WEBVTT - Why Can't Men Express Their Feelings Without Being Shamed?!

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<v Speaker 1>Wanting everybody as J n V. Charlemagne to God, we

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<v Speaker 1>ought to breakfast club.

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<v Speaker 2>If you're just joining us with celebrating the twentieth anniversary

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<v Speaker 2>of wilding Out.

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<v Speaker 1>You could take your headphones off. Guys, you can take

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<v Speaker 1>you headphones, take their headphones off. I'm sorry, I shouldn't

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<v Speaker 1>tell you.

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<v Speaker 3>That, something like we're like no head yeah, sorry, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>that's our first day.

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<v Speaker 2>But we're celebrating the twentieth anniversary of wilding Out and

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<v Speaker 2>we have b some moaning Justina Valentine this morning.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, and we're asking eight hundred.

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<v Speaker 2>Five eighty five five one? Can men show weakness? Can

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<v Speaker 2>they show vulnerability? Can they be open and free with

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<v Speaker 2>their feelings without looking like a suck up some time?

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<v Speaker 3>M cand But is it worth it?

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<v Speaker 4>It's probably not.

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<v Speaker 3>It is worth it if you do it the right way.

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<v Speaker 3>Talk to us.

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<v Speaker 5>You can't do it. First of all, the Internet is

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<v Speaker 5>never going to be a place where hundreds and thousands

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<v Speaker 5>of people aren't going to attack somebody and have opinions.

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<v Speaker 6>That's right.

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<v Speaker 5>So at the end of the day, if I'm putting

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<v Speaker 5>something on the Internet, I have to know that that's

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<v Speaker 5>going to happen.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, and you have to be fine with you. But

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<v Speaker 4>I know one thing for sure, And do you think

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<v Speaker 4>for certain my man better let me bust it open

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<v Speaker 4>our break or whomever like he better not say nothing

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<v Speaker 4>about forget.

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<v Speaker 7>I mean, why do you why do y'all think a

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<v Speaker 7>man should just be okay with that?

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<v Speaker 3>I love you, You're my woman.

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<v Speaker 7>If I've committed to you in that way, like say,

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<v Speaker 7>like they were married, you know, we got children together.

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<v Speaker 7>Why can't my feelings be hurt if I see you

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<v Speaker 7>busting it open on anybody?

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<v Speaker 4>I think it can be if she's not like in

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<v Speaker 4>the entertainment space. But again, Kiki is an entertainer. She

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<v Speaker 4>had eyes on her. This is why Usher picked her

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<v Speaker 4>out of the crowd to dance with her, because she

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<v Speaker 4>is who she is. So that's why I think she

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<v Speaker 4>gets a free passage.

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<v Speaker 1>She has a baby relationship, She didn't bang them.

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<v Speaker 7>She just like what y'all do, That it's all entertainment

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<v Speaker 7>thing is not a valid excuse.

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<v Speaker 1>And guess what well then I need in.

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<v Speaker 7>This industry, we used to take our we were told

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<v Speaker 7>not to wear all wedding rings and then act like

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<v Speaker 7>we weren't married back in the day, back and the yeah,

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<v Speaker 7>don't you think that wouldn't hurt wife's feelings.

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<v Speaker 5>Partner, if you really what's upset about that, That's something

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<v Speaker 5>you should know about your partner before you get in

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<v Speaker 5>front of usher.

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<v Speaker 3>That's true, But I want.

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<v Speaker 7>To take it out of the US and Kiki thing.

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<v Speaker 7>I just want to say, man, we got so many

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<v Speaker 7>men in therapy, so many men doing the work. But

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<v Speaker 7>men always get so much flak for not expressing their emotions,

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<v Speaker 7>not expressing their feelings. But when they do, they get

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<v Speaker 7>called him to kill suckers and punks, and you know

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<v Speaker 7>that he's not on her level. He's jealous of her successful.

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<v Speaker 7>How about some men are just in love and trying

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<v Speaker 7>to figure it.

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<v Speaker 1>Out, they be jealous so too.

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<v Speaker 4>Especially like No, I'm just saying like it could it

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<v Speaker 4>could be, and it.

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<v Speaker 1>Could be a little bit of both.

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<v Speaker 4>It could be a little bit of jealousness and a

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<v Speaker 4>little bit because you love.

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<v Speaker 5>It, being a little jealous of me.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, my feelings because you're buzzing it open on somebody else. See.

