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Speaker 1: Hey, hey, Hey, we're back. We're black, we're mad, we're

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Speaker 1: going to talk, pissed off. Yes, but we're also Brown Ambition.

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Speaker 2: Welcome Brown Ambition, Welcome back, y'all.

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Speaker 3: Hey.

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Speaker 2: Special shout out to Brown Ambition listener Yolanda yo Yo

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Speaker 2: who is from where did she say Harlem or the Bronx?

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Speaker 2: I forget, but I ran into her this weekend was

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Speaker 2: African American Heritage Day and Westchester County where I live,

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Speaker 2: and she was Weststa west Chester, and yeah, she was working.

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Speaker 2: She was helping her friend out at her booth. Her

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Speaker 2: friend has like a I forget the name now, I'm sorry.

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Speaker 2: I'm so sorry to her friend. Her name is her

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Speaker 2: friends name is Tiffany. But she was like I know

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Speaker 2: you and then there's like the in a good way

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Speaker 2: or like did I'm out step on your foot at

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Speaker 2: the grocery store last week? Kind of but she says that.

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Speaker 2: And when she said I watch your podcast, I was like,

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Speaker 2: you watch it? And she's a YouTube subscriber, so yeah,

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Speaker 2: she's like, I like to I like to watch. My

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Speaker 2: friends like to listen. But I love that you guys

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Speaker 2: are on YouTube. So it's a good reminder too that

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Speaker 2: you can find us and see our faces.

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Speaker 1: You want to see lady's girls steadily popping, am I

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Speaker 1: skin glowing? You know you do head out over the

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Speaker 1: Just type in brown amission in the search but bar

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Speaker 1: and you'll find this. I feel like that's gonna be

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Speaker 1: the last little gig we half a little while, y'all know,

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Speaker 1: we got to talk about it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I was trying to avoid it. Yeah, it's uh, well,

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Speaker 2: I guess the question is like, how did you feel

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Speaker 2: when you got the news Friday morning that we are

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Speaker 2: gonna undo fifty years of president?

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Speaker 3: You know?

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Speaker 1: I you ever, like like when I used to get

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Speaker 1: spanked as a kid, which was all the time, because

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Speaker 1: know how you brace yourself You're like, okay, right, And

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Speaker 1: But it doesn't actually help, you know, just like when

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Speaker 2: You mean, like when the when the when the opinion

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Speaker 1: It's almost like, you know, the teacher tells you, like,

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Speaker 2: Too much much in all directions. Yeah, it's it's it's

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Speaker 2: It's too much. Like on top of having our own

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Speaker 2: I've just felt like an open wound all weekend, Like

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Speaker 2: I don't know how they found my page, but you

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Speaker 2: know what, I was just talking to my Mandy money

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Speaker 2: makers about authenticity on social media and sharing your stories

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Speaker 2: like first and foremost, I think one obviously donating to causes,

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Speaker 2: about like which causes, which political candidates we want to

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Speaker 2: two I think meaningful things to do. And then thirdly,

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Speaker 2: They have, and I mean, I think there's definitely opportunities

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Speaker 2: allow it. But that financial then, the reason it's so

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Speaker 2: important to have that financial empowerment is because when you

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Speaker 2: And for white suburban moms, white women in general, they

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Speaker 2: you're gonna be fine like us. Being more empowered financially

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Speaker 2: I feel like it's an opportunity for them. Will you

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Speaker 2: I'm very I'm very, very concerned about November. I'll tell

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Speaker 2: Every election counts. I mean, it's it's freaking scary. I

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Speaker 1: No, Like, so I'm actually like an upstate New York

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Speaker 1: I said, I'd like, I saw one of my friends

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Speaker 1: Tripod, no, I just you know, you put on the

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Speaker 2: To me?

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Speaker 1: You know. That's why we're here. You know, it's for us.

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Speaker 1: It's not just money for money's sake, It's it allows

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Speaker 2: what incredible things can happen when black and brown women

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Speaker 2: if you had the opportunity. I had this women over,

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Speaker 2: about Jeff Bezos going to the moon and spending billions

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Speaker 2: of dollars, And I'm like, what would you do if

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Speaker 2: you were a billionaire? What's focus on us becoming billionaires?

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Speaker 2: Because they're going to ride their giant dicks to the

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Speaker 2: moon and that's fair, So like, what what are we

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Speaker 2: going to do with the money. Maybe we'll open free childcare,

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Speaker 2: you know, institutions, maybe we would, but let's focus on

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Speaker 2: what we could do. Let's get the billions, you know

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Speaker 2: what I mean? Then it won't matter what Bezos is doing.

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Speaker 3: So I'll tell you what I would do.

