Speaker 1: Are the apps and endless hit of disappointment? Are your
Speaker 1: friends pushing you to swipe left when you feel like
Speaker 1: you should be swiping right? Well, drop that phone and
Speaker 1: give Auelita's intuition a go. This is Date My Aurida First,
Speaker 1: where our fabulous Alita Aleana plays match maker for our
Speaker 1: star dater and three lucky contestants looking for Alita's guidance
Speaker 1: and winning the perfect match.
Speaker 2: Then these young gonna work.
Speaker 1: Another season of Date My Alida First.
Speaker 2: What do you think will happen this season?
Speaker 3: Uh?
Speaker 4: Oh, my Vico, I am so happy we're here again. Well,
Speaker 4: I cannot see into the future, but I do have
Speaker 4: a good intuition that Alita knows best and it's going
Speaker 4: to be a fun ride, dhicle.
Speaker 2: Yes it is. Let's roll up our sleeves and get to.
Speaker 4: Work, right eab You are such a lover boy, and
Speaker 4: I feel like you're always crushing on someone. Now, who
Speaker 4: do you have a crush on this week?
Speaker 1: Oh it's too many to count, Wilida, I'm constantly crushing
Speaker 1: on people.
Speaker 4: You just did on two of them this morning.
Speaker 5: I know.
Speaker 1: I just I see someone and I'm just like my
Speaker 1: heart immediately is like Dooki, Doki, you know what I'm.
Speaker 4: Saying, Dooki.
Speaker 2: But I'm not the only lover boy here, because we.
Speaker 1: Get a finer lover boy, main dater, someone to crush on.
Speaker 4: Yes, yes, yes, love is what we're all looking for.
Speaker 4: I think it's just around the corner. So let's do this, huh.
Speaker 1: This week's main dater told us that he thinks he
Speaker 1: was conceived after a Billy Idle concert. What music puts
Speaker 1: you in the mood?
Speaker 4: The music that puts me in the mood is some
Speaker 4: good sexy susa.
Speaker 2: Okay, bring it, Okay, see you it's your sausa.
Speaker 1: Okay, all right, let's get to it. Let's meet our
Speaker 1: main dater, Rufus. He is a skater and a triple scorpio,
Speaker 1: oh my god.
Speaker 2: Which he's been told as a red flag.
Speaker 1: He's a fashion photographer, jiu jitsu enthusiast, and his dream
Speaker 1: girl is Mortitia Adams from the Adams family. Rufus, I
Speaker 1: dig you so much. This is excellent, this is amazing.
Speaker 1: We have so much to work with here. I am
Speaker 1: very excited for this intense honey.
Speaker 6: Rufous, Hey, guys, how's everyone doing.
Speaker 2: So so good? Give us a little bit of yourself?
Speaker 1: What makes you take What would your besties say to
Speaker 1: describe you?
Speaker 2: Give us some easy breezy.
Speaker 6: Facts, easy breezy facts coming right in.
Speaker 7: I mean, I guess people how they describe me as
Speaker 7: pretty funny and fun loving and just joking around constantly.
Speaker 7: I try to hide that serious and intense, passionate part
Speaker 7: as much as possible, and then once it happens to you,
Speaker 7: we're just kind of like, whoa where did this come from?
Speaker 7: You know, because I do care a lot. I like
Speaker 7: to get year as possible, but it becomes draining, you know,
Speaker 7: especially in a city where people don't want to get
Speaker 7: that deep, and I just try to be a little
Speaker 7: bit reserved, you know, from the outside. But then that
Speaker 7: just turns into me having way too much fun.
Speaker 2: Mmmmmmmm No, that noted. I will lead that. What questions
Speaker 2: do you have for Rufus today?
Speaker 4: Well, according to what I've learned so far, you seem
Speaker 4: to be a very spontaneous individual. So tell me what
Speaker 4: brings that out in you.
Speaker 7: I guess it was just ever since I was young,
Speaker 7: you know, I always wanted to work, and because I
Speaker 7: wanted to work so much, I just was like, oh,
Speaker 7: I'll say yes to this, So all of a sudden,
Speaker 7: I had six different jobs. And I was twenty four
Speaker 7: and had six different careers. Because someone will be like, hey,
Speaker 7: do you want to do this? I'm like yeah, And
Speaker 7: I live my life to be super exciting, to be
Speaker 7: a ton of different places and meet a ton of
Speaker 7: cool people and in my life super enriching. And you know,
Speaker 7: I look back like, yeah, stability, might have been a
Speaker 7: bit nicer and all this stuff, you know, but it
Speaker 7: was just so much fun and might not live a
Speaker 7: dream life.
Speaker 4: And what is it that you do for work?
Speaker 6: Right now? I'm a fashion apurently currently. I know there's
Speaker 6: a lot of others.
Speaker 4: But right now, right now, So you do meet a
Speaker 4: lot of interesting people. So how does that work into
Speaker 4: your day life?
Speaker 6: Oh I keep that so separate.
Speaker 7: Like when I'm shooting and I'm on set, I am
Speaker 7: just total chastity about you know, asexual being. I'm in
Speaker 7: such a zone and such a motive. Oh when I
Speaker 7: work at a small friends and all that, and friends,
Speaker 7: it's kind of usually what I go for, so I
Speaker 7: try not to.
Speaker 6: I don't know folks on dating too much because I
Speaker 6: have so much passion in life.
Speaker 7: But then when I meet someone I'm really into, it's like, oh, okay,
Speaker 7: that's where like the bashing comes out, of the dating
Speaker 7: comes out. It's just I'm a little bit like a dog,
Speaker 7: you know. I get excited after I get to know you,
Speaker 7: but initially I stand on it.
