WEBVTT - Good Dewayne Gone Bad w/ Dewayne Perkins 0:00:03.040 --> 0:00:08.840 Listening to mess mess, welcome to mess. 0:00:10.000 --> 0:00:13.720 But remember there was a song that I was singing. 0:00:14.000 --> 0:00:20.239 Because woman let me be a woman. Okay, messy, messy woman. Okay, 0:00:20.360 --> 0:00:21.239 I don't remember you singing that. 0:00:21.600 --> 0:00:24.439 Remember that you don't remember anything? Whoa, You got to 0:00:24.440 --> 0:00:25.319 stop smoking weed? 0:00:25.760 --> 0:00:29.640 Why I remember to smoke weed? And that's on the 0:00:29.800 --> 0:00:32.400 period I had smoked today. 0:00:32.120 --> 0:00:33.040 Though, good for you. 0:00:33.320 --> 0:00:36.360 Yeah, if the listeners don't know, I mean, this is 0:00:36.360 --> 0:00:38.239 coming out afterwards, but it's June teenth. 0:00:38.159 --> 0:00:40.320 It's June teenth, and they got us in the studio working, 0:00:40.720 --> 0:00:43.880 and every person in the studio that's working for us also. 0:00:43.760 --> 0:00:46.440 Black black black, black, black on black on. 0:00:46.440 --> 0:00:48.600 Black on black on black. I haven't seen a white 0:00:48.600 --> 0:00:49.400 person all day. 0:00:50.120 --> 0:00:53.240 Yeah, the trains were very empty. 0:00:53.840 --> 0:00:55.960 Maybe that's maybe that's what June Teeth is all about. 0:00:56.040 --> 0:00:58.720 It's like white erasure. 0:01:00.360 --> 0:01:02.960 With your chest, Mama's. 0:01:02.160 --> 0:01:06.200 With my thirty two seat. Yeah, maybe that's what it is. 0:01:06.240 --> 0:01:09.760 We get a break from the beige. Well, I will say, 0:01:09.760 --> 0:01:11.920 we do have some beige listeners. 0:01:11.920 --> 0:01:12.840 We appreciate y'all. 0:01:12.959 --> 0:01:14.480 Y'all not like the rest of them, you know what 0:01:14.520 --> 0:01:17.880 I'm saying. Sure, but they also not like us, so 0:01:18.240 --> 0:01:20.720 it's different. Like I was talking to my mom about 0:01:20.720 --> 0:01:25.039 what Juneteenth means today, and she was like, she was like, 0:01:25.080 --> 0:01:27.920 what a medmean? I was like, I think it's the thirteenth. 0:01:28.040 --> 0:01:32.160 I'm like Google, She's like, what year nineteen third? I 0:01:32.200 --> 0:01:34.640 was like, I think it was eighteen something. We got there, though, 0:01:34.680 --> 0:01:35.440 we got there. 0:01:35.840 --> 0:01:37.199 No child left behind. Huh. 0:01:37.200 --> 0:01:39.400 Well, my mom is from Haiti. She don't knowhing about Juneteenth. 0:01:40.000 --> 0:01:41.520 Juneteenth is new. It just came out. 0:01:41.959 --> 0:01:43.360 I hope Ice is not listening. 0:01:43.720 --> 0:01:46.520 Why, I guess wouldn't be listening to us. You never know. 0:01:46.520 --> 0:01:47.760 I was born here. I'm a citizen. 0:01:47.840 --> 0:01:52.120 Ice, Come get me. 0:01:52.200 --> 0:01:54.640 Think where you're gonna send me back to New York. 0:01:54.760 --> 0:01:55.560 Back to New York. 0:01:55.800 --> 0:01:58.720 So you know how, I ordered some boots from Essence 0:01:59.000 --> 0:02:01.240 that didn't really fit me. Yes, and so I sent 0:02:01.280 --> 0:02:03.640 them back and they sent me a picture of the 0:02:03.640 --> 0:02:06.000 bottom of the boots and they said, hey, you wore these, 0:02:06.000 --> 0:02:08.920 we can't accept them. I wore them from my bedroom 0:02:09.040 --> 0:02:11.680 to my kitchen, yes, And they were like, uhh. 0:02:11.320 --> 0:02:12.880 You wore them out. 0:02:13.280 --> 0:02:16.560 So I've been dodging the ups man for a couple 0:02:16.639 --> 0:02:17.359 of months. 0:02:17.720 --> 0:02:19.560 I was away a few weeks ago. 0:02:20.160 --> 0:02:22.400 The package was waiting for me at the dough when 0:02:22.440 --> 0:02:26.480 I got home. So I've been trying to figure out 0:02:26.720 --> 0:02:29.120 if I can just return the package to sender by 0:02:29.200 --> 0:02:31.880 writing return to sender on the box. 0:02:32.800 --> 0:02:35.560 Is that does that work? Like that? Girl? 0:02:35.880 --> 0:02:37.920 It don't matter if you send the boots back? Have 0:02:38.040 --> 0:02:40.280 they taken? Have they given you your money back? Somebody 0:02:40.320 --> 0:02:43.080 else paid for the boots. I just don't want them in. 0:02:43.320 --> 0:02:44.000 They don't fit me. 0:02:44.480 --> 0:02:48.000 They're a little bit too small and the box is massive. 0:02:48.680 --> 0:02:52.320 We'll just sell them, just sell them. 0:02:52.680 --> 0:02:55.400 What are you talking about? Deep hop? 0:02:56.160 --> 0:02:59.280 That feels like more steps than getting a sharpie and 0:02:59.320 --> 0:03:01.440 writing turn to send her or friend. 0:03:01.919 --> 0:03:04.120 You can go on your page and be like. 0:03:04.760 --> 0:03:09.160 Give away, who has who has the size? Giveaway? 0:03:09.280 --> 0:03:11.400 Meaning I then got to pay to ship it to them. 0:03:11.400 --> 0:03:13.560 If I right return to sender, it's gonna go for free. 0:03:13.680 --> 0:03:15.360 No no, no no. They have to be in New York. 0:03:15.840 --> 0:03:17.160 How about that? So they gotta come get it? 0:03:17.280 --> 0:03:17.480 Yes? 0:03:17.720 --> 0:03:20.920 Maybe maybe give them away at your next show, Sydney. 0:03:21.080 --> 0:03:23.079 I gotta bring this big app This is a These 0:03:23.120 --> 0:03:24.480 are over the knee boots. 0:03:25.480 --> 0:03:27.640 You didn't you didn't say that? 0:03:28.160 --> 0:03:30.160 These long mind you wish it's about to be July. 0:03:30.320 --> 0:03:32.040 These long boots in July. 0:03:32.280 --> 0:03:33.720 Girl, give it to an unhoused person. 0:03:33.760 --> 0:03:34.280 I don't know. 0:03:35.040 --> 0:03:38.120 That's mess that? Why is that the mess? O sides 0:03:38.160 --> 0:03:40.200 you wear? You seem like you got a small foot. Okay, 0:03:40.280 --> 0:03:41.120 oh yeah they'll. 0:03:40.920 --> 0:03:43.840 Fit you then, Okay, yeah, look at that. Wow, you're 0:03:43.880 --> 0:03:44.600 gonna come and get them? 0:03:48.280 --> 0:03:50.440 Wow? Put them in an overpackage. 0:03:51.120 --> 0:03:53.240 Maria is always finding a way like how can I 0:03:53.400 --> 0:03:55.080 give away something or get something? 0:03:55.160 --> 0:03:56.840 No, Sydney, I wasn't trying to give them away. I 0:03:56.880 --> 0:03:59.600 was trying to send them back. You trying to get 0:03:59.600 --> 0:04:02.240 me to give them away. I was workshopping something. You're right, 0:04:02.360 --> 0:04:08.080 that's mess, Wow, Sydney Mother Teresa Washington. Yeah, maybe you're 0:04:08.120 --> 0:04:10.080 not messed. Maybe I'm messed for not thinking about giving 0:04:10.120 --> 0:04:12.360 them away. I just want to get the biggest box 0:04:12.400 --> 0:04:13.040 out of my house. 0:04:13.560 --> 0:04:14.440 Totally understand. 0:04:14.480 --> 0:04:16.240 It's like a small college refrigerator. 0:04:16.520 --> 0:04:19.480 Hey, you know what, I know how hard it is 0:04:19.720 --> 0:04:23.400 to like task tasks are very hard. That's why I'm 0:04:23.440 --> 0:04:26.360 so bad at Newly because once I'm done with it, 0:04:26.520 --> 0:04:29.680 I have to send it back and that's my issue. 0:04:29.760 --> 0:04:32.359 I'll just keep it in my apartment for months and 0:04:32.400 --> 0:04:34.360 they're and they're charging me each month. 0:04:34.640 --> 0:04:34.880 What? 0:04:35.200 --> 0:04:37.400 Yes, I thought if you had if you had one, 0:04:37.440 --> 0:04:38.720 they didn't charge you for the next month. 0:04:38.880 --> 0:04:40.000 They charge you for the next month. 0:04:40.600 --> 0:04:40.920 Girl. 0:04:42.040 --> 0:04:45.039 Yeah, and that's another and that's another task. 0:04:45.240 --> 0:04:45.600 Listen. 0:04:46.000 --> 0:04:50.200 I paused my newly a couple of months ago and 0:04:50.240 --> 0:04:54.720 then my I lost my card. I lost my car 0:04:54.800 --> 0:04:57.360 that it was on and they unpaused it. But they 0:04:57.360 --> 0:05:00.360 were like, hey, we can't the cars work. 0:05:00.520 --> 0:05:02.040 They just did that to me too. They said, he 0:05:02.240 --> 0:05:03.960 we're not going through. And it's like, if the car 0:05:04.040 --> 0:05:08.440 is not working, cancel it. Then I get and they did. 0:05:08.480 --> 0:05:11.000 They canceled it. God's planned. Okay, I think that's going 0:05:11.040 --> 0:05:13.920 to happen to me. See, everything works in our favor. 0:05:14.040 --> 0:05:16.200 We are God's favorite. Yeah for sure. 0:05:16.480 --> 0:05:21.480 Amen boop, what's my mess? 0:05:22.520 --> 0:05:22.799 Girl? 0:05:22.839 --> 0:05:24.880 You were there for it? And so were you? 0:05:25.720 --> 0:05:27.159 Share it? The listeners were not there. 0:05:27.320 --> 0:05:31.719 We had we have a monthly shown with a mina. 0:05:32.440 --> 0:05:36.040 It's called Sundays and you know, we get up there, 0:05:36.040 --> 0:05:39.640 we host we have a good time. I'm on stage, 0:05:40.920 --> 0:05:43.960 minding my business, doing my jokes. Who do I see 0:05:44.480 --> 0:05:49.600 an X in the audience? An X was in the audience, 0:05:50.320 --> 0:05:52.279 didn't give me the heads up? Then text me bought 0:05:52.279 --> 0:05:55.640 a ticket, so cute cute for you because you are 0:05:55.640 --> 0:05:59.080 a fan, but I think there's got to be some protocol. 0:05:59.120 --> 0:06:01.720 You can't just show up at somebody's job. 0:06:02.720 --> 0:06:04.560 And he was dressed. 0:06:05.839 --> 0:06:08.120 Killer like a geisha at African Geisha. 0:06:08.200 --> 0:06:16.120 He was giving, you know, thank you, thank you for 0:06:16.160 --> 0:06:17.320 supporting the arts. 0:06:17.720 --> 0:06:20.280 But it was it was strange, like, if. 0:06:20.200 --> 0:06:24.640 You're gonna come to my job, right, you got to 0:06:24.680 --> 0:06:27.279 be in the shadows, you got to be in the back. 0:06:27.400 --> 0:06:28.920 You got to be by the bar. I shouldn't be 0:06:28.960 --> 0:06:31.039 able to see he was so close. 0:06:32.200 --> 0:06:35.360 And then I'm not even gonna say the second part. Well, 0:06:35.360 --> 0:06:37.839 I'll talk about it on the Patreon, the second part 0:06:37.839 --> 0:06:40.920 of it because it was actually very rude because then 0:06:40.960 --> 0:06:43.760 he made a post. I ain't gonna say the rest, 0:06:43.839 --> 0:06:47.040 but yeah, it was really upsetting because first of all, 0:06:47.480 --> 0:06:49.760 I just need to this one I'm gonna put out there. 0:06:50.160 --> 0:06:52.560 If I dated you and you were a man, I'm 0:06:52.560 --> 0:06:54.760 gay now, so that don't even count. I don't even 0:06:54.800 --> 0:06:57.360 know what who's this man? Sydney said it fell off 0:06:57.360 --> 0:06:59.680 her credit report. It fell off, And that's how I 0:07:00.080 --> 0:07:02.799 have addressed. I should have treated him like, oh hello, 0:07:03.120 --> 0:07:03.760 what's your name? 0:07:04.000 --> 0:07:06.200 No, but that's not what you did. I was actually 0:07:06.279 --> 0:07:08.720 kind of it was kind of mess do it. Sidney 0:07:08.760 --> 0:07:11.800 was like, my ex is here, and then she pointed 0:07:11.800 --> 0:07:13.680 to him and she's like, you're good, and me and 0:07:13.760 --> 0:07:15.320 a Mina were gagged. 0:07:15.600 --> 0:07:17.120 Yeah, you look good. 0:07:18.160 --> 0:07:20.240 Anytime you bump into your ex after you've left them, 0:07:20.360 --> 0:07:23.600 you want them to look distraught, disheveled. You want them 0:07:23.600 --> 0:07:25.560 to be dragging the leg behind them. You just want 0:07:25.560 --> 0:07:26.640 them to be doing bad. 0:07:27.040 --> 0:07:32.560 Well girl, First of all, the issue is is that. 0:07:35.080 --> 0:07:37.760 I just was. I had no words to speak. 0:07:38.120 --> 0:07:38.240 Well. 0:07:38.280 --> 0:07:39.640 First of all, I don't know how to be mean. 0:07:39.880 --> 0:07:41.800 That's my problem. That's a lie. I don't know. I 0:07:41.800 --> 0:07:45.040 don't know what I mean. That's how to be mean? 0:07:45.200 --> 0:07:47.680 Can you believe it? I've seen you be mean before. 0:07:47.720 --> 0:07:52.120 I'm such a sweetheart. That's a lie. When have I 0:07:52.200 --> 0:07:54.720 been mean? You've been mean to people that you've decided 0:07:54.760 --> 0:07:57.000 that you no longer want in your life? Is that mean? 0:07:57.200 --> 0:07:59.880 Or is that creating a boundary and standing on business? 0:08:00.760 --> 0:08:01.160 Period? 0:08:01.280 --> 0:08:01.360 So? 0:08:01.680 --> 0:08:02.480 Is it? 0:08:02.800 --> 0:08:02.880 So? 0:08:03.000 --> 0:08:05.000 When I'm mean? Am I being mean? Or am I 0:08:05.040 --> 0:08:09.720 setting setting a boundary and standing on business? Sny? Do 0:08:09.800 --> 0:08:12.200 you lead with your heart? I lead with my mouth? 0:08:15.400 --> 0:08:20.800 Love that boundary? Yeah? 0:08:20.840 --> 0:08:24.800 So I couldn't believe it, and then he reached out. 0:08:25.280 --> 0:08:27.200 I haven't written back, but he apologized. 0:08:27.280 --> 0:08:30.120 So the number hasn't changed. No, it hasn't. And you 0:08:30.200 --> 0:08:30.960 never blocked him. 0:08:31.040 --> 0:08:34.760 I don't block excess for what I mean. I mean, 0:08:34.800 --> 0:08:37.319 he broke up with me. So there's that. 0:08:38.000 --> 0:08:39.120 I'm saying that on the record. 0:08:39.200 --> 0:08:43.440 But whoa. Well, there was a time where I wasn't 0:08:43.920 --> 0:08:46.880 I wasn't eight ship. You wasn't a ship. Yeah you 0:08:46.960 --> 0:08:49.080 ainate wasn't ship. I ate ship. It wasn't ain't you. 0:08:49.840 --> 0:08:50.560 It wasn't mean. 0:08:51.360 --> 0:08:54.720 I was ship. Ye I was shitting. I was shitting 0:08:54.720 --> 0:08:55.400 on these foes. 0:08:55.720 --> 0:09:00.440 Well, he broke so it looked wild. Is that how 0:09:00.679 --> 0:09:02.480 he used to dress when you dated him? No? 0:09:02.480 --> 0:09:04.800 No, No, he's a he's a trainer, so he would 0:09:04.920 --> 0:09:07.600 dress like a trainer. He have a little duffle bag 0:09:07.760 --> 0:09:12.400 and like muscle muscles showing, you know, teeth whatever. And 0:09:13.040 --> 0:09:16.800 you know, just he had a job and he has skateboard. 0:09:17.360 --> 0:09:19.480 I met him with a skateboard. That's how you know. 0:09:19.760 --> 0:09:23.480 Just times was so tough, and he tried to get 0:09:23.480 --> 0:09:26.280 me to be on his skateboard to go to his house. 0:09:26.520 --> 0:09:31.040 That's a rom com for poor people. No, kick push. 0:09:32.440 --> 0:09:36.320 I love that, And that's to Tyler Perry. Well, Tyler's 0:09:36.360 --> 0:09:39.720 busy right now. He got a lot of allegations happening. 0:09:39.880 --> 0:09:42.600 He's got so much going on in the in the kitchen. 0:09:43.160 --> 0:09:44.880 They're leaking a bunch of his text messages. 0:09:44.880 --> 0:09:46.160 I don't know if you guys have seen him. 0:09:46.360 --> 0:09:49.360 Oh, no, I don't. I'm busy. I'm busy. 0:09:50.240 --> 0:09:53.360 Okay, I can't. Is the water in the shot? I 0:09:53.440 --> 0:09:54.920 just want to know? Is the jug in the shot? 0:09:55.800 --> 0:09:57.080 This is? She's busy doing this. 0:09:57.280 --> 0:09:59.960 Yeah, I'm still doing it hard seven. 0:10:00.880 --> 0:10:03.120 You can't even pick it up off the table. I 0:10:03.160 --> 0:10:09.800 have not been speaking of hard seventy five. Yeah, we 0:10:09.840 --> 0:10:11.640 have a guest in here tonight. You do have a 0:10:11.679 --> 0:10:20.439 guest in here? Wow? He is writer, actor, influencer, philanthropist. 0:10:20.720 --> 0:10:21.240 Yes he is. 0:10:21.320 --> 0:10:22.720 I do be helping folks, you do. 0:10:23.720 --> 0:10:25.160 Some would call him the spca. 0:10:31.520 --> 0:10:31.640 Uh. 0:10:32.440 --> 0:10:34.920 He's our dear, dear friend and my guaranteur. 0:10:35.200 --> 0:10:37.160 Give it up. We're a twain person. 0:10:37.920 --> 0:10:40.439 Thank you for having me. Yes, baby, it's hard not 0:10:40.520 --> 0:10:41.480 to talk to me. Are talking? 0:10:41.600 --> 0:10:43.800 Well, what do you have any like? Now's your chance 0:10:43.800 --> 0:10:45.120 to respond to anything that you heard. 0:10:45.440 --> 0:10:48.959 Oh, that whole acc thing was crazy. It was because 0:10:49.040 --> 0:10:51.040 I wanted to leave and I was like, why are 0:10:51.040 --> 0:10:52.040 you talking to this man? 0:10:52.720 --> 0:10:52.920 Yes? 0:10:52.960 --> 0:10:55.120 Any you were talking to him after the show for 0:10:55.920 --> 0:10:56.880 quite a while. 0:10:57.000 --> 0:10:58.520 Yes, And I felt like I had to be mean 0:10:58.559 --> 0:11:00.160 because you weren't. And I was like, can we know? 0:11:00.360 --> 0:11:01.920 And then I was like I got to actually walk 0:11:01.960 --> 0:11:06.720 outside because your lack of mean is manifesting in me 0:11:06.880 --> 0:11:09.240 in a way that I didn't want to showcase. 