my life, the rest of my career,

0:59:36.960 --> 0:59:42.000
<v Speaker 1>just kind of accepting that. So that is I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>open and I'm not free in my workplace where I

0:59:44.800 --> 0:59:47.360
<v Speaker 1>spent fucking I spent twenty four hours at work. I

0:59:47.440 --> 0:59:50.360
<v Speaker 1>just got off last night. I'm tired of ship and

0:59:50.400 --> 0:59:52.919
<v Speaker 1>that's just my reality. So when I come and I'm

0:59:53.000 --> 0:59:56.280
<v Speaker 1>experiencing the world with queer people, with black people, with

0:59:56.320 --> 0:59:59.200
<v Speaker 1>black women, like this is my safe space? Do you

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<v Speaker 1>I know we're about to rap, but I really I'm

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<v Speaker 1>curious if you could share a story with us where

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<v Speaker 1>someone told you they wouldn't so maybe even closely, maybe

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<v Speaker 1>family member. Has anyone been so reluctant to it that

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<v Speaker 1>you were like what the fuck? Um? So real fast

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<v Speaker 1>and I have two stories. Um. First story was my ex.

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<v Speaker 1>I've known him for now, um almost fifteen years. We

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<v Speaker 1>dated a few years ago for like a year, and

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<v Speaker 1>so he's known me like he was like my first kiss.

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<v Speaker 1>It was like one of my best friends. So when

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<v Speaker 1>I finally like, hey, this is who I am. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>non binary, that is are my pronouns and he said, so,

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<v Speaker 1>what the funk I'm dating What the funk? I'm sucking

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<v Speaker 1>a tranny. And I was like, okay, there's like many

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<v Speaker 1>levels of this right because now we're just sucking and

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<v Speaker 1>now I'm a tranny. So it was like a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of unpacking there. And I still dated him because I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a dumb ass bitch and whatever it is, what it is,

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<v Speaker 1>but you know that was super fucked up. Um you know,

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<v Speaker 1>now several years later he's trying to be respective of

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<v Speaker 1>my pronouns, um and be respective of my chosen name.

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<v Speaker 1>But you know that was not fun. And then, um dam,

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<v Speaker 1>I had a friend. I mean, we're still friends and

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<v Speaker 1>he's a lot better now. But when I first says, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>my name is Rob, he said, no, that's not your name.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna call you what i've been calling you because

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<v Speaker 1>it's what i've been calling you. And I'm like, that's

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<v Speaker 1>not how this works, because hey, he never called me

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<v Speaker 1>by my first name. Anyway, he always called me by

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<v Speaker 1>the name that I fucking gave him, So I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>why can't you call me by this name? What is

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<v Speaker 1>the issue? But it's like some people feel um personal,

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<v Speaker 1>like no, I've known you this way this whole time,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I'm special. I've known you said you came out

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<v Speaker 1>the womb, So why do I have to change? I

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<v Speaker 1>understand all of them having to change, But why then

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<v Speaker 1>do I gotta call you something? But it's like, that's

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<v Speaker 1>my name. So when people ask me, oh, what's Rob

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<v Speaker 1>short for short for Rob, why Robbed? I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just my name. You can see my name on

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<v Speaker 1>the paper. I don't go fun. My name is Rob,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's what you're gonna call me. That's what they

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<v Speaker 1>call me at work. Even though they don't know him Trance,

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<v Speaker 1>they still call me Rob. They have no problems, no questions,

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<v Speaker 1>they don't care. And that's why I expect from everybody

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<v Speaker 1>else in the world. Even on my birthday and my

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<v Speaker 1>cake said happy birthday, Robbed the God. My parents were there,

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<v Speaker 1>We blew out the cans and everything. They took. Pictures

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<v Speaker 1>of the cake were posted. They didn't give a fuck.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean it's don't care because it's just it's a name.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a name, it's an identities. These things I don't

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<v Speaker 1>mean anything to you, know what, Rob, you just taught me.

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<v Speaker 1>I met someone named Alex. I wish I could take

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<v Speaker 1>it back now, but I was writing their name down.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, um, is it Alexandria? And I'm like

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<v Speaker 1>I remember her looking at me like it's Alan And

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<v Speaker 1>I was like okay. And I didn't even think in

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<v Speaker 1>that moment, like oh my god, I'm such a fing

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<v Speaker 1>I just had to make it like you had to

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<v Speaker 1>make a whole name. I'm robbing. People call me Rob,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, where'd you get that from? If it's robbed,

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<v Speaker 1>it must be short for something like no, it's not shure,

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<v Speaker 1>if anything, because people might be feening too, Like I

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<v Speaker 1>need to finish the story. This is a mystery. What

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<v Speaker 1>did my name got to do with you? Maybe it's

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<v Speaker 1>our brain, I mean, but don't don't get it twisted.