Speaker 1: You said earlier that you had a lot of different
Speaker 1: passions and a lot of different things that you were pursuing,
Speaker 1: and then you mentioned like stability would have been fine,
Speaker 1: but then that also worked out, And now I'm curious,
Speaker 1: how does stability look like for you?
Speaker 2: Right now?
Speaker 7: Stability looks like for me is I'm able to do
Speaker 7: the main things that make me happy and that I love,
Speaker 7: and I'm able to still support myself career wise, have fun.
Speaker 6: I know this is controversial, but I don't like the.
Speaker 7: Whole idea of, oh, let's have a career where we
Speaker 7: can take a vacation to do what we want. It's like, no,
Speaker 7: I want to be able to incorporate my career into
Speaker 7: these different traveling excursions, so to speak. Well, at the
Speaker 7: same time, I don't want to live and work NonStop
Speaker 7: because I've also done that before and I haven't been
Speaker 7: able to enjoy certain places that I've been in certain moments.
Speaker 8: That I've had.
Speaker 1: And you also mentioned earlier that you keep your career
Speaker 1: and your dating life separate. Are you interested in dating
Speaker 1: someone that's also in the same industry or like just
Speaker 1: not working in the same collaboration or is it something
Speaker 1: that down the line maybe you can collaborate.
Speaker 3: With a partner.
Speaker 7: I'm interested in it, definitely. I think that was a
Speaker 7: harder line when I was younger and I was more
Speaker 7: naive and I had a lot to learn. I think
Speaker 7: as especially I got older and I've been in the
Speaker 7: industry long enough, it's nicer because they understand kind of
Speaker 7: where I'm coming from, and they understand the industry and
Speaker 7: they understand how things work. So it's not like, oh,
Speaker 7: you're on set, You're going to be done at six, right,
Speaker 7: and I'm like, I have no idea. As well as people,
Speaker 7: I always get this critique, Oh, you probably surrounded with
Speaker 7: beautiful models the whole time. It's like, yeah, but not
Speaker 7: trying to sleep with all them. Like I'm here to
Speaker 7: do work, like Jesus, And only if you're in the
Speaker 7: industry you really understand that, which I think is kind
Speaker 7: of shallow of the world outside of it.
Speaker 6: But at the same time.
Speaker 1: It's like, you know, looking for someone then that has
Speaker 1: a confidence within themselves that can support what you're doing
Speaker 1: and not be like hypercritical or judgmental the.
Speaker 2: Things that you're doing.
Speaker 6: Yeah, oh definitely.
Speaker 2: When was the last time you had a long term relationship?
Speaker 6: What defines long time?
Speaker 2: I guess, like, what's the longest relationship you've been.
Speaker 6: In probably a year and a half, two years?
Speaker 2: How does that look like?
Speaker 1: And what are the things that you've learned from that
Speaker 1: relationship that you want to definitely continue to pursue, but
Speaker 1: also things that you don't want to keep looking for.
Speaker 7: I mean the main thing is just kind of like
Speaker 7: the passion bash for each other kind of what we
Speaker 7: talked about, and you know, the wanting to like the
Speaker 7: mutual Oh I want to be passionate about you or
Speaker 7: I want you to be passionate about me and who
Speaker 7: at the same time, it's like I want to make
Speaker 7: this person smile and feel that same time I want
Speaker 7: the other person to feel the same way and be
Speaker 7: able to explore and grow in different ways together, Like
Speaker 7: we don't have to grow in exactly the same wavelength.
Speaker 7: We get to do it our own kind of space
Speaker 7: at the same times, those matchup in certain ways and
Speaker 7: it isn't co dependent.
Speaker 2: I guess looking for interdependence. I see.
Speaker 4: Tell me, rufus, what are some of your deal breakers?
Speaker 7: Number one is bad manners, like not being nice and
Speaker 7: bad manners. I can't do it. I can't handle it.
Speaker 7: One I don't like seeing people be mean. It just
Speaker 7: hurts me inside. And two it's just there's no harm
Speaker 7: in being nice and being kind and having manners, so
Speaker 7: it really hurts me. Another thing is and I know
Speaker 7: this is definitely a fashion thing, but kind of like
Speaker 7: bad style or kind of non expressive self style. And
Speaker 7: I'm just like, oh, now is your moment when you
Speaker 7: walk outside to kind of meet like like minded people,
Speaker 7: which I didn't have growing up, and you decide to
Speaker 7: dress like everyone else because that's how people told you
Speaker 7: to be.
Speaker 4: And that's part of you photographer I which also influences that.
Speaker 4: But tell me, are you looking for a serious relationship now?
Speaker 4: Are you ready?
Speaker 3: Oh? Yeah?
Speaker 8: I love that.
Speaker 6: That'd be amazing.
Speaker 1: Your deal breakers are people that are mean, that are unkind, right,
Speaker 1: So then let's look for the green flags. What are
Speaker 1: the things that you're like, ooh, this is a trade
Speaker 1: that I really am attracted to drawn two something that
Speaker 1: I want to cultivate and nurture a life with.
Speaker 6: Definitely keep going back to the word passion. That's a
Speaker 6: big one.