0:11:09.280 --> 0:11:11.080 You're picking up all the mean that she's dropping. 0:11:11.240 --> 0:11:12.600 Yes, that she was not dropping. 0:11:12.800 --> 0:11:16.640 Yes, because we didn't we move rooms, we left, and 0:11:16.720 --> 0:11:17.400 y'all were still. 0:11:17.559 --> 0:11:19.280 It was three different occasions. 0:11:20.040 --> 0:11:22.599 Hadn't seen him in yes, so long. 0:11:22.360 --> 0:11:24.680 Which is crazy because then why what is there to 0:11:24.720 --> 0:11:25.160 talk about? 0:11:25.679 --> 0:11:28.520 I mean, I'm doing well, Okay, there's so much to 0:11:28.559 --> 0:11:28.960 talk about. 0:11:29.040 --> 0:11:29.360 Okay. 0:11:29.360 --> 0:11:31.640 See, now that's how you flip it. She's talking to 0:11:31.679 --> 0:11:32.280 him about how. 0:11:32.200 --> 0:11:32.880 Great she's doing. 0:11:33.679 --> 0:11:36.560 I love everything you're doing. I'm proud of you. I mean, 0:11:36.600 --> 0:11:39.160 he was there when I started comedy. 0:11:38.800 --> 0:11:42.800 Actually, so that was like an ego boost. 0:11:43.160 --> 0:11:46.160 I don't know, Hey, I don't understand, man, I don't 0:11:46.200 --> 0:11:47.240 speak man, I don't know. 0:11:47.320 --> 0:11:48.400 He was he was about. 0:11:48.240 --> 0:11:50.080 For you, Oh what do you mean talking to him? 0:11:50.160 --> 0:11:52.600 You were just talking to him to like boost yourself up, 0:11:52.640 --> 0:11:54.040 to tell him how great you were doing. 0:11:55.440 --> 0:11:57.680 You know, thank you for unpacking all of this. These 0:11:57.679 --> 0:12:00.240 are great questions. I cannot come back to them. Can 0:12:01.679 --> 0:12:02.199 circle back? 0:12:02.320 --> 0:12:02.520 Yeah? 0:12:02.559 --> 0:12:03.040 Put a pin? 0:12:04.240 --> 0:12:06.240 What about Marie? What about her mess? 0:12:06.240 --> 0:12:08.280 Oh the boots? Yeah? I forgot what my mess was? 0:12:08.520 --> 0:12:09.000 Oh yeah she. 0:12:09.160 --> 0:12:10.439 I don't know why you just couldn't leave them on 0:12:10.440 --> 0:12:12.920 the street. Is New York free? 0:12:13.679 --> 0:12:17.280 Somebody? I could do that, but Beckha might want them? 0:12:18.720 --> 0:12:20.760 Yeah that's better. 0:12:20.960 --> 0:12:23.320 Yes, Rather a stylish person put them on and then 0:12:23.360 --> 0:12:24.200 it's their problem. 0:12:24.400 --> 0:12:25.599 Yeah, Or you could have put it out on the 0:12:25.600 --> 0:12:27.679 street then when Day saw them, and maybe maybe you 0:12:27.720 --> 0:12:29.240 could have made it to Mary J. Blige or something 0:12:29.320 --> 0:12:29.880 she could have had. 0:12:30.040 --> 0:12:31.520 You think Mary J Blige is going to end up 0:12:31.520 --> 0:12:32.560 with my street boots? 0:12:32.640 --> 0:12:33.800 Yeah, well you never know. 0:12:34.720 --> 0:12:36.480 She has a bigger she has a bigger foot than you. 0:12:36.520 --> 0:12:36.840 For sure. 0:12:37.240 --> 0:12:39.480 It's New York City, the city of. 0:12:39.559 --> 0:12:44.600 Dream hung he knew, yea. 0:12:45.320 --> 0:12:47.440 Now, I just want to put both things of water 0:12:47.679 --> 0:12:50.040 side by side, because y'all are doing hard seventy five together. 0:12:50.320 --> 0:12:50.880 Yeah. 0:12:50.920 --> 0:12:52.720 I convinced Sydney to do it with me because I 0:12:52.720 --> 0:12:54.280 did not want to know about myself. 0:12:54.080 --> 0:12:56.200 So you are the originator. 0:12:56.320 --> 0:12:59.400 Yes, accountability is better when there's an accountability partner. 0:13:00.080 --> 0:13:01.360 True, it's better to do it with somebody. 0:13:01.360 --> 0:13:03.719 I think we live in the same house. So if 0:13:03.720 --> 0:13:05.960 she wasn't doing it, I would have been very upset 0:13:05.960 --> 0:13:07.520 every time I saw her eat a piece of bread. 0:13:07.760 --> 0:13:09.880 Okay, so let's talk about it. Y'all. Can't eat no bread? 0:13:10.240 --> 0:13:14.560 Well she can't. I gave up bread, fried food, sugars. 0:13:14.920 --> 0:13:15.160 Uh. 0:13:15.200 --> 0:13:19.040 And I also, I'm sober while I'm in New York. Oh, 0:13:19.200 --> 0:13:19.800 terrible time. 0:13:20.000 --> 0:13:22.480 Sober like California sober. 0:13:22.400 --> 0:13:26.200 No just like no alcohol, no, no weed, no drugs, 0:13:26.200 --> 0:13:27.439 no nothing, no joy. 0:13:28.240 --> 0:13:31.400 Yeah, Marie, it's been hard. 0:13:32.679 --> 0:13:34.199 There's joy in sobriety. 0:13:35.600 --> 0:13:38.920 Yeah, with practice. But this is new for me. So 0:13:38.960 --> 0:13:41.480 there are like in the summertime I have to it's hard, 0:13:41.600 --> 0:13:43.839 Like there's moments where I'm like, damn, this is when 0:13:43.840 --> 0:13:46.079 I would smoke. Then I gotta go do something else 0:13:46.960 --> 0:13:47.880 like exercise. 0:13:48.559 --> 0:13:51.480 Mm hmm. Yeah. Sleep. 0:13:52.480 --> 0:13:55.800 Uh, sleeping is good. I think sleeping is a great one. 0:13:55.920 --> 0:13:58.360 Like other vices, what go to aniga? 0:13:58.559 --> 0:14:00.760 Oh, well I don't have I can't do that. 0:14:00.840 --> 0:14:04.640 But yes, it's just just anything like I tried to 0:14:04.679 --> 0:14:06.640 read thumb whoa. 0:14:06.760 --> 0:14:09.440 Yeah, that was part of the heard seventy five is 0:14:09.440 --> 0:14:11.000 you got to read ten pages a day. 0:14:11.280 --> 0:14:12.960 Yeah, I didn't. I ain't doing that part. 0:14:13.040 --> 0:14:14.560 I started that with you, Sydney. I read. 0:14:14.760 --> 0:14:17.160 I made it to like thirty maybe forty something pages, 0:14:17.200 --> 0:14:19.080 and the book, you know what it is, The book sucked. 0:14:19.240 --> 0:14:21.240 I said, what book is it? Put it? Put it out? 0:14:22.000 --> 0:14:23.760 You know. Remember it's a book that I got for free. 0:14:24.280 --> 0:14:27.000 That it is. And then like, I'll be writing. So 0:14:27.040 --> 0:14:29.520 I consider me reading my own writing to be reading, 0:14:30.160 --> 0:14:32.480 I say, and I'm getting paid for this. I actually 0:14:32.480 --> 0:14:35.880 have a better program. 0:14:35.960 --> 0:14:40.280 Yeah, I'm reading the artist Way and it's I mean, 0:14:41.000 --> 0:14:43.120 whenever I can, I'm reading the Artist's Way. 0:14:43.200 --> 0:14:44.520 Okay, yeah, as you go. 0:14:44.720 --> 0:14:46.840 I tried to read it. It was a little difficult for me. 0:14:46.960 --> 0:14:47.800 Why is it difficult. 0:14:48.280 --> 0:14:50.120 I think it's for a certain type of person. 0:14:50.400 --> 0:14:51.560 The one that believes in God. 0:14:52.000 --> 0:14:56.840 No, one that's a little insecure. Oh, it's a lot 0:14:56.880 --> 0:14:59.120 of like believe in yourself. And I'm like, already have 0:14:59.200 --> 0:15:02.240 that part. Girl, get to the task, Like what are 0:15:02.240 --> 0:15:02.640 we doing? 0:15:03.880 --> 0:15:08.280 The task is doing the solo dates and you know, 0:15:08.480 --> 0:15:09.560 doing the morning pages. 0:15:09.720 --> 0:15:11.760 Yeah, but to get there is her being like, I 0:15:11.800 --> 0:15:14.000 help this banker be happy again, and I was like, 0:15:14.040 --> 0:15:16.360 I'm gonna fuck about this banker low key, Like it's 0:15:16.400 --> 0:15:19.920 just it feels very self congratulatory in a way that 0:15:20.120 --> 0:15:24.920 I just don't care. Like the voice of the book 0:15:25.240 --> 0:15:26.120 is not my favorite. 0:15:26.280 --> 0:15:29.760 Yeah, oh white Lady wrote it. Yeah, come on, he 0:15:29.840 --> 0:15:30.760 said that you like the book. 0:15:31.920 --> 0:15:35.680 I mean, he says, for someone who's insecure, I wouldn't 0:15:35.680 --> 0:15:37.040 say that I'm insecure. 0:15:37.280 --> 0:15:39.760 I think that because I'm working. 0:15:39.480 --> 0:15:42.080 Through did you just did you move? 0:15:43.080 --> 0:15:45.160 Looked at my finger. I looked at my hand. 0:15:46.640 --> 0:15:49.400 Because you know you're shady. I am not you are. 0:15:49.760 --> 0:15:52.400 No, I don't mean insecure like a bad way. I 0:15:52.440 --> 0:15:53.440 do mean like insecuring. 0:15:53.880 --> 0:15:56.760 He said, they're not for somebody who's insecure. 0:15:56.600 --> 0:16:00.160 Yeah, that they're not secure in their artistry. Literally, that's 0:16:00.160 --> 0:16:03.520 why they're reading a book about how to work their artistry. 0:16:03.640 --> 0:16:05.480 So why were you doing it to see if there 0:16:05.560 --> 0:16:09.880 was new ways to expand not to create it. So 0:16:09.920 --> 0:16:14.520 it's very different. We're just at different places and I'm 0:16:14.560 --> 0:16:18.440 looking for more like pitches, not necessarily like oh, you're 0:16:19.000 --> 0:16:22.440 a garbage man and you want to find some artistic 0:16:22.440 --> 0:16:25.320 way to live. That's like not I don't need that. 0:16:26.840 --> 0:16:27.200 Garbage. 0:16:27.240 --> 0:16:27.440 Man. 0:16:27.560 --> 0:16:30.000 Yeah, and I already like have an artistic way. I'm 0:16:30.040 --> 0:16:31.640 just trying to see if there are other ways to 0:16:31.760 --> 0:16:33.920 expand that, to see if I can glean something from it. 0:16:34.000 --> 0:16:37.160 Well, then the title would be the other artist's way. 0:16:37.280 --> 0:16:38.600 And that's why I stopped reading it. 0:16:39.160 --> 0:16:42.600 I got a book. It's called Steal Like an artist, Marie. 0:16:42.680 --> 0:16:44.120 That's so on brand for you. 0:16:44.160 --> 0:16:46.600 WHOA what that means? 0:16:48.320 --> 0:16:51.560 It's true, most art is stomach And I would say, like, 0:16:51.560 --> 0:16:53.880 as a screenwriter, that's all it is. You just look 0:16:53.920 --> 0:16:56.040 at somebody that's movie and then you just do that. 0:16:58.040 --> 0:17:03.840 How we struggle trying to the original steal so. 0:17:03.880 --> 0:17:06.439 Many times I said, we can do something so quick. 0:17:06.600 --> 0:17:08.560 Dwayne, I don't think you told me this a bunch 0:17:08.560 --> 0:17:11.040 of times. You have told Sidney this. He told both 0:17:11.080 --> 0:17:13.760 of us. Win, we're not listening, said, you can't remember. 0:17:13.840 --> 0:17:15.639 We were in LA We were both in a car. 0:17:16.080 --> 0:17:19.240 We were outside of your ex's house, and I remember 0:17:19.240 --> 0:17:20.440 we were talking this. 0:17:20.280 --> 0:17:21.760 Is this dent. 0:17:22.720 --> 0:17:25.800 No, No, it's the case of the X for me 0:17:26.119 --> 0:17:27.040 every single time. 0:17:29.359 --> 0:17:31.960 And we were talking about like pilots and writing and 0:17:32.600 --> 0:17:34.359 just like I don't want to and I was like, 0:17:34.359 --> 0:17:37.240 but let me tell it's not. It's easy. All you 0:17:37.320 --> 0:17:39.119 gotta do is steal. 0:17:39.880 --> 0:17:43.720 Remember that's what you're saying on the pile as a writer. 0:17:44.359 --> 0:17:46.600 Still like an like as an artist, like what do 0:17:46.640 --> 0:17:50.600 you like everything? There was like twelve Steve Job movies. 0:17:50.840 --> 0:17:53.520 You think they were different? Was there twelve? And they 0:17:53.560 --> 0:17:55.359 all came out at the same time? There was one 0:17:55.680 --> 0:18:00.000 how many, well that's twelve to doing how many Cinderellas 0:18:00.160 --> 0:18:02.560 have there been? There was like four snow Whites, Like 0:18:02.600 --> 0:18:06.760 it's all the same. Ship structure, story structure is the same. 0:18:07.240 --> 0:18:09.640 You watch a movie and you know act three and bash, 0:18:09.680 --> 0:18:11.160 it's gonna happen because they got to overcome. 0:18:12.119 --> 0:18:14.520 Let's rewrite sinners. 0:18:14.560 --> 0:18:20.639 Really this is what you want, okay, but we were 0:18:20.680 --> 0:18:23.359 supposed to be twins and we don't. Look, this is 0:18:23.400 --> 0:18:27.800 the rewrite. Ye, it'll be a comedy. I mean it'll 0:18:27.840 --> 0:18:30.080 be like vampires in Brooklyn meet. 0:18:30.119 --> 0:18:34.639 Cinner see but that's too close vampire, yes, or like 0:18:34.800 --> 0:18:36.119 mummies or some mummy. 0:18:36.720 --> 0:18:40.560 It's like, you want us to be mummy and the 0:18:40.560 --> 0:18:42.359 whole thing is that, you know the look yeah, but 0:18:42.440 --> 0:18:43.560 we'll be mummies. 0:18:43.160 --> 0:18:46.720 That have bought so it's like, yeah, so you're the 0:18:47.000 --> 0:18:49.040 like you are unwrapped at the beginning and the people 0:18:49.040 --> 0:18:53.960 are like, oh, they're black, lady, mummy mummies. 0:18:54.240 --> 0:18:55.800 Yeah, that's that's. 0:18:55.720 --> 0:18:56.280 The name of it. 0:18:58.760 --> 0:18:58.960 Black. 0:18:59.520 --> 0:19:06.680 They know that the mummies are black because through tendrils 0:19:07.000 --> 0:19:07.960 in between. 0:19:07.800 --> 0:19:12.560 Your wraps and ma, I'm a mummy, but I have 0:19:12.640 --> 0:19:14.639 a zoobie, you know what I mean. It's a full 0:19:14.960 --> 0:19:16.320 and it just goes around your whole. 0:19:16.359 --> 0:19:21.040 By what, I'm gonna have a New Yorker chain and everything. 0:19:21.119 --> 0:19:23.560 I'm gonna be wearing Thames. That that's how they know. 0:19:24.119 --> 0:19:24.520 Sinners. 0:19:25.200 --> 0:19:30.680 I like this, sinners. But mummy Bran, Hey, we're doing pictures. 0:19:33.840 --> 0:19:36.399 These glasses are giving. The glasses with the sleepless sweater 0:19:36.520 --> 0:19:37.600 vests is given. 0:19:37.320 --> 0:19:39.119 Hollywood, thank you so much. 0:19:39.600 --> 0:19:40.520 It's giving secure. 0:19:40.880 --> 0:19:43.359 I think in its artistry, I think that is the 0:19:43.400 --> 0:19:46.800 biggest issue in the world right now. Whoa well for me? 0:19:47.080 --> 0:19:47.399 Okay? 0:19:47.840 --> 0:19:50.520 People being insecure like people not having like a strong 0:19:50.560 --> 0:19:52.640 sense of self and it causes a lot of issues. 0:19:53.359 --> 0:19:56.520 Yeah. I think a lot of insecurities start like wars 0:19:56.680 --> 0:19:58.359 and battles and. 0:20:00.080 --> 0:20:02.720 Like if you knew who you were, then little things 0:20:02.720 --> 0:20:04.920 would bother you less, maybe even some big things because 0:20:04.920 --> 0:20:07.040 you'd be like you did that and I don't like it, 0:20:07.119 --> 0:20:09.000 but yeah, I'm too busy to. 0:20:09.040 --> 0:20:12.320 Caud you say it how you feel it was real? Yeah, 0:20:12.720 --> 0:20:15.800 that's like my Ugh, that's what I struggle with now. 0:20:15.840 --> 0:20:18.000 I was telling Sydney that I don't want to be 0:20:18.119 --> 0:20:21.280 nice anymore, like tired nice. 0:20:21.359 --> 0:20:23.560 Well let's let's rewhind Duane. 0:20:23.720 --> 0:20:24.520 Yes you're here. 0:20:24.680 --> 0:20:25.439 What's your mess? 0:20:25.520 --> 0:20:29.840 I am? My mess is I Niceness I think has 0:20:29.920 --> 0:20:31.960 to go. I think as a nation as a people, 0:20:32.000 --> 0:20:35.200 we've moved past nice as a nation, as a nation, 0:20:35.359 --> 0:20:37.560 as a people, as a people, as a society. 0:20:37.640 --> 0:20:39.639 But a lot of people aren't nice exactly. 0:20:39.720 --> 0:20:41.960 That's what I was, like, what a lot I think 0:20:42.160 --> 0:20:44.480 the attempt at trying to be nice, Like I think 0:20:44.520 --> 0:20:48.879 that's like is what's ruining it because I think that 0:20:48.880 --> 0:20:52.280 the people that are not nice they're living in their truth, 0:20:52.280 --> 0:20:53.919 and the people that are trying to be nice are not. 0:20:54.200 --> 0:20:56.600 And it creates a situation to where like if you 0:20:56.720 --> 0:20:59.800 not nice, I know this similar to like racism. We're 0:20:59.800 --> 0:21:03.000 like overt racism just be like, oh you hate niggas cool, 0:21:03.320 --> 0:21:05.480 But the people that pretend like they don't, then he's like, oh, 0:21:06.080 --> 0:21:08.200 why'd you waste my time when I know you hate niggas. 0:21:08.320 --> 0:21:11.480 Similar to that, I bean like nice. If you're not nice, 0:21:11.800 --> 0:21:13.960 I know that immediately because you're not nice. It's people 0:21:13.960 --> 0:21:16.119 who hate niggas that I know how to navigate that. 0:21:16.240 --> 0:21:18.560 It's crazy, Yes, people who don't like black people and 0:21:18.560 --> 0:21:19.639 they have black children. 