Speaker 1: Second date of date. Whenever you ask people what's your
Speaker 1: idea of the perfect first date, by far, the most
Speaker 1: cliche answer is a long romantic walk along the beach
Speaker 1: at sunset. That's what everybody says. But you're right, who
Speaker 1: actually does that really, especially on a first date. The
Speaker 1: closest thing we get normally is a long, stumbly walk
Speaker 1: home from a dive bar at one am, and the
Speaker 1: closest body of waters the puddle of urine outside your apartment. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but one of our listeners, believe it or not, actually
Speaker 1: did the cliche thing and did a date at the beach,
Speaker 1: walk on the beach andrew you and love yet or what?
Speaker 1: Was it as perfect as we all imagine it would be? Um? Well,
Speaker 1: it was. I enjoyed it, but it was also kind
Speaker 1: of weird because it was it was the first date.
Speaker 1: I think maybe maybe a long walk on the beach
Speaker 1: could have just said no, it wasn't. I mean, it's interesting,
Speaker 1: like a beach date can get pretty intimate, right, like
Speaker 1: you're rubbing suntan lotion on each other, you're wearing you're
Speaker 1: wearing bathing suits, kids everywhere. The ideal version, the real
Speaker 1: version is going to look a lot different. But Andrew,
Speaker 1: tell us how it went. Who did you go there with? Um? Why?
Speaker 1: I went there with this girl, Tabitha. We met through
Speaker 1: a friend of a friend on Facebook, okay, and we
Speaker 1: just sort of started talking, and you know, she seemed
Speaker 1: very nice and attractive. She had tattoos, and she was outdoorsy,
Speaker 1: which is what kind of you know. I saw pictures
Speaker 1: of her hiking and other things. I figured she would
Speaker 1: like the beach. Okay, so the beach was your idea?
Speaker 1: Was it like a day at the beach type of thing?
Speaker 1: It was an evening walk? Oh? Okay, it was most
Speaker 1: cliche you could possibly. How long was the walk? We
Speaker 1: see a long walk? I mean, are we talking like
Speaker 1: a two to three hour ben? Are you tired? Jose?
Speaker 1: And if it's over one hundred feet there is no
Speaker 1: blisters for him. Let's just say, yeah, did you like
Speaker 1: pack a picnic? Well? It was it was really just
Speaker 1: it was a walk and we were We did end
Speaker 1: up building a fire, so there was stuff to do
Speaker 1: that committed a crime in the legal area that allows
Speaker 1: you to build a fire. Like, what was it? What
Speaker 1: was it like? Tell us, Andrew, We're just guessing. Yeah, Well,
Speaker 1: you know, we we went up and the thing was
Speaker 1: on the whole walk. She was very quiet, so I
Speaker 1: ended up doing all the talking and I would make
Speaker 1: jokes and she wouldn't even laugh. I can relate, dude.
Speaker 1: Is she just like a more reserved person? Do you think,
Speaker 1: I mean, since she's a friend of a friend. Well,
Speaker 1: that's the thing. Like, you know, we built fire and
Speaker 1: we're sitting there. I didn't see any of the signals,
Speaker 1: and then out of blue, she kisses me. WHOA must
Speaker 1: be doing something right. It was a wild card man.
Speaker 1: When it happened, I was like, okay, and that was
Speaker 1: real fun and enjoyable that that moment. But then all
Speaker 1: of a sudden, all these bats started flying above our
Speaker 1: heads and she starts freaking out because she doesn't know
Speaker 1: anything about bats, and I'm I'm kind of a bat
Speaker 1: nerd and so she starts waving her hands and flailing
Speaker 1: her hands trying to get the bats way. I was like,
Speaker 1: don't worry. These are Eastern red bats because I could
Speaker 1: tell by the sounds that they were making. Wow, you
Speaker 1: really know you didn't just make that up? Him? I'm
Speaker 1: a batman and I wow. See she didn't laugh at
Speaker 1: that one. I mean, you want the bats are eating
Speaker 1: the mosquitoes that are all around you, like keeping Yeah, exactly,
Speaker 1: bats are way better than mosquitoes. And wanted her to
Speaker 1: stop waving her hands about because they provoked, they could attack,
Speaker 1: but if they're not provoked, I'll just keep on being
Speaker 1: normal bats. So did she listen to you or did
Speaker 1: she continue? She didn't calm down. I played her some
Speaker 1: sounds of bats that I had recorded on my phone.
