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Speaker 1: Listening to mess mess, welcome to mess.

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Speaker 2: But remember there was a song that I was singing.

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Speaker 1: Because woman let me be a woman. Okay, messy, messy woman. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I don't remember you singing that.

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Speaker 3: Remember that you don't remember anything? Whoa, You got to

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Speaker 3: stop smoking weed?

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Speaker 4: Why I remember to smoke weed? And that's on the

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Speaker 4: period I had smoked today.

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Speaker 1: Though, good for you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, if the listeners don't know, I mean, this is

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Speaker 3: coming out afterwards, but it's June teenth.

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Speaker 4: It's June teenth, and they got us in the studio working,

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Speaker 4: and every person in the studio that's working for us also.

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Speaker 2: Black black black, black, black on black on.

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Speaker 1: Black on black on black. I haven't seen a white

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Speaker 1: person all day.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, the trains were very empty.

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Speaker 1: Maybe that's maybe that's what June Teeth is all about.

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Speaker 1: It's like white erasure.

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Speaker 2: With your chest, Mama's.

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Speaker 4: With my thirty two seat. Yeah, maybe that's what it is.

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Speaker 4: We get a break from the beige. Well, I will say,

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Speaker 4: we do have some beige listeners.

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Speaker 2: We appreciate y'all.

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Speaker 4: Y'all not like the rest of them, you know what

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Speaker 4: I'm saying. Sure, but they also not like us, so

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Speaker 4: it's different. Like I was talking to my mom about

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Speaker 4: what Juneteenth means today, and she was like, she was like,

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Speaker 4: what a medmean? I was like, I think it's the thirteenth.

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Speaker 4: I'm like Google, She's like, what year nineteen third? I

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Speaker 4: was like, I think it was eighteen something. We got there, though,

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Speaker 4: we got there.

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Speaker 2: No child left behind. Huh.

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Speaker 1: Well, my mom is from Haiti. She don't knowhing about Juneteenth.

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Speaker 1: Juneteenth is new. It just came out.

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Speaker 2: I hope Ice is not listening.

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Speaker 1: Why, I guess wouldn't be listening to us. You never know.

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Speaker 1: I was born here. I'm a citizen.

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Speaker 4: Ice, Come get me.

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Speaker 1: Think where you're gonna send me back to New York.

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Speaker 2: Back to New York.

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Speaker 4: So you know how, I ordered some boots from Essence

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Speaker 4: that didn't really fit me. Yes, and so I sent

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Speaker 4: them back and they sent me a picture of the

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Speaker 4: bottom of the boots and they said, hey, you wore these,

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Speaker 4: we can't accept them. I wore them from my bedroom

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Speaker 4: to my kitchen, yes, And they were like, uhh.

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Speaker 1: You wore them out.

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Speaker 4: So I've been dodging the ups man for a couple

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Speaker 4: of months.

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Speaker 1: I was away a few weeks ago.

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Speaker 4: The package was waiting for me at the dough when

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Speaker 4: I got home. So I've been trying to figure out

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Speaker 4: if I can just return the package to sender by

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Speaker 4: writing return to sender on the box.

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Speaker 1: Is that does that work? Like that? Girl?

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Speaker 4: It don't matter if you send the boots back? Have

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Speaker 4: they taken? Have they given you your money back? Somebody

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Speaker 4: else paid for the boots. I just don't want them in.

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Speaker 4: They don't fit me.

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Speaker 1: They're a little bit too small and the box is massive.

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Speaker 2: We'll just sell them, just sell them.

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Speaker 1: What are you talking about? Deep hop?

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Speaker 4: That feels like more steps than getting a sharpie and

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Speaker 4: writing turn to send her or friend.

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Speaker 2: You can go on your page and be like.

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Speaker 1: Give away, who has who has the size? Giveaway?

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Speaker 4: Meaning I then got to pay to ship it to them.

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Speaker 4: If I right return to sender, it's gonna go for free.

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Speaker 2: No no, no no. They have to be in New York.

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Speaker 1: How about that? So they gotta come get it?

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Speaker 5: Yes?

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Speaker 1: Maybe maybe give them away at your next show, Sydney.

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Speaker 4: I gotta bring this big app This is a These

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Speaker 4: are over the knee boots.

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Speaker 1: You didn't you didn't say that?

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Speaker 4: These long mind you wish it's about to be July.

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Speaker 4: These long boots in July.

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Speaker 1: Girl, give it to an unhoused person.

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Speaker 2: I don't know.

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Speaker 1: That's mess that? Why is that the mess? O sides

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Speaker 1: you wear? You seem like you got a small foot. Okay,

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Speaker 1: oh yeah they'll.

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Speaker 4: Fit you then, Okay, yeah, look at that. Wow, you're

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Speaker 4: gonna come and get them?

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Speaker 1: Wow? Put them in an overpackage.

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Speaker 3: Maria is always finding a way like how can I

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Speaker 3: give away something or get something?

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Speaker 4: No, Sydney, I wasn't trying to give them away. I

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Speaker 4: was trying to send them back. You trying to get

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Speaker 4: me to give them away. I was workshopping something. You're right,

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Speaker 4: that's mess, Wow, Sydney Mother Teresa Washington. Yeah, maybe you're

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Speaker 4: not messed. Maybe I'm messed for not thinking about giving

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Speaker 4: them away. I just want to get the biggest box

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Speaker 4: out of my house.

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Speaker 2: Totally understand.

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Speaker 1: It's like a small college refrigerator.

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Speaker 4: Hey, you know what, I know how hard it is

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Speaker 4: to like task tasks are very hard. That's why I'm

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Speaker 4: so bad at Newly because once I'm done with it,

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Speaker 4: I have to send it back and that's my issue.

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Speaker 4: I'll just keep it in my apartment for months and

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Speaker 4: they're and they're charging me each month.

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Speaker 1: What?

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Speaker 4: Yes, I thought if you had if you had one,

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Speaker 4: they didn't charge you for the next month.

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Speaker 2: They charge you for the next month.

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Speaker 1: Girl.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and that's another and that's another task.

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Speaker 1: Listen.

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Speaker 4: I paused my newly a couple of months ago and

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Speaker 4: then my I lost my card. I lost my car

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Speaker 4: that it was on and they unpaused it. But they

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Speaker 4: were like, hey, we can't the cars work.

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Speaker 1: They just did that to me too. They said, he

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Speaker 1: we're not going through. And it's like, if the car

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Speaker 1: is not working, cancel it. Then I get and they did.

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Speaker 3: They canceled it. God's planned. Okay, I think that's going

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Speaker 3: to happen to me. See, everything works in our favor.

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Speaker 3: We are God's favorite. Yeah for sure.

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Speaker 4: Amen boop, what's my mess?

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Speaker 1: Girl?

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Speaker 2: You were there for it? And so were you?

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Speaker 1: Share it? The listeners were not there.

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Speaker 3: We had we have a monthly shown with a mina.

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Speaker 3: It's called Sundays and you know, we get up there,

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Speaker 3: we host we have a good time. I'm on stage,

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Speaker 3: minding my business, doing my jokes. Who do I see

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Speaker 3: an X in the audience? An X was in the audience,

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Speaker 3: didn't give me the heads up? Then text me bought

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Speaker 3: a ticket, so cute cute for you because you are

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Speaker 3: a fan, but I think there's got to be some protocol.

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Speaker 3: You can't just show up at somebody's job.

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Speaker 1: And he was dressed.

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Speaker 4: Killer like a geisha at African Geisha.

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Speaker 3: He was giving, you know, thank you, thank you for

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Speaker 3: supporting the arts.

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Speaker 1: But it was it was strange, like, if.

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Speaker 3: You're gonna come to my job, right, you got to

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Speaker 3: be in the shadows, you got to be in the back.

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Speaker 1: You got to be by the bar. I shouldn't be

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Speaker 1: able to see he was so close.

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Speaker 3: And then I'm not even gonna say the second part. Well,

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Speaker 3: I'll talk about it on the Patreon, the second part

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Speaker 3: of it because it was actually very rude because then

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Speaker 3: he made a post. I ain't gonna say the rest,

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Speaker 3: but yeah, it was really upsetting because first of all,

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Speaker 3: I just need to this one I'm gonna put out there.

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Speaker 3: If I dated you and you were a man, I'm

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Speaker 3: gay now, so that don't even count. I don't even

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Speaker 3: know what who's this man? Sydney said it fell off

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Speaker 3: her credit report. It fell off, And that's how I

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Speaker 3: have addressed. I should have treated him like, oh hello,

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Speaker 3: what's your name?

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Speaker 1: No, but that's not what you did. I was actually

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Speaker 1: kind of it was kind of mess do it. Sidney

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Speaker 1: was like, my ex is here, and then she pointed

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Speaker 1: to him and she's like, you're good, and me and

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Speaker 1: a Mina were gagged.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you look good.

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Speaker 4: Anytime you bump into your ex after you've left them,

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Speaker 4: you want them to look distraught, disheveled. You want them

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Speaker 4: to be dragging the leg behind them. You just want

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Speaker 4: them to be doing bad.

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Speaker 2: Well girl, First of all, the issue is is that.

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Speaker 1: I just was. I had no words to speak.

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Speaker 4: Well.

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Speaker 1: First of all, I don't know how to be mean.

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Speaker 1: That's my problem. That's a lie. I don't know. I

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Speaker 1: don't know what I mean. That's how to be mean?

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Speaker 1: Can you believe it? I've seen you be mean before.

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Speaker 1: I'm such a sweetheart. That's a lie. When have I

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Speaker 1: been mean? You've been mean to people that you've decided

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Speaker 1: that you no longer want in your life? Is that mean?

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Speaker 2: Or is that creating a boundary and standing on business?

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Speaker 1: Period?

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Speaker 4: So?

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Speaker 1: Is it?

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Speaker 4: So?

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Speaker 1: When I'm mean? Am I being mean? Or am I

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Speaker 1: setting setting a boundary and standing on business? Sny? Do

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Speaker 1: you lead with your heart? I lead with my mouth?

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Speaker 1: Love that boundary? Yeah?

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Speaker 3: So I couldn't believe it, and then he reached out.

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Speaker 2: I haven't written back, but he apologized.

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Speaker 1: So the number hasn't changed. No, it hasn't. And you

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Speaker 1: never blocked him.

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Speaker 3: I don't block excess for what I mean. I mean,

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Speaker 3: he broke up with me. So there's that.

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Speaker 2: I'm saying that on the record.

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Speaker 1: But whoa. Well, there was a time where I wasn't

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Speaker 1: I wasn't eight ship. You wasn't a ship. Yeah you

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Speaker 1: ainate wasn't ship. I ate ship. It wasn't ain't you.

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Speaker 1: It wasn't mean.

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Speaker 2: I was ship. Ye I was shitting. I was shitting

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Speaker 2: on these foes.

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Speaker 1: Well, he broke so it looked wild. Is that how

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Speaker 1: he used to dress when you dated him? No?

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Speaker 3: No, No, he's a he's a trainer, so he would

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Speaker 3: dress like a trainer. He have a little duffle bag

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Speaker 3: and like muscle muscles showing, you know, teeth whatever. And

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Speaker 3: you know, just he had a job and he has skateboard.

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Speaker 3: I met him with a skateboard. That's how you know.

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Speaker 3: Just times was so tough, and he tried to get

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Speaker 3: me to be on his skateboard to go to his house.

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Speaker 1: That's a rom com for poor people. No, kick push.

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Speaker 1: I love that, And that's to Tyler Perry. Well, Tyler's

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Speaker 1: busy right now. He got a lot of allegations happening.

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Speaker 4: He's got so much going on in the in the kitchen.

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Speaker 4: They're leaking a bunch of his text messages.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if you guys have seen him.

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Speaker 2: Oh, no, I don't. I'm busy. I'm busy.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I can't. Is the water in the shot? I

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Speaker 1: just want to know? Is the jug in the shot?

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Speaker 1: This is? She's busy doing this.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm still doing it hard seven.

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Speaker 1: You can't even pick it up off the table. I

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Speaker 1: have not been speaking of hard seventy five. Yeah, we

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Speaker 1: have a guest in here tonight. You do have a

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Speaker 1: guest in here? Wow? He is writer, actor, influencer, philanthropist.

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Speaker 1: Yes he is.

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Speaker 5: I do be helping folks, you do.

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Speaker 2: He's our dear, dear friend and my guaranteur.

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Speaker 5: Thank you for having me. Yes, baby, it's hard not

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Speaker 5: Yes, And I felt like I had to be mean

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Speaker 1: Yes, because we didn't we move rooms, we left, and

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Speaker 5: It was three different occasions.

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Speaker 5: Which is crazy because then why what is there to

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Speaker 3: I love everything you're doing. I'm proud of you. I mean,

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Speaker 3: You know, thank you for unpacking all of this. These

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: Put a pin?

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Speaker 2: What about Marie? What about her mess?

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Speaker 1: Oh the boots? Yeah? I forgot what my mess was?

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Speaker 5: I don't know why you just couldn't leave them on

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Speaker 4: Yes, Rather a stylish person put them on and then

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Speaker 1: For sure.

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Speaker 4: Now, I just want to put both things of water

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 5: I convinced Sydney to do it with me because I

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Speaker 5: Yes, accountability is better when there's an accountability partner.

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Speaker 1: Okay, so let's talk about it. Y'all. Can't eat no bread?

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Speaker 5: Well she can't. I gave up bread, fried food, sugars.

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Speaker 5: And I also, I'm sober while I'm in New York. Oh,

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Speaker 1: Sober like California sober.

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Speaker 4: No just like no alcohol, no, no weed, no drugs,

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Speaker 5: Yeah, Marie, it's been hard.

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Speaker 1: There's joy in sobriety.

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Speaker 1: Mm hmm. Yeah. Sleep.

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Speaker 3: Uh, sleeping is good. I think sleeping is a great one.

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Speaker 5: Like other vices, what go to aniga?

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Speaker 5: But yes, it's just just anything like I tried to

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I didn't. I ain't doing that part.

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Speaker 4: I made it to like thirty maybe forty something pages,

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Speaker 1: I said, what book is it? Put it? Put it out?

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Speaker 5: That it is. And then like, I'll be writing. So

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Speaker 5: I say, and I'm getting paid for this. I actually

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm reading the artist Way and it's I mean,

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Speaker 3: whenever I can, I'm reading the Artist's Way.

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Speaker 5: I tried to read it. It was a little difficult for me.

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Speaker 2: Why is it difficult.

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Speaker 5: I think it's for a certain type of person.

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Speaker 2: The one that believes in God.

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Speaker 5: No, one that's a little insecure. Oh, it's a lot

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Speaker 5: that part. Girl, get to the task, Like what are

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Speaker 3: The task is doing the solo dates and you know,

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Speaker 5: Yeah, but to get there is her being like, I

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Speaker 5: I just don't care. Like the voice of the book

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Speaker 1: Yeah, oh white Lady wrote it. Yeah, come on, he

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Speaker 3: I mean, he says, for someone who's insecure, I wouldn't

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Speaker 2: I think that because I'm working.

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Speaker 5: Looked at my finger. I looked at my hand.

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Speaker 1: Because you know you're shady. I am not you are.

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Speaker 5: No, I don't mean insecure like a bad way. I

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Speaker 1: He said, they're not for somebody who's insecure.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, that they're not secure in their artistry. Literally, that's

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Speaker 5: why they're reading a book about how to work their artistry.

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Speaker 5: So why were you doing it to see if there

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Speaker 5: it's very different. We're just at different places and I'm

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Speaker 1: Garbage.

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Speaker 6: Man.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, and I already like have an artistic way. I'm

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Speaker 1: Well, then the title would be the other artist's way.

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Speaker 5: And that's why I stopped reading it.

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Speaker 1: I got a book. It's called Steal Like an artist, Marie.

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Speaker 2: That's so on brand for you.

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Speaker 1: WHOA what that means?

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Speaker 5: It's true, most art is stomach And I would say, like,

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Speaker 5: as a screenwriter, that's all it is. You just look

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Speaker 4: How we struggle trying to the original steal so.

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Speaker 5: Many times I said, we can do something so quick.

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Speaker 1: Dwayne, I don't think you told me this a bunch

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Speaker 1: of times. You have told Sidney this. He told both

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Speaker 1: of us. Win, we're not listening, said, you can't remember.

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Speaker 5: We were in LA We were both in a car.

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Speaker 5: We were outside of your ex's house, and I remember

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Speaker 5: we were talking this.

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Speaker 1: Is this dent.

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Speaker 2: No, No, it's the case of the X for me

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Speaker 5: And we were talking about like pilots and writing and

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Speaker 5: just like I don't want to and I was like,

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Speaker 5: but let me tell it's not. It's easy. All you

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Speaker 1: Remember that's what you're saying on the pile as a writer.

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Speaker 5: Still like an like as an artist, like what do

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Speaker 5: you like everything? There was like twelve Steve Job movies.

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Speaker 5: You think they were different? Was there twelve? And they

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Speaker 5: how many, well that's twelve to doing how many Cinderellas

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Speaker 5: have there been? There was like four snow Whites, Like

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Speaker 5: You watch a movie and you know act three and bash,

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Speaker 5: it's gonna happen because they got to overcome.

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Speaker 1: Let's rewrite sinners.

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Speaker 3: Really this is what you want, okay, but we were

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Speaker 3: supposed to be twins and we don't. Look, this is

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Speaker 3: the rewrite. Ye, it'll be a comedy. I mean it'll

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Speaker 5: Cinner see but that's too close vampire, yes, or like

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Speaker 3: It's like, you want us to be mummy and the

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Speaker 3: whole thing is that, you know the look yeah, but

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Speaker 5: That have bought so it's like, yeah, so you're the

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's that's.

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Speaker 5: The name of it.

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Speaker 1: Black.

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Speaker 3: They know that the mummies are black because through tendrils

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Speaker 5: Your wraps and ma, I'm a mummy, but I have

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Speaker 5: a zoobie, you know what I mean. It's a full

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Speaker 5: and it just goes around your whole.

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Speaker 4: By what, I'm gonna have a New Yorker chain and everything.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna be wearing Thames. That that's how they know.

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Speaker 1: Sinners.

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Speaker 2: I like this, sinners. But mummy Bran, Hey, we're doing pictures.

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Speaker 1: These glasses are giving. The glasses with the sleepless sweater

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Speaker 1: vests is given.

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Speaker 5: Hollywood, thank you so much.

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Speaker 2: It's giving secure.

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Speaker 5: I think in its artistry, I think that is the

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Speaker 2: Okay?

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Speaker 5: People being insecure like people not having like a strong

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I think a lot of insecurities start like wars

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Speaker 1: and battles and.

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Speaker 4: Like if you knew who you were, then little things

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Speaker 4: you'd be like you did that and I don't like it,

449
00:20:07,119 --> 00:20:09,000
Speaker 4: but yeah, I'm too busy to.

450
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Speaker 5: Caud you say it how you feel it was real? Yeah,

451
00:20:12,720 --> 00:20:15,800
Speaker 5: that's like my Ugh, that's what I struggle with now.

452
00:20:15,840 --> 00:20:18,000
Speaker 5: I was telling Sydney that I don't want to be

453
00:20:18,119 --> 00:20:21,280
Speaker 5: nice anymore, like tired nice.

454
00:20:21,359 --> 00:20:23,560
Speaker 2: Well let's let's rewhind Duane.

455
00:20:23,720 --> 00:20:24,520
Speaker 5: Yes you're here.

456
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Speaker 1: What's your mess?

457
00:20:25,520 --> 00:20:29,840
Speaker 5: I am? My mess is I Niceness I think has

458
00:20:29,920 --> 00:20:31,960
Speaker 5: to go. I think as a nation as a people,

459
00:20:32,000 --> 00:20:35,200
Speaker 5: we've moved past nice as a nation, as a nation,

460
00:20:35,359 --> 00:20:37,560
Speaker 5: as a people, as a people, as a society.

461
00:20:37,640 --> 00:20:39,639
Speaker 1: But a lot of people aren't nice exactly.

462
00:20:39,720 --> 00:20:41,960
Speaker 5: That's what I was, like, what a lot I think

463
00:20:42,160 --> 00:20:44,480
Speaker 5: the attempt at trying to be nice, Like I think

464
00:20:44,520 --> 00:20:48,879
Speaker 5: that's like is what's ruining it because I think that

465
00:20:48,880 --> 00:20:52,280
Speaker 5: the people that are not nice they're living in their truth,

466
00:20:52,280 --> 00:20:53,919
Speaker 5: and the people that are trying to be nice are not.

467
00:20:54,200 --> 00:20:56,600
Speaker 5: And it creates a situation to where like if you

468
00:20:56,720 --> 00:20:59,800
Speaker 5: not nice, I know this similar to like racism. We're

469
00:20:59,800 --> 00:21:03,000
Speaker 5: like overt racism just be like, oh you hate niggas cool,

470
00:21:03,320 --> 00:21:05,480
Speaker 5: But the people that pretend like they don't, then he's like, oh,

471
00:21:06,080 --> 00:21:08,200
Speaker 5: why'd you waste my time when I know you hate niggas.