0:21:19.400 --> 0:21:21.520 And I hate it. And I feel like I've been 0:21:21.560 --> 0:21:24.159 in a lot of situations where people were being nice 0:21:24.560 --> 0:21:27.199 and I was like, I'd rather you not because this 0:21:27.320 --> 0:21:29.880 is not helping the situation. This is actually not serving us. 0:21:30.240 --> 0:21:33.760 You're trying to be nice. You're actually wasting my fucking time. 0:21:34.000 --> 0:21:35.200 So if you had all. 0:21:35.080 --> 0:21:37.240 The rings and you could snap your finger and erase 0:21:37.400 --> 0:21:39.439 niceness in the world, you would do that. 0:21:39.920 --> 0:21:41.600 Probably, Not, that wouldn't be the first thing. 0:21:42.600 --> 0:21:43.239 What's the first thing? 0:21:43.280 --> 0:21:46.119 You was orias, it's not. I'm kidding. 0:21:47.400 --> 0:21:48.919 Ciass, that's what you have. 0:21:50.840 --> 0:21:53.960 That's what came to mind. No, I would the first 0:21:54.000 --> 0:21:59.399 thing would probably be insecurity. Oh yeah, that's good. I 0:21:59.400 --> 0:22:00.600 think that would really how. 0:22:00.920 --> 0:22:04.320 No, no, no, no, I think the wrong people are insecure 0:22:04.680 --> 0:22:06.760 and the people who should be insecure are not. 0:22:07.240 --> 0:22:09.840 They're the ones that are, Like, you know, I'm gonna 0:22:09.840 --> 0:22:12.040 make a business and I'm gonna tell everybody to do this, 0:22:12.160 --> 0:22:14.840 and I'm not qualified, but you know what, I should 0:22:14.840 --> 0:22:16.960 be president like things of that sort. 0:22:17.320 --> 0:22:18.919 We should be in I hear what you're saying. But 0:22:19.000 --> 0:22:23.720 everybody is insecure about something. Every single person alive, confident 0:22:23.840 --> 0:22:27.440 or not, has at least one insecurity something. 0:22:27.200 --> 0:22:29.040 That they don't and I think if we replace that 0:22:29.119 --> 0:22:32.600 with simply discernment, then we could be solution based instead 0:22:32.600 --> 0:22:33.480 of just having any motion. 0:22:33.880 --> 0:22:35.840 Now, for the people listening who don't know what discernment means, 0:22:35.840 --> 0:22:36.520 what I means. 0:22:36.840 --> 0:22:41.000 That's the word of the day. Discernment the ability to discern, 0:22:43.400 --> 0:22:45.440 the discern. 0:22:45.600 --> 0:22:47.520 Is discerned, Alex. 0:22:47.680 --> 0:22:54.320 What's discern is the ability to see in process something. 0:22:55.080 --> 0:22:58.679 Oh that's what this whole yeah, to like have like 0:22:59.280 --> 0:23:04.520 a knowledge of opinion based off information. So instead of 0:23:04.520 --> 0:23:07.760 being like, oh, I'm insecure, like I feel insecure about 0:23:07.760 --> 0:23:11.160 the situation, you're like, oh, this situation makes me feel this, 0:23:11.840 --> 0:23:14.399 and because of that, I feel this way versus just 0:23:14.440 --> 0:23:18.000 having any emotion. You know, what's the point of having that. 0:23:18.240 --> 0:23:20.399 You're looking for the origin of that and then finding 0:23:20.400 --> 0:23:24.919 a solution feeling it. 0:23:25.560 --> 0:23:27.520 I'm not gonna lie to you, friend, I'm confused, but 0:23:27.920 --> 0:23:29.600 what you're saying feels right. 0:23:29.880 --> 0:23:33.280 It feels right, yeah, Sidney, and I we lack discern. 0:23:34.359 --> 0:23:37.760 For example, Okay, so something that I said in the 0:23:37.800 --> 0:23:42.480 car when we were talking about pilots, for example, You're like, oh, 0:23:42.800 --> 0:23:46.119 I know people who are like doing stuff and writing pilots, 0:23:46.400 --> 0:23:49.400 and because I have not, like comparing yourself to them. 0:23:49.640 --> 0:23:52.199 And I was like, you haven't written a pilot, so 0:23:52.200 --> 0:23:54.159 you should compare yourself to people who also have not 0:23:54.200 --> 0:23:57.200 written pilot, because why would you compare yourself to somebody 0:23:57.200 --> 0:23:58.760 who you're not even doing the same thing. 0:23:58.840 --> 0:23:59.600 That's right. 0:24:00.359 --> 0:24:02.320 If I haven't done it, I should be comparing myself 0:24:02.320 --> 0:24:03.760 to people who also haven't done it. 0:24:03.840 --> 0:24:06.880 Yeah, and if you do, you should feel normal because 0:24:06.920 --> 0:24:07.800 y'all at the same place. 0:24:07.800 --> 0:24:11.560 Actually, I actually feel better than them, but I feel 0:24:11.560 --> 0:24:13.119 worse than the others, you know what I'm saying. 0:24:13.160 --> 0:24:15.240 That's what I say. Always compare yourself to the worst. 0:24:15.280 --> 0:24:17.399 Why are you can pay yourself to the best? That's crazy, you. 0:24:19.040 --> 0:24:21.040 Know, because I feel like if I compare myself to 0:24:21.080 --> 0:24:23.600 the best, and it's gonna make me want to be better. 0:24:23.840 --> 0:24:25.880 But if I compare myself to the worst, then it's 0:24:25.920 --> 0:24:28.240 like I'm good where I'm at, yeah, and I don't 0:24:28.240 --> 0:24:29.200 want to be good where I'm at. 0:24:29.240 --> 0:24:31.000 And that's why you now have to have discernmined about 0:24:31.000 --> 0:24:33.679 who you are. Some people, if you do compare yourself 0:24:33.680 --> 0:24:36.120 to the best, it may be create a thing where 0:24:36.119 --> 0:24:37.760 you're like, oh, they're too far, there's no point in 0:24:37.800 --> 0:24:41.040 me trying to reach that. You have to know yourself 0:24:41.080 --> 0:24:43.280 to know what's the best way to accomplish waying. 0:24:43.320 --> 0:24:44.600 Do you have a master's degree? 0:24:44.800 --> 0:24:46.800 I know, I just have had therapy since I was 0:24:46.800 --> 0:24:48.240 like in kindergarten because I had a speech. 0:24:48.000 --> 0:24:51.119 Impediment therapy for people with a stutter. 0:24:51.280 --> 0:24:54.600 That's because my stutter was attached to my emotions. So 0:24:54.680 --> 0:24:56.160 I had to know myself in order to be able 0:24:56.200 --> 0:24:56.560 to speak. 0:24:56.600 --> 0:24:58.400 Oh so you get like so angry or like. 0:24:58.440 --> 0:25:01.119 So I was just anxious all the time, so like 0:25:01.160 --> 0:25:03.760 my body would like go into fight or flight and situations. 0:25:03.760 --> 0:25:06.320 So I had to like mentally and emotionally control my 0:25:06.400 --> 0:25:08.360 emotions to be able to tell my body like, oh, 0:25:08.400 --> 0:25:11.760 it's okay to speak, because I think that's what larynx 0:25:11.760 --> 0:25:12.080 were like. 0:25:12.200 --> 0:25:14.000 I literally think I have those. 0:25:15.600 --> 0:25:16.159 Absolutely. 0:25:16.200 --> 0:25:18.439 I think I have a speech impediment when I'm like 0:25:18.920 --> 0:25:24.479 anxious or what I'm thinking. It's like going so fast 0:25:24.520 --> 0:25:27.400 that when I speak my words jumble up. 0:25:30.920 --> 0:25:35.400 You're not you don't get it. Same thing that Dwyane 0:25:35.520 --> 0:25:36.240 Junior had. 0:25:37.040 --> 0:25:39.359 I just had like a really bad stutter where like 0:25:39.400 --> 0:25:42.040 I actually like was like it wouldn't come out. 0:25:42.080 --> 0:25:43.520 Oh yeah, No, No I didn't. I don't have a stutter. 0:25:43.640 --> 0:25:44.359 I just I guess. 0:25:44.760 --> 0:25:46.119 I guess I got a thick tongue. 0:25:46.160 --> 0:25:53.080 Maybe I have something doing. He did say she was 0:25:53.119 --> 0:25:56.080 a good time. So he said that people y'all know, 0:25:56.240 --> 0:25:58.720 y'all know that was that was a Yelp review five stars. 0:25:59.440 --> 0:25:59.879 That mouth. 0:26:00.760 --> 0:26:05.080 Now that is a mess. I'm delivered. I don't do that, 0:26:05.240 --> 0:26:11.080 no one. Okay. I'm not with Metro no more. I'm 0:26:11.080 --> 0:26:30.159 with AKMC. Okay. 0:26:30.280 --> 0:26:33.320 So now you have all the discernment you need and 0:26:33.359 --> 0:26:34.880 you're just trying to find. 0:26:34.680 --> 0:26:38.280 I'm like, like it's just it's a constant thing. But 0:26:38.359 --> 0:26:40.160 I just feel like So I had this like situation, 0:26:40.320 --> 0:26:43.280 like a work situation where I was talking to somebody 0:26:43.880 --> 0:26:47.200 about a note just and it was like just very blunt, 0:26:47.280 --> 0:26:49.359 just being like, oh I don't agree with this for 0:26:49.400 --> 0:26:52.119 this reason. This is kind of And then we had 0:26:52.160 --> 0:26:55.359 a call afterwards to be like, hey, I think we 0:26:55.400 --> 0:26:58.800 should like talk nicer to each other. And I was like, hey, 0:26:58.840 --> 0:27:03.399 I think nice is pretty subjective because you think it's language, 0:27:03.440 --> 0:27:06.159 and I think it's in using my time well, And 0:27:06.240 --> 0:27:08.919 so we had the conversation. He and they were like, Okay, 0:27:09.000 --> 0:27:10.639 that makes sense because I was like, you are worried 0:27:10.640 --> 0:27:13.960 about like the observation, like what it like looks like, 0:27:14.680 --> 0:27:17.960 and you think just me talking softer to you is nice. 0:27:18.359 --> 0:27:21.920 And I think, hey, actually, if we weren't so worried 0:27:21.960 --> 0:27:24.680 about being nice and we just got to the point, 0:27:24.760 --> 0:27:26.800 I can go live my life. I don't want to 0:27:26.840 --> 0:27:29.359 be here. You're wasting my time. You think that's nice. 0:27:31.080 --> 0:27:34.200 You're kind of County's blonde happy Pridet. 0:27:35.280 --> 0:27:35.880 Are you gay? 0:27:35.920 --> 0:27:39.600 Are you the gay? No, It's just like he's willing 0:27:39.640 --> 0:27:41.360 me a slater. That's a that's a deep. 0:27:43.960 --> 0:27:46.760 It's just like I I came back to New York 0:27:46.880 --> 0:27:49.760 from LA because I feel like work was just like 0:27:49.840 --> 0:27:53.040 overtaking my life, and I think like life has to 0:27:53.080 --> 0:27:55.399 be lived in order to like produce good work. So 0:27:55.480 --> 0:27:57.840 I'm trying to live life. And the way that these 0:27:57.880 --> 0:28:01.439 systems work, they just want life and that's just not 0:28:01.560 --> 0:28:02.760 my thing. Like I don't. 0:28:03.000 --> 0:28:07.000 But also if all you do is work and not live, 0:28:07.400 --> 0:28:10.840 then the work suffers, cause like I know comics that 0:28:11.000 --> 0:28:14.000 only do comedy and they never are not on stage. 0:28:14.040 --> 0:28:16.359 They're never taking trips, they're never. 0:28:16.240 --> 0:28:19.520 Going on vacation, and it's like, how are you pulling 0:28:20.160 --> 0:28:23.000 source material? How are you finding stuff to talk about 0:28:23.400 --> 0:28:25.440 and connect with people on If all you ever do 0:28:25.560 --> 0:28:28.760 is be on stage and be around comedians, it's all 0:28:28.760 --> 0:28:30.959 you know what I'm saying, Yeah, it's just not a 0:28:31.080 --> 0:28:35.119 useful time of like creating memories and writing new jokes 0:28:35.200 --> 0:28:38.160 or some people just write based off like the current events. 0:28:38.400 --> 0:28:39.400 But then that's my issue. 0:28:39.400 --> 0:28:42.080 It's like you're always talking and making jokes about what 0:28:42.120 --> 0:28:44.560 other people are doing, but you're not doing you Why 0:28:44.600 --> 0:28:48.440 don't you focus on your own events and situations so 0:28:48.480 --> 0:28:49.960 you'll have something to talk about and. 0:28:50.880 --> 0:28:53.360 Were making money? Duwayne is making money. 0:28:53.720 --> 0:28:56.800 Imagine being rich and not being able to enjoy being 0:28:56.880 --> 0:28:58.760 rich because you gotta work for more money. 0:28:58.880 --> 0:29:01.840 That's literally what Like, that's capitalism just once you get 0:29:01.880 --> 0:29:04.400 it's like up until the Writer's strike. I got my 0:29:04.480 --> 0:29:09.280 first job in twenty seventeen, and my first break was 0:29:09.280 --> 0:29:12.080 the writer strike, and I was like, Yo, my life 0:29:12.160 --> 0:29:14.840 has been all work, and it like I had to 0:29:14.880 --> 0:29:17.719 like change a bunch of shit because it was just 0:29:17.800 --> 0:29:20.840 not fulfilling. And so now I'm at this place where 0:29:20.840 --> 0:29:23.280 I'm like, yeah, work has to exist because we live 0:29:23.480 --> 0:29:26.640 in a place where that's important, but like it could 0:29:26.680 --> 0:29:29.040 be done in a way that's just like better, Like 0:29:29.080 --> 0:29:32.200 I don't want to like do all and I like 0:29:32.240 --> 0:29:33.720 and I don't want to get it wrong, Like I'm 0:29:33.720 --> 0:29:36.760 not saying like be mean. There's a spectrum, and I 0:29:36.800 --> 0:29:42.760 think the emphasis on like nice is just not as 0:29:42.880 --> 0:29:45.560 significant to me in terms of like I could just 0:29:45.600 --> 0:29:48.800 be neutral, and I think people want me to perform yes, 0:29:49.200 --> 0:29:52.760 And I'm like, I think this is unnecessary, Like can 0:29:52.800 --> 0:29:55.200 we just like get to the point, like we're adults, 0:29:55.240 --> 0:29:57.120 we can have a conversation, Like let's just say what 0:29:57.200 --> 0:30:03.120 we need to say so we can like yeah, but. 0:30:00.840 --> 0:30:02.959 Huh, but I was gonna say, like, not everybody has 0:30:03.000 --> 0:30:06.520 the same communication skills, and not everybody has been brought 0:30:06.600 --> 0:30:10.800 up with the same like basis of communication. So what 0:30:10.840 --> 0:30:14.120 you think is straightforward for somebody else is like mean, 0:30:14.200 --> 0:30:17.840 and what somebody else is straightforward, it's like, oh, you're 0:30:18.160 --> 0:30:20.680 being too nice, so you never know what it is 0:30:21.160 --> 0:30:22.600 depending on the people you're working with. 0:30:22.720 --> 0:30:24.400 Yes, And that's why I think it's just a conversation 0:30:24.520 --> 0:30:26.520 to be like, hey, like what do we like what 0:30:26.600 --> 0:30:28.760 is the best way to do this? Esp As if 0:30:28.800 --> 0:30:31.760 it's like business, like if we're talking about productivity, like 0:30:31.920 --> 0:30:33.800 what is the best way to be productive? 0:30:33.920 --> 0:30:37.280 But when you think about businessmen, right, people who are 0:30:37.320 --> 0:30:38.760 considered bosses, they don't. 0:30:38.640 --> 0:30:40.200 Have to be nice. They're not supposed to be nice. 0:30:40.280 --> 0:30:40.959 They're a boss. 0:30:41.400 --> 0:30:44.000 They show up, they say what they want, you know 0:30:44.040 --> 0:30:47.760 what their standard of like their standard is of what 0:30:47.800 --> 0:30:49.800 they expect to be done when they get there and 0:30:49.800 --> 0:30:51.520 when they're talking to you, and then they go off 0:30:51.520 --> 0:30:53.080 and they do their thing, and you'd. 0:30:52.960 --> 0:30:55.560 Be like, who I did it? I survived that? 0:30:55.960 --> 0:30:58.560 But like women, Not to make this about women, but 0:30:58.960 --> 0:31:01.720 I will women. And when women are assertive and women 0:31:01.760 --> 0:31:03.480 know what they want and women are like kind of 0:31:03.640 --> 0:31:07.200 very like concise and cutthroat, it's like, WHOA, she was 0:31:07.240 --> 0:31:09.360 a bitch, or she don't know what she's talking about, 0:31:09.400 --> 0:31:11.600 or she could have been nicer, and YadA, YadA YadA. 0:31:11.640 --> 0:31:14.960 But what I learned watching all the Beyonce documentaries, like 0:31:15.120 --> 0:31:18.040 Beyonce Knows what she wants and she's a perfectionist. She's 0:31:18.080 --> 0:31:21.120 not she's not being nasty, but she's being very like 0:31:21.520 --> 0:31:22.200 kind of Kurt. 0:31:22.680 --> 0:31:24.920 Yes, And I feel like that's the energy that I bring. 0:31:25.120 --> 0:31:29.760 And I think because my like lived personality is like fine, 0:31:29.840 --> 0:31:33.720 bubbly cute, people expect that in business and I'm like, no, 0:31:33.840 --> 0:31:36.400 this is business. And then they be gagged and be 0:31:36.480 --> 0:31:38.800 like mom, be like gay and happier, and I'm like, 0:31:39.200 --> 0:31:42.080 oh no. 0:31:42.040 --> 0:31:45.880 But wait, what's the difference between that and Ellen degenerous? 0:31:46.000 --> 0:31:48.520 Was she really being being mean? 0:31:48.760 --> 0:31:51.800 Yes? Okay, like she was being like me, And that's 0:31:51.800 --> 0:31:53.560 the thing, Like, what can you. 0:31:53.480 --> 0:31:55.680 Give me the examples so that we know what mean 0:31:55.800 --> 0:31:57.720 is and we know what like being straightforward? 0:31:57.880 --> 0:31:59.640 I mean she lost her whole job showed. 