Speaker 1: This is where I think we're finding. Yeah, Well, as
Speaker 1: we were walking back to the car, I knew I
Speaker 1: thought that that might be the case, so I stopped
Speaker 1: talking about bath. But I again, she wasn't contributing anything,
Speaker 1: So I ended up flipping into this conversation about wolves.
Speaker 1: And I'm not sure if that was the right choice.
Speaker 1: I mean, there's things that I'm interested in, and I
Speaker 1: knew she was out doorsy, and I mean, they say
Speaker 1: don't hide your passions on a first day. Very true.
Speaker 1: I also think they don't say, like, say, all of
Speaker 1: your passions all at once to break the silence on
Speaker 1: a first day. But I don't could be wrong, I
Speaker 1: don't How did this end? How did the night add?
Speaker 1: I mean the night and did fine? I guess I
Speaker 1: mean we survived the night. Did you have another kiss? Thankfully? Yeah,
Speaker 1: there was a There was a small kiss, but it
Speaker 1: was inappropriate goodbye kiss. Okay, nothing like a big makeout session.
Speaker 1: I'm wondering, like, it sounds like you were uncomfortable with
Speaker 1: her silence. Did you ever ask her any questions other
Speaker 1: than yes or no questions? You know? Um? Yeah, absolutely,
Speaker 1: I wasn't trying to do all the talking. It just
Speaker 1: it was It was certainly weird because I did want
Speaker 1: to get to know her, and I don't feel like
Speaker 1: I got to know her. Okay, it's other than she
Speaker 1: wanted to kiss me for a moment, which was cool
Speaker 1: but weird. So that the one positive sign, Yeah, because
Speaker 1: that's what I was trying to figure out, Like, why
Speaker 1: do you want this date? If? If there were so
Speaker 1: many things that went wrong and things that you know,
Speaker 1: you guys were barely even talking, all right, Maybe maybe
Speaker 1: it's more of a curiosity, yeah, Or maybe it's just
Speaker 1: that she's hot and it was a really good kiss. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Maybe you know, maybe she's more comfortable with kissing than talking,
Speaker 1: but maybe she would get more comfortable with talking as
Speaker 1: we go. I don't know, No, dude, Then keep her
Speaker 1: there that maybe we should just call her and see
Speaker 1: what she has to say about what she talk to us. Jeff.
Speaker 1: Then maybe this we need to kiss her, to kiss
Speaker 1: her on the phone, Jeff. We'll just call her and
Speaker 1: see what happens. But first we got to play a song.
Speaker 1: We'll come back at your second date update right after this.
Speaker 1: All right, all right, but you better not kiss my woman. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we'll make sure that doesn't happen. I don't think we
Speaker 1: could promise. Maybe I'm jumping too far ahead here. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but Andrew down the road, when you and Tabitha get married,
Speaker 1: instead of releasing doves at the wedding, you should release
Speaker 1: a cage of bats. And maybe before that. The biggest
Speaker 1: challenge is going to be getting her to actually say
Speaker 1: I do, because she hardly even speaks. If you're just
Speaker 1: joining us, probably none of this is making any sense
Speaker 1: to you. But I say she wasn't talking a lot,
Speaker 1: because she was super quiet during their date. And I
Speaker 1: bring up bats because Andrew's a bat aficionado and knows
Speaker 1: all about bats and their histories and their diets. And
Speaker 1: there were bats there flying above them while they made
Speaker 1: out on the beach together. And apparently the Eastern red
Speaker 1: bat only attacks when provoked. That's we learned from Andrew. Yes,
Speaker 1: I feel like I need to look up that fact.
Speaker 1: I don't know if I just believe. Of course you do.
Speaker 1: We've heard stranger things happen on this show. But I'm
Speaker 1: just praying that Andrew didn't set up the bat attack.
Speaker 1: To look, he's probably a bad whispererses. Can you confirm
Speaker 1: that you didn't set up the attack, Andrew? I can
Speaker 1: confirm that I had nothing to do with releasing bats
Speaker 1: around my date. Like I could orchestrate something like that.