Speaker 7: It's like they're passionate about something, they love, something they
Speaker 7: have an ambition and dream and that something you know,
Speaker 7: culture well read. Is really big for me because you know,
Speaker 7: I am an artist. I do like to know as
Speaker 7: much as possible, to learn as much as possible. So
Speaker 7: those are really big ones for me. And I guess
Speaker 7: kind of like you guys said earlier, this spontaneous attitude
Speaker 7: and being willing to say yes to certain things that
Speaker 7: to everyday people might sound odd, like oh, let's go
Speaker 7: on a trip here randomly, you know, not.
Speaker 6: Planning it out that much.
Speaker 2: What are the things that I come up for you?
Speaker 1: And relationship they're like, Oh, I got to work on
Speaker 1: this and I want I want to show up in
Speaker 1: this way in this new relationship.
Speaker 7: I think a big one for me, I've had to
Speaker 7: think about this a lot kind of in my life
Speaker 7: is being present and not focusing on other parts of
Speaker 7: my life, whether it be career, family, so on and
Speaker 7: so forth. And I'm not feeling bad while I'm with
Speaker 7: someone I'm dating and I really like and enjoying my
Speaker 7: time and then thinking about, oh, but I need to
Speaker 7: chase down these clients and do this and do that,
Speaker 7: and almost feeling guilty for spending time with someone I
Speaker 7: really do appreciate, just because I feel a necessity to
Speaker 7: really put forward my career and these ambitions.
Speaker 1: It's a really beautiful thing to notice within yourself and
Speaker 1: have awareness around.
Speaker 2: So thank you for sharing that.
Speaker 1: We have here in your bio that you are so
Speaker 1: very drawn to. Morticia Adams, Do you consider yourself a
Speaker 1: Gomez like goofy guy with that very stoic power femme
Speaker 1: who's gonna put you in your place? Is that something
Speaker 1: that really is like, oh yeah, I'll be done for that.
Speaker 6: That's a dream marriage or relationship. I don't even know
Speaker 6: why people think otherwise.
Speaker 7: Like they both adore each other, loved each other in
Speaker 7: like their own ways, and very supportive and like you're saying,
Speaker 7: he's goofy, it's funny at the same time, like very
Speaker 7: confident in themselves relationships saying with Mortitia, and it's just
Speaker 7: nothing is breakable between that bond, and it's just wonderful
Speaker 7: and sweet.
Speaker 1: I love that so we're aiming for your mortitia, Adams,
Speaker 1: that's what we're looking for.
Speaker 6: Yeah, well, I know.
Speaker 1: I mean, like, you're a fashion photographer. How does that
Speaker 1: look like? What happens when we find you the mortitia.
Speaker 2: Of your life?
Speaker 1: And then how does that affect or shift and change
Speaker 1: your fashion?
Speaker 4: Viga? If he looks this good in a sweatshirt, I
Speaker 4: can't even imagine how well he will look in a
Speaker 4: tuxedo or a suit.
Speaker 7: I try not to wear it as much because I
Speaker 7: look like a body arter bouncer.
Speaker 2: I get that. I get that.
Speaker 4: What is the one thing that you do not want
Speaker 4: in a relationship? The one thing jealousy?
Speaker 1: Now I counter with this one because we all'll have
Speaker 1: moments of jealousy, and we'll have moments of like desiring
Speaker 1: some sort of possession. How do you handle jealousy when
Speaker 1: it comes up for yourself? And how do you want
Speaker 1: to show up when a partner comes in, like, hey,
Speaker 1: something's coming up? Like what would be your ideal scenario
Speaker 1: when jealousy inevitably arises.
Speaker 7: For me personally, if I feel it, I definitely need
Speaker 7: to look inside it myself. I feel like it comes
Speaker 7: to a place of lack of confidence spoken relationship myself
Speaker 7: and then not trusting the partner you're with. That's the
Speaker 7: only reason why I would come up, especially with someone
Speaker 7: you truly life. If it's flipped in their side, I
Speaker 7: would like them to kind of talk to me and
Speaker 7: kind of hear where they're coming from. Because we really
Speaker 7: care about each other, then we should really talk about
Speaker 7: it communication.
Speaker 4: All right?
Speaker 2: Are we ready? Are we doing it? Is it happening?
Speaker 4: Well? I think this young man with his good looks
Speaker 4: and his smart mind, I think we are ready and
Speaker 4: I hope to do you right.
Speaker 1: Amazing, Well, we're going to send you into hiding mode. Well,
Speaker 1: we get to know some eligible ladies, but we're ready
Speaker 1: to rock and roll.
Speaker 4: Look at that smile. I'm like, from here to here.
Speaker 2: We'll be back after the break. Welcome back today, Miawani
Speaker 2: the first.
Speaker 1: All right, well, now that we've met Rufus, it's time
Speaker 1: to meet some of our excited contestants. Meet Tarnay twenty three,
Speaker 1: a Sagittarius who has described herself as a hardcore.
Speaker 2: Top natural lover girl. She's got the eldest daughter, ya,
Speaker 2: but she's walking it out. Give it up to Tarnay.
Speaker 1: Now let's move on to Marian twenty eight, a psych
Speaker 1: nurse who is the smallest nurse in the unette and
Speaker 1: Barton's on the side. Her go to karaoke is nineties
Speaker 1: twenties and sink or Spice girls. Okay, she's a fan
Speaker 1: of horror and more specifically clowns.
Speaker 4: Oh my god, lordy, what a combo.
Speaker 2: Nice to meet you, Glad to have you here.
Speaker 1: And last, but certainly not least, meet Jessica, a fashion
Speaker 1: designer who could give a ted talk on Denim Brown.
Speaker 1: An outspoken perfectionist who is looking for a man who
Speaker 1: can keep up with her. Ooh, hello, hello Jessica.