0:31:59.720 --> 0:32:01.960 Yeah, I mean, like if I was. 0:32:01.960 --> 0:32:04.240 Like, that's the homophobia of it all, because if she 0:32:04.400 --> 0:32:07.640 was a straight man, I don't know if she would 0:32:07.680 --> 0:32:11.239 have lost everything. Because we know so many people in 0:32:11.280 --> 0:32:14.480 the industry or just at regular jobs that are being 0:32:14.480 --> 0:32:14.960 met and they. 0:32:14.840 --> 0:32:15.360 Still have it. 0:32:15.600 --> 0:32:18.600 Yeah. But I think that's the problem that everybody's comparing 0:32:18.600 --> 0:32:21.040 themselves to the best worst person and they're doing it 0:32:21.440 --> 0:32:23.880 and it's like okay, and you want to be them, 0:32:24.000 --> 0:32:27.800 like you just want power so that you can abuse it, right, Like, nah, 0:32:28.080 --> 0:32:30.200 pick a better hobby, like just do it better. Like, 0:32:30.480 --> 0:32:34.360 especially when we're entering these spaces where we are. Something 0:32:34.400 --> 0:32:35.920 that I hate is when people. 0:32:35.840 --> 0:32:39.920 The glasses, because the glasses really got you, like you you, I. 0:32:39.800 --> 0:32:42.880 Don't see you like this and very much so. 0:32:43.080 --> 0:32:47.920 Like Okay, they said Ellen DeGeneres was just a really 0:32:48.160 --> 0:32:52.280 mean boss. Right, there's a list of small complaints, like 0:32:52.720 --> 0:32:55.920 people being told to never ever make eye contact with her. 0:32:56.120 --> 0:32:57.760 Now we know plenty of celebrities who can't look at 0:32:57.760 --> 0:32:58.240 them in the eye. 0:32:58.320 --> 0:33:00.440 J Lo. With these people, I think, and not just 0:33:00.440 --> 0:33:02.880 one of these people, like you're not supposed to look 0:33:02.920 --> 0:33:03.640 in the eyeballs. 0:33:03.720 --> 0:33:06.360 That's and I think that reaches a line of like 0:33:06.760 --> 0:33:08.719 I think all I'm thinking about is through like a 0:33:08.800 --> 0:33:12.280 regular human lens, Like we are humans. This is a 0:33:12.400 --> 0:33:14.600 human experience. I think that's crazy to be like, don't 0:33:14.600 --> 0:33:15.320 look me in the eye. 0:33:15.400 --> 0:33:17.520 How successful, Dwayne do you need to be to be 0:33:17.640 --> 0:33:19.080 like don't don't look at me. 0:33:19.280 --> 0:33:21.440 I don't think I will ever. That feels crazy, Like 0:33:21.480 --> 0:33:23.320 I feel like that reaches that point of being like, oh, 0:33:23.360 --> 0:33:26.880 you're just now doing shit, because you can like and 0:33:26.960 --> 0:33:28.920 I don't think that I'll ever be at a place 0:33:28.920 --> 0:33:31.120 to where I feel like I need to control people 0:33:31.680 --> 0:33:32.400 in that way. 0:33:32.840 --> 0:33:35.280 Ellen tried to have a lady fired for serving food 0:33:35.320 --> 0:33:36.800 with chipped nail polish. 0:33:37.280 --> 0:33:40.640 Okay, that's really. 0:33:42.440 --> 0:33:45.400 And like and you would have those thoughts, but you 0:33:45.480 --> 0:33:47.040 just can't actually like. I remember I went to a 0:33:47.120 --> 0:33:49.360 dance class ones like years ago, and this man was 0:33:49.360 --> 0:33:54.120 wearing a blazer and I don't know, they made yes performing. 0:33:54.200 --> 0:33:55.880 It made me irrationally upset. 0:33:56.000 --> 0:33:57.320 Please explain the blazers. 0:33:59.040 --> 0:34:03.040 And we were doing jip and I said business cash crazy. 0:34:02.680 --> 0:34:06.360 Didn't wait, didn't have shoulder pads like what arrested? 0:34:06.680 --> 0:34:08.640 And I said, what the hell? And in my mind 0:34:08.680 --> 0:34:11.879 I said, arrested, jail, get him out of here immediately straight. 0:34:11.920 --> 0:34:13.360 If I had power, I could actually do that. That 0:34:13.400 --> 0:34:16.600 would be crazy. Excuse me, you have to leave for what. 0:34:16.480 --> 0:34:18.960 Was under the blazer? Was it buttoned all the way? 0:34:19.200 --> 0:34:20.200 Was it shorts? 0:34:20.760 --> 0:34:22.720 Was he wearing he was kind of wearing like shorts 0:34:22.760 --> 0:34:24.920 and then like a business like it was like party 0:34:24.960 --> 0:34:27.520 on the bottom, business on top. And I was like, 0:34:27.520 --> 0:34:29.160 maybe he came from like an interview or something like 0:34:29.239 --> 0:34:33.040 I don't know, but for sure I don't like this. 0:34:33.360 --> 0:34:35.799 But also that's his business. I feel like him. 0:34:36.120 --> 0:34:39.239 I had for him, and it's not for anybody else. 0:34:39.320 --> 0:34:41.160 And you can't be like, hey, you got to get 0:34:41.160 --> 0:34:42.040 out of here. 0:34:41.520 --> 0:34:43.640 And that's what I had to let it go because 0:34:43.680 --> 0:34:45.759 I said, this is this is irrational. 0:34:45.960 --> 0:34:48.600 You can't really you can't really pop off in a 0:34:48.640 --> 0:34:50.960 blazer in a dance class. Was he dancing? 0:34:51.000 --> 0:34:51.239 Well? 0:34:51.520 --> 0:34:56.640 No, it wasn't giving like. 0:34:56.719 --> 0:34:59.920 Boom cac No, it was giving. I met the off. 0:35:01.160 --> 0:35:03.759 He's like, where's the machine? Maybe it was a there. 0:35:03.920 --> 0:35:05.480 Maybe somebody was like, I dare you to do this 0:35:05.560 --> 0:35:06.720 dance class. 0:35:06.920 --> 0:35:09.279 I get that I would. I would participate in something 0:35:09.320 --> 0:35:11.200 like that. I love daring people to do things. 0:35:11.680 --> 0:35:13.839 I'm glad that you're still yes, bring it out. 0:35:14.239 --> 0:35:16.120 And so I just like if I actually were to 0:35:16.200 --> 0:35:18.600 exercise that in real life, that would make me like 0:35:18.719 --> 0:35:21.919 a crazy person. Been like, yeah, but you got ship, 0:35:22.040 --> 0:35:24.799 nail polish, get out of here. 0:35:26.280 --> 0:35:31.000 Sometimes I think, but there is like the thing with 0:35:32.320 --> 0:35:36.799 j Lo I remember allegedly she was having her you know, 0:35:36.880 --> 0:35:40.120 baby shower at a rooftop at a hotel. 0:35:40.200 --> 0:35:41.160 And you were there. 0:35:42.360 --> 0:35:42.719 I don't know. 0:35:42.880 --> 0:35:51.239 I'm just all alleged would know what she was it was. 0:35:51.480 --> 0:35:54.960 It was very like with Caviar, it was it was salad, 0:35:55.239 --> 0:35:58.160 you know, a lot of garnish and things of that sort, 0:35:58.239 --> 0:36:02.960 you know, like, but she didn't want stop us. 0:36:04.200 --> 0:36:05.960 It was there was no top us there. 0:36:06.120 --> 0:36:12.960 It was not Zoe, but she didn't want like the 0:36:13.000 --> 0:36:15.839 people who were working to talk to her, like they 0:36:15.840 --> 0:36:19.000 have to talk to I guess the liaison. And yes, 0:36:19.239 --> 0:36:23.880 that's kind of bitchy, But you also have to understand 0:36:23.920 --> 0:36:27.520 people be mad unprofessional with celebrities and they just be 0:36:27.520 --> 0:36:29.840 getting real chummy and they be doing too much and 0:36:29.840 --> 0:36:31.400 the next thing you know, you talk to them, Oh, 0:36:31.440 --> 0:36:33.839 can you take a picture for my cousin who's in 0:36:34.120 --> 0:36:34.960 you know, Puerto Rican. 0:36:35.120 --> 0:36:38.719 No, so I get that. I get Hey, first of all, 0:36:38.760 --> 0:36:39.479 it's my baby shower. 0:36:39.480 --> 0:36:42.799 Why are you talking to me. There's a there's a 0:36:42.440 --> 0:36:43.319 wedding planner. 0:36:43.400 --> 0:36:46.400 Not a wedding planner, that's j Loo. It's an event planner. 0:36:46.600 --> 0:36:49.880 Everything should go through them anyway. But like if we 0:36:50.080 --> 0:36:53.520 randomly happened to be in the same space for a second, 0:36:53.560 --> 0:36:56.040 I should be able to say, I think. 0:36:56.320 --> 0:36:58.279 Like those are just boundaries, and I think they like 0:36:58.960 --> 0:37:01.719 people are like individual. It was like, yeah, and those 0:37:01.719 --> 0:37:04.120 people who are crazy are just crazy people, and then 0:37:04.120 --> 0:37:06.080 there are people who are just like normal that you're like, oh, 0:37:06.160 --> 0:37:08.480 and I don't think you. I mean, I guess if 0:37:08.480 --> 0:37:11.719 you are at that level of fame where it's more 0:37:12.400 --> 0:37:15.319 common for crazy people to interact with you, I guess 0:37:15.360 --> 0:37:18.680 you would have strong boundaries, but like like, don't look 0:37:18.719 --> 0:37:21.080 at me like that kind of stuff, like like at 0:37:21.080 --> 0:37:24.200 your place of employment, like you are hiring these people. Yeah, 0:37:24.400 --> 0:37:26.719 that feels like, that feels crazy. I can see if 0:37:26.719 --> 0:37:28.879 you're like just on the street in a crowd being like, oh, 0:37:28.880 --> 0:37:31.279 I have to have stronger boundaries for like safety. But 0:37:31.360 --> 0:37:33.960 if you are the person curating the space and that's 0:37:34.000 --> 0:37:36.400 how you're doing it, be better at curating the space. 0:37:36.440 --> 0:37:38.440 Don't hire fucking crazy people, and then you don't have 0:37:38.440 --> 0:37:38.920 to be crazy. 0:37:39.280 --> 0:37:41.160 No, I disagree with that. 0:37:41.320 --> 0:37:43.920 I just you said, don't hire crazy people if crazy 0:37:43.920 --> 0:37:45.120 people don't walk amongst them. 0:37:45.200 --> 0:37:45.960 Yeah, what do you mean? 0:37:46.000 --> 0:37:48.680 There's so many people people are not doing background. 0:37:48.800 --> 0:37:52.600 And also people people appear that they got it together 0:37:53.000 --> 0:37:55.319 and then three weeks in you're like whoahoa, whoa whoa 0:37:55.360 --> 0:37:56.799 whoa wa wait a minute. 0:37:56.520 --> 0:38:00.680 Say and then you fire them. You don't match. They're crazy. 0:38:01.920 --> 0:38:05.480 I got what you're saying. But we were at SNL 0:38:05.480 --> 0:38:06.879 when Jaylo was there and I was like this. 0:38:07.440 --> 0:38:12.960 Hey, were you like talking to her? 0:38:13.200 --> 0:38:16.360 No? I mean I didn't. I didn't have talked to 0:38:16.440 --> 0:38:21.000 Jaylo about Love Made of Manhattan, Like what that's like? 0:38:21.120 --> 0:38:22.799 I was. I went to like a party, like a 0:38:22.880 --> 0:38:24.880 megal like after party, and I just found myself at 0:38:24.880 --> 0:38:27.120 one point standing next to is in there and I'm obsessed 0:38:27.160 --> 0:38:29.719 with her and I said, oh, Like I looked over there. 0:38:29.760 --> 0:38:32.000 We locked eyes and I said, oh, hello, and then 0:38:32.040 --> 0:38:34.200 I was like I literally and I said, I don't 0:38:34.200 --> 0:38:36.120 know what else, like what, I don't know what to say? 0:38:36.160 --> 0:38:38.600 Like I don't she say hello back? Yeah, But that 0:38:38.719 --> 0:38:40.439 was kind of like the end of the interaction because 0:38:40.440 --> 0:38:41.480 I was like, I don't. 0:38:41.520 --> 0:38:45.400 Well, because at the end of the people are just people. 0:38:45.560 --> 0:38:47.319 Yeah, they're people that more people know. 0:38:47.560 --> 0:38:48.120 I agree. 0:38:48.480 --> 0:38:49.080 I feel like. 0:38:49.239 --> 0:38:53.440 It's cooler to treat them normal than to fawn all 0:38:53.480 --> 0:38:56.759 over them. And I mean this whole Doja cat with 0:38:56.840 --> 0:38:59.880 the shirt situation, she like bumped into a fan. 0:39:00.160 --> 0:39:02.880 Liked his shirt, he took it off his body and 0:39:02.960 --> 0:39:06.720 gave it to her. That's strange. I'm not gonna lie. 0:39:06.920 --> 0:39:10.080 That's that's it's I he had been in the club, 0:39:10.200 --> 0:39:12.120 he had been in the floor. I don't want your. 0:39:11.960 --> 0:39:13.799 Shirt that I don't want to shut off the back 0:39:13.880 --> 0:39:14.440 off your back. 0:39:14.480 --> 0:39:15.160 I don't need it. 0:39:15.200 --> 0:39:17.640 And that was the whole conversation, like like was she 0:39:17.719 --> 0:39:20.920 fake and blah blah blah. And I'm like, like, I 0:39:20.920 --> 0:39:23.799 think I have a lot more empathy for like marginalized people, 0:39:23.840 --> 0:39:25.680 so like as a woman, I'm like, maybe she could 0:39:25.719 --> 0:39:28.600 have been like, oh, maybe if she was like no, actually, 0:39:28.600 --> 0:39:30.239 I don't want to fuck with you, and maybe she 0:39:30.239 --> 0:39:31.920 did feel more pressure to play along. 0:39:32.000 --> 0:39:34.759 They hugged a bunch of times. He kissed her on 0:39:34.800 --> 0:39:35.320 the cheek. 0:39:37.440 --> 0:39:40.400 She was like manhandled, so he grabbed her arm and 0:39:40.400 --> 0:39:42.680 put his face next to her. Next thing, and like 0:39:42.760 --> 0:39:44.920 maybe in real time it's like not you're just like 0:39:45.000 --> 0:39:46.520 kind of rolle with the punches. But later you're like 0:39:46.520 --> 0:39:47.359 I don't want that man. 0:39:48.200 --> 0:39:49.560 Video about it. 0:39:49.640 --> 0:39:51.279 You give a man an inch and then the next 0:39:51.280 --> 0:39:52.959 thing he's giving you his shirt. That's so weird. 0:39:53.400 --> 0:39:56.040 Like I do think you're like even as like I 0:39:56.200 --> 0:39:58.399 do more like I was I was doing like a 0:39:59.080 --> 0:40:02.520 like a talk with like this mentor group, and this 0:40:02.760 --> 0:40:05.879 woman was like, oh, like I saw you at a 0:40:05.960 --> 0:40:07.680 mall and came up to you and was like telling 0:40:07.719 --> 0:40:09.440 you about the Blackening and like how I liked it 0:40:09.520 --> 0:40:12.000 and you were so nice. No, and then I asked 0:40:12.000 --> 0:40:14.000 her like how was it and then She's like, oh, no, 0:40:14.120 --> 0:40:15.800 like you were very nice. And then I was like cool, 0:40:15.840 --> 0:40:18.640 like I am, like I'm not. I talked to strangers 0:40:18.680 --> 0:40:21.360 all the time that there's nothing too like, I'm just 0:40:21.480 --> 0:40:23.600 very grateful. But I feel like if that would happen 0:40:23.800 --> 0:40:26.360 all the time. Like I remember the first weekend the 0:40:26.360 --> 0:40:28.399 movie came out, I went to a party in La 0:40:28.840 --> 0:40:30.800 and I was so overwhelmed because it was just like 0:40:30.840 --> 0:40:33.319 a new feeling and I was like, oh my, is 0:40:33.360 --> 0:40:33.680 this what? 0:40:34.400 --> 0:40:36.600 Who are these people like fans? 0:40:36.680 --> 0:40:40.200 And I just never experienced that until then, And I 0:40:40.239 --> 0:40:42.600 was like, I hope I'm doing this right, like like 0:40:42.920 --> 0:40:46.920 just I think I'm gaining a little bit more empathy 0:40:47.000 --> 0:40:51.799 for famous people just because I'm seeing that. It's just. 0:40:53.680 --> 0:40:57.560 Yeah, definitely going to be a cell phone at somebody 0:40:58.680 --> 0:41:01.839 that call. They're gonna have to carry you everywhere. You're 0:41:01.840 --> 0:41:04.640 gonna be like no pictures, please, don't look out, don't 0:41:04.680 --> 0:41:05.160 look at me. 0:41:05.520 --> 0:41:07.920 I think that like there is a man. I guess 0:41:07.920 --> 0:41:10.640 it's not controllable, but I think there is a level 0:41:10.680 --> 0:41:13.319 of control that you can try to have. 0:41:13.520 --> 0:41:15.440 Yeah, you don't you want to get not too famous? 0:41:16.280 --> 0:41:19.600 Yeah, I mean yeah, Like I just don't. Yeah, I 0:41:19.640 --> 0:41:21.600 don't think it's the fame Like I want money, I 0:41:21.600 --> 0:41:23.279 want access, I want power. I want to be able 0:41:23.400 --> 0:41:25.200 to do what I want to do creatively. I think 0:41:25.200 --> 0:41:27.000 somebody who I think is up the perfect amount of 0:41:27.040 --> 0:41:28.960 famous to me is Seth Rogan. I think that like 0:41:29.000 --> 0:41:32.520 he people know him and he does what he like does, 0:41:32.600 --> 0:41:34.959 but it's all like work based. I don't know shit 0:41:35.000 --> 0:41:37.600 about that man's life. Like I know, like he's cool 0:41:37.640 --> 0:41:39.759 to work with, he make cool shit, he has a 0:41:39.760 --> 0:41:42.760 weak company. Like, but if I see him on the street, 0:41:42.880 --> 0:41:44.880 I'm like, oh, that's Seth Brogan. And I've seen people 0:41:44.920 --> 0:41:46.839 be like, oh that's suck like I've seen Jordan Peel. 0:41:47.000 --> 0:41:48.839 But it wasn't like people running up to him. 0:41:48.880 --> 0:41:51.320 It was just like I have to think about who 0:41:51.480 --> 0:41:52.799 these people's fans are. 0:41:53.000 --> 0:41:53.760 Yes, exactly. 0:41:53.800 --> 0:41:55.920 I think Ceth Fan is going to be a slow 0:41:55.960 --> 0:41:58.920 stoner Yeah, and that's what pee Fan is going to be. 0:41:58.920 --> 0:42:01.880 Somebody who probably has a dark accent wall in the 0:42:01.960 --> 0:42:04.080 apartment and they don't make o contact with people when 0:42:04.080 --> 0:42:05.000 they be outside. 0:42:04.880 --> 0:42:06.879 Like, what is that based off their work? Like it's 0:42:06.960 --> 0:42:10.560 like there their fans are components of like their work. 0:42:10.800 --> 0:42:13.040 I feel like a lot of mainly like pop stars. 