472
00:21:08,320 --> 00:21:11,480
Speaker 5: Similar to that, I bean like nice. If you're not nice,

473
00:21:11,800 --> 00:21:13,960
Speaker 5: I know that immediately because you're not nice. It's people

474
00:21:13,960 --> 00:21:16,119
Speaker 5: who hate niggas that I know how to navigate that.

475
00:21:16,240 --> 00:21:18,560
Speaker 4: It's crazy, Yes, people who don't like black people and

476
00:21:18,560 --> 00:21:19,639
Speaker 4: they have black children.

477
00:21:19,400 --> 00:21:21,520
Speaker 5: And I hate it. And I feel like I've been

478
00:21:21,560 --> 00:21:24,159
Speaker 5: in a lot of situations where people were being nice

479
00:21:24,560 --> 00:21:27,199
Speaker 5: and I was like, I'd rather you not because this

480
00:21:27,320 --> 00:21:29,880
Speaker 5: is not helping the situation. This is actually not serving us.

481
00:21:30,240 --> 00:21:33,760
Speaker 5: You're trying to be nice. You're actually wasting my fucking time.

482
00:21:34,000 --> 00:21:35,200
Speaker 1: So if you had all.

483
00:21:35,080 --> 00:21:37,240
Speaker 4: The rings and you could snap your finger and erase

484
00:21:37,400 --> 00:21:39,439
Speaker 4: niceness in the world, you would do that.

485
00:21:39,920 --> 00:21:41,600
Speaker 5: Probably, Not, that wouldn't be the first thing.

486
00:21:42,600 --> 00:21:43,239
Speaker 1: What's the first thing?

487
00:21:43,280 --> 00:21:46,119
Speaker 5: You was orias, it's not. I'm kidding.

488
00:21:47,400 --> 00:21:48,919
Speaker 1: Ciass, that's what you have.

489
00:21:50,840 --> 00:21:53,960
Speaker 5: That's what came to mind. No, I would the first

490
00:21:54,000 --> 00:21:59,399
Speaker 5: thing would probably be insecurity. Oh yeah, that's good. I

491
00:21:59,400 --> 00:22:00,600
Speaker 5: think that would really how.

492
00:22:00,920 --> 00:22:04,320
Speaker 4: No, no, no, no, I think the wrong people are insecure

493
00:22:04,680 --> 00:22:06,760
Speaker 4: and the people who should be insecure are not.

494
00:22:07,240 --> 00:22:09,840
Speaker 3: They're the ones that are, Like, you know, I'm gonna

495
00:22:09,840 --> 00:22:12,040
Speaker 3: make a business and I'm gonna tell everybody to do this,

496
00:22:12,160 --> 00:22:14,840
Speaker 3: and I'm not qualified, but you know what, I should

497
00:22:14,840 --> 00:22:16,960
Speaker 3: be president like things of that sort.

498
00:22:17,320 --> 00:22:18,919
Speaker 4: We should be in I hear what you're saying. But

499
00:22:19,000 --> 00:22:23,720
Speaker 4: everybody is insecure about something. Every single person alive, confident

500
00:22:23,840 --> 00:22:27,440
Speaker 4: or not, has at least one insecurity something.

501
00:22:27,200 --> 00:22:29,040
Speaker 5: That they don't and I think if we replace that

502
00:22:29,119 --> 00:22:32,600
Speaker 5: with simply discernment, then we could be solution based instead

503
00:22:32,600 --> 00:22:33,480
Speaker 5: of just having any motion.

504
00:22:33,880 --> 00:22:35,840
Speaker 1: Now, for the people listening who don't know what discernment means,

505
00:22:35,840 --> 00:22:36,520
Speaker 1: what I means.

506
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Speaker 4: That's the word of the day. Discernment the ability to discern,

507
00:22:43,400 --> 00:22:45,440
Speaker 4: the discern.

508
00:22:45,600 --> 00:22:47,520
Speaker 1: Is discerned, Alex.

509
00:22:47,680 --> 00:22:54,320
Speaker 5: What's discern is the ability to see in process something.

510
00:22:55,080 --> 00:22:58,679
Speaker 5: Oh that's what this whole yeah, to like have like

511
00:22:59,280 --> 00:23:04,520
Speaker 5: a knowledge of opinion based off information. So instead of

512
00:23:04,520 --> 00:23:07,760
Speaker 5: being like, oh, I'm insecure, like I feel insecure about

513
00:23:07,760 --> 00:23:11,160
Speaker 5: the situation, you're like, oh, this situation makes me feel this,

514
00:23:11,840 --> 00:23:14,399
Speaker 5: and because of that, I feel this way versus just

515
00:23:14,440 --> 00:23:18,000
Speaker 5: having any emotion. You know, what's the point of having that.

516
00:23:18,240 --> 00:23:20,399
Speaker 5: You're looking for the origin of that and then finding

517
00:23:20,400 --> 00:23:24,919
Speaker 5: a solution feeling it.

518
00:23:25,560 --> 00:23:27,520
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna lie to you, friend, I'm confused, but

519
00:23:27,920 --> 00:23:29,600
Speaker 3: what you're saying feels right.

520
00:23:29,880 --> 00:23:33,280
Speaker 1: It feels right, yeah, Sidney, and I we lack discern.

521
00:23:34,359 --> 00:23:37,760
Speaker 5: For example, Okay, so something that I said in the

522
00:23:37,800 --> 00:23:42,480
Speaker 5: car when we were talking about pilots, for example, You're like, oh,

523
00:23:42,800 --> 00:23:46,119
Speaker 5: I know people who are like doing stuff and writing pilots,

524
00:23:46,400 --> 00:23:49,400
Speaker 5: and because I have not, like comparing yourself to them.

525
00:23:49,640 --> 00:23:52,199
Speaker 5: And I was like, you haven't written a pilot, so

526
00:23:52,200 --> 00:23:54,159
Speaker 5: you should compare yourself to people who also have not

527
00:23:54,200 --> 00:23:57,200
Speaker 5: written pilot, because why would you compare yourself to somebody

528
00:23:57,200 --> 00:23:58,760
Speaker 5: who you're not even doing the same thing.

529
00:23:58,840 --> 00:23:59,600
Speaker 1: That's right.

530
00:24:00,359 --> 00:24:02,320
Speaker 4: If I haven't done it, I should be comparing myself

531
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Speaker 4: to people who also haven't done it.

532
00:24:03,840 --> 00:24:06,880
Speaker 5: Yeah, and if you do, you should feel normal because

533
00:24:06,920 --> 00:24:07,800
Speaker 5: y'all at the same place.

534
00:24:07,800 --> 00:24:11,560
Speaker 1: Actually, I actually feel better than them, but I feel

535
00:24:11,560 --> 00:24:13,119
Speaker 1: worse than the others, you know what I'm saying.

536
00:24:13,160 --> 00:24:15,240
Speaker 5: That's what I say. Always compare yourself to the worst.

537
00:24:15,280 --> 00:24:17,399
Speaker 5: Why are you can pay yourself to the best? That's crazy, you.

538
00:24:19,040 --> 00:24:21,040
Speaker 4: Know, because I feel like if I compare myself to

539
00:24:21,080 --> 00:24:23,600
Speaker 4: the best, and it's gonna make me want to be better.

540
00:24:23,840 --> 00:24:25,880
Speaker 4: But if I compare myself to the worst, then it's

541
00:24:25,920 --> 00:24:28,240
Speaker 4: like I'm good where I'm at, yeah, and I don't

542
00:24:28,240 --> 00:24:29,200
Speaker 4: want to be good where I'm at.

543
00:24:29,240 --> 00:24:31,000
Speaker 5: And that's why you now have to have discernmined about

544
00:24:31,000 --> 00:24:33,679
Speaker 5: who you are. Some people, if you do compare yourself

545
00:24:33,680 --> 00:24:36,120
Speaker 5: to the best, it may be create a thing where

546
00:24:36,119 --> 00:24:37,760
Speaker 5: you're like, oh, they're too far, there's no point in

547
00:24:37,800 --> 00:24:41,040
Speaker 5: me trying to reach that. You have to know yourself

548
00:24:41,080 --> 00:24:43,280
Speaker 5: to know what's the best way to accomplish waying.

549
00:24:43,320 --> 00:24:44,600
Speaker 1: Do you have a master's degree?

550
00:24:44,800 --> 00:24:46,800
Speaker 5: I know, I just have had therapy since I was

551
00:24:46,800 --> 00:24:48,240
Speaker 5: like in kindergarten because I had a speech.

552
00:24:48,000 --> 00:24:51,119
Speaker 1: Impediment therapy for people with a stutter.

553
00:24:51,280 --> 00:24:54,600
Speaker 5: That's because my stutter was attached to my emotions. So

554
00:24:54,680 --> 00:24:56,160
Speaker 5: I had to know myself in order to be able

555
00:24:56,200 --> 00:24:56,560
Speaker 5: to speak.

556
00:24:56,600 --> 00:24:58,400
Speaker 1: Oh so you get like so angry or like.

557
00:24:58,440 --> 00:25:01,119
Speaker 5: So I was just anxious all the time, so like

558
00:25:01,160 --> 00:25:03,760
Speaker 5: my body would like go into fight or flight and situations.

559
00:25:03,760 --> 00:25:06,320
Speaker 5: So I had to like mentally and emotionally control my

560
00:25:06,400 --> 00:25:08,360
Speaker 5: emotions to be able to tell my body like, oh,

561
00:25:08,400 --> 00:25:11,760
Speaker 5: it's okay to speak, because I think that's what larynx

562
00:25:11,760 --> 00:25:12,080
Speaker 5: were like.

563
00:25:12,200 --> 00:25:14,000
Speaker 1: I literally think I have those.

564
00:25:15,600 --> 00:25:16,159
Speaker 2: Absolutely.

565
00:25:16,200 --> 00:25:18,439
Speaker 3: I think I have a speech impediment when I'm like

566
00:25:18,920 --> 00:25:24,479
Speaker 3: anxious or what I'm thinking. It's like going so fast

567
00:25:24,520 --> 00:25:27,400
Speaker 3: that when I speak my words jumble up.

568
00:25:30,920 --> 00:25:35,400
Speaker 1: You're not you don't get it. Same thing that Dwyane

569
00:25:35,520 --> 00:25:36,240
Speaker 1: Junior had.

570
00:25:37,040 --> 00:25:39,359
Speaker 5: I just had like a really bad stutter where like

571
00:25:39,400 --> 00:25:42,040
Speaker 5: I actually like was like it wouldn't come out.

572
00:25:42,080 --> 00:25:43,520
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, No, No I didn't. I don't have a stutter.

573
00:25:43,640 --> 00:25:44,359
Speaker 1: I just I guess.

574
00:25:44,760 --> 00:25:46,119
Speaker 2: I guess I got a thick tongue.

575
00:25:46,160 --> 00:25:53,080
Speaker 4: Maybe I have something doing. He did say she was

576
00:25:53,119 --> 00:25:56,080
Speaker 4: a good time. So he said that people y'all know,

577
00:25:56,240 --> 00:25:58,720
Speaker 4: y'all know that was that was a Yelp review five stars.

578
00:25:59,440 --> 00:25:59,879
Speaker 5: That mouth.

579
00:26:00,760 --> 00:26:05,080
Speaker 1: Now that is a mess. I'm delivered. I don't do that,

580
00:26:05,240 --> 00:26:11,080
Speaker 1: no one. Okay. I'm not with Metro no more. I'm

581
00:26:11,080 --> 00:26:30,159
Speaker 1: with AKMC. Okay.

582
00:26:30,280 --> 00:26:33,320
Speaker 4: So now you have all the discernment you need and

583
00:26:33,359 --> 00:26:34,880
Speaker 4: you're just trying to find.

584
00:26:34,680 --> 00:26:38,280
Speaker 5: I'm like, like it's just it's a constant thing. But

585
00:26:38,359 --> 00:26:40,160
Speaker 5: I just feel like So I had this like situation,

586
00:26:40,320 --> 00:26:43,280
Speaker 5: like a work situation where I was talking to somebody

587
00:26:43,880 --> 00:26:47,200
Speaker 5: about a note just and it was like just very blunt,

588
00:26:47,280 --> 00:26:49,359
Speaker 5: just being like, oh I don't agree with this for

589
00:26:49,400 --> 00:26:52,119
Speaker 5: this reason. This is kind of And then we had

590
00:26:52,160 --> 00:26:55,359
Speaker 5: a call afterwards to be like, hey, I think we

591
00:26:55,400 --> 00:26:58,800
Speaker 5: should like talk nicer to each other. And I was like, hey,

592
00:26:58,840 --> 00:27:03,399
Speaker 5: I think nice is pretty subjective because you think it's language,

593
00:27:03,440 --> 00:27:06,159
Speaker 5: and I think it's in using my time well, And

594
00:27:06,240 --> 00:27:08,919
Speaker 5: so we had the conversation. He and they were like, Okay,

595
00:27:09,000 --> 00:27:10,639
Speaker 5: that makes sense because I was like, you are worried

596
00:27:10,640 --> 00:27:13,960
Speaker 5: about like the observation, like what it like looks like,

597
00:27:14,680 --> 00:27:17,960
Speaker 5: and you think just me talking softer to you is nice.

598
00:27:18,359 --> 00:27:21,920
Speaker 5: And I think, hey, actually, if we weren't so worried

599
00:27:21,960 --> 00:27:24,680
Speaker 5: about being nice and we just got to the point,

600
00:27:24,760 --> 00:27:26,800
Speaker 5: I can go live my life. I don't want to

601
00:27:26,840 --> 00:27:29,359
Speaker 5: be here. You're wasting my time. You think that's nice.

602
00:27:31,080 --> 00:27:34,200
Speaker 4: You're kind of County's blonde happy Pridet.

603
00:27:35,280 --> 00:27:35,880
Speaker 1: Are you gay?

604
00:27:35,920 --> 00:27:39,600
Speaker 4: Are you the gay? No, It's just like he's willing

605
00:27:39,640 --> 00:27:41,360
Speaker 4: me a slater. That's a that's a deep.

606
00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:46,760
Speaker 5: It's just like I I came back to New York

607
00:27:46,880 --> 00:27:49,760
Speaker 5: from LA because I feel like work was just like

608
00:27:49,840 --> 00:27:53,040
Speaker 5: overtaking my life, and I think like life has to

609
00:27:53,080 --> 00:27:55,399
Speaker 5: be lived in order to like produce good work. So

610
00:27:55,480 --> 00:27:57,840
Speaker 5: I'm trying to live life. And the way that these

611
00:27:57,880 --> 00:28:01,439
Speaker 5: systems work, they just want life and that's just not

612
00:28:01,560 --> 00:28:02,760
Speaker 5: my thing. Like I don't.

613
00:28:03,000 --> 00:28:07,000
Speaker 4: But also if all you do is work and not live,

614
00:28:07,400 --> 00:28:10,840
Speaker 4: then the work suffers, cause like I know comics that

615
00:28:11,000 --> 00:28:14,000
Speaker 4: only do comedy and they never are not on stage.

616
00:28:14,040 --> 00:28:16,359
Speaker 1: They're never taking trips, they're never.

617
00:28:16,240 --> 00:28:19,520
Speaker 4: Going on vacation, and it's like, how are you pulling

618
00:28:20,160 --> 00:28:23,000
Speaker 4: source material? How are you finding stuff to talk about

619
00:28:23,400 --> 00:28:25,440
Speaker 4: and connect with people on If all you ever do

620
00:28:25,560 --> 00:28:28,760
Speaker 4: is be on stage and be around comedians, it's all

621
00:28:28,760 --> 00:28:30,959
Speaker 4: you know what I'm saying, Yeah, it's just not a

622
00:28:31,080 --> 00:28:35,119
Speaker 4: useful time of like creating memories and writing new jokes

623
00:28:35,200 --> 00:28:38,160
Speaker 4: or some people just write based off like the current events.

624
00:28:38,400 --> 00:28:39,400
Speaker 2: But then that's my issue.

625
00:28:39,400 --> 00:28:42,080
Speaker 3: It's like you're always talking and making jokes about what

626
00:28:42,120 --> 00:28:44,560
Speaker 3: other people are doing, but you're not doing you Why

627
00:28:44,600 --> 00:28:48,440
Speaker 3: don't you focus on your own events and situations so

628
00:28:48,480 --> 00:28:49,960
Speaker 3: you'll have something to talk about and.

629
00:28:50,880 --> 00:28:53,360
Speaker 1: Were making money? Duwayne is making money.

630
00:28:53,720 --> 00:28:56,800
Speaker 4: Imagine being rich and not being able to enjoy being

631
00:28:56,880 --> 00:28:58,760
Speaker 4: rich because you gotta work for more money.

632
00:28:58,880 --> 00:29:01,840
Speaker 5: That's literally what Like, that's capitalism just once you get

633
00:29:01,880 --> 00:29:04,400
Speaker 5: it's like up until the Writer's strike. I got my

634
00:29:04,480 --> 00:29:09,280
Speaker 5: first job in twenty seventeen, and my first break was

635
00:29:09,280 --> 00:29:12,080
Speaker 5: the writer strike, and I was like, Yo, my life

636
00:29:12,160 --> 00:29:14,840
Speaker 5: has been all work, and it like I had to

637
00:29:14,880 --> 00:29:17,719
Speaker 5: like change a bunch of shit because it was just

638
00:29:17,800 --> 00:29:20,840
Speaker 5: not fulfilling. And so now I'm at this place where

639
00:29:20,840 --> 00:29:23,280
Speaker 5: I'm like, yeah, work has to exist because we live

640
00:29:23,480 --> 00:29:26,640
Speaker 5: in a place where that's important, but like it could

641
00:29:26,680 --> 00:29:29,040
Speaker 5: be done in a way that's just like better, Like

642
00:29:29,080 --> 00:29:32,200
Speaker 5: I don't want to like do all and I like

643
00:29:32,240 --> 00:29:33,720
Speaker 5: and I don't want to get it wrong, Like I'm

644
00:29:33,720 --> 00:29:36,760
Speaker 5: not saying like be mean. There's a spectrum, and I

645
00:29:36,800 --> 00:29:42,760
Speaker 5: think the emphasis on like nice is just not as

646
00:29:42,880 --> 00:29:45,560
Speaker 5: significant to me in terms of like I could just

647
00:29:45,600 --> 00:29:48,800
Speaker 5: be neutral, and I think people want me to perform yes,

648
00:29:49,200 --> 00:29:52,760
Speaker 5: And I'm like, I think this is unnecessary, Like can

649
00:29:52,800 --> 00:29:55,200
Speaker 5: we just like get to the point, like we're adults,

650
00:29:55,240 --> 00:29:57,120
Speaker 5: we can have a conversation, Like let's just say what

651
00:29:57,200 --> 00:30:03,120
Speaker 5: we need to say so we can like yeah, but.

652
00:30:00,840 --> 00:30:02,959
Speaker 3: Huh, but I was gonna say, like, not everybody has

653
00:30:03,000 --> 00:30:06,520
Speaker 3: the same communication skills, and not everybody has been brought

654
00:30:06,600 --> 00:30:10,800
Speaker 3: up with the same like basis of communication. So what

655
00:30:10,840 --> 00:30:14,120
Speaker 3: you think is straightforward for somebody else is like mean,

656
00:30:14,200 --> 00:30:17,840
Speaker 3: and what somebody else is straightforward, it's like, oh, you're

657
00:30:18,160 --> 00:30:20,680
Speaker 3: being too nice, so you never know what it is

658
00:30:21,160 --> 00:30:22,600
Speaker 3: depending on the people you're working with.

659
00:30:22,720 --> 00:30:24,400
Speaker 5: Yes, And that's why I think it's just a conversation

660
00:30:24,520 --> 00:30:26,520
Speaker 5: to be like, hey, like what do we like what

661
00:30:26,600 --> 00:30:28,760
Speaker 5: is the best way to do this? Esp As if

662
00:30:28,800 --> 00:30:31,760
Speaker 5: it's like business, like if we're talking about productivity, like

663
00:30:31,920 --> 00:30:33,800
Speaker 5: what is the best way to be productive?

664
00:30:33,920 --> 00:30:37,280
Speaker 4: But when you think about businessmen, right, people who are

665
00:30:37,320 --> 00:30:38,760
Speaker 4: considered bosses, they don't.

666
00:30:38,640 --> 00:30:40,200
Speaker 1: Have to be nice. They're not supposed to be nice.

667
00:30:40,280 --> 00:30:40,959
Speaker 1: They're a boss.

