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Speaker 1: This is John, This is Okay Storytime podcast hosts, and

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Speaker 1: H My mother came out as queer. I told her,

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Speaker 1: it's what's ruined our family. Uh, what you're talking about.

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Speaker 1: I don't know if this is the right place to

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Speaker 1: go either, since I'm sixteen, female and mostly with my dad.

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Speaker 1: But I spent a weekend every month with my mom.

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Speaker 1: They divorced three years ago. My mom moved in with

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Speaker 1: my cousin and it was cool because I went there

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Speaker 1: all the time. I guess to hang out with a cousin.

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Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from Van Baby Pony and

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Speaker 1: our slash Okay Storytime subur it. So a year and

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Speaker 1: a half ago, my mom made me go there. I

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Speaker 1: guess to the cousin's place and introduced me to this

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Speaker 1: girl and then came out to me and said they

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Speaker 1: were dating. She and her fiance are engaged. Now wow,

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Speaker 1: we're going we're going straight in. She also said they

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Speaker 1: were moving to Victoria in a week. Oh wow. Whoa

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Speaker 1: that did a lot of change happening all at once

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Speaker 1: for a sixteen year old. Yeah, after a week she

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Speaker 1: was gone. From where I am to her, it's a drive,

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Speaker 1: a fairy ride, and another drive. It takes a while

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Speaker 1: to see her, and that's why I can only go

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Speaker 1: once a month since then. Since she left, everything is

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Speaker 1: so sucky between us. Now it's like good morning messages

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Speaker 1: and FaceTime good night for five minutes, So their relationship

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Speaker 1: is kind of not as good as it was. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and everything else that changed with her sucks too. I

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Speaker 1: don't even like visiting her because it's like I don't

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Speaker 1: belong with her and her fiance. But I still go

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Speaker 1: because I thought she wanted to see me, and I

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Speaker 1: miss her a lot every day, So it's like it's

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Speaker 1: like she's been caught out of her own family. Sad

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Speaker 1: kid man, Yeah, that's her mom. This weekend, I was

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Speaker 1: in Victoria and she was facetiming my cousin while I studied.

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Speaker 1: They got to talking about the wedding, so the mom

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Speaker 1: and her new fiance, and she started saying stuff like

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Speaker 1: her life is one hundred times better since she left,

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Speaker 1: and how she's finally found real happiness and her fiance

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Speaker 1: and how her fiance is her world now and how

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Speaker 1: she can't wait fully move on from her old life.

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Speaker 1: I could have said that, and you're hearing that as

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Speaker 1: a kid, dude like this, this sixteen year old is like, oh,

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Speaker 1: like I'm the old life. I'm the Yeah, I'm the

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Speaker 1: old life. It just made me so freaking angry, like

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Speaker 1: her life is so much better with me barely in it,

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Speaker 1: and move on from that old life. I'm from that

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Speaker 1: old life. I guess she noticed I was pissed because

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Speaker 1: at night she tried to talk to me. I said,

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Speaker 1: I didn't want to talk, but she was like, she

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Speaker 1: deserves to know when something's wrong with her girl, since

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Speaker 1: I always seem so depressed whenever I come over, maybe

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Speaker 1: because you're not actually giving her the time of day. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: and that just made me snap. I lost it and

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Speaker 1: started shouting at her. I told her, I effing hate

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Speaker 1: the way she came out because my life got a

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Speaker 1: lot worse and it ruined things between us. I said,

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Speaker 1: it sucks that it feels like she wants me gone

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Speaker 1: because she's happier without me. And that started a pretty

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Speaker 1: bad argument because she was like, I'm blowing it out

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Speaker 1: of proportion. I just don't understand. We read a story

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Speaker 1: about this before where it's like, yeah, your kids aren't

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Speaker 1: going to understand, and so you have to make sure

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Speaker 1: that you communicate things clearly and consistently in these big changes,

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Speaker 1: because what will happen if you don't is the change

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Speaker 1: will just build up as resentment because a sixteen year

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Speaker 1: for a f forty year old woman to come out,

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Speaker 1: doesn't know all the intricacy of what it means to

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Speaker 1: even have, like I mean a divorce happened when she

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Speaker 1: was thirteen. Like, she's not going to know everything. Your

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Speaker 1: job as a parent is to explain things that she

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Speaker 1: doesn't understand straight bowl in a china shop. Yeah, Like

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Speaker 1: like she's just like absolutely wrecking all of op's like

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Speaker 2: Like again she's like, Oh, you're basically you're so thrilled

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Speaker 2: which is totally fine. And that's what I mean.

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Speaker 1: Maybe these things are out of context, but that's what

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Speaker 1: it seems like it is. And Sophia Collin says, mom

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Speaker 1: is self centered that's kind of what it feels like too. Yeah, well,

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Speaker 1: then mom just left the room, but I heard her

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Speaker 1: me to the ferry right after breakfast instead of after dinner.

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Speaker 1: Since then, it's just been texts because I didn't want

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Speaker 1: and he lipped, telling me I couldn't say that crap

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Speaker 1: to my mom and his girlfriend, and I was the

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Speaker 1: a hole for saying it really quick pausing here is

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Speaker 1: op the a hole for saying that, because I think

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Speaker 1: maybe what the dad is interpreting this as is like, oh,

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Speaker 1: you're being homophobic to your mom by saying like I

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Speaker 1: hate that you came out right, And I think Honeybee says,

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Speaker 1: it's not about the gay it's about the abandonment. Yea,

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Speaker 1: Beyonce's mom did this at thirteen, dumped him on his

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Speaker 1: dad and then moved away with a new partner. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I think that's a good That's exactly what it is.

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Speaker 2: And it's like, I'm kind of shocked that I guess

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Speaker 2: the father and the mother were in a relationship for

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Speaker 2: a reason. They say, I'm like two peas in a

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Speaker 2: pod of not understanding how to parent your child and

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Speaker 2: be like emotionally aware.

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, And I think they're they're like chastising op

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Speaker 1: for the wrong thing. They're chastising her for, like the

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Speaker 1: I don't know, maybe this homophobe comment. We're gonna get

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Speaker 1: more context instead of addressing the abandonment, like you said,

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Speaker 1: exactly well, and she said so. Before I went to sleep,

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Speaker 1: I facetimed my mom to talk again, and she said,

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Speaker 1: my happiness is hers, and if she's why I'm depressed,

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Speaker 1: I shouldn't see her until I'm ready. Again missing the point, Oh,

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Speaker 1: missing the point. I'm missing the point now. I don't

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Speaker 1: know if I was wrong to say that crap to

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Speaker 1: my mom or what I should do. Even my fing

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Speaker 1: counselor is still in Barbados, and my dad's at work

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Speaker 1: and his girlfriend's staying out of it, and my cousin

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Speaker 1: is too. Again. Sorry, if this is the wrong subura,

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Speaker 1: there's a better one for me post in let me know.

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Speaker 1: And we do have an updates that's coming up, so

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Speaker 1: I'll a lot of crap has happened. This is my

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Speaker 1: last post, and I just feel more crap than before.

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Speaker 1: I didn't plan on posting here again, but you all

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Speaker 1: were so nice. I thought it couldn't hurt to hear

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Speaker 1: what you have to say. But I called my uncle.

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Speaker 1: He wanted to see me because I was scared my

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Speaker 1: dad told him, and that he's ashamed of me too

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Speaker 1: because he's attracted to the same gender and he's my

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Speaker 1: favorite uncle ever. So she's scared that because she said,

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Speaker 1: I'm like annoyed that you came out to her mom,

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Speaker 1: that this uncle that she loves is going to disown

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Speaker 1: her or whatever. Yeah, So he picked me up after

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Speaker 1: gave me a big hug because he knew something was up.

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Speaker 1: So I told him the uncle what I said and

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Speaker 1: me he isn't mad and he understands. I played basketball

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Speaker 1: at the court nearby until it was time for him

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Speaker 1: to drop me off. That was the last time I

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Speaker 1: even felt happy, because the higher rest of the month

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Speaker 1: has been absolute prep. It's crazy that the uncle is

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Speaker 1: like the only one that understands how to be there

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Speaker 1: for this kid, the only adult so far that gets

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Speaker 1: I phone my mom to say sorry the day after

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Speaker 1: and talk about how I feel. But all she did

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Speaker 1: said I'm not allowed to share stuff about her home

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Speaker 1: without her permission. Would isolate your kid more? Yeah, you're

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Speaker 1: continuing to exacerbate the problem. Yeah, Like like she like

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Speaker 1: OP doesn't feel like you're listening to her, so goes

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Speaker 1: to the one person that does feel like they're actually listening,

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Speaker 1: which they are, and now you're banned. Like like this

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Speaker 1: is the mom is banning OP from that that. I mean,

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Speaker 1: you're the way to cut off all of her support structors. Truly.

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Speaker 1: I said I was sorry about both things, but she

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Speaker 1: said it didn't matter now and just hung up. Then

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Speaker 1: a few days to calm down. That just made me mad,

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Speaker 1: because why should I. He's my mom. I should be

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Speaker 1: able to phone her whenever. And I tried, but she

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I haven't sept properly at all since then,

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Speaker 1: and all she's been doing is texting me and we

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Speaker 1: like I've got this soft lump in my stomach that

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Speaker 1: It feels like I was right about me being part

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Speaker 1: of her old life, and I wish i'd never said

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Speaker 1: what I did to her. Yeah, and I saw someone

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Speaker 1: in chat up there say maybe she should try living

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Speaker 1: only one that actually understand Yes. Then it turns out

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Speaker 1: I was supposed to get a tetnis shot when I

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Speaker 1: anti vaxers, so I had to get it now because

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Speaker 1: Dad said VHA was on his butt. I ended up

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Speaker 1: having a terrible allergic reaction to it. I got sent

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Speaker 1: Apparently it was a super rare reaction. Pray for me

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Speaker 1: that messed up my exams too. My mom didn't even

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Speaker 1: come see me because she was going to a cabin

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Speaker 1: with her fiance. The next day, he's like, I got

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Speaker 1: a pack. You got a pack. She talked to my

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Speaker 1: dad on the phone and learned how bad it was,

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Speaker 1: but all she did was text me saying she knew

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Speaker 1: I'd be better.

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Speaker 2: Oh the kitty cat, those things people listen, man, We

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Speaker 2: thought we thought it was just us.

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Speaker 1: Guys, women are apparently just as successful. Oh. She said

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Speaker 1: that if I was still in the hospital when she

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Speaker 1: got back, he'd come right away, and that made me

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Speaker 1: want to stay in the hospital longer, so she'd come

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Speaker 1: and visit.

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Speaker 2: Dude, when your kid is like, oh, I hope I

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Speaker 2: can stay in the hospital longer, So hopefully, like finally

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Speaker 2: guilts my mom into coming seeing me.

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Speaker 1: Something is very wrong. Well, guys, we're not even a

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Speaker 1: tenth of the way through the story. Oh god, not

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Speaker 1: even a tenth of the way. Buckle in, buckle in,

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Speaker 1: because it gets a lot crazier. But I do think

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Speaker 1: it potentially better by the end. We hold out, hope

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Speaker 1: we hold out. She didn't eff income. Everyone else did,

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Speaker 1: but not her. My cousin came every day. My dad's

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Speaker 1: girlfriend even slept by me for a few days. My

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Speaker 1: nieces came, even my boyfriend's and best friend's moms came,

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Speaker 1: but mine did not. When I got out, all I

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Speaker 1: got was a text saying so happy you're out of

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Speaker 1: I think it might be the guy who's like ianks.

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Speaker 5: Seeing you on the phone.

431
00:21:00,119 --> 00:21:04,520
Speaker 1: You're in the house, did that very well? Yeah, and

432
00:21:04,680 --> 00:21:08,600
Speaker 1: the expressions. So I couldn't even get through the rewatch

433
00:21:08,680 --> 00:21:10,600
Speaker 1: and we couldn't even watch the new one. I told

434
00:21:10,680 --> 00:21:12,640
Speaker 1: my counsel that I still feel really bad and sad

435
00:21:12,760 --> 00:21:17,679
Speaker 1: and nothing's changed, and she's like, oup the antidepressants, huh up.

436
00:21:18,000 --> 00:21:19,720
Speaker 1: And she said I need to bring it up at

437
00:21:19,760 --> 00:21:22,800
Speaker 1: my next appointment with a psychiatrist so we can up

438
00:21:22,840 --> 00:21:23,280
Speaker 1: my toes.

439
00:21:24,560 --> 00:21:29,680
Speaker 2: Oh god, I was joking bier them, Oh joke, we

440
00:21:29,800 --> 00:21:30,479
Speaker 2: are we crazy?

441
00:21:34,119 --> 00:21:38,760
Speaker 1: Don't do that. There's so much incompetence around ope, so

442
00:21:39,040 --> 00:21:42,480
Speaker 1: much incompetence. It takes a village to fail a child.