Speaker 1: I don't think i'd be single, okay to run into
Speaker 1: bats on the beach that now, Andrew, I'm just wondering,
Speaker 1: what are you like looking for out of this? What
Speaker 1: do you want? I mean, honestly, I just want to
Speaker 1: know what I did or what happened, Like I just
Speaker 1: I mean, another date would be nice, but I want
Speaker 1: to know so I can adjust for future follies. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean it makes sense a lot of mixed signals
Speaker 1: from her. Yep, all right, well let's call and try
Speaker 1: and figure that out for you. We're gonna do the
Speaker 1: number right now here we go. Hello, Hey, is this Tabitha. Um, yeah,
Speaker 1: who is this? Oh you don't know. That's perfect. My
Speaker 1: name is jeff and I'm from a morning radio show
Speaker 1: called Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning. Hi. OHI we're
Speaker 1: all here. Oh okay, okay, okay, Hi. I've heard you
Speaker 1: guys before. But why are you calling me? Okay, thank you. Well,
Speaker 1: we're calling you at the request of one of our listeners, Andrew,
Speaker 1: who you went out with the other night. Okay, I'm
Speaker 1: guessing Andrew put you up to this. Yeah, but I
Speaker 1: think it's a good thing. Like he seemed to really
Speaker 1: like you. Yeah, I think he did like me. You know.
Speaker 1: I just I really wasn't ready for that date. You know,
Speaker 1: it was really unexpected how I would feel about Andrew. Oh.
Speaker 1: Interesting because he heard a little bit about the date
Speaker 1: and from the sounds of it, you kissed him. Oh
Speaker 1: he she told you that. Well, it sounded like a
Speaker 1: really romantic setting. I could see why. I mean, you're
Speaker 1: having a fire on the beach like sounds beautiful. Bats
Speaker 1: going overhead. Yeah, you know, I have an appointment in
Speaker 1: a little bit, so I don't have a whole lot
Speaker 1: of time, you know, Can you guys tell me what's
Speaker 1: going on. Okay, yeah, so I mean, just real quick,
Speaker 1: we're doing something called second Date Update, and we're trying
Speaker 1: to help Andrew figure out why after your romantic beach date,
Speaker 1: there hasn't been a date number two because he did
Speaker 1: mention that you were a little bit quiet during the
Speaker 1: walk along the beach. Yeah, is there a reason for that?
Speaker 1: I mean, he didn't do anything wrong, you know, I
Speaker 1: just I got out of a long term relationship a
Speaker 1: few years ago. Wait, a few years ago. Well, the
Speaker 1: guy he we were in love, but he moved out
Speaker 1: of the country. He had an opportunity to go do something,
Speaker 1: and you know, it broke my heart. Yeah, that could
Speaker 1: be really hard. Are you not over it still even
Speaker 1: after years? Well, I thought I was over it until
Speaker 1: I met Andrew, which we started talking on Facebook through text.
Speaker 1: I had never heard his voice before. Okay, are you
Speaker 1: saying that Andrew was your very first date since that
Speaker 1: breakup years ago? No? No, No, I've dated a few
Speaker 1: people here, are there? But Okay. The thing that really
Speaker 1: just shocked me about Andrew was walking side by side
Speaker 1: with him on the beach. Hearing his voice. He sounds exactly,
Speaker 1: I mean, identical to my ex. Oh my God, that
Speaker 1: makes sense. So you're just like living in this past
Speaker 1: relationship while you're hanging out with Andrew. That's got to
Speaker 1: be so hard or awesome. I wish I could relive.
Speaker 1: I mean, that is super weird. It was weird, Like
Speaker 1: at one point he tried to hold my hand and
Speaker 1: I was like looking out at the water, and all
Speaker 1: I could think about was my ex and like all
Speaker 1: the good times they had together up until the bad attack.
Speaker 1: That was I kind of like brought me back to
Speaker 1: reality for a moment. But I was starting to tear
Speaker 1: up because I, yeah, the one that got away. I
Speaker 1: feel like that's who I was walking on the beach with. Totally.
Speaker 1: And it's not like if you were like doing maybe
Speaker 1: an activity, you wouldn't have as much reflection opportunity. Oh god, totally.