668
00:30:41,400 --> 00:30:44,000
Speaker 4: They show up, they say what they want, you know

669
00:30:44,040 --> 00:30:47,760
Speaker 4: what their standard of like their standard is of what

670
00:30:47,800 --> 00:30:49,800
Speaker 4: they expect to be done when they get there and

671
00:30:49,800 --> 00:30:51,520
Speaker 4: when they're talking to you, and then they go off

672
00:30:51,520 --> 00:30:53,080
Speaker 4: and they do their thing, and you'd.

673
00:30:52,960 --> 00:30:55,560
Speaker 1: Be like, who I did it? I survived that?

674
00:30:55,960 --> 00:30:58,560
Speaker 4: But like women, Not to make this about women, but

675
00:30:58,960 --> 00:31:01,720
Speaker 4: I will women. And when women are assertive and women

676
00:31:01,760 --> 00:31:03,480
Speaker 4: know what they want and women are like kind of

677
00:31:03,640 --> 00:31:07,200
Speaker 4: very like concise and cutthroat, it's like, WHOA, she was

678
00:31:07,240 --> 00:31:09,360
Speaker 4: a bitch, or she don't know what she's talking about,

679
00:31:09,400 --> 00:31:11,600
Speaker 4: or she could have been nicer, and YadA, YadA YadA.

680
00:31:11,640 --> 00:31:14,960
Speaker 4: But what I learned watching all the Beyonce documentaries, like

681
00:31:15,120 --> 00:31:18,040
Speaker 4: Beyonce Knows what she wants and she's a perfectionist. She's

682
00:31:18,080 --> 00:31:21,120
Speaker 4: not she's not being nasty, but she's being very like

683
00:31:21,520 --> 00:31:22,200
Speaker 4: kind of Kurt.

684
00:31:22,680 --> 00:31:24,920
Speaker 5: Yes, And I feel like that's the energy that I bring.

685
00:31:25,120 --> 00:31:29,760
Speaker 5: And I think because my like lived personality is like fine,

686
00:31:29,840 --> 00:31:33,720
Speaker 5: bubbly cute, people expect that in business and I'm like, no,

687
00:31:33,840 --> 00:31:36,400
Speaker 5: this is business. And then they be gagged and be

688
00:31:36,480 --> 00:31:38,800
Speaker 5: like mom, be like gay and happier, and I'm like,

689
00:31:39,200 --> 00:31:42,080
Speaker 5: oh no.

690
00:31:42,040 --> 00:31:45,880
Speaker 3: But wait, what's the difference between that and Ellen degenerous?

691
00:31:46,000 --> 00:31:48,520
Speaker 1: Was she really being being mean?

692
00:31:48,760 --> 00:31:51,800
Speaker 5: Yes? Okay, like she was being like me, And that's

693
00:31:51,800 --> 00:31:53,560
Speaker 5: the thing, Like, what can you.

694
00:31:53,480 --> 00:31:55,680
Speaker 3: Give me the examples so that we know what mean

695
00:31:55,800 --> 00:31:57,720
Speaker 3: is and we know what like being straightforward?

696
00:31:57,880 --> 00:31:59,640
Speaker 1: I mean she lost her whole job showed.

697
00:31:59,720 --> 00:32:01,960
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean, like if I was.

698
00:32:01,960 --> 00:32:04,240
Speaker 3: Like, that's the homophobia of it all, because if she

699
00:32:04,400 --> 00:32:07,640
Speaker 3: was a straight man, I don't know if she would

700
00:32:07,680 --> 00:32:11,239
Speaker 3: have lost everything. Because we know so many people in

701
00:32:11,280 --> 00:32:14,480
Speaker 3: the industry or just at regular jobs that are being

702
00:32:14,480 --> 00:32:14,960
Speaker 3: met and they.

703
00:32:14,840 --> 00:32:15,360
Speaker 1: Still have it.

704
00:32:15,600 --> 00:32:18,600
Speaker 5: Yeah. But I think that's the problem that everybody's comparing

705
00:32:18,600 --> 00:32:21,040
Speaker 5: themselves to the best worst person and they're doing it

706
00:32:21,440 --> 00:32:23,880
Speaker 5: and it's like okay, and you want to be them,

707
00:32:24,000 --> 00:32:27,800
Speaker 5: like you just want power so that you can abuse it, right, Like, nah,

708
00:32:28,080 --> 00:32:30,200
Speaker 5: pick a better hobby, like just do it better. Like,

709
00:32:30,480 --> 00:32:34,360
Speaker 5: especially when we're entering these spaces where we are. Something

710
00:32:34,400 --> 00:32:35,920
Speaker 5: that I hate is when people.

711
00:32:35,840 --> 00:32:39,920
Speaker 4: The glasses, because the glasses really got you, like you you, I.

712
00:32:39,800 --> 00:32:42,880
Speaker 1: Don't see you like this and very much so.

713
00:32:43,080 --> 00:32:47,920
Speaker 4: Like Okay, they said Ellen DeGeneres was just a really

714
00:32:48,160 --> 00:32:52,280
Speaker 4: mean boss. Right, there's a list of small complaints, like

715
00:32:52,720 --> 00:32:55,920
Speaker 4: people being told to never ever make eye contact with her.

716
00:32:56,120 --> 00:32:57,760
Speaker 1: Now we know plenty of celebrities who can't look at

717
00:32:57,760 --> 00:32:58,240
Speaker 1: them in the eye.

718
00:32:58,320 --> 00:33:00,440
Speaker 4: J Lo. With these people, I think, and not just

719
00:33:00,440 --> 00:33:02,880
Speaker 4: one of these people, like you're not supposed to look

720
00:33:02,920 --> 00:33:03,640
Speaker 4: in the eyeballs.

721
00:33:03,720 --> 00:33:06,360
Speaker 5: That's and I think that reaches a line of like

722
00:33:06,760 --> 00:33:08,719
Speaker 5: I think all I'm thinking about is through like a

723
00:33:08,800 --> 00:33:12,280
Speaker 5: regular human lens, Like we are humans. This is a

724
00:33:12,400 --> 00:33:14,600
Speaker 5: human experience. I think that's crazy to be like, don't

725
00:33:14,600 --> 00:33:15,320
Speaker 5: look me in the eye.

726
00:33:15,400 --> 00:33:17,520
Speaker 4: How successful, Dwayne do you need to be to be

727
00:33:17,640 --> 00:33:19,080
Speaker 4: like don't don't look at me.

728
00:33:19,280 --> 00:33:21,440
Speaker 5: I don't think I will ever. That feels crazy, Like

729
00:33:21,480 --> 00:33:23,320
Speaker 5: I feel like that reaches that point of being like, oh,

730
00:33:23,360 --> 00:33:26,880
Speaker 5: you're just now doing shit, because you can like and

731
00:33:26,960 --> 00:33:28,920
Speaker 5: I don't think that I'll ever be at a place

732
00:33:28,920 --> 00:33:31,120
Speaker 5: to where I feel like I need to control people

733
00:33:31,680 --> 00:33:32,400
Speaker 5: in that way.

734
00:33:32,840 --> 00:33:35,280
Speaker 4: Ellen tried to have a lady fired for serving food

735
00:33:35,320 --> 00:33:36,800
Speaker 4: with chipped nail polish.

736
00:33:37,280 --> 00:33:40,640
Speaker 1: Okay, that's really.

737
00:33:42,440 --> 00:33:45,400
Speaker 5: And like and you would have those thoughts, but you

738
00:33:45,480 --> 00:33:47,040
Speaker 5: just can't actually like. I remember I went to a

739
00:33:47,120 --> 00:33:49,360
Speaker 5: dance class ones like years ago, and this man was

740
00:33:49,360 --> 00:33:54,120
Speaker 5: wearing a blazer and I don't know, they made yes performing.

741
00:33:54,200 --> 00:33:55,880
Speaker 5: It made me irrationally upset.

742
00:33:56,000 --> 00:33:57,320
Speaker 2: Please explain the blazers.

743
00:33:59,040 --> 00:34:03,040
Speaker 5: And we were doing jip and I said business cash crazy.

744
00:34:02,680 --> 00:34:06,360
Speaker 2: Didn't wait, didn't have shoulder pads like what arrested?

745
00:34:06,680 --> 00:34:08,640
Speaker 5: And I said, what the hell? And in my mind

746
00:34:08,680 --> 00:34:11,879
Speaker 5: I said, arrested, jail, get him out of here immediately straight.

747
00:34:11,920 --> 00:34:13,360
Speaker 5: If I had power, I could actually do that. That

748
00:34:13,400 --> 00:34:16,600
Speaker 5: would be crazy. Excuse me, you have to leave for what.

749
00:34:16,480 --> 00:34:18,960
Speaker 1: Was under the blazer? Was it buttoned all the way?

750
00:34:19,200 --> 00:34:20,200
Speaker 1: Was it shorts?

751
00:34:20,760 --> 00:34:22,720
Speaker 5: Was he wearing he was kind of wearing like shorts

752
00:34:22,760 --> 00:34:24,920
Speaker 5: and then like a business like it was like party

753
00:34:24,960 --> 00:34:27,520
Speaker 5: on the bottom, business on top. And I was like,

754
00:34:27,520 --> 00:34:29,160
Speaker 5: maybe he came from like an interview or something like

755
00:34:29,239 --> 00:34:33,040
Speaker 5: I don't know, but for sure I don't like this.

756
00:34:33,360 --> 00:34:35,799
Speaker 1: But also that's his business. I feel like him.

757
00:34:36,120 --> 00:34:39,239
Speaker 3: I had for him, and it's not for anybody else.

758
00:34:39,320 --> 00:34:41,160
Speaker 3: And you can't be like, hey, you got to get

759
00:34:41,160 --> 00:34:42,040
Speaker 3: out of here.

760
00:34:41,520 --> 00:34:43,640
Speaker 5: And that's what I had to let it go because

761
00:34:43,680 --> 00:34:45,759
Speaker 5: I said, this is this is irrational.

762
00:34:45,960 --> 00:34:48,600
Speaker 1: You can't really you can't really pop off in a

763
00:34:48,640 --> 00:34:50,960
Speaker 1: blazer in a dance class. Was he dancing?

764
00:34:51,000 --> 00:34:51,239
Speaker 5: Well?

765
00:34:51,520 --> 00:34:56,640
Speaker 1: No, it wasn't giving like.

766
00:34:56,719 --> 00:34:59,920
Speaker 5: Boom cac No, it was giving. I met the off.

767
00:35:01,160 --> 00:35:03,759
Speaker 1: He's like, where's the machine? Maybe it was a there.

768
00:35:03,920 --> 00:35:05,480
Speaker 1: Maybe somebody was like, I dare you to do this

769
00:35:05,560 --> 00:35:06,720
Speaker 1: dance class.

770
00:35:06,920 --> 00:35:09,279
Speaker 5: I get that I would. I would participate in something

771
00:35:09,320 --> 00:35:11,200
Speaker 5: like that. I love daring people to do things.

772
00:35:11,680 --> 00:35:13,839
Speaker 2: I'm glad that you're still yes, bring it out.

773
00:35:14,239 --> 00:35:16,120
Speaker 5: And so I just like if I actually were to

774
00:35:16,200 --> 00:35:18,600
Speaker 5: exercise that in real life, that would make me like

775
00:35:18,719 --> 00:35:21,919
Speaker 5: a crazy person. Been like, yeah, but you got ship,

776
00:35:22,040 --> 00:35:24,799
Speaker 5: nail polish, get out of here.

777
00:35:26,280 --> 00:35:31,000
Speaker 3: Sometimes I think, but there is like the thing with

778
00:35:32,320 --> 00:35:36,799
Speaker 3: j Lo I remember allegedly she was having her you know,

779
00:35:36,880 --> 00:35:40,120
Speaker 3: baby shower at a rooftop at a hotel.

780
00:35:40,200 --> 00:35:41,160
Speaker 1: And you were there.

781
00:35:42,360 --> 00:35:42,719
Speaker 2: I don't know.

782
00:35:42,880 --> 00:35:51,239
Speaker 1: I'm just all alleged would know what she was it was.

783
00:35:51,480 --> 00:35:54,960
Speaker 3: It was very like with Caviar, it was it was salad,

784
00:35:55,239 --> 00:35:58,160
Speaker 3: you know, a lot of garnish and things of that sort,

785
00:35:58,239 --> 00:36:02,960
Speaker 3: you know, like, but she didn't want stop us.

786
00:36:04,200 --> 00:36:05,960
Speaker 2: It was there was no top us there.

787
00:36:06,120 --> 00:36:12,960
Speaker 3: It was not Zoe, but she didn't want like the

788
00:36:13,000 --> 00:36:15,839
Speaker 3: people who were working to talk to her, like they

789
00:36:15,840 --> 00:36:19,000
Speaker 3: have to talk to I guess the liaison. And yes,

790
00:36:19,239 --> 00:36:23,880
Speaker 3: that's kind of bitchy, But you also have to understand

791
00:36:23,920 --> 00:36:27,520
Speaker 3: people be mad unprofessional with celebrities and they just be

792
00:36:27,520 --> 00:36:29,840
Speaker 3: getting real chummy and they be doing too much and

793
00:36:29,840 --> 00:36:31,400
Speaker 3: the next thing you know, you talk to them, Oh,

794
00:36:31,440 --> 00:36:33,839
Speaker 3: can you take a picture for my cousin who's in

795
00:36:34,120 --> 00:36:34,960
Speaker 3: you know, Puerto Rican.

796
00:36:35,120 --> 00:36:38,719
Speaker 4: No, so I get that. I get Hey, first of all,

797
00:36:38,760 --> 00:36:39,479
Speaker 4: it's my baby shower.

798
00:36:39,480 --> 00:36:42,799
Speaker 1: Why are you talking to me. There's a there's a

799
00:36:42,440 --> 00:36:43,319
Speaker 1: wedding planner.

800
00:36:43,400 --> 00:36:46,400
Speaker 4: Not a wedding planner, that's j Loo. It's an event planner.

801
00:36:46,600 --> 00:36:49,880
Speaker 4: Everything should go through them anyway. But like if we

802
00:36:50,080 --> 00:36:53,520
Speaker 4: randomly happened to be in the same space for a second,

803
00:36:53,560 --> 00:36:56,040
Speaker 4: I should be able to say, I think.

804
00:36:56,320 --> 00:36:58,279
Speaker 5: Like those are just boundaries, and I think they like

805
00:36:58,960 --> 00:37:01,719
Speaker 5: people are like individual. It was like, yeah, and those

806
00:37:01,719 --> 00:37:04,120
Speaker 5: people who are crazy are just crazy people, and then

807
00:37:04,120 --> 00:37:06,080
Speaker 5: there are people who are just like normal that you're like, oh,

808
00:37:06,160 --> 00:37:08,480
Speaker 5: and I don't think you. I mean, I guess if

809
00:37:08,480 --> 00:37:11,719
Speaker 5: you are at that level of fame where it's more

810
00:37:12,400 --> 00:37:15,319
Speaker 5: common for crazy people to interact with you, I guess

811
00:37:15,360 --> 00:37:18,680
Speaker 5: you would have strong boundaries, but like like, don't look

812
00:37:18,719 --> 00:37:21,080
Speaker 5: at me like that kind of stuff, like like at

813
00:37:21,080 --> 00:37:24,200
Speaker 5: your place of employment, like you are hiring these people. Yeah,

814
00:37:24,400 --> 00:37:26,719
Speaker 5: that feels like, that feels crazy. I can see if

815
00:37:26,719 --> 00:37:28,879
Speaker 5: you're like just on the street in a crowd being like, oh,

816
00:37:28,880 --> 00:37:31,279
Speaker 5: I have to have stronger boundaries for like safety. But

817
00:37:31,360 --> 00:37:33,960
Speaker 5: if you are the person curating the space and that's

818
00:37:34,000 --> 00:37:36,400
Speaker 5: how you're doing it, be better at curating the space.

819
00:37:36,440 --> 00:37:38,440
Speaker 5: Don't hire fucking crazy people, and then you don't have

820
00:37:38,440 --> 00:37:38,920
Speaker 5: to be crazy.

821
00:37:39,280 --> 00:37:41,160
Speaker 2: No, I disagree with that.

822
00:37:41,320 --> 00:37:43,920
Speaker 4: I just you said, don't hire crazy people if crazy

823
00:37:43,920 --> 00:37:45,120
Speaker 4: people don't walk amongst them.

824
00:37:45,200 --> 00:37:45,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, what do you mean?

825
00:37:46,000 --> 00:37:48,680
Speaker 2: There's so many people people are not doing background.

826
00:37:48,800 --> 00:37:52,600
Speaker 3: And also people people appear that they got it together

827
00:37:53,000 --> 00:37:55,319
Speaker 3: and then three weeks in you're like whoahoa, whoa whoa

828
00:37:55,360 --> 00:37:56,799
Speaker 3: whoa wa wait a minute.

829
00:37:56,520 --> 00:38:00,680
Speaker 5: Say and then you fire them. You don't match. They're crazy.

830
00:38:01,920 --> 00:38:05,480
Speaker 1: I got what you're saying. But we were at SNL

831
00:38:05,480 --> 00:38:06,879
Speaker 1: when Jaylo was there and I was like this.

832
00:38:07,440 --> 00:38:12,960
Speaker 5: Hey, were you like talking to her?

833
00:38:13,200 --> 00:38:16,360
Speaker 1: No? I mean I didn't. I didn't have talked to

834
00:38:16,440 --> 00:38:21,000
Speaker 1: Jaylo about Love Made of Manhattan, Like what that's like?

835
00:38:21,120 --> 00:38:22,799
Speaker 5: I was. I went to like a party, like a

836
00:38:22,880 --> 00:38:24,880
Speaker 5: megal like after party, and I just found myself at

837
00:38:24,880 --> 00:38:27,120
Speaker 5: one point standing next to is in there and I'm obsessed

838
00:38:27,160 --> 00:38:29,719
Speaker 5: with her and I said, oh, Like I looked over there.

839
00:38:29,760 --> 00:38:32,000
Speaker 5: We locked eyes and I said, oh, hello, and then

840
00:38:32,040 --> 00:38:34,200
Speaker 5: I was like I literally and I said, I don't

841
00:38:34,200 --> 00:38:36,120
Speaker 5: know what else, like what, I don't know what to say?

842
00:38:36,160 --> 00:38:38,600
Speaker 5: Like I don't she say hello back? Yeah, But that

843
00:38:38,719 --> 00:38:40,439
Speaker 5: was kind of like the end of the interaction because

844
00:38:40,440 --> 00:38:41,480
Speaker 5: I was like, I don't.

845
00:38:41,520 --> 00:38:45,400
Speaker 4: Well, because at the end of the people are just people.

846
00:38:45,560 --> 00:38:47,319
Speaker 1: Yeah, they're people that more people know.

847
00:38:47,560 --> 00:38:48,120
Speaker 5: I agree.

848
00:38:48,480 --> 00:38:49,080
Speaker 1: I feel like.

849
00:38:49,239 --> 00:38:53,440
Speaker 4: It's cooler to treat them normal than to fawn all

850
00:38:53,480 --> 00:38:56,759
Speaker 4: over them. And I mean this whole Doja cat with

851
00:38:56,840 --> 00:38:59,880
Speaker 4: the shirt situation, she like bumped into a fan.

852
00:39:00,160 --> 00:39:02,880
Speaker 1: Liked his shirt, he took it off his body and

853
00:39:02,960 --> 00:39:06,720
Speaker 1: gave it to her. That's strange. I'm not gonna lie.

854
00:39:06,920 --> 00:39:10,080
Speaker 1: That's that's it's I he had been in the club,

855
00:39:10,200 --> 00:39:12,120
Speaker 1: he had been in the floor. I don't want your.

856
00:39:11,960 --> 00:39:13,799
Speaker 4: Shirt that I don't want to shut off the back

857
00:39:13,880 --> 00:39:14,440
Speaker 4: off your back.

858
00:39:14,480 --> 00:39:15,160
Speaker 1: I don't need it.

859
00:39:15,200 --> 00:39:17,640
Speaker 5: And that was the whole conversation, like like was she

860
00:39:17,719 --> 00:39:20,920
Speaker 5: fake and blah blah blah. And I'm like, like, I

861
00:39:20,920 --> 00:39:23,799
Speaker 5: think I have a lot more empathy for like marginalized people,

862
00:39:23,840 --> 00:39:25,680
Speaker 5: so like as a woman, I'm like, maybe she could

863
00:39:25,719 --> 00:39:28,600
Speaker 5: have been like, oh, maybe if she was like no, actually,

864
00:39:28,600 --> 00:39:30,239
Speaker 5: I don't want to fuck with you, and maybe she

865
00:39:30,239 --> 00:39:31,920
Speaker 5: did feel more pressure to play along.

866
00:39:32,000 --> 00:39:34,759
Speaker 1: They hugged a bunch of times. He kissed her on

867
00:39:34,800 --> 00:39:35,320
Speaker 1: the cheek.