Speaker 4: Hi wow, what a beautiful group of ladies. Indeed, lordy, lordy, lord.
Speaker 2: Now the world here.
Speaker 1: Let's just go ahead and hop in and break the
Speaker 1: ice with the game we know and love and might
Speaker 1: sometimes want to avoid.
Speaker 2: Two truths and a lie. Oh yeah, oh yeah.
Speaker 1: In this game, you are to give us three facts
Speaker 1: about yourself and Aworita and I will try to sniff
Speaker 1: out the lie.
Speaker 2: So should we give them some time?
Speaker 4: Do it? Now?
Speaker 5: How PG?
Speaker 4: Is this not at all totally are? I will eat
Speaker 4: this here, so bring it.
Speaker 2: Jessica, take it away. What are your two truth in
Speaker 2: a lie.
Speaker 3: I was a professional figure skater. I have over a
Speaker 3: dozen tattoos and I speak fluent Chinese.
Speaker 9: That's hard.
Speaker 4: You want to talk about this if you want to.
Speaker 2: I think it's the tattoos.
Speaker 4: I think it's the tattoos.
Speaker 9: Also the tattoos.
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, that's actually true. That's true.
Speaker 3: Sixteen tattoos, sixteen tattoos.
Speaker 2: Oh my god.
Speaker 4: Okay, it's the figure skater.
Speaker 5: I was a.
Speaker 4: Very good that's a good deep down. I wanted to
Speaker 4: figure skates somewhere along though never.
Speaker 2: Too late, never too late. Well, thank you for that.
Speaker 2: You tricked a Wilita and VI and I'm gullible as
Speaker 2: hell though, So I Marian, talk to me. What are
Speaker 2: your three?
Speaker 4: Bring it girl?
Speaker 10: Oh my god.
Speaker 5: Okay.
Speaker 11: So my two truths and a lot is that I've
Speaker 11: traveled solo out of the country. I have never had
Speaker 11: a threesome, but I've had a foursome and I have
Speaker 11: a phobia of vomit.
Speaker 4: If you've had a foursome, does that have included threesome?
Speaker 1: No, it's very different for people versus three changes the
Speaker 1: game with the number three is but it's four.
Speaker 4: I am asking an expert.
Speaker 2: Yes, anyway, not saying a word.
Speaker 1: That's the first one America Anyway, I got distracted.
Speaker 2: Okay, Oh, I think it's the vomit. I think it's
Speaker 2: the vomit.
Speaker 5: I actually do have that.
Speaker 4: You do how do you work?
Speaker 2: How do you live life?
Speaker 10: I work in psych We don't see that too much.
Speaker 2: But burgeoning on the side, people be buke and everwhere.
Speaker 2: I used to do the same thing too. What is why?
Speaker 11: Yeah, I've traveled solo too country, but I was meeting people.
Speaker 10: Does that kill you?
Speaker 1: Kept some out of the fact, And usually omission is
Speaker 1: a lie.
Speaker 4: So it's a half asked truth.
Speaker 2: It's a half asked but it still kills as a lie.
Speaker 4: Totally not.
Speaker 2: Talk to us. What are your three?
Speaker 9: Okay?
Speaker 8: The first one is I'm half Mexican. The number two
Speaker 8: is I've only been in one relationship. And three is
Speaker 8: I actually prefer to be vanilla in bed.
Speaker 4: Okay, I'm gonna say that. The half Mexican is the truth.
Speaker 4: Uh huh. The one relationship, I think that's the lie.
Speaker 4: And being vanilla in bed, I mean it can be tasty.
Speaker 4: Did I say something wrong? Now it's everybody laughing around me.
Speaker 1: You're so good, You're so good, So bless you, bless you,
Speaker 1: bless you.
Speaker 2: I'm going to also go with the relationship bed. That's
Speaker 2: the lie.
Speaker 8: Have actually been in one relationships to be vanilla in bed?
Speaker 2: Okay, wait that's right.
Speaker 1: Okay, cool, got it? So you don't prefer to be vanilla? Okay, Cool,
Speaker 1: I confused myself.
Speaker 4: I'm there too. Okay, WELLA is very confused.
Speaker 2: It happens sometimes we Spanish seven.
Speaker 4: Confusion is allowed.
Speaker 1: All right, thank you all so much for playing this
Speaker 1: first round. So it's time to play another game before
Speaker 1: a wait that sends one of our lovely contestants home.
Speaker 2: And wait one second. Uh, the Smoothella.
Speaker 1: Lineup just dropped and you three our headliners. So our
Speaker 1: main dat has been a part of various rock bands
Speaker 1: and plays seven instruments.
Speaker 2: What those fingers do?
Speaker 4: God?
Speaker 2: I am the worst today finger.
Speaker 1: Today, our beautiful contestants will be headlining smooth Ella alongside.
Speaker 2: Our main dater. In this game, we are.
Speaker 1: Asking each of you, inspired by your love life, to
Speaker 1: come up with your band's name and the hit song
Speaker 1: that describes those loves and or heartaches. We will give
Speaker 1: you a bit of time to think about this brainstorm
Speaker 1: and come up with some rock and roll bangers. All right, ladies,
Speaker 1: I will eat that and I are ready to start
Speaker 1: the most.
Speaker 2: Night one was not expecting that.
Speaker 1: I feel like you should be going to like a
Speaker 1: heavy metal or rock concert. Maybe salsa is not for you.
Speaker 3: No.
Speaker 2: Night one. The headliner is Marian Yeah, tell us your
Speaker 2: band name and your hit song.