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<v Speaker 1>Society over. I guess so good? Damn Yeah, yeah, all right,

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<v Speaker 1>my guys, the society has Society has trained you to

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<v Speaker 1>be this way. Society has given you these bioneers. It

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<v Speaker 1>gave you these fucking colors, like society has taught you

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<v Speaker 1>all these things. It taught you able ism and totally

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<v Speaker 1>transfall fact fault be homophobi, racism, colorism, toucht theism like

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<v Speaker 1>this is society's doing. It's just up to you to

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<v Speaker 1>undo it. And it takes time, Like you can't unlearn everything,

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<v Speaker 1>like at once you're gonna be un learned without your

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<v Speaker 1>whole life. It's like, don't be too hard on yourself

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<v Speaker 1>for not being perfect, because that's as the world wakes up.

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<v Speaker 1>We are too every day. So I appreciate you saying

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm glad we got school today. I learned a

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<v Speaker 1>lot about I mean, especially this last part. I agree.

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<v Speaker 1>I agree. Can you, um, as we wrap up, can

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<v Speaker 1>you let our listeners know where they can find you

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<v Speaker 1>social media and where they can listen to you? So

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<v Speaker 1>um Instagram smoking Peep, I'll get that out, like you know,

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<v Speaker 1>smoking Dick, smoking peep smoking like penis no, no you

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<v Speaker 1>be out here spoken Dick. They'd be working while with

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<v Speaker 1>the smoking peep Dick. But if you're interested in smoking Dick,

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<v Speaker 1>let me know. I want to figure out. I like

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<v Speaker 1>to do anything new on Twitter. I'm the underscore body.

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<v Speaker 1>And if you want to listen to me in a

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<v Speaker 1>you guys can check all of that in the description

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<v Speaker 1>of this week's episode. Before we get out of here,

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<v Speaker 1>I also want to shout out before I give a

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<v Speaker 1>shout out to our wore Hive members on our Patreon,

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<v Speaker 1>in twelve hours and a lot of you guys are

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<v Speaker 1>will just give a shout out to USPS because two

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<v Speaker 1>of you who are listeners of the show wrote me

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<v Speaker 1>and tried to Well, if you have any issues, you

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<v Speaker 1>can hit me up. Shout out to those workers at USPS. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>what's bo bitches at your old house? Probably? Yeah. Uh,

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<v Speaker 1>I just wanted to give a shout out to y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you have anything before we get out of here?

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<v Speaker 1>No check out for fact sake, on Tuesday's what I

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<v Speaker 1>mean Eddie gonna do. I think Eddie and I are

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<v Speaker 1>doing billionaires this week, and I was like, let's talk

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<v Speaker 1>about people. Get I'll let you do that. Give me

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<v Speaker 1>a billionaire this. We just did chicken last week, and

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<v Speaker 1>you know, he looks so nervous because I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>we're gonna talk about why black people love chicken. He

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<v Speaker 1>was like, you know he was going to the screen.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sure because he ain't black. Well, I wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>dig into that ship. Did you know that? That's one.

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<v Speaker 1>It's because there was a lot of chickens in the field.

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<v Speaker 1>It was the easiest thing to give. But one of

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<v Speaker 1>the reasons that like slave owners wanted to push that

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<v Speaker 1>ship is bec as they find eating with hands barbaric,

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<v Speaker 1>they want to watch that because, yeah, do you know

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<v Speaker 1>how sick people are? So crazy? Sorry white people? All

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<v Speaker 1>twenty seven of y'all listening, Uh, you know, we only

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<v Speaker 1>got about seven actually twenty nine since we were commenting likelines. Anyways,

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<v Speaker 1>We almost got a hunted over at s wo um.

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<v Speaker 1>gonna get past the hunting episodes of sex Bitch, we

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<v Speaker 1>got almost three hunted now. Alright, So y'all, all right,

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<v Speaker 1>someone in the YouTube said that you and I are

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<v Speaker 1>not gonna make it until May, so we're gonna push through. Anyways.

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<v Speaker 1>And this has been yet another episode of horrible decisions

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<v Speaker 1>to get into our Vanellusha. Because the crazy part about

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<v Speaker 1>this is everyone assumes it to be a woman. So

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<v Speaker 1>when you hear this, of course you're gonna think it's

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<v Speaker 1>a woman. So this comes from the New York Post.

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<v Speaker 1>A nurse was suspended after stripping off ppe to have

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<v Speaker 1>sex with a COVID nineteen patience. Oh my god, I

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<v Speaker 1>remember this. It was a gay dude, right, it was

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<v Speaker 1>a dude, bro nurse. I'm just saying there, that's what

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<v Speaker 1>we're doing. That's what we're doing. Maybe that is what

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<v Speaker 1>he said beach and and honestly, to be fair, I

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<v Speaker 1>told y'all my nigga fucked me in every hope possible

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<v Speaker 1>while I had COVID and he maintained negative status. So

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know how this works. Maybe you can't get

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<v Speaker 1>it through sex. I don't know. A male nurse in

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<v Speaker 1>Indonesia has been suspended after admitting that he stripped off

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<v Speaker 1>his perse snow protective equipment to have sex in a

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<v Speaker 1>toilet with a man infected with COVID nineteen. It is

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<v Speaker 1>true that there has been a suspected incident of a

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<v Speaker 1>same sex relationship between a health worker and a COVID

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<v Speaker 1>nineteen patient at the Wisma Outlet Emergency Hospital. He said

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<v Speaker 1>the nurse must follow legal processing the Indonesia. The Indonesia

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<v Speaker 1>expat reported the incident in Jakarta came to light when

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<v Speaker 1>the patient boasted about the romp on his Twitter account.