868
00:39:37,440 --> 00:39:40,400
Speaker 5: She was like manhandled, so he grabbed her arm and

869
00:39:40,400 --> 00:39:42,680
Speaker 5: put his face next to her. Next thing, and like

870
00:39:42,760 --> 00:39:44,920
Speaker 5: maybe in real time it's like not you're just like

871
00:39:45,000 --> 00:39:46,520
Speaker 5: kind of rolle with the punches. But later you're like

872
00:39:46,520 --> 00:39:47,359
Speaker 5: I don't want that man.

873
00:39:48,200 --> 00:39:49,560
Speaker 1: Video about it.

874
00:39:49,640 --> 00:39:51,279
Speaker 2: You give a man an inch and then the next

875
00:39:51,280 --> 00:39:52,959
Speaker 2: thing he's giving you his shirt. That's so weird.

876
00:39:53,400 --> 00:39:56,040
Speaker 5: Like I do think you're like even as like I

877
00:39:56,200 --> 00:39:58,399
Speaker 5: do more like I was I was doing like a

878
00:39:59,080 --> 00:40:02,520
Speaker 5: like a talk with like this mentor group, and this

879
00:40:02,760 --> 00:40:05,879
Speaker 5: woman was like, oh, like I saw you at a

880
00:40:05,960 --> 00:40:07,680
Speaker 5: mall and came up to you and was like telling

881
00:40:07,719 --> 00:40:09,440
Speaker 5: you about the Blackening and like how I liked it

882
00:40:09,520 --> 00:40:12,000
Speaker 5: and you were so nice. No, and then I asked

883
00:40:12,000 --> 00:40:14,000
Speaker 5: her like how was it and then She's like, oh, no,

884
00:40:14,120 --> 00:40:15,800
Speaker 5: like you were very nice. And then I was like cool,

885
00:40:15,840 --> 00:40:18,640
Speaker 5: like I am, like I'm not. I talked to strangers

886
00:40:18,680 --> 00:40:21,360
Speaker 5: all the time that there's nothing too like, I'm just

887
00:40:21,480 --> 00:40:23,600
Speaker 5: very grateful. But I feel like if that would happen

888
00:40:23,800 --> 00:40:26,360
Speaker 5: all the time. Like I remember the first weekend the

889
00:40:26,360 --> 00:40:28,399
Speaker 5: movie came out, I went to a party in La

890
00:40:28,840 --> 00:40:30,800
Speaker 5: and I was so overwhelmed because it was just like

891
00:40:30,840 --> 00:40:33,319
Speaker 5: a new feeling and I was like, oh my, is

892
00:40:33,360 --> 00:40:33,680
Speaker 5: this what?

893
00:40:34,400 --> 00:40:36,600
Speaker 2: Who are these people like fans?

894
00:40:36,680 --> 00:40:40,200
Speaker 5: And I just never experienced that until then, And I

895
00:40:40,239 --> 00:40:42,600
Speaker 5: was like, I hope I'm doing this right, like like

896
00:40:42,920 --> 00:40:46,920
Speaker 5: just I think I'm gaining a little bit more empathy

897
00:40:47,000 --> 00:40:51,799
Speaker 5: for famous people just because I'm seeing that. It's just.

898
00:40:53,680 --> 00:40:57,560
Speaker 4: Yeah, definitely going to be a cell phone at somebody

899
00:40:58,680 --> 00:41:01,839
Speaker 4: that call. They're gonna have to carry you everywhere. You're

900
00:41:01,840 --> 00:41:04,640
Speaker 4: gonna be like no pictures, please, don't look out, don't

901
00:41:04,680 --> 00:41:05,160
Speaker 4: look at me.

902
00:41:05,520 --> 00:41:07,920
Speaker 5: I think that like there is a man. I guess

903
00:41:07,920 --> 00:41:10,640
Speaker 5: it's not controllable, but I think there is a level

904
00:41:10,680 --> 00:41:13,319
Speaker 5: of control that you can try to have.

905
00:41:13,520 --> 00:41:15,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, you don't you want to get not too famous?

906
00:41:16,280 --> 00:41:19,600
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean yeah, Like I just don't. Yeah, I

907
00:41:19,640 --> 00:41:21,600
Speaker 5: don't think it's the fame Like I want money, I

908
00:41:21,600 --> 00:41:23,279
Speaker 5: want access, I want power. I want to be able

909
00:41:23,400 --> 00:41:25,200
Speaker 5: to do what I want to do creatively. I think

910
00:41:25,200 --> 00:41:27,000
Speaker 5: somebody who I think is up the perfect amount of

911
00:41:27,040 --> 00:41:28,960
Speaker 5: famous to me is Seth Rogan. I think that like

912
00:41:29,000 --> 00:41:32,520
Speaker 5: he people know him and he does what he like does,

913
00:41:32,600 --> 00:41:34,959
Speaker 5: but it's all like work based. I don't know shit

914
00:41:35,000 --> 00:41:37,600
Speaker 5: about that man's life. Like I know, like he's cool

915
00:41:37,640 --> 00:41:39,759
Speaker 5: to work with, he make cool shit, he has a

916
00:41:39,760 --> 00:41:42,760
Speaker 5: weak company. Like, but if I see him on the street,

917
00:41:42,880 --> 00:41:44,880
Speaker 5: I'm like, oh, that's Seth Brogan. And I've seen people

918
00:41:44,920 --> 00:41:46,839
Speaker 5: be like, oh that's suck like I've seen Jordan Peel.

919
00:41:47,000 --> 00:41:48,839
Speaker 5: But it wasn't like people running up to him.

920
00:41:48,880 --> 00:41:51,320
Speaker 4: It was just like I have to think about who

921
00:41:51,480 --> 00:41:52,799
Speaker 4: these people's fans are.

922
00:41:53,000 --> 00:41:53,760
Speaker 2: Yes, exactly.

923
00:41:53,800 --> 00:41:55,920
Speaker 1: I think Ceth Fan is going to be a slow

924
00:41:55,960 --> 00:41:58,920
Speaker 1: stoner Yeah, and that's what pee Fan is going to be.

925
00:41:58,920 --> 00:42:01,880
Speaker 4: Somebody who probably has a dark accent wall in the

926
00:42:01,960 --> 00:42:04,080
Speaker 4: apartment and they don't make o contact with people when

927
00:42:04,080 --> 00:42:05,000
Speaker 4: they be outside.

928
00:42:04,880 --> 00:42:06,879
Speaker 5: Like, what is that based off their work? Like it's

929
00:42:06,960 --> 00:42:10,560
Speaker 5: like there their fans are components of like their work.

930
00:42:10,800 --> 00:42:13,040
Speaker 5: I feel like a lot of mainly like pop stars.

931
00:42:13,040 --> 00:42:15,720
Speaker 5: It feels like there's a different yeah the pop stars

932
00:42:15,800 --> 00:42:17,560
Speaker 5: have and I don't think I'll ever be that s

933
00:42:17,760 --> 00:42:19,239
Speaker 5: like And that's the thing that I don't think I'm

934
00:42:19,280 --> 00:42:22,319
Speaker 5: in the lane where I will have that.

935
00:42:23,040 --> 00:42:23,600
Speaker 1: I don't know.

936
00:42:23,920 --> 00:42:28,520
Speaker 3: Way you dance, you you write, you act, you're gonna direct?

937
00:42:28,560 --> 00:42:31,880
Speaker 5: And tell me how many dancers, how many writers, how

938
00:42:31,920 --> 00:42:35,279
Speaker 5: many directors? Are niggas running up to m hm.

939
00:42:36,320 --> 00:42:39,040
Speaker 4: You're also hot, it's gonna be somebody in a blazer

940
00:42:39,040 --> 00:42:39,840
Speaker 4: and some booty shorts.

941
00:42:40,719 --> 00:42:42,879
Speaker 5: A big fan of over truly every now and again,

942
00:42:42,920 --> 00:42:44,960
Speaker 5: it's cool. I'm sure some people come up to Jordan people,

943
00:42:44,960 --> 00:42:48,480
Speaker 5: but it's not like Beyonce that like that ship sounds

944
00:42:48,680 --> 00:42:53,200
Speaker 5: crazy like stars is different And I just think I

945
00:42:53,400 --> 00:42:55,439
Speaker 5: don't think that that is like a path. I don't

946
00:42:55,440 --> 00:42:57,680
Speaker 5: think I'm on that path. It just doesn't You never know.

947
00:42:57,760 --> 00:42:59,160
Speaker 1: You also have to look at who were talking about.

948
00:42:59,200 --> 00:43:03,160
Speaker 4: I saw women that talking about people are like like,

949
00:43:03,360 --> 00:43:03,759
Speaker 4: no one is.

950
00:43:05,080 --> 00:43:07,560
Speaker 2: People don't respect women's down.

951
00:43:08,440 --> 00:43:11,080
Speaker 3: Yes, and that's it, And that's a good thing about

952
00:43:11,480 --> 00:43:14,359
Speaker 3: what your mess is about being nice is because when

953
00:43:14,400 --> 00:43:17,080
Speaker 3: you're a woman, you want to you don't know how

954
00:43:17,080 --> 00:43:19,120
Speaker 3: to tote the line of like I want to I

955
00:43:19,160 --> 00:43:20,799
Speaker 3: want to be a boss, but also I want to

956
00:43:20,800 --> 00:43:22,680
Speaker 3: be nice to my fans. I don't want people to

957
00:43:22,680 --> 00:43:24,680
Speaker 3: think I'm a bitch, but I also want to get

958
00:43:24,719 --> 00:43:27,720
Speaker 3: things done and I want to make sure people understand

959
00:43:27,719 --> 00:43:29,480
Speaker 3: that I have compassion. But then if you think I

960
00:43:29,520 --> 00:43:31,479
Speaker 3: have compassion, then you're gonna think I'm a joke.

961
00:43:31,680 --> 00:43:33,000
Speaker 1: Yes, I mean you're gonna take advantage of it.

962
00:43:33,080 --> 00:43:36,120
Speaker 5: Literally talking about the Beyonce when she was asking about

963
00:43:36,160 --> 00:43:40,239
Speaker 5: like something and then they're like that's impossible. Literally, I

964
00:43:40,360 --> 00:43:43,000
Speaker 5: just like, what are you talking like? And even seeing that,

965
00:43:43,120 --> 00:43:46,800
Speaker 5: I was like, this is so important to like see

966
00:43:46,840 --> 00:43:49,319
Speaker 5: somebody at that level, to be able to see like

967
00:43:49,560 --> 00:43:51,680
Speaker 5: this is Beyonce. And they're still like.

968
00:43:51,880 --> 00:43:54,239
Speaker 1: Ah, she don't know what you're talking about.

969
00:43:54,040 --> 00:43:55,560
Speaker 5: Which is fucking nuts.

970
00:43:55,920 --> 00:44:00,279
Speaker 4: But that's another level or layer of why she is

971
00:44:00,320 --> 00:44:02,799
Speaker 4: the way she is because as a woman, as a

972
00:44:02,920 --> 00:44:06,279
Speaker 4: black woman, even as the person who is at the

973
00:44:06,280 --> 00:44:08,480
Speaker 4: top of a game, and she's a perfectionist, so she

974
00:44:08,600 --> 00:44:10,160
Speaker 4: likes things done a certain way so that it.

975
00:44:10,200 --> 00:44:14,279
Speaker 1: Looks a certain way. You a dusty man in the

976
00:44:14,440 --> 00:44:16,600
Speaker 1: union of whatever it is that you do.

977
00:44:16,680 --> 00:44:19,120
Speaker 4: I'm telling you I want this, and you're like, that's impossible. Well,

978
00:44:19,160 --> 00:44:20,200
Speaker 4: I don't think he's a dusty man.

979
00:44:20,200 --> 00:44:20,560
Speaker 2: I'm sure.

980
00:44:21,239 --> 00:44:23,480
Speaker 4: I'm sure he's the best of the best, Sydney. I'm

981
00:44:23,600 --> 00:44:24,520
Speaker 4: calling him dusty.

982
00:44:24,800 --> 00:44:25,239
Speaker 2: You're gone.

983
00:44:25,280 --> 00:44:27,160
Speaker 4: You can call him whatever you want to call him.

984
00:44:28,440 --> 00:44:31,680
Speaker 4: He's the best dusty person on the team. But for

985
00:44:31,719 --> 00:44:34,239
Speaker 4: you to look me in my eyes and be like,

986
00:44:34,280 --> 00:44:36,439
Speaker 4: oh no, that's that's impossible, Like that means you either

987
00:44:36,480 --> 00:44:38,520
Speaker 4: don't know, right, so you can't be the best if

988
00:44:38,560 --> 00:44:41,560
Speaker 4: you don't know, or you you know but you don't

989
00:44:41,560 --> 00:44:43,800
Speaker 4: want to do it. But you work for me, so again,

990
00:44:44,120 --> 00:44:46,320
Speaker 4: you can't be the best. How you say a no

991
00:44:46,480 --> 00:44:47,040
Speaker 4: to Beyonce.

992
00:44:47,080 --> 00:44:49,040
Speaker 1: If you're supposed to be the best, you should be

993
00:44:49,080 --> 00:44:51,920
Speaker 1: like you figure it out. The best makes mistakes. I

994
00:44:52,000 --> 00:44:54,919
Speaker 1: don't know that. I'm I mean yes to this guy.

995
00:44:55,080 --> 00:44:58,240
Speaker 3: But that's where my empathy is, and that my niceness

996
00:44:58,320 --> 00:45:00,640
Speaker 3: is that even the best make mistakes.

997
00:45:00,719 --> 00:45:01,319
Speaker 2: People fall.

998
00:45:01,760 --> 00:45:04,200
Speaker 5: Do you know, like he didn't make a mistake. He

999
00:45:04,280 --> 00:45:06,640
Speaker 5: dis credited her, like he didn't have the inform That's

1000
00:45:06,680 --> 00:45:10,319
Speaker 5: the thing, the information. He's just working, Like you didn't

1001
00:45:10,400 --> 00:45:13,160
Speaker 5: look she can she she.

1002
00:45:12,480 --> 00:45:14,319
Speaker 1: Put your phone up and googled what she asked him

1003
00:45:14,320 --> 00:45:15,400
Speaker 1: for and found.

1004
00:45:15,080 --> 00:45:17,480
Speaker 5: It so like it wasn't based in anything but his

1005
00:45:17,560 --> 00:45:21,319
Speaker 5: opinion of what he thought she knew, right, And that's

1006
00:45:21,360 --> 00:45:21,719
Speaker 5: the thing that.

1007
00:45:23,320 --> 00:45:27,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, and so that's what Sydney. You can't be best

1008
00:45:27,800 --> 00:45:29,120
Speaker 1: if you're like no.

1009
00:45:29,040 --> 00:45:31,279
Speaker 5: And that's what I'm saying, like the this kind of

1010
00:45:31,360 --> 00:45:35,520
Speaker 5: like grace that I'm just giving less grace these days

1011
00:45:35,920 --> 00:45:39,040
Speaker 5: because I think people deserve less and I think.

1012
00:45:39,680 --> 00:45:46,720
Speaker 7: Like, nah, deserve less of you, less of my grace

1013
00:45:46,800 --> 00:45:50,080
Speaker 7: personally in the sense of like I also think that

1014
00:45:50,160 --> 00:45:53,200
Speaker 7: like there's a certain specificity to being like black and

1015
00:45:53,239 --> 00:45:55,080
Speaker 7: gay in the sy industry, and I don't think people

1016
00:45:55,480 --> 00:45:57,920
Speaker 7: see it because they don't see black gay people, like

1017
00:45:58,280 --> 00:45:59,319
Speaker 7: especially black gay man.

1018
00:45:59,320 --> 00:46:03,319
Speaker 5: I think there's such invisibility that people just don't really

1019
00:46:03,360 --> 00:46:06,480
Speaker 5: consider because within the sphere of like black and then gender,

1020
00:46:06,800 --> 00:46:10,279
Speaker 5: it kinda is like a subset. But like, I feel

1021
00:46:10,280 --> 00:46:13,919
Speaker 5: like there's a lot of pressure because people don't know

1022
00:46:14,000 --> 00:46:17,239
Speaker 5: how to how to view them because there's not a

1023
00:46:17,400 --> 00:46:21,760
Speaker 5: larger representation. So I feel like in this industry, I

1024
00:46:21,800 --> 00:46:24,480
Speaker 5: met with all these preconceived notions of like who I

1025
00:46:24,520 --> 00:46:26,880
Speaker 5: am and who I should be, and when I present

1026
00:46:27,040 --> 00:46:30,480
Speaker 5: who I am, people literally are like, how do I

1027
00:46:30,560 --> 00:46:33,919
Speaker 5: interact with this? Because I thought because you were gay

1028
00:46:34,000 --> 00:46:35,600
Speaker 5: that I can treat you differently than what I would

1029
00:46:35,600 --> 00:46:38,000
Speaker 5: treat this straight black man. This is true, Now I can't.

1030
00:46:38,239 --> 00:46:40,520
Speaker 5: But because you're gay, I could treat you like a

1031
00:46:40,520 --> 00:46:42,560
Speaker 5: woman and me being like, but that just means you

1032
00:46:42,560 --> 00:46:45,879
Speaker 5: want to mistreat me like it's it's really an insane.

1033
00:46:45,640 --> 00:46:47,000
Speaker 4: You're a black gay man, so they want to treat

1034
00:46:47,040 --> 00:46:49,040
Speaker 4: you like a black lady, and they treat us like

1035
00:46:49,080 --> 00:46:50,120
Speaker 4: what sheet.

1036
00:46:50,080 --> 00:46:50,600
Speaker 6: So ye.

1037
00:46:52,640 --> 00:46:52,920
Speaker 7: Weird?

1038
00:46:53,640 --> 00:46:59,040
Speaker 5: Which I can't imagine imagine that the best the best.

1039
00:47:01,480 --> 00:47:03,280
Speaker 5: It's just And that's why I don't think you should

1040
00:47:03,280 --> 00:47:05,000
Speaker 5: be a nice as you are, because I don't think

1041
00:47:05,000 --> 00:47:06,799
Speaker 5: people deserve as much grace because I don't think you

1042
00:47:06,840 --> 00:47:09,239
Speaker 5: are being given that in return, because we would be

1043
00:47:09,280 --> 00:47:10,400
Speaker 5: further the fuck along.

1044
00:47:11,000 --> 00:47:13,960
Speaker 4: That's why you gotta sprinkle the meanness throughout your content.

1045
00:47:14,040 --> 00:47:15,960
Speaker 4: You hear what I'm saying, Yes, that's why what I do,

1046
00:47:16,000 --> 00:47:17,719
Speaker 4: what I do. People are like, she's funny, but I

1047
00:47:17,719 --> 00:47:20,279
Speaker 4: can see that she's somebody that you probably shouldn't play with.

1048
00:47:20,680 --> 00:47:23,040
Speaker 4: And therefore, when me and Sidney do what we do,

1049
00:47:24,040 --> 00:47:28,080
Speaker 4: it's count and gaunt. Right, Sydney is the skinny next one,

1050
00:47:28,280 --> 00:47:30,439
Speaker 4: and I'm like the funny, kind of feisty one.

1051
00:47:30,480 --> 00:47:32,520
Speaker 1: But it's like certain.

1052
00:47:32,200 --> 00:47:34,759
Speaker 4: Things that I feel like people might take liberties with

1053
00:47:34,760 --> 00:47:37,120
Speaker 4: Sydney on, they won't be so quick to do it

1054
00:47:37,160 --> 00:47:39,880
Speaker 4: with me, yes, the people who understand our dynamic.

1055
00:47:39,920 --> 00:47:41,520
Speaker 5: And I don't think that like I'm like on the

1056
00:47:41,560 --> 00:47:44,120
Speaker 5: spectrum of like mean. I think I come off as

1057
00:47:44,200 --> 00:47:46,560
Speaker 5: kind of like somebody told me recently that I was

1058
00:47:46,920 --> 00:47:49,240
Speaker 5: mysterious and esoteric, and.

1059
00:47:49,120 --> 00:47:52,319
Speaker 4: I was like, another word, we got another word, write

1060
00:47:52,360 --> 00:47:54,759
Speaker 4: it down, your esoteric, which just.

1061
00:47:54,719 --> 00:47:58,760
Speaker 5: Means like specific to a small group of people, which

1062
00:47:58,800 --> 00:48:03,440
Speaker 5: means basically like, which is like and I've been told

1063
00:48:03,560 --> 00:48:05,799
Speaker 5: like I remember, and that I've been told that I'm

1064
00:48:05,840 --> 00:48:08,240
Speaker 5: that I can come up as like stand offish sure

1065
00:48:08,440 --> 00:48:11,880
Speaker 5: that I don't necessarily exude like please come talk to me.