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Speaker 1: A close family member has a child with sickle cell,

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Speaker 1: And if you're not familiar, sickle cell is a blood

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Speaker 1: disorder that you know. Normally, blood cells, red blood cells

445
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Speaker 1: are the shape of a circle and they flow freely

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Speaker 1: through your veins. But when you have sickle cell, it's

447
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Speaker 1: in the shape of a sickle because there's not enough

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Speaker 1: oxygen I guess getting to the cell, so it almost

449
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Speaker 1: like collapses, so it's like the shape of almost like

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Speaker 1: a sea a sickle. But as a result, those cells

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Speaker 1: will collect in areas of your body and cause extreme pain,

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Speaker 1: so like think knees, elbows, and it is such a terrible,

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Speaker 1: terrible disease, so much so that if you are African

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Speaker 1: American and you're marrying somebody who's African American, you know,

455
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Speaker 1: it's almost guaranteed that they're going to ask both of

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Speaker 1: you to be tested because if you know both of you,

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Speaker 1: like I carry the trait for sickle cell. Girell did not,

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Speaker 1: And we talked about it that if he carried the trait,

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Speaker 1: you know, would we even try to have children? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's a terrible disease. That the life expectancy is not

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Speaker 1: is not great for folks with sickle cell. And my

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Speaker 1: family member was sharing, you know that there's next to

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Speaker 1: no research, despite that it is one of the number

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Speaker 1: one killers of children African American children. There's nearly no

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Speaker 1: research that almost no new medicines have come out in

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Speaker 1: the last thirty years. And why do you think that

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Speaker 1: is despite this being one of the biggest killers of children.

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Speaker 1: Why because the biggest killers of black and brown children.

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Speaker 1: So there's no research.

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Speaker 3: But what would you do?

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Speaker 1: And I and I've thought about that, you know, And

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Speaker 1: I said, you know, as I grow my wealth, one

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Speaker 1: of the things I'm setting aside. Maxu we talked last

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Speaker 1: week about it was the last week about trust and wills.

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Speaker 1: One of the things I'm doing is set insided money

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Speaker 1: in my trust for sickle cell research. Because if black

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Speaker 1: and brown people with wealth don't do it, they're not

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Speaker 1: going to do it.

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Speaker 3: They're not going to do it. And we have way more.

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Speaker 1: Power than you think. There was an article that came

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Speaker 1: out for seeing in all the financial places, like I

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Speaker 1: don't want to say five years or so ago, that

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Speaker 1: the fastest growing demographic of entrepreneurs were black women, and

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Speaker 1: then this other article, especially if you manage with your

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Speaker 1: book coming out by the Atlantic, which is super exciting.

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Speaker 1: It says the most likely person to read a book

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Speaker 1: a college educated black woman, And I thought that was

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Speaker 1: so exciting. It's like the Pew Pew Research has stumbled

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Speaker 1: upon an interesting data point that the most likely person

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Speaker 1: to read a book in any format is a black

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Speaker 1: woman who's been to college. So one night, try to

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Speaker 1: tell you so while you're as you're doing your book proposal, Mandy,

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Speaker 1: don't let me try to tell you, well, no, no, no,

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, so yes I will.

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Speaker 3: It's like, no, no, sorry, sis.

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Speaker 1: Actually my book literally by nature of you being a

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Speaker 1: black woman writing for black women like that is the

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Speaker 1: perfect audience because we're like, we're reading.

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Speaker 3: More than anyone else.

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Speaker 1: And so I just share all that to say that

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Speaker 1: we have way more power and economic power that we

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Speaker 1: give ourselves credit for, but we have to turn it

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Speaker 1: inward and toward our community. So we can because we're

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Speaker 1: going to be the super heroes that we're looking for,

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Speaker 1: you know, we have to link together like the Avengers

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Speaker 1: and say like, Okay, you have wealth, you have knowledge,

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Speaker 1: you have this, you have a microphone, you have the

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Speaker 1: you know, and because that's really the only way you're

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Speaker 1: going to see things change, because no one's going to

510
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Speaker 1: care more about you and your babies and the kids

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Speaker 1: and the mamas and the dad is no one's going

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Speaker 1: to care more than you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. One of the last booths I stopped by yesterday

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Speaker 2: at that fair was the Women's Black Political Caucus of

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Speaker 2: Westchester and took their flyer and I said, you're going

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Speaker 2: to hear from me. You know, at that local level,

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Speaker 2: there are black women black We're just amazing, and we

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Speaker 2: are working in the trenches every day. I don't want

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Speaker 2: to make it seem like we're not already out there

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Speaker 2: being I mean, come on, now, how many elections have

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Speaker 2: we saved for this country? We wouldn't you know, Yes,

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Speaker 2: we're struggling right now, but Biden wouldn't be there if

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Speaker 2: not for the power the black women vote, you know

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Speaker 2: what I mean. Now, imagine if we had the money

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Speaker 2: to back that vote. Imagine if it was the black

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Speaker 2: the black women were as powerful as the NRA, you know,

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Speaker 2: big oil, Like, imagine the influence we could have. But yeah,

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Speaker 2: absolutely that at that local level too. You know, where

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Speaker 2: are the women doing the work today? And how can

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Speaker 2: we amplify and lift them up and support them, volunteer,

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Speaker 2: donate all of that, and then we have to like

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Speaker 2: kind of focus on it from all sides and then

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Speaker 2: make our own financial bag, secure the bag for ourselves.

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Speaker 2: I believe that Black women are the largest untapped resources

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Speaker 2: in the country. My God, like, yeah, are we the

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Speaker 2: most educated as well?