0:42:13.040 --> 0:42:15.720 It feels like there's a different yeah the pop stars 0:42:15.800 --> 0:42:17.560 have and I don't think I'll ever be that s 0:42:17.760 --> 0:42:19.239 like And that's the thing that I don't think I'm 0:42:19.280 --> 0:42:22.319 in the lane where I will have that. 0:42:23.040 --> 0:42:23.600 I don't know. 0:42:23.920 --> 0:42:28.520 Way you dance, you you write, you act, you're gonna direct? 0:42:28.560 --> 0:42:31.880 And tell me how many dancers, how many writers, how 0:42:31.920 --> 0:42:35.279 many directors? Are niggas running up to m hm. 0:42:36.320 --> 0:42:39.040 You're also hot, it's gonna be somebody in a blazer 0:42:39.040 --> 0:42:39.840 and some booty shorts. 0:42:40.719 --> 0:42:42.879 A big fan of over truly every now and again, 0:42:42.920 --> 0:42:44.960 it's cool. I'm sure some people come up to Jordan people, 0:42:44.960 --> 0:42:48.480 but it's not like Beyonce that like that ship sounds 0:42:48.680 --> 0:42:53.200 crazy like stars is different And I just think I 0:42:53.400 --> 0:42:55.439 don't think that that is like a path. I don't 0:42:55.440 --> 0:42:57.680 think I'm on that path. It just doesn't You never know. 0:42:57.760 --> 0:42:59.160 You also have to look at who were talking about. 0:42:59.200 --> 0:43:03.160 I saw women that talking about people are like like, 0:43:03.360 --> 0:43:03.759 no one is. 0:43:05.080 --> 0:43:07.560 People don't respect women's down. 0:43:08.440 --> 0:43:11.080 Yes, and that's it, And that's a good thing about 0:43:11.480 --> 0:43:14.359 what your mess is about being nice is because when 0:43:14.400 --> 0:43:17.080 you're a woman, you want to you don't know how 0:43:17.080 --> 0:43:19.120 to tote the line of like I want to I 0:43:19.160 --> 0:43:20.799 want to be a boss, but also I want to 0:43:20.800 --> 0:43:22.680 be nice to my fans. I don't want people to 0:43:22.680 --> 0:43:24.680 think I'm a bitch, but I also want to get 0:43:24.719 --> 0:43:27.720 things done and I want to make sure people understand 0:43:27.719 --> 0:43:29.480 that I have compassion. But then if you think I 0:43:29.520 --> 0:43:31.479 have compassion, then you're gonna think I'm a joke. 0:43:31.680 --> 0:43:33.000 Yes, I mean you're gonna take advantage of it. 0:43:33.080 --> 0:43:36.120 Literally talking about the Beyonce when she was asking about 0:43:36.160 --> 0:43:40.239 like something and then they're like that's impossible. Literally, I 0:43:40.360 --> 0:43:43.000 just like, what are you talking like? And even seeing that, 0:43:43.120 --> 0:43:46.800 I was like, this is so important to like see 0:43:46.840 --> 0:43:49.319 somebody at that level, to be able to see like 0:43:49.560 --> 0:43:51.680 this is Beyonce. And they're still like. 0:43:51.880 --> 0:43:54.239 Ah, she don't know what you're talking about. 0:43:54.040 --> 0:43:55.560 Which is fucking nuts. 0:43:55.920 --> 0:44:00.279 But that's another level or layer of why she is 0:44:00.320 --> 0:44:02.799 the way she is because as a woman, as a 0:44:02.920 --> 0:44:06.279 black woman, even as the person who is at the 0:44:06.280 --> 0:44:08.480 top of a game, and she's a perfectionist, so she 0:44:08.600 --> 0:44:10.160 likes things done a certain way so that it. 0:44:10.200 --> 0:44:14.279 Looks a certain way. You a dusty man in the 0:44:14.440 --> 0:44:16.600 union of whatever it is that you do. 0:44:16.680 --> 0:44:19.120 I'm telling you I want this, and you're like, that's impossible. Well, 0:44:19.160 --> 0:44:20.200 I don't think he's a dusty man. 0:44:20.200 --> 0:44:20.560 I'm sure. 0:44:21.239 --> 0:44:23.480 I'm sure he's the best of the best, Sydney. I'm 0:44:23.600 --> 0:44:24.520 calling him dusty. 0:44:24.800 --> 0:44:25.239 You're gone. 0:44:25.280 --> 0:44:27.160 You can call him whatever you want to call him. 0:44:28.440 --> 0:44:31.680 He's the best dusty person on the team. But for 0:44:31.719 --> 0:44:34.239 you to look me in my eyes and be like, 0:44:34.280 --> 0:44:36.439 oh no, that's that's impossible, Like that means you either 0:44:36.480 --> 0:44:38.520 don't know, right, so you can't be the best if 0:44:38.560 --> 0:44:41.560 you don't know, or you you know but you don't 0:44:41.560 --> 0:44:43.800 want to do it. But you work for me, so again, 0:44:44.120 --> 0:44:46.320 you can't be the best. How you say a no 0:44:46.480 --> 0:44:47.040 to Beyonce. 0:44:47.080 --> 0:44:49.040 If you're supposed to be the best, you should be 0:44:49.080 --> 0:44:51.920 like you figure it out. The best makes mistakes. I 0:44:52.000 --> 0:44:54.919 don't know that. I'm I mean yes to this guy. 0:44:55.080 --> 0:44:58.240 But that's where my empathy is, and that my niceness 0:44:58.320 --> 0:45:00.640 is that even the best make mistakes. 0:45:00.719 --> 0:45:01.319 People fall. 0:45:01.760 --> 0:45:04.200 Do you know, like he didn't make a mistake. He 0:45:04.280 --> 0:45:06.640 dis credited her, like he didn't have the inform That's 0:45:06.680 --> 0:45:10.319 the thing, the information. He's just working, Like you didn't 0:45:10.400 --> 0:45:13.160 look she can she she. 0:45:12.480 --> 0:45:14.319 Put your phone up and googled what she asked him 0:45:14.320 --> 0:45:15.400 for and found. 0:45:15.080 --> 0:45:17.480 It so like it wasn't based in anything but his 0:45:17.560 --> 0:45:21.319 opinion of what he thought she knew, right, And that's 0:45:21.360 --> 0:45:21.719 the thing that. 0:45:23.320 --> 0:45:27.640 Yeah, and so that's what Sydney. You can't be best 0:45:27.800 --> 0:45:29.120 if you're like no. 0:45:29.040 --> 0:45:31.279 And that's what I'm saying, like the this kind of 0:45:31.360 --> 0:45:35.520 like grace that I'm just giving less grace these days 0:45:35.920 --> 0:45:39.040 because I think people deserve less and I think. 0:45:39.680 --> 0:45:46.720 Like, nah, deserve less of you, less of my grace 0:45:46.800 --> 0:45:50.080 personally in the sense of like I also think that 0:45:50.160 --> 0:45:53.200 like there's a certain specificity to being like black and 0:45:53.239 --> 0:45:55.080 gay in the sy industry, and I don't think people 0:45:55.480 --> 0:45:57.920 see it because they don't see black gay people, like 0:45:58.280 --> 0:45:59.319 especially black gay man. 0:45:59.320 --> 0:46:03.319 I think there's such invisibility that people just don't really 0:46:03.360 --> 0:46:06.480 consider because within the sphere of like black and then gender, 0:46:06.800 --> 0:46:10.279 it kinda is like a subset. But like, I feel 0:46:10.280 --> 0:46:13.919 like there's a lot of pressure because people don't know 0:46:14.000 --> 0:46:17.239 how to how to view them because there's not a 0:46:17.400 --> 0:46:21.760 larger representation. So I feel like in this industry, I 0:46:21.800 --> 0:46:24.480 met with all these preconceived notions of like who I 0:46:24.520 --> 0:46:26.880 am and who I should be, and when I present 0:46:27.040 --> 0:46:30.480 who I am, people literally are like, how do I 0:46:30.560 --> 0:46:33.919 interact with this? Because I thought because you were gay 0:46:34.000 --> 0:46:35.600 that I can treat you differently than what I would 0:46:35.600 --> 0:46:38.000 treat this straight black man. This is true, Now I can't. 0:46:38.239 --> 0:46:40.520 But because you're gay, I could treat you like a 0:46:40.520 --> 0:46:42.560 woman and me being like, but that just means you 0:46:42.560 --> 0:46:45.879 want to mistreat me like it's it's really an insane. 0:46:45.640 --> 0:46:47.000 You're a black gay man, so they want to treat 0:46:47.040 --> 0:46:49.040 you like a black lady, and they treat us like 0:46:49.080 --> 0:46:50.120 what sheet. 0:46:50.080 --> 0:46:50.600 So ye. 0:46:52.640 --> 0:46:52.920 Weird? 0:46:53.640 --> 0:46:59.040 Which I can't imagine imagine that the best the best. 0:47:01.480 --> 0:47:03.280 It's just And that's why I don't think you should 0:47:03.280 --> 0:47:05.000 be a nice as you are, because I don't think 0:47:05.000 --> 0:47:06.799 people deserve as much grace because I don't think you 0:47:06.840 --> 0:47:09.239 are being given that in return, because we would be 0:47:09.280 --> 0:47:10.400 further the fuck along. 0:47:11.000 --> 0:47:13.960 That's why you gotta sprinkle the meanness throughout your content. 0:47:14.040 --> 0:47:15.960 You hear what I'm saying, Yes, that's why what I do, 0:47:16.000 --> 0:47:17.719 what I do. People are like, she's funny, but I 0:47:17.719 --> 0:47:20.279 can see that she's somebody that you probably shouldn't play with. 0:47:20.680 --> 0:47:23.040 And therefore, when me and Sidney do what we do, 0:47:24.040 --> 0:47:28.080 it's count and gaunt. Right, Sydney is the skinny next one, 0:47:28.280 --> 0:47:30.439 and I'm like the funny, kind of feisty one. 0:47:30.480 --> 0:47:32.520 But it's like certain. 0:47:32.200 --> 0:47:34.759 Things that I feel like people might take liberties with 0:47:34.760 --> 0:47:37.120 Sydney on, they won't be so quick to do it 0:47:37.160 --> 0:47:39.880 with me, yes, the people who understand our dynamic. 0:47:39.920 --> 0:47:41.520 And I don't think that like I'm like on the 0:47:41.560 --> 0:47:44.120 spectrum of like mean. I think I come off as 0:47:44.200 --> 0:47:46.560 kind of like somebody told me recently that I was 0:47:46.920 --> 0:47:49.240 mysterious and esoteric, and. 0:47:49.120 --> 0:47:52.319 I was like, another word, we got another word, write 0:47:52.360 --> 0:47:54.759 it down, your esoteric, which just. 0:47:54.719 --> 0:47:58.760 Means like specific to a small group of people, which 0:47:58.800 --> 0:48:03.440 means basically like, which is like and I've been told 0:48:03.560 --> 0:48:05.799 like I remember, and that I've been told that I'm 0:48:05.840 --> 0:48:08.240 that I can come up as like stand offish sure 0:48:08.440 --> 0:48:11.880 that I don't necessarily exude like please come talk to me. 0:48:12.040 --> 0:48:13.680 And I think it's a combination of like me being 0:48:13.680 --> 0:48:17.719 like a true like introvert, but also like that is 0:48:18.640 --> 0:48:20.520 I don't think people just know they don't know how 0:48:20.560 --> 0:48:24.640 to perceive me because I'm not giving that much out 0:48:24.760 --> 0:48:28.040 because that's the thing of like I love relationships and 0:48:28.080 --> 0:48:29.800 my friends, Like y'all know a version of me that 0:48:29.880 --> 0:48:34.239 most people don't, right, because like that's just not what 0:48:34.320 --> 0:48:34.800 I present. 0:48:34.960 --> 0:48:35.919 That's what friends are for. 0:48:36.120 --> 0:48:39.080 You should be you with your friends, and everybody else 0:48:39.120 --> 0:48:44.399 gets the business, the LinkedIn, the professional, the interview version 0:48:44.400 --> 0:48:44.880 of yourself. 0:48:44.960 --> 0:48:47.839 Yes, but I think that version is the version that's 0:48:47.840 --> 0:48:52.000 like difficult to like because it's perceived is so widely. 0:48:52.160 --> 0:48:54.160 Like people can really be like, oh, that's mean, and 0:48:54.200 --> 0:48:57.799 I'm like if I was mean, you fucking die. Like 0:48:57.880 --> 0:49:00.520 I'm just being like fucking like neutral. I'm just not 0:49:00.640 --> 0:49:03.480 giving anything. Like I approach a lot of things just 0:49:03.520 --> 0:49:06.760 like neutral, and people are like because it's not nice, 0:49:07.239 --> 0:49:11.160 it's mean, yeah, And I'm like, nah, it's not. So 0:49:11.200 --> 0:49:14.640 I feel like if less people were neutral, I could 0:49:14.719 --> 0:49:16.840 exist in a place that would make me more comfortable. 0:49:16.920 --> 0:49:17.560 Can you tell us. 0:49:17.480 --> 0:49:19.520 About the time that you were nice and it came 0:49:19.560 --> 0:49:21.320 back and it kind of blew up in your face 0:49:22.040 --> 0:49:25.799 or like wasn't good for you? Because like, I think 0:49:25.840 --> 0:49:28.279 we've all had moments like that. Like, were you really 0:49:28.360 --> 0:49:29.840 nice to you helped somebody with the bag at the 0:49:29.840 --> 0:49:40.360 airport and then you missed your flight, like. 0:49:37.880 --> 0:49:42.160 I recently helped someone. They were living in my place, 0:49:42.760 --> 0:49:47.680 like let them stay there, and then they I basically 0:49:47.719 --> 0:49:49.880 them like I don't like my space is very important 0:49:49.920 --> 0:49:53.839 to me. And then I don't like people in my house, 0:49:53.960 --> 0:49:57.040 especially in my bedroom. I came back to my house 0:49:57.640 --> 0:49:59.400 and there was like a used condom on my floor 0:49:59.440 --> 0:50:01.439 and they basically fuck someone in my bed. But then 0:50:01.520 --> 0:50:03.520 when I confronted them, they were like, oh, we didn't 0:50:03.560 --> 0:50:05.520 really fun because they were really drunk and they pee. 0:50:06.080 --> 0:50:10.560 They pe where I'd rather you have sex in my 0:50:10.560 --> 0:50:13.279 bed than you pee in my bed. But that's why 0:50:13.320 --> 0:50:15.879 I would. I would be like, you got to get 0:50:15.880 --> 0:50:18.000 the air mattress, you got to be on the couch, like. 0:50:17.880 --> 0:50:20.160 That's the thing. He was in my guest room, pet 0:50:20.200 --> 0:50:21.279 on that one first, and then they went to. 0:50:21.320 --> 0:50:23.440 My bedroom and this is your fault for having a guest. 0:50:24.080 --> 0:50:28.440 It was it a dog? How what grown peeing? Why 0:50:28.480 --> 0:50:30.439 do you earn a guest room two beds one night? 0:50:32.560 --> 0:50:36.759 And I said oh okay, you said okay, oh no, 0:50:36.920 --> 0:50:39.239 just me being not like like no, they had to 0:50:39.400 --> 0:50:41.000 like they had to get out and then I'm no 0:50:41.000 --> 0:50:41.680 longer the friend. 0:50:42.120 --> 0:50:42.279 You know. 0:50:42.320 --> 0:50:45.080 It was just after that switch and be like oh no, 0:50:45.280 --> 0:50:47.680 like I will, this is done. But it was just 0:50:47.680 --> 0:50:50.120 one of those moments and be like, how do how 0:50:50.120 --> 0:50:52.800 did we get here? For me? Just like being nice 0:50:52.920 --> 0:50:54.520 like that was. 0:50:54.800 --> 0:50:57.839 Like that, how did how did the pee get there? 0:50:57.880 --> 0:51:01.280 And then you didn't clean it up? How did that happen? 0:51:01.280 --> 0:51:03.279 Did you send them a bill for two new mattresses? 0:51:03.680 --> 0:51:06.480 Are they paid for somebody to clean my bed and. 0:51:06.680 --> 0:51:10.160 I need a new mattress? Just take it all out, give. 0:51:09.960 --> 0:51:12.520 Me new like mattress topper, and did all these like 0:51:12.719 --> 0:51:16.239 but it was just I would I've never experienced something like. 0:51:16.160 --> 0:51:19.200 That that is in the bed. 0:51:20.400 --> 0:51:20.840 I have not. 0:51:21.360 --> 0:51:23.120 He said the person was really drunk. 0:51:23.800 --> 0:51:28.359 Come some some say squirt is p but but then 0:51:28.400 --> 0:51:37.840 in that case the bed there it is same SAMEA man. 0:51:37.719 --> 0:51:38.880 I can't believe that happened. 0:51:38.960 --> 0:51:42.840 But I mean, take when but this is a series 0:51:42.880 --> 0:51:45.719 of you probably being nice to this person over and 0:51:45.760 --> 0:51:49.839 over and over again, and once you extend and they 0:51:49.840 --> 0:51:52.160 feel like, oh I probably could just pull some a 0:51:52.200 --> 0:51:53.400 stunt like this, they do it. 0:51:53.520 --> 0:51:55.560 Yeah, this is why I just feel like I've been 0:51:55.560 --> 0:51:58.799 approaching more situations from a more neutral place, so then 0:51:58.840 --> 0:52:02.600 I have have to have more discernment on who I 0:52:02.760 --> 0:52:08.279 should give this level of nice and kindness and consideration too. 0:52:08.920 --> 0:52:10.440 Yeah, I have a friend who. 0:52:11.760 --> 0:52:14.400 Had somebody that was working for her and she was traveling, 0:52:14.480 --> 0:52:17.680 She's on vacation or whatever, and this person was supposed 0:52:17.680 --> 0:52:20.640 to like watch her house and like you know, water 0:52:20.680 --> 0:52:26.440 plans or whatever whatever, and they like had a party. 0:52:26.520 --> 0:52:28.640 They took it upon themselves to have a party in 0:52:28.719 --> 0:52:30.799 her home while she was gone, it makes sense, and. 0:52:30.800 --> 0:52:32.080 Stuff got damaged. 