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<v Speaker 2>But the thing is, if you guys had men and

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<v Speaker 2>you broke up with your man and you put on

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<v Speaker 2>Instagram or social media, I broke up with my man.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not feeling good, it's not right. Y'all wouldn't get

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<v Speaker 2>hateful comments. You would get a lot of people support.

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<v Speaker 4>It's gonna be okay.

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<v Speaker 1>Now if me and Charlamagne put on there. I just

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<v Speaker 1>broke up with my man.

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<v Speaker 3>Man, and we know if double standards for everything.

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<v Speaker 7>But when women express their emotions and feelings, we're told

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<v Speaker 7>we should listen, regardless of where they expressed them.

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<v Speaker 3>But when men do.

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<v Speaker 7>It, we suckers and we secure that's not right, man,

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<v Speaker 7>and y'all gonna make it the way. Men aren' gonna

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<v Speaker 7>want to ePRESS their emotions publicly, and that's dangerous because

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<v Speaker 7>men expressing themselves publicly is how other.

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<v Speaker 3>Men will learn how to publicly express their emotions.

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<v Speaker 2>We even look at look my situation in my book.

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<v Speaker 2>I wrote a book about me and my wife's relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>We've been together twenty nine years, thirty years, and I

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<v Speaker 2>talked about and early on I couldn't make an orgasm.

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<v Speaker 3>I didn't know.

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<v Speaker 2>We were sixteen and fifteen. There were memes they made

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<v Speaker 2>fun of me, but it was me expressing how I was. Now,

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<v Speaker 2>if I was a very sensitive person, which I am,

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<v Speaker 2>I would be like when I write the next one,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, I ain't putting no one else out there

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<v Speaker 2>because me trying to express myself open the door. Because

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<v Speaker 2>there was so many men that showed the same way

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<v Speaker 2>and it went through the same thing, but they were

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<v Speaker 2>scared to say.

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<v Speaker 7>That what he's trying to get sympathy right now. Nobody

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<v Speaker 7>shamed him because he expressed it, you know, his emotions

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<v Speaker 7>shamed because he ain't know how to work the middle.

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<v Speaker 7>That's why it's a lot of guys for years what

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<v Speaker 7>we were shaming you for.

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<v Speaker 1>But if you don't know, you can't fix it. You

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<v Speaker 1>didn't know right exactly.

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<v Speaker 2>It was sixteen when when I was she was at

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<v Speaker 2>least taking it, she was at least facings.

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<v Speaker 1>Guess how it came out. It was sixteen. But I

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<v Speaker 1>used to watch porn, so I thought sex was bang

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<v Speaker 1>bang bang bang bang. Sure, but you had to learn.

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<v Speaker 1>It was nobody to tell me or teach me.

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<v Speaker 2>So yes, I did it so people could learn and

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<v Speaker 2>have those conversations.

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<v Speaker 7>Everybody read that book was like, I've been making women orgas. Okay,

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<v Speaker 7>you the one that ain't your making fun of me.

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<v Speaker 5>This year, so you ain't the only one that ain't

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<v Speaker 5>doing nothing in the bedroom I'm thirty three and had

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<v Speaker 5>my first organs.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, that's that's crazy, Like you weren't having sex with

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<v Speaker 7>one person for ten years?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you know what I Yeah, she was.

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<v Speaker 1>Having an orgasm with my mouth, not with my penis.

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<v Speaker 1>That's the thing I was.

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<v Speaker 4>Gonna say, she really love you though, because she's still

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<v Speaker 4>by your side with no orgasms from sex and wanted

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<v Speaker 4>to make you feel good like she was so she

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<v Speaker 4>you know, but that's really.

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<v Speaker 1>No, It's like she's she's a real right to speak up.

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<v Speaker 5>It's not the main its fault if you don't know,

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<v Speaker 5>if you ain't telling them nothing to me, telling.

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<v Speaker 3>This lie about how he was making her do it

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<v Speaker 3>with his mouth?

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<v Speaker 1>Did she was on you? Bro says And the first

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<v Speaker 1>thing I am not cling.

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<v Speaker 7>I love the fact that you expressed your fieling have

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<v Speaker 7>nothing to do with woman all gathered years. That's what

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<v Speaker 7>we're talking about. We're not talking about you expressing your

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<v Speaker 7>feeling No, I'm not expressing not one time I said

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<v Speaker 7>you wrong for expressing your feelings wrong, but not making

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<v Speaker 7>the difference.

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<v Speaker 4>The first time she actually really orgasm was She's like,

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<v Speaker 4>oh my gosh, babe, I've been lying for a decade

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<v Speaker 4>like did she bug out?

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<v Speaker 5>Like?