Speaker 1: You know, even if we were at a restaurant and
Speaker 1: sitting across the table from each other, I could see him,
Speaker 1: I would obviously know that that's not my ex. But
Speaker 1: walk inside by side on the beach with him, it
Speaker 1: just brought back all these memories, Like and he kept talking, Yeah,
Speaker 1: oh my god, what's it telling me about all these
Speaker 1: weird animals he was obsessed with it like, I'm glad
Speaker 1: he has passions and everything, but I just don't know
Speaker 1: how to get over the fact that he sounds just
Speaker 1: like my EGX. Oh girl, I feel for you, I do,
Speaker 1: and it's nothing he can do anything about unless he
Speaker 1: can use different voices. Maybe he could talk it like lower,
Speaker 1: maybe you can impressions celebrity. Oh my god, let's find
Speaker 1: out if he can, because I need to tell you
Speaker 1: Andrew's been on the other line listening this entire time
Speaker 1: and wants to talk to you. Sorry. Oh no, I'm Andrew.
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry I ruined our date. Oh, I know,
Speaker 1: I'm I didn't. I had no idea what was going on.
Speaker 1: Not that I'm happy that that's what it was, but
Speaker 1: I'm happy that that's what it was. Is it okay
Speaker 1: to listen to him? I mean, this is kind of
Speaker 1: a bad bed for you since it's just voice right now. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean it sounds like I'm talking to him on
Speaker 1: the phone like it's it's so weird. Are we sure
Speaker 1: that it's not your ex? Wow? I think is there
Speaker 1: anything that he needed to apologize for that you'd like,
Speaker 1: why did you leave me? I mean, maybe Andrew's a
Speaker 1: better version of your ex, you know, maybe don't compare them.
Speaker 1: How could you not? I mean, this is such an
Speaker 1: awkward situation, Like, Brooke, what would you do? My husband's
Speaker 1: best friend sounds just like him. It's so weird. When
Speaker 1: I first met them, I was like, it creeped me out.
Speaker 1: But now that I know them both more, that isn't
Speaker 1: actually the case. I would say yes to pretty much anybody.
Speaker 1: So Alexis about, let's get someone that might say no.
Speaker 1: It depends how you ended with your ex. So yeah,
Speaker 1: Alexis has always hung up on her ex. Yeah, so
Speaker 1: I probably like the voice. Yeah, Like, close my eyes.
Speaker 1: I don't want to look at you. I mean, Tabitha,
Speaker 1: where is your head at right now? You know? I
Speaker 1: just don't know how I can be Andrew and be
Speaker 1: thinking about my ex, Like what if I accidentally called
Speaker 1: him their own name one day? Like how would that
Speaker 1: make him feel? Like? I don't want to put him
Speaker 1: in a situation where he's just the other guy. Yeah, no,
Speaker 1: I It's it's hard, but I understand where you're coming from, Tabitha.
Speaker 1: I feel for your situation, and I'm you know, even
Speaker 1: right now, I'm kind of very self conscious of what
Speaker 1: I don't know like I would. I don't know that
Speaker 1: I could handle that. Oh, he's a good guy too.
Speaker 1: I mean, this is the right time to ask, Tabitha,
Speaker 1: would you want to go out with Andrew one more time?
Speaker 1: We'd pay for jeff. I. I wish you both could
Speaker 1: get past this, because it seems like you could be
Speaker 1: a really good couple. Yeah, we could sip on some
Speaker 1: helium balloons. What if you just did a date where
Speaker 1: you made sure his face was always in your view?
Speaker 1: You know, I might be down to go to like
Speaker 1: one of those silent raids where we just listened to
Speaker 1: our headphones and it's something where Andrew doesn't talk. Yeah, well,
Speaker 1: I we could try it, but I don't think it's
Speaker 1: something that would work long term, based on you know
Speaker 1: what Tabitha is saying. So I yeah, you know, I
Speaker 1: don't want to ask. I was really just curious about why,
Speaker 1: and I guess selfishly that it wasn't something that I did,
Speaker 1: but it was just who I am. No, that makes
Speaker 1: it feel better, It's get Yeah. I just have one
Speaker 1: question for you, Tabitha. Did you kiss me because you
Speaker 1: wanted to kiss me? Or was it like you were
Speaker 1: kissing your ex? Oh? That's a great question. Do you
Speaker 1: want to know the answer? I want to know why. Honestly,
Speaker 1: I just wanted to know if it was the same
Speaker 1: or if different, and what's the verdict. Yeah, it was
Speaker 1: definitely a lot wetter than I remember, oh, wetter better.
Speaker 1: I don't know if it really is Brooke and Jeffrey
Speaker 1: in the morning,