Speaker 11: Our band is the Pisces and our hit song is
Speaker 11: sixty nine.
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, yes.
Speaker 10: That night thought everybody can relate.
Speaker 2: To, absolutely, absoluteolutely. Thank you so much for that, Mariah.
Speaker 4: And the year it was a busy year.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you actually were there there.
Speaker 4: Yeah, sixty nine, three hundred and sixty five times.
Speaker 2: Yo, oh oh and nine two. Headliner is Jessica. What
Speaker 2: is your band name and what is your hit song?
Speaker 3: So our band name is called the Secret Kink, although
Speaker 3: it's not so secret, and then our hit single platinum record,
Speaker 3: by the way, is called timey Up.
Speaker 1: Daddy, Yes, yes, yes, yes, okay, I'm into this.
Speaker 2: This is fantastic.
Speaker 4: You would have daddy tie you up.
Speaker 2: I'd be tatty tying up.
Speaker 4: But thank you.
Speaker 2: Way too much.
Speaker 4: What is the Secret Kink?
Speaker 5: There are so many drop one on.
Speaker 2: Us, drop one on us, too good, too good, incredible.
Speaker 2: Headliner for night too.
Speaker 1: Headlining Night number three is Tournay.
Speaker 2: Give us your band name and song.
Speaker 8: My band name would be bad and Bougie. Yes, the
Speaker 8: song would be There's the First Time for Everything.
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, romantics. I love it, I love it, love it.
Speaker 4: Listen my neck, my back, my smoochie and my crack.
Speaker 4: Well motion with you ladies was a blast.
Speaker 2: Well, that was exhilarating.
Speaker 1: It's time now for AA to choose which two contestants
Speaker 1: will move forward and who is gonna get a little.
Speaker 2: Tender chunk lit bye bye.
Speaker 1: But hearing from all you seems like a good chunk
Speaker 1: late that is a good time as well, So.
Speaker 2: Aita, do you want to go ahead and do the thing?
Speaker 4: This was very, very difficult because at the end, Awlita
Speaker 4: has to say what she thinks and I'm surrounded by
Speaker 4: people who might not agree with me. But at the
Speaker 4: end of the day, I am thinking about our main dater,
Speaker 4: the things that would put you guys together, how you
Speaker 4: would connect. And today I must say goodbye to a beautiful,
Speaker 4: beautiful woman. And I'm sorry to see you go. Marian.
Speaker 1: Listen, we adore you. You've been so much fun.
Speaker 10: Thank you guys so much for having me. It was
Speaker 10: so much fun.
Speaker 4: Thank you, my love.
Speaker 2: Will be your right back. Welcome back to day may
Speaker 2: A Alita first.
Speaker 1: Okay, well, now it's time to get more intimate with
Speaker 1: a remaining too contestant. We're going to send Ahelita now
Speaker 1: into two speed dates with each of you called da.
Speaker 1: So shall we get you without one on one Liliana?
Speaker 4: Okay, let's do this now. Hello, Darnay, how are you?
Speaker 9: I'm good? How are you?
Speaker 4: I am doing great? But now I have to get
Speaker 4: a little personal with you and find out what you
Speaker 4: are all about. Okay, So tell me a little bit
Speaker 4: about your love relationships in the past.
Speaker 9: Okay.
Speaker 8: So, like I've mentioned before, my truth, I've only been
Speaker 8: in one relationship.
Speaker 9: It was with the high school sweetheart.
Speaker 8: It was my best friend from seventh grade and then
Speaker 8: eventually ninth grade we had gotten together. We were together
Speaker 8: for three years, and then senior year of high school,
Speaker 8: he broke up with me because he wanted to work
Speaker 8: on himself, meaning that there was just someone new that
Speaker 8: he met and he wanted to give it a shot.
Speaker 9: So he went and did that.
Speaker 4: He broke up with you when you were eighteen. I'm
Speaker 4: assuming yes, So what has kept you out of a
Speaker 4: relationship all these years.
Speaker 9: Well, here's the thing.
Speaker 8: So he went with someone else, broke up with that person,
Speaker 8: and at eighteen I was very naive, gullible, so I
Speaker 8: took him back and then we were together until I
Speaker 8: was twenty one years old, and then he did the
Speaker 8: same thing again.
Speaker 4: Okay, what I would lead, that would tell you is
Speaker 4: leave the past where it belongs.
Speaker 9: Oh yeah, for sure. I've healed from that situation thankfully.
Speaker 4: And what is it that you're looking for now?
Speaker 8: I really just want to find someone who's nurturing, someone
Speaker 8: who can take care of me, not necessarily financially, but emotionally,
Speaker 8: just to know that someone else is looking out for me.
Speaker 8: I've grown up in like a first generation immigrant household.
Speaker 8: I'm the eldest daughter, so I feel like I always
Speaker 8: had the role since I was younger to like take
Speaker 8: care and provide for my family or all that stuff.
Speaker 8: So I feel like I've never felt that reciprocated back
Speaker 8: to me, and I feel like it'd be nice to
Speaker 8: find that in a partner or you know.
Speaker 4: Well though you've never had it in the past, you
Speaker 4: only stop to this one. God so fortunate, and that
Speaker 4: was a bad idea it was.
Speaker 8: I definitely do believe it's a bad idea. I have
Speaker 8: no regrets because it bore me into the person I
Speaker 8: am today. So I'm a lot stronger because of it.
Speaker 4: You learned a lot and you are have Latina, yes,
Speaker 4: and very close to your grandparents. What is that about?