443
00:21:43,240 --> 00:21:45,240
Speaker 1: That is what we're learning today. I don't know. I

444
00:21:45,320 --> 00:21:47,960
Speaker 1: feel confused, and I don't like seeing or talking to

445
00:21:48,080 --> 00:21:50,320
Speaker 1: my mom at all. I feel like I've done the

446
00:21:50,359 --> 00:21:52,520
Speaker 1: wrong thing. I've tried to do things we used to

447
00:21:52,560 --> 00:21:55,280
Speaker 1: do with my dad's fiance and my boyfriend's mom, but

448
00:21:55,320 --> 00:21:57,240
Speaker 1: it's not the same, and I just miss her more,

449
00:21:57,400 --> 00:21:59,119
Speaker 1: even though she probably doesn't miss me at all. I

450
00:21:59,200 --> 00:22:00,639
Speaker 1: wish I could see her, but I don't want to

451
00:22:00,720 --> 00:22:03,200
Speaker 1: keep her ruining things for myself because what if he

452
00:22:03,280 --> 00:22:05,680
Speaker 1: doesn't want me anymore. I'd ran to my counselor about it,

453
00:22:05,720 --> 00:22:07,840
Speaker 1: but I'm stuck in a hospital bed till Friday, so

454
00:22:07,920 --> 00:22:10,439
Speaker 1: I guess that's why I'm back here, looking for advice

455
00:22:10,760 --> 00:22:13,280
Speaker 1: on what to do when I'm out of here. And

456
00:22:14,000 --> 00:22:17,440
Speaker 1: there is another update John. Hey, guys, posting again because

457
00:22:17,440 --> 00:22:20,120
Speaker 1: I'm confused as to what's going on, and I thought

458
00:22:20,160 --> 00:22:22,199
Speaker 1: maybe i'd get some opinions before I bring it up

459
00:22:22,240 --> 00:22:24,200
Speaker 1: with my therapist. Pretty much, I don't know if my

460
00:22:24,240 --> 00:22:26,440
Speaker 1: mom hates me still or if now she wants to

461
00:22:26,480 --> 00:22:29,000
Speaker 1: be my mom again, because everything she's done lately is

462
00:22:29,080 --> 00:22:31,960
Speaker 1: so confusing. My foot is still bad. The doctor says

463
00:22:32,000 --> 00:22:34,639
Speaker 1: it's healing, but I mostly confined to crutches or a wheelchair.

464
00:22:34,800 --> 00:22:36,640
Speaker 1: I'm not really able to go to a lot of places.

465
00:22:36,920 --> 00:22:38,960
Speaker 1: I can go anywhere, but I don't go because it

466
00:22:39,000 --> 00:22:41,479
Speaker 1: takes too long to get around. I also love how

467
00:22:41,560 --> 00:22:44,520
Speaker 1: like during this hulk kerfuffle, Opie's foot is just a

468
00:22:44,640 --> 00:22:48,440
Speaker 1: bag of boats. Yeah. Yeah, it's happened. I mean Opie's

469
00:22:48,520 --> 00:22:52,359
Speaker 1: gone to the hospital twice. Yeah, dude, once for the

470
00:22:53,040 --> 00:22:54,920
Speaker 1: fever that our mom didn't care about, once for the

471
00:22:55,040 --> 00:22:57,080
Speaker 1: ankle that our mom didn't care about. We gotta put

472
00:22:57,119 --> 00:22:59,920
Speaker 1: OPI a little bubble, Yeah, antime, mom, bubble. I'm guessing

473
00:23:00,200 --> 00:23:02,359
Speaker 1: my cousin told my mom because apparently she came to

474
00:23:02,480 --> 00:23:05,800
Speaker 1: New Westminster and did her wedding dress shopping there with

475
00:23:05,920 --> 00:23:10,119
Speaker 1: my cousin and her fiance, and she didn't even tell me.

476
00:23:10,600 --> 00:23:12,600
Speaker 1: I know, we hadn't talked since the therapy session, but

477
00:23:12,720 --> 00:23:15,119
Speaker 1: you promised me that I would get to do that

478
00:23:15,200 --> 00:23:17,480
Speaker 1: with her, and she didn't even tell me. I found

479
00:23:17,480 --> 00:23:19,720
Speaker 1: out because when I visit my cousin, she showed me

480
00:23:19,800 --> 00:23:21,440
Speaker 1: the dresses she was going to wear at the wedding

481
00:23:21,520 --> 00:23:23,399
Speaker 1: and at the reception, and the ones my mom and

482
00:23:23,560 --> 00:23:26,280
Speaker 1: her got for me to wear it those. I was

483
00:23:26,400 --> 00:23:28,800
Speaker 1: confused because I was sad she didn't take me a

484
00:23:28,880 --> 00:23:31,320
Speaker 1: bit happy because that meant she still want to be

485
00:23:31,400 --> 00:23:34,159
Speaker 1: there anyway. Her wedding was on Canada today, and I

486
00:23:34,320 --> 00:23:36,760
Speaker 1: went with my cousin to Victoria a week later. My

487
00:23:36,920 --> 00:23:39,240
Speaker 1: dad did say I didn't need to go, but I

488
00:23:39,280 --> 00:23:41,760
Speaker 1: didn't want to miss it again missing the point OPI

489
00:23:41,880 --> 00:23:44,560
Speaker 1: wants nothing more but to be close to her mom.

490
00:23:44,680 --> 00:23:46,520
Speaker 1: We we stayed at airbnb that my mom got for

491
00:23:46,600 --> 00:23:49,119
Speaker 1: some of our relatives because her place was too small.

492
00:23:49,280 --> 00:23:51,359
Speaker 1: She didn't come and visit me there, but my cousin

493
00:23:51,520 --> 00:23:53,359
Speaker 1: went to meet her, and I didn't go because my

494
00:23:53,440 --> 00:23:56,160
Speaker 1: foot was hurting really bad. When she came back, you said,

495
00:23:56,240 --> 00:23:58,960
Speaker 1: my mom was really disappointed I didn't come as well.

496
00:23:59,080 --> 00:24:01,439
Speaker 1: The day after, I was going to go shopping downtown

497
00:24:01,440 --> 00:24:03,639
Speaker 1: with my cousin, but then my mom came. When she

498
00:24:03,760 --> 00:24:06,840
Speaker 1: saw me, didn't give me a hug like she usually gives,

499
00:24:07,240 --> 00:24:09,600
Speaker 1: just kind of held my shoulders, gave me an awkward

500
00:24:09,720 --> 00:24:11,280
Speaker 1: kiss on the cheek and said she was glad I

501
00:24:11,359 --> 00:24:13,720
Speaker 1: decided to come. Then she kind of turned me over

502
00:24:13,840 --> 00:24:17,280
Speaker 1: to my aunt, my mom's cousin, to go shopping with instead,

503
00:24:17,640 --> 00:24:19,800
Speaker 1: because she and my cousin would be busy that week

504
00:24:19,880 --> 00:24:21,840
Speaker 1: with all the wedding stuff and making sure it all

505
00:24:21,880 --> 00:24:25,320
Speaker 1: went perfectly, that we couldn't go downtown. I love my aunt,

506
00:24:25,720 --> 00:24:27,879
Speaker 1: so it wasn't bad going downtown with her, and she

507
00:24:27,960 --> 00:24:30,280
Speaker 1: didn't even mind pushing me in the wheelchair. But it

508
00:24:30,400 --> 00:24:32,200
Speaker 1: wasn't what I wanted to do. I want to spend

509
00:24:32,240 --> 00:24:35,000
Speaker 1: time with her mom. Dude. Two days before the wedding,

510
00:24:35,200 --> 00:24:37,560
Speaker 1: they had this really big up meet the family's dinner,

511
00:24:37,720 --> 00:24:40,080
Speaker 1: where my mom and her wife were introducing people to

512
00:24:40,160 --> 00:24:42,760
Speaker 1: their relatives. Because my foot got swollen and the boot

513
00:24:42,840 --> 00:24:44,520
Speaker 1: was hurting in it, I had to go in the wheelchair,

514
00:24:44,640 --> 00:24:48,320
Speaker 1: so my mom didn't even introduce me to people, and

515
00:24:48,440 --> 00:24:50,320
Speaker 1: one of the few times I was able to talk

516
00:24:50,440 --> 00:24:54,119
Speaker 1: to us, this guy related to her wife interrupted us,

517
00:24:54,320 --> 00:24:58,679
Speaker 1: asked who I was, and she just said, don't worry

518
00:24:58,800 --> 00:25:02,119
Speaker 1: about her, and then had an aunt of mine wheel

519
00:25:02,280 --> 00:25:06,159
Speaker 1: me away. Oh we're about to not worry about you. Okay,

520
00:25:06,520 --> 00:25:11,480
Speaker 1: she's again. This seems absolutely crazy, but we have talked

521
00:25:11,520 --> 00:25:14,800
Speaker 1: to people in the chat that things like this have

522
00:25:15,080 --> 00:25:17,760
Speaker 1: happened to It's true. This is like and I think

523
00:25:17,800 --> 00:25:19,920
Speaker 1: some people, yeah, this is aux said never wanted to

524
00:25:19,960 --> 00:25:22,080
Speaker 1: be a mom. I think this is someone who was

525
00:25:22,200 --> 00:25:25,159
Speaker 1: forcing the motherhood and this it's finally coming out that

526
00:25:25,240 --> 00:25:27,080
Speaker 1: she really didn't want to be a mom and she.

527
00:25:27,200 --> 00:25:29,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's taking out all the resentment of like I

528
00:25:29,320 --> 00:25:32,359
Speaker 2: spent sixteen years of my life dedicated to you and

529
00:25:32,440 --> 00:25:33,320
Speaker 2: da da da da da da.

530
00:25:33,520 --> 00:25:35,359
Speaker 1: And it's like and she's trying to have this perfect

531
00:25:35,440 --> 00:25:37,879
Speaker 1: wedding that she doesn't want Ope to get in the

532
00:25:37,920 --> 00:25:39,720
Speaker 1: way of. And so all of this is coming to

533
00:25:39,800 --> 00:25:42,800
Speaker 1: a head. And you know, we've seen how she feels

534
00:25:43,359 --> 00:25:47,320
Speaker 1: about Opee through her actions, and now the words are

535
00:25:47,440 --> 00:25:50,240
Speaker 1: finally matching the actings. Rile, you had something to say too.

536
00:25:50,280 --> 00:25:53,280
Speaker 6: Yeah, like also the way that I think it's symbolic

537
00:25:53,359 --> 00:25:55,800
Speaker 6: that Ope is in a wheelchair right now at her

538
00:25:55,960 --> 00:25:59,400
Speaker 6: mom's wedding, because that's probably how her mom views.

539
00:25:59,240 --> 00:26:03,680
Speaker 1: Her as a handicap exactly on her life. Dude, metaphor,

540
00:26:04,480 --> 00:26:07,320
Speaker 1: that was how we're reading into the metaphor. That was crazy.

541
00:26:07,400 --> 00:26:09,560
Speaker 1: They're just doing high school where it's like that's the

542
00:26:09,640 --> 00:26:12,520
Speaker 1: yellow mean in this story. It was like, I don't know, p.

543
00:26:15,000 --> 00:26:17,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, bro bro op is so down bad.

544
00:26:17,760 --> 00:26:20,000
Speaker 2: But but you know what, the one good thing about

545
00:26:20,040 --> 00:26:25,960
Speaker 2: this is maybe now tell me what's good about wheelchair.

546
00:26:26,640 --> 00:26:30,000
Speaker 2: I think that, like you said, the mom's words are

547
00:26:30,080 --> 00:26:33,640
Speaker 2: now matching her actions. Hopefully this will help opie see

548
00:26:34,040 --> 00:26:38,080
Speaker 2: how she's actually acting and kind of be like, look,

549
00:26:38,359 --> 00:26:41,400
Speaker 2: I got to focus on me because I know mom

550
00:26:41,760 --> 00:26:45,040
Speaker 2: right now, in her current state, she's not only not

551
00:26:45,200 --> 00:26:47,480
Speaker 2: doing anything for me, she's making actively worse.

552
00:26:47,720 --> 00:26:49,800
Speaker 1: I need to, you know, focus on the people that

553
00:26:49,920 --> 00:26:54,960
Speaker 1: actually make me feel better. Yes, exactly. Well, well, well

554
00:26:55,160 --> 00:26:56,879
Speaker 1: that may be really upset, but I did feel a

555
00:26:56,960 --> 00:26:59,639
Speaker 1: bit better because her fiance's parents brought gifts for me,

556
00:26:59,760 --> 00:27:01,520
Speaker 1: not my kind of stuff. I think they thought I

557
00:27:01,720 --> 00:27:04,359
Speaker 1: was younger than I am. And the wedding itself was cool.

558
00:27:04,480 --> 00:27:06,360
Speaker 1: My foot wasn't badly swollen then and I was able

559
00:27:06,400 --> 00:27:09,000
Speaker 1: to use my crutches. My mom acted so differently then

560
00:27:09,320 --> 00:27:11,600
Speaker 1: and made me take a bunch of pictures with her

561
00:27:11,880 --> 00:27:14,680
Speaker 1: and with her fiance, and she seemed so happy and

562
00:27:14,800 --> 00:27:16,160
Speaker 1: told me it was the best day of her life,

563
00:27:16,359 --> 00:27:17,920
Speaker 1: only because I came.

564
00:27:18,119 --> 00:27:20,600
Speaker 4: Wait wait, wait, wait about Tom. I've seen this before.

565
00:27:20,600 --> 00:27:24,000
Speaker 6: I've seen this before where they it's they want to

566
00:27:24,119 --> 00:27:26,600
Speaker 6: like have a happy family, like I've seen it before

567
00:27:26,600 --> 00:27:27,879
Speaker 6: in another story. I don't know how to how to

568
00:27:27,960 --> 00:27:29,960
Speaker 6: word this, but it's like a lesbian couple and they

569
00:27:30,000 --> 00:27:31,680
Speaker 6: wanted to be like, oh, look at our happy family

570
00:27:31,760 --> 00:27:32,480
Speaker 6: on social media.

571
00:27:32,520 --> 00:27:35,240
Speaker 1: We're so happy. Yeah, it's image space. It's image space.