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Speaker 1: Actually the Nigerians but you know now for her listnerans,

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Speaker 1: which is crazy to me. Well, actually not crazy, because

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Speaker 1: I know Nigerian pants are crazy. No, I just honestly,

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Speaker 1: I like it feels me. I'm trying not to lean

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Speaker 1: into the fear and the hopelessness and really trying to

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Speaker 1: lean into the hopefulness because I am grateful to be black.

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Speaker 1: I'm grateful to be a woman, and I know that

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Speaker 1: we have we have, we have way more power than

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Speaker 1: I think. I think people even give us credit for.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes we even give ourselves credit for. And that you know,

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Speaker 1: as long as we are here, you know, there is

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Speaker 1: a light ah I ah see.

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Speaker 3: We started off like h now see.

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Speaker 2: Because thank God for the show, tip, thank God for

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Speaker 2: the work that we're doing, because we get to be

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Speaker 2: a part of that change, you know what I mean?

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Speaker 2: I'm so happy to I was so happy knowing I

554
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Speaker 2: got to come here and talk about this as I

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Speaker 2: am every week, but never more at a time than

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Speaker 2: I feel like when our when when there's targets on

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Speaker 2: our backs, you know, as a as a people.

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Speaker 1: I'm so glad that, right, we have this safe space

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Speaker 1: where we can vent, but we can also figure out

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Speaker 1: what we can do, and we can moost out, we

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Speaker 1: can still laugh and yeah, it's just I hope that

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Speaker 1: you guys find that here too, And if you know

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Speaker 1: other black women and brown women, even the Jamal's remember.

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Speaker 3: Jamal a Jerome Jamal.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, right, even the Jamal said, this is a safe

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Speaker 1: space for you too. If you know anybody who needs

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Speaker 1: to be here, send them on over to brownibitchingpodcast dot com.

568
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Speaker 2: Everybody should listen to our show, but never get a

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Speaker 2: twisted Who we are here speaking to first and foremost,

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Speaker 2: and from whose perspective we speak from. That's all it is.

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Speaker 2: I think everyone would love our show and should come,

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Speaker 2: but I just don't want anyone to. Let's just remind

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Speaker 2: them it's called brown ambition, okay, for a reason, all right?

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Speaker 2: That is who we are here to center and everything

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Speaker 2: that we do yep. Well should we take a quick,

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Speaker 2: quick woosaw break and come right.

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Speaker 1: Back, and now it's time to boost up, break up, Boost.

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Speaker 2: Up, break.

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Speaker 3: Break.

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Speaker 1: I feel like we've been doing a lot of booths

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Speaker 1: because you know, there's been a lot of you know,

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Speaker 1: show what sure you going on? Yeah, but you know

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Speaker 1: I'm going to continue the boost.

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Speaker 3: Oh thank goodness.

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Speaker 2: I was afraid you were going to be like and

586
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Speaker 2: I'm gonna be done with that.

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Speaker 3: Oh quick boost one.

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Speaker 1: I wanted to just boost like how did your how

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Speaker 1: did your webinar go? Oh?

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Speaker 2: It's tomorrow, So you guys will listen to it the

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Speaker 2: day after, but the replay will be available the day after.

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Speaker 2: So send me an email at info at Mande money

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Speaker 2: dot com if you want the replay. Yeah, so the

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Speaker 2: webinar is going to be available for forty eight hours.

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Speaker 2: So if you're listening to this on Wednesday morning, I

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Speaker 2: mean she mean an email. See if you can't get

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Speaker 2: the replay, hopefully you'll register. We I've got about five

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Speaker 2: hundred register already.

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Speaker 3: It's awesome.

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Speaker 2: Well, bad for just planning that last Tuesday.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's amazing. Okay, that's awesome. Yeay, So that's a

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Speaker 1: boost Man's webinar. She's gonna be getting your life together,

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Speaker 1: especially during these times with feeling really crazy. My mother

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Speaker 1: was just really just a quick boost that tomorrow's my

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Speaker 1: fifth wedding anniversary. It's one of these is why I

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Speaker 1: just had to come here because I'm like, I need

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Speaker 1: a USA, I know. So I was like, you know what,

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Speaker 1: let me come to the someplace beautiful.

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Speaker 3: I was.

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Speaker 1: I couldn't help a giggle because as I took my

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Speaker 1: hike and stuff, I was like, this is literally the

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Speaker 1: antithesis of what drow be willing to do.

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Speaker 3: He'd be like, I'm not doing on that day. I'm walking.

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Speaker 2: I don't think i've seen a picture of y'all in

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Speaker 2: nature before together.

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Speaker 3: It's not I know, nature would have not been his thing.

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Speaker 1: So I was laughing because I was just like, you know,

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Speaker 1: this is how I was spending my anniversary, which is

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Speaker 1: the opposite of what Droo would have wanted to do,

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Speaker 1: although he did like flowers and things like that, but

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Speaker 1: taking a two mile.

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Speaker 3: Hike around a lake.

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Speaker 1: He'd be like, wait what, But yeah, it would have

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Speaker 1: been five years. I think people think that like I

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Speaker 1: just met Diro, but no, we met when I was

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Speaker 1: twenty three. We started dating when I was thirty. We

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Speaker 1: enjoyed like the same I'm a few months older. Started

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Speaker 1: dating when I was thirty. Broke up because I was like,

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Speaker 1: I'm dating the budget Nissa. She's kind of like a

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Speaker 1: really big dal I clad started budgets and I was thirty.