Speaker 4: Have they given you any wonderful advice about love?
Speaker 8: There's been moments where I've cried to them. I'm like, oh, like,
Speaker 8: when am I going to find my person? Why don't
Speaker 8: I always have bad luck? But they're like, you know, why,
Speaker 8: why don't you change the negative to a positive and
Speaker 8: say maybe this is happening because you have to take
Speaker 8: care of yourself right now. Maybe you have to be alone,
Speaker 8: Maybe you have to figure out who you are before
Speaker 8: you can find someone who love you and learn to
Speaker 8: love yourself first. And then we say that like the
Speaker 8: right person will come when you least expect it.
Speaker 4: So are you a jealous woman?
Speaker 9: I would say, like seriously jealous?
Speaker 8: Maybe like like a little like joke.
Speaker 9: Here and there, but nothing crazy.
Speaker 4: You know something that you can communicate to your partner.
Speaker 8: Yes, that's something I'm really big on too. I feel
Speaker 8: like I was the one that preferred to community in
Speaker 8: the past.
Speaker 4: Okay, so what else would you like this person to
Speaker 4: know about you?
Speaker 8: That I have a really big heart and it's been
Speaker 8: taken advantage of a lot. And I hope that he
Speaker 8: sees me for who I am and doesn't try to
Speaker 8: change me.
Speaker 4: So you are ready for this relationship. I've been ready,
Speaker 4: You've been ready.
Speaker 1: So sorry to interrupt, but Awilita here is a busy woman.
Speaker 2: So we're gonna move on to our next speed date.
Speaker 2: Thank you so much.
Speaker 1: Turna, Jessica, it is your turn now for a woman
Speaker 1: one with a Wilita.
Speaker 4: Oh gosh, Emertine, Oh no, Awilita has the chunk late
Speaker 4: here just in case. No, no, I'm kidding, Jessica. You're
Speaker 4: a beautiful woman. You seem to have your life together.
Speaker 4: Tell me about that.
Speaker 3: So I'm working as a fashion designer in the denim industry.
Speaker 5: I have a degree in Denham Wow.
Speaker 3: So I'm very ambitious with my career. I'm very like
Speaker 3: gold driven career oriented, but I still like love to
Speaker 3: make time for my friends and my family. So I
Speaker 3: feel like I have that good like work life balance.
Speaker 3: But I'm like really big on ambition and like really
Speaker 3: going for it.
Speaker 4: You want a man who is ambitious and who's got
Speaker 4: his life together. What is he like? What do you
Speaker 4: want to see in that relationship with him?
Speaker 3: Like a willingness for open communication. I'm big on like
Speaker 3: talking about your feelings and not kind of like shutting
Speaker 3: things away and having them like bubble up later. Definitely
Speaker 3: like an element of trust. And yeah, if our lifestyles
Speaker 3: kind of match up, that would be great.
Speaker 4: Are you ready for a relationship?
Speaker 3: I would say yes, I'm definitely ready for a relationship.
Speaker 3: In the past, I used to hop from relationship to
Speaker 3: relationship because I think I've had a fear of being alone.
Speaker 3: But I think as I get older in life, I'm
Speaker 3: really comfortable being with myself, being with my friends, and
Speaker 3: if someone comes along, then you know, that's perfect.
Speaker 4: You have truly grown us woman that we can see
Speaker 4: that you're a beautiful young lady. What is it that
Speaker 4: you want this man to know about you? Then no
Speaker 4: one else does?
Speaker 9: Oh, then no one else does.
Speaker 4: Something just for him.
Speaker 3: I'm a very like passionate person. I'm very passionate in
Speaker 3: the bedroom as.
Speaker 4: Well, So alrighty, now.
Speaker 3: Someone who can like keep up with that is kind
Speaker 3: of essential to me. It's like a core value is
Speaker 3: like intimacy, whether that be in the bedroom or just
Speaker 3: like talking.
Speaker 5: I'm really close to my family.
Speaker 3: I'm Chinese American, so my culture is very important to
Speaker 3: me as well. So if he's down to like learn
Speaker 3: more about my culture, I love people are open to them.
Speaker 1: Thank you so so much for our remaining condescens You
Speaker 1: have made it through the Gafesito, and now we're just
Speaker 1: one round of games away to pick zioiner.
Speaker 2: So let's just get to it.
Speaker 1: Our main dater wants to know that his partner doesn't
Speaker 1: have bad taste, So let's go ahead and play out
Speaker 1: what's in and what's out?
Speaker 2: In this game, you will be.
Speaker 1: Given two subjects or scenarios, and you have to choose
Speaker 1: which you think is in and which you think is out?
Speaker 1: All right, So no answer is necessarily wrong, but that
Speaker 1: doesn't mean that Ileana or myself.
Speaker 4: What are you judging? You?
Speaker 2: Or talk about it?
Speaker 4: All right? Let me give them the first one. Are
Speaker 4: you ladies ready? What's in and what's out? Communicating carefully
Speaker 4: with your partner or sarcasm to the point of roasting
Speaker 4: your partner for fun? How about you, Jessica.
Speaker 3: I would say like sarcasm and roasting a little bit
Speaker 3: of fun, a little back and forth banter.
Speaker 8: I like that, Tarney, I take communicating carefully is in
Speaker 8: because I feel like you can have fun or be
Speaker 8: funny in ways other than roasting.
Speaker 9: That would be my two cents on it.
Speaker 2: QQQ, thank you into into it. Here's mine?
Speaker 1: What's in? What's out? Boyfriend Dick or himbos?