572
00:27:35,320 --> 00:27:37,200
Speaker 1: They're all doing it for image They're doing it for

573
00:27:37,320 --> 00:27:40,680
Speaker 1: the familial cloud. It's like that guy that gets a

574
00:27:40,760 --> 00:27:43,760
Speaker 1: fake Rolex and flexes in front of her rented or Lamborghini,

575
00:27:43,800 --> 00:27:46,879
Speaker 1: and it's like, I'm the same kid, just different toys,

576
00:27:47,200 --> 00:27:49,480
Speaker 1: you know, Like which is a real thing that I

577
00:27:49,600 --> 00:27:53,760
Speaker 1: saw someone do, but like that is like that's like,

578
00:27:54,240 --> 00:27:56,840
Speaker 1: so that's just flexing something that you don't have. And

579
00:27:56,920 --> 00:27:58,760
Speaker 1: I feel that's exactly what the mom is doing. It's

580
00:27:58,800 --> 00:28:02,520
Speaker 1: flexial family that they don't have. So true. At the reception,

581
00:28:02,960 --> 00:28:04,480
Speaker 1: I wore the dress that she got me, but I

582
00:28:04,520 --> 00:28:06,600
Speaker 1: couldn't walk in the crutches while wearing it, not like

583
00:28:06,640 --> 00:28:08,639
Speaker 1: the wedding one. So my aunt made me go in

584
00:28:08,760 --> 00:28:11,200
Speaker 1: that dress and in my wheelchair even though I didn't

585
00:28:11,240 --> 00:28:13,720
Speaker 1: want to, and my cousin said I could wear different jeess,

586
00:28:13,880 --> 00:28:15,800
Speaker 1: but my aunt was like, my mom got that dress

587
00:28:15,880 --> 00:28:18,120
Speaker 1: specifically for me, and we'll be upset if I don't

588
00:28:18,160 --> 00:28:20,280
Speaker 1: wear it. Then the reception, I was seated at the

589
00:28:20,320 --> 00:28:23,119
Speaker 1: table with family near the stage where she and her

590
00:28:23,200 --> 00:28:26,000
Speaker 1: fiance sat, but at the table with kids I didn't

591
00:28:26,040 --> 00:28:29,040
Speaker 1: even know, even though some of my relatives younger than

592
00:28:29,119 --> 00:28:31,560
Speaker 1: me were at the family table. My aunt said, they

593
00:28:31,640 --> 00:28:34,919
Speaker 1: moved me there because my wheelchair. Wait, so they moved

594
00:28:34,960 --> 00:28:36,920
Speaker 1: you away from the main family table.

595
00:28:37,119 --> 00:28:39,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, And there was other like She's like, oh, I'm

596
00:28:39,200 --> 00:28:41,760
Speaker 2: at the kids table, which maybe they could be like, oh,

597
00:28:41,880 --> 00:28:43,520
Speaker 2: you know, it's just like with the other kids. There

598
00:28:43,640 --> 00:28:46,480
Speaker 2: was other kids younger than her, who, by the way,

599
00:28:46,920 --> 00:28:51,240
Speaker 2: are not her mom's child, sitting at the like the

600
00:28:51,360 --> 00:28:52,080
Speaker 2: main table.

601
00:28:52,320 --> 00:28:56,000
Speaker 4: Yeah, so where is the kid's table usually placed in out.

602
00:28:55,880 --> 00:28:58,120
Speaker 1: Of the way. Yeah, out of the way. Yeah, let

603
00:28:58,160 --> 00:29:00,200
Speaker 1: me let me, let me tuck you over here. My

604
00:29:00,280 --> 00:29:02,280
Speaker 1: aunt said, they moved me there because my wheelchair. But

605
00:29:02,400 --> 00:29:05,720
Speaker 1: I just don't get why I couldn't be with my family.

606
00:29:06,040 --> 00:29:08,160
Speaker 1: My mom didn't even take a photo with me at

607
00:29:08,200 --> 00:29:10,360
Speaker 1: the reception. She just came to me once said high.

608
00:29:10,480 --> 00:29:12,800
Speaker 1: And I wasn't even the family photo because we didn't

609
00:29:12,840 --> 00:29:15,840
Speaker 1: bring my crutches because my wheelchair. So my aunt said,

610
00:29:15,880 --> 00:29:18,840
Speaker 1: my mom told them to leave me because they couldn't

611
00:29:18,920 --> 00:29:21,240
Speaker 1: fit me in. And the day after we were going home,

612
00:29:21,320 --> 00:29:23,520
Speaker 1: my mom came to say goodbye to us. He talked

613
00:29:23,560 --> 00:29:26,040
Speaker 1: to me alone for a minute and then said sorry

614
00:29:26,160 --> 00:29:28,760
Speaker 1: for everything that happened between us before, but she was

615
00:29:28,840 --> 00:29:32,360
Speaker 1: hoping we could get past it as you inflict more damage,

616
00:29:32,600 --> 00:29:36,320
Speaker 1: hoping we can get past it. No, No, we've passed

617
00:29:36,360 --> 00:29:40,160
Speaker 1: that road. You are a long time at closing a wall. Yes,

618
00:29:40,320 --> 00:29:42,680
Speaker 1: in the middle of our road. We're not getting past anything,

619
00:29:43,000 --> 00:29:45,240
Speaker 1: but if we couldn't, she was still happy. I came

620
00:29:45,280 --> 00:29:47,000
Speaker 1: to her wedding. I didn't really get to say anything

621
00:29:47,000 --> 00:29:48,840
Speaker 1: because she just hugged me and sent us on our way.

622
00:29:49,040 --> 00:29:52,520
Speaker 1: I don't feel that sad about everything anymore, though, because

623
00:29:52,680 --> 00:29:57,560
Speaker 1: I think the antidepressants have been helping. Ope, he's just numb. Ope,

624
00:29:57,560 --> 00:29:58,160
Speaker 1: he's just numb.

625
00:29:58,800 --> 00:30:02,400
Speaker 2: I mean, correct me if I'm wrong, Like maybe there

626
00:30:02,600 --> 00:30:06,520
Speaker 2: is something about the antire presidents that are not like

627
00:30:06,640 --> 00:30:09,880
Speaker 2: necessarily numbing but are helping the brain chemistryor something.

628
00:30:09,920 --> 00:30:12,640
Speaker 1: I could be completely wrong. I know anxiety men's are

629
00:30:12,680 --> 00:30:15,640
Speaker 1: more like the stuff. I feel like we're taking the

630
00:30:15,680 --> 00:30:19,640
Speaker 1: wrong approach with the men things lead wrong completely. I

631
00:30:19,880 --> 00:30:22,400
Speaker 1: have been feeling happier for about a month now, and

632
00:30:22,560 --> 00:30:26,040
Speaker 1: nothing has happened to me like I was afraid for

633
00:30:26,080 --> 00:30:28,960
Speaker 1: the last two weeks. My mom has been texting good morning,

634
00:30:29,040 --> 00:30:31,640
Speaker 1: good night again when I didn't do anything like text, call,

635
00:30:31,840 --> 00:30:34,400
Speaker 1: or phone or FaceTime since the therapy session with her,

636
00:30:34,680 --> 00:30:37,000
Speaker 1: it hasn't been more than that, but I've been saying

637
00:30:37,000 --> 00:30:39,480
Speaker 1: it back. I'm just confused with why she's acting the

638
00:30:39,520 --> 00:30:42,000
Speaker 1: way she is. You guys, have any clue or advice.

639
00:30:42,240 --> 00:30:42,360
Speaker 3: Edit.

640
00:30:42,480 --> 00:30:44,120
Speaker 1: I wish I could say thank you to everybody who's

641
00:30:44,120 --> 00:30:46,080
Speaker 1: commented and given advice. I'm sorry if I didn't respond

642
00:30:46,120 --> 00:30:48,400
Speaker 1: to you guys personally, but it means so much to

643
00:30:48,480 --> 00:30:50,360
Speaker 1: me that you guys cared. I've read everything, and helpful

644
00:30:50,360 --> 00:30:51,720
Speaker 1: you bring it up to with my counselor. I thank

645
00:30:51,720 --> 00:30:54,320
Speaker 1: you guys so much. I love you all. And there's

646
00:30:54,320 --> 00:30:58,040
Speaker 1: an update. We're not even halfway done. Well, we're still

647
00:30:58,120 --> 00:31:00,160
Speaker 1: this story. We're still there. We're still going. Oh and

648
00:31:00,200 --> 00:31:01,719
Speaker 1: there is an update coming up.

649
00:31:01,840 --> 00:31:03,840
Speaker 2: Hey y'all, it's John og Host here. We're gonna get

650
00:31:03,840 --> 00:31:05,120
Speaker 2: back to the story. So, but here's a quick three

651
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Speaker 2: minute break from asper more sponsors.

652
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Speaker 1: So I got a phone call from my mom and

653
00:31:09,360 --> 00:31:12,720
Speaker 1: I did answer because I guess I was curious because

654
00:31:12,760 --> 00:31:14,800
Speaker 1: she's only been texting me since her wedding, and she

655
00:31:14,840 --> 00:31:17,240
Speaker 1: said she wanted me to come over even though I

656
00:31:17,600 --> 00:31:20,120
Speaker 1: was really missing her because I was going to go

657
00:31:20,240 --> 00:31:24,320
Speaker 1: with my uncle's family to Seattle that weekend. Basically, Opie's like,

658
00:31:24,360 --> 00:31:26,080
Speaker 1: I'm going to spend more time with uncle, and it

659
00:31:26,160 --> 00:31:28,720
Speaker 1: feels like the mom was like pulling her away. Don't

660
00:31:28,800 --> 00:31:30,520
Speaker 1: let her do it, don't let her do it, don't

661
00:31:30,560 --> 00:31:34,440
Speaker 1: let her do it. I said no, put your foot down.

662
00:31:34,480 --> 00:31:38,200
Speaker 1: Ope mm hmmm, yes, been a good I think I

663
00:31:38,240 --> 00:31:40,320
Speaker 1: would have said no anyway, because I was just planning

664
00:31:40,360 --> 00:31:43,120
Speaker 1: on staying away. Like everybody here suggested yees, stay away

665
00:31:43,120 --> 00:31:45,000
Speaker 1: from her, and my counselor also said that it might

666
00:31:45,040 --> 00:31:47,720
Speaker 1: be good to define my life without her. She said okay.

667
00:31:47,960 --> 00:31:50,080
Speaker 1: Within the day after, I think she phoned my dad

668
00:31:50,200 --> 00:31:53,040
Speaker 1: because he came and said that I had to go

669
00:31:53,160 --> 00:31:55,760
Speaker 1: to Victoria instead. I told him I didn't want to go,

670
00:31:56,120 --> 00:31:58,040
Speaker 1: but we ended up arguing and he said that I

671
00:31:58,080 --> 00:32:00,320
Speaker 1: didn't have a choice and my uncle would take me

672
00:32:00,440 --> 00:32:03,920
Speaker 1: somewhere when I got back. Again, we're just isolating op

673
00:32:04,160 --> 00:32:09,360
Speaker 1: from her only support person. Dude, stop bad. So my

674
00:32:09,440 --> 00:32:11,680
Speaker 1: dad dropped me and my cousin off at the ferry

675
00:32:11,720 --> 00:32:14,320
Speaker 1: and when we got to Victoria, it turns out my

676
00:32:14,400 --> 00:32:16,840
Speaker 1: mom and her wife I guess my stepmm now moved

677
00:32:16,920 --> 00:32:19,640
Speaker 1: into their new house. My mom's wife wasn't there because

678
00:32:19,680 --> 00:32:22,120
Speaker 1: she was in Ottawa for work, but her parents did come.

679
00:32:22,480 --> 00:32:24,920
Speaker 1: They're really nice. They kind of went on about how

680
00:32:25,000 --> 00:32:27,960
Speaker 1: they thought they'd never have grandkids and were so happy

681
00:32:28,200 --> 00:32:31,080
Speaker 1: when they learned my mom had me. They did offer

682
00:32:31,200 --> 00:32:33,200
Speaker 1: to get me some presents this time, but my mom

683
00:32:33,400 --> 00:32:36,440
Speaker 1: let them take me to dinner to some perogi place

684
00:32:36,880 --> 00:32:39,000
Speaker 1: in downtown instead. I don't know what to think about

685
00:32:39,000 --> 00:32:41,040
Speaker 1: the visit, because so much of it was good, but

686
00:32:41,120 --> 00:32:45,040
Speaker 1: the one bad part was really bad. When I got there,

687
00:32:45,200 --> 00:32:46,800
Speaker 1: I wanted to talk to her about the stuff at

688
00:32:46,840 --> 00:32:49,280
Speaker 1: the wedding and everything else, like the fact that she

689
00:32:49,440 --> 00:32:52,720
Speaker 1: literally said get out of the way. Yeah, And I

690
00:32:52,800 --> 00:32:54,400
Speaker 1: wanted to tell her that I would rather have gone

691
00:32:54,440 --> 00:32:56,800
Speaker 1: with my uncle. But then I just felt really nervous

692
00:32:57,080 --> 00:33:00,000
Speaker 1: because I, I don't know, I kind of just felt

693
00:33:00,160 --> 00:33:02,360
Speaker 1: like I'd ruined the entire trip if I did, so

694
00:33:02,680 --> 00:33:04,360
Speaker 1: I just didn't did. Maybe that was the wrong thing.

695
00:33:04,960 --> 00:33:08,040
Speaker 1: The first thing I noticed in her house was her

696
00:33:08,160 --> 00:33:12,160
Speaker 1: giant graduation picture where she's holding a baby me above

697
00:33:12,200 --> 00:33:15,120
Speaker 1: the fireplace. Then my mom surprised me by showing me

698
00:33:15,720 --> 00:33:19,240
Speaker 1: my room and it's perfect. Oh. I have a huge bed,

699
00:33:19,720 --> 00:33:23,000
Speaker 1: a big personal washroom, because remember the mom wants op

700
00:33:23,280 --> 00:33:27,479
Speaker 1: to move to University of Victoria to do the engineering program, right.