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Speaker 1: I had to make a decision.

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Speaker 3: I was like, I choose her, I know.

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Speaker 1: But then we started dating again when I was thirty four,

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Speaker 1: when I realized the budget this is cute, but I

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Speaker 1: really don't swing that way. So started dating again when

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Speaker 1: I was thirty four, got married, engaged at thirty six,

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Speaker 1: married at thirty seven, and as all know, he know,

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Speaker 1: passed away when I was forty one.

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Speaker 3: Forty two. Yeah, I just.

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 3: You just never know how life is going to swing.

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Speaker 1: So, despite all that's happening and how terrible things seem,

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Speaker 1: if you have someone your kids, your sister, your mom,

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Speaker 1: your dad, your partner to love up on and hug

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Speaker 1: up on, now, is now more than ever make that

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Speaker 1: your priority, because truly there is nothing more important. And

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Speaker 1: the world is going to well, you never know, but

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Speaker 1: as far as we know, the world's going to keep

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Speaker 1: turning and there's always going to be good, bad, and indifferent,

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Speaker 1: and you can't control all of those things. Certainly, you

651
00:31:58,000 --> 00:32:00,600
Speaker 1: can do your part, but the place where you have

652
00:32:00,680 --> 00:32:05,880
Speaker 1: the most influence is really inside yourself, but also to

653
00:32:06,200 --> 00:32:07,440
Speaker 1: inside the little family.

654
00:32:07,200 --> 00:32:08,200
Speaker 3: That you've built for yourself.

655
00:32:08,280 --> 00:32:10,920
Speaker 1: So you know, love on your people today and so yeah,

656
00:32:10,960 --> 00:32:12,800
Speaker 1: happy from anniversary, made.

657
00:32:12,720 --> 00:32:15,040
Speaker 3: Happy fifth anniversary.

658
00:32:16,000 --> 00:32:20,320
Speaker 2: And thinking about U Durell always. I gasped when he

659
00:32:20,360 --> 00:32:22,960
Speaker 2: told me, because you know what, what other day is

660
00:32:22,960 --> 00:32:25,200
Speaker 2: the same day as your anniversary is his base birthday?

661
00:32:25,560 --> 00:32:28,240
Speaker 3: Oh, that's right, same day.

662
00:32:28,440 --> 00:32:30,080
Speaker 2: And there was a point last week when I knew

663
00:32:30,120 --> 00:32:32,280
Speaker 2: it was today tomorrow. There was a point last week

664
00:32:32,280 --> 00:32:33,960
Speaker 2: when I knew your anniversary was coming up, and I

665
00:32:34,000 --> 00:32:37,480
Speaker 2: also knew it was Hasba's birthday. And in between that

666
00:32:37,560 --> 00:32:40,440
Speaker 2: point and now I've forgotten. It's been a lot going

667
00:32:40,480 --> 00:32:43,000
Speaker 2: on and what did I get him? But you're right,

668
00:32:43,080 --> 00:32:45,760
Speaker 2: I will take some time. This has been like so

669
00:32:45,840 --> 00:32:47,240
Speaker 2: much going on, and then it was Father's Day and

670
00:32:47,240 --> 00:32:51,240
Speaker 2: then COVID. But he deserves a nice birthday and he's here,

671
00:32:51,400 --> 00:32:54,920
Speaker 2: and so I will make him do something he doesn't

672
00:32:54,960 --> 00:32:55,640
Speaker 2: want to do either.

673
00:32:59,000 --> 00:32:59,560
Speaker 3: That's a birthday?

674
00:32:59,520 --> 00:32:59,880
Speaker 1: Is it for it?

675
00:33:00,400 --> 00:33:02,080
Speaker 3: You want for the person to have because that's what

676
00:33:02,120 --> 00:33:02,480
Speaker 3: you want.

677
00:33:03,880 --> 00:33:05,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, did I tell you why I got him for

678
00:33:05,760 --> 00:33:06,320
Speaker 2: Father's Day?

679
00:33:06,480 --> 00:33:07,959
Speaker 3: No? What did you get him?

680
00:33:08,000 --> 00:33:11,440
Speaker 2: So we have been we have been like trying to

681
00:33:11,720 --> 00:33:13,680
Speaker 2: We're just so different, and I think it was really

682
00:33:13,760 --> 00:33:15,920
Speaker 2: cute when we were dating and as adult humans now

683
00:33:16,120 --> 00:33:17,920
Speaker 2: like ten years later and all that kind of stuff.

684
00:33:17,920 --> 00:33:19,560
Speaker 2: We're just our interests are so different.

685
00:33:20,080 --> 00:33:20,280
Speaker 3: You know.

686
00:33:20,320 --> 00:33:22,640
Speaker 2: I'm over here in my butterfly garden obsessing over by

687
00:33:22,640 --> 00:33:26,880
Speaker 2: the way two butterflies hatch today, okay, And he's washing

688
00:33:26,880 --> 00:33:28,360
Speaker 2: the car and I'm like, why are you washing that

689
00:33:28,440 --> 00:33:30,680
Speaker 2: damn car? But to him, it's not a washing, it's like,

690
00:33:30,760 --> 00:33:33,479
Speaker 2: you know, it's it's like, I don't know, it's like art.