Speaker 9: Oh, himbos are out.
Speaker 2: Tarnay, himbos are out?
Speaker 9: No nice are out?
Speaker 2: So then boyfriend Dick definitely in.
Speaker 9: All the way, all the way.
Speaker 2: The jokes her art and less. It's great, Jessica, what
Speaker 2: do you think.
Speaker 9: Boyfriend Dick is in?
Speaker 1: Boyfriend Dick is in and himbos are out? I will say, though,
Speaker 1: if this was a THEMBO, then I would be thembos
Speaker 1: are in because I'm a fucking golden retriever, just like
Speaker 1: take away?
Speaker 4: Which one is your? Okay? What's in? What's out? Being
Speaker 4: friendly with an X or ignoring their existence before your
Speaker 4: current relationship? Mmmm?
Speaker 2: Interesting?
Speaker 4: Oh Jessica, I go for it.
Speaker 3: I will say being friendly with your ex is out.
Speaker 9: I think I would agree to.
Speaker 1: So both Tarnay and Jessica are saying that being friendly
Speaker 1: with the ex is out and ignoring their existence before
Speaker 1: your current.
Speaker 4: Relationship is in very good.
Speaker 2: Yeah, is it time for us to let them know
Speaker 2: our secret gone?
Speaker 4: I've been waiting forever. No, tell them, let's tell them, Well,
Speaker 4: so a little.
Speaker 1: Did you know that our main data has been listening
Speaker 1: this whole time. He's been lurking in their shadows, looking
Speaker 1: at everything and listening to all. Here's the thing, though,
Speaker 1: Awalita might have an idea of who she likes for him,
Speaker 1: but we're gonna have you step out for a second
Speaker 1: to see we have a unanimous decision. In the meantime,
Speaker 1: muchisimas gaias to the both of you. Be truly, it's
Speaker 1: been so much fun. Thank you so much for playing.
Speaker 1: We'll deliberate and then we'll bring you back in and
Speaker 1: the damn thing.
Speaker 2: Yes, rufus, get over here. Let's have a little chat
Speaker 2: before we deliberate. What are your thoughts?
Speaker 7: I think that both really funny and sweet and to
Speaker 7: her name or is like, Oh, she's really funny and sweet.
Speaker 7: I'm just afraid that she might have a lot more
Speaker 7: to learn even though she's sweet. I love her journey
Speaker 7: that she's like going for it and listening to herself,
Speaker 7: but seemed like that Jessica is kind of on the opposite.
Speaker 7: She's kind of not this next severe I kind of
Speaker 7: fit where it's like, oh I don't need someone. It's like, oh,
Speaker 7: I'm myself and if I have someone that's incredible and
Speaker 7: I want to foster that and not like, oh, here's someone,
Speaker 7: I'm going to make this work, or let's find someone
Speaker 7: just to date because we want to date them, which
Speaker 7: I think is great.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm right there with you. Thank you
Speaker 1: for that input, Gees, Yes, all right, I will need that.
Speaker 1: So I think, you know, right on the money, Tourney's
Speaker 1: super sweet, adorable, precious, needs a little bit more of experience.
Speaker 1: And I very much am aligned with Rufus in terms
Speaker 1: of like exploring a dynamic with her might end up
Speaker 1: taking more of a caretaking role rather than an equal
Speaker 1: type of role. I think that Jessica I can step up,
Speaker 1: not step up. I think that if any of the
Speaker 1: reason needs to step up to Jessica.
Speaker 4: Well, you know, I'm very happy of how this turned
Speaker 4: out in my mind and in my heart because I
Speaker 4: did want to give Tarnay another chance and Rufus so
Speaker 4: that he could know a little bit more about her. Yes,
Speaker 4: the fact that she doesn't have that much experience of
Speaker 4: course counts in. And I think from minute one Jessica
Speaker 4: has been the choice. Yeah, yeah, there's no question about it.
Speaker 1: Let's bring in our contestins and share the verdict. Welcome
Speaker 1: back our lead that has landed on a match. So
Speaker 1: our leader, Liliana, what you gotta say.
Speaker 4: As you sure that this is very very very difficult.
Speaker 4: You are both amazing women at different stages of your life.
Speaker 4: However that came into consideration, especially where our main data
Speaker 4: is also at and without any more questions in your minds,
Speaker 4: the beautiful woman that will be dating our young man
Speaker 4: is Jessica.
Speaker 1: So thank you, Jessica, Tarnie. Thank you so so so
Speaker 1: very much, Johnny.
Speaker 4: Lots of lug and blessings in your future life. You
Speaker 4: are an amazing young lady. Thank you, thank you so much.
Speaker 4: Thank you.
Speaker 2: So Jessica. Without further Ado, Rufus get on in.
Speaker 6: Nice to meet you.
Speaker 4: Rufa's first impression.
Speaker 6: Oh, immediately, like I was just kind of taken.
Speaker 7: I was like, oh, she's like very elegant, she cares
Speaker 7: herself very well, and she seems very funny and sweet
Speaker 7: and there's definitely a lot too. Also the fashion designer
Speaker 7: as well, and really drawing into yourself since I'm a
Speaker 7: fashion photographer and I've kind of lived all around the
Speaker 7: world doing different jobs. That was really fascinating to me.
Speaker 7: And you know, a nice little match. Also the roasting
Speaker 7: bit as well. It's important, you.
Speaker 5: Know, I think so too.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yes, yes, And Jessica at first impressions on rufus
Speaker 1: very attractive.