1066
00:48:12,040 --> 00:48:13,680
Speaker 5: And I think it's a combination of like me being

1067
00:48:13,680 --> 00:48:17,719
Speaker 5: like a true like introvert, but also like that is

1068
00:48:18,640 --> 00:48:20,520
Speaker 5: I don't think people just know they don't know how

1069
00:48:20,560 --> 00:48:24,640
Speaker 5: to perceive me because I'm not giving that much out

1070
00:48:24,760 --> 00:48:28,040
Speaker 5: because that's the thing of like I love relationships and

1071
00:48:28,080 --> 00:48:29,800
Speaker 5: my friends, Like y'all know a version of me that

1072
00:48:29,880 --> 00:48:34,239
Speaker 5: most people don't, right, because like that's just not what

1073
00:48:34,320 --> 00:48:34,800
Speaker 5: I present.

1074
00:48:34,960 --> 00:48:35,919
Speaker 1: That's what friends are for.

1075
00:48:36,120 --> 00:48:39,080
Speaker 4: You should be you with your friends, and everybody else

1076
00:48:39,120 --> 00:48:44,399
Speaker 4: gets the business, the LinkedIn, the professional, the interview version

1077
00:48:44,400 --> 00:48:44,880
Speaker 4: of yourself.

1078
00:48:44,960 --> 00:48:47,839
Speaker 5: Yes, but I think that version is the version that's

1079
00:48:47,840 --> 00:48:52,000
Speaker 5: like difficult to like because it's perceived is so widely.

1080
00:48:52,160 --> 00:48:54,160
Speaker 5: Like people can really be like, oh, that's mean, and

1081
00:48:54,200 --> 00:48:57,799
Speaker 5: I'm like if I was mean, you fucking die. Like

1082
00:48:57,880 --> 00:49:00,520
Speaker 5: I'm just being like fucking like neutral. I'm just not

1083
00:49:00,640 --> 00:49:03,480
Speaker 5: giving anything. Like I approach a lot of things just

1084
00:49:03,520 --> 00:49:06,760
Speaker 5: like neutral, and people are like because it's not nice,

1085
00:49:07,239 --> 00:49:11,160
Speaker 5: it's mean, yeah, And I'm like, nah, it's not. So

1086
00:49:11,200 --> 00:49:14,640
Speaker 5: I feel like if less people were neutral, I could

1087
00:49:14,719 --> 00:49:16,840
Speaker 5: exist in a place that would make me more comfortable.

1088
00:49:16,920 --> 00:49:17,560
Speaker 1: Can you tell us.

1089
00:49:17,480 --> 00:49:19,520
Speaker 4: About the time that you were nice and it came

1090
00:49:19,560 --> 00:49:21,320
Speaker 4: back and it kind of blew up in your face

1091
00:49:22,040 --> 00:49:25,799
Speaker 4: or like wasn't good for you? Because like, I think

1092
00:49:25,840 --> 00:49:28,279
Speaker 4: we've all had moments like that. Like, were you really

1093
00:49:28,360 --> 00:49:29,840
Speaker 4: nice to you helped somebody with the bag at the

1094
00:49:29,840 --> 00:49:40,360
Speaker 4: airport and then you missed your flight, like.

1095
00:49:37,880 --> 00:49:42,160
Speaker 5: I recently helped someone. They were living in my place,

1096
00:49:42,760 --> 00:49:47,680
Speaker 5: like let them stay there, and then they I basically

1097
00:49:47,719 --> 00:49:49,880
Speaker 5: them like I don't like my space is very important

1098
00:49:49,920 --> 00:49:53,839
Speaker 5: to me. And then I don't like people in my house,

1099
00:49:53,960 --> 00:49:57,040
Speaker 5: especially in my bedroom. I came back to my house

1100
00:49:57,640 --> 00:49:59,400
Speaker 5: and there was like a used condom on my floor

1101
00:49:59,440 --> 00:50:01,439
Speaker 5: and they basically fuck someone in my bed. But then

1102
00:50:01,520 --> 00:50:03,520
Speaker 5: when I confronted them, they were like, oh, we didn't

1103
00:50:03,560 --> 00:50:05,520
Speaker 5: really fun because they were really drunk and they pee.

1104
00:50:06,080 --> 00:50:10,560
Speaker 4: They pe where I'd rather you have sex in my

1105
00:50:10,560 --> 00:50:13,279
Speaker 4: bed than you pee in my bed. But that's why

1106
00:50:13,320 --> 00:50:15,879
Speaker 4: I would. I would be like, you got to get

1107
00:50:15,880 --> 00:50:18,000
Speaker 4: the air mattress, you got to be on the couch, like.

1108
00:50:17,880 --> 00:50:20,160
Speaker 5: That's the thing. He was in my guest room, pet

1109
00:50:20,200 --> 00:50:21,279
Speaker 5: on that one first, and then they went to.

1110
00:50:21,320 --> 00:50:23,440
Speaker 2: My bedroom and this is your fault for having a guest.

1111
00:50:24,080 --> 00:50:28,440
Speaker 1: It was it a dog? How what grown peeing? Why

1112
00:50:28,480 --> 00:50:30,439
Speaker 1: do you earn a guest room two beds one night?

1113
00:50:32,560 --> 00:50:36,759
Speaker 5: And I said oh okay, you said okay, oh no,

1114
00:50:36,920 --> 00:50:39,239
Speaker 5: just me being not like like no, they had to

1115
00:50:39,400 --> 00:50:41,000
Speaker 5: like they had to get out and then I'm no

1116
00:50:41,000 --> 00:50:41,680
Speaker 5: longer the friend.

1117
00:50:42,120 --> 00:50:42,279
Speaker 8: You know.

1118
00:50:42,320 --> 00:50:45,080
Speaker 5: It was just after that switch and be like oh no,

1119
00:50:45,280 --> 00:50:47,680
Speaker 5: like I will, this is done. But it was just

1120
00:50:47,680 --> 00:50:50,120
Speaker 5: one of those moments and be like, how do how

1121
00:50:50,120 --> 00:50:52,800
Speaker 5: did we get here? For me? Just like being nice

1122
00:50:52,920 --> 00:50:54,520
Speaker 5: like that was.

1123
00:50:54,800 --> 00:50:57,839
Speaker 3: Like that, how did how did the pee get there?

1124
00:50:57,880 --> 00:51:01,280
Speaker 3: And then you didn't clean it up? How did that happen?

1125
00:51:01,280 --> 00:51:03,279
Speaker 1: Did you send them a bill for two new mattresses?

1126
00:51:03,680 --> 00:51:06,480
Speaker 5: Are they paid for somebody to clean my bed and.

1127
00:51:06,680 --> 00:51:10,160
Speaker 2: I need a new mattress? Just take it all out, give.

1128
00:51:09,960 --> 00:51:12,520
Speaker 5: Me new like mattress topper, and did all these like

1129
00:51:12,719 --> 00:51:16,239
Speaker 5: but it was just I would I've never experienced something like.

1130
00:51:16,160 --> 00:51:19,200
Speaker 1: That that is in the bed.

1131
00:51:20,400 --> 00:51:20,840
Speaker 2: I have not.

1132
00:51:21,360 --> 00:51:23,120
Speaker 5: He said the person was really drunk.

1133
00:51:23,800 --> 00:51:28,359
Speaker 4: Come some some say squirt is p but but then

1134
00:51:28,400 --> 00:51:37,840
Speaker 4: in that case the bed there it is same SAMEA man.

1135
00:51:37,719 --> 00:51:38,880
Speaker 2: I can't believe that happened.

1136
00:51:38,960 --> 00:51:42,840
Speaker 3: But I mean, take when but this is a series

1137
00:51:42,880 --> 00:51:45,719
Speaker 3: of you probably being nice to this person over and

1138
00:51:45,760 --> 00:51:49,839
Speaker 3: over and over again, and once you extend and they

1139
00:51:49,840 --> 00:51:52,160
Speaker 3: feel like, oh I probably could just pull some a

1140
00:51:52,200 --> 00:51:53,400
Speaker 3: stunt like this, they do it.

1141
00:51:53,520 --> 00:51:55,560
Speaker 5: Yeah, this is why I just feel like I've been

1142
00:51:55,560 --> 00:51:58,799
Speaker 5: approaching more situations from a more neutral place, so then

1143
00:51:58,840 --> 00:52:02,600
Speaker 5: I have have to have more discernment on who I

1144
00:52:02,760 --> 00:52:08,279
Speaker 5: should give this level of nice and kindness and consideration too.

1145
00:52:08,920 --> 00:52:10,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, I have a friend who.

1146
00:52:11,760 --> 00:52:14,400
Speaker 4: Had somebody that was working for her and she was traveling,

1147
00:52:14,480 --> 00:52:17,680
Speaker 4: She's on vacation or whatever, and this person was supposed

1148
00:52:17,680 --> 00:52:20,640
Speaker 4: to like watch her house and like you know, water

1149
00:52:20,680 --> 00:52:26,440
Speaker 4: plans or whatever whatever, and they like had a party.

1150
00:52:26,520 --> 00:52:28,640
Speaker 4: They took it upon themselves to have a party in

1151
00:52:28,719 --> 00:52:30,799
Speaker 4: her home while she was gone, it makes sense, and.

1152
00:52:30,800 --> 00:52:32,080
Speaker 1: Stuff got damaged.

1153
00:52:32,800 --> 00:52:35,040
Speaker 4: I don't know if anybody peed on anything, but maybe

1154
00:52:35,239 --> 00:52:39,560
Speaker 4: maybe like stuff like and she had like stuff that

1155
00:52:39,600 --> 00:52:41,239
Speaker 4: they're supposed to take care of that didn't get taken

1156
00:52:41,280 --> 00:52:43,719
Speaker 4: care of because this person was busy having a you know,

1157
00:52:43,920 --> 00:52:44,719
Speaker 4: a drug.

1158
00:52:44,480 --> 00:52:46,200
Speaker 1: Fueled party in her home.

1159
00:52:47,000 --> 00:52:49,759
Speaker 4: And then when she called them out on it, they

1160
00:52:49,800 --> 00:52:52,040
Speaker 4: tried to like deny, deny and deny, but like the

1161
00:52:52,080 --> 00:52:54,600
Speaker 4: house was damaged, Like how do you want to throw

1162
00:52:54,640 --> 00:52:56,799
Speaker 4: a party or have a guest or blah blah, Like

1163
00:52:57,239 --> 00:52:58,640
Speaker 4: if you won't do it, you gotta.

1164
00:52:58,400 --> 00:53:00,640
Speaker 1: Do it and then leave no te evidence.

1165
00:53:02,200 --> 00:53:07,160
Speaker 5: So I wouldn't have no like I just and if

1166
00:53:07,200 --> 00:53:09,360
Speaker 5: it would have stayed in the guest room you want, Like,

1167
00:53:09,440 --> 00:53:13,560
Speaker 5: I'm not a dictator, Like I'm not telling you who watching. Yeah,

1168
00:53:13,560 --> 00:53:15,680
Speaker 5: I'm just like this is just my space. And I

1169
00:53:15,760 --> 00:53:19,080
Speaker 5: expressed like what this means to me and like and

1170
00:53:19,200 --> 00:53:22,200
Speaker 5: that was just shipped on And it's just it's a

1171
00:53:22,320 --> 00:53:24,319
Speaker 5: very simple, like I try to live life, like treat

1172
00:53:24,320 --> 00:53:26,360
Speaker 5: people how you want to be treated. It's very simple.

1173
00:53:26,400 --> 00:53:28,880
Speaker 5: But like it's such a easy thing to do, like

1174
00:53:28,920 --> 00:53:31,240
Speaker 5: and I'm just like I would never do that's crazy,

1175
00:53:31,520 --> 00:53:35,399
Speaker 5: Like I just wouldn't do that. Also, somebody who has

1176
00:53:35,400 --> 00:53:36,440
Speaker 5: a house, like I don't.

1177
00:53:36,239 --> 00:53:41,200
Speaker 4: Know better, who needs a diaper?

1178
00:53:41,320 --> 00:53:42,040
Speaker 1: I don't know that.

1179
00:53:43,239 --> 00:53:45,040
Speaker 5: I'm like, if this person is drunk enough to where

1180
00:53:45,080 --> 00:53:46,520
Speaker 5: they piss, and why are you.

1181
00:53:47,520 --> 00:53:48,480
Speaker 2: What would you want to be with that?

1182
00:53:48,520 --> 00:53:50,880
Speaker 5: What's that about?

1183
00:53:51,400 --> 00:53:51,880
Speaker 2: You don't.

1184
00:53:53,480 --> 00:53:56,479
Speaker 3: And I will say this, sometimes who people date, it

1185
00:53:56,560 --> 00:54:00,600
Speaker 3: runs off and the spillage hits their friend and stuff.

1186
00:54:00,640 --> 00:54:03,280
Speaker 3: And so that's why sometimes you can't be nice about

1187
00:54:04,000 --> 00:54:06,560
Speaker 3: how people date. It's like if you're dating all these

1188
00:54:06,640 --> 00:54:09,839
Speaker 3: lucy goosey people who ain't got no sense, I mean,

1189
00:54:10,080 --> 00:54:12,880
Speaker 3: it's gonna it's gonna hit home eventually. You say you

1190
00:54:12,920 --> 00:54:15,520
Speaker 3: got a police When people date, not police, but if

1191
00:54:15,560 --> 00:54:19,440
Speaker 3: it's like someone's constantly coming to you with the can

1192
00:54:19,520 --> 00:54:22,000
Speaker 3: you believe this person did this? And nada da da

1193
00:54:22,040 --> 00:54:24,759
Speaker 3: da da da, and it's like, so now I have

1194
00:54:24,840 --> 00:54:28,879
Speaker 3: to hear the trauma dumping of your dating life when

1195
00:54:28,920 --> 00:54:31,480
Speaker 3: it's like, yes, I know these people are trash.

1196
00:54:31,600 --> 00:54:32,880
Speaker 2: Absolutely, the dating.

1197
00:54:32,640 --> 00:54:38,880
Speaker 3: Pool is basuda, but you have to have discernments, okay,

1198
00:54:39,800 --> 00:54:43,359
Speaker 3: so that we're not Sometimes you don't want to hear

1199
00:54:43,520 --> 00:54:47,080
Speaker 3: this stuff all the time. Sometimes I hear these tiktoks

1200
00:54:47,120 --> 00:54:52,160
Speaker 3: where people are constantly talking about these dates and I'm like, again, sister,

1201
00:54:52,320 --> 00:54:55,120
Speaker 3: it's been four dates in the month and all of

1202
00:54:55,160 --> 00:54:58,080
Speaker 3: it is every single thing is bad and they never

1203
00:54:58,200 --> 00:54:59,400
Speaker 3: say what they're doing.

1204
00:55:00,000 --> 00:55:04,040
Speaker 1: So you're just dating bad people. You don't do nothing.

1205
00:55:04,080 --> 00:55:06,200
Speaker 4: But you gotta take TikTok with a grain of salt.

1206
00:55:06,440 --> 00:55:08,720
Speaker 4: People do dumb stuff to go viral.

1207
00:55:09,080 --> 00:55:09,719
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's true.

1208
00:55:09,719 --> 00:55:10,920
Speaker 1: They're like, Y'a'm gonna go on this.

1209
00:55:10,880 --> 00:55:15,640
Speaker 4: Girl strip and I'm only gonna bring seventeen dollars get

1210
00:55:15,680 --> 00:55:19,920
Speaker 4: ready with me to go ruin my friends birthday. You

1211
00:55:20,000 --> 00:55:22,640
Speaker 4: know what I'm saying? Yes, absolutely, they're like I just

1212
00:55:22,680 --> 00:55:23,400
Speaker 4: want to go viral.

1213
00:55:23,520 --> 00:55:26,319
Speaker 3: They're like, yeah, so I'm about to get evicted, but

1214
00:55:26,320 --> 00:55:27,360
Speaker 3: I'm gonna go on to this state.

1215
00:55:27,239 --> 00:55:29,640
Speaker 1: And I'm gonna see if this guy's gonna pay my bills.

1216
00:55:29,960 --> 00:55:32,440
Speaker 5: Like what you're like with like real people, I'm like

1217
00:55:32,640 --> 00:55:35,600
Speaker 5: and I'm very okay with my friends make like making

1218
00:55:35,640 --> 00:55:38,920
Speaker 5: bad choices, having flaws. I just need them to know that,

1219
00:55:39,080 --> 00:55:41,920
Speaker 5: Like once you come to me, I'm gonna tell you

1220
00:55:41,920 --> 00:55:44,759
Speaker 5: how I feel. After that, I'm gonna stop caring. I'm

1221
00:55:45,200 --> 00:55:47,920
Speaker 5: I'm just like, oh, no, like do it like when

1222
00:55:47,960 --> 00:55:50,719
Speaker 5: you move to Los Angeles. I said, dun't.

1223
00:55:51,160 --> 00:55:55,160
Speaker 1: You said don't literally and then not say dumb young,

1224
00:55:56,200 --> 00:55:56,719
Speaker 1: I don't know.

1225
00:55:56,840 --> 00:55:58,480
Speaker 4: You said don't give up the cats and don't go

1226
00:55:58,840 --> 00:56:00,920
Speaker 4: and You're like, I don't know if you gonna like la,

1227
00:56:01,160 --> 00:56:03,000
Speaker 4: but also you were just like, don't give it the cat.

1228
00:56:03,000 --> 00:56:04,880
Speaker 5: I was like, I don't know, Like I like, just

1229
00:56:04,920 --> 00:56:06,520
Speaker 5: based off who I know you to be, I think

1230
00:56:06,560 --> 00:56:09,120
Speaker 5: this will create a situation where you might be unhappy.

1231
00:56:09,520 --> 00:56:11,680
Speaker 5: And then she said no, like I'm gonna do it,

1232
00:56:11,719 --> 00:56:14,200
Speaker 5: and then I said okay, I like that's all we

1233
00:56:14,200 --> 00:56:17,520
Speaker 5: could do. And it was what it was like, you

1234
00:56:17,600 --> 00:56:20,120
Speaker 5: still like had your time, had a good time, you

1235
00:56:20,239 --> 00:56:23,840
Speaker 5: like moved for love, yes, and then later you're like damn,

1236
00:56:23,880 --> 00:56:25,600
Speaker 5: like maybe I shouldn't have did that, And then I

1237
00:56:25,640 --> 00:56:30,840
Speaker 5: was like yes, uh huh, but like if you're choosing

1238
00:56:30,920 --> 00:56:32,919
Speaker 5: to have this person in your life, I'm just like, oh,

1239
00:56:33,080 --> 00:56:36,960
Speaker 5: like I'm choosing to have you like and flaws and

1240
00:56:37,000 --> 00:56:38,240
Speaker 5: all like see anyone.

1241
00:56:38,080 --> 00:56:38,800
Speaker 1: Like this to the cattle.

1242
00:56:39,600 --> 00:56:43,320
Speaker 4: I did not no no, no, that's not what happened.

1243
00:56:44,000 --> 00:56:44,560
Speaker 2: No no no.

1244
00:56:44,600 --> 00:56:46,920
Speaker 3: I made sure that they were rehome properly with the

1245
00:56:47,080 --> 00:56:48,560
Speaker 3: with the responsible person.

1246
00:56:48,680 --> 00:56:49,200
Speaker 2: Don't do that.

1247
00:56:49,400 --> 00:56:53,719
Speaker 3: But also it's like why play everything safe, like you're

1248
00:56:53,760 --> 00:56:54,120
Speaker 3: not going to.

1249
00:56:54,120 --> 00:56:55,000
Speaker 1: Do everything right.

1250
00:56:55,080 --> 00:56:58,279
Speaker 3: So I made that risk, and I said, hey, this

1251
00:56:58,320 --> 00:57:01,439
Speaker 3: is what love does. Love makes you be like I'm

1252
00:57:01,480 --> 00:57:04,480
Speaker 3: packing up all my stuff and I'm going to LA.

1253
00:57:04,640 --> 00:57:06,640
Speaker 5: And the thing like if you would have came to

1254
00:57:06,680 --> 00:57:08,560
Speaker 5: me again, and that's thing like that if.

1255
00:57:08,440 --> 00:57:11,319
Speaker 1: I did that, you didn't like you did it again.

1256
00:57:11,400 --> 00:57:14,480
Speaker 1: Everybody that knows you would be like nelsis yes, but

1257
00:57:14,560 --> 00:57:15,719
Speaker 1: I don't think that you would do that.

1258
00:57:16,280 --> 00:57:16,760
Speaker 2: You no, no no.