691
00:33:33,640 --> 00:33:34,440
Speaker 3: It literally is.

692
00:33:34,400 --> 00:33:36,840
Speaker 2: An art form anyway. So he's very into cars. So

693
00:33:36,880 --> 00:33:41,120
Speaker 2: we started watching Formula one, this Formula one documentary on Netflix.

694
00:33:41,200 --> 00:33:45,240
Speaker 2: What's it called, something puney like Drive to Survive or

695
00:33:45,280 --> 00:33:48,040
Speaker 2: something like that. So in New York City they have

696
00:33:48,200 --> 00:33:52,720
Speaker 2: the EPRE, which is the electric car version of Formula one.

697
00:33:53,360 --> 00:33:56,440
Speaker 2: So I will be sitting in the stands in July

698
00:33:56,880 --> 00:34:01,640
Speaker 2: at the EPRE with Husbane because that's the good wife.

699
00:34:01,720 --> 00:34:02,760
Speaker 3: Now He's gonna love that.

700
00:34:03,240 --> 00:34:06,560
Speaker 2: He was so excited. Yeah, he's really excited. It should

701
00:34:06,600 --> 00:34:10,200
Speaker 2: be good. But yeah, but anyway, sorry to hijack your

702
00:34:10,239 --> 00:34:10,760
Speaker 2: your boost.

703
00:34:11,239 --> 00:34:14,200
Speaker 1: No no, no, no no, So what about your boost?

704
00:34:14,280 --> 00:34:16,920
Speaker 1: Switch your boost or a break? Oh, you're gonna like

705
00:34:16,920 --> 00:34:18,920
Speaker 1: my You're gonna like my boost. I was thinking about you, actually,

706
00:34:18,920 --> 00:34:20,560
Speaker 1: because with my boost, I need some advice.

707
00:34:20,920 --> 00:34:26,239
Speaker 2: My boost is for daycare teachers, okay, and especially my

708
00:34:26,320 --> 00:34:29,400
Speaker 2: son's daycare teachers, especially one in particular, whose name is Shelly,

709
00:34:29,400 --> 00:34:32,440
Speaker 2: and she's amazing. And you know, the other day when

710
00:34:32,440 --> 00:34:34,440
Speaker 2: he had to go back to daycare finally after ten

711
00:34:34,560 --> 00:34:37,440
Speaker 2: days being out with COVID and quarantine and all that,

712
00:34:37,920 --> 00:34:40,000
Speaker 2: it was a rough transition, like taking kids out of

713
00:34:40,000 --> 00:34:41,920
Speaker 2: their routine and then trying to get them back to

714
00:34:41,960 --> 00:34:44,560
Speaker 2: go to school. And now he's really talking a lot

715
00:34:44,560 --> 00:34:47,000
Speaker 2: more so he can tell me, Mommy, no school, and

716
00:34:47,080 --> 00:34:50,120
Speaker 2: it's very heartbreaking. But he was just so upset about it,

717
00:34:50,200 --> 00:34:53,360
Speaker 2: and Shelley came outside, and when I got to the

718
00:34:53,360 --> 00:34:54,799
Speaker 2: door to drop him off, I knew he was. He

719
00:34:54,880 --> 00:34:56,560
Speaker 2: was already crying, and I was like, I told the

720
00:34:56,600 --> 00:34:58,200
Speaker 2: woman who greeted me, I was like, can you go

721
00:34:58,200 --> 00:35:00,400
Speaker 2: get Shelly. I know she's busy with Breck, but just

722
00:35:00,480 --> 00:35:02,920
Speaker 2: tell Shelley to come, and she came out there and

723
00:35:02,960 --> 00:35:05,120
Speaker 2: she helped him find out that there's like these rock

724
00:35:05,239 --> 00:35:07,440
Speaker 2: beds that they have like with rocks by the plants.

725
00:35:07,440 --> 00:35:09,080
Speaker 2: And she was like, you know what, Rio, let's go

726
00:35:09,120 --> 00:35:12,200
Speaker 2: pick up he loves rocks. I don't know he loves him.

727
00:35:12,600 --> 00:35:14,600
Speaker 2: She's like, should we go find a rock to go

728
00:35:14,600 --> 00:35:16,840
Speaker 2: feed Rocky, which is their pet fish. I forgot he

729
00:35:16,880 --> 00:35:20,720
Speaker 2: had a classroom fish. And immediately he was like huh,

730
00:35:20,920 --> 00:35:22,560
Speaker 2: and he went and got his rock and then he

731
00:35:22,680 --> 00:35:25,800
Speaker 2: was all excited about going to give the rock to Fishy,

732
00:35:25,960 --> 00:35:27,640
Speaker 2: to the to Rocky the fish and put it in

733
00:35:27,680 --> 00:35:31,880
Speaker 2: his fish tank or whatever and anyway, and it was also,

734
00:35:31,920 --> 00:35:34,480
Speaker 2: he's switching to a new classroom, So I want to