Speaker 3: I love your style with the hoodie and the chain.
Speaker 3: It's cool to find out that you've been like doing.
Speaker 9: Like fashion photography.
Speaker 5: That's really cool. So that's like a little thing in common.
Speaker 6: Absolutely, they were like, oh, you're wearing a hoodie.
Speaker 4: I'm sorry, Vigovid, we are. I don't want us anymore.
Speaker 1: I want to I want to find clarity here that
Speaker 1: it was a Wilida roasting you for the hoodie, just
Speaker 1: saying well, I can definitely feel the tension. Let's let these.
Speaker 2: Two off on a virtual date where we get to
Speaker 2: sit back Beachie's Mosses and listen.
Speaker 3: Well, hi, Hi, how was it like listening to all
Speaker 3: of us like give answers and everything.
Speaker 7: It was pretty awkward, not gonna lie, but also was
Speaker 7: like fun and fascinating, like yeah, no, I think she's there. Yeah,
Speaker 7: it was like pretty funny and weird. I've never like
Speaker 7: done one of these things or.
Speaker 6: Anything like this.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 9: Same.
Speaker 6: What was it like answering the questions and feeling like
Speaker 6: the contested Oh.
Speaker 3: Gosh, well, I love like trash your reality TV, but
Speaker 3: I have like never I never want to go on
Speaker 3: it because it feels like like emotional trauma that I
Speaker 3: don't want. I think I was just hoping that I
Speaker 3: would like be like witty on camera as I would
Speaker 3: be off camera. I was like, oh, I hope I
Speaker 3: don't like get choked up or anything, but I feel
Speaker 3: like I did.
Speaker 7: Okay, right, I was like, okay, am on. I was
Speaker 7: just like I'm just like great, like revealing this great prize.
Speaker 7: I'm like, no, she's fantastic, like she's I'm just gonna
Speaker 7: hear what caught you into fashion? Because your figure skate
Speaker 7: are extraordinary?
Speaker 3: Well, I don't want figure skate anymore. It was when
Speaker 3: I was a kid, I used to compete. I was
Speaker 3: never like the math and science kid that my parents
Speaker 3: wanted me to be. I was like gravitating towards the arts.
Speaker 5: I actually used to play guit I.
Speaker 9: Still have one in my closet.
Speaker 5: But yeah, I think fashion.
Speaker 3: I just kept going back to it, like it was
Speaker 3: just something that I would like keep drawing or had
Speaker 3: like an interest in. So I came to La to
Speaker 3: go to school here.
Speaker 5: I went to fit them in downtown.
Speaker 6: Both my sister and my mom went to fit them.
Speaker 5: Oh really, Yeah. I did two degrees.
Speaker 3: I did a degree in product development and then I
Speaker 3: did an advanced study in Denham and I thought I
Speaker 3: was going to go more into the business side, but
Speaker 3: I ended up falling into design and I just love
Speaker 3: it so kind of my thing.
Speaker 7: Now, you were just forc into being creative. You have
Speaker 7: no choice basically.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's perfect. I love being creative. I don't think
Speaker 5: I could not be totally.
Speaker 6: I mean, I was looking for good venim yesterday. I
Speaker 6: wish I had your you know, input.
Speaker 9: It's like I'm here to help.
Speaker 6: Oh, I actually get to see in real life. It's
Speaker 6: not just.
Speaker 5: Not just a computer screen.
Speaker 7: Like hiding behind you know, a producer tag. Yeah right,
Speaker 7: it being amazing. Really one, I'm really happy that, you know,
Speaker 7: I got to talk to you now and all this.
Speaker 5: Yeah, I know, Yeah, I'm not much of like a
Speaker 5: zoom person.
Speaker 3: It makes me kind of anxious sometimes, but it feels
Speaker 3: more like natural, like getting to know everybody and getting
Speaker 3: to know you.
Speaker 7: Oh, I mean you do the same thing I do.
Speaker 7: It's like we look away kind of when we talk
Speaker 7: on like right.
Speaker 6: Fucking They're like, no, get the fuck out of here.
Speaker 7: You're like wonderful, be lovely to meet your you know
Speaker 7: soon obviously if you have the three times, Oh.
Speaker 5: Totally yeah, I can make time.
Speaker 2: Well wow, wow wow. I hope those sweeties hit it off.
Speaker 1: Find us back here next week as Leanna and I
Speaker 1: make some more matches.
Speaker 2: Good work today, I want need them.
Speaker 4: Oh we did good. I like what I'm looking at.
Speaker 1: Date Miami The First is a production from WV Sound
Speaker 1: and iHeartMedia as Michael Dura podcast Network, hosted by me
Speaker 1: vig orbis joined by the Fabulous Lenna Montenegro bait My
Speaker 1: Hourly the First is produced by Leo Clem, Nico Raguel,
Speaker 1: and Sophie Spencer Zavos.
Speaker 2: Our executive producers are Wilmer Valderrama, Leo Clem, and Nico
Speaker 2: Raguel w V Sound.
Speaker 1: This episode was edited by Sean Tracy and Nico Raguel.
Speaker 1: This episode features original music by Gabe Lopez and Alvaro Morello.
Speaker 1: Special thanks to our team of cubits at w V Entertainment.
Speaker 2: Special Things.
Speaker 1: Also to our hole for romantics this week, Rufus, Marian,
Speaker 1: Jessica and Tarnay. Additional thanks to Salt and Line Media.
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Speaker 1: in the meantime, don't do anything Awalita wouldn't do.
Speaker 4: Just do it better. Okay, besitos