701
00:33:27,680 --> 00:33:29,880
Speaker 1: She wants her to do that's right, and so is

702
00:33:29,920 --> 00:33:33,240
Speaker 1: setting up a whole place for her. Riley has an.

703
00:33:33,360 --> 00:33:35,880
Speaker 6: ICU, Oh talk to me, you know how like in movies,

704
00:33:36,080 --> 00:33:38,320
Speaker 6: everything looks nice, everything looks perfect.

705
00:33:38,800 --> 00:33:41,680
Speaker 4: The one thing that caught my eye so far was

706
00:33:41,720 --> 00:33:44,000
Speaker 4: that she has a picture of her at a graduation

707
00:33:44,160 --> 00:33:44,840
Speaker 4: with a baby her.

708
00:33:45,000 --> 00:33:47,040
Speaker 6: I feel like, one day everything's gonna go to crap,

709
00:33:47,200 --> 00:33:50,360
Speaker 6: and that fireplace is gonna be like lit, it's gonna

710
00:33:50,360 --> 00:33:54,160
Speaker 6: be super hot and fiery, and it's just gonna remind.

711
00:33:53,880 --> 00:33:55,640
Speaker 4: Her like she's in Hell's.

712
00:33:57,120 --> 00:34:03,440
Speaker 1: Riley, Riley digging poetic for I honestly was kind of

713
00:34:03,480 --> 00:34:06,440
Speaker 1: thinking of the same thing, having the thing about the fireplaces.

714
00:34:06,480 --> 00:34:08,239
Speaker 1: I'm like, that picture's gonna melt it. It's gonna show

715
00:34:08,280 --> 00:34:11,960
Speaker 1: that melted, yes thing. But also I was literally as

716
00:34:12,080 --> 00:34:14,880
Speaker 1: you were saying that, I was thinking Coraline, like the

717
00:34:14,960 --> 00:34:16,840
Speaker 1: thing that looks perfect on the outside but it is

718
00:34:16,880 --> 00:34:20,799
Speaker 1: actually terrible. And Sanity also saw it. It's Coraline mom.

719
00:34:21,000 --> 00:34:24,560
Speaker 1: It is a Coraline mom, you know, giving all these promises,

720
00:34:24,640 --> 00:34:27,680
Speaker 1: but it's actually terrible. Yeah, I haven't seen that movie

721
00:34:27,760 --> 00:34:30,239
Speaker 1: in ages so such a spooky movie. I haven't seen

722
00:34:30,280 --> 00:34:32,959
Speaker 1: it ever. Well, I have a huge bet, a big

723
00:34:33,160 --> 00:34:36,560
Speaker 1: personal washroom, a walk in closet, one of those fancy

724
00:34:36,640 --> 00:34:39,320
Speaker 1: standing desks, and a TV. It's all white because my

725
00:34:39,400 --> 00:34:41,319
Speaker 1: mom was like, when my foot is better, she wants

726
00:34:41,360 --> 00:34:43,839
Speaker 1: me to come and paint and decorate it all with her.

727
00:34:44,120 --> 00:34:47,000
Speaker 1: She even promised she'd never let anybody use the room,

728
00:34:47,239 --> 00:34:49,839
Speaker 1: even if I'm not there that often. Again, I feel

729
00:34:49,840 --> 00:34:52,960
Speaker 1: like she's just setting op up for another emotional, like

730
00:34:53,200 --> 00:34:57,000
Speaker 1: just depth another It's a waste. Come on, Is she

731
00:34:57,040 --> 00:34:58,960
Speaker 1: gonna use it just to put her in the corner? Yeah,

732
00:34:59,040 --> 00:35:00,919
Speaker 1: exactly and lock the door throw out a peep.

733
00:35:01,400 --> 00:35:01,520
Speaker 6: Uh.

734
00:35:01,960 --> 00:35:04,479
Speaker 1: The first night I got back from the PEROHI place,

735
00:35:04,800 --> 00:35:07,520
Speaker 1: my mom, my cousin and I stayed up so late

736
00:35:07,640 --> 00:35:10,440
Speaker 1: just watching TV, and I even fell asleep hugging her.

737
00:35:10,600 --> 00:35:12,080
Speaker 1: I'm just waiting for the other shoot to drop.

738
00:35:12,480 --> 00:35:12,680
Speaker 6: Yeah.

739
00:35:13,200 --> 00:35:15,480
Speaker 1: The next day we went downtown and my mom took

740
00:35:15,520 --> 00:35:18,560
Speaker 1: a shopping and then to the Royal British Columbia Museum,

741
00:35:18,640 --> 00:35:20,920
Speaker 1: the one with the mammoths. My foot in my hands

742
00:35:21,120 --> 00:35:24,440
Speaker 1: really started hurting afterwards because my mom made me use

743
00:35:24,560 --> 00:35:28,960
Speaker 1: my crutches and not the wheelchair, said it'd be good exercise,

744
00:35:29,360 --> 00:35:31,879
Speaker 1: but we all know it's just because she didn't want

745
00:35:31,920 --> 00:35:32,880
Speaker 1: to push that wheelchair.

746
00:35:33,160 --> 00:35:37,080
Speaker 2: Yes, and also, by the end of the story, all

747
00:35:37,280 --> 00:35:39,320
Speaker 2: of Opie's bones will be broken.

748
00:35:39,640 --> 00:35:43,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, how terrible is this person? So then she took

749
00:35:44,000 --> 00:35:45,880
Speaker 1: us to the spa. We took so many pictures and

750
00:35:45,920 --> 00:35:49,000
Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure she put them on Instagram, but I'm

751
00:35:49,080 --> 00:35:51,480
Speaker 1: not allowed on it anymore. Again. I feel like she's

752
00:35:51,600 --> 00:35:54,879
Speaker 1: just flexing for the gram. Yes, yes, so I'm not sure.

753
00:35:54,960 --> 00:35:56,759
Speaker 1: I was really tired when we got back, so I

754
00:35:56,840 --> 00:35:58,760
Speaker 1: conked out right away. When I woke up in the morning,

755
00:35:58,960 --> 00:36:02,080
Speaker 1: my mom actually brought me pancakes in bed because my foot,

756
00:36:02,120 --> 00:36:04,040
Speaker 1: because I love it when she makes me those. I

757
00:36:04,120 --> 00:36:06,680
Speaker 1: don't trust this single thing that's happening right now. No,

758
00:36:06,880 --> 00:36:11,359
Speaker 1: it's coraline, coraline, coraline, coraline. Buttons, fries buttons. The rest

759
00:36:11,440 --> 00:36:14,520
Speaker 1: of that day was good to accept. At night, the

760
00:36:14,560 --> 00:36:16,880
Speaker 1: shoe we gonna draw. Here we go. My mom said

761
00:36:17,160 --> 00:36:20,200
Speaker 1: that when I moved in for university, we could make

762
00:36:20,280 --> 00:36:23,120
Speaker 1: every day like this. So she's like, she's like making

763
00:36:23,160 --> 00:36:26,759
Speaker 1: the perfect day. Try to suck her in yeah, it's

764
00:36:26,840 --> 00:36:31,000
Speaker 1: one day one. So I reminded her I might go

765
00:36:31,120 --> 00:36:34,520
Speaker 1: to University of British Columbia instead, Yep, not u VIC.

766
00:36:35,040 --> 00:36:37,320
Speaker 1: Mm hmm. And we got into a really big argument

767
00:36:37,360 --> 00:36:39,799
Speaker 1: about university and I did scream at her and bring

768
00:36:39,920 --> 00:36:42,200
Speaker 1: up stuff from before, but pretty much my mom said

769
00:36:42,200 --> 00:36:43,960
Speaker 1: that she wants me to go to u VIC if

770
00:36:44,000 --> 00:36:46,160
Speaker 1: I still want to do software engineering. She said that

771
00:36:46,280 --> 00:36:48,200
Speaker 1: if it was any other kind of engineering I wanted

772
00:36:48,239 --> 00:36:50,800
Speaker 1: to do, she wouldn't mind paying for UBC, but that

773
00:36:50,960 --> 00:36:53,440
Speaker 1: it's not a good for software. She did say she

774
00:36:53,440 --> 00:36:55,680
Speaker 1: would still pay no matter where I went, but she'd

775
00:36:55,719 --> 00:36:57,840
Speaker 1: be really disappointed if I chose not to go to

776
00:36:57,920 --> 00:37:00,720
Speaker 1: the best university for my degree where I could also

777
00:37:01,239 --> 00:37:05,040
Speaker 1: stay with her, just because I blamed her coming out

778
00:37:05,080 --> 00:37:07,879
Speaker 1: and moving for everything bad that's happening to me since then,

779
00:37:08,160 --> 00:37:11,160
Speaker 1: conspiracy theory talk to me, spears e theory and maybe

780
00:37:11,239 --> 00:37:14,600
Speaker 1: this is a little bit too far. I think the

781
00:37:14,760 --> 00:37:19,040
Speaker 1: mom is thinking about her retirement and who is going

782
00:37:19,080 --> 00:37:21,640
Speaker 1: to take care of her in her old aide mmmm,

783
00:37:22,600 --> 00:37:26,920
Speaker 1: and she wants OP to make that money so OP

784
00:37:27,200 --> 00:37:32,080
Speaker 1: can pay for end of life care slash like elderly care.

785
00:37:32,280 --> 00:37:35,000
Speaker 1: When she's older, and I think it's also a grand play.

786
00:37:35,040 --> 00:37:37,400
Speaker 1: It's an Instagram play and it's like a take care

787
00:37:37,440 --> 00:37:38,960
Speaker 1: of me when you're when you're old play, and I

788
00:37:39,040 --> 00:37:40,920
Speaker 1: want you to get as much money as possible.

789
00:37:41,320 --> 00:37:44,239
Speaker 6: And OB's like sixteen, right, six Yeah, Okay. I was

790
00:37:44,280 --> 00:37:47,239
Speaker 6: going to go down the child support route, like, oh,

791
00:37:47,320 --> 00:37:49,960
Speaker 6: if she takes care of her, she gets money from

792
00:37:50,000 --> 00:37:51,680
Speaker 6: the husband, from the ex husband.

793
00:37:51,840 --> 00:37:54,719
Speaker 1: I was as much. But yeah, I think cause it's

794
00:37:54,760 --> 00:37:57,600
Speaker 1: only two years left, that's my that's my conspiracy there.

795
00:37:57,680 --> 00:37:58,399
Speaker 1: What do you guys think?

796
00:37:58,520 --> 00:37:59,800
Speaker 4: I am trying to figure out what she's trying to

797
00:37:59,800 --> 00:38:00,400
Speaker 4: get out.

798
00:38:00,160 --> 00:38:02,839
Speaker 1: Of this, yeah, because it's like she's always been trying

799
00:38:02,880 --> 00:38:05,000
Speaker 1: to get something out of it. Just it doesn't feel

800
00:38:05,080 --> 00:38:06,560
Speaker 1: like it's just altruistic.

801
00:38:06,640 --> 00:38:09,720
Speaker 2: You know, she's one thousand percent doing it for something

802
00:38:09,880 --> 00:38:12,040
Speaker 2: other than out of just be your love for daughter

803
00:38:12,080 --> 00:38:14,400
Speaker 2: and what's best for life. It is absolutely not in

804
00:38:14,440 --> 00:38:17,000
Speaker 2: the daughter's best interest and absolutely is in the mother's

805
00:38:17,160 --> 00:38:19,360
Speaker 2: best interest, don't it could be? It could be I

806
00:38:19,360 --> 00:38:23,560
Speaker 2: don't know, maybe it is just the familial that the

807
00:38:23,640 --> 00:38:28,960
Speaker 2: family clout. You know, I'm just like making ooh, is

808
00:38:29,040 --> 00:38:32,480
Speaker 2: it to be looking good for her new wife's family.

809
00:38:32,760 --> 00:38:34,840
Speaker 2: But she did, but she did like she was like, oh,

810
00:38:34,880 --> 00:38:36,480
Speaker 2: don't worry about her, I think in front of them.

811
00:38:36,600 --> 00:38:37,040
Speaker 5: Mmmm.

812
00:38:37,520 --> 00:38:40,120
Speaker 4: So because there's her wife, got a lot of m

813
00:38:40,480 --> 00:38:41,880
Speaker 4: and the very family oriented.

814
00:38:41,960 --> 00:38:48,160
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, hope, hope, hope, all right. Fiance fiance's parents

815
00:38:48,360 --> 00:38:51,680
Speaker 1: were like, I thought I would never have a grand baby.

816
00:38:52,400 --> 00:38:56,160
Speaker 1: Maybe they want her toys? Say again, they got her

817
00:38:56,200 --> 00:38:58,520
Speaker 1: toys and gifts at the wedding. Toys and gifts at

818
00:38:58,560 --> 00:39:03,200
Speaker 1: the wedding thing. I think the parents of Opie's mom's

819
00:39:03,239 --> 00:39:07,560
Speaker 1: fiance are like, maybe want to support Opie's mom and

820
00:39:07,600 --> 00:39:10,920
Speaker 1: the fiance more. Yes, if there's a grand baby in

821
00:39:11,040 --> 00:39:13,520
Speaker 1: the pictures, Deeter Sathan the in laws, we're so happy

822
00:39:13,560 --> 00:39:17,120
Speaker 1: to have the grandkid. Yes, yes, it's for the wife's mother,

823
00:39:17,440 --> 00:39:22,880
Speaker 1: Samantha Lourie. Yes, yes, that's it. That's also, Oh, if

824
00:39:22,920 --> 00:39:25,440
Speaker 1: you go to college, child support continues. Is that true?