735
00:35:34,520 --> 00:35:37,719
Speaker 2: show Shelley and his daycare teachers my appreciation. They're just

736
00:35:38,040 --> 00:35:42,000
Speaker 2: like phenomenal and at times like this when it's scary

737
00:35:42,040 --> 00:35:45,320
Speaker 2: to send a kid anywhere these days, like the reason

738
00:35:45,360 --> 00:35:47,040
Speaker 2: I continue sending him is because I'm like, he's with

739
00:35:47,120 --> 00:35:49,319
Speaker 2: these women and they're incredible and men too. There's men

740
00:35:49,400 --> 00:35:52,400
Speaker 2: there too, But I'm trying to think. After I finished

741
00:35:52,440 --> 00:35:56,080
Speaker 2: for courting Tip, I gotta go get Shelley a gift

742
00:35:56,760 --> 00:35:58,880
Speaker 2: I've done like Amazon gift cards in the past, but

743
00:35:58,960 --> 00:36:01,640
Speaker 2: any advice went to get your favorite daycare teacher.

744
00:36:02,560 --> 00:36:05,839
Speaker 1: I always I mean, well one, you know one like

745
00:36:05,920 --> 00:36:09,040
Speaker 1: they're like, you're teaching daycare, you're probably super sentimental because

746
00:36:09,040 --> 00:36:09,839
Speaker 1: why else are you there?

747
00:36:10,120 --> 00:36:12,360
Speaker 3: I know, I was so something.

748
00:36:12,480 --> 00:36:16,439
Speaker 1: Sentimental, So like, you know, something that like he draws,

749
00:36:16,520 --> 00:36:19,279
Speaker 1: you know, or like maybe he paints a rock or

750
00:36:19,280 --> 00:36:21,439
Speaker 1: whatever for her. That's always really sweet because I would

751
00:36:21,440 --> 00:36:22,920
Speaker 1: gep that I would still have that forever and ever

752
00:36:23,040 --> 00:36:25,680
Speaker 1: and ever. But then also, girl, nobody says no to

753
00:36:25,760 --> 00:36:27,759
Speaker 1: Uber Eats at the same time, so it's like Uper

754
00:36:27,800 --> 00:36:32,000
Speaker 1: Eats gift card. But then also something sentimental like that,

755
00:36:32,080 --> 00:36:35,160
Speaker 1: like that's what I would have loved, Like I mean honestly, yeah,

756
00:36:35,200 --> 00:36:37,000
Speaker 1: anything that kids made me up, like I'm gonna keep

757
00:36:37,040 --> 00:36:37,719
Speaker 1: this forever.

758
00:36:38,120 --> 00:36:41,799
Speaker 2: So oh you think I would never have thought about that,

759
00:36:41,840 --> 00:36:43,400
Speaker 2: because I'm like, they do arts and crafts with the

760
00:36:43,440 --> 00:36:45,440
Speaker 2: kids all the time. Are they stick of that by now?

761
00:36:45,520 --> 00:36:48,399
Speaker 1: But maybe I don't know, no, something especially like like

762
00:36:48,640 --> 00:36:51,160
Speaker 1: the other day, like my niece Amelia, she drew this.

763
00:36:51,239 --> 00:36:54,560
Speaker 1: Really she's really into like drawing unicorns and rainbows right now.

764
00:36:54,760 --> 00:36:56,640
Speaker 1: It was this amazing picture I was like, is this

765
00:36:56,719 --> 00:36:59,640
Speaker 1: for me? She's like no. On the back, it said

766
00:37:00,080 --> 00:37:04,040
Speaker 1: Miss Rosa, I loved you so much. I was like,

767
00:37:04,080 --> 00:37:06,680
Speaker 1: I've never heard you tell me you love Auntie Tiffany.

768
00:37:06,880 --> 00:37:09,640
Speaker 1: She looked at me like, girl, please, So and I

769
00:37:09,680 --> 00:37:11,520
Speaker 1: know Miss Rosa is gonna love that because it's just like,

770
00:37:11,520 --> 00:37:14,880
Speaker 1: oh my gosh. You know, like cause according to my

771
00:37:14,920 --> 00:37:19,440
Speaker 1: sister Carol, Alexa is raising the kids because like Amelia'll

772
00:37:19,480 --> 00:37:20,800
Speaker 1: be like, Alexa, how do you spell?

773
00:37:21,120 --> 00:37:21,160
Speaker 2: So?

774
00:37:22,960 --> 00:37:23,600
Speaker 3: How do you spell?

775
00:37:23,800 --> 00:37:24,080
Speaker 1: Much?

776
00:37:24,120 --> 00:37:24,680
Speaker 3: I'm telling you.

777
00:37:24,719 --> 00:37:26,640
Speaker 1: I was just like, I never I never thought about that.

778
00:37:26,760 --> 00:37:30,280
Speaker 1: She said, girl, she's like, this girl's writing up letters.

779
00:37:30,280 --> 00:37:32,400
Speaker 1: I don't have to tell her anything. She'd be like, mommy,

780
00:37:32,400 --> 00:37:34,359
Speaker 1: why is this guy blue? She's like, since I don't know,

781
00:37:34,560 --> 00:37:36,880
Speaker 1: ask Alexa.