1259
00:57:17,280 --> 00:57:18,800
Speaker 5: And I think like people have to live the life

1260
00:57:18,840 --> 00:57:21,800
Speaker 5: that they live in terms of like relationship, like I

1261
00:57:21,840 --> 00:57:24,720
Speaker 5: don't want to be the like trum like the trauma

1262
00:57:24,840 --> 00:57:26,960
Speaker 5: dn't like in order for us to have like a

1263
00:57:27,080 --> 00:57:31,200
Speaker 5: semiotic relationship. If you a fuck up, I know that cool,

1264
00:57:31,280 --> 00:57:33,280
Speaker 5: but then you have to know that, like, I am

1265
00:57:33,440 --> 00:57:35,760
Speaker 5: very solution oriented, So how are we going to meet

1266
00:57:35,800 --> 00:57:38,280
Speaker 5: in the middle. You can keep sucking up, but if

1267
00:57:38,280 --> 00:57:39,920
Speaker 5: you come to me talking about how many times you're

1268
00:57:39,920 --> 00:57:42,040
Speaker 5: gonna keep sucking up and you don't want a solution,

1269
00:57:42,520 --> 00:57:44,640
Speaker 5: don't come to me. So I feel like my friends know,

1270
00:57:44,720 --> 00:57:46,240
Speaker 5: Like I've had friends like come to me to be

1271
00:57:46,240 --> 00:57:48,840
Speaker 5: like hey, I'm just like looking to talk and I'm like, great,

1272
00:57:48,880 --> 00:57:50,760
Speaker 5: I know how to be there. But if you're coming

1273
00:57:50,760 --> 00:57:52,440
Speaker 5: for a solution, I'm like, cool, I know how to

1274
00:57:52,440 --> 00:57:55,320
Speaker 5: do that too. But like some some of my friends

1275
00:57:55,320 --> 00:57:57,120
Speaker 5: don't talk to me about certain things because they're like, oh,

1276
00:57:57,160 --> 00:57:59,280
Speaker 5: I know who you are, and I'm like, in this way,

1277
00:57:59,320 --> 00:58:01,480
Speaker 5: we have a good friend ship because you're not expecting

1278
00:58:01,520 --> 00:58:03,120
Speaker 5: me to fill a role. You know, I'm not going

1279
00:58:03,240 --> 00:58:05,280
Speaker 5: to feel just like I'm not expecting you to be

1280
00:58:05,360 --> 00:58:07,320
Speaker 5: on time if I know you always late.

1281
00:58:07,760 --> 00:58:08,480
Speaker 1: We were talking to.

1282
00:58:08,720 --> 00:58:12,360
Speaker 4: Yeah, that was crazy, that was wild. I can't shots

1283
00:58:12,400 --> 00:58:16,600
Speaker 4: fired on June. Yes, technically that was my general Well

1284
00:58:16,760 --> 00:58:20,720
Speaker 4: you were looking directly at her because from me, woo

1285
00:58:20,960 --> 00:58:22,240
Speaker 4: you But you didn't look my way.

1286
00:58:22,280 --> 00:58:26,640
Speaker 5: Because I was just simply talking wow across. I don't

1287
00:58:26,680 --> 00:58:28,040
Speaker 5: have a problem with you being late.

1288
00:58:28,160 --> 00:58:31,080
Speaker 1: This is true. I've never kept Danne waiting for really, we've.

1289
00:58:31,000 --> 00:58:32,720
Speaker 5: Never had like and that's not an issue, like and

1290
00:58:32,760 --> 00:58:35,280
Speaker 5: that doesn't matter to me. But like then there's like

1291
00:58:35,320 --> 00:58:37,520
Speaker 5: because I had a friend who really hated that when

1292
00:58:37,560 --> 00:58:39,480
Speaker 5: when I was late, and I was like, okay, this

1293
00:58:39,520 --> 00:58:40,080
Speaker 5: really matters.

1294
00:58:40,240 --> 00:58:42,960
Speaker 2: How late are you though doing not very lately.

1295
00:58:43,000 --> 00:58:45,160
Speaker 5: I just think she just thought it was disrespectful.

1296
00:58:45,200 --> 00:58:46,680
Speaker 2: I need some I need time time.

1297
00:58:46,760 --> 00:58:48,480
Speaker 1: Time. You're supposed to be there two o'clock. What time

1298
00:58:48,520 --> 00:58:48,960
Speaker 1: you getting there?

1299
00:58:49,040 --> 00:58:54,320
Speaker 5: Probably like two fifteen, two thirty now, yeah, that's mash

1300
00:58:54,440 --> 00:58:57,320
Speaker 5: that'sh no no, no, no, no no, but take it back,

1301
00:58:57,920 --> 00:58:58,400
Speaker 5: take it back.

1302
00:58:58,680 --> 00:59:02,520
Speaker 1: Hated when I was not really a late thirty.

1303
00:59:02,600 --> 00:59:03,360
Speaker 2: You're pushing it.

1304
00:59:03,560 --> 00:59:06,120
Speaker 5: But I heard her and I said, Okay, this matters

1305
00:59:06,120 --> 00:59:10,080
Speaker 5: to you, so for her matter for everybody. For everybody,

1306
00:59:10,200 --> 00:59:10,640
Speaker 5: it don't.

1307
00:59:12,520 --> 00:59:14,920
Speaker 1: So if you're saying we're in LA two, in LA

1308
00:59:15,000 --> 00:59:15,960
Speaker 1: two means two thirty.

1309
00:59:16,120 --> 00:59:17,840
Speaker 5: Yeah, And this is why sometimes when I talk to

1310
00:59:17,880 --> 00:59:20,600
Speaker 5: people now, i'd be like, oh too ish, And then

1311
00:59:20,600 --> 00:59:23,120
Speaker 5: when speaking closer, I'll give you a more definitive time.

1312
00:59:23,160 --> 00:59:27,360
Speaker 1: But ish for me is like two fifteen thirty exactly.

1313
00:59:27,400 --> 00:59:30,880
Speaker 5: It's just giving room. It's giving a little let it breathe,

1314
00:59:31,000 --> 00:59:31,680
Speaker 5: let it air rate.

1315
00:59:31,880 --> 00:59:36,320
Speaker 3: Okay, you get a fifteen minute grace period for reservations,

1316
00:59:36,360 --> 00:59:37,280
Speaker 3: that's it.

1317
00:59:37,360 --> 00:59:38,320
Speaker 2: Fifteen minutes, that's it.

1318
00:59:38,360 --> 00:59:41,720
Speaker 3: After fifteen minutes, you are being the table's being let go.

1319
00:59:41,880 --> 00:59:44,800
Speaker 2: Yes, you're being rude and the person should leave.

1320
00:59:45,320 --> 00:59:48,840
Speaker 4: I think I think more people need to leave when

1321
00:59:48,880 --> 00:59:50,560
Speaker 4: people are that late get.

1322
00:59:50,560 --> 00:59:54,160
Speaker 5: About that would be fair. Like the friend the X

1323
00:59:54,160 --> 00:59:56,120
Speaker 5: men and the piston my bed, we had a post

1324
00:59:56,120 --> 00:59:57,920
Speaker 5: conversation and I was like, oh, I don't want to

1325
00:59:57,920 --> 01:00:00,200
Speaker 5: be a friend, and they were like, but why. I

1326
01:00:00,200 --> 01:00:02,160
Speaker 5: said no, no, no, like this was the boundary that was

1327
01:00:02,200 --> 01:00:04,080
Speaker 5: big enough for me. That was crous. I don't think

1328
01:00:04,080 --> 01:00:05,520
Speaker 5: I want to have a further doge, but.

1329
01:00:05,480 --> 01:00:09,160
Speaker 1: Why you and or somebody else peeding in two of

1330
01:00:09,160 --> 01:00:10,840
Speaker 1: my beds. You ask me why?

1331
01:00:10,960 --> 01:00:13,320
Speaker 5: And then they were like, oh, well you've like crossed

1332
01:00:13,320 --> 01:00:15,240
Speaker 5: boundaries of mine and I given you grace, and then

1333
01:00:15,240 --> 01:00:17,720
Speaker 5: I said you shouldn't have then like, I don't judge

1334
01:00:17,720 --> 01:00:20,400
Speaker 5: me by the way that you should.

1335
01:00:20,480 --> 01:00:24,360
Speaker 4: My friend, if you forgave me you can't now throw

1336
01:00:24,400 --> 01:00:25,160
Speaker 4: it back in my face.

1337
01:00:25,240 --> 01:00:27,440
Speaker 5: Yeah, you forgive me, I don't know what you want

1338
01:00:27,480 --> 01:00:27,720
Speaker 5: from me.

1339
01:00:28,080 --> 01:00:29,800
Speaker 1: Forgiveness is mess.

1340
01:00:29,920 --> 01:00:35,240
Speaker 3: I will say that forgiving is mess because yes, I'm like, okay,

1341
01:00:35,400 --> 01:00:39,000
Speaker 3: I'm not mad at it anymore, right, and we are

1342
01:00:39,080 --> 01:00:41,240
Speaker 3: moving forward, But I.

1343
01:00:41,200 --> 01:00:42,320
Speaker 2: Have not forgotten.

1344
01:00:42,720 --> 01:00:45,280
Speaker 3: And how can I forgive if I still remember the

1345
01:00:45,320 --> 01:00:47,520
Speaker 3: shit that you did, because then when you do something

1346
01:00:47,520 --> 01:00:50,240
Speaker 3: else that's gonna trigger me, that's a capital T for me.

1347
01:00:50,320 --> 01:00:52,640
Speaker 3: And I'm like, oh, you back on your bullshit. So

1348
01:00:52,680 --> 01:00:54,760
Speaker 3: now I got to bring it up again. But it's

1349
01:00:54,800 --> 01:00:58,240
Speaker 3: like I thought you forgave it. Nah, I did forgive

1350
01:00:59,000 --> 01:01:00,880
Speaker 3: what you want that bullshit?

1351
01:01:00,960 --> 01:01:03,880
Speaker 4: And i'ma mention it again now because yeah, but like

1352
01:01:03,920 --> 01:01:05,880
Speaker 4: you open the door, it becomes data.

1353
01:01:06,000 --> 01:01:09,600
Speaker 5: But if it's still affecting you emotionally, then maybe you ain't.

1354
01:01:10,720 --> 01:01:13,439
Speaker 5: It's just like like, if it's still like triggering you,

1355
01:01:13,960 --> 01:01:15,880
Speaker 5: that is a sign that you ain't work through that.

1356
01:01:16,320 --> 01:01:16,480
Speaker 1: Now.

1357
01:01:16,480 --> 01:01:18,280
Speaker 3: I gotta work through it. Now, I gotta work through

1358
01:01:18,280 --> 01:01:19,360
Speaker 3: something that you did to me.

1359
01:01:19,680 --> 01:01:20,640
Speaker 1: No, my thing is this.

1360
01:01:20,720 --> 01:01:23,400
Speaker 4: If you tell me you forgave me and you still

1361
01:01:23,680 --> 01:01:26,960
Speaker 4: in it, then you did not forgive me. You can't

1362
01:01:27,000 --> 01:01:29,840
Speaker 4: say I forgive you and it's good and then be like,

1363
01:01:29,960 --> 01:01:32,840
Speaker 4: but I won't forget, Like, sure you can remember it,

1364
01:01:32,880 --> 01:01:35,040
Speaker 4: but if you've thrown it back in my face every

1365
01:01:35,120 --> 01:01:38,600
Speaker 4: time we have any type of issue, then babe.

1366
01:01:38,640 --> 01:01:39,400
Speaker 5: You didn't forget.

1367
01:01:39,600 --> 01:01:41,360
Speaker 1: Please, You're harboring.

1368
01:01:41,120 --> 01:01:47,800
Speaker 8: Right, harboring. It's very very You do a world of

1369
01:01:47,880 --> 01:01:52,880
Speaker 8: to day, you know, a word of asshole.

1370
01:01:52,920 --> 01:01:55,120
Speaker 6: For sure, I'm gonna do my wordle right now. You'll

1371
01:01:55,160 --> 01:01:57,280
Speaker 6: get it for to day? Is it mess to do

1372
01:01:57,360 --> 01:02:16,640
Speaker 6: my world during the public, you.

1373
01:02:16,640 --> 01:02:20,240
Speaker 3: Know, talking to you doane being with you, I you know,

1374
01:02:20,480 --> 01:02:23,600
Speaker 3: constantly am like damn, maybe I do need to work

1375
01:02:23,640 --> 01:02:25,680
Speaker 3: on being less nice.

1376
01:02:26,400 --> 01:02:27,920
Speaker 1: But I don't know.

1377
01:02:28,080 --> 01:02:32,280
Speaker 3: Sometimes being nice or empathetic or whatever, it just it

1378
01:02:33,600 --> 01:02:36,440
Speaker 3: fills me up and be like Okay, yeah, like this

1379
01:02:36,600 --> 01:02:39,640
Speaker 3: is not a bad thing. I am gonna get, you know,

1380
01:02:39,760 --> 01:02:42,040
Speaker 3: fucked over it sometimes and people are gonna take advantage

1381
01:02:42,040 --> 01:02:44,680
Speaker 3: and you know, that's just how the cookie crumbles. But

1382
01:02:45,400 --> 01:02:47,400
Speaker 3: I do get a lot of people who, you know,

1383
01:02:47,440 --> 01:02:50,240
Speaker 3: I sometimes forget how we first met and they're like, Sidney,

1384
01:02:50,800 --> 01:02:52,919
Speaker 3: you know, I didn't know nobody and you were.

1385
01:02:52,840 --> 01:02:54,320
Speaker 1: At this point, you were so nice.

1386
01:02:54,400 --> 01:02:57,040
Speaker 3: You were just like made me feel comfortable and not

1387
01:02:57,240 --> 01:02:59,920
Speaker 3: like a stranger, and it made me like feel like

1388
01:03:00,080 --> 01:03:01,960
Speaker 3: I was in and thank you for that.

1389
01:03:02,040 --> 01:03:04,040
Speaker 1: And I'm like, that's how I treat.

1390
01:03:03,960 --> 01:03:08,120
Speaker 3: Most people because anybody could be anybody, And what's the

1391
01:03:08,320 --> 01:03:12,040
Speaker 3: what's the point of being you know, reserved.

1392
01:03:11,640 --> 01:03:14,840
Speaker 2: When it's like, oh, if we match, then just school.

1393
01:03:14,880 --> 01:03:17,560
Speaker 3: But if you show me that you're you know, you're weird,

1394
01:03:18,120 --> 01:03:19,160
Speaker 3: I might still be your friend.

1395
01:03:19,200 --> 01:03:19,960
Speaker 1: But yeah, like I.

1396
01:03:23,040 --> 01:03:26,720
Speaker 5: Know, I'm not saying don't be empathetic and don't be

1397
01:03:26,880 --> 01:03:31,880
Speaker 5: nice at all. I'm just saying the the expectation for

1398
01:03:31,920 --> 01:03:35,320
Speaker 5: me to perform niceness so that you feel better is

1399
01:03:35,320 --> 01:03:36,560
Speaker 5: what I'm saying. I don't want to.

1400
01:03:36,560 --> 01:03:37,240
Speaker 2: Do I don't want to do it.

1401
01:03:37,360 --> 01:03:39,760
Speaker 5: Okay, Like, if it feels organic to be nice, I'm

1402
01:03:39,760 --> 01:03:41,800
Speaker 5: going to be nice because that's who I am. But

1403
01:03:41,920 --> 01:03:46,320
Speaker 5: there's just like certain spaces where niceness is prioritized in

1404
01:03:46,360 --> 01:03:49,560
Speaker 5: a way where like other things could also be prioritized.

1405
01:03:49,840 --> 01:03:50,800
Speaker 1: Who's the nicest person?

1406
01:03:50,800 --> 01:03:56,400
Speaker 5: You know, Sidney is like one of them, foolish.

1407
01:03:55,720 --> 01:03:57,920
Speaker 2: One of the one of the most fools that you.

1408
01:03:57,880 --> 01:04:01,960
Speaker 5: Know, Yes, yeahs like and in Nate just like and

1409
01:04:02,000 --> 01:04:04,160
Speaker 5: it's so funny to be living with her and seeing

1410
01:04:04,320 --> 01:04:06,160
Speaker 5: like I feel like there's parts of me that she's

1411
01:04:06,200 --> 01:04:10,760
Speaker 5: now seeing that and we're like interacting where I'm like, oh,

1412
01:04:10,800 --> 01:04:13,640
Speaker 5: you genuinely are really nice and me being like stupid.

1413
01:04:13,880 --> 01:04:18,680
Speaker 5: You don't have to be instance because like I also

1414
01:04:18,720 --> 01:04:21,200
Speaker 5: think I'm nice, Like I don't think I'm like like,

1415
01:04:21,240 --> 01:04:22,680
Speaker 5: I think I'm very.

1416
01:04:22,320 --> 01:04:24,160
Speaker 1: Nice, but then you watch Sydney and you're like, am

1417
01:04:24,160 --> 01:04:24,920
Speaker 1: I nice?

1418
01:04:25,360 --> 01:04:29,600
Speaker 5: And that's the thing. Like I was talking to a friend,

1419
01:04:30,280 --> 01:04:34,080
Speaker 5: I'm nice in situations where I feel like I am nice,

1420
01:04:34,200 --> 01:04:35,760
Speaker 5: and then in a certain situations just like, oh, I

1421
01:04:35,800 --> 01:04:38,320
Speaker 5: don't think this car Like there was a moment earlier

1422
01:04:38,520 --> 01:04:40,960
Speaker 5: where I had to pick and choose when I was nice.

1423
01:04:41,000 --> 01:04:44,720
Speaker 5: We were getting smoothies and this woman just ordered her

1424
01:04:44,720 --> 01:04:48,120
Speaker 5: smoothie before me and I was already there, and I

1425
01:04:48,120 --> 01:04:49,880
Speaker 5: had to tell myself, like, this is a moment where

1426
01:04:49,880 --> 01:04:51,960
Speaker 5: I could be like, hey, I was already here. I

1427
01:04:52,040 --> 01:04:54,880
Speaker 5: literally said, this is not a moment where that is going.

1428
01:04:54,880 --> 01:04:56,680
Speaker 5: I don't think that's going to serve me. This is

1429
01:04:56,680 --> 01:04:58,080
Speaker 5: like an older woman.

1430
01:04:58,480 --> 01:05:02,960
Speaker 1: She's wearing floral. I'm like, okay, live your life lime.

1431
01:05:02,720 --> 01:05:05,800
Speaker 2: Green to toenail polish. You don't want it with her.

1432
01:05:05,840 --> 01:05:06,520
Speaker 1: She's Jamaican.

1433
01:05:06,560 --> 01:05:08,840
Speaker 5: I said you didn't want to wear her doesn't matter.

1434
01:05:08,920 --> 01:05:11,440
Speaker 5: But then yesterday I was like, walking to Central Park,

1435
01:05:11,640 --> 01:05:14,280
Speaker 5: there's a guy just like standing in the middle, just

1436
01:05:14,280 --> 01:05:15,800
Speaker 5: like in the way, I mean, being like, why are

1437
01:05:15,800 --> 01:05:16,360
Speaker 5: you sir?

1438
01:05:16,720 --> 01:05:18,880
Speaker 1: Oh? I already know what. He looked like, move everybody

1439
01:05:18,920 --> 01:05:19,760
Speaker 1: you're talking about I know.

1440
01:05:21,200 --> 01:05:23,840
Speaker 5: And that was a moment where I was like, I

1441
01:05:23,920 --> 01:05:26,680
Speaker 5: want to be meaner then I'm going to be, but

1442
01:05:26,720 --> 01:05:28,960
Speaker 5: I'm not because that also like I don't know this man,

1443
01:05:29,000 --> 01:05:29,480
Speaker 5: but like, so.

1444
01:05:29,520 --> 01:05:31,200
Speaker 1: What did you say to the man in the middle

1445
01:05:31,200 --> 01:05:31,840
Speaker 1: of the sidewalk?

1446
01:05:32,080 --> 01:05:34,920
Speaker 5: I said, come on, man, oh god, you're in New

1447
01:05:35,000 --> 01:05:36,360
Speaker 5: York now, you're a New Yorker.

1448
01:05:36,440 --> 01:05:38,120
Speaker 4: No, a real New Yorker would have been like, get

1449
01:05:38,160 --> 01:05:39,200
Speaker 4: out of the way.

1450
01:05:39,360 --> 01:05:40,960
Speaker 5: And that's what I wanted to say, is get the

1451
01:05:41,000 --> 01:05:43,720
Speaker 5: fuck out the way. But I was like, this is

1452
01:05:43,760 --> 01:05:47,160
Speaker 5: like if I do that, what now? Like I literally

1453
01:05:47,160 --> 01:05:49,920
Speaker 5: was walking with a friend. We were in Central Park

1454
01:05:49,960 --> 01:05:52,520
Speaker 5: maybe a couple months ago, and it was a situation

1455
01:05:52,560 --> 01:05:54,880
Speaker 5: where like some guy said something and he kind of

1456
01:05:54,920 --> 01:05:57,600
Speaker 5: like responded and the guy kind of snapped, and I

1457
01:05:57,680 --> 01:06:01,439
Speaker 5: was like, I'm really Chicago. I've had situations where things

1458
01:06:01,440 --> 01:06:06,240
Speaker 5: have escalated to death quickly, so I again discernment and

1459
01:06:06,320 --> 01:06:08,600
Speaker 5: been like, what is the what is this moment called for?