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<v Speaker 1>What was that?

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<v Speaker 3>Like? Right?

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<v Speaker 1>It's in the book. Let me read the books. Period.

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<v Speaker 7>All of the moral of the story is we got

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<v Speaker 7>to stop shaming men for expressing themselves. The middle of

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<v Speaker 7>the we made so much toxic behavior public. We have

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<v Speaker 7>to make the positive healing behavior public too. And y'all

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<v Speaker 7>gonna make it the way Minfield like it's not worthing

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<v Speaker 7>to express himself because of how y'all react to.

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<v Speaker 1>And I guess what more men step up?

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<v Speaker 5>Like there should be more men on the internet really

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<v Speaker 5>supporting this brother in this time. If that's what y'all believe.

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<v Speaker 7>I do.

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<v Speaker 3>We don't need did we get we get shamed for

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<v Speaker 3>that against she's a mom. I don't care what outing

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<v Speaker 3>she was me.

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<v Speaker 7>Yeah, I don't care about any of that. I care

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<v Speaker 7>about man. This man, if his feelings are hurt, he

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<v Speaker 7>should be able to.

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<v Speaker 1>Express gentleman, lady, what's up, brother? What's your thoughts? Man?

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<v Speaker 6>That's just how this world is.

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<v Speaker 3>Man.

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<v Speaker 6>They expect a man to shut up, be quiet, produce,

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<v Speaker 6>don't have no feelings, don't show no hurt. I work

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<v Speaker 6>in the criminal courts. Right now, there's the case a

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<v Speaker 6>brother was losing custody of his child and let's just

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<v Speaker 6>stay right now. You gotta do eighteen years in prisony

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<v Speaker 6>because nobody would listen to him. Nobody expects, oh, why

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<v Speaker 6>is a man you want to see your child so much?

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<v Speaker 3>But he ended up calling doing violence to the young lady.

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<v Speaker 6>Exactly so Avenue. He was calling his friend every night crying. Ye,

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<v Speaker 6>nobody else would listen to him. This man was in

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<v Speaker 6>a lot of thames. He just wants you to shut up.

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<v Speaker 6>Imagine seeing your woman on stage dressed like that.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't care about that.

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<v Speaker 6>Something inappropriate. What's the man supposed to do? React after

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<v Speaker 6>he told it to come out dress like that?

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<v Speaker 2>He told me, I don't know, but this is what

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<v Speaker 2>I do.

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<v Speaker 4>This is also Keky Palmer, very famous, very talented entertainer.

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<v Speaker 4>She's not just you know, someone who went out that

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<v Speaker 4>night to go like get a freaking with guys like

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<v Speaker 4>she is who she is. I think we're forgetting that point.

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<v Speaker 3>That's a very for forgetting. Oh that's why.

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<v Speaker 7>That's what he was expressing in that interview when he

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<v Speaker 7>was saying how he always fucked. He had the need

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<v Speaker 7>to be perfect because she's Keky Palmer, and he felt

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<v Speaker 7>that she would always be perfect because she's so.

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<v Speaker 1>Let me ask you a question.

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<v Speaker 4>All the allowances that men are afforded, who are famous,

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<v Speaker 4>who are are females not afforded.

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<v Speaker 1>Those the same allowances?

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<v Speaker 4>Because men that have, you know, a long list of

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<v Speaker 4>options and are famous, I feel like they get away

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<v Speaker 4>with a lot more than just a normal do relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>They should. I don't think they should.

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<v Speaker 2>See the problem was was I don't necessarily think the

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<v Speaker 2>problem was what happened.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it was this the phone, right, you think

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<v Speaker 1>about it.

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<v Speaker 2>Men go to a strip club, they get lap dances,

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<v Speaker 2>nobody knows, nobody sees. But now imagine your men and

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<v Speaker 2>there's a video of your man getting a crazy lap

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<v Speaker 2>dance and.

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<v Speaker 1>You feel the trails.

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<v Speaker 4>Yes, yeah, when that fudge leaves a little line, you be.

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<v Speaker 3>Mad because you've been publicly embarrassed.

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<v Speaker 1>Correct.

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<v Speaker 5>Yes, So it's really not about it's really you don't

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<v Speaker 5>want people to know, because it's really you want to

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<v Speaker 5>do everything behind closed doors and you don't want the

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<v Speaker 5>internet to know.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't think.

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<v Speaker 7>I just think you shouldn't publicly embarrass your significant other.

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<v Speaker 7>I think that grow publicly.