825
00:39:25,560 --> 00:39:26,040
Speaker 4: Interesting?

826
00:39:26,400 --> 00:39:29,760
Speaker 2: And maybe if it's like a specific college double paid

827
00:39:30,120 --> 00:39:32,239
Speaker 2: so she's getting she's getting it from her new her

828
00:39:32,320 --> 00:39:35,719
Speaker 2: new in laws, the grandparents, and still getting it from

829
00:39:35,920 --> 00:39:39,000
Speaker 2: from ex husband like double money.

830
00:39:39,200 --> 00:39:46,160
Speaker 1: Oo wow, yeah this is in Canada. Yes, oh wow,

831
00:39:46,520 --> 00:39:49,840
Speaker 1: Rebecca Perla says the penny drops. Yes, she's trying to

832
00:39:49,880 --> 00:39:51,920
Speaker 1: look good for the in law, so we have been right.

833
00:39:52,000 --> 00:39:54,160
Speaker 1: It's all for show, but it's not just for the

834
00:39:54,239 --> 00:39:57,840
Speaker 1: Graham it's for the fiance's parents. Dude, ho, dude, I

835
00:39:57,960 --> 00:40:02,080
Speaker 1: feel like Reddit Sherlock Holmes right now. Cooked? Oh we cooked,

836
00:40:02,280 --> 00:40:05,960
Speaker 1: absolutely cooked, houcked, Let's go. She also said I need

837
00:40:06,000 --> 00:40:08,759
Speaker 1: to stop exaggerating how bad everything has been because it

838
00:40:08,760 --> 00:40:11,960
Speaker 1: shouldn't make me change my university plan. I tried telling

839
00:40:12,040 --> 00:40:14,200
Speaker 1: her that's not what I meant, but I couldn't say

840
00:40:14,200 --> 00:40:16,040
Speaker 1: it right, and I have things. Started crying and she

841
00:40:16,120 --> 00:40:18,360
Speaker 1: seemed to get really mad. She didn't yell or anything,

842
00:40:18,440 --> 00:40:20,400
Speaker 1: but she just gave a frustrated sigh and said I

843
00:40:20,440 --> 00:40:22,759
Speaker 1: need to stop crying, grow up and accept that she

844
00:40:22,840 --> 00:40:25,440
Speaker 1: handled things the best way she could and my attitude

845
00:40:25,480 --> 00:40:29,000
Speaker 1: problems were why it's been such a bad year for us.

846
00:40:29,840 --> 00:40:33,800
Speaker 1: It's not me, it's you. That's exactly You're a big woman,

847
00:40:33,920 --> 00:40:37,239
Speaker 1: baby mom. That just made me cry more. And she

848
00:40:37,280 --> 00:40:39,000
Speaker 1: said if I don't grow up, I'm never going to

849
00:40:39,080 --> 00:40:42,800
Speaker 1: get a husband, and then left the room. Oh my gouch,

850
00:40:43,440 --> 00:40:45,720
Speaker 1: never gonna get a husband. What are you talking about?

851
00:40:46,040 --> 00:40:49,040
Speaker 1: That has nothing to do with anything you m I

852
00:40:49,200 --> 00:40:51,320
Speaker 1: just kind of kept crying because I don't feel like

853
00:40:51,440 --> 00:40:53,400
Speaker 1: any of that is true, and the husband part was

854
00:40:53,440 --> 00:40:56,040
Speaker 1: so effing weird, and I honestly can't stop thinking about

855
00:40:56,120 --> 00:40:59,600
Speaker 1: that part specifically. Half an hour later, she came back

856
00:40:59,640 --> 00:41:01,719
Speaker 1: with water and made me drink and started yelling me

857
00:41:01,840 --> 00:41:04,040
Speaker 1: at me how if I wanted to do computer or

858
00:41:04,120 --> 00:41:07,680
Speaker 1: electrical or any other engineering, she'd support UBC, but the

859
00:41:07,840 --> 00:41:11,480
Speaker 1: UVic is the best for software outside of Waterloo, and

860
00:41:11,560 --> 00:41:13,400
Speaker 1: she doesn't want to send me so far away, but

861
00:41:13,680 --> 00:41:15,759
Speaker 1: would still pay for it if that's what I'd do.

862
00:41:16,160 --> 00:41:18,360
Speaker 1: I don't know why she wanted to keep talking about that,

863
00:41:18,560 --> 00:41:21,000
Speaker 1: but I didn't, so I just agreed when she said

864
00:41:21,160 --> 00:41:23,600
Speaker 1: she'll take me to talk to an advisor to convince

865
00:41:23,680 --> 00:41:25,600
Speaker 1: me next time I come over. Me and my cousin

866
00:41:25,800 --> 00:41:28,759
Speaker 1: left early next morning, so yesterday me and my mom

867
00:41:28,840 --> 00:41:30,839
Speaker 1: said she'd try to come over for my birthday because

868
00:41:30,840 --> 00:41:33,160
Speaker 1: her in laws really wanted to attend. The in laws

869
00:41:33,200 --> 00:41:36,320
Speaker 1: really wanted to attend, remember that, and that she'd try

870
00:41:36,400 --> 00:41:38,719
Speaker 1: and make an appointment at YUVIC once my foot's better.

871
00:41:38,920 --> 00:41:41,839
Speaker 1: The thing is, that argument was the one bad thing

872
00:41:41,880 --> 00:41:44,720
Speaker 1: about the visit. Everything else would have been perfect because

873
00:41:44,920 --> 00:41:46,719
Speaker 1: it was just like it used to be with her,

874
00:41:47,040 --> 00:41:49,520
Speaker 1: and I didn't even know if I'd be posting if

875
00:41:49,600 --> 00:41:52,040
Speaker 1: it had been. But I just can't stop thinking about

876
00:41:52,080 --> 00:41:54,239
Speaker 1: the stuff that she said when we argued. I don't

877
00:41:54,280 --> 00:41:57,400
Speaker 1: even know why she said the husband thing. I just

878
00:41:57,560 --> 00:42:00,359
Speaker 1: don't get what the FG means by that or why

879
00:42:00,440 --> 00:42:02,040
Speaker 1: she would bring it up. I'm not going to smash

880
00:42:02,120 --> 00:42:04,560
Speaker 1: my phone this time, but i do feel mad thinking

881
00:42:04,600 --> 00:42:06,560
Speaker 1: about it. I told my cousin about the argument we

882
00:42:06,640 --> 00:42:08,440
Speaker 1: had on the way back, and she told me she

883
00:42:08,560 --> 00:42:11,440
Speaker 1: personally thinks I should go to UBC and would try

884
00:42:11,480 --> 00:42:13,400
Speaker 1: to convince my mom, but that she thinks she just

885
00:42:13,480 --> 00:42:15,400
Speaker 1: wants me to live with her again. I told my

886
00:42:15,520 --> 00:42:17,880
Speaker 1: dad and his fiance about it, and he apologized for

887
00:42:18,000 --> 00:42:20,920
Speaker 1: make me go, but said that he had to. He

888
00:42:21,080 --> 00:42:23,840
Speaker 1: and his fiance have checked on me a dozen times already,

889
00:42:24,040 --> 00:42:26,080
Speaker 1: Like I'm getting that stupid effing feeling in my stomach

890
00:42:26,160 --> 00:42:27,879
Speaker 1: and every time I think about it, and I wish

891
00:42:27,920 --> 00:42:29,520
Speaker 1: I would be able to go with my uncle instead,

892
00:42:29,600 --> 00:42:31,239
Speaker 1: but I'm going to spend the rest of the week

893
00:42:31,360 --> 00:42:33,680
Speaker 1: at his apartment, so I guess it's fine. I'm going

894
00:42:33,760 --> 00:42:35,520
Speaker 1: to go to my counselor again. Today before my uncle

895
00:42:35,560 --> 00:42:38,480
Speaker 1: picks me up. Does anybody have any advice for what

896
00:42:38,640 --> 00:42:41,200
Speaker 1: I could bring up? Because we went through the comments

897
00:42:41,280 --> 00:42:45,160
Speaker 1: posted to Hea last time, and we have another update.

898
00:42:45,440 --> 00:42:48,840
Speaker 1: We have another third of the story left. Wow, another third.

899
00:42:48,760 --> 00:42:52,320
Speaker 2: And uncle is up next and they've discussed the Reddit

900
00:42:52,360 --> 00:42:53,439
Speaker 2: posts and stuff together.

901
00:42:53,520 --> 00:42:54,960
Speaker 1: That's who she was doing in the comments with. So

902
00:42:55,040 --> 00:42:57,120
Speaker 1: it seems like Redda is helping. Reddit's helping.

903
00:42:57,280 --> 00:43:00,440
Speaker 2: And I love the fact that the uncle is like

904
00:43:00,560 --> 00:43:02,719
Speaker 2: sitting down and like discussing this stuff really good.

905
00:43:03,560 --> 00:43:06,200
Speaker 1: No, no, I think it's the dad. Oh the dad.

906
00:43:06,480 --> 00:43:09,359
Speaker 2: Okay okay, okay, okay, okay, I mean better than better

907
00:43:09,440 --> 00:43:13,040
Speaker 2: than nothing. Yeah, dad's acting like a dummy, But it

908
00:43:13,160 --> 00:43:16,520
Speaker 2: does seem he is like apologizing for for when I

909
00:43:16,640 --> 00:43:17,400
Speaker 2: had to What is it?

910
00:43:17,840 --> 00:43:20,239
Speaker 1: But there's a little, yeah, a little like what I

911
00:43:20,440 --> 00:43:20,759
Speaker 1: had to.

912
00:43:21,160 --> 00:43:22,920
Speaker 4: Everyone is so heated with the story.

913
00:43:23,280 --> 00:43:26,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, Op's mom is going to get me a record

914
00:43:26,200 --> 00:43:32,719
Speaker 1: and my own true crime podcast. Yeah, people are trigger warning, Yes,

915
00:43:33,280 --> 00:43:39,960
Speaker 1: trigger warning for crappy mother. I mean I guess well

916
00:43:40,280 --> 00:43:42,920
Speaker 1: update by Hey it's Sam. We're gonna get back to

917
00:43:42,960 --> 00:43:44,920
Speaker 1: these stories. But here's three of its dads from our

918
00:43:44,920 --> 00:43:49,480
Speaker 1: sponsors that keep the show alive, so some stuff happened.

919
00:43:49,719 --> 00:43:51,919
Speaker 1: I've pretty much just been texting with my mom since

920
00:43:52,000 --> 00:43:53,600
Speaker 1: my visit to her. I try to keep it to

921
00:43:53,680 --> 00:43:55,840
Speaker 1: good night, good morning. But when I didn't respond to

922
00:43:55,920 --> 00:43:58,879
Speaker 1: her other messages, she phoned my dad and he told

923
00:43:58,960 --> 00:44:01,160
Speaker 1: me I didn't have to phone her, but to at

924
00:44:01,280 --> 00:44:03,759
Speaker 1: least respond to her other messages. I did have to

925
00:44:03,760 --> 00:44:06,560
Speaker 1: go to the Victoria for Thanksgiving because her wife's whole

926
00:44:06,640 --> 00:44:08,960
Speaker 1: family was going to be there, and she told my

927
00:44:09,080 --> 00:44:11,359
Speaker 1: dad I had to go again. When the wife's whole

928
00:44:11,400 --> 00:44:15,839
Speaker 1: family is there, who needs to show up? Ope? Like magic? Yeah,

929
00:44:16,120 --> 00:44:17,000
Speaker 1: it's all postering.

930
00:44:17,120 --> 00:44:17,359
Speaker 5: Ooh.

931
00:44:18,040 --> 00:44:20,200
Speaker 1: I was only there for three days with my cousin,

932
00:44:20,360 --> 00:44:22,319
Speaker 1: and the first two days my mom pretty much spent

933
00:44:22,400 --> 00:44:24,200
Speaker 1: with me and it was like it used to be again,

934
00:44:24,520 --> 00:44:26,440
Speaker 1: like she and I went shopping, we even cuddled to

935
00:44:26,480 --> 00:44:29,680
Speaker 1: sleep watching TV again. But the third day dinner, wife

936
00:44:29,680 --> 00:44:31,560
Speaker 1: were focused on the dinner and the guests and everything,

937
00:44:31,680 --> 00:44:33,200
Speaker 1: So I get it. Yeah, I was upset that she

938
00:44:33,320 --> 00:44:35,719
Speaker 1: paid really little attention to me, but her wife's entire

939
00:44:35,719 --> 00:44:37,839
Speaker 1: immediate family was there, and I get that she needed

940
00:44:37,840 --> 00:44:40,200
Speaker 1: to focus on them. But when we left after dinner,

941
00:44:40,440 --> 00:44:42,600
Speaker 1: we had to take the really late ferry. My mom

942
00:44:42,680 --> 00:44:44,919
Speaker 1: said bye and she was going to book a meeting

943
00:44:44,960 --> 00:44:47,800
Speaker 1: at a University of Victoria to take me two and

944
00:44:47,880 --> 00:44:49,600
Speaker 1: didn't even give me a second to talk about it

945
00:44:49,640 --> 00:44:51,719
Speaker 1: before waving us goodbye. And then it went back just

946
00:44:51,800 --> 00:44:54,400
Speaker 1: texting good morning, good night until my birthday. So literally,

947
00:44:54,760 --> 00:44:57,759
Speaker 1: when there needs to be a performance, the mom's like, oh, like,

948
00:44:57,880 --> 00:45:00,640
Speaker 1: let's have the perfect day. And as soon dude, as

949
00:45:00,840 --> 00:45:04,040
Speaker 1: Opie's gone out of sight, out of mind Emmy Award

950
00:45:04,080 --> 00:45:08,040
Speaker 1: winning performances. When when something Emmy Awards.