1460
01:06:09,040 --> 01:06:11,800
Speaker 5: Do I give that energy? I could, but I'm not.

1461
01:06:12,280 --> 01:06:14,439
Speaker 5: But I do think there were in certain situations where

1462
01:06:14,440 --> 01:06:17,600
Speaker 5: I'm like, oh, this this energy is called calls for

1463
01:06:17,920 --> 01:06:20,320
Speaker 5: and it's never like I don't argue. I'm not like

1464
01:06:20,640 --> 01:06:22,960
Speaker 5: I'm not that person, but I do think there's like

1465
01:06:23,080 --> 01:06:27,560
Speaker 5: a curtainess to me having to get my point across.

1466
01:06:27,680 --> 01:06:30,360
Speaker 5: I was at some event in LA and some some

1467
01:06:30,440 --> 01:06:33,520
Speaker 5: white lady turned around and shushed me in a.

1468
01:06:33,600 --> 01:06:35,760
Speaker 1: Very rude way. Were you watching the quiet place?

1469
01:06:36,080 --> 01:06:39,480
Speaker 5: No? I was at like a I was like at

1470
01:06:39,600 --> 01:06:43,200
Speaker 5: some like I like hosted this event the year before,

1471
01:06:43,240 --> 01:06:45,240
Speaker 5: so they invited me the next year just to come.

1472
01:06:45,600 --> 01:06:48,080
Speaker 5: There was like people behind me talking and she turned

1473
01:06:48,120 --> 01:06:50,440
Speaker 5: around and shushed me like it was just so rude,

1474
01:06:50,760 --> 01:06:52,800
Speaker 5: and I before I knew it, I like rolled up

1475
01:06:52,840 --> 01:06:55,360
Speaker 5: on her and was like, Hey, who the fuck are

1476
01:06:55,400 --> 01:06:58,280
Speaker 5: you talking to? And I said, it's so quiet, Like

1477
01:06:58,320 --> 01:07:00,120
Speaker 5: it wasn't like it was like.

1478
01:07:00,120 --> 01:07:01,800
Speaker 4: She need to be like you should have lean in

1479
01:07:01,880 --> 01:07:02,800
Speaker 4: to hear you curse her.

1480
01:07:02,760 --> 01:07:04,440
Speaker 5: Up And that's kind of like the way, and like

1481
01:07:04,520 --> 01:07:06,000
Speaker 5: I was like, Oh, this is the energy I have

1482
01:07:06,040 --> 01:07:08,760
Speaker 5: to have because I need her to know, watch your

1483
01:07:08,800 --> 01:07:12,160
Speaker 5: fucking mouth, like, that's rude, you don't know me. Thank

1484
01:07:12,200 --> 01:07:14,000
Speaker 5: you for that, but I have to say it in

1485
01:07:14,040 --> 01:07:16,840
Speaker 5: a way that was not like ra because that's not

1486
01:07:16,880 --> 01:07:18,760
Speaker 5: the energy I'm trying. I just need you to know

1487
01:07:19,120 --> 01:07:19,840
Speaker 5: how I feel.

1488
01:07:19,960 --> 01:07:21,480
Speaker 1: What did she say when you said that?

1489
01:07:21,560 --> 01:07:26,440
Speaker 5: She was like exactly and literally I said exactly exactly.

1490
01:07:26,520 --> 01:07:28,760
Speaker 5: Then I walked away and the point was made. There

1491
01:07:28,840 --> 01:07:31,120
Speaker 5: was not another moment and I said this is And

1492
01:07:31,120 --> 01:07:33,040
Speaker 5: that was a moment where I was like, Okay, this

1493
01:07:33,240 --> 01:07:35,200
Speaker 5: energy was needed in this moment to convey what I

1494
01:07:35,200 --> 01:07:37,280
Speaker 5: needed to convey. I didn't need to do too much,

1495
01:07:37,560 --> 01:07:38,760
Speaker 5: but I needed her to know.

1496
01:07:39,280 --> 01:07:42,720
Speaker 1: Quiet cursing. I'm adding that to my tool box.

1497
01:07:42,800 --> 01:07:43,600
Speaker 5: I think it is so help.

1498
01:07:43,680 --> 01:07:47,200
Speaker 1: Hey, that fuck are you talking? I don't know. I

1499
01:07:47,200 --> 01:07:49,520
Speaker 1: think I think that's a lot. I think that's a

1500
01:07:49,800 --> 01:07:51,000
Speaker 1: that just feels like.

1501
01:07:51,360 --> 01:07:54,560
Speaker 3: No, a lot is screaming and no, a lot a

1502
01:07:54,600 --> 01:07:57,040
Speaker 3: lot of energy to be like to go back to

1503
01:07:57,080 --> 01:07:59,240
Speaker 3: somebody like you're talking to you.

1504
01:07:59,280 --> 01:08:02,960
Speaker 5: Is just yeah, what you're talking to?

1505
01:08:03,760 --> 01:08:03,960
Speaker 1: Hey?

1506
01:08:04,600 --> 01:08:05,040
Speaker 5: Exactly?

1507
01:08:05,160 --> 01:08:05,760
Speaker 1: Who the fuck?

1508
01:08:06,680 --> 01:08:08,520
Speaker 5: And it was like and that was all. And my

1509
01:08:08,560 --> 01:08:10,360
Speaker 5: friend that I was with he was like, oh, I've

1510
01:08:10,400 --> 01:08:13,720
Speaker 5: never seen you that way, and I was just like,

1511
01:08:13,840 --> 01:08:16,080
Speaker 5: I felt it was so rude for this woman to

1512
01:08:16,080 --> 01:08:19,280
Speaker 5: think that she has that level of control, like authority.

1513
01:08:19,320 --> 01:08:22,880
Speaker 5: You don't know me. That's really rude. And it was

1514
01:08:22,960 --> 01:08:25,200
Speaker 5: like not, it was just just like, oh, like, can

1515
01:08:25,200 --> 01:08:27,760
Speaker 5: you quiet down? It was like a shut up and

1516
01:08:27,880 --> 01:08:33,320
Speaker 5: me being like, Hey, who the fuck are you talking to? Yeah,

1517
01:08:33,479 --> 01:08:35,360
Speaker 5: that's crazy, ma'am.

1518
01:08:35,200 --> 01:08:38,559
Speaker 4: I'm gonna quietly curse somebody out this week. I'm putting

1519
01:08:38,640 --> 01:08:41,880
Speaker 4: that in my toolbox and I'm putting it in my.

1520
01:08:41,800 --> 01:08:44,679
Speaker 5: Toe Because she had no she just was so shocked

1521
01:08:44,680 --> 01:08:46,519
Speaker 5: that I would say something back. So you just thought

1522
01:08:47,040 --> 01:08:49,240
Speaker 5: you was just Oh so you thought like, oh so

1523
01:08:49,320 --> 01:08:52,560
Speaker 5: you can just say anything without repercussions. No, Actually, you

1524
01:08:52,560 --> 01:08:55,360
Speaker 5: should think about what you say to people, because I

1525
01:08:55,400 --> 01:08:58,639
Speaker 5: do all the time. I have to down was a problem.

1526
01:08:58,720 --> 01:09:01,120
Speaker 5: So learning a lesson today, and the lesson is watch

1527
01:09:01,160 --> 01:09:01,840
Speaker 5: your fucking mouth.

1528
01:09:02,640 --> 01:09:03,639
Speaker 1: Don't let it happen again.

1529
01:09:03,760 --> 01:09:06,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, but that's a lesson that she learned. But I'm

1530
01:09:06,960 --> 01:09:08,479
Speaker 3: sure she's gonna do that shit again.

1531
01:09:08,640 --> 01:09:09,360
Speaker 5: She didn't gon do it to.

1532
01:09:09,360 --> 01:09:12,120
Speaker 1: Me, and that's what matters, And that's the lesson.

1533
01:09:12,640 --> 01:09:15,120
Speaker 3: There might be another person that you I mean if

1534
01:09:15,760 --> 01:09:18,040
Speaker 3: every time it just feels like I have to do

1535
01:09:18,080 --> 01:09:19,120
Speaker 3: this every single time.

1536
01:09:19,479 --> 01:09:21,479
Speaker 5: Did do it to the lady with this mooie? No,

1537
01:09:22,280 --> 01:09:23,280
Speaker 5: do it to the man on the street.

1538
01:09:23,560 --> 01:09:23,640
Speaker 4: No.

1539
01:09:24,000 --> 01:09:26,799
Speaker 5: That That's what I'm talking about, discernment walking.

1540
01:09:26,600 --> 01:09:27,479
Speaker 1: Down the street, the room.

1541
01:09:27,560 --> 01:09:31,280
Speaker 4: I was walking down the street yesterday and there was

1542
01:09:31,320 --> 01:09:35,439
Speaker 4: a group of people on the sidewalk, and you know,

1543
01:09:35,479 --> 01:09:38,080
Speaker 4: they had on those clear raincoats, so you can already

1544
01:09:38,120 --> 01:09:40,599
Speaker 4: visualize the people I'm talking about, you know what I mean,

1545
01:09:40,680 --> 01:09:43,160
Speaker 4: like the rain the rain puncho that goes over their

1546
01:09:43,240 --> 01:09:46,559
Speaker 4: clothes that they bought a CBS or whatever. And I'm

1547
01:09:46,560 --> 01:09:49,599
Speaker 4: coming up and I'm coming fast because you know I'm late,

1548
01:09:49,800 --> 01:09:51,559
Speaker 4: I'll be late. And even when I'm not late to something,

1549
01:09:51,600 --> 01:09:53,200
Speaker 4: I'm from New York, so I walk quick.

1550
01:09:53,600 --> 01:09:54,440
Speaker 1: So I'm walking.

1551
01:09:54,200 --> 01:09:57,880
Speaker 4: Fast, and this guy just steps out just into the

1552
01:09:57,920 --> 01:09:59,720
Speaker 4: middle of the sidewalk. So I had to kind of

1553
01:09:59,840 --> 01:10:03,160
Speaker 4: v you're like at the last second around him, and

1554
01:10:03,240 --> 01:10:06,880
Speaker 4: I didn't say anything, but I fully turned around to

1555
01:10:06,920 --> 01:10:10,439
Speaker 4: be like ough, and he was like, sometimes you don't

1556
01:10:10,439 --> 01:10:12,360
Speaker 4: even have to you don't have to say anything being.

1557
01:10:12,720 --> 01:10:15,200
Speaker 5: An expression yeah, to be like hey, I was like,

1558
01:10:16,040 --> 01:10:16,719
Speaker 5: and he was like.

1559
01:10:17,120 --> 01:10:18,840
Speaker 3: I just feel like there's so much of that in

1560
01:10:18,880 --> 01:10:21,639
Speaker 3: New York, like that everybody's always making faces saying stuff

1561
01:10:21,680 --> 01:10:24,120
Speaker 3: like I feel like this is the city of people

1562
01:10:24,200 --> 01:10:27,920
Speaker 3: always getting the getting they shit off, they telling people, Hey,

1563
01:10:28,120 --> 01:10:30,840
Speaker 3: you are my way, I don't like you around me.

1564
01:10:31,120 --> 01:10:34,840
Speaker 3: You smell bad. This is weird, this is ugly, like.

1565
01:10:36,479 --> 01:10:40,160
Speaker 5: Your opinion to the mix, and I'm back and now

1566
01:10:40,200 --> 01:10:42,639
Speaker 5: I'm embracing it in a way that I just didn't before.

1567
01:10:43,200 --> 01:10:45,400
Speaker 5: I'm like, there's a space for this, and I think

1568
01:10:45,960 --> 01:10:47,880
Speaker 5: I'm in a season where I'm glad I'm in New

1569
01:10:47,920 --> 01:10:50,920
Speaker 5: York right now because that's I'm feeling very New York

1570
01:10:51,200 --> 01:10:53,080
Speaker 5: right now, and that I see it.

1571
01:10:53,160 --> 01:10:57,519
Speaker 3: You've definitely encompassed all of that in this in this interview.

1572
01:10:57,560 --> 01:10:57,800
Speaker 1: Friend.

1573
01:10:57,920 --> 01:10:59,920
Speaker 5: But you know, I'm so very sweet, very now.

1574
01:11:00,080 --> 01:11:05,559
Speaker 1: It's super sweet. Tell the people listening the top three

1575
01:11:06,200 --> 01:11:08,720
Speaker 1: nicest things, the sweetest things about you.

1576
01:11:09,560 --> 01:11:12,280
Speaker 5: I think I'm very considered. I think that when I'm

1577
01:11:12,560 --> 01:11:15,280
Speaker 5: doing stuff, I consider how I'm going to affect the

1578
01:11:15,320 --> 01:11:20,400
Speaker 5: people the space. I think I'm very empathetic. There's not

1579
01:11:20,600 --> 01:11:23,839
Speaker 5: much I can't talk about or like stepping someone's shoes

1580
01:11:23,920 --> 01:11:27,360
Speaker 5: to see their point of view. And also I think

1581
01:11:27,479 --> 01:11:30,160
Speaker 5: I'm pretty like loose with my money.

1582
01:11:30,360 --> 01:11:32,280
Speaker 1: Oh, we love loose with the money.

1583
01:11:32,360 --> 01:11:33,280
Speaker 5: I'm trying to get better.

1584
01:11:33,479 --> 01:11:37,439
Speaker 1: No, no, no, keep it loose.

1585
01:11:37,640 --> 01:11:41,800
Speaker 5: A lot of survivors remorse. So somebody and.

1586
01:11:41,800 --> 01:11:43,800
Speaker 3: You got you got a lot of you know, when

1587
01:11:43,840 --> 01:11:46,680
Speaker 3: you have family connected to family, you feel like and.

1588
01:11:46,920 --> 01:11:50,920
Speaker 5: Money really be beating people's as So yeah, and personally

1589
01:11:50,960 --> 01:11:53,640
Speaker 5: I do think that's like I think people put a

1590
01:11:53,640 --> 01:11:57,200
Speaker 5: lot on money, and so if I like give somebody money,

1591
01:11:57,240 --> 01:11:59,040
Speaker 5: I feel like they're really like, oh, this is so helpful.

1592
01:11:59,040 --> 01:12:01,160
Speaker 5: And me being like I had to press two buttons

1593
01:12:01,160 --> 01:12:03,160
Speaker 5: on my phone. That's so much better than being like,

1594
01:12:03,200 --> 01:12:04,519
Speaker 5: can can you help me move? I'm like, now I

1595
01:12:04,520 --> 01:12:07,519
Speaker 5: gotta do stuff like money moved so easy.

1596
01:12:07,720 --> 01:12:09,559
Speaker 1: I send you a link to piece of cake movers.

1597
01:12:09,640 --> 01:12:12,120
Speaker 5: Yeah, and so like, I feel like that's just like

1598
01:12:12,280 --> 01:12:15,479
Speaker 5: an easy way to help people, and at a time

1599
01:12:15,479 --> 01:12:16,760
Speaker 5: where people really need help.

1600
01:12:16,960 --> 01:12:18,719
Speaker 1: Okay, well we have a little we have a message.

1601
01:12:18,720 --> 01:12:20,280
Speaker 3: Wait, no, I wanted to ask you, Marie, what's the

1602
01:12:20,320 --> 01:12:21,599
Speaker 3: three nicest things you've done?

1603
01:12:21,960 --> 01:12:23,360
Speaker 1: Oh, three nicest things I've done.

1604
01:12:23,439 --> 01:12:25,519
Speaker 4: I had a show last night and this girl came

1605
01:12:25,600 --> 01:12:27,920
Speaker 4: up to me and she was like, I'm a comedian.

1606
01:12:27,960 --> 01:12:30,639
Speaker 4: I just moved to New York. I've seen your reels

1607
01:12:30,680 --> 01:12:33,519
Speaker 4: online and I had to come meet you. I had

1608
01:12:33,520 --> 01:12:36,640
Speaker 4: to come see you in real life. And I said, oh,

1609
01:12:36,880 --> 01:12:37,960
Speaker 4: and I hugged her and.

1610
01:12:37,880 --> 01:12:41,840
Speaker 1: She was shocked. She was like, oh my god. And

1611
01:12:41,880 --> 01:12:43,840
Speaker 1: she was like, and you smell good. And I was

1612
01:12:43,920 --> 01:12:46,040
Speaker 1: like yeah, but that was me being nice.

1613
01:12:46,760 --> 01:12:48,880
Speaker 4: Because I don't hug everybody and I don't want to

1614
01:12:48,880 --> 01:12:52,839
Speaker 4: be touched by everybody. Number Two, nicest thing that I

1615
01:12:53,000 --> 01:12:55,320
Speaker 4: you said, nicest thing that I did, or things about

1616
01:12:55,320 --> 01:12:58,320
Speaker 4: me that are nice. Yeah, I mean yeah, we got

1617
01:12:58,320 --> 01:12:59,959
Speaker 4: to donate some boots to Mecca.

1618
01:13:00,040 --> 01:13:00,840
Speaker 2: It's nice, okay.

1619
01:13:03,439 --> 01:13:07,519
Speaker 4: And you know, I was talking to my mom on

1620
01:13:07,520 --> 01:13:09,640
Speaker 4: the phone today and a lot of times when we

1621
01:13:09,640 --> 01:13:12,080
Speaker 4: speak to our parents, sometimes they say things and it's

1622
01:13:12,120 --> 01:13:15,280
Speaker 4: like annoying to us. And today we had a conversation

1623
01:13:15,360 --> 01:13:18,920
Speaker 4: and she said something that typically I would maybe be like, ugh,

1624
01:13:19,200 --> 01:13:20,400
Speaker 4: what are you talking about?

1625
01:13:20,720 --> 01:13:23,040
Speaker 1: But I laughed and me and my mom and she

1626
01:13:23,200 --> 01:13:23,800
Speaker 1: laughed and.

1627
01:13:23,760 --> 01:13:26,559
Speaker 4: We had this like really nice moment of like laughing together.

1628
01:13:26,680 --> 01:13:28,800
Speaker 4: And I just had this moment of like, oh, my

1629
01:13:28,840 --> 01:13:30,920
Speaker 4: mom is like she's just a girl, you know what

1630
01:13:30,920 --> 01:13:35,560
Speaker 4: I mean, Like, you know what I'm like, and because

1631
01:13:36,200 --> 01:13:39,360
Speaker 4: she's somebody who i'm so we're like.

1632
01:13:39,320 --> 01:13:40,960
Speaker 1: The same personality.

1633
01:13:41,320 --> 01:13:44,160
Speaker 4: We bump heads a lot, and so when I laughed

1634
01:13:44,160 --> 01:13:46,439
Speaker 4: and she laughed, I just felt like, what's.

1635
01:13:46,240 --> 01:13:48,600
Speaker 1: The laugh time? Last time we laughed together? So that

1636
01:13:48,680 --> 01:13:51,280
Speaker 1: was it. Those are my three things. It was just nice,

1637
01:13:51,400 --> 01:13:52,000
Speaker 1: this is nice.

1638
01:13:52,400 --> 01:13:54,320
Speaker 4: I'm just gonna you know, she's not gonna be here forever.

1639
01:13:54,360 --> 01:13:57,120
Speaker 4: So it was just like a nice, simple.

1640
01:13:56,760 --> 01:14:02,280
Speaker 1: Moment of like, what, he's just a girl. I don't

1641
01:14:02,280 --> 01:14:03,720
Speaker 1: think we need to ask you with three nice things.

1642
01:14:03,720 --> 01:14:09,040
Speaker 4: You're nice, no, yeah, yeah, but three mean things, three mean.

1643
01:14:08,880 --> 01:14:10,160
Speaker 1: Things, three things that.

1644
01:14:10,120 --> 01:14:14,200
Speaker 3: You were like, uh, you know, I like, I guess

1645
01:14:14,240 --> 01:14:15,800
Speaker 3: I had a falling out with a friend and I

1646
01:14:16,080 --> 01:14:20,120
Speaker 3: could have like addressed it in a way where I'm like,

1647
01:14:21,880 --> 01:14:24,400
Speaker 3: let's let's bring it back, Like I just it was

1648
01:14:24,479 --> 01:14:27,280
Speaker 3: just a straight like no, I'm not good.

1649
01:14:27,560 --> 01:14:29,240
Speaker 2: That would be considered mean.

1650
01:14:29,680 --> 01:14:32,439
Speaker 3: But it's like I'm I feel like I am so

1651
01:14:32,560 --> 01:14:34,400
Speaker 3: nice and so understanding that if you get me to

1652
01:14:34,400 --> 01:14:36,160
Speaker 3: the point of it like I'm not speaking to you

1653
01:14:36,200 --> 01:14:36,559
Speaker 3: any more.

1654
01:14:37,280 --> 01:14:38,240
Speaker 2: You got to figure that out.