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<v Speaker 5>But why is it not embarrassing if it's about behind

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<v Speaker 5>closed doors. But it's only embarrassing and people see it

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<v Speaker 5>if it's truly who you are.

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<v Speaker 3>I think it's what do you mean when you say

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<v Speaker 3>behind closed.

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<v Speaker 5>Like you said, if there's no cameras out and you

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<v Speaker 5>could do it.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, but then y'all two can have a conversation working.

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<v Speaker 1>It is easy to work.

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<v Speaker 2>And it's like if you and your man getting an

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<v Speaker 2>argument at home, it's different. But now if you're in public,

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<v Speaker 2>it's a lot different because now people don't know what

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<v Speaker 2>you're arguing about is pressing.

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<v Speaker 1>Now you might feel a certain way.

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<v Speaker 2>Things that you might have forgave him for at home,

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<v Speaker 2>you might not forgive him for if it's in the public.

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<v Speaker 3>And that's what the young man was wrong for.

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<v Speaker 7>The young man was wrong for. She was wrong for

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<v Speaker 7>publicly embarrassing him with us. He was wrong for publicly

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<v Speaker 7>ambassing Arou on social media. They could have just had

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<v Speaker 7>a conversation about could show at home and nobody would

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<v Speaker 7>have been the.

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<v Speaker 2>One's the sex and more calls eight hundred and five

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<v Speaker 2>eight five one oh five to one Colin let us

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<v Speaker 2>know what you think.

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<v Speaker 3>It's the breakfast l in the morning express their feelings.

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<v Speaker 1>Everybody's DJ Envy, Charlamagne the God. We are the Breakfast Club.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, it's the twentieth anniversary or the twentieth season

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<v Speaker 2>of wild'n Out, and we have Justina Valentine and b

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<v Speaker 2>Simoni Bizard And if you're just joining us, we're talking

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<v Speaker 2>about men being able to express their feelings. Is it

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<v Speaker 2>why when a man exp is this feeling, he's a sucker,

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<v Speaker 2>he's he's he's a whim. But when women do it this,

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<v Speaker 2>they get so much support. And I know you're about

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<v Speaker 2>to see something. He was about to say something justin.

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<v Speaker 1>I was gonna say, did I not see the full clip?

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<v Speaker 4>Because the clip I saw was not that crazy, That's

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<v Speaker 4>what I'm saying. Like if she had been bent over

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<v Speaker 4>and usher was pulling her hair and just like you know,

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<v Speaker 4>slamming her, I'll be like, Okay, it was a little crazy,

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<v Speaker 4>but the clip I saw was not crazy at all.

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<v Speaker 2>Say this though, like, as a man, what you just

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<v Speaker 2>said is probably what he saw in his mind.

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<v Speaker 8>Right, that's what.

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<v Speaker 2>Your wife, your girl, your baby mother, that's what you've seen.

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<v Speaker 2>You didn't just see little dance you see.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what you said.

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<v Speaker 7>By the way, what's wrong with being insecure and what's

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<v Speaker 7>wrong with me expressing that.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm insecure now?

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<v Speaker 7>Because the insecurity is going to express whether I stay

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<v Speaker 7>on just tell my my behavior, you're gonna tell about

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<v Speaker 7>certain language. All I'm saying is you gotta let men

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<v Speaker 7>be able to express these emotions because if you don't,

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<v Speaker 7>they're gonna keep them pent up inside. And we've all

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<v Speaker 7>seen what with what that leads to that do nothing

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<v Speaker 7>but toxic masculine.

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<v Speaker 5>My thing is express it. But then what is the solution? Like,

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<v Speaker 5>if I'm insecure, we need to figure out how to get.

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<v Speaker 3>Work on that. If I'm judge with each other?

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<v Speaker 5>Right, But I think people just want to vent and

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<v Speaker 5>express and then let's get to the root of it

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<v Speaker 5>though we have to heal it and fix it.

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<v Speaker 2>But the whole thing is in a lot of relationships

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<v Speaker 2>people they argue to win, right, and not argue to

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<v Speaker 2>be on the same side, Like there's no winner.

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<v Speaker 1>If you win, I lose.

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<v Speaker 3>It.

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<v Speaker 1>Shouldn't be a winner or lose it, she'd be Let's

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<v Speaker 1>resolve the.

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<v Speaker 3>Situation and move on, simple as that.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, we have Charlena on the phone. Are you named

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<v Speaker 1>after Charlemagne?

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<v Speaker 3>No?

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<v Speaker 1>God, No, I'm just joking. I'm just joking, charlmona, what's

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<v Speaker 1>your what'd you think? What's your thoughts?