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<v Speaker 1>All right now, so the motherfucking COVID patient decided to brag.

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<v Speaker 1>This is that capital building ship. You could have just

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<v Speaker 1>shut the up, could have just shut up, but it

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<v Speaker 1>could have just not said nothing. But I ain't gonna

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<v Speaker 1>hold you if you got COVID? Do you in a

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<v Speaker 1>hospital I mean, to be fair, we talk about our

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<v Speaker 1>sexual sescapades quite a bit. Would you mention that you've

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<v Speaker 1>begged a fine as nurse or doctor and then he

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<v Speaker 1>came at h a pussy while you had COVID? I

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<v Speaker 1>think you and I would maybe brad about I would.

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<v Speaker 1>I would, I would say that, but just maybe I

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<v Speaker 1>wouldn't say um, oh damn. I guess I would say no.

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<v Speaker 1>Let me say I probably wouldn't bring up the COVID

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<v Speaker 1>part because then it's like, you look, no, but say

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<v Speaker 1>you announced COVID and then you talk about when you

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<v Speaker 1>got tested, how you have to maybe stay in the

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<v Speaker 1>hospital and you had sex in the hospital. It's it's

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<v Speaker 1>literally just oh, clearly you had sex in the hospital.

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<v Speaker 1>Twitter like, can we interview them because they're fun well,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I don't know. Do they speak well, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>Jacarta in Indonesia they pretty they do speak English. Oh

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<v Speaker 1>if you watch De Fiancee Um, there's an Indonesian girl

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<v Speaker 1>that comes and she moves to Wisconsin and she was like,

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<v Speaker 1>this is very poor, Like I grew up very rich,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, they like have a really weird English

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<v Speaker 1>because it's all the accents all come from who you

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<v Speaker 1>learn English from like some people come down like you're like,

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<v Speaker 1>what the funk? It's all how you learn English? Oh? Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>this was like this it poor as fun, like they

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<v Speaker 1>got bread in Jakarta. Oh yeah, no they do. It's

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<v Speaker 1>crazy because when I was living in Singapore, all of

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<v Speaker 1>the scammer Africans live in Jakarta. So like this, it's

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<v Speaker 1>also mad Nigerians and Jakarta with maccarter, I'm Jakarta. But

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<v Speaker 1>um we found that out because we met the niggas

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<v Speaker 1>when we was in Bali and a bitch when I

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<v Speaker 1>was in when I was in fucking Singapore, we we

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<v Speaker 1>flew to Bali for seventy five dollars in my nigga,

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<v Speaker 1>like when you get over there, telling cheap to fly.

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<v Speaker 1>So we went to Bally for Christmas and that's where

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<v Speaker 1>we met these Nigerians and they weren't able to come

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<v Speaker 1>into Singapore because Singapore is very strict when it comes

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<v Speaker 1>to Nigerian passport holders. And they was like, yo, Singapore

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<v Speaker 1>don't let us in because they require like bank statements

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<v Speaker 1>and ship and clearly they funds ain't legit my nigga.

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<v Speaker 1>So these I'm not gonna say all Nigerian Nigerians, but Singapore.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just saying I want to clear that up because

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<v Speaker 1>it's not all Nigerians with the scammers. Is the one

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<v Speaker 1>that got a problem. I just wanted to tell you

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<v Speaker 1>guys really quick. I just had a text come through

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<v Speaker 1>it would love to read. Hi, Gela, I'm writing you

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<v Speaker 1>on behalf of your conversation this morning with I won't

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<v Speaker 1>say his name. I just wanted to apologize on the

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<v Speaker 1>behalf of our company. Our production company has never faced

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<v Speaker 1>something like this. We stand by our biopic, but by

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<v Speaker 1>pH is in round and I would love to have

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<v Speaker 1>a discussion regarding how our company would move forward. Please

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<v Speaker 1>let me know when you're free today for a call again.

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<v Speaker 1>Sincerest apologies, But I see I ain't even gonna hold

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<v Speaker 1>you that email right there. Bothers me too, because that

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<v Speaker 1>now they're making it seem like, oh, we want to

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<v Speaker 1>make sure she doesn't claim that we're racist over here.

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<v Speaker 1>Pretty good on Patre, I don't, yeah, but I don't

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<v Speaker 1>understand like your need to point out the BIPOC part,

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<v Speaker 1>like what is the BIPOC code? You know? And I

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<v Speaker 1>probably because in my email I said something about it.

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<v Speaker 1>I said, did the nobody else was black on the call, see,

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<v Speaker 1>and That's what I'm talking about. Like so I just

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<v Speaker 1>I just uh hie good sign. Let me tell you

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<v Speaker 1>something that is really bringing up dude, Like I hate

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<v Speaker 1>that ship.