1655
01:14:38,320 --> 01:14:41,679
Speaker 3: Yeah, because yeah, because it's like I don't just cut

1656
01:14:41,720 --> 01:14:44,200
Speaker 3: people off or if you do something, if you cross

1657
01:14:44,240 --> 01:14:47,400
Speaker 3: or boundary with me, that's just like so weird. It's

1658
01:14:47,439 --> 01:14:51,320
Speaker 3: hard for me to like communicate how weird this was.

1659
01:14:51,560 --> 01:14:53,960
Speaker 3: I'll just I'll just cut you off as well, because

1660
01:14:54,000 --> 01:14:57,400
Speaker 3: it's just like, yeah, you did that, cool for you,

1661
01:14:57,560 --> 01:14:59,840
Speaker 3: but that's that's not going to rock with me. And

1662
01:15:00,160 --> 01:15:03,200
Speaker 3: so when I cut people off, it is a little

1663
01:15:03,240 --> 01:15:05,120
Speaker 3: mean because I'm like, I don't I don't care anymore.

1664
01:15:05,160 --> 01:15:08,120
Speaker 3: I don't want to explain, I don't want to make

1665
01:15:08,160 --> 01:15:08,519
Speaker 3: it right.

1666
01:15:08,680 --> 01:15:09,000
Speaker 2: I don't.

1667
01:15:09,120 --> 01:15:12,320
Speaker 4: I just don't care. I'm like, bye, that's it. So

1668
01:15:12,360 --> 01:15:14,479
Speaker 4: that that's how I would say it is my mean.

1669
01:15:14,920 --> 01:15:16,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I've witnessed this.

1670
01:15:16,640 --> 01:15:22,840
Speaker 4: Yeah, I witnessed this like maybe two times, and I'm like, Okay, that.

1671
01:15:22,840 --> 01:15:23,080
Speaker 6: Made me.

1672
01:15:25,280 --> 01:15:25,639
Speaker 4: No more.

1673
01:15:29,240 --> 01:15:29,920
Speaker 1: I love that.

1674
01:15:30,120 --> 01:15:31,960
Speaker 4: I mean, you know, you got to stand on business.

1675
01:15:32,120 --> 01:15:34,600
Speaker 4: And when Sydney stands on it, she actually stands on

1676
01:15:34,640 --> 01:15:38,360
Speaker 4: it with her heels in a cute in a cute boot,

1677
01:15:38,520 --> 01:15:41,559
Speaker 4: in a cute snake skin boot. All right, we have

1678
01:15:41,600 --> 01:15:43,800
Speaker 4: a message from a listener. I'm gonna read it and

1679
01:15:43,840 --> 01:15:46,320
Speaker 4: then you can tell us, you know, how are you

1680
01:15:46,320 --> 01:15:49,040
Speaker 4: feel about it? You know, hey, Sidney and Marie, I'm

1681
01:15:49,040 --> 01:15:51,280
Speaker 4: a big fan of you two, and the podcast.

1682
01:15:51,439 --> 01:15:52,080
Speaker 2: Thanks girl.

1683
01:15:52,600 --> 01:15:55,719
Speaker 4: Yeah, I listened religiously each week. Please do a show

1684
01:15:55,920 --> 01:16:01,160
Speaker 4: in stl soon. That's Saint Louis, right, I think so stl.

1685
01:16:01,520 --> 01:16:05,960
Speaker 1: Oh, yeah, gimme, gimme Toper.

1686
01:16:07,240 --> 01:16:09,559
Speaker 4: My mess is that I let a man fuck me

1687
01:16:09,720 --> 01:16:11,840
Speaker 4: up during the first week of Pride Month.

1688
01:16:11,920 --> 01:16:12,240
Speaker 7: Whoa.

1689
01:16:12,720 --> 01:16:16,240
Speaker 4: I've dated women and men my entire adult life. Every

1690
01:16:16,240 --> 01:16:18,479
Speaker 4: time I entertained a man, it feels like a form

1691
01:16:18,520 --> 01:16:19,479
Speaker 4: of self harm.

1692
01:16:19,680 --> 01:16:21,759
Speaker 1: Oh, relate.

1693
01:16:24,560 --> 01:16:26,840
Speaker 4: I met this man at a bar through a mutual friend.

1694
01:16:27,120 --> 01:16:30,479
Speaker 4: We exchanged Instagrams, but it didn't go anywhere. Fast forward

1695
01:16:30,520 --> 01:16:32,320
Speaker 4: to a few weeks ago. I saw we were in

1696
01:16:32,360 --> 01:16:34,680
Speaker 4: the same part of town. I invited him to the

1697
01:16:34,680 --> 01:16:36,200
Speaker 4: bar to hang out with me and my friend. We

1698
01:16:36,280 --> 01:16:38,320
Speaker 4: hit it off. We had a sleepover that night, but

1699
01:16:38,400 --> 01:16:40,519
Speaker 4: didn't hook up. Okay, he took me to breakfast the

1700
01:16:40,520 --> 01:16:40,960
Speaker 4: next morning.

1701
01:16:41,000 --> 01:16:41,599
Speaker 1: It was sweet.

1702
01:16:42,200 --> 01:16:44,640
Speaker 4: Next thing, you know, we're talking, hanging out often, and

1703
01:16:44,680 --> 01:16:45,240
Speaker 4: hooking up.

1704
01:16:45,720 --> 01:16:46,960
Speaker 1: He told me he was insecure.

1705
01:16:47,600 --> 01:16:49,040
Speaker 4: I didn't see it as a red flag until he

1706
01:16:49,080 --> 01:16:52,559
Speaker 4: started commenting on my body. He made a comment about

1707
01:16:52,560 --> 01:16:54,479
Speaker 4: my breast implants, my pubic hair.

1708
01:16:55,120 --> 01:16:56,880
Speaker 1: Oh, he preferred a bush.

1709
01:16:57,400 --> 01:16:59,679
Speaker 4: Asked when I was going to get my hair done,

1710
01:17:00,160 --> 01:17:03,160
Speaker 4: and if I liked wearing my hair up, insinuating that

1711
01:17:03,240 --> 01:17:04,639
Speaker 4: I looked better with it down.

1712
01:17:05,240 --> 01:17:15,920
Speaker 1: Preach not the only straight man. I knew something wasn't right.

1713
01:17:16,000 --> 01:17:17,720
Speaker 4: But the final wake up call was when I told

1714
01:17:17,760 --> 01:17:20,160
Speaker 4: my friend that he goes to therapy four times a week.

1715
01:17:20,960 --> 01:17:22,000
Speaker 1: I didn't even know we could do that.

1716
01:17:22,120 --> 01:17:25,080
Speaker 3: I didn't know that it's not the same It can't

1717
01:17:25,120 --> 01:17:27,960
Speaker 3: be the same person. There's no four different therapists in

1718
01:17:27,960 --> 01:17:30,040
Speaker 3: a week. Two that's maybe worse.

1719
01:17:31,160 --> 01:17:33,479
Speaker 4: Okay, the part that fucked me up is when I

1720
01:17:33,600 --> 01:17:35,360
Speaker 4: ended things. He said he wanted to end it the

1721
01:17:35,479 --> 01:17:37,719
Speaker 4: night before, but he wanted me to speak my peace.

1722
01:17:38,200 --> 01:17:42,040
Speaker 4: My sassy self said peace and he said and he said, no,

1723
01:17:42,120 --> 01:17:44,160
Speaker 4: it's peace peace as in p.

1724
01:17:44,200 --> 01:17:46,720
Speaker 1: I E C E. And then she said peace peace

1725
01:17:47,160 --> 01:17:49,400
Speaker 1: and he said, no, it's p I E C guy's

1726
01:17:49,479 --> 01:17:51,200
Speaker 1: and asshole. He got me good.

1727
01:17:51,360 --> 01:17:53,760
Speaker 4: I attached I'd attached a photo of him, but he

1728
01:17:53,840 --> 01:17:55,519
Speaker 4: blocked me immediately on Instagram.

1729
01:17:56,120 --> 01:17:58,720
Speaker 1: This has been my gay awakening. Is it mess or

1730
01:17:58,880 --> 01:18:01,479
Speaker 1: just living? Full? Full mess?

1731
01:18:02,040 --> 01:18:02,519
Speaker 2: Full mess?

1732
01:18:02,760 --> 01:18:07,479
Speaker 3: Never never give these man meant any any chance to

1733
01:18:07,960 --> 01:18:11,559
Speaker 3: pull a stunt like that. That's that's crazy. You should

1734
01:18:11,560 --> 01:18:12,200
Speaker 3: be thankful.

1735
01:18:12,720 --> 01:18:15,719
Speaker 5: I wonder if he was tall and his beard connected,

1736
01:18:15,800 --> 01:18:18,040
Speaker 5: because you literally told her a red flag and she

1737
01:18:18,160 --> 01:18:19,320
Speaker 5: said that's fine.

1738
01:18:19,880 --> 01:18:22,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I really wish we had a photo because

1739
01:18:22,240 --> 01:18:23,080
Speaker 1: I need to know.

1740
01:18:23,720 --> 01:18:28,960
Speaker 5: That's the problem is that she had an out and

1741
01:18:29,080 --> 01:18:29,720
Speaker 5: she didn't take it.

1742
01:18:30,160 --> 01:18:34,920
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, but I think the first night kind of

1743
01:18:34,960 --> 01:18:35,720
Speaker 1: set the tone of it.

1744
01:18:35,800 --> 01:18:37,960
Speaker 4: And I think that's what why she had blinders on, right,

1745
01:18:38,320 --> 01:18:40,960
Speaker 4: because they had a good time, they slipped over but

1746
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Speaker 4: didn't hook up, and then he took her to breakfast

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01:18:42,840 --> 01:18:44,680
Speaker 4: the next morning, so it's like, oh, this is a

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01:18:44,800 --> 01:18:47,599
Speaker 4: nice guy. Yeah, so all you you have this vision

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01:18:47,640 --> 01:18:51,320
Speaker 4: of him at up top sweet. He does after that

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01:18:51,439 --> 01:18:53,719
Speaker 4: is the opposite of that, but you still you remember

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01:18:53,840 --> 01:18:54,719
Speaker 4: him as sweet.

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Speaker 5: And I think that's the problem. This is an evening

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01:18:58,160 --> 01:19:02,000
Speaker 5: and a morning girl. You need more information. Yeah, and

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01:19:02,080 --> 01:19:03,840
Speaker 5: then he told you you ended here and you don't

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01:19:03,840 --> 01:19:07,559
Speaker 5: put that into the other information. Like so the idea

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01:19:07,600 --> 01:19:10,800
Speaker 5: of like putting so much emphasis on the good is

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01:19:10,880 --> 01:19:13,439
Speaker 5: because she wanted to write and that.

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Speaker 1: He must have been tall and his beard fully connected

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Speaker 1: all the way around.

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Speaker 4: I need to see, well, I want to know did

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Speaker 4: she find out he was in therapy four times a

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01:19:21,760 --> 01:19:27,080
Speaker 4: week before the comments or after, like, when did she

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01:19:27,320 --> 01:19:28,240
Speaker 4: when did she find out?

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01:19:28,280 --> 01:19:29,000
Speaker 2: She found out after?

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01:19:29,400 --> 01:19:31,560
Speaker 4: It says the final wake up call was when I

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01:19:31,640 --> 01:19:33,960
Speaker 4: told my friend, oh, wait, no, she must have already known.

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01:19:34,160 --> 01:19:37,200
Speaker 1: No, she already knew when I told my friend that

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01:19:37,320 --> 01:19:39,720
Speaker 1: he goes to therapy four times a week, So you

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01:19:39,880 --> 01:19:41,280
Speaker 1: knew he went to therapy four times a week.

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Speaker 3: And then the firm was probably like, bitch, nah, he

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01:19:43,560 --> 01:19:45,280
Speaker 3: might have he might have been he might have been

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01:19:45,320 --> 01:19:48,040
Speaker 3: in one of those those rooms that's patted.

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01:19:48,200 --> 01:19:51,400
Speaker 1: Your friend said, girl, you dain'ting hanibal lectum four times

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01:19:51,439 --> 01:19:53,640
Speaker 1: a week is wild. I've never even heard of that.

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01:19:53,680 --> 01:19:54,439
Speaker 2: I didn't even know you.

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01:19:54,400 --> 01:19:57,760
Speaker 4: Could do that when you were in speech, when you

1777
01:19:57,840 --> 01:19:59,840
Speaker 4: were in kindergarten for the study, how many times a

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01:19:59,840 --> 01:20:00,600
Speaker 4: week did you go to that?

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01:20:00,680 --> 01:20:04,640
Speaker 5: I think I was like once a week. Back, I

1780
01:20:04,640 --> 01:20:08,120
Speaker 5: couldn't even talk, like that's four times a week.

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01:20:08,840 --> 01:20:09,479
Speaker 2: Very scary.

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01:20:09,640 --> 01:20:14,639
Speaker 1: I think it's I think it's living, giving people a chance.

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01:20:14,800 --> 01:20:17,439
Speaker 1: I guess twenty four times a month, but it's it's

1784
01:20:17,520 --> 01:20:19,679
Speaker 1: some Wait, that's twenty four times a month. Yeah, thirty

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01:20:19,800 --> 01:20:20,599
Speaker 1: days in a month.

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01:20:20,920 --> 01:20:21,240
Speaker 6: It's that.

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01:20:22,000 --> 01:20:25,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, how is he affording us? What is his insurance?

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01:20:25,520 --> 01:20:28,719
Speaker 5: Like, maybe he really has like some really deep traumas,

1789
01:20:28,760 --> 01:20:33,000
Speaker 5: which is like like not like trying to really be empathetic.

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01:20:34,240 --> 01:20:34,600
Speaker 1: Look at you.

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01:20:34,800 --> 01:20:37,840
Speaker 5: I think that like she should have recognized if that

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01:20:37,960 --> 01:20:40,599
Speaker 5: was something she was willing to put up with pretty

1793
01:20:40,680 --> 01:20:44,120
Speaker 5: early on. Like I just think people really deal with

1794
01:20:44,200 --> 01:20:47,240
Speaker 5: things that they don't have to. Because he was talking

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01:20:47,240 --> 01:20:50,360
Speaker 5: about her titties and all these other things, Like at

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01:20:50,400 --> 01:20:54,040
Speaker 5: what point, Like was that first night really that good

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01:20:54,080 --> 01:20:57,439
Speaker 5: that all this other shit just didn't matter? Like was

1798
01:20:57,520 --> 01:20:59,280
Speaker 5: that breakfast just like the bomb.

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01:21:00,320 --> 01:21:05,599
Speaker 4: Ain't no grand slam good enough? Ain't in the VIP

1800
01:21:05,760 --> 01:21:09,439
Speaker 4: at Denny's? Like why were you sever I hoop?

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01:21:09,600 --> 01:21:11,080
Speaker 1: Is never that popping? No way?

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01:21:11,720 --> 01:21:13,479
Speaker 5: I mean? And also if you not like in it,

1803
01:21:14,000 --> 01:21:16,400
Speaker 5: be one for that, Like I think, like and maybe

1804
01:21:16,880 --> 01:21:19,120
Speaker 5: it's just not your man you were hooking up. Maybe

1805
01:21:19,120 --> 01:21:20,800
Speaker 5: I'm too much of a realist, but I'm like, what

1806
01:21:20,960 --> 01:21:23,920
Speaker 5: are the steaks like? And I'm always conscious of like

1807
01:21:23,960 --> 01:21:25,880
Speaker 5: if you leave my life right now, what would change?

1808
01:21:26,439 --> 01:21:29,800
Speaker 5: And if it's anything more than just like joy, then

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01:21:30,040 --> 01:21:32,519
Speaker 5: it's too much like and and that's the thing, like

1810
01:21:32,680 --> 01:21:35,719
Speaker 5: it shouldn't the stakes don't feel that high? Like possibly

1811
01:21:35,840 --> 01:21:39,040
Speaker 5: like good sex, good times you can get that from

1812
01:21:39,160 --> 01:21:40,880
Speaker 5: like multiple, multiple people.

1813
01:21:41,160 --> 01:21:43,560
Speaker 4: I think that's just living. I think that is the

1814
01:21:43,680 --> 01:21:46,120
Speaker 4: question that people need to ask themselves. If you leave

1815
01:21:46,200 --> 01:21:49,920
Speaker 4: my life right now, what would change a lot of

1816
01:21:49,960 --> 01:21:52,360
Speaker 4: people don't think like that. They like, they see what

1817
01:21:52,479 --> 01:21:54,920
Speaker 4: they have and they want just that and it's like, but.

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01:21:54,960 --> 01:21:56,639
Speaker 1: If this person wasn't here, you will still be good.

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01:21:56,840 --> 01:21:58,960
Speaker 5: Yeah, so you might be you might be better literally

1820
01:21:59,000 --> 01:22:00,800
Speaker 5: still getting You just have to find something else to do.

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01:22:01,640 --> 01:22:04,560
Speaker 1: You would have you would have more free time, or

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01:22:04,600 --> 01:22:07,000
Speaker 1: you would have time to steal some art like this.

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01:22:07,400 --> 01:22:09,840
Speaker 3: The saddest the saddest thing about this is that this

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01:22:10,000 --> 01:22:11,120
Speaker 3: is happening during Pride.

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01:22:11,160 --> 01:22:13,960
Speaker 2: Why would you have all months to do this? Like

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01:22:14,520 --> 01:22:17,080
Speaker 2: I'm giving somebody a chance Pride.

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01:22:17,400 --> 01:22:21,599
Speaker 5: She was trying to be queer and outside and put

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01:22:21,640 --> 01:22:22,040
Speaker 5: herself in.

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01:22:22,160 --> 01:22:25,080
Speaker 3: You're a lesbian friend, You're okay, But we learn, we

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01:22:25,240 --> 01:22:29,800
Speaker 3: learned these hard lessons doing through. Some of us, you know,

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01:22:30,680 --> 01:22:33,800
Speaker 3: get called you know that their titties are weird or whatever.

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01:22:33,880 --> 01:22:36,000
Speaker 3: And then other people, you know, they go to a

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01:22:36,080 --> 01:22:38,200
Speaker 3: man's house and is he doesn't have electricity?

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01:22:38,320 --> 01:22:39,719
Speaker 2: So who am I to judge?

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01:22:40,880 --> 01:22:41,200
Speaker 1: Dwayne?

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Speaker 3: Thank you so much for being so insightful. I mean,

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01:22:44,120 --> 01:22:46,000
Speaker 3: you really know you laid it on thick.

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01:22:46,320 --> 01:22:49,679
Speaker 1: You were unapologetically yourself. We need that at Mess.

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01:22:50,040 --> 01:22:51,880
Speaker 5: Yeah, I didn't think I was gonna give doctor Phil, but.

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01:22:52,200 --> 01:22:54,400
Speaker 1: You did you truly did you?

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01:22:54,920 --> 01:23:01,320
Speaker 4: Doctor Uncle Phil, Doctor Umar Phil Iyana van Zen?

1842
01:23:02,080 --> 01:23:04,840
Speaker 1: Not on my watch? What do you have coming up? Dwayne? Where?

1843
01:23:04,880 --> 01:23:05,880
Speaker 2: Where can people catch you?

1844
01:23:06,160 --> 01:23:07,479
Speaker 1: When does the blackenning to come out?

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01:23:07,560 --> 01:23:07,680
Speaker 4: Uh?

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01:23:07,760 --> 01:23:07,880
Speaker 2: Huh?

1847
01:23:08,880 --> 01:23:12,519
Speaker 5: When I finished? Right, y'all think I'll be in New York.

1848
01:23:12,560 --> 01:23:15,320
Speaker 5: I'm doing stand up again. I'm doing some shows coming up.

1849
01:23:15,479 --> 01:23:18,280
Speaker 5: I'm working on a one man show that I'm excited

1850
01:23:18,360 --> 01:23:20,760
Speaker 5: to put up, so I'll post about that. You can

1851
01:23:20,800 --> 01:23:23,800
Speaker 5: find me on the grams at Dwayne Perkins. D e

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01:23:24,400 --> 01:23:27,880
Speaker 5: w A y n e W is another nigga. Do

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01:23:28,000 --> 01:23:28,680
Speaker 5: not do that now?

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01:23:29,280 --> 01:23:33,080
Speaker 1: E w A y n E Perkins love it. See

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01:23:33,120 --> 01:23:34,879
Speaker 1: you at dance class and are matching blazers.

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01:23:35,800 --> 01:23:36,479
Speaker 5: I won't be there.

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01:23:37,280 --> 01:23:38,320
Speaker 1: I'm gonna bring you a blazer.

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01:23:43,000 --> 01:23:45,880
Speaker 4: Mess with Sydney Washington and Marie Foston is a production

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01:23:49,760 --> 01:23:52,479
Speaker 4: and hosted by Sidney Washington and Marie Foston.

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01:23:52,640 --> 01:23:56,759
Speaker 1: Executive produced by Olivia Aguilar and Hans Sonni super produced

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