0:52:32.800 --> 0:52:35.040 I don't know if anybody peed on anything, but maybe 0:52:35.239 --> 0:52:39.560 maybe like stuff like and she had like stuff that 0:52:39.600 --> 0:52:41.239 they're supposed to take care of that didn't get taken 0:52:41.280 --> 0:52:43.719 care of because this person was busy having a you know, 0:52:43.920 --> 0:52:44.719 a drug. 0:52:44.480 --> 0:52:46.200 Fueled party in her home. 0:52:47.000 --> 0:52:49.759 And then when she called them out on it, they 0:52:49.800 --> 0:52:52.040 tried to like deny, deny and deny, but like the 0:52:52.080 --> 0:52:54.600 house was damaged, Like how do you want to throw 0:52:54.640 --> 0:52:56.799 a party or have a guest or blah blah, Like 0:52:57.239 --> 0:52:58.640 if you won't do it, you gotta. 0:52:58.400 --> 0:53:00.640 Do it and then leave no te evidence. 0:53:02.200 --> 0:53:07.160 So I wouldn't have no like I just and if 0:53:07.200 --> 0:53:09.360 it would have stayed in the guest room you want, Like, 0:53:09.440 --> 0:53:13.560 I'm not a dictator, Like I'm not telling you who watching. Yeah, 0:53:13.560 --> 0:53:15.680 I'm just like this is just my space. And I 0:53:15.760 --> 0:53:19.080 expressed like what this means to me and like and 0:53:19.200 --> 0:53:22.200 that was just shipped on And it's just it's a 0:53:22.320 --> 0:53:24.319 very simple, like I try to live life, like treat 0:53:24.320 --> 0:53:26.360 people how you want to be treated. It's very simple. 0:53:26.400 --> 0:53:28.880 But like it's such a easy thing to do, like 0:53:28.920 --> 0:53:31.240 and I'm just like I would never do that's crazy, 0:53:31.520 --> 0:53:35.399 Like I just wouldn't do that. Also, somebody who has 0:53:35.400 --> 0:53:36.440 a house, like I don't. 0:53:36.239 --> 0:53:41.200 Know better, who needs a diaper? 0:53:41.320 --> 0:53:42.040 I don't know that. 0:53:43.239 --> 0:53:45.040 I'm like, if this person is drunk enough to where 0:53:45.080 --> 0:53:46.520 they piss, and why are you. 0:53:47.520 --> 0:53:48.480 What would you want to be with that? 0:53:48.520 --> 0:53:50.880 What's that about? 0:53:51.400 --> 0:53:51.880 You don't. 0:53:53.480 --> 0:53:56.479 And I will say this, sometimes who people date, it 0:53:56.560 --> 0:54:00.600 runs off and the spillage hits their friend and stuff. 0:54:00.640 --> 0:54:03.280 And so that's why sometimes you can't be nice about 0:54:04.000 --> 0:54:06.560 how people date. It's like if you're dating all these 0:54:06.640 --> 0:54:09.839 lucy goosey people who ain't got no sense, I mean, 0:54:10.080 --> 0:54:12.880 it's gonna it's gonna hit home eventually. You say you 0:54:12.920 --> 0:54:15.520 got a police When people date, not police, but if 0:54:15.560 --> 0:54:19.440 it's like someone's constantly coming to you with the can 0:54:19.520 --> 0:54:22.000 you believe this person did this? And nada da da 0:54:22.040 --> 0:54:24.759 da da da, and it's like, so now I have 0:54:24.840 --> 0:54:28.879 to hear the trauma dumping of your dating life when 0:54:28.920 --> 0:54:31.480 it's like, yes, I know these people are trash. 0:54:31.600 --> 0:54:32.880 Absolutely, the dating. 0:54:32.640 --> 0:54:38.880 Pool is basuda, but you have to have discernments, okay, 0:54:39.800 --> 0:54:43.359 so that we're not Sometimes you don't want to hear 0:54:43.520 --> 0:54:47.080 this stuff all the time. Sometimes I hear these tiktoks 0:54:47.120 --> 0:54:52.160 where people are constantly talking about these dates and I'm like, again, sister, 0:54:52.320 --> 0:54:55.120 it's been four dates in the month and all of 0:54:55.160 --> 0:54:58.080 it is every single thing is bad and they never 0:54:58.200 --> 0:54:59.400 say what they're doing. 0:55:00.000 --> 0:55:04.040 So you're just dating bad people. You don't do nothing. 0:55:04.080 --> 0:55:06.200 But you gotta take TikTok with a grain of salt. 0:55:06.440 --> 0:55:08.720 People do dumb stuff to go viral. 0:55:09.080 --> 0:55:09.719 Yeah, that's true. 0:55:09.719 --> 0:55:10.920 They're like, Y'a'm gonna go on this. 0:55:10.880 --> 0:55:15.640 Girl strip and I'm only gonna bring seventeen dollars get 0:55:15.680 --> 0:55:19.920 ready with me to go ruin my friends birthday. You 0:55:20.000 --> 0:55:22.640 know what I'm saying? Yes, absolutely, they're like I just 0:55:22.680 --> 0:55:23.400 want to go viral. 0:55:23.520 --> 0:55:26.319 They're like, yeah, so I'm about to get evicted, but 0:55:26.320 --> 0:55:27.360 I'm gonna go on to this state. 0:55:27.239 --> 0:55:29.640 And I'm gonna see if this guy's gonna pay my bills. 0:55:29.960 --> 0:55:32.440 Like what you're like with like real people, I'm like 0:55:32.640 --> 0:55:35.600 and I'm very okay with my friends make like making 0:55:35.640 --> 0:55:38.920 bad choices, having flaws. I just need them to know that, 0:55:39.080 --> 0:55:41.920 Like once you come to me, I'm gonna tell you 0:55:41.920 --> 0:55:44.759 how I feel. After that, I'm gonna stop caring. I'm 0:55:45.200 --> 0:55:47.920 I'm just like, oh, no, like do it like when 0:55:47.960 --> 0:55:50.719 you move to Los Angeles. I said, dun't. 0:55:51.160 --> 0:55:55.160 You said don't literally and then not say dumb young, 0:55:56.200 --> 0:55:56.719 I don't know. 0:55:56.840 --> 0:55:58.480 You said don't give up the cats and don't go 0:55:58.840 --> 0:56:00.920 and You're like, I don't know if you gonna like la, 0:56:01.160 --> 0:56:03.000 but also you were just like, don't give it the cat. 0:56:03.000 --> 0:56:04.880 I was like, I don't know, Like I like, just 0:56:04.920 --> 0:56:06.520 based off who I know you to be, I think 0:56:06.560 --> 0:56:09.120 this will create a situation where you might be unhappy. 0:56:09.520 --> 0:56:11.680 And then she said no, like I'm gonna do it, 0:56:11.719 --> 0:56:14.200 and then I said okay, I like that's all we 0:56:14.200 --> 0:56:17.520 could do. And it was what it was like, you 0:56:17.600 --> 0:56:20.120 still like had your time, had a good time, you 0:56:20.239 --> 0:56:23.840 like moved for love, yes, and then later you're like damn, 0:56:23.880 --> 0:56:25.600 like maybe I shouldn't have did that, And then I 0:56:25.640 --> 0:56:30.840 was like yes, uh huh, but like if you're choosing 0:56:30.920 --> 0:56:32.919 to have this person in your life, I'm just like, oh, 0:56:33.080 --> 0:56:36.960 like I'm choosing to have you like and flaws and 0:56:37.000 --> 0:56:38.240 all like see anyone. 0:56:38.080 --> 0:56:38.800 Like this to the cattle. 0:56:39.600 --> 0:56:43.320 I did not no no, no, that's not what happened. 0:56:44.000 --> 0:56:44.560 No no no. 0:56:44.600 --> 0:56:46.920 I made sure that they were rehome properly with the 0:56:47.080 --> 0:56:48.560 with the responsible person. 0:56:48.680 --> 0:56:49.200 Don't do that. 0:56:49.400 --> 0:56:53.719 But also it's like why play everything safe, like you're 0:56:53.760 --> 0:56:54.120 not going to. 0:56:54.120 --> 0:56:55.000 Do everything right. 0:56:55.080 --> 0:56:58.279 So I made that risk, and I said, hey, this 0:56:58.320 --> 0:57:01.439 is what love does. Love makes you be like I'm 0:57:01.480 --> 0:57:04.480 packing up all my stuff and I'm going to LA. 0:57:04.640 --> 0:57:06.640 And the thing like if you would have came to 0:57:06.680 --> 0:57:08.560 me again, and that's thing like that if. 0:57:08.440 --> 0:57:11.319 I did that, you didn't like you did it again. 0:57:11.400 --> 0:57:14.480 Everybody that knows you would be like nelsis yes, but 0:57:14.560 --> 0:57:15.719 I don't think that you would do that. 0:57:16.280 --> 0:57:16.760 You no, no no. 0:57:17.280 --> 0:57:18.800 And I think like people have to live the life 0:57:18.840 --> 0:57:21.800 that they live in terms of like relationship, like I 0:57:21.840 --> 0:57:24.720 don't want to be the like trum like the trauma 0:57:24.840 --> 0:57:26.960 dn't like in order for us to have like a 0:57:27.080 --> 0:57:31.200 semiotic relationship. If you a fuck up, I know that cool, 0:57:31.280 --> 0:57:33.280 but then you have to know that, like, I am 0:57:33.440 --> 0:57:35.760 very solution oriented, So how are we going to meet 0:57:35.800 --> 0:57:38.280 in the middle. You can keep sucking up, but if 0:57:38.280 --> 0:57:39.920 you come to me talking about how many times you're 0:57:39.920 --> 0:57:42.040 gonna keep sucking up and you don't want a solution, 0:57:42.520 --> 0:57:44.640 don't come to me. So I feel like my friends know, 0:57:44.720 --> 0:57:46.240 Like I've had friends like come to me to be 0:57:46.240 --> 0:57:48.840 like hey, I'm just like looking to talk and I'm like, great, 0:57:48.880 --> 0:57:50.760 I know how to be there. But if you're coming 0:57:50.760 --> 0:57:52.440 for a solution, I'm like, cool, I know how to 0:57:52.440 --> 0:57:55.320 do that too. But like some some of my friends 0:57:55.320 --> 0:57:57.120 don't talk to me about certain things because they're like, oh, 0:57:57.160 --> 0:57:59.280 I know who you are, and I'm like, in this way, 0:57:59.320 --> 0:58:01.480 we have a good friend ship because you're not expecting 0:58:01.520 --> 0:58:03.120 me to fill a role. You know, I'm not going 0:58:03.240 --> 0:58:05.280 to feel just like I'm not expecting you to be 0:58:05.360 --> 0:58:07.320 on time if I know you always late. 0:58:07.760 --> 0:58:08.480 We were talking to. 0:58:08.720 --> 0:58:12.360 Yeah, that was crazy, that was wild. I can't shots 0:58:12.400 --> 0:58:16.600 fired on June. Yes, technically that was my general Well 0:58:16.760 --> 0:58:20.720 you were looking directly at her because from me, woo 0:58:20.960 --> 0:58:22.240 you But you didn't look my way. 0:58:22.280 --> 0:58:26.640 Because I was just simply talking wow across. I don't 0:58:26.680 --> 0:58:28.040 have a problem with you being late. 0:58:28.160 --> 0:58:31.080 This is true. I've never kept Danne waiting for really, we've. 0:58:31.000 --> 0:58:32.720 Never had like and that's not an issue, like and 0:58:32.760 --> 0:58:35.280 that doesn't matter to me. But like then there's like 0:58:35.320 --> 0:58:37.520 because I had a friend who really hated that when 0:58:37.560 --> 0:58:39.480 when I was late, and I was like, okay, this 0:58:39.520 --> 0:58:40.080 really matters. 0:58:40.240 --> 0:58:42.960 How late are you though doing not very lately. 0:58:43.000 --> 0:58:45.160 I just think she just thought it was disrespectful. 0:58:45.200 --> 0:58:46.680 I need some I need time time. 0:58:46.760 --> 0:58:48.480 Time. You're supposed to be there two o'clock. What time 0:58:48.520 --> 0:58:48.960 you getting there? 0:58:49.040 --> 0:58:54.320 Probably like two fifteen, two thirty now, yeah, that's mash 0:58:54.440 --> 0:58:57.320 that'sh no no, no, no, no no, but take it back, 0:58:57.920 --> 0:58:58.400 take it back. 0:58:58.680 --> 0:59:02.520 Hated when I was not really a late thirty. 0:59:02.600 --> 0:59:03.360 You're pushing it. 0:59:03.560 --> 0:59:06.120 But I heard her and I said, Okay, this matters 0:59:06.120 --> 0:59:10.080 to you, so for her matter for everybody. For everybody, 0:59:10.200 --> 0:59:10.640 it don't. 0:59:12.520 --> 0:59:14.920 So if you're saying we're in LA two, in LA 0:59:15.000 --> 0:59:15.960 two means two thirty. 0:59:16.120 --> 0:59:17.840 Yeah, And this is why sometimes when I talk to 0:59:17.880 --> 0:59:20.600 people now, i'd be like, oh too ish, And then 0:59:20.600 --> 0:59:23.120 when speaking closer, I'll give you a more definitive time. 0:59:23.160 --> 0:59:27.360 But ish for me is like two fifteen thirty exactly. 0:59:27.400 --> 0:59:30.880 It's just giving room. It's giving a little let it breathe, 0:59:31.000 --> 0:59:31.680 let it air rate. 0:59:31.880 --> 0:59:36.320 Okay, you get a fifteen minute grace period for reservations, 0:59:36.360 --> 0:59:37.280 that's it. 0:59:37.360 --> 0:59:38.320 Fifteen minutes, that's it. 0:59:38.360 --> 0:59:41.720 After fifteen minutes, you are being the table's being let go. 0:59:41.880 --> 0:59:44.800 Yes, you're being rude and the person should leave. 0:59:45.320 --> 0:59:48.840 I think I think more people need to leave when 0:59:48.880 --> 0:59:50.560 people are that late get. 0:59:50.560 --> 0:59:54.160 About that would be fair. Like the friend the X 0:59:54.160 --> 0:59:56.120 men and the piston my bed, we had a post 0:59:56.120 --> 0:59:57.920 conversation and I was like, oh, I don't want to 0:59:57.920 --> 1:00:00.200 be a friend, and they were like, but why. I 1:00:00.200 --> 1:00:02.160 said no, no, no, like this was the boundary that was 1:00:02.200 --> 1:00:04.080 big enough for me. That was crous. I don't think 1:00:04.080 --> 1:00:05.520 I want to have a further doge, but. 1:00:05.480 --> 1:00:09.160 Why you and or somebody else peeding in two of 1:00:09.160 --> 1:00:10.840 my beds. You ask me why? 1:00:10.960 --> 1:00:13.320 And then they were like, oh, well you've like crossed 1:00:13.320 --> 1:00:15.240 boundaries of mine and I given you grace, and then 1:00:15.240 --> 1:00:17.720 I said you shouldn't have then like, I don't judge 1:00:17.720 --> 1:00:20.400 me by the way that you should. 1:00:20.480 --> 1:00:24.360 My friend, if you forgave me you can't now throw 1:00:24.400 --> 1:00:25.160 it back in my face. 1:00:25.240 --> 1:00:27.440 Yeah, you forgive me, I don't know what you want 1:00:27.480 --> 1:00:27.720 from me. 1:00:28.080 --> 1:00:29.800 Forgiveness is mess. 1:00:29.920 --> 1:00:35.240 I will say that forgiving is mess because yes, I'm like, okay, 1:00:35.400 --> 1:00:39.000 I'm not mad at it anymore, right, and we are 1:00:39.080 --> 1:00:41.240 moving forward, But I. 1:00:41.200 --> 1:00:42.320 Have not forgotten. 1:00:42.720 --> 1:00:45.280 And how can I forgive if I still remember the 1:00:45.320 --> 1:00:47.520 shit that you did, because then when you do something 1:00:47.520 --> 1:00:50.240 else that's gonna trigger me, that's a capital T for me. 1:00:50.320 --> 1:00:52.640 And I'm like, oh, you back on your bullshit. So 1:00:52.680 --> 1:00:54.760 now I got to bring it up again. But it's 1:00:54.800 --> 1:00:58.240 like I thought you forgave it. Nah, I did forgive 1:00:59.000 --> 1:01:00.880 what you want that bullshit? 1:01:00.960 --> 1:01:03.880 And i'ma mention it again now because yeah, but like 1:01:03.920 --> 1:01:05.880 you open the door, it becomes data. 1:01:06.000 --> 1:01:09.600 But if it's still affecting you emotionally, then maybe you ain't. 1:01:10.720 --> 1:01:13.439 It's just like like, if it's still like triggering you, 1:01:13.960 --> 1:01:15.880 that is a sign that you ain't work through that. 1:01:16.320 --> 1:01:16.480 Now. 1:01:16.480 --> 1:01:18.280 I gotta work through it. Now, I gotta work through 1:01:18.280 --> 1:01:19.360 something that you did to me. 1:01:19.680 --> 1:01:20.640 No, my thing is this. 1:01:20.720 --> 1:01:23.400 If you tell me you forgave me and you still 1:01:23.680 --> 1:01:26.960 in it, then you did not forgive me. You can't 1:01:27.000 --> 1:01:29.840 say I forgive you and it's good and then be like, 1:01:29.960 --> 1:01:32.840 but I won't forget, Like, sure you can remember it, 1:01:32.880 --> 1:01:35.040 but if you've thrown it back in my face every 1:01:35.120 --> 1:01:38.600 time we have any type of issue, then babe. 1:01:38.640 --> 1:01:39.400 You didn't forget. 1:01:39.600 --> 1:01:41.360 Please, You're harboring. 1:01:41.120 --> 1:01:47.800 Right, harboring. It's very very You do a world of 1:01:47.880 --> 1:01:52.880 to day, you know, a word of asshole. 1:01:52.920 --> 1:01:55.120 For sure, I'm gonna do my wordle right now. You'll 1:01:55.160 --> 1:01:57.280 get it for to day? Is it mess to do 1:01:57.360 --> 1:02:16.640 my world during the public, you. 1:02:16.640 --> 1:02:20.240 Know, talking to you doane being with you, I you know, 1:02:20.480 --> 1:02:23.600 constantly am like damn, maybe I do need to work 1:02:23.640 --> 1:02:25.680 on being less nice. 1:02:26.400 --> 1:02:27.920 But I don't know. 1:02:28.080 --> 1:02:32.280 Sometimes being nice or empathetic or whatever, it just it 1:02:33.600 --> 1:02:36.440 fills me up and be like Okay, yeah, like this 1:02:36.600 --> 1:02:39.640 is not a bad thing. I am gonna get, you know, 1:02:39.760 --> 1:02:42.040 fucked over it sometimes and people are gonna take advantage 1:02:42.040 --> 1:02:44.680 and you know, that's just how the cookie crumbles. But 1:02:45.400 --> 1:02:47.400 I do get a lot of people who, you know, 1:02:47.440 --> 1:02:50.240 I sometimes forget how we first met and they're like, Sidney, 1:02:50.800 --> 1:02:52.919 you know, I didn't know nobody and you were. 1:02:52.840 --> 1:02:54.320 At this point, you were so nice. 1:02:54.400 --> 1:02:57.040 You were just like made me feel comfortable and not 1:02:57.240 --> 1:02:59.920 like a stranger, and it made me like feel like 1:03:00.080 --> 1:03:01.960 I was in and thank you for that. 1:03:02.040 --> 1:03:04.040 And I'm like, that's how I treat. 