782
00:37:37,400 --> 00:37:38,960
Speaker 2: Oh my goodness, that's so true.

783
00:37:41,080 --> 00:37:43,000
Speaker 1: So yeah, I would say something personal, but then also

784
00:37:43,040 --> 00:37:43,840
Speaker 1: something practical.

785
00:37:45,480 --> 00:37:45,880
Speaker 3: I love that.

786
00:37:45,920 --> 00:37:49,200
Speaker 2: Okay, So I think I was thinking Target would be good.

787
00:37:49,360 --> 00:37:51,239
Speaker 2: But I'll see what they got. I'm gonna get to

788
00:37:51,239 --> 00:37:52,799
Speaker 2: sort get her a gift card, and you're right all

789
00:37:52,920 --> 00:37:54,640
Speaker 2: so I'll wait till tomorrow. I'm gonna get Rio to

790
00:37:54,680 --> 00:37:57,759
Speaker 2: draw her, to color her a nice little picture, maybe

791
00:37:57,800 --> 00:38:00,479
Speaker 2: give her one of my twelve caterpillars, y'all. I'm trying

792
00:38:00,480 --> 00:38:03,000
Speaker 2: to take care of these babies as a responsible butterfly mom,

793
00:38:03,080 --> 00:38:09,160
Speaker 2: but they are multiplying. I am overwhelmed by the number

794
00:38:09,200 --> 00:38:11,319
Speaker 2: of caterpillars. If you live in Westchester and you would

795
00:38:11,360 --> 00:38:15,239
Speaker 2: like some baby cdipullsh no, that's great. And just to

796
00:38:15,280 --> 00:38:18,440
Speaker 2: any teachers out there, ough, just this is another thing

797
00:38:18,480 --> 00:38:19,680
Speaker 2: that she sent me that picture.

798
00:38:19,719 --> 00:38:20,319
Speaker 3: Oh, she sent me up.

799
00:38:20,320 --> 00:38:22,160
Speaker 2: That's why I started talking about him going went to school.

800
00:38:22,640 --> 00:38:24,680
Speaker 2: When he got to the classroom after they gave Rocky

801
00:38:24,719 --> 00:38:27,359
Speaker 2: the fish his rock Shelley took the time to send

802
00:38:27,400 --> 00:38:29,879
Speaker 2: me a DM on ig because she stalks me, and

803
00:38:29,960 --> 00:38:32,400
Speaker 2: she sent me a picture of him at the table.

804
00:38:32,400 --> 00:38:33,000
Speaker 3: And you're not suppoke.

805
00:38:33,080 --> 00:38:34,960
Speaker 2: We get pictures in the app, you know, like through

806
00:38:34,960 --> 00:38:37,319
Speaker 2: the life of like the little parenting app. But for

807
00:38:37,360 --> 00:38:39,279
Speaker 2: her to like send me a picture she knew I

808
00:38:39,320 --> 00:38:40,840
Speaker 2: was going to see right away because she knew I

809
00:38:40,920 --> 00:38:42,680
Speaker 2: was worried about him. I just started to cry. I'm

810
00:38:42,719 --> 00:38:44,960
Speaker 2: gonna start crying again because, like I said, I'm an

811
00:38:45,000 --> 00:38:48,120
Speaker 2: open wound of emotions lately. But I just think that

812
00:38:48,239 --> 00:38:51,200
Speaker 2: they're incredible And she sent him home with this huge

813
00:38:51,360 --> 00:38:53,720
Speaker 2: like they don't just send them home with their artwork

814
00:38:53,760 --> 00:38:56,399
Speaker 2: anymore at the end of the year because he's switching classrooms.

815
00:38:56,680 --> 00:38:59,160
Speaker 2: It was like bound with a picture of him on

816
00:38:59,200 --> 00:39:02,400
Speaker 2: the front and it said Rio's Memories and they were

817
00:39:02,520 --> 00:39:04,680
Speaker 2: labeled and there was a photo of him printed with

818
00:39:04,719 --> 00:39:06,640
Speaker 2: a little graduation cap. And I was like, Shelly, when

819
00:39:06,680 --> 00:39:08,680
Speaker 2: do you have the time? And she said, her and

820
00:39:08,719 --> 00:39:11,560
Speaker 2: her husband did it together. I just and her husband

821
00:39:11,560 --> 00:39:14,520
Speaker 2: who doesn't who's not on the payroll, Like they went

822
00:39:14,600 --> 00:39:17,000
Speaker 2: home after a long day with all those kids. These

823
00:39:17,000 --> 00:39:20,680
Speaker 2: people are special, Like after a day with all these children,

824
00:39:20,800 --> 00:39:23,440
Speaker 2: she went home and still worked on this project for us,

825
00:39:23,480 --> 00:39:26,640
Speaker 2: And I just it's amazing. So if you haven't sent

826
00:39:26,960 --> 00:39:30,160
Speaker 2: you know, your daycare teacher or just any teachers in general,

827
00:39:30,520 --> 00:39:33,200
Speaker 2: you know, little thank you appreciation gift. You don't have

828
00:39:33,239 --> 00:39:35,759
Speaker 2: to wait for teacher Appreciation Week, which I think was

829
00:39:35,760 --> 00:39:37,160
Speaker 2: back in May. Just anytime.