951
00:45:07,719 --> 00:45:11,480
Speaker 6: Old, Yes, I would love to plant like an audio

952
00:45:11,880 --> 00:45:15,080
Speaker 6: something so we could hear what this mom says about

953
00:45:15,120 --> 00:45:16,520
Speaker 6: her kid whenever she's not around.

954
00:45:18,239 --> 00:45:22,040
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, So then my mom and her wife came

955
00:45:22,440 --> 00:45:25,360
Speaker 1: with my wife's parents because my mom was like, they

956
00:45:25,440 --> 00:45:29,000
Speaker 1: really wanted to celebrate my birthday again. The wife's parents

957
00:45:29,040 --> 00:45:31,759
Speaker 1: are there. Yep, I guess they're my step grandparents, but

958
00:45:31,840 --> 00:45:34,000
Speaker 1: I really like them and they seem to really like

959
00:45:34,080 --> 00:45:36,759
Speaker 1: me too. I mean, step grandma said the best thing

960
00:45:36,840 --> 00:45:40,279
Speaker 1: about the wedding was that they finally got a grandchild

961
00:45:40,520 --> 00:45:42,719
Speaker 1: and they brought a lot of presents for me. The

962
00:45:43,120 --> 00:45:45,880
Speaker 1: step grandparents, they have a niece around my age and

963
00:45:46,000 --> 00:45:48,080
Speaker 1: they had her go out with them and just get

964
00:45:48,200 --> 00:45:50,200
Speaker 1: so much stuff, and they think someone my age will

965
00:45:50,239 --> 00:45:52,160
Speaker 1: like it, and I do like it. My mom got

966
00:45:52,200 --> 00:45:53,840
Speaker 1: me an album of pictures of us and said to

967
00:45:53,840 --> 00:45:55,879
Speaker 1: look at the photos whenever I miss her, because it'll

968
00:45:56,000 --> 00:45:58,000
Speaker 1: make it like he's right there with me.

969
00:45:58,680 --> 00:45:58,719
Speaker 2: No.

970
00:45:59,280 --> 00:46:01,200
Speaker 1: At the party, Mom and Dad seemed to get along

971
00:46:01,440 --> 00:46:03,359
Speaker 1: just like when they were married, like they were laughing,

972
00:46:03,440 --> 00:46:05,680
Speaker 1: telling jokes, even had me do goofy pictures with them

973
00:46:05,760 --> 00:46:07,960
Speaker 1: like we all used to. Mom's wife got along with

974
00:46:08,080 --> 00:46:11,520
Speaker 1: Dad's fiance and with my uncle, his son, and his

975
00:46:11,640 --> 00:46:13,960
Speaker 1: son's wife. My mom didn't talk to my uncle at

976
00:46:14,040 --> 00:46:16,480
Speaker 1: all beyond when he came to say hi to her,

977
00:46:16,800 --> 00:46:18,839
Speaker 1: and she said hi and a really mean tone to him,

978
00:46:18,880 --> 00:46:20,960
Speaker 1: which was weird since they used to be so close.

979
00:46:21,280 --> 00:46:23,400
Speaker 1: I guess she's still mad at him for when I

980
00:46:23,600 --> 00:46:26,000
Speaker 1: talked to him about what was going on. She was

981
00:46:26,040 --> 00:46:28,600
Speaker 1: really weird with my boyfriend and was non stop making

982
00:46:28,719 --> 00:46:32,600
Speaker 1: jokes about him and me getting married and making her grandma.

983
00:46:32,880 --> 00:46:35,000
Speaker 1: She straight up said to him, I don't want you

984
00:46:35,160 --> 00:46:37,719
Speaker 1: to wait until I'm gray and in my forties to

985
00:46:37,800 --> 00:46:40,640
Speaker 1: make me a grandma. But his mom also got into

986
00:46:40,640 --> 00:46:42,680
Speaker 1: the jokes, so I guess it was just a mom thing.

987
00:46:43,000 --> 00:46:45,680
Speaker 1: My mom and her wife left after only about an

988
00:46:45,719 --> 00:46:47,200
Speaker 1: hour and a half to go stay at a fancy

989
00:46:47,239 --> 00:46:50,200
Speaker 1: hotel all the way over in Cole Harbor, even though

990
00:46:50,280 --> 00:46:53,320
Speaker 1: my dad did offer them a room.

991
00:46:53,960 --> 00:46:58,720
Speaker 2: Cole Harbor ninety five percent complete halfway through the final episode.

992
00:46:58,840 --> 00:47:02,560
Speaker 1: Mm hmm. Good. Mom just said she doesn't feel it'd

993
00:47:02,600 --> 00:47:04,560
Speaker 1: be appropriate to stay in the same house as him,

994
00:47:04,640 --> 00:47:07,520
Speaker 1: and it's too painful for her because he designed the house.

995
00:47:07,640 --> 00:47:10,120
Speaker 1: When I asked her why she couldn't stay, So I guess,

996
00:47:10,160 --> 00:47:11,439
Speaker 1: like I didn't want to stay in the same house

997
00:47:11,480 --> 00:47:14,319
Speaker 1: as husband. It had missed me off because they came

998
00:47:14,400 --> 00:47:16,520
Speaker 1: at four and so when everyone was setting up, so

999
00:47:16,560 --> 00:47:18,480
Speaker 1: I guess that means they missed the actual party. My

1000
00:47:18,600 --> 00:47:20,839
Speaker 1: step grandparents stayed though, and only left in the morning

1001
00:47:20,920 --> 00:47:22,839
Speaker 1: when my mom and her wife came to pick them up.

1002
00:47:23,040 --> 00:47:25,279
Speaker 1: Then at eight thirty, my mom did a FaceTime with me,

1003
00:47:25,560 --> 00:47:27,520
Speaker 1: but it looked like she and her wife were in

1004
00:47:27,600 --> 00:47:30,080
Speaker 1: the hotel, spa or something. Doesn't make sense because I

1005
00:47:30,200 --> 00:47:32,640
Speaker 1: thought those clothes pretty early in the day, but they

1006
00:47:32,680 --> 00:47:35,120
Speaker 1: were wearing those robes and looked like they were someplace

1007
00:47:35,160 --> 00:47:37,120
Speaker 1: really fancy. Then my mom was like she has to

1008
00:47:37,160 --> 00:47:38,799
Speaker 1: hang up because she doesn't want me to see them

1009
00:47:38,840 --> 00:47:41,400
Speaker 1: without clothes on. Weird, and they were both giggling at that.

1010
00:47:41,640 --> 00:47:43,920
Speaker 1: That really effing pissed me off. And they ditched my

1011
00:47:44,040 --> 00:47:48,200
Speaker 1: birthday to go hang out in a spa. Yep, yeah,

1012
00:47:48,280 --> 00:47:51,040
Speaker 1: here we are again. Who could have predicted this? Dude,

1013
00:47:51,120 --> 00:47:52,000
Speaker 1: who could have predicted it?

1014
00:47:52,200 --> 00:47:55,320
Speaker 6: And close thing because like now they're about to go

1015
00:47:55,520 --> 00:47:57,759
Speaker 6: to a spa and not have clothes on either. I'm

1016
00:47:58,080 --> 00:47:59,840
Speaker 6: I'm just trying to do things.

1017
00:48:01,760 --> 00:48:05,800
Speaker 1: Riley's metaphors. This is continuing. He's diving in deep to

1018
00:48:05,880 --> 00:48:07,280
Speaker 1: the Reddit metaphors.

1019
00:48:09,680 --> 00:48:15,000
Speaker 5: And so the symbolism, yes, yeah, yeah, we're finally seeing

1020
00:48:15,280 --> 00:48:19,760
Speaker 5: underneath the clothes of what's really there, and it's a stinky,

1021
00:48:20,040 --> 00:48:21,680
Speaker 5: stinky body.

1022
00:48:21,520 --> 00:48:22,239
Speaker 1: Of your mother.

1023
00:48:23,480 --> 00:48:23,719
Speaker 5: Yep.

1024
00:48:24,160 --> 00:48:27,840
Speaker 1: Yeah. Maybe they were actually doing something else, but I

1025
00:48:27,920 --> 00:48:30,640
Speaker 1: honestly don't want to even think about that beyond what

1026
00:48:30,800 --> 00:48:33,359
Speaker 1: I have to. Then there's the album that she gave

1027
00:48:33,440 --> 00:48:35,239
Speaker 1: me as a present. I didn't really think about it

1028
00:48:35,320 --> 00:48:37,319
Speaker 1: a lot then because I was happy that she came.

1029
00:48:37,560 --> 00:48:39,920
Speaker 1: But I did try yesterday because my dad's fiance was

1030
00:48:40,000 --> 00:48:42,520
Speaker 1: meeting with some of her relatives for last minute planning

1031
00:48:42,560 --> 00:48:45,799
Speaker 1: because her and dad's wedding is on Sunday. I wasn't

1032
00:48:45,800 --> 00:48:48,440
Speaker 1: with them because I studied, but when I did leave

1033
00:48:48,520 --> 00:48:50,600
Speaker 1: my room to get my charger, I heard them talking

1034
00:48:50,640 --> 00:48:54,360
Speaker 1: about me. My dad's fiance was saying the best stuff

1035
00:48:54,400 --> 00:48:57,319
Speaker 1: about me, but her relatives were saying some crappy things

1036
00:48:57,360 --> 00:49:00,800
Speaker 1: about my mom and she wasn't stopping them. So maybe

1037
00:49:01,280 --> 00:49:04,040
Speaker 1: finally everyone's seeing how crappy the mom is. Yeah, they

1038
00:49:04,160 --> 00:49:06,480
Speaker 1: understand it. Okay, this could be good, could be great.

1039
00:49:06,600 --> 00:49:09,320
Speaker 1: She was also talking about how my mom is forcing

1040
00:49:09,520 --> 00:49:13,080
Speaker 1: my dad's hand to send me to her over winter

1041
00:49:13,239 --> 00:49:17,920
Speaker 1: break instead of my uncles because that's when their honeymoon is.

1042
00:49:18,239 --> 00:49:20,920
Speaker 1: I didn't mean to spy, and I get now that

1043
00:49:21,120 --> 00:49:24,080
Speaker 1: i'm writing about it that what they were saying wasn't

1044
00:49:24,120 --> 00:49:27,120
Speaker 1: exactly wrong, and they were only saying because they didn't

1045
00:49:27,120 --> 00:49:29,279
Speaker 1: think i'd hear it really having pissed me off and

1046
00:49:29,320 --> 00:49:32,160
Speaker 1: still does. I was upset, and I looked at the album,

1047
00:49:32,239 --> 00:49:34,320
Speaker 1: and it's pictures of both of us, my mom and I,

1048
00:49:34,600 --> 00:49:36,640
Speaker 1: from when I was a baby until now, and behind

1049
00:49:36,719 --> 00:49:38,920
Speaker 1: each picture she slid a note about why the memory

1050
00:49:39,000 --> 00:49:40,880
Speaker 1: is special or what the picture means to her if

1051
00:49:40,920 --> 00:49:43,240
Speaker 1: she can't remember. But It just made me angry because

1052
00:49:43,280 --> 00:49:46,160
Speaker 1: of how few photos there are from after she moved

1053
00:49:46,200 --> 00:49:49,600
Speaker 1: to Victoria. Most of them are ones from the wedding

1054
00:49:49,719 --> 00:49:54,480
Speaker 1: day and barely anything before that, so it's like she

1055
00:49:54,640 --> 00:49:58,879
Speaker 1: just started collecting these photos once she needed to yes

1056
00:49:59,440 --> 00:50:02,520
Speaker 1: to prove to this to the fiance's parents. There's only

1057
00:50:02,600 --> 00:50:04,560
Speaker 1: one photo in it that was like a month before

1058
00:50:04,640 --> 00:50:06,640
Speaker 1: she came out, and it's when she lived in my

1059
00:50:06,680 --> 00:50:09,160
Speaker 1: cousin's house, and pretty much I surprised her with cookies

1060
00:50:09,320 --> 00:50:11,040
Speaker 1: that my cousin and I made that day. When I

1061
00:50:11,120 --> 00:50:13,239
Speaker 1: surprised her, she hugged me so tight and told me

1062
00:50:13,320 --> 00:50:15,760
Speaker 1: she was proud of me. My cousin took the photo

1063
00:50:15,960 --> 00:50:18,480
Speaker 1: on her phone. But that night I found her crying

1064
00:50:18,520 --> 00:50:20,440
Speaker 1: in a room and she said it's because I'm growing up,

1065
00:50:20,560 --> 00:50:22,839
Speaker 1: and said something like how she wishes she could live

1066
00:50:22,880 --> 00:50:25,080
Speaker 1: in the moments like that forever and she's so proud

1067
00:50:25,120 --> 00:50:27,200
Speaker 1: of me. And it makes me so mad because that's

1068
00:50:27,480 --> 00:50:29,360
Speaker 1: what I want back. And the fact that I'm not

1069
00:50:29,480 --> 00:50:32,120
Speaker 1: even in photos of her pre wedding events and reception

1070
00:50:32,160 --> 00:50:34,640
Speaker 1: and so much other stuff in Victoria just makes it

1071
00:50:34,719 --> 00:50:38,480
Speaker 1: seem as if it's an album giving proof that I've

1072
00:50:38,520 --> 00:50:40,520
Speaker 1: barely been in her life and that I should be

1073
00:50:40,680 --> 00:50:43,080
Speaker 1: happy for it. And I know I shouldn't be thinking that,

1074
00:50:43,160 --> 00:50:45,520
Speaker 1: because she's actually gave me a good gift and I'm

1075
00:50:45,600 --> 00:50:48,239
Speaker 1: poisoning it with my own mindstead value it and all

1076
00:50:48,280 --> 00:50:50,640
Speaker 1: the memories inside. But my therapist has been trying to

1077
00:50:50,680 --> 00:50:53,680
Speaker 1: help me define life without her, and it's hard because

1078
00:50:53,680 --> 00:50:55,320
Speaker 1: I don't want to, because I can't let go of

1079
00:50:55,400 --> 00:50:57,480
Speaker 1: this feeling that it could be good again, and I

1080
00:50:57,560 --> 00:50:59,480
Speaker 1: don't want those people to be right. But my therapist

1081
00:50:59,480 --> 00:51:01,440
Speaker 1: says it's all right to want that, but for my

1082
00:51:01,560 --> 00:51:04,440
Speaker 1: own sake, I need to in case it doesn't ever

1083
00:51:04,600 --> 00:51:06,880
Speaker 1: happen again, and it will help once I'm in university.