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<v Speaker 9>Okay, Well, I feel like her baby father was very

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<v Speaker 9>insecure about the whole scenario. I mean, if anything, you

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<v Speaker 9>should have been uplifted her and proud of his woman

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<v Speaker 9>because carry herself. She's healthy, she's living, she had the baby.

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<v Speaker 3>We missed.

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<v Speaker 7>We missing the whole point of the conversation. The whole

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<v Speaker 7>point of the conversation is should men be able to

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<v Speaker 7>express their feelings publicly without being shamed?

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<v Speaker 9>Express insecurity, that is his feelings.

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<v Speaker 3>My god't even consider feelings anymore. That men can't be insecure.

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<v Speaker 3>We don't. We can't reserve the right to be insecure.

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<v Speaker 4>You know what, You can be insecure, but not at

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<v Speaker 4>the expense of putting your woman down. So if he

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<v Speaker 4>would have just said, my woman dancing with us or

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<v Speaker 4>made me very insecure because of you know, legendary.

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<v Speaker 3>But he was of the part on the internet.

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<v Speaker 4>And like, and if she's really not cheating on him

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<v Speaker 4>at all, which I don't think she is, it's like

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<v Speaker 4>you also have to give her that grace, like, you

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<v Speaker 4>know what, life she's living, she's coming home to you

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<v Speaker 4>and she just.

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<v Speaker 3>Had a baby.

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<v Speaker 1>Looks damn good.

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<v Speaker 3>Like what you hear, what y'all just said.

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<v Speaker 7>And that's what I keep trying to trying to stress

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<v Speaker 7>that is the conversation that should have been had. We

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<v Speaker 7>know it was misplaced aggression. I know he didn't care

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<v Speaker 7>about the mom thing in the outfit. We know his

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<v Speaker 7>feelings was hurt. Why not teach that brother how to

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<v Speaker 7>properly express his emotions.

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<v Speaker 5>That's what I'm saying. The solution therapy, somebody a professional

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<v Speaker 5>to talk to this that like, if you go to

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<v Speaker 5>relationship counseling, y'all need to sit down whatever you know,

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<v Speaker 5>but get to the solution.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't just keep arguing tj yo.

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<v Speaker 3>What's up? Brother?

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<v Speaker 1>What's your thoughts?

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<v Speaker 3>Man? Man?

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<v Speaker 6>So my thought is to be able to express how

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<v Speaker 6>you feel.

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<v Speaker 8>I mean, you know, we say, you know mental health

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<v Speaker 8>is awareness, but you can't even say if you don't

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<v Speaker 8>like something straight up un you you're keeping all that

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<v Speaker 8>fighted up as a man that you lash out on

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<v Speaker 8>your kids, if you las shout on your wife, how

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<v Speaker 8>that works? Like it just ain't healthy. Like I'm waiting

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<v Speaker 8>a young time right now. He turned five minutes. One

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<v Speaker 8>thing I'm always.

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<v Speaker 6>Telling to hey, use your boy, if you if you don't.

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<v Speaker 7>Like something saying that's right, because the reality is we're

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<v Speaker 7>going to get there, meaning that if you use your

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<v Speaker 7>even if you don't say what you really mean, work

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<v Speaker 7>like you said, I want to get to the root.

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<v Speaker 3>We're trying to do, get to the root to heal

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<v Speaker 3>the problem.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, Well, we got a moral of the story.

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<v Speaker 3>Moral of the stories.

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<v Speaker 7>Men should be able to express their emotions and feelings

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<v Speaker 7>without being shamedful, simple as that.

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<v Speaker 1>And women should be able to hold up.

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<v Speaker 4>As long as there not really like a whole, as

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<v Speaker 4>long as it's just innocent hoeing.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a difference.

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<v Speaker 4>First, if you're a relationship, it was innocent, it wasn't.

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<v Speaker 5>You know.

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<v Speaker 7>That's the kind of crazy thuff Man used to say

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<v Speaker 7>today women, for you, it was just innocent hoing.

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<v Speaker 9>I mean I was.

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<v Speaker 1>I was gonna get right back, all right. Twenty twenty three,

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<v Speaker 1>when we come back, we got your room report. We

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<v Speaker 1>got to talk about Tiffany Hattish.

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<v Speaker 2>If you're trying to shoot your shot at celebrities, well

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<v Speaker 2>she's gonna give you some tips on how to do

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<v Speaker 2>so we'll get to it.

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<v Speaker 1>Nexus to the breakfast club, be eating