1:03:03.960 --> 1:03:08.120 Most people because anybody could be anybody, And what's the 1:03:08.320 --> 1:03:12.040 what's the point of being you know, reserved. 1:03:11.640 --> 1:03:14.840 When it's like, oh, if we match, then just school. 1:03:14.880 --> 1:03:17.560 But if you show me that you're you know, you're weird, 1:03:18.120 --> 1:03:19.160 I might still be your friend. 1:03:19.200 --> 1:03:19.960 But yeah, like I. 1:03:23.040 --> 1:03:26.720 Know, I'm not saying don't be empathetic and don't be 1:03:26.880 --> 1:03:31.880 nice at all. I'm just saying the the expectation for 1:03:31.920 --> 1:03:35.320 me to perform niceness so that you feel better is 1:03:35.320 --> 1:03:36.560 what I'm saying. I don't want to. 1:03:36.560 --> 1:03:37.240 Do I don't want to do it. 1:03:37.360 --> 1:03:39.760 Okay, Like, if it feels organic to be nice, I'm 1:03:39.760 --> 1:03:41.800 going to be nice because that's who I am. But 1:03:41.920 --> 1:03:46.320 there's just like certain spaces where niceness is prioritized in 1:03:46.360 --> 1:03:49.560 a way where like other things could also be prioritized. 1:03:49.840 --> 1:03:50.800 Who's the nicest person? 1:03:50.800 --> 1:03:56.400 You know, Sidney is like one of them, foolish. 1:03:55.720 --> 1:03:57.920 One of the one of the most fools that you. 1:03:57.880 --> 1:04:01.960 Know, Yes, yeahs like and in Nate just like and 1:04:02.000 --> 1:04:04.160 it's so funny to be living with her and seeing 1:04:04.320 --> 1:04:06.160 like I feel like there's parts of me that she's 1:04:06.200 --> 1:04:10.760 now seeing that and we're like interacting where I'm like, oh, 1:04:10.800 --> 1:04:13.640 you genuinely are really nice and me being like stupid. 1:04:13.880 --> 1:04:18.680 You don't have to be instance because like I also 1:04:18.720 --> 1:04:21.200 think I'm nice, Like I don't think I'm like like, 1:04:21.240 --> 1:04:22.680 I think I'm very. 1:04:22.320 --> 1:04:24.160 Nice, but then you watch Sydney and you're like, am 1:04:24.160 --> 1:04:24.920 I nice? 1:04:25.360 --> 1:04:29.600 And that's the thing. Like I was talking to a friend, 1:04:30.280 --> 1:04:34.080 I'm nice in situations where I feel like I am nice, 1:04:34.200 --> 1:04:35.760 and then in a certain situations just like, oh, I 1:04:35.800 --> 1:04:38.320 don't think this car Like there was a moment earlier 1:04:38.520 --> 1:04:40.960 where I had to pick and choose when I was nice. 1:04:41.000 --> 1:04:44.720 We were getting smoothies and this woman just ordered her 1:04:44.720 --> 1:04:48.120 smoothie before me and I was already there, and I 1:04:48.120 --> 1:04:49.880 had to tell myself, like, this is a moment where 1:04:49.880 --> 1:04:51.960 I could be like, hey, I was already here. I 1:04:52.040 --> 1:04:54.880 literally said, this is not a moment where that is going. 1:04:54.880 --> 1:04:56.680 I don't think that's going to serve me. This is 1:04:56.680 --> 1:04:58.080 like an older woman. 1:04:58.480 --> 1:05:02.960 She's wearing floral. I'm like, okay, live your life lime. 1:05:02.720 --> 1:05:05.800 Green to toenail polish. You don't want it with her. 1:05:05.840 --> 1:05:06.520 She's Jamaican. 1:05:06.560 --> 1:05:08.840 I said you didn't want to wear her doesn't matter. 1:05:08.920 --> 1:05:11.440 But then yesterday I was like, walking to Central Park, 1:05:11.640 --> 1:05:14.280 there's a guy just like standing in the middle, just 1:05:14.280 --> 1:05:15.800 like in the way, I mean, being like, why are 1:05:15.800 --> 1:05:16.360 you sir? 1:05:16.720 --> 1:05:18.880 Oh? I already know what. He looked like, move everybody 1:05:18.920 --> 1:05:19.760 you're talking about I know. 1:05:21.200 --> 1:05:23.840 And that was a moment where I was like, I 1:05:23.920 --> 1:05:26.680 want to be meaner then I'm going to be, but 1:05:26.720 --> 1:05:28.960 I'm not because that also like I don't know this man, 1:05:29.000 --> 1:05:29.480 but like, so. 1:05:29.520 --> 1:05:31.200 What did you say to the man in the middle 1:05:31.200 --> 1:05:31.840 of the sidewalk? 1:05:32.080 --> 1:05:34.920 I said, come on, man, oh god, you're in New 1:05:35.000 --> 1:05:36.360 York now, you're a New Yorker. 1:05:36.440 --> 1:05:38.120 No, a real New Yorker would have been like, get 1:05:38.160 --> 1:05:39.200 out of the way. 1:05:39.360 --> 1:05:40.960 And that's what I wanted to say, is get the 1:05:41.000 --> 1:05:43.720 fuck out the way. But I was like, this is 1:05:43.760 --> 1:05:47.160 like if I do that, what now? Like I literally 1:05:47.160 --> 1:05:49.920 was walking with a friend. We were in Central Park 1:05:49.960 --> 1:05:52.520 maybe a couple months ago, and it was a situation 1:05:52.560 --> 1:05:54.880 where like some guy said something and he kind of 1:05:54.920 --> 1:05:57.600 like responded and the guy kind of snapped, and I 1:05:57.680 --> 1:06:01.439 was like, I'm really Chicago. I've had situations where things 1:06:01.440 --> 1:06:06.240 have escalated to death quickly, so I again discernment and 1:06:06.320 --> 1:06:08.600 been like, what is the what is this moment called for? 1:06:09.040 --> 1:06:11.800 Do I give that energy? I could, but I'm not. 1:06:12.280 --> 1:06:14.439 But I do think there were in certain situations where 1:06:14.440 --> 1:06:17.600 I'm like, oh, this this energy is called calls for 1:06:17.920 --> 1:06:20.320 and it's never like I don't argue. I'm not like 1:06:20.640 --> 1:06:22.960 I'm not that person, but I do think there's like 1:06:23.080 --> 1:06:27.560 a curtainess to me having to get my point across. 1:06:27.680 --> 1:06:30.360 I was at some event in LA and some some 1:06:30.440 --> 1:06:33.520 white lady turned around and shushed me in a. 1:06:33.600 --> 1:06:35.760 Very rude way. Were you watching the quiet place? 1:06:36.080 --> 1:06:39.480 No? I was at like a I was like at 1:06:39.600 --> 1:06:43.200 some like I like hosted this event the year before, 1:06:43.240 --> 1:06:45.240 so they invited me the next year just to come. 1:06:45.600 --> 1:06:48.080 There was like people behind me talking and she turned 1:06:48.120 --> 1:06:50.440 around and shushed me like it was just so rude, 1:06:50.760 --> 1:06:52.800 and I before I knew it, I like rolled up 1:06:52.840 --> 1:06:55.360 on her and was like, Hey, who the fuck are 1:06:55.400 --> 1:06:58.280 you talking to? And I said, it's so quiet, Like 1:06:58.320 --> 1:07:00.120 it wasn't like it was like. 1:07:00.120 --> 1:07:01.800 She need to be like you should have lean in 1:07:01.880 --> 1:07:02.800 to hear you curse her. 1:07:02.760 --> 1:07:04.440 Up And that's kind of like the way, and like 1:07:04.520 --> 1:07:06.000 I was like, Oh, this is the energy I have 1:07:06.040 --> 1:07:08.760 to have because I need her to know, watch your 1:07:08.800 --> 1:07:12.160 fucking mouth, like, that's rude, you don't know me. Thank 1:07:12.200 --> 1:07:14.000 you for that, but I have to say it in 1:07:14.040 --> 1:07:16.840 a way that was not like ra because that's not 1:07:16.880 --> 1:07:18.760 the energy I'm trying. I just need you to know 1:07:19.120 --> 1:07:19.840 how I feel. 1:07:19.960 --> 1:07:21.480 What did she say when you said that? 1:07:21.560 --> 1:07:26.440 She was like exactly and literally I said exactly exactly. 1:07:26.520 --> 1:07:28.760 Then I walked away and the point was made. There 1:07:28.840 --> 1:07:31.120 was not another moment and I said this is And 1:07:31.120 --> 1:07:33.040 that was a moment where I was like, Okay, this 1:07:33.240 --> 1:07:35.200 energy was needed in this moment to convey what I 1:07:35.200 --> 1:07:37.280 needed to convey. I didn't need to do too much, 1:07:37.560 --> 1:07:38.760 but I needed her to know. 1:07:39.280 --> 1:07:42.720 Quiet cursing. I'm adding that to my tool box. 1:07:42.800 --> 1:07:43.600 I think it is so help. 1:07:43.680 --> 1:07:47.200 Hey, that fuck are you talking? I don't know. I 1:07:47.200 --> 1:07:49.520 think I think that's a lot. I think that's a 1:07:49.800 --> 1:07:51.000 that just feels like. 1:07:51.360 --> 1:07:54.560 No, a lot is screaming and no, a lot a 1:07:54.600 --> 1:07:57.040 lot of energy to be like to go back to 1:07:57.080 --> 1:07:59.240 somebody like you're talking to you. 1:07:59.280 --> 1:08:02.960 Is just yeah, what you're talking to? 1:08:03.760 --> 1:08:03.960 Hey? 1:08:04.600 --> 1:08:05.040 Exactly? 1:08:05.160 --> 1:08:05.760 Who the fuck? 1:08:06.680 --> 1:08:08.520 And it was like and that was all. And my 1:08:08.560 --> 1:08:10.360 friend that I was with he was like, oh, I've 1:08:10.400 --> 1:08:13.720 never seen you that way, and I was just like, 1:08:13.840 --> 1:08:16.080 I felt it was so rude for this woman to 1:08:16.080 --> 1:08:19.280 think that she has that level of control, like authority. 1:08:19.320 --> 1:08:22.880 You don't know me. That's really rude. And it was 1:08:22.960 --> 1:08:25.200 like not, it was just just like, oh, like, can 1:08:25.200 --> 1:08:27.760 you quiet down? It was like a shut up and 1:08:27.880 --> 1:08:33.320 me being like, Hey, who the fuck are you talking to? Yeah, 1:08:33.479 --> 1:08:35.360 that's crazy, ma'am. 1:08:35.200 --> 1:08:38.559 I'm gonna quietly curse somebody out this week. I'm putting 1:08:38.640 --> 1:08:41.880 that in my toolbox and I'm putting it in my. 1:08:41.800 --> 1:08:44.679 Toe Because she had no she just was so shocked 1:08:44.680 --> 1:08:46.519 that I would say something back. So you just thought 1:08:47.040 --> 1:08:49.240 you was just Oh so you thought like, oh so 1:08:49.320 --> 1:08:52.560 you can just say anything without repercussions. No, Actually, you 1:08:52.560 --> 1:08:55.360 should think about what you say to people, because I 1:08:55.400 --> 1:08:58.639 do all the time. I have to down was a problem. 1:08:58.720 --> 1:09:01.120 So learning a lesson today, and the lesson is watch 1:09:01.160 --> 1:09:01.840 your fucking mouth. 1:09:02.640 --> 1:09:03.639 Don't let it happen again. 1:09:03.760 --> 1:09:06.960 Yeah, but that's a lesson that she learned. But I'm 1:09:06.960 --> 1:09:08.479 sure she's gonna do that shit again. 1:09:08.640 --> 1:09:09.360 She didn't gon do it to. 1:09:09.360 --> 1:09:12.120 Me, and that's what matters, And that's the lesson. 1:09:12.640 --> 1:09:15.120 There might be another person that you I mean if 1:09:15.760 --> 1:09:18.040 every time it just feels like I have to do 1:09:18.080 --> 1:09:19.120 this every single time. 1:09:19.479 --> 1:09:21.479 Did do it to the lady with this mooie? No, 1:09:22.280 --> 1:09:23.280 do it to the man on the street. 1:09:23.560 --> 1:09:23.640 No. 1:09:24.000 --> 1:09:26.799 That That's what I'm talking about, discernment walking. 1:09:26.600 --> 1:09:27.479 Down the street, the room. 1:09:27.560 --> 1:09:31.280 I was walking down the street yesterday and there was 1:09:31.320 --> 1:09:35.439 a group of people on the sidewalk, and you know, 1:09:35.479 --> 1:09:38.080 they had on those clear raincoats, so you can already 1:09:38.120 --> 1:09:40.599 visualize the people I'm talking about, you know what I mean, 1:09:40.680 --> 1:09:43.160 like the rain the rain puncho that goes over their 1:09:43.240 --> 1:09:46.559 clothes that they bought a CBS or whatever. And I'm 1:09:46.560 --> 1:09:49.599 coming up and I'm coming fast because you know I'm late, 1:09:49.800 --> 1:09:51.559 I'll be late. And even when I'm not late to something, 1:09:51.600 --> 1:09:53.200 I'm from New York, so I walk quick. 1:09:53.600 --> 1:09:54.440 So I'm walking. 1:09:54.200 --> 1:09:57.880 Fast, and this guy just steps out just into the 1:09:57.920 --> 1:09:59.720 middle of the sidewalk. So I had to kind of 1:09:59.840 --> 1:10:03.160 v you're like at the last second around him, and 1:10:03.240 --> 1:10:06.880 I didn't say anything, but I fully turned around to 1:10:06.920 --> 1:10:10.439 be like ough, and he was like, sometimes you don't 1:10:10.439 --> 1:10:12.360 even have to you don't have to say anything being. 1:10:12.720 --> 1:10:15.200 An expression yeah, to be like hey, I was like, 1:10:16.040 --> 1:10:16.719 and he was like. 1:10:17.120 --> 1:10:18.840 I just feel like there's so much of that in 1:10:18.880 --> 1:10:21.639 New York, like that everybody's always making faces saying stuff 1:10:21.680 --> 1:10:24.120 like I feel like this is the city of people 1:10:24.200 --> 1:10:27.920 always getting the getting they shit off, they telling people, Hey, 1:10:28.120 --> 1:10:30.840 you are my way, I don't like you around me. 1:10:31.120 --> 1:10:34.840 You smell bad. This is weird, this is ugly, like. 1:10:36.479 --> 1:10:40.160 Your opinion to the mix, and I'm back and now 1:10:40.200 --> 1:10:42.639 I'm embracing it in a way that I just didn't before. 1:10:43.200 --> 1:10:45.400 I'm like, there's a space for this, and I think 1:10:45.960 --> 1:10:47.880 I'm in a season where I'm glad I'm in New 1:10:47.920 --> 1:10:50.920 York right now because that's I'm feeling very New York 1:10:51.200 --> 1:10:53.080 right now, and that I see it. 1:10:53.160 --> 1:10:57.519 You've definitely encompassed all of that in this in this interview. 1:10:57.560 --> 1:10:57.800 Friend. 1:10:57.920 --> 1:10:59.920 But you know, I'm so very sweet, very now. 1:11:00.080 --> 1:11:05.559 It's super sweet. Tell the people listening the top three 1:11:06.200 --> 1:11:08.720 nicest things, the sweetest things about you. 1:11:09.560 --> 1:11:12.280 I think I'm very considered. I think that when I'm 1:11:12.560 --> 1:11:15.280 doing stuff, I consider how I'm going to affect the 1:11:15.320 --> 1:11:20.400 people the space. I think I'm very empathetic. There's not 1:11:20.600 --> 1:11:23.839 much I can't talk about or like stepping someone's shoes 1:11:23.920 --> 1:11:27.360 to see their point of view. And also I think 1:11:27.479 --> 1:11:30.160 I'm pretty like loose with my money. 1:11:30.360 --> 1:11:32.280 Oh, we love loose with the money. 1:11:32.360 --> 1:11:33.280 I'm trying to get better. 1:11:33.479 --> 1:11:37.439 No, no, no, keep it loose. 1:11:37.640 --> 1:11:41.800 A lot of survivors remorse. So somebody and. 1:11:41.800 --> 1:11:43.800 You got you got a lot of you know, when 1:11:43.840 --> 1:11:46.680 you have family connected to family, you feel like and. 1:11:46.920 --> 1:11:50.920 Money really be beating people's as So yeah, and personally 1:11:50.960 --> 1:11:53.640 I do think that's like I think people put a 1:11:53.640 --> 1:11:57.200 lot on money, and so if I like give somebody money, 1:11:57.240 --> 1:11:59.040 I feel like they're really like, oh, this is so helpful. 1:11:59.040 --> 1:12:01.160 And me being like I had to press two buttons 1:12:01.160 --> 1:12:03.160 on my phone. That's so much better than being like, 1:12:03.200 --> 1:12:04.519 can can you help me move? I'm like, now I 1:12:04.520 --> 1:12:07.519 gotta do stuff like money moved so easy. 1:12:07.720 --> 1:12:09.559 I send you a link to piece of cake movers. 1:12:09.640 --> 1:12:12.120 Yeah, and so like, I feel like that's just like 1:12:12.280 --> 1:12:15.479 an easy way to help people, and at a time 1:12:15.479 --> 1:12:16.760 where people really need help. 1:12:16.960 --> 1:12:18.719 Okay, well we have a little we have a message. 1:12:18.720 --> 1:12:20.280 Wait, no, I wanted to ask you, Marie, what's the 1:12:20.320 --> 1:12:21.599 three nicest things you've done? 1:12:21.960 --> 1:12:23.360 Oh, three nicest things I've done. 1:12:23.439 --> 1:12:25.519 I had a show last night and this girl came 1:12:25.600 --> 1:12:27.920 up to me and she was like, I'm a comedian. 1:12:27.960 --> 1:12:30.639 I just moved to New York. I've seen your reels 1:12:30.680 --> 1:12:33.519 online and I had to come meet you. I had 1:12:33.520 --> 1:12:36.640 to come see you in real life. And I said, oh, 1:12:36.880 --> 1:12:37.960 and I hugged her and. 1:12:37.880 --> 1:12:41.840 She was shocked. She was like, oh my god. And 1:12:41.880 --> 1:12:43.840 she was like, and you smell good. And I was 1:12:43.920 --> 1:12:46.040 like yeah, but that was me being nice. 1:12:46.760 --> 1:12:48.880 Because I don't hug everybody and I don't want to 1:12:48.880 --> 1:12:52.839 be touched by everybody. Number Two, nicest thing that I 1:12:53.000 --> 1:12:55.320 you said, nicest thing that I did, or things about 1:12:55.320 --> 1:12:58.320 me that are nice. Yeah, I mean yeah, we got 1:12:58.320 --> 1:12:59.959 to donate some boots to Mecca. 