1084
00:51:06,920 --> 00:51:09,160
Speaker 1: So I've been trying, but I hate it. So I

1085
00:51:09,239 --> 00:51:11,240
Speaker 1: guess I came here to ask for advice and stuff

1086
00:51:11,280 --> 00:51:14,440
Speaker 1: I can bring into therapy. There's another update. The day

1087
00:51:14,480 --> 00:51:16,560
Speaker 1: after my dad and his fiance got married, I guess

1088
00:51:16,600 --> 00:51:19,480
Speaker 1: she's also my stepmom. Now. I had to go to

1089
00:51:19,560 --> 00:51:21,719
Speaker 1: Victoria because my mom wanted me there. My cousin was

1090
00:51:21,760 --> 00:51:24,240
Speaker 1: supposed to come, but she changed plans because her boyfriend

1091
00:51:24,280 --> 00:51:26,520
Speaker 1: got time off work, so they went to Whistler instead.

1092
00:51:26,600 --> 00:51:28,200
Speaker 1: When I got to my mom's house. I was there

1093
00:51:28,239 --> 00:51:30,279
Speaker 1: for half an hour and found out my mom and

1094
00:51:30,360 --> 00:51:32,719
Speaker 1: her wife were going to Ottawa for her wife's job,

1095
00:51:33,040 --> 00:51:35,920
Speaker 1: so I'd be staying with my step grandparents until Christmas weekend.

1096
00:51:36,080 --> 00:51:38,439
Speaker 1: I call them step grandparents here because it makes sense

1097
00:51:38,480 --> 00:51:40,719
Speaker 1: for some reason, but in real life I've started calling

1098
00:51:40,800 --> 00:51:43,719
Speaker 1: them Nana and Papa. I'll be honest. I had so

1099
00:51:43,960 --> 00:51:46,440
Speaker 1: much fun with them. I really love them both so much.

1100
00:51:46,560 --> 00:51:48,840
Speaker 1: Step Grandpa loves basketball as well, and he's also a

1101
00:51:48,920 --> 00:51:51,399
Speaker 1: Lakers fan. Step Grandma taught me how to knit. I'm

1102
00:51:51,440 --> 00:51:54,320
Speaker 1: not that good, and they made me amazing breakfast and

1103
00:51:54,480 --> 00:51:56,600
Speaker 1: lunch every day was there. We would go out for

1104
00:51:56,680 --> 00:51:58,920
Speaker 1: dinner every night. And they live even closer to you

1105
00:51:59,040 --> 00:52:00,759
Speaker 1: Vic than my mom does. So they said if I

1106
00:52:00,840 --> 00:52:03,000
Speaker 1: go there, they turn a room in a study room

1107
00:52:03,160 --> 00:52:03,440
Speaker 1: for me.

1108
00:52:03,880 --> 00:52:04,160
Speaker 3: Oh.

1109
00:52:04,560 --> 00:52:06,200
Speaker 1: The thing is, when my mom came back and I

1110
00:52:06,239 --> 00:52:08,239
Speaker 1: went back there, she told me that she found out

1111
00:52:08,280 --> 00:52:10,279
Speaker 1: while in Ottawa that they got a new car for

1112
00:52:10,400 --> 00:52:11,160
Speaker 1: me for Christmas.

1113
00:52:11,680 --> 00:52:16,440
Speaker 2: Whoa the grandparents, dude, they are She's got now her

1114
00:52:16,520 --> 00:52:20,480
Speaker 2: own like sick room, a study room and a new car.

1115
00:52:21,160 --> 00:52:25,239
Speaker 2: Finally someone that actually, yeah, dude, yeah, the dark that

1116
00:52:26,920 --> 00:52:30,439
Speaker 2: is so that is some symbolism right there. Dude, Riley

1117
00:52:30,480 --> 00:52:31,520
Speaker 2: went from finding.

1118
00:52:32,440 --> 00:52:34,640
Speaker 1: Dude, Oh my god, Riley's an artist right here. With

1119
00:52:34,719 --> 00:52:37,759
Speaker 1: this story. Mom was kind of angry because she thinks

1120
00:52:37,800 --> 00:52:40,200
Speaker 1: it's too much, and I was honestly just scared because

1121
00:52:40,280 --> 00:52:44,040
Speaker 1: I've never had something so expensive. The mom's pissed, but

1122
00:52:44,160 --> 00:52:45,840
Speaker 1: my mom talked to that with my dad and apparently

1123
00:52:46,000 --> 00:52:48,400
Speaker 1: it's all right. So on Christmas, they bought me the

1124
00:52:48,600 --> 00:52:50,960
Speaker 1: car and it was really cool. I was so nervous

1125
00:52:51,000 --> 00:52:52,920
Speaker 1: to drive it, but I do like it. I left

1126
00:52:52,960 --> 00:52:55,000
Speaker 1: in Victoria because I don't want to drive it myself yet,

1127
00:52:55,120 --> 00:52:57,040
Speaker 1: and my mom got me a lot of presents, and

1128
00:52:57,239 --> 00:52:59,480
Speaker 1: I mean a lot. There was so much there it

1129
00:52:59,520 --> 00:53:02,399
Speaker 1: fell over. After Christmas, we saw the new Disney movie

1130
00:53:02,560 --> 00:53:04,600
Speaker 1: Strange World, because my mom and I both love those

1131
00:53:04,680 --> 00:53:06,560
Speaker 1: kind of movies, and in it, the main character is

1132
00:53:06,600 --> 00:53:08,800
Speaker 1: a teenager who has issues with his dad and grandpa

1133
00:53:09,000 --> 00:53:11,560
Speaker 1: and he's also attracted the same gender, but it's just

1134
00:53:11,640 --> 00:53:13,640
Speaker 1: who he is and it's handled like a normal movie.

1135
00:53:13,880 --> 00:53:16,080
Speaker 1: But as soon as it became clear he was attracted

1136
00:53:16,120 --> 00:53:18,680
Speaker 1: the same gender, my mom got really quiet and just

1137
00:53:18,800 --> 00:53:20,759
Speaker 1: kind of shut down. She just went to her room.

1138
00:53:21,040 --> 00:53:23,440
Speaker 1: When the movie was done. Didn't even say good night

1139
00:53:23,480 --> 00:53:24,880
Speaker 1: to me. When I went to brush my teeth, I

1140
00:53:24,880 --> 00:53:28,040
Speaker 1: could hear crying really badly to her wife, and I

1141
00:53:28,160 --> 00:53:31,120
Speaker 1: know I should spy, but I just had to. He

1142
00:53:31,280 --> 00:53:34,759
Speaker 1: was crying about how it's so normal now and how

1143
00:53:34,840 --> 00:53:37,120
Speaker 1: she wishes she could have come out as a teenager

1144
00:53:37,440 --> 00:53:39,880
Speaker 1: and lived her life the way he should have, and

1145
00:53:40,040 --> 00:53:42,840
Speaker 1: how she and her wife could have gotten married way before.

1146
00:53:43,200 --> 00:53:45,359
Speaker 1: I felt really bad, and then I heard her talk

1147
00:53:45,400 --> 00:53:48,799
Speaker 1: about how many years he wasted as a soccer mom,

1148
00:53:49,239 --> 00:53:51,480
Speaker 1: and I got mad as well and just went to

1149
00:53:51,719 --> 00:53:54,280
Speaker 1: my room. I was kind of prepared to argue about

1150
00:53:54,280 --> 00:53:56,440
Speaker 1: the movie the next morning, but my mom didn't even

1151
00:53:56,480 --> 00:53:58,400
Speaker 1: come out of her room. Her wife said she was

1152
00:53:58,440 --> 00:54:01,000
Speaker 1: feeling sick, and I went to say good She stopped

1153
00:54:01,080 --> 00:54:03,680
Speaker 1: me because she was like, my mom doesn't want me

1154
00:54:04,080 --> 00:54:06,359
Speaker 1: to see her like that. I heard my mom throwing up,

1155
00:54:06,480 --> 00:54:08,400
Speaker 1: and when I said good morning through the door, just

1156
00:54:08,520 --> 00:54:11,120
Speaker 1: checking her, she said it back, but then started crying

1157
00:54:11,120 --> 00:54:13,680
Speaker 1: again really loudly, and had her wife take me away

1158
00:54:14,040 --> 00:54:17,040
Speaker 1: because she said she can't let me see her cry.

1159
00:54:17,440 --> 00:54:19,919
Speaker 1: I just stayed watching TV after that because I felt

1160
00:54:19,960 --> 00:54:22,080
Speaker 1: really bad, because it was my idea to watch that movie.

1161
00:54:22,280 --> 00:54:24,160
Speaker 1: Her wife kept going back and forth and try to

1162
00:54:24,200 --> 00:54:26,560
Speaker 1: get her somebody to eat, and apparently she ate some bread,

1163
00:54:26,680 --> 00:54:28,399
Speaker 1: but then she threw that up too. Then my step

1164
00:54:28,480 --> 00:54:32,240
Speaker 1: grandparents came because they were worried, and they went driving

1165
00:54:32,280 --> 00:54:34,200
Speaker 1: with me to distract me. They went to Dairy Queen

1166
00:54:34,320 --> 00:54:36,560
Speaker 1: even though it was really cold, and it did get

1167
00:54:36,600 --> 00:54:39,040
Speaker 1: my mind off things. And still step grandpa answered a

1168
00:54:39,120 --> 00:54:42,319
Speaker 1: call from my mom's wife. Then he was telling her

1169
00:54:42,360 --> 00:54:44,719
Speaker 1: to take my mom to the hospital. But I heard

1170
00:54:44,800 --> 00:54:48,000
Speaker 1: her mention how my mom would rather pass away than

1171
00:54:48,080 --> 00:54:50,520
Speaker 1: go there, and how she didn't see her parents in

1172
00:54:50,600 --> 00:54:53,759
Speaker 1: the hospital and didn't even go to see me. So

1173
00:54:53,800 --> 00:54:58,439
Speaker 1: I think maybe the mom is feeling bad. Oh, maybe

1174
00:54:58,520 --> 00:55:01,480
Speaker 1: the mom is actually really a afraid of hospitals, as

1175
00:55:01,480 --> 00:55:03,520
Speaker 1: a fairy of hospitals, because she said, yeah, I didn't

1176
00:55:03,520 --> 00:55:05,719
Speaker 1: go to see op and I didn't go to see

1177
00:55:05,719 --> 00:55:06,120
Speaker 1: the parents.

1178
00:55:06,480 --> 00:55:08,600
Speaker 2: That's what I'm That's what it sounds like to me too.

1179
00:55:08,640 --> 00:55:11,280
Speaker 2: She has some sort of hospital phobia.

1180
00:55:11,400 --> 00:55:13,480
Speaker 1: When my step grandparents asked if that was true, I

1181
00:55:13,560 --> 00:55:15,560
Speaker 1: said it was about me, and I tried not to,

1182
00:55:15,960 --> 00:55:17,840
Speaker 1: but I did cry. It got me to stop, and

1183
00:55:17,920 --> 00:55:20,839
Speaker 1: I feel effing embarrassed that I cried in front of them,

1184
00:55:21,040 --> 00:55:23,040
Speaker 1: but we had a good day together. When my step

1185
00:55:23,120 --> 00:55:25,359
Speaker 1: grandparents dropped me off, my mom was on the couch

1186
00:55:25,400 --> 00:55:27,320
Speaker 1: and called me over. She then gave me such a

1187
00:55:27,360 --> 00:55:29,520
Speaker 1: big hug, but it was like she was holding in tears.

1188
00:55:29,840 --> 00:55:31,480
Speaker 1: He told me that she wasn't feeling good at all

1189
00:55:31,560 --> 00:55:33,600
Speaker 1: and asked if I wouldn't mind going back to my

1190
00:55:33,680 --> 00:55:36,600
Speaker 1: step grandparents. The day after, her wife said that maybe

1191
00:55:36,719 --> 00:55:38,919
Speaker 1: they should send me back to Vancouver and I could

1192
00:55:38,920 --> 00:55:41,560
Speaker 1: stay with my uncle, and my mom just got so angry.

1193
00:55:41,680 --> 00:55:44,880
Speaker 1: I actually got really scared. They're just sending ope everywhere.