830
00:39:38,000 --> 00:39:40,520
Speaker 1: I'm telling we really appreciate herself because honestly, I loved

831
00:39:40,560 --> 00:39:43,319
Speaker 1: your babies. I fight children, I fight moms over kids.

832
00:39:43,360 --> 00:39:45,600
Speaker 1: I'm like, that's my baby too, girl. We raised this

833
00:39:45,640 --> 00:39:48,959
Speaker 1: baby together for real, Like, honestly, especially the younger they are.

834
00:39:49,320 --> 00:39:51,359
Speaker 3: The younger they are, you really loved.

835
00:39:51,400 --> 00:39:53,359
Speaker 1: I used to pray for all my kids every single night.

836
00:39:53,680 --> 00:39:55,719
Speaker 1: I would worry about the ones, you know that like

837
00:39:56,000 --> 00:39:58,000
Speaker 1: maybe you weren't well, or maybe they had a household

838
00:39:58,040 --> 00:40:00,359
Speaker 1: that was a little chaotic. I mean there are still

839
00:40:00,400 --> 00:40:01,960
Speaker 1: kids to this day I think about in wonder if

840
00:40:01,960 --> 00:40:05,120
Speaker 1: they okay, and say a little prayer for them. So like, yeah,

841
00:40:05,440 --> 00:40:06,960
Speaker 1: like I know that people have so much to say

842
00:40:06,960 --> 00:40:09,640
Speaker 1: about teachers, but the good ones really do love your kids,

843
00:40:10,200 --> 00:40:13,439
Speaker 1: and you know, like there's nothing I would literally stand

844
00:40:13,480 --> 00:40:15,400
Speaker 1: in front of a bullet for your for your baby,

845
00:40:15,560 --> 00:40:18,799
Speaker 1: you know, like I have definitely almost tussled almost in

846
00:40:18,840 --> 00:40:22,760
Speaker 1: real time. Yes, I'm just like yeah, because you really do.

847
00:40:22,800 --> 00:40:25,040
Speaker 1: You really love these kids, and the kids love you

848
00:40:25,120 --> 00:40:27,839
Speaker 1: right back, and it's what makes it all. Honestly, it's

849
00:40:27,880 --> 00:40:29,560
Speaker 1: like no matter. You know, a parent could have just

850
00:40:29,600 --> 00:40:31,920
Speaker 1: finished cussing and fussing me out and I'd be like,

851
00:40:32,000 --> 00:40:34,480
Speaker 1: you lucky, I love your baby, because girl, we.

852
00:40:34,440 --> 00:40:39,520
Speaker 3: Could meet at three o'clock. No, but honestly, no, that's awesome.

853
00:40:39,520 --> 00:40:39,719
Speaker 3: I know.

854
00:40:39,800 --> 00:40:41,920
Speaker 1: And shout to you, Shelley, because I know, like it's

855
00:40:42,160 --> 00:40:45,680
Speaker 1: it's a it's a hard job, but like the hugs

856
00:40:45,680 --> 00:40:47,880
Speaker 1: and the kisses and the I love you, Missievities, and

857
00:40:48,239 --> 00:40:50,760
Speaker 1: that it just makes everything just worth it, and parents

858
00:40:50,760 --> 00:40:51,880
Speaker 1: that appreciate Yeah.

859
00:40:52,680 --> 00:40:56,600
Speaker 2: Thank you, Miss Shelley and all teachers. Oh goodness, my eyes.

860
00:40:56,360 --> 00:41:00,360
Speaker 1: Are hopefully to be taking you on an emotion no

861
00:41:00,680 --> 00:41:07,200
Speaker 1: roll up. Oh yes, So I hope you enjoyed this

862
00:41:07,280 --> 00:41:10,279
Speaker 1: episode because certainly, although it was emotional, I hope but

863
00:41:10,480 --> 00:41:14,120
Speaker 1: also left you with some hope as well. You know,

864
00:41:14,200 --> 00:41:17,479
Speaker 1: despite all that's going on, there's still a lot of hope. Yes,

865
00:41:17,560 --> 00:41:19,040
Speaker 1: there's always there's still a lot of good.

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Speaker 2: So we love y'all, Love you, tiff, I'm glad you're

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Speaker 2: having some quiet time in nature, and we love you Jirelle,

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Speaker 2: and we're thinking of you, and tomorrow I'll be thinking

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Speaker 2: of him too well. I scrambled to find something for

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Speaker 2: y k.

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Speaker 1: All right, y'all until next show, Until next week.

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Speaker 3: Hey ba faan.

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Speaker 2: We could not do this show without your support or

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Speaker 2: the support of our team behind the scenes. The Brown

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Speaker 2: Emission podcast is produced by Cumulus Podcast Network. It's edited

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Speaker 2: by the wonderful Emani Crosby and produced by Tanya Bustos.

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Speaker 2: Dennis Deplinsky is our in house tech guru, and I

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Speaker 2: am being Indy Witdard Santos, your co host, and I

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Speaker 2: will see y'all next week.