1:13:00.040 --> 1:13:00.840 It's nice, okay. 1:13:03.439 --> 1:13:07.519 And you know, I was talking to my mom on 1:13:07.520 --> 1:13:09.640 the phone today and a lot of times when we 1:13:09.640 --> 1:13:12.080 speak to our parents, sometimes they say things and it's 1:13:12.120 --> 1:13:15.280 like annoying to us. And today we had a conversation 1:13:15.360 --> 1:13:18.920 and she said something that typically I would maybe be like, ugh, 1:13:19.200 --> 1:13:20.400 what are you talking about? 1:13:20.720 --> 1:13:23.040 But I laughed and me and my mom and she 1:13:23.200 --> 1:13:23.800 laughed and. 1:13:23.760 --> 1:13:26.559 We had this like really nice moment of like laughing together. 1:13:26.680 --> 1:13:28.800 And I just had this moment of like, oh, my 1:13:28.840 --> 1:13:30.920 mom is like she's just a girl, you know what 1:13:30.920 --> 1:13:35.560 I mean, Like, you know what I'm like, and because 1:13:36.200 --> 1:13:39.360 she's somebody who i'm so we're like. 1:13:39.320 --> 1:13:40.960 The same personality. 1:13:41.320 --> 1:13:44.160 We bump heads a lot, and so when I laughed 1:13:44.160 --> 1:13:46.439 and she laughed, I just felt like, what's. 1:13:46.240 --> 1:13:48.600 The laugh time? Last time we laughed together? So that 1:13:48.680 --> 1:13:51.280 was it. Those are my three things. It was just nice, 1:13:51.400 --> 1:13:52.000 this is nice. 1:13:52.400 --> 1:13:54.320 I'm just gonna you know, she's not gonna be here forever. 1:13:54.360 --> 1:13:57.120 So it was just like a nice, simple. 1:13:56.760 --> 1:14:02.280 Moment of like, what, he's just a girl. I don't 1:14:02.280 --> 1:14:03.720 think we need to ask you with three nice things. 1:14:03.720 --> 1:14:09.040 You're nice, no, yeah, yeah, but three mean things, three mean. 1:14:08.880 --> 1:14:10.160 Things, three things that. 1:14:10.120 --> 1:14:14.200 You were like, uh, you know, I like, I guess 1:14:14.240 --> 1:14:15.800 I had a falling out with a friend and I 1:14:16.080 --> 1:14:20.120 could have like addressed it in a way where I'm like, 1:14:21.880 --> 1:14:24.400 let's let's bring it back, Like I just it was 1:14:24.479 --> 1:14:27.280 just a straight like no, I'm not good. 1:14:27.560 --> 1:14:29.240 That would be considered mean. 1:14:29.680 --> 1:14:32.439 But it's like I'm I feel like I am so 1:14:32.560 --> 1:14:34.400 nice and so understanding that if you get me to 1:14:34.400 --> 1:14:36.160 the point of it like I'm not speaking to you 1:14:36.200 --> 1:14:36.559 any more. 1:14:37.280 --> 1:14:38.240 You got to figure that out. 1:14:38.320 --> 1:14:41.679 Yeah, because yeah, because it's like I don't just cut 1:14:41.720 --> 1:14:44.200 people off or if you do something, if you cross 1:14:44.240 --> 1:14:47.400 or boundary with me, that's just like so weird. It's 1:14:47.439 --> 1:14:51.320 hard for me to like communicate how weird this was. 1:14:51.560 --> 1:14:53.960 I'll just I'll just cut you off as well, because 1:14:54.000 --> 1:14:57.400 it's just like, yeah, you did that, cool for you, 1:14:57.560 --> 1:14:59.840 but that's that's not going to rock with me. And 1:15:00.160 --> 1:15:03.200 so when I cut people off, it is a little 1:15:03.240 --> 1:15:05.120 mean because I'm like, I don't I don't care anymore. 1:15:05.160 --> 1:15:08.120 I don't want to explain, I don't want to make 1:15:08.160 --> 1:15:08.519 it right. 1:15:08.680 --> 1:15:09.000 I don't. 1:15:09.120 --> 1:15:12.320 I just don't care. I'm like, bye, that's it. So 1:15:12.360 --> 1:15:14.479 that that's how I would say it is my mean. 1:15:14.920 --> 1:15:16.360 Yeah, and I've witnessed this. 1:15:16.640 --> 1:15:22.840 Yeah, I witnessed this like maybe two times, and I'm like, Okay, that. 1:15:22.840 --> 1:15:23.080 Made me. 1:15:25.280 --> 1:15:25.639 No more. 1:15:29.240 --> 1:15:29.920 I love that. 1:15:30.120 --> 1:15:31.960 I mean, you know, you got to stand on business. 1:15:32.120 --> 1:15:34.600 And when Sydney stands on it, she actually stands on 1:15:34.640 --> 1:15:38.360 it with her heels in a cute in a cute boot, 1:15:38.520 --> 1:15:41.559 in a cute snake skin boot. All right, we have 1:15:41.600 --> 1:15:43.800 a message from a listener. I'm gonna read it and 1:15:43.840 --> 1:15:46.320 then you can tell us, you know, how are you 1:15:46.320 --> 1:15:49.040 feel about it? You know, hey, Sidney and Marie, I'm 1:15:49.040 --> 1:15:51.280 a big fan of you two, and the podcast. 1:15:51.439 --> 1:15:52.080 Thanks girl. 1:15:52.600 --> 1:15:55.719 Yeah, I listened religiously each week. Please do a show 1:15:55.920 --> 1:16:01.160 in stl soon. That's Saint Louis, right, I think so stl. 1:16:01.520 --> 1:16:05.960 Oh, yeah, gimme, gimme Toper. 1:16:07.240 --> 1:16:09.559 My mess is that I let a man fuck me 1:16:09.720 --> 1:16:11.840 up during the first week of Pride Month. 1:16:11.920 --> 1:16:12.240 Whoa. 1:16:12.720 --> 1:16:16.240 I've dated women and men my entire adult life. Every 1:16:16.240 --> 1:16:18.479 time I entertained a man, it feels like a form 1:16:18.520 --> 1:16:19.479 of self harm. 1:16:19.680 --> 1:16:21.759 Oh, relate. 1:16:24.560 --> 1:16:26.840 I met this man at a bar through a mutual friend. 1:16:27.120 --> 1:16:30.479 We exchanged Instagrams, but it didn't go anywhere. Fast forward 1:16:30.520 --> 1:16:32.320 to a few weeks ago. I saw we were in 1:16:32.360 --> 1:16:34.680 the same part of town. I invited him to the 1:16:34.680 --> 1:16:36.200 bar to hang out with me and my friend. We 1:16:36.280 --> 1:16:38.320 hit it off. We had a sleepover that night, but 1:16:38.400 --> 1:16:40.519 didn't hook up. Okay, he took me to breakfast the 1:16:40.520 --> 1:16:40.960 next morning. 1:16:41.000 --> 1:16:41.599 It was sweet. 1:16:42.200 --> 1:16:44.640 Next thing, you know, we're talking, hanging out often, and 1:16:44.680 --> 1:16:45.240 hooking up. 1:16:45.720 --> 1:16:46.960 He told me he was insecure. 1:16:47.600 --> 1:16:49.040 I didn't see it as a red flag until he 1:16:49.080 --> 1:16:52.559 started commenting on my body. He made a comment about 1:16:52.560 --> 1:16:54.479 my breast implants, my pubic hair. 1:16:55.120 --> 1:16:56.880 Oh, he preferred a bush. 1:16:57.400 --> 1:16:59.679 Asked when I was going to get my hair done, 1:17:00.160 --> 1:17:03.160 and if I liked wearing my hair up, insinuating that 1:17:03.240 --> 1:17:04.639 I looked better with it down. 1:17:05.240 --> 1:17:15.920 Preach not the only straight man. I knew something wasn't right. 1:17:16.000 --> 1:17:17.720 But the final wake up call was when I told 1:17:17.760 --> 1:17:20.160 my friend that he goes to therapy four times a week. 1:17:20.960 --> 1:17:22.000 I didn't even know we could do that. 1:17:22.120 --> 1:17:25.080 I didn't know that it's not the same It can't 1:17:25.120 --> 1:17:27.960 be the same person. There's no four different therapists in 1:17:27.960 --> 1:17:30.040 a week. Two that's maybe worse. 1:17:31.160 --> 1:17:33.479 Okay, the part that fucked me up is when I 1:17:33.600 --> 1:17:35.360 ended things. He said he wanted to end it the 1:17:35.479 --> 1:17:37.719 night before, but he wanted me to speak my peace. 1:17:38.200 --> 1:17:42.040 My sassy self said peace and he said and he said, no, 1:17:42.120 --> 1:17:44.160 it's peace peace as in p. 1:17:44.200 --> 1:17:46.720 I E C E. And then she said peace peace 1:17:47.160 --> 1:17:49.400 and he said, no, it's p I E C guy's 1:17:49.479 --> 1:17:51.200 and asshole. He got me good. 1:17:51.360 --> 1:17:53.760 I attached I'd attached a photo of him, but he 1:17:53.840 --> 1:17:55.519 blocked me immediately on Instagram. 1:17:56.120 --> 1:17:58.720 This has been my gay awakening. Is it mess or 1:17:58.880 --> 1:18:01.479 just living? Full? Full mess? 1:18:02.040 --> 1:18:02.519 Full mess? 1:18:02.760 --> 1:18:07.479 Never never give these man meant any any chance to 1:18:07.960 --> 1:18:11.559 pull a stunt like that. That's that's crazy. You should 1:18:11.560 --> 1:18:12.200 be thankful. 1:18:12.720 --> 1:18:15.719 I wonder if he was tall and his beard connected, 1:18:15.800 --> 1:18:18.040 because you literally told her a red flag and she 1:18:18.160 --> 1:18:19.320 said that's fine. 1:18:19.880 --> 1:18:22.240 Yeah, And I really wish we had a photo because 1:18:22.240 --> 1:18:23.080 I need to know. 1:18:23.720 --> 1:18:28.960 That's the problem is that she had an out and 1:18:29.080 --> 1:18:29.720 she didn't take it. 1:18:30.160 --> 1:18:34.920 Yeah. Yeah, but I think the first night kind of 1:18:34.960 --> 1:18:35.720 set the tone of it. 1:18:35.800 --> 1:18:37.960 And I think that's what why she had blinders on, right, 1:18:38.320 --> 1:18:40.960 because they had a good time, they slipped over but 1:18:41.040 --> 1:18:42.799 didn't hook up, and then he took her to breakfast 1:18:42.840 --> 1:18:44.680 the next morning, so it's like, oh, this is a 1:18:44.800 --> 1:18:47.599 nice guy. Yeah, so all you you have this vision 1:18:47.640 --> 1:18:51.320 of him at up top sweet. He does after that 1:18:51.439 --> 1:18:53.719 is the opposite of that, but you still you remember 1:18:53.840 --> 1:18:54.719 him as sweet. 1:18:55.040 --> 1:18:58.080 And I think that's the problem. This is an evening 1:18:58.160 --> 1:19:02.000 and a morning girl. You need more information. Yeah, and 1:19:02.080 --> 1:19:03.840 then he told you you ended here and you don't 1:19:03.840 --> 1:19:07.559 put that into the other information. Like so the idea 1:19:07.600 --> 1:19:10.800 of like putting so much emphasis on the good is 1:19:10.880 --> 1:19:13.439 because she wanted to write and that. 1:19:14.200 --> 1:19:17.000 He must have been tall and his beard fully connected 1:19:17.000 --> 1:19:17.559 all the way around. 1:19:17.600 --> 1:19:19.240 I need to see, well, I want to know did 1:19:19.280 --> 1:19:21.720 she find out he was in therapy four times a 1:19:21.760 --> 1:19:27.080 week before the comments or after, like, when did she 1:19:27.320 --> 1:19:28.240 when did she find out? 1:19:28.280 --> 1:19:29.000 She found out after? 1:19:29.400 --> 1:19:31.560 It says the final wake up call was when I 1:19:31.640 --> 1:19:33.960 told my friend, oh, wait, no, she must have already known. 1:19:34.160 --> 1:19:37.200 No, she already knew when I told my friend that 1:19:37.320 --> 1:19:39.720 he goes to therapy four times a week, So you 1:19:39.880 --> 1:19:41.280 knew he went to therapy four times a week. 1:19:41.320 --> 1:19:43.400 And then the firm was probably like, bitch, nah, he 1:19:43.560 --> 1:19:45.280 might have he might have been he might have been 1:19:45.320 --> 1:19:48.040 in one of those those rooms that's patted. 1:19:48.200 --> 1:19:51.400 Your friend said, girl, you dain'ting hanibal lectum four times 1:19:51.439 --> 1:19:53.640 a week is wild. I've never even heard of that. 1:19:53.680 --> 1:19:54.439 I didn't even know you. 1:19:54.400 --> 1:19:57.760 Could do that when you were in speech, when you 1:19:57.840 --> 1:19:59.840 were in kindergarten for the study, how many times a 1:19:59.840 --> 1:20:00.600 week did you go to that? 1:20:00.680 --> 1:20:04.640 I think I was like once a week. Back, I 1:20:04.640 --> 1:20:08.120 couldn't even talk, like that's four times a week. 1:20:08.840 --> 1:20:09.479 Very scary. 1:20:09.640 --> 1:20:14.639 I think it's I think it's living, giving people a chance. 1:20:14.800 --> 1:20:17.439 I guess twenty four times a month, but it's it's 1:20:17.520 --> 1:20:19.679 some Wait, that's twenty four times a month. Yeah, thirty 1:20:19.800 --> 1:20:20.599 days in a month. 1:20:20.920 --> 1:20:21.240 It's that. 1:20:22.000 --> 1:20:25.360 Yeah, how is he affording us? What is his insurance? 1:20:25.520 --> 1:20:28.719 Like, maybe he really has like some really deep traumas, 1:20:28.760 --> 1:20:33.000 which is like like not like trying to really be empathetic. 1:20:34.240 --> 1:20:34.600 Look at you. 1:20:34.800 --> 1:20:37.840 I think that like she should have recognized if that 1:20:37.960 --> 1:20:40.599 was something she was willing to put up with pretty 1:20:40.680 --> 1:20:44.120 early on. Like I just think people really deal with 1:20:44.200 --> 1:20:47.240 things that they don't have to. Because he was talking 1:20:47.240 --> 1:20:50.360 about her titties and all these other things, Like at 1:20:50.400 --> 1:20:54.040 what point, Like was that first night really that good 1:20:54.080 --> 1:20:57.439 that all this other shit just didn't matter? Like was 1:20:57.520 --> 1:20:59.280 that breakfast just like the bomb. 1:21:00.320 --> 1:21:05.599 Ain't no grand slam good enough? Ain't in the VIP 1:21:05.760 --> 1:21:09.439 at Denny's? Like why were you sever I hoop? 1:21:09.600 --> 1:21:11.080 Is never that popping? No way? 1:21:11.720 --> 1:21:13.479 I mean? And also if you not like in it, 1:21:14.000 --> 1:21:16.400 be one for that, Like I think, like and maybe 1:21:16.880 --> 1:21:19.120 it's just not your man you were hooking up. Maybe 1:21:19.120 --> 1:21:20.800 I'm too much of a realist, but I'm like, what 1:21:20.960 --> 1:21:23.920 are the steaks like? And I'm always conscious of like 1:21:23.960 --> 1:21:25.880 if you leave my life right now, what would change? 1:21:26.439 --> 1:21:29.800 And if it's anything more than just like joy, then 1:21:30.040 --> 1:21:32.519 it's too much like and and that's the thing, like 1:21:32.680 --> 1:21:35.719 it shouldn't the stakes don't feel that high? Like possibly 1:21:35.840 --> 1:21:39.040 like good sex, good times you can get that from 1:21:39.160 --> 1:21:40.880 like multiple, multiple people. 1:21:41.160 --> 1:21:43.560 I think that's just living. I think that is the 1:21:43.680 --> 1:21:46.120 question that people need to ask themselves. If you leave 1:21:46.200 --> 1:21:49.920 my life right now, what would change a lot of 1:21:49.960 --> 1:21:52.360 people don't think like that. They like, they see what 1:21:52.479 --> 1:21:54.920 they have and they want just that and it's like, but. 1:21:54.960 --> 1:21:56.639 If this person wasn't here, you will still be good. 1:21:56.840 --> 1:21:58.960 Yeah, so you might be you might be better literally 1:21:59.000 --> 1:22:00.800 still getting You just have to find something else to do. 1:22:01.640 --> 1:22:04.560 You would have you would have more free time, or 1:22:04.600 --> 1:22:07.000 you would have time to steal some art like this. 1:22:07.400 --> 1:22:09.840 The saddest the saddest thing about this is that this 1:22:10.000 --> 1:22:11.120 is happening during Pride. 1:22:11.160 --> 1:22:13.960 Why would you have all months to do this? Like 1:22:14.520 --> 1:22:17.080 I'm giving somebody a chance Pride. 1:22:17.400 --> 1:22:21.599 She was trying to be queer and outside and put 1:22:21.640 --> 1:22:22.040 herself in. 1:22:22.160 --> 1:22:25.080 You're a lesbian friend, You're okay, But we learn, we 1:22:25.240 --> 1:22:29.800 learned these hard lessons doing through. Some of us, you know, 1:22:30.680 --> 1:22:33.800 get called you know that their titties are weird or whatever. 1:22:33.880 --> 1:22:36.000 And then other people, you know, they go to a 1:22:36.080 --> 1:22:38.200 man's house and is he doesn't have electricity? 1:22:38.320 --> 1:22:39.719 So who am I to judge? 1:22:40.880 --> 1:22:41.200 Dwayne? 1:22:41.240 --> 1:22:43.920 Thank you so much for being so insightful. I mean, 1:22:44.120 --> 1:22:46.000 you really know you laid it on thick. 1:22:46.320 --> 1:22:49.679 You were unapologetically yourself. We need that at Mess. 1:22:50.040 --> 1:22:51.880 Yeah, I didn't think I was gonna give doctor Phil, but. 1:22:52.200 --> 1:22:54.400 You did you truly did you? 1:22:54.920 --> 1:23:01.320 Doctor Uncle Phil, Doctor Umar Phil Iyana van Zen? 1:23:02.080 --> 1:23:04.840 Not on my watch? What do you have coming up? Dwayne? Where? 1:23:04.880 --> 1:23:05.880 Where can people catch you? 1:23:06.160 --> 1:23:07.479 When does the blackenning to come out? 1:23:07.560 --> 1:23:07.680 Uh? 1:23:07.760 --> 1:23:07.880 Huh? 1:23:08.880 --> 1:23:12.519 When I finished? Right, y'all think I'll be in New York. 1:23:12.560 --> 1:23:15.320 I'm doing stand up again. I'm doing some shows coming up. 1:23:15.479 --> 1:23:18.280 I'm working on a one man show that I'm excited 1:23:18.360 --> 1:23:20.760 to put up, so I'll post about that. You can 1:23:20.800 --> 1:23:23.800 find me on the grams at Dwayne Perkins. D e 1:23:24.400 --> 1:23:27.880 w A y n e W is another nigga. 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