1194
00:55:45,080 --> 00:55:47,000
Speaker 1: She went on a rant about how she's not going

1195
00:55:47,080 --> 00:55:49,400
Speaker 1: to let me see him, and how he's been trying

1196
00:55:49,440 --> 00:55:51,640
Speaker 1: to turn me against her, and he just hates her

1197
00:55:51,719 --> 00:55:54,560
Speaker 1: because she doesn't have AIDS trauma that it makes sense

1198
00:55:54,600 --> 00:55:57,719
Speaker 1: because my uncle doesn't have AIDS, and she said he

1199
00:55:57,840 --> 00:56:00,560
Speaker 1: needs to get over himself and remember that my is

1200
00:56:00,640 --> 00:56:03,239
Speaker 1: his brother, not his son, and to focus on his

1201
00:56:03,440 --> 00:56:07,399
Speaker 1: actual granddaughter. I feel like she's mad because the uncle

1202
00:56:07,560 --> 00:56:10,600
Speaker 1: is showing them up and being a good parental figure

1203
00:56:10,719 --> 00:56:11,800
Speaker 1: over her exactly.

1204
00:56:11,920 --> 00:56:13,880
Speaker 2: She's like, Oh, you're gonna make me look bad because

1205
00:56:14,120 --> 00:56:16,400
Speaker 2: you know, I know I'm being a crap mom, and

1206
00:56:16,520 --> 00:56:18,799
Speaker 2: here we are being a great uncle and actually caring

1207
00:56:18,840 --> 00:56:19,040
Speaker 2: for her.

1208
00:56:19,120 --> 00:56:23,879
Speaker 1: Who Yeah, they feel threatened, Yes, feel threatened one thousand percent.

1209
00:56:24,160 --> 00:56:26,120
Speaker 1: Her wife tried to calm her down, but then she

1210
00:56:26,320 --> 00:56:28,479
Speaker 1: just yelled out that she wishes that my uncle would

1211
00:56:28,600 --> 00:56:31,120
Speaker 1: just effing pass away. That was the worst decision of

1212
00:56:31,160 --> 00:56:33,200
Speaker 1: her life to pity my dad and to not just

1213
00:56:33,320 --> 00:56:35,600
Speaker 1: take me with her when she left. I really didn't

1214
00:56:35,719 --> 00:56:38,080
Speaker 1: know that she hated him that much. Like when I

1215
00:56:38,200 --> 00:56:40,640
Speaker 1: was younger. They were always so close and Dad would

1216
00:56:40,640 --> 00:56:43,640
Speaker 1: even joke sometimes about her stealing his brother. I honestly

1217
00:56:43,680 --> 00:56:46,279
Speaker 1: started crying really badly because he is my favorite uncle.

1218
00:56:46,520 --> 00:56:49,000
Speaker 1: But that just made my mom angrier, and she was

1219
00:56:49,200 --> 00:56:52,120
Speaker 1: like to her wife that it just proves that nobody

1220
00:56:52,280 --> 00:56:54,279
Speaker 1: understands and that my uncle is trying to steal me

1221
00:56:54,360 --> 00:56:56,640
Speaker 1: because I'm the best thing in her life. Maybe you

1222
00:56:56,640 --> 00:56:59,320
Speaker 1: should just be a better mam. Then she actually yelled

1223
00:56:59,320 --> 00:57:01,959
Speaker 1: at me to effing's up, crying that I cried more

1224
00:57:02,280 --> 00:57:04,080
Speaker 1: than I did when I was a baby, and she

1225
00:57:04,360 --> 00:57:06,719
Speaker 1: said the thing about me not getting a husband again.

1226
00:57:06,960 --> 00:57:08,640
Speaker 1: Her wife just took my mom to their room and

1227
00:57:08,719 --> 00:57:10,520
Speaker 1: they left me on the couch. I didn't know, I

1228
00:57:10,640 --> 00:57:12,719
Speaker 1: just couldn't stop crying, and I just fell asleep there

1229
00:57:12,800 --> 00:57:16,040
Speaker 1: because I didn't feel like I could move. In the morning,

1230
00:57:16,280 --> 00:57:18,320
Speaker 1: I woke up and was still on the couch, but

1231
00:57:18,400 --> 00:57:20,080
Speaker 1: there was a blanket on me and my head was

1232
00:57:20,080 --> 00:57:22,439
Speaker 1: in my mom's lap. I really felt like crying again,

1233
00:57:22,960 --> 00:57:26,400
Speaker 1: but I held it in. Then my mom actually said sorry. See,

1234
00:57:26,520 --> 00:57:28,640
Speaker 1: she said she doesn't know what's been happening to her

1235
00:57:28,840 --> 00:57:31,040
Speaker 1: since we saw the movie, but it was no excuse

1236
00:57:31,120 --> 00:57:33,640
Speaker 1: to yell at me for crying. She was so sorry

1237
00:57:33,760 --> 00:57:35,920
Speaker 1: that she hurt me so badly, and she was starting

1238
00:57:36,000 --> 00:57:38,440
Speaker 1: to understand how horrible she's been to me over the

1239
00:57:38,680 --> 00:57:42,120
Speaker 1: entire winter break, how about the entire couple years. Yes,

1240
00:57:42,600 --> 00:57:45,320
Speaker 1: let's do that. Let's not just acknowledge this little thing.

1241
00:57:45,320 --> 00:57:50,040
Speaker 2: And also it just feels so disingenuine and just like, oh,

1242
00:57:50,120 --> 00:57:52,640
Speaker 2: apologize to just be able to go right back to

1243
00:57:52,760 --> 00:57:55,040
Speaker 2: it exactly, it's like, actually make a change.

1244
00:57:55,240 --> 00:57:55,439
Speaker 1: Yes.

1245
00:57:55,680 --> 00:57:58,200
Speaker 6: Also, I just I'm looking through some of the comments.

1246
00:57:58,360 --> 00:58:01,320
Speaker 6: She's only thirty five turning thirty six.

1247
00:58:01,480 --> 00:58:03,720
Speaker 1: The mom moves, Oh so she had op like pretty

1248
00:58:03,720 --> 00:58:08,600
Speaker 1: young twwenty Oh wow. She called her wife over and

1249
00:58:08,760 --> 00:58:11,880
Speaker 1: made her apologize to me too. After breakfast. We had

1250
00:58:11,920 --> 00:58:13,800
Speaker 1: a really big, long talk about how she was feeling.

1251
00:58:13,880 --> 00:58:15,840
Speaker 1: She seemed really sorry and said she would never get

1252
00:58:15,880 --> 00:58:18,080
Speaker 1: mad at me for crying again. But what mattered to

1253
00:58:18,160 --> 00:58:20,320
Speaker 1: me when she said she was sorry that she took

1254
00:58:20,360 --> 00:58:22,040
Speaker 1: out all her anger on my uncle and put it

1255
00:58:22,160 --> 00:58:23,920
Speaker 1: on me. He said it was wrong to do that

1256
00:58:24,240 --> 00:58:27,360
Speaker 1: and wrong to let me know how she feels, because

1257
00:58:27,440 --> 00:58:30,120
Speaker 1: it would be wrong to make me stop loving him good.

1258
00:58:30,360 --> 00:58:31,880
Speaker 1: He said, she knows I might not forgive her, but

1259
00:58:31,960 --> 00:58:34,320
Speaker 1: even if I do, she'll never forgive herself. He promised

1260
00:58:34,320 --> 00:58:36,160
Speaker 1: to try to change back to who I need her

1261
00:58:36,200 --> 00:58:38,200
Speaker 1: to be so we can get back to normal. She

1262
00:58:38,320 --> 00:58:40,080
Speaker 1: did offer to let me go to him, and I

1263
00:58:40,200 --> 00:58:42,280
Speaker 1: don't know why I didn't say yes, but I kind

1264
00:58:42,320 --> 00:58:44,320
Speaker 1: of felt like I still had to stay. I talked

1265
00:58:44,320 --> 00:58:46,160
Speaker 1: to her wife, too, and she said he was really

1266
00:58:46,200 --> 00:58:48,480
Speaker 1: sorry for what happened because she'd never seen my mom

1267
00:58:48,520 --> 00:58:51,160
Speaker 1: that way before. Just wanted to calm things down. She

1268
00:58:51,320 --> 00:58:53,439
Speaker 1: told me she was wrong not to take my side,

1269
00:58:53,480 --> 00:58:55,280
Speaker 1: and apparently my mom was mad at her for not

1270
00:58:55,360 --> 00:58:58,600
Speaker 1: doing that. He felt really guilty, and she's the one

1271
00:58:58,880 --> 00:59:01,000
Speaker 1: that put the blanket on me. She stayed by me

1272
00:59:01,120 --> 00:59:03,360
Speaker 1: until four am, when my mom came and took over.

1273
00:59:03,600 --> 00:59:05,800
Speaker 1: She also said she'd do whatever it took to get

1274
00:59:05,800 --> 00:59:08,320
Speaker 1: my forgiveness and wished she'd never hurt me. She told

1275
00:59:08,400 --> 00:59:10,520
Speaker 1: me I've been become such an important part of her

1276
00:59:10,560 --> 00:59:13,000
Speaker 1: life and she's so grateful. I love her parents. For

1277
00:59:13,080 --> 00:59:14,800
Speaker 1: the rest of the break, my mom didn't really talk

1278
00:59:14,880 --> 00:59:18,160
Speaker 1: that much. She did start eating, but it wasn't that much.

1279
00:59:18,440 --> 00:59:20,920
Speaker 1: My step grandparents came over every day to check on me.

1280
00:59:21,160 --> 00:59:23,439
Speaker 1: Thank God the step grandparents are there. Mom did seem

1281
00:59:23,480 --> 00:59:25,040
Speaker 1: to get a little bit better on New Year's and

1282
00:59:25,160 --> 00:59:28,000
Speaker 1: every time I'd ask how she felt, though, you'd just

1283
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Speaker 1: say she's fine, and it's her job to worry about me,

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Speaker 1: not the other way around. But you're not giving op

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Speaker 1: a lot of opportunities to not worry about you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I did go home the day after New Year's because

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Speaker 1: school was starting, but I had to go back on Friday.

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Speaker 1: I just got back Sunday night because I had a

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Speaker 1: meeting at UVic. Mom seemed really different when I saw

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Speaker 1: her again. She seems smaller now, and she definitely looks skinnier.

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Speaker 1: I know it's been only two weeks, but she seems

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Speaker 1: skinnier and she still seems sad, but like she was

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Speaker 1: at least pretending to be happy. The meeting at YUVIC

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Speaker 1: went really well, and it really does seem like an

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00:59:58,600 --> 01:00:00,919
Speaker 1: amazing place to go to school. Even though I don't

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Speaker 1: know if I want to do engineering anymore, there's still

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Speaker 1: a lot there. My mom did make me sign up

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Speaker 1: to go check up UBCs if you len Gara Langera

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Speaker 1: as well. She also said she's going with her wife

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Speaker 1: to Ontario in February and we could do a road

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Speaker 1: trip together while her wife is working. We can check

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Speaker 1: out other universities like Waterloo, McMaster and uf T. She

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Speaker 1: said she wanted me to know I can choose to

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Speaker 1: go to them, but she's confident that I'll come to her,

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01:00:25,440 --> 01:00:28,320
Speaker 1: and I'm confident that it'll come to us. For full

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Speaker 1: episodes of stories, just like this, but maybe a little

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Speaker 1: less stressful, just go to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your

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01:00:34,000 --> 01:00:37,920
Speaker 1: favorite podcast app and search. Okay, storytime, there's another elevant update,

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Speaker 1: but let's discuss. Oh, it's been a journey. I don't

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Speaker 1: even know if we're turning a full leaf here.

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Speaker 2: I don't know, you know, I mean, I think we

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Speaker 2: have the uncle, we have the step grandparents, so you

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Speaker 2: have the step grandparents. I think it's honestly, op sixteen,

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Speaker 2: I think this is the beginning of a long journey

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Speaker 2: to get to a place where she can kind of

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Speaker 2: realizes what the mom is doing and figures out the

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Speaker 2: right balance of like, you know, engaging with her, but

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Speaker 2: then more importantly, getting the actual love, care and attention

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Speaker 2: from the people who do love her and care for

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Speaker 2: her like like they should.

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Speaker 1: And I feel like, I feel like OPI is on

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Speaker 1: the path, but I think it's going to take some Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's going to take some time. And I really do

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Speaker 1: think she just needs to distance herself from her mom.

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Speaker 1: I mean, is a mess. Live with Gary, live with uncle, yeah. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: But aside from the meeting, he didn't leave home at all.

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Speaker 1: I did get to hang out with my step grandparents.

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Speaker 1: When I was there, she couddled me almost the entire

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Speaker 1: day unless we were eating. Her wife told me she

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Speaker 1: was working from home. I don't know what to make

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Speaker 1: of any of it, Like if this means I'm getting

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Speaker 1: my mom back like she used to be, or she's

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01:01:45,960 --> 01:01:48,480
Speaker 1: going to keep changing, or she's depressed now. I wasn't

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Speaker 1: planning on posting, but I feel like I need people's

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Speaker 1: opinions on what could be happening to her, and that

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Speaker 1: is where that story ends. Benito, whoo who baby, So

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Speaker 1: let us know what you think op should do. Please.

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Speaker 1: I feel like Opie needs distance from the mom. Stay

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Speaker 1: with the step grandparents, stay with the uncle. But I think,

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Speaker 1: get away from all these terrible adults that they're giving

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Speaker 1: you so much bad advice. Get therapy. Get your mom

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Speaker 1: to get therapy, got everyone, get your daddy, get therapy. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: everyone needs it, but I think the therapist is right, like,

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01:02:26,040 --> 01:02:28,280
Speaker 1: see what your life is without your mom, because I

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01:02:28,360 --> 01:02:31,600
Speaker 1: feel like she's just giving her nothing but pain. Agreed,

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Speaker 1: that is where that story ends. So if you love us,

1348
01:02:34,280 --> 01:02:36,920
Speaker 1: makes her to subscribe. We love you and see it

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